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Speaker 1: This is the most dramatic podcast ever and I heard

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Speaker 1: radio podcast. Hello everybody, and welcome to the most dramatic

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Speaker 1: every week. And I miss not talking to you, So

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Speaker 1: I look forward to our time together. And I want

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Speaker 1: to say thank you to everybody that we have run

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Speaker 1: into over the last two weeks. Elzi and I have

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Speaker 1: been traveling. We were at the much talked about now

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Speaker 1: thinking thinks in large part to Ben Higgins running into

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Speaker 1: Chris Lane wells Adams was there, Ben's wife Jessica, and

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Speaker 1: of course Sarah was there. L Z was there with me,

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Speaker 1: and we had a phenomenal time. But the best part

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Speaker 1: of it for me anyway, was running into all of you.

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Speaker 1: We ran into so many people while and around at

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Speaker 1: events or at the golf course and came up and

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Speaker 1: said hello, which we always love. But what I really

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Speaker 1: enjoyed personally was how many of you said you're listening

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Speaker 1: to the podcast, how many said it's touched you. You

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Speaker 1: were emotional. I I love it. I love all the notes.

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Speaker 1: I appreciate it so much. And it was wonderful to

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Speaker 1: see so many people. And then Elsie and I went

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Speaker 1: and met even more people. But I was I'm wondering

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Speaker 1: if this happens to anybody else, You have these little

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Speaker 1: and I after Sunday, we're leaving Orlando and we were

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Speaker 1: But we were talking and chatting and we've been there

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Speaker 1: and this woman walks up. Now there's no reason really

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Speaker 1: for me to be cranky, but I was tired, sunburn,

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Speaker 1: the first sentence she says to me is, Chris, I

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Speaker 1: didn't want to come up to you, but my mom

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Speaker 1: people come up and say hello, and it immediately just

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Speaker 1: glad she came up, and I'm glad all of you

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Speaker 1: a blast with everybody. Each week, Elz and I are

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Speaker 1: going to talk about the headlines, the stories that make

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Speaker 1: us talk, the things we're discussing in our own lives, well,

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Speaker 1: the headlines about relationships especially, and I love the name

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Speaker 1: that you came up with the most dramatic headlines of

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Speaker 1: the week with el Hi. Everybody, well, oh my gosh.

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Speaker 1: The first one I wanted to talk about Nikki Bella.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if you all have seen this, but

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Speaker 1: I used to interview both of them a lot, and

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Speaker 1: everybody was talking is talking about this because can you

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Speaker 1: I support Nikki on this, but I was surprised how

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Speaker 1: so um LZ. When we first moved in together, she

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Speaker 1: It shouldn't be a big deal if you're secure in

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Speaker 1: about you because you've grown from that. I've grown from

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Speaker 1: my relationships. So you can't have it both ways. Well,

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Speaker 1: them get rid of your past, get rid of erase

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Speaker 1: For me, that's part of what made them the person

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Speaker 1: she just doesn't have those that life experience. And to

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00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:42,160
Speaker 1: going back to your question, Yes, in your teens, your

428
00:22:42,240 --> 00:22:45,240
Speaker 1: late teens into your early twenties, you are growing and

429
00:22:45,320 --> 00:22:49,520
Speaker 1: learning so much and you are just getting these life experiences.

430
00:22:49,560 --> 00:22:51,720
Speaker 1: It's why we all date and break up and you

431
00:22:51,760 --> 00:22:55,000
Speaker 1: have heartbreak and someone cheats on you, and it's where

432
00:22:55,000 --> 00:22:58,000
Speaker 1: all a lot of those silly antics happen is in

433
00:22:58,040 --> 00:23:02,119
Speaker 1: those early formative years. And to jump right into something

434
00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:08,280
Speaker 1: that is so extreme on many levels, not just the age,

435
00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:11,720
Speaker 1: but to somebody who is so famous and world renowned,

436
00:23:12,320 --> 00:23:14,560
Speaker 1: it makes it even that much more interesting. And you

437
00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:17,920
Speaker 1: bring up the dad thing, and my child, Dak, actually

438
00:23:17,960 --> 00:23:22,080
Speaker 1: met this woman through the dad. The dad does something

439
00:23:22,119 --> 00:23:24,680
Speaker 1: in insurance or something he deals with the Dallas Cowboys,

440
00:23:25,200 --> 00:23:27,639
Speaker 1: and that's how they met. Oh, there's a lot to

441
00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:30,880
Speaker 1: unpack there. Yeah, there was like a post, an Instagram

442
00:23:30,880 --> 00:23:32,600
Speaker 1: post on the dad a while back about, you know,

443
00:23:32,640 --> 00:23:34,760
Speaker 1: kind of joking about he and Dak being best friends.

444
00:23:34,760 --> 00:23:37,600
Speaker 1: And so that is clearly how Dak met his daughter

445
00:23:37,680 --> 00:23:40,080
Speaker 1: and they have started dating. Now she's still in school,

446
00:23:40,320 --> 00:23:42,480
Speaker 1: so this isn't a day to day thing, so who

447
00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:46,479
Speaker 1: knows what it is. But I just found it very interesting. Obviously,

448
00:23:46,520 --> 00:23:48,600
Speaker 1: it hit a chord with me, and I know most

449
00:23:48,600 --> 00:23:50,479
Speaker 1: of you out there are parents as well, and just

450
00:23:51,280 --> 00:23:54,840
Speaker 1: thought we would have strong feelings about this. Well, I

451
00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:57,800
Speaker 1: look at our our age difference is bigger, right, But

452
00:23:57,920 --> 00:23:59,680
Speaker 1: you and I have talked about how if we'd met

453
00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:03,159
Speaker 1: at a different time, maybe we wouldn't be together. Timing

454
00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:07,119
Speaker 1: is important. If I was in my early twenties, I

455
00:24:07,119 --> 00:24:10,920
Speaker 1: would have been in a totally different life place and

456
00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:13,320
Speaker 1: would it have worked out. I don't know. I mean

457
00:24:13,359 --> 00:24:15,360
Speaker 1: we started dating when I was in my early thirties,

458
00:24:15,520 --> 00:24:18,240
Speaker 1: which is I'm well into my career. You know, we

459
00:24:18,320 --> 00:24:21,000
Speaker 1: both were established in our careers and that was different.

460
00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:26,080
Speaker 1: And I think that timing matters and life place matters

461
00:24:26,200 --> 00:24:29,880
Speaker 1: way more than the number of age. Life place matters. Yeah,

462
00:24:30,280 --> 00:24:33,080
Speaker 1: and by the way, I mean we're we lived in

463
00:24:33,200 --> 00:24:36,560
Speaker 1: l A for decades. There's very immature fifty year olds

464
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Speaker 1: in l A. There are some fifty some things I

465
00:24:39,240 --> 00:24:41,680
Speaker 1: wouldn't date in l A. Well, I find it interesting too.

466
00:24:42,600 --> 00:24:46,399
Speaker 1: Upon my divorce, I started dating, and I dated a

467
00:24:46,440 --> 00:24:50,520
Speaker 1: wide range of ages from older than me, too younger

468
00:24:50,520 --> 00:24:53,760
Speaker 1: than me, And I found you get to a certain

469
00:24:53,760 --> 00:24:55,959
Speaker 1: point again, this has to do with life place and experience.

470
00:24:56,000 --> 00:24:58,800
Speaker 1: What do you share, what do you have in common?

471
00:24:58,880 --> 00:25:02,680
Speaker 1: What conversations are you having on a very deep level?

472
00:25:02,720 --> 00:25:04,520
Speaker 1: With you and I we found that we had a

473
00:25:04,520 --> 00:25:07,680
Speaker 1: lot of commonality. We hit a lot of those buttons

474
00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:10,160
Speaker 1: together and checked off a lot of those boxes, which

475
00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:12,520
Speaker 1: is partly why we fell in love. As we've realized

476
00:25:12,560 --> 00:25:15,840
Speaker 1: we were in the same life place and UM could

477
00:25:15,920 --> 00:25:20,119
Speaker 1: go forward. But if you are dating someone that just

478
00:25:20,160 --> 00:25:23,760
Speaker 1: got out of their teenage years and is partying in college,

479
00:25:23,800 --> 00:25:26,360
Speaker 1: it's like, I don't know. I mean, I have conversations

480
00:25:26,400 --> 00:25:29,840
Speaker 1: with with my daughter and her roommates and her sorority sisters.

481
00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:33,080
Speaker 1: These aren't conversations I want to take much further than

482
00:25:33,480 --> 00:25:36,000
Speaker 1: just finding out how they're doing and hearing the stories.

483
00:25:36,080 --> 00:25:40,359
Speaker 1: So here's the question. If if Taylor came to you

484
00:25:40,359 --> 00:25:44,359
Speaker 1: tomorrow and said, God, I'm sweating now. I am dating

485
00:25:44,400 --> 00:25:49,879
Speaker 1: this guy. He's almost thirty, he's a we'll use your phrase,

486
00:25:49,880 --> 00:25:51,840
Speaker 1: he's a stockbroker, something like that, what do you say

487
00:25:51,840 --> 00:25:54,080
Speaker 1: to her? What do you say? I would have to

488
00:25:54,080 --> 00:25:57,000
Speaker 1: have a very long conversation, and I would want to

489
00:25:57,040 --> 00:25:59,760
Speaker 1: meet this man. A lot of it would have to

490
00:25:59,800 --> 00:26:02,720
Speaker 1: do with who this man is, what are his intentions?

491
00:26:03,080 --> 00:26:04,920
Speaker 1: And again they're just dating and just starting. So I

492
00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:07,600
Speaker 1: don't mean, what are your intentions of marrying my daughter?

493
00:26:07,680 --> 00:26:11,399
Speaker 1: But who are you? And what is it about my

494
00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:16,480
Speaker 1: daughter you find interesting at the age of twenty, you know, like,

495
00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:20,040
Speaker 1: what what is she offering that you find so fascinating

496
00:26:20,160 --> 00:26:23,199
Speaker 1: and where's the depth and the meaning behind this relationship?

497
00:26:23,400 --> 00:26:26,200
Speaker 1: So I would I would want to have that discussion

498
00:26:26,240 --> 00:26:28,399
Speaker 1: with her. What does she seeing him, what is she

499
00:26:28,440 --> 00:26:30,480
Speaker 1: getting from this? And who is he? And what's he

500
00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:33,960
Speaker 1: yell about? And that might be way overstepping my bounds.

501
00:26:35,040 --> 00:26:37,320
Speaker 1: As I say that, I realize it is that early

502
00:26:37,359 --> 00:26:42,480
Speaker 1: in a relationship, but it is to me a little extreme. Well,

503
00:26:44,200 --> 00:26:47,160
Speaker 1: we wish dak all the best. I wish I wish

504
00:26:47,200 --> 00:26:52,680
Speaker 1: the Dallas Cowboys the best. Okay, deep down and yeah,

505
00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:55,760
Speaker 1: I mean look, it's the judgment part is is difficult

506
00:26:55,760 --> 00:26:57,600
Speaker 1: in all this. But I just you and I found

507
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Speaker 1: it very interesting. And that was one of the most

508
00:27:01,200 --> 00:27:04,960
Speaker 1: dramatic headlines of the week. The next dramatic headline brings

509
00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:09,720
Speaker 1: me to our guest today. Bonnie Bartlett, year old actress,

510
00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:14,159
Speaker 1: just released a memoir Middle of the Rainbow, where she

511
00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:18,720
Speaker 1: made it known that her marriage to Bill Daniels, famous

512
00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:21,960
Speaker 1: actor in his own right was an open marriage for

513
00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:25,600
Speaker 1: many years. They have made it work. They've been married

514
00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:28,800
Speaker 1: for seventy two years. I have a lot of questions.

515
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:32,760
Speaker 1: We're going to get answers from Bonnie Bartlett when we

516
00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:48,040
Speaker 1: come back. Welcome back to the most dramatic podcast ever.

517
00:27:48,119 --> 00:27:52,000
Speaker 1: I'm Chris Harrison. Time to bring on my guest today.

518
00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:57,240
Speaker 1: Bonnie Bartlett, year old actor, just released a memoir Middle

519
00:27:57,359 --> 00:28:00,240
Speaker 1: of the Rainbow. You may know here from so Hopes

520
00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:03,040
Speaker 1: Little House in the Prairie, saying elsewhere, most recently in

521
00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:08,119
Speaker 1: Golden Girls better called sal An amazing career, Emmy Award

522
00:28:08,200 --> 00:28:12,199
Speaker 1: winner married to Bill Daniels, who you guys might remember

523
00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:15,399
Speaker 1: as Mr Feenie on Boy Meets World. That's right, Mr

524
00:28:15,560 --> 00:28:19,719
Speaker 1: Feenie married to Bonnie Barlett for seventy two years. In

525
00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:24,159
Speaker 1: her memoir, she goes into her amazing career in Hollywood.

526
00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:26,120
Speaker 1: But one of the things I wanted to touch on,

527
00:28:26,359 --> 00:28:29,640
Speaker 1: and one of the things that struck me is her relationship,

528
00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:35,680
Speaker 1: her marriage and how in the early fifties they were married,

529
00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:41,120
Speaker 1: their marriage was open. What does that mean? How did

530
00:28:41,200 --> 00:28:44,760
Speaker 1: they stop that which they did, how did they claw

531
00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:47,720
Speaker 1: it back? And how do they still have that trust?

532
00:28:47,720 --> 00:28:51,960
Speaker 1: How do they keep going for this many decades? Bonnie,

533
00:28:51,960 --> 00:28:53,440
Speaker 1: thank you so much for your time. How are you

534
00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:58,800
Speaker 1: doing today. I'm fine, I'm a good shape. Congratulations on

535
00:28:58,840 --> 00:29:02,120
Speaker 1: the book Middle of the Rainbow, and thank you for

536
00:29:02,800 --> 00:29:07,480
Speaker 1: giving us such an intimate glimpse into your amazing life

537
00:29:07,480 --> 00:29:11,880
Speaker 1: in Hollywood. Um, this show in particular is about relationships

538
00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:15,760
Speaker 1: and about love, and this look inside your marriage over

539
00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:18,880
Speaker 1: the last seventy two years is just fascinating. So thank you.

540
00:29:20,280 --> 00:29:23,920
Speaker 1: You're welcome. I'm glad. I'm glad. I mentioned earlier. You're

541
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:29,680
Speaker 1: married to Bill Daniels. Mr Feeney, please how John app

542
00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:33,320
Speaker 1: One of the great revelations from this book was that

543
00:29:34,560 --> 00:29:36,600
Speaker 1: early on you were eighteen years old when you got

544
00:29:36,680 --> 00:29:39,320
Speaker 1: married and I believe nineteen fifty one, and you guys

545
00:29:39,400 --> 00:29:44,160
Speaker 1: had an open relationship. We didn't think of it that. Okay,

546
00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:46,960
Speaker 1: that's what I was going to ask. You paid me

547
00:29:47,040 --> 00:29:50,720
Speaker 1: a picture of your relationship and and if you could

548
00:29:50,720 --> 00:29:55,000
Speaker 1: define it to us, what was it? Well, we kind

549
00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:58,760
Speaker 1: of grew up together. We're very young. Bill and I

550
00:29:58,800 --> 00:30:05,200
Speaker 1: were just great friends, great lovers, great We just loved

551
00:30:05,360 --> 00:30:08,960
Speaker 1: to be with each other all the time. And later

552
00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:13,440
Speaker 1: on when things got a little more difficult and we

553
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:15,800
Speaker 1: could had to be a part a lot and stuff

554
00:30:15,840 --> 00:30:19,520
Speaker 1: like that. And we were in a culture in New

555
00:30:19,600 --> 00:30:21,360
Speaker 1: York when we went to New York, and a culture

556
00:30:21,400 --> 00:30:24,479
Speaker 1: that was very free and easy. It was before aids

557
00:30:25,440 --> 00:30:28,360
Speaker 1: aids changed that culture. But you mentioned that this is

558
00:30:28,400 --> 00:30:31,240
Speaker 1: the nineteen fifties, and Grant and I was not around

559
00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:33,920
Speaker 1: in the nineteen fifties. But my image is that was

560
00:30:33,960 --> 00:30:37,400
Speaker 1: a really buttoned up conservative time. We think of the

561
00:30:37,440 --> 00:30:41,120
Speaker 1: sixties as being really free and into the seventies, that's right,

562
00:30:41,160 --> 00:30:45,400
Speaker 1: and that's why because the fifties, you were you know,

563
00:30:45,480 --> 00:30:49,120
Speaker 1: you were still the Victorian thing was still creeping in.

564
00:30:49,240 --> 00:30:54,080
Speaker 1: We couldn't have sex and lest we got married, you know.

565
00:30:54,360 --> 00:30:58,400
Speaker 1: And then yes, then the sixties rolled in and it

566
00:30:58,440 --> 00:31:01,840
Speaker 1: was like while than Woolley, and you had to find

567
00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:04,680
Speaker 1: your way through it. And if you did, you you

568
00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:07,480
Speaker 1: were good. And when we were together we were fine.

569
00:31:07,600 --> 00:31:12,400
Speaker 1: It's just when we had to be separated or there

570
00:31:12,400 --> 00:31:16,280
Speaker 1: were times, yes, yes, very much, times when Bill was

571
00:31:16,440 --> 00:31:20,480
Speaker 1: just too difficult for me and I, uh, but he

572
00:31:20,600 --> 00:31:23,840
Speaker 1: was so funny, you know, as I would say, you know,

573
00:31:24,640 --> 00:31:26,960
Speaker 1: I just don't think I should be married to you.

574
00:31:27,120 --> 00:31:29,320
Speaker 1: I just still think it's always out come on you.

575
00:31:29,320 --> 00:31:33,640
Speaker 1: You're crazy about it both, so you wouldn't consider it

576
00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:39,640
Speaker 1: an open marriage. But both of you had affairs early on,

577
00:31:40,560 --> 00:31:45,160
Speaker 1: and and did you know about each other's affairs? Oh, yes, yes,

578
00:31:45,720 --> 00:31:48,680
Speaker 1: mostly mostly yes, of course. I didn't have a lot

579
00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:52,760
Speaker 1: of affairs. Bill had a lot, some dalliances on the road.

580
00:31:53,200 --> 00:31:57,000
Speaker 1: I experienced something that today women go through three and

581
00:31:57,080 --> 00:32:00,120
Speaker 1: four times before they get married. You know. Well, that's

582
00:32:00,120 --> 00:32:02,720
Speaker 1: what it sounds like. It sounds like y'all were very

583
00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:05,480
Speaker 1: good friends. You still had some growing up to do,

584
00:32:05,600 --> 00:32:08,720
Speaker 1: and it seems like you guys did that together exactly.

585
00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:11,120
Speaker 1: That's what we did together. And and and the book

586
00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:13,920
Speaker 1: will Will talks about that. I mean that, that's what

587
00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:16,360
Speaker 1: the book. That's part of what the book is about.

588
00:32:16,360 --> 00:32:21,680
Speaker 1: The book is really about the I've had a ninety

589
00:32:21,720 --> 00:32:25,880
Speaker 1: three years on this earth and the changes that have

590
00:32:25,960 --> 00:32:29,160
Speaker 1: happened during that time. It's a history, it's a it's

591
00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:32,960
Speaker 1: a learning thing, which is the way it was then.

592
00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:37,840
Speaker 1: And and we we took it. We didn't we we

593
00:32:37,920 --> 00:32:40,880
Speaker 1: didn't speak up. We didn't we we couldn't. If we

594
00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:45,880
Speaker 1: did speak up, we got pushed down. So things all

595
00:32:45,960 --> 00:32:51,800
Speaker 1: of women have made made it change. And the all

596
00:32:51,800 --> 00:32:54,840
Speaker 1: the old men can't do everything. That any man in

597
00:32:54,960 --> 00:32:58,320
Speaker 1: power I thought he could do anything, and they did

598
00:32:59,240 --> 00:33:03,360
Speaker 1: and we put up with it. Now that's not so.

599
00:33:03,360 --> 00:33:05,560
Speaker 1: So how did you guys make it work? How did

600
00:33:05,600 --> 00:33:08,600
Speaker 1: you and Bill? Because I know there was one final

601
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:11,800
Speaker 1: affair that really drew that was later on, that was

602
00:33:11,920 --> 00:33:15,240
Speaker 1: very paid, that was very yes, that was a big

603
00:33:15,240 --> 00:33:19,400
Speaker 1: shot in the seventies. And that's when Bill made the

604
00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:24,880
Speaker 1: choice too let his career go. He knew he had

605
00:33:24,920 --> 00:33:27,360
Speaker 1: to make a living, but I mean he didn't. He

606
00:33:27,400 --> 00:33:31,080
Speaker 1: had been offered three shows in New York after seventeen

607
00:33:31,160 --> 00:33:36,080
Speaker 1: seventies Chicago, Bob fosse uh, And he said, no, I

608
00:33:36,120 --> 00:33:39,200
Speaker 1: want to go to California and I want I'll work

609
00:33:39,280 --> 00:33:41,840
Speaker 1: in film or whatever there is, but I want to

610
00:33:41,880 --> 00:33:45,800
Speaker 1: be have a house and I want to have uh

611
00:33:45,920 --> 00:33:49,080
Speaker 1: the kids there, and I want I want to just

612
00:33:49,440 --> 00:33:52,240
Speaker 1: do whatever. He didn't want to do television. He thought

613
00:33:52,280 --> 00:33:56,280
Speaker 1: he would be doing enough film. Turned out that television

614
00:33:56,960 --> 00:33:59,280
Speaker 1: was the best thing that ever happened to Bill. He

615
00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:02,440
Speaker 1: loved it, loved it. I'm just curious how you found

616
00:34:02,480 --> 00:34:05,680
Speaker 1: the trust again. Well, it took time. But you know,

617
00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:09,880
Speaker 1: he's a great father. He's a great he's very domestic.

618
00:34:11,120 --> 00:34:14,719
Speaker 1: He we we had suddenly we had weekends where we

619
00:34:14,760 --> 00:34:18,239
Speaker 1: could do things with the kids. Always in New York.

620
00:34:18,600 --> 00:34:23,480
Speaker 1: Every Christmas, everything, he had two shows. Other people were celebrating,

621
00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:27,920
Speaker 1: and Bill always had two shows to do. And you know,

622
00:34:28,760 --> 00:34:30,880
Speaker 1: it was okay, It's what he aimed for. But when

623
00:34:30,920 --> 00:34:34,600
Speaker 1: the kids came along, it wasn't good. It wasn't good anymore.

624
00:34:34,840 --> 00:34:37,279
Speaker 1: When did you share this story with your with your

625
00:34:37,320 --> 00:34:39,279
Speaker 1: kids or your friends? Did everybody find out when this

626
00:34:39,320 --> 00:34:42,520
Speaker 1: book came out? My children haven't read the book. Interesting

627
00:34:43,520 --> 00:34:47,560
Speaker 1: they're not interested. We were there, mother and father very

628
00:34:47,600 --> 00:34:51,840
Speaker 1: glad to be with us. We were very They saved

629
00:34:51,840 --> 00:34:55,799
Speaker 1: our lives, they saved our marriage. The boys because they

630
00:34:55,800 --> 00:34:58,400
Speaker 1: were so great. I was just curious if there was

631
00:34:58,440 --> 00:34:59,800
Speaker 1: ever a time when you would sit them down and

632
00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:03,680
Speaker 1: talk about as their adults. And No, I'm not a

633
00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:07,280
Speaker 1: person who says, now, let's let's talk about this. I'm not.

634
00:35:07,800 --> 00:35:10,080
Speaker 1: I'm just not that kind of person. Yeah, you guys

635
00:35:10,200 --> 00:35:15,360
Speaker 1: just kept plowing through, living your lives right, doing what

636
00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:19,799
Speaker 1: is what is what is. And I, for me, California

637
00:35:19,880 --> 00:35:22,600
Speaker 1: meant I got to work a lot, So I went

638
00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:27,000
Speaker 1: back to work. I had stopped working with when the

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Speaker 1: boys were a little I stopped because it was too hard.

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Speaker 1: But you know, commercials, a few little things. But when

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Speaker 1: I when we got to California and I had Bill

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Speaker 1: doing all kinds of things with boys, and he could

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Speaker 1: take them to school, and he could pick them up,

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00:35:46,880 --> 00:35:48,440
Speaker 1: and he could do all of that stuff. I mean,

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00:35:48,680 --> 00:35:51,680
Speaker 1: he was in heaven. And and because he was so happy,

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00:35:52,600 --> 00:35:55,360
Speaker 1: I was happy and able to do to do the

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Speaker 1: things I wanted to do. You guys have been together

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Speaker 1: seventy two years, a lifetime together. A lot of the

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Speaker 1: listeners are married, we've been divorced. We we've been through

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Speaker 1: it all, and we talk a lot about relationships here.

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Speaker 1: Is there a takeaway from your seventy two years? Is

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Speaker 1: there a lesson that we should know about making it

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Speaker 1: work and sticking with it? I think every case is different.

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Speaker 1: Each case is different. If if you're living with somebody

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Speaker 1: who has a drug problem, if you're living with somebody

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Speaker 1: who's an alcoholic, like and they don't change, if the

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Speaker 1: person can change, if the problem is such that they

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Speaker 1: can change, which is what Bill. Finally, did you know

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Speaker 1: if you fall in love with somebody else, that's a problem.

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Speaker 1: Fortunately for us, we never got involved, right, You guys

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Speaker 1: never fell in love with anybody else. There. There were

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Speaker 1: those affairs, but you always came back to each other,

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Speaker 1: that's right. As I say, at one point, I thought,

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Speaker 1: oh god, I've got to have an easier life. It's

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Speaker 1: got to be better than this angry guy. Uh. But

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Speaker 1: there's nobody out there like Bill that I met. You

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Speaker 1: know that I would it. We're lucky. We're just lucky. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we it worked out. I mean, we can't imagine not

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Speaker 1: being together. Let me put that away. We can't imagine

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Speaker 1: it and now we're old, we take care of each

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Speaker 1: other and it's great. Yeah, it was just you said

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Speaker 1: building trust took time. I'm just curious if there was

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Speaker 1: something in particular, because it sounds like y'a weren't great communicators.

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Speaker 1: How you were able to build that trust back? Well,

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Speaker 1: we were together all the time. We we we were

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Speaker 1: in the same room, the same house. I think it's

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Speaker 1: very hard to have a marriage where you're not together.

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Speaker 1: What's the point, right? There were some amazing anecdotes and

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Speaker 1: a memoir as well. You mentioned coming up around the

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Speaker 1: same time that Marilyn Monroe did well. Marilyn was a

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Speaker 1: big star and she to studied with Lee Strasburg, and

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Speaker 1: I was Lee's secretary and friend and so forth, and

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Speaker 1: so I kind of helped her out in class, and

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Speaker 1: she she always she was. She was a lovely girl.

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Speaker 1: We loved her. We all loved her. I saw her

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Speaker 1: a lot at the Strasburg's and I guess I saw

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Speaker 1: the best part of Marilyn Monroe. I don't know. I mean,

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Speaker 1: what she created was incredible, and she was an incredible comedian.

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Speaker 1: She wanted to do try to do theater, and Lee

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00:38:44,760 --> 00:38:53,759
Speaker 1: encouraged her and maybe he shouldn't have because I, Oh,

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Speaker 1: she wanted to learn. She was such a student. She

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Speaker 1: wanted to learn, and she wanted to she was interested

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Speaker 1: in everything, and she had a very good brain. No education,

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Speaker 1: no background, no support, no support at all. Interesting as

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Speaker 1: a as a girl growing up terrible, terrible, So that's hard.

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Speaker 1: You've got to have some support somewhere. The book is

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Speaker 1: Middle of the Rainbow memoir by Bonnie Barlett. If there

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Speaker 1: is a takeaway from this book that you hope everyone

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Speaker 1: will read, what is that? What is the takeaway? What

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Speaker 1: is what is the lesson you hope we take away

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Speaker 1: from this? Well, as I say in the book, I

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Speaker 1: hope that I have left some footprints in the sand,

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Speaker 1: so that it's kind of a history of a life.

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Speaker 1: Ah a successful life, a celebration in a way of

705
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Speaker 1: the life and getting through life is all about solving problems.

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Speaker 1: And that's what this book is about. M beautiful and

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Speaker 1: is if you gave after seventy two years, gave us

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Speaker 1: one bit of advice for marriage and making it work,

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Speaker 1: what is it? You have to create your own guidelines,

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Speaker 1: You have to create I love that and I completely agree.

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Speaker 1: And speaking speaking of unique Bonny, you were that absolutely

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Speaker 1: unique and thanks thanks for sharing so much of your

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Speaker 1: life with us in this book. Again, it's the Middle

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Speaker 1: of the Rainbow, the memoir by Bonnie Bartlett, her life,

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Speaker 1: her times, her love and career. It is spectacular and

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Speaker 1: just thank you for being here today and opening up

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Speaker 1: with us. Truly appreciate it. Thank you. Thank you to

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Speaker 1: my guest, Bonnie Bartlett. Incredible story thinking of the times

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Speaker 1: that you grew up in, cut her teeth in this

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Speaker 1: business from the fifties, sixties, seventies and on um. Incredible

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Speaker 1: knowledge and it's always important, I think, to hear from

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Speaker 1: the past so we can learn how to live in

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Speaker 1: the present. So Bonnie Bartlett, thank you so much. LZ.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for being a part of this as well today

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Speaker 1: and thank you for listening. I can't wait to talk

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Speaker 1: to you again next week because we have a lot

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Speaker 1: more to talk about. Thanks for listening. Follow us on

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