WEBVTT - Awkward Tuesday: Prenup or Pre-NOPE 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:02.680 It's your second Ay podcast and today with Brook and 0:00:02.720 --> 0:00:04.440 Jeffrey in the morning, we have an awkward Tuesday phone 0:00:04.480 --> 0:00:05.240 call because. 0:00:04.960 --> 0:00:06.600 It's it's Tuesday. 0:00:06.920 --> 0:00:08.959 But I was just looking through the stats on our 0:00:09.039 --> 0:00:11.480 podcast and I always think it's fascinating to see where 0:00:11.520 --> 0:00:14.080 people are listening from. And I always look at like 0:00:14.120 --> 0:00:18.160 the top five countries. It's like the US, Canada, the UK, Australia, 0:00:18.239 --> 0:00:21.279 the Philippines, which is amazing. But I scrolled all the 0:00:21.320 --> 0:00:23.680 way down to see where we get the least amount 0:00:23.720 --> 0:00:24.160 of listeners. 0:00:24.320 --> 0:00:26.640 There's like one person. Yeah, I love doing that. 0:00:26.720 --> 0:00:30.600 We've got one listener in Sri Lanka, if that's you, 0:00:30.640 --> 0:00:34.640 please leave a comment, yes, and one in Equatorial Guinea. 0:00:34.720 --> 0:00:37.320 All right, I know we need to look it up. 0:00:37.920 --> 0:00:41.839 Comment please. Yeah. So anyway, that's your update. But we 0:00:41.880 --> 0:00:43.959 do love to look at the comments and learn more 0:00:44.000 --> 0:00:45.639 about you all. So what do you got, Alexis. 0:00:45.640 --> 0:00:48.240 I saw one from Uie who said, I'm not sure 0:00:48.240 --> 0:00:50.600 whether I should thank you guys or stop listening to 0:00:50.640 --> 0:00:53.519 the show. The level of cringiness I can tolerate has 0:00:53.520 --> 0:00:57.000 increased tremendously. At the beginning, I would pause a segment 0:00:57.160 --> 0:00:59.640 just to breathe and get myself together. But now I 0:00:59.640 --> 0:01:01.760 can in two to three segments in a row, no 0:01:01.760 --> 0:01:04.720 matter how cringey the conversation is. That's right, Thanks, I 0:01:04.720 --> 0:01:05.800 guess love from Miami. 0:01:06.120 --> 0:01:06.840 We're breaking you. 0:01:06.800 --> 0:01:08.800 Down, We're moving your bar lower and lower. 0:01:09.440 --> 0:01:11.399 Yeah, exactly, that's exactly right. 0:01:11.600 --> 0:01:13.720 I'm going to keep doing it too, because right now 0:01:13.760 --> 0:01:16.760 it's your awkward Tuesday phone call. 0:01:16.760 --> 0:01:20.280 What's the toughest conversation that you could ever have with 0:01:20.319 --> 0:01:21.320 your significant other? 0:01:23.040 --> 0:01:23.480 Break up? 0:01:24.040 --> 0:01:26.240 Good thing I don't have one, Jeff. Well, I mean, 0:01:26.240 --> 0:01:31.520 the first one would probably be it's not yours? 0:01:31.160 --> 0:01:33.319 WHOA? 0:01:33.560 --> 0:01:37.400 The second one is it mine? 0:01:37.640 --> 0:01:39.760 It's not yours? And it has to be Well. 0:01:39.800 --> 0:01:41.640 I mean, if you're a guy, maybe you wouldn't know, 0:01:41.720 --> 0:01:45.040 But if you're a woman, it's a weird question to ask. 0:01:47.040 --> 0:01:50.120 Yeah, but maybe more important than any of those, is 0:01:51.000 --> 0:01:54.600 are you going to finish that question? 0:01:55.840 --> 0:01:56.160 Wow? 0:01:56.800 --> 0:02:00.000 That was an extra guest. Can we get some oxygen? 0:02:00.440 --> 0:02:03.480 Well, you can believe it. One of our listeners has 0:02:03.520 --> 0:02:07.880 a looming conversation even more cringe than all of those combined. 0:02:09.000 --> 0:02:12.160 It's about to happen with his longtime girlfriend. You're gonna 0:02:12.200 --> 0:02:14.280 hear what it is and see if we can help 0:02:14.320 --> 0:02:16.480 him out in your awkward Tuesday phone call. 0:02:16.800 --> 0:02:23.440 Next, It's awkward, It's Tuesday. It's awkward Tuesday phone call. 0:02:24.520 --> 0:02:27.560 On this segment, we've helped listeners tackle all sorts of 0:02:27.680 --> 0:02:31.800 big pivotal moments in their love lives. We've helped people 0:02:31.840 --> 0:02:37.760 ask somebody out, We've helped somebody propose before even help 0:02:37.840 --> 0:02:41.360 someone on where to install the swing? What room is 0:02:41.400 --> 0:02:42.480 it going to fit best in? 0:02:42.760 --> 0:02:44.280 I don't remember that segment. 0:02:44.600 --> 0:02:44.840 I do. 0:02:45.520 --> 0:02:47.359 I'm just saying we've been there for all of our 0:02:47.440 --> 0:02:52.160 listeners through all of their struggles. But today, I don't 0:02:52.200 --> 0:02:54.920 think we've ever dealt with this particular issue in a 0:02:54.960 --> 0:02:57.880 relationship before. It might be one of the biggest conversations 0:02:57.919 --> 0:03:00.880 a couple could have. But good news is I've got 0:03:00.919 --> 0:03:06.040 two of the best aes around, account a vice experts. 0:03:06.160 --> 0:03:10.000 Oh selling. 0:03:10.160 --> 0:03:13.800 I wonder they're waiting to hear from Drew. So, Drew, 0:03:13.880 --> 0:03:15.800 welcome to the show. How can we help you not 0:03:15.960 --> 0:03:17.359 screw up your relationship? 0:03:18.360 --> 0:03:19.040 What's up? Guys? 0:03:19.080 --> 0:03:19.160 So? 0:03:19.360 --> 0:03:21.320 Yeah, definitely need some help here. 0:03:21.440 --> 0:03:23.840 Okay? Can we start with who the relationship is with? 0:03:24.639 --> 0:03:24.959 Sure? 0:03:25.000 --> 0:03:25.160 So? 0:03:25.200 --> 0:03:26.160 Her name is Kelsey? 0:03:26.360 --> 0:03:29.200 Okay, okay, and do you already have a swing? Installed 0:03:29.320 --> 0:03:30.480 is that what this is? 0:03:30.760 --> 0:03:32.639 We're not there yet, but we're talking about it. 0:03:33.840 --> 0:03:35.360 Call back when you need help with that. But what 0:03:35.360 --> 0:03:36.240 are you dealing with now? 0:03:37.080 --> 0:03:39.720 So I've been dating Kelsey now for the last couple 0:03:39.720 --> 0:03:41.360 of years, so it's kind of serious. 0:03:41.440 --> 0:03:43.600 Yeah you guys, do you guys live together? 0:03:44.120 --> 0:03:45.320 No? No, not yet. 0:03:45.480 --> 0:03:48.400 Okay, tell us a little bit more about Kelsey. Who 0:03:48.480 --> 0:03:48.720 is she? 0:03:49.200 --> 0:03:53.800 So she's this great, amazing woman, so much in common. 0:03:54.120 --> 0:03:57.400 She loves camping, she drives a jeep. She's like this 0:03:57.560 --> 0:04:01.480 super old fashioned. She doesn't have social media, which I 0:04:01.520 --> 0:04:03.600 love it. I think it's refreshing, it's new, it's great. 0:04:03.840 --> 0:04:06.240 Good. She's a different type of gal totally. 0:04:06.320 --> 0:04:08.200 I met her because I'm in real estate. So I 0:04:08.240 --> 0:04:10.720 was showing houses one day and she came in looking 0:04:10.760 --> 0:04:12.240 for property with some friends. 0:04:12.240 --> 0:04:15.440 And Okay, so she's got money too, right, that means 0:04:15.480 --> 0:04:16.200 she's successful. 0:04:16.200 --> 0:04:19.400 She's looking at her Yeah, yeah, yeah, So we have 0:04:19.520 --> 0:04:20.960 this great relationship. 0:04:21.160 --> 0:04:23.960 Okay, what's the problem. Why why did you email us 0:04:24.000 --> 0:04:26.960 for help with this great, amazing, perfect relationship with this 0:04:27.040 --> 0:04:28.000 jeep driving woman. 0:04:28.960 --> 0:04:31.240 Well, so it's why I need you guys help, because 0:04:31.240 --> 0:04:33.480 it's really like kind of a sensitive thing. So I 0:04:33.600 --> 0:04:35.839 was at the point after the one year mark where 0:04:35.880 --> 0:04:37.279 I wanted her to move in with me. 0:04:37.560 --> 0:04:39.520 Okay, that's big. 0:04:39.800 --> 0:04:41.760 I asked her and straight up said, would you move 0:04:41.800 --> 0:04:45.320 in with me? She goes no, okay, which, oh I 0:04:45.480 --> 0:04:46.240 was expecting. 0:04:46.760 --> 0:04:48.720 Yeah, you were not expecting that. 0:04:49.160 --> 0:04:53.120 No, why would he ask that if he thought that 0:04:53.200 --> 0:04:56.640 she might say no by this point, the would the conversation. 0:04:57.120 --> 0:04:59.800 It sounds like you didn't have a Yeah, he did 0:05:00.080 --> 0:05:02.320 have a conversation prior to asking, and that was the 0:05:02.400 --> 0:05:03.359 issue trying. 0:05:03.200 --> 0:05:05.040 To start or maybe the place that you live kind 0:05:05.040 --> 0:05:05.520 of sucks. 0:05:06.000 --> 0:05:08.080 Well, she's explained. She gave me the reason she doesn't 0:05:08.080 --> 0:05:10.520 want to live with a guy before she's married. 0:05:10.800 --> 0:05:15.599 Oh, you know, I can see that. 0:05:15.760 --> 0:05:18.080 Oh yeah, I didn't live with anybody until I met 0:05:18.080 --> 0:05:20.480 my husband because it's so complicated. 0:05:20.560 --> 0:05:22.160 You know, then you're like combining. 0:05:21.920 --> 0:05:24.359 What are you talking about? You with your husband before 0:05:24.400 --> 0:05:25.080 you were married to. 0:05:25.120 --> 0:05:26.760 You know, when I married him, he's the only guy 0:05:26.800 --> 0:05:27.320 I ever list. 0:05:27.400 --> 0:05:29.160 This is what she's saying. She doesn't want to live 0:05:29.200 --> 0:05:30.760 with anyone until she is. 0:05:30.920 --> 0:05:33.200 Mari No, I mean she doesn't necessarily want it to 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:36.799 be after. She just wants like a solid commitment that makes. 0:05:36.600 --> 0:05:40.080 Sense like by the time I moved in with my husband, 0:05:40.080 --> 0:05:42.200 I knew this was the person I was going to 0:05:42.240 --> 0:05:43.320 be with for the rest of my life. 0:05:43.480 --> 0:05:44.880 Oh like I just knew that. 0:05:45.000 --> 0:05:48.280 So she wants something that says that marriage is going 0:05:48.320 --> 0:05:51.039 to be in the books, Like I'm assuming that's where 0:05:51.040 --> 0:05:52.120 the conversation led to. 0:05:52.839 --> 0:05:55.080 Basically, Yeah, I mean we talked about it, we didn't 0:05:55.120 --> 0:05:57.400 dive too deep into it. But then like out of 0:05:57.400 --> 0:06:01.200 the blue, he goes, I'll even sign the prenup, which 0:06:01.240 --> 0:06:02.440 I was not even expecting. 0:06:02.839 --> 0:06:06.479 Whoa, whoa, that's like even more serious than marriage. 0:06:06.680 --> 0:06:08.960 Can you do that before you're married? You know, I 0:06:09.000 --> 0:06:11.880 have no idea. I don't have a pre up. I 0:06:11.880 --> 0:06:12.440 have no idea. 0:06:12.480 --> 0:06:14.280 I mean I could see where you would want some 0:06:14.400 --> 0:06:17.400 sort of like is it because she's worried about combining 0:06:17.440 --> 0:06:19.440 your stuff or what I'm saying. 0:06:19.240 --> 0:06:21.080 I have money, like we were talking about, and she 0:06:21.080 --> 0:06:21.680 doesn't want. 0:06:21.520 --> 0:06:24.679 You to take it. Well, I kind of have the money. 0:06:24.720 --> 0:06:27.000 I mean, I own a bunch of property and she 0:06:27.120 --> 0:06:30.680 knows that. So that's why she said that. 0:06:30.920 --> 0:06:32.640 So she's saying it's not about the money. 0:06:32.680 --> 0:06:33.960 She loves you for you. 0:06:34.080 --> 0:06:36.599 Yeah, And the problem is now it never feels like 0:06:36.680 --> 0:06:39.719 the right time to tell her that I've already met 0:06:39.720 --> 0:06:42.239 with the lawyer and I've already had these papers already 0:06:42.320 --> 0:06:44.799 drawn up and all that. Because I've done that and 0:06:45.480 --> 0:06:46.920 I'm ready for this next step. 0:06:47.080 --> 0:06:49.880 He's met with lawyers and he's he's drawn up the 0:06:49.920 --> 0:06:53.440 prenup to secure his assets before he asks her band 0:06:53.480 --> 0:06:54.159 in marriage. 0:06:54.240 --> 0:06:57.520 That's so romantic, it is, so you have to get 0:06:57.520 --> 0:07:00.640 down on one knee and say will you take this pen? 0:07:00.839 --> 0:07:06.159 And she wanted right, I'm your idea? 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:07.120 Well she mentioned it. 0:07:07.160 --> 0:07:08.840 Yeah, but it sounds like you guys didn't have a 0:07:08.880 --> 0:07:10.840 lot of conversations. So where are you at right now 0:07:10.880 --> 0:07:11.440 with everything? 0:07:11.520 --> 0:07:11.720 Yeah? 0:07:11.840 --> 0:07:12.400 Good question. 0:07:12.960 --> 0:07:16.960 So I want to mention it before I propose, not after. 0:07:17.360 --> 0:07:19.040 You know what I mean, And I need help bringing 0:07:19.080 --> 0:07:19.520 it up. 0:07:19.600 --> 0:07:22.760 You know it's not weird, okay, So you want our 0:07:22.880 --> 0:07:25.760 help to let her know that there is a prenup 0:07:25.960 --> 0:07:29.040 ready for her to sign whenever she wants, and then 0:07:29.120 --> 0:07:33.280 after that then we'll start the engagements and serious commitments 0:07:33.280 --> 0:07:34.240 that she's always wanted. 0:07:34.600 --> 0:07:36.360 Yeah, why didn't you? 0:07:36.440 --> 0:07:36.720 Okay? 0:07:36.760 --> 0:07:38.880 So I mean if she was the one who brought 0:07:38.960 --> 0:07:41.320 it up and it's her idea, then what are you 0:07:41.400 --> 0:07:42.000 worried about it. 0:07:42.240 --> 0:07:44.920 Why didn't you just tell her? I don't understand that, like. 0:07:45.080 --> 0:07:46.880 I don't because it's not it's a it's a very 0:07:46.920 --> 0:07:49.480 sensitive topic when it comes to money and assets. I 0:07:49.480 --> 0:07:52.400 feel a little strange about having that discussion, to be honest, well. 0:07:52.840 --> 0:07:55.680 And even could have been not joking, but she could 0:07:55.720 --> 0:07:57.600 have just been throwing it out there and not been like, 0:07:57.800 --> 0:08:01.920 actually serious, Wait, you actually drew up the documents. 0:08:01.960 --> 0:08:04.600 That's another level. Just feel like it'd be a red 0:08:04.600 --> 0:08:06.000 flag to me. But I don't know. 0:08:06.280 --> 0:08:08.400 I think it's a very romantic move. I don't know 0:08:08.440 --> 0:08:11.400 why is trying to kill the romans in this segment, 0:08:12.800 --> 0:08:13.280 lawyered up. 0:08:14.280 --> 0:08:15.680 I'm pretty anti prenup. 0:08:16.280 --> 0:08:18.200 I know what we're going to go to work here 0:08:18.320 --> 0:08:20.440 for you, okay, Drew. We're going to find out the 0:08:20.600 --> 0:08:24.160 most romantic, over the top way to tell somebody I 0:08:24.200 --> 0:08:26.120 have a prenup ready for your sign. 0:08:28.680 --> 0:08:30.120 I appreciate that I need help with just. 0:08:30.160 --> 0:08:32.160 So many you could like dot your eyes with a 0:08:32.200 --> 0:08:32.880 heart when. 0:08:34.600 --> 0:08:37.520 The ideas are already flowing. We're gonna start your happily 0:08:37.640 --> 0:08:40.320 ever after when we do your awkward Tuesday phone call 0:08:40.640 --> 0:08:41.280 right after this. 0:08:42.920 --> 0:08:47.720 It's awkward, it's Tuesday. It's awkward Tuesday phone call. 0:08:48.280 --> 0:08:50.560 I think we need to clarify something here before we 0:08:50.600 --> 0:08:53.800 move on, because the listener on the phone, Drew asked 0:08:53.800 --> 0:08:55.560 his girlfriend to move in with him. 0:08:55.720 --> 0:08:56.960 Yeah, that was a while ago. 0:08:57.280 --> 0:09:00.680 She said no because she wanted to have proof of 0:09:00.720 --> 0:09:03.760 a long term commitment before anything else could happen, whether 0:09:03.800 --> 0:09:06.600 that was a proposal or a ring or something. And 0:09:06.640 --> 0:09:09.920 in that conversation she said the words I'll even sign 0:09:09.920 --> 0:09:10.600 a prenup. 0:09:10.880 --> 0:09:11.200 Yeah. 0:09:11.360 --> 0:09:11.920 Yeah. 0:09:12.040 --> 0:09:14.800 Now, there was some people in the room who thought, oh, well, 0:09:14.840 --> 0:09:17.720 maybe she was just joking when she said that. But 0:09:18.120 --> 0:09:21.680 if I'm Drew and I'm asking my girlfriend to move 0:09:21.720 --> 0:09:25.920 in with me, that's not really like a joking environment. Like, 0:09:26.320 --> 0:09:28.600 to me, that's a serious thing. What do you think, 0:09:28.679 --> 0:09:30.640 Drew from her tone in the moment, did you feel 0:09:30.679 --> 0:09:31.360 like she was serious? 0:09:31.960 --> 0:09:34.600 I got the vibe that she was serious for sure. 0:09:34.800 --> 0:09:36.840 I hope so, because he went to a lawyer and 0:09:36.920 --> 0:09:39.760 actually had one drawn up lawyers. 0:09:39.880 --> 0:09:40.120 Yeah. 0:09:40.200 --> 0:09:42.800 Now, so Drew needs our helped to bring it up 0:09:42.800 --> 0:09:44.720 to her cause, like Brook said, it's been a while 0:09:44.760 --> 0:09:47.560 since that conversation happened and she hasn't brought it up since. 0:09:48.080 --> 0:09:50.800 And I know this is a pretty sensitive topic. I've 0:09:50.880 --> 0:09:53.120 personally never been in this situation. I know Brooke has 0:09:53.200 --> 0:09:56.840 not dealt with it in her marriage. Alexis wishes somebody 0:09:56.840 --> 0:10:00.040 would have this conversation with her, but nowhere near the 0:10:00.080 --> 0:10:04.240 assets there. It's a tricky topic, and that's why I 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:06.240 feel like the safe thing to do is to give 0:10:06.240 --> 0:10:08.880 it to someone who really knows about this. Jose, what 0:10:08.920 --> 0:10:10.880 advice do you have for drew all. 0:10:10.800 --> 0:10:12.840 Those long relationshipesus? 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:15.600 Okay, one time it lasted eight months, Broke, don't make 0:10:15.600 --> 0:10:21.320 fun of me, all right, Okay, this entire conversation can't 0:10:21.360 --> 0:10:23.280 just be about the prenum or it's gonna sound like 0:10:23.320 --> 0:10:24.199 a downer, right. 0:10:24.640 --> 0:10:25.320 You need to. 0:10:25.280 --> 0:10:29.320 Hide it in between the wedding and ring shopping and 0:10:29.320 --> 0:10:30.080 then the prenum. 0:10:30.800 --> 0:10:33.360 Seriously, think have important news. 0:10:34.160 --> 0:10:40.079 Distract her with shiny promises that will only work on Jose, Okay, 0:10:41.320 --> 0:10:42.360 shopping and theory. 0:10:42.520 --> 0:10:45.439 Sure it sounds kind of sneaky, I don't know, man 0:10:45.640 --> 0:10:46.679 like sneaky. 0:10:46.559 --> 0:10:48.560 But legally you still mention it. 0:10:48.559 --> 0:10:52.480 It's a terrible idea like that A little bit about 0:10:52.520 --> 0:10:54.640 the engagement in the future. But Brook, what do you think? 0:10:54.720 --> 0:10:57.640 I think you you make sure that you frame it 0:10:58.000 --> 0:11:00.199 as you are doing something for her. 0:11:00.679 --> 0:11:03.800 You say, listen, you said that you wanted this done. 0:11:04.240 --> 0:11:07.240 I did it. Some people, you know, all talk, but. 0:11:07.240 --> 0:11:08.920 I'm a doer and that's how I'm gonna be in 0:11:08.920 --> 0:11:09.800 this relationship. 0:11:10.360 --> 0:11:12.320 If you want something done, I'm the guy to get 0:11:12.360 --> 0:11:12.640 it done. 0:11:12.679 --> 0:11:14.760 Look it, I'm doing stuff for you. What have you 0:11:14.800 --> 0:11:17.760 ever done for me? Maybe you should sign this prema. 0:11:20.320 --> 0:11:21.080 That's a good idea. 0:11:21.520 --> 0:11:23.040 Me to frame it that it's her idea. 0:11:23.120 --> 0:11:25.680 Yeah, guilter into signing it? All right? What do you think, Drew? 0:11:26.200 --> 0:11:29.360 No, that actually makes a lot more sense because ultimately 0:11:29.400 --> 0:11:31.679 it was her idea and I went forward with it 0:11:31.800 --> 0:11:34.160 thinking she was serious about it, because why wouldn't you be. 0:11:34.880 --> 0:11:37.319 Now, she may be angry that you didn't include her 0:11:37.360 --> 0:11:40.719 in the actual writing it up and stuff, But what 0:11:41.240 --> 0:11:41.760 that's boring. 0:11:41.880 --> 0:11:45.080 Okay, if she gets mad about you bringing up tell 0:11:45.080 --> 0:11:46.920 her to be mad at herself for bringing it up 0:11:46.920 --> 0:11:47.679 in the first place. 0:11:49.400 --> 0:11:50.800 That's not going to end well for him. 0:11:50.800 --> 0:11:53.199 But sure, that was Brooks advice. So here we go. 0:11:53.240 --> 0:11:56.000 We're gonna call Kelsey your girlfriend for you, and see 0:11:56.000 --> 0:11:58.560 if she's ready to sign a prenup and then hopefully 0:11:58.559 --> 0:11:59.240 move in together. 0:11:59.559 --> 0:11:59.800 I hope. 0:11:59.840 --> 0:12:02.640 I'm so romantic. 0:12:03.160 --> 0:12:04.080 I'm so nervous. 0:12:04.200 --> 0:12:06.360 We wish you a lot of luck. You don't be nervous. 0:12:06.440 --> 0:12:09.520 We're all here to support you. Okay, yes, thanks, all right, 0:12:09.520 --> 0:12:12.280 here we go down on your number right now. 0:12:19.440 --> 0:12:21.760 Hello, Hey, cal. 0:12:23.360 --> 0:12:24.840 Hey, what's that babe? 0:12:25.320 --> 0:12:26.319 How's your day? Your work? 0:12:27.520 --> 0:12:27.720 Yeah? 0:12:27.800 --> 0:12:30.800 Yeah, it was fine. It was just some normal you know, 0:12:30.880 --> 0:12:31.480 the usual. 0:12:32.080 --> 0:12:35.200 Yeah, usual stuff. Do you have a minute? You give time? 0:12:35.240 --> 0:12:36.000 Are you visier? 0:12:37.200 --> 0:12:37.400 Yeah? 0:12:37.440 --> 0:12:38.320 I can take a second. 0:12:38.760 --> 0:12:39.160 What's up? 0:12:40.280 --> 0:12:46.560 I wanted to ask you something. Remember that day we 0:12:46.600 --> 0:12:50.920 had that conversation we talked about moving in. Do you 0:12:50.920 --> 0:12:56.280 remember that vague? Yeah? I think I said no, right, yeah, 0:12:56.320 --> 0:12:59.400 and which is fine, you know he said no. But 0:12:59.520 --> 0:13:01.720 it got us talking, right, I got us talking about 0:13:01.720 --> 0:13:05.599 the future, and it was kind of super romantic. And 0:13:05.640 --> 0:13:08.840 we started going ring shopping together. So it was it 0:13:08.880 --> 0:13:10.400 was like a fun little day. It was cute. 0:13:11.800 --> 0:13:14.000 Yeah, I mean I was like more than cute. I 0:13:14.160 --> 0:13:16.120 think it was kind of important, like put us on 0:13:16.160 --> 0:13:17.920 a new path together. 0:13:19.480 --> 0:13:22.199 Mm hmm, yeah, I agree. 0:13:24.360 --> 0:13:26.000 Why are you being so weird? What do you mean 0:13:26.080 --> 0:13:27.559 you agree? No? 0:13:27.640 --> 0:13:30.160 I mean I just I just wanted to bring up 0:13:30.280 --> 0:13:34.079 what you had mentioned when I asked you to move 0:13:34.120 --> 0:13:37.040 in with me. If you remember, do you remember anything 0:13:37.040 --> 0:13:40.079 about the agreement? 0:13:40.400 --> 0:13:43.240 You might have said, well, I just said I don't 0:13:43.280 --> 0:13:46.320 want to move in with you until we get married, 0:13:46.760 --> 0:13:48.040 like I told you that. 0:13:48.120 --> 0:13:50.240 Yeah, you said another word? 0:13:51.520 --> 0:13:55.000 Also, what's going on? 0:13:57.120 --> 0:13:58.760 Can you just say you know what? You know the 0:13:58.800 --> 0:14:00.840 word I'm talking about? Can you just it just helps me? 0:14:01.160 --> 0:14:03.120 And you know my anxiety? 0:14:03.200 --> 0:14:05.800 And I don't right now, So I'm gonna need. 0:14:05.679 --> 0:14:11.280 You to say it. It's it starts with the P, 0:14:12.200 --> 0:14:12.720 you know what I mean? 0:14:13.920 --> 0:14:14.679 What's it ends with. 0:14:17.040 --> 0:14:19.240 Uprea? 0:14:19.800 --> 0:14:20.120 Okay? 0:14:20.280 --> 0:14:25.800 Yeah, okay, so you did say that. Great, Okay, is 0:14:25.840 --> 0:14:29.440 there other No? No, no, no, no, it's you. I'm just 0:14:29.480 --> 0:14:31.560 like outside, there's like a lot of people outside running 0:14:31.560 --> 0:14:37.880 around whatever. So I went ahead. I moved forward with 0:14:38.080 --> 0:14:44.880 that word, that that pre word. I had some lawyers involved, and. 0:14:44.600 --> 0:14:46.440 Just say lawyers. You hired a lawyer. 0:14:47.480 --> 0:14:50.960 Yeah, you know it's it's not legal beagle stuff, you 0:14:51.000 --> 0:14:52.240 know what I mean? Like you kind of have to 0:14:52.280 --> 0:14:52.800 when you do this. 0:14:53.360 --> 0:14:54.880 I don't know what you're talking about right now. Can 0:14:54.920 --> 0:14:56.040 you get to the freaking point? 0:14:56.280 --> 0:14:59.320 So I don't want you to get upset. This is ridiculous. 0:14:59.320 --> 0:15:02.920 So I I wanted to prove my commitment to you, 0:15:03.840 --> 0:15:07.000 like we talked about, and I went ahead and got 0:15:07.040 --> 0:15:11.360 the paperwork for you to sign it. 0:15:12.920 --> 0:15:14.600 What do you mean you want me to sign it? 0:15:15.640 --> 0:15:18.480 This is your idea? Remember, this is your idea. This 0:15:18.600 --> 0:15:19.080 is fun. 0:15:21.320 --> 0:15:23.680 This is just like a weird phone call. I feel 0:15:23.720 --> 0:15:25.600 like you could have talked to me in person about this. 0:15:27.360 --> 0:15:29.280 I didn't know how to bring it up. You have 0:15:29.400 --> 0:15:32.160 no idea. I've been losing sleep about this whole damn thing. 0:15:32.560 --> 0:15:36.000 And I asked this radio station to help me rest. 0:15:35.840 --> 0:15:39.200 The radio station, what. 0:15:40.760 --> 0:15:43.800 Team radio people? I always wanted to hang up at 0:15:43.800 --> 0:15:46.360 that point. I don't want to be here. 0:15:47.120 --> 0:15:48.720 I feel like it probably went just about as well 0:15:48.720 --> 0:15:50.760 as their first conversation about. 0:15:50.960 --> 0:15:53.920 I don't understand what's happening right now, lawyers. 0:15:56.200 --> 0:15:58.000 That makes it sound like a joke. We don't want 0:15:58.040 --> 0:15:58.440 to do that. 0:15:58.560 --> 0:16:03.000 We're reading show. This segment is called an Awkward Tuesday phone. 0:16:02.720 --> 0:16:06.240 Call, oh man, and we really emphasized that title today. 0:16:06.520 --> 0:16:09.960 We were trying to help our listener here, Drew have 0:16:10.360 --> 0:16:11.720 what he knew was going to be a little bit 0:16:11.720 --> 0:16:13.400 of an awkward conversation with you. 0:16:14.200 --> 0:16:14.640 Uh huh. 0:16:15.040 --> 0:16:18.480 Apparently he thought that you wanted a prenup, you know, 0:16:18.480 --> 0:16:20.320 because like he wants to move in with you and 0:16:20.360 --> 0:16:22.800 move forward and go down the marriage road. 0:16:22.920 --> 0:16:25.080 Well yeah, I said that, but he never like talk 0:16:25.120 --> 0:16:28.000 to me about pursuing it and hiring lawyers and filling 0:16:28.040 --> 0:16:28.720 out paperwork. 0:16:29.160 --> 0:16:33.400 Yeah, he should have written it all up himself. I 0:16:33.440 --> 0:16:39.800 do agree with that, But no, Jeffery, Oh my god. 0:16:40.080 --> 0:16:42.480 I mean I can't tell what your emotion is right now. 0:16:42.520 --> 0:16:43.640 Maybe it's just shocked. 0:16:43.720 --> 0:16:44.680 Didn't you want this? 0:16:44.880 --> 0:16:47.080 Maybe you don't care, maybe you're mad. Where are you at? 0:16:47.720 --> 0:16:49.920 I'm just like in the middle, really because I just 0:16:49.960 --> 0:16:52.880 wish he was more honest and I feel like we 0:16:52.920 --> 0:16:54.040 could have looked on it together. 0:16:54.440 --> 0:16:57.000 Okay, yeah, all right, So that's not bad. 0:16:57.320 --> 0:16:59.920 I mean that's I mean honest. This wasn't one hundred 0:17:00.080 --> 0:17:03.720 sent my idea to do it this way. The radio 0:17:03.800 --> 0:17:06.920 is your idea, you people, you people talking microphone whatever, 0:17:06.960 --> 0:17:09.120 you radio people, It was your idea to do this way. 0:17:09.200 --> 0:17:12.080 What it wasn't our idea for you to hire a 0:17:12.080 --> 0:17:12.920 team of lawyers. 0:17:12.960 --> 0:17:14.720 You called us way after that, you. 0:17:14.680 --> 0:17:15.600 Emailed us, Drew. 0:17:15.800 --> 0:17:17.960 I just wanted to do a love shout out to 0:17:18.119 --> 0:17:20.960 show I care about my my girl. 0:17:20.960 --> 0:17:22.560 Oh right. 0:17:22.760 --> 0:17:25.440 You know what, did I screw that one up again? 0:17:27.280 --> 0:17:28.600