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Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is a Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, nephew. Subject I can't imagine him with big Mama.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a forty five year old single

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Speaker 1: mother of five sons. My two youngest sons to live

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Speaker 1: with my mother because they went to spend the night

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Speaker 1: with her one time and she never let them return

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Speaker 1: to my house. I can't fight for them because she

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Speaker 1: says I'm not fit to be their mother. This feud

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Speaker 1: started about three years ago when my mama thought she

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Speaker 1: had a boyfriend. The guy didn't want her. He was

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Speaker 1: just using her for money and transportation. He's twelve years younger,

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Speaker 1: so she thought she was doing something big. Naturally, he

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Speaker 1: came on to me because I'm my mother's twin in

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Speaker 1: every way except wait. My oldest children started calling her

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Speaker 1: Big Mama when they were young, and now she's lived

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Speaker 1: up to that name. She is big and tall with

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Speaker 1: hazel eyes. She was every man's dream back in the day,

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Speaker 1: and she can't deal with the fact that I'm pulling

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Speaker 1: up the rear and getting all of the attention now.

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Speaker 1: I didn't purposely take her man away from her. It

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Speaker 1: happened gradually. She asked me to spend the night with

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Speaker 1: her one night so I could take her to an

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Speaker 1: eye appointment early the next morning. While she slept, her

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Speaker 1: boyfriend chased me all over the house, trying to pull

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Speaker 1: off my nightgown. When he finally caught me, I played

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Speaker 1: like I was resisting him, but our chemistry was too

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Speaker 1: strong to fight it. We snuck around for two months

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Speaker 1: before he finally told Mama what was going on. My

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Speaker 1: older children have adjusted to him being with me and

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Speaker 1: not Big Mama anymore. My oldest son told me that

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Speaker 1: he can't imagine my boyfriend what's ever with Big Mama.

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Speaker 1: I can't either, because he is a superstar lover, and

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Speaker 1: I'm surprised she could keep up with him. I'm tired

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Speaker 1: of fighting with Big Mama, So how do I stop her?

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Speaker 1: How do I get her to stop playing games and

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Speaker 1: give me my children back? I don't understand how you

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Speaker 1: can't get your children. They're your children. How can you

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Speaker 1: not get your children back from your mom? And? Anyway?

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Speaker 1: There's a lot left out in this letter, but there

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Speaker 1: are two different problems going on here. They're both major. First,

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Speaker 1: your mom has two of your five children you say

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Speaker 1: you can't get back. And secondly, you slept with your

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Speaker 1: mom's man. Okay, what kind of person are you? Why

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Speaker 1: are you in competition with your own mother over a man?

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Speaker 1: When you make statements like we're alike in every way

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Speaker 1: except wait, or when you say now you're pulling up

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Speaker 1: the rear and getting all of the attention, let's make

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Speaker 1: you sound like you're jealous of your mom. With all

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Speaker 1: the other men out here, why do you have to

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Speaker 1: take your mom's man. The sad part is you don't

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Speaker 1: even get it. I mean, just because he was chasing

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Speaker 1: you around the room doesn't mean you had to let

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Speaker 1: him catch you. You already said that. You know you

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Speaker 1: tried to resist him at first, but the chemistry was

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Speaker 1: too strong. And all of that you had to prove

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Speaker 1: to your mom that you could get him. Was that

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Speaker 1: what you were doing? You're the cute one. Now what

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Speaker 1: are you doing? I mean, you have no remorts. You

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Speaker 1: don't even see why your mom is retaliating by calling

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Speaker 1: you unfit and trying to keep your two boys. There

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Speaker 1: must be something to it, or you would have your boys.

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Speaker 1: I really don't understand why you can't get them that

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Speaker 1: you claim you want. You know, you claim you want

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Speaker 1: the boys. Your mom is not the one playing games

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Speaker 1: here I think you are. You need to grow up.

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Speaker 1: You need to stop worrying about your mom and her

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Speaker 1: looks and all of that, and worry about how you

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Speaker 1: are going to be a better person, how you're going

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Speaker 1: to be a better daughter, and how you're gonna be

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Speaker 1: a better mom and get your kids back if that's

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Speaker 1: what you really want, Steve, Well, this letter ain't gonna

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Speaker 1: take long because it ain't about nothing. This letter ain't

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Speaker 1: about light of down. I don't even know how you right?

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Speaker 1: You really? What, lady? How? What forty five year old

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Speaker 1: single mother with five sons? You're five, You got five

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Speaker 1: sons and you're a single mother. Your two younger sisters

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Speaker 1: lived with my mother because they want to spend the

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Speaker 1: night with her one time, and she never let them

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Speaker 1: return to my house. I can't fight for them because

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Speaker 1: she says I'm not fit to be their mother. What

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Speaker 1: kind of statement is that? How hard are you really

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Speaker 1: fighting to try to get these kids back? How how

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Speaker 1: is it that a mother can't get her kids back?

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Speaker 1: The coach didn't tell you you wasn't fit. Social services

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Speaker 1: didn't tell me, tell you wasn't thick. Child Protective Services

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Speaker 1: didn't tell you that they went over that one night

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Speaker 1: and she never sent them back. Oh, I know what's

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Speaker 1: happening now. You say this feud started about three years

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Speaker 1: ago when my mama I thought she had a boardfriend.

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Speaker 1: But we're gonna find out how long she gonna be

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Speaker 1: thinking that the guy didn't want her. He was just

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Speaker 1: using her for money and transportation. Twelve years younger, So

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Speaker 1: she thought she was doing something big. Naturally. He came

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Speaker 1: on to me because I'm my mother's twin in every

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Speaker 1: way except wait, wait a minute, I don't understand that.

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Speaker 1: So your mother thought she was doing something big. Naturally,

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Speaker 1: he came on to me because I'm my mother's twin

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Speaker 1: in every way except wait, what do you mean, naturally

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Speaker 1: he came on to you Christ but years that's what

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Speaker 1: you thought it was supposed to have. Why because you

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Speaker 1: find it your mama, Well, because you don't weigh as

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Speaker 1: much as your mama sound to me like, and I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna say this earlier. I was gonna save it to

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Speaker 1: the end. This is a competition, yeah, right, And the

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Speaker 1: competition started with you. You girl, You the forty five

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Speaker 1: year old with the five kids and can't get nobody.

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Speaker 1: That's what the problem was. Then your mama got somebody,

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Speaker 1: and now you're talking about she thinks she got a

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Speaker 1: board friend. Well, wait till he see me, because we're

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Speaker 1: twins in every way except hang on, Steve, hang on.

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Speaker 1: We'll come back prepared two of your response at twenty

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Speaker 1: three minutes after be our today's Strawberry Letters, subject I

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Speaker 1: can't imagine him with big Mama. We'll get back into

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Speaker 1: it right after this. You're listening, all right, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's crazy Strawberry letter and the subject I

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Speaker 1: can't imagine him with big Mama. I know you couldn't.

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Speaker 1: That's the whole problem. Here's a woman that's forty five

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Speaker 1: years old, she's a single mother. She got five sons,

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Speaker 1: my two youngest sons to live with my mother because

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Speaker 1: they went to spend the night with her one time

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Speaker 1: and she never let them return to my house. Didn't.

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Speaker 1: Lady said, I can't fight for them because she says

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Speaker 1: I'm not fit to beat their mother. What Social services

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Speaker 1: didn't tell you this? Child Protective Services didn't tell you that.

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Speaker 1: The Resource department didn't tell you this. People to cut

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Speaker 1: checks ain't told you this. Your mama told you this,

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Speaker 1: and she kept the kids. Then she starts trying to

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Speaker 1: tell the story. The feud started about three years ago

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Speaker 1: when my mama thought she had a boyfriend. The guy

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Speaker 1: didn't want her. He was just using her for money

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Speaker 1: in transportation. He twelve years younger, so she thought she

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Speaker 1: came on to me. Because I'm my mother's twinned in

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Speaker 1: every way except to wait. My oldest children started calling

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Speaker 1: her Big Mama when they were young, and now she's

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Speaker 1: lived up to the name. Well you next, you know,

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Speaker 1: since you like your mom in every way, just want

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Speaker 1: you to know the weight coming your way too. It

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Speaker 1: usually comes as we age, so get ready we are.

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Speaker 1: I'm just like my mother. I'm my mama's twin without

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Speaker 1: the weight. Oh it's coming, yeah a day now, slow down.

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Speaker 1: She is big and tall with hazel eyes. She was

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Speaker 1: every man's dream back in the day. And she can't

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Speaker 1: deal with the fact that I'm pulling up the rear

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Speaker 1: and getting all the attention. Now, little girl, lady, what's

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Speaker 1: wrong with you? What do you mean? She can't deal

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Speaker 1: with the fact that you're pulling up the rear and

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Speaker 1: getting all the attention now. Oh, because your mama's sold.

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Speaker 1: That's right, that's right you. Your mama's in in every

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Speaker 1: way all. So you every man's dream. Yeah you the

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Speaker 1: five sons, baby Daddy dream too. Yeah you they't dream

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Speaker 1: sept there a so so far right now you can't

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Speaker 1: get one of them stage. But you every man's dream.

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Speaker 1: You're pulling up the red nine. She can't stand I

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Speaker 1: didn't purposely did Here comes the next statement out of nowhere.

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Speaker 1: I didn't purposely take her man away from her. It

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Speaker 1: happened gradually. Girl. You're a mess. You're an absolute mess.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if you read this letter before you

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Speaker 1: sent it, but if you read it, you would see

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Speaker 1: this really ain't shining a favorable light on you at all.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what you thought by writing in Charley

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Speaker 1: and I were supposed to say to She asked me

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Speaker 1: to spend the night with her one night so I

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Speaker 1: could take her to an eye appointment earlier the next morning. Okay,

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Speaker 1: while she slept, her boyfriend chased me all over the house,

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Speaker 1: trying to pull off my nightgown. Now, we all hadn't

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Speaker 1: been to big Mama house. We all hadn't been back

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Speaker 1: over to our mom and daddy house. Most our houses

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Speaker 1: bigger than the house we grew up in. So how

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Speaker 1: big was old Big Mama house? So all is chasing

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Speaker 1: you around? How far was it when y'all running from

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Speaker 1: the kitchen table to the stove warms you running from

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Speaker 1: the TV worms you running around the coffee table in

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Speaker 1: front of the count Big MoMA ain't got no big house.

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Speaker 1: This wasn't no long chase, y'all. This one the log

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Speaker 1: We was up down them steps, I headed, I was in,

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Speaker 1: I was down in the game room, and then I

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Speaker 1: went around through the family room. Then I ran up

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Speaker 1: back down by my golf simulator. Then I came back

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Speaker 1: up through where we got the bowl in that lad

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Speaker 1: he was just chasing me, really really, Later, lady ladies,

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Speaker 1: our father was he chasing, trying to take your night

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Speaker 1: down off here here got another crazy statement. When he

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Speaker 1: finally caught me, I played like I was resisting here,

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Speaker 1: but our chemistry was too strong to fighting. We snuck

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Speaker 1: around for two months before he finally told Big Mama

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Speaker 1: what was going on. Big Mama is your mother, So

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Speaker 1: he just went on the toe of hey, look, I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna just keep I'm with yourself, and your older children

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Speaker 1: have adjusted to him being with me and not Big

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Speaker 1: Mama anymore. My oldest son told me that he can't

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Speaker 1: imagine my boyfriend was ever with Big Mama, and I

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Speaker 1: can't either, because he is a superstar lover and I'm

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Speaker 1: surprised she could keep up with it. I'm tired of

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Speaker 1: fighting with Big Mama, So how do I get her

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Speaker 1: to stop playing games and give me my children back?

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Speaker 1: See what did happened here? You took her, man, She

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Speaker 1: took your kids because she told this letter out of order, y'all.

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Speaker 1: She told you that two kids went over that spend

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Speaker 1: night and she kept them. Ah, that's what happened. So

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Speaker 1: you took my man, I took your kids, and you

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Speaker 1: ain't fit to be a mother. And you don't want

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