Speaker 1: Hello Sunshine, Hey besties.
Speaker 2: Today on the bright Side, we're popping off audition on
Speaker 2: the biggest pop culture moments of the week with Emmy
Speaker 2: nominated comedian and writer Chelsea Devantes. Who will be People's
Speaker 2: Sexiest Man Alive this year? What is the secret to
Speaker 2: a Lasting relationship? And Tom Hanks sparks a debate would
Speaker 2: you travel back in time to experience life at a
Speaker 2: younger age?
Speaker 1: Again?
Speaker 3: It's Friday, November First, I'm Simone Boyce.
Speaker 2: I'm Danielle Robe and this is the bright Side from
Speaker 2: Hello Sunshine, a daily show where we come together to
Speaker 2: share women's stories, laugh, learn and brighten your day. Simone,
Speaker 2: Happy day after Halloween. How was trick or treating with
Speaker 2: your kiddos last night?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 4: It was so much fun.
Speaker 3: Our neighborhood really gets into the decorations, so we always
Speaker 3: have friends who come over and walk through the neighborhood
Speaker 3: with us and do trick or treating together.
Speaker 4: So it was a blast. How about you. How is
Speaker 4: your Halloween in New Orleans?
Speaker 2: Well, you know, New Orleans is a little bit of
Speaker 2: a mystical place, so Halloween here was especially spooky, which
Speaker 2: I love. All the architecture here is like French and
Speaker 2: Spanish and Creole, inspired from like the late seventeen hundreds,
Speaker 2: early eighteen hundreds, and so it just really lends itself
Speaker 2: to some spookiness and some spiderwebs.
Speaker 3: You know. My favorite part of New Orleans is probably
Speaker 3: the architecture. I just love sitting in those really old
Speaker 3: restaurants and seeing like the crumbling layers of the walls
Speaker 3: peeling back and you can see the patina underneath. And
Speaker 3: then I also love those gas lanterns that are outside
Speaker 3: of every building there. I always feel like I'm in
Speaker 3: Pirates of the Caribbean whenever walking through New Orleans.
Speaker 4: It's so magical.
Speaker 2: I thought of that movie yesterday. That's so funny that
Speaker 2: you said that. The funny thing is my stomach cannot
Speaker 2: take any more New Orleans breakfast. I need some green juice,
Speaker 2: I need some egg whites.
Speaker 1: I really the grits. I didn't grow up on these.
Speaker 1: I'm on the struggle bus right now, Danielle.
Speaker 3: I can't believe it's already the beginning of a new month.
Speaker 3: This week alone, we've had so many wonderful conversations. It
Speaker 3: feels like we just talked about ghosting with Sabrina Zohar
Speaker 3: one of my favorite guests.
Speaker 2: Yeah, her story about being ghosted by someone that she
Speaker 2: dated for six weeks and then running into that guy
Speaker 2: on the streets of New York had me shook. Also
Speaker 2: someone There was an interview this week that I learned
Speaker 2: so much from while we were recording it, but I
Speaker 2: actually learned a lot listening back, and that was with
Speaker 2: the millennial therapist, doctor Sarah Kubrick. Her thoughts on how
Speaker 2: we can take responsibility for ourselves and who we want
Speaker 2: to be in the world was really resonant. I love
Speaker 2: how like basically she was talking about how your insides
Speaker 2: should and can match your outsides.
Speaker 4: I love that phrase. Danielle so good.
Speaker 3: I also love doctor Kubrick's comment about how she remains
Speaker 3: mindful to never over commit to a single version of
Speaker 3: herself and just create space to grow one hundred percent.
Speaker 2: We also had our first ever Halloween episode with comedian
Speaker 2: Lauren Lapkiz our spooky ghost story loving podcast hosts.
Speaker 3: It really is wild that this is our first Halloween episode, Like,
Speaker 3: that's how long we've been on the air. In March,
Speaker 3: it'll be a year, all right, besties, we are about
Speaker 3: to pop off with Chelsea devantees. But before we do,
Speaker 3: it's time to spotlight our favorite moment of the week,
Speaker 3: and today's spotlight goes to actor and director Anna Kendrick.
Speaker 3: If you've been on Netflix recently, you may have seen
Speaker 3: her starring in the film Woman of the Hour, which
Speaker 3: has been streamed more than twenty three million times to date. Well,
Speaker 3: this past week, we learned that she donated her salary
Speaker 3: from the film, which she also directed to two organizations
Speaker 3: that are working to combat sexual violence and abuse.
Speaker 2: In a little context here if you haven't seen the film,
Speaker 2: it's inspired by one woman's real life encounter with serial
Speaker 2: killer Rodney Alcala on the TV show The Dating Game
Speaker 2: back in the seventies, and the movie also tracks the
Speaker 2: lives of several other women impacted by him during his
Speaker 2: year's long killing spree. So in an interview with Serious XM,
Speaker 2: Anna Kendrick actually shared that she felt gross accepting money
Speaker 2: for telling the stories of al Calla's victims and decided
Speaker 2: to donate her salary to RAIN and the National Center
Speaker 2: for Victims of Crime, saying it was the least she
Speaker 2: could do.
Speaker 3: This is actually really inspiring to me. It's just really
Speaker 3: refreshing to see someone with that much money, acclaim and
Speaker 3: power who's willing to give so much too?
Speaker 4: Like, what a generous move?
Speaker 2: Okay, Vesti's we're flipping the script a little bit.
Speaker 1: It's time to.
Speaker 2: Pop off with our good friend Chelsea Devantes.
Speaker 1: Chelsea, welcome back to the bright Side. I'm so happy
Speaker 1: to be here. I missed you all. Did you miss me?
Speaker 1: We missed you so much. Good. I know you're doing
Speaker 1: like lots of shows, but did you miss my show? Specifically?
Speaker 4: I haven't been able to get it out of my mind?
Speaker 1: Honestly, thank you, thank you. We argued about Ratman Hot
Speaker 1: Ratman on that episode, so.
Speaker 4: How could no one for get?
Speaker 2: We're actually kind of gonna argue about men again today
Speaker 2: on this show.
Speaker 1: Maybe not Ratman. Can I be her argue about men? Correspondent,
Speaker 1: the mayor of arguing about men? Correspondent Chelsea wants, I love.
Speaker 2: It, sounds incredibly official.
Speaker 4: I like it a lot, Okay, Chelsea.
Speaker 3: On your podcast, you talk all about celebrity memoirs, and
Speaker 3: we heard this week that Tina Knowles is releasing a memoir.
Speaker 3: What's your initial reaction to this? What are you hoping
Speaker 3: to see? What do you think she's gonna cover.
Speaker 1: Okay, first off, I'm so excited. This is huge. This
Speaker 1: is like a mini super Bowl memoir, Like Share is
Speaker 1: the super Bowl. Her memoir comes out in a month,
Speaker 1: and we're recapping on the podcast. But then Tina's gonna
Speaker 1: She's another super Bowl. Here's what I want to be
Speaker 1: in the memoir. I need details on the first marriage.
Speaker 1: I need a photo section of only the outfits that
Speaker 1: she sewed for Destiny's Child, and I want her to
Speaker 1: point out in every outfit how she made Beyonce specifically
Speaker 1: look the best in every single, because she did.
Speaker 2: Every time I hear about Beyonce's story, and not just
Speaker 2: the clips that we all have seen online, but when
Speaker 2: I hear any sort of excerpts of people who talked
Speaker 2: about them growing up and like Tina having her hair
Speaker 2: salon and the Destiny's Child girls, like dancing and performing
Speaker 2: and practicing in there, I think about how Tina was
Speaker 2: the og. There are a lot of stories that we
Speaker 2: have not heard because Beyonce's so private, Like do you
Speaker 2: think that she's sort of just like sanctioned final cut
Speaker 2: on the memoir?
Speaker 3: Right?
Speaker 1: Right? That is such a good point, Like what will
Speaker 1: Beyonce let her mom share Chelsea.
Speaker 3: Who's someone that you really want to see a memoir from?
Speaker 3: Who has a published.
Speaker 1: Always Rihanna, It'll never come. I'm giving us an album,
Speaker 1: so I know that's not coming. But the one that
Speaker 1: I think people never think about is Sandra Bullock, who
Speaker 1: is both y'all's like, this is the memoir I need?
Speaker 1: How about Goldie Hahn, she has one. How about Bet Midler.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna do the third cast member of First One.
Speaker 1: Now, that is a memoir we need, Yes, yeah, we
Speaker 1: need that. We need that bad lady m give it
Speaker 1: to us. I'm going to go with Tracy Elis ross
Speaker 1: Ooh yeah, oh my god, child of Diana.
Speaker 4: The Stories we love. An honest memoir we do.
Speaker 1: You gotta go there. If yeah, this is what I
Speaker 1: say on the podcast, do not memoir. If you are
Speaker 1: not ready to memoir, exactly, just don't do it. Do
Speaker 1: a cookbook.
Speaker 4: Don't waste my time.
Speaker 1: Be like, here's a style book, here's Living by Bet Midler, Like,
Speaker 1: we don't need your memoir.
Speaker 4: Here's a cookbook exactly.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you can't really fake it, but you did the
Speaker 2: opposite of faking it with your memoir.
Speaker 1: It came out in June.
Speaker 2: It was called I shouldn't be telling you this, but
Speaker 2: I'm going to anyway, and it's skyrocketed.
Speaker 1: To best seller status.
Speaker 2: You were traveling around the country wearing the pages of
Speaker 2: your book as a dress that you made, which was
Speaker 2: really beautiful.
Speaker 1: It was actually the pages of my childhood journals. Because
Speaker 1: there was a part in my book about a really
Speaker 1: tough relationship I lived through that had violence in it
Speaker 1: that the publishers wouldn't let me publish, and I, in
Speaker 1: this moment of rage, I went back and realized that
Speaker 1: they wouldn't let me write about it in the book,
Speaker 1: but I'd already written about it in my teenage journals,
Speaker 1: and so I wore the journal pages around my book
Speaker 1: tour as my moment of just furious with the system.
Speaker 4: That's your resistance, so smart.
Speaker 1: Yeah, could not be silenced.
Speaker 2: Has the success of your memoir changed the way that
Speaker 2: you see yourself or your story at all?
Speaker 4: Yeah? Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1: Yes. Whenever I was like reading memoirs on my podcast,
Speaker 1: they would always write like Jane Fonna does it, Dolly Parton,
Speaker 1: Brandy Carlile, Lonnie Anderson. They always wrote in the books,
Speaker 1: this has changed my life, sharing my story has changed
Speaker 1: my life, and I was like, I want some of that,
Speaker 1: but I didn't know if it would happen, and it
Speaker 1: fully did. I am now living in this place where
Speaker 1: like fully giving everyone my most embarrassing I mean, I
Speaker 1: really shared too much. It is so full of so
Speaker 1: much shame and giving that over to people and still like,
Speaker 1: all my friends are still my friends, and people still,
Speaker 1: you know, love me. I feel like my brain pathways
Speaker 1: have changed.
Speaker 4: That's beautiful.
Speaker 1: So happy to hear that.
Speaker 2: Also, this is a bit tangential, but one of my
Speaker 2: favorite parts of your book is when you talk about
Speaker 2: how you have like this Google doc basically of advice
Speaker 2: that all of your friends have given, Like you're all
Speaker 2: a part of it, and you thought when you were
Speaker 2: coming up that you needed the perfect agent of the
Speaker 2: perfect manager and then your career would pop off. And
Speaker 2: really you realized that your friends are the people that
Speaker 2: had the best career advice by far.
Speaker 1: And I found out there's actually a term for this,
Speaker 1: maybe Ray I heard her speaking about it, but it's
Speaker 1: called networking across.
Speaker 4: Have you heard of this? Yeah, I love that quote.
Speaker 4: I love that Easter Ray quote.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I it was the same thing I was
Speaker 1: saying except she said it so much better. But which
Speaker 1: is that, like you always are looking up in life
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, like let's say I don't know, let's
Speaker 1: say you attended a Tina fe conference and you're like, god,
Speaker 1: if I could just meet Tina Fey, and it's like, no,
Speaker 1: who's sitting next to you. That's the person that's gonna
Speaker 1: change your life. Who's going to go hand in hand
Speaker 1: with you. Who's who's like in at your moment in
Speaker 1: your career, And like my best friends have just like
Speaker 1: been life changing in ways of like all the beautiful
Speaker 1: emotional support, but also when you're like, hey, what's a
Speaker 1: marketing idea? Like they have always had the better ideas
Speaker 1: than like the I don't no offense to all the
Speaker 1: fancy people with fancy designer bags. But I'm like I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, they must know everything. And it's like no,
Speaker 1: it's just like Michelle Obama said, you get to the
Speaker 1: table and you're like they're just like me, what of?
Speaker 1: And like I grew up pretty poor, so like what
Speaker 1: a bummer?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 1: I was like they must know everything. I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: you've been dumb, just like me the whole time unbearabuch
Speaker 1: a letdown.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's time for a short break, but don't go anywhere.
Speaker 3: We'll be right back to popping off with Chelsea Davantes.
Speaker 3: And we're back with Chelsea Davantes.
Speaker 1: So one of my.
Speaker 2: Favorite things that you do is on your Instagram stories.
Speaker 2: You go through in US Weekly magazine and you talk
Speaker 2: about outfits and you talk about them in a very
Speaker 2: hilarious way, and then you make everybody judge whether, like,
Speaker 2: which of the four you would wear. And I have
Speaker 2: to tell you, I'm getting better at picking which one.
Speaker 1: You would wear.
Speaker 2: But in the vein of magazines, people magazines getting ready
Speaker 2: to reveal it's twenty twenty four Sexiest Man Alive, which
Speaker 2: is a big moment of the year always, and as
Speaker 2: part of the lead up, they're doing something different releasing
Speaker 2: a handful of sexiest lists. So it includes reader's choice
Speaker 2: awards in a bunch of categories, including sexiest podcast Hosts, which.
Speaker 1: Is very wow. I can't wait to find out if
Speaker 1: it's us.
Speaker 2: Yes, okay, the sexiest podcast hosts?
Speaker 3: Are you?
Speaker 2: Are you ready for this list? Unfortunately none of us
Speaker 2: were on it.
Speaker 1: Really, I feel like the three of us together do
Speaker 1: make the sexiest podcast host. It's pretty hot over here.
Speaker 4: That's a red lipstick?
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, Travis and Jason Kelce and they beat out
Speaker 2: Penn Badgely, Josh Peck and TJ Holmes.
Speaker 1: What do we think?
Speaker 4: Lies?
Speaker 1: Have they seen the mustache tricks Travis Kelsey is pulling lately.
Speaker 1: He is going through so many accessories these days, bucket hats,
Speaker 1: big mustache is tiny, Like, I don't know, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think it was maybe their charisma, not their hotness.
Speaker 1: What do you guys think?
Speaker 3: I feel like it seems like these two brothers have
Speaker 3: everyone in a choke hold right now. But there are
Speaker 3: so many other contenders that I feel like could get
Speaker 3: a little more airtime, you know, like who, Yeah, that's
Speaker 3: a great question.
Speaker 2: Ira Glass from This American Life, Stop this Sexy.
Speaker 1: It's also so funny to do sexiest podcast, Oh when
Speaker 1: famously you don't know what they look like? It is
Speaker 1: an audio medium.
Speaker 3: Will Arnett in there from Okay.
Speaker 2: So here's some other superlative categories. We have sexiest long
Speaker 2: married person, which is just a really interestingly worded title
Speaker 2: for that. But here are the contenders. Tim McGraw feed
Speaker 2: out Denzel Kevin Bacon and Ted Danson.
Speaker 1: I don't know how Ted Danson didn't win. I love
Speaker 1: how we just give Denzel one name too. It's Denzel Washington.
Speaker 3: Imagine if they did that for all the other names, Tim, Denzel, Kevin,
Speaker 3: and Ted.
Speaker 4: Yeah, thank you. That is such a good God.
Speaker 3: But I I agree with this award. I think Tim
Speaker 3: McGraw is hot.
Speaker 4: I think he's sexy, and I love that he's still
Speaker 4: in love with Faith.
Speaker 1: Hill long marriage. I think Denzel it's Denzel like speaks
Speaker 1: out and fights for his wife. Andy's so hot, and
Speaker 1: he refused to kiss Julia robertson the Pelican Brief because
Speaker 1: he's like, I'm a married man, so I think it
Speaker 1: should have been him.
Speaker 2: Okay, so here's some other categories. We have Sexiest gen X.
Speaker 2: Shamar Moore beat out Benjamin Bratt, Ethan Hawk, and Matt Dylon.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I'm into this he too.
Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, who's not into Samar Moore. Also, Ethan
Speaker 3: Hawk is super hot too.
Speaker 1: I always was a Benjamin Benjamin Bratt.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, he is my choice in that list.
Speaker 1: You, Neil, I'm loving this for us. We don't always
Speaker 1: go for the same guy, but Benjamin Bratt has.
Speaker 4: Brought for Benjamin Bratt. Ladies simmer down.
Speaker 2: Now, Okay, Chelsea hates my taste in men, but Benjamin
Speaker 2: Bratt he agrees with, I'll sign off on him for you.
Speaker 1: We go go break up that marriage.
Speaker 3: So the Sexiest Man Alive the Top prize will be
Speaker 3: revealed on November twelfth. Do you guys have any predictions
Speaker 3: on who it's gonna be?
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's always a PR stunt, so like who has
Speaker 2: a movie or something coming out?
Speaker 1: Like yeah, like who needs Oh god, I'm better not
Speaker 1: be Brad Pitt. Oh he's trying to make his come
Speaker 1: back with George Clooney by side, we better noted him again.
Speaker 3: Okay, I have a theory it could be Glenn Powell,
Speaker 3: but you're right, he doesn't have a I don't know
Speaker 3: that he has like a project coming out that he'd
Speaker 3: be promoting. I think it should go to a Pedro Pascal. Yes,
Speaker 3: that's a big one.
Speaker 1: Okay, hear me out, Pedro Pescal for every category?
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, I hear you, and I second you, and
Speaker 3: I affirm that I love that.
Speaker 1: How about Keanu Reeves? That's a curveball, yes, uh, just
Speaker 1: based on how he is carried himself in the press
Speaker 1: the past thirty years. Give him all the away, No notes,
Speaker 1: no no notes.
Speaker 4: Okay, y'all. Next up, we got to.
Speaker 3: Talk about this headline in the New York Post that
Speaker 3: had me really curious. So headline is a dating coach
Speaker 3: reveals the juiciest secret to find mister Wright. Of course,
Speaker 3: everyone has theories about how to find your person these days, right,
Speaker 3: But there's this one dating coach in the UK named
Speaker 3: Kayleie Cassel who says that she has actually two secrets
Speaker 3: that she shares with her clients. She tells clients to
Speaker 3: date at least three men at once, so I guess
Speaker 3: she's referring to women who are in heterosexual relationships.
Speaker 4: And here's the kicker.
Speaker 3: Her second tip is to abstain from sex while dating
Speaker 3: to make sure you don't rush into what she calls
Speaker 3: a chemical connection. Honestly, first time I'm hearing that term.
Speaker 3: It's very interesting and there's a lot to unpack there.
Speaker 3: So let's break this down. What do we think about this?
Speaker 3: These two rules?
Speaker 1: My feminist politics to disagree, but my heart says yes
Speaker 1: because this is exactly what I did. I didn't know
Speaker 1: I was following a rule, but I do think I
Speaker 1: do think dating multiple people or even just dates at
Speaker 1: the same time makes sure you're not It helps you
Speaker 1: make sure you're not gonna settle because you're not just
Speaker 1: focused on one person. Because it's like when you watch
Speaker 1: people go on The Bachelor and they're like, how did
Speaker 1: they fall in love with them? There's only one person
Speaker 1: for them to fall in love with, so they just
Speaker 1: went for it. So it's like keep your options open
Speaker 1: so that you're always assessing correctly. And I think you're
Speaker 1: also putting your energy out there as like I am
Speaker 1: ready and open for love and I am in control.
Speaker 1: And then the sleeping with people thing, Yeah, I couldn't
Speaker 1: do it because I'm such I was like, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: sleep with everyone, this is my right, but like my
Speaker 1: body was like I'm sensitive, Like if I do this,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna think like I should definitely have coffee with
Speaker 1: you tomorrow. And maybe that's not always true.
Speaker 3: That's really real, Chelsea, and I don't think people people have.
Speaker 4: The courage to talk about that a lot.
Speaker 3: So yeah, I think that's a very real perspective that
Speaker 3: a lot of people share because I.
Speaker 1: Think there's definitely women who can do it, Like who
Speaker 1: can sleep with whoever. But I think if you can't,
Speaker 1: you got to be honest with yourself and I, unfortunately
Speaker 1: I'm just not one of them.
Speaker 2: I sort of have an issue with all the dating
Speaker 2: rules out there. I know this is a dating coach
Speaker 2: who's like they're all doing their jobs, but there are
Speaker 2: no The rule is there are no rules, Like that's
Speaker 2: so true. It just I feel like you can't mess
Speaker 2: things up with the right person, and you.
Speaker 1: Just say, I'm going to disagree there. I think you
Speaker 1: can totally mess things up there.
Speaker 2: You're saying, like if you sleep with someone on the
Speaker 2: first date, like you think that's gonna mess it up.
Speaker 1: Oh no, No, I don't think that.
Speaker 2: You know, Like, I feel like that doesn't matter as
Speaker 2: long as it's it feels right to you.
Speaker 1: I think that's right. Or you could wait fifty dates. Yeah,
Speaker 1: there's no sex rules.
Speaker 4: I don't think.
Speaker 2: Also, like dating multiple people, if that works for you, great,
Speaker 2: but like I get anxious that doesn't work for me.
Speaker 3: My theory behind this idea of dating multiple people at
Speaker 3: once is you're kind of decentering like one specific person.
Speaker 3: You know, you're not allowing one specific person to get
Speaker 3: on a pedestal, like you said, Chelsea, you're entertaining multiple options.
Speaker 3: You also have points of comparison like, oh, this person's
Speaker 3: falling short in this area.
Speaker 4: This person is making up for that deficit here. Yeah.
Speaker 3: So I do think there is something too not holding
Speaker 3: it all so tightly, you know, like being able to
Speaker 3: hold it a bit more loosely.
Speaker 1: I really love that. And when I was doing this,
Speaker 1: it was it was really about making myself the main character,
Speaker 1: Like y'all are not the main character. I'm the main character,
Speaker 1: Like what do I want in my life? And then
Speaker 1: the moment I went on a first date with my
Speaker 1: now husband, I was like, oh goodbye. Everyone never saw
Speaker 1: anyone else again, only saw him. But like, I think
Speaker 1: it was nice to have been on so many dates
Speaker 1: to know, oh it's this.
Speaker 3: Person, well this or my We have a TikTok that
Speaker 3: I saw of a woman who was sharing that she
Speaker 3: had done this one eight in her life and she
Speaker 3: had decided to completely decenter and deprioritize men in her life.
Speaker 3: And she was observing how it had shifted her friendships
Speaker 3: and other relationships too, because after she made that decision
Speaker 3: to you know, not obsess over men, like not talk
Speaker 3: about them all the time. Like kind of applying the
Speaker 3: Bechdel Tests to your own life. Right, she she found
Speaker 3: that she didn't have as much in common with some
Speaker 3: of her friends, or she felt like isolated by the
Speaker 3: fact that she was making this choice to center herself
Speaker 3: and become the main character. I thought that was so interesting,
Speaker 3: Like in our society, we really do focus on dating
Speaker 3: so much and focus on finding a partner so much,
Speaker 3: we never really entertain what it would look like to
Speaker 3: de center all of that. Anyways, thanks for coming to
Speaker 3: my ted talk. You know what you can keep gone.
Speaker 1: I think the same thing applies to diet culture. Is
Speaker 1: actually what it made me think of. If you're no
Speaker 1: longer entertaining those conversations of like I look like this,
Speaker 1: I should do this, Oh God we love this, right, Like,
Speaker 1: you'll realize like that is something you have with certain friends.
Speaker 1: You know that that removed that, like, I think, is
Speaker 1: life changing that you no longer have like diet culture
Speaker 1: as a center in your life, even if you don't
Speaker 1: think you have it like you might if you're always
Speaker 1: being like, oh, I shouldn't eat this, or we'll want
Speaker 1: to split this, like decenter that, Yes, totally.
Speaker 2: What's the best piece of dating advice you've ever gotten, Chelsea.
Speaker 1: Well, it's difficult because most pieces of dating advice come
Speaker 1: to you when you want everyone to drop dead. The
Speaker 1: moment they say it to ye, like where you're like
Speaker 1: like come on, like love, like love happens when you
Speaker 1: least expect it. You're like, get out of my face,
Speaker 1: Get out of my face.
Speaker 2: That's my least favorite one, and everybody that business me off.
Speaker 1: The best piece of advice, and it is a popular one,
Speaker 1: but I do really look back on it and I'm
Speaker 1: happy I did. It is to make a list of
Speaker 1: the qualities you want. But there's a catch. You have
Speaker 1: to be so specific. You cannot write funny because guess
Speaker 1: what every man on tender would be like me, I funny, Like, no,
Speaker 1: you're not You're not. So I remember on my list
Speaker 1: I wrote sees a therapist currently has one or more
Speaker 1: good male friends who he has emotional conversations with. Oh,
Speaker 1: here's specific. So and those are the things that I
Speaker 1: feel like. It was nice to know for me what
Speaker 1: I like really needed, and then it was nice to
Speaker 1: be able to make sure my partner had them.
Speaker 4: That's really cool.
Speaker 1: I love the specificity of that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, okay, here's my other existential broad question for
Speaker 2: you all. If you had the chance to go back
Speaker 2: in time and relive another age, would you take it
Speaker 2: or would you rather stay right here.
Speaker 1: Where you are? Danielle, you always have the best questions.
Speaker 1: This is stunning, so nice.
Speaker 2: I can't take total credit because it's coming from a
Speaker 2: new Tom Hanks movie that.
Speaker 1: I want to discuss with you guys, But still I
Speaker 1: love you. That's so sweet. Hmmm. I would want to
Speaker 1: go back.
Speaker 4: Just to.
Speaker 1: Like I wrote about this in the end of my book,
Speaker 1: where I was like, I wish me now, I could
Speaker 1: have had me now when I was younger. I wish,
Speaker 1: you know, and to have that like helping hands. So
Speaker 1: I would go back in the way where you're like
Speaker 1: justice for everything that went wrong. But I wouldn't actually
Speaker 1: want to live it. I really love right now, see
Speaker 1: money have I I think so?
Speaker 3: I think I would Charles dickens it. I think I
Speaker 3: would do three visits oh, Past, Present future. I mean
Speaker 3: there are certain things that I would certain time periods
Speaker 3: that I would love to like dip in and dip
Speaker 3: out of, Like love to dip into college for like
Speaker 3: a day or two here and there, or my twenty
Speaker 3: is living in New York City. There are certain time
Speaker 3: periods that I would dip into, for sure.
Speaker 1: I love that, Danielle.
Speaker 2: Okay, I really agree with you, Chelsea. I actually was
Speaker 2: thinking about this yesterday. Weirdly enough, I wish I could
Speaker 2: go back to like twenty year old me, knowing what
Speaker 2: I know now, and I think I would have saved
Speaker 2: myself some experiences I'm not sure I needed to have,
Speaker 2: or some lessons I don't know I needed to learn,
Speaker 2: Like I don't know if I needed to learn everything
Speaker 2: the hard way.
Speaker 1: I co sign that.
Speaker 3: You guys are so earnest, It's so beautiful. I just
Speaker 3: want to go back and party. No.
Speaker 1: When you said that, I was like, oh, that's fine.
Speaker 1: Could you go back on like the one day when
Speaker 1: there was a good party and like, yeah, come back
Speaker 1: before that guy like goes you like, oh yeah.
Speaker 2: Before my college boyfriend broke up with me on my
Speaker 2: birthday on January fifteenth.
Speaker 4: Okay, there it is there.
Speaker 1: It is a hundre versent. Yeah, I live with tons
Speaker 1: of regrets in the sense of like they're like, oh,
Speaker 1: everything you go through makes you better.
Speaker 4: Absolutely not.
Speaker 1: I could cut half of this stuff out. Some things
Speaker 1: don't need to happen. Hard agree, Hard agree, Chelsea.
Speaker 2: Well, the reason I asked you guys this very existential
Speaker 2: question was Tom Hanks told People magazine that it was
Speaker 2: fun to look young again. And what he meant by
Speaker 2: that is that Tom Hanks and Robin Wright reunited for
Speaker 2: the film Here, which spans decades as it follows the
Speaker 2: same couple throughout their lives.
Speaker 1: But here's what's interesting.
Speaker 2: Instead of casting younger actors to play the earlier versions
Speaker 2: of Tom and Robin, the film used digital de aging
Speaker 2: technology to make them appear as if they're in their
Speaker 2: twenties and thirties. So, first of all, if you haven't
Speaker 2: seen the images yet, please go into Google. It's wild.
Speaker 1: But he told people that it.
Speaker 2: Was fun to be young again, and he mentioned that
Speaker 2: transforming into a thirty five year old was the most
Speaker 2: challenging part of the DA process. And he said that
Speaker 2: at sixty eight, he's in better shape than ever. Hey
Speaker 2: has more time for exercise, He's living healthier now than
Speaker 2: he did when he was thirty five. Like his life
Speaker 2: was moving so fast that he found it really hard
Speaker 2: to be his best self. Is what I garnered from
Speaker 2: his quote. Wow, I find this to be a very
Speaker 2: male take really, I totally agree.
Speaker 4: What do you mean?
Speaker 1: Yeah, just in that, like, if you're a man in Hollywood,
Speaker 1: your career doesn't go away as you age, it often
Speaker 1: only gets like better and fuller, and like that is
Speaker 1: the opposite for women. So of course he's like, oh,
Speaker 1: it's nice to be younger, but like I'm good now,
Speaker 1: or as I feel like if you ask most women
Speaker 1: in Hollywood, who would be like, yeah, there's a like
Speaker 1: two parts a year for me, would you know, maybe
Speaker 1: all reverse time. I don't know.
Speaker 3: Though I'm a hater, I do hear that, but I
Speaker 3: also think it's refreshing to hear someone acknowledge how much
Speaker 3: we shoulder in our mid thirties. I think of people
Speaker 3: who are part of the Sandwich generation who have young
Speaker 3: kids are also taking care of aging family members. I
Speaker 3: think there is a unique burden that kind of falls
Speaker 3: on you, especially if you become a parent during this
Speaker 3: stage of life. I personally am amazed at my brain
Speaker 3: and how much I can handle, like how many different
Speaker 3: layers of tasks and responsibilities I can handle, And I
Speaker 3: feel completely overwhelmed most of the time as a thirty
Speaker 3: six year old mom, But I find myself overcoming it
Speaker 3: and pushing through it.
Speaker 4: So maybe that's what he's referring to.
Speaker 1: That's retally nice.
Speaker 2: Do you think that society is shifting to be more
Speaker 2: age positive? I've heard better rhetoric in the last year.
Speaker 2: Actually it's hard.
Speaker 1: The first thing I think of is like, obviously Jlo
Speaker 1: being fifty four. However she's adhering, she's upholding really youthful standards.
Speaker 1: But at the same time, it is changing your perception
Speaker 1: of like what a fifty year old woman can be
Speaker 1: like compared to like when the Golden Girls they were
Speaker 1: like put her in a home at fifty, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. It's like so I think yes, in
Speaker 1: like the most incremental, tiny way.
Speaker 2: Well, it could be confirmation bias just hosting this podcast
Speaker 2: because we have so many positive conversations with women who
Speaker 2: like span age range someone do don't you think like
Speaker 2: everybody we've had on that's fifty plus has talked about
Speaker 2: how their lives have just gotten better. I don't know
Speaker 2: if that's just like what they're supposed to say, but
Speaker 2: they do say it.
Speaker 3: I do think that's true. We've had some incredible conversations
Speaker 3: about that. Unfortunately, I'm not sure that I agree. I
Speaker 3: feel like things are trending in the opposite direction. I
Speaker 3: feel like we have a small resistance base who's kind
Speaker 3: of like fighting the beast and trying to reinforce these
Speaker 3: positive narratives around aging. But plastic surgery is getting even
Speaker 3: more advanced and undetectable, and I think as the technology
Speaker 3: continue is to advance and improve, I think we're going
Speaker 3: to lose sight of what a natural face looks like,
Speaker 3: you know, because it's the technology is only going to
Speaker 3: become more accessible. So and listen, there's like, I'm not
Speaker 3: like someone who's like judging people for plastic surgery, not
Speaker 3: in the least, but I do think it's going to
Speaker 3: change our baseline of what we think natural looks like.
Speaker 1: I totally agree with you, Simon.
Speaker 2: Okay, well, on that note of plastic surgery, it's time
Speaker 2: to end the show. Just kidding, Chelsea, thank you so
Speaker 2: much for popping off with us and just always bringing
Speaker 2: such candor and heart.
Speaker 1: You're really the best. I adore you both, and thank
Speaker 1: you so much for having me.
Speaker 3: Chelsea Devantees is a comedian, writer and the author of
Speaker 3: I shouldn't be telling you this, but I'm going to.
Speaker 2: Anyway, we have to take one more quick break. We'll
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