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Speaker 1: All right, Steve, this time now for the Strawberry Letter Today.

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Speaker 1: The subject is my wife is living like she's single

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Speaker 1: and listen. If you need some advice on relationships, If

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Speaker 1: you need some advice on dating, on work, on sex

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Speaker 1: and parenting and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to

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Speaker 1: Steve HARVEYFM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. Alright, sample,

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Speaker 1: we can be reading your letter live on the air

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Speaker 1: to buckle up a whole long time. We got it

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Speaker 1: for you. Here it is the Strawberry Letter. Yeah. This

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Speaker 1: is a letter where you, our audience, write us and

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Speaker 1: we give you advice. Can make up? No, no, no no.

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Speaker 1: People think we do though, because they're so crazy, but no,

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Speaker 1: here we go. Subject my wife is living like she's single.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I have been married to my childhood

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Speaker 1: sweetheart for eight years and we have two wonderful children.

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Speaker 1: Early on, we had problems in our marriage and we

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Speaker 1: separated for a short period. But we worked things out

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Speaker 1: and I thought we were back on track. My wife

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Speaker 1: admitted that during our separation she had flings with two

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Speaker 1: other guys. She compared me to the guys she had

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Speaker 1: the flings with and bragged about the money and the

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Speaker 1: nice things they had. I am an educated guy and

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Speaker 1: I have a great full time job and a part

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Speaker 1: time job for extra money, but it's not enough for

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Speaker 1: my wife. She told me that I need to be

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Speaker 1: making six figures to keep her happy. She has a

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Speaker 1: demanding full time job, so she doesn't do much around

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Speaker 1: the house. I cook, I clean, I take the kids

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Speaker 1: too and from school, wash the clothes, help the kids

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Speaker 1: with homework, and maintain the law. She neglects my sexual

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Speaker 1: to unwind, and when she comes home she says she's exhausted.

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Speaker 1: A few days after Christmas, she told me that I

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Speaker 1: need to find a nice woman that will appreciate me

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Speaker 1: and the little that I have to offer, because she

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Speaker 1: needs more. She told me that after I found her

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Speaker 1: texting one of her old flings, I asked her to

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Speaker 1: see the text and she showed it to me. The

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Speaker 1: guy was asking her for sex again and he said

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Speaker 1: that their chemistry is unmatched. I am trying to stick

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Speaker 1: out for my kids, but I cannot be her doormat

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Speaker 1: in the process. She doesn't respect me as the man

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Speaker 1: of the house, and I am not sure how we

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Speaker 1: got to this point, but she is very disrespectful. Do

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Speaker 1: you think I should try to stay for the sake

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Speaker 1: Who wrote the husband? The husband? It seems like a

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Speaker 1: letter that a wife would write, But now this time

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Speaker 1: the husband wrote this one. And you know, doesn't the

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Speaker 1: grass always look greener on the other side. I mean, she's,

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Speaker 1: you know, thinking that these guys who were taking her

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Speaker 1: money in nice things and all that. Yeah, but she

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Speaker 1: came back home. She's not with him, so the grass

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Speaker 1: always looks greener on the other side. I have to

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Speaker 1: ask you, though, what do you want to do? I mean,

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Speaker 1: you're asking us should you stay for the sake of

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Speaker 1: your kids? I'm sure you don't want to stay with

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Speaker 1: a wife who continues to disrespect you like your wife does.

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Speaker 1: I mean, kids are no kids. You don't have to

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Speaker 1: take this man. You don't have to take you, do

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Speaker 1: know that, right? I mean, where's your dignity? Where's your

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Speaker 1: be the best thing you can do to save yourself

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Speaker 1: and your two children. Okay from this mama, right now,

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Speaker 1: she's just out of order. I mean, you says she's disrespectful.

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Speaker 1: She's all of that. You sound like a good man,

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Speaker 1: a hard working man and all of that. You know,

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Speaker 1: you're cooking, cleaning and doing all this stuff and taking

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Speaker 1: a dormat for her. So you're right about that. She

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Speaker 1: definitely is disrespecting you, and I think you should take

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Speaker 1: her advice. I really do. I think you there is

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Speaker 1: a nice woman who'll appreciate you. There are plenty of them,

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Speaker 1: as a matter of fact, who'll take you and the kids.

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Speaker 1: So um, get on out of there. Okay, you don't

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Speaker 1: have to take this. Steve who wrote this letter, he did.

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Speaker 1: My wife admitted doing our separation. She had a fleeing

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Speaker 1: with two other guys. She just been out there just lounding.

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Speaker 1: Not know off fail, she's been doing what lound, just

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Speaker 1: out here just showing her natural two flings. That was enough.

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Speaker 1: She gonna compare the guys that she had the flings with,

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Speaker 1: She gonna come back home and tell me about it. Well,

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Speaker 1: you might well stay your ass outed, so disament from me.

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Speaker 1: You ain't going to brain You have to come back.

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Speaker 1: Steve Harvet, tell me this here who you think I am?

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Speaker 1: But who are you talking to? Then let's go. I

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Speaker 1: am an educated guy and have a full, great, full

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Speaker 1: but it's not enough for my wife. Somebody told me

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Speaker 1: something one time. I just want to share it with you.

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Speaker 1: A very very wealthy person. He said, if you got

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Speaker 1: one job and it ain't cutting it for you, why

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Speaker 1: would you go get another? One of them said, if

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Speaker 1: you got a job that ain't cutting for your next

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Speaker 1: movie is you're gonna have to open some type of

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Speaker 1: little hustle on the side of business. But he said,

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Speaker 1: always talking, he said, don't go get another job. Oh okay,

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Speaker 1: he said, because you got one job ain't working for

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Speaker 1: why would you get another? One of them? Right, So

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Speaker 1: that was a very educational thing I learned. She told

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Speaker 1: keep her happy. Now you got two jobs that ain't

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Speaker 1: and you still ain't making six figures. But this health

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Speaker 1: a right here and told you that's what you need

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Speaker 1: out there and get the flaming again. Yeah, what you

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Speaker 1: probably need to do now. She has a demanding full

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Speaker 1: time job, so she don't do much around in the house. Now,

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Speaker 1: what y'all listen to this? Right here? He working two

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Speaker 1: jobs already, Right, she got a demanding full time job.

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Speaker 1: But he say, I cooked, clean, take the kids to

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Speaker 1: and maintain the lawn. Already got two jobs. I just

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Speaker 1: told him I got a full time job at a

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Speaker 1: Hang on, Steve, hang on. We're gonna have part two

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Speaker 1: of your response coming up at twenty three after the

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Speaker 1: hour's subject my wife is living like she's single. We'll

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Speaker 1: be back right after this. You're listening show, all right,

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter, part two

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Speaker 1: of your response to and that's is this woman don't

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Speaker 1: want this man. When they separated, she had a fling.

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Speaker 1: Now she compared the guys to her. He do all

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Speaker 1: to unwind, and when she come home she exhausted. Question

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Speaker 1: what you think when she out there unwinned after hard

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Speaker 1: you think she exhausted from unworld unwinding ain't exhausted. It's

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Speaker 1: when you getting wound up that's exhausted. It's when you

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Speaker 1: get somebody winding her up real tight. And then what

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Speaker 1: sending her ass? That's what get getting Take now, she

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Speaker 1: do that three times a night. Boy, she coming in

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Speaker 1: this house tied as hell. Then a few days after Christmas,

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Speaker 1: she told me, I need to find a nice woman

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Speaker 1: that appreciate me and a little bit that I had off. Well,

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Speaker 1: you know, she just told you you need to go

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Speaker 1: find you somebody post and dog gonna you can do that? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: because she needs most she told me. I found I

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Speaker 1: found her texting one of her old friends. I asked

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Speaker 1: First of all, you're not finna be that comfortable in

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Speaker 1: my house. While I asked you to see the text,

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Speaker 1: him didn't show it to me. You're gonna have seen

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Speaker 1: me somewhere in my life go off on somebody where

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Speaker 1: Showing him this text right now probably ain't gonna be

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Speaker 1: and I don't want to see it. But na, see,

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Speaker 1: you ain't never demonstrated that. Let me see what you're texting,

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Speaker 1: gil Oh, you're comfortable with him? The guy was asking

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Speaker 1: my kids. He is missing who asked? But what? Somebody

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Speaker 1: did you start before? You said, I'm trying to stick

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Speaker 1: it out for the kids, But I cannot be her

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Speaker 1: doing that in the process. She don't respect me as

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Speaker 1: the man of the house, the man of the house. Dog,

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Speaker 1: went out. Didn't had them too flee. I'm not sure

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Speaker 1: how we got to this point, as that's why you

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Speaker 1: was going wrong in your lives your childhood? Sweetheart, y'all

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Speaker 1: got married, hadn't experienced no light. Then y'all had some

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Speaker 1: bed with the undertake all. I hadn't had a date

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Speaker 1: with Triple X. Been all over the place, getting throwed

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Speaker 1: That's how you got to this point. What you need

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Speaker 1: to do is do like she said, find you somebody

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Speaker 1: that appreciate the little bit you got, that little bit

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Speaker 1: you pa that little teaspooner thing you've been just shelding

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Speaker 1: around like you like you've been just dropping. You've been

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Speaker 1: dropping bringing hammelework that ain't hammelework, that number two leaded

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Speaker 1: pencil work you've been doing. You ain't been doing what

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