Speaker 1: It's your second Ay podcast and today with Brook and
Speaker 1: Jeffrey in the morning, we have an awkward Tuesday phone
Speaker 1: call because.
Speaker 2: It's it's Tuesday.
Speaker 1: But I was just looking through the stats on our
Speaker 1: podcast and I always think it's fascinating to see where
Speaker 1: people are listening from. And I always look at like
Speaker 1: the top five countries. It's like the US, Canada, the UK, Australia,
Speaker 1: the Philippines, which is amazing. But I scrolled all the
Speaker 1: way down to see where we get the least amount
Speaker 1: of listeners.
Speaker 2: There's like one person. Yeah, I love doing that.
Speaker 1: We've got one listener in Sri Lanka, if that's you,
Speaker 1: please leave a comment, yes, and one in Equatorial Guinea.
Speaker 2: All right, I know we need to look it up.
Speaker 2: Comment please. Yeah. So anyway, that's your update. But we
Speaker 2: do love to look at the comments and learn more
Speaker 2: about you all. So what do you got, Alexis.
Speaker 3: I saw one from Uie who said, I'm not sure
Speaker 3: whether I should thank you guys or stop listening to
Speaker 3: the show. The level of cringiness I can tolerate has
Speaker 3: increased tremendously. At the beginning, I would pause a segment
Speaker 3: just to breathe and get myself together. But now I
Speaker 3: can in two to three segments in a row, no
Speaker 3: matter how cringey the conversation is. That's right, Thanks, I
Speaker 3: guess love from Miami.
Speaker 2: We're breaking you.
Speaker 4: Down, We're moving your bar lower and lower.
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly, that's exactly right.
Speaker 1: I'm going to keep doing it too, because right now
Speaker 1: it's your awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 5: What's the toughest conversation that you could ever have with
Speaker 5: your significant other?
Speaker 2: Break up?
Speaker 5: Good thing I don't have one, Jeff. Well, I mean,
Speaker 5: the first one would probably be it's not yours?
Speaker 2: WHOA?
Speaker 5: The second one is it mine?
Speaker 2: It's not yours? And it has to be Well.
Speaker 1: I mean, if you're a guy, maybe you wouldn't know,
Speaker 1: But if you're a woman, it's a weird question to ask.
Speaker 5: Yeah, but maybe more important than any of those, is
Speaker 5: are you going to finish that question?
Speaker 6: Wow?
Speaker 2: That was an extra guest. Can we get some oxygen?
Speaker 5: Well, you can believe it. One of our listeners has
Speaker 5: a looming conversation even more cringe than all of those combined.
Speaker 5: It's about to happen with his longtime girlfriend. You're gonna
Speaker 5: hear what it is and see if we can help
Speaker 5: him out in your awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 7: Next, It's awkward, It's Tuesday. It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 5: On this segment, we've helped listeners tackle all sorts of
Speaker 5: big pivotal moments in their love lives. We've helped people
Speaker 5: ask somebody out, We've helped somebody propose before even help
Speaker 5: someone on where to install the swing? What room is
Speaker 5: it going to fit best in?
Speaker 2: I don't remember that segment.
Speaker 8: I do.
Speaker 5: I'm just saying we've been there for all of our
Speaker 5: listeners through all of their struggles. But today, I don't
Speaker 5: think we've ever dealt with this particular issue in a
Speaker 5: relationship before. It might be one of the biggest conversations
Speaker 5: a couple could have. But good news is I've got
Speaker 5: two of the best aes around, account a vice experts.
Speaker 2: Oh selling.
Speaker 5: I wonder they're waiting to hear from Drew. So, Drew,
Speaker 5: welcome to the show. How can we help you not
Speaker 5: screw up your relationship?
Speaker 6: What's up? Guys?
Speaker 5: So?
Speaker 6: Yeah, definitely need some help here.
Speaker 2: Okay? Can we start with who the relationship is with?
Speaker 6: Sure?
Speaker 8: So?
Speaker 6: Her name is Kelsey?
Speaker 5: Okay, okay, and do you already have a swing? Installed
Speaker 5: is that what this is?
Speaker 6: We're not there yet, but we're talking about it.
Speaker 5: Call back when you need help with that. But what
Speaker 5: are you dealing with now?
Speaker 6: So I've been dating Kelsey now for the last couple
Speaker 6: of years, so it's kind of serious.
Speaker 1: Yeah you guys, do you guys live together?
Speaker 6: No? No, not yet.
Speaker 5: Okay, tell us a little bit more about Kelsey. Who
Speaker 5: is she?
Speaker 6: So she's this great, amazing woman, so much in common.
Speaker 6: She loves camping, she drives a jeep. She's like this
Speaker 6: super old fashioned. She doesn't have social media, which I
Speaker 6: love it. I think it's refreshing, it's new, it's great.
Speaker 5: Good. She's a different type of gal totally.
Speaker 6: I met her because I'm in real estate. So I
Speaker 6: was showing houses one day and she came in looking
Speaker 6: for property with some friends.
Speaker 1: And Okay, so she's got money too, right, that means
Speaker 1: she's successful.
Speaker 6: She's looking at her Yeah, yeah, yeah, So we have
Speaker 6: this great relationship.
Speaker 5: Okay, what's the problem. Why why did you email us
Speaker 5: for help with this great, amazing, perfect relationship with this
Speaker 5: jeep driving woman.
Speaker 6: Well, so it's why I need you guys help, because
Speaker 6: it's really like kind of a sensitive thing. So I
Speaker 6: was at the point after the one year mark where
Speaker 6: I wanted her to move in with me.
Speaker 5: Okay, that's big.
Speaker 6: I asked her and straight up said, would you move
Speaker 6: in with me? She goes no, okay, which, oh I
Speaker 6: was expecting.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you were not expecting that.
Speaker 5: No, why would he ask that if he thought that
Speaker 5: she might say no by this point, the would the conversation.
Speaker 1: It sounds like you didn't have a Yeah, he did
Speaker 1: have a conversation prior to asking, and that was the
Speaker 1: issue trying.
Speaker 5: To start or maybe the place that you live kind
Speaker 5: of sucks.
Speaker 6: Well, she's explained. She gave me the reason she doesn't
Speaker 6: want to live with a guy before she's married.
Speaker 5: Oh, you know, I can see that.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I didn't live with anybody until I met
Speaker 1: my husband because it's so complicated.
Speaker 2: You know, then you're like combining.
Speaker 5: What are you talking about? You with your husband before
Speaker 5: you were married to.
Speaker 2: You know, when I married him, he's the only guy
Speaker 2: I ever list.
Speaker 5: This is what she's saying. She doesn't want to live
Speaker 5: with anyone until she is.
Speaker 6: Mari No, I mean she doesn't necessarily want it to
Speaker 6: be after. She just wants like a solid commitment that makes.
Speaker 1: Sense like by the time I moved in with my husband,
Speaker 1: I knew this was the person I was going to
Speaker 1: be with for the rest of my life.
Speaker 2: Oh like I just knew that.
Speaker 5: So she wants something that says that marriage is going
Speaker 5: to be in the books, Like I'm assuming that's where
Speaker 5: the conversation led to.
Speaker 6: Basically, Yeah, I mean we talked about it, we didn't
Speaker 6: dive too deep into it. But then like out of
Speaker 6: the blue, he goes, I'll even sign the prenup, which
Speaker 6: I was not even expecting.
Speaker 5: Whoa, whoa, that's like even more serious than marriage.
Speaker 2: Can you do that before you're married? You know, I
Speaker 2: have no idea. I don't have a pre up. I
Speaker 2: have no idea.
Speaker 1: I mean I could see where you would want some
Speaker 1: sort of like is it because she's worried about combining
Speaker 1: your stuff or what I'm saying.
Speaker 4: I have money, like we were talking about, and she
Speaker 4: doesn't want.
Speaker 6: You to take it. Well, I kind of have the money.
Speaker 6: I mean, I own a bunch of property and she
Speaker 6: knows that. So that's why she said that.
Speaker 4: So she's saying it's not about the money.
Speaker 5: She loves you for you.
Speaker 6: Yeah, And the problem is now it never feels like
Speaker 6: the right time to tell her that I've already met
Speaker 6: with the lawyer and I've already had these papers already
Speaker 6: drawn up and all that. Because I've done that and
Speaker 6: I'm ready for this next step.
Speaker 1: He's met with lawyers and he's he's drawn up the
Speaker 1: prenup to secure his assets before he asks her band
Speaker 1: in marriage.
Speaker 5: That's so romantic, it is, so you have to get
Speaker 5: down on one knee and say will you take this pen?
Speaker 2: And she wanted right, I'm your idea?
Speaker 5: Well she mentioned it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it sounds like you guys didn't have a
Speaker 1: lot of conversations. So where are you at right now
Speaker 1: with everything?
Speaker 8: Yeah?
Speaker 5: Good question.
Speaker 6: So I want to mention it before I propose, not after.
Speaker 6: You know what I mean, And I need help bringing
Speaker 6: it up.
Speaker 5: You know it's not weird, okay, So you want our
Speaker 5: help to let her know that there is a prenup
Speaker 5: ready for her to sign whenever she wants, and then
Speaker 5: after that then we'll start the engagements and serious commitments
Speaker 5: that she's always wanted.
Speaker 6: Yeah, why didn't you?
Speaker 8: Okay?
Speaker 5: So I mean if she was the one who brought
Speaker 5: it up and it's her idea, then what are you
Speaker 5: worried about it.
Speaker 2: Why didn't you just tell her? I don't understand that, like.
Speaker 6: I don't because it's not it's a it's a very
Speaker 6: sensitive topic when it comes to money and assets. I
Speaker 6: feel a little strange about having that discussion, to be honest, well.
Speaker 4: And even could have been not joking, but she could
Speaker 4: have just been throwing it out there and not been like,
Speaker 4: actually serious, Wait, you actually drew up the documents.
Speaker 2: That's another level. Just feel like it'd be a red
Speaker 2: flag to me. But I don't know.
Speaker 5: I think it's a very romantic move. I don't know
Speaker 5: why is trying to kill the romans in this segment,
Speaker 5: lawyered up.
Speaker 2: I'm pretty anti prenup.
Speaker 5: I know what we're going to go to work here
Speaker 5: for you, okay, Drew. We're going to find out the
Speaker 5: most romantic, over the top way to tell somebody I
Speaker 5: have a prenup ready for your sign.
Speaker 6: I appreciate that I need help with just.
Speaker 2: So many you could like dot your eyes with a
Speaker 2: heart when.
Speaker 5: The ideas are already flowing. We're gonna start your happily
Speaker 5: ever after when we do your awkward Tuesday phone call
Speaker 5: right after this.
Speaker 7: It's awkward, it's Tuesday. It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 5: I think we need to clarify something here before we
Speaker 5: move on, because the listener on the phone, Drew asked
Speaker 5: his girlfriend to move in with him.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that was a while ago.
Speaker 5: She said no because she wanted to have proof of
Speaker 5: a long term commitment before anything else could happen, whether
Speaker 5: that was a proposal or a ring or something. And
Speaker 5: in that conversation she said the words I'll even sign
Speaker 5: a prenup.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Now, there was some people in the room who thought, oh, well,
Speaker 5: maybe she was just joking when she said that. But
Speaker 5: if I'm Drew and I'm asking my girlfriend to move
Speaker 5: in with me, that's not really like a joking environment. Like,
Speaker 5: to me, that's a serious thing. What do you think,
Speaker 5: Drew from her tone in the moment, did you feel
Speaker 5: like she was serious?
Speaker 6: I got the vibe that she was serious for sure.
Speaker 1: I hope so, because he went to a lawyer and
Speaker 1: actually had one drawn up lawyers.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Now, so Drew needs our helped to bring it up
Speaker 5: to her cause, like Brook said, it's been a while
Speaker 5: since that conversation happened and she hasn't brought it up since.
Speaker 5: And I know this is a pretty sensitive topic. I've
Speaker 5: personally never been in this situation. I know Brooke has
Speaker 5: not dealt with it in her marriage. Alexis wishes somebody
Speaker 5: would have this conversation with her, but nowhere near the
Speaker 5: assets there. It's a tricky topic, and that's why I
Speaker 5: feel like the safe thing to do is to give
Speaker 5: it to someone who really knows about this. Jose, what
Speaker 5: advice do you have for drew all.
Speaker 2: Those long relationshipesus?
Speaker 4: Okay, one time it lasted eight months, Broke, don't make
Speaker 4: fun of me, all right, Okay, this entire conversation can't
Speaker 4: just be about the prenum or it's gonna sound like
Speaker 4: a downer, right.
Speaker 5: You need to.
Speaker 4: Hide it in between the wedding and ring shopping and
Speaker 4: then the prenum.
Speaker 2: Seriously, think have important news.
Speaker 5: Distract her with shiny promises that will only work on Jose, Okay,
Speaker 5: shopping and theory.
Speaker 6: Sure it sounds kind of sneaky, I don't know, man
Speaker 6: like sneaky.
Speaker 4: But legally you still mention it.
Speaker 5: It's a terrible idea like that A little bit about
Speaker 5: the engagement in the future. But Brook, what do you think?
Speaker 1: I think you you make sure that you frame it
Speaker 1: as you are doing something for her.
Speaker 2: You say, listen, you said that you wanted this done.
Speaker 2: I did it. Some people, you know, all talk, but.
Speaker 1: I'm a doer and that's how I'm gonna be in
Speaker 1: this relationship.
Speaker 2: If you want something done, I'm the guy to get
Speaker 2: it done.
Speaker 5: Look it, I'm doing stuff for you. What have you
Speaker 5: ever done for me? Maybe you should sign this prema.
Speaker 5: That's a good idea.
Speaker 2: Me to frame it that it's her idea.
Speaker 5: Yeah, guilter into signing it? All right? What do you think, Drew?
Speaker 6: No, that actually makes a lot more sense because ultimately
Speaker 6: it was her idea and I went forward with it
Speaker 6: thinking she was serious about it, because why wouldn't you be.
Speaker 1: Now, she may be angry that you didn't include her
Speaker 1: in the actual writing it up and stuff, But what
Speaker 1: that's boring.
Speaker 5: Okay, if she gets mad about you bringing up tell
Speaker 5: her to be mad at herself for bringing it up
Speaker 5: in the first place.
Speaker 2: That's not going to end well for him.
Speaker 5: But sure, that was Brooks advice. So here we go.
Speaker 5: We're gonna call Kelsey your girlfriend for you, and see
Speaker 5: if she's ready to sign a prenup and then hopefully
Speaker 5: move in together.
Speaker 8: I hope.
Speaker 2: I'm so romantic.
Speaker 6: I'm so nervous.
Speaker 5: We wish you a lot of luck. You don't be nervous.
Speaker 5: We're all here to support you. Okay, yes, thanks, all right,
Speaker 5: here we go down on your number right now.
Speaker 6: Hello, Hey, cal.
Speaker 8: Hey, what's that babe?
Speaker 6: How's your day? Your work?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 8: Yeah, it was fine. It was just some normal you know,
Speaker 8: the usual.
Speaker 6: Yeah, usual stuff. Do you have a minute? You give time?
Speaker 6: Are you visier?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 8: I can take a second.
Speaker 1: What's up?
Speaker 6: I wanted to ask you something. Remember that day we
Speaker 6: had that conversation we talked about moving in. Do you
Speaker 6: remember that vague? Yeah? I think I said no, right, yeah,
Speaker 6: and which is fine, you know he said no. But
Speaker 6: it got us talking, right, I got us talking about
Speaker 6: the future, and it was kind of super romantic. And
Speaker 6: we started going ring shopping together. So it was it
Speaker 6: was like a fun little day. It was cute.
Speaker 8: Yeah, I mean I was like more than cute. I
Speaker 8: think it was kind of important, like put us on
Speaker 8: a new path together.
Speaker 6: Mm hmm, yeah, I agree.
Speaker 8: Why are you being so weird? What do you mean
Speaker 8: you agree? No?
Speaker 6: I mean I just I just wanted to bring up
Speaker 6: what you had mentioned when I asked you to move
Speaker 6: in with me. If you remember, do you remember anything
Speaker 6: about the agreement?
Speaker 8: You might have said, well, I just said I don't
Speaker 8: want to move in with you until we get married,
Speaker 8: like I told you that.
Speaker 6: Yeah, you said another word?
Speaker 8: Also, what's going on?
Speaker 6: Can you just say you know what? You know the
Speaker 6: word I'm talking about? Can you just it just helps me?
Speaker 6: And you know my anxiety?
Speaker 8: And I don't right now, So I'm gonna need.
Speaker 6: You to say it. It's it starts with the P,
Speaker 6: you know what I mean?
Speaker 8: What's it ends with.
Speaker 6: Uprea?
Speaker 8: Okay?
Speaker 6: Yeah, okay, so you did say that. Great, Okay, is
Speaker 6: there other No? No, no, no, no, it's you. I'm just
Speaker 6: like outside, there's like a lot of people outside running
Speaker 6: around whatever. So I went ahead. I moved forward with
Speaker 6: that word, that that pre word. I had some lawyers involved, and.
Speaker 8: Just say lawyers. You hired a lawyer.
Speaker 6: Yeah, you know it's it's not legal beagle stuff, you
Speaker 6: know what I mean? Like you kind of have to
Speaker 6: when you do this.
Speaker 8: I don't know what you're talking about right now. Can
Speaker 8: you get to the freaking point?
Speaker 6: So I don't want you to get upset. This is ridiculous.
Speaker 6: So I I wanted to prove my commitment to you,
Speaker 6: like we talked about, and I went ahead and got
Speaker 6: the paperwork for you to sign it.
Speaker 8: What do you mean you want me to sign it?
Speaker 6: This is your idea? Remember, this is your idea. This
Speaker 6: is fun.
Speaker 8: This is just like a weird phone call. I feel
Speaker 8: like you could have talked to me in person about this.
Speaker 6: I didn't know how to bring it up. You have
Speaker 6: no idea. I've been losing sleep about this whole damn thing.
Speaker 6: And I asked this radio station to help me rest.
Speaker 8: The radio station, what.
Speaker 2: Team radio people? I always wanted to hang up at
Speaker 2: that point. I don't want to be here.
Speaker 5: I feel like it probably went just about as well
Speaker 5: as their first conversation about.
Speaker 8: I don't understand what's happening right now, lawyers.
Speaker 2: That makes it sound like a joke. We don't want
Speaker 2: to do that.
Speaker 5: We're reading show. This segment is called an Awkward Tuesday phone.
Speaker 1: Call, oh man, and we really emphasized that title today.
Speaker 5: We were trying to help our listener here, Drew have
Speaker 5: what he knew was going to be a little bit
Speaker 5: of an awkward conversation with you.
Speaker 8: Uh huh.
Speaker 1: Apparently he thought that you wanted a prenup, you know,
Speaker 1: because like he wants to move in with you and
Speaker 1: move forward and go down the marriage road.
Speaker 8: Well yeah, I said that, but he never like talk
Speaker 8: to me about pursuing it and hiring lawyers and filling
Speaker 8: out paperwork.
Speaker 5: Yeah, he should have written it all up himself. I
Speaker 5: do agree with that, But no, Jeffery, Oh my god.
Speaker 2: I mean I can't tell what your emotion is right now.
Speaker 2: Maybe it's just shocked.
Speaker 5: Didn't you want this?
Speaker 2: Maybe you don't care, maybe you're mad. Where are you at?
Speaker 8: I'm just like in the middle, really because I just
Speaker 8: wish he was more honest and I feel like we
Speaker 8: could have looked on it together.
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, all right, So that's not bad.
Speaker 6: I mean that's I mean honest. This wasn't one hundred
Speaker 6: sent my idea to do it this way. The radio
Speaker 6: is your idea, you people, you people talking microphone whatever,
Speaker 6: you radio people, It was your idea to do this way.
Speaker 1: What it wasn't our idea for you to hire a
Speaker 1: team of lawyers.
Speaker 2: You called us way after that, you.
Speaker 5: Emailed us, Drew.
Speaker 6: I just wanted to do a love shout out to
Speaker 6: show I care about my my girl.
Speaker 7: Oh right.
Speaker 5: You know what, did I screw that one up again?
Speaker 2: The world's longest shutout.
Speaker 5: It's three hundred and eighty seven mistakes since yesterday. I'm
Speaker 5: never going to get this job right. I'm sorry, Drew,
Speaker 5: My bad for misunderstanding your awkward Tuesday phone request. Shout
Speaker 5: out yes, excuse me again? Three?
Speaker 8: Wait?
Speaker 2: Does that mean you're still wanting her to sign the prenup? Drew?
Speaker 6: I don't want you guys to pressure her to go
Speaker 6: ahead and want to sign it, that's for sure.
Speaker 4: Yeah, sorry about that.
Speaker 2: I was actually on the other band. I sign it,
Speaker 2: but Alexis's fault. Yeah, I know so much about preanup.
Speaker 3: Sorry?
Speaker 2: Would we hire a twenty four hour I love she
Speaker 2: brought it up.
Speaker 5: Yeah, we thought we would roll with it as long
Speaker 5: as you two are good, right, Yeah.
Speaker 8: I think we'll figure it out.
Speaker 5: Maybe have a couple more talks about this.
Speaker 6: Yeah, we'll go on a camping trip and ride the
Speaker 6: jeep top down or something.
Speaker 5: Everything's better top down in a jeep.
Speaker 2: Seems way more chill than you, Drew.
Speaker 5: I think she's confused.
Speaker 2: Love, that's something we can shout.
Speaker 5: Out successful awkward.
Speaker 6: Tuesday, freaking Jeffrey in the morning, I.
Speaker 1: Mean, then, who said romance wasn't dead? Greenups before moving in?
Speaker 2: That's a lot for anything.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think in today's society this is good for legalities.
Speaker 4: I'm gonna put this in my tender bio.
Speaker 5: If you swipe right, you agree to a prenup.
Speaker 1: A lot of problems and then you could put in
Speaker 1: little tidy words all the stuff that she owes you.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, you're like, you didn't read the terms and conditions.
Speaker 1: That's on you, my man or my friend or Mike girl,
Speaker 1: whoever you end up datingbody. And we did get a
Speaker 1: lot of comments already from this Awkward Tuesday.
Speaker 2: Yeah, prenups always have mixed responses. Yeah, but I just
Speaker 2: threw my wedding ring offs. Oh just have his own
Speaker 2: will my bad? I'm not a prenup later Awkward Tuesday.
Speaker 3: Yeah, anyways, a lot of people saying prenup before proposing.
Speaker 2: That's crazy. In the place of it, it.
Speaker 5: Should be a long conversation.
Speaker 2: Were moving in a lot.
Speaker 3: Of red flags, you know, yeah, a little words.
Speaker 2: I'm not going to read that. There's mean words. It's
Speaker 2: hard already.
Speaker 1: All right, leave your comments, thank you for being here,
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