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Speaker 1: Welcome to your brand new second Date Update. We're so

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Speaker 1: glad you're here.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you found the podcast.

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Speaker 1: It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning and what oh,

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Speaker 1: today's about timing how long a date should be?

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Speaker 3: Yes, I love that your timing was kind of off.

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Speaker 2: As just I wish that would have done it on purpose.

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Speaker 3: That was community.

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Speaker 2: I didn't I didn't do it on purpose.

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Speaker 1: But this guy's first date lasted five days or that

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Speaker 1: was his plan. Anyway, you're going to hear the whole

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Speaker 1: story in just a second.

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Speaker 2: How could that go wrong?

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Speaker 4: Go wrong?

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Speaker 2: And you may think that we have another man in

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Speaker 2: the studio, but it's just a Lexis.

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Speaker 5: It's me.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, lost your voice.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, sorry, that's not going to stop me from reading

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Speaker 4: your comments.

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Speaker 2: That's right. Give us to that in your sultry voice.

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Speaker 4: Yes, but Lincoln Godfrey, you said I showed my personal

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Speaker 4: trainer Dad this podcast a couple months ago, and ever

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Speaker 4: since this, whenever I stop in his gym, he's always

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Speaker 4: playing this for his clients to work out to.

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Speaker 3: Can we make you work out harder or lazier?

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Speaker 2: Are you it's good for muscles? If you laughed, oh

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Speaker 2: there it is.

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Speaker 1: I love that let's get this second Date brand new

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Speaker 1: started right now.

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Speaker 6: Second Date updated.

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Speaker 7: What do you do if you've been on the dating

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Speaker 7: apps for so long you start seeing the same people

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Speaker 7: on there over and over and over.

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Speaker 2: Does that happen?

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Speaker 5: Ye?

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Speaker 2: Are you like deleat it? And the two years later you.

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Speaker 7: Get it and you're like you again, start thinking like,

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Speaker 7: oh they haven't found somebody yet, Oh that catfish account

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Speaker 7: is still active. At that point, they're not potential soulmates

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Speaker 7: to you anymore. They're more like coworkers just occupying the

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Speaker 7: same space as you every single day.

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Speaker 3: Hey, Sarah, good to see you.

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Speaker 7: And that's where one of our listeners, Patrick found himself recently,

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Speaker 7: and he chose to do something about it.

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Speaker 3: So let's find out Patrick. Welcome to the show.

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Speaker 5: Hey guys, thanks for having me.

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Speaker 1: It's funny to think that the people that are you

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Speaker 1: are seeing are also seeing you and thinking this.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know.

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Speaker 7: But it sounds like you were on the dating apps

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Speaker 7: for a long time.

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Speaker 6: Yeah I was. Unfortunately, he's like, why bring it up, Jeff, Yeah,

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Speaker 6: thanks for reminding me.

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Speaker 3: But it says that you decided to do something about

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Speaker 3: it to change that. What did you do?

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Speaker 8: So?

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Speaker 6: I kept seeing the same people, So I expanded my location.

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Speaker 2: To drive four hours for a year.

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Speaker 7: Now basically, okay, so you expanded your search to farther away,

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Speaker 7: and who did you end up matching with?

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Speaker 6: Her name was Lisa and our first day actually ended

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Speaker 6: up being a vacation.

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Speaker 2: What wait? Is that far away that you had to

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Speaker 2: take a whole weekend to get there?

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Speaker 5: Well, it was kind of more of a separate trip.

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Speaker 1: Whoa You invited her on a vacation and she said yes.

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Speaker 6: Well, it happened to coincide with the work vacation, so

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Speaker 6: I just thought I would bring her and it sounded

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Speaker 3: Wow, because sometimes I feel like we are.

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Speaker 7: I go on a vacation and a girl always joke like,

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Speaker 7: oh my god, take me with you, but like you

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Speaker 7: don't actually take them with you.

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Speaker 3: That's a stranger, bro.

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Speaker 2: Did she know you don't live in her city?

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: I told her.

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Speaker 6: I told her.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so confused.

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Speaker 1: And you're calling this a work vacation, aren't those two

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Speaker 6: It's kind of sponsored by my work. It's a five

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Speaker 6: day trip that we could take.

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Speaker 5: If we want.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, you spent five days together?

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Speaker 8: Wow?

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Speaker 6: Well, it was supposed to be five days. It actually

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Speaker 6: lasted about a day and a half.

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Speaker 3: Okay, that's not good. Why, well what happened?

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Speaker 5: Well, I'm not quite sure.

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Speaker 6: Actually we were staying in the same room, and of

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Speaker 6: course we were going to restaurants, we were seeing the sites,

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Speaker 6: doing all the stuff and having a really good time.

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Speaker 5: In my mind and my.

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Speaker 2: Gosh, like, you're staying in the same room, did she?

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Speaker 2: Like there's just so.

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Speaker 1: Many layers to that, Like you're meeting this person for

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Speaker 7: Ye, to be fair, we can't talk about anything without

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Speaker 7: talking about the bathrooms.

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Speaker 3: If Brooks involved in the conversation, that like makes it super.

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Speaker 2: Awkward, right, oh, like yeah, and having to get ready

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Speaker 3: Just like when you have to to you got a

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Speaker 3: hold like three days sometimes, right?

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Speaker 7: Is that why she goested you after a day and

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Speaker 7: a half?

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Speaker 5: I hope not.

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Speaker 6: I mean I didn't take all that throughout the time,

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Speaker 6: and I should have for sure.

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Speaker 7: Okay, they're like a moment, bro like tell us about

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Speaker 7: how did it go up to that point, well.

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Speaker 5: I thought it was going well.

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Speaker 6: You know, we're having a lot of laughs. She seemed

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Speaker 6: to be enjoying herself. I was enjoying myself. And we

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Speaker 6: went on this bike tour like the first day we

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Speaker 6: from it, and she just set a note and said, hey,

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Speaker 6: I need to talk to you.

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Speaker 5: I don't think I could make you happy.

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Speaker 3: Well that's what she said.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, and she got off the bus at the next stop,

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Speaker 6: and I don't know what happened to me, but I

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Speaker 2: Oh oh, man, was one of those so much? Was

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Speaker 2: it one of those wine bike tours?

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Speaker 1: Because after I drink sometimes.

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Speaker 5: There was no alcohol in all of that.

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Speaker 6: Okay, I don't know why I got emotional. It's probably

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Speaker 6: I imagine it because I've been on the apps for

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Speaker 6: there was one dramatic.

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Speaker 2: Again, it's not dramatic. It's just having feelings, man, that's

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Speaker 2: all right.

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Speaker 3: Dust in your eye could be either one.

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Speaker 2: What do you think she meant by I can't make

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Speaker 2: you happy?

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Speaker 6: That's what I would like to find out I mean

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Speaker 5: She was kind of packing up all her stuff.

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Speaker 6: And yeah, I gave her space, and then she left,

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Speaker 6: and I haven't really heard anything except she texted once

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Speaker 6: that we're probably better off friends.

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Speaker 7: It sounds like you planned a lot of activities for

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Speaker 7: your vacation, and some people when they travel, they don't like.

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Speaker 3: To do that. Let's do one activity maybe too, but yeah,

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Speaker 3: mostly do beach time, no bike tours.

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Speaker 2: Jose and I could never vacation together.

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Speaker 7: Maybe she realized you weren't compatible in that way.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean that could be.

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Speaker 6: She seemed to be into all the little things that

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Speaker 1: Just so much time together and just adventurous enough to

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Speaker 7: You maybe she just wanted the free vacation to like

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Speaker 7: lie out by the pool the whole time, didn't want

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Speaker 2: To the working and she was just getting that's what

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Speaker 3: How long has it been since that happened?

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Speaker 5: About a week ago?

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, and obviously you're upset about it.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm very upset.

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Speaker 6: I mean, crying in front of strangers upset, hasn't.

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Speaker 2: In front of strangers, You're fine.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, Well, maybe she's still even there now. Maybe she's

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Speaker 7: just parting it up wherever you guys went to.

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Speaker 3: Maybe she moved.

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Speaker 7: Let's find out when we call her, we'll come back.

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Speaker 7: We'll try and get you your second date update right

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Speaker 7: after this hold.

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Speaker 3: On second date update. Some people like.

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Speaker 7: To go out to a restaurant for a first date.

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Speaker 7: Others might see a concert or hit a mini golf.

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Speaker 7: But not our listener Patrick. No, he jumped straight to

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Speaker 7: a five day vacation for his first date with Lisa.

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Speaker 7: At least it was supposed to be five days, but

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Speaker 7: she cut things off after just a day and a half.

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Speaker 2: But she did it in a pretty respectful way.

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Speaker 7: The last thing that she said to him was I

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Speaker 7: he said to her was because he cried from that comment. Understandably,

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Speaker 7: he built up a lot of hope, and those bike

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Speaker 1: Not only but he's been on the dating apps for years,

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Speaker 1: so it's like years of pent up frustration just coming out.

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Speaker 8: And I think it's worse when you think things are

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Speaker 8: going well, right this is great, and then I don't.

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Speaker 3: Know got blindsided.

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Speaker 7: The thing is, he still doesn't understand what prompted her

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Speaker 7: to say that. Patrick, If you had to guess, what

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Speaker 5: Maybe it was my breath.

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Speaker 6: Your breath usually have gum and I didn't have.

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Speaker 2: He'll be an ach.

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Speaker 1: I'm not sure why that would prompt her to say,

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Speaker 1: I don't know why I can't make you happy, but I.

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Speaker 3: Cannot recommend a dentisty.

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Speaker 7: She didn't have gum either, Bro the romantic tragedy of

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Speaker 7: the century.

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Speaker 9: That makes sense.

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Speaker 1: I mean, maybe you guys can try to get just

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Speaker 1: a single date together.

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Speaker 2: Maybe that will be the key here.

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Speaker 6: I like that, But we do live in different cities,

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Speaker 6: so somebody's gonna have to travel.

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Speaker 3: Meeting up is a vacation in itself, so hey, that

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Speaker 3: may be kind of fun. It's like once a month someone.

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Speaker 2: Takes a vacation.

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Speaker 3: I could be.

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Speaker 7: Let's start with trying to get Let's start with trying

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Speaker 7: to get her to pick up the phone first and

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Speaker 7: hopefully get an answer out of her.

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna dial her non right now. Let's see how

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Speaker 3: this goes. Huh, Hey is this Lisa?

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Speaker 9: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Hey, thanks for picking up. We're a radio show. We're

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Speaker 3: called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.

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Speaker 2: Lisa, Hey, Lisa, good morning.

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Speaker 9: Hi, good morning.

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Speaker 7: Sorry to interrupt your day like this, but we're doing

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Speaker 7: a segment on our show.

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Speaker 3: It's called a second Date Update.

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Speaker 7: I'm not sure if you're familiar with that, but one

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Speaker 9: Oh wow, okay, wow, Like, oh wow? No, not oh wow?

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Speaker 2: Are you surprised to be hearing from Patrick?

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Speaker 9: Yeah, I'm surprised. Well, I guess I'm not surprised because

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Speaker 7: Oh come on, that's a pretty harsh judgment for someone

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Speaker 9: Trust me, you'd be saying the same thing if you

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Speaker 2: What that's so wild? Like we talked to him, he

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Speaker 9: Yeah, maybe it's you because he's not loving you like

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Speaker 3: That's not fair either. I was sensing love vibe.

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Speaker 1: I mean, he just sounds like he really liked you

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Speaker 9: He was behaving as if he loved me.

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Speaker 7: Oh, what happened to make you say that? Because I

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Speaker 1: And you agreed to go on a five day vacation

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Speaker 9: That's the thing. It was just it was a lot,

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Speaker 9: So our first night there to dinner and he was

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Speaker 9: I was like okay. And then the next day we

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Speaker 1: To the guide as.

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Speaker 9: Oh, this is my future wife.

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, my future.

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Speaker 9: There was a note of kidding, but it was not

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Speaker 9: No, this isn't beyond like He then wanted to stop

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Speaker 7: Tell him ahead of time that you're against love and

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Speaker 9: In a beautiful But I'm not against love and marriage

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Speaker 9: and all those things. It's more that I don't need

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Speaker 5: That's true.

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Speaker 2: Ring shopping is wild.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I mean I was. I was almost engaged,

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Speaker 1: Maybe it was a local artisan shop and he was

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Speaker 3: Looking for a necklace.

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Speaker 7: Well, we don't have to speculate on like what he

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Speaker 5: To talk to you. I know he is.

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Speaker 2: Give him a.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: I'm kind of bummed out that I ever heard from you.

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Speaker 5: You haven't returned to any of my calls messages.

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Speaker 9: Wow, Like I said it, really, I didn't think it

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Speaker 2: I was that hard to hear?

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Speaker 6: Patrick, Yeah, of course it's hard to hear. I mean,

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Speaker 6: to be fair, I didn't actually propose. Yeah, we know,

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Speaker 6: for the the ring shop I feel like you're blowing

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Speaker 5: Store, you know.

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Speaker 9: And yeah, it.

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Speaker 5: Was too much.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I know you're saying it's too much a lot,

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Speaker 6: but sometimes people just know it's like an instinctual thing

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Speaker 6: and you just feel it. For my parents, I mean,

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Speaker 6: it would love at first sight. They fill in within

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Speaker 1: Okay, page, that's a good timeline to lay out after

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Speaker 9: Yeah, and that reminds me of the time. Also, you said, oh,

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Speaker 9: one day, I hope we can have future kids little usses.

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Speaker 5: Wow.

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Speaker 6: Isn't that what everybody wants in life? I mean, I

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Speaker 6: thought that's why we were going on a date in

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Speaker 5: Really?

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Speaker 6: Is that why people?

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Speaker 2: We should have known a guy who invites to gir

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Speaker 1: Maybe he could slow it down though, you know, maybe

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I could pump the brakes. Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: See, Wow, dude, you're never playing hard to get.

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Speaker 9: Bro I'm yeah, I'm skeptical if he's capable of.

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Speaker 7: That, But if he's able to dial it back, pull

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Speaker 7: back the reins on the love and just do like

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Speaker 7: one dinner date with him, no vacation. Would you be

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Speaker 6: Before you say anything, I just that day you left

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Speaker 6: never make me happy. I cried when you got off

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Speaker 6: the bus, and I don't normally I'm not a big

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Speaker 3: I'm not sure that's usually a romantic selling point.

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Speaker 7: But yeah, sounds like your second date is definitely going

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Speaker 9: I mean, it seems like a lot of pressure. I

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but sometimes opposites a track.

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Speaker 1: He is Hopeles is romantic and you are more like Alexis.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think she's gonna wake up in bed with

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Speaker 7: It's up to you, though, Lisa. We're not trying to

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Speaker 7: ear that being said, would you give him one more chance?

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Speaker 9: I am open to it, It's just I need some

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Speaker 5: I've already dialed it back.

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Speaker 3: I feel it right now. It's totally bad. I'm not sure.

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Speaker 3: I'm sure he likes you anymore. Honestly, yea, honestly did.

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Speaker 9: He hang up?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 6: Why don't we just talk on the phone for a

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Speaker 6: start there, Yes, let's start start.

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Speaker 3: Lisa, you were wrong. You can make him.

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Speaker 5: Happy, definitely. She just made me have the phone call

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Speaker 8: Smile okay, Jeffrey in the morning Man, that was a

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Speaker 7: I apologize to everyone. Would Yeah, because she said that

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Speaker 7: she agreed to a phone call, Why didn't we hang

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Speaker 7: got some dirty talking I.

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Speaker 2: Need to hear anymore. I have a feeling that she

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Speaker 7: You should try to get him for an awkward Tuesday something.

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Speaker 7: I guess you know we're gonna let them work it

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Speaker 7: out on their own because they agreed to talk off

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Speaker 7: the air, so that's good. Who knows if it's going

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Speaker 7: to be a true love connection or not. That's going

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Speaker 1: I would like an update from them if they end

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Speaker 1: up talking for a minute to hear where they're at.

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Speaker 1: By the time two months hit, they should have three

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Speaker 7: But even if it didn't work out for them, lately,

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Speaker 7: we've had plenty that did and you can hear them

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Speaker 7: all on our Seconday podcast. They're up online wherever you

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Speaker 7: get yours at Brook and Jeffrey