1
00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,240
Speaker 1: This is Cowboys Sam, and this is yeh John And

2
00:00:03,400 --> 00:00:06,760
Speaker 1: we've last owed in some amazing stories for y'all the

3
00:00:06,800 --> 00:00:10,280
Speaker 1: Okay Storytime podcasts. But before that we got a wrangle,

4
00:00:10,320 --> 00:00:13,760
Speaker 1: a quick little two minute out break from those bucking sponsors.

5
00:00:13,800 --> 00:00:16,079
Speaker 1: We bucking love so much they paid us the bucks

6
00:00:16,079 --> 00:00:19,480
Speaker 1: to help this show stay alive. I was prohibited from

7
00:00:19,520 --> 00:00:25,120
Speaker 1: talking to my half siblings because I'm an affair child. Shame, shame, same,

8
00:00:25,440 --> 00:00:28,880
Speaker 1: just kidding, no shame in the game the background, when

9
00:00:28,880 --> 00:00:31,520
Speaker 1: my mom was twenty, she had an affair with my dad.

10
00:00:32,080 --> 00:00:35,479
Speaker 1: My dad was and still is married and had kids

11
00:00:35,520 --> 00:00:38,800
Speaker 1: and is around twenty years older than my mom. Oh

12
00:00:38,920 --> 00:00:39,960
Speaker 1: goodness crazy.

13
00:00:39,840 --> 00:00:42,239
Speaker 2: Oh you know what I actually so, I think this

14
00:00:42,360 --> 00:00:45,559
Speaker 2: is an interesting story because I was I when I

15
00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:48,000
Speaker 2: was approving it today. Ope, and the story is in

16
00:00:48,080 --> 00:00:51,479
Speaker 2: high school. They're like fourteen eighteen, So this is like

17
00:00:51,560 --> 00:00:55,840
Speaker 2: a with that context through the adoles view. Yeah, that

18
00:00:55,840 --> 00:00:57,000
Speaker 2: should have been at the top of the store. I

19
00:00:57,040 --> 00:00:58,960
Speaker 2: must have forgot to change that or put that note

20
00:00:59,000 --> 00:01:02,240
Speaker 2: in there. But they're this is a real actual teenager

21
00:01:02,320 --> 00:01:04,640
Speaker 2: being Like, so my parents are trying to tell me

22
00:01:04,720 --> 00:01:06,880
Speaker 2: I can't interact with my siblings.

23
00:01:06,959 --> 00:01:07,279
Speaker 1: Wow.

24
00:01:07,520 --> 00:01:10,160
Speaker 2: So anyway, interesting set in the stage. There, set in

25
00:01:10,160 --> 00:01:10,720
Speaker 2: the stage.

26
00:01:10,920 --> 00:01:13,679
Speaker 1: Now, six months into their relationship, my mom got pregnant

27
00:01:13,720 --> 00:01:17,320
Speaker 1: and decided to keep me even though my dad doesn't

28
00:01:17,360 --> 00:01:20,640
Speaker 1: want me. I hate how that is the present tense

29
00:01:20,640 --> 00:01:24,760
Speaker 1: as well. By the way, this comes from beast Daughter

30
00:01:25,319 --> 00:01:26,960
Speaker 1: nine four one four nine And if you want to

31
00:01:26,959 --> 00:01:30,119
Speaker 1: submit your own stories, go to the r slash. Okay, storytime, celebreds.

32
00:01:30,240 --> 00:01:31,920
Speaker 2: What good news is is that this kid sounds like

33
00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:35,479
Speaker 2: they're gonna be really funny. Yes, because that's pretty messed up.

34
00:01:35,560 --> 00:01:39,280
Speaker 1: We love some good humor. Oh god. Well, he then

35
00:01:39,360 --> 00:01:41,680
Speaker 1: came clean to his wife in order to stay married.

36
00:01:41,720 --> 00:01:43,920
Speaker 1: His wife told him that he could never see me

37
00:01:44,760 --> 00:01:48,920
Speaker 1: or my mom again. They then kept me secret from

38
00:01:48,920 --> 00:01:54,320
Speaker 1: the rest of the family. So a fair partner never

39
00:01:54,440 --> 00:01:59,680
Speaker 1: sees it's eveter or and a fair baby doesn't see

40
00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:03,680
Speaker 1: anyone in the family. Like just like complete stonewall cut

41
00:02:03,680 --> 00:02:08,360
Speaker 1: off basically okay, which I don't know, man, that's you

42
00:02:08,400 --> 00:02:10,600
Speaker 1: can't cut off the kid from the fan, Yeah, the kid.

43
00:02:10,639 --> 00:02:11,960
Speaker 1: I don't think we can do that to the kid.

44
00:02:12,040 --> 00:02:16,880
Speaker 1: That's crazy. Yeah, it's crazy. I agree. I agree. My

45
00:02:17,040 --> 00:02:19,800
Speaker 1: dad pays child support, but that is the only contact

46
00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:21,720
Speaker 1: I have ever had with him. My mom told me

47
00:02:21,760 --> 00:02:23,600
Speaker 1: the truth when I was eleven, and she thought that

48
00:02:23,639 --> 00:02:26,520
Speaker 1: I was ready to know. Before anyone says anything about

49
00:02:26,520 --> 00:02:29,239
Speaker 1: her character, my mom readily admits she made a huge

50
00:02:29,280 --> 00:02:31,600
Speaker 1: mistake carrying on with my dad and that she was

51
00:02:31,639 --> 00:02:35,000
Speaker 1: immature and naive. She never makes me feel like a

52
00:02:35,040 --> 00:02:37,919
Speaker 1: mistake though. That is good. At least the mom's good.

53
00:02:38,040 --> 00:02:40,399
Speaker 1: And dude, the dad was twenty years older than her,

54
00:02:40,600 --> 00:02:44,720
Speaker 1: you know, so like not to forgive he's twenty years older? Yes,

55
00:02:44,840 --> 00:02:48,400
Speaker 1: I thought he was twenty years old. No, he's what

56
00:02:48,680 --> 00:02:51,080
Speaker 1: wait wait, let me know. A check and he's around

57
00:02:51,080 --> 00:02:55,760
Speaker 1: twenty years older than my mom. Wow, wow, yes, sir,

58
00:02:55,960 --> 00:02:58,120
Speaker 1: So he knew what he was doing. He knew what

59
00:02:58,160 --> 00:03:00,440
Speaker 1: he was doing in the negative way. We don't have

60
00:03:00,520 --> 00:03:02,520
Speaker 1: a lot of money at all, but my mom is

61
00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:05,480
Speaker 1: my best friend and makes so many sacrifices for me.

62
00:03:05,840 --> 00:03:10,520
Speaker 1: So the situation now. Three months ago, I was contacted

63
00:03:10,560 --> 00:03:12,360
Speaker 1: on Facebook by a guy who is a senior in

64
00:03:12,440 --> 00:03:15,359
Speaker 1: high school a half hour away from where I live.

65
00:03:15,600 --> 00:03:21,320
Speaker 1: He introduced himself as my older half brother. Okay, Facebook

66
00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:25,680
Speaker 1: reuniting family brothers, there we go. He said he was

67
00:03:25,680 --> 00:03:28,080
Speaker 1: contacting me because he'd found out that I existed and

68
00:03:28,160 --> 00:03:31,200
Speaker 1: wanted to get to know his younger sister. We talked

69
00:03:31,280 --> 00:03:33,919
Speaker 1: nearly every day for a month. He told me all

70
00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:37,120
Speaker 1: about my half sisters, who are his older sisters, my

71
00:03:37,240 --> 00:03:41,320
Speaker 1: aunt's uncles, and my grandparents. I look just like my sisters,

72
00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:44,440
Speaker 1: and my brother and I are pretty similar personality wise.

73
00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:47,240
Speaker 1: For the first time, I felt like a part of

74
00:03:47,280 --> 00:03:50,720
Speaker 1: a big, happy family. My mom is estrange from her

75
00:03:50,760 --> 00:03:53,160
Speaker 1: parents and her brother, so it has been only the

76
00:03:53,160 --> 00:03:55,600
Speaker 1: two of us my whole life. When I was a kid,

77
00:03:55,600 --> 00:03:57,920
Speaker 1: I always wanted a big brother, so this felt like

78
00:03:57,960 --> 00:04:02,040
Speaker 1: a dream come true. I hope this is not going

79
00:04:02,080 --> 00:04:04,640
Speaker 1: to be sad and going to be happy. At some points,

80
00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:08,320
Speaker 1: I also hoped against hope that someday I might get

81
00:04:08,360 --> 00:04:11,360
Speaker 1: to finally meet my dad. We were just starting to

82
00:04:11,360 --> 00:04:13,880
Speaker 1: make plans to meet up in secret when he left

83
00:04:13,880 --> 00:04:18,200
Speaker 1: his Facebook open on their computer and his mom found

84
00:04:18,200 --> 00:04:22,839
Speaker 1: his messages to me. The same mom who told you know,

85
00:04:22,880 --> 00:04:25,520
Speaker 1: a fair partner and a fair baby aka Opie and

86
00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:29,279
Speaker 1: her mom do not contact any of my family ever

87
00:04:29,600 --> 00:04:33,520
Speaker 1: stone stone Wall agreement. But this is the sun the son.

88
00:04:33,560 --> 00:04:36,839
Speaker 1: Didn't you know? He's a freaking He was the baby,

89
00:04:36,920 --> 00:04:38,960
Speaker 1: you know, he didn't make it agreement or anything.

90
00:04:39,080 --> 00:04:42,240
Speaker 2: Son is acting out of just a place of I'm

91
00:04:42,240 --> 00:04:45,520
Speaker 2: a human, you're a human. Yeah, let's be friends because

92
00:04:45,520 --> 00:04:48,400
Speaker 2: we're related. Yeah, you're my sisters. Yeah, yeah, my sister.

93
00:04:49,880 --> 00:04:52,640
Speaker 2: I just think this is it's it's misguided because I

94
00:04:52,680 --> 00:04:56,200
Speaker 2: assume that the wife then took a husband back. Yes,

95
00:04:56,520 --> 00:04:59,120
Speaker 2: So it's like you're being like, all right, so if

96
00:04:59,160 --> 00:05:01,840
Speaker 2: we can make these peop people functionally non existent in

97
00:05:01,880 --> 00:05:05,360
Speaker 2: our lives, I can pretend like it never happened, which

98
00:05:05,880 --> 00:05:07,279
Speaker 2: is not any way to go about that.

99
00:05:07,320 --> 00:05:08,960
Speaker 1: Out of rescue for success at all.

100
00:05:09,040 --> 00:05:12,240
Speaker 2: You're just like holding down this like beach ball in

101
00:05:12,320 --> 00:05:16,880
Speaker 2: the pool of like resentment and hate and in bitterness,

102
00:05:17,240 --> 00:05:19,200
Speaker 2: and someday you're gonna let Oh, that beach ball is

103
00:05:19,200 --> 00:05:20,599
Speaker 2: gonna explode up out of the pool.

104
00:05:20,720 --> 00:05:23,600
Speaker 1: So his mom threw a fit and threatened to leave

105
00:05:23,640 --> 00:05:26,360
Speaker 1: my dad as well as punch my half brother out

106
00:05:26,400 --> 00:05:29,280
Speaker 1: of the house and not pay for his college. Okay,

107
00:05:29,880 --> 00:05:32,920
Speaker 1: mom is she's she's she's working her way up on

108
00:05:32,960 --> 00:05:35,839
Speaker 1: the on the A hole scale. My half brother told

109
00:05:35,880 --> 00:05:38,919
Speaker 1: me all of this in a really apologetic final message,

110
00:05:39,120 --> 00:05:42,159
Speaker 1: telling me that we couldn't speak anymore. Though he is

111
00:05:42,240 --> 00:05:44,719
Speaker 1: really unhappy about it, and he wishes me the best.

112
00:05:45,080 --> 00:05:48,520
Speaker 1: Oh God. When I asked him if my dad said

113
00:05:48,560 --> 00:05:52,240
Speaker 1: anything to her defending me, he said no. So how

114
00:05:52,320 --> 00:05:55,720
Speaker 1: I feel now? I feel worthless and like I am

115
00:05:55,800 --> 00:05:58,919
Speaker 1: not worth being anyone's daughter. Oh, I didn't ask to

116
00:05:58,960 --> 00:06:02,680
Speaker 1: be born. Why does my dad's wife blame me? I

117
00:06:02,720 --> 00:06:05,560
Speaker 1: just want a proper family. Though this hurt before I

118
00:06:05,600 --> 00:06:08,080
Speaker 1: found out the truth, talking to my brother and being

119
00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:10,720
Speaker 1: so close to being whole, only to have that taken

120
00:06:10,760 --> 00:06:13,719
Speaker 1: away feels like a cruel tease. I also feel like

121
00:06:13,720 --> 00:06:15,760
Speaker 1: I can't tell my mom any of this because it

122
00:06:15,800 --> 00:06:18,360
Speaker 1: would hurt her that I place such an importance on

123
00:06:18,440 --> 00:06:21,360
Speaker 1: my dad and his family. Oh yeah, she doesn't want

124
00:06:21,400 --> 00:06:23,320
Speaker 1: to upset her mom. But then at the same time,

125
00:06:23,400 --> 00:06:26,599
Speaker 1: it's like that's a huge weight to carry, you know,

126
00:06:27,240 --> 00:06:29,080
Speaker 1: she already has a lot to carry my.

127
00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:32,279
Speaker 2: Gud Yeah, especially because they've been just like their unit,

128
00:06:32,800 --> 00:06:38,120
Speaker 2: so there's a lot. Yeah, but I would meet this is.

129
00:06:36,800 --> 00:06:39,719
Speaker 1: Something that needs to be said to your parent.

130
00:06:40,000 --> 00:06:42,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're like, yeah, I'm really feeling like I want

131
00:06:42,480 --> 00:06:46,000
Speaker 2: to see what's up with the other half of my genetics.

132
00:06:46,200 --> 00:06:48,760
Speaker 1: Yes, you know, yeah, but I can see It's like

133
00:06:49,040 --> 00:06:51,920
Speaker 1: she's still still in fourteen, still in high school. It's like, yeah,

134
00:06:51,960 --> 00:06:53,520
Speaker 1: it can be hard to go to your parent and

135
00:06:53,560 --> 00:06:57,000
Speaker 1: be like, this is what I want, you know, feels.

136
00:06:56,760 --> 00:06:59,560
Speaker 2: Like a betrayal. It's really not not just a person

137
00:07:00,120 --> 00:07:00,720
Speaker 2: totally normal.

138
00:07:00,800 --> 00:07:03,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, and just you're just sharing your your your once.

139
00:07:03,920 --> 00:07:06,560
Speaker 1: You know. Does anyone have any advice on how to

140
00:07:06,600 --> 00:07:09,320
Speaker 1: cope with this? We do have some comments. I'm very

141
00:07:09,320 --> 00:07:13,640
Speaker 1: curious on comments from our own community. Amy Lynn says,

142
00:07:14,120 --> 00:07:17,320
Speaker 1: op get therapy to start, and you'll be eighteen soon

143
00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:20,320
Speaker 1: and then you can do what you want. I mean,

144
00:07:20,960 --> 00:07:24,800
Speaker 1: I guess Opie could. Well. I don't think that really changes.

145
00:07:24,440 --> 00:07:27,280
Speaker 2: Her ability to communicate with the siblings, and that the

146
00:07:27,320 --> 00:07:31,080
Speaker 2: families need to shut her out of existence.

147
00:07:30,720 --> 00:07:33,640
Speaker 1: So onto these comments comat Number one says, she blames

148
00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:37,640
Speaker 1: you because you're a walking, talking, breathing reminder of his infidelity.

149
00:07:37,760 --> 00:07:39,720
Speaker 1: It's not your fault, but that's just how it is.

150
00:07:40,280 --> 00:07:42,000
Speaker 1: This is one of those things that you'll probably have

151
00:07:42,080 --> 00:07:44,720
Speaker 1: to sort out after you and your siblings are adults

152
00:07:44,880 --> 00:07:48,080
Speaker 1: and they no longer need their parents' money. I am sorry.

153
00:07:48,600 --> 00:07:51,800
Speaker 1: Comed Number two says one, You're not dirty. You are

154
00:07:51,800 --> 00:07:54,200
Speaker 1: as dirty as you choose to make your life. No

155
00:07:54,240 --> 00:07:55,480
Speaker 1: one else has input there.

156
00:07:55,600 --> 00:07:57,440
Speaker 2: You want dirty as you choo, you can go outside,

157
00:07:57,520 --> 00:07:58,720
Speaker 2: roll around in the dirt shop.

158
00:07:58,840 --> 00:08:00,760
Speaker 1: No one can stop you. Yeah. I love how it's

159
00:08:00,840 --> 00:08:02,800
Speaker 1: like you're not dirty. But if you want to just

160
00:08:02,920 --> 00:08:05,559
Speaker 1: jump in a mudpit, then yeah, you could be dirty

161
00:08:05,600 --> 00:08:08,120
Speaker 1: if you want to. It's like, well, all right, that's

162
00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:11,200
Speaker 1: one way to say it. Two, despite what she wants,

163
00:08:11,200 --> 00:08:13,240
Speaker 1: the cat is out of the bag. While you may

164
00:08:13,240 --> 00:08:16,160
Speaker 1: never have a relationship with your father, more than likely

165
00:08:16,200 --> 00:08:18,520
Speaker 1: at least one of your siblings, and probably most of

166
00:08:18,560 --> 00:08:21,480
Speaker 1: them will want to meet you and possibly have a

167
00:08:21,520 --> 00:08:24,960
Speaker 1: relationship with you. The poll of siblings is strong, even

168
00:08:24,960 --> 00:08:28,840
Speaker 1: half siblings. Also contact your grandparents on that side secretly.

169
00:08:29,440 --> 00:08:40,280
Speaker 3: Ooh secret, Grandma, Ooo, secret, Grandma secret, it's a secret, Grandma.

170
00:08:40,360 --> 00:08:45,440
Speaker 1: Oh god secret, she's got a secret mission. I love

171
00:08:45,559 --> 00:08:49,640
Speaker 1: my affair, grand baby. Jokay, you're firm an affair because

172
00:08:49,679 --> 00:08:53,160
Speaker 1: I'm Granny and I just love you. Okay, Grandma, back

173
00:08:53,200 --> 00:08:58,280
Speaker 1: into your room. Never, Granny, don't do what Granny want

174
00:08:58,320 --> 00:09:02,720
Speaker 1: to do. Don't kick that door open and take laugh

175
00:09:02,800 --> 00:09:11,480
Speaker 1: by the horns. Secret. So, your dad's wife likely does

176
00:09:11,559 --> 00:09:14,160
Speaker 1: not have enough sway with them to prevent them from

177
00:09:14,200 --> 00:09:16,679
Speaker 1: meeting up with you, even if they need to keep

178
00:09:16,679 --> 00:09:18,880
Speaker 1: it a secret. It may take a minute, but you

179
00:09:18,880 --> 00:09:22,240
Speaker 1: will likely gain some family on that side, to which

180
00:09:22,320 --> 00:09:25,240
Speaker 1: Opie responds, I do want to hope that my brother

181
00:09:25,480 --> 00:09:27,319
Speaker 1: or both of my sisters will look me up once

182
00:09:27,360 --> 00:09:29,920
Speaker 1: their mom's threats can't hurt them anymore. But at the

183
00:09:29,920 --> 00:09:31,760
Speaker 1: same time, I don't know if it would be healthy

184
00:09:31,760 --> 00:09:34,120
Speaker 1: to wait around like that. Great point, Opie, so so

185
00:09:34,200 --> 00:09:37,800
Speaker 1: make sure my goodness. As for my grandparents, maybe, but

186
00:09:37,960 --> 00:09:40,120
Speaker 1: I don't know how i'd start to look for their

187
00:09:40,160 --> 00:09:42,600
Speaker 1: contact info. They don't live in the area, and I

188
00:09:42,640 --> 00:09:44,719
Speaker 1: can't speak to my brother anymore and to ask him

189
00:09:44,720 --> 00:09:48,040
Speaker 1: for it. A reply says this is such a good idea.

190
00:09:48,200 --> 00:09:52,600
Speaker 1: Basically anyone she doesn't have power over, true, you have

191
00:09:52,679 --> 00:09:55,160
Speaker 1: a right to know them. Also, I just want to

192
00:09:55,200 --> 00:09:58,240
Speaker 1: throw this out there. Your dad, quote unquote, is a

193
00:09:58,240 --> 00:10:01,640
Speaker 1: piece of crap. Your brother's sounds lovely. Look at who

194
00:10:01,720 --> 00:10:03,720
Speaker 1: wants to be a part of your life and who doesn't.

195
00:10:03,960 --> 00:10:05,760
Speaker 1: You have a mother who loves the crap out of you,

196
00:10:05,960 --> 00:10:07,600
Speaker 1: and a brother who went out of his way to

197
00:10:07,679 --> 00:10:11,200
Speaker 1: track you down and only doesn't continue to talk to

198
00:10:11,240 --> 00:10:14,520
Speaker 1: you because he's vulnerable and dependent on this woman for survival.

199
00:10:14,800 --> 00:10:17,319
Speaker 1: The person who doesn't want you is a coward who

200
00:10:17,400 --> 00:10:21,080
Speaker 1: cheated on his wife after they had kids, rejected the

201
00:10:21,160 --> 00:10:23,640
Speaker 1: chance to get to know his own child, and allows

202
00:10:23,679 --> 00:10:27,480
Speaker 1: his wife to keep his children apart. If he isn't toxic,

203
00:10:27,679 --> 00:10:31,080
Speaker 1: he is most certainly the toddy of a toxic person.

204
00:10:31,559 --> 00:10:33,320
Speaker 1: Never heard it said that way.

205
00:10:33,480 --> 00:10:37,000
Speaker 2: Never have I either. What What is a toddy? Like

206
00:10:37,040 --> 00:10:41,080
Speaker 2: a hot toddy? I know, but that's a drink. He's

207
00:10:41,160 --> 00:10:43,800
Speaker 2: just a little lemon in water. Maybe they meant to

208
00:10:43,800 --> 00:10:46,000
Speaker 2: say body, or they meant to say toddy.

209
00:10:46,240 --> 00:10:48,960
Speaker 4: A toddy can interfer to a few different things, including

210
00:10:49,000 --> 00:10:52,400
Speaker 4: a person who flatters others for personal gain. I'm still

211
00:10:52,480 --> 00:10:54,680
Speaker 4: or a canyon in a Grand Canyon National Park. I

212
00:10:54,679 --> 00:10:56,719
Speaker 4: think that's the one. I think that's what is the.

213
00:10:56,720 --> 00:10:59,000
Speaker 2: Grand Canyon of toxicity.

214
00:11:00,160 --> 00:11:04,800
Speaker 1: That's nice. But the strong, good kind people of this

215
00:11:04,920 --> 00:11:08,040
Speaker 1: world love you and don't forget that, to which Opie says,

216
00:11:08,200 --> 00:11:10,960
Speaker 1: thank you, smiley face. It's been hard to accept that

217
00:11:11,000 --> 00:11:13,280
Speaker 1: my dad isn't a very good person, though I've been

218
00:11:13,320 --> 00:11:15,680
Speaker 1: dealing with that since I found out the truth three

219
00:11:15,760 --> 00:11:18,560
Speaker 1: years ago. But I don't want to make excuses for him,

220
00:11:18,600 --> 00:11:21,880
Speaker 1: So I guess that is progress. Conege number three says,

221
00:11:22,040 --> 00:11:24,599
Speaker 1: have you considered talking to a professional he slash she

222
00:11:25,040 --> 00:11:27,679
Speaker 1: will really help you bring yourself esteem back. But please

223
00:11:27,720 --> 00:11:30,320
Speaker 1: remember you are not worthless. I am sorry about the

224
00:11:30,320 --> 00:11:33,760
Speaker 1: situation and hugs to you. Opie says, maybe I have

225
00:11:33,800 --> 00:11:35,439
Speaker 1: to admit the thought of going to a therapist or

226
00:11:35,480 --> 00:11:38,160
Speaker 1: something scares me a bit because of the stereotype that

227
00:11:38,200 --> 00:11:41,720
Speaker 1: it means that you have problems. And uh, Opie, just

228
00:11:41,800 --> 00:11:46,959
Speaker 1: take it from me a person in therapy. That doesn't

229
00:11:47,000 --> 00:11:48,240
Speaker 1: mean you have problem.

230
00:11:48,440 --> 00:11:50,280
Speaker 2: Take it from all the people in this room.

231
00:11:50,480 --> 00:11:55,400
Speaker 1: You've seen therapists, take it from all of us, including

232
00:11:55,679 --> 00:12:03,720
Speaker 1: shots shots, so people who have been therapies perfect echo. Dude.

233
00:12:03,920 --> 00:12:04,600
Speaker 1: That got me.

234
00:12:05,679 --> 00:12:10,360
Speaker 2: I was like, is thatm feet? Is that playing back someway, Yeah, totally.

235
00:12:10,400 --> 00:12:12,640
Speaker 2: Normally at fourteen to be like, oh I have therapy,

236
00:12:12,720 --> 00:12:15,720
Speaker 2: everyone's gonna think think differently about me.

237
00:12:15,960 --> 00:12:16,760
Speaker 1: Yeah.

238
00:12:16,760 --> 00:12:18,760
Speaker 2: But it's like at some point, I don't know, you

239
00:12:18,880 --> 00:12:21,240
Speaker 2: just realize, oh, yeah, I am messed up. So is

240
00:12:21,280 --> 00:12:24,800
Speaker 2: everyone else in their own ways, and it's like therapy

241
00:12:24,880 --> 00:12:27,720
Speaker 2: is just a tool to make the weird things in

242
00:12:27,760 --> 00:12:32,240
Speaker 2: your life less weird and mysterious. You're like, oh, that

243
00:12:32,320 --> 00:12:34,200
Speaker 2: makes more sense now than that you've spoken to me

244
00:12:34,320 --> 00:12:34,680
Speaker 2: that way.

245
00:12:35,200 --> 00:12:37,839
Speaker 1: You know, even if you already know it, We're just

246
00:12:37,960 --> 00:12:40,360
Speaker 1: we're all just lumpy skin sacks, just trying to make

247
00:12:40,400 --> 00:12:41,559
Speaker 1: sense of this crazy world.

248
00:12:41,840 --> 00:12:46,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, our central processors sometimes they get goofy.

249
00:12:46,280 --> 00:12:49,040
Speaker 1: Are electric noodles, just trying to make it work, but

250
00:12:49,080 --> 00:12:49,920
Speaker 1: it's hard.

251
00:12:50,160 --> 00:12:52,360
Speaker 2: But we need a little help something. They are literally

252
00:12:52,400 --> 00:12:53,280
Speaker 2: electric noodles.

253
00:12:53,320 --> 00:12:55,360
Speaker 1: This is a reply to Opie. They say, no, it

254
00:12:55,400 --> 00:12:57,520
Speaker 1: doesn't go into the therapist means you are solving your

255
00:12:57,520 --> 00:12:59,960
Speaker 1: problems and controlling them instead of letting them control you.

256
00:13:00,520 --> 00:13:05,400
Speaker 1: Well put, and we have an update. Do we predict

257
00:13:06,280 --> 00:13:11,000
Speaker 1: that OPI is going to reach back out to their

258
00:13:11,040 --> 00:13:13,000
Speaker 1: other family members? What are we thinking?

259
00:13:13,280 --> 00:13:16,160
Speaker 2: I mean, you know, I think you can try. I

260
00:13:16,160 --> 00:13:18,880
Speaker 2: think the siblings definitely, you know there's something there. But

261
00:13:18,920 --> 00:13:24,400
Speaker 2: it's like the mom is clearly like commanding that you

262
00:13:24,640 --> 00:13:28,360
Speaker 2: be you know, kept on the outside under the chain

263
00:13:28,480 --> 00:13:32,920
Speaker 2: of financial insecurity. So it's like, once they get to

264
00:13:32,960 --> 00:13:35,200
Speaker 2: a point where they don't have to rely on this

265
00:13:35,240 --> 00:13:37,360
Speaker 2: woman for anything, I guarant all your siblings are gonna

266
00:13:37,360 --> 00:13:37,800
Speaker 2: reach out to you.

267
00:13:38,160 --> 00:13:41,280
Speaker 1: They are, But you know, at fourteen, you're like dude,

268
00:13:41,280 --> 00:13:44,280
Speaker 1: that still senior year. That's like like a freaking a

269
00:13:44,360 --> 00:13:46,720
Speaker 1: jillion year's bro, it is a long time.

270
00:13:46,760 --> 00:13:49,480
Speaker 2: I just think not letting it become like an all

271
00:13:49,679 --> 00:13:51,720
Speaker 2: it's because of me that they're not talking to me.

272
00:13:52,040 --> 00:13:54,120
Speaker 2: It's like just knowing that. It's like, these are things.

273
00:13:54,160 --> 00:13:57,080
Speaker 2: It's not because you were born, it's not because you exist.

274
00:13:57,240 --> 00:13:59,880
Speaker 2: It's because they won't be able to go to Collin.

275
00:14:00,360 --> 00:14:03,520
Speaker 2: Their mom takes away their college fund. Like, that's not

276
00:14:03,679 --> 00:14:05,560
Speaker 2: on you. What do you think their mom?

277
00:14:05,760 --> 00:14:07,480
Speaker 1: What do you think you on? Stinky?

278
00:14:07,520 --> 00:14:11,319
Speaker 4: Bring stinky breath over here. I have no comments other

279
00:14:11,400 --> 00:14:13,560
Speaker 4: than I have. I'm trying to survive for my life

280
00:14:13,559 --> 00:14:14,720
Speaker 4: from stinky breath.

281
00:14:15,120 --> 00:14:19,800
Speaker 1: Stank, give him the sinky. I know it's been a

282
00:14:19,800 --> 00:14:22,040
Speaker 1: short amount of time since I last posted, but so

283
00:14:22,160 --> 00:14:25,280
Speaker 1: much has happened already. Yes, first of all, the advice

284
00:14:25,360 --> 00:14:27,520
Speaker 1: I got gave me the courage to tell my mom

285
00:14:27,520 --> 00:14:28,680
Speaker 1: when had happened. Good.

286
00:14:28,840 --> 00:14:31,640
Speaker 2: Yes did say that, yes, yes, yes, yes.

287
00:14:31,920 --> 00:14:33,640
Speaker 1: She was a bit hurt that I did not think

288
00:14:33,640 --> 00:14:35,920
Speaker 1: she was enough. Not true at all, but I understand

289
00:14:35,920 --> 00:14:38,160
Speaker 1: why it would come off that way. But was even

290
00:14:38,200 --> 00:14:40,800
Speaker 1: more upset that I had been feeling so badly about myself.

291
00:14:40,840 --> 00:14:43,480
Speaker 1: See there we go. I told her the morning after

292
00:14:43,520 --> 00:14:46,000
Speaker 1: I posted before school, and she let me take the

293
00:14:46,080 --> 00:14:47,680
Speaker 1: day off and took me out to lunch so we

294
00:14:47,680 --> 00:14:51,320
Speaker 1: could talk about everything and rehash my feelings. Dude, I'm sorry,

295
00:14:51,360 --> 00:14:53,560
Speaker 1: but taking the kid out of school for the day

296
00:14:53,920 --> 00:14:56,200
Speaker 1: and just like being with them is the most g

297
00:14:56,400 --> 00:15:00,240
Speaker 1: parenting move ever. Yes, huge w Sorry, but not sorry.

298
00:15:00,720 --> 00:15:02,680
Speaker 1: She was glad that I'd come into contact with my

299
00:15:02,720 --> 00:15:05,120
Speaker 1: half brother, and she said he sounded like a nice boy.

300
00:15:05,640 --> 00:15:08,840
Speaker 1: She also said that we couldn't talk anymore, but understood

301
00:15:08,880 --> 00:15:11,560
Speaker 1: completely why and does not blame him at all. The

302
00:15:11,600 --> 00:15:13,560
Speaker 1: next day, after we talked, she told me that she

303
00:15:13,640 --> 00:15:16,560
Speaker 1: thinks I could use talk therapy. Apparently she had been

304
00:15:16,600 --> 00:15:19,080
Speaker 1: seeing one briefly when I was a baby and it

305
00:15:19,200 --> 00:15:21,640
Speaker 1: helped her a lot. We couldn't get an appointment for

306
00:15:21,720 --> 00:15:23,720
Speaker 1: one soon, but in three weeks I will see a

307
00:15:23,760 --> 00:15:28,200
Speaker 1: therapist for the first time. Dude, Opie shot op Man.

308
00:15:28,640 --> 00:15:32,000
Speaker 1: Shout out to Ope. Shouts to op taking taking great

309
00:15:32,040 --> 00:15:35,400
Speaker 1: advice and following with it, indeed better than some of

310
00:15:35,400 --> 00:15:39,600
Speaker 1: you freaking, freaking grown but adults out there or are

311
00:15:39,680 --> 00:15:43,760
Speaker 1: just like Oh, I want my sister to pay for

312
00:15:43,800 --> 00:15:47,040
Speaker 1: my wedding, and I won't listen to anyone. Oh yeah,

313
00:15:47,160 --> 00:15:49,240
Speaker 1: you you know who we're talking about. You know who

314
00:15:49,240 --> 00:15:51,640
Speaker 1: we're talking about. No, you are. Yeah.

315
00:15:51,680 --> 00:15:54,280
Speaker 2: I also have to point out that it's I think,

316
00:15:54,560 --> 00:15:58,120
Speaker 2: immediately telling that Opie is younger by being like, we

317
00:15:58,200 --> 00:16:00,960
Speaker 2: didn't get it for very soon, but three weeks I'll

318
00:16:00,960 --> 00:16:02,280
Speaker 2: have a therapy appointment.

319
00:16:02,400 --> 00:16:09,600
Speaker 1: It's like that is lightning, because lightning the queen over here,

320
00:16:09,920 --> 00:16:20,360
Speaker 1: it's actually lightning mac therapy. Yeah. Cut, how do you feel? Yeah? Yeah, yes,

321
00:16:20,840 --> 00:16:24,560
Speaker 1: that one came together. I'll give myself profs for that one.

322
00:16:25,600 --> 00:16:29,160
Speaker 2: Go to the wide shot. Yeah.

323
00:16:30,760 --> 00:16:33,600
Speaker 1: Now for this next part, I will use names for

324
00:16:33,640 --> 00:16:35,280
Speaker 1: the most part because there are a lot of people,

325
00:16:35,360 --> 00:16:38,480
Speaker 1: so it could get confusing otherwise. Okay, one comment made

326
00:16:38,600 --> 00:16:40,880
Speaker 1: in the last post stuck out to me that I

327
00:16:40,920 --> 00:16:43,280
Speaker 1: could make a fake account of some sort and talk

328
00:16:43,320 --> 00:16:46,280
Speaker 1: to my brother Ryan. By the way, I was kind

329
00:16:46,280 --> 00:16:48,720
Speaker 1: of nervous about getting my brother Ryan in trouble, but

330
00:16:48,760 --> 00:16:50,960
Speaker 1: I did want to say a proper goodbye. During our

331
00:16:51,040 --> 00:16:53,840
Speaker 1: last conversation, I was in shock and upset, so I

332
00:16:53,880 --> 00:16:55,760
Speaker 1: didn't get the chance to tell him how much I

333
00:16:55,800 --> 00:16:59,400
Speaker 1: appreciated him talking to me. Oh so I decided to

334
00:16:59,440 --> 00:17:02,000
Speaker 1: find a way at least to do that, and almost

335
00:17:02,000 --> 00:17:06,440
Speaker 1: immediately found a really obvious way Instagram time to slide

336
00:17:06,480 --> 00:17:09,960
Speaker 1: in those d mds. We found it, Ah, the tool

337
00:17:10,040 --> 00:17:15,119
Speaker 1: they didn't want us to know about, this underground tool

338
00:17:15,200 --> 00:17:19,159
Speaker 1: that nobody knows about. I hear it's instant of God.

339
00:17:19,960 --> 00:17:22,359
Speaker 1: I made a fake one and message his account, telling

340
00:17:22,440 --> 00:17:24,119
Speaker 1: him I don't want to get him in trouble, but

341
00:17:24,280 --> 00:17:26,000
Speaker 1: that it means the world to me that he went

342
00:17:26,040 --> 00:17:27,399
Speaker 1: out of his way to find me and that I

343
00:17:27,400 --> 00:17:29,680
Speaker 1: love him. I told him he didn't even have to reply.

344
00:17:30,119 --> 00:17:35,399
Speaker 1: But the thing is, a Ryan did respond to me. Good.

345
00:17:35,680 --> 00:17:39,399
Speaker 1: Of course he did. We got it. He told me

346
00:17:39,480 --> 00:17:41,440
Speaker 1: he loved me too, and that he wants to talk

347
00:17:41,480 --> 00:17:44,120
Speaker 1: again when he's in college. He told me something else, though,

348
00:17:44,480 --> 00:17:47,199
Speaker 1: that he told our older sister Hayley about me a

349
00:17:47,200 --> 00:17:49,719
Speaker 1: couple of weeks after he found out about me, and

350
00:17:49,760 --> 00:17:52,000
Speaker 1: that he thinks she'd respond if I reached out to her.

351
00:17:52,480 --> 00:17:54,960
Speaker 1: I have another older sister, Sarah, and she's a huge

352
00:17:55,040 --> 00:17:58,800
Speaker 1: daddy's girl, so Ryan was afraid to tell her. Ryan

353
00:17:58,840 --> 00:18:01,399
Speaker 1: said that she was nervous and shy about contacting me,

354
00:18:01,480 --> 00:18:04,240
Speaker 1: so I made the first move. He gave me Hailey's

355
00:18:04,240 --> 00:18:06,720
Speaker 1: school email, and I sent her something telling her who

356
00:18:06,800 --> 00:18:09,960
Speaker 1: I was. This morning, I found a very long, kind

357
00:18:10,040 --> 00:18:12,679
Speaker 1: and loving email from Haley in my box. Let's go

358
00:18:12,880 --> 00:18:15,160
Speaker 1: all right. She is twenty and goes to college ten

359
00:18:15,200 --> 00:18:17,520
Speaker 1: hours away. She told me about how happy she was

360
00:18:17,560 --> 00:18:20,320
Speaker 1: to hear from me. Haley also shed light on my

361
00:18:20,400 --> 00:18:23,919
Speaker 1: bio dad and his wife. The biggest reason why she

362
00:18:24,000 --> 00:18:26,240
Speaker 1: was so receptive to me was that she was already

363
00:18:26,320 --> 00:18:29,280
Speaker 1: used to the idea of him cheating when she was

364
00:18:29,480 --> 00:18:32,600
Speaker 1: very young. Her and a friend, Sarah, had a best

365
00:18:32,640 --> 00:18:36,280
Speaker 1: friend for years. Then one day, when Haley was around ten,

366
00:18:36,800 --> 00:18:39,359
Speaker 1: my sisters abruptly weren't allowed to hang out with her

367
00:18:39,359 --> 00:18:41,560
Speaker 1: anymore or talked to her at school.

368
00:18:41,800 --> 00:18:45,119
Speaker 2: Way, hold on, we're not about We're not about to

369
00:18:45,160 --> 00:18:49,320
Speaker 2: find out that op is not the first product of

370
00:18:49,359 --> 00:18:52,600
Speaker 2: this weird cheat on me and get someone pregnant and

371
00:18:52,600 --> 00:18:54,800
Speaker 2: then we'll never talk to them or see them ever again.

372
00:18:55,200 --> 00:18:58,159
Speaker 1: In my area, it might not be another a Fair baby,

373
00:18:58,200 --> 00:19:01,879
Speaker 1: but it might be another a f okay minus the

374
00:19:01,960 --> 00:19:06,399
Speaker 1: baby okay, or maybe it is yeah, they.

375
00:19:06,320 --> 00:19:09,720
Speaker 2: Like they just okay, let's go. He loves having a

376
00:19:09,720 --> 00:19:10,880
Speaker 2: fair baby. It's crazy.

377
00:19:10,960 --> 00:19:12,280
Speaker 1: He's addicted if he.

378
00:19:12,320 --> 00:19:16,719
Speaker 2: He's done this twice, foo me once, all right, fo

379
00:19:16,880 --> 00:19:21,200
Speaker 2: me twice and no way, no way, like please dump

380
00:19:21,240 --> 00:19:21,840
Speaker 2: him at that point.

381
00:19:21,880 --> 00:19:25,800
Speaker 1: But let's see. So when she was eighteen, Hailey's mother

382
00:19:25,960 --> 00:19:29,280
Speaker 1: told her that the reason was that my bio dad

383
00:19:29,359 --> 00:19:31,960
Speaker 1: and the friend's mom had been having an affair and

384
00:19:32,040 --> 00:19:36,400
Speaker 1: had been caught. Ryan doesn't know this. Haley also told

385
00:19:36,440 --> 00:19:38,280
Speaker 1: me that she remembers a lot of times when she

386
00:19:38,320 --> 00:19:40,680
Speaker 1: was in high school when our dad and her mom

387
00:19:40,800 --> 00:19:44,240
Speaker 1: almost divorced, and that they actually separated for two years

388
00:19:44,280 --> 00:19:46,640
Speaker 1: when she was a kid. From the tone of her email,

389
00:19:46,760 --> 00:19:49,520
Speaker 1: Haley does not seem to like our dad very much,

390
00:19:49,560 --> 00:19:52,200
Speaker 1: and I understand why. She also told me she doesn't

391
00:19:52,200 --> 00:19:54,000
Speaker 1: think it's a good idea to tell Sarah about me

392
00:19:54,080 --> 00:19:57,000
Speaker 1: right now, since she will just run to their mom

393
00:19:57,119 --> 00:19:59,920
Speaker 1: with the info and make things horrible at home, which

394
00:20:00,080 --> 00:20:02,679
Speaker 1: will affect Ryan the most, because again she was like, hey,

395
00:20:02,680 --> 00:20:06,000
Speaker 1: if you talked to her one more time, then no more,

396
00:20:06,080 --> 00:20:08,639
Speaker 1: no more college funds, and I'm kicking you to the streets,

397
00:20:09,040 --> 00:20:13,360
Speaker 1: which is crazy, right, which is crazy? And like Katie

398
00:20:13,400 --> 00:20:16,680
Speaker 1: Paladin and said, everyone's like your dad is a serial cheater.

399
00:20:17,440 --> 00:20:21,800
Speaker 1: Why do we not divorce him, Like why why do

400
00:20:21,880 --> 00:20:25,840
Speaker 1: we keep having these like rules and stipulations if he's

401
00:20:25,880 --> 00:20:29,000
Speaker 1: just gonna go just bust bust through them. I bet

402
00:20:29,040 --> 00:20:32,840
Speaker 1: you it's finances. I bet you. I bet you it's finances.

403
00:20:32,880 --> 00:20:36,919
Speaker 2: And then that's why it's like this weird misdirected bitterness

404
00:20:36,920 --> 00:20:39,320
Speaker 2: that she's given towards the kid. It's like, I'll take

405
00:20:39,320 --> 00:20:41,800
Speaker 2: away your college fund. It's like, well, I bet you,

406
00:20:41,920 --> 00:20:47,120
Speaker 2: it's like the dad's money maybe, and then it's like,

407
00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:49,480
Speaker 2: you know, she'll be like, wow, you have we're not

408
00:20:49,520 --> 00:20:51,520
Speaker 2: paying for his college anymore because guess who's he's been

409
00:20:51,560 --> 00:20:54,440
Speaker 2: talking to your mistake. It's like, I don't she.

410
00:20:55,440 --> 00:20:58,800
Speaker 1: Everyone wants to keep daddy's money. That's what it's giving.

411
00:20:58,880 --> 00:21:01,719
Speaker 2: I'm still going back to Umi once FOOMI twice.

412
00:21:01,880 --> 00:21:02,600
Speaker 1: He cheated on you.

413
00:21:02,680 --> 00:21:05,600
Speaker 2: Once, he cheated on you again, he'll cheat on you

414
00:21:05,640 --> 00:21:08,240
Speaker 2: a third time. He'll do it a fourth.

415
00:21:09,040 --> 00:21:14,120
Speaker 1: Just leave him, if figure it out, divorce. If she did, however,

416
00:21:14,920 --> 00:21:18,720
Speaker 1: give me the home address of my aunt Jolene, my

417
00:21:18,760 --> 00:21:21,800
Speaker 1: Biodad's younger sister. Apparently Jolene is a strange for my

418
00:21:21,840 --> 00:21:24,800
Speaker 1: Biodad and his wife, but still talks to my half siblings,

419
00:21:24,840 --> 00:21:27,159
Speaker 1: so is an ideal person to contact. Let's go.

420
00:21:27,280 --> 00:21:29,560
Speaker 2: It sounds like maybe the infidelity runs in the family.

421
00:21:29,600 --> 00:21:31,439
Speaker 2: If your sister's Jolene.

422
00:21:31,280 --> 00:21:35,360
Speaker 1: Dude, that's pretty good. Cutting a that was pretty good.

423
00:21:36,119 --> 00:21:39,680
Speaker 1: We're all on fire today. Thank you so much, Reddit

424
00:21:39,800 --> 00:21:42,119
Speaker 1: for helping giving me the courage to reach out and

425
00:21:42,119 --> 00:21:45,120
Speaker 1: make all these family connections. I felt a bit selfish

426
00:21:45,119 --> 00:21:47,200
Speaker 1: doing it, like I could be forcing my way into

427
00:21:47,200 --> 00:21:50,040
Speaker 1: their lives, but they do seem happy to talk to me.

428
00:21:50,440 --> 00:21:53,320
Speaker 1: I have one piece of sad news, however. Haley also

429
00:21:53,400 --> 00:21:55,159
Speaker 1: told me that within the two months that Ryan and

430
00:21:55,160 --> 00:21:58,240
Speaker 1: I were in touch, that my paternal grandmother was diagnosed

431
00:21:58,240 --> 00:22:01,440
Speaker 1: with Alzheimer's. She had been having memory problems for a

432
00:22:01,520 --> 00:22:05,160
Speaker 1: year before the diagnosis. But the family is still very sad. However,

433
00:22:05,400 --> 00:22:07,160
Speaker 1: I don't know if I should still try to talk

434
00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:09,520
Speaker 1: to my grandparents now. They have a lot on their plate,

435
00:22:09,680 --> 00:22:11,960
Speaker 1: as does the rest of the extended family. I don't

436
00:22:12,000 --> 00:22:14,760
Speaker 1: want to be a bother again. Thank you read it,

437
00:22:15,119 --> 00:22:17,920
Speaker 1: and we do still have some relevant comments here. Communere

438
00:22:17,960 --> 00:22:20,800
Speaker 1: number one says, Ope, you and two thirds of your

439
00:22:20,800 --> 00:22:27,240
Speaker 1: half siblings sound great. The whole math problem be patient

440
00:22:27,280 --> 00:22:29,840
Speaker 1: and let your relationships with Ryan and Haley evolve at

441
00:22:29,880 --> 00:22:34,080
Speaker 1: a sustainable pace. Sometimes in high emotion situations. More than

442
00:22:34,119 --> 00:22:36,640
Speaker 1: that can be too much too soon. Also, you don't

443
00:22:36,640 --> 00:22:39,560
Speaker 1: want Ryan to suffer consequences. You have your whole lives

444
00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:41,719
Speaker 1: to get to know one another and enjoy your connection

445
00:22:41,800 --> 00:22:45,320
Speaker 1: with them. Congratulations, Obie says, thank you. I don't want

446
00:22:45,320 --> 00:22:47,640
Speaker 1: to be too aggressive either, because, like you said, Ryan

447
00:22:47,680 --> 00:22:50,200
Speaker 1: could suffer. I think I will let Haley and Ryan

448
00:22:50,240 --> 00:22:54,160
Speaker 1: themselves dictate how I should proceed. OPI is just can

449
00:22:54,240 --> 00:22:57,639
Speaker 1: we just talk about how Ope is just ten twenty

450
00:22:57,680 --> 00:22:58,560
Speaker 1: thirty years ahead.

451
00:22:58,680 --> 00:23:02,040
Speaker 2: They're built different these days. They're built freaking different, building

452
00:23:02,080 --> 00:23:05,520
Speaker 2: them different in whatever laboratory they cook them up in

453
00:23:05,720 --> 00:23:09,840
Speaker 2: m they got all kinds of advanced circuitry. And the

454
00:23:09,920 --> 00:23:12,760
Speaker 2: Alpha lab. Dude, they are in the Jen Alpha lab

455
00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:19,159
Speaker 2: and alphas just absolutely cooking right. Yeah, Yeah, I'm scared

456
00:23:19,160 --> 00:23:19,520
Speaker 2: for them.

457
00:23:19,840 --> 00:23:22,919
Speaker 1: I am going to write my aunt because she doesn't

458
00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:25,160
Speaker 1: speak to my dad's wife. So there's like pretty much

459
00:23:25,160 --> 00:23:27,639
Speaker 1: no harm enough out there. Someone replied, don't be too

460
00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:30,480
Speaker 1: quick to pass judgment on Sarah either, OPI. This is

461
00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:32,719
Speaker 1: a huge life event in its own way. She will

462
00:23:32,800 --> 00:23:35,679
Speaker 1: need time and maturity to handle it. Also learning your

463
00:23:35,720 --> 00:23:38,919
Speaker 1: parents are human and make make mistakes could be tough.

464
00:23:39,400 --> 00:23:41,960
Speaker 1: Opie says, Yeah, it seems like my siblings have a

465
00:23:42,080 --> 00:23:45,639
Speaker 1: previous problem with Sarah. That's affecting how they're talking about her.

466
00:23:45,680 --> 00:23:49,640
Speaker 1: To me, to be honest, I'm trying not to be judgmental.

467
00:23:49,960 --> 00:23:53,880
Speaker 1: Commentary number two says, that's wonderful. I'm so mad at

468
00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:56,240
Speaker 1: your bio dad, But at the same time, sounds like

469
00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:58,720
Speaker 1: you dodged a bullet kind of because it sounds like

470
00:23:58,760 --> 00:24:02,600
Speaker 1: it's home may have been pretty dysfunctional, Like if he'd

471
00:24:02,720 --> 00:24:05,159
Speaker 1: actually gotten with your mom, he would have just cheated

472
00:24:05,160 --> 00:24:09,040
Speaker 1: on her, animated her miserable. These these are interesting points.

473
00:24:09,240 --> 00:24:13,639
Speaker 1: I really don't understand Biodad's wife's perspective. What entitlement. I

474
00:24:13,680 --> 00:24:16,520
Speaker 1: hope she gets her come up and and you sweep

475
00:24:16,560 --> 00:24:19,520
Speaker 1: into their lives and all the siblings accept you openly.

476
00:24:19,760 --> 00:24:22,879
Speaker 1: What a terrible thing to tell one's own children. They

477
00:24:22,880 --> 00:24:27,280
Speaker 1: cannot talk to their own relations who have done nothing

478
00:24:27,560 --> 00:24:28,680
Speaker 1: wrong exactly.

479
00:24:29,080 --> 00:24:32,000
Speaker 2: That's the thing that's so wild about it. Yeah, his

480
00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:34,639
Speaker 2: kids didn't do anything, and I get that it sucks.

481
00:24:34,800 --> 00:24:37,240
Speaker 2: I get that it sucks, but you can't punish the

482
00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:42,520
Speaker 2: innocent child punish the person who did that, don't punish

483
00:24:42,600 --> 00:24:46,119
Speaker 2: innocent children. Be okay with it or don't be Yeah,

484
00:24:46,200 --> 00:24:49,600
Speaker 2: but can't just put it in a box and pretend

485
00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:50,680
Speaker 2: like it doesn't exist.

486
00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:55,679
Speaker 1: The people. They're people, ladies and gentlemen, Opie says. I

487
00:24:55,880 --> 00:24:58,359
Speaker 1: just find myself feeling really bad for her, Like my

488
00:24:58,440 --> 00:25:01,760
Speaker 1: mother told me more info about her final conversations with

489
00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:04,000
Speaker 1: her and my dad when she found out she was pregnant,

490
00:25:04,320 --> 00:25:07,240
Speaker 1: and apparently his wife told my mom that she was

491
00:25:07,280 --> 00:25:10,440
Speaker 1: a witch who people wouldn't miss if she passed away.

492
00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:15,480
Speaker 2: My God, and honestly understandable crash out when you realize

493
00:25:15,520 --> 00:25:17,679
Speaker 2: that your husband has cheated on you and is going

494
00:25:17,720 --> 00:25:20,280
Speaker 2: to have a baby with another woman, Like probably, I

495
00:25:20,280 --> 00:25:23,080
Speaker 2: mean it's not like it's not true, but like if

496
00:25:23,119 --> 00:25:25,240
Speaker 2: you're going to crash out, like it makes sense that

497
00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:28,280
Speaker 2: you would maybe do that, I mean, doesn't make it right.

498
00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:31,199
Speaker 1: I I I get I get her anger towards her

499
00:25:31,240 --> 00:25:35,280
Speaker 1: because she did she was complicit in cheating, but again,

500
00:25:35,359 --> 00:25:39,159
Speaker 1: like I don't know, like, yes, yes, for sure, the

501
00:25:39,600 --> 00:25:43,040
Speaker 1: right the anger comes down. It makes sense that it

502
00:25:43,040 --> 00:25:46,159
Speaker 1: would happen. But I'm also like going back to the

503
00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:49,280
Speaker 1: age gap. It's like if I were in the mom shoes,

504
00:25:49,680 --> 00:25:52,760
Speaker 1: I would be like, oh, you were like essentially taken

505
00:25:52,800 --> 00:25:57,719
Speaker 1: advantage of by well totally, there's a husband, yes, So

506
00:25:57,760 --> 00:26:00,560
Speaker 1: the reality is that, of course that the husband is

507
00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:04,840
Speaker 1: the most at ault in the situation. Absolutely, there's no

508
00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:07,440
Speaker 1: debating that. But at the same time, she's gone through

509
00:26:07,440 --> 00:26:09,119
Speaker 1: so much pain in her life, and she seems like

510
00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:12,040
Speaker 1: a very sad and hurt person. I don't think people

511
00:26:12,080 --> 00:26:15,280
Speaker 1: deserve the life she has. And we have a second

512
00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:21,520
Speaker 1: update here. We might just get another update on her

513
00:26:21,600 --> 00:26:27,600
Speaker 1: connecting with more of the family, specifically Jolly Jolly Joy

514
00:26:28,119 --> 00:26:29,240
Speaker 1: jo Lean.

515
00:26:30,160 --> 00:26:32,880
Speaker 2: Oh guy please Joeline, Hey, please don't take my man.

516
00:26:33,280 --> 00:26:34,879
Speaker 2: Don't I know you don't do it?

517
00:26:35,080 --> 00:26:37,840
Speaker 1: Only please? I know it. Don't do it?

518
00:26:37,920 --> 00:26:38,920
Speaker 2: You know it, I know it.

519
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:45,000
Speaker 1: Next update. Yeah, let's go. Hi. I wasn't originally going

520
00:26:45,000 --> 00:26:47,440
Speaker 1: to update again, but I am in an emotional hole

521
00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:50,000
Speaker 1: and I don't see the therapist I told you about

522
00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:52,720
Speaker 1: until Thursday. I also have a few questions that I

523
00:26:52,760 --> 00:26:55,359
Speaker 1: could use advice on. I was advised last time to

524
00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:58,080
Speaker 1: delete my account, and I will probably end up doing

525
00:26:58,119 --> 00:27:01,639
Speaker 1: this after this one. I just need help. So April

526
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:04,879
Speaker 1: fourth was my fifteenth birthday. Happy birthday, and two days

527
00:27:04,920 --> 00:27:07,080
Speaker 1: before that, I got a birthday card in the mail

528
00:27:07,400 --> 00:27:13,879
Speaker 1: with a Starbucks card from my dad's family. It's not

529
00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:17,679
Speaker 1: signed from him or anyone in particular, just from the

530
00:27:17,800 --> 00:27:23,159
Speaker 1: last names, so you know the family the names. Oh

531
00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:27,280
Speaker 1: yeah well. Also included in the card was a handwritten

532
00:27:27,359 --> 00:27:32,440
Speaker 1: letter from my step mom I think, meaning the husband's.

533
00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:36,080
Speaker 2: We are okay, anti child mom.

534
00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:39,760
Speaker 1: The anti child mom. Since this sub doesn't allow links,

535
00:27:39,800 --> 00:27:42,639
Speaker 1: I've written it out here. If anyone wants me to

536
00:27:42,680 --> 00:27:45,040
Speaker 1: send them a picture of it, just personal message me.

537
00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:50,600
Speaker 1: Dear op. This letter reads, I have no nice way

538
00:27:50,640 --> 00:27:53,199
Speaker 1: to say this to you, so I apologize if this

539
00:27:53,280 --> 00:27:55,639
Speaker 1: comes off harsh. We know it's about to be very.

540
00:27:55,520 --> 00:27:59,120
Speaker 2: Harshrible way to start a letter, yep.

541
00:28:01,200 --> 00:28:03,520
Speaker 1: Just know that I'm writing as a wife and a mother,

542
00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:06,520
Speaker 1: and I'm trying to appeal to any common decency you

543
00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:08,000
Speaker 1: may or may not have.

544
00:28:08,160 --> 00:28:10,080
Speaker 2: Could have left out that may not could have left

545
00:28:10,080 --> 00:28:11,639
Speaker 2: that out. You're a fishing for your cruising for a

546
00:28:11,680 --> 00:28:13,240
Speaker 2: bruis and at this point that's what you want.

547
00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:16,000
Speaker 1: My daughter told me she is in contact with you,

548
00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:18,760
Speaker 1: and she has done that only to hurt and punish

549
00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:21,480
Speaker 1: me because of issues that are none of your business.

550
00:28:22,119 --> 00:28:24,760
Speaker 1: Please don't let her do that. I don't know if

551
00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:29,479
Speaker 1: you were raised with any understanding of family in your household. Dang,

552
00:28:29,520 --> 00:28:32,440
Speaker 1: hold on, because this is about to go so crazy.

553
00:28:32,760 --> 00:28:36,600
Speaker 1: I can tell like, First of all, lady, I'm already

554
00:28:37,080 --> 00:28:37,640
Speaker 1: a problem.

555
00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:41,120
Speaker 2: That's not your issue, right, You've determined that. So what

556
00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:42,120
Speaker 2: are you trying to tell.

557
00:28:41,960 --> 00:28:44,400
Speaker 1: Me what to do? Huh hmm?

558
00:28:45,040 --> 00:28:48,000
Speaker 2: Oh, the audacity of this, lady. I wish I could.

559
00:28:49,800 --> 00:28:57,120
Speaker 2: I wish I could verbally eviserate her be all that. Yeah,

560
00:28:57,120 --> 00:28:59,840
Speaker 2: so just know this is all wrong. If fifteen year

561
00:28:59,840 --> 00:29:04,440
Speaker 2: old know that this is all horse kaka, yes, yes,

562
00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:06,520
Speaker 2: that is absolute facts.

563
00:29:06,880 --> 00:29:09,560
Speaker 1: I also love how she put she's so condescending the

564
00:29:09,600 --> 00:29:13,920
Speaker 1: Starbucks gift card. Dude, it's it's it's just screams condescension.

565
00:29:13,960 --> 00:29:17,920
Speaker 1: And you're beneath us anyways. But in our family, we

566
00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:21,600
Speaker 1: put the good of others over our own selfishness. I

567
00:29:21,640 --> 00:29:24,640
Speaker 1: think that's completely incorrect, but let's keep going. Honestly, you

568
00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:27,240
Speaker 1: are being very selfish and trying to get to my husband.

569
00:29:27,560 --> 00:29:30,800
Speaker 1: He has provided for you well these past years, and honestly,

570
00:29:30,920 --> 00:29:34,280
Speaker 1: I'm hard pressed to know what else you could possibly want.

571
00:29:34,880 --> 00:29:39,520
Speaker 1: That is also not true. Maybe like a conversation. Yeah,

572
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:45,640
Speaker 1: have you heard of those? You could what? My husband

573
00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:48,280
Speaker 1: gave you four hundred dollars a month in child support.

574
00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:50,600
Speaker 1: What more could you possibly want?

575
00:29:50,720 --> 00:29:51,480
Speaker 2: Maybe just like.

576
00:29:51,440 --> 00:29:54,960
Speaker 1: A friendly nod and a wave of some kind, you know,

577
00:29:55,040 --> 00:29:58,600
Speaker 1: the little little two finger like hey, hey, hey, partner,

578
00:29:59,080 --> 00:30:06,000
Speaker 1: hey buco oh something please op. We were happy and

579
00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:09,440
Speaker 1: at peace before you decided your own wishes mattered more

580
00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:11,560
Speaker 1: than our ability to sleep well at night.

581
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:15,880
Speaker 2: Hey hey, sister, you clearly were not at peace. Damn,

582
00:30:16,360 --> 00:30:17,280
Speaker 2: I again.

583
00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:17,960
Speaker 1: I hate being right.

584
00:30:19,600 --> 00:30:24,240
Speaker 2: This woman is so deluded that she really thinks she

585
00:30:24,440 --> 00:30:28,680
Speaker 2: can fix her marriage by putting the affair stuff just

586
00:30:29,440 --> 00:30:32,719
Speaker 2: in the garage in a box, out of sight, and

587
00:30:32,760 --> 00:30:37,880
Speaker 2: that that is the equal of everything's better. Yep, nothing

588
00:30:37,920 --> 00:30:40,800
Speaker 2: ever got better. Ever, it never did. He kept cheating,

589
00:30:41,120 --> 00:30:43,440
Speaker 2: and you're okay with that. You signed off on it.

590
00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:44,160
Speaker 2: You're still with him.

591
00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:48,240
Speaker 1: Yep, yep, yep, yep. My god. I know you are young,

592
00:30:48,440 --> 00:30:52,360
Speaker 1: and young people are not the most empathetic coming from

593
00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:55,040
Speaker 1: the Queen of empathy, people, folks, from the Queen of empathy.

594
00:30:55,320 --> 00:30:57,360
Speaker 1: But I hope you will listen to me. Now here

595
00:30:57,400 --> 00:31:01,040
Speaker 1: we go, stay away from my family. You're causing us

596
00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:03,840
Speaker 1: nothing but pain. Stepmom.

597
00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:07,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, her name technically change. All of the us is

598
00:31:07,480 --> 00:31:10,000
Speaker 2: to me, me, me, my, my may and then then

599
00:31:10,040 --> 00:31:12,120
Speaker 2: it's accurate. It's not the whole family, it's just her.

600
00:31:12,200 --> 00:31:16,120
Speaker 2: She's like, hello, painful reminder of my husband's infidelity. Ouch,

601
00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:20,320
Speaker 2: you are hurting me because you're making me remember that

602
00:31:20,400 --> 00:31:22,200
Speaker 2: my husband doesn't treat me right.

603
00:31:23,480 --> 00:31:26,560
Speaker 1: Oh this, I can't even. I cannot even with this woman.

604
00:31:26,720 --> 00:31:30,080
Speaker 1: Oh god, I know it seems unreal. Main reason why

605
00:31:30,240 --> 00:31:32,480
Speaker 1: send a picture to anyone who wants one? And I'm

606
00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:35,680
Speaker 1: still stunned this was sent to me. Hey, who the

607
00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:39,720
Speaker 1: heck does this? B This has made me feel devastated

608
00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:43,160
Speaker 1: and horrible. And see, I'm really angry about her passive

609
00:31:43,160 --> 00:31:45,680
Speaker 1: aggressive digs towards me, like I was raised like a

610
00:31:45,760 --> 00:31:49,680
Speaker 1: wild animal because my mom made a mistake. I've done

611
00:31:49,760 --> 00:31:52,040
Speaker 1: what she wants, though I don't think I'm ever going

612
00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:55,840
Speaker 1: to contact any of them again. Oh no, no no,

613
00:31:55,920 --> 00:31:57,800
Speaker 1: this is just teenager. No no no, no, no no,

614
00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:00,840
Speaker 1: this is just teenager. She's lot. You're not ruining the

615
00:32:00,880 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 1: whole family.

616
00:32:02,520 --> 00:32:05,480
Speaker 2: You're just messing up her flow that she is like

617
00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:08,880
Speaker 2: carefully and particularly like made sure like and we'll never

618
00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:10,960
Speaker 2: think these thoughts. And as long as we never think

619
00:32:11,040 --> 00:32:13,960
Speaker 2: these thoughts, then they're not real and they they've never happened,

620
00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:16,080
Speaker 2: and you're just upsetting this equilibrium.

621
00:32:16,160 --> 00:32:19,080
Speaker 1: That's all. Yes, you're fine. Hopefully in time she'll come

622
00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:21,080
Speaker 1: to realize that. Like, wait a second, let me not

623
00:32:21,520 --> 00:32:27,040
Speaker 1: appease her stupid fricking want to just push me down

624
00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:29,920
Speaker 1: like beach ball on the pool. Yeah, absolutely, let me

625
00:32:30,000 --> 00:32:32,680
Speaker 1: spring up like the joyous beach ball that everyone you

626
00:32:32,720 --> 00:32:35,160
Speaker 1: know has the time of their life, you know, playing

627
00:32:35,240 --> 00:32:37,719
Speaker 1: playing a good game of Some of the good reddit

628
00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:39,720
Speaker 1: comments are so crucial.

629
00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:42,600
Speaker 2: We need the good reddit comments on this story.

630
00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:44,400
Speaker 1: It works so well before you need them. Let's work.

631
00:32:44,480 --> 00:32:46,920
Speaker 1: Let's do it again. Yes, Opie says, I already knew

632
00:32:46,960 --> 00:32:49,000
Speaker 1: my sister had told her about me, because three days

633
00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:51,480
Speaker 1: before I got this, she emailed me saying she was sorry,

634
00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:53,520
Speaker 1: but she was fighting with her mom and the truth

635
00:32:53,560 --> 00:32:57,640
Speaker 1: slipped out because she was upset and wanted to hurt her.

636
00:32:57,800 --> 00:33:00,640
Speaker 1: My brother genuinely hasn't been talking to me, though, so

637
00:33:00,760 --> 00:33:04,000
Speaker 1: he is still safe. I showed my mom the letter

638
00:33:04,080 --> 00:33:06,960
Speaker 1: and she is pissed. Right. Oh yeah, she should be

639
00:33:07,120 --> 00:33:09,120
Speaker 1: the first thing I thought I was like, pissed, I OPI,

640
00:33:09,280 --> 00:33:11,760
Speaker 1: but pissed at the mom. Right, come on, right right.

641
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:14,880
Speaker 1: She told me that she will give me the choice,

642
00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:17,720
Speaker 1: but if I said yes, she will find my dad

643
00:33:17,760 --> 00:33:21,719
Speaker 1: and confront him about his wife's actions. I don't know,

644
00:33:22,680 --> 00:33:25,440
Speaker 1: but what I do know is that you can listen

645
00:33:25,480 --> 00:33:29,160
Speaker 1: to full freaking episodes full of stories just like this.

646
00:33:29,240 --> 00:33:34,040
Speaker 1: Ladies and gentlemen go to Spotify, Apple iHeart and search. Okay,

647
00:33:34,040 --> 00:33:37,719
Speaker 1: story time. You're gonna have over sixty days straight of

648
00:33:37,800 --> 00:33:40,880
Speaker 1: content that that is enough to get you through any

649
00:33:41,000 --> 00:33:44,000
Speaker 1: any test, any anything you got in life. It's gonna

650
00:33:44,000 --> 00:33:46,360
Speaker 1: it's gonna help you through it. So just go check

651
00:33:46,400 --> 00:33:50,360
Speaker 1: it out. Go check it out before I get angry.

652
00:33:50,480 --> 00:33:52,600
Speaker 1: You wouldn't like him when he coda. They don't want

653
00:33:52,640 --> 00:33:54,960
Speaker 1: to see me angry. He turns into the Red Hulk

654
00:33:55,000 --> 00:33:58,120
Speaker 1: when he's angry. I guess my questions for you, guys are,

655
00:33:58,520 --> 00:34:00,800
Speaker 1: how do I stop feeling like a stupid piece of

656
00:34:00,840 --> 00:34:05,440
Speaker 1: spond Come Opie, ponsco OPI opie.

657
00:34:05,840 --> 00:34:13,400
Speaker 5: You never heard that before you You are freaking awesome,

658
00:34:13,800 --> 00:34:16,560
Speaker 5: and do not let the This mom is a fully

659
00:34:16,560 --> 00:34:20,320
Speaker 5: grown adult who is a fully baby child.

660
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:23,000
Speaker 1: She can go to time out and we can give

661
00:34:23,000 --> 00:34:26,560
Speaker 1: her her her pacifier to suck on because she's a

662
00:34:26,760 --> 00:34:31,040
Speaker 1: dumbo and you're freaking awesome and mature and you're you're

663
00:34:31,040 --> 00:34:33,520
Speaker 1: doing great, Like you're doing so great. Keep going to therapy,

664
00:34:33,960 --> 00:34:36,920
Speaker 1: keep listening to the awesome people in the comment comments,

665
00:34:37,400 --> 00:34:40,799
Speaker 1: keep doing that, keep doing that. Stay open. You know,

666
00:34:40,880 --> 00:34:42,520
Speaker 1: if you don't feel like reaching out to failure right now,

667
00:34:42,560 --> 00:34:44,960
Speaker 1: that's of course really fine. If they reach back out,

668
00:34:45,000 --> 00:34:46,360
Speaker 1: maybe see if you want to talk to them, or

669
00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:50,080
Speaker 1: maybe you get to the point where you want to, Uh,

670
00:34:50,160 --> 00:34:52,319
Speaker 1: I want to reach back out again. Just do that.

671
00:34:52,560 --> 00:34:55,120
Speaker 1: Do all of those things. Do all of those things? Yeah,

672
00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:59,160
Speaker 1: do all those you know, teenage, a teenager.

673
00:34:59,120 --> 00:35:02,160
Speaker 2: Teenage, you're right at the age where you start to

674
00:35:02,200 --> 00:35:04,760
Speaker 2: like figure out. You're like, oh wait, just because adults

675
00:35:04,760 --> 00:35:05,440
Speaker 2: are older.

676
00:35:05,200 --> 00:35:08,080
Speaker 1: Than me, it doesn't mean that they're always right or better. Yes,

677
00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:08,560
Speaker 1: it's like.

678
00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:11,200
Speaker 2: That you're finding out right now that this fully grown

679
00:35:11,280 --> 00:35:15,480
Speaker 2: woman who's like has a family literally doesn't even know

680
00:35:16,680 --> 00:35:19,640
Speaker 2: does it, can't even conceive that she's actually kept you

681
00:35:19,840 --> 00:35:21,000
Speaker 2: from your family.

682
00:35:21,160 --> 00:35:23,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, because she's yeah, and.

683
00:35:23,960 --> 00:35:27,480
Speaker 2: Her thoughts are asinine and hold no weight.

684
00:35:27,920 --> 00:35:30,080
Speaker 1: Couldn't have said it better myself couldn't have said it

685
00:35:30,080 --> 00:35:32,879
Speaker 1: better myself. Should I get my mom to confront my dad?

686
00:35:33,600 --> 00:35:36,160
Speaker 1: My gut tells her that she should be involved, but

687
00:35:36,200 --> 00:35:38,879
Speaker 1: at the same time, my more selfish side wants her

688
00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:41,120
Speaker 1: to yell at him. Should I be the bigger person

689
00:35:41,200 --> 00:35:44,160
Speaker 1: and send them a thank you card for my birthday present?

690
00:35:44,239 --> 00:35:46,719
Speaker 1: Thanks in advance? Guys? What do we think about those

691
00:35:46,760 --> 00:35:50,080
Speaker 1: last two points? Should mom talk to the bio dad

692
00:35:50,200 --> 00:35:53,040
Speaker 1: and should OP send this like thank you card back

693
00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:53,880
Speaker 1: to get a little.

694
00:35:54,400 --> 00:35:58,480
Speaker 2: I think you should definitely, Like, I think the funniest

695
00:35:58,520 --> 00:35:59,920
Speaker 2: thing to do would just be to send the thank you.

696
00:35:59,840 --> 00:36:01,760
Speaker 1: Card back and be like, love you guys.

697
00:36:02,800 --> 00:36:07,080
Speaker 2: Then that would just to be to upset the mom.

698
00:36:07,239 --> 00:36:10,400
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, but I think honestly, it's like as you

699
00:36:10,400 --> 00:36:13,319
Speaker 2: get older, it's like your siblings will You're going to

700
00:36:13,640 --> 00:36:16,799
Speaker 2: you know, create and establish more of a relationship with

701
00:36:16,840 --> 00:36:19,759
Speaker 2: your half siblings once they get out from under the

702
00:36:19,760 --> 00:36:22,279
Speaker 2: thumb of their mother. You really don't have to take

703
00:36:22,320 --> 00:36:25,080
Speaker 2: into consideration anything that she thinks once that happens.

704
00:36:25,200 --> 00:36:27,440
Speaker 1: Yep, you know, completely agree.

705
00:36:28,120 --> 00:36:31,839
Speaker 2: She's literally trying to bully you like she's an adolescent,

706
00:36:32,320 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 2: trying to scare you into like don't talk to my family.

707
00:36:35,840 --> 00:36:38,759
Speaker 2: You're actually everyone hates you, and you're only making us

708
00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:40,240
Speaker 2: You're making everything worse.

709
00:36:40,760 --> 00:36:44,480
Speaker 1: Just leave us atle Bone. It's like, what, Yeah, shut it,

710
00:36:44,680 --> 00:36:49,000
Speaker 1: step mom, You're not my real mom. But we got comments. Hey,

711
00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:50,680
Speaker 1: it's Sam. We're gonna get back to these stories. But

712
00:36:50,719 --> 00:36:52,839
Speaker 1: here's three bits of ads from our sponsors that keep

713
00:36:52,840 --> 00:36:56,240
Speaker 1: the show alive. Comment everyone, please stop letting terrible people

714
00:36:56,360 --> 00:36:59,520
Speaker 1: make you feel terrible about yourself. Keep talking to your therapist.

715
00:37:00,000 --> 00:37:02,040
Speaker 1: Her worth has nothing to do with whether or not

716
00:37:02,080 --> 00:37:04,400
Speaker 1: you're acknowledged by your father. He and his wife are

717
00:37:04,440 --> 00:37:07,000
Speaker 1: clearly awful people, and you're better off without them in

718
00:37:07,040 --> 00:37:09,880
Speaker 1: your life. Opie says, I haven't seen him yet. I

719
00:37:09,920 --> 00:37:14,440
Speaker 1: see him for the first time this Thursday. WHOA, I

720
00:37:14,440 --> 00:37:17,160
Speaker 1: guess we have a lot to talk about. Yeah, this

721
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:20,200
Speaker 1: is uh. This is about to be crazy and we

722
00:37:20,239 --> 00:37:22,799
Speaker 1: have come much. Number two, ignore her completely. She has

723
00:37:22,880 --> 00:37:25,480
Speaker 1: literally nothing to you but a pest. Then keep in

724
00:37:25,520 --> 00:37:27,839
Speaker 1: contact with your sister as much as you want. Don't

725
00:37:27,920 --> 00:37:30,520
Speaker 1: let other people's actions control your happiness, which is what

726
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:35,160
Speaker 1: she's doing. Finally, enough, Opie, another reason I'm wary to

727
00:37:35,239 --> 00:37:37,959
Speaker 1: keep talking to my sister now is that the only

728
00:37:37,960 --> 00:37:40,120
Speaker 1: way she could have gotten my address was from my sister,

729
00:37:40,600 --> 00:37:43,120
Speaker 1: since she asked me a bit before this's happened for

730
00:37:43,280 --> 00:37:47,560
Speaker 1: my address so she could send me a birthday presence. Reply. Actually,

731
00:37:47,600 --> 00:37:50,640
Speaker 1: if your father has been paying child support, she saus

732
00:37:50,680 --> 00:37:53,319
Speaker 1: as they already had your address to do that, she

733
00:37:53,360 --> 00:37:57,160
Speaker 1: didn't necessarily get it from your sister and reply. She

734
00:37:57,360 --> 00:37:59,440
Speaker 1: may have been snooping, so it may not be your

735
00:37:59,480 --> 00:38:03,040
Speaker 1: sister's fault. Copti three says, I would be tempted to

736
00:38:03,360 --> 00:38:05,879
Speaker 1: f with the switch send her a reply that you're

737
00:38:05,920 --> 00:38:08,879
Speaker 1: okay with not conquing her family again because you're now

738
00:38:08,880 --> 00:38:13,359
Speaker 1: in contact with the other half siblings, the other a

739
00:38:13,360 --> 00:38:14,040
Speaker 1: fair family.

740
00:38:14,280 --> 00:38:16,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, it's the funny thing is to try

741
00:38:16,640 --> 00:38:19,640
Speaker 2: to annoy it just who cares. It's like, yeah, you

742
00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:21,960
Speaker 2: like it feels like her thoughts and opinion matter a

743
00:38:22,000 --> 00:38:25,319
Speaker 2: lot because she's like the step mom, and it's like

744
00:38:25,480 --> 00:38:28,400
Speaker 2: or she's an adult and she's like kept you for

745
00:38:28,480 --> 00:38:30,520
Speaker 2: so long from these people. But like, really like her

746
00:38:30,560 --> 00:38:32,440
Speaker 2: thoughts don't matter at all in this situation.

747
00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:37,400
Speaker 1: Absolutely agree. What matters is your siblings, that is absolutely

748
00:38:37,440 --> 00:38:40,800
Speaker 1: and they they're about you, So just keep keep waiting, waiting.

749
00:38:40,840 --> 00:38:42,239
Speaker 1: They're literally thinking yah.

750
00:38:42,320 --> 00:38:45,440
Speaker 2: I can't wait for my mom to be not in

751
00:38:45,520 --> 00:38:46,520
Speaker 2: charge of my life anymore.

752
00:38:46,560 --> 00:38:48,680
Speaker 1: So I didn't talk to you like, come on, mom,

753
00:38:48,880 --> 00:38:51,759
Speaker 1: let me go with my Feerce's draft. Baby. Come on,

754
00:38:52,080 --> 00:38:55,280
Speaker 1: I'm a fair baby, half sister fair and half sister baby. Dude,

755
00:38:55,280 --> 00:38:58,080
Speaker 1: my brain is short circuiting right now. This is crazy.

756
00:38:58,160 --> 00:39:01,279
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, competitive before say I would absolutely let your

757
00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:03,759
Speaker 1: mom get involved. Is not fair of this grown woman

758
00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:05,799
Speaker 1: to be speaking to you this way as a mom.

759
00:39:05,840 --> 00:39:09,000
Speaker 1: It makes my blood boil even thinking of someone disrespecting

760
00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:11,200
Speaker 1: to my son like this. Your mom can tell your

761
00:39:11,239 --> 00:39:14,080
Speaker 1: dad to get his wife off your back. It's not

762
00:39:14,160 --> 00:39:17,040
Speaker 1: okay to punish a child for your spouse's affair. And

763
00:39:17,120 --> 00:39:19,080
Speaker 1: that is absolutely true, and that is at the end

764
00:39:19,080 --> 00:39:23,879
Speaker 1: of that story. But it's not the end of this episode. No,

765
00:39:23,960 --> 00:39:28,400
Speaker 1: it's not. No, it's not because our very own the big, sexy,

766
00:39:29,160 --> 00:39:34,480
Speaker 1: illustrious Dakota brings the pain pain is about to bring

767
00:39:34,560 --> 00:39:40,680
Speaker 1: the pain. Maine. So good, so good, So get your

768
00:39:40,680 --> 00:39:46,359
Speaker 1: ear holes ready. Wow, wild Wild Ride. It's pretty good.

769
00:39:47,080 --> 00:39:50,920
Speaker 1: That's a pretty it's a pretty tall intro there. Oh,

770
00:39:50,960 --> 00:39:51,560
Speaker 1: I got you.

771
00:39:52,040 --> 00:39:54,719
Speaker 2: My family is trying to shame me into giving them

772
00:39:54,719 --> 00:39:57,359
Speaker 2: money after years of alienation.

773
00:39:57,800 --> 00:40:02,799
Speaker 1: Shame, shame, shout out my.

774
00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:06,760
Speaker 2: Game of Thrones heads. You will understand that reference trigger

775
00:40:06,800 --> 00:40:10,680
Speaker 2: warning pretty abruptly. Miscarriage will be mentioned in this story,

776
00:40:10,719 --> 00:40:13,600
Speaker 2: so if you can't hear that, don't listen to this.

777
00:40:14,160 --> 00:40:17,360
Speaker 2: I've always been kind of the goat with my family,

778
00:40:17,800 --> 00:40:21,600
Speaker 2: and by that I don't mean greatest of all time, okay.

779
00:40:22,320 --> 00:40:24,600
Speaker 2: I mean my family kind of always looked down on me,

780
00:40:25,080 --> 00:40:29,759
Speaker 2: oh and helped me to unreasonable expectations, okay, which makes

781
00:40:29,760 --> 00:40:32,120
Speaker 2: you the goat kind of in the greatest of all

782
00:40:32,120 --> 00:40:36,680
Speaker 2: time sense. I think it's because, other than my dad,

783
00:40:36,840 --> 00:40:39,799
Speaker 2: I was the only male in the house. By the way,

784
00:40:39,840 --> 00:40:42,920
Speaker 2: this comes from user stan burger Man, and if you

785
00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:45,000
Speaker 2: want to submit your own stories, go to the r

786
00:40:45,080 --> 00:40:47,480
Speaker 2: slash okay storytime subreddit.

787
00:40:47,719 --> 00:40:48,240
Speaker 1: That's great.

788
00:40:48,400 --> 00:40:52,160
Speaker 2: So I didn't get any special consideration for being the youngest,

789
00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:55,680
Speaker 2: not that i'd want any and anyway, that was rendered

790
00:40:55,680 --> 00:40:59,160
Speaker 2: irrelevant once my youngest sister was born. She was sort

791
00:40:59,160 --> 00:41:01,880
Speaker 2: of the golden child about our childhoods. But my oldest

792
00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:05,160
Speaker 2: sister also had a special place of pride for being

793
00:41:05,200 --> 00:41:08,520
Speaker 2: the oldest kid. I was the middle kid, and even

794
00:41:08,560 --> 00:41:11,280
Speaker 2: though I'm male, I got hand me downs from my sister,

795
00:41:11,440 --> 00:41:14,319
Speaker 2: as long as the clothes weren't too effeminate. Oh no,

796
00:41:15,680 --> 00:41:20,160
Speaker 2: that's not good, never fun, not fun, never fun. As

797
00:41:20,239 --> 00:41:23,120
Speaker 2: an adult, I can see how that's practical in money saving,

798
00:41:23,200 --> 00:41:27,240
Speaker 2: But as a child it was embarrassing and also hurtful

799
00:41:27,320 --> 00:41:30,160
Speaker 2: to see your sisters constantly get new clothes and new

800
00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:33,320
Speaker 2: bikes while I had to wear girls clothes and ride

801
00:41:33,320 --> 00:41:38,759
Speaker 2: hand me down girl bikes. Now John's laughing because that's

802
00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:42,920
Speaker 2: just objectively funny. Oh god, But you know what is

803
00:41:42,960 --> 00:41:46,399
Speaker 2: not funny is how tough that and funny it will

804
00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:48,400
Speaker 2: make you when you get older.

805
00:41:48,960 --> 00:41:52,359
Speaker 1: That's true, right, yeah, look at him, Look at him.

806
00:41:52,440 --> 00:41:54,759
Speaker 1: Go look at all of us, Look at how we

807
00:41:55,200 --> 00:42:00,279
Speaker 1: became this. I'm the only child. Okay.

808
00:42:01,000 --> 00:42:02,920
Speaker 2: Why didn't get hand me downs from my Did you

809
00:42:02,960 --> 00:42:05,160
Speaker 2: get hand me ups from Keona?

810
00:42:05,280 --> 00:42:05,799
Speaker 1: Wait? What?

811
00:42:05,840 --> 00:42:09,279
Speaker 2: Because John has an older sister younger? Oh well, that

812
00:42:09,440 --> 00:42:11,200
Speaker 2: never mind that. I everything is out the door. Now,

813
00:42:12,160 --> 00:42:14,160
Speaker 2: everything's out the window, folks. It's the end of the day.

814
00:42:14,160 --> 00:42:16,280
Speaker 2: It's all out the window. Where is it south the window?

815
00:42:17,160 --> 00:42:17,560
Speaker 1: There it is?

816
00:42:17,600 --> 00:42:21,880
Speaker 2: If window's open, you could just hear it open. I

817
00:42:21,920 --> 00:42:30,640
Speaker 2: think that window is flirting with me to Okay, god, okay. Interestingly,

818
00:42:30,880 --> 00:42:33,160
Speaker 2: my younger sister never had to wear hand me downs

819
00:42:33,160 --> 00:42:36,959
Speaker 2: from my older sister. Hmmmm hmmm, seems like she should

820
00:42:36,960 --> 00:42:39,200
Speaker 2: have been the first candidate for those. My mom and

821
00:42:39,239 --> 00:42:41,520
Speaker 2: sisters pretty much had an easy life while my dad

822
00:42:41,600 --> 00:42:43,799
Speaker 2: was alive, because they just wrote him all day long

823
00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:46,279
Speaker 2: and hen pecked him until he passed away fifteen years

824
00:42:46,280 --> 00:42:48,160
Speaker 2: ago from a heart attack. He was only fifty eight.

825
00:42:48,200 --> 00:42:51,120
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, low key implying that a r y

826
00:42:51,160 --> 00:42:55,120
Speaker 2: he had a heart attack is wild. Growing up, sometimes

827
00:42:55,160 --> 00:42:57,719
Speaker 2: my dad tried to do special guy things with me,

828
00:42:57,840 --> 00:43:00,520
Speaker 2: but my mom shamed him into stopping it. I just

829
00:43:00,560 --> 00:43:02,800
Speaker 2: don't get it why my mom was always so cynical

830
00:43:02,840 --> 00:43:05,480
Speaker 2: and negative towards me. My hair was always too long

831
00:43:05,520 --> 00:43:07,719
Speaker 2: and ugly, I was too skinny, and then when I

832
00:43:07,760 --> 00:43:10,160
Speaker 2: started working out in high school, suddenly I was too muscular.

833
00:43:10,520 --> 00:43:12,319
Speaker 2: Then I was too tan and too pale, and my

834
00:43:12,320 --> 00:43:14,400
Speaker 2: grades weren't good enough. Then once I got into a

835
00:43:14,400 --> 00:43:17,399
Speaker 2: good school for college, it wasn't even that good. When

836
00:43:17,400 --> 00:43:19,640
Speaker 2: I earned my degree in business, I was a wanna

837
00:43:19,680 --> 00:43:24,279
Speaker 2: be businessman, fast food employee. Oh what what is it

838
00:43:24,360 --> 00:43:28,280
Speaker 2: that causes this? I mean, clearly, if we're just playing

839
00:43:28,320 --> 00:43:32,919
Speaker 2: like Akham's razor. It's because he's the boy. It's because

840
00:43:32,960 --> 00:43:34,960
Speaker 2: he's a boy, and all of his other siblings are girls,

841
00:43:35,040 --> 00:43:37,319
Speaker 2: and the mom's picking on the boy and giving all

842
00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:39,640
Speaker 2: the boy the hand me down older sister clothes because

843
00:43:40,200 --> 00:43:41,320
Speaker 2: she just wants a girl.

844
00:43:41,560 --> 00:43:44,680
Speaker 1: He ruined her perfect vision of having three little girls.

845
00:43:45,040 --> 00:43:46,479
Speaker 1: He ruins like he ruins the vision.

846
00:43:46,840 --> 00:43:50,800
Speaker 2: Folks, if you are not ready for either or don't

847
00:43:51,360 --> 00:43:55,960
Speaker 2: you dare go get pregnant and then be upset that

848
00:43:56,040 --> 00:43:58,600
Speaker 2: your child doesn't exist in the right box.

849
00:43:58,680 --> 00:44:03,279
Speaker 1: He wanted them to, well, hey, this is maybe maybe

850
00:44:03,280 --> 00:44:05,040
Speaker 1: if he didn't have to say it like that, Maybe,

851
00:44:05,080 --> 00:44:07,680
Speaker 1: if he didn't have that wiener hanging down there, none

852
00:44:07,719 --> 00:44:09,560
Speaker 1: of this would be happening. Maybe you should have thought.

853
00:44:09,360 --> 00:44:11,960
Speaker 2: About that before you were born a dude.

854
00:44:12,160 --> 00:44:16,399
Speaker 1: Come on, just go filth. Yeah, you can just pull

855
00:44:16,440 --> 00:44:20,400
Speaker 1: it back in. Just there, you go, do that. I'm scared.

856
00:44:20,760 --> 00:44:23,799
Speaker 2: When I got into graduate school for masters, it was

857
00:44:23,880 --> 00:44:27,480
Speaker 2: because it was a stupid idea, not like I asked

858
00:44:27,520 --> 00:44:29,560
Speaker 2: anyone to help me pay for it. Why do you

859
00:44:29,600 --> 00:44:30,680
Speaker 2: dress like that? You look dumb?

860
00:44:30,719 --> 00:44:32,200
Speaker 1: Why don't you want a house? Your car's all?

861
00:44:32,239 --> 00:44:34,520
Speaker 2: No, one won't respect you. You know how that goes.

862
00:44:34,800 --> 00:44:36,960
Speaker 2: Do have we stopped listening to her though? That's my

863
00:44:37,040 --> 00:44:41,240
Speaker 2: big question. Are we still being like, yeah, I'm all right,

864
00:44:41,520 --> 00:44:43,600
Speaker 2: I hope, but it's hard, I'm too pale.

865
00:44:43,960 --> 00:44:46,320
Speaker 1: It's hard being inundated. Like it's true.

866
00:44:46,719 --> 00:44:49,400
Speaker 2: I mean, I feel like everyone goes through this to

867
00:44:49,400 --> 00:44:51,480
Speaker 2: some extent at some point. But it's like at some

868
00:44:51,520 --> 00:44:54,280
Speaker 2: point you just go oh, like you have the realization

869
00:44:54,320 --> 00:44:56,879
Speaker 2: you're like, oh, I don't care. Actually, oh I hear you.

870
00:44:56,920 --> 00:44:59,360
Speaker 2: Not listening though, yeah, hear you. I'm my own person,

871
00:44:59,760 --> 00:45:02,760
Speaker 2: not letting that one get absorbed into my brain sponge. Yep,

872
00:45:03,200 --> 00:45:05,600
Speaker 2: I worked and earned my own pocket money, starting at

873
00:45:05,640 --> 00:45:07,960
Speaker 2: age fifteen with a job at a fast food restaurant.

874
00:45:08,200 --> 00:45:10,120
Speaker 2: So that's why they all picked on me for working

875
00:45:10,200 --> 00:45:10,800
Speaker 2: fast food.

876
00:45:10,920 --> 00:45:12,560
Speaker 1: Hey, it's John here. We're gonna get back to the stories.

877
00:45:12,600 --> 00:45:14,560
Speaker 1: Put a quick three minute ad break from our sponsors

878
00:45:14,600 --> 00:45:15,480
Speaker 1: that keep the show going.

879
00:45:16,040 --> 00:45:18,560
Speaker 2: I can't think of a dumber thing than to pick

880
00:45:18,600 --> 00:45:22,040
Speaker 2: on a teenager for having a fast food job, Like,

881
00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:22,960
Speaker 2: you know, you.

882
00:45:23,680 --> 00:45:27,360
Speaker 1: Working fast food as teenage and look, oh, my dad, stupid?

883
00:45:27,680 --> 00:45:30,839
Speaker 2: What are you do working at the job basically designed

884
00:45:30,920 --> 00:45:31,960
Speaker 2: for you to work at?

885
00:45:32,239 --> 00:45:36,040
Speaker 1: What do you you got im in stupid You taught me, dude.

886
00:45:36,640 --> 00:45:40,719
Speaker 2: Eventually I became assistant manager of the restaurant at age

887
00:45:40,760 --> 00:45:44,040
Speaker 2: twenty one, when I was almost done with college. My

888
00:45:44,080 --> 00:45:46,320
Speaker 2: sister would often mock me for working in fast food,

889
00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:49,040
Speaker 2: and my mom would too. It wasn't gentle ribbon or

890
00:45:49,040 --> 00:45:52,880
Speaker 2: teasing in a loving way. No, it was spiteful insults,

891
00:45:53,120 --> 00:45:55,080
Speaker 2: trying to hurt my feelings and make me feel small.

892
00:45:55,440 --> 00:45:57,720
Speaker 2: Speaking a feeling small, I'm really tall.

893
00:45:58,040 --> 00:45:58,759
Speaker 1: I'm six', five.

894
00:45:58,960 --> 00:46:00,920
Speaker 2: Dude and they also made fun of me for never

895
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:04,000
Speaker 2: trying out or being good at, basketball or caring about

896
00:46:04,040 --> 00:46:08,040
Speaker 2: any other. Sports this is WHERE i go back And i'm, like, oh,

897
00:46:08,200 --> 00:46:09,000
Speaker 2: sorry oh did you?

898
00:46:09,040 --> 00:46:13,879
Speaker 1: Guys uh sign up for the beauty? Pageant oh, wait you're?

899
00:46:13,920 --> 00:46:17,080
Speaker 1: Gross got Them and they, GO i can't believe you'd say.

900
00:46:17,120 --> 00:46:18,920
Speaker 1: That i'd be, like, yeah oh my. God insults are.

901
00:46:18,920 --> 00:46:21,160
Speaker 2: Annoying huh can you maybe stop doing them to? Me?

902
00:46:21,880 --> 00:46:25,600
Speaker 2: MMM i see you hidding a fair. Baby ooh from your, Poison.

903
00:46:25,640 --> 00:46:29,040
Speaker 1: Tonic that's that's a great conspiracy theory makes.

904
00:46:28,880 --> 00:46:31,600
Speaker 2: A little more, eyes more, eyes a little makes a

905
00:46:31,600 --> 00:46:35,279
Speaker 2: little more sense than just he's a guy AND i hate.

906
00:46:35,320 --> 00:46:37,040
Speaker 1: You when my dad passed.

907
00:46:37,040 --> 00:46:39,360
Speaker 2: Away he left everything to my, mom which is to be,

908
00:46:39,400 --> 00:46:42,040
Speaker 2: expected including the House he left me in each of

909
00:46:42,040 --> 00:46:44,640
Speaker 2: my siblings ten thousand dollars just as some extra, money

910
00:46:44,920 --> 00:46:46,920
Speaker 2: on the assumption that my mom would leave the kids

911
00:46:46,960 --> 00:46:50,120
Speaker 2: everything equally upon her own passing many years. LATER i

912
00:46:50,200 --> 00:46:52,719
Speaker 2: already knew back then that my mom wouldn't leave me,

913
00:46:52,840 --> 00:46:56,200
Speaker 2: much if, anything compared to my. Sisters my sisters continued

914
00:46:56,200 --> 00:46:58,400
Speaker 2: to live at, home but ONCE i graduated, COLLEGE i

915
00:46:58,440 --> 00:47:01,160
Speaker 2: moved across town to my own. Apartment they weren't sad

916
00:47:01,200 --> 00:47:03,319
Speaker 2: to see me. Go i've been living on my own ever,

917
00:47:03,360 --> 00:47:06,760
Speaker 2: since and it's been going on almost twenty years. NOW

918
00:47:07,200 --> 00:47:09,239
Speaker 2: i grew up in a rather large, house and this Was,

919
00:47:09,320 --> 00:47:11,719
Speaker 2: kansas where it was possible for a normal dude like

920
00:47:11,760 --> 00:47:13,840
Speaker 2: my father to own a big. Home so when my

921
00:47:13,880 --> 00:47:16,000
Speaker 2: sisters got, married their husbands moved in.

922
00:47:16,200 --> 00:47:20,440
Speaker 1: Too is that Also? Kansas is that we're not In kansas?

923
00:47:20,440 --> 00:47:21,359
Speaker 1: Anymore that's.

924
00:47:21,360 --> 00:47:25,600
Speaker 2: Insane family, husbands that's. Insane, well all we're all gonna

925
00:47:25,640 --> 00:47:27,520
Speaker 2: live in the same house with all our. Husbands they

926
00:47:27,520 --> 00:47:29,279
Speaker 2: all got they got married and moved in. Together they

927
00:47:29,280 --> 00:47:31,279
Speaker 2: is they all live in the family house with their.

928
00:47:31,360 --> 00:47:37,640
Speaker 2: Husbands Interesting, okay that's one way to say. It so

929
00:47:38,200 --> 00:47:41,799
Speaker 2: their husbands are both college educated, guys BUT i could

930
00:47:41,800 --> 00:47:44,359
Speaker 2: tell they enjoyed the idea of not having to pay

931
00:47:44,360 --> 00:47:47,319
Speaker 2: for their own house or any. Rent my dad had

932
00:47:47,320 --> 00:47:49,440
Speaker 2: built a small guest house behind the, home which he

933
00:47:49,520 --> 00:47:51,520
Speaker 2: always told me would be mine WHEN i grew. Up

934
00:47:52,040 --> 00:47:54,480
Speaker 2: but after he passed, AWAY i could tell my mom

935
00:47:54,560 --> 00:47:57,040
Speaker 2: had the place earmarked for her daughter and future son in.

936
00:47:57,080 --> 00:48:00,480
Speaker 2: Law my older sister and husband stayed in my fourthom

937
00:48:00,640 --> 00:48:03,759
Speaker 2: in the big. House, well, whatever, RIGHT i had my

938
00:48:03,840 --> 00:48:06,800
Speaker 2: own thing going on these. Days i'm regional manager of

939
00:48:06,840 --> 00:48:10,080
Speaker 2: a mid sized restaurant. Chain not fast, food but. Clothes

940
00:48:10,760 --> 00:48:13,160
Speaker 2: and Although i'm not, RICH i live quite. Comfortably and, also,

941
00:48:13,160 --> 00:48:14,799
Speaker 2: buddy even if it was fast, food who?

942
00:48:14,880 --> 00:48:18,520
Speaker 1: Cares, yeah who? Cares, seriously you've done the. Thing.

943
00:48:19,080 --> 00:48:21,279
Speaker 2: EH i had a pretty wealthy friend growing.

944
00:48:21,360 --> 00:48:22,320
Speaker 1: Up you know what their family.

945
00:48:22,360 --> 00:48:24,880
Speaker 3: DID i the franchised a bunch of fast food.

946
00:48:24,680 --> 00:48:28,160
Speaker 2: Restaurants and they were rolling in. It there you, go the,

947
00:48:28,200 --> 00:48:33,040
Speaker 2: money not the, restaurants hopefully. Not they kept the restaurants very.

948
00:48:33,040 --> 00:48:34,920
Speaker 1: Clean that's. Good that's. Good even if they were, old

949
00:48:34,920 --> 00:48:35,480
Speaker 1: they'd be still be.

950
00:48:35,520 --> 00:48:38,319
Speaker 2: CLEAN i could afford to put a down payment on a,

951
00:48:38,360 --> 00:48:41,400
Speaker 2: house BUT i like the easy freedom of having an.

952
00:48:41,440 --> 00:48:44,920
Speaker 2: Apartment at, THIRTY i married my longtime, girlfriend who my

953
00:48:44,960 --> 00:48:47,680
Speaker 2: mother and sisters always hated because she Was jewish and

954
00:48:47,719 --> 00:48:50,040
Speaker 2: also eight years older than. Me they would, say your

955
00:48:50,040 --> 00:48:53,440
Speaker 2: girlfriend is too, old she will never have a. Baby,

956
00:48:54,080 --> 00:48:56,600
Speaker 2: well none of them came to my, wedding even though

957
00:48:56,600 --> 00:49:02,000
Speaker 2: they were. Invited we actually conceived a, baby but it was. Oof, god, damn,

958
00:49:02,680 --> 00:49:05,360
Speaker 2: damn that got too. REAL i had to.

959
00:49:05,400 --> 00:49:08,200
Speaker 1: Reset here we, go here we.

960
00:49:08,280 --> 00:49:13,840
Speaker 2: Go you got it, okay but we lost the. Pregnancy

961
00:49:14,160 --> 00:49:15,879
Speaker 2: my mom and sisters found out about. It i'm about

962
00:49:15,880 --> 00:49:16,520
Speaker 2: to crash out on the.

963
00:49:16,560 --> 00:49:16,759
Speaker 1: Story.

964
00:49:16,800 --> 00:49:20,160
Speaker 2: Dude they better. Not they better, Not, DUDE i will find.

965
00:49:20,200 --> 00:49:22,919
Speaker 2: You and rather than express any condolences for a woman

966
00:49:22,960 --> 00:49:25,520
Speaker 2: who just lost a, child my mom and sisters treated

967
00:49:25,560 --> 00:49:28,239
Speaker 2: me to UNSOLICITED i told you sos and didn't send

968
00:49:28,239 --> 00:49:28,800
Speaker 2: my wife.

969
00:49:28,600 --> 00:49:29,120
Speaker 1: As much as a.

970
00:49:29,160 --> 00:49:33,080
Speaker 2: CARD i love my wife and since we don't have,

971
00:49:33,200 --> 00:49:35,960
Speaker 2: kids we Have french. Bulldogs we live in a big

972
00:49:36,000 --> 00:49:37,600
Speaker 2: bungalow apartment with a yard for.

973
00:49:37,640 --> 00:49:37,960
Speaker 1: Them so.

974
00:49:38,719 --> 00:49:41,919
Speaker 2: Whatever my family mocks me for that, too Like i'm

975
00:49:41,920 --> 00:49:44,080
Speaker 2: not a man BECAUSE i don't have. Kids, BUDDY i

976
00:49:44,120 --> 00:49:46,440
Speaker 2: think you should stop thinking of these people as your, Family,

977
00:49:46,560 --> 00:49:48,680
Speaker 2: like you don't even have to think that these are

978
00:49:48,719 --> 00:49:53,080
Speaker 2: just creatures that slithered out of a tide pool snuck

979
00:49:53,160 --> 00:49:54,800
Speaker 2: into a.

980
00:49:54,280 --> 00:49:55,160
Speaker 1: House that you lived.

981
00:49:55,200 --> 00:49:57,960
Speaker 2: In it's not LIKE i accuse my sister's husbands of

982
00:49:58,000 --> 00:50:01,000
Speaker 2: not being men because they live in their they're in law's.

983
00:50:01,040 --> 00:50:04,400
Speaker 2: House everyone does their own. Thing my wife's family is

984
00:50:04,560 --> 00:50:06,960
Speaker 2: somewhat successful in the furniture, business and they're a lot

985
00:50:07,040 --> 00:50:09,520
Speaker 2: nicer to me than my own. Family my mother and

986
00:50:09,560 --> 00:50:11,560
Speaker 2: father in law offered to buy me a new. CAR

987
00:50:11,760 --> 00:50:14,360
Speaker 2: i drive a two Thousand honda A, cord which is

988
00:50:14,480 --> 00:50:18,040
Speaker 2: still in mint condition just this. Year BUT i said no,

989
00:50:18,160 --> 00:50:21,720
Speaker 2: things and they seem to be impressed THAT i didn't accept. Gifts,

990
00:50:22,160 --> 00:50:25,279
Speaker 2: well after all that, background finally let's get to my.

991
00:50:25,360 --> 00:50:28,080
Speaker 2: Point it seems my sisters and their husbands have had

992
00:50:28,120 --> 00:50:30,719
Speaker 2: all sorts of business schemes and tried to open their

993
00:50:30,760 --> 00:50:34,600
Speaker 2: own yoga studio BECAUSE i guess my sisters are into that, stuff,

994
00:50:34,960 --> 00:50:38,040
Speaker 2: okay sort of a whole. GEE i like coming to yoga,

995
00:50:38,040 --> 00:50:41,680
Speaker 2: class so NATURALLY i understand business economics and should open

996
00:50:41,680 --> 00:50:45,040
Speaker 2: my own yoga. Studio there is no way these people

997
00:50:45,120 --> 00:50:50,200
Speaker 2: have the goal to reach out to you for business, advice, RIGHT.

998
00:50:50,360 --> 00:50:52,360
Speaker 1: I think it's going to be worse than business. ADVICE

999
00:50:52,480 --> 00:50:54,719
Speaker 1: i think it's going to be the other thing that businesses.

1000
00:50:54,760 --> 00:50:58,840
Speaker 2: Need i've remembered the, title yep of the STORY i

1001
00:50:59,000 --> 00:51:03,360
Speaker 2: see You. Ooo, PERSONALLY i thought that the kind of,

1002
00:51:03,440 --> 00:51:06,319
Speaker 2: boutique expensive yoga studio that they had in mind was

1003
00:51:06,320 --> 00:51:08,840
Speaker 2: more of A manhattan Or Beverly hills, thing not a

1004
00:51:08,880 --> 00:51:09,479
Speaker 2: small town.

1005
00:51:09,560 --> 00:51:11,640
Speaker 1: Thing but, whatever it's none of my.

1006
00:51:11,719 --> 00:51:16,200
Speaker 2: Business, literally they never asked my, advice SO i never said.

1007
00:51:16,200 --> 00:51:21,160
Speaker 2: Anything plause my sister's husbands both fancy themselves as business,

1008
00:51:21,200 --> 00:51:24,160
Speaker 2: savvy one of themselves insurance and the other works as

1009
00:51:24,200 --> 00:51:27,000
Speaker 2: a new accounts person at a, Bank so it's not

1010
00:51:27,120 --> 00:51:30,760
Speaker 2: like my counsel was ever. Needed of, course they, failed

1011
00:51:30,800 --> 00:51:34,920
Speaker 2: and spectacularly, so and my mom foolishly put her house

1012
00:51:35,000 --> 00:51:40,080
Speaker 2: up as collateral for the. Business oh they're not, okay

1013
00:51:40,840 --> 00:51:44,359
Speaker 2: let's go whoo, whoo, whoa what's that?

1014
00:51:44,440 --> 00:51:48,880
Speaker 1: Chat it's? Karma, yeah a baby coming back. Around.

1015
00:51:49,280 --> 00:51:53,759
Speaker 2: Day you were morally, bankrupt now you're financially. Bankrupt let's.

1016
00:51:53,800 --> 00:51:55,640
Speaker 1: Go that is.

1017
00:51:55,719 --> 00:52:00,000
Speaker 2: True i'll admit. That in a petty, WAY i felt

1018
00:52:00,000 --> 00:52:05,560
Speaker 2: it's a bit of say it shodenfrud. Schadenfreud but OVERALL

1019
00:52:05,600 --> 00:52:08,920
Speaker 2: i was, upset especially because both of my sisters have small.

1020
00:52:09,040 --> 00:52:12,080
Speaker 2: Children there are nine people living in my old house.

1021
00:52:12,120 --> 00:52:14,520
Speaker 2: Now now the bank is threatening to take over their

1022
00:52:14,520 --> 00:52:16,719
Speaker 2: house if they don't come up with a certain sum of.

1023
00:52:16,760 --> 00:52:20,240
Speaker 2: Money it's a lot of, money but money THAT i haven't,

1024
00:52:20,320 --> 00:52:24,120
Speaker 2: have and they know. It they all approached me with

1025
00:52:24,160 --> 00:52:29,600
Speaker 2: appeals by phone message. Text they've always known WHERE i,

1026
00:52:29,680 --> 00:52:31,960
Speaker 2: live but have never once tried to come visit. Me

1027
00:52:32,400 --> 00:52:34,520
Speaker 2: they all told me HOW i should be a good

1028
00:52:34,640 --> 00:52:36,920
Speaker 2: brother and, son and how this is what my father

1029
00:52:36,960 --> 00:52:40,000
Speaker 2: would have, wanted and all. That neither of my sister's

1030
00:52:40,040 --> 00:52:41,840
Speaker 2: husbands have said a word to me about. It AND

1031
00:52:41,880 --> 00:52:44,560
Speaker 2: i Doubt i'll see one penny of my money back

1032
00:52:44,680 --> 00:52:47,880
Speaker 2: IF i loaned it to. Them my mom especially has

1033
00:52:47,920 --> 00:52:50,760
Speaker 2: been laying it on thick about how she's an old

1034
00:52:50,840 --> 00:52:53,960
Speaker 2: woman and will be cast out of a familial home

1035
00:52:54,160 --> 00:52:56,480
Speaker 2: and all. THAT i hope you do WHAT i think

1036
00:52:56,520 --> 00:53:03,200
Speaker 2: you're gonna. Do please lease by their house out from under,

1037
00:53:03,239 --> 00:53:07,279
Speaker 2: them by the. House you, Go, yeah you, Go i'll help.

1038
00:53:07,320 --> 00:53:08,640
Speaker 1: You don't. WORRY i handle the whole.

1039
00:53:08,640 --> 00:53:11,080
Speaker 2: Thing buy the house that the bank is about to

1040
00:53:11,080 --> 00:53:12,719
Speaker 2: foreclothes on and then kick them.

1041
00:53:12,719 --> 00:53:13,359
Speaker 1: Out thank.

1042
00:53:13,400 --> 00:53:15,960
Speaker 2: You she's even gone so far as to hint that

1043
00:53:16,040 --> 00:53:18,880
Speaker 2: my Rich jewish wife's family can pony up the.

1044
00:53:18,920 --> 00:53:23,960
Speaker 1: Dough oh anti sunitism coming, back, baby very.

1045
00:53:24,000 --> 00:53:26,799
Speaker 2: WEIRD i haven't yet returned any of their calls or.

1046
00:53:26,840 --> 00:53:30,759
Speaker 2: Texts i'm still thinking about how they all always have

1047
00:53:30,800 --> 00:53:33,200
Speaker 2: a Big christmas party every year and never invite me

1048
00:53:33,320 --> 00:53:35,600
Speaker 2: or my, wife partly because they don't like, me in

1049
00:53:35,680 --> 00:53:38,839
Speaker 2: partly because they don't like that my wife Is. Jewish

1050
00:53:38,960 --> 00:53:41,120
Speaker 2: but you know what you do like and WHAT i?

1051
00:53:41,320 --> 00:53:44,000
Speaker 1: Like what's THAT i like?

1052
00:53:44,080 --> 00:53:46,080
Speaker 2: That you can listen to full episodes of stories just

1053
00:53:46,160 --> 00:53:51,600
Speaker 2: like this On, spotify On, iHeartRadio On apple, podcasts any

1054
00:53:51,600 --> 00:53:53,959
Speaker 2: place where you can listen to. Podcasts all you gotta

1055
00:53:53,960 --> 00:53:56,960
Speaker 2: do is Search okay story time and there you have,

1056
00:53:57,040 --> 00:54:01,680
Speaker 2: it all of. It the, kid the, Kaboodle howdy, doodle my.

1057
00:54:01,760 --> 00:54:04,160
Speaker 1: Noodle WHAT i would like to see this man do

1058
00:54:05,080 --> 00:54:08,359
Speaker 1: is take all of the comments that they've made over

1059
00:54:08,400 --> 00:54:13,720
Speaker 1: the years and sew them together in a consistent response

1060
00:54:13,880 --> 00:54:16,399
Speaker 1: back to. Them let me give you some. Examples, Right

1061
00:54:16,520 --> 00:54:19,400
Speaker 1: so they're, like, hey you, know we need some. Money

1062
00:54:19,560 --> 00:54:21,879
Speaker 1: we need, to, like you, know get out of foreclosure

1063
00:54:21,920 --> 00:54:24,000
Speaker 1: and like at this house and everything's, like, well you,

1064
00:54:24,040 --> 00:54:28,160
Speaker 1: Know i'm Too i'm too dumb and stupid because because you, KNOW,

1065
00:54:28,640 --> 00:54:32,560
Speaker 1: i you, KNOW i wanna BE i wanna be, businessman

1066
00:54:32,760 --> 00:54:36,520
Speaker 1: fast food. Worker could never scrounge up the, pennies the

1067
00:54:36,640 --> 00:54:41,200
Speaker 1: pennies to pinch, together to ever dream of affording to

1068
00:54:41,200 --> 00:54:44,560
Speaker 1: help you Because i'm so stupid and dumb and can't

1069
00:54:44,560 --> 00:54:49,000
Speaker 1: do anything. Right, yeah And i'm so, incapable like like

1070
00:54:49,120 --> 00:54:52,600
Speaker 1: and like get to the point where you're, like what's a? Bank, yeah,

1071
00:54:52,680 --> 00:54:56,440
Speaker 1: YEAH i don't. Understand i'm too, dumb but know how money.

1072
00:54:56,480 --> 00:55:03,200
Speaker 1: WORKS i could never imagine getting on my my princess

1073
00:55:03,239 --> 00:55:09,040
Speaker 1: tricycle and and you, know coming, over riding over to

1074
00:55:09,120 --> 00:55:12,600
Speaker 1: the bank with my pink streamers flying in the, wind

1075
00:55:13,719 --> 00:55:19,160
Speaker 1: to to take my two nickels That i've saved to

1076
00:55:20,360 --> 00:55:24,239
Speaker 1: manage in my in my BRAT'S t shirt that exposes

1077
00:55:24,280 --> 00:55:28,120
Speaker 1: my belly, button to hand my two nickels to the

1078
00:55:28,120 --> 00:55:30,319
Speaker 1: bank that could SAY i want to buy this house

1079
00:55:30,360 --> 00:55:32,160
Speaker 1: for my. FAMILY i could never imagine doing.

1080
00:55:32,200 --> 00:55:36,880
Speaker 2: That, nicholas my familiar loan, DUDE i made them working fast, food,

1081
00:55:37,239 --> 00:55:38,880
Speaker 2: right would you like to insult?

1082
00:55:38,960 --> 00:55:41,839
Speaker 1: Me i'm Stupid love To eat says you should make

1083
00:55:41,880 --> 00:55:44,399
Speaker 1: a score them a scrapbook of all of their own

1084
00:55:44,440 --> 00:55:47,319
Speaker 1: messages and all of. That, yeah like all of, THEM

1085
00:55:47,320 --> 00:55:51,080
Speaker 1: i need is a reply to like their their. Questions

1086
00:55:51,120 --> 00:55:55,279
Speaker 1: that that is WHAT i. NEED i need them to. Understand.

1087
00:55:56,080 --> 00:55:58,799
Speaker 2: YEAH i know that IF i confronted them about, it

1088
00:55:58,840 --> 00:56:01,640
Speaker 2: they would just, say you're you don't need to be,

1089
00:56:01,719 --> 00:56:06,000
Speaker 2: invited just show. Up BUT i, know dang, well they

1090
00:56:06,000 --> 00:56:08,640
Speaker 2: don't want me. There my wife says it's up to

1091
00:56:08,719 --> 00:56:10,360
Speaker 2: me WHETHER i want to help or. Not but she

1092
00:56:10,440 --> 00:56:13,359
Speaker 2: also says that there is power in. MERCY i don't, know,

1093
00:56:13,400 --> 00:56:15,720
Speaker 2: THOUGH i think she's bigger than me in that. Way

1094
00:56:16,120 --> 00:56:18,880
Speaker 2: i'm looking for some outside perspectives on what to do.

1095
00:56:18,960 --> 00:56:22,040
Speaker 2: Here thanks for any Advice reddit and there are some

1096
00:56:22,080 --> 00:56:25,160
Speaker 2: comments and like also on a very real, level you

1097
00:56:25,160 --> 00:56:26,840
Speaker 2: say you have the money for a down payment on the,

1098
00:56:26,880 --> 00:56:29,120
Speaker 2: House LIKE i would try to figure out how to

1099
00:56:29,200 --> 00:56:32,360
Speaker 2: buy this house from the bank one hundred.

1100
00:56:32,400 --> 00:56:36,759
Speaker 1: PERCENT i, think, honestly just freaking leave him to. Flounder,

1101
00:56:37,160 --> 00:56:39,160
Speaker 1: yeah of, course not buy the house from the. Bank

1102
00:56:39,200 --> 00:56:40,160
Speaker 1: don't let them back in.

1103
00:56:40,200 --> 00:56:42,799
Speaker 2: It, yeah because he even, said like their dad was, like,

1104
00:56:42,800 --> 00:56:44,960
Speaker 2: OH i built this house in the back literally for, you,

1105
00:56:45,400 --> 00:56:46,200
Speaker 2: right so you'd.

1106
00:56:46,040 --> 00:56:48,640
Speaker 1: Always have a. Place that's, true immediately disregarded you for.

1107
00:56:48,680 --> 00:56:50,920
Speaker 2: That it's like this is low, key like you had

1108
00:56:50,960 --> 00:56:54,440
Speaker 2: a place to belong in this, house and they squandered

1109
00:56:54,520 --> 00:56:56,400
Speaker 2: their chance to live in the.

1110
00:56:56,400 --> 00:56:58,680
Speaker 1: House, yeah so now you can just go ahead and

1111
00:56:58,719 --> 00:57:01,200
Speaker 1: buy it from the. BANK i think IF opi wants

1112
00:57:01,200 --> 00:57:02,719
Speaker 1: it and it's, like, oh this is a good deal

1113
00:57:02,760 --> 00:57:07,480
Speaker 1: because it's being foreclosed, ON i say. Yes otherwise because

1114
00:57:07,480 --> 00:57:10,080
Speaker 1: he wasn't thinking about it, before he wasn't, like, oh, like,

1115
00:57:10,280 --> 00:57:11,719
Speaker 1: WELL i GUESS i guess they would have to sell

1116
00:57:11,800 --> 00:57:12,480
Speaker 1: like they they.

1117
00:57:12,520 --> 00:57:15,200
Speaker 2: Wouldn't, oh it would just feel so good for me.

1118
00:57:15,400 --> 00:57:19,680
Speaker 2: Personally not The angel. Move it's not The Buddha nirvana

1119
00:57:19,920 --> 00:57:22,960
Speaker 2: move for, Sure BUT i think given the twenty years

1120
00:57:23,000 --> 00:57:25,800
Speaker 2: of history and, CONTEXT i would not be able to.

1121
00:57:25,840 --> 00:57:28,439
Speaker 2: Resist IF i had the means to buy the home

1122
00:57:28,440 --> 00:57:30,880
Speaker 2: out from under, THEM i would one hundred percent do it.

1123
00:57:31,080 --> 00:57:34,640
Speaker 1: It AND i know it was. Me, Yeah i'd let

1124
00:57:34,720 --> 00:57:36,600
Speaker 1: him know it was. Me it would be it would

1125
00:57:36,600 --> 00:57:40,280
Speaker 1: be a little bit just just devilishly. SWEET i CAN'T

1126
00:57:40,320 --> 00:57:43,560
Speaker 1: i can't deny. IT i can't deny. It, yeah it's

1127
00:57:43,600 --> 00:57:45,200
Speaker 1: not like you're hurting your. Family these people aren't your.

1128
00:57:45,200 --> 00:57:52,320
Speaker 2: Family they ostracized, You they expelled. You they exiled you, cruelly.

1129
00:57:52,640 --> 00:57:56,200
Speaker 2: Painfully they tried to hurt you as often as. Possible

1130
00:57:56,520 --> 00:57:57,080
Speaker 2: he's just.

1131
00:57:57,480 --> 00:58:00,600
Speaker 1: Messy ignore the pase for.

1132
00:58:00,720 --> 00:58:03,480
Speaker 2: Money, yes they have no use for you except as

1133
00:58:03,520 --> 00:58:06,880
Speaker 2: a means to continue the life they've always led without.

1134
00:58:06,920 --> 00:58:10,280
Speaker 2: You your wife is a good hearted, person but all

1135
00:58:10,360 --> 00:58:13,360
Speaker 2: you would get would be insults and then more begging,

1136
00:58:14,080 --> 00:58:17,360
Speaker 2: reply Oh, god, yes please follow this. Advice, please, please

1137
00:58:17,360 --> 00:58:19,840
Speaker 2: please please do not give them a single. Cent they

1138
00:58:19,840 --> 00:58:22,760
Speaker 2: cannot even pretend to be kind or respectful when asking

1139
00:58:22,800 --> 00:58:26,040
Speaker 2: you for, tens if not hundreds of thousands of dollars

1140
00:58:26,440 --> 00:58:31,160
Speaker 2: your Rich jewish wife's. Family they mock you even when

1141
00:58:31,360 --> 00:58:34,880
Speaker 2: begging you to bail them. Out, ugh they are, ugly, ugly,

1142
00:58:35,040 --> 00:58:40,400
Speaker 2: ugly undeserving. People come at number, Two ask, yourself IF

1143
00:58:40,440 --> 00:58:42,240
Speaker 2: i was in, trouble would they help?

1144
00:58:42,280 --> 00:58:45,520
Speaker 1: Me if the answer is, no then you know what to.

1145
00:58:45,600 --> 00:58:48,880
Speaker 2: Do that's the end of that. Story that was. Perfect,

1146
00:58:49,200 --> 00:58:51,800
Speaker 2: Wow ask yourself would they do that for?

1147
00:58:51,920 --> 00:58:51,960
Speaker 4: Me?

1148
00:58:52,480 --> 00:58:57,400
Speaker 1: No, yes that they wouldn't do? That, Right, yes yes

1149
00:58:57,520 --> 00:59:02,040
Speaker 1: they would. Not so he that comment and be, like

1150
00:59:02,120 --> 00:59:04,600
Speaker 1: you know, what why WOULD i ever do something that

1151
00:59:04,760 --> 00:59:08,200
Speaker 1: not only would they not do for, me they'll probably be, like, oh,

1152
00:59:08,520 --> 00:59:12,760
Speaker 1: stupid little dumb Dumb burger boys been flipping his burgers

1153
00:59:12,800 --> 00:59:15,560
Speaker 1: all day, long going to business school like a freaking.

1154
00:59:15,640 --> 00:59:18,280
Speaker 2: Idiot they would literally, like use your money to get

1155
00:59:18,320 --> 00:59:20,120
Speaker 2: their house, back and they'd be, like check out the

1156
00:59:20,200 --> 00:59:21,479
Speaker 2: house That burger boy.

1157
00:59:21,600 --> 00:59:26,360
Speaker 1: Built we're not paying back a. Cent stupid stupid idiot

1158
00:59:26,440 --> 00:59:29,080
Speaker 1: gave us his, Money burger, boy and we still have the.

1159
00:59:29,120 --> 00:59:31,480
Speaker 1: House we have a picture with his face on. It

1160
00:59:31,480 --> 00:59:33,080
Speaker 1: we all spin on it at the end of the.

1161
00:59:33,200 --> 00:59:35,880
Speaker 2: Day oh, god it's tradition in our.

1162
00:59:35,960 --> 00:59:38,560
Speaker 1: House oh why WOULD i not be surprised if that's

1163
00:59:38,640 --> 00:59:39,360
Speaker 1: actually what they were.

1164
00:59:39,360 --> 00:59:42,400
Speaker 2: Doing come, on, MAN i just wanted to buy that house,

1165
00:59:42,480 --> 00:59:44,400
Speaker 2: man because it's the real g.

1166
00:59:44,640 --> 00:59:47,040
Speaker 1: Move it's, WELL i can't.

1167
00:59:46,880 --> 00:59:49,200
Speaker 2: Spoil that, movie So i'm not gonna say that, reference but,

1168
00:59:49,440 --> 00:59:51,959
Speaker 2: yeah it's the Real it's the most.

1169
00:59:52,840 --> 00:59:57,000
Speaker 1: Satisfying, honestly the MORE i think about, It i'm, LIKE

1170
00:59:57,120 --> 00:59:59,480
Speaker 1: i just want to be as. FAR i think we

1171
00:59:59,520 --> 01:00:03,080
Speaker 1: need to like just cut him, out, yeah and then

1172
01:00:03,240 --> 01:00:05,720
Speaker 1: just like, Again but they're gonna be so much more

1173
01:00:05,760 --> 01:00:09,720
Speaker 1: annoying and so much harder to cut out if you

1174
01:00:09,760 --> 01:00:13,520
Speaker 1: buy the house restraining order. Police these strange people keep

1175
01:00:13,520 --> 01:00:16,680
Speaker 1: showing up to my private orfully, hopefully but then that's

1176
01:00:16,800 --> 01:00:20,200
Speaker 1: just that's, again that's just getting them to the point

1177
01:00:20,240 --> 01:00:22,720
Speaker 1: where they're they harassed me enough to be me be

1178
01:00:22,800 --> 01:00:24,760
Speaker 1: able to get a restraining, Order LIKE i don't even.

1179
01:00:24,800 --> 01:00:27,040
Speaker 1: WANNA i don't even want to go through. That oh he.

1180
01:00:27,240 --> 01:00:30,760
Speaker 2: Has it has been like no harassment for twenty, years

1181
01:00:30,800 --> 01:00:33,640
Speaker 2: nothing but like slights and insults and.

1182
01:00:33,960 --> 01:00:37,320
Speaker 1: Ignoring so you, KNOW i, mean now you're gonna get some.

1183
01:00:37,360 --> 01:00:41,760
Speaker 1: Attention now you're gonna get your family's gonna be begging

1184
01:00:41,880 --> 01:00:45,280
Speaker 1: for your attention once you buy their house out from under. Them,

1185
01:00:45,320 --> 01:00:48,880
Speaker 1: OH i freaking pray he did not give them a

1186
01:00:49,320 --> 01:00:51,840
Speaker 1: single freaking. Sound AND i don't think. EITHER i think he.

1187
01:00:51,880 --> 01:00:56,000
Speaker 1: Did that's my. Prediction that's my. Prediction that's. All that's

1188
01:00:56,040 --> 01:00:56,520
Speaker 1: all we got