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Speaker 1: It's time for that thing that we always do on

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Speaker 1: the show that we're doing for the first time that

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Speaker 1: we've never done before, but we always do it on

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Speaker 1: the show meaningful moments in all caps. If somebody is

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Speaker 1: being mean to you, call us up eight at eight

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Speaker 1: three four three one oh six one and we'll see

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Speaker 1: if we can help you with your problem. Yes, we'll

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Speaker 1: give you some advice on how to make them stop

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Speaker 1: being mean to you with another meaningful moment what you

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Speaker 1: do all the time on the show. Is the first

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Speaker 1: time we're doing it, but we do it all the time,

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Speaker 1: all right, Tony, is somebody somebody's being mean to you? Tony? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I don't mean to like, you know, sound like a

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Speaker 1: cry baby or anything here, man, but it's just starting

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Speaker 1: to really kind of, you know, get to me really bad. Okay, Well,

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Speaker 1: what's going on. Well, now, there's a co worker at

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Speaker 1: work in a pretty much sustained position as I and um,

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Speaker 1: you know, he's see, he's a jokester and stuff and uh,

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Speaker 1: you know, always kind of making you know, thrown jobs

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Speaker 1: at me in like not not physical jabs, right, oh no, no,

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Speaker 1: not not physical, but um, okay, just getting to the

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Speaker 1: point where you know, I'm I almost kind of feel

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Speaker 1: like getting physical because just be just getting really you know,

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Speaker 1: a smart like suggest because like, are you just like

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Speaker 1: the butt of his jokes? Yeah, pretty much. I mean

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Speaker 1: you know, like in school, are almost still like you know,

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Speaker 1: like I'm being buoyed. You know, that's weird. It's like,

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Speaker 1: you know, Tony, one second. We'll get back to you

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Speaker 1: what's going on with you in just a second. But

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Speaker 1: that's what's interesting, though, is all kinds of people are

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Speaker 1: affected by meaningful moments in their life and mean people

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Speaker 1: in their life. Because even as an adult in the

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Speaker 1: office place, people try to bully you. All right, Well,

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Speaker 1: school never really ends, no it does, like one giant, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it doesn't at all. And they're bullies in the office

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Speaker 1: place all the time, and learning how to stop them

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Speaker 1: is very helpful because they literally will walk around and

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Speaker 1: just make people feel like crapple all day long. So, Tony, anyway,

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Speaker 1: you said it feels like high school again. What's he doing? Well? No,

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Speaker 1: I just you know, like the high school bully. He

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Speaker 1: just um like he's always making fun of my weight.

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Speaker 1: The guy's pretty fit, you know, he works out, well,

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Speaker 1: who does that anymore? As an adult. That's crazy. Isn't

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Speaker 1: that weird? What's he saying about your weight? No? He

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Speaker 1: just says things like, you know, are like nice stone

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Speaker 1: out there, you know, and then where there's something that

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Speaker 1: might you know physically you need to be done. And

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Speaker 1: he's like, no, man, just you know, you're not in

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Speaker 1: cheap enough to do it. I'll take care of it.

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Speaker 1: And it's just really really getting to me. Man's like inappropriate.

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Speaker 1: Have you said anything to him back or that that

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Speaker 1: bothers you at all? Well? No, I Didum, that's one

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Speaker 1: of the main reasons. The other day I really told him.

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Speaker 1: I said, you know, man, I really need to kind

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Speaker 1: of settle down. And he was kind of like, you know, well,

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Speaker 1: what are you going to do about it kind of things.

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Speaker 1: I was like, oh mind, I don't want it to

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Speaker 1: get you know, physical at the workplace or something and

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Speaker 1: you know, like you know, across the job or something that.

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Speaker 1: I mean, the guy's really pushing my buttons big time.

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Speaker 1: He's just really our jerk. Man. Yeah, he's obviously a jerk.

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Speaker 1: He's obviously a dude that hasn't grown mentally since eighth grade.

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Speaker 1: And there's a couple options, right, I learned pretty early

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Speaker 1: on not to care what people say about me. I

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Speaker 1: really don't. Man, you can say whatever you want. That's

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Speaker 1: a good skill to as I value your opinion, right,

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Speaker 1: there's but there's very few people that I actually value

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Speaker 1: their opinion. So other than that, I don't care what

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Speaker 1: you say. You can literally say whatever you want to me.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't bother me. That's because I grew up with

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Speaker 1: the name Jewel, and I had to go to all

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Speaker 1: kinds of different schools with the name Jewel, so I

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Speaker 1: experienced a lot of people trying to get at me

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Speaker 1: with insults. And what I would do was I would

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Speaker 1: just come up with better insults for my name. Well,

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Speaker 1: because you heard the bully, yeah, well, and not when

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Speaker 1: I first got to the school. Because when you first

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Speaker 1: get to the school, your bully, you're the new guy.

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Speaker 1: And then if you're good enough, you can flip it

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Speaker 1: and become the bully. And that's what I would do,

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Speaker 1: because people would come up to me and they would

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Speaker 1: they would have. But then I would stand there and

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Speaker 1: be like, Oh, that's all you got. How about this

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Speaker 1: had nothing. So you take that away from him. So

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Speaker 1: if he's ripping on your weight, maybe if you feel

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Speaker 1: comfortable with that, if it's not going to hurt you

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Speaker 1: to say this about yourself, if you do it actually

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Speaker 1: as a joke, say it about yourself, take it away

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Speaker 1: from him, make him look like an idiot, make it

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Speaker 1: look like you don't care. If you don't react, then

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Speaker 1: he can't have anything over you. The problem is the

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Speaker 1: reaction and then asking him to like, hey, I really

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Speaker 1: appreciate it. If you stop, that only eggs those guys on. Also,

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Speaker 1: if he's a hothead, another option is to poke at him,

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Speaker 1: if you know what buns to push, poke and I'm

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Speaker 1: poke and I'm poking. I'm poking until he punches you

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Speaker 1: and then he's fired. You don't throw a punch though,

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Speaker 1: let him punch you and let him get fired because

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Speaker 1: he's an a hole. But there you go. That's two

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Speaker 1: options for me. Anybody else have advice. My advice was

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Speaker 1: to ask you, well, because he was a boy, oh

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Speaker 1: there you go. Well, yeah, well that's actually some pretty

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Speaker 1: good advice. Man. I might have to try that because

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Speaker 1: I don't remember that. I'm just trying to begin to

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Speaker 1: do not seeing anything back. And yeah, right, And I

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Speaker 1: think the ultimate thing is your reaction, right if your

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Speaker 1: reaction feeds into what they want. If someone's being mean

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Speaker 1: to you, then they're going to continue. So don't give

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Speaker 1: him that satisfaction. React the other way, even if it's hard,

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Speaker 1: do the opposite thing. You can flip it on him

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Speaker 1: or just poke at him until he punches you and

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Speaker 1: getting fired. All right, then I'll have to try that

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Speaker 1: because I definitely I let him know that he's getting,

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Speaker 1: you know, really pushing my button. Maybe if I act

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Speaker 1: like I don't really care to get back to them,

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Speaker 1: maybe it'll stop. You know, well, how attached to all

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Speaker 1: YouTube this job? Because I mean, you could always remove

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Speaker 1: yourself from the situation, just get another job somewhere. It's

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Speaker 1: coming to the point where I've thought about it. But

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Speaker 1: I've been there for a while and I'm doing pretty

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Speaker 1: well there. But if it's yeah, I've actually thought about that.

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Speaker 1: You know, I think a lot of people in relationship too,

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Speaker 1: they don't leave a bad situation and if you know,

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Speaker 1: it could make things a lot better. So work relationships anything, right, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: if you want to control the advice, man, yeah, I

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Speaker 1: appreciate it. Guys. Anyway, if you want to control any situation,

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Speaker 1: you need to control yourself first, right, control your reaction,

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Speaker 1: and then it'll control the reactions around you and you

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Speaker 1: can get into how you want it to be. If

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Speaker 1: you want this guy to stop, or you can always

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Speaker 1: take a number two in his desk drawer. Yeah, don't

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Speaker 1: do that, all right, Well, good luck man, let us know, Okay,

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Speaker 1: let's know how it goes. All right, Hey, I appreciate it. Guys.

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Speaker 1: Are away, Yeah, man,