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Speaker 1: Hello Sunshine, Hey besties.

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Speaker 2: Today on the bright Side, we're popping off audition on

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Speaker 2: the biggest pop culture moments of the week with Emmy

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Speaker 2: nominated comedian and writer Chelsea Devantes. Who will be People's

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Speaker 2: Sexiest Man Alive this year? What is the secret to

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Speaker 2: a Lasting relationship? And Tom Hanks sparks a debate would

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Speaker 2: you travel back in time to experience life at a

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Speaker 2: younger age?

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Speaker 1: Again?

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Speaker 3: It's Friday, November First, I'm Simone Boyce.

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Speaker 2: I'm Danielle Robe and this is the bright Side from

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Speaker 2: Hello Sunshine, a daily show where we come together to

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Speaker 2: share women's stories, laugh, learn and brighten your day. Simone,

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Speaker 2: Happy day after Halloween. How was trick or treating with

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Speaker 2: your kiddos last night?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 4: It was so much fun.

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Speaker 3: Our neighborhood really gets into the decorations, so we always

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Speaker 3: have friends who come over and walk through the neighborhood

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Speaker 3: with us and do trick or treating together.

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Speaker 4: So it was a blast. How about you. How is

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Speaker 4: your Halloween in New Orleans?

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Speaker 2: Well, you know, New Orleans is a little bit of

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Speaker 2: a mystical place, so Halloween here was especially spooky, which

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Speaker 2: I love. All the architecture here is like French and

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Speaker 2: Spanish and Creole, inspired from like the late seventeen hundreds,

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Speaker 2: early eighteen hundreds, and so it just really lends itself

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Speaker 2: to some spookiness and some spiderwebs.

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Speaker 3: You know. My favorite part of New Orleans is probably

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Speaker 3: the architecture. I just love sitting in those really old

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Speaker 3: restaurants and seeing like the crumbling layers of the walls

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Speaker 3: peeling back and you can see the patina underneath. And

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Speaker 3: then I also love those gas lanterns that are outside

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Speaker 3: of every building there. I always feel like I'm in

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Speaker 3: Pirates of the Caribbean whenever walking through New Orleans.

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Speaker 4: It's so magical.

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Speaker 2: I thought of that movie yesterday. That's so funny that

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Speaker 2: you said that. The funny thing is my stomach cannot

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Speaker 2: take any more New Orleans breakfast. I need some green juice,

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Speaker 2: I need some egg whites.

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Speaker 1: I really the grits. I didn't grow up on these.

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Speaker 1: I'm on the struggle bus right now, Danielle.

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Speaker 3: I can't believe it's already the beginning of a new month.

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Speaker 3: This week alone, we've had so many wonderful conversations. It

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Speaker 3: feels like we just talked about ghosting with Sabrina Zohar

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Speaker 3: one of my favorite guests.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, her story about being ghosted by someone that she

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Speaker 2: dated for six weeks and then running into that guy

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Speaker 2: on the streets of New York had me shook. Also

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Speaker 2: someone There was an interview this week that I learned

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Speaker 2: so much from while we were recording it, but I

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Speaker 2: actually learned a lot listening back, and that was with

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Speaker 2: the millennial therapist, doctor Sarah Kubrick. Her thoughts on how

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Speaker 2: we can take responsibility for ourselves and who we want

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Speaker 2: how like basically she was talking about how your insides

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Speaker 2: should and can match your outsides.

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Speaker 4: I love that phrase. Danielle so good.

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Speaker 3: I also love doctor Kubrick's comment about how she remains

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Speaker 3: mindful to never over commit to a single version of

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Speaker 3: herself and just create space to grow one hundred percent.

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Speaker 2: We also had our first ever Halloween episode with comedian

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Speaker 2: Lauren Lapkiz our spooky ghost story loving podcast hosts.

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Speaker 3: It really is wild that this is our first Halloween episode, Like,

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Speaker 3: that's how long we've been on the air. In March,

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Speaker 3: it'll be a year, all right, besties, we are about

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Speaker 3: to pop off with Chelsea devantees. But before we do,

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Speaker 3: it's time to spotlight our favorite moment of the week,

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Speaker 3: and today's spotlight goes to actor and director Anna Kendrick.

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Speaker 3: If you've been on Netflix recently, you may have seen

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Speaker 3: her starring in the film Woman of the Hour, which

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Speaker 3: has been streamed more than twenty three million times to date. Well,

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Speaker 3: this past week, we learned that she donated her salary

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Speaker 3: from the film, which she also directed to two organizations

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Speaker 3: that are working to combat sexual violence and abuse.

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Speaker 2: In a little context here if you haven't seen the film,

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Speaker 2: it's inspired by one woman's real life encounter with serial

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Speaker 2: killer Rodney Alcala on the TV show The Dating Game

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Speaker 2: Anna Kendrick actually shared that she felt gross accepting money

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Speaker 3: This is actually really inspiring to me. It's just really

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Speaker 3: refreshing to see someone with that much money, acclaim and

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Speaker 4: Like, what a generous move?

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Speaker 2: Okay, Vesti's we're flipping the script a little bit.

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Speaker 1: It's time to.

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Speaker 2: Pop off with our good friend Chelsea Devantes.

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Speaker 1: Chelsea, welcome back to the bright Side. I'm so happy

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Speaker 1: to be here. I missed you all. Did you miss me?

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Speaker 1: We missed you so much. Good. I know you're doing

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Speaker 1: like lots of shows, but did you miss my show? Specifically?

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Speaker 4: I haven't been able to get it out of my mind?

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Speaker 1: Honestly, thank you, thank you. We argued about Ratman Hot

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Speaker 1: Ratman on that episode, so.

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Speaker 4: How could no one for get?

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Speaker 2: We're actually kind of gonna argue about men again today

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Speaker 1: Maybe not Ratman. Can I be her argue about men? Correspondent,

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Speaker 1: the mayor of arguing about men? Correspondent Chelsea wants, I love.

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Speaker 2: It, sounds incredibly official.

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Speaker 4: I like it a lot, Okay, Chelsea.

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Speaker 3: On your podcast, you talk all about celebrity memoirs, and

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Speaker 3: we heard this week that Tina Knowles is releasing a memoir.

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Speaker 3: What's your initial reaction to this? What are you hoping

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Speaker 3: to see? What do you think she's gonna cover.

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Speaker 1: Okay, first off, I'm so excited. This is huge. This

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Speaker 1: is like a mini super Bowl memoir, Like Share is

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Speaker 1: the super Bowl. Her memoir comes out in a month,

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Speaker 1: and we're recapping on the podcast. But then Tina's gonna

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Speaker 1: She's another super Bowl. Here's what I want to be

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Speaker 1: in the memoir. I need details on the first marriage.

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Speaker 1: I need a photo section of only the outfits that

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Speaker 1: she sewed for Destiny's Child, and I want her to

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Speaker 1: point out in every outfit how she made Beyonce specifically

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Speaker 1: look the best in every single, because she did.

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Speaker 2: Every time I hear about Beyonce's story, and not just

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Speaker 2: the clips that we all have seen online, but when

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Speaker 2: I hear any sort of excerpts of people who talked

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Speaker 2: about them growing up and like Tina having her hair

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Speaker 2: think that she's sort of just like sanctioned final cut

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Speaker 3: Right?

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Speaker 1: Right? That is such a good point, Like what will

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Speaker 1: Beyonce let her mom share Chelsea.

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Speaker 3: Who's someone that you really want to see a memoir from?

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Speaker 3: Who has a published.

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Speaker 1: Always Rihanna, It'll never come. I'm giving us an album,

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Speaker 1: so I know that's not coming. But the one that

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Speaker 1: I think people never think about is Sandra Bullock, who

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Speaker 1: is both y'all's like, this is the memoir I need?

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Speaker 1: How about Goldie Hahn, she has one. How about Bet Midler.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna do the third cast member of First One.

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Speaker 1: Now, that is a memoir we need, Yes, yeah, we

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Speaker 1: need that. We need that bad lady m give it

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Speaker 1: to us. I'm going to go with Tracy Elis ross

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Speaker 1: Ooh yeah, oh my god, child of Diana.

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Speaker 4: The Stories we love. An honest memoir we do.

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Speaker 1: You gotta go there. If yeah, this is what I

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Speaker 1: say on the podcast, do not memoir. If you are

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Speaker 1: not ready to memoir, exactly, just don't do it. Do

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Speaker 1: a cookbook.

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Speaker 4: Don't waste my time.

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Speaker 1: Be like, here's a style book, here's Living by Bet Midler, Like,

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Speaker 1: we don't need your memoir.

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Speaker 4: Here's a cookbook exactly.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you can't really fake it, but you did the

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Speaker 2: opposite of faking it with your memoir.

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Speaker 1: It came out in June.

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Speaker 2: It was called I shouldn't be telling you this, but

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Speaker 1: To best seller status.

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Speaker 2: You were traveling around the country wearing the pages of

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Speaker 2: your book as a dress that you made, which was

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Speaker 1: It was actually the pages of my childhood journals. Because

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Speaker 1: tough relationship I lived through that had violence in it

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Speaker 1: but I'd already written about it in my teenage journals,

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Speaker 1: and so I wore the journal pages around my book

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Speaker 1: tour as my moment of just furious with the system.

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Speaker 4: That's your resistance, so smart.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, could not be silenced.

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Speaker 2: Has the success of your memoir changed the way that

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Speaker 1: Yes. Whenever I was like reading memoirs on my podcast,

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Speaker 1: they would always write like Jane Fonna does it, Dolly Parton,

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Speaker 1: Brandy Carlile, Lonnie Anderson. They always wrote in the books,

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Speaker 1: this has changed my life, sharing my story has changed

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Speaker 1: like fully giving everyone my most embarrassing I mean, I

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Speaker 1: really shared too much. It is so full of so

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Speaker 1: all my friends are still my friends, and people still,

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Speaker 1: you know, love me. I feel like my brain pathways

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Speaker 4: That's beautiful.

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Speaker 1: So happy to hear that.

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Speaker 2: Also, this is a bit tangential, but one of my

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Speaker 2: how you have like this Google doc basically of advice

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Speaker 2: that all of your friends have given, Like you're all

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Speaker 2: had the best career advice by far.

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Speaker 1: And I found out there's actually a term for this,

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Speaker 1: maybe Ray I heard her speaking about it, but it's

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Speaker 1: called networking across.

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Speaker 4: Have you heard of this? Yeah, I love that quote.

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Speaker 4: I love that Easter Ray quote.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I it was the same thing I was

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Speaker 1: saying except she said it so much better. But which

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Speaker 1: is that, like you always are looking up in life

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Speaker 1: you're like, oh, like let's say I don't know, let's

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Speaker 1: say you attended a Tina fe conference and you're like, god,

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Speaker 1: if I could just meet Tina Fey, and it's like, no,

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Speaker 1: who's sitting next to you. That's the person that's gonna

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Speaker 1: change your life. Who's going to go hand in hand

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Speaker 1: with you. Who's who's like in at your moment in

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Speaker 1: your career, And like my best friends have just like

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Speaker 1: been life changing in ways of like all the beautiful

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Speaker 1: emotional support, but also when you're like, hey, what's a

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Speaker 1: So one of my.

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Speaker 2: But in the vein of magazines, people magazines getting ready

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Speaker 1: Is very wow. I can't wait to find out if

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Speaker 2: Yes, okay, the sexiest podcast hosts?

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Speaker 2: Are you ready for this list? Unfortunately none of us

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Speaker 4: That's a red lipstick?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, Travis and Jason Kelce and they beat out

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Speaker 1: Have they seen the mustache tricks Travis Kelsey is pulling lately.

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Speaker 2: Ira Glass from This American Life, Stop this Sexy.

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Speaker 1: It's also so funny to do sexiest podcast, Oh when

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Speaker 1: how we just give Denzel one name too. It's Denzel Washington.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, thank you. That is such a good God.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I'm into this he too.

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Speaker 4: Brought for Benjamin Bratt. Ladies simmer down.

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Speaker 2: Now, Okay, Chelsea hates my taste in men, but Benjamin

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Speaker 1: We go go break up that marriage.

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Speaker 3: So the Sexiest Man Alive the Top prize will be

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Speaker 1: Okay, hear me out, Pedro Pescal for every category?

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Speaker 3: everyone has theories about how to find your person these days, right,

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Speaker 3: That's really real, Chelsea, and I don't think people people have.

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Speaker 3: Like in our society, we really do focus on dating

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Speaker 1: I think the same thing applies to diet culture. Is

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Speaker 2: What's the best piece of dating advice you've ever gotten, Chelsea.

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Speaker 1: Well, it's difficult because most pieces of dating advice come

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Speaker 1: to you when you want everyone to drop dead. The

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Speaker 1: moment they say it to ye, like where you're like

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Speaker 1: like come on, like love, like love happens when you

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Speaker 1: least expect it. You're like, get out of my face,

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Speaker 1: Get out of my face.

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Speaker 2: That's my least favorite one, and everybody that business me off.

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Speaker 1: The best piece of advice, and it is a popular one,

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Speaker 1: but I do really look back on it and I'm

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Speaker 1: happy I did. It is to make a list of

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Speaker 1: the qualities you want. But there's a catch. You have

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Speaker 1: to be so specific. You cannot write funny because guess

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Speaker 1: what every man on tender would be like me, I funny, Like, no,

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Speaker 1: you're not You're not. So I remember on my list

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Speaker 1: I wrote sees a therapist currently has one or more

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Speaker 1: good male friends who he has emotional conversations with. Oh,

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Speaker 1: here's specific. So and those are the things that I

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Speaker 1: feel like. It was nice to know for me what

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Speaker 1: I like really needed, and then it was nice to

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Speaker 1: be able to make sure my partner had them.

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Speaker 4: That's really cool.

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Speaker 1: I love the specificity of that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, okay, here's my other existential broad question for

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Speaker 2: you all. If you had the chance to go back

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Speaker 2: in time and relive another age, would you take it

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Speaker 2: or would you rather stay right here.

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Speaker 1: Where you are? Danielle, you always have the best questions.

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Speaker 1: This is stunning, so nice.

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Speaker 2: I can't take total credit because it's coming from a

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Speaker 2: new Tom Hanks movie that.

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Speaker 1: I want to discuss with you guys, But still I

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Speaker 1: love you. That's so sweet. Hmmm. I would want to

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Speaker 1: go back.

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Speaker 4: Just to.

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Speaker 1: Like I wrote about this in the end of my book,

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Speaker 1: where I was like, I wish me now, I could

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Speaker 1: have had me now when I was younger. I wish,

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Speaker 1: you know, and to have that like helping hands. So

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Speaker 1: I would go back in the way where you're like

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Speaker 1: justice for everything that went wrong. But I wouldn't actually

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Speaker 1: want to live it. I really love right now, see

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Speaker 1: money have I I think so?

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Speaker 3: I think I would Charles dickens it. I think I

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Speaker 3: would do three visits oh, Past, Present future. I mean

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Speaker 3: there are certain things that I would certain time periods

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Speaker 3: that I would love to like dip in and dip

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Speaker 3: out of, Like love to dip into college for like

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Speaker 3: a day or two here and there, or my twenty

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Speaker 3: is living in New York City. There are certain time

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Speaker 3: periods that I would dip into, for sure.

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Speaker 1: I love that, Danielle.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I really agree with you, Chelsea. I actually was

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Speaker 2: thinking about this yesterday. Weirdly enough, I wish I could

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Speaker 2: go back to like twenty year old me, knowing what

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Speaker 2: I know now, and I think I would have saved

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Speaker 2: myself some experiences I'm not sure I needed to have,

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Speaker 2: or some lessons I don't know I needed to learn,

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Speaker 2: Like I don't know if I needed to learn everything

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Speaker 2: the hard way.

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Speaker 1: I co sign that.

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Speaker 3: You guys are so earnest, It's so beautiful. I just

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Speaker 3: want to go back and party. No.

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Speaker 1: When you said that, I was like, oh, that's fine.

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Speaker 1: Could you go back on like the one day when

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Speaker 1: there was a good party and like, yeah, come back

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Speaker 1: before that guy like goes you like, oh yeah.

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Speaker 2: Before my college boyfriend broke up with me on my

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Speaker 2: birthday on January fifteenth.

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Speaker 4: Okay, there it is there.

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Speaker 1: It is a hundre versent. Yeah, I live with tons

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Speaker 1: of regrets in the sense of like they're like, oh,

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Speaker 1: everything you go through makes you better.

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Speaker 4: Absolutely not.

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Speaker 1: I could cut half of this stuff out. Some things

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Speaker 1: don't need to happen. Hard agree, Hard agree, Chelsea.

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Speaker 2: Well, the reason I asked you guys this very existential

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Speaker 2: question was Tom Hanks told People magazine that it was

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Speaker 2: fun to look young again. And what he meant by

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Speaker 2: that is that Tom Hanks and Robin Wright reunited for

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Speaker 2: the film Here, which spans decades as it follows the

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Speaker 2: same couple throughout their lives.

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Speaker 1: But here's what's interesting.

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Speaker 2: Instead of casting younger actors to play the earlier versions

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Speaker 2: of Tom and Robin, the film used digital de aging

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Speaker 2: technology to make them appear as if they're in their

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Speaker 2: twenties and thirties. So, first of all, if you haven't

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Speaker 2: seen the images yet, please go into Google. It's wild.

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Speaker 1: But he told people that it.

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Speaker 2: Was fun to be young again, and he mentioned that

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Speaker 2: transforming into a thirty five year old was the most

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Speaker 2: challenging part of the DA process. And he said that

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Speaker 2: at sixty eight, he's in better shape than ever. Hey

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Speaker 2: has more time for exercise, He's living healthier now than

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Speaker 2: he did when he was thirty five. Like his life

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Speaker 2: was moving so fast that he found it really hard

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Speaker 2: to be his best self. Is what I garnered from

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Speaker 2: his quote. Wow, I find this to be a very

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Speaker 2: male take really, I totally agree.

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Speaker 4: What do you mean?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, just in that, like, if you're a man in Hollywood,

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Speaker 1: your career doesn't go away as you age, it often

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Speaker 1: only gets like better and fuller, and like that is

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Speaker 1: the opposite for women. So of course he's like, oh,

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Speaker 1: it's nice to be younger, but like I'm good now,

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Speaker 1: or as I feel like if you ask most women

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Speaker 1: in Hollywood, who would be like, yeah, there's a like

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Speaker 1: two parts a year for me, would you know, maybe

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Speaker 1: all reverse time. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Though I'm a hater, I do hear that, but I

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Speaker 3: also think it's refreshing to hear someone acknowledge how much

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Speaker 3: we shoulder in our mid thirties. I think of people

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Speaker 3: who are part of the Sandwich generation who have young

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Speaker 3: kids are also taking care of aging family members. I

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Speaker 3: think there is a unique burden that kind of falls

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Speaker 3: on you, especially if you become a parent during this

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Speaker 3: stage of life. I personally am amazed at my brain

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Speaker 3: and how much I can handle, like how many different

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Speaker 3: layers of tasks and responsibilities I can handle, And I

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Speaker 3: feel completely overwhelmed most of the time as a thirty

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Speaker 3: six year old mom, But I find myself overcoming it

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Speaker 3: and pushing through it.

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Speaker 4: So maybe that's what he's referring to.

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Speaker 1: That's retally nice.

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Speaker 2: Do you think that society is shifting to be more

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Speaker 2: age positive? I've heard better rhetoric in the last year.

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Speaker 2: Actually it's hard.

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Speaker 1: The first thing I think of is like, obviously Jlo

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Speaker 1: being fifty four. However she's adhering, she's upholding really youthful standards.

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Speaker 1: But at the same time, it is changing your perception

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Speaker 1: of like what a fifty year old woman can be

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Speaker 1: like compared to like when the Golden Girls they were

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Speaker 1: like put her in a home at fifty, you know

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Speaker 1: what I mean. It's like so I think yes, in

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Speaker 1: like the most incremental, tiny way.

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Speaker 2: Well, it could be confirmation bias just hosting this podcast

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Speaker 2: because we have so many positive conversations with women who

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Speaker 2: like span age range someone do don't you think like

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Speaker 2: everybody we've had on that's fifty plus has talked about

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Speaker 2: how their lives have just gotten better. I don't know

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Speaker 2: if that's just like what they're supposed to say, but

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Speaker 2: they do say it.

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Speaker 3: I do think that's true. We've had some incredible conversations

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Speaker 3: about that. Unfortunately, I'm not sure that I agree. I

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Speaker 3: feel like things are trending in the opposite direction. I

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Speaker 3: feel like we have a small resistance base who's kind

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Speaker 3: of like fighting the beast and trying to reinforce these

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Speaker 3: positive narratives around aging. But plastic surgery is getting even

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Speaker 3: more advanced and undetectable, and I think as the technology

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Speaker 3: continue is to advance and improve, I think we're going

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Speaker 3: to lose sight of what a natural face looks like,

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Speaker 3: you know, because it's the technology is only going to

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Speaker 3: become more accessible. So and listen, there's like, I'm not

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Speaker 3: like someone who's like judging people for plastic surgery, not

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Speaker 3: in the least, but I do think it's going to

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Speaker 3: change our baseline of what we think natural looks like.

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Speaker 1: I totally agree with you, Simon.

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Speaker 2: Okay, well, on that note of plastic surgery, it's time

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Speaker 2: to end the show. Just kidding, Chelsea, thank you so

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Speaker 2: much for popping off with us and just always bringing

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Speaker 2: such candor and heart.

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Speaker 1: You're really the best. I adore you both, and thank

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Speaker 1: you so much for having me.

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Speaker 3: Chelsea Devantees is a comedian, writer and the author of

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Speaker 3: I shouldn't be telling you this, but I'm going to.

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Speaker 2: Anyway, we have to take one more quick break. We'll

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