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Speaker 1: Brian is on the phone today for our first day

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Speaker 1: a few minutes we'll call her and see if she'll

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Speaker 1: tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him

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Speaker 1: a second date.

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Speaker 2: But first, Ryan, how long has the Bens has you

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Speaker 3: Not long about six days, but definitely like long enough

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Speaker 3: to answer a text that just says like, hey, I

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Speaker 2: You know, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 4: Did you try to reach out to her a couple

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Speaker 3: No, I just said like, hey, I had a really

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Speaker 3: We had talked, We had talked at the end of

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Speaker 3: you know, after dinner last week. So I don't know,

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Speaker 3: it's just kind of weird, that's all.

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Speaker 2: Okay, And tell us about the date.

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Speaker 5: Well, it's nice. It was really nice.

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Speaker 3: It's actually like it's like we kind of skipped over

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Speaker 5: An awkward phase. It just we just sort of clicked.

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Speaker 3: We went to this little Italian restaurant, very very classic

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Speaker 5: A really nice nice little spot. It was. It was cool.

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Speaker 4: I love those places.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it was kind of kind of sleepy and uh uh,

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Speaker 3: was a real kiss. It wasn't like you know, see

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Speaker 3: you later. It was it was like there's something here,

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Speaker 4: Okay, walk us had like, walk us through how that happened?

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Speaker 4: Did you lean in and grab her cheek? Did she

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Speaker 3: Like?

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Speaker 4: How did it go down?

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Speaker 3: I walked her, I walked her back to her car,

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Speaker 3: and you know, it just we locked eyes and it

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, well, why do you think you're getting ghosted?

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Speaker 3: Then?

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Speaker 5: I'm not sure?

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Speaker 3: I mean, uh, like I said things, things seemed cool.

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Speaker 3: I mean, the only thing I could think is this place,

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Speaker 3: the Italian place. It's they're like known for their bread.

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Speaker 3: And apparently she had been there before, was obsessed with

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Speaker 5: But maybe it's the bread.

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Speaker 4: And you didn't get her new bread. Maybe that's why because.

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Speaker 5: We got we got there was a lot. There was

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Speaker 3: But yeah, I'm just trying to think about anything that

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Speaker 4: Yeah, spinning on bread you're excited to eat is kind

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Speaker 2: Oops, okay, and that's the only thing you can think of. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, like I said, you know, there was a

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Speaker 2: Was it bad?

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Speaker 4: Like I know that I don't know, like you know

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Speaker 2: Are nothing crazy like that?

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Speaker 1: No, Ryan is on the phone and he's getting ghosted

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Speaker 1: But before did that, Bryan, why don't you break down

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Speaker 3: I went out with this with this girl, Morgan, and

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Speaker 3: I accidentally spin on her bread. I hope that has

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Speaker 4: Just okay code for anything?

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Speaker 2: All right, right? Are you ready for us to call

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Speaker 5: Yeah? Yeah, let's let's get her on the line. I'm curious.

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Speaker 3: I let's see what's going on.

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Speaker 2: Okay, here we go. Hello, him, speak to Morgan? Please?

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Speaker 3: Is this she?

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Speaker 2: Hey Morgan? How are you? This is a radio show.

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Speaker 2: It's called the Jebel Show.

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Speaker 6: Hi.

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Speaker 4: I'm Morgan, I'm Nina.

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Speaker 2: Hi, I'm Victoria, and my name is Jewbell.

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Speaker 5: How are you well?

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Speaker 6: Hi? There's one of you?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Have you ever listened to the show before?

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Speaker 6: I feel like I shouldn't stay No.

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Speaker 1: the show. It's called the first Date follow Up. That's

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Speaker 1: where if you go out on a date with someone

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Speaker 3: I can think of.

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Speaker 4: It's flattering Morgan, thank you?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, talking about Ryan.

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Speaker 2: Okay, do you mind telling us why you're ghosting Ryan?

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Speaker 6: Yeah? Uh sure? Why not? Okay? So Ryan and I

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Speaker 6: I don't want to see him in again, and I

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Speaker 6: So that's what I can tell you, why if Yeah? Okay,

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Speaker 6: So I got home, I looked in the mirror and

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Speaker 4: Okay, So why is that a deal breaker? I mean,

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Speaker 4: I can see how it's kind of embarrassing and it's

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Speaker 4: But why is that something that you're just calling it

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 6: Can you imagine? Like we're talking for hours, We're flirting,

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Speaker 4: I know it sounds silly, but I get you, girl,

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Speaker 4: I get like that in the studio sometimes when I

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Speaker 4: Victoria didn't tell me. Actually, man, we didn't see a

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Speaker 2: Times, I don't see it.

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Speaker 6: People don't.

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Speaker 2: Hey, Morgan, that's Ryan. He's actually on the phone listening

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Speaker 2: and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 3: By Hey, I'm sorry, this is about lettuce in your teeth?

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Oh my, well so, but hold on, you're telling me

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Speaker 6: Want to be really clear. It's not a random slip up.

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Speaker 6: That's a violation of my trust. It indicates who you

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Speaker 5: You're like erring your soul to me.

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Speaker 3: I'm supposed to stop you and be like, hey, your

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Speaker 6: What else?

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Speaker 6: Okay, I don't What else are you keeping from me?

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Speaker 5: I don't want to move forward. This is like some

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Speaker 5: hold on are you saying that? You're saying you knew

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Speaker 6: Yeah, it's a perfect test. The real ones will say something.

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Speaker 6: They care enough to say something they're not trying to

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Speaker 6: be nice. I don't want something to be nice to me.

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Speaker 6: I want someone to be real with you.

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Speaker 2: Put the food on your teeth on purpose?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, oh this is.

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Speaker 5: That is first of all, that is so manipulative. I

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Speaker 6: So I feel like my assessment of you is correct.

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Speaker 6: I cannot believe this is happening that can evolved. I

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Speaker 6: You know what, I put a little bit of like

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Speaker 6: If they call it out, they passed. And if you

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Speaker 5: Your teeth, you would be going out. Yeah.

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Speaker 6: I feel like when you're planning, we can get away

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Speaker 3: I think you really seriously need therapy and a toothpick.

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Speaker 6: I feel like it's a reflection of your character. So

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Speaker 6: you can say that I'm insane, but knowing that you

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Speaker 5: Cool.

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Speaker 3: Well, next time I'll carry dental floss and one of

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Speaker 3: those little bibs that to give you when you're getting

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Speaker 6: There's only going to be a next time because you didn't.

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Speaker 6: It's not about carrying donal thoughts. It's about being honest

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Speaker 2: Are you sure, Morgan? Do you want another day with Ryan?

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Speaker 2: Will pay for it?

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Speaker 6: No?

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Speaker 3: No, Honestly, I think I think I'm good because you're

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Speaker 3: telling me you're running psychological experiments on the men you go.

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Speaker 6: but it's it's sort of like it's a rite of passage.

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Speaker 6: It helps me what I need to know. I'm not

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Speaker 6: a manipulative person in general. So you can whatever you want,

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Speaker 6: your fake you're faith with me.

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