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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at Advocateslaw dot com.

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Speaker 2: Ben is on the phone today for your First Date

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Speaker 2: follow Up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Riley.

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Speaker 2: So in a second we're going to call her and

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Speaker 2: see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and

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Speaker 2: maybe give him another date. But first, Ben, how long

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Speaker 2: has it been since you talked to Riley?

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Speaker 3: It's like him a week and a half now.

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Speaker 1: We've been trying to reach out to her.

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Speaker 3: You know, I'm sure not to be crazy, but you know,

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Speaker 3: two messages, Okay, I.

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Speaker 1: Mean, you know, you just want to know how blatantly

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Speaker 1: ghosted you are.

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Speaker 3: Oh, I feel very ghost It's so long.

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Speaker 1: I know that sucks. I'm sorry. Okay, let's talk about

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Speaker 1: your date. How did you meet her?

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Speaker 4: What?

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Speaker 1: How did you leave it?

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Speaker 3: Personally?

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Speaker 5: I think the date, you know, there was a little

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Speaker 5: bit of awkwardness, but it was like a good date.

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Speaker 5: We're in the same field, so we've known each other forever,

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Speaker 5: like or not forever, but are professional lives.

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Speaker 3: We've known each other, okay.

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Speaker 5: We've been talking just like like friends or cowork or

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Speaker 5: co whatever, and then one day, like there was this

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Speaker 5: like a thing where we I noticed the night just

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Speaker 5: was like, what's trying to do with date?

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Speaker 3: And so this was the first one of those Okay.

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Speaker 1: Well that's kind of an ideal situation.

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Speaker 3: The date I.

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Speaker 5: Wouldn't be calling it. I thought this was like a

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Speaker 5: bad date. I thought the date was great.

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Speaker 1: What'd y'all do?

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Speaker 6: Uh?

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Speaker 5: She met up at my place, but then we walked

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Speaker 5: through the there's a really great restaurant near my near

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Speaker 5: at me and then so we walked there at dinner.

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Speaker 5: Dinner was great, came back movie.

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Speaker 1: Was there any part of this that started to get

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Speaker 1: a little awkward or off?

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Speaker 5: The one thing that was awkward was on the TV

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Speaker 5: with some dirty video content.

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Speaker 1: When you turn on your TV, that's the last thing

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Speaker 1: you were watching.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, In my difference was the night before. It wasn't

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Speaker 3: like that's what I was doing right before the day

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Speaker 3: I go, oh, I brushed my teeth, that took the shower.

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Speaker 3: I went, it was.

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Speaker 1: Were you the way?

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Speaker 2: Okay, you turn on the TV and she saw what

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Speaker 2: you had been watching that you probably don't want people

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Speaker 2: saying what you were watching.

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Speaker 3: It definitely not off first day. The thing is, though

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Speaker 3: we laughed off so she noticed.

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Speaker 1: Are you sure she noticed? Oh yeah, I just don't

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Speaker 1: know how it was.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, you can't see what you saw.

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Speaker 1: She laughed it off. But did it seem like it

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Speaker 1: bothered her?

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Speaker 5: No, that's not That's what I was thinking, was like

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Speaker 5: a hiccup. But it didn't feel like a hiccup. Okay,

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Speaker 5: like it didn't.

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Speaker 3: Like he was that's how cool she is, Like she

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Speaker 3: didn't make.

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Speaker 5: It a thing.

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Speaker 1: Well, she's maybe being polite because also it kind of

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Speaker 1: feels like are you trying to drop a hand? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: like is this what it looks? Fun? Huh?

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Speaker 5: I just know that it's weird that we haven't talked

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Speaker 5: in so many days.

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Speaker 1: Well, how did you leave it?

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Speaker 3: That is?

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Speaker 5: But the second hang up the ice pelf, I just

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Speaker 5: didn't see you that week, like the let's go in

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Speaker 5: for the kiss moment, and so I just.

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Speaker 3: We didn't do that, and so just was like, let's

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Speaker 3: leave it, but like not leave it as a date.

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Speaker 1: Okay. So yeah, but and she has been ignoring all

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Speaker 1: of your phone calls and text and stuff.

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Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, two messages, but you know, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 1: Okay, we'll try to figure it out.

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Speaker 2: We'll playus on comeback and then call her and see

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Speaker 2: if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you and maybe

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Speaker 2: get you another day to right, Yeah, I think all right.

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Speaker 1: We'll pla us on comeback, get your first a follow

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Speaker 1: up next. Right in the middle of.

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Speaker 2: Today's first day follow up, if you're just joining us,

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Speaker 2: Ben is on the phone and he's getting ghosted by Riley.

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Speaker 2: So we're about to call her and see if she'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him

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Speaker 2: another day. But first, Ben, why don't you recap your

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Speaker 2: situation for us.

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Speaker 5: We've been friends for a long time. We finally made

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Speaker 5: a decision to go on a date. We went on

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Speaker 5: a pretty good date there. There was a couple.

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Speaker 3: Hiccups, no kiss at the end. There was some.

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Speaker 5: Studio playing when when we when she got back to

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Speaker 5: my place. Yeah, accidentally it was it was something playing

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Speaker 5: the night before, but it could have been the thing.

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Speaker 3: I don't think it is.

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Speaker 2: All right, Well, we'll give her a call and see

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Speaker 2: if we can figure it out for Are you ready?

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Speaker 3: Yep? Yep?

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Speaker 6: Okay, Hello, Hi, mass weeak to Riley please?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, this is she, Hey Riley, how are you?

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Speaker 1: My name is Jewbel. I'm calling from a radio show.

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Speaker 1: It's called The Jebel Show. Yeah, the show's You're Riley,

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Speaker 1: I'm Nina Hi, and I'm Victoria. How are you?

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Speaker 2: Hi?

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Speaker 3: Hi?

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Speaker 4: I'm the little Kirkfuse why are you guys calling me?

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Speaker 1: Have you ever listened to the show before?

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Speaker 7: I mean s been a while, but I don't know

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Speaker 7: why you guys are calling me?

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Speaker 2: Well, we do a segment on the show called the

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Speaker 2: First Day follow Up. That's where if you go on

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Speaker 2: a date with somebody and then end up ghosting them,

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Speaker 2: we call you and ask why. And we got an

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Speaker 2: email about you from somebody.

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Speaker 4: Oh really, are.

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Speaker 1: You ghasting somebody?

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Speaker 3: M m.

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Speaker 4: Just a little bit?

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Speaker 1: Is his name Ben?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: A little bit?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, been emailed us and told us a little bit

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Speaker 2: about your date. He also said he likes you a

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Speaker 2: lot and he's confused why he's getting ghosted.

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Speaker 1: Would you mind telling us? I don't know I should Well,

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Speaker 1: it's okay, you can tell us.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, okay, Well I I were pretty sure he was

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Speaker 7: high lowing that up.

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Speaker 1: Why do you think so?

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Speaker 7: So we stopped by at his apartment and it really

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Speaker 7: stink of it really did okay, And he just looked

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Speaker 7: so just coacted. It was just like he was out and.

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Speaker 4: Out of space and like couldn't talk to him, like

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Speaker 4: the whole entire date. It was just like couldn't get

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Speaker 4: like lil sentences from him. And you know, since we've

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Speaker 4: known you to them for a long time, it's wholly

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Speaker 4: opposite of who I really know.

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Speaker 1: I mean, maybe he was kind of nervous. You know,

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Speaker 1: some people like to take a shot before they go

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Speaker 1: on a date and then maybe like that's not his jam.

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Speaker 1: But like you just you know, like smoked a little

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Speaker 1: bowl real quick.

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Speaker 4: But I just know Gen was a looser.

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Speaker 1: Oh you don't like that if he was stoned.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, when it comes to Don like he just he's

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Speaker 4: just not the same person.

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Speaker 7: You know, he has like the long sage on our gate.

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Speaker 7: It was just like yeah, yeah, it's all right.

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Speaker 1: You felt like you were talking to a wall.

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Speaker 4: Yes, a big stone wall.

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Speaker 2: Okay, all right, well thank you for telling us. Appreciate it.

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Speaker 2: And now I'll let you know that Ben is actually

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Speaker 2: on the phone listening and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 3: Oh okay, you have a weed? You don't you have

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Speaker 3: a problem with weed?

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Speaker 1: How is your takeaway?

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Speaker 4: I I do?

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Speaker 5: Oh the creative Yeah, I'm I'm uh yeah, I'm baffled, but.

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Speaker 3: Like what, we're a dope. It's like people snot weed.

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Speaker 4: So you were high?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm hiring out after work. Yeah like what Yeah,

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Speaker 5: I'm an adult. This is just what I do see

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Speaker 5: to day. It's not everyone new I'm high. It's not

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Speaker 5: a problem. But I am high most of the time.

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Speaker 4: A you a totally different from work and on our day.

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Speaker 5: So yeah, that's because there's work weed and then there's

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Speaker 5: after work weed, and I.

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Speaker 3: It's so weird. I don't even think I didn't even

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Speaker 3: do much anymore. Like no one, like no one ever.

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Speaker 5: This is the first person I ever checked me on like, oh, yeah,

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Speaker 5: you're high.

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Speaker 1: Oh I don't know. I mean, I'm trying to follow

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Speaker 1: you right now.

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Speaker 5: Ben, I'm I only have a little bit fluster. This

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Speaker 5: is not I cannot believe this is the problem. I

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Speaker 5: thought this was like Noah's just what we were in it.

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Speaker 3: We understood each other.

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Speaker 4: You're just at the person I saw she wore. Well,

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Speaker 4: we'll talk into the wall on our date.

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Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, okay, that's that's okay, that's that's chilling me.

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Speaker 5: I guess you know, I don't want this to be weird.

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Speaker 5: Can we like still be friends is like a are

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Speaker 5: you like done?

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Speaker 2: Well, let me ask Riley, would you like to go

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Speaker 2: on another date with Ben? We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 7: I mean, I definitely don't want to go on a

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Speaker 7: second date with Ben, but I'm cool with us being friends.

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Speaker 3: Okay, We're gonna be friends.

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Speaker 5: Like you want to come over and smoke lead and

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Speaker 5: play some video games.

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Speaker 3: This is what I do with all my other friends.

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Speaker 4: No, I owned you that, but we can still be friends.

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Speaker 1: All right? Well, Ben, I'm sorry. No second date and

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Speaker 1: no video games. Yeah?

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Speaker 3: All right, Well this isle embarrassing. I'm gonna have to

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Speaker 3: go smoke some displayment lead.

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Speaker 1: Okay.

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Speaker 4: Jule's first Date follow up