Speaker 1: Welcome to your brand new second Date Update. We're so
Speaker 1: glad you're here.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you found the podcast.
Speaker 1: It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning and what oh,
Speaker 1: today's about timing how long a date should be?
Speaker 3: Yes, I love that your timing was kind of off.
Speaker 2: As just I wish that would have done it on purpose.
Speaker 3: That was community.
Speaker 2: I didn't I didn't do it on purpose.
Speaker 1: But this guy's first date lasted five days or that
Speaker 1: was his plan. Anyway, you're going to hear the whole
Speaker 1: story in just a second.
Speaker 2: How could that go wrong?
Speaker 4: Go wrong?
Speaker 2: And you may think that we have another man in
Speaker 2: the studio, but it's just a Lexis.
Speaker 5: It's me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, lost your voice.
Speaker 4: Yeah, sorry, that's not going to stop me from reading
Speaker 4: your comments.
Speaker 2: That's right. Give us to that in your sultry voice.
Speaker 4: Yes, but Lincoln Godfrey, you said I showed my personal
Speaker 4: trainer Dad this podcast a couple months ago, and ever
Speaker 4: since this, whenever I stop in his gym, he's always
Speaker 4: playing this for his clients to work out to.
Speaker 3: Can we make you work out harder or lazier?
Speaker 2: Are you it's good for muscles? If you laughed, oh
Speaker 2: there it is.
Speaker 1: I love that let's get this second Date brand new
Speaker 1: started right now.
Speaker 6: Second Date updated.
Speaker 7: What do you do if you've been on the dating
Speaker 7: apps for so long you start seeing the same people
Speaker 7: on there over and over and over.
Speaker 2: Does that happen?
Speaker 5: Ye?
Speaker 2: Are you like deleat it? And the two years later you.
Speaker 7: Get it and you're like you again, start thinking like,
Speaker 7: oh they haven't found somebody yet, Oh that catfish account
Speaker 7: is still active. At that point, they're not potential soulmates
Speaker 7: to you anymore. They're more like coworkers just occupying the
Speaker 7: same space as you every single day.
Speaker 3: Hey, Sarah, good to see you.
Speaker 7: And that's where one of our listeners, Patrick found himself recently,
Speaker 7: and he chose to do something about it.
Speaker 3: So let's find out Patrick. Welcome to the show.
Speaker 5: Hey guys, thanks for having me.
Speaker 1: It's funny to think that the people that are you
Speaker 1: are seeing are also seeing you and thinking this.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know.
Speaker 7: But it sounds like you were on the dating apps
Speaker 7: for a long time.
Speaker 6: Yeah I was. Unfortunately, he's like, why bring it up, Jeff, Yeah,
Speaker 6: thanks for reminding me.
Speaker 3: But it says that you decided to do something about
Speaker 3: it to change that. What did you do?
Speaker 8: So?
Speaker 6: I kept seeing the same people, So I expanded my location.
Speaker 2: To drive four hours for a year.
Speaker 7: Now basically, okay, so you expanded your search to farther away,
Speaker 7: and who did you end up matching with?
Speaker 6: Her name was Lisa and our first day actually ended
Speaker 6: up being a vacation.
Speaker 2: What wait? Is that far away that you had to
Speaker 2: take a whole weekend to get there?
Speaker 5: Well, it was kind of more of a separate trip.
Speaker 1: Whoa You invited her on a vacation and she said yes.
Speaker 6: Well, it happened to coincide with the work vacation, so
Speaker 6: I just thought I would bring her and it sounded
Speaker 6: fun and spontaneous.
Speaker 3: Wow, because sometimes I feel like we are.
Speaker 7: I go on a vacation and a girl always joke like,
Speaker 7: oh my god, take me with you, but like you
Speaker 7: don't actually take them with you.
Speaker 3: That's a stranger, bro.
Speaker 2: Did she know you don't live in her city?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 5: I told her.
Speaker 6: I told her.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Okay, so confused.
Speaker 1: And you're calling this a work vacation, aren't those two
Speaker 1: words that don't go together.
Speaker 6: It's kind of sponsored by my work. It's a five
Speaker 6: day trip that we could take.
Speaker 5: If we want.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, you spent five days together?
Speaker 8: Wow?
Speaker 6: Well, it was supposed to be five days. It actually
Speaker 6: lasted about a day and a half.
Speaker 3: Okay, that's not good. Why, well what happened?
Speaker 5: Well, I'm not quite sure.
Speaker 6: Actually we were staying in the same room, and of
Speaker 6: course we were going to restaurants, we were seeing the sites,
Speaker 6: doing all the stuff and having a really good time.
Speaker 5: In my mind and my.
Speaker 2: Gosh, like, you're staying in the same room, did she?
Speaker 2: Like there's just so.
Speaker 1: Many layers to that, Like you're meeting this person for
Speaker 1: the first time, and you're going to be using the
Speaker 1: same bathroom, is all I can think.
Speaker 7: Ye, to be fair, we can't talk about anything without
Speaker 7: talking about the bathrooms.
Speaker 3: If Brooks involved in the conversation, that like makes it super.
Speaker 2: Awkward, right, oh, like yeah, and having to get ready
Speaker 2: and having the line and.
Speaker 3: Just like when you have to to you got a
Speaker 3: hold like three days sometimes, right?
Speaker 7: Is that why she goested you after a day and
Speaker 7: a half?
Speaker 5: I hope not.
Speaker 6: I mean I didn't take all that throughout the time,
Speaker 6: and I should have for sure.
Speaker 7: Okay, they're like a moment, bro like tell us about
Speaker 7: like tell us about the vibe of the vacation, Like
Speaker 7: how did it go up to that point, well.
Speaker 5: I thought it was going well.
Speaker 6: You know, we're having a lot of laughs. She seemed
Speaker 6: to be enjoying herself. I was enjoying myself. And we
Speaker 6: went on this bike tour like the first day we
Speaker 6: were there, and we were on the bus coming back
Speaker 6: from it, and she just set a note and said, hey,
Speaker 6: I need to talk to you.
Speaker 5: I don't think I could make you happy.
Speaker 3: Well that's what she said.
Speaker 6: Yeah, and she got off the bus at the next stop,
Speaker 6: and I don't know what happened to me, but I
Speaker 6: just started crying.
Speaker 2: Oh oh, man, was one of those so much? Was
Speaker 2: it one of those wine bike tours?
Speaker 1: Because after I drink sometimes.
Speaker 5: There was no alcohol in all of that.
Speaker 6: Okay, I don't know why I got emotional. It's probably
Speaker 6: I imagine it because I've been on the apps for
Speaker 6: so long, and then I finally found somebody that I
Speaker 6: connected with and we were in a beautiful place and
Speaker 6: there was one dramatic.
Speaker 2: Again, it's not dramatic. It's just having feelings, man, that's
Speaker 2: all right.
Speaker 3: Dust in your eye could be either one.
Speaker 2: What do you think she meant by I can't make
Speaker 2: you happy?
Speaker 6: That's what I would like to find out I mean
Speaker 6: when I got back.
Speaker 5: She was kind of packing up all her stuff.
Speaker 6: And yeah, I gave her space, and then she left,
Speaker 6: and I haven't really heard anything except she texted once
Speaker 6: that we're probably better off friends.
Speaker 7: It sounds like you planned a lot of activities for
Speaker 7: your vacation, and some people when they travel, they don't like.
Speaker 3: To do that. Let's do one activity maybe too, but yeah,
Speaker 3: mostly do beach time, no bike tours.
Speaker 2: Jose and I could never vacation together.
Speaker 7: Maybe she realized you weren't compatible in that way.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean that could be.
Speaker 6: She seemed to be into all the little things that
Speaker 6: plans for us, though it's.
Speaker 1: Just so much time together and just adventurous enough to
Speaker 1: agree to a five day vacation with a guy off
Speaker 1: a dating app.
Speaker 7: You maybe she just wanted the free vacation to like
Speaker 7: lie out by the pool the whole time, didn't want
Speaker 7: to be going to the zoo and going.
Speaker 2: To the working and she was just getting that's what
Speaker 2: she saw.
Speaker 3: How long has it been since that happened?
Speaker 5: About a week ago?
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, and obviously you're upset about it.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm very upset.
Speaker 6: I mean, crying in front of strangers upset, hasn't.
Speaker 2: In front of strangers, You're fine.
Speaker 7: Yeah, Well, maybe she's still even there now. Maybe she's
Speaker 7: just parting it up wherever you guys went to.
Speaker 3: Maybe she moved.
Speaker 7: Let's find out when we call her, we'll come back.
Speaker 7: We'll try and get you your second date update right
Speaker 7: after this hold.
Speaker 3: On second date update. Some people like.
Speaker 7: To go out to a restaurant for a first date.
Speaker 7: Others might see a concert or hit a mini golf.
Speaker 7: But not our listener Patrick. No, he jumped straight to
Speaker 7: a five day vacation for his first date with Lisa.
Speaker 7: At least it was supposed to be five days, but
Speaker 7: she cut things off after just a day and a half.
Speaker 2: But she did it in a pretty respectful way.
Speaker 7: The last thing that she said to him was I
Speaker 7: don't think I can make you happy. The last thing
Speaker 7: he said to her was because he cried from that comment. Understandably,
Speaker 7: he built up a lot of hope, and those bike
Speaker 7: tours can make a chaf real bad too.
Speaker 1: Not only but he's been on the dating apps for years,
Speaker 1: so it's like years of pent up frustration just coming out.
Speaker 8: And I think it's worse when you think things are
Speaker 8: going well, right this is great, and then I don't.
Speaker 3: Know got blindsided.
Speaker 7: The thing is, he still doesn't understand what prompted her
Speaker 7: to say that. Patrick, If you had to guess, what
Speaker 7: do you think it is?
Speaker 5: Maybe it was my breath.
Speaker 6: Your breath usually have gum and I didn't have.
Speaker 2: He'll be an ach.
Speaker 1: I'm not sure why that would prompt her to say,
Speaker 1: I don't know why I can't make you happy, but I.
Speaker 3: Cannot recommend a dentisty.
Speaker 7: She didn't have gum either, Bro the romantic tragedy of
Speaker 7: the century.
Speaker 9: That makes sense.
Speaker 1: I mean, maybe you guys can try to get just
Speaker 1: a single date together.
Speaker 2: Maybe that will be the key here.
Speaker 6: I like that, But we do live in different cities,
Speaker 6: so somebody's gonna have to travel.
Speaker 3: Meeting up is a vacation in itself, so hey, that
Speaker 3: may be kind of fun. It's like once a month someone.
Speaker 2: Takes a vacation.
Speaker 3: I could be.
Speaker 7: Let's start with trying to get Let's start with trying
Speaker 7: to get her to pick up the phone first and
Speaker 7: hopefully get an answer out of her.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna dial her non right now. Let's see how
Speaker 3: this goes. Huh, Hey is this Lisa?
Speaker 9: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Hey, thanks for picking up. We're a radio show. We're
Speaker 3: called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 2: Lisa, Hey, Lisa, good morning.
Speaker 9: Hi, good morning.
Speaker 7: Sorry to interrupt your day like this, but we're doing
Speaker 7: a segment on our show.
Speaker 3: It's called a second Date Update.
Speaker 7: I'm not sure if you're familiar with that, but one
Speaker 7: of our listeners named Patrick has asked us to reach
Speaker 7: out to you.
Speaker 9: Oh wow, okay, wow, Like, oh wow? No, not oh wow?
Speaker 3: Oh okay.
Speaker 2: Are you surprised to be hearing from Patrick?
Speaker 9: Yeah, I'm surprised. Well, I guess I'm not surprised because
Speaker 9: he seemed pretty desperate.
Speaker 3: Oh desperate?
Speaker 7: Oh come on, that's a pretty harsh judgment for someone
Speaker 7: that you hung out with for like a day, trust me,
Speaker 7: day and half.
Speaker 9: Trust me, you'd be saying the same thing if you
Speaker 9: knew all the things that he could and did.
Speaker 2: What that's so wild? Like we talked to him, he
Speaker 2: seems so mellow.
Speaker 9: Yeah, maybe it's you because he's not loving you like
Speaker 9: he was.
Speaker 3: That's not fair either. I was sensing love vibe.
Speaker 8: But.
Speaker 2: He can't be in love with you.
Speaker 1: I mean, he just sounds like he really liked you
Speaker 1: and you two finally connected.
Speaker 9: He was behaving as if he loved me.
Speaker 7: Oh, what happened to make you say that? Because I
Speaker 7: don't think we have the full story, Like we know
Speaker 7: that he did a lot.
Speaker 1: And you agreed to go on a five day vacation
Speaker 1: with him, which is wild.
Speaker 9: That's the thing. It was just it was a lot,
Speaker 9: and yes I agreed to go on this trip, but
Speaker 9: there didn't need to be extra pressure on top of it,
Speaker 9: and there.
Speaker 2: Was okay, how so.
Speaker 9: So our first night there to dinner and he was
Speaker 9: like I could totally see myself proposing here. He wasn't
Speaker 9: talking about me, but it was like he was waiting
Speaker 9: for some of me to be like, oh yeah, like, well,
Speaker 9: it'll be so lovely one day, you know, I don't know.
Speaker 9: I was like okay. And then the next day we
Speaker 9: go on the tour and he introduces me.
Speaker 1: To the guide as.
Speaker 9: Oh, this is my future wife.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, my future.
Speaker 9: There was a note of kidding, but it was not
Speaker 9: enough to like, I.
Speaker 1: Mean, he sounds kind of like an earnest guy who
Speaker 1: can be a little awkward right when we talked to him.
Speaker 9: No, this isn't beyond like He then wanted to stop
Speaker 9: at the jewelry store and he was like, hey, let's
Speaker 9: go check out some like ring Okay, but did you.
Speaker 7: Tell him ahead of time that you're against love and
Speaker 7: the idea of marrying someone.
Speaker 9: In a beautiful But I'm not against love and marriage
Speaker 9: and all those things. It's more that I don't need
Speaker 9: it on my first date, like, let's get to know
Speaker 9: each other.
Speaker 5: That's true.
Speaker 2: Ring shopping is wild.
Speaker 3: I mean, I mean I was. I was almost engaged,
Speaker 3: and we still have.
Speaker 1: Maybe it was a local artisan shop and he was
Speaker 1: just being a tourists.
Speaker 3: Looking for a necklace.
Speaker 7: Well, we don't have to speculate on like what he
Speaker 7: was thinking and where his mind is that because he's
Speaker 7: actually on the other line right now waiting.
Speaker 5: To talk to you. I know he is.
Speaker 2: Give him a.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 6: I'm kind of bummed out that I ever heard from you.
Speaker 5: You haven't returned to any of my calls messages.
Speaker 9: Wow, Like I said it, really, I didn't think it
Speaker 9: was a good fit. I didn't think we were handling
Speaker 9: the pace and everything and being to.
Speaker 2: I was that hard to hear?
Speaker 6: Patrick, Yeah, of course it's hard to hear. I mean,
Speaker 6: to be fair, I didn't actually propose. Yeah, we know,
Speaker 6: for the the ring shop I feel like you're blowing
Speaker 6: in out of proportion a little bit. I was just
Speaker 6: curious what your taste was. It's kind of fun to
Speaker 6: go into a shop. It could have been a T shirt.
Speaker 5: Store, you know.
Speaker 9: And yeah, it.
Speaker 5: Was too much.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I know you're saying it's too much a lot,
Speaker 6: but sometimes people just know it's like an instinctual thing
Speaker 6: and you just feel it. For my parents, I mean,
Speaker 6: it would love at first sight. They fill in within
Speaker 6: the first few minutes of meeting each other, and they
Speaker 6: ended up having four kids very soon after that.
Speaker 1: Okay, page, that's a good timeline to lay out after
Speaker 1: what she just said.
Speaker 9: Yeah, and that reminds me of the time. Also, you said, oh,
Speaker 9: one day, I hope we can have future kids little usses.
Speaker 5: Wow.
Speaker 6: Isn't that what everybody wants in life? I mean, I
Speaker 6: thought that's why we were going on a date in
Speaker 6: the first place, is to find love?
Speaker 5: Really?
Speaker 6: Is that why people?
Speaker 2: We should have known a guy who invites to gir
Speaker 2: on a five DA vacation. Serious?
Speaker 1: Maybe he could slow it down though, you know, maybe
Speaker 1: you could pump the brakes a little bit.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I could pump the brakes. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 3: See, Wow, dude, you're never playing hard to get.
Speaker 9: Bro I'm yeah, I'm skeptical if he's capable of.
Speaker 7: That, But if he's able to dial it back, pull
Speaker 7: back the reins on the love and just do like
Speaker 7: one dinner date with him, no vacation. Would you be
Speaker 7: up for meeting Patrick one more time at Lisa?
Speaker 6: Before you say anything, I just that day you left
Speaker 6: me on the bus, then when you said you could
Speaker 6: never make me happy. I cried when you got off
Speaker 6: the bus, and I don't normally I'm not a big
Speaker 6: cry here, especially in public, and it hit me.
Speaker 3: I'm not sure that's usually a romantic selling point.
Speaker 7: But yeah, sounds like your second date is definitely going
Speaker 7: to be cash.
Speaker 9: I mean, it seems like a lot of pressure. I
Speaker 9: don't know about this.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but sometimes opposites a track.
Speaker 1: He is Hopeles is romantic and you are more like Alexis.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think she's gonna wake up in bed with
Speaker 2: a ring on her finger. Yeah.
Speaker 7: It's up to you, though, Lisa. We're not trying to
Speaker 7: pressure you. We're not trying to like force you to
Speaker 7: do anything you don't want to do. But we just
Speaker 7: think that love is the most important thing in the
Speaker 7: entire world, and what the whole purpose that we're on
Speaker 7: ear that being said, would you give him one more chance?
Speaker 9: I am open to it, It's just I need some
Speaker 9: confirmation that i'll be dialed back like ninety.
Speaker 5: I've already dialed it back.
Speaker 3: I feel it right now. It's totally bad. I'm not sure.
Speaker 3: I'm sure he likes you anymore. Honestly, yea, honestly did.
Speaker 9: He hang up?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 6: Why don't we just talk on the phone for a
Speaker 6: while and see where things go from there? We can
Speaker 6: start there, Yes, let's start start.
Speaker 3: Lisa, you were wrong. You can make him.
Speaker 5: Happy, definitely. She just made me have the phone call
Speaker 5: for sure.
Speaker 8: Smile okay, Jeffrey in the morning Man, that was a
Speaker 8: missed opportunity on my part.
Speaker 7: I apologize to everyone. Would Yeah, because she said that
Speaker 7: she agreed to a phone call, Why didn't we hang
Speaker 7: up and call her back right there? Could have just
Speaker 7: knocked it out while we were on the radio. Maybe
Speaker 7: got some dirty talking I.
Speaker 2: Need to hear anymore. I have a feeling that she
Speaker 2: might not answer the phone.
Speaker 7: You should try to get him for an awkward Tuesday something.
Speaker 7: I guess you know we're gonna let them work it
Speaker 7: out on their own because they agreed to talk off
Speaker 7: the air, so that's good. Who knows if it's going
Speaker 7: to be a true love connection or not. That's going
Speaker 7: to be up to them.
Speaker 1: I would like an update from them if they end
Speaker 1: up talking for a minute to hear where they're at.
Speaker 1: By the time two months hit, they should have three
Speaker 1: kids at released.
Speaker 7: But even if it didn't work out for them, lately,
Speaker 7: we've had plenty that did and you can hear them
Speaker 7: all on our Seconday podcast. They're up online wherever you
Speaker 7: get yours at Brook and Jeffrey