WEBVTT - Reckless Replay: Do He Got Money ! 0:00:00.240 --> 0:00:03.360 Welcome to Canfley Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio and 0:00:03.400 --> 0:00:16.319 the Black Effects. Oh shit, back on the air, Welcome 0:00:16.360 --> 0:00:18.400 back to you had another catholic reckless episode with your 0:00:18.440 --> 0:00:21.960 girl Jess. Hilarious session. Fixed my mess. Here we are 0:00:22.560 --> 0:00:24.759 and we got some voice notes today. Thank god I 0:00:24.760 --> 0:00:27.840 ain't got to read. Thank god I can just focus 0:00:27.880 --> 0:00:29.600 on fixing. All right, good, here we go. 0:00:30.200 --> 0:00:31.840 Hey, Jess, I want to see if you can fix 0:00:31.880 --> 0:00:32.360 my mess. 0:00:32.440 --> 0:00:35.440 I wanted to know what is your best suggestion on 0:00:35.479 --> 0:00:39.159 cutting off family members that are always around. Like I 0:00:39.159 --> 0:00:41.479 have a lot of sisters, and I'm friends with all 0:00:41.520 --> 0:00:43.280 my sisters except for one of them. 0:00:43.440 --> 0:00:46.360 She's just really shady and she talks about us to 0:00:46.440 --> 0:00:47.000 her mom. 0:00:47.240 --> 0:00:48.600 We have the same die, but we don't have the 0:00:48.600 --> 0:00:51.279 same mom, and she talks about us. And like I 0:00:51.320 --> 0:00:54.280 remember one time it went on a trip and her 0:00:54.320 --> 0:00:57.279 phone was like out and our cousin saw that she 0:00:57.360 --> 0:01:00.279 was texting her mom saying, oh, I'm not light her. 0:01:00.360 --> 0:01:01.720 I'm not like these other girls. 0:01:01.760 --> 0:01:04.560 Like I don't drink, I don't smoke like I'm good, 0:01:04.720 --> 0:01:06.440 you know what I mean? Like number one, why are 0:01:06.440 --> 0:01:08.800 you telling your mom that we drink and we smoke? 0:01:08.880 --> 0:01:11.399 Like we come from a really religious family, and I 0:01:11.440 --> 0:01:14.000 could come back to our mom. Number one, you're telling 0:01:14.120 --> 0:01:16.720 our business to your mom. And number two, why are 0:01:16.720 --> 0:01:18.760 you talking shit about your own fucking blood? 0:01:18.840 --> 0:01:20.080 Like that's so weird to me. 0:01:20.200 --> 0:01:23.800 I've never in my life said anything bad about any siblings. 0:01:23.840 --> 0:01:25.679 And I'm the type of person like if you whatever 0:01:25.840 --> 0:01:27.679 energy you give me, I will get back to you. 0:01:27.920 --> 0:01:30.199 That's just like one of the shitty things that she's done. 0:01:30.560 --> 0:01:34.120 And number two, she's just like really shitty to everybody. 0:01:34.240 --> 0:01:37.720 This girl never keeps any friends because people always cut 0:01:37.720 --> 0:01:39.360 her off because of the way that she asks, like 0:01:39.400 --> 0:01:42.240 she'll talk shit about you, she'll tell your business. And 0:01:42.840 --> 0:01:45.000 another thing that she did that just threw me off 0:01:45.000 --> 0:01:47.440 recently is one of her friends got rejected by her 0:01:47.440 --> 0:01:50.120 guy friends, and she calls her guy friends and was like, 0:01:50.200 --> 0:01:52.760 oh my god, like laughing, like why. 0:01:52.560 --> 0:01:53.600 Would she do that? 0:01:53.880 --> 0:01:56.600 Like it's just like, I'm like, girl, you're so you're 0:01:56.720 --> 0:01:58.000 such a fucking pickny. 0:01:58.520 --> 0:01:58.920 I don't know. 0:01:59.000 --> 0:02:01.120 I'm like, she grew up around boys, and I grew 0:02:01.200 --> 0:02:03.680 up around girls, so I know how to be a 0:02:03.680 --> 0:02:04.680 good friend, do you know what I mean? 0:02:04.680 --> 0:02:06.040 At the end of the day, the way that she 0:02:06.080 --> 0:02:06.400 grew up. 0:02:06.440 --> 0:02:08.680 She never really had like females around her, so she 0:02:08.680 --> 0:02:09.320 didn't really know. 0:02:10.000 --> 0:02:12.760 She doesn't really know how to act. But I don't 0:02:12.800 --> 0:02:13.400 really like her. 0:02:13.520 --> 0:02:15.680 And also there's another thing that she did, like her 0:02:15.720 --> 0:02:18.600 mom sent one of our brothers, our half brothers, to 0:02:19.160 --> 0:02:21.799 our family's business and tried to like steal our clients. 0:02:23.320 --> 0:02:25.840 And I think that she gets like she gets all 0:02:25.840 --> 0:02:27.240 the shady behavior from her mom. 0:02:27.520 --> 0:02:31.720 Her mom is just mad at my mom because she 0:02:31.919 --> 0:02:33.560 was the other woman, you know what I mean. So 0:02:33.560 --> 0:02:36.000 I think that's why she hates us so much, and 0:02:36.080 --> 0:02:38.840 that's why my sister acts like that towards. 0:02:38.520 --> 0:02:41.560 Us to like obviously be on her mom's side. 0:02:41.680 --> 0:02:44.320 But it's just like I don't like that fucking talkic shit. 0:02:44.400 --> 0:02:47.640 Like whatever our parents have, it shouldn't come in between us, 0:02:47.720 --> 0:02:48.720 you know what I mean. At the end of the day, 0:02:48.720 --> 0:02:50.840 we're siblings. She doesn't really look at us that way. 0:02:50.880 --> 0:02:52.760 She looks at us as the enemy because her mom 0:02:52.800 --> 0:02:54.520 looked at us as the enemy, you know what I mean. 0:02:54.760 --> 0:02:56.800 She's just projecting all of that onto us. 0:02:57.000 --> 0:02:59.520 But honestly, like I can never get away from this girl. 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:01.520 I don't talk to her, I don't text her, but 0:03:01.680 --> 0:03:05.240 every time that I go to her city to visit 0:03:05.280 --> 0:03:08.080 my other sister, She's always blowing up my phone and 0:03:08.080 --> 0:03:10.560 I just ignore all her calls, and then like she 0:03:10.680 --> 0:03:12.480 called my sister and then it's like I'm kind of 0:03:12.520 --> 0:03:15.160 just like in between. I'm kind of like in between 0:03:15.160 --> 0:03:18.200 that and I can't really escape her. Do you think 0:03:18.280 --> 0:03:21.160 I should just tell her like, yo, don't I don't 0:03:21.200 --> 0:03:23.000 want to fuck with you, like I'm good off of you? 0:03:23.639 --> 0:03:25.639 Or should I just play nice? 0:03:26.040 --> 0:03:29.320 Because obviously she's friends with my sisters, and I love 0:03:29.360 --> 0:03:31.440 my sisters to death, They're like my best friends. But 0:03:31.720 --> 0:03:34.000 I don't like her, and all my other sisters don't 0:03:34.040 --> 0:03:37.040 like her either, but they just kind of they just 0:03:37.080 --> 0:03:37.880 like deal with her. 0:03:38.320 --> 0:03:40.080 I can't do that, Like, that's not the type of 0:03:40.080 --> 0:03:40.520 person I am. 0:03:40.680 --> 0:03:43.119 I'm not the type of person to sit here and 0:03:43.480 --> 0:03:45.400 laugh at somebody and play with them and be cool 0:03:45.400 --> 0:03:46.800 with them even though I fucking. 0:03:46.520 --> 0:03:49.600 Hate them in the inside. Like I'm a Sagittarius. 0:03:49.960 --> 0:03:53.680 It's just it's hard for me, like to not tell 0:03:53.720 --> 0:03:56.600 people how I feel. Do you think that just because 0:03:56.680 --> 0:03:59.320 she'll she'll never change, I should just accept her for 0:03:59.360 --> 0:04:01.600 the way that she is, or should I just fucking 0:04:01.680 --> 0:04:03.480 check her and be like, bitch, like this is what 0:04:03.480 --> 0:04:05.000 you did, this the way you did. I don't fuck 0:04:05.040 --> 0:04:07.280 with you and put it all out there. 0:04:07.240 --> 0:04:08.160 Or should I just let it go. 0:04:08.880 --> 0:04:11.560 Let me clarify on that one part where I said 0:04:12.360 --> 0:04:14.880 that one of our moms was the other woman that 0:04:15.040 --> 0:04:18.320 was shade. Neither of our moms were the other women. 0:04:18.640 --> 0:04:23.600 Our father married for women. I'm not sure if it 0:04:23.640 --> 0:04:27.080 was at the same time or I'm not sure, but 0:04:27.360 --> 0:04:29.719 if you know anything about Muslims, men are allowed to 0:04:29.760 --> 0:04:33.120 marry up to four women, and both of our mothers 0:04:33.400 --> 0:04:36.520 have kids close in age, so I'm assuming that our 0:04:36.600 --> 0:04:40.440 dad married my sister's mom and my mom around the 0:04:40.480 --> 0:04:42.920 same time, if not the same year. 0:04:43.279 --> 0:04:45.160 So yeah, I just wanted to clarify on that part. 0:04:45.240 --> 0:04:48.440 Thank you, no problem, money. I love that. I love 0:04:48.480 --> 0:04:52.599 the clarification because listen, you sent me the other part 0:04:53.040 --> 0:04:55.159 on a whole other day. You sent me the first 0:04:55.200 --> 0:04:57.120 story a whole other day, and then you just sent 0:04:57.160 --> 0:05:01.479 your correction not too long ago. Oh, I do understand 0:05:01.839 --> 0:05:03.719 the shade was thrown. You were just in your feelings. 0:05:03.720 --> 0:05:07.200 You were very upset, obviously something had just happened, and 0:05:07.279 --> 0:05:10.880 you just you reacted. I understand, and I do respect, 0:05:10.960 --> 0:05:14.239 I love and respect how you still respect her mother 0:05:14.720 --> 0:05:17.040 enough to come back and correct that, like, no, okay, 0:05:17.080 --> 0:05:19.400 she wasn't the other woman. Neither was my mom. You know, 0:05:19.440 --> 0:05:22.440 we're Muslim, so dad is allowed to have more than 0:05:22.480 --> 0:05:24.560 one wife or you know, or what have you. I 0:05:24.560 --> 0:05:26.800 don't want to mess it up because I do not 0:05:27.360 --> 0:05:30.599 want no smoke with no damn Muslims. All right, So 0:05:30.640 --> 0:05:32.200 we're gonna keep it moving there. We're gonna get off 0:05:32.200 --> 0:05:36.320 the Muslim part, all right. Listen, Okay, I want you 0:05:36.400 --> 0:05:38.400 to have an open mind when I'm telling you this, 0:05:38.880 --> 0:05:44.240 But your sister, do you sometimes feel that because you 0:05:44.279 --> 0:05:47.279 and your other sisters, who are so close and tight 0:05:47.360 --> 0:05:50.960 knit and just loyal to one another and thriving, you 0:05:51.360 --> 0:05:54.520 have obviously a big part in the family business. And 0:05:55.000 --> 0:05:58.279 you know, you're very well articulate, you sound very intelligent. 0:05:59.120 --> 0:06:03.159 Do you think with that family dynamic over there, you 0:06:03.240 --> 0:06:06.000 guys are by the same woman and man, same mom 0:06:06.040 --> 0:06:09.200 and dad, and then her with a different mom and 0:06:09.320 --> 0:06:13.440 a different household, you know, not as structured as what 0:06:13.480 --> 0:06:16.560 it sounds like. And I'm basing that solely off of 0:06:16.600 --> 0:06:19.720 her social skills and how you said she wasn't raised 0:06:19.720 --> 0:06:24.480 around women, so she doesn't really know how to navigate 0:06:24.600 --> 0:06:27.400 with all these feminine feelings and all this shit and 0:06:27.440 --> 0:06:30.440 how the sister cold goes, you know, so she wouldn't 0:06:30.480 --> 0:06:33.680 really know how to be a sister. Okay, growing up? 0:06:33.720 --> 0:06:35.640 How was it? Because do you think that she could 0:06:35.640 --> 0:06:38.239 sometimes feel like a black sheep? I don't know if 0:06:38.360 --> 0:06:42.560 your dad still stayed with her mother after her mother 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:45.400 gave birth to her, or did he break up with 0:06:45.400 --> 0:06:48.400 the mother and stay with your mother or how was it? Also, 0:06:48.800 --> 0:06:51.840 was she around you guys growing up? Was she coming 0:06:51.880 --> 0:06:54.520 to get dropped off? Did she spend holidays with you guys? 0:06:54.720 --> 0:06:56.880 And did you guys go over there to her house 0:06:57.000 --> 0:07:00.200 or whatever? Or you know, were you guys raised as 0:07:00.279 --> 0:07:04.120 close sisters although you guys come from two different households. 0:07:04.240 --> 0:07:09.600 Did she ever feel included in anything? Not justifying the 0:07:09.640 --> 0:07:12.360 bullshit and the talking shit and all of that. But 0:07:13.120 --> 0:07:15.880 is it possible that she could have grew up disliking 0:07:15.920 --> 0:07:18.960 you guys because you have each other and she just 0:07:19.040 --> 0:07:22.280 has her She doesn't have other sisters outside of her 0:07:22.360 --> 0:07:24.440 dad and on her mom's side. I think you said 0:07:24.480 --> 0:07:26.720 she has brothers. And let me tell you something right now, 0:07:27.040 --> 0:07:29.400 I didn't grow up around girls either, but I know 0:07:29.920 --> 0:07:32.080 not to do that shit. That's why I guess I'm 0:07:32.120 --> 0:07:34.480 so rough and tough and I'm real quick on my feet, 0:07:34.640 --> 0:07:36.800 and you know, I can spawl with the best of 0:07:36.800 --> 0:07:39.720 these Nicholas out here because I grew up around guys. 0:07:39.760 --> 0:07:42.640 I have brothers, you know, I have boy cousins. Now 0:07:42.680 --> 0:07:45.000 I have female cousins too, But I was a tom 0:07:45.080 --> 0:07:47.880 girl for the majority of my life. Like girl, I 0:07:47.880 --> 0:07:50.000 didn't start wearing makeup and all that shit until I 0:07:50.000 --> 0:07:52.760 got on wilding out. That's for real, and that's literally 0:07:52.840 --> 0:07:56.360 like what six years ago. I was never into anything girly, 0:07:56.520 --> 0:07:58.880 didn't even desire to hang around girls. Me and my 0:07:58.920 --> 0:08:02.160 cousin London, and I had one female best friend named 0:08:02.240 --> 0:08:06.800 Jasmine growing up two homegirls and like eighty fucking o boys, 0:08:06.840 --> 0:08:11.360 never ever even desired to be around girls, hang around girls, 0:08:11.440 --> 0:08:14.120 you know, no particular reason. I just like basketball and 0:08:14.200 --> 0:08:17.160 shit better. So I'm not gonna say that doesn't have 0:08:17.440 --> 0:08:19.520 anything at all to do with why she asks the 0:08:19.520 --> 0:08:22.040 way she does. But I'm telling you it's different for everybody. 0:08:22.240 --> 0:08:24.200 It's different for different people. I don't think that that 0:08:24.360 --> 0:08:27.000 plays a part in it. I think she wants to love. 0:08:27.440 --> 0:08:29.680 And I think you hit it on the head when 0:08:29.720 --> 0:08:31.360 you said she's a pick me. It's like she's a 0:08:31.400 --> 0:08:34.400 fucking pick me. Yeah, because I don't feel like she's 0:08:34.640 --> 0:08:37.439 ever felt like she was picked before. You know what 0:08:37.480 --> 0:08:40.280 I'm saying. That also can have an effect on you. 0:08:40.720 --> 0:08:44.520 Pick Mees generally are the black sheeps, are the underdogs, 0:08:44.600 --> 0:08:47.280 are the people that gotta fight harder to be seen. 0:08:47.360 --> 0:08:50.880 They seem like they're attention seeking, and they are because 0:08:50.880 --> 0:08:54.000 they never really got attention, You get what I'm saying. 0:08:54.240 --> 0:08:57.320 And then if her mother was such an angry bitch, 0:08:57.960 --> 0:09:01.640 no joking, sorry for mother was such an angry person 0:09:02.080 --> 0:09:04.760 all her life from what you can remember, not all 0:09:04.800 --> 0:09:08.360 her life. But you say like she's an angry person, 0:09:08.360 --> 0:09:11.920 she's mean, she's nasty. If a child is growing up 0:09:11.960 --> 0:09:15.000 around that, that child is going to be conditioned to 0:09:15.080 --> 0:09:17.320 be the same way, even if our mother didn't teach 0:09:17.360 --> 0:09:20.320 her to be that way. That's my mother, So I 0:09:20.400 --> 0:09:23.959 inherit that I see that, I watch that, I learn 0:09:24.080 --> 0:09:27.080 her behavior and she doesn't even really realize she's teaching 0:09:27.120 --> 0:09:30.559 it to me. And maybe she did teach it on purpose, 0:09:31.200 --> 0:09:33.920 But I don't drink and all that you know all 0:09:33.920 --> 0:09:37.760 that shit comes from her mother. You guys are living life, chilling, 0:09:37.920 --> 0:09:40.079 having fun, thinking y'all can trust y'all sister to have 0:09:40.200 --> 0:09:42.880 fun with y'all too. Have y'all ever sat down and 0:09:42.920 --> 0:09:48.040 talked to her? Literally, have y'all ever just just sat down? 0:09:48.400 --> 0:09:50.600 I think that would be great. And honestly, I know 0:09:50.800 --> 0:09:53.960 you don't like her. I know your sisters don't like her. 0:09:54.400 --> 0:09:57.280 I don't think she likes y'all either, But that has 0:09:57.320 --> 0:10:01.200 to stop. And you know you can't save every relationship. 0:10:01.240 --> 0:10:04.120 You can't save every friendship, you can't even save every 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:08.520 family ship. But to be honest with you, I think 0:10:08.720 --> 0:10:11.600 you even writing me is a sign that you do 0:10:11.640 --> 0:10:13.560 want to fix it, because you asked me. Should I 0:10:13.600 --> 0:10:15.640 just say fucking them off of you? Or should I 0:10:15.679 --> 0:10:17.480 just continue to play nice? I don't think you should 0:10:17.480 --> 0:10:19.400 do either. Hey, I don't think you should break up 0:10:19.400 --> 0:10:22.319 with your sister. No, I don't half sister whatever. I 0:10:22.360 --> 0:10:24.320 don't think you should break up with her. And I 0:10:24.360 --> 0:10:27.880 also don't think you should play nice, because that's being phony. 0:10:28.600 --> 0:10:31.520 I think you should set her ass down, you and her, 0:10:31.720 --> 0:10:33.880 not all the sisters. I think she needs to have 0:10:33.920 --> 0:10:37.800 an individual conversation with each of you and then you 0:10:37.840 --> 0:10:39.920 guys can come together and talk. And the reason why 0:10:39.960 --> 0:10:42.440 I say that and is hear me out, because she 0:10:42.559 --> 0:10:46.400 could possibly feel like with all of y'all talking to 0:10:46.480 --> 0:10:49.640 her at the same time, y'all are going to go 0:10:49.760 --> 0:10:52.240 back and talk about her when she gets up and leave, 0:10:52.280 --> 0:10:55.480 because she is the only one that's divided. There is 0:10:55.520 --> 0:10:58.839 a division there, you know that was created because of Dad. 0:10:59.320 --> 0:11:02.320 So real, no one is to blame, not the mother, 0:11:03.000 --> 0:11:07.400 not your mother, not the sister. But then again, we 0:11:07.440 --> 0:11:11.640 can't even really blame Dad because it's religion that you 0:11:11.720 --> 0:11:15.320 don't have to abide by one wife or one you 0:11:15.360 --> 0:11:18.199 know so, and he was married to four women, as 0:11:18.240 --> 0:11:24.000 you said, So these are divisions created because of religion. 0:11:24.360 --> 0:11:26.760 I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that confidently because 0:11:26.760 --> 0:11:29.160 that's and all be all in a nutshell, that's what 0:11:29.200 --> 0:11:32.720 it is. I can't deem it to say it's wrong. However, 0:11:32.800 --> 0:11:35.880 I'm not a Muslim, I'm Christian, and you can't have 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:39.400 more than one wife. You can't do that. Now, niggas 0:11:39.400 --> 0:11:44.200 do it all day. Men cheat, men do this, but 0:11:45.160 --> 0:11:49.360 it's not right in my religion. So what I'm saying 0:11:49.400 --> 0:11:54.640 to you is. I think it should be an individual conversation. 0:11:55.400 --> 0:11:57.280 You should go and talk to her, then your other 0:11:57.400 --> 0:11:59.920 sister go and talk to her. Then the other sister 0:12:00.080 --> 0:12:01.680 go talk to her, and then the other sister go 0:12:01.720 --> 0:12:03.360 talk to he. I don't know how many of y'all 0:12:03.400 --> 0:12:07.959 it is Papa rolling stonehead ass stamp, but I do 0:12:08.400 --> 0:12:12.520 think that that would birth a whole new perspective about 0:12:12.559 --> 0:12:14.760 you guys to her and then you never even know. 0:12:15.280 --> 0:12:18.600 She could probably be wanting the love from y'all so bad, 0:12:19.200 --> 0:12:21.840 but she doesn't want to be the bigger person. She 0:12:21.920 --> 0:12:24.360 wants y'all to pull it out of her. You know, 0:12:24.600 --> 0:12:26.920 she wants y'all to make the first step, and it's 0:12:26.960 --> 0:12:29.040 okay in doing that. Y'all been playing nice all this 0:12:29.200 --> 0:12:32.000 damn time. Why knowing y'all don't like the girl, and 0:12:32.080 --> 0:12:35.360 knowing the girl don't like y'all, have a conversation with her. Hey, look, 0:12:35.520 --> 0:12:37.599 and then you don't got to be nice in the conversation. Shit, you, 0:12:37.720 --> 0:12:39.160 my sister, I'm gonna talk to you like a real 0:12:39.200 --> 0:12:42.880 grown ass woman. Listen. I don't like that you talk 0:12:43.280 --> 0:12:48.319 about me and our always include her. You want to 0:12:48.400 --> 0:12:51.280 use words like our as mad as you may be 0:12:51.360 --> 0:12:55.360 in this conversation as mad as you always probably feel that. 0:12:55.440 --> 0:12:57.120 You know, you don't want to claim her or whatever, 0:12:57.200 --> 0:12:59.160 or she's not like you. Yeah, she's not like you 0:12:59.200 --> 0:13:01.800 because y'all don't have the same mother, but y'all got 0:13:01.840 --> 0:13:04.679 a same dad. Trust me, you are more of your 0:13:04.720 --> 0:13:08.040 mother than you are your father. I'll always believe that. 0:13:08.160 --> 0:13:12.600 I don't care. You lived in her belly for nine months. Yes, 0:13:12.679 --> 0:13:15.520 he helped create you, but you were bonded to your 0:13:15.559 --> 0:13:19.120 mother for nine months. You were held by your mother 0:13:19.960 --> 0:13:23.440 immediately after birth. You're a breastfait. Whether you're breastfed or not, 0:13:23.920 --> 0:13:26.400 you bond skin to skin. So she's more of her 0:13:26.400 --> 0:13:30.079 mother than your father. You're more of your mother than 0:13:30.120 --> 0:13:33.600 y'all father. You understand. So sit down and talk to her, 0:13:33.760 --> 0:13:36.599 you say, hey, what is it? Or you can just 0:13:36.600 --> 0:13:38.679 start the conversation like that. What is it? What is 0:13:38.720 --> 0:13:41.280 it about me that you hate? Why do you hate me? 0:13:41.840 --> 0:13:45.120 Why do you dislike me? What is wrong? What did 0:13:45.320 --> 0:13:48.400 I do to you? Why do you snitch on me? 0:13:48.480 --> 0:13:50.680 Why do you think you're so different? What is the 0:13:50.760 --> 0:13:53.120 problem with us? What is the underlying issue? Does it 0:13:53.200 --> 0:13:54.440 have anything to do with our dad? 0:13:54.760 --> 0:13:54.960 You know? 0:13:55.040 --> 0:13:58.079 Give her a chance to talk. Also, things may get 0:13:58.080 --> 0:13:59.920 a little heated. I know, y'all better not put your 0:14:00.040 --> 0:14:01.640 hands on each other, but that's not what sisters do. 0:14:01.920 --> 0:14:06.560 Even half sisters don't suppose to do that. Okay, have 0:14:06.600 --> 0:14:09.640 a conversation. Go to your other sisters, encourage them to 0:14:09.720 --> 0:14:12.480 talk to her. Y'all don't have to fight fire with fire. 0:14:12.920 --> 0:14:16.000 Let hollo ass beat the fire, put that shut out, 0:14:16.240 --> 0:14:20.400 extinguish that shit. And if it doesn't work, even after 0:14:20.480 --> 0:14:24.440 a sensible, civilized conversation, then fall back, I would say, 0:14:24.600 --> 0:14:26.920 and let her come around. Don't treat her in no 0:14:27.000 --> 0:14:29.320 different way. You just learn how to deal with it 0:14:29.440 --> 0:14:31.640 with a long and destphone. Deal with her at a distance. 0:14:31.720 --> 0:14:36.440 Love your sister from a distance. Okay, so check back 0:14:36.440 --> 0:14:39.160 in with me, baby girl. That was a good one. 0:14:39.600 --> 0:14:42.640 And she's so beautiful too. All right, we're gonna do 0:14:42.680 --> 0:14:45.200 one more and we're gonna get out of here. Hold up, 0:14:45.240 --> 0:14:47.200 hold up, I know this shit getting good, but listen 0:14:47.240 --> 0:14:49.280 to just a couple seconds of a commercial. If you 0:14:49.360 --> 0:14:50.240 love me, you'll listen. 0:14:52.720 --> 0:14:56.480 Moving on, Hey, jas, Okay, I'm gonna get right into it. 0:14:56.960 --> 0:14:59.120 Twenty six years old and I'm dating a guy. 0:14:59.560 --> 0:15:00.520 He's really nice. 0:15:00.640 --> 0:15:01.400 He's not one of the. 0:15:01.360 --> 0:15:04.560 Typical cool guys at date. He actually is shit. 0:15:05.240 --> 0:15:07.560 Most of the guys you know, we tend to go after. 0:15:07.800 --> 0:15:10.520 I tend to go after ain't shit, but. 0:15:10.840 --> 0:15:11.320 Just one of her. 0:15:11.360 --> 0:15:13.880 He's doing pretty good either way. Anyways, he has a 0:15:13.880 --> 0:15:16.880 three year old. I have no kids at all, and 0:15:17.600 --> 0:15:20.880 he's real cool with his baby mother, and anybody else 0:15:20.920 --> 0:15:23.520 will be great to not be going through baby mama drama. 0:15:23.560 --> 0:15:24.480 But they a little too cool. 0:15:24.800 --> 0:15:27.080 They give their three year old, they. 0:15:26.920 --> 0:15:28.600 Sit pictures down in front of her and give her 0:15:28.640 --> 0:15:31.480 a choice of where she wants to go to different countries, 0:15:32.080 --> 0:15:36.200 and she picks and they go as a family. And 0:15:36.320 --> 0:15:38.880 I'm dating you, So it's kind of hard for me. 0:15:39.000 --> 0:15:41.000 What should I do? How should I feel? I'm happy 0:15:41.040 --> 0:15:43.000 that he's not having drama with his baby mother, but I. 0:15:42.960 --> 0:15:44.080 Think that's a little bit much. 0:15:44.720 --> 0:15:47.320 Okay, so you cut that off and listen. I don't 0:15:47.360 --> 0:15:50.840 even need you to finish. Girl, Leave that motherfucker alone. 0:15:50.920 --> 0:15:53.560 Let's just what that is. Uh uh huh? This seme? 0:15:53.960 --> 0:15:56.200 What the fuck this look like? Over this? 0:15:56.960 --> 0:15:57.280 Girl? 0:15:57.480 --> 0:16:02.000 Please? What you date them? Is he your boyfriend? Because 0:16:02.040 --> 0:16:04.360 to be honest with you, oh yeah, I'm coming with 0:16:04.440 --> 0:16:07.520 y'all too. The fuck, I ain't never been to Somaliah. 0:16:07.680 --> 0:16:10.160 I ain't never been a Saint Lucia. I never been 0:16:10.160 --> 0:16:12.640 to Arabia. The fuck. Like, no, put some pictures in 0:16:12.680 --> 0:16:15.280 front of me, motherfucker, and I'm going that sounds like 0:16:15.320 --> 0:16:18.040 some Will Smith Jada Pinka. Shit, damn, what is this? 0:16:18.880 --> 0:16:21.240 Because you know Will Smith has an older son right 0:16:21.640 --> 0:16:25.360 before Jada. His name is Trey. Now. Will was married 0:16:25.360 --> 0:16:28.880 to his mother before. Look the Baltimore was coming out 0:16:28.920 --> 0:16:32.520 of me. Will was married to this woman before. Okay, 0:16:33.240 --> 0:16:36.320 and I just watched a little snippet of Red Table 0:16:36.360 --> 0:16:39.120 Talk where she actually came on. I think her name 0:16:39.160 --> 0:16:42.400 is Lisa. I do not want to screw this woman's 0:16:42.480 --> 0:16:45.440 name up. I think his first wife's name was Lisa. 0:16:45.640 --> 0:16:48.640 She comes on the show and Jada says, oh, they 0:16:48.720 --> 0:16:50.560 take trips together and everything like I did to go 0:16:50.560 --> 0:16:52.840 out the country together. And then so Lisa said, you know, 0:16:52.840 --> 0:16:54.720 you're gonna have to clear this up, right, Like, No, 0:16:54.960 --> 0:16:57.960 that's your husband. Yes, he was mine before, but he's 0:16:58.000 --> 0:17:00.800 your husband. You know you said stuff like that, You're 0:17:00.800 --> 0:17:02.520 gonna have to clear it up. No, we don't just 0:17:02.600 --> 0:17:05.720 go on trips because we're you know, like we fucking around, 0:17:05.760 --> 0:17:08.320 nothing like that. No, I think they had some type 0:17:08.359 --> 0:17:10.560 of like their business partners or something like that. But 0:17:10.640 --> 0:17:13.520 either way, I don't care. Jada is so secure in 0:17:13.560 --> 0:17:16.200 herself because she ain't really She don't give a damn 0:17:16.200 --> 0:17:19.119 by no damn Willie, so she don't care. Right, she 0:17:19.240 --> 0:17:22.439 got a few entanglements of her own still going on 0:17:22.600 --> 0:17:25.200 that we don't know about yet that she probably will 0:17:25.200 --> 0:17:27.240 tell us, because she tell us every damn thing, even 0:17:27.240 --> 0:17:30.320 shit that she shouldn't tell us. But that's neither here 0:17:30.400 --> 0:17:34.239 or there. She doesn't mind will traveling the world with 0:17:34.240 --> 0:17:36.679 his baby mother and the son don't even be there 0:17:36.680 --> 0:17:40.480 because the sun is grown, So imagine that I wouldn't 0:17:40.480 --> 0:17:44.600 even do that shit. As comfortable as I am with 0:17:44.840 --> 0:17:49.240 my son's father, me and my son and his dad 0:17:50.040 --> 0:17:53.120 will never go out the country. If I'm dating someone, 0:17:53.680 --> 0:17:56.720 we'll never go out the country together unless he taking 0:17:56.760 --> 0:18:01.119 his girl and I'm taking my man. There's no way. 0:18:01.320 --> 0:18:05.119 I don't care. That's just the respect level that I 0:18:05.160 --> 0:18:07.639 would have for my man and that he's supposed to 0:18:07.680 --> 0:18:10.879 have for his woman. That's just what that is. Girl, 0:18:10.960 --> 0:18:13.520 lead that nigga alone, especially if he ain't inviting you 0:18:14.080 --> 0:18:15.840 and when they go out the country together, do he 0:18:15.880 --> 0:18:18.480 call you? Do he talked to girl? Look? Fuck that 0:18:18.800 --> 0:18:21.400 lead that, nigga, that's just what that is. I'm sorry, 0:18:21.680 --> 0:18:24.040 I'm sorry, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Now you cut your 0:18:24.080 --> 0:18:26.040 story off. But I ain't even need to hear nothing else. 0:18:26.200 --> 0:18:29.040 Fuck that lead that shit alone, because I don't have 0:18:29.119 --> 0:18:31.840 time to girl. I ain't got time for that shit. 0:18:31.920 --> 0:18:35.919 Did y'all hear that? That just pissed me off? I 0:18:35.920 --> 0:18:38.800 want to know how serious you guys are. And when 0:18:38.840 --> 0:18:43.000 you say dating, dating to me just means you're getting 0:18:43.040 --> 0:18:45.600 to know a person. You know. You could be dating four, five, 0:18:45.640 --> 0:18:47.639 six people, you know what I'm saying. You could be 0:18:47.760 --> 0:18:50.280 dating a lot of people. You could be dating one 0:18:50.280 --> 0:18:52.520 person if you choose a date one person. But are 0:18:52.560 --> 0:18:56.280 you in a relationship. That's the difference, because if you're 0:18:56.359 --> 0:18:59.760 actually in a relationship, that's unacceptable. I mean, come on, 0:19:00.200 --> 0:19:04.480 come on, seriously, ask him? Would he allow the same? 0:19:05.000 --> 0:19:07.080 If y'all are even on those terms, have you ever 0:19:07.119 --> 0:19:09.479 bought this up to him before or is this your 0:19:09.480 --> 0:19:12.640 first time even taking it outside of your relationship bringing 0:19:12.680 --> 0:19:14.399 it to me? I think there needs to be a 0:19:14.400 --> 0:19:17.960 communication level established. I don't think there is one? The 0:19:18.040 --> 0:19:21.720 fuck and you say it like this is a regular 0:19:21.760 --> 0:19:24.359 thing that they just be doing, and shit, that can't 0:19:24.400 --> 0:19:28.000