1 00:00:00,720 --> 00:00:05,200 Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Beca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio. 2 00:00:04,519 --> 00:00:08,240 Speaker 2: And two times People's Choice Award winning podcast. 3 00:00:11,280 --> 00:00:15,560 Speaker 3: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing it. 4 00:00:17,840 --> 00:00:20,880 Speaker 4: Oh well, stunning, thanks stunning for the eyes and ears 5 00:00:20,880 --> 00:00:21,360 Speaker 4: for us. 6 00:00:21,680 --> 00:00:22,160 Speaker 2: Thank you. 7 00:00:24,040 --> 00:00:27,440 Speaker 5: You know we didn't talk about what that really gave 8 00:00:27,440 --> 00:00:31,680 Speaker 5: me the giggles last week. What Robbie being up on 9 00:00:31,840 --> 00:00:34,880 Speaker 5: the h my friend prank? 10 00:00:36,120 --> 00:00:38,320 Speaker 2: It was not did it make me laugh. 11 00:00:38,400 --> 00:00:40,239 Speaker 5: Like making that like when we called that, did the 12 00:00:40,280 --> 00:00:42,839 Speaker 5: calls like watching them in live action. I watched his 13 00:00:43,040 --> 00:00:45,360 Speaker 5: videos that he posted like multiple times. 14 00:00:45,840 --> 00:00:49,440 Speaker 4: We were dying laughing that you showed me them, so 15 00:00:49,479 --> 00:00:51,959 Speaker 4: I had already seen them, and then I heard Haley rewatching, 16 00:00:52,000 --> 00:00:54,400 Speaker 4: so I started watching and we were both laughing. Haley 17 00:00:54,480 --> 00:00:55,680 Speaker 4: like this is so funny. 18 00:00:56,680 --> 00:01:01,160 Speaker 1: Upper register what oh my, it's so funny. 19 00:01:01,480 --> 00:01:03,560 Speaker 2: I've watched all like, not just his, like the trend. 20 00:01:03,560 --> 00:01:06,200 Speaker 5: I'm like literally once a day I find one on 21 00:01:06,400 --> 00:01:09,720 Speaker 5: Instagram to watch because I just find them so freaky. 22 00:01:09,800 --> 00:01:12,760 Speaker 4: I actually didn't see that trend until I saw Robbie's. 23 00:01:13,840 --> 00:01:17,120 Speaker 5: I tried to do it on you twice that stuff 24 00:01:17,280 --> 00:01:19,440 Speaker 5: you didn't answer, so it made it really tough. 25 00:01:19,520 --> 00:01:21,200 Speaker 1: By the way, it's not out of character for you 26 00:01:21,280 --> 00:01:22,800 Speaker 1: to call someone in say good night. I know. 27 00:01:22,840 --> 00:01:24,800 Speaker 5: And that's what Robbie said. He's like, it's not like 28 00:01:24,840 --> 00:01:27,440 Speaker 5: it's not gonna hit the same because you would do 29 00:01:27,560 --> 00:01:29,319 Speaker 5: that normally, so it would be like. 30 00:01:29,480 --> 00:01:32,280 Speaker 2: Okay, you know, like okay, good night. 31 00:01:32,560 --> 00:01:34,679 Speaker 5: So I try to do it to Ali because like, 32 00:01:35,959 --> 00:01:39,760 Speaker 5: I feel like Ali, it's a perfect candidate. So I 33 00:01:39,840 --> 00:01:42,640 Speaker 5: call her to say good night. She doesn't answer. She 34 00:01:42,840 --> 00:01:45,039 Speaker 5: texts me, Hey, did you mean to call me? And 35 00:01:45,080 --> 00:01:48,160 Speaker 5: I said, yes, I call her back clearly she has 36 00:01:48,160 --> 00:01:51,440 Speaker 5: her phone, doesn't answer again. 37 00:01:51,720 --> 00:01:53,080 Speaker 4: Oh are you freaking kidding me? 38 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:55,760 Speaker 5: So then I just texted it, thinking it'd be funny, said, 39 00:01:55,760 --> 00:01:57,480 Speaker 5: I was just calling say good night. And she's like, 40 00:01:57,520 --> 00:01:58,360 Speaker 5: I've seen that trend. 41 00:01:58,360 --> 00:02:01,000 Speaker 4: Oh that's too bad. 42 00:02:01,120 --> 00:02:03,720 Speaker 2: Yeah. She's like, try me earlier. I'm pregnant. 43 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:07,040 Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like it's eight forty five. Yeah, she's like that, 44 00:02:07,240 --> 00:02:10,959 Speaker 4: she said, after five she is like zoned out. 45 00:02:11,160 --> 00:02:12,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, dang yeah, dang. 46 00:02:13,360 --> 00:02:13,520 Speaker 5: Oh. 47 00:02:13,560 --> 00:02:15,440 Speaker 2: I also had a realization what. 48 00:02:17,520 --> 00:02:21,600 Speaker 5: I I'm constantly asking you, like stuff about your engagement. 49 00:02:22,080 --> 00:02:24,080 Speaker 5: I commented, you were like Haley was wearing white in 50 00:02:24,120 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 5: a photo, and I was like engagement era and I 51 00:02:27,600 --> 00:02:29,960 Speaker 5: realized I'm becoming the person that I hated when I 52 00:02:30,040 --> 00:02:34,079 Speaker 5: was waiting to get engaged, and so I'm publicly apologizing 53 00:02:34,240 --> 00:02:37,000 Speaker 5: and I will not do it anymore for a. 54 00:02:37,000 --> 00:02:40,000 Speaker 4: Future Who pointed that out to you, Robbie, Yeah, I 55 00:02:40,080 --> 00:02:42,120 Speaker 4: knew it. I was like, there's no way you realize 56 00:02:42,120 --> 00:02:45,720 Speaker 4: this on your own. Yes, No, well, Robbie. Robbie and 57 00:02:45,760 --> 00:02:47,600 Speaker 4: I areson Potico and I was like, you know what 58 00:02:48,000 --> 00:02:50,679 Speaker 4: she just I had to tell Haley, don't stress out. 59 00:02:50,800 --> 00:02:53,880 Speaker 4: She's just she she doesn't have a fixation right now, 60 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:56,080 Speaker 4: like she already she had her wedding, like when she 61 00:02:56,120 --> 00:02:58,160 Speaker 4: gets pregnant, like that'll be her fixation. 62 00:02:58,440 --> 00:03:00,320 Speaker 2: But I'm doing meet and greets with ob It's like 63 00:03:00,360 --> 00:03:02,200 Speaker 2: that is my new fixation. By the way. 64 00:03:03,520 --> 00:03:05,799 Speaker 4: But and I told Tyl, I was like, we don't 65 00:03:05,840 --> 00:03:07,799 Speaker 4: feel pressure, so don't I know? 66 00:03:08,080 --> 00:03:10,920 Speaker 5: But that's the again, I felt the same way like 67 00:03:10,960 --> 00:03:13,480 Speaker 5: before we got engaged, there. 68 00:03:13,360 --> 00:03:16,520 Speaker 4: Was no pressure. I'm getting engaged. 69 00:03:16,600 --> 00:03:19,040 Speaker 5: No, no, no, like I like the pressure had already been 70 00:03:19,080 --> 00:03:22,440 Speaker 5: like there was no Robbie's not rattled by outside. 71 00:03:22,080 --> 00:03:24,440 Speaker 4: Right, right, and I'm not either, right. But I had 72 00:03:24,520 --> 00:03:29,520 Speaker 4: to explain. I was like, just don't, don't think too 73 00:03:29,600 --> 00:03:33,720 Speaker 4: much about Tanya's comments. She's like like, are you expecting, 74 00:03:33,800 --> 00:03:35,720 Speaker 4: like what are you saying on the podcast? I'm also like, 75 00:03:35,920 --> 00:03:38,880 Speaker 4: well you should listen. Yeah, why don't you listen to 76 00:03:38,880 --> 00:03:39,400 Speaker 4: the podcast? 77 00:03:39,480 --> 00:03:41,080 Speaker 5: But no, but yeah, he pointed out, he was like, 78 00:03:41,080 --> 00:03:43,200 Speaker 5: remember like people would always be call like anytime you 79 00:03:43,240 --> 00:03:45,720 Speaker 5: post anything, there would be like ring ring ring, ring ring, And. 80 00:03:45,760 --> 00:03:47,640 Speaker 2: I was like yes, and he's like you're that person 81 00:03:47,680 --> 00:03:48,000 Speaker 2: now and. 82 00:03:47,920 --> 00:03:51,960 Speaker 4: I like no, it's oh yeah, that's tough, but no. 83 00:03:52,200 --> 00:03:53,000 Speaker 4: And the thing is is. 84 00:03:52,960 --> 00:03:56,000 Speaker 5: Like there's anything I'll do is I'll admit when I'm wrong, Yes, 85 00:03:56,240 --> 00:03:58,880 Speaker 5: and I was wrong, and you will not be hearing 86 00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:02,200 Speaker 5: any more of that until we're actually engaged. 87 00:04:02,280 --> 00:04:06,200 Speaker 4: Yeah, publicly, thank you. Yeah, I think that that is. 88 00:04:08,640 --> 00:04:12,200 Speaker 4: I think the thing is that we are so far 89 00:04:12,240 --> 00:04:14,920 Speaker 4: from it, like we are like, oh, like trying on 90 00:04:15,040 --> 00:04:18,080 Speaker 4: rings and seeing but we did the ADU like there's 91 00:04:18,120 --> 00:04:21,040 Speaker 4: been a lot going on, so we're so not even 92 00:04:21,080 --> 00:04:22,960 Speaker 4: in that era, which is so funny because now when 93 00:04:22,960 --> 00:04:25,000 Speaker 4: I'm posting people like I keep looking for a ring, 94 00:04:25,080 --> 00:04:26,920 Speaker 4: I keep seeing the y'all are engaged or I think 95 00:04:26,920 --> 00:04:29,680 Speaker 4: this is an engagement post and I'm like, you can 96 00:04:29,800 --> 00:04:32,400 Speaker 4: just rest easy, you do easy. 97 00:04:32,160 --> 00:04:34,000 Speaker 1: Feel pressure, and that's good. The two of you don't 98 00:04:34,000 --> 00:04:36,359 Speaker 1: feel any pressure, that's great. Do you in your mind 99 00:04:36,440 --> 00:04:39,200 Speaker 1: have any do you put any kind of time, Like 100 00:04:39,240 --> 00:04:41,320 Speaker 1: when I was getting ready to propose, it's like, well, 101 00:04:41,839 --> 00:04:43,320 Speaker 1: I like to do it by this time because I'd 102 00:04:43,320 --> 00:04:45,520 Speaker 1: like to be married before, you know, she starts these 103 00:04:45,520 --> 00:04:47,880 Speaker 1: college classes, or I'd like to be married before I 104 00:04:47,920 --> 00:04:49,880 Speaker 1: turned thirty or or whatever it is. Are there any 105 00:04:49,920 --> 00:04:52,560 Speaker 1: of that in your mind calendar wise? 106 00:04:53,080 --> 00:04:56,600 Speaker 4: Okay, no, because and I think if we were like, 107 00:04:56,680 --> 00:04:58,600 Speaker 4: oh my gosh, we we know we want to have 108 00:04:58,640 --> 00:05:01,440 Speaker 4: a baby, like I'm I'm a aware of the biological 109 00:05:02,680 --> 00:05:06,240 Speaker 4: clock on that. Unfortunately, that's that's just what it is. 110 00:05:06,960 --> 00:05:10,440 Speaker 4: But we're also we're both every time we're around kids, 111 00:05:10,440 --> 00:05:13,000 Speaker 4: were like, what do we want? 112 00:05:14,880 --> 00:05:19,479 Speaker 2: So we have my brother's baby because that baby is chill. Yeah, 113 00:05:19,480 --> 00:05:22,279 Speaker 2: she's around all weekend. I was like, there's a baby around, Mike. Well, 114 00:05:22,320 --> 00:05:22,760 Speaker 2: I love. 115 00:05:23,040 --> 00:05:25,320 Speaker 4: That's the age. I love. It's when they start going 116 00:05:25,480 --> 00:05:33,880 Speaker 4: overwhelming two to six yeah, eight, yeah, But yeah, no, 117 00:05:33,960 --> 00:05:35,920 Speaker 4: I don't feel that at all. And the thing is 118 00:05:35,920 --> 00:05:39,200 Speaker 4: is like we could get engaged and then plan a 119 00:05:39,200 --> 00:05:41,520 Speaker 4: wedding for years or months, you know. 120 00:05:41,520 --> 00:05:46,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, the world is your oyster. It is, but it's 121 00:05:46,720 --> 00:05:47,839 Speaker 2: not coming from me anymore. 122 00:05:48,320 --> 00:05:54,520 Speaker 5: Dang, I can assure you that publicly, well, privately, there's 123 00:05:54,520 --> 00:05:55,400 Speaker 5: a whole other story. 124 00:05:56,360 --> 00:05:57,080 Speaker 2: There's a difference. 125 00:05:57,160 --> 00:05:59,880 Speaker 4: No, No, she here's the thing. I can respect what 126 00:05:59,920 --> 00:06:01,600 Speaker 4: she's saying. She's saying. I'm not going to put the 127 00:06:01,640 --> 00:06:05,360 Speaker 4: public pressure on you. However, my private texts and conversations 128 00:06:05,400 --> 00:06:10,640 Speaker 4: may reflected differently. Correct and as a best friend, and 129 00:06:10,720 --> 00:06:14,400 Speaker 4: when you have a best friend like Tanya, you go, 130 00:06:15,080 --> 00:06:17,040 Speaker 4: you know it comes from a special place. 131 00:06:17,279 --> 00:06:18,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, love, But she's. 132 00:06:18,360 --> 00:06:20,680 Speaker 1: Already told you that she's not gonna let you know beforehand, 133 00:06:20,920 --> 00:06:21,240 Speaker 1: which is. 134 00:06:21,600 --> 00:06:22,440 Speaker 4: Not giving up. 135 00:06:22,520 --> 00:06:25,920 Speaker 2: That's why my mind is racing. That's why when she 136 00:06:25,960 --> 00:06:27,560 Speaker 2: mentions a trip, I'm like, but. 137 00:06:27,560 --> 00:06:29,159 Speaker 1: That might be time to let them, let her have 138 00:06:29,200 --> 00:06:31,080 Speaker 1: some freedom, just kind of not bring it up for 139 00:06:31,120 --> 00:06:31,400 Speaker 1: a while. 140 00:06:31,440 --> 00:06:33,040 Speaker 4: But if I don't do it on a trip, though, 141 00:06:33,839 --> 00:06:36,760 Speaker 4: what if I do it in my newly renovated backyard. 142 00:06:38,640 --> 00:06:39,720 Speaker 2: We put a lot of money into it. 143 00:06:41,520 --> 00:06:44,200 Speaker 4: Right here? He goes, should we extend our trip? And 144 00:06:44,240 --> 00:06:46,880 Speaker 4: I was like, maybe we should just get our new place, 145 00:06:46,920 --> 00:06:50,240 Speaker 4: will be done and enjoy the fruits of our money 146 00:06:50,279 --> 00:06:50,800 Speaker 4: and labor. 147 00:06:50,920 --> 00:06:54,039 Speaker 2: Yeah, let's pop up vacations out there. 148 00:06:54,120 --> 00:06:57,560 Speaker 4: I really during the renovation my front yard got like 149 00:06:57,600 --> 00:06:59,600 Speaker 4: all my grasses dead and all the stuff that to 150 00:07:00,120 --> 00:07:01,800 Speaker 4: redo it, and I kind of want to like learn 151 00:07:01,800 --> 00:07:05,480 Speaker 4: how to garden what you actual garden. 152 00:07:05,680 --> 00:07:11,520 Speaker 5: Like like lettuces and and liked, by the way, that's 153 00:07:11,560 --> 00:07:16,320 Speaker 5: not a like a known term what gardening. Robbie sat 154 00:07:16,360 --> 00:07:18,400 Speaker 5: in the Facebook group. He took a screenshot because somebody 155 00:07:18,400 --> 00:07:20,000 Speaker 5: asked him if he was gardening, and he's like, what 156 00:07:20,040 --> 00:07:20,640 Speaker 5: does this mean? 157 00:07:22,640 --> 00:07:24,840 Speaker 2: Not like a known term? 158 00:07:25,080 --> 00:07:27,480 Speaker 4: I mean maybe just depends on your algorithm. You know 159 00:07:28,040 --> 00:07:30,640 Speaker 4: what you're doing when you're gardening. But no, I'm talking 160 00:07:30,640 --> 00:07:31,840 Speaker 4: them like planting. 161 00:07:31,760 --> 00:07:33,880 Speaker 2: Flowers, flowers, not like food. 162 00:07:34,800 --> 00:07:38,800 Speaker 4: No Cool wants to like little. 163 00:07:38,520 --> 00:07:41,120 Speaker 2: Gems like some art chokes. 164 00:07:41,400 --> 00:07:43,920 Speaker 4: Hailey really wants to have that one day. But I'm 165 00:07:43,960 --> 00:07:49,040 Speaker 4: mostly talking about like visual garden digging and soiling that I'm. 166 00:07:48,920 --> 00:07:49,680 Speaker 2: Not so interested in. 167 00:07:50,040 --> 00:07:51,480 Speaker 5: But if you want to get some little gems and 168 00:07:51,600 --> 00:07:57,720 Speaker 5: art chokes in there, I'd be happy to help. Corn 169 00:07:58,880 --> 00:08:02,440 Speaker 5: My gosh, summer twenty six is only homegrown grilled WM. 170 00:08:02,920 --> 00:08:06,680 Speaker 4: Well we're dumping ahead, yeah, okay, we have some dear bonia, 171 00:08:06,800 --> 00:08:07,480 Speaker 4: so you. 172 00:08:07,440 --> 00:08:09,560 Speaker 1: Know, I will say not as many as usual those 173 00:08:09,640 --> 00:08:10,640 Speaker 1: kind of a light week people. 174 00:08:10,920 --> 00:08:12,760 Speaker 2: That's okay, we can do a quickie. 175 00:08:13,040 --> 00:08:17,120 Speaker 1: Uh Instagram at scrubbing inpod. The email is scrubbing it 176 00:08:17,160 --> 00:08:23,360 Speaker 1: at iHeartMedia dot com. Keep the flow flowing. From anonymous. Hello, 177 00:08:23,400 --> 00:08:25,880 Speaker 1: everyone loved the podcast and the whole gang. I wanted 178 00:08:25,920 --> 00:08:27,480 Speaker 1: to reach out and get some advice. I've been with 179 00:08:27,520 --> 00:08:30,440 Speaker 1: my girlfriend for seven years, and she recently told me 180 00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:33,599 Speaker 1: she wants a break. She's in her mid twenties and 181 00:08:33,640 --> 00:08:35,679 Speaker 1: I'm in my early thirties. She has been wanting to 182 00:08:35,720 --> 00:08:38,120 Speaker 1: be more independent, try things on her own, and find herself. 183 00:08:38,160 --> 00:08:39,920 Speaker 1: She wants to go out on her own to events 184 00:08:39,920 --> 00:08:42,679 Speaker 1: and with friends. She says she feels guilty because I've 185 00:08:42,720 --> 00:08:45,000 Speaker 1: asked about going. It just feels crazy to think we 186 00:08:45,040 --> 00:08:47,320 Speaker 1: were talking about getting engaged and now she's saying she 187 00:08:47,360 --> 00:08:49,760 Speaker 1: needs a break. I don't know how long yet. We 188 00:08:49,800 --> 00:08:52,040 Speaker 1: will talk about it, but it hurts already, like a 189 00:08:52,080 --> 00:08:54,800 Speaker 1: pre breakup. I think I'm trying to prepare myself, But 190 00:08:54,840 --> 00:08:56,480 Speaker 1: what would you do during this grief? 191 00:08:58,720 --> 00:09:02,480 Speaker 4: First of all, that's very hard, and I'm sorry that's 192 00:09:02,600 --> 00:09:07,360 Speaker 4: I can't. I cannot. I can't even imagine celebrating seven 193 00:09:07,440 --> 00:09:10,280 Speaker 4: years and then tell me she wants a break like 194 00:09:10,320 --> 00:09:14,320 Speaker 4: I would be devastated. So I'm really sorry, y'all you're 195 00:09:14,360 --> 00:09:18,240 Speaker 4: going through this. She's also in her mid twenties and 196 00:09:18,840 --> 00:09:22,640 Speaker 4: is probably going through a because mid twenties, so that 197 00:09:22,679 --> 00:09:24,840 Speaker 4: means y'all get together when she was pretty young. 198 00:09:24,920 --> 00:09:27,680 Speaker 1: It seems eighteen if you're in math. If it's twenty five, 199 00:09:27,880 --> 00:09:29,000 Speaker 1: that is fast. 200 00:09:31,679 --> 00:09:34,760 Speaker 4: And so I'm sure she's feeling a lot of realizing 201 00:09:35,200 --> 00:09:38,600 Speaker 4: she hasn't had her independent time as an adult on 202 00:09:38,679 --> 00:09:41,840 Speaker 4: her own. And I think it's very i personally, and 203 00:09:42,000 --> 00:09:44,439 Speaker 4: this is to each his own, but I think having 204 00:09:44,440 --> 00:09:48,040 Speaker 4: that time to yourself is so crucial. And I also 205 00:09:48,080 --> 00:09:51,439 Speaker 4: think that having a break doesn't necessarily mean a breakup. 206 00:09:51,480 --> 00:09:55,640 Speaker 4: But I do think how you handle what I do 207 00:09:55,720 --> 00:09:57,240 Speaker 4: think how you handle. 208 00:09:57,040 --> 00:10:00,960 Speaker 1: Hot handle eyes and began taking all close off no, 209 00:10:01,240 --> 00:10:02,319 Speaker 1: because I mean, I'm. 210 00:10:02,200 --> 00:10:04,720 Speaker 2: Hot and sweaty and I'm pissed at this this email. 211 00:10:05,080 --> 00:10:06,760 Speaker 4: Okay, why to me? 212 00:10:07,640 --> 00:10:12,600 Speaker 5: It's so selfish? A break is basically this is what 213 00:10:12,640 --> 00:10:15,280 Speaker 5: a break is. It's I want to have fun and 214 00:10:15,320 --> 00:10:16,840 Speaker 5: do my own thing, but I know I have a 215 00:10:16,880 --> 00:10:18,640 Speaker 5: really great thing going. I don't want you to go 216 00:10:18,720 --> 00:10:22,880 Speaker 5: too far. It's selfish, and it's a cop out a break. 217 00:10:22,880 --> 00:10:24,599 Speaker 5: I can see after a year, maybe a year and 218 00:10:24,640 --> 00:10:26,800 Speaker 5: a half, after seven years with someone to say I 219 00:10:26,840 --> 00:10:28,319 Speaker 5: want to break No. 220 00:10:28,480 --> 00:10:30,640 Speaker 4: I think when you're when you start dating at eighteen 221 00:10:30,720 --> 00:10:32,600 Speaker 4: and then your mid twenties and you realize you haven't 222 00:10:32,600 --> 00:10:34,720 Speaker 4: had your independence, especially. 223 00:10:34,360 --> 00:10:35,040 Speaker 2: All break up. 224 00:10:35,120 --> 00:10:38,800 Speaker 5: Also breakup your independence and do your own thing, and 225 00:10:38,840 --> 00:10:40,840 Speaker 5: then if you happen to come back together, then you can. 226 00:10:41,160 --> 00:10:43,040 Speaker 2: But it's so celebration. 227 00:10:42,800 --> 00:10:46,440 Speaker 4: Versus a divorce. It's like, you want to selfish. I 228 00:10:46,480 --> 00:10:49,240 Speaker 4: don't think it's. I then, in my opinion, it's okay 229 00:10:49,240 --> 00:10:51,200 Speaker 4: for her to be selfish. I think it's okay to 230 00:10:51,200 --> 00:10:53,280 Speaker 4: be selfish when you're trying to make sure that this 231 00:10:53,360 --> 00:10:54,520 Speaker 4: is the person you want to be with. 232 00:10:54,640 --> 00:10:57,920 Speaker 5: Yeah, it's okay, and you're selfish for yourself, not in 233 00:10:57,960 --> 00:10:58,760 Speaker 5: a relationship. 234 00:10:58,840 --> 00:11:00,880 Speaker 2: I think that's a compromise. 235 00:11:01,160 --> 00:11:04,400 Speaker 4: I think, especially when it's two women, there's this assumption 236 00:11:04,559 --> 00:11:08,000 Speaker 4: that everyone goes to everything and there's not the separation 237 00:11:08,120 --> 00:11:09,840 Speaker 4: of like, hey, I'm going to go be with my friends. 238 00:11:09,840 --> 00:11:12,840 Speaker 4: Because when you when it's a girl thing, we're both women, 239 00:11:12,960 --> 00:11:16,280 Speaker 4: so we both really feel invited, and we're both normally 240 00:11:16,320 --> 00:11:18,600 Speaker 4: invited and so there has to be a separation of like, 241 00:11:18,640 --> 00:11:20,640 Speaker 4: these are my friends and I need time alone with 242 00:11:20,720 --> 00:11:22,960 Speaker 4: them without you, and that is. 243 00:11:23,160 --> 00:11:25,160 Speaker 2: You can do that without going on a break. 244 00:11:25,200 --> 00:11:27,679 Speaker 4: I'm saying, though it sounds like she's never had that, 245 00:11:27,760 --> 00:11:30,040 Speaker 4: and I think what she's looking for because they're talking 246 00:11:30,120 --> 00:11:32,400 Speaker 4: about getting engaged, she probably had a moment of being like, 247 00:11:33,000 --> 00:11:35,280 Speaker 4: I don't even know who I am without this person, 248 00:11:35,440 --> 00:11:37,600 Speaker 4: Like I need to be able to make sure that 249 00:11:37,679 --> 00:11:40,000 Speaker 4: this is what I want before I commit to an engagement. 250 00:11:40,040 --> 00:11:42,839 Speaker 4: I'd rather her be selfish, do what she needs to do, 251 00:11:43,200 --> 00:11:46,559 Speaker 4: have a break knowing that her person's amazing, but also 252 00:11:46,640 --> 00:11:49,600 Speaker 4: going I need to explore this for me, and then 253 00:11:50,440 --> 00:11:53,480 Speaker 4: seeing where she feels how things feel. But I think 254 00:11:53,520 --> 00:11:56,600 Speaker 4: anonymous for you, even though it's hurtful, I think you 255 00:11:56,920 --> 00:11:59,400 Speaker 4: give her the space to do it, and you also 256 00:11:59,480 --> 00:12:02,200 Speaker 4: do your own thing and and let her be. And 257 00:12:02,320 --> 00:12:04,959 Speaker 4: I think what's going to happen is she is going 258 00:12:05,000 --> 00:12:08,000 Speaker 4: to realize how wonderful you are. I remember, was it 259 00:12:08,000 --> 00:12:10,199 Speaker 4: you were Easton talking about how there was a moment 260 00:12:10,240 --> 00:12:13,400 Speaker 4: where it was like, what's the alternative of not being Yeah? 261 00:12:13,480 --> 00:12:15,680 Speaker 4: And it's like she might have that moment of going 262 00:12:15,720 --> 00:12:19,600 Speaker 4: this alternative, This alternate version of my life without you 263 00:12:19,920 --> 00:12:22,760 Speaker 4: is something I never want to experience. Or it might 264 00:12:22,800 --> 00:12:27,080 Speaker 4: be that, hey, I I'm older now, I've I'm figuring 265 00:12:27,120 --> 00:12:28,800 Speaker 4: out who I am, and I don't know if I 266 00:12:28,840 --> 00:12:31,080 Speaker 4: see us you being my person forever. 267 00:12:32,040 --> 00:12:34,120 Speaker 2: But you would rather that. 268 00:12:34,080 --> 00:12:37,959 Speaker 4: Than go through with getting engaged and then married and 269 00:12:38,000 --> 00:12:38,760 Speaker 4: then it happening. 270 00:12:38,840 --> 00:12:40,720 Speaker 1: And also the engagement might have fired up a lot 271 00:12:40,760 --> 00:12:43,120 Speaker 1: of these thoughts that the engagement talk might have also 272 00:12:43,160 --> 00:12:45,120 Speaker 1: scared her a little bit, like, oh gosh, I've been 273 00:12:45,160 --> 00:12:47,640 Speaker 1: with this person my whole life, an independent Sorry, Tony 274 00:12:47,679 --> 00:12:48,400 Speaker 1: Beck is right. 275 00:12:50,720 --> 00:12:52,600 Speaker 2: Person all it's gonna be true. 276 00:12:52,600 --> 00:12:55,679 Speaker 5: Have you heard the new Jonah Joe Jonas album I'm 277 00:12:55,720 --> 00:12:57,360 Speaker 5: Getting to be. 278 00:12:59,600 --> 00:13:01,839 Speaker 2: So we both can be right? Thank you very much. 279 00:13:01,960 --> 00:13:04,600 Speaker 5: But to me, this is selfish. I don't like it. 280 00:13:04,640 --> 00:13:06,440 Speaker 5: I don't like what she's saying. I don't like it. 281 00:13:06,720 --> 00:13:09,240 Speaker 5: I don't like stringing someone along while you go out 282 00:13:09,280 --> 00:13:11,400 Speaker 5: and have your fun and have that person just waiting there. 283 00:13:12,000 --> 00:13:13,200 Speaker 2: So I don't like it. 284 00:13:13,880 --> 00:13:16,640 Speaker 4: I think if she didn't, I don't think she's stringing 285 00:13:16,679 --> 00:13:20,000 Speaker 4: her along. I think she's giving her too. 286 00:13:20,000 --> 00:13:21,000 Speaker 2: I think she literally would. 287 00:13:21,240 --> 00:13:24,560 Speaker 4: I think she's communicating what she needs right now before 288 00:13:24,600 --> 00:13:26,800 Speaker 4: they move to the next up of their relationship. 289 00:13:26,400 --> 00:13:29,839 Speaker 1: And the happy ending still exists. Yeah, but you might 290 00:13:29,880 --> 00:13:31,520 Speaker 1: not want to put all your eggs in that basket 291 00:13:31,559 --> 00:13:34,480 Speaker 1: because you need to focus on yourself, have fun, on 292 00:13:34,520 --> 00:13:37,200 Speaker 1: your own yes, and explore who you are without them. 293 00:13:37,360 --> 00:13:39,560 Speaker 4: I think this could be a beautiful moment where you 294 00:13:39,600 --> 00:13:42,840 Speaker 4: both discover an independence that probably has gotten lost in 295 00:13:42,880 --> 00:13:46,440 Speaker 4: the last seven years. And there's going to be hard moments. 296 00:13:46,520 --> 00:13:48,680 Speaker 4: But I also and I don't think that I agree. 297 00:13:48,720 --> 00:13:51,320 Speaker 4: I don't think break taking a break means that she 298 00:13:51,440 --> 00:13:53,720 Speaker 4: needs to go and sleep around and meet other people. 299 00:13:53,720 --> 00:13:55,800 Speaker 4: I think there needs to be clear communication on what 300 00:13:56,480 --> 00:13:57,280 Speaker 4: the worst. 301 00:13:57,040 --> 00:13:59,480 Speaker 2: Anonymous should go out and hang around. 302 00:13:59,600 --> 00:14:01,640 Speaker 4: And well, no, I'm saying I don't think that's what 303 00:14:01,760 --> 00:14:03,880 Speaker 4: she her girls. 304 00:14:03,880 --> 00:14:05,400 Speaker 2: That's not what the girlfriend wants. She wants to have 305 00:14:05,440 --> 00:14:06,280 Speaker 2: her cake and eat it too. 306 00:14:06,400 --> 00:14:08,160 Speaker 4: I'm saying, I don't think she's saying she wants to 307 00:14:08,200 --> 00:14:09,280 Speaker 4: go do that exactly. 308 00:14:10,800 --> 00:14:13,040 Speaker 2: She wants to have her cake and eat it too. 309 00:14:13,360 --> 00:14:15,840 Speaker 5: Does it have her independence but know that Anonymous is 310 00:14:15,840 --> 00:14:17,600 Speaker 5: going to be right there when she's ready to be 311 00:14:17,679 --> 00:14:18,600 Speaker 5: done with her independence. 312 00:14:18,640 --> 00:14:21,920 Speaker 4: Well, I'm saying they should have clear boundaries on what 313 00:14:22,040 --> 00:14:23,440 Speaker 4: independence looks like. 314 00:14:23,600 --> 00:14:27,520 Speaker 5: Or whatever anonymous should if it's going to be a break, 315 00:14:27,520 --> 00:14:29,000 Speaker 5: we are, we are breaking. 316 00:14:29,360 --> 00:14:31,720 Speaker 4: Well that's what they need to have a conversation about. 317 00:14:32,440 --> 00:14:35,360 Speaker 4: Either you have a conversation and say I don't. I 318 00:14:35,440 --> 00:14:38,280 Speaker 4: need to know what the boundaries are for a break 319 00:14:38,400 --> 00:14:43,320 Speaker 4: versus a breakup, because those can get very fuzzy and 320 00:14:43,360 --> 00:14:45,720 Speaker 4: in the weeds, as we've seen on our beloved show 321 00:14:45,800 --> 00:14:49,880 Speaker 4: friends Ross and Rachel. And you don't want to hurt 322 00:14:50,000 --> 00:14:53,760 Speaker 4: get hurt or hurt her by not communicating that. So 323 00:14:53,800 --> 00:14:55,800 Speaker 4: I think you need to give her what she needs, 324 00:14:55,800 --> 00:14:59,160 Speaker 4: but also ask for clear communication on what that looks like. 325 00:14:59,480 --> 00:15:01,960 Speaker 1: Sure, good advice. 326 00:15:02,560 --> 00:15:07,560 Speaker 4: Wow, thank you so much. We do have a wait, 327 00:15:07,640 --> 00:15:09,560 Speaker 4: what's the update on the boudoir photos. 328 00:15:09,840 --> 00:15:10,840 Speaker 1: Well, we're gonna find out. 329 00:15:11,040 --> 00:15:14,320 Speaker 4: Oh we haven't. Someone wants an update on the boudoir photos. 330 00:15:14,320 --> 00:15:42,000 Speaker 4: Scare but we'll get to that one. We're back, all right. 331 00:15:42,080 --> 00:15:48,360 Speaker 3: Mark Kaylee says I needed an update reaction from Tanya 332 00:15:48,400 --> 00:15:51,560 Speaker 3: telling Robbie the story of their son trying to connect 333 00:15:51,600 --> 00:15:54,640 Speaker 3: to the TV while they were looking at the Boudoir photos, 334 00:15:55,000 --> 00:15:57,960 Speaker 3: listening to old episodes and just roaring at this one 335 00:15:58,200 --> 00:15:59,880 Speaker 3: love a day one scrubber. 336 00:16:01,160 --> 00:16:07,160 Speaker 5: I obviously when I gave him the photo album, I 337 00:16:07,200 --> 00:16:09,600 Speaker 5: can't remember. It probably wasn't our wedding dance. That was 338 00:16:09,600 --> 00:16:12,440 Speaker 5: probably one of the days after. But I told him 339 00:16:12,480 --> 00:16:13,840 Speaker 5: the story of how we were all up in the 340 00:16:13,920 --> 00:16:16,880 Speaker 5: room and had clouded it to the TV and I 341 00:16:16,920 --> 00:16:19,560 Speaker 5: told him how it said like connecting to his iPhone 342 00:16:19,600 --> 00:16:23,400 Speaker 5: or whatever, and he remembers it. So he remembers it vividly, 343 00:16:23,440 --> 00:16:27,080 Speaker 5: and he was like cracking up. Nothing actually happened. There 344 00:16:27,160 --> 00:16:31,000 Speaker 5: was no photos that were transferred over anywhere, so we 345 00:16:31,040 --> 00:16:31,800 Speaker 5: are in the clear. 346 00:16:31,840 --> 00:16:34,200 Speaker 2: The coast is fine. But yeah, he got a good 347 00:16:34,240 --> 00:16:34,920 Speaker 2: giggle out of it. 348 00:16:35,120 --> 00:16:37,080 Speaker 1: Nice. Yeah, And this is a good time to remind 349 00:16:37,120 --> 00:16:40,240 Speaker 1: everyone that iHeartRadio is still banned from using Dropbox because 350 00:16:40,280 --> 00:16:42,360 Speaker 1: of time. You're ad in a similar situation. 351 00:16:42,560 --> 00:16:46,400 Speaker 4: Listen, she leaves her mark everywhere she goes. 352 00:16:46,520 --> 00:16:50,520 Speaker 5: That's right, a legacy, She's a legend, indeed, Yes, no 353 00:16:50,640 --> 00:16:51,360 Speaker 5: qualms about it. 354 00:16:51,480 --> 00:16:54,320 Speaker 1: No, no, Sierra says, I'm about to in twenty seven, 355 00:16:54,360 --> 00:16:56,160 Speaker 1: I would love nothing more than to find my person. 356 00:16:56,240 --> 00:16:58,440 Speaker 1: I've resonated with how Tanya felt over the years of 357 00:16:58,520 --> 00:17:00,160 Speaker 1: waiting to find her person and doing what what ever 358 00:17:00,200 --> 00:17:02,120 Speaker 1: it takes. To get there. So I'm taking a page 359 00:17:02,120 --> 00:17:04,600 Speaker 1: out of her book and putting myself out there. If 360 00:17:04,640 --> 00:17:06,600 Speaker 1: you guys know anyone in the New York area who 361 00:17:06,640 --> 00:17:08,600 Speaker 1: would be interested, let me know. I made a post 362 00:17:08,640 --> 00:17:10,600 Speaker 1: in the Facebook group two years ago seeing if anyone 363 00:17:10,600 --> 00:17:12,600 Speaker 1: had someone they think would be a good fit. Since 364 00:17:12,640 --> 00:17:15,200 Speaker 1: my mom used to be scared of me on dating apps, 365 00:17:15,280 --> 00:17:17,640 Speaker 1: she has sent warm to the idea, but she still 366 00:17:17,640 --> 00:17:20,320 Speaker 1: thinks I'm likely to find my person through a friend referral. 367 00:17:20,680 --> 00:17:22,560 Speaker 1: I figured you guys were great friends to ask love 368 00:17:22,600 --> 00:17:25,000 Speaker 1: you all lost a hopeless romantic scrub sister. 369 00:17:27,160 --> 00:17:29,159 Speaker 5: So I guess what we need to do is if 370 00:17:29,200 --> 00:17:33,159 Speaker 5: anybody here that lives in the Greater New York area 371 00:17:33,359 --> 00:17:37,120 Speaker 5: and they have a single friend that is twenty seven 372 00:17:37,200 --> 00:17:40,280 Speaker 5: plus around twenty seven. She didn't say younger or older, 373 00:17:41,000 --> 00:17:44,760 Speaker 5: so around the age of twenty seven. Email I'm going 374 00:17:44,800 --> 00:17:47,040 Speaker 5: thirty three, twenty six to thirty three. 375 00:17:47,119 --> 00:17:48,960 Speaker 1: I think thirty three is where she'd like to end. 376 00:17:48,920 --> 00:17:50,760 Speaker 2: Up with someone. Thirty three. 377 00:17:50,920 --> 00:17:54,600 Speaker 5: Yeah, Well we're not ages here, so we're going to 378 00:17:54,640 --> 00:17:55,119 Speaker 5: give a swinging. 379 00:17:55,160 --> 00:17:57,520 Speaker 1: I've always said the guys don't really mature until they're 380 00:17:57,560 --> 00:18:03,439 Speaker 1: thirty three, six years older. It's very fast math sonya 381 00:18:04,359 --> 00:18:04,720 Speaker 1: thank you. 382 00:18:05,240 --> 00:18:07,720 Speaker 4: I okay. So I was with one of my single 383 00:18:07,760 --> 00:18:10,360 Speaker 4: friends over the weekend and she was on her date. 384 00:18:10,480 --> 00:18:13,600 Speaker 4: She was on I think it was Hinge and I 385 00:18:13,640 --> 00:18:16,879 Speaker 4: haven't seen the app or I haven't looked at a 386 00:18:16,960 --> 00:18:19,280 Speaker 4: dating app in so long, and it's so interesting, like 387 00:18:19,320 --> 00:18:21,639 Speaker 4: the prompts now, like all the pictures and like the 388 00:18:21,880 --> 00:18:24,480 Speaker 4: question prompts and like you kind have a voice memo 389 00:18:24,640 --> 00:18:29,680 Speaker 4: on there. It was these people that are on dating 390 00:18:29,680 --> 00:18:33,720 Speaker 4: apps right now are in the trenches. She was like this, 391 00:18:34,520 --> 00:18:37,920 Speaker 4: this is what it's like. And I thought, I always 392 00:18:37,960 --> 00:18:40,439 Speaker 4: hear people talking about it, and I'm like they're being 393 00:18:40,480 --> 00:18:42,560 Speaker 4: a little dramatic, like it can't be that bad. It 394 00:18:42,720 --> 00:18:46,359 Speaker 4: sounded really bad from what the brief thing I heard. 395 00:18:46,440 --> 00:18:49,600 Speaker 4: So I am really rooting for you, Sierra that you 396 00:18:49,680 --> 00:18:51,360 Speaker 4: meet through a friend referral. 397 00:18:51,359 --> 00:18:53,639 Speaker 2: But I know I love a dating app. 398 00:18:54,359 --> 00:18:57,040 Speaker 4: Yeah, but that was nearly five years ago. 399 00:18:57,480 --> 00:18:57,920 Speaker 2: Whatever. 400 00:18:58,920 --> 00:19:01,840 Speaker 4: I think it's gotten bad, yeah, worse. 401 00:19:01,920 --> 00:19:03,959 Speaker 5: I mean, here's the thing where her mom scared her 402 00:19:03,960 --> 00:19:05,840 Speaker 5: because she said she could be like chopped up or something. 403 00:19:06,200 --> 00:19:07,320 Speaker 2: Oh why don't she say. 404 00:19:08,880 --> 00:19:11,399 Speaker 4: Chopped us scared of her big un dating prefer for 405 00:19:11,440 --> 00:19:12,359 Speaker 4: her to meet someone through a. 406 00:19:12,359 --> 00:19:14,680 Speaker 5: Frien to get chopped up, saying I'm going to get 407 00:19:14,720 --> 00:19:17,120 Speaker 5: chopped up, and she'd prefer I met, say right here 408 00:19:17,240 --> 00:19:17,520 Speaker 5: and next. 409 00:19:17,760 --> 00:19:19,680 Speaker 1: Well, that's in the posto years. 410 00:19:19,680 --> 00:19:22,520 Speaker 5: So I understand the scare because there's like weirdos out there. 411 00:19:22,560 --> 00:19:24,680 Speaker 5: But if you just have fine my tell everybody where 412 00:19:24,680 --> 00:19:27,240 Speaker 5: you're going, have your friends do life three sixty. 413 00:19:27,920 --> 00:19:30,240 Speaker 4: I do think if you're the thing, if you're on 414 00:19:30,320 --> 00:19:32,359 Speaker 4: the dating apps, I do think if you're going on 415 00:19:32,440 --> 00:19:35,000 Speaker 4: dates regularly or going out, I do think life through 416 00:19:35,000 --> 00:19:36,239 Speaker 4: sixty might be the way to go. 417 00:19:36,440 --> 00:19:38,240 Speaker 2: Thank you. And again, by the. 418 00:19:38,160 --> 00:19:42,280 Speaker 1: Way, I was interviewing potential interns for the morning show 419 00:19:42,520 --> 00:19:45,159 Speaker 1: at Kiss and so it's a bunch of you know, 420 00:19:45,200 --> 00:19:47,000 Speaker 1: they're all nineteen twenty years old, and one of the 421 00:19:47,040 --> 00:19:49,159 Speaker 1: questions I asked them was about dating apps. Are you 422 00:19:49,200 --> 00:19:51,040 Speaker 1: on them? It wasn't contingent. I was just trying to 423 00:19:51,040 --> 00:19:53,840 Speaker 1: get an idea of their life, and most of them said, 424 00:19:53,880 --> 00:19:56,119 Speaker 1: I am on the dating apps more as a spectator 425 00:19:56,160 --> 00:19:58,679 Speaker 1: than an active participant, which that is interesting. It's almost 426 00:19:58,720 --> 00:20:01,520 Speaker 1: like when you're twenty, it's almost automatic that you would 427 00:20:01,560 --> 00:20:03,280 Speaker 1: have it and that you would have a profile on 428 00:20:03,320 --> 00:20:07,480 Speaker 1: it right insta Insta, but you don't really spend a 429 00:20:07,480 --> 00:20:09,000 Speaker 1: lot of time on it. You just kind of look 430 00:20:09,040 --> 00:20:10,440 Speaker 1: through it every once in a while. It doesn't seem 431 00:20:10,480 --> 00:20:12,840 Speaker 1: like people are really pursuing that, but it's kind of 432 00:20:12,880 --> 00:20:14,800 Speaker 1: standard to have it. Yeah, I thought that was interesting. 433 00:20:14,880 --> 00:20:17,159 Speaker 4: They were saying, I've read somewhere that like it's just 434 00:20:17,200 --> 00:20:19,240 Speaker 4: so not normal, Like people will be sitting in a 435 00:20:19,280 --> 00:20:21,679 Speaker 4: doctor's office waiting to go at the waiting room and 436 00:20:21,760 --> 00:20:25,200 Speaker 4: just swiping on people, And how weird that is that 437 00:20:25,200 --> 00:20:28,840 Speaker 4: that's how you're to connect. I mean, yeah, that's it's 438 00:20:28,920 --> 00:20:34,600 Speaker 4: so easy and at your fingertips. But Sierra will. 439 00:20:34,440 --> 00:20:40,360 Speaker 1: Be yeah, good luck. All right, this is anonymous. I'm 440 00:20:40,359 --> 00:20:41,879 Speaker 1: a little embarrassed to be writing this, but I know 441 00:20:41,920 --> 00:20:44,240 Speaker 1: what happens to girls all over. I need advice. I 442 00:20:44,240 --> 00:20:46,159 Speaker 1: am almost twenty nine years old. I am sitting on 443 00:20:46,200 --> 00:20:49,600 Speaker 1: my couch on Memorial Day weekend, sobbing over a man 444 00:20:49,640 --> 00:20:51,800 Speaker 1: who could not care less about me. This is a 445 00:20:51,840 --> 00:20:53,560 Speaker 1: wake up call and I need to move on, which 446 00:20:53,600 --> 00:20:56,440 Speaker 1: is easier said than done. What tips, tricks, ideas do 447 00:20:56,440 --> 00:20:57,840 Speaker 1: you have to help me move on? I want to 448 00:20:57,840 --> 00:21:00,760 Speaker 1: find myself again. Please don't suggest a girl night. I 449 00:21:00,800 --> 00:21:03,359 Speaker 1: have friends, but not a ton, and they're busy often, 450 00:21:03,400 --> 00:21:05,280 Speaker 1: so I really want ideas that I can do for 451 00:21:05,359 --> 00:21:08,320 Speaker 1: myself this summer. I'm a teacher and I only work 452 00:21:08,359 --> 00:21:10,000 Speaker 1: it up part time job doing the summer, so I 453 00:21:10,040 --> 00:21:13,320 Speaker 1: have time. Please help a broken hearted girl out. I 454 00:21:13,359 --> 00:21:15,560 Speaker 1: don't feel I don't want to feel like this anymore. 455 00:21:15,800 --> 00:21:16,800 Speaker 2: I have a quick suggestion. 456 00:21:16,960 --> 00:21:19,000 Speaker 1: Is it corn? Because I would go with you. It's 457 00:21:19,080 --> 00:21:19,800 Speaker 1: roasted corn. 458 00:21:20,960 --> 00:21:21,880 Speaker 2: No, Mark, I'm. 459 00:21:21,680 --> 00:21:26,159 Speaker 5: Taking this seriously for anonymous. All right, there's this like 460 00:21:26,200 --> 00:21:30,200 Speaker 5: TikTok trend right now that's like the ten ten ten whatever. 461 00:21:31,040 --> 00:21:32,640 Speaker 2: I have been doing it, but I've been doing five 462 00:21:32,720 --> 00:21:33,480 Speaker 2: five five. 463 00:21:33,560 --> 00:21:35,639 Speaker 4: What is it? Explain it to those who don't know. 464 00:21:35,760 --> 00:21:38,199 Speaker 5: So for those that don't know, I'm up on the trends. 465 00:21:38,800 --> 00:21:41,159 Speaker 5: It's five things you're grateful for, five things that you 466 00:21:41,200 --> 00:21:44,480 Speaker 5: want to manifest in five affirmations. And I do it 467 00:21:44,560 --> 00:21:46,920 Speaker 5: every single day. And this like I got like a little. 468 00:21:46,680 --> 00:21:47,919 Speaker 4: Wide for the five minute Journal. 469 00:21:48,840 --> 00:21:49,520 Speaker 2: No, it's a journal. 470 00:21:49,600 --> 00:21:51,159 Speaker 5: It's like a journal, like a why it's like a 471 00:21:51,280 --> 00:21:53,919 Speaker 5: it's a it's like a notebook you'd buy for school 472 00:21:53,920 --> 00:21:54,280 Speaker 5: for kids. 473 00:21:54,359 --> 00:21:56,199 Speaker 4: I know that five minute journal. Those are the prompts. 474 00:21:56,280 --> 00:21:57,960 Speaker 2: No, so this is not the five Minute Journal. 475 00:21:58,000 --> 00:22:01,440 Speaker 4: It sounds like they just took it from the well there's. 476 00:22:01,240 --> 00:22:01,960 Speaker 2: A ten ten ten. 477 00:22:02,080 --> 00:22:04,159 Speaker 5: I just chopped it down because ten felt like a 478 00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:06,879 Speaker 5: lot for me. So I'm doing five, five, five, and 479 00:22:06,920 --> 00:22:08,480 Speaker 5: I've been doing it every single day. I think I 480 00:22:08,480 --> 00:22:12,119 Speaker 5: started May twenty first, and I had not let a 481 00:22:12,200 --> 00:22:15,119 Speaker 5: day go by without doing it. And I'm loving it. 482 00:22:15,160 --> 00:22:18,760 Speaker 5: I'm already feeling like a shift in my mood, a 483 00:22:18,800 --> 00:22:19,880 Speaker 5: shift in my spirit. 484 00:22:20,320 --> 00:22:20,800 Speaker 2: I love it. 485 00:22:20,800 --> 00:22:22,560 Speaker 5: I think it's something easy that you could do on 486 00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:24,440 Speaker 5: a daily basis to kind of get you into a 487 00:22:24,440 --> 00:22:25,240 Speaker 5: different headspace. 488 00:22:25,560 --> 00:22:27,800 Speaker 1: Five things you want to manifest every day. That seems 489 00:22:27,840 --> 00:22:28,879 Speaker 1: like a lot you can. 490 00:22:28,760 --> 00:22:31,160 Speaker 5: Repeat, you know, to do five different things you want 491 00:22:31,160 --> 00:22:33,400 Speaker 5: to manifest, but different iterations of it. And like things 492 00:22:33,400 --> 00:22:35,040 Speaker 5: pop up daily that like when I do things I'm 493 00:22:35,080 --> 00:22:37,560 Speaker 5: grateful for, Like the day after we got our coffee machine, 494 00:22:37,600 --> 00:22:39,280 Speaker 5: I was so grateful for my new coffee machine, you 495 00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:41,240 Speaker 5: know what I mean? Yeah, Like things pop up daily. 496 00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:42,399 Speaker 1: I when to get rid of it. You're gonna be 497 00:22:42,440 --> 00:22:43,600 Speaker 1: grateful to have the space. 498 00:22:43,440 --> 00:22:46,720 Speaker 5: Pace back exactly exactly, but the grateful for you would 499 00:22:46,760 --> 00:22:48,960 Speaker 5: be surprised how many things you're grateful for when you're 500 00:22:48,960 --> 00:22:49,640 Speaker 5: doing five a day. 501 00:22:50,359 --> 00:22:53,680 Speaker 4: I I feel like I was thinking about Becca Moore 502 00:22:53,760 --> 00:22:58,040 Speaker 4: because she has been very public in posting about her breakup, 503 00:22:58,280 --> 00:23:02,919 Speaker 4: and she really started leaning in because she was so sad, 504 00:23:03,000 --> 00:23:06,199 Speaker 4: and she started leaning into making herself better. So she 505 00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:09,240 Speaker 4: started going to like workout classes, and she she was 506 00:23:09,320 --> 00:23:12,160 Speaker 4: never someone who liked workout classes, so she was very 507 00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:15,320 Speaker 4: intimidated by it at first. And so she started doing that, 508 00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:18,000 Speaker 4: and then she started taking acting classes, and because she 509 00:23:18,040 --> 00:23:20,720 Speaker 4: had always thought about wanting to do that and just 510 00:23:20,840 --> 00:23:25,800 Speaker 4: never felt inspired or like motivated enough to do it. 511 00:23:25,840 --> 00:23:28,760 Speaker 4: And it's something that she's just like love that's brought 512 00:23:28,760 --> 00:23:30,639 Speaker 4: so many new people into her life. So I was 513 00:23:30,680 --> 00:23:33,280 Speaker 4: gonna say, maybe find something that you've always wanted to 514 00:23:33,280 --> 00:23:35,200 Speaker 4: do and lean into it. I was also I see 515 00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:38,200 Speaker 4: people like fostering dogs and cats, like just for the day, 516 00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:40,200 Speaker 4: taking them on walks and giving them a day out 517 00:23:40,200 --> 00:23:43,159 Speaker 4: of the what the foster? 518 00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:44,919 Speaker 2: Yeah yeah yeah. 519 00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:45,920 Speaker 4: And I also. 520 00:23:45,720 --> 00:23:49,520 Speaker 5: Think decluttering and cleaning your house, like decluttering every single 521 00:23:49,560 --> 00:23:52,200 Speaker 5: corner of your house, making space, like cleaning out space 522 00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:54,080 Speaker 5: in your closet, leaving space for your future. 523 00:23:54,119 --> 00:23:56,080 Speaker 2: Has been leaving space for your. 524 00:23:56,280 --> 00:23:58,920 Speaker 5: Like leaving a drawer for them, like get like allowing 525 00:23:59,000 --> 00:24:01,760 Speaker 5: space in your place new love to come in that 526 00:24:01,840 --> 00:24:02,880 Speaker 5: could be very therapeutic. 527 00:24:02,920 --> 00:24:04,280 Speaker 2: That really was therapeutic for me. 528 00:24:04,800 --> 00:24:09,600 Speaker 4: But your email immediately made me think of Kate Winslet 529 00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:12,720 Speaker 4: in The Holiday when she loves the guy from work 530 00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:15,200 Speaker 4: and he just basically uses her to help him write 531 00:24:15,800 --> 00:24:19,120 Speaker 4: or do work stuff, and then she's having to get 532 00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:23,480 Speaker 4: over this person that never had love for her. And 533 00:24:23,520 --> 00:24:26,720 Speaker 4: then she goes and she does the house swap and 534 00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:30,160 Speaker 4: does something totally out of her comfort zone and ends 535 00:24:30,240 --> 00:24:33,480 Speaker 4: up making like these lifelong friendships and whatever. But it 536 00:24:33,520 --> 00:24:36,040 Speaker 4: made me feel like how she had to do something 537 00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:40,040 Speaker 4: really uncomfortable to find like the best part of her life, 538 00:24:40,200 --> 00:24:42,720 Speaker 4: you know, the best season of her life. So just 539 00:24:42,760 --> 00:24:45,080 Speaker 4: to remind her that it might feel uncomfortable to do 540 00:24:45,119 --> 00:24:47,320 Speaker 4: new things and try new things, but it could lead 541 00:24:47,359 --> 00:24:51,080 Speaker 4: you to the best people or parts of your life 542 00:24:51,080 --> 00:24:51,720 Speaker 4: that are to come. 543 00:24:51,960 --> 00:24:56,920 Speaker 1: Amen, preach, all right, we have a fun one coming 544 00:24:57,040 --> 00:24:57,440 Speaker 1: up next. 545 00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:21,600 Speaker 4: All right, we are back. We love to end with 546 00:25:21,720 --> 00:25:23,560 Speaker 4: a fun write in. 547 00:25:25,560 --> 00:25:28,200 Speaker 1: This is from Annie. This is very funny. Hello, Becka, Tanya, 548 00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:30,040 Speaker 1: Mark and East and I saw this fun video where 549 00:25:30,040 --> 00:25:32,120 Speaker 1: they were talking about things that are embarrassing that really 550 00:25:32,160 --> 00:25:35,080 Speaker 1: shouldn't be embarrassing, and I thought it would be fun 551 00:25:35,080 --> 00:25:37,080 Speaker 1: to hear what you all find to be embarrassing that 552 00:25:37,119 --> 00:25:38,879 Speaker 1: shouldn't be. I feel like Becha will be able to 553 00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:41,040 Speaker 1: relate to this one. But I think Tanya owns everything 554 00:25:41,080 --> 00:25:44,520 Speaker 1: she does and doesn't get embarrassed. Mine is when my 555 00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:47,680 Speaker 1: windshield wipers are on high, especially if it's that rating 556 00:25:47,720 --> 00:25:49,920 Speaker 1: too hard in my car only has two settings, super 557 00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:51,960 Speaker 1: slow and super fast, and I feel like an idiot. 558 00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:58,480 Speaker 1: Some others are being sung Happy Birthday too, trying to 559 00:25:58,520 --> 00:26:01,520 Speaker 1: find the bathroom in a restaurant hunt, turning around and 560 00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:04,000 Speaker 1: walking back in the direction you just came from, or 561 00:26:04,080 --> 00:26:06,800 Speaker 1: walking back to your seat after taking your turn. It bowling. 562 00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:09,400 Speaker 4: I literally was gonna say the bowling one. 563 00:26:09,560 --> 00:26:14,080 Speaker 6: I hate that feeling because it's like, even if you 564 00:26:14,119 --> 00:26:17,600 Speaker 6: get a strike, you turn around and everyone's either no 565 00:26:17,640 --> 00:26:20,240 Speaker 6: one's paying attention because everyone's talking to each other, or 566 00:26:20,280 --> 00:26:22,000 Speaker 6: they're like yeah, and it's. 567 00:26:21,920 --> 00:26:23,480 Speaker 1: Just either way all chord. 568 00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:27,880 Speaker 4: There's an awkward element to it. Also, like when you're 569 00:26:27,880 --> 00:26:30,679 Speaker 4: in a big group and you don't know where anyone parks, 570 00:26:30,680 --> 00:26:32,879 Speaker 4: so everyone says bye and then everyone starts walking the 571 00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:35,680 Speaker 4: same way. I'm just like we just did a whole 572 00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:38,639 Speaker 4: hug everyone. Do I hug them again? 573 00:26:41,200 --> 00:26:42,720 Speaker 2: I don't find any of this embarrassing. 574 00:26:42,840 --> 00:26:46,040 Speaker 4: Yeah, that's what she said. It's like you don't experience 575 00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:46,600 Speaker 4: this feeling. 576 00:26:46,840 --> 00:26:48,679 Speaker 2: I don't think I do. I'm trying to think, like 577 00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:49,720 Speaker 2: on my daily. 578 00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:52,119 Speaker 4: When people seeing happy birthday to me, I really feel 579 00:26:52,119 --> 00:26:53,600 Speaker 4: that too. I get that. 580 00:26:53,720 --> 00:26:55,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't mind that. I think tany and are 581 00:26:55,560 --> 00:26:57,320 Speaker 1: similar like that. Like I'm the one that doesn't care 582 00:26:57,320 --> 00:26:59,520 Speaker 1: what anybody thinks for my wife and my daughters very 583 00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:01,240 Speaker 1: much care with other people think as much as I 584 00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:03,119 Speaker 1: preach to them. How silly that is. But there is 585 00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:06,719 Speaker 1: something that happened this morning, and so we have a 586 00:27:06,720 --> 00:27:09,280 Speaker 1: couple of bathroom options here on this end of the hallway. 587 00:27:09,440 --> 00:27:11,040 Speaker 1: One of them is just a single bathroom, and I 588 00:27:11,080 --> 00:27:12,639 Speaker 1: prefer that one because I don't like to be in 589 00:27:12,680 --> 00:27:16,000 Speaker 1: a room with other people doing their business, right But 590 00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:17,760 Speaker 1: that's not working right now. So I have to be 591 00:27:17,840 --> 00:27:19,399 Speaker 1: in the room with other people doing their business, and 592 00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:21,560 Speaker 1: there is always someone in there doing their business, and 593 00:27:21,600 --> 00:27:22,439 Speaker 1: it drives me crazy. 594 00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:23,160 Speaker 4: It's crazy. 595 00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:25,720 Speaker 1: It's crazy. I was this is this morning. I was 596 00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:28,359 Speaker 1: one hundred percent. Every time I went in there, somebody was. 597 00:27:28,640 --> 00:27:30,919 Speaker 1: Every time I'm in there to stand, someone else is 598 00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:33,720 Speaker 1: in there to sit, and you can hear everything and 599 00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:37,119 Speaker 1: it's so awkward. But here's what was awkward to me today. 600 00:27:37,320 --> 00:27:41,160 Speaker 1: I was washing my hands after standing, and the guy 601 00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:43,960 Speaker 1: that was sitting comes out of the bathroom and wants 602 00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:45,520 Speaker 1: to talk to me, like, I don't want to talk 603 00:27:45,560 --> 00:27:48,520 Speaker 1: to you. I heard you doing those things. I am 604 00:27:48,560 --> 00:27:51,120 Speaker 1: so embarrassed right now, and I don't even know why 605 00:27:51,200 --> 00:27:53,920 Speaker 1: I'm not. You're doing the embarrassing thing I'm not, and 606 00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:57,400 Speaker 1: yet I am mortified. I don't want to be here 607 00:27:57,440 --> 00:27:58,400 Speaker 1: talking to you right now. 608 00:27:59,080 --> 00:28:05,800 Speaker 4: I would feel absolutely uncomfortable myself. Tanya, unfortunately, would be 609 00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:09,919 Speaker 4: the one trying to talk after doing the things with Probably. 610 00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:16,680 Speaker 5: True if somebody is in my stall and uh no, no, no, 611 00:28:16,760 --> 00:28:18,520 Speaker 5: if somebody's in my stall that I like to use 612 00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:21,640 Speaker 5: in the rest, even if they're even if they're doing 613 00:28:21,680 --> 00:28:24,040 Speaker 5: their business, I will wait for that stall to open 614 00:28:24,680 --> 00:28:25,560 Speaker 5: because it's my stall. 615 00:28:26,080 --> 00:28:27,760 Speaker 1: How many stalls are in there, Sure they feel very 616 00:28:27,800 --> 00:28:31,680 Speaker 1: awkward standing there. 617 00:28:31,840 --> 00:28:35,040 Speaker 4: You probably stare through the cracks like stare. They probably 618 00:28:35,040 --> 00:28:38,680 Speaker 4: just see her like one eye staring to the crowd. Also, 619 00:28:38,760 --> 00:28:41,560 Speaker 4: did you know other countries like people that come to America, 620 00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:44,560 Speaker 4: they say that the the space in our bathroom is 621 00:28:44,600 --> 00:28:48,200 Speaker 4: like so strange, like, but why do we have this? 622 00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:50,000 Speaker 1: I don't know. They're right, it's ludicrous. 623 00:28:50,080 --> 00:28:52,360 Speaker 4: And sometimes they're really wide. I'm like, I could see 624 00:28:52,400 --> 00:28:57,240 Speaker 4: someone's whole body show. 625 00:28:57,440 --> 00:28:59,680 Speaker 1: Some airports don't even have doors on those things. Like, 626 00:28:59,720 --> 00:29:01,000 Speaker 1: it's really unpleasant. 627 00:29:01,520 --> 00:29:03,920 Speaker 4: We the women's restaurant typically. 628 00:29:07,520 --> 00:29:10,000 Speaker 1: There. But so wait a second. How many stalls are 629 00:29:10,040 --> 00:29:13,120 Speaker 1: in that bathroom? Four and the only one you will. 630 00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:16,320 Speaker 2: Use unless yes, why it's my favorite? 631 00:29:16,520 --> 00:29:18,360 Speaker 1: Is it the big one? Is it the big Handicaan stall? 632 00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:20,560 Speaker 2: The very first one to the left. 633 00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:22,520 Speaker 1: But what's wrong with the other ones? 634 00:29:24,040 --> 00:29:27,560 Speaker 5: Usually the trash cans are like locked, or there's like 635 00:29:28,000 --> 00:29:31,680 Speaker 5: p on the seats. There's little trash cans in every 636 00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:34,040 Speaker 5: stall for us that there are tampons and feminine products 637 00:29:34,040 --> 00:29:35,880 Speaker 5: the way, thank you very much. A lot of them 638 00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:38,040 Speaker 5: are locked, so it's annoying. So it's like slide your 639 00:29:38,080 --> 00:29:41,280 Speaker 5: stuff through. It's very uncomfortable. I just like that one. 640 00:29:42,520 --> 00:29:45,160 Speaker 1: But but wouldn't wouldn't it be more polite to just 641 00:29:45,320 --> 00:29:47,600 Speaker 1: use another one rather than stand there and the person 642 00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:49,960 Speaker 1: knows you're standing there waiting for them. I was in 643 00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:52,400 Speaker 1: the stall, be like, what is wrong with this person? 644 00:29:52,560 --> 00:29:56,000 Speaker 1: There are three other empty stalls. I'd be so annoyed. 645 00:29:56,120 --> 00:29:58,880 Speaker 4: Oh, I thought of another one. Walking, you know in 646 00:29:58,960 --> 00:30:02,680 Speaker 4: your movie theaters is like you don't have a your 647 00:30:02,800 --> 00:30:04,320 Speaker 4: the exits on the other side, so you have to 648 00:30:04,360 --> 00:30:08,160 Speaker 4: walk in for the whole theater. I hate that. 649 00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:09,160 Speaker 2: But you have to do it. 650 00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:10,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, you do. 651 00:30:10,160 --> 00:30:13,480 Speaker 4: And it's not cozy because. 652 00:30:13,720 --> 00:30:15,400 Speaker 1: Like even when you have to get up and sneak 653 00:30:15,440 --> 00:30:18,320 Speaker 1: past people on an airplane, or. 654 00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:21,840 Speaker 4: Like at a at a stadium where you're like need 655 00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:24,480 Speaker 4: to chair and you have to ask everyone and either 656 00:30:24,520 --> 00:30:26,520 Speaker 4: they have to stand up or turn to the side, 657 00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:28,880 Speaker 4: and then you have to decide am I going front 658 00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:29,960 Speaker 4: or back to their face? 659 00:30:30,240 --> 00:30:32,360 Speaker 1: My jingles are my butt in your face? Which is 660 00:30:32,440 --> 00:30:35,640 Speaker 1: going to be yeah, but always but the. 661 00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:38,600 Speaker 2: Rule, I think that's what I uctually do. I don't know. 662 00:30:41,880 --> 00:30:44,000 Speaker 4: Yeah, I. 663 00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:47,920 Speaker 1: Don't like being on elevators with people. 664 00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:50,240 Speaker 4: Yeah, but that's awkward. 665 00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:54,959 Speaker 1: It's awkward. Weird conversation or which is also awkward. It's 666 00:30:55,000 --> 00:30:59,160 Speaker 1: all awkward. If I get here in the morning and 667 00:30:59,240 --> 00:31:01,840 Speaker 1: I park and I see somebody else parking that I 668 00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:04,520 Speaker 1: know is on the fifth floor where we are, I 669 00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:07,720 Speaker 1: do everything I can to get to that elevator enough 670 00:31:07,760 --> 00:31:09,560 Speaker 1: before them that I don't have to hold the door 671 00:31:10,400 --> 00:31:12,640 Speaker 1: because they will head to the stairs. If they head 672 00:31:12,680 --> 00:31:14,560 Speaker 1: to the elevator, I'll go to the stairs and I'll 673 00:31:14,600 --> 00:31:18,400 Speaker 1: sprint because I do not want to go off the elevator. 674 00:31:18,400 --> 00:31:20,680 Speaker 4: With that, I think they're more like me and Nanny 675 00:31:20,880 --> 00:31:29,520 Speaker 4: than your Yeah, I like that, man. I could probably 676 00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:32,920 Speaker 4: think of a lot of those live we. 677 00:31:32,840 --> 00:31:35,280 Speaker 2: Do live, try and live unapologetically. 678 00:31:35,600 --> 00:31:44,479 Speaker 4: It's still unapologetically anyways. That's all for today, folks, but 679 00:31:44,680 --> 00:31:48,760 Speaker 4: we will be back on Monday, Monday Funday. We've had 680 00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:51,760 Speaker 4: a lot of Tuesday episodes lately, so don't you worry. 681 00:31:51,800 --> 00:31:55,080 Speaker 4: We will return on a Monday starting next week. Yes, 682 00:31:55,680 --> 00:31:57,600 Speaker 4: we love you, somebody love you. Bye.