1 00:00:00,480 --> 00:00:11,440 Speaker 1: Edge Martinez in Real Life Podcast A shottingest back guy. Yo, 2 00:00:11,880 --> 00:00:14,840 Speaker 1: you are my first reoccurring guests on IRL. 3 00:00:15,160 --> 00:00:16,400 Speaker 2: Yes, I loved it. 4 00:00:16,520 --> 00:00:19,360 Speaker 1: I have never repeated a guest. But we are so 5 00:00:19,560 --> 00:00:23,560 Speaker 1: invested in your life at this point and so much 6 00:00:23,640 --> 00:00:26,279 Speaker 1: has changed that and we're just coming back with a 7 00:00:26,360 --> 00:00:26,960 Speaker 1: new season. 8 00:00:27,560 --> 00:00:29,640 Speaker 2: I congratulations, thank. 9 00:00:29,440 --> 00:00:32,880 Speaker 1: You baby, Well, congratulations to you on the laundry list 10 00:00:32,920 --> 00:00:34,720 Speaker 1: of things that we're gonna get to today. But it 11 00:00:34,880 --> 00:00:36,800 Speaker 1: just felt like, I don't know, we're so happy for 12 00:00:36,880 --> 00:00:38,839 Speaker 1: you now. You know, mom, do you feel like that? 13 00:00:38,920 --> 00:00:40,440 Speaker 1: Do you feel like the love? 14 00:00:41,040 --> 00:00:43,680 Speaker 2: I definitely feel the love. It's been a journey, you 15 00:00:43,720 --> 00:00:45,440 Speaker 2: know what I mean, it's been a journey. 16 00:00:45,560 --> 00:00:48,440 Speaker 3: So you know, you you you open up your social 17 00:00:48,479 --> 00:00:51,000 Speaker 3: media and you see just an outpouring of love. It's 18 00:00:51,040 --> 00:00:53,320 Speaker 3: just like, ah, that feels great. 19 00:00:53,360 --> 00:00:56,240 Speaker 1: So your life in the past two years is like 20 00:00:56,320 --> 00:00:57,320 Speaker 1: a different. 21 00:00:57,040 --> 00:01:01,080 Speaker 3: Life, completely different, like who who are you now versus 22 00:01:01,160 --> 00:01:03,400 Speaker 3: who you were that day when we were in Canada. 23 00:01:03,440 --> 00:01:04,680 Speaker 2: We shot it in Canada. 24 00:01:04,400 --> 00:01:05,240 Speaker 1: Because you're on set. 25 00:01:05,360 --> 00:01:08,560 Speaker 2: Yes, Oh my goodness, I am a mother and a 26 00:01:08,600 --> 00:01:12,880 Speaker 2: wife now, completely different. I did not see this coming 27 00:01:13,000 --> 00:01:14,680 Speaker 2: at all the last time we said. 28 00:01:14,680 --> 00:01:16,679 Speaker 1: You know, it's so interesting when I thought that there 29 00:01:16,720 --> 00:01:19,640 Speaker 1: may be a little window open is I asked you 30 00:01:19,680 --> 00:01:22,080 Speaker 1: about Nellie and the time that you had dated that 31 00:01:22,120 --> 00:01:24,880 Speaker 1: first time around, and I was like, I asked you, 32 00:01:25,160 --> 00:01:28,280 Speaker 1: what did you learn from yourself in that relationship? And 33 00:01:28,319 --> 00:01:31,000 Speaker 1: you said to me that he checked you because the 34 00:01:31,040 --> 00:01:33,600 Speaker 1: way you used to talk to him, and that he 35 00:01:33,640 --> 00:01:36,280 Speaker 1: would say, don't we don't talk to each other like that, 36 00:01:37,000 --> 00:01:39,120 Speaker 1: and you thought that that made you better. And the 37 00:01:39,160 --> 00:01:42,399 Speaker 1: way you told that story, I was like, wait a minute, 38 00:01:43,600 --> 00:01:46,319 Speaker 1: something is It's not. It wasn't told with like the 39 00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:48,720 Speaker 1: venom of an X. It was told that there was 40 00:01:48,760 --> 00:01:50,600 Speaker 1: still like a little bit of a soft spot for 41 00:01:50,680 --> 00:01:53,680 Speaker 1: that time. Maybe this was right after versus. 42 00:01:54,000 --> 00:01:56,040 Speaker 2: Oh so this was after running for the hug? 43 00:01:56,360 --> 00:02:00,760 Speaker 1: It was awkward. Everybody was like, and something happened. 44 00:02:00,440 --> 00:02:05,600 Speaker 3: From then to now A lot happened clearly, So okay, 45 00:02:05,640 --> 00:02:09,560 Speaker 3: So if it was after versus, it was definitely a 46 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:13,560 Speaker 3: place where I was open to what he was saying, 47 00:02:13,600 --> 00:02:15,760 Speaker 3: Like I was listening to what he was saying instead 48 00:02:15,800 --> 00:02:16,960 Speaker 3: of being angry and mad. 49 00:02:17,600 --> 00:02:21,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, how come just because of how he was Because. 50 00:02:22,760 --> 00:02:23,560 Speaker 4: Like what shifted? 51 00:02:23,840 --> 00:02:27,080 Speaker 3: I think growth and maturity and if we're being completely honest, 52 00:02:27,960 --> 00:02:30,720 Speaker 3: he said that to me like super early on, you 53 00:02:30,720 --> 00:02:32,440 Speaker 3: know what I mean, Like this was like, you know, 54 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:35,640 Speaker 3: my mind is crazy, like I'm out like a pirate, 55 00:02:35,760 --> 00:02:37,799 Speaker 3: like sour, like it's disgusting. 56 00:02:38,320 --> 00:02:42,320 Speaker 2: So you know, I just you know, and I'm from 57 00:02:42,320 --> 00:02:42,720 Speaker 2: New York. 58 00:02:42,760 --> 00:02:45,440 Speaker 3: He's from the Midwest, so you know, they're different, Like 59 00:02:45,480 --> 00:02:49,240 Speaker 3: they're very polite and very you know, and I'm very 60 00:02:49,280 --> 00:02:52,200 Speaker 3: you know, so very early on in some of our 61 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:54,840 Speaker 3: conversations a little heated, he'd be like yo, yo ya. 62 00:02:54,760 --> 00:02:57,880 Speaker 4: Yeah, like what we're not gonna do. 63 00:02:58,160 --> 00:02:59,080 Speaker 2: This is not gonna do. 64 00:02:59,320 --> 00:03:00,000 Speaker 1: So he turned. 65 00:03:00,080 --> 00:03:01,920 Speaker 2: He told me that very early on, and I. 66 00:03:01,880 --> 00:03:03,520 Speaker 1: Was like, this was the first time when you were 67 00:03:03,720 --> 00:03:05,560 Speaker 1: this was like the first go round. 68 00:03:06,040 --> 00:03:09,560 Speaker 3: So I was like, hmm, nobody ever said that to 69 00:03:09,600 --> 00:03:17,160 Speaker 3: me before, you know, But when I received it differently the. 70 00:03:15,680 --> 00:03:17,560 Speaker 2: Next time around, you know what I mean. 71 00:03:17,600 --> 00:03:19,600 Speaker 1: This time around, Yeah, oh he had to come back 72 00:03:19,639 --> 00:03:20,280 Speaker 1: and check you again. 73 00:03:20,400 --> 00:03:22,600 Speaker 2: No, the mouth, it's not crazy anymore. 74 00:03:22,919 --> 00:03:28,400 Speaker 1: It's goods. Calm down, don't be nuts. 75 00:03:29,120 --> 00:03:30,560 Speaker 2: But wait, but please, what are you. 76 00:03:30,560 --> 00:03:31,119 Speaker 4: Willing to share? 77 00:03:31,120 --> 00:03:35,720 Speaker 1: Because like what happened? What went from like no, even 78 00:03:35,720 --> 00:03:37,280 Speaker 1: some of the interviews. I think we did an interview 79 00:03:37,400 --> 00:03:39,480 Speaker 1: on the radio and you was like, yeah, no, I'm 80 00:03:39,520 --> 00:03:43,120 Speaker 1: not spinning the block. Nobody's spinning the block. It went 81 00:03:43,160 --> 00:03:47,400 Speaker 1: from that to like, wait a minute, and Nelly were seeing. 82 00:03:47,200 --> 00:03:49,240 Speaker 2: Somewhere, and then it went fast. 83 00:03:49,360 --> 00:03:50,960 Speaker 4: It went so fast. 84 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:57,440 Speaker 3: I think what happened, honestly, was communication. I think that look, 85 00:03:57,520 --> 00:04:00,560 Speaker 3: I didn't know he was obviously gonna be everse. I 86 00:04:00,600 --> 00:04:03,480 Speaker 3: didn't know that he was going to come over and 87 00:04:03,520 --> 00:04:06,920 Speaker 3: give me a hug. I didn't know my DJ actually 88 00:04:06,920 --> 00:04:10,000 Speaker 3: gave him my number a couple of months after that. 89 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:15,839 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, and the first text I was like three 90 00:04:15,960 --> 00:04:18,520 Speaker 2: one four, what. 91 00:04:19,400 --> 00:04:19,520 Speaker 1: So? 92 00:04:20,560 --> 00:04:24,640 Speaker 3: But communication and the first our first or second conversation, 93 00:04:24,839 --> 00:04:27,640 Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie, it was a little heated because 94 00:04:27,640 --> 00:04:30,200 Speaker 3: there were a lot of buried emotions. You know, it 95 00:04:30,240 --> 00:04:33,359 Speaker 3: had been with seven years, eight years or so, and 96 00:04:33,440 --> 00:04:35,960 Speaker 3: it was a lot of buried emotions and a lot 97 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:39,080 Speaker 3: of things that I didn't know about how he felt 98 00:04:39,560 --> 00:04:40,640 Speaker 3: and vice versa. 99 00:04:40,720 --> 00:04:40,960 Speaker 1: You know. 100 00:04:41,080 --> 00:04:44,119 Speaker 2: So it took me listening, It took both of us listening, 101 00:04:44,200 --> 00:04:44,760 Speaker 2: to be honest. 102 00:04:44,839 --> 00:04:48,040 Speaker 1: Wow, and yeah, I probably couldn't do when you were younger. 103 00:04:48,279 --> 00:04:50,400 Speaker 3: That's the thing I was just about to say, I 104 00:04:50,440 --> 00:04:53,919 Speaker 3: wish we would have communicated a little bit more but 105 00:04:54,320 --> 00:04:56,880 Speaker 3: that was, like I said, seven eight years ago, we 106 00:04:56,880 --> 00:04:59,120 Speaker 3: were both in a different mental space, you know. So 107 00:04:59,279 --> 00:05:03,040 Speaker 3: now it's just like, Okay, you hear and receive things differently. 108 00:05:03,400 --> 00:05:06,040 Speaker 3: You know, you're older and you're more mature, you've experienced 109 00:05:06,080 --> 00:05:06,560 Speaker 3: life more. 110 00:05:06,960 --> 00:05:09,400 Speaker 1: And when did you think, wait, this might just be 111 00:05:09,440 --> 00:05:10,200 Speaker 1: more than healing. 112 00:05:11,520 --> 00:05:12,200 Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying. 113 00:05:12,240 --> 00:05:14,760 Speaker 1: Clearly a window has to be open where you're open 114 00:05:14,839 --> 00:05:18,200 Speaker 1: to what this could be. Yeah, I mean I. 115 00:05:18,120 --> 00:05:22,320 Speaker 2: Think on our was it our first. 116 00:05:22,080 --> 00:05:22,920 Speaker 4: Or second date? 117 00:05:23,000 --> 00:05:25,719 Speaker 1: Maybe the first kind of day started dating again? 118 00:05:26,240 --> 00:05:26,640 Speaker 4: Circles. 119 00:05:27,920 --> 00:05:32,000 Speaker 2: I can't even believe it. 120 00:05:32,000 --> 00:05:32,799 Speaker 1: It was crazy. 121 00:05:33,120 --> 00:05:34,800 Speaker 4: You have to hide because you don't want people to 122 00:05:34,800 --> 00:05:36,280 Speaker 4: see you guys day. 123 00:05:36,320 --> 00:05:40,440 Speaker 2: It was so bizarre. We weren't like super hiding. 124 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:45,479 Speaker 3: But we weren't you know street Yeah, you know, we 125 00:05:45,560 --> 00:05:48,000 Speaker 3: definitely didn't go to Noble, but we did. 126 00:05:48,160 --> 00:05:49,080 Speaker 2: We were in Vegas. 127 00:05:49,240 --> 00:05:52,120 Speaker 3: Our first I think our first reconnected date was in 128 00:05:52,200 --> 00:05:56,239 Speaker 3: Vegas and it. 129 00:05:56,080 --> 00:05:59,040 Speaker 2: Was so crazy. It was around Valance Scien's Day and 130 00:05:59,440 --> 00:06:05,000 Speaker 2: we took a trip to Delce and he took but 131 00:06:05,160 --> 00:06:07,919 Speaker 2: you know what's crazy, He was like, well you not 132 00:06:08,000 --> 00:06:12,880 Speaker 2: my girlfriend? Yes, so I'm only spending ten thousands when 133 00:06:12,960 --> 00:06:15,599 Speaker 2: you become my girl again then, you know, so I'm like, 134 00:06:15,680 --> 00:06:18,440 Speaker 2: oh god, it was it was hilarious. But the thing 135 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:22,039 Speaker 2: for me was like I couldn't believe that I had 136 00:06:22,040 --> 00:06:24,760 Speaker 2: those feelings again, you know what I mean? Like I 137 00:06:24,800 --> 00:06:27,600 Speaker 2: was just like, wait a minute, all these feelings were going, 138 00:06:27,720 --> 00:06:29,120 Speaker 2: like how was that even happening? 139 00:06:29,360 --> 00:06:29,560 Speaker 1: You know? 140 00:06:29,680 --> 00:06:33,240 Speaker 2: I never ever expected those feelings to come back. 141 00:06:33,640 --> 00:06:34,880 Speaker 4: You know, isn't that crazy? 142 00:06:34,920 --> 00:06:38,559 Speaker 1: How we could think we know ourselves and our whole 143 00:06:38,600 --> 00:06:40,400 Speaker 1: insides and how we feel, and all of a sudden 144 00:06:40,440 --> 00:06:41,840 Speaker 1: you feel differently about something. 145 00:06:41,880 --> 00:06:44,760 Speaker 2: Absolutely, there's no like are you feeling this on day? 146 00:06:45,080 --> 00:06:47,599 Speaker 3: Saying like there's You couldn't have paid me to say 147 00:06:47,680 --> 00:06:49,640 Speaker 3: I would have lost everything had I bet, you know 148 00:06:49,680 --> 00:06:51,480 Speaker 3: what I mean? If someone would have said bet everything 149 00:06:51,520 --> 00:06:53,400 Speaker 3: that you and Nelly would be back take it all, 150 00:06:53,480 --> 00:06:55,200 Speaker 3: that ain't never gonna happen, you know what I mean? 151 00:06:55,760 --> 00:06:59,359 Speaker 1: Was that because you were angry maybe or misunderstanding you 152 00:06:59,480 --> 00:07:00,920 Speaker 1: just closed you know what it was? 153 00:07:01,200 --> 00:07:04,520 Speaker 3: I got past the anger, and you know when they say, like, 154 00:07:04,560 --> 00:07:06,880 Speaker 3: when you're not mad anymore, you're really over it. You know, 155 00:07:06,920 --> 00:07:08,880 Speaker 3: there was a time where I was like cut all 156 00:07:08,920 --> 00:07:10,680 Speaker 3: his music or don't play none of his ship. 157 00:07:10,960 --> 00:07:13,640 Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying if I'm beforeming, y'all wanting 158 00:07:13,720 --> 00:07:15,520 Speaker 2: up to don't play no Nelly shit, you know what 159 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:18,640 Speaker 2: I'm saying at the party whatever, you know. 160 00:07:18,840 --> 00:07:20,560 Speaker 3: And then it got to a place where I was like, 161 00:07:20,680 --> 00:07:22,200 Speaker 3: I don't care, you could play it, you know what 162 00:07:22,240 --> 00:07:25,680 Speaker 3: I mean? Yeah, I didn't care anymore. So when you 163 00:07:25,680 --> 00:07:27,880 Speaker 3: get to a place that it doesn't affect you and 164 00:07:27,960 --> 00:07:31,960 Speaker 3: you just don't care, that signifies that it's. 165 00:07:31,880 --> 00:07:34,120 Speaker 2: It's it's over and you're done with it, you know 166 00:07:34,120 --> 00:07:35,800 Speaker 2: what I mean. I can look at a picture and like, oh, 167 00:07:35,800 --> 00:07:36,520 Speaker 2: he looks nice. 168 00:07:36,800 --> 00:07:40,360 Speaker 1: Before it'd be like, you know what I'm saying, you 169 00:07:40,760 --> 00:07:42,840 Speaker 1: were really like on the other side of it. 170 00:07:42,640 --> 00:07:45,320 Speaker 3: It was in the beginning I was mad, you know 171 00:07:45,360 --> 00:07:47,560 Speaker 3: what I mean. But then, like I said, I got 172 00:07:47,560 --> 00:07:48,840 Speaker 3: to a place where I didn't care. 173 00:07:49,280 --> 00:07:51,000 Speaker 2: And then I got to a place where. 174 00:07:51,480 --> 00:07:52,080 Speaker 4: You were open. 175 00:07:52,240 --> 00:07:53,400 Speaker 2: I'm married and have a. 176 00:07:53,400 --> 00:07:55,200 Speaker 4: Child and here we are. 177 00:07:56,880 --> 00:07:57,160 Speaker 1: Wow. 178 00:07:57,960 --> 00:08:00,720 Speaker 4: Yeah, what amazing love story. It's like. 179 00:08:01,000 --> 00:08:03,080 Speaker 1: And there's always a lot of talk about circling the block, 180 00:08:03,200 --> 00:08:04,720 Speaker 1: like is that a good thing? Some people say I 181 00:08:04,760 --> 00:08:08,760 Speaker 1: would never What have you learned about that? Like re 182 00:08:09,160 --> 00:08:11,120 Speaker 1: entering a relationship that you had been in already and 183 00:08:11,160 --> 00:08:13,800 Speaker 1: clearly you both probably did things wrong. You weren't listening 184 00:08:13,840 --> 00:08:15,160 Speaker 1: to each other things like that. 185 00:08:15,800 --> 00:08:19,120 Speaker 2: What I've learned is to never say never. That's number one. 186 00:08:19,720 --> 00:08:22,720 Speaker 3: And what's meant to be will be regardless of how 187 00:08:22,720 --> 00:08:24,680 Speaker 3: you feel, what you think the timing was in a 188 00:08:24,800 --> 00:08:27,280 Speaker 3: universe for you will be there regardless, you know what 189 00:08:27,320 --> 00:08:31,280 Speaker 3: I mean. And I feel like we both kind of 190 00:08:31,440 --> 00:08:34,440 Speaker 3: knew each other's heart, and I feel like we both 191 00:08:34,480 --> 00:08:37,920 Speaker 3: got hurt and we both were in our stances and 192 00:08:37,960 --> 00:08:42,040 Speaker 3: then and then I mean not to sound fairy talish, 193 00:08:42,080 --> 00:08:44,679 Speaker 3: but I feel like God kind of just strings you 194 00:08:44,760 --> 00:08:47,120 Speaker 3: with who you're supposed to be with at the time, 195 00:08:47,600 --> 00:08:50,199 Speaker 3: you know what I mean. And when we did get 196 00:08:50,240 --> 00:08:54,040 Speaker 3: back together, the craziest thing was, it didn't feel like 197 00:08:54,360 --> 00:08:55,400 Speaker 3: seven years. 198 00:08:55,080 --> 00:08:58,760 Speaker 2: Had gone by, Like we just snapped back into you know, 199 00:08:59,480 --> 00:09:02,360 Speaker 2: three four like it felt and. 200 00:09:02,400 --> 00:09:04,839 Speaker 1: Never like an alarm of like or a fear of 201 00:09:04,880 --> 00:09:09,320 Speaker 1: like old problems or old issues or are you able 202 00:09:09,360 --> 00:09:12,000 Speaker 1: to kind of just roll past that? You know what. 203 00:09:12,400 --> 00:09:14,520 Speaker 3: I wouldn't say was there a fear of it. I 204 00:09:14,600 --> 00:09:18,040 Speaker 3: think we both were just Okay, what's gonna happen, you. 205 00:09:18,080 --> 00:09:19,880 Speaker 2: Know what I mean, Like we're gonna try it out. 206 00:09:19,880 --> 00:09:20,240 Speaker 2: And see. 207 00:09:20,360 --> 00:09:23,360 Speaker 3: You know, obviously at first you start out just the 208 00:09:23,440 --> 00:09:26,000 Speaker 3: dating and being around each other again and all of that. 209 00:09:27,240 --> 00:09:32,960 Speaker 3: But I guess around the first argument we both handled 210 00:09:33,000 --> 00:09:36,080 Speaker 3: it in such a great way, you know what I mean. 211 00:09:36,120 --> 00:09:38,080 Speaker 3: It was just like, you know, you do this and 212 00:09:38,120 --> 00:09:38,520 Speaker 3: you're like. 213 00:09:38,480 --> 00:09:40,280 Speaker 2: All right, you're good. Yeah, I'm good. What's you going 214 00:09:40,360 --> 00:09:41,360 Speaker 2: for dinner? You know what I mean? 215 00:09:42,800 --> 00:09:43,720 Speaker 4: And that's a better place. 216 00:09:43,960 --> 00:09:46,120 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a better place to talk about it and 217 00:09:46,160 --> 00:09:48,080 Speaker 3: not be mad, because it would be it would be 218 00:09:48,160 --> 00:09:51,440 Speaker 3: to a point where we would argue and then I'm like, 219 00:09:51,520 --> 00:09:54,360 Speaker 3: I'm not answering the phone for a week. Don't call me, 220 00:09:54,440 --> 00:09:56,439 Speaker 3: don't text me. You know, that's back ten years ago. 221 00:09:56,480 --> 00:09:59,200 Speaker 3: When you handle things like that kind of immature. Now 222 00:09:59,240 --> 00:10:02,080 Speaker 3: you talk about it, get over it and move on. Wow. 223 00:10:02,120 --> 00:10:04,079 Speaker 1: How did your family react to all of this? 224 00:10:04,440 --> 00:10:08,400 Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, it was funny. Some people was some 225 00:10:08,440 --> 00:10:09,280 Speaker 3: people was with it. 226 00:10:10,000 --> 00:10:13,280 Speaker 2: Not everybody. Not everybody was with it. And I was mom, 227 00:10:13,800 --> 00:10:18,280 Speaker 2: Mom was she was skeptical. Yeah, do you know what story? 228 00:10:19,120 --> 00:10:20,800 Speaker 2: She's like that fucking Nelly. 229 00:10:21,000 --> 00:10:27,400 Speaker 1: That's why I saw, you know, she was not with it? Yeah, 230 00:10:27,520 --> 00:10:31,319 Speaker 1: a little bit, a little bit. He must see them 231 00:10:31,360 --> 00:10:34,199 Speaker 1: dancing and having a bread time vacations now. 232 00:10:34,280 --> 00:10:36,920 Speaker 3: Absolutely, because the one thing is him and my mom 233 00:10:37,040 --> 00:10:39,400 Speaker 3: used to talk on the phone for hours, you know 234 00:10:39,440 --> 00:10:44,040 Speaker 3: what I mean. Like it was crazy and she was like, 235 00:10:44,440 --> 00:10:48,960 Speaker 3: he's bad, He's bad. She knew though, she knew how 236 00:10:49,040 --> 00:10:52,000 Speaker 3: much he loved me and how much love was there, 237 00:10:52,440 --> 00:10:53,599 Speaker 3: you know what I mean. But she was hurt to 238 00:10:53,720 --> 00:10:57,360 Speaker 3: Everyone got hurt to a certain extent because everyone wanted 239 00:10:57,440 --> 00:10:59,400 Speaker 3: this to work and then it didn't, you know what 240 00:10:59,440 --> 00:10:59,800 Speaker 3: I mean. 241 00:11:00,600 --> 00:11:02,160 Speaker 1: One of my favorite things about this podcast is we 242 00:11:02,640 --> 00:11:04,599 Speaker 1: hear your stories right and love to learn more about you, 243 00:11:04,640 --> 00:11:06,760 Speaker 1: but also like how it lands for other people, like 244 00:11:06,840 --> 00:11:09,120 Speaker 1: in their real life. And I imagine that there's a 245 00:11:09,200 --> 00:11:11,920 Speaker 1: lot of women out there who maybe had the one 246 00:11:11,960 --> 00:11:15,280 Speaker 1: that got that got away, or the one they always 247 00:11:15,360 --> 00:11:18,079 Speaker 1: kind of wonder about. Yeah, when do you. 248 00:11:18,120 --> 00:11:20,960 Speaker 4: Think what do you think spinning the block is okay? 249 00:11:21,679 --> 00:11:24,479 Speaker 3: I think it's okay when it's genuine and the feelings 250 00:11:24,520 --> 00:11:26,880 Speaker 3: are sincere, you know, and you've grown. 251 00:11:27,080 --> 00:11:28,480 Speaker 2: You can't be spinning. 252 00:11:28,120 --> 00:11:30,800 Speaker 3: The block and hitting your head and on the same curve, 253 00:11:30,880 --> 00:11:32,760 Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying, Like you have. 254 00:11:32,720 --> 00:11:36,440 Speaker 2: To grow from whatever the problem was earlier. You have 255 00:11:36,520 --> 00:11:37,280 Speaker 2: to grow from that. 256 00:11:37,280 --> 00:11:40,440 Speaker 3: And mature and understand each other, have a mutual respect, 257 00:11:40,520 --> 00:11:43,319 Speaker 3: and I think that's what made it special for us, 258 00:11:43,400 --> 00:11:45,360 Speaker 3: you know what I mean, Like, obviously we both dealt 259 00:11:45,400 --> 00:11:48,559 Speaker 3: with other people, and then you start to see things too. 260 00:11:48,440 --> 00:11:53,600 Speaker 2: Like damn, there's the one's so bad. You know, what 261 00:11:53,679 --> 00:11:55,600 Speaker 2: I had was actually pretty rad. 262 00:11:55,720 --> 00:11:59,719 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, so it's like, hmmm, sometimes you got 263 00:11:59,720 --> 00:12:01,520 Speaker 1: to go out and gets a few frogs. 264 00:12:01,840 --> 00:12:04,480 Speaker 2: Absolutely, absolutely, that's so funny. 265 00:12:04,920 --> 00:12:05,680 Speaker 4: And it worked out. 266 00:12:05,720 --> 00:12:05,920 Speaker 1: Man. 267 00:12:06,000 --> 00:12:07,400 Speaker 4: What have you learned about marriage? 268 00:12:08,679 --> 00:12:10,920 Speaker 1: What I've learned? I mean, it's fresh, right, It's like 269 00:12:10,960 --> 00:12:12,920 Speaker 1: you're not even like a year, is it now? 270 00:12:13,000 --> 00:12:16,800 Speaker 2: We are a year and change. You're a year and change. 271 00:12:17,320 --> 00:12:18,960 Speaker 1: They say the first year is the hardest or the 272 00:12:18,960 --> 00:12:20,960 Speaker 1: best of the hardest. It's like you're working through all 273 00:12:20,960 --> 00:12:24,560 Speaker 1: the things that you gotta Yeah, you're positioning on things. 274 00:12:24,880 --> 00:12:26,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, no, absolutely. 275 00:12:26,080 --> 00:12:29,040 Speaker 3: I think for us it's like a respect thing, you know. 276 00:12:29,120 --> 00:12:31,320 Speaker 3: And I feel like that's what took him a long 277 00:12:31,400 --> 00:12:34,160 Speaker 3: time to be ready to be married, because it's a 278 00:12:34,160 --> 00:12:38,000 Speaker 3: whole different level of respect and honor and loyalty and 279 00:12:38,120 --> 00:12:39,800 Speaker 3: just selflessness. 280 00:12:39,200 --> 00:12:42,360 Speaker 2: You know what I mean. So I'm trying to figure out. 281 00:12:42,600 --> 00:12:48,440 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, we have some arguments, but The thing too, 282 00:12:48,720 --> 00:12:50,800 Speaker 3: is like you could get mad all you want, you 283 00:12:50,800 --> 00:12:52,080 Speaker 3: ain't going nowhere, you know. 284 00:12:52,080 --> 00:12:52,480 Speaker 1: What I mean. 285 00:12:52,600 --> 00:12:57,480 Speaker 3: So we it's like we work things out, you know, 286 00:12:57,880 --> 00:13:01,080 Speaker 3: and you don't cross that line your girlfriend and boyfriend. 287 00:13:01,080 --> 00:13:03,920 Speaker 3: You could do whatever, but when you're married, there's a 288 00:13:03,960 --> 00:13:06,880 Speaker 3: line of respect that you don't cross. And it's it's 289 00:13:06,920 --> 00:13:09,880 Speaker 3: it's it's prominent for both of us, you know what 290 00:13:09,920 --> 00:13:14,199 Speaker 3: I mean. So I think that's that's what I have learned. 291 00:13:14,920 --> 00:13:16,960 Speaker 1: Okay, So then you get pregnant, by the way, you 292 00:13:17,000 --> 00:13:20,200 Speaker 1: wasted no time. We were like, we're gonna get right 293 00:13:20,280 --> 00:13:23,960 Speaker 1: back to this. You're having a baby. Yes, this was 294 00:13:24,880 --> 00:13:26,560 Speaker 1: when the last time you did the show, I said 295 00:13:26,600 --> 00:13:28,200 Speaker 1: to you, so what's next in your life? And you 296 00:13:28,240 --> 00:13:29,520 Speaker 1: were like, you know, I think I want to make 297 00:13:29,600 --> 00:13:33,160 Speaker 1: time to like be in a relationship. Maybe maybe you 298 00:13:33,240 --> 00:13:36,240 Speaker 1: were like you were, you were even before deciding that 299 00:13:36,440 --> 00:13:38,240 Speaker 1: you guys are gonna get back together, you were ready 300 00:13:38,240 --> 00:13:39,200 Speaker 1: for this time in your life. 301 00:13:39,240 --> 00:13:40,600 Speaker 4: Yeah, because you would have to. 302 00:13:40,559 --> 00:13:42,360 Speaker 2: Be right, Yeah, absolutely, it was. 303 00:13:43,080 --> 00:13:47,400 Speaker 3: I feel like I have absolutely manifested almost everything that 304 00:13:47,440 --> 00:13:49,280 Speaker 3: I wanted, you know what I mean, Like I spoke 305 00:13:49,360 --> 00:13:50,760 Speaker 3: that into existence at a. 306 00:13:50,720 --> 00:13:52,880 Speaker 2: Time where I didn't know what was gonna happen, you. 307 00:13:52,920 --> 00:13:53,440 Speaker 1: Know what I mean. 308 00:13:53,559 --> 00:13:58,440 Speaker 3: So I genuinely was ready and speaking from a real place, 309 00:13:58,800 --> 00:14:01,880 Speaker 3: and you're you make yourself vulnerable. You know. I was 310 00:14:01,960 --> 00:14:04,440 Speaker 3: vulnerable because I really didn't know, you know, I was like, 311 00:14:04,480 --> 00:14:06,320 Speaker 3: I'm putting it out there, you know what I mean? 312 00:14:06,520 --> 00:14:10,400 Speaker 2: And yeah, absolutely you had. 313 00:14:10,280 --> 00:14:13,320 Speaker 1: Somebody in the sash what somebody you were thinking about 314 00:14:13,480 --> 00:14:16,920 Speaker 1: or you were just ready to you were just putting yourself. 315 00:14:16,880 --> 00:14:19,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I mean, you know it was you always 316 00:14:19,680 --> 00:14:21,440 Speaker 3: got a stash, not no more. 317 00:14:23,080 --> 00:14:26,920 Speaker 1: Remarried. You don't even remember those people talking about they 318 00:14:26,960 --> 00:14:31,560 Speaker 1: never existed at all. Wait, so, so, so you have 319 00:14:31,760 --> 00:14:36,160 Speaker 1: this moment you get pregnant. This is happy right away, right, 320 00:14:36,200 --> 00:14:40,200 Speaker 1: You're like thrilled right away, right away? You tell your mom, Yeah, 321 00:14:40,760 --> 00:14:42,080 Speaker 1: how's your mom about this? 322 00:14:42,280 --> 00:14:43,880 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. It was. 323 00:14:44,080 --> 00:14:47,320 Speaker 3: It was so crazy because thank god for technology, because 324 00:14:47,360 --> 00:14:52,840 Speaker 3: it was absolutely a FaceTime. We were in Saint Louis 325 00:14:53,800 --> 00:14:57,360 Speaker 3: and it was it was such a beautiful feeling, you 326 00:14:57,400 --> 00:15:00,680 Speaker 3: know because my mom and dad were like so emotional 327 00:15:00,760 --> 00:15:01,560 Speaker 3: and so happy. 328 00:15:02,440 --> 00:15:04,280 Speaker 1: I know, we never talked about your dad. Were always 329 00:15:04,280 --> 00:15:05,000 Speaker 1: like your mom. 330 00:15:04,960 --> 00:15:07,840 Speaker 2: Right, she's she's the one we know exactly. 331 00:15:07,880 --> 00:15:09,320 Speaker 1: But your dad is a parent too. 332 00:15:09,600 --> 00:15:14,000 Speaker 2: Absolutely. Dad was so happy because you know, he's had 333 00:15:14,080 --> 00:15:18,280 Speaker 2: girls obviously, and this is like the first well not 334 00:15:18,360 --> 00:15:20,800 Speaker 2: the first boy, but obviously just my first boy. 335 00:15:21,000 --> 00:15:24,280 Speaker 3: So it was just so dope, uh, to see their reaction. 336 00:15:24,720 --> 00:15:27,200 Speaker 3: And my son, his middle name is named after my dad. 337 00:15:27,560 --> 00:15:28,360 Speaker 2: He was elated. 338 00:15:28,560 --> 00:15:29,840 Speaker 3: I mean, obviously we didn't know it was a boy 339 00:15:29,880 --> 00:15:32,880 Speaker 3: at first, but just the first time telling them, they 340 00:15:32,920 --> 00:15:34,920 Speaker 3: were so emotional and so excited. 341 00:15:35,240 --> 00:15:39,480 Speaker 2: Same with his parents, Yeah, it was, it. 342 00:15:39,360 --> 00:15:42,600 Speaker 1: Was It was a time that's beautiful baby so excited. 343 00:15:42,640 --> 00:15:44,960 Speaker 4: Being a mom is like changes. 344 00:15:44,640 --> 00:15:48,880 Speaker 1: The game, It changes everything. Yes, tell me, tell me how, 345 00:15:49,280 --> 00:15:51,400 Speaker 1: Tell me what's Tell me what's the thing that nobody 346 00:15:51,400 --> 00:15:53,600 Speaker 1: told you? Was there anything that happened that you're like, 347 00:15:53,880 --> 00:15:55,400 Speaker 1: why did anybody say this to me? 348 00:15:56,360 --> 00:15:56,720 Speaker 2: Hmmm? 349 00:15:57,040 --> 00:16:00,240 Speaker 1: Is there anything that has surprised you? I can't. It's a. 350 00:16:02,200 --> 00:16:06,200 Speaker 3: Surprised in that way, only because my mom and I 351 00:16:06,280 --> 00:16:08,800 Speaker 3: are so close, so she has told me so many things. 352 00:16:09,200 --> 00:16:09,600 Speaker 2: I think. 353 00:16:10,440 --> 00:16:13,560 Speaker 3: What kind of surprised me is are those feelings You 354 00:16:13,880 --> 00:16:15,560 Speaker 3: don't know that until you feel it, you know what 355 00:16:15,600 --> 00:16:21,000 Speaker 3: I mean? So the the feeling when your baby is 356 00:16:21,040 --> 00:16:23,200 Speaker 3: crying and you know we're in the hospital that I 357 00:16:23,240 --> 00:16:24,680 Speaker 3: don't want nobody to touch them. 358 00:16:24,680 --> 00:16:25,280 Speaker 1: The doctors. 359 00:16:25,680 --> 00:16:27,480 Speaker 2: I was in pain. I was standing up with the 360 00:16:27,480 --> 00:16:28,400 Speaker 2: wires and shit. 361 00:16:28,280 --> 00:16:28,960 Speaker 1: Nah, I don't touch it. 362 00:16:29,000 --> 00:16:32,400 Speaker 2: That's too hard. I don't do that. Wait, it's too cold. Now, 363 00:16:32,520 --> 00:16:33,560 Speaker 2: you need a blanket, you know. 364 00:16:33,760 --> 00:16:35,880 Speaker 1: Like I'm you're in protective. 365 00:16:35,840 --> 00:16:39,040 Speaker 2: Right, immediately, selfless immediately. 366 00:16:39,080 --> 00:16:42,720 Speaker 3: I remember like going to doctor appointments, and like there 367 00:16:42,760 --> 00:16:44,040 Speaker 3: was one time I had to go to the hospital. 368 00:16:44,120 --> 00:16:47,880 Speaker 3: I got sick and I would take no antibiotics, no medicine, 369 00:16:47,920 --> 00:16:49,880 Speaker 3: and it got really bad, Like I got really sick, 370 00:16:49,920 --> 00:16:51,520 Speaker 3: I got the flu and all of that, and I 371 00:16:51,560 --> 00:16:52,720 Speaker 3: was just like, oh, I don't care about me. 372 00:16:52,760 --> 00:16:54,560 Speaker 2: I don't care about my lungs. Is my baby okay, 373 00:16:54,960 --> 00:16:55,160 Speaker 2: you know? 374 00:16:55,360 --> 00:16:58,120 Speaker 1: And the doctor's like, well, we care about you. You 375 00:16:58,280 --> 00:17:00,400 Speaker 1: have to be okay for your baby to be okay, 376 00:17:00,840 --> 00:17:01,040 Speaker 1: you know. 377 00:17:01,160 --> 00:17:03,640 Speaker 3: So I don't think you can become prepared for that 378 00:17:03,800 --> 00:17:05,800 Speaker 3: until you feel it, really feel it. 379 00:17:05,920 --> 00:17:07,639 Speaker 2: You don't know it until you really feel it. 380 00:17:07,680 --> 00:17:08,399 Speaker 4: What is he like? 381 00:17:09,200 --> 00:17:12,639 Speaker 2: Oh my god, he is like he's my best friend. 382 00:17:13,320 --> 00:17:14,160 Speaker 4: Oh my god. 383 00:17:15,240 --> 00:17:18,280 Speaker 2: No, he's like the sweetest little angel baby, Like he's 384 00:17:18,320 --> 00:17:19,040 Speaker 2: so funny. 385 00:17:19,280 --> 00:17:22,880 Speaker 3: He has such a big personality. He smiles and laughs 386 00:17:23,320 --> 00:17:24,000 Speaker 3: all the time. 387 00:17:24,119 --> 00:17:27,600 Speaker 2: He's mad loud. He is so loud. For baby is 388 00:17:27,720 --> 00:17:32,800 Speaker 2: absolutely his parents child. Like, he's so loud. He's completing 389 00:17:32,840 --> 00:17:34,520 Speaker 2: all his milestones, like he's getting up. 390 00:17:34,440 --> 00:17:39,560 Speaker 3: He's clapping. Now, he's ready here, he's seven months. Seven months, 391 00:17:39,560 --> 00:17:41,960 Speaker 3: he's pulling himself up in the crib. So like I'll 392 00:17:42,000 --> 00:17:46,920 Speaker 3: hear him and he'll be like, and that's him like planning. 393 00:17:46,680 --> 00:17:50,120 Speaker 1: His feet to standum, standing up. 394 00:17:50,520 --> 00:17:52,880 Speaker 2: Yes, he's fully standing up. And now he's doing this 395 00:17:52,920 --> 00:17:57,560 Speaker 2: thing where you'll be like, hey, hey, hey, hey, So 396 00:17:57,640 --> 00:18:00,880 Speaker 2: he's repeating. He can say hey, yes exactly, he say. 397 00:18:01,000 --> 00:18:02,480 Speaker 4: He's saying mama, not yet. 398 00:18:02,640 --> 00:18:05,879 Speaker 3: Yeah, he's big head, just trying to get him to 399 00:18:05,880 --> 00:18:06,800 Speaker 3: say daddy first. 400 00:18:06,840 --> 00:18:09,520 Speaker 1: I'm like, nah, my motherfucker is wasting no time with 401 00:18:09,600 --> 00:18:10,240 Speaker 1: a baby. 402 00:18:12,320 --> 00:18:13,919 Speaker 2: Yeah, girl, he was trying. 403 00:18:15,560 --> 00:18:19,159 Speaker 1: He was practicing again, I bet you were all the 404 00:18:19,400 --> 00:18:20,680 Speaker 1: years backed up baby. 405 00:18:21,840 --> 00:18:26,800 Speaker 2: I was like, shit, I've forgotten. I'm glad we got married, 406 00:18:26,840 --> 00:18:27,720 Speaker 2: nigga because. 407 00:18:29,800 --> 00:18:33,920 Speaker 1: Ship, now we know how he got her back. 408 00:18:35,200 --> 00:18:36,640 Speaker 4: Now we know how he got her back. 409 00:18:37,160 --> 00:18:39,960 Speaker 1: How is he? What kind of dad is he? Because 410 00:18:40,000 --> 00:18:42,879 Speaker 1: I know he's a parent before. Yes, so you've witnessed 411 00:18:42,960 --> 00:18:46,000 Speaker 1: him as a father before. But you haven't witnessed him 412 00:18:46,000 --> 00:18:47,080 Speaker 1: at this stage in his life. 413 00:18:47,160 --> 00:18:51,680 Speaker 3: Absolutely, yeah, absolutely not. It is the cutest thing. Oh 414 00:18:51,760 --> 00:18:53,920 Speaker 3: my gosh, just seeing him and just how he looks 415 00:18:53,960 --> 00:18:56,680 Speaker 3: at him and how he holds him and calling me man, 416 00:18:57,000 --> 00:18:59,680 Speaker 3: you know, like he's calling his daddy man as daddy 417 00:18:59,720 --> 00:19:00,280 Speaker 3: little man. 418 00:19:00,400 --> 00:19:01,119 Speaker 4: Like he's so. 419 00:19:02,640 --> 00:19:05,320 Speaker 2: He's so in love. He loves him so so much, 420 00:19:05,880 --> 00:19:08,280 Speaker 2: and he tries sometimes he tries to be like a 421 00:19:08,320 --> 00:19:10,960 Speaker 2: little hard right. He's like, nah, you know, let him go, 422 00:19:11,000 --> 00:19:12,359 Speaker 2: he's good, he's good. To let him sit in his 423 00:19:12,480 --> 00:19:15,080 Speaker 2: little what they call the little skip hop, right, so 424 00:19:15,200 --> 00:19:18,600 Speaker 2: he's playing. He'll sit there for a minute. KK started 425 00:19:18,600 --> 00:19:19,960 Speaker 2: crying a little bit, and he'd be like, no, no, 426 00:19:20,080 --> 00:19:22,399 Speaker 2: you're good. He'll put his hands up, Okay, come on, 427 00:19:22,560 --> 00:19:23,000 Speaker 2: daddy man. 428 00:19:23,440 --> 00:19:27,520 Speaker 1: He immediately melts, immediately melts. I'm like, oh, look at 429 00:19:27,560 --> 00:19:29,320 Speaker 1: this guy. Man. 430 00:19:29,600 --> 00:19:31,320 Speaker 4: So, who's going to be the Who's going to be 431 00:19:31,480 --> 00:19:32,600 Speaker 4: like the disciplinary? 432 00:19:32,680 --> 00:19:33,360 Speaker 2: Disciplinary? 433 00:19:35,000 --> 00:19:37,920 Speaker 1: Nobody's free. 434 00:19:39,080 --> 00:19:40,040 Speaker 4: He runs the house. 435 00:19:40,440 --> 00:19:43,200 Speaker 1: He definitely runs the house. Runs the house. 436 00:19:43,960 --> 00:19:44,560 Speaker 4: That's so funny. 437 00:19:44,600 --> 00:19:47,240 Speaker 1: Did you have any like postpartum issues or anything like that, 438 00:19:47,280 --> 00:19:49,320 Speaker 1: because I heard you had a great pregnancy, Like yeah, 439 00:19:49,560 --> 00:19:51,120 Speaker 1: no sickness, no sickness. 440 00:19:51,160 --> 00:19:52,840 Speaker 2: I performed to my eighth month. 441 00:19:54,560 --> 00:19:57,440 Speaker 3: No, I didn't have that, thank God, like I would 442 00:19:57,560 --> 00:20:03,520 Speaker 3: have performed until the day delivered to Wow, are. 443 00:20:03,440 --> 00:20:04,200 Speaker 4: You gonna do it again? 444 00:20:04,920 --> 00:20:05,120 Speaker 1: Yeah? 445 00:20:06,600 --> 00:20:07,479 Speaker 4: Are you trying already? 446 00:20:08,880 --> 00:20:12,320 Speaker 2: I mean it may not necessarily be trying, but we 447 00:20:12,440 --> 00:20:12,960 Speaker 2: practice it. 448 00:20:16,560 --> 00:20:18,040 Speaker 4: You're gonna be pregnant by next month. 449 00:20:19,040 --> 00:20:23,320 Speaker 1: Don't say that tour Okay, you just said you can. 450 00:20:23,680 --> 00:20:25,320 Speaker 2: You can perform till the water breaks. 451 00:20:25,359 --> 00:20:27,600 Speaker 1: You'll be totally fine soon. 452 00:20:27,640 --> 00:20:30,080 Speaker 4: Did you come back from tours? Going down? Going down? 453 00:20:30,680 --> 00:20:33,240 Speaker 1: Pregnancy test pull out the pregnancy and what about like 454 00:20:33,359 --> 00:20:35,800 Speaker 1: postpartum or anything like that, did you experience any of 455 00:20:35,880 --> 00:20:36,879 Speaker 1: that or no? 456 00:20:37,200 --> 00:20:41,080 Speaker 2: No, no postpartum thankfully, thank god, thank god. You know, 457 00:20:41,160 --> 00:20:44,560 Speaker 2: I pray for women that have experienced that, you know, 458 00:20:44,640 --> 00:20:46,960 Speaker 2: because it's hard, you know, it really is. 459 00:20:47,119 --> 00:20:50,000 Speaker 1: What about like because there's always so much, you know, 460 00:20:50,119 --> 00:20:54,359 Speaker 1: you're a Shanti, there's always so much in your body 461 00:20:54,920 --> 00:20:57,160 Speaker 1: and how you were even talked about this the past 462 00:20:57,160 --> 00:20:59,920 Speaker 1: few interviews, how you was like in your sexy bag, 463 00:21:00,200 --> 00:21:04,240 Speaker 1: like everybody wanted to see what half addressed Shanti was 464 00:21:04,280 --> 00:21:06,960 Speaker 1: gonna come out inside, you know, outside with like your 465 00:21:07,080 --> 00:21:10,760 Speaker 1: body and your sexist was a thing. So after you 466 00:21:10,800 --> 00:21:14,119 Speaker 1: have your baby. Obviously your your body changes. Did you 467 00:21:14,240 --> 00:21:17,400 Speaker 1: have any fear about, I don't know, coming back, any 468 00:21:17,480 --> 00:21:20,040 Speaker 1: pressure about like being a version of yourself. 469 00:21:19,760 --> 00:21:23,720 Speaker 2: That you were before. I feel like, well, first of all, 470 00:21:24,000 --> 00:21:28,280 Speaker 2: you know I got these these big ones. 471 00:21:28,359 --> 00:21:29,560 Speaker 4: You're still breast feeding. 472 00:21:29,280 --> 00:21:32,280 Speaker 2: Bro, Yeah, I'm still breastfeeding, yo, but these are crazy. 473 00:21:32,880 --> 00:21:34,560 Speaker 3: I did my first show in Hawaii and I had 474 00:21:34,600 --> 00:21:37,000 Speaker 3: on like a little brawlett and you know, I'm on 475 00:21:37,119 --> 00:21:40,240 Speaker 3: stage and I'm like, damn, I. 476 00:21:40,320 --> 00:21:43,560 Speaker 1: Don't like this too much too much, you know what 477 00:21:43,640 --> 00:21:43,919 Speaker 1: I mean. 478 00:21:44,520 --> 00:21:47,960 Speaker 3: I'm just it's I just never had that big you know, 479 00:21:48,560 --> 00:21:51,959 Speaker 3: so and even my butt, you know, everything is kind 480 00:21:52,000 --> 00:21:52,879 Speaker 3: of just like growing. 481 00:21:53,000 --> 00:21:53,560 Speaker 4: He loves it. 482 00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:58,560 Speaker 3: But I'm just like, you know what, what's funny is. 483 00:21:58,880 --> 00:22:02,080 Speaker 3: You know, Nikki got that line in her record to 484 00:22:02,640 --> 00:22:04,199 Speaker 3: Big Titties, Big Butt two, and. 485 00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:05,440 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I can say that now. 486 00:22:07,000 --> 00:22:07,960 Speaker 4: You can do all the things. 487 00:22:09,040 --> 00:22:12,879 Speaker 3: But for me, obviously, I'm like, Okay, I got to 488 00:22:12,920 --> 00:22:15,800 Speaker 3: get back to my I call it BBK body before 489 00:22:16,359 --> 00:22:17,600 Speaker 3: before no beat? 490 00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:18,840 Speaker 4: What does it before? KK? 491 00:22:19,119 --> 00:22:19,320 Speaker 1: Yeah? 492 00:22:19,800 --> 00:22:20,480 Speaker 2: Body before K. 493 00:22:20,720 --> 00:22:24,280 Speaker 3: That's going to get back to my body before KK. 494 00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:26,840 Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. And I definitely want to 495 00:22:26,880 --> 00:22:27,560 Speaker 2: get back you. 496 00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:30,160 Speaker 3: Know, but you're not putting pressure on yourself or it's 497 00:22:30,200 --> 00:22:33,840 Speaker 3: not super pressure. But I do want to get back 498 00:22:33,920 --> 00:22:35,960 Speaker 3: to me, you know what I mean, Like you know 499 00:22:36,080 --> 00:22:39,000 Speaker 3: I was. I stayed ready for the islands. I stayed 500 00:22:39,040 --> 00:22:40,159 Speaker 3: ready for the bikinis. 501 00:22:40,280 --> 00:22:41,800 Speaker 1: You know what I mean. I had it on stash. 502 00:22:41,960 --> 00:22:46,240 Speaker 2: I used to travel with bikinis, just the case, just 503 00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:46,760 Speaker 2: the case. 504 00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:48,240 Speaker 1: No, not so much. 505 00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:51,560 Speaker 2: A couple of months, yes, you know what I mean. 506 00:22:51,600 --> 00:22:54,560 Speaker 3: And then it's hard, like carving out time and having 507 00:22:54,640 --> 00:22:56,800 Speaker 3: that energy to get in the gym and do what 508 00:22:56,880 --> 00:22:59,680 Speaker 3: you need to do because I personally, you know, I'm 509 00:23:00,080 --> 00:23:01,920 Speaker 3: I'm gonna go to the gym. I'm not necessarily going 510 00:23:01,960 --> 00:23:04,200 Speaker 3: under the knife and all that stuff. So I'm gonna 511 00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:04,680 Speaker 3: go to the gym. 512 00:23:04,760 --> 00:23:07,080 Speaker 2: So it's it's harder and it takes a little bit longer. 513 00:23:07,400 --> 00:23:09,440 Speaker 1: Really, would you never consider that so many women do that. 514 00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:11,440 Speaker 1: It's like it's not even a big deal anymore. I know, 515 00:23:11,520 --> 00:23:16,159 Speaker 1: it's just get snatched up, suck it out, and. 516 00:23:16,200 --> 00:23:17,560 Speaker 4: You're like, you know, I'm gonna go to the gym. 517 00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:20,359 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think I think part of me is a 518 00:23:20,440 --> 00:23:23,120 Speaker 3: little scared, you know that, like, oh, there's that one 519 00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:25,080 Speaker 3: percent that will and. 520 00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:26,760 Speaker 2: I'm like, that'll be the one percent. Like I'm the 521 00:23:26,840 --> 00:23:28,119 Speaker 2: fucking straight bullet, you. 522 00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:28,560 Speaker 1: Know what I mean. 523 00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:32,680 Speaker 2: So I just, uh, I'm gonna say it to the gym. 524 00:23:32,800 --> 00:23:34,000 Speaker 2: I just get on the stair mask. 525 00:23:34,200 --> 00:23:37,560 Speaker 1: You look amazing already. So whatever you're working on, I'm sure, whatever, 526 00:23:37,720 --> 00:23:38,960 Speaker 1: but you look amazing. 527 00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:40,520 Speaker 4: But you know that, right, you feel good? Right, you 528 00:23:40,600 --> 00:23:41,240 Speaker 4: have to feel good. 529 00:23:41,680 --> 00:23:44,400 Speaker 3: I mean I feel good and I'm grateful that I'm 530 00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:47,720 Speaker 3: healthy and I didn't have any complications. 531 00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:48,399 Speaker 2: You know, because it's scary. 532 00:23:48,680 --> 00:23:50,720 Speaker 3: You know, you hear stories and then some stories you 533 00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:54,359 Speaker 3: don't hear about until things are too late, you know 534 00:23:54,400 --> 00:23:54,760 Speaker 3: what I mean. 535 00:23:54,960 --> 00:23:58,040 Speaker 2: So I'm just super grateful that I'm good, I'm healthy, 536 00:23:58,640 --> 00:23:59,879 Speaker 2: and i'm you know that. 537 00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:03,320 Speaker 1: And you guys are doing a show. Yes, this is 538 00:24:03,400 --> 00:24:07,680 Speaker 1: different for you too. Absolutely Nelly has done reality show. 539 00:24:08,280 --> 00:24:10,639 Speaker 4: Yeah, but not you, not me. 540 00:24:11,040 --> 00:24:14,120 Speaker 2: What goes into making that decision. See that's another thing 541 00:24:14,960 --> 00:24:15,960 Speaker 2: that I was like, Oh, I'm. 542 00:24:15,920 --> 00:24:17,800 Speaker 4: Never doing you said a lot of nevers. 543 00:24:17,840 --> 00:24:18,959 Speaker 1: I said a lot of nevers. 544 00:24:19,240 --> 00:24:22,199 Speaker 2: Gonna get back with never doing reality Like it's been 545 00:24:22,200 --> 00:24:22,720 Speaker 2: a lot of never. 546 00:24:23,600 --> 00:24:27,280 Speaker 1: I gotta chill out. The last time we were here, 547 00:24:27,320 --> 00:24:28,720 Speaker 1: I was like, nah, you're about to do this. You 548 00:24:29,000 --> 00:24:30,680 Speaker 1: get where, you're gonna have a baby, you're gonna get married, 549 00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:32,200 Speaker 1: you're gonna do a reality. 550 00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:36,320 Speaker 2: Show, you like, And she's stopping, he's talking to and 551 00:24:36,440 --> 00:24:36,720 Speaker 2: here you. 552 00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:38,840 Speaker 1: Are here, I am, so what is this show? How 553 00:24:38,840 --> 00:24:42,680 Speaker 1: about you showing see the baby or you're being protective. 554 00:24:42,280 --> 00:24:42,879 Speaker 4: Over the baby. 555 00:24:43,640 --> 00:24:47,119 Speaker 2: I'm definitely being protective. Yeah, I just feel like, you know, 556 00:24:47,320 --> 00:24:50,359 Speaker 2: he's so new, and he's just he's mine, Well, he's ours, 557 00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:52,560 Speaker 2: and you know you have to share him. 558 00:24:53,040 --> 00:24:55,159 Speaker 3: I do have to share him, Nah, But I'm just 559 00:24:55,320 --> 00:24:57,880 Speaker 3: I just want to keep him for us right now, 560 00:24:58,240 --> 00:24:58,840 Speaker 3: you know what I mean. 561 00:24:59,800 --> 00:25:01,439 Speaker 2: But but you got to tune in to see if 562 00:25:01,480 --> 00:25:03,200 Speaker 2: you see a little sprinkle here and there, you know 563 00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:04,960 Speaker 2: what I mean, a little sprinkle here and there. 564 00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:06,200 Speaker 4: What made you decide to do that? 565 00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:09,560 Speaker 2: This is my husband's idea. 566 00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:12,600 Speaker 1: Oh, this is like another stray. 567 00:25:15,520 --> 00:25:16,280 Speaker 4: Nelly's stray. 568 00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:19,000 Speaker 1: No, No, I don't want to call it a stray. 569 00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:22,440 Speaker 3: But he's just, you know, he felt strongly like this 570 00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:24,280 Speaker 3: would be dope. It would give people a chance to 571 00:25:24,400 --> 00:25:27,800 Speaker 3: kind of know who we are outside of just on stage, 572 00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:29,960 Speaker 3: you know what I mean. It's a very visual world 573 00:25:30,119 --> 00:25:32,000 Speaker 3: and he's just like, nah, to be dope, you know. 574 00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:34,720 Speaker 3: And there's so much love and so much positivity that 575 00:25:35,040 --> 00:25:37,639 Speaker 3: has come from our union and coming back together, just 576 00:25:37,720 --> 00:25:41,200 Speaker 3: showing love and showing family and showing that you can 577 00:25:41,320 --> 00:25:45,080 Speaker 3: work and do your thing and still have a family. 578 00:25:45,160 --> 00:25:46,800 Speaker 2: You know what I mean. You have your career, you 579 00:25:46,960 --> 00:25:49,760 Speaker 2: have your love, your family and still make it work. 580 00:25:50,119 --> 00:25:51,320 Speaker 4: How are you managing that though? 581 00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:53,360 Speaker 1: Like the balance because you still got a brand new baby, 582 00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:54,160 Speaker 1: still pumping milk. 583 00:25:54,359 --> 00:25:56,360 Speaker 2: Yes, I was pumping before I got here. 584 00:25:56,680 --> 00:25:59,160 Speaker 4: Now you're doing interviews, shooting the show. 585 00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:01,840 Speaker 1: Yes, getting ready to go on a tour. Yeah, it's 586 00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:02,160 Speaker 1: a lot. 587 00:26:02,440 --> 00:26:04,440 Speaker 2: It's a lot. It really is a lot. And I 588 00:26:04,520 --> 00:26:07,360 Speaker 2: think showing that hopefully inspires. 589 00:26:07,920 --> 00:26:09,240 Speaker 4: So we'll see all of that on the show. 590 00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:11,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, you know the fact we still don't know where 591 00:26:11,320 --> 00:26:13,159 Speaker 3: we're going to live, you know what I mean, Like 592 00:26:13,400 --> 00:26:16,720 Speaker 3: we don't have like a home home, you do you 593 00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:19,240 Speaker 3: mean we live in New York, We live in Saint Louis, 594 00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:21,640 Speaker 3: we live in Atlanta a little bit sometimes in Nashville. 595 00:26:21,800 --> 00:26:23,920 Speaker 2: Like we're all over the place I live, and we 596 00:26:24,040 --> 00:26:26,359 Speaker 2: live in our suitcases, you know what I mean? With 597 00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:29,800 Speaker 2: the baby that is mad luggage. 598 00:26:30,160 --> 00:26:33,760 Speaker 1: You don't have like one house. No, that you share, No, 599 00:26:34,720 --> 00:26:39,680 Speaker 1: we share wherever we are. We share a house before. 600 00:26:39,840 --> 00:26:41,960 Speaker 2: No, Well he has a house in Saint Louis. Right, yeah, 601 00:26:42,040 --> 00:26:44,440 Speaker 2: we have a house together. Sorry, you guys have a 602 00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:46,800 Speaker 2: house in Yes, we got a house in Saint Louis. 603 00:26:47,000 --> 00:26:49,840 Speaker 3: We got a condo in New York, another house in 604 00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:53,560 Speaker 3: New York, thinking about a spot in Atlanta, thinking about 605 00:26:53,560 --> 00:26:55,800 Speaker 3: a spot in Nashville. We spent a lot of time 606 00:26:55,840 --> 00:26:58,760 Speaker 3: in La So we're all he has KK got like 607 00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:00,680 Speaker 3: five or six cribs, you know what I mean. 608 00:27:00,880 --> 00:27:06,320 Speaker 1: It's crazy, five or six? Like is this life what 609 00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:08,800 Speaker 1: you thought like a younger you, when you think of 610 00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:11,280 Speaker 1: like settling down and getting married, Like, is it what 611 00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:11,840 Speaker 1: you thought it. 612 00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:12,280 Speaker 4: Was going to be? 613 00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:15,440 Speaker 2: Absolutely not. I didn't know I would be traveling this much, 614 00:27:15,560 --> 00:27:17,840 Speaker 2: and you know what I mean, taking my child on 615 00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:19,159 Speaker 2: tour with me, and. 616 00:27:19,760 --> 00:27:22,920 Speaker 3: You know, just moving so fast, like we're both moving 617 00:27:23,040 --> 00:27:25,440 Speaker 3: so fast. But the love, I mean, like, oh, the 618 00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:29,160 Speaker 3: love absolutely you know. I always wanted it. And it's 619 00:27:29,200 --> 00:27:31,760 Speaker 3: weird because when you're young, you think you want it young. 620 00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:33,720 Speaker 3: You know, when I was young, like. 621 00:27:33,840 --> 00:27:36,040 Speaker 2: In high school, you're like, oh, I want to get 622 00:27:36,080 --> 00:27:37,040 Speaker 2: married at twenty one? 623 00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:41,240 Speaker 4: She you know, you weren't ready, not at all. 624 00:27:41,359 --> 00:27:44,119 Speaker 1: Nobody's ready in the twenties. I mean most people are 625 00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:47,000 Speaker 1: not married. So I know there's some cases, but most 626 00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:47,560 Speaker 1: people are not. 627 00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:49,639 Speaker 4: Ready in their twenties. And so you think you did 628 00:27:49,680 --> 00:27:50,360 Speaker 4: it at the right time. 629 00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:53,479 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think this was the right timing. And it's 630 00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:56,040 Speaker 3: funny because sometimes we joke around and he's like, yeah, 631 00:27:56,880 --> 00:27:58,440 Speaker 3: we should did this ten years ago. 632 00:27:58,640 --> 00:27:58,800 Speaker 1: You know. 633 00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:01,560 Speaker 2: I tried to you this ten years ago, you know, 634 00:28:01,760 --> 00:28:04,439 Speaker 2: but both of us were both like nine. It happened 635 00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:05,320 Speaker 2: when it was supposed to. 636 00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:12,639 Speaker 1: You're the way you do his voice, it's insane, like 637 00:28:12,760 --> 00:28:14,639 Speaker 1: he's a crazy person and he just screams at you. 638 00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:19,120 Speaker 3: No, he's super animated. We're both animated, which is which 639 00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:19,879 Speaker 3: is hilarious. 640 00:28:20,480 --> 00:28:22,879 Speaker 2: But yeah, Oh, so the show's gonna be fun. Oh, 641 00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:24,040 Speaker 2: the show's gonna be a lot of fun. 642 00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:25,000 Speaker 4: Oh, Nelly. 643 00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:27,000 Speaker 1: I don't know if I told you this. I don't 644 00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:29,000 Speaker 1: even know if he'll be mad I share this. But 645 00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:32,560 Speaker 1: we were doing those interviews and it was right after 646 00:28:32,680 --> 00:28:35,040 Speaker 1: verses and everybody was like, oh, he tried to shoot 647 00:28:35,080 --> 00:28:38,560 Speaker 1: his shot. Everybody was like clowning him, clowning him, but 648 00:28:38,720 --> 00:28:41,440 Speaker 1: like teasing them, teasing him. Yeah, like you to shoot 649 00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:42,880 Speaker 1: a shot, and then I asked you about it and 650 00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:45,120 Speaker 1: you were like, yeah, no, I wouldn't. He got like 651 00:28:45,360 --> 00:28:47,479 Speaker 1: bothered by that. I don't know even know I got. 652 00:28:47,760 --> 00:28:50,600 Speaker 1: I got a phone call. I got a Nellys phone call, 653 00:28:51,480 --> 00:28:51,720 Speaker 1: and I. 654 00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:52,760 Speaker 4: Was like, Nelly's calling. 655 00:28:53,440 --> 00:28:57,760 Speaker 1: He was right, so you know, you couldn't defend me 656 00:28:58,000 --> 00:29:01,280 Speaker 1: when she said, but what I what I got it 657 00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:03,080 Speaker 1: was a really funny call. He was he was, but 658 00:29:03,240 --> 00:29:05,400 Speaker 1: I could tell that it bothered him a little bit. 659 00:29:05,640 --> 00:29:07,600 Speaker 1: But what it told me was like, oh, he like 660 00:29:08,840 --> 00:29:10,480 Speaker 1: why would I get this call? He didn't still care, 661 00:29:11,720 --> 00:29:13,760 Speaker 1: you know, like how you said when you're over something, 662 00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:14,440 Speaker 1: you don't care. 663 00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:15,000 Speaker 4: I don't care. 664 00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:17,040 Speaker 1: I could tell he cared, and I was like, oh 665 00:29:17,160 --> 00:29:21,480 Speaker 1: he's bothered, Like he is, he cares. He was like, yeah, 666 00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:22,800 Speaker 1: I'm gonna get that back and fix. 667 00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:24,520 Speaker 4: All this up right after that. 668 00:29:24,880 --> 00:29:26,520 Speaker 1: But I thought it was sweet, Like I was like, oh, 669 00:29:26,640 --> 00:29:29,560 Speaker 1: he's bothered because you didn't say nothing bad about him. 670 00:29:29,560 --> 00:29:32,160 Speaker 4: But we're just like laughing and like I don't. 671 00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:34,360 Speaker 1: Even remember what it was, but whatever it was, it warranted. 672 00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:36,160 Speaker 1: I got a phone call call, I. 673 00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:37,480 Speaker 2: Got a tax a phone call. 674 00:29:37,560 --> 00:29:40,320 Speaker 1: He's gonna let you know, no, I got a voice 675 00:29:40,640 --> 00:29:44,520 Speaker 1: in person phone call. Oh have you have you started 676 00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:49,040 Speaker 1: any like, I don't know, do you have any traditions yet? 677 00:29:49,240 --> 00:29:51,400 Speaker 1: Like because you now you've had your first Christmas together, 678 00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:55,200 Speaker 1: you've had I mean the baby, well not the baby's 679 00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:58,480 Speaker 1: first birthday yet, but like, are you you're a new family. 680 00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:01,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, which must be fun, A lot of fun, A 681 00:30:01,240 --> 00:30:01,720 Speaker 2: lot of fun. 682 00:30:01,840 --> 00:30:03,560 Speaker 4: Have you like, I don't know. 683 00:30:03,800 --> 00:30:05,560 Speaker 1: We had Alicia Keys on and she was saying that 684 00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:07,880 Speaker 1: her in Swiss. By the way, you know this Alicia 685 00:30:07,960 --> 00:30:09,840 Speaker 1: keys trick that she's not trick thing that she does 686 00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:11,680 Speaker 1: on Christmas ever since she. 687 00:30:11,800 --> 00:30:12,320 Speaker 4: Was on the show. 688 00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:14,680 Speaker 2: I do it every Christmas in my family. 689 00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:15,240 Speaker 4: That is it. 690 00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:18,280 Speaker 1: When she first said it, I was like, okay, and 691 00:30:18,360 --> 00:30:19,920 Speaker 1: then we tried it and I was like, this is 692 00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:22,800 Speaker 1: so dope. And now I'm on my third maybe no, 693 00:30:23,040 --> 00:30:24,920 Speaker 1: this was my third time doing it with the family. 694 00:30:26,000 --> 00:30:29,400 Speaker 1: It's she does this thing her in Swiss where they 695 00:30:29,840 --> 00:30:32,920 Speaker 1: have to do one handmade gift. They do like a 696 00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:36,000 Speaker 1: grab bag, but it has to be handmade and so 697 00:30:36,160 --> 00:30:39,040 Speaker 1: then you have to show you pick the person and 698 00:30:39,120 --> 00:30:40,640 Speaker 1: then you make something for them and then you have 699 00:30:40,760 --> 00:30:43,600 Speaker 1: to show them what you made them and explain your gifts, 700 00:30:44,520 --> 00:30:47,280 Speaker 1: So like if I made you a basket filled with this, 701 00:30:47,440 --> 00:30:49,239 Speaker 1: or I made you a frame and I put these 702 00:30:49,280 --> 00:30:51,560 Speaker 1: little things, you explained it, and there's something so sweet 703 00:30:51,560 --> 00:30:54,600 Speaker 1: about your whole family kind of talking about what they 704 00:30:54,720 --> 00:30:57,760 Speaker 1: made for somebody. At first I was like, oh, that's cute, 705 00:30:58,200 --> 00:30:59,800 Speaker 1: and then I did it. I was like, I love 706 00:31:00,840 --> 00:31:02,280 Speaker 1: and so I took it. I just wondered if you 707 00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:03,720 Speaker 1: had guys have started any tradition. 708 00:31:04,200 --> 00:31:09,080 Speaker 2: It's funny that you say that, is this the first 709 00:31:09,120 --> 00:31:11,280 Speaker 2: time I'm saying, is my nephew. 710 00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:17,000 Speaker 3: Now that we're married, My nephew and his girlfriend actually 711 00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:21,240 Speaker 3: made KK a jersey and it's half Cardinals and half Yankees, 712 00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:24,200 Speaker 3: so it's so cute and says his name and his 713 00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:25,680 Speaker 3: birthdate in the back, and I was. 714 00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:27,600 Speaker 1: Like, oh my god, this is the best gift. 715 00:31:27,960 --> 00:31:29,800 Speaker 2: So I guess they kind of already. 716 00:31:33,440 --> 00:31:34,160 Speaker 4: Something that. 717 00:31:34,360 --> 00:31:37,720 Speaker 1: It's something beautiful too about like starting a new family 718 00:31:37,840 --> 00:31:38,560 Speaker 1: and starting your. 719 00:31:39,240 --> 00:31:43,640 Speaker 3: Own tradition, So we we definitely have to like incorporate it. 720 00:31:43,880 --> 00:31:46,440 Speaker 3: I think I think our tradition is going to be 721 00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:52,239 Speaker 3: always having both of our families involved or around all 722 00:31:52,240 --> 00:31:54,480 Speaker 3: a part, you know, because obviously my family's in New York. 723 00:31:54,720 --> 00:31:56,640 Speaker 2: His family's in Saint Louis, so it's like, Okay, what 724 00:31:56,720 --> 00:31:57,200 Speaker 2: are we going to do. 725 00:31:57,200 --> 00:31:59,280 Speaker 4: With your family? Seemed like a good time too. 726 00:31:59,280 --> 00:31:59,840 Speaker 1: Oh man. 727 00:32:00,120 --> 00:32:04,040 Speaker 3: And that's what's crazy. Both of our families are so 728 00:32:04,640 --> 00:32:07,280 Speaker 3: much alike and such a good time. Like my dad 729 00:32:07,360 --> 00:32:09,960 Speaker 3: and his dad on the phone all the time, singing. 730 00:32:09,760 --> 00:32:11,360 Speaker 1: Carry on, mom and his mom. 731 00:32:11,640 --> 00:32:15,000 Speaker 2: It's like they be doing group calls on WhatsApp, and like, 732 00:32:15,120 --> 00:32:17,040 Speaker 2: you know, they invite us sometimes, but it is so 733 00:32:17,320 --> 00:32:19,640 Speaker 2: funny to like look at them and look at their 734 00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:21,160 Speaker 2: group chats and you know they be on. 735 00:32:22,160 --> 00:32:23,040 Speaker 1: It's hilarious. 736 00:32:23,520 --> 00:32:25,000 Speaker 2: It's a blessing, it really is. 737 00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:27,480 Speaker 4: What have you learned? Have your mother given you any 738 00:32:27,600 --> 00:32:28,640 Speaker 4: like good. 739 00:32:28,960 --> 00:32:35,320 Speaker 2: Mothering tips, mothering tips for like being. 740 00:32:35,200 --> 00:32:41,040 Speaker 3: A mom or like a wife, either one, patience with both, 741 00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:44,960 Speaker 3: patience with both? 742 00:32:45,200 --> 00:32:47,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, were absolutely yeah. 743 00:32:48,040 --> 00:32:51,320 Speaker 1: Your baby will if anybody's going to try your patience 744 00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:54,160 Speaker 1: in a lifetime, and it is your child is your child, 745 00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:57,280 Speaker 1: they know because it's the softest part of your heart, 746 00:32:57,360 --> 00:32:58,800 Speaker 1: like you can get at that. 747 00:32:59,360 --> 00:33:02,240 Speaker 3: That's the one thing that's scary. The one thing that's 748 00:33:02,240 --> 00:33:07,000 Speaker 3: scary is you never expect someone or something to have 749 00:33:07,320 --> 00:33:11,000 Speaker 3: that much control, you know, Like I couldn't even imagine, 750 00:33:11,120 --> 00:33:13,320 Speaker 3: you know, if him getting hurt or him falling. 751 00:33:13,120 --> 00:33:16,360 Speaker 1: Or him that you know what I mean. 752 00:33:16,720 --> 00:33:20,720 Speaker 3: It's yeah, that fear of someone or something having that 753 00:33:20,960 --> 00:33:22,920 Speaker 3: much control over your feelings. 754 00:33:24,000 --> 00:33:25,280 Speaker 2: I don't know if I'm ready for that. 755 00:33:25,560 --> 00:33:29,160 Speaker 1: We did last you better get ready. We did the 756 00:33:29,240 --> 00:33:30,560 Speaker 1: last episode we did with Lauren. 757 00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:33,360 Speaker 4: Lauren writing Girl was on her and she. 758 00:33:33,480 --> 00:33:35,240 Speaker 1: Was saying, people don't tell you that when you become 759 00:33:35,280 --> 00:33:37,520 Speaker 1: a mother, you never have like you don't have a 760 00:33:37,800 --> 00:33:38,880 Speaker 1: fully good. 761 00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:39,760 Speaker 2: Sleep ever again. 762 00:33:39,840 --> 00:33:41,360 Speaker 1: Oh life. 763 00:33:41,440 --> 00:33:43,720 Speaker 3: You know who just said that to me, Billy Baldwin 764 00:33:43,760 --> 00:33:45,600 Speaker 3: because he's in the film as well, and you know, 765 00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:48,479 Speaker 3: obviously we talked about KK and he was like, oh, 766 00:33:48,600 --> 00:33:50,160 Speaker 3: you're never going to sleep the same again. 767 00:33:51,120 --> 00:33:51,280 Speaker 2: Yeah. 768 00:33:51,520 --> 00:33:53,680 Speaker 1: You know, what's an interesting conversation. I'm wondering your take 769 00:33:53,720 --> 00:33:55,480 Speaker 1: on this, especially because you're so close with your mother. 770 00:33:55,800 --> 00:33:57,760 Speaker 1: A conversation that came up in the last episode and 771 00:33:57,880 --> 00:33:59,960 Speaker 1: I had never heard it, Like, this is so interesting 772 00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:03,920 Speaker 1: thing like, as a mother, our job is to fill 773 00:34:04,000 --> 00:34:07,080 Speaker 1: our children's cup, right to take care of them, to 774 00:34:07,560 --> 00:34:09,600 Speaker 1: fill their cup. This was Lauren's thing too, and I 775 00:34:09,680 --> 00:34:13,560 Speaker 1: thought it was so interesting and she said, what's heartbreaking? 776 00:34:14,200 --> 00:34:15,320 Speaker 1: What's heartbreaking? 777 00:34:15,400 --> 00:34:15,800 Speaker 4: Reality? 778 00:34:15,880 --> 00:34:18,800 Speaker 1: As a mother is that it is not your child's 779 00:34:18,920 --> 00:34:23,399 Speaker 1: job to fill your cup. You so you're a mom, 780 00:34:23,800 --> 00:34:26,680 Speaker 1: and then you will stop trying. You will jump in 781 00:34:26,719 --> 00:34:27,920 Speaker 1: front of a moving bus. 782 00:34:27,800 --> 00:34:28,400 Speaker 4: For your child. 783 00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:31,399 Speaker 1: You will not eat so your kid could eat, sleep 784 00:34:31,480 --> 00:34:33,239 Speaker 1: on the floor so your kid can sleep on the bed. 785 00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:37,319 Speaker 1: And it is your parents' job to fill your child's cup. 786 00:34:38,080 --> 00:34:41,160 Speaker 1: But as a parent sometimes it's you have to know 787 00:34:41,400 --> 00:34:44,400 Speaker 1: that it's really not a child's job to fill the 788 00:34:44,520 --> 00:34:46,799 Speaker 1: parent's cup. Of course they love you, of course your 789 00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:48,080 Speaker 1: kids do anything for you, but. 790 00:34:49,080 --> 00:34:49,960 Speaker 4: It's not their job. 791 00:34:50,040 --> 00:34:52,520 Speaker 2: It's not there to take care of you until maybe. 792 00:34:52,400 --> 00:34:53,800 Speaker 4: You're old and you need to. 793 00:34:55,719 --> 00:34:57,800 Speaker 1: But I mean it's just an interesting and a little 794 00:34:57,800 --> 00:35:01,719 Speaker 1: bit of a heartbreaking it's realization as a parent, you 795 00:35:01,760 --> 00:35:02,279 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. 796 00:35:02,320 --> 00:35:03,200 Speaker 4: I mean, for you, you got a. 797 00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:06,680 Speaker 1: Young baby, He's gonna cling on it a cherish the 798 00:35:06,800 --> 00:35:10,680 Speaker 1: way he clings on that leg that cries when you leave, 799 00:35:11,320 --> 00:35:13,080 Speaker 1: you know, But as they get older that changes. 800 00:35:13,480 --> 00:35:16,560 Speaker 2: No, absolutely, I mean I feel like. 801 00:35:18,120 --> 00:35:22,520 Speaker 3: As a parent, if you do the best job, and 802 00:35:22,640 --> 00:35:25,719 Speaker 3: do an amazing job and do everything you can, it's 803 00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:27,520 Speaker 3: going to be naturally reciprocated. 804 00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:30,359 Speaker 2: So when I do things for my Mom. It comes 805 00:35:30,480 --> 00:35:33,120 Speaker 2: out of just genuine love and just because I want to, 806 00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:33,839 Speaker 2: and I can. 807 00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:36,720 Speaker 3: When I buy my mama car, or buy my mama condo, 808 00:35:37,040 --> 00:35:39,160 Speaker 3: or buy my mom some jewelry, you know what I mean, 809 00:35:39,560 --> 00:35:42,960 Speaker 3: that's me kind of pouring back in because I've been 810 00:35:43,080 --> 00:35:46,200 Speaker 3: poured in so much, so it kind of just reciprocal 811 00:35:46,280 --> 00:35:48,440 Speaker 3: and it just happens in an organic way, you know 812 00:35:48,480 --> 00:35:51,040 Speaker 3: what I mean. So for me, I want to do 813 00:35:51,120 --> 00:35:53,920 Speaker 3: that because I know how special that is and I 814 00:35:54,160 --> 00:35:57,440 Speaker 3: know how deep that is, and you know, we have 815 00:35:57,520 --> 00:36:00,640 Speaker 3: an amazing bond. So it's not I don't think she 816 00:36:00,840 --> 00:36:04,280 Speaker 3: expects it, you know, But for me, it's like a given, 817 00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:05,239 Speaker 3: you know what I mean. 818 00:36:05,400 --> 00:36:06,759 Speaker 2: So it's not really a second thought. 819 00:36:06,960 --> 00:36:09,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm sure there's times if I put your mother 820 00:36:09,120 --> 00:36:11,840 Speaker 1: in the seat, maybe next time, maybe next time we 821 00:36:11,880 --> 00:36:13,839 Speaker 1: want to put Mama Jur in the seat. I'm sure 822 00:36:13,880 --> 00:36:16,080 Speaker 1: there's times in your life, maybe a younger you in 823 00:36:16,120 --> 00:36:18,480 Speaker 1: your twenties, where your mother was probably going through something 824 00:36:18,560 --> 00:36:20,719 Speaker 1: and you had no idea and you was off worried 825 00:36:20,760 --> 00:36:21,480 Speaker 1: about your own life. 826 00:36:21,560 --> 00:36:24,239 Speaker 2: Probably Yeah, I'm going to the sleep over. 827 00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:29,719 Speaker 1: You good, and you're like not even thinking about your 828 00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:32,920 Speaker 1: mother because because as kids we don't. We don't see that. 829 00:36:33,040 --> 00:36:33,920 Speaker 4: You don't see that, you know. 830 00:36:34,560 --> 00:36:37,719 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's really torturous, it's really terrible. You have a 831 00:36:37,800 --> 00:36:42,000 Speaker 1: long way for that, so cherished, all those beautiful moments 832 00:36:42,080 --> 00:36:45,000 Speaker 1: with the baby's a baby on you. It's amazing. 833 00:36:46,160 --> 00:36:46,480 Speaker 4: All right. 834 00:36:46,520 --> 00:36:47,840 Speaker 1: So we got the movie coming out today. 835 00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:51,200 Speaker 2: It's an amazing film. I'm so happy to be a 836 00:36:51,239 --> 00:36:51,560 Speaker 2: part of it. 837 00:36:51,600 --> 00:36:53,920 Speaker 1: It's all different dress. It's a different role for. 838 00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:55,759 Speaker 2: You, Yeah, completely different role for me. 839 00:36:55,880 --> 00:36:59,080 Speaker 3: I play an ex veteran that is addicted to drugs 840 00:36:59,160 --> 00:37:01,799 Speaker 3: and I end up homeless. And it's five different people 841 00:37:02,040 --> 00:37:05,319 Speaker 3: from five different walks of life becoming homeless and living 842 00:37:05,360 --> 00:37:09,080 Speaker 3: in this encampment. And it's just, you know, it's dope 843 00:37:09,120 --> 00:37:11,520 Speaker 3: to be a part of a project that could create 844 00:37:11,600 --> 00:37:14,480 Speaker 3: awareness because it's kind of like a global crisis. 845 00:37:14,600 --> 00:37:16,680 Speaker 2: Like you go outside even now, you see homeless people. 846 00:37:16,680 --> 00:37:17,080 Speaker 2: You look at it. 847 00:37:18,000 --> 00:37:20,520 Speaker 4: It's so sad espe now in New York, it's so cold. 848 00:37:20,560 --> 00:37:22,239 Speaker 4: I see people sometimes it breaks my heart. 849 00:37:22,320 --> 00:37:25,279 Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, and it's like we have the resources, we 850 00:37:25,440 --> 00:37:26,200 Speaker 2: have the power. 851 00:37:26,719 --> 00:37:27,440 Speaker 1: What is going on? 852 00:37:27,960 --> 00:37:28,520 Speaker 4: You know what I mean? 853 00:37:28,640 --> 00:37:31,759 Speaker 2: So the film kind of what is conversation that. 854 00:37:33,440 --> 00:37:37,240 Speaker 3: I learned to be less judgmental. You know, it genuinely 855 00:37:37,360 --> 00:37:40,000 Speaker 3: can happen to any of us. You could be one 856 00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:42,600 Speaker 3: paycheck away from becoming homeless, you know what I mean. 857 00:37:42,680 --> 00:37:44,800 Speaker 3: And there's a character that that happens to. He's married, 858 00:37:44,880 --> 00:37:49,480 Speaker 3: he's working, he has a child, he falls behind on bills, 859 00:37:49,680 --> 00:37:50,759 Speaker 3: it's a whole story. 860 00:37:50,560 --> 00:37:51,920 Speaker 2: But he ends up being homeless. 861 00:37:52,040 --> 00:37:54,560 Speaker 3: So it's kind of there as a tool to teach us, like, yo, 862 00:37:55,200 --> 00:37:58,719 Speaker 3: don't judge and stop dehumanizing people. People don't choose to 863 00:37:58,800 --> 00:38:00,399 Speaker 3: be homeless. You don't want to be home, you don't 864 00:38:00,440 --> 00:38:02,840 Speaker 3: want to be addicted to drugs. So it it's a 865 00:38:02,920 --> 00:38:07,440 Speaker 3: film about having more compassion and just show me more 866 00:38:07,480 --> 00:38:09,440 Speaker 3: love and being more kind, you know what I mean. 867 00:38:09,600 --> 00:38:10,080 Speaker 4: So I was. 868 00:38:10,239 --> 00:38:12,799 Speaker 3: I was really happy and grateful to be a part 869 00:38:12,840 --> 00:38:22,839 Speaker 3: of it and I eped ad in there all good, Yes, absolutely, 870 00:38:23,080 --> 00:38:25,680 Speaker 3: I mean well, I am releasing new music, super super 871 00:38:25,680 --> 00:38:26,360 Speaker 3: excited about that. 872 00:38:26,760 --> 00:38:27,000 Speaker 4: Yeah. 873 00:38:27,280 --> 00:38:29,000 Speaker 2: I got a record called called You Up. 874 00:38:29,120 --> 00:38:31,600 Speaker 3: It's coming out in April. I shot the video in 875 00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:34,680 Speaker 3: Bermuda so and that was the BBK you know body 876 00:38:34,719 --> 00:38:39,880 Speaker 3: before KK Okay, So I'm excited about that. Going on 877 00:38:40,040 --> 00:38:41,600 Speaker 3: tour to the UK in April. 878 00:38:41,760 --> 00:38:43,560 Speaker 1: I have to just because it's the elephant in the room, 879 00:38:43,560 --> 00:38:46,080 Speaker 1: and this just happened. I have to ask you. First 880 00:38:46,080 --> 00:38:48,440 Speaker 1: of all, I thought the way that you responded, you 881 00:38:48,600 --> 00:38:51,480 Speaker 1: reacted to IRV passing was so classy. 882 00:38:52,840 --> 00:38:54,560 Speaker 4: I thought she said the perfect thing. 883 00:38:55,320 --> 00:38:58,760 Speaker 1: And I just I just wonder how that has affected 884 00:38:58,840 --> 00:39:04,359 Speaker 1: you or how you you have been processing that, because 885 00:39:04,400 --> 00:39:05,919 Speaker 1: it was unexpected. 886 00:39:05,560 --> 00:39:09,840 Speaker 2: Definitely unexpected. It was a lot to process, you know. 887 00:39:09,920 --> 00:39:10,560 Speaker 1: It was a lot of. 888 00:39:10,640 --> 00:39:15,160 Speaker 3: Different feelings and emotions, you know. And I think, honestly, 889 00:39:16,200 --> 00:39:18,759 Speaker 3: what I said is really how I feel. 890 00:39:19,040 --> 00:39:19,920 Speaker 1: You know. It's like I. 891 00:39:21,480 --> 00:39:24,200 Speaker 3: Was just I was really sad and I'm still sad that, 892 00:39:24,880 --> 00:39:28,560 Speaker 3: you know, it ended like this, you know what I mean, 893 00:39:28,719 --> 00:39:31,920 Speaker 3: because there was a time where things was just like amazing, 894 00:39:32,280 --> 00:39:37,800 Speaker 3: you know, and I know in my heart that I 895 00:39:37,960 --> 00:39:41,080 Speaker 3: always just wanted peace for both of us, you know 896 00:39:41,120 --> 00:39:42,760 Speaker 3: what I mean, for us to be cordial. 897 00:39:42,920 --> 00:39:46,000 Speaker 2: And I wished peace for him. I prayed for him 898 00:39:46,040 --> 00:39:51,200 Speaker 2: to be at peace. And you just you don't really 899 00:39:51,280 --> 00:39:53,520 Speaker 2: see this coming, you know what I mean, Like it 900 00:39:53,680 --> 00:39:55,120 Speaker 2: really just came out of nowhere. 901 00:39:55,440 --> 00:39:59,279 Speaker 1: You know. Did you think you'd have the opportunity where 902 00:39:59,280 --> 00:40:02,240 Speaker 1: you could maybe have some like something cordial. 903 00:40:02,440 --> 00:40:06,000 Speaker 3: I really wanted it to happen, you know, because I'm like, yo, Like, 904 00:40:06,760 --> 00:40:10,279 Speaker 3: like I said, we made history together. You know that 905 00:40:10,719 --> 00:40:13,879 Speaker 3: is infinite, Like we're talking about my son. My son 906 00:40:14,040 --> 00:40:16,719 Speaker 3: is gonna know that we made these records together, you 907 00:40:16,800 --> 00:40:17,279 Speaker 3: know what I mean. 908 00:40:17,480 --> 00:40:22,160 Speaker 2: And I'm sad that the last few years we weren't 909 00:40:22,600 --> 00:40:24,600 Speaker 2: seeing eye to eye. What I do know is that 910 00:40:24,880 --> 00:40:27,880 Speaker 2: I tried, you know, I do know that I extended 911 00:40:27,920 --> 00:40:30,480 Speaker 2: the islive branch, and I do know that again, I 912 00:40:30,640 --> 00:40:33,560 Speaker 2: tried to just I just wanted things to be cool, 913 00:40:33,760 --> 00:40:34,319 Speaker 2: you know what I mean. 914 00:40:35,360 --> 00:40:37,160 Speaker 1: I didn't want to know smoke. 915 00:40:37,680 --> 00:40:40,880 Speaker 4: You know, you caught a lot of strays in that situation. 916 00:40:41,640 --> 00:40:44,600 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, y you handled it with such grace though, 917 00:40:44,680 --> 00:40:47,359 Speaker 1: baby like really like you couldn't have handled it better. 918 00:40:47,480 --> 00:40:49,520 Speaker 4: And I was thinking about this when I was reading 919 00:40:49,600 --> 00:40:50,120 Speaker 4: what you wrote. 920 00:40:50,160 --> 00:40:52,040 Speaker 1: You said, like I have always said, even through like 921 00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:55,560 Speaker 1: the ugliest parts of this, I'm paraphrasing, but what I 922 00:40:55,640 --> 00:40:57,480 Speaker 1: felt from you was like, even through the ugliest parts 923 00:40:57,520 --> 00:41:00,080 Speaker 1: of this, you have always given him the credit of 924 00:41:00,200 --> 00:41:03,880 Speaker 1: changing your life, absolutely bringing out the best in you creatively. 925 00:41:04,160 --> 00:41:07,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, that'll never change. Even in the interview that we did, 926 00:41:07,560 --> 00:41:10,840 Speaker 2: you know what I mean, Even though we weren't on 927 00:41:10,960 --> 00:41:13,400 Speaker 2: great terms, and that was like the peak of like. 928 00:41:15,080 --> 00:41:17,280 Speaker 1: And dead. And that's. 929 00:41:18,680 --> 00:41:22,960 Speaker 3: Because I genuinely will always feel grateful. I will always 930 00:41:23,320 --> 00:41:26,759 Speaker 3: be thankful, you know, and be honest about all of that. 931 00:41:27,040 --> 00:41:30,040 Speaker 3: And obviously, you know, I spoke with all the guys. 932 00:41:33,120 --> 00:41:37,600 Speaker 3: It's the whole situation was just so sudden, you know, 933 00:41:38,040 --> 00:41:42,120 Speaker 3: And I don't know, it's just it's just really hard 934 00:41:42,160 --> 00:41:44,719 Speaker 3: to kind of wrap your mind around everything, especially like 935 00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:47,120 Speaker 3: for me, I have so many amazing things happening in 936 00:41:47,200 --> 00:41:50,040 Speaker 3: my life right now, you know, and it's just so positive. 937 00:41:50,680 --> 00:41:53,400 Speaker 3: And honestly, when you're in such a good place, you 938 00:41:53,680 --> 00:41:56,640 Speaker 3: wish everybody well, even if you're not getting along. 939 00:41:57,120 --> 00:41:59,600 Speaker 2: It's like you want to kind of give off some 940 00:41:59,719 --> 00:42:03,480 Speaker 2: of that that positive energy, that that good love. 941 00:42:03,520 --> 00:42:04,080 Speaker 1: You know what I mean. 942 00:42:04,320 --> 00:42:08,239 Speaker 2: So, yeah, they spoke the job. 943 00:42:08,680 --> 00:42:12,839 Speaker 3: Yeah, Yeah, we were in Hawaii together and I sent 944 00:42:13,080 --> 00:42:16,759 Speaker 3: like a bunch of you know, arrangements and stuff like that. 945 00:42:18,360 --> 00:42:19,680 Speaker 4: Well, yeah, it was, you know, it was. 946 00:42:19,880 --> 00:42:22,280 Speaker 2: It's it's sad, it's it's. 947 00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:27,439 Speaker 1: Tough on everybody, you know, makes you cherish the days, yeah, 948 00:42:27,719 --> 00:42:31,920 Speaker 1: because you just you never know. Joe Is he sent 949 00:42:31,960 --> 00:42:33,680 Speaker 1: me a nice note the other day too, But he's like, 950 00:42:33,800 --> 00:42:36,360 Speaker 1: you know, he's he's hurting, but he's living to you 951 00:42:36,440 --> 00:42:36,880 Speaker 1: know what I mean. 952 00:42:36,960 --> 00:42:38,240 Speaker 4: He's got a beautiful family. 953 00:42:38,400 --> 00:42:41,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, are you guys still close to the is he se? 954 00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:43,080 Speaker 1: The baby? Is he? Is he? 955 00:42:43,200 --> 00:42:43,719 Speaker 4: Uncle John? 956 00:42:44,000 --> 00:42:44,280 Speaker 1: Gosh? 957 00:42:44,640 --> 00:42:48,239 Speaker 2: Yeah, Jah had him up in the symbol polls, you know, 958 00:42:48,320 --> 00:42:49,000 Speaker 2: the lion king. 959 00:42:51,040 --> 00:42:53,720 Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, while we're in we were in Hawaii, 960 00:42:54,000 --> 00:42:57,239 Speaker 3: and it's just it was really cool to see, you know, 961 00:42:57,360 --> 00:42:57,960 Speaker 3: each had him. 962 00:42:58,040 --> 00:42:59,960 Speaker 2: She wasn't putting him down. Each's his wife. 963 00:43:01,280 --> 00:43:03,400 Speaker 3: So yeah, I was so happy when they were finally 964 00:43:03,520 --> 00:43:06,319 Speaker 3: able to meet, you know, because we've done we've done 965 00:43:06,320 --> 00:43:08,680 Speaker 3: a couple of face times, but he's like. 966 00:43:08,840 --> 00:43:11,759 Speaker 1: Oh, Bonnie looking up. We got Bonnie face, you know, 967 00:43:11,840 --> 00:43:13,800 Speaker 1: and then we were going back and forth. Now you 968 00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:15,000 Speaker 1: look a little bit like Moe. 969 00:43:15,080 --> 00:43:16,160 Speaker 4: Nah, you look like Bonnie. 970 00:43:16,280 --> 00:43:16,480 Speaker 1: You know. 971 00:43:17,640 --> 00:43:18,640 Speaker 2: It was it was cool. 972 00:43:18,800 --> 00:43:21,040 Speaker 4: It's so nice to have so much history with people. 973 00:43:21,440 --> 00:43:26,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, especially nowadays, and especially in this industry, you know 974 00:43:26,440 --> 00:43:30,080 Speaker 2: what I mean. Like having genuine love and genuine people 975 00:43:30,239 --> 00:43:35,319 Speaker 2: support you and hold you down is very slim. So yeah, 976 00:43:35,360 --> 00:43:35,920 Speaker 2: I'm grateful. 977 00:43:36,000 --> 00:43:36,359 Speaker 4: All right. 978 00:43:36,400 --> 00:43:39,160 Speaker 2: Our final IRL questions, are you ready in real life? 979 00:43:39,280 --> 00:43:40,520 Speaker 2: How happy are you. 980 00:43:42,600 --> 00:43:43,040 Speaker 4: Today? 981 00:43:43,200 --> 00:43:44,640 Speaker 1: On a scale of one to ten. 982 00:43:45,000 --> 00:43:48,799 Speaker 2: On a scale of one to ten, I'm gonna give 983 00:43:48,840 --> 00:44:00,759 Speaker 2: it about a thousand thousand. 984 00:44:04,840 --> 00:44:05,680 Speaker 1: Is that every day? 985 00:44:06,840 --> 00:44:08,640 Speaker 2: I mean, it's not every day. 986 00:44:09,640 --> 00:44:10,000 Speaker 1: Every day. 987 00:44:10,000 --> 00:44:11,879 Speaker 2: I'm grateful though, you know what I mean. 988 00:44:12,560 --> 00:44:15,440 Speaker 3: You know, there's definitely disappointments and things that you want 989 00:44:15,520 --> 00:44:16,560 Speaker 3: to happen that doesn't happen. 990 00:44:16,719 --> 00:44:20,320 Speaker 2: But I am so genuinely. 991 00:44:20,120 --> 00:44:26,520 Speaker 3: Happy and authentically myself with my family that whatever is 992 00:44:26,640 --> 00:44:30,040 Speaker 3: not working, you roll it off and you move on 993 00:44:30,360 --> 00:44:31,920 Speaker 3: because the happiness outweighs it. 994 00:44:32,760 --> 00:44:35,040 Speaker 1: How important is that thing where you just said, like 995 00:44:35,880 --> 00:44:41,440 Speaker 1: finding somebody that you could be authentically yourself, Like, how important. 996 00:44:41,120 --> 00:44:44,040 Speaker 2: Is that in the equation of happiness? Oh man, it's everything. 997 00:44:44,600 --> 00:44:45,240 Speaker 2: It's everything. 998 00:44:45,400 --> 00:44:45,600 Speaker 1: You know. 999 00:44:45,800 --> 00:44:47,480 Speaker 2: If I can't walk. 1000 00:44:47,320 --> 00:44:50,840 Speaker 1: Around without my wig, you know what I mean, like 1001 00:44:51,239 --> 00:44:51,719 Speaker 1: when your. 1002 00:44:51,680 --> 00:44:55,400 Speaker 2: Box is on and you know, just regular that's not 1003 00:44:55,560 --> 00:44:55,759 Speaker 2: for me. 1004 00:44:56,400 --> 00:45:01,520 Speaker 3: You know, it's so important to just be authentically yourself 1005 00:45:01,640 --> 00:45:04,680 Speaker 3: and have your person and you guys just get each. 1006 00:45:04,560 --> 00:45:05,600 Speaker 2: Other without trying. 1007 00:45:06,000 --> 00:45:06,160 Speaker 1: You know. 1008 00:45:06,239 --> 00:45:08,120 Speaker 3: Obviously there's going to be things that you learned about 1009 00:45:08,120 --> 00:45:10,320 Speaker 3: each other, and there's things that you don't like, you 1010 00:45:10,440 --> 00:45:14,000 Speaker 3: know what I mean. But when you can get past 1011 00:45:14,520 --> 00:45:17,919 Speaker 3: whatever the flaws are and you genuinely have that love. 1012 00:45:18,640 --> 00:45:20,400 Speaker 2: That's like magic is magical. 1013 00:45:21,320 --> 00:45:28,480 Speaker 4: My girl said a thousand in real life? What do 1014 00:45:28,560 --> 00:45:29,520 Speaker 4: you pray for most. 1015 00:45:31,400 --> 00:45:34,160 Speaker 2: In real life? At this very moment, I pray for 1016 00:45:34,280 --> 00:45:36,800 Speaker 2: my son the most. I pray with my son. I 1017 00:45:36,880 --> 00:45:38,920 Speaker 2: pray for my husband. I pray for all of us, 1018 00:45:39,080 --> 00:45:43,560 Speaker 2: and I pray for my family just health, happiness, sanity, safety. 1019 00:45:43,760 --> 00:45:46,239 Speaker 3: We're flying a lot, we're traveling, we're on the bus, 1020 00:45:47,520 --> 00:45:50,080 Speaker 3: so I pray that we are covered and protected. 1021 00:45:52,480 --> 00:45:56,319 Speaker 4: How often do you think about your legacy in real life? 1022 00:45:56,400 --> 00:45:58,400 Speaker 4: Like now? Maybe now different right, like. 1023 00:46:00,000 --> 00:46:05,360 Speaker 2: A little differently now again being a mom, Like I 1024 00:46:05,400 --> 00:46:07,000 Speaker 2: don't want to say I forget about myself. 1025 00:46:07,440 --> 00:46:11,840 Speaker 3: I just put my baby and my family kind of first, 1026 00:46:12,400 --> 00:46:13,839 Speaker 3: you know what I mean, Because I know I'm going 1027 00:46:13,920 --> 00:46:14,319 Speaker 3: to be good. 1028 00:46:14,560 --> 00:46:15,120 Speaker 4: You know what I mean. 1029 00:46:15,760 --> 00:46:17,960 Speaker 3: I love my husband and he got us, so I 1030 00:46:18,360 --> 00:46:20,840 Speaker 3: know I'm going to be good. So I want to 1031 00:46:20,880 --> 00:46:23,759 Speaker 3: make sure that home is good and taken care of, 1032 00:46:24,200 --> 00:46:26,560 Speaker 3: you know. And then legacy is like. 1033 00:46:26,880 --> 00:46:30,120 Speaker 2: You never want to lose yourself in your family. 1034 00:46:30,320 --> 00:46:33,520 Speaker 3: But I know that I'll be able to do what 1035 00:46:33,640 --> 00:46:35,960 Speaker 3: I want to do because I have an amazing support system. 1036 00:46:37,400 --> 00:46:39,160 Speaker 1: I remember somebody told me that long time ago, when 1037 00:46:39,160 --> 00:46:40,920 Speaker 1: I was single, I was like, I don't have time 1038 00:46:41,000 --> 00:46:41,359 Speaker 1: for a man. 1039 00:46:41,760 --> 00:46:43,439 Speaker 4: They were like, well, you know that if. 1040 00:46:43,360 --> 00:46:46,040 Speaker 2: You get the right man, you actually can go further. 1041 00:46:46,239 --> 00:46:46,439 Speaker 4: Yep. 1042 00:46:46,600 --> 00:46:49,400 Speaker 1: It never even occurred to me when I was younger. 1043 00:46:49,440 --> 00:46:51,880 Speaker 1: I used to think, a man, it's just a distress 1044 00:46:52,560 --> 00:46:54,759 Speaker 1: some of the things I want to do in my career. Yeah, 1045 00:46:54,920 --> 00:46:57,480 Speaker 1: but when you get the right one, you both grow 1046 00:46:57,520 --> 00:47:00,680 Speaker 1: and evolved, you know, as a tall looking at your 1047 00:47:00,719 --> 00:47:02,440 Speaker 1: life and how far you come. I mean, you could 1048 00:47:02,440 --> 00:47:05,960 Speaker 1: look at both the episodes and there's so much evolution, 1049 00:47:06,120 --> 00:47:07,200 Speaker 1: and that's just this part. 1050 00:47:07,040 --> 00:47:07,479 Speaker 4: Of your life. 1051 00:47:07,680 --> 00:47:08,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what I'm saying. 1052 00:47:09,120 --> 00:47:11,080 Speaker 1: If you look at the whole journey, somebody who's been 1053 00:47:11,120 --> 00:47:13,399 Speaker 1: a fan of yours since the beginning, and watch your life. 1054 00:47:13,719 --> 00:47:16,239 Speaker 1: What do you hope that people take from your life? Like, 1055 00:47:16,320 --> 00:47:17,759 Speaker 1: what do you hope that people could learn? 1056 00:47:17,920 --> 00:47:22,400 Speaker 3: I hope that people are inspired and motivated to, like 1057 00:47:22,960 --> 00:47:26,800 Speaker 3: get out there, follow your heart, do your best, be fearless, 1058 00:47:27,320 --> 00:47:29,080 Speaker 3: don't be scared to make mistakes. 1059 00:47:29,600 --> 00:47:32,600 Speaker 2: When you do make a mistake, get back up, try again. 1060 00:47:33,760 --> 00:47:38,800 Speaker 2: Spending the block might not be but everybody, but it 1061 00:47:39,040 --> 00:47:39,759 Speaker 2: worked for me. 1062 00:47:42,920 --> 00:47:47,320 Speaker 3: You know, be yourself unapologetically and authentically you know what 1063 00:47:47,400 --> 00:47:47,680 Speaker 3: I mean. 1064 00:47:49,560 --> 00:47:52,840 Speaker 2: And I want people to take away that. 1065 00:47:54,360 --> 00:47:55,239 Speaker 1: I love what I do. 1066 00:47:56,080 --> 00:47:56,720 Speaker 2: I'm a writer. 1067 00:47:57,640 --> 00:47:59,919 Speaker 3: I love being able to relate to people through music, 1068 00:48:00,320 --> 00:48:02,719 Speaker 3: and music is just such a beautiful thing. Oh that's 1069 00:48:02,760 --> 00:48:05,440 Speaker 3: one thing I have to say to KK is infatuated 1070 00:48:05,480 --> 00:48:07,000 Speaker 3: with music, like he has. 1071 00:48:07,040 --> 00:48:11,719 Speaker 2: Keyboards, he has like heard us sing to him. And 1072 00:48:12,000 --> 00:48:13,080 Speaker 2: first of all, he doesn't cry. 1073 00:48:13,200 --> 00:48:15,359 Speaker 3: He only cries, maybe like if he's wet or if 1074 00:48:15,360 --> 00:48:18,160 Speaker 3: he's super hungry, he whins, but he doesn't like cry. 1075 00:48:18,040 --> 00:48:18,720 Speaker 1: Cry with tears. 1076 00:48:18,920 --> 00:48:19,160 Speaker 4: Tears. 1077 00:48:19,520 --> 00:48:20,880 Speaker 2: Right, So if he's like. 1078 00:48:21,239 --> 00:48:24,360 Speaker 3: Whining or crying or upset about something, I start singing. 1079 00:48:24,480 --> 00:48:29,399 Speaker 3: He's like, it is the most like it melts my heart. 1080 00:48:29,520 --> 00:48:30,719 Speaker 1: It is like the most. 1081 00:48:30,600 --> 00:48:34,560 Speaker 3: Beautiful thing for him to be so young and received 1082 00:48:34,640 --> 00:48:37,120 Speaker 3: that concept, you know of music. Oh my god, I 1083 00:48:37,160 --> 00:48:39,480 Speaker 3: gotta show you this video before we leave to wait. 1084 00:48:39,600 --> 00:48:42,719 Speaker 3: So this is when he was only literally maybe a 1085 00:48:42,840 --> 00:48:45,080 Speaker 3: couple of weeks old. I did him laying on my 1086 00:48:45,239 --> 00:48:47,480 Speaker 3: chest and I was singing. 1087 00:48:47,480 --> 00:48:50,120 Speaker 2: Smile for me, daddy, let me see your grill. 1088 00:48:50,040 --> 00:48:53,799 Speaker 1: Right, I was singing, why he smile? Oh my god, 1089 00:48:53,920 --> 00:49:04,440 Speaker 1: I cried, Why is that so smiled? God? It was crazy. 1090 00:49:04,480 --> 00:49:05,560 Speaker 2: I'm gonna show you the videos. 1091 00:49:05,719 --> 00:49:08,239 Speaker 4: You're so in love all. 1092 00:49:08,200 --> 00:49:10,680 Speaker 1: Right and lasting? Where is Ashanti in. 1093 00:49:12,640 --> 00:49:13,640 Speaker 4: Five years from now? 1094 00:49:14,840 --> 00:49:18,759 Speaker 1: Who? Five? Because you really manifested what's happening with your 1095 00:49:18,800 --> 00:49:21,080 Speaker 1: life right now? You really the last time we told 1096 00:49:21,080 --> 00:49:24,160 Speaker 1: you you manifested what you said's gonna happen is exactly 1097 00:49:24,200 --> 00:49:25,120 Speaker 1: where you are right now. 1098 00:49:25,880 --> 00:49:27,680 Speaker 4: So where are you in five years from now? 1099 00:49:28,040 --> 00:49:32,720 Speaker 2: In five years from now, we definitely have multiple children. 1100 00:49:33,960 --> 00:49:35,320 Speaker 2: The empire is huge. 1101 00:49:35,760 --> 00:49:39,120 Speaker 3: I have already delved into a whole new world of 1102 00:49:40,440 --> 00:49:43,920 Speaker 3: children's I don't want to say entertainment, but. 1103 00:49:45,880 --> 00:49:51,279 Speaker 2: I want to do stuff in that world just expanded. 1104 00:49:51,600 --> 00:49:53,960 Speaker 3: You know, me and my husband have a whole other 1105 00:49:54,080 --> 00:49:58,560 Speaker 3: company that's just flourishing and you know, doing big things and. 1106 00:50:00,320 --> 00:50:03,919 Speaker 2: Being better. So yeah, I think that's where I see. 1107 00:50:04,640 --> 00:50:07,919 Speaker 1: So just more of this, more of this one thought. 1108 00:50:08,000 --> 00:50:09,440 Speaker 2: By the way, if it stays like this and you're 1109 00:50:09,440 --> 00:50:12,160 Speaker 2: at a thousand, that's a good life. That's a great life. 1110 00:50:12,840 --> 00:50:13,919 Speaker 2: That's a great life. 1111 00:50:15,040 --> 00:50:16,000 Speaker 1: Just wait till that noise question. 1112 00:50:16,120 --> 00:50:18,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, y'all in the hood, Why is all the police 1113 00:50:18,719 --> 00:50:19,160 Speaker 2: over there? 1114 00:50:20,640 --> 00:50:26,720 Speaker 1: Ship? Oh my god? This is what we can afford 1115 00:50:27,880 --> 00:50:30,200 Speaker 1: in five years? When another when when the studio, the 1116 00:50:30,239 --> 00:50:32,640 Speaker 1: Angie Martinez stio. We've seen that studio. 1117 00:50:32,920 --> 00:50:35,360 Speaker 2: Let God Year studio. 1118 00:50:35,640 --> 00:50:37,879 Speaker 1: Let me say, let me say you say it. Because 1119 00:50:37,880 --> 00:50:41,040 Speaker 1: you don't manifest. We should. We should have done a 1120 00:50:41,080 --> 00:50:45,800 Speaker 1: whole show about how to manifest, the way manifests. What 1121 00:50:46,000 --> 00:50:48,920 Speaker 1: is the key to your manifesting my manifestation? What do 1122 00:50:49,000 --> 00:50:49,200 Speaker 1: you do? 1123 00:50:49,400 --> 00:50:51,960 Speaker 3: Do you really believe everything you say? Or is it 1124 00:50:52,080 --> 00:50:53,600 Speaker 3: that you pray on it or is it that you 1125 00:50:53,800 --> 00:50:56,520 Speaker 3: just absolutely pray on it. I really do pray on it, 1126 00:50:56,560 --> 00:50:58,640 Speaker 3: and I'm not gonna lie to you. I wrote some 1127 00:50:58,800 --> 00:51:01,560 Speaker 3: stuff down and I put it in a Bible years 1128 00:51:01,600 --> 00:51:04,080 Speaker 3: ago I moved. I found the Bible and I was like, 1129 00:51:04,200 --> 00:51:08,520 Speaker 3: oh so I definitely did that tell. 1130 00:51:08,400 --> 00:51:09,880 Speaker 4: Me how this goes? Because people might want to know 1131 00:51:09,960 --> 00:51:10,400 Speaker 4: how to do this? 1132 00:51:11,120 --> 00:51:11,800 Speaker 1: No serious. 1133 00:51:12,040 --> 00:51:12,879 Speaker 4: I rede the list. 1134 00:51:13,760 --> 00:51:15,319 Speaker 2: I wrote the list. I wrote everything I. 1135 00:51:15,400 --> 00:51:22,680 Speaker 3: Wanted, right, okay, it owns the building, the building, everything 1136 00:51:22,760 --> 00:51:25,959 Speaker 3: that you want that's in your heart. I wrote it down. 1137 00:51:26,719 --> 00:51:31,360 Speaker 3: I opened up the Bible, the scripture that it landed on. 1138 00:51:31,719 --> 00:51:33,759 Speaker 3: I put the paper in the Bible, I closed it. 1139 00:51:33,840 --> 00:51:35,520 Speaker 3: I forgot about it, you know what I mean. 1140 00:51:35,640 --> 00:51:36,680 Speaker 2: I just let it rock. 1141 00:51:36,840 --> 00:51:39,840 Speaker 3: And I feel like when you make yourself vulnerable and 1142 00:51:39,960 --> 00:51:43,480 Speaker 3: you put it out there, the right stuff comes back, 1143 00:51:43,640 --> 00:51:45,120 Speaker 3: you know what I mean, because you already. 1144 00:51:44,840 --> 00:51:47,200 Speaker 2: Know I don't really do a lot of just putting 1145 00:51:47,360 --> 00:51:48,000 Speaker 2: everything out. 1146 00:51:48,120 --> 00:51:51,560 Speaker 3: So when I made that statement, I even felt I 1147 00:51:51,680 --> 00:51:54,239 Speaker 3: was being vulnerable because I didn't know, like I said, 1148 00:51:54,280 --> 00:51:54,560 Speaker 3: you know, my. 1149 00:51:54,600 --> 00:51:57,520 Speaker 2: Little stashers that were none serious, that was you know, 1150 00:51:57,960 --> 00:51:59,879 Speaker 2: So I really didn't have anyone that I was really 1151 00:52:00,040 --> 00:52:00,680 Speaker 2: thinking about that with. 1152 00:52:01,000 --> 00:52:03,960 Speaker 4: So just put it out there, yeah, and put it 1153 00:52:04,000 --> 00:52:04,879 Speaker 4: in the Bible. 1154 00:52:06,600 --> 00:52:08,800 Speaker 1: And wait and wait for it to happen. 1155 00:52:09,360 --> 00:52:10,400 Speaker 2: I'm putting mad stuff in 1156 00:52:10,400 --> 00:52:18,200 Speaker 1: The Bible, chanting on a thousand everybody, Hey, shant