WEBVTT - Moms Acting Crazy During Rush!

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Dirty Rush, The Truth about Sorority Life with

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<v Speaker 1>your hosts me Gia, Judice.

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<v Speaker 2>Davy Kent and Jennifer Fessler.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi, you guys, welcome back to another episode of Dirty Rush.

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<v Speaker 3>I am Jen Fessler, and today we're jumping into part

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<v Speaker 3>two of.

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<v Speaker 2>Moms Gone Wild.

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<v Speaker 3>So this time we're actually talking about moms in a

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<v Speaker 3>little bit of a different way. What lengths will moms

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<v Speaker 3>go to in order to get their daughter into the

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<v Speaker 3>top sorority. I'm a little scared of this episode, you guys.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm scared of thinking back and thinking what did I

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<v Speaker 3>do to try to help Rachel get into the right sororities?

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<v Speaker 2>So I just.

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<v Speaker 3>Remember Rush costing me a lot of money, too much money,

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<v Speaker 3>and not feeling like I could really say no to Rachel.

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<v Speaker 3>But she, you know, did not want the sorority that

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<v Speaker 3>I was in A five, so I didn't really there

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<v Speaker 3>was no strings I could pull there. But let's talk

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<v Speaker 3>to some girls who did have moms either pull strings

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<v Speaker 3>or maybe you know, do we're a little bit extra

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<v Speaker 3>in terms of helping their daughters get in to top sororities.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, let's bring in Page.

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<v Speaker 4>Hi High, Page, Hi, how are you.

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<v Speaker 2>I am very well. Thank you.

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<v Speaker 3>My middle name is Paige, and I I know I

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<v Speaker 3>wish it was my first name.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh my god, that's amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>Same page. Yes, thank you for joining us here a

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<v Speaker 2>dirty rush.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, thank you for having me.

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<v Speaker 5>So my story is a little bit interesting. So I

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<v Speaker 5>was on a recruitment team for a school in Arizona,

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<v Speaker 5>and at this school, the moms definitely went a little

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<v Speaker 5>bit wild when it came time for their daughters to

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<v Speaker 5>go through recruitment. So we would often as recruitment team,

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<v Speaker 5>actually get gifts from the mom's for example, cookies, brownies, popsicles, stickers,

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<v Speaker 5>and not only were they just gifts, but the gifts

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<v Speaker 5>had their child's name and face printed on them. Come on,

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<v Speaker 5>so they would literally let's stout out the houses.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, literally, crazy thing.

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<v Speaker 5>Ever, they would scout off the houses during work week,

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<v Speaker 5>like the week before rush, and whenever they had like

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<v Speaker 5>they thought like a split second to like if someone

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<v Speaker 5>were to be walking out, they would run out of

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<v Speaker 5>their cars with all of these gifts and be like,

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<v Speaker 5>oh my god, yeah, like my daughter kate Lee, for example,

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<v Speaker 5>is so excited to come see your house hopefully next week.

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<v Speaker 6>Like here's page.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna puke a little bit in my mouth. Yea, yes,

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<v Speaker 2>did your mother do this? Because I'm gonna feel bad.

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<v Speaker 4>Talking absolutely not. My mother would never in a million years.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, because I am going to throw up a little bit.

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<v Speaker 3>You're telling me this is a true story. Yeah, actually

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<v Speaker 3>try to give you gifts to yeah, grow under the

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<v Speaker 3>category of get a life.

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<v Speaker 7>Get a life please.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, it was just like the craziest thing. Like it

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<v Speaker 5>wasn't even like the kids themselves. It was literally the

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<v Speaker 5>moms that were like just so excited and honestly like

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<v Speaker 5>not even like ashamed of it, which I thought was

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<v Speaker 5>the craziest thing ever. And then like as a recruitment team,

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<v Speaker 5>like we were not to be accepting these gifts like

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<v Speaker 5>at all, right, so we'd kind of like just take

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<v Speaker 5>it and then like literally throw it away.

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<v Speaker 4>And if anything, it was like weird, like we were not.

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<v Speaker 2>Like happy, uncomfortable. I mean, did blew into the way you.

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<v Speaker 3>Like looked at the recruits Like I think it.

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<v Speaker 5>Like kind of like subconsciously, yeah, because like your literal

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<v Speaker 5>mom is here trying to like buy us these two

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<v Speaker 5>dollars brownies and bunkcakes.

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<v Speaker 4>This is so so desperate.

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<v Speaker 2>Like awful craziest thing. Yeah, yeah, so funny.

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<v Speaker 3>When I talk to you guys, I always feel so

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<v Speaker 3>much better about my parenting.

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<v Speaker 4>Absolutely right.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't give anyone.

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<v Speaker 3>I'd never gave anybody a gift, right, literally the weird

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<v Speaker 3>maybe teachers back in elementary school. I don't know, but yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>good Christmas. That's weird, and wha could.

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<v Speaker 4>Do so weird? Honest thing I've ever seen.

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<v Speaker 8>Did happen a lot, uh honestly, like more than you

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<v Speaker 8>would expect, like the vast majority Like no, but there

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<v Speaker 8>was definitely like a pretty big group of uh like

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<v Speaker 8>new members that were buying gifts and bringing.

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<v Speaker 2>I wonder if their daughters even knew about it.

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<v Speaker 4>That is, honestly probably not right.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I mean I don't know if I've ever told

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<v Speaker 3>daughter I was going to drop off a gift to

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<v Speaker 3>the recruitment chair. I can't even imagine.

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<v Speaker 7>No, I would.

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<v Speaker 4>Know that you're making this verse for.

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<v Speaker 3>Me, and also like have a little faith in me, mom,

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<v Speaker 3>like I don't bribe people like total me, then maybe

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<v Speaker 3>I don't belong there.

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<v Speaker 4>Totally craziest thing.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, well that's a really good story page. Thank you

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<v Speaker 3>so much for coming on.

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<v Speaker 7>Thank you appreciate it.

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<v Speaker 2>Love that name.

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<v Speaker 7>Thanks bye bye.

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<v Speaker 6>Hi Hi Sarah, Hi down. I'm a huge fan. I

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<v Speaker 6>love O vees.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, oh my god, that's so nice.

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<v Speaker 6>Thank you so much, making queen, I loved you.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't really work, but I tried, all right.

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<v Speaker 3>So, Sarah, you are an SMU girly.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, I am as you are, all right.

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<v Speaker 3>So tell us a little bit about crazy moms at SMU.

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<v Speaker 2>What did they do?

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<v Speaker 9>Oh well, let me tell you. Majority of the girls'

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<v Speaker 9>moms got them what we call a rush coat.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh god, we did this. Yep, Sarah, we did a

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<v Speaker 3>whole episode in this. When we first started the pod,

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<v Speaker 3>it was well, I'm sorry, I don't mean to cut

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<v Speaker 3>you off. My opinion on it was was pretty harsh,

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<v Speaker 3>but please go on.

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<v Speaker 9>Well, basically, these moms would pay lots of money for

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<v Speaker 9>their daughters to get sort of trained on what to

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<v Speaker 9>say during SMU rush, which I don't know if you know,

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<v Speaker 9>is a really.

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<v Speaker 6>Really difficult experience.

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah, and these coaches would sort of train you on

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<v Speaker 9>what to say, what not to say, almost like these

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<v Speaker 9>girls were reading a script rather than you know, having

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<v Speaker 9>a genuine conversation. I want to say about you know,

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<v Speaker 9>fifty percent of the girls all got a rust coach.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I don't know. We spoke to these coaches. They

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<v Speaker 3>charged thousands of dollars, thousands, not hundreds, thousands, right, Oh yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>And I felt kind of badly because, you know, speaking

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<v Speaker 3>to the actual coaches, they you know, they felt good

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<v Speaker 3>about what they were doing, as they should, and they

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<v Speaker 3>felt like it was almost like preparing for a job interview.

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<v Speaker 2>And they really helped these girls.

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<v Speaker 3>So, you know, I hate to be judge, but I

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<v Speaker 3>tend to be judge, So I don't know. I just

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<v Speaker 3>I would say, like if my kid asked me for

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<v Speaker 3>thousands of dollars for a rush coach, I think I

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<v Speaker 3>would say, well, I don't think rushing is for you

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<v Speaker 3>if you're if we're that desperate that we have to

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<v Speaker 3>spend thousands of dollars to get someone to tell us

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<v Speaker 3>what to say and what to wear, maybe not so

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<v Speaker 3>much exactly.

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<v Speaker 9>And you know, for the other fifty percent of the girls,

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<v Speaker 9>you know who didn't have a rush coach, I almost

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<v Speaker 9>felt like their experience was way more fun.

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<v Speaker 6>They met really people, they were a lot more open.

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<v Speaker 9>I feel like the idea of how the rush coach

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<v Speaker 9>was almost pressure, A.

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<v Speaker 6>Lot more pressure, for sure.

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<v Speaker 2>And could you tell you think like when someone had

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<v Speaker 2>a coach and when they didn't.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh for sure?

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<v Speaker 9>Really why just because it was, like like I said earlier,

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<v Speaker 9>it was almost like talking to someone who had like

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<v Speaker 9>a script in the back of their mind, right there

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<v Speaker 9>is going off you know what you know.

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<v Speaker 6>This brush coach told them to say, rather.

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<v Speaker 3>Than you know, having an actual conversation, right right, Wow,

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<v Speaker 3>listen again. I mean, I try in life not to

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<v Speaker 3>be judging, but I find myself in this context.

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<v Speaker 2>I just I spent thousands.

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<v Speaker 3>Of dollars for college tutors and essay t prep and

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<v Speaker 3>all of that, but it feels to me like there's

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<v Speaker 3>something that is just wrong about someone to tell your

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<v Speaker 3>kid how to act like right, and it's a little much.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Yeah, we're on the same page with that. Definitely

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<v Speaker 2>that we are. Well.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you so much for coming on and sharing with us, Sarah,

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<v Speaker 3>appreciate you, luck with everything, Thank.

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<v Speaker 7>You love.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, guys, So next we have Gemma.

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<v Speaker 6>Hi, Gemma, Hi, thank you so much for having me.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you for coming to Dirty Rush.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so my story about Mom's Gone Wild doesn't have

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<v Speaker 1>to do with my own mom.

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<v Speaker 6>My mom is really not a helicopter parent.

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<v Speaker 1>She was pretty chill about grades and getting and she

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<v Speaker 1>just wanted me to go, like to the best school

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<v Speaker 1>that I wanted to get into. Was never intense intense, right,

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<v Speaker 1>but she was not And with the whole sorority thing.

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<v Speaker 1>She was in greek life, but she wasn't super pushy

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<v Speaker 1>about me being in greek life or not. Like my

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<v Speaker 1>sister dropped out of sorority sophomore year and she was

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<v Speaker 1>totally fine with it. Like she just always kind of

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<v Speaker 1>wanted us to do our own thing and be happy

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<v Speaker 1>with whatever her choices.

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<v Speaker 9>Was.

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<v Speaker 2>Love that.

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<v Speaker 1>But during college I tutored for this pretty well off

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<v Speaker 1>in elite LA family that had very high expectations and

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<v Speaker 1>the mom was definitely like manager of the house and

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<v Speaker 1>particularly was very invested in her daughter and her daughter

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<v Speaker 1>getting into certain.

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<v Speaker 6>Colleges, the best colleges she could get into.

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<v Speaker 2>You were tutoring this is while you were in college.

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<v Speaker 6>While I was in college. So I went to school in.

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<v Speaker 2>La Okay, so Okay got it, and.

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<v Speaker 1>I tutored her throughout her like high school year. So

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<v Speaker 1>I started when I was a freshman and she she

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<v Speaker 1>was a sophomore. So by the time I was a senior.

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<v Speaker 1>She was in her freshman year at USC Okay, and

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<v Speaker 1>this mom I tutored her throughout, like with writing, reading,

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<v Speaker 1>helped her with her college essays, like I any at

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<v Speaker 1>a moment's notice, my mom would call me and I

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<v Speaker 1>would hop on a zoom and help her daughter with anything.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, they paid me a very pretty penny.

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<v Speaker 2>I was gonna say, I hope they paid you well, Okay.

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<v Speaker 6>Very well.

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<v Speaker 1>But I was pretty much on at their disposal all

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<v Speaker 1>the time. And then I was heavily involved in my

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<v Speaker 1>sorority and she she eventually got into USC, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was very heavily involved in recruitment at my school at

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<v Speaker 1>UCLA and she so I didn't have anything to do

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<v Speaker 1>with USC, but I coached her through her. Like the

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<v Speaker 1>next best thing after getting into college was that the

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<v Speaker 1>mom really wanted her daughter to get into a good sorority.

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<v Speaker 6>So she was like, do anything you can.

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<v Speaker 2>Was a daughter that into it or was it more

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<v Speaker 2>than mother?

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<v Speaker 1>I think like she definitely was. She definitely really wanted to,

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<v Speaker 1>especially at a school like USC where it's pretty high pressure.

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<v Speaker 6>And I think the social just social life at US.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's just like at another tier, you've just

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<v Speaker 1>just like a lot of wealth, and there's a lot

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<v Speaker 1>like Greek life is very intense there.

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<v Speaker 6>They're very into their alumni.

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<v Speaker 1>And writ their sports and so it's just like at

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<v Speaker 1>another level that I don't think usc Are UCLA operates on.

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<v Speaker 8>Right.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think that she wanted it, but I think

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<v Speaker 1>the mom wanted it more. Okay, And she was like,

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<v Speaker 1>take her through zoom lessons, tell her what she needs

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<v Speaker 1>to say, what would get her into a sorority? What

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<v Speaker 1>is what does she need to have her Instagram? Look like,

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<v Speaker 1>what are the outfits? I'll pay whatever. We just want

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<v Speaker 1>to get this done.

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<v Speaker 2>I ask you.

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<v Speaker 3>You you don't have to, you don't have to tell us,

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<v Speaker 3>but I'm gonna ask anyway, Like what were you getting

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<v Speaker 3>paid an hour for this bullshit?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna reveal, but it was upwards it was

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<v Speaker 1>like more than anyone.

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<v Speaker 2>Makes, Like was it over fifty dollars an hour?

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<v Speaker 6>It was upwards of fifty dollars an hour.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, Wow, I'll take that job if you know.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, And it was very nice as like a broke college.

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<v Speaker 2>Kid who no doubt.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So, and I grew very close with this family, very

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<v Speaker 1>close to the daughter, and I still am I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>like necessarily agree with the tactics there. I just think

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<v Speaker 1>like it's just very different from how I was raising,

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<v Speaker 1>how my mom operated, But there were different expectations there

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<v Speaker 1>and just a different Yeah I feel like caliber, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>but yeah, so I like coached her through or talked

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<v Speaker 1>to her through her rush experience each night.

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<v Speaker 6>We talk after each.

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<v Speaker 1>Round, and it ended up that at the end of it,

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<v Speaker 1>she didn't end up getting down to some houses that

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<v Speaker 1>she wanted, and I kind of had I had a

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<v Speaker 1>heavy role in my recruitment process.

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<v Speaker 2>No, no, I just know where this is going.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay that the mom kind of indirectly asked me if

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<v Speaker 1>there was anything that I could do to call over,

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<v Speaker 1>like just not sorority, not an other sorority, but in

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<v Speaker 1>my sorority at UCLA had a corresponding sorority at USC.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, and asked that I make a phone call.

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<v Speaker 6>Make a phone call, and that's all I'll say.

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<v Speaker 2>There, Well, you can't leave us hanging at that. Did

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<v Speaker 2>you do it?

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<v Speaker 6>I did, Paul, I did.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, you don't tell us that she got in or not.

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<v Speaker 6>But mostly it was not about money or do it

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<v Speaker 6>it was.

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<v Speaker 1>It was mainly that I called them saying I know

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<v Speaker 1>this girl very well. I've worked with her now for

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<v Speaker 1>four years. She is kind, she is smart, and I

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<v Speaker 1>think that you made a mistake.

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<v Speaker 7>Did it help?

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<v Speaker 6>And it helped, That's all I'll say.

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<v Speaker 2>So I mean a few things about that.

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<v Speaker 3>First of all, I can feel the mother's pain, right

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<v Speaker 3>like you when your kid doesn't get into the house

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<v Speaker 3>that they want. And I do get that. But right

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<v Speaker 3>there's like a lesson in there, like you're not going

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<v Speaker 3>to always get what you want. And I know what

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<v Speaker 3>happens then, and you know, we haniwe's pull strings. But

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<v Speaker 3>was it that was it a difficult thing for you?

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<v Speaker 3>Did you try to say no? Are you like you

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<v Speaker 3>know what?

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<v Speaker 2>That's fine? I love her.

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<v Speaker 6>I definitely deliberated over it because, like.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, like I just see how I went through

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<v Speaker 1>the rush process and not to be like all hi

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<v Speaker 1>and mighty, but I went through at fair and square.

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<v Speaker 1>I was someone who knew nobody California, Like I went

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<v Speaker 1>to CLA and I'm from the Midwest, Like I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>know a single soul, and I think that the rush

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<v Speaker 1>process worked out for me. So this seemed like this

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<v Speaker 1>is going kind of against nature. Like yes, I really

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<v Speaker 1>believe that like the process should work as it is supposed.

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<v Speaker 6>To without yeah, without intervention.

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<v Speaker 1>I was kind of like, I don't I don't know that, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>is she going to be happy if this, if these people,

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<v Speaker 1>if these girls didn't initially like the car that they

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<v Speaker 1>had or didn't like them enough to invite her back.

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<v Speaker 6>So that's what I told them, Like, I did say

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<v Speaker 6>that with the.

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<v Speaker 1>Mom and I had to have a really close way,

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<v Speaker 1>and I did say that to her and she was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I understand that, but don't you think that you know,

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<v Speaker 1>she should be in this story? And I was like, absolutely,

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<v Speaker 1>I think they're dumb to not bring her back, But

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<v Speaker 1>that was the decision that they made anyway. So I

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<v Speaker 1>just advocated on her behalf and it and it did help.

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<v Speaker 1>I think they were like we overlooked her.

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<v Speaker 2>And okay, but did she know that you were doing that?

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<v Speaker 6>The daughter does not know.

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<v Speaker 3>Now that's the part that's interesting. I mean, the whole

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<v Speaker 3>thing is it's an interesting story, But for me, at least,

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<v Speaker 3>the most interesting part is that the mother didn't tell

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<v Speaker 3>the daughter right and put you in a position of

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<v Speaker 3>doing that without, you know, telling this person that you

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<v Speaker 3>knew and cared about.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's a little bit.

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<v Speaker 3>That's the part that really just just would upset me,

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<v Speaker 3>is that you have to have a certain amount of

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<v Speaker 3>confidence in your kid, right and let them navigate. Also,

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<v Speaker 3>that's just part of going to college. And I, by

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<v Speaker 3>no means am I a perfect mother. But that's what

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<v Speaker 3>occurs to me when you're telling me the story, is

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<v Speaker 3>that I don't know that mother. It sounds like she's

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<v Speaker 3>just getting or was getting in her kid's way. Right,

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<v Speaker 3>I'd be able to detach a little.

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<v Speaker 6>Bit well, and I think at some point the other

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<v Speaker 6>shoe is going to drop.

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<v Speaker 3>But I just yeah, yeah, oh, I mean, listen, you can't.

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<v Speaker 3>I will tell you this, Like I, if it was

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<v Speaker 3>up to me, my kids would never feel pain. But

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<v Speaker 3>that's not realistic and that's not the world that we

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<v Speaker 3>live in, and I can't protect them from it. I

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<v Speaker 3>have to let them, you know, feel the pain and

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<v Speaker 3>grow from it. Maybe that kind of rejection it's okay,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, because we all will get rejected if it's

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<v Speaker 3>not you know, by a sorority, it's by a boyfriend

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<v Speaker 3>or a job or you know, all the different ways

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<v Speaker 3>that that people can tell us no, so anyway, But yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>but so I think they probably put you in a

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<v Speaker 3>weird position, but hopefully it all worked out and she

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<v Speaker 3>is happy and more importantly, you're happy.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, certainly happy now and I think that Yeah. I

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<v Speaker 6>just wish the best for them.

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<v Speaker 3>So good for you. Okay, Well, really appreciate your sharing

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<v Speaker 3>this with us.

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<v Speaker 6>Hey, thanks Jen, Bye bye bye bye.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, you guys.

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