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Speaker 1: Welcome to Canfley Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio and

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Speaker 1: the Black Effects. Oh shit, back on the air, Welcome

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Speaker 1: back to you had another catholic reckless episode with your

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Speaker 1: girl Jess. Hilarious session. Fixed my mess. Here we are

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Speaker 1: and we got some voice notes today. Thank god I

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Speaker 1: ain't got to read. Thank god I can just focus

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Speaker 1: on fixing. All right, good, here we go.

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Speaker 2: Hey, Jess, I want to see if you can fix

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Speaker 2: my mess.

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Speaker 3: I wanted to know what is your best suggestion on

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Speaker 3: cutting off family members that are always around. Like I

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Speaker 3: have a lot of sisters, and I'm friends with all

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Speaker 3: my sisters except for one of them.

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Speaker 2: She's just really shady and she talks about us to

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Speaker 2: her mom.

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Speaker 3: We have the same die, but we don't have the

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Speaker 3: same mom, and she talks about us. And like I

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Speaker 3: remember one time it went on a trip and her

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Speaker 3: phone was like out and our cousin saw that she

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Speaker 3: was texting her mom saying, oh, I'm not light her.

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Speaker 2: I'm not like these other girls.

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Speaker 3: Like I don't drink, I don't smoke like I'm good,

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Speaker 3: you know what I mean? Like number one, why are

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Speaker 3: you telling your mom that we drink and we smoke?

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Speaker 3: Like we come from a really religious family, and I

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Speaker 3: could come back to our mom. Number one, you're telling

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Speaker 3: you talking shit about your own fucking blood?

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Speaker 2: Like that's so weird to me.

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Speaker 3: I've never in my life said anything bad about any siblings.

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Speaker 3: And I'm the type of person like if you whatever

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Speaker 3: energy you give me, I will get back to you.

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Speaker 2: That's just like one of the shitty things that she's done.

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Speaker 3: And number two, she's just like really shitty to everybody.

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Speaker 3: This girl never keeps any friends because people always cut

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Speaker 3: her off because of the way that she asks, like

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Speaker 3: she'll talk shit about you, she'll tell your business. And

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Speaker 3: another thing that she did that just threw me off

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Speaker 3: guy friends, and she calls her guy friends and was like,

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Speaker 3: oh my god, like laughing, like why.

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Speaker 2: Would she do that?

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Speaker 3: Like it's just like, I'm like, girl, you're so you're

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Speaker 3: such a fucking pickny.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, she grew up around boys, and I grew

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Speaker 2: At the end of the day, the way that she

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Speaker 3: She never really had like females around her, so she

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Speaker 2: She doesn't really know how to act. But I don't

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Speaker 3: And also there's another thing that she did, like her

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Speaker 3: mom sent one of our brothers, our half brothers, to

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Speaker 2: And I think that she gets like she gets all

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Speaker 2: the shady behavior from her mom.

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Speaker 3: Her mom is just mad at my mom because she

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Speaker 3: I think that's why she hates us so much, and

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Speaker 2: Us to like obviously be on her mom's side.

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Speaker 3: But it's just like I don't like that fucking talkic shit.

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Speaker 3: Like whatever our parents have, it shouldn't come in between us,

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Speaker 3: you know what I mean. At the end of the day,

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Speaker 3: we're siblings. She doesn't really look at us that way.

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Speaker 3: She looks at us as the enemy because her mom

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Speaker 3: She's just projecting all of that onto us.

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Speaker 2: But honestly, like I can never get away from this girl.

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Speaker 3: I don't talk to her, I don't text her, but

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Speaker 3: I just ignore all her calls, and then like she

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Speaker 2: Or should I just play nice?

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Speaker 3: Because obviously she's friends with my sisters, and I love

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Speaker 2: I can't do that, Like, that's not the type of

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Speaker 3: I'm not the type of person to sit here and

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Speaker 2: Hate them in the inside. Like I'm a Sagittarius.

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Speaker 3: It's just it's hard for me, like to not tell

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Speaker 3: check her and be like, bitch, like this is what

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Speaker 2: Or should I just let it go.

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Speaker 4: Let me clarify on that one part where I said

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Speaker 4: that one of our moms was the other woman that

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Speaker 4: was shade. Neither of our moms were the other women.

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Speaker 4: Our father married for women. I'm not sure if it

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Speaker 4: if you know anything about Muslims, men are allowed to

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Speaker 4: same time, if not the same year.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, I just wanted to clarify on that part.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, no problem, money. I love that. I love

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Speaker 1: the clarification because listen, you sent me the other part

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Speaker 1: on a whole other day. You sent me the first

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Speaker 1: story a whole other day, and then you just sent

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Speaker 1: your correction not too long ago. Oh, I do understand

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Speaker 1: the shade was thrown. You were just in your feelings.

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Speaker 1: You were very upset, obviously something had just happened, and

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Speaker 1: you just you reacted. I understand, and I do respect,

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Speaker 1: I love and respect how you still respect her mother

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Speaker 1: enough to come back and correct that, like, no, okay,

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Speaker 1: she wasn't the other woman. Neither was my mom. You know,

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Speaker 1: we're Muslim, so dad is allowed to have more than

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Speaker 1: don't want to mess it up because I do not

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Speaker 1: want no smoke with no damn Muslims. All right, So

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Speaker 1: the Muslim part, all right. Listen, Okay, I want you

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Speaker 1: to have an open mind when I'm telling you this,

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Speaker 1: But your sister, do you sometimes feel that because you

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Speaker 1: and your other sisters, who are so close and tight

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Speaker 1: you know, you're very well articulate, you sound very intelligent.

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Speaker 1: Do you think with that family dynamic over there, you

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Speaker 1: it sounds like. And I'm basing that solely off of

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Speaker 1: really know how to be a sister. Okay, growing up?

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Speaker 1: How was it? Because do you think that she could

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Speaker 1: sometimes feel like a black sheep? I don't know if

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Speaker 1: the mother and stay with your mother or how was it? Also,

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Speaker 1: Did she ever feel included in anything? Not justifying the

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Speaker 1: is it possible that she could have grew up disliking

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Speaker 1: I didn't grow up around girls either, but I know

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Speaker 1: these Nicholas out here because I grew up around guys.

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Speaker 1: I have brothers, you know, I have boy cousins. Now

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Speaker 1: I have female cousins too, But I was a tom

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Speaker 1: got on wilding out. That's for real, and that's literally

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Speaker 1: like what six years ago. I was never into anything girly,

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Speaker 1: never ever even desired to be around girls, hang around girls,

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Speaker 1: you know, no particular reason. I just like basketball and

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Speaker 1: It's different for different people. I don't think that that

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Speaker 1: And I think you hit it on the head when

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Speaker 1: you said she's a pick me. It's like she's a

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Speaker 1: fucking pick me. Yeah, because I don't feel like she's

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Speaker 1: Pick Mees generally are the black sheeps, are the underdogs,

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Speaker 1: They seem like they're attention seeking, and they are because

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Speaker 1: And then if her mother was such an angry bitch,

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Speaker 1: no joking, sorry for mother was such an angry person

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Speaker 1: all her life from what you can remember, not all

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Speaker 1: she's mean, she's nasty. If a child is growing up

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Speaker 1: her to be that way. That's my mother, So I

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Speaker 1: inherit that I see that, I watch that, I learn

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Speaker 1: it to me. And maybe she did teach it on purpose,

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Speaker 1: But I don't drink and all that you know all

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Speaker 1: that shit comes from her mother. You guys are living life, chilling,

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Speaker 1: having fun, thinking y'all can trust y'all sister to have

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Speaker 1: fun with y'all too. Have y'all ever sat down and

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Speaker 1: I think that would be great. And honestly, I know

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Speaker 1: you don't like her. I know your sisters don't like her.

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Speaker 1: I don't think she likes y'all either, But that has

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Speaker 1: to stop. And you know you can't save every relationship.

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Speaker 1: You can't save every friendship, you can't even save every

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Speaker 1: family ship. But to be honest with you, I think

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Speaker 1: you even writing me is a sign that you do

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Speaker 1: want to fix it, because you asked me. Should I

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Speaker 5: You know?

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Speaker 1: Give her a chance to talk. Also, things may get

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Speaker 1: Even half sisters don't suppose to do that. Okay, have

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Speaker 1: And she's so beautiful too. All right, we're gonna do

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Speaker 2: Moving on, Hey, jas, Okay, I'm gonna get right into it.

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Speaker 5: Twenty six years old and I'm dating a guy.

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Speaker 2: He's really nice.

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Speaker 1: He's not one of the.

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Speaker 2: Typical cool guys at date. He actually is shit.

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Speaker 5: Most of the guys you know, we tend to go after.

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Speaker 2: But they a little too cool.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so you cut that off and listen. I don't

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Speaker 1: Let's just what that is. Uh uh huh? This seme?

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Speaker 1: Please? What you date them? Is he your boyfriend? Because

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Speaker 1: to be honest with you, oh yeah, I'm coming with

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Speaker 1: I ain't never been a Saint Lucia. I never been

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Speaker 1: to Arabia. The fuck. Like, no, put some pictures in

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Speaker 1: some Will Smith Jada Pinka. Shit, damn, what is this?

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Speaker 1: Because you know Will Smith has an older son right

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Speaker 1: before Jada. His name is Trey. Now. Will was married

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Speaker 1: that's your husband. Yes, he was mine before, but he's

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Speaker 1: nothing like that. No, I think they had some type

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Speaker 1: lead that, nigga, that's just what that is. I'm sorry,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. You said they're a little too cool?

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Speaker 1: Do you see any other signs of anything going on?

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Speaker 1: Like what the hell? And then and then hold up,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna say this to y'all. I'm gonna leave on

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Speaker 1: this note. Is this nigger rich? And is that why

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Speaker 1: Is he was just gonna go over there because them

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Speaker 1: The hell do this nigga got money? And is that

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