WEBVTT - Second Date Update: Vacation No No

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to your brand new second Date Update. We're so

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<v Speaker 1>glad you're here.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you found the podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning and what oh,

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<v Speaker 1>today's about timing how long a date should be?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, I love that your timing was kind of off.

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<v Speaker 2>As just I wish that would have done it on purpose.

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<v Speaker 3>That was community.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't I didn't do it on purpose.

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<v Speaker 1>But this guy's first date lasted five days or that

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<v Speaker 1>was his plan. Anyway, you're going to hear the whole

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<v Speaker 1>story in just a second.

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<v Speaker 2>How could that go wrong?

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<v Speaker 4>Go wrong?

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<v Speaker 2>And you may think that we have another man in

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<v Speaker 2>the studio, but it's just a Lexis.

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<v Speaker 5>It's me.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, lost your voice.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, sorry, that's not going to stop me from reading

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<v Speaker 4>your comments.

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<v Speaker 2>That's right. Give us to that in your sultry voice.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, but Lincoln Godfrey, you said I showed my personal

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<v Speaker 4>trainer Dad this podcast a couple months ago, and ever

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<v Speaker 4>since this, whenever I stop in his gym, he's always

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<v Speaker 4>playing this for his clients to work out to.

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<v Speaker 3>Can we make you work out harder or lazier?

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<v Speaker 2>Are you it's good for muscles? If you laughed, oh

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<v Speaker 2>there it is.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that let's get this second Date brand new

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<v Speaker 1>started right now.

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<v Speaker 6>Second Date updated.

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<v Speaker 7>What do you do if you've been on the dating

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<v Speaker 7>apps for so long you start seeing the same people

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<v Speaker 7>on there over and over and over.

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<v Speaker 2>Does that happen?

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<v Speaker 5>Ye?

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<v Speaker 2>Are you like deleat it? And the two years later you.

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<v Speaker 7>Get it and you're like you again, start thinking like,

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<v Speaker 7>oh they haven't found somebody yet, Oh that catfish account

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<v Speaker 7>is still active. At that point, they're not potential soulmates

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<v Speaker 7>to you anymore. They're more like coworkers just occupying the

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<v Speaker 7>same space as you every single day.

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<v Speaker 3>Hey, Sarah, good to see you.

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<v Speaker 7>And that's where one of our listeners, Patrick found himself recently,

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<v Speaker 7>and he chose to do something about it.

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<v Speaker 3>So let's find out Patrick. Welcome to the show.

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<v Speaker 5>Hey guys, thanks for having me.

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<v Speaker 1>It's funny to think that the people that are you

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<v Speaker 1>are seeing are also seeing you and thinking this.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you know.

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<v Speaker 7>But it sounds like you were on the dating apps

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<v Speaker 7>for a long time.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah I was. Unfortunately, he's like, why bring it up, Jeff, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 6>thanks for reminding me.

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<v Speaker 3>But it says that you decided to do something about

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<v Speaker 3>it to change that. What did you do?

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<v Speaker 8>So?

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<v Speaker 6>I kept seeing the same people, So I expanded my location.

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<v Speaker 2>To drive four hours for a year.

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<v Speaker 7>Now basically, okay, so you expanded your search to farther away,

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<v Speaker 7>and who did you end up matching with?

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<v Speaker 6>Her name was Lisa and our first day actually ended

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<v Speaker 6>up being a vacation.

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<v Speaker 2>What wait? Is that far away that you had to

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<v Speaker 2>take a whole weekend to get there?

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<v Speaker 5>Well, it was kind of more of a separate trip.

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<v Speaker 1>Whoa You invited her on a vacation and she said yes.

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<v Speaker 6>Well, it happened to coincide with the work vacation, so

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<v Speaker 6>I just thought I would bring her and it sounded

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<v Speaker 6>fun and spontaneous.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow, because sometimes I feel like we are.

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<v Speaker 7>I go on a vacation and a girl always joke like,

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<v Speaker 7>oh my god, take me with you, but like you

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<v Speaker 7>don't actually take them with you.

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<v Speaker 3>That's a stranger, bro.

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<v Speaker 2>Did she know you don't live in her city?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 5>I told her.

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<v Speaker 6>I told her.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so confused.

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<v Speaker 1>And you're calling this a work vacation, aren't those two

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<v Speaker 1>words that don't go together.

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<v Speaker 6>It's kind of sponsored by my work. It's a five

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<v Speaker 6>day trip that we could take.

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<v Speaker 5>If we want.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, you spent five days together?

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<v Speaker 8>Wow?

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<v Speaker 6>Well, it was supposed to be five days. It actually

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<v Speaker 6>lasted about a day and a half.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, that's not good. Why, well what happened?

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<v Speaker 5>Well, I'm not quite sure.

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<v Speaker 6>Actually we were staying in the same room, and of

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<v Speaker 6>course we were going to restaurants, we were seeing the sites,

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<v Speaker 6>doing all the stuff and having a really good time.

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<v Speaker 5>In my mind and my.

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<v Speaker 2>Gosh, like, you're staying in the same room, did she?

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<v Speaker 2>Like there's just so.

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<v Speaker 1>Many layers to that, Like you're meeting this person for

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<v Speaker 1>the first time, and you're going to be using the

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<v Speaker 1>same bathroom, is all I can think.

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<v Speaker 7>Ye, to be fair, we can't talk about anything without

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<v Speaker 7>talking about the bathrooms.

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<v Speaker 3>If Brooks involved in the conversation, that like makes it super.

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<v Speaker 2>Awkward, right, oh, like yeah, and having to get ready

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<v Speaker 2>and having the line and.

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<v Speaker 3>Just like when you have to to you got a

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<v Speaker 3>hold like three days sometimes, right?

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<v Speaker 7>Is that why she goested you after a day and

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<v Speaker 7>a half?

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<v Speaker 5>I hope not.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean I didn't take all that throughout the time,

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<v Speaker 6>and I should have for sure.

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<v Speaker 7>Okay, they're like a moment, bro like tell us about

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<v Speaker 7>like tell us about the vibe of the vacation, Like

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<v Speaker 7>how did it go up to that point, well.

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<v Speaker 5>I thought it was going well.

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<v Speaker 6>You know, we're having a lot of laughs. She seemed

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<v Speaker 6>to be enjoying herself. I was enjoying myself. And we

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<v Speaker 6>went on this bike tour like the first day we

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<v Speaker 6>were there, and we were on the bus coming back

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<v Speaker 6>from it, and she just set a note and said, hey,

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<v Speaker 6>I need to talk to you.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't think I could make you happy.

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<v Speaker 3>Well that's what she said.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, and she got off the bus at the next stop,

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<v Speaker 6>and I don't know what happened to me, but I

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<v Speaker 6>just started crying.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh oh, man, was one of those so much? Was

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<v Speaker 2>it one of those wine bike tours?

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<v Speaker 1>Because after I drink sometimes.

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<v Speaker 5>There was no alcohol in all of that.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, I don't know why I got emotional. It's probably

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<v Speaker 6>I imagine it because I've been on the apps for

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<v Speaker 6>so long, and then I finally found somebody that I

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<v Speaker 6>connected with and we were in a beautiful place and

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<v Speaker 6>there was one dramatic.

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<v Speaker 2>Again, it's not dramatic. It's just having feelings, man, that's

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<v Speaker 2>all right.

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<v Speaker 3>Dust in your eye could be either one.

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<v Speaker 2>What do you think she meant by I can't make

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<v Speaker 2>you happy?

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<v Speaker 6>That's what I would like to find out I mean

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<v Speaker 6>when I got back.

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<v Speaker 5>She was kind of packing up all her stuff.

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<v Speaker 6>And yeah, I gave her space, and then she left,

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<v Speaker 6>and I haven't really heard anything except she texted once

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<v Speaker 6>that we're probably better off friends.

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<v Speaker 7>It sounds like you planned a lot of activities for

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<v Speaker 7>your vacation, and some people when they travel, they don't like.

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<v Speaker 3>To do that. Let's do one activity maybe too, but yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>mostly do beach time, no bike tours.

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<v Speaker 2>Jose and I could never vacation together.

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<v Speaker 7>Maybe she realized you weren't compatible in that way.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I mean that could be.

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<v Speaker 6>She seemed to be into all the little things that

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<v Speaker 6>plans for us, though it's.

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<v Speaker 1>Just so much time together and just adventurous enough to

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<v Speaker 1>agree to a five day vacation with a guy off

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<v Speaker 1>a dating app.

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<v Speaker 7>You maybe she just wanted the free vacation to like

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<v Speaker 7>lie out by the pool the whole time, didn't want

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<v Speaker 7>to be going to the zoo and going.

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<v Speaker 2>To the working and she was just getting that's what

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<v Speaker 2>she saw.

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<v Speaker 3>How long has it been since that happened?

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<v Speaker 5>About a week ago?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, okay, and obviously you're upset about it.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I'm very upset.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, crying in front of strangers upset, hasn't.

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<v Speaker 2>In front of strangers, You're fine.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, Well, maybe she's still even there now. Maybe she's

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<v Speaker 7>just parting it up wherever you guys went to.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe she moved.

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<v Speaker 7>Let's find out when we call her, we'll come back.

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<v Speaker 7>We'll try and get you your second date update right

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<v Speaker 7>after this hold.

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<v Speaker 3>On second date update. Some people like.

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<v Speaker 7>To go out to a restaurant for a first date.

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<v Speaker 7>Others might see a concert or hit a mini golf.

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<v Speaker 7>But not our listener Patrick. No, he jumped straight to

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<v Speaker 7>a five day vacation for his first date with Lisa.

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<v Speaker 7>At least it was supposed to be five days, but

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<v Speaker 7>she cut things off after just a day and a half.

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<v Speaker 2>But she did it in a pretty respectful way.

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<v Speaker 7>The last thing that she said to him was I

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<v Speaker 7>don't think I can make you happy. The last thing

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<v Speaker 7>he said to her was because he cried from that comment. Understandably,

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<v Speaker 7>he built up a lot of hope, and those bike

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<v Speaker 7>tours can make a chaf real bad too.

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<v Speaker 1>Not only but he's been on the dating apps for years,

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<v Speaker 1>so it's like years of pent up frustration just coming out.

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<v Speaker 8>And I think it's worse when you think things are

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<v Speaker 8>going well, right this is great, and then I don't.

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<v Speaker 3>Know got blindsided.

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<v Speaker 7>The thing is, he still doesn't understand what prompted her

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<v Speaker 7>to say that. Patrick, If you had to guess, what

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<v Speaker 7>do you think it is?

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<v Speaker 5>Maybe it was my breath.

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<v Speaker 6>Your breath usually have gum and I didn't have.

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<v Speaker 2>He'll be an ach.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not sure why that would prompt her to say,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know why I can't make you happy, but I.

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<v Speaker 3>Cannot recommend a dentisty.

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<v Speaker 7>She didn't have gum either, Bro the romantic tragedy of

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<v Speaker 7>the century.

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<v Speaker 9>That makes sense.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, maybe you guys can try to get just

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<v Speaker 1>a single date together.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe that will be the key here.

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<v Speaker 6>I like that, But we do live in different cities,

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<v Speaker 6>so somebody's gonna have to travel.

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<v Speaker 3>Meeting up is a vacation in itself, so hey, that

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<v Speaker 3>may be kind of fun. It's like once a month someone.

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<v Speaker 2>Takes a vacation.

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<v Speaker 3>I could be.

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<v Speaker 7>Let's start with trying to get Let's start with trying

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<v Speaker 7>to get her to pick up the phone first and

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<v Speaker 7>hopefully get an answer out of her.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna dial her non right now. Let's see how

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<v Speaker 3>this goes. Huh, Hey is this Lisa?

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>Hey, thanks for picking up. We're a radio show. We're

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<v Speaker 3>called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.

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<v Speaker 2>Lisa, Hey, Lisa, good morning.

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<v Speaker 9>Hi, good morning.

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<v Speaker 7>Sorry to interrupt your day like this, but we're doing

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<v Speaker 7>a segment on our show.

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<v Speaker 3>It's called a second Date Update.

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<v Speaker 7>I'm not sure if you're familiar with that, but one

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<v Speaker 7>of our listeners named Patrick has asked us to reach

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<v Speaker 7>out to you.

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<v Speaker 9>Oh wow, okay, wow, Like, oh wow? No, not oh wow?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you surprised to be hearing from Patrick?

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah, I'm surprised. Well, I guess I'm not surprised because

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<v Speaker 9>he seemed pretty desperate.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh desperate?

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<v Speaker 7>Oh come on, that's a pretty harsh judgment for someone

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<v Speaker 7>that you hung out with for like a day, trust me,

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<v Speaker 7>day and half.

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<v Speaker 9>Trust me, you'd be saying the same thing if you

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<v Speaker 9>knew all the things that he could and did.

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<v Speaker 2>What that's so wild? Like we talked to him, he

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<v Speaker 2>seems so mellow.

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah, maybe it's you because he's not loving you like

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<v Speaker 9>he was.

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<v Speaker 3>That's not fair either. I was sensing love vibe.

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<v Speaker 8>But.

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<v Speaker 2>He can't be in love with you.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, he just sounds like he really liked you

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<v Speaker 1>and you two finally connected.

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<v Speaker 9>He was behaving as if he loved me.

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<v Speaker 7>Oh, what happened to make you say that? Because I

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<v Speaker 7>don't think we have the full story, Like we know

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<v Speaker 7>that he did a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>And you agreed to go on a five day vacation

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<v Speaker 1>with him, which is wild.

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<v Speaker 9>That's the thing. It was just it was a lot,

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<v Speaker 9>and yes I agreed to go on this trip, but

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<v Speaker 9>there didn't need to be extra pressure on top of it,

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<v Speaker 9>and there.

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<v Speaker 2>Was okay, how so.

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<v Speaker 9>So our first night there to dinner and he was

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<v Speaker 9>like I could totally see myself proposing here. He wasn't

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<v Speaker 9>talking about me, but it was like he was waiting

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<v Speaker 9>for some of me to be like, oh yeah, like, well,

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<v Speaker 9>it'll be so lovely one day, you know, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 9>I was like okay. And then the next day we

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<v Speaker 9>go on the tour and he introduces me.

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<v Speaker 1>To the guide as.

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<v Speaker 9>Oh, this is my future wife.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, my future.

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<v Speaker 9>There was a note of kidding, but it was not

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<v Speaker 9>enough to like, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Mean, he sounds kind of like an earnest guy who

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<v Speaker 1>can be a little awkward right when we talked to him.

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<v Speaker 9>No, this isn't beyond like He then wanted to stop

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<v Speaker 9>at the jewelry store and he was like, hey, let's

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<v Speaker 9>go check out some like ring Okay, but did you.

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<v Speaker 7>Tell him ahead of time that you're against love and

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<v Speaker 7>the idea of marrying someone.

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<v Speaker 9>In a beautiful But I'm not against love and marriage

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<v Speaker 9>and all those things. It's more that I don't need

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<v Speaker 9>it on my first date, like, let's get to know

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<v Speaker 9>each other.

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<v Speaker 5>That's true.

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<v Speaker 2>Ring shopping is wild.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I mean I was. I was almost engaged,

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<v Speaker 3>and we still have.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe it was a local artisan shop and he was

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<v Speaker 1>just being a tourists.

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<v Speaker 3>Looking for a necklace.

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<v Speaker 7>Well, we don't have to speculate on like what he

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<v Speaker 7>was thinking and where his mind is that because he's

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<v Speaker 7>actually on the other line right now waiting.

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<v Speaker 5>To talk to you. I know he is.

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<v Speaker 2>Give him a.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm kind of bummed out that I ever heard from you.

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<v Speaker 5>You haven't returned to any of my calls messages.

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<v Speaker 9>Wow, Like I said it, really, I didn't think it

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<v Speaker 9>was a good fit. I didn't think we were handling

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<v Speaker 9>the pace and everything and being to.

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<v Speaker 2>I was that hard to hear?

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<v Speaker 6>Patrick, Yeah, of course it's hard to hear. I mean,

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<v Speaker 6>to be fair, I didn't actually propose. Yeah, we know,

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<v Speaker 6>for the the ring shop I feel like you're blowing

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<v Speaker 6>in out of proportion a little bit. I was just

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<v Speaker 6>curious what your taste was. It's kind of fun to

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<v Speaker 6>go into a shop. It could have been a T shirt.

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<v Speaker 5>Store, you know.

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<v Speaker 9>And yeah, it.

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<v Speaker 5>Was too much.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I know you're saying it's too much a lot,

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<v Speaker 6>but sometimes people just know it's like an instinctual thing

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<v Speaker 6>and you just feel it. For my parents, I mean,

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<v Speaker 6>it would love at first sight. They fill in within

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<v Speaker 6>the first few minutes of meeting each other, and they

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<v Speaker 6>ended up having four kids very soon after that.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, page, that's a good timeline to lay out after

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<v Speaker 1>what she just said.

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah, and that reminds me of the time. Also, you said, oh,

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<v Speaker 9>one day, I hope we can have future kids little usses.

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<v Speaker 5>Wow.

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<v Speaker 6>Isn't that what everybody wants in life? I mean, I

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<v Speaker 6>thought that's why we were going on a date in

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<v Speaker 6>the first place, is to find love?

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<v Speaker 5>Really?

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<v Speaker 6>Is that why people?

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<v Speaker 2>We should have known a guy who invites to gir

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<v Speaker 2>on a five DA vacation. Serious?

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe he could slow it down though, you know, maybe

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<v Speaker 1>you could pump the brakes a little bit.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I could pump the brakes. Yeah. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>See, Wow, dude, you're never playing hard to get.

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<v Speaker 9>Bro I'm yeah, I'm skeptical if he's capable of.

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<v Speaker 7>That, But if he's able to dial it back, pull

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<v Speaker 7>back the reins on the love and just do like

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<v Speaker 7>one dinner date with him, no vacation. Would you be

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<v Speaker 7>up for meeting Patrick one more time at Lisa?

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<v Speaker 6>Before you say anything, I just that day you left

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<v Speaker 6>me on the bus, then when you said you could

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<v Speaker 6>never make me happy. I cried when you got off

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<v Speaker 6>the bus, and I don't normally I'm not a big

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<v Speaker 6>cry here, especially in public, and it hit me.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not sure that's usually a romantic selling point.

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<v Speaker 7>But yeah, sounds like your second date is definitely going

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<v Speaker 7>to be cash.

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<v Speaker 9>I mean, it seems like a lot of pressure. I

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<v Speaker 9>don't know about this.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but sometimes opposites a track.

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<v Speaker 1>He is Hopeles is romantic and you are more like Alexis.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think she's gonna wake up in bed with

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<v Speaker 2>a ring on her finger. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 7>It's up to you, though, Lisa. We're not trying to

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<v Speaker 7>pressure you. We're not trying to like force you to

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<v Speaker 7>do anything you don't want to do. But we just

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<v Speaker 7>think that love is the most important thing in the

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<v Speaker 7>entire world, and what the whole purpose that we're on

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<v Speaker 7>ear that being said, would you give him one more chance?

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<v Speaker 9>I am open to it, It's just I need some

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<v Speaker 9>confirmation that i'll be dialed back like ninety.

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<v Speaker 5>I've already dialed it back.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel it right now. It's totally bad. I'm not sure.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm sure he likes you anymore. Honestly, yea, honestly did.

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<v Speaker 9>He hang up?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 6>Why don't we just talk on the phone for a

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<v Speaker 6>while and see where things go from there? We can

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<v Speaker 6>start there, Yes, let's start start.

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<v Speaker 3>Lisa, you were wrong. You can make him.

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<v Speaker 5>Happy, definitely. She just made me have the phone call

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<v Speaker 5>for sure.

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<v Speaker 8>Smile okay, Jeffrey in the morning Man, that was a

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<v Speaker 8>missed opportunity on my part.

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<v Speaker 7>I apologize to everyone. Would Yeah, because she said that

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<v Speaker 7>she agreed to a phone call, Why didn't we hang

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<v Speaker 7>up and call her back right there? Could have just

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<v Speaker 7>knocked it out while we were on the radio. Maybe

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<v Speaker 7>got some dirty talking I.

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<v Speaker 2>Need to hear anymore. I have a feeling that she

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<v Speaker 2>might not answer the phone.

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<v Speaker 7>You should try to get him for an awkward Tuesday something.

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<v Speaker 7>I guess you know we're gonna let them work it

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<v Speaker 7>out on their own because they agreed to talk off

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<v Speaker 7>the air, so that's good. Who knows if it's going

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<v Speaker 7>to be a true love connection or not. That's going

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<v Speaker 7>to be up to them.

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<v Speaker 1>I would like an update from them if they end

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<v Speaker 1>up talking for a minute to hear where they're at.

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<v Speaker 1>By the time two months hit, they should have three

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<v Speaker 1>kids at released.

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<v Speaker 7>But even if it didn't work out for them, lately,

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<v Speaker 7>we've had plenty that did and you can hear them

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<v Speaker 7>all on our Seconday podcast. They're up online wherever you

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<v Speaker 7>get yours at Brook and Jeffrey