1 00:00:07,600 --> 00:00:11,080 Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks so 2 00:00:11,200 --> 00:00:14,000 Speaker 1: much for joining us. We're so excited to be back. 3 00:00:14,080 --> 00:00:18,400 Speaker 2: Kathy always always excited. I'm great. I'm great. Today we're 4 00:00:18,440 --> 00:00:21,599 Speaker 2: answering more of your questions, but first we wanted to 5 00:00:21,640 --> 00:00:25,840 Speaker 2: wish you all a very, very happy Thanksgiving. Can you 6 00:00:25,880 --> 00:00:27,480 Speaker 2: believe Thanksgiving is here? Susan? 7 00:00:27,680 --> 00:00:30,120 Speaker 1: I cannot, But I don't know if anybody is as 8 00:00:30,240 --> 00:00:33,479 Speaker 1: crazy as I am. I think every year it gets 9 00:00:33,520 --> 00:00:34,720 Speaker 1: worse instead of better. 10 00:00:35,360 --> 00:00:39,240 Speaker 2: Well, for me, I have passed the torch, as they say, 11 00:00:39,600 --> 00:00:42,720 Speaker 2: so my kids do the cooking. I bring the wine, 12 00:00:42,960 --> 00:00:47,320 Speaker 2: the champagne, and I bring my homemade eggnog bread. But 13 00:00:47,479 --> 00:00:48,839 Speaker 2: I don't have to do the turkey. 14 00:00:49,479 --> 00:00:50,920 Speaker 1: Do you hear this? People? 15 00:00:51,040 --> 00:00:51,720 Speaker 2: Well, wait, did you. 16 00:00:51,800 --> 00:00:54,920 Speaker 1: Hear what she's saying? When was the less time that 17 00:00:55,040 --> 00:00:59,440 Speaker 1: you made a turkey? Because you just said I passed, Well. 18 00:00:59,360 --> 00:01:02,320 Speaker 2: I passed the to what it's meaning we are Tradition 19 00:01:02,560 --> 00:01:05,640 Speaker 2: is always to get out the Christmas china, and that's 20 00:01:05,680 --> 00:01:08,920 Speaker 2: the first day we use it. It's Thanksgiving Day and 21 00:01:09,280 --> 00:01:12,360 Speaker 2: my daughter now has my Christmas china. My son and 22 00:01:12,440 --> 00:01:16,560 Speaker 2: daughter have my sterling silver and the crystals, all the 23 00:01:16,560 --> 00:01:19,760 Speaker 2: stuff we use for the holidays, but we have traditions 24 00:01:19,800 --> 00:01:23,200 Speaker 2: like I make pecan pie, I make eggnog bread, I 25 00:01:23,280 --> 00:01:26,839 Speaker 2: make cranberry bread. I do the baking. My husband always 26 00:01:26,880 --> 00:01:29,040 Speaker 2: did the turkey. So when I say I passed. 27 00:01:28,720 --> 00:01:29,560 Speaker 1: The how okay? 28 00:01:30,120 --> 00:01:33,280 Speaker 2: Turkey is now residing at my daughter and son's house. 29 00:01:33,600 --> 00:01:36,040 Speaker 1: She's a girl in the kitchen, but she can bake. 30 00:01:36,120 --> 00:01:37,959 Speaker 1: And you did tell me about that eggnog. 31 00:01:38,120 --> 00:01:40,400 Speaker 2: I'm gonna bring you something. What are you doing for Thanksgiving? 32 00:01:40,520 --> 00:01:43,360 Speaker 1: What do you entertaining? Of course I can't even count 33 00:01:43,520 --> 00:01:48,160 Speaker 1: maybe twenty twenty five pound bird. The soup has already 34 00:01:48,160 --> 00:01:51,559 Speaker 1: been made, you know. I make Italian wedding soup, which is. 35 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:54,480 Speaker 2: Because you know I heard the Pilgrims came across with 36 00:01:54,640 --> 00:01:57,160 Speaker 2: some Italian wedding soup. That is amazing that you have 37 00:01:57,240 --> 00:01:58,000 Speaker 2: kept the recipe. 38 00:01:58,440 --> 00:02:03,960 Speaker 1: But I have graduates to dictating side dishes. I always 39 00:02:04,120 --> 00:02:07,720 Speaker 1: and forever did everything on my own. And I'm getting 40 00:02:07,800 --> 00:02:10,960 Speaker 1: up there and nobody wants to take that tourch if 41 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:13,600 Speaker 1: you will. So now I have somebody bringing the green 42 00:02:13,680 --> 00:02:17,560 Speaker 1: bean casserole, and somebody's always somebody brings pumpkin pie. But 43 00:02:18,639 --> 00:02:21,200 Speaker 1: go ahead and make it. You you want mac and cheese. 44 00:02:21,360 --> 00:02:23,320 Speaker 1: Go ahead, you want sweet potatoes. 45 00:02:23,480 --> 00:02:26,120 Speaker 2: So do you have traditional foods that you because we 46 00:02:26,200 --> 00:02:29,079 Speaker 2: do traditional foods that you only cook on Thanksgiving. 47 00:02:29,240 --> 00:02:32,160 Speaker 1: Only on Thanksgiving and Christmas is the same. And if 48 00:02:32,160 --> 00:02:36,600 Speaker 1: I swayed on Christmas Day, they would have heart failure, 49 00:02:37,080 --> 00:02:39,919 Speaker 1: heart failure. I am so bored with Christmas dinner. 50 00:02:40,880 --> 00:02:42,960 Speaker 2: So wait, you do the exact same thing for Thanksgiving 51 00:02:42,960 --> 00:02:43,560 Speaker 2: and Christmas? 52 00:02:43,639 --> 00:02:45,880 Speaker 1: No, absolutely not, because I'm not that big of a 53 00:02:45,919 --> 00:02:48,600 Speaker 1: fan of turkey. So I do the ham. But we 54 00:02:48,760 --> 00:02:51,280 Speaker 1: add the Italian to Christmas. It used to be on 55 00:02:51,320 --> 00:02:54,639 Speaker 1: Thanksgiving as well, with the raviolis, the meat pulls. Now 56 00:02:54,680 --> 00:02:58,000 Speaker 1: they go, what We're not having raviolis not on Thanksgiving? 57 00:02:58,040 --> 00:03:01,079 Speaker 2: Now we add the Jewish. We have cool. No, I'm 58 00:03:01,160 --> 00:03:05,560 Speaker 2: just saying we do. We do like pecan pie, sweet potatoes, 59 00:03:05,840 --> 00:03:10,880 Speaker 2: We do mashed potatoes, Grady. The stuffing is seems to 60 00:03:10,880 --> 00:03:14,400 Speaker 2: be always different. We seem to experiment on stuffing, which 61 00:03:14,440 --> 00:03:19,240 Speaker 2: you know, I don't get. But I love Thanksgiving. It's 62 00:03:19,320 --> 00:03:24,040 Speaker 2: my daughter's actually my daughter's favorite holiday. It's not my favorite. 63 00:03:24,080 --> 00:03:25,000 Speaker 2: I love it. 64 00:03:25,000 --> 00:03:26,440 Speaker 1: It is one of my favorites. 65 00:03:26,480 --> 00:03:29,280 Speaker 2: You know. Why, let me guess you get to cook. 66 00:03:29,560 --> 00:03:33,960 Speaker 1: No, the gift giving, isn't there. It's not that everybody 67 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:37,680 Speaker 1: has to say something they're grateful for. It's a family 68 00:03:37,880 --> 00:03:41,640 Speaker 1: day or and or friends. But it's just to be together. 69 00:03:41,760 --> 00:03:45,680 Speaker 1: There's no side stuff, no present opening and kids running 70 00:03:45,720 --> 00:03:48,280 Speaker 1: around looking, you know, fighting over a gift or the. 71 00:03:48,240 --> 00:03:51,640 Speaker 2: Babies I love, We do the same thing. I will 72 00:03:51,640 --> 00:03:56,000 Speaker 2: also say my son started this tradition recently with his family. 73 00:03:56,480 --> 00:03:59,160 Speaker 2: Every night at dinner they say the highs and lows 74 00:03:59,240 --> 00:04:02,880 Speaker 2: for their day, which I love. And so at Thanksgiving, 75 00:04:03,000 --> 00:04:05,320 Speaker 2: you know, we always have the same prayer that we 76 00:04:05,560 --> 00:04:09,240 Speaker 2: say every year. And you're right, it's about family, it's 77 00:04:09,280 --> 00:04:13,280 Speaker 2: about eating. But come on, come on, vaterination, come stay 78 00:04:13,320 --> 00:04:16,560 Speaker 2: with me on this. I love all the food, but 79 00:04:17,279 --> 00:04:21,080 Speaker 2: it's craziness right. Everybody eats, you drink, and then you're 80 00:04:21,120 --> 00:04:23,919 Speaker 2: staring at piles of dirty dishes. Come on, it's not 81 00:04:24,200 --> 00:04:27,400 Speaker 2: all a Norman Rockwell day. Let's be I. 82 00:04:27,400 --> 00:04:29,200 Speaker 1: Don't know if anybody else out there is like this, 83 00:04:29,320 --> 00:04:33,560 Speaker 1: but Kathy, like you. My grandmother's china would only come 84 00:04:33,600 --> 00:04:39,680 Speaker 1: out on Thanksgiving, Christmas and Easter. My sisters who never 85 00:04:40,360 --> 00:04:43,360 Speaker 1: entertain on a holiday and cook. My one sister doesn't 86 00:04:43,360 --> 00:04:45,560 Speaker 1: cook at all. But Lisa is a really good cook, 87 00:04:45,960 --> 00:04:51,960 Speaker 1: and they all come. Never ever do I not want 88 00:04:52,000 --> 00:04:54,919 Speaker 1: to put that china out. They have a rule, don't 89 00:04:54,960 --> 00:04:58,240 Speaker 1: even think about setting the table. I go, what now, I. 90 00:04:58,279 --> 00:04:59,960 Speaker 2: Put it's at your house? 91 00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:03,840 Speaker 1: Yes you they don't paper plates? Are you ready for this? 92 00:05:04,200 --> 00:05:08,400 Speaker 1: Paper turkey plates? Big? They're sturdy and even the silver 93 00:05:08,520 --> 00:05:10,160 Speaker 1: I go, are you freaking crazy? 94 00:05:10,240 --> 00:05:12,279 Speaker 2: Wait a minute, wait, bait, they're killing me, Hold on 95 00:05:12,360 --> 00:05:14,480 Speaker 2: killing me? Hold on. I want everyone to hear this. 96 00:05:15,040 --> 00:05:16,760 Speaker 2: You use paper plates on. 97 00:05:16,960 --> 00:05:20,440 Speaker 1: Ida, they will. My china will be set right in 98 00:05:20,440 --> 00:05:20,880 Speaker 1: front of me. 99 00:05:22,800 --> 00:05:26,159 Speaker 2: Okay, I say, your house, your rules. Anyway, I really 100 00:05:26,240 --> 00:05:30,159 Speaker 2: cannot believe that the holidays are here. As as you know, 101 00:05:30,240 --> 00:05:34,480 Speaker 2: I already have all my Christmas decorations up. But I 102 00:05:34,520 --> 00:05:38,160 Speaker 2: really do love to take a moment at Thanksgiving and 103 00:05:38,839 --> 00:05:42,440 Speaker 2: really just be in the moment to be grateful for 104 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:46,280 Speaker 2: my family, my friends, my health, and I wish I 105 00:05:46,920 --> 00:05:49,040 Speaker 2: know you do too, But I want to wish everybody 106 00:05:49,400 --> 00:05:53,640 Speaker 2: the happiest and healthiest of Thanksgiving. I hope if you're alone, 107 00:05:54,080 --> 00:05:57,360 Speaker 2: you find a neighbor, a friend, somewhere to donate your time. 108 00:05:58,320 --> 00:06:01,200 Speaker 2: I just hope you find someone to share a meal 109 00:06:01,240 --> 00:06:03,120 Speaker 2: with and just look back on the air and be 110 00:06:03,200 --> 00:06:06,039 Speaker 2: grateful for all of your blessings, because even though times 111 00:06:06,040 --> 00:06:06,800 Speaker 2: are tough. 112 00:06:06,960 --> 00:06:10,200 Speaker 1: Say it out loud, say something or a few things 113 00:06:10,240 --> 00:06:13,600 Speaker 1: that you're grateful for. I mean, giving thanks is what 114 00:06:13,680 --> 00:06:17,560 Speaker 1: this day is about. Also for those that are going 115 00:06:17,640 --> 00:06:20,760 Speaker 1: to be sad that I just went to the ups 116 00:06:20,800 --> 00:06:23,400 Speaker 1: store a little couple hours ago and she just lost 117 00:06:23,400 --> 00:06:25,880 Speaker 1: her dad. It's always seems like it's this time of 118 00:06:25,920 --> 00:06:29,200 Speaker 1: the year people lose people. I don't know why that is. 119 00:06:29,240 --> 00:06:32,039 Speaker 1: Do you find that, well, it's around the holidays that 120 00:06:32,160 --> 00:06:33,320 Speaker 1: Peo will pass. 121 00:06:33,720 --> 00:06:36,000 Speaker 2: I don't find that as much. But thanks a lot 122 00:06:36,080 --> 00:06:37,560 Speaker 2: for putting that on. I mean, now I'll let you 123 00:06:37,640 --> 00:06:41,680 Speaker 2: know somebody dead today. But I think and you and 124 00:06:41,680 --> 00:06:43,960 Speaker 2: I've talked about this. For me, the holidays are hard 125 00:06:44,000 --> 00:06:47,840 Speaker 2: because I really try to maintain all the traditions. And 126 00:06:48,000 --> 00:06:50,719 Speaker 2: we'll talk about this again on another podcast, maybe before 127 00:06:50,760 --> 00:06:54,280 Speaker 2: the holidays, but I try to maintain all the traditions 128 00:06:54,279 --> 00:06:57,880 Speaker 2: with my family. But you know what, there's one really 129 00:06:58,000 --> 00:07:02,159 Speaker 2: important person missing in my immedia FAMI, and that's my husband. 130 00:07:02,200 --> 00:07:05,400 Speaker 2: He's not at the table, and my parents aren't there, 131 00:07:05,440 --> 00:07:07,640 Speaker 2: and these were the times when we all got together, 132 00:07:07,760 --> 00:07:10,040 Speaker 2: and I think the holidays bring that up. But you 133 00:07:10,120 --> 00:07:14,480 Speaker 2: know what, I try to focus on the positive, my grandchildren, 134 00:07:14,600 --> 00:07:16,720 Speaker 2: my children, who is there and who's not there? 135 00:07:16,840 --> 00:07:20,560 Speaker 1: So welcoming you prayer. We always talk about those that 136 00:07:20,640 --> 00:07:23,320 Speaker 1: aren't with us, and our list is getting so big. 137 00:07:23,640 --> 00:07:27,720 Speaker 1: I've lost two brothers, both parents. You know, it's like, okay, 138 00:07:27,760 --> 00:07:29,679 Speaker 1: we can't mention them all by name now. 139 00:07:29,760 --> 00:07:33,880 Speaker 2: Right well, Susan, I'm wishing you a happy, happy Thanksgiving. 140 00:07:34,000 --> 00:07:36,200 Speaker 1: Thank you, Kathy and you, and wishing. 141 00:07:36,040 --> 00:07:38,800 Speaker 2: All our listeners want to happy healthy. 142 00:07:39,080 --> 00:07:42,920 Speaker 1: Everybody's stay healthy and be grateful. 143 00:07:42,560 --> 00:07:44,200 Speaker 2: And be grateful because we have a lot to be 144 00:07:44,240 --> 00:07:44,800 Speaker 2: grateful for. 145 00:07:45,480 --> 00:07:49,400 Speaker 1: So how do you make your stuffing? I love this people, 146 00:07:49,960 --> 00:07:52,960 Speaker 1: I mean those of you that are listening. Let me know. 147 00:07:53,320 --> 00:07:56,320 Speaker 1: Has anybody ever put sausage in their stuffing? 148 00:07:56,880 --> 00:07:59,480 Speaker 2: This is today? That's Canadian? I do, is it? 149 00:08:00,040 --> 00:08:00,800 Speaker 1: Yeah? 150 00:08:01,360 --> 00:08:04,880 Speaker 2: My stepmom's recipe had sausage in it and it's delicious. 151 00:08:04,920 --> 00:08:06,840 Speaker 2: But I told you, every year we seem to try 152 00:08:06,840 --> 00:08:09,440 Speaker 2: a new stuffing, so I never get the same one twice. 153 00:08:09,840 --> 00:08:12,200 Speaker 1: Right now, do you stuff the bird or do you 154 00:08:12,280 --> 00:08:15,200 Speaker 1: like it on the side big bite? Well, I like 155 00:08:15,280 --> 00:08:15,960 Speaker 1: it stuffed. 156 00:08:16,320 --> 00:08:18,920 Speaker 2: We stuffed the bird, but we don't typically eat it 157 00:08:19,000 --> 00:08:21,960 Speaker 2: because you know, they're all the things of bacteria and 158 00:08:22,040 --> 00:08:25,120 Speaker 2: botulism and you know, things that I can't pronounce with 159 00:08:25,200 --> 00:08:29,239 Speaker 2: nineteen syllables. But apparently when you stuff the bird there's 160 00:08:30,240 --> 00:08:33,840 Speaker 2: things bacteria that gets in it. So typically I cook 161 00:08:34,720 --> 00:08:37,120 Speaker 2: and I have done the stuffing before, do one outside 162 00:08:37,120 --> 00:08:40,199 Speaker 2: the bird and then one inside the bird. Scoop out 163 00:08:40,200 --> 00:08:42,600 Speaker 2: the bird. It does flavor it, you know, it does flavor. 164 00:08:43,360 --> 00:08:45,319 Speaker 1: The bird flavors the stuffing. 165 00:08:45,960 --> 00:08:47,960 Speaker 2: I'm going to blow your mind right now, Susan, this 166 00:08:48,160 --> 00:08:52,760 Speaker 2: is a yes or no? Okay, Kathy, has ever made 167 00:08:54,640 --> 00:08:57,120 Speaker 2: turkey soup from the turkey carcass? 168 00:08:57,440 --> 00:08:57,760 Speaker 1: Yes? 169 00:08:58,600 --> 00:08:59,160 Speaker 2: You are right? 170 00:08:59,520 --> 00:09:02,520 Speaker 1: Yes, I guess would you say that cat? That was 171 00:09:02,520 --> 00:09:03,079 Speaker 1: a no break? 172 00:09:03,480 --> 00:09:04,719 Speaker 2: I know, but you know I don't call it. 173 00:09:05,160 --> 00:09:08,479 Speaker 1: Has Susan ever made turkey soup from the carcass? 174 00:09:08,800 --> 00:09:10,640 Speaker 2: I'm gonna go no, you're right. 175 00:09:10,840 --> 00:09:13,560 Speaker 1: I'm like us I know all that. I'm not doing 176 00:09:13,559 --> 00:09:15,680 Speaker 1: that too. I'd give it away and somebody else makes 177 00:09:15,720 --> 00:09:16,439 Speaker 1: it and I'll eat it. 178 00:09:18,280 --> 00:09:21,680 Speaker 2: Unbelievable. I cannot believe it. Don't make turkey soup? All right? Wow? 179 00:09:22,000 --> 00:09:23,400 Speaker 1: I make a lot of soups too. 180 00:09:23,720 --> 00:09:25,320 Speaker 2: I know you do. Well. 181 00:09:25,559 --> 00:09:28,440 Speaker 1: Happy how about how about the frosting the bird? Okay, 182 00:09:28,840 --> 00:09:32,800 Speaker 1: who twenty five pound bird. I'm reading the thing and 183 00:09:32,840 --> 00:09:37,600 Speaker 1: I go, oh my gosh, it was like twenty four 184 00:09:37,640 --> 00:09:41,560 Speaker 1: hours a pound or something. I was like, wait, wait, wait, no, wait, 185 00:09:41,800 --> 00:09:47,000 Speaker 1: I've got five hours per five one day per five pounds. 186 00:09:47,000 --> 00:09:48,040 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my. 187 00:09:47,960 --> 00:09:51,000 Speaker 2: God, get out your calculator. I have the funniest story 188 00:09:51,240 --> 00:09:54,280 Speaker 2: before we get on with our show here. I was 189 00:09:54,320 --> 00:09:56,960 Speaker 2: over to friends, oh gosh, at least a week ago, 190 00:09:57,360 --> 00:10:00,760 Speaker 2: and she was so proud. She'd been to Costco and 191 00:10:00,800 --> 00:10:03,400 Speaker 2: she had her She goes, you know, turkeys are expensive 192 00:10:03,480 --> 00:10:06,760 Speaker 2: and they're hard to find, and you know whatever. And 193 00:10:06,840 --> 00:10:08,960 Speaker 2: so she's got the turkey and a couple of us 194 00:10:08,960 --> 00:10:11,720 Speaker 2: are over there having you know, ladies chat night with wine. 195 00:10:12,000 --> 00:10:13,760 Speaker 2: And we both look at each other and I said 196 00:10:14,120 --> 00:10:18,360 Speaker 2: to my friend, Beth, you what are you talking about. 197 00:10:18,400 --> 00:10:21,440 Speaker 2: It's ten days before Thanksgiving. She goes, it can stay 198 00:10:21,480 --> 00:10:25,880 Speaker 2: in the refrigerator, said for I started laughing. She knows 199 00:10:25,880 --> 00:10:28,000 Speaker 2: that I don't cook, I said, Beth, I don't even 200 00:10:28,480 --> 00:10:32,000 Speaker 2: that even I know that one. She goes, are you serious? Wait? 201 00:10:32,160 --> 00:10:34,680 Speaker 2: It gets worse. She goes, I'll just stick it back 202 00:10:34,720 --> 00:10:36,200 Speaker 2: in the freeze or I. 203 00:10:36,120 --> 00:10:38,720 Speaker 1: Said, you cannot well frosted already. 204 00:10:38,800 --> 00:10:43,640 Speaker 2: Yes, oh yeah, yeah out. I said, you have two 205 00:10:43,720 --> 00:10:46,840 Speaker 2: choices to say, throw that bird out or cook it 206 00:10:46,880 --> 00:10:49,600 Speaker 2: tomorrow and bring me some turkey. I don't know what 207 00:10:49,640 --> 00:10:50,199 Speaker 2: she did. 208 00:10:50,120 --> 00:10:54,640 Speaker 1: Because one of those deep fried turkeys. 209 00:10:54,120 --> 00:10:55,800 Speaker 2: I live in Texas. I have. 210 00:10:56,200 --> 00:10:59,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean it's okay, it's just it's not. The 211 00:10:59,440 --> 00:11:03,679 Speaker 1: house does and smell good, and that beautiful golden turkey 212 00:11:03,760 --> 00:11:05,800 Speaker 1: that sits there just shining. 213 00:11:06,840 --> 00:11:10,960 Speaker 2: I actually love turkey. I mean I love. You're going 214 00:11:11,000 --> 00:11:14,079 Speaker 2: to be shocked, as you know, Susan. I can cook, 215 00:11:14,200 --> 00:11:17,439 Speaker 2: I just don't. I make a homemade cranberry sauce. None 216 00:11:17,480 --> 00:11:20,040 Speaker 2: of this crap out of the can for me. I 217 00:11:20,200 --> 00:11:23,080 Speaker 2: make if. When I used to cook and have Thanksgiving hair, 218 00:11:23,240 --> 00:11:25,920 Speaker 2: like I said, my husband Darryl did did the bird. 219 00:11:26,600 --> 00:11:28,360 Speaker 2: The kids as I got older, would bring you know, 220 00:11:28,400 --> 00:11:31,000 Speaker 2: the mashed potatoes or something. Well really not because my 221 00:11:31,080 --> 00:11:32,640 Speaker 2: husband had to have them a certain way, so he 222 00:11:32,720 --> 00:11:35,280 Speaker 2: made those two. But I would do all the baking 223 00:11:35,440 --> 00:11:38,960 Speaker 2: and I would make homemade cranberry sauce. Now, can I 224 00:11:39,080 --> 00:11:42,360 Speaker 2: give you reason number four thousand, nine hundred and sixty two. 225 00:11:42,679 --> 00:11:46,559 Speaker 2: I don't anymore because I would spend the time making it, 226 00:11:47,000 --> 00:11:49,440 Speaker 2: and my kids would come over and go, where's the 227 00:11:49,600 --> 00:11:52,120 Speaker 2: sliced you know, the ocean spray out of the camp 228 00:11:52,720 --> 00:11:56,080 Speaker 2: what I mean, really, it's just like, really, kids, what 229 00:11:56,160 --> 00:11:56,840 Speaker 2: about salad? 230 00:11:56,880 --> 00:11:59,240 Speaker 1: It's like, you know how you prepare a beautiful salad 231 00:11:59,280 --> 00:12:01,160 Speaker 1: with every meal? Right, most meals? 232 00:12:01,240 --> 00:12:02,240 Speaker 2: We don't do green. 233 00:12:02,040 --> 00:12:05,240 Speaker 1: Salad on the holidays, they don't make the salad, don't 234 00:12:05,480 --> 00:12:05,840 Speaker 1: we never? 235 00:12:06,800 --> 00:12:09,199 Speaker 2: No? But do you Okay, Susan, We're going to show 236 00:12:09,200 --> 00:12:13,800 Speaker 2: our age here. Do you make jello salads? 237 00:12:14,280 --> 00:12:15,160 Speaker 1: I've had them? 238 00:12:15,240 --> 00:12:18,160 Speaker 2: Now? Okay? Can I tell you I saw in the news, 239 00:12:18,160 --> 00:12:20,360 Speaker 2: and we all know everything you see in here on 240 00:12:20,400 --> 00:12:25,600 Speaker 2: TV is true. They they said that jello salads are 241 00:12:25,640 --> 00:12:28,800 Speaker 2: making a huge comeback this year, and I have some 242 00:12:29,000 --> 00:12:32,800 Speaker 2: great ones with Coca Cola that it's like a fizzy salad. 243 00:12:33,480 --> 00:12:35,160 Speaker 2: I might crank them out again and make. 244 00:12:36,720 --> 00:12:37,080 Speaker 1: People. 245 00:12:38,480 --> 00:12:41,120 Speaker 2: I'm just trying to prove to everyone that I can cook, 246 00:12:41,160 --> 00:12:44,080 Speaker 2: so when mister Wright does come along, I can cook 247 00:12:44,120 --> 00:12:45,599 Speaker 2: and be fabulous Thanksgiving? 248 00:12:45,600 --> 00:12:47,760 Speaker 1: Did you make your own whipped cream? 249 00:12:48,480 --> 00:12:52,520 Speaker 2: I do make my. I absolutely when I make all 250 00:12:52,600 --> 00:12:56,520 Speaker 2: my pies, I make homemade whip cream. I'm weird baking. 251 00:12:56,600 --> 00:12:59,839 Speaker 2: I will do anything from scratch. I make my own pie. 252 00:13:00,520 --> 00:13:03,240 Speaker 2: I do not baker. 253 00:13:03,360 --> 00:13:04,360 Speaker 1: I am. 254 00:13:04,840 --> 00:13:06,920 Speaker 2: You know why I'm a good baker, and you know 255 00:13:06,960 --> 00:13:08,959 Speaker 2: why you're not. I love you. 256 00:13:09,520 --> 00:13:14,200 Speaker 1: Measure out everything and follow the direction and baking. A 257 00:13:14,280 --> 00:13:16,640 Speaker 1: little bit more of this or a little pinchon, not. 258 00:13:16,679 --> 00:13:20,080 Speaker 2: In baking, not in baking. In baking, if you put 259 00:13:20,120 --> 00:13:22,640 Speaker 2: in a little too much baking powder or baking soda, 260 00:13:22,880 --> 00:13:24,760 Speaker 2: the thing is going to rise right over the pan. 261 00:13:24,880 --> 00:13:27,160 Speaker 1: You have to measure, or if you forget it, it 262 00:13:27,200 --> 00:13:28,079 Speaker 1: won't rise at all. 263 00:13:28,360 --> 00:13:31,439 Speaker 2: Well exactly, but I'm saying, I am, I measure. You're 264 00:13:31,480 --> 00:13:34,280 Speaker 2: exactly right, and baking is a precise. 265 00:13:34,880 --> 00:13:38,000 Speaker 1: I do make cookies Italian cookies only once a year 266 00:13:38,080 --> 00:13:41,679 Speaker 1: around Christmas, and this year, and of course I make 267 00:13:41,720 --> 00:13:43,480 Speaker 1: the regards to cookies, and you got to ice in 268 00:13:43,559 --> 00:13:46,000 Speaker 1: every one of them and put the sprinkles on them, 269 00:13:46,000 --> 00:13:50,160 Speaker 1: the whole bit. But this year, my sisters and I 270 00:13:50,280 --> 00:13:53,640 Speaker 1: do a cookie day at my house. I have the 271 00:13:53,679 --> 00:13:57,480 Speaker 1: smallest oven, the biggest house, but the smallest oven. They've 272 00:13:57,520 --> 00:14:00,680 Speaker 1: got these grand ovens. Nobody goes to these. They just 273 00:14:00,800 --> 00:14:03,760 Speaker 1: like to destroy mine. And we have music playing and 274 00:14:03,880 --> 00:14:07,160 Speaker 1: Mimosa's going. It's fun and we're all full of flour, 275 00:14:07,240 --> 00:14:10,040 Speaker 1: and who's making this? Everybody makes a different cookie. Well, 276 00:14:10,120 --> 00:14:13,320 Speaker 1: this year I also go to a cookie exchange, and 277 00:14:13,360 --> 00:14:16,880 Speaker 1: it's usually the day after me and my sisters. Guess what. 278 00:14:17,720 --> 00:14:21,840 Speaker 1: This year, my cookie exchange is the day before I 279 00:14:22,000 --> 00:14:24,560 Speaker 1: make cookies. So now I got to throw that. 280 00:14:24,520 --> 00:14:27,880 Speaker 2: In the mix or Susan, it would not be beneath me. 281 00:14:28,120 --> 00:14:30,480 Speaker 2: I got to be honest. Making Christmas cookies. I do 282 00:14:30,520 --> 00:14:33,360 Speaker 2: it with the grandkids to ice. You know, the sugar cookies, 283 00:14:34,040 --> 00:14:36,600 Speaker 2: but that dough and stuff, I don't. I just buy 284 00:14:36,640 --> 00:14:38,880 Speaker 2: the sugar cookies and we cut them out and decorate them. 285 00:14:38,920 --> 00:14:42,960 Speaker 1: But what I'm doing with grandkids, yeah. 286 00:14:42,040 --> 00:14:45,040 Speaker 2: I have never Well, actually I went to a cookie 287 00:14:45,120 --> 00:14:49,560 Speaker 2: exchange once and they're a nightmare. They're a nightmare. People. 288 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:53,680 Speaker 1: Do you guys like cookie exchange? Because what I bring 289 00:14:53,840 --> 00:14:57,280 Speaker 1: home half of it I wouldn't even eat. 290 00:14:57,600 --> 00:14:59,480 Speaker 2: Well, it's like, you know what, to me, I'm gonna 291 00:14:59,480 --> 00:15:03,600 Speaker 2: take flak for this. Cookies exchange to me are like 292 00:15:04,320 --> 00:15:08,360 Speaker 2: are like Halloween getting a banana. You know, some of 293 00:15:08,440 --> 00:15:12,280 Speaker 2: you a sliced apple, Like, no, thank you. I want 294 00:15:12,280 --> 00:15:13,400 Speaker 2: to make my own cookies. 295 00:15:14,040 --> 00:15:16,960 Speaker 1: Kathy. We could go on talking forever but it's time 296 00:15:17,040 --> 00:15:20,080 Speaker 1: to get into the episode. So let's start with the 297 00:15:20,240 --> 00:15:30,200 Speaker 1: question of the day. Okay, Kat, what do you think 298 00:15:30,280 --> 00:15:34,840 Speaker 1: about Cereal daters and what do you think are the 299 00:15:34,880 --> 00:15:39,600 Speaker 1: most important things they miss out on by never being single? 300 00:15:40,360 --> 00:15:44,040 Speaker 2: Okay, so I'm going to hold on to your chair, Susan, 301 00:15:44,440 --> 00:15:47,360 Speaker 2: I'm going to ask you to explain something to me. Okay, 302 00:15:47,720 --> 00:15:53,280 Speaker 2: are you ready? A serial dater to me means someone 303 00:15:53,880 --> 00:15:59,239 Speaker 2: who never settles down with one person. They're just constantly 304 00:15:59,320 --> 00:16:04,040 Speaker 2: That is the Cereal comes in constantly dating people. They 305 00:16:04,040 --> 00:16:07,160 Speaker 2: got Sally one night, Susie the next, and if you're 306 00:16:07,200 --> 00:16:11,640 Speaker 2: a god, you're right, yes, yes, Okay, So my question is. 307 00:16:12,760 --> 00:16:13,560 Speaker 1: They never commit? 308 00:16:14,040 --> 00:16:17,120 Speaker 2: Well, they never commit. But the question I have is 309 00:16:17,720 --> 00:16:19,800 Speaker 2: a question on the question of the day. Is it 310 00:16:19,840 --> 00:16:22,920 Speaker 2: that they don't ever want to be single or what 311 00:16:22,960 --> 00:16:26,160 Speaker 2: you just said that they don't want to commit? Because 312 00:16:27,040 --> 00:16:29,920 Speaker 2: I'm not sure. So that's my question. Do you think 313 00:16:30,000 --> 00:16:34,640 Speaker 2: being a serial dater means they're afraid or missing out 314 00:16:34,640 --> 00:16:35,320 Speaker 2: I'm being single? 315 00:16:35,440 --> 00:16:37,560 Speaker 1: What do you think that that's what they enjoy and 316 00:16:37,600 --> 00:16:40,040 Speaker 1: they only want to date so they don't want to commit. 317 00:16:40,160 --> 00:16:42,720 Speaker 1: But what the question read was what do you think 318 00:16:42,760 --> 00:16:46,280 Speaker 1: are the most important things they miss out on by 319 00:16:46,400 --> 00:16:49,440 Speaker 1: never being single. I think what you would miss out 320 00:16:49,520 --> 00:16:51,800 Speaker 1: on is meeting the right person, like when you're not 321 00:16:52,000 --> 00:16:54,960 Speaker 1: looking and you're not crazily dating one hundred people. 322 00:16:55,160 --> 00:16:57,360 Speaker 2: But maybe they don't want it. That's my point. That's 323 00:16:57,400 --> 00:17:01,600 Speaker 2: exactly right, that is my point. I think people who 324 00:17:01,680 --> 00:17:04,520 Speaker 2: are serial I think it's a this is a judgy 325 00:17:04,640 --> 00:17:09,600 Speaker 2: question in my book, because some people don't want to 326 00:17:09,640 --> 00:17:14,080 Speaker 2: be committed. I have friends now at this age who 327 00:17:14,119 --> 00:17:17,080 Speaker 2: say to me, I don't want to be with one man. 328 00:17:17,560 --> 00:17:22,240 Speaker 2: I like going out and dating. And do they like 329 00:17:22,280 --> 00:17:24,120 Speaker 2: being alone? Yeah, they spend time by the one, they 330 00:17:24,160 --> 00:17:28,600 Speaker 2: travel by themselves, So I don't think they're necessarily connected, 331 00:17:28,720 --> 00:17:32,920 Speaker 2: I think, is what I'm saying. I think that people 332 00:17:32,960 --> 00:17:36,760 Speaker 2: who are serial daters either what you just said, don't 333 00:17:36,800 --> 00:17:41,639 Speaker 2: want to commit, or they just like you know, varieties 334 00:17:41,680 --> 00:17:42,520 Speaker 2: of spice of life. 335 00:17:42,920 --> 00:17:45,399 Speaker 1: Are they dated more than one person at one time? 336 00:17:46,040 --> 00:17:49,840 Speaker 2: Could you say no? I mean I've had a date 337 00:17:49,920 --> 00:17:51,919 Speaker 2: with someone and then a week later gone out with 338 00:17:51,960 --> 00:17:53,639 Speaker 2: someone else, and then maybe gone back and had a 339 00:17:53,720 --> 00:17:56,800 Speaker 2: date with the first guy. But no, I don't listen. 340 00:17:57,119 --> 00:17:59,159 Speaker 2: I'm old. I can barely remember the days of the 341 00:17:59,160 --> 00:18:03,120 Speaker 2: week at this point. Let's see, was it John tonight Jim? 342 00:18:03,240 --> 00:18:03,840 Speaker 2: I can't remember. 343 00:18:04,240 --> 00:18:07,280 Speaker 1: I could not keep that together. No, but I'd be 344 00:18:07,280 --> 00:18:08,720 Speaker 1: good at serial dating at all. 345 00:18:09,560 --> 00:18:10,200 Speaker 2: Uh. 346 00:18:10,359 --> 00:18:12,040 Speaker 1: I'm I'm a relationship person. 347 00:18:12,760 --> 00:18:16,159 Speaker 2: I am too, I am too, but I think I 348 00:18:16,600 --> 00:18:20,879 Speaker 2: think for me, I am definitely single. Sad to say 349 00:18:21,240 --> 00:18:26,080 Speaker 2: at this point, but I think I don't miss out 350 00:18:26,359 --> 00:18:28,920 Speaker 2: if if I am dating, do you feel like you're 351 00:18:28,960 --> 00:18:32,160 Speaker 2: missing out? You are actually a good example, Susan. You 352 00:18:32,359 --> 00:18:35,520 Speaker 2: have to be dating. You're rarely single. I mean now 353 00:18:35,560 --> 00:18:37,840 Speaker 2: you're really not single. But you've always said to me 354 00:18:37,920 --> 00:18:41,040 Speaker 2: for years but no, but you always had someone to 355 00:18:41,200 --> 00:18:46,680 Speaker 2: date you always. No, I went years, well since you 356 00:18:47,240 --> 00:18:47,560 Speaker 2: met me. 357 00:18:48,240 --> 00:18:51,960 Speaker 1: After you met me, I didn't meet Frederic until this year. 358 00:18:52,400 --> 00:18:55,840 Speaker 2: No, you were dating you dad several dates with guys 359 00:18:56,000 --> 00:18:58,040 Speaker 2: in the time i've known you. Do we need a 360 00:18:58,080 --> 00:19:00,120 Speaker 2: list dates? 361 00:19:00,520 --> 00:19:03,040 Speaker 1: Because I went back to somebody I was familiar with, 362 00:19:03,160 --> 00:19:05,680 Speaker 1: the hang out with that date. 363 00:19:05,920 --> 00:19:07,600 Speaker 2: No, no, no, but then you had some other guys 364 00:19:07,640 --> 00:19:11,480 Speaker 2: you dated. I don't know. For me, I don't mind. 365 00:19:11,600 --> 00:19:14,199 Speaker 2: I'm very happy being by myself, and I've had to 366 00:19:14,240 --> 00:19:16,720 Speaker 2: come to terms with that because I never thought I 367 00:19:16,760 --> 00:19:18,800 Speaker 2: would be so. 368 00:19:19,200 --> 00:19:20,600 Speaker 1: But what he thinks that. 369 00:19:20,760 --> 00:19:23,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, But I think for me, like they're serial dating, 370 00:19:24,359 --> 00:19:25,960 Speaker 2: which is you know, I need. 371 00:19:25,880 --> 00:19:29,400 Speaker 1: To ask you something serial daters. Okay, so a man 372 00:19:29,560 --> 00:19:35,040 Speaker 1: dates constantly? Yeah, And for me, looking at that picture, 373 00:19:35,320 --> 00:19:38,720 Speaker 1: I wouldn't be able to ask him certain questions like 374 00:19:38,800 --> 00:19:40,399 Speaker 1: well what are we doing this week? Because you got 375 00:19:40,480 --> 00:19:42,320 Speaker 1: to wait for him to ask you for another date? 376 00:19:44,119 --> 00:19:44,800 Speaker 2: Relationship. 377 00:19:44,840 --> 00:19:47,760 Speaker 1: What if he's dating serial dating but he dates the 378 00:19:47,800 --> 00:19:50,640 Speaker 1: same person every week. 379 00:19:50,440 --> 00:19:54,399 Speaker 2: Well you're wait a second, You're saying he's the serial 380 00:19:54,480 --> 00:19:57,960 Speaker 2: dat I'm saying, what if I'm dating, which I haven't done. 381 00:19:58,280 --> 00:20:01,120 Speaker 2: But if I'm dating, let's call it three guys at 382 00:20:01,119 --> 00:20:05,119 Speaker 2: a time, you know, And and I maybe I'm going 383 00:20:05,200 --> 00:20:09,160 Speaker 2: to call him and say, hey, Rick, do you want 384 00:20:09,160 --> 00:20:12,720 Speaker 2: to go to the Ballue Festival and Albuquerque with me 385 00:20:12,800 --> 00:20:15,240 Speaker 2: next weekend? I mean, it doesn't always have to be 386 00:20:15,280 --> 00:20:17,679 Speaker 2: the guy. I'm saying. For me, I can't do it. 387 00:20:17,680 --> 00:20:20,159 Speaker 2: It's too I can't keep my own day straight. You know, 388 00:20:20,200 --> 00:20:23,879 Speaker 2: I would get their names confused even I mean, yeah, 389 00:20:24,040 --> 00:20:27,600 Speaker 2: I don't necessarily think people miss out on anything not 390 00:20:27,840 --> 00:20:30,640 Speaker 2: being single. If they, I think it's a it's a lifestyle, 391 00:20:30,720 --> 00:20:34,080 Speaker 2: it's a choice, And I don't think it's a bad 392 00:20:34,119 --> 00:20:37,480 Speaker 2: thing necessarily to be a serial date or if date. 393 00:20:38,000 --> 00:20:41,320 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I wouldn't want to date a serial dater 394 00:20:41,680 --> 00:20:44,640 Speaker 1: because my idea of dating is getting to know somebody 395 00:20:44,680 --> 00:20:48,720 Speaker 1: to go into a relationship and get comfortable with. To me, dating, 396 00:20:48,920 --> 00:20:51,520 Speaker 1: you don't have sex, you don't ask certain questions, you 397 00:20:51,560 --> 00:20:55,520 Speaker 1: don't expect things like you would in any relationships. 398 00:20:55,760 --> 00:20:58,920 Speaker 2: Well, I think, I think, I know this wasn't precisely 399 00:20:58,960 --> 00:21:00,919 Speaker 2: the question, but you and I often go rogue on 400 00:21:00,960 --> 00:21:03,840 Speaker 2: these things. I think the bigger issue is what you 401 00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:08,119 Speaker 2: just said. You have to know if you're dating a 402 00:21:08,200 --> 00:21:11,920 Speaker 2: serial dater, what the limitations are, and if you're both 403 00:21:11,960 --> 00:21:15,600 Speaker 2: good with it, great. But to your point, don't go 404 00:21:16,440 --> 00:21:20,159 Speaker 2: dating a serial dater who you know is dating you 405 00:21:20,320 --> 00:21:23,240 Speaker 2: Friday night, somebody else, Saturday night, somebody else for brunch 406 00:21:23,320 --> 00:21:27,240 Speaker 2: on Sunday, and be expecting that you're going to turn 407 00:21:27,320 --> 00:21:32,080 Speaker 2: him or her around because you're probably all right. Let's 408 00:21:32,119 --> 00:21:35,520 Speaker 2: get into our fan questions and see if somebody wants 409 00:21:35,520 --> 00:21:37,840 Speaker 2: to know about serial dating today. I'm going to start 410 00:21:37,880 --> 00:21:42,080 Speaker 2: us off here we go. Question one is from anonymous. Hi, ladies, 411 00:21:42,480 --> 00:21:44,440 Speaker 2: I need to know if this is something I should 412 00:21:44,480 --> 00:21:48,240 Speaker 2: compromise on, so I was using my boyfriend's iPad the 413 00:21:48,320 --> 00:21:50,560 Speaker 2: other day. He gave me the password when he got 414 00:21:50,640 --> 00:21:52,959 Speaker 2: it and told me I could use it whenever, and 415 00:21:53,000 --> 00:21:56,560 Speaker 2: he accidentally left his journal up. When I realized, I 416 00:21:56,600 --> 00:21:59,400 Speaker 2: went to swipe away, but I saw my name. I 417 00:21:59,440 --> 00:22:01,560 Speaker 2: only caught a glimpse of it, and it was about 418 00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:04,880 Speaker 2: him hating that I swear so much. I really wish 419 00:22:05,040 --> 00:22:07,120 Speaker 2: I didn't see it, but now it's stuck in my head. 420 00:22:07,440 --> 00:22:09,960 Speaker 2: We've been together for over a year and he's never 421 00:22:10,000 --> 00:22:13,080 Speaker 2: brought this up before. Should I say something? I don't 422 00:22:13,119 --> 00:22:15,760 Speaker 2: even really swear that much. I'm not sure what to 423 00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:18,160 Speaker 2: do and would love any advice you have. Thank you. Oh, 424 00:22:18,200 --> 00:22:21,440 Speaker 2: I can answer this so quickly. Don't say a word 425 00:22:21,640 --> 00:22:26,919 Speaker 2: so quickly. You want to be your boyfriend. It's really simple, sweetie. 426 00:22:27,000 --> 00:22:31,480 Speaker 2: Stop swearing. Stop swearing, that's all. It's that simple. And 427 00:22:31,920 --> 00:22:36,159 Speaker 2: your boyfriend your boyfriend. I would bring it up to 428 00:22:36,240 --> 00:22:41,400 Speaker 2: him after you go six months without swearing. I might say, hey, Johnny, 429 00:22:41,880 --> 00:22:44,760 Speaker 2: did you notice that I don't say the F word. 430 00:22:45,320 --> 00:22:48,600 Speaker 2: I don't say you know, you know, the whole like 431 00:22:48,600 --> 00:22:51,679 Speaker 2: saying I'm on air? Did you notice? And when he 432 00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:55,359 Speaker 2: looks and says yeah, say you know what. I saw 433 00:22:55,400 --> 00:22:57,679 Speaker 2: it in your iPad that you didn't like me swearing, 434 00:22:57,720 --> 00:23:00,480 Speaker 2: and I like you so much that I made change 435 00:23:00,520 --> 00:23:04,520 Speaker 2: few And oh, by the way, be careful what you 436 00:23:04,600 --> 00:23:06,960 Speaker 2: put in your iPad because I do have the password. 437 00:23:07,440 --> 00:23:09,199 Speaker 1: No, I would never I'm kidding. 438 00:23:09,600 --> 00:23:12,159 Speaker 2: I was joking at the last. But I think I 439 00:23:12,200 --> 00:23:14,840 Speaker 2: don't think it's I don't think. 440 00:23:15,720 --> 00:23:18,720 Speaker 1: I mean, it doesn't sound like she read the whole 441 00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:20,000 Speaker 1: thing she just saw. 442 00:23:21,720 --> 00:23:24,800 Speaker 2: I mean, i'd let it go. I would just stop swearing. 443 00:23:24,480 --> 00:23:27,359 Speaker 1: And I would stop swearing, try to be more. 444 00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:33,679 Speaker 2: I mean, ship, how do you stop swearing? Susan? Damn it, Kathy. 445 00:23:34,640 --> 00:23:37,680 Speaker 1: I mean, but that's a good one, Anonymous, Like, never 446 00:23:37,880 --> 00:23:40,320 Speaker 1: tell you it, because it's not like you were snooping. 447 00:23:40,359 --> 00:23:42,120 Speaker 1: You just want to use it. But first of all, 448 00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:46,080 Speaker 1: I'm impressed that a man still writes a journal. Okay, 449 00:23:46,000 --> 00:23:50,000 Speaker 1: you have to leave it up on his iPads. Maybe 450 00:23:50,080 --> 00:23:51,560 Speaker 1: he wanted her to see that. 451 00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:56,439 Speaker 2: There you go, Look at you conspiracy theorists over here. 452 00:23:57,920 --> 00:24:00,439 Speaker 2: I think, I mean, listen, what I would say is 453 00:24:01,240 --> 00:24:04,920 Speaker 2: get your own epad, stop using his, and ever. 454 00:24:05,760 --> 00:24:08,320 Speaker 1: Oh you ever, you want to know things that bother 455 00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:10,680 Speaker 1: him so you don't do them anymore. That's like a gift. 456 00:24:11,960 --> 00:24:13,920 Speaker 1: It's a gift, and if you really do like him, 457 00:24:14,000 --> 00:24:16,879 Speaker 1: and I swear a lot too, but I don't swear 458 00:24:16,960 --> 00:24:21,119 Speaker 1: like at people, but I just say stupid words. Anyhow, 459 00:24:22,080 --> 00:24:22,800 Speaker 1: I said. 460 00:24:22,840 --> 00:24:25,919 Speaker 2: Wait a minute, I have to ask a question. The 461 00:24:25,960 --> 00:24:28,399 Speaker 2: first question she said was I need to know if 462 00:24:28,440 --> 00:24:33,960 Speaker 2: this is something I should compromise on. What compromise, sweetheart? Anonymous? 463 00:24:34,200 --> 00:24:39,160 Speaker 2: I mean, it's either hell yes or hell no. You're 464 00:24:39,200 --> 00:24:41,440 Speaker 2: either there's no comp You're going to say shit every 465 00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:41,960 Speaker 2: other day. 466 00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:45,480 Speaker 1: I mean, well, maybe because she's obviously thinking she doesn't 467 00:24:45,520 --> 00:24:48,320 Speaker 1: do it that much, but maybe it's more than she realizes. 468 00:24:49,200 --> 00:24:50,720 Speaker 1: So just take it to a self check. 469 00:24:51,240 --> 00:24:54,280 Speaker 2: Okay, So we were talking earlier about compromise and settling. 470 00:24:54,840 --> 00:25:00,400 Speaker 2: This would clearly be a compromise issue, and probably Anonymous 471 00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:04,120 Speaker 2: the smallest one you're ever going to compromise on. I mean, 472 00:25:04,760 --> 00:25:05,160 Speaker 2: is he a. 473 00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:07,240 Speaker 1: Goody two shoes? Though? I mean, does he not even 474 00:25:07,280 --> 00:25:10,200 Speaker 1: say damn? Like we don't know who we're dealing with. 475 00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:13,000 Speaker 2: I don't know, but I find it interesting that you 476 00:25:13,040 --> 00:25:18,600 Speaker 2: and I were talking about compromises an earlier podcasttling, compromising 477 00:25:18,680 --> 00:25:22,600 Speaker 2: and settling. This is clearly not settling. It's you know, 478 00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:27,000 Speaker 2: life is tough, anonymous, life gets tough if you're happy 479 00:25:27,040 --> 00:25:31,000 Speaker 2: with your boyfriend, compromise and I put quotes around it. 480 00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:32,640 Speaker 2: Stop your damn swearing. 481 00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:35,800 Speaker 1: Okay, And he's never brought it up to you, so 482 00:25:36,080 --> 00:25:39,280 Speaker 1: just leave well enough alone. That was a little gift 483 00:25:39,520 --> 00:25:43,080 Speaker 1: from your little guardian angel saying there's one thing that 484 00:25:43,119 --> 00:25:47,160 Speaker 1: he's not real it doesn't care for, so just alter 485 00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:50,600 Speaker 1: it a little bit. Don't change overnight and be holier 486 00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:54,040 Speaker 1: than now, you know, just be you. But just be aware, 487 00:25:54,240 --> 00:25:54,680 Speaker 1: that's all. 488 00:25:55,119 --> 00:25:57,639 Speaker 2: Yeah, be aware and be agree now. Yes, God, if 489 00:25:57,640 --> 00:25:59,800 Speaker 2: that's the biggest issue you and your boyfriend had, no, 490 00:26:00,000 --> 00:26:01,880 Speaker 2: you're lucky. I want to meet his old I want 491 00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:09,399 Speaker 2: to meet his father, all right. 492 00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:13,120 Speaker 1: The next one, Kathy is from Shelley. Okay, She says, Hi, 493 00:26:13,200 --> 00:26:16,680 Speaker 1: Kathy and Susan. I need to know if I am overreacting. 494 00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:19,960 Speaker 1: My boyfriend has always had a crush on a really 495 00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:21,640 Speaker 1: popular influencer. 496 00:26:21,840 --> 00:26:25,480 Speaker 2: Oh no, him talk. 497 00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:28,439 Speaker 1: About her once when it came up in a group setting. 498 00:26:29,160 --> 00:26:33,600 Speaker 1: But I'm fully aware of how he feels about her. Lol. Well, 499 00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:37,000 Speaker 1: during a game night with our friends, he was asked 500 00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:41,280 Speaker 1: if he has a celebrity Hall pass, to which he 501 00:26:41,440 --> 00:26:46,280 Speaker 1: stated this influencer. We've never discussed this, and it honestly 502 00:26:46,440 --> 00:26:49,320 Speaker 1: really put me off. I hate the idea of hall 503 00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:53,080 Speaker 1: passes and would not be comfortable with that since it's 504 00:26:53,119 --> 00:26:57,680 Speaker 1: so unlikely it'll ever happen as it's is it worth 505 00:26:57,760 --> 00:26:59,920 Speaker 1: me bringing up that I am not okay with it? 506 00:27:00,359 --> 00:27:03,200 Speaker 1: I guess since she's an influencer and not a full 507 00:27:03,240 --> 00:27:07,760 Speaker 1: blown celebrity, it feels slightly more possible. I just can't 508 00:27:07,800 --> 00:27:09,239 Speaker 1: get it out of my head. Let me know if 509 00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:11,840 Speaker 1: you think I'm overreacting? Can I just say one thing? 510 00:27:12,840 --> 00:27:16,320 Speaker 1: It's not fun to be jealous, but that's what this is. 511 00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:20,680 Speaker 2: Can I can I? I mean, we're going to talk 512 00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:25,520 Speaker 2: about this, but Shelley, first of all, when you said 513 00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:28,159 Speaker 2: your boyfriend All has always had a crush on a 514 00:27:28,200 --> 00:27:32,840 Speaker 2: really popular influencer, damn, Shelley, you found out about me? 515 00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:40,399 Speaker 2: Just kidding? Yes, she is overreacting. Yes, so let me 516 00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:44,920 Speaker 2: just say my Kathy school me hall past Okay? I 517 00:27:44,960 --> 00:27:46,840 Speaker 2: knew year That's where I was going. A lot of 518 00:27:46,840 --> 00:27:49,399 Speaker 2: people don't know what it means. A hall past means 519 00:27:50,640 --> 00:27:54,240 Speaker 2: if if you know, if I have a if I 520 00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:57,080 Speaker 2: have a crush on Matthew McConaughey and I'm hey, can 521 00:27:57,080 --> 00:28:00,000 Speaker 2: I have a hall pass? Meaning if Matthew McConaughey comes around, 522 00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:01,520 Speaker 2: you know, I can get it on. 523 00:28:01,520 --> 00:28:03,240 Speaker 1: With the past with your partner. 524 00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:07,520 Speaker 2: In other words, a hall past means if Matthew McConaughey 525 00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:11,040 Speaker 2: rings my doorbell and I'm married or in a relationship, 526 00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:14,200 Speaker 2: it's okay. If Matthew and I got yes, it's. 527 00:28:14,080 --> 00:28:16,160 Speaker 1: Okay with your whoever person. 528 00:28:16,240 --> 00:28:17,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's called the hall pass, like. 529 00:28:18,359 --> 00:28:19,440 Speaker 1: They know the hall passes. 530 00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:23,520 Speaker 2: Well, come on, are you overreacting, Shelley, Yes, you are. 531 00:28:24,040 --> 00:28:28,600 Speaker 2: My kids talk about hall passes with each other. You 532 00:28:28,640 --> 00:28:33,159 Speaker 2: know that somebody an athlete that one finds attractive or 533 00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:36,280 Speaker 2: a Hollywood star. I mean, it's it's more just a 534 00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:40,280 Speaker 2: kind of a fun thing. I think Susan's right, jealousy, 535 00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:44,440 Speaker 2: especially of somebody who's out in the lithosphere, who has 536 00:28:44,520 --> 00:28:48,600 Speaker 2: probably no chance of ever meeting your boyfriend. And it's 537 00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:50,680 Speaker 2: like it's like a celebrity crush. 538 00:28:50,880 --> 00:28:54,080 Speaker 1: Really, I mean, and I know how she feels, because 539 00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:56,360 Speaker 1: I feel like, well, I want him to think that 540 00:28:56,440 --> 00:29:00,360 Speaker 1: about me. I want him to get excited about me instead. 541 00:29:00,480 --> 00:29:03,760 Speaker 1: Are you serious sure I've always done that? 542 00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:07,280 Speaker 2: No? No, No, you're going to have a problem if 543 00:29:07,560 --> 00:29:12,600 Speaker 2: Frederic has a celebrity crush on Jennifer Aniston or. 544 00:29:14,240 --> 00:29:18,000 Speaker 1: Or my ex husband loved Julie Roberts. 545 00:29:17,840 --> 00:29:20,720 Speaker 2: And that bothered you. No, okay, well that's what we're 546 00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:25,080 Speaker 2: talking about here, a really popular influencer, which means that 547 00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:30,280 Speaker 2: she is probably on social media and she's who cares. 548 00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:32,280 Speaker 2: I don't mean to make life. No, I agree with that. 549 00:29:32,360 --> 00:29:34,920 Speaker 1: I do agree with it. But it's the feeling that 550 00:29:35,120 --> 00:29:38,880 Speaker 1: he thinks somebody's all that when you want him to 551 00:29:38,920 --> 00:29:42,360 Speaker 1: think you're all I'm sorry feeling right now? 552 00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:46,200 Speaker 2: Insecure? You're both insecure, Yes, both of you, Shelley, you 553 00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:48,680 Speaker 2: and Susan dy debl little conversation. 554 00:29:48,760 --> 00:29:53,880 Speaker 1: I'm graduated, trust me, I'm sixty, Okay, I have. 555 00:29:55,400 --> 00:29:58,560 Speaker 2: I think it's cute. When you really gotta worry, Shelley, 556 00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:02,920 Speaker 2: is when he's telling you he's got a crush on 557 00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:05,760 Speaker 2: the girl next door literally who lives next doory, then 558 00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:08,200 Speaker 2: you might have a problem. Or he spends too much 559 00:30:08,240 --> 00:30:11,240 Speaker 2: time with the boss's wife. Now you got a problem. 560 00:30:11,760 --> 00:30:14,960 Speaker 2: So do I think you're overreacting? One? Yes? 561 00:30:15,000 --> 00:30:18,840 Speaker 1: Shall we He obviously thinks he's hot. Yeah, but somebody 562 00:30:18,880 --> 00:30:20,120 Speaker 1: that you think's hot, that's all. 563 00:30:20,280 --> 00:30:24,040 Speaker 2: But he's your boyfriend, you know, enjoy it and relax. 564 00:30:24,280 --> 00:30:26,920 Speaker 2: I really think you're overreacting. And I don't mean to 565 00:30:26,920 --> 00:30:30,400 Speaker 2: make a funny er, Shelley, but let it go, Let 566 00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:30,680 Speaker 2: it go. 567 00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:36,120 Speaker 1: Okay, all right, Today we're going to do another Golden Spotlight. 568 00:30:36,280 --> 00:30:42,600 Speaker 1: This time we're talking about grandchildren that we adore. Kathy, Okay, 569 00:30:44,200 --> 00:30:49,560 Speaker 1: how to ask your children politely about when they're having kids, 570 00:30:50,320 --> 00:30:55,320 Speaker 1: balancing your children's wishes as parents, and your wisdom about 571 00:30:55,440 --> 00:30:58,560 Speaker 1: parenting as a grandparent. What it's like. 572 00:30:58,720 --> 00:31:01,040 Speaker 2: Well, let's take one of the Okay, just take one 573 00:31:01,080 --> 00:31:05,200 Speaker 2: at a time. The let's start with I have never 574 00:31:05,920 --> 00:31:10,440 Speaker 2: asked my children if and when they were having kids. 575 00:31:10,480 --> 00:31:13,840 Speaker 1: Did you No, I did not, and I got surprised 576 00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:15,000 Speaker 1: early on. 577 00:31:15,400 --> 00:31:18,960 Speaker 2: Yeah. I don't think it's appropriate to ask your children 578 00:31:21,280 --> 00:31:24,600 Speaker 2: when they're having kids. That's their decision. And I will 579 00:31:24,640 --> 00:31:27,200 Speaker 2: tell you my husband and I were married eight and 580 00:31:27,200 --> 00:31:31,240 Speaker 2: a half years before we had our first child, and 581 00:31:31,240 --> 00:31:34,880 Speaker 2: my fabulous in laws, yes, they did say when are 582 00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:37,040 Speaker 2: you going to have children? You know, and then we 583 00:31:37,080 --> 00:31:38,760 Speaker 2: have three they said when are you going to stop 584 00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:42,520 Speaker 2: having children? So, you know, I have learned to never 585 00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:47,680 Speaker 2: ask those questions. I think that is we know that 586 00:31:47,720 --> 00:31:51,840 Speaker 2: we love being grandparents, and we don't. Some people don't 587 00:31:51,880 --> 00:31:54,400 Speaker 2: say it with any malicious intent. It's really I just 588 00:31:54,480 --> 00:31:56,280 Speaker 2: want to be a grandmother. I want to be a grandfather. 589 00:31:56,680 --> 00:31:59,360 Speaker 2: But I really think you don't know what's going on 590 00:31:59,440 --> 00:32:02,120 Speaker 2: behind clothes stores. You don't You don't know if your 591 00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:05,400 Speaker 2: children can afford the child. You don't know if job, 592 00:32:05,640 --> 00:32:08,240 Speaker 2: you don't know, if they maybe can't get pregnant. You 593 00:32:08,280 --> 00:32:11,440 Speaker 2: know what, worry about your own life, not your children's. 594 00:32:11,520 --> 00:32:13,720 Speaker 1: And I think a lot of this is and this 595 00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:19,240 Speaker 1: is difficult for many many grandparents. When you're watching your 596 00:32:19,360 --> 00:32:24,200 Speaker 1: child in their spouse or your you know, whether it's 597 00:32:24,200 --> 00:32:28,120 Speaker 1: your son or your daughter, how they're raising their children, 598 00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:31,719 Speaker 1: and what you don't agree with some things, it's really 599 00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:35,040 Speaker 1: difficult to bite your damn tongue. I might have picked 600 00:32:35,160 --> 00:32:38,960 Speaker 1: my tip off a couple times. I think it's only 601 00:32:39,040 --> 00:32:42,160 Speaker 1: once or twice that I've actually raised my voice for 602 00:32:42,280 --> 00:32:44,800 Speaker 1: my opinion that I think they're dead wrong and you 603 00:32:44,920 --> 00:32:46,360 Speaker 1: really need to think about this. 604 00:32:46,720 --> 00:32:50,200 Speaker 2: Well. I will tell you I to stay your neutral. Yeah, 605 00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:51,200 Speaker 2: but and that tells. 606 00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:53,120 Speaker 1: You when you walk away, Kathy, it eats me up. 607 00:32:53,480 --> 00:32:57,440 Speaker 2: Well, I stay neutral for the most part, except a cage. 608 00:32:57,760 --> 00:33:00,280 Speaker 2: First of all, you know, my son is read married, 609 00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:03,400 Speaker 2: the one Kyle, the one you you officiate his wedding 610 00:33:03,920 --> 00:33:07,800 Speaker 2: and his my granddaughter, who's seven, is just an angel. 611 00:33:08,160 --> 00:33:10,640 Speaker 2: I mean, but you know she's a product of divorce. 612 00:33:10,680 --> 00:33:13,080 Speaker 2: She's had to grow up quickly. She has great manners. 613 00:33:13,160 --> 00:33:15,720 Speaker 2: I think my son, Kyle, if you are listening, I 614 00:33:15,760 --> 00:33:19,960 Speaker 2: think you are a fabulous dad. Now my daughter and 615 00:33:20,000 --> 00:33:23,080 Speaker 2: there they have a two year old. And but I 616 00:33:23,160 --> 00:33:25,240 Speaker 2: she's gonna kill me for saying this. The other day 617 00:33:25,280 --> 00:33:28,760 Speaker 2: I said, Caitlyn, you're raising a terrorist. I mean, the 618 00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:35,320 Speaker 2: child is so stubborn. I love her, I laugh, But 619 00:33:35,720 --> 00:33:41,520 Speaker 2: I ky, no, I am not stubborn. She except her father, 620 00:33:41,880 --> 00:33:45,640 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, he is stubborn. Caitlyn can be stubborn. But 621 00:33:45,720 --> 00:33:48,920 Speaker 2: oh no, this child. There's a There is now a 622 00:33:48,960 --> 00:33:52,320 Speaker 2: picture of my granddaughter in the dictionary under the word stubborn. 623 00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:58,200 Speaker 2: But I say very little, like occasionally I will say 624 00:33:58,240 --> 00:34:01,240 Speaker 2: something and my daughter now listens to me because you know, 625 00:34:01,280 --> 00:34:03,240 Speaker 2: I don't know if you know this, Susan, but I was 626 00:34:03,640 --> 00:34:08,200 Speaker 2: very stupid in my daughter's eyes until she had a child. 627 00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:12,480 Speaker 1: Oh I share that. I told you she calls me, now, 628 00:34:13,680 --> 00:34:15,440 Speaker 1: how did you do this? 629 00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:19,520 Speaker 2: I do think that we have wisdom, and I think 630 00:34:19,800 --> 00:34:24,160 Speaker 2: our kids, when they want our advice, they'll ask for it. Unfortunately, 631 00:34:24,520 --> 00:34:28,480 Speaker 2: there is a dichotomy between the amount of advice they 632 00:34:28,520 --> 00:34:31,480 Speaker 2: want and the amount of advice we want to give. 633 00:34:31,960 --> 00:34:33,040 Speaker 2: Is the problem. 634 00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:37,520 Speaker 1: But I try to ask by all means, we'll give 635 00:34:37,520 --> 00:34:38,680 Speaker 1: them our opinion. 636 00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:40,480 Speaker 2: Or oh, come on, are you saying you never give 637 00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:42,200 Speaker 2: advice when you're not asked? 638 00:34:43,120 --> 00:34:46,880 Speaker 1: No, I try not to with Brittany, I do you 639 00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:50,120 Speaker 1: try Christopher. I jump in if I think he's too 640 00:34:50,120 --> 00:34:53,920 Speaker 1: hard on Mason, and I'll say it. I jump in 641 00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:56,840 Speaker 1: more when I think they're being unreasonable and you're having 642 00:34:56,880 --> 00:34:59,160 Speaker 1: a bad day and you're taking it out on your kids. 643 00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:01,600 Speaker 1: You know, we just had a situation like that and 644 00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:04,640 Speaker 1: Dickie was venting with me and I said, you know, Dickie, 645 00:35:05,560 --> 00:35:08,160 Speaker 1: I did those things. He goes. She was cussing like 646 00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:11,239 Speaker 1: he didn't do anything wrong. I said, we've had you 647 00:35:11,320 --> 00:35:14,840 Speaker 1: weren't here, you were off playing baseball. I was dealing 648 00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:18,000 Speaker 1: with kids day in, day out, and they didn't submit 649 00:35:18,080 --> 00:35:20,720 Speaker 1: their homework or their project on time. Yet it was done. 650 00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:24,080 Speaker 1: I am frustrated I'm having a bad day, and yes, 651 00:35:24,120 --> 00:35:27,480 Speaker 1: we do stupid things that we regret, but it happens, 652 00:35:27,960 --> 00:35:29,640 Speaker 1: So don't judge them for that. 653 00:35:30,040 --> 00:35:32,759 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I don't, and I don't think you 654 00:35:32,840 --> 00:35:35,040 Speaker 2: do either. I want to know, on a scale of 655 00:35:35,040 --> 00:35:38,560 Speaker 2: one totten season, how much do you like being a grandmother? 656 00:35:38,920 --> 00:35:41,520 Speaker 2: Oh my god, someone Susan's grandmother's name is Mimi and 657 00:35:41,560 --> 00:35:43,239 Speaker 2: I'm Kiki. So how do you like being a me? 658 00:35:43,320 --> 00:35:46,080 Speaker 1: Me? I love it. I love it. I love it 659 00:35:46,120 --> 00:35:49,279 Speaker 1: beyond because they love me. They love me. They're never 660 00:35:49,320 --> 00:35:51,080 Speaker 1: mad at me because I always say yes most of 661 00:35:51,120 --> 00:35:53,759 Speaker 1: the time. I mean, I have said no, but it 662 00:35:53,920 --> 00:35:54,359 Speaker 1: kills me. 663 00:35:54,640 --> 00:35:57,400 Speaker 2: So the little terrorist who shall go nameless when I 664 00:35:57,680 --> 00:36:00,279 Speaker 2: when I come into our house lately, she'll look at 665 00:36:00,320 --> 00:36:02,880 Speaker 2: me well when I first come to go Kiki, and 666 00:36:02,920 --> 00:36:05,880 Speaker 2: she'll run and hug and kiss me. And then it's like, oh, 667 00:36:05,960 --> 00:36:08,160 Speaker 2: now it's time to have dinner or something, and I'll say, Okay, 668 00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:10,120 Speaker 2: we're gonna get up in your height chair or whatever, 669 00:36:10,480 --> 00:36:15,080 Speaker 2: and she'll say no, Kiki, no, and Kiki sit there. 670 00:36:15,160 --> 00:36:18,279 Speaker 2: I mean, I'm telling you, the child I kills it. 671 00:36:18,440 --> 00:36:24,360 Speaker 2: I love those my two granddaughters like no other. I 672 00:36:25,280 --> 00:36:27,359 Speaker 2: don't think I was prepared for how much I would 673 00:36:27,440 --> 00:36:31,040 Speaker 2: love them now I don't know. But here's my question. 674 00:36:31,840 --> 00:36:34,120 Speaker 2: I mean, we know Frederick lives, so you just have 675 00:36:34,200 --> 00:36:37,480 Speaker 2: to work with me here. How do you feel about 676 00:36:37,960 --> 00:36:41,520 Speaker 2: moving away? Because I know your your daughter's children don't 677 00:36:41,520 --> 00:36:44,120 Speaker 2: live quite as close but pretty close. How would you 678 00:36:44,160 --> 00:36:47,239 Speaker 2: feel about but Chris's daughter you see a lot. How 679 00:36:47,239 --> 00:36:50,239 Speaker 2: would you feel about not being able to see your grandchildren? 680 00:36:50,400 --> 00:36:53,560 Speaker 1: Like like every weekly baseless, I'd have to there would 681 00:36:53,640 --> 00:36:56,520 Speaker 1: be some rules that I would get here every eight 682 00:36:56,680 --> 00:36:57,280 Speaker 1: ten weeks. 683 00:36:57,360 --> 00:37:00,839 Speaker 2: Yeah, oh see, I have my things. I would mine 684 00:37:00,840 --> 00:37:03,319 Speaker 2: would be once a month if I would come and 685 00:37:03,320 --> 00:37:05,920 Speaker 2: spend a week out of every month if I could, 686 00:37:06,120 --> 00:37:08,319 Speaker 2: because they grow so fast, they. 687 00:37:08,320 --> 00:37:11,000 Speaker 1: Do, and you miss so many things Like there I 688 00:37:11,120 --> 00:37:15,440 Speaker 1: was with you actually on the cruise and Estella had 689 00:37:15,480 --> 00:37:18,120 Speaker 1: her first dance recital and I wasn't there and it 690 00:37:18,280 --> 00:37:21,640 Speaker 1: killed me, but it killed my son even Moore, Yeah exactly, 691 00:37:21,719 --> 00:37:24,080 Speaker 1: but I was there for her first cheerleading game in 692 00:37:24,120 --> 00:37:25,960 Speaker 1: the writing, so at least I got to do that. 693 00:37:26,040 --> 00:37:30,640 Speaker 2: So you know, there's do you see that's it? Can't 694 00:37:30,920 --> 00:37:36,800 Speaker 2: do you see? I see my children doing some of 695 00:37:36,840 --> 00:37:40,399 Speaker 2: the things that I did as a parent. I see 696 00:37:40,480 --> 00:37:44,320 Speaker 2: them do now, even though, like I'll give you an example. Uh, 697 00:37:44,600 --> 00:37:48,960 Speaker 2: Kyle's daughter, my granddaughter, Linley, she plays piano. And you 698 00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:51,640 Speaker 2: don't know this, or maybe you do. My three kids 699 00:37:52,160 --> 00:37:55,839 Speaker 2: were uh they won competitions, they had offers for free 700 00:37:55,880 --> 00:37:58,960 Speaker 2: rides for music. I mean they were really good. But 701 00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:03,240 Speaker 2: but I I was a terrorist. They practiced an hour 702 00:38:03,560 --> 00:38:08,360 Speaker 2: a day every day. They were really accomplished pianists, and 703 00:38:08,400 --> 00:38:11,160 Speaker 2: they used to bitch and moan about it. But now 704 00:38:11,600 --> 00:38:16,840 Speaker 2: Kyle has Linley taking piano, and he's not as rigid. 705 00:38:17,120 --> 00:38:19,840 Speaker 2: I mean, who could be as I was about practice, 706 00:38:19,880 --> 00:38:25,120 Speaker 2: But I see that he realizes how important it is 707 00:38:25,360 --> 00:38:26,799 Speaker 2: a musical instrument is. 708 00:38:26,920 --> 00:38:29,200 Speaker 1: And then and you're paying a lot of money to 709 00:38:29,239 --> 00:38:32,759 Speaker 1: have them get lessons and the piano itself and so on. 710 00:38:32,960 --> 00:38:35,960 Speaker 2: It's just it's just it's the it's the structure of 711 00:38:36,080 --> 00:38:38,520 Speaker 2: its first of all. I mean, I love music and 712 00:38:38,560 --> 00:38:41,799 Speaker 2: I love hearing piano, but it's the structure of this 713 00:38:41,880 --> 00:38:43,840 Speaker 2: is part of your day. You're going to practice in 714 00:38:44,560 --> 00:38:48,280 Speaker 2: Lindley might only practice ten minutes. But I love seeing Kyle, 715 00:38:48,920 --> 00:38:51,640 Speaker 2: you know, you know, tapping out the beat like I 716 00:38:51,760 --> 00:38:54,440 Speaker 2: used to and just see what you know, seeing him. 717 00:38:54,480 --> 00:38:58,200 Speaker 2: It's like you see the next genera with. 718 00:38:58,000 --> 00:39:02,160 Speaker 1: Her, and that's important. That's a great bonding moment, even 719 00:39:02,200 --> 00:39:04,879 Speaker 1: though she's a bitch about it sometimes. But she's young yet. 720 00:39:05,040 --> 00:39:08,359 Speaker 2: So what is the hardest challenge you find about being 721 00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:11,680 Speaker 2: a grandparent other than us keeping our mouth shut about 722 00:39:11,719 --> 00:39:14,080 Speaker 2: this one? What's the hardest thing you find about being 723 00:39:14,080 --> 00:39:14,640 Speaker 2: a grandparent. 724 00:39:17,600 --> 00:39:21,560 Speaker 1: I don't think anything's hard except when I, like you said, 725 00:39:21,800 --> 00:39:25,240 Speaker 1: other than my children being too hard on them? What's 726 00:39:25,239 --> 00:39:28,440 Speaker 1: hard for me? The youngest ones, the two four year olds. 727 00:39:28,520 --> 00:39:30,680 Speaker 1: I don't know that I'll be here for their wedding. 728 00:39:31,480 --> 00:39:36,440 Speaker 2: Oh, Susan, they're four Kat a two year old. I'm 729 00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:38,080 Speaker 2: going to be there for her wedding. I'm older than 730 00:39:38,120 --> 00:39:41,600 Speaker 2: you are. I think positive girlfriend put out the universe. 731 00:39:42,040 --> 00:39:43,960 Speaker 1: You asked me what I thought. That's what I told you. 732 00:39:43,960 --> 00:39:45,120 Speaker 2: All right, that's right. 733 00:39:45,160 --> 00:39:49,160 Speaker 1: I don't find anything hard except. 734 00:39:48,880 --> 00:39:52,160 Speaker 2: You're gonna laugh, and you're gonna laugh when I say this, okay, 735 00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:55,920 Speaker 2: And I can't believe I'm beting this. So. My sister 736 00:39:56,040 --> 00:40:02,480 Speaker 2: lives in Canada, is the most creat native person on 737 00:40:02,560 --> 00:40:05,960 Speaker 2: the planet. Like she When we went there this summer, 738 00:40:06,000 --> 00:40:09,560 Speaker 2: she had made capes for the granddaughters and hair ribbons 739 00:40:09,600 --> 00:40:12,120 Speaker 2: and she mixed up on egg cartons. I don't know where. 740 00:40:12,120 --> 00:40:15,280 Speaker 2: I don't know where it comes. She is so creative. 741 00:40:15,400 --> 00:40:21,000 Speaker 2: That's not who I am. But but a challenge for 742 00:40:21,160 --> 00:40:25,680 Speaker 2: me is trying when when I babysit them coming up 743 00:40:25,719 --> 00:40:29,440 Speaker 2: with activities because I want my grandchildren to want to 744 00:40:29,480 --> 00:40:31,920 Speaker 2: come and spend time with me. And I know that 745 00:40:31,960 --> 00:40:34,960 Speaker 2: it's all my friends who have older grandchildren say Kathy 746 00:40:35,000 --> 00:40:37,640 Speaker 2: and enjoy I'm young because when they get to be teenagers, 747 00:40:37,840 --> 00:40:39,480 Speaker 2: the last thing they want to do is come to 748 00:40:39,560 --> 00:40:43,279 Speaker 2: Kiki's house. So it is a challenge for me to 749 00:40:43,360 --> 00:40:45,719 Speaker 2: come up with things when they're little. You know, you 750 00:40:45,760 --> 00:40:47,279 Speaker 2: can put them in the stroller and we're going to 751 00:40:47,320 --> 00:40:50,759 Speaker 2: go leaf hunting, turtle hunting, look at the birds up 752 00:40:50,760 --> 00:40:53,359 Speaker 2: the park. I'm saying all those things. 753 00:40:53,400 --> 00:40:55,799 Speaker 1: Come to Walmart or the dollar store and let them 754 00:40:55,840 --> 00:40:58,879 Speaker 1: pick out new things like the stella the other day, 755 00:40:58,920 --> 00:41:01,040 Speaker 1: got prestol and finger nails and I have to come 756 00:41:01,080 --> 00:41:03,880 Speaker 1: home and do it or polish their nails for girls. 757 00:41:04,120 --> 00:41:06,680 Speaker 2: Yes, well that kind of stuff. I'll do that, But 758 00:41:06,800 --> 00:41:11,960 Speaker 2: I'm I'm I'm trying to my grandmother with an experienced grandmother. 759 00:41:12,400 --> 00:41:15,160 Speaker 2: I remember planting bulbs in the garden with our song. 760 00:41:15,200 --> 00:41:18,000 Speaker 2: I'm constantly trying to come up with those things that 761 00:41:18,120 --> 00:41:22,600 Speaker 2: my granddaughters will remember as opposed to taking them shopping. 762 00:41:22,640 --> 00:41:25,440 Speaker 2: I want to have experiences and it's. 763 00:41:25,239 --> 00:41:27,120 Speaker 1: A challenge shopping too. 764 00:41:27,200 --> 00:41:31,520 Speaker 2: Kath Well, your grandchildren, well mine are like. 765 00:41:31,880 --> 00:41:33,719 Speaker 1: No, we dig in the dirt. We do. 766 00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:36,360 Speaker 2: That's a challenge for me. 767 00:41:36,440 --> 00:41:38,719 Speaker 1: In Tovy. Tovy digs in the dirt with me and 768 00:41:38,760 --> 00:41:41,440 Speaker 1: they want to water the flowers and me me, this 769 00:41:41,480 --> 00:41:42,480 Speaker 1: one really needs it. 770 00:41:42,760 --> 00:41:45,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's but you know what, it's good. We're leaching. 771 00:41:45,800 --> 00:41:49,799 Speaker 2: But we're teaching them that their place in community, that 772 00:41:49,800 --> 00:41:53,280 Speaker 2: there's more important things than themselves. 773 00:41:53,360 --> 00:41:55,960 Speaker 1: iPad time, Like, yeah, I had her not too long 774 00:41:55,960 --> 00:41:58,399 Speaker 1: ago for the day and I remember asking her mother, 775 00:41:58,960 --> 00:42:01,160 Speaker 1: is her iPad in there is a charge? She said yes, 776 00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:03,879 Speaker 1: we never got on it. We didn't have enough time. 777 00:42:04,000 --> 00:42:06,919 Speaker 2: In a second, that was I don't let you let 778 00:42:06,960 --> 00:42:12,319 Speaker 2: your I do not my so my my Linley her mother, 779 00:42:13,719 --> 00:42:16,200 Speaker 2: And I'm sad to say this. Linley is on the 780 00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:19,920 Speaker 2: iPad all the time. She would go outside when not 781 00:42:20,040 --> 00:42:23,080 Speaker 2: at her dad's house, no iPads. When she comes to 782 00:42:23,160 --> 00:42:27,640 Speaker 2: my house, there is no TV unless like late at night, 783 00:42:28,120 --> 00:42:30,040 Speaker 2: well not late night, but you know, after dinner, we 784 00:42:30,160 --> 00:42:33,239 Speaker 2: might watch half an hour something on Disney to get 785 00:42:33,239 --> 00:42:38,920 Speaker 2: her settled for bed. But I am that's technology is 786 00:42:39,040 --> 00:42:41,799 Speaker 2: absolutely no. When I have my granddaughter, they have enough. 787 00:42:41,840 --> 00:42:44,840 Speaker 1: When I'm cooking dinner and she's not just getting tired 788 00:42:44,920 --> 00:42:47,080 Speaker 1: and I'll let her sit with her iPad and put 789 00:42:47,120 --> 00:42:50,200 Speaker 1: a movie on it for yeah, on the TV. And 790 00:42:50,320 --> 00:42:52,800 Speaker 1: we never even get to watch the whole thing. Yeah, 791 00:42:52,840 --> 00:42:56,120 Speaker 1: but that's about the only time because we stay busy, okay, 792 00:42:56,280 --> 00:42:59,680 Speaker 1: rainy day. We color, we you know, try to play 793 00:42:59,680 --> 00:43:01,520 Speaker 1: a game. We dance, we put the. 794 00:43:01,560 --> 00:43:06,839 Speaker 2: Music up before we Before we leave this topic, I 795 00:43:06,920 --> 00:43:10,480 Speaker 2: have to I have to say this one of the 796 00:43:10,520 --> 00:43:13,839 Speaker 2: best things. I never thought I would say it, one 797 00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:17,960 Speaker 2: of the best things about being a grandparent. They come 798 00:43:18,920 --> 00:43:22,200 Speaker 2: and they go, and they go. I love on them. 799 00:43:22,280 --> 00:43:25,439 Speaker 2: We play, We have so much fun. Kiss love. I mean, 800 00:43:25,480 --> 00:43:29,359 Speaker 2: I'll do anything, and then and then it's like here 801 00:43:29,440 --> 00:43:33,160 Speaker 2: you go, honey, bye bye. Kiki loves you KEI sees 802 00:43:33,239 --> 00:43:39,120 Speaker 2: it and we facetimed. Yeah, kisses exactly. I mean, I 803 00:43:39,200 --> 00:43:41,160 Speaker 2: love them. But when I was in my fifties, you're 804 00:43:41,160 --> 00:43:43,839 Speaker 2: gonna think got nuts. When I was in my fifties, 805 00:43:44,360 --> 00:43:47,840 Speaker 2: I used to think about, you know, adopting a child. 806 00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:50,640 Speaker 2: I talked about and he looked me like I was crazy. 807 00:43:50,680 --> 00:43:53,040 Speaker 2: But I I still have the energy if you want 808 00:43:53,040 --> 00:43:55,399 Speaker 2: to be honest to raise a child. I'm just more 809 00:43:55,480 --> 00:43:58,480 Speaker 2: selfish now. And there's other things I wanted to but 810 00:43:58,719 --> 00:44:01,000 Speaker 2: I have to ad meet. Handing them back over is 811 00:44:01,160 --> 00:44:07,759 Speaker 2: like okay, yeah, bye, love you. Okay, well that is 812 00:44:07,800 --> 00:44:11,000 Speaker 2: so much fun. We thank thank you to our listeners 813 00:44:11,000 --> 00:44:14,000 Speaker 2: for joining us today. We hope you learned about grandparenting 814 00:44:14,440 --> 00:44:16,279 Speaker 2: what I don't you know what? I would love to 815 00:44:16,280 --> 00:44:20,440 Speaker 2: hear your ideas. Please send me your ideas for cra crafts. 816 00:44:20,440 --> 00:44:22,520 Speaker 2: I need craft and they have to be really simple. 817 00:44:22,600 --> 00:44:25,560 Speaker 2: Don't tell me to like get egg Carton's and you know, 818 00:44:26,640 --> 00:44:31,480 Speaker 2: cut them with fringe scissors, like oh yes, anyway, And 819 00:44:31,560 --> 00:44:34,520 Speaker 2: make sure guys to follow us on follow Bachelor Happy 820 00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:38,440 Speaker 2: Hour as we have new episodes and more conversations coming 821 00:44:38,440 --> 00:44:41,160 Speaker 2: out every week that you don't want to miss, and 822 00:44:41,280 --> 00:44:43,480 Speaker 2: make sure you submit your questions to us. 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