Speaker 1: Hi, and welcome to the It Girl podcast. We're doing
Speaker 1: another solo episode today, which are my favorite. I was
Speaker 1: in the Hamptons all weekend, so I'm feeling a little rough,
Speaker 1: but I was excited to film this episode. So I
Speaker 1: originally was going to do a full mental health episode,
Speaker 1: but I asked on my Instagram story, what questions you
Speaker 1: guys had. And there were a few mental health questions.
Speaker 1: And I realized that I want to designate a little
Speaker 1: bit more time to it. So I'll answer some of
Speaker 1: them today. But I was inundated with questions about body image.
Speaker 1: So I thought it would be interesting to do a
Speaker 1: body image episode. And I'm not necessarily going to speak
Speaker 1: as a public figure. I use that term very loosely.
Speaker 1: But there were a lot of questions of like, how
Speaker 1: do you keep your self-esteem with social media and all that?
Speaker 1: And I just want to talk about it as a
Speaker 1: woman in general, as a person in general, as someone
Speaker 1: who's been on social media for a long time, as
Speaker 1: everybody has. We all had Instagram since high school, middle school, whatever.
Speaker 1: The youngins, since they were born, they've had Instagram and
Speaker 1: TikTok available to them. So I do think your body
Speaker 1: image and your self-esteem is definitely affected when you're more
Speaker 1: in the public eye, but I really just feel like
Speaker 1: it applies to everyone. I don't think, I think everybody's
Speaker 1: living a public life at this point. Everybody's life is
Speaker 1: blasted on social media in some way. And we're so
Speaker 1: heavily encouraged to share everything and we're critiqued and ridiculed
Speaker 1: and arguing with people online and criticizing each other. So
Speaker 1: I just feel like it's universal. And if I'll answer
Speaker 1: some of the questions, cause I understand, you know, wanting
Speaker 1: the insight as someone who's like really public. But I
Speaker 1: just feel like it affects everybody and I feel like
Speaker 1: it transcends being public. I think people were mean to
Speaker 1: me on the internet when I had 100 Instagram followers.
Speaker 1: People are just kind of nasty on the internet and
Speaker 1: critical of each other and I feel like it's important
Speaker 1: just to speak to that in general because I know
Speaker 1: how it feels from people when you are starting. I
Speaker 1: remember people in high school just being nasty and making
Speaker 1: fun of my Instagram and I There was nobody there.
Speaker 1: It's just people are like that. And so I just
Speaker 1: want to talk and speak on dealing with that in general.
Speaker 1: But I was overwhelmed by how many people really asked
Speaker 1: about body image and that's something I've struggled with. So
Speaker 1: I lost 55 pounds when I first moved to New York.
Speaker 1: I was way heavier. I gained a ton of weight
Speaker 1: when I lived in LA. It was a really unhappy time.
Speaker 1: I didn't like living there. I feel like the body
Speaker 1: image and body standards when living in LA backfired on me.
Speaker 1: And it caused me so much stress and so much
Speaker 1: anxiety trying to fit in there. And I mean, I
Speaker 1: feel like I looked great when I got there. I
Speaker 1: was right out of college. And then I just, the pressure,
Speaker 1: the comparison, I was hiking Runyon Canyon all the time.
Speaker 1: And then next thing you know, I gained like 60 pounds.
Speaker 1: And it was a two-year battle when I first moved
Speaker 1: to New York to lose that weight. So I feel
Speaker 1: like I've been on both sides of the spectrum. And
Speaker 1: I know what it takes to lose a ton of
Speaker 1: weight and I know what it is like to look
Speaker 1: in the mirror and be like, how did I blink
Speaker 1: and I gained this much weight and my body looks
Speaker 1: so different and I lost so much control over my body.
Speaker 1: How did I do that? So I've been on both
Speaker 1: sides and I feel like I just have a little
Speaker 1: bit of a different perspective now. I mean, I would
Speaker 1: say I'm the most insecure about my body. If there
Speaker 1: was anything I could wave a magic wand and change,
Speaker 1: wave a magic wand and change, it would be my body.
Speaker 1: I don't like my stomach. I don't like my arms.
Speaker 1: I don't like my legs. I don't like my butt.
Speaker 1: I don't like the back of my legs. I don't
Speaker 1: like the shape of my hips. I don't like the
Speaker 1: shape of my shoulders. I don't like the shape of
Speaker 1: my back, like all of it. So I understand having
Speaker 1: terrible body image, but I also understand what it feels
Speaker 1: like to be in a place where you don't like
Speaker 1: your body. Do the work. bust your ass and lose it.
Speaker 1: And it's the most rewarding, unbelievable feeling. I'm trying to
Speaker 1: get back into that right now. I feel like I
Speaker 1: slipped into a really bad place with depression and I
Speaker 1: slipped into a really bad place with overworking myself and
Speaker 1: not taking care of myself and not prioritizing things. And
Speaker 1: it is one of the worst feelings in the world
Speaker 1: to get super, super in shape and bust your ass
Speaker 1: to get in shape and then lose it. Like I
Speaker 1: know when I get back into the And that is
Speaker 1: so hard to conquer when you've worked so hard to
Speaker 1: get there. And it's like you start from scratch. So
Speaker 1: I'm starting all over again right now. I've gone to
Speaker 1: the gym once. I got my gym membership, went to
Speaker 1: the gym once. And I was like, wow, I am
Speaker 1: not where I was, which is a really, it's a
Speaker 1: tough blow and it's hard. But I think one of
Speaker 1: the things with body image, and I'll get to the questions, is...
Speaker 1: One of the powerful things with your body is that
Speaker 1: for the most part, depending on your situation, you are
Speaker 1: in control. You are in control. It is possible to
Speaker 1: lose weight. It is possible to change little things that
Speaker 1: you want to change. And I don't think necessarily body
Speaker 1: image is all about pure acceptance. I think it also
Speaker 1: is about taking control. If you feel out of control
Speaker 1: in your body, you're not going to feel in control
Speaker 1: in your life. So if your body's in a place
Speaker 1: where genuinely... It's not where you want it to be.
Speaker 1: And it's not just external insecurities or like a blinded
Speaker 1: view of what you look like. If there's genuinely something
Speaker 1: you don't like, it's amazing, I think, to switch into
Speaker 1: the mindset of knowing, you know what, I can do
Speaker 1: something about this. I know that I don't look right
Speaker 1: now the way I want to look, but I feel
Speaker 1: powerful knowing that I can do something about it. It's
Speaker 1: a fixable problem. Everything is fixable. Everything has a solution.
Speaker 1: So if you're in a place where something's a little
Speaker 1: bit not how you want it, things are fixable, things
Speaker 1: are changeable, and you do have the power. And I
Speaker 1: think if you do it for your mental health, and
Speaker 1: I encourage everybody to move, and I think if you
Speaker 1: do it for your mental, the body results are just
Speaker 1: a bonus. I just think I want to encourage so
Speaker 1: many women to just do things the right way. find
Speaker 1: role models who do things in a way that you're like, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's how I want to look in 10 years. I
Speaker 1: want to look like Giselle. I want to be tan.
Speaker 1: I want to have abs. I want to have a
Speaker 1: great butt. I want to be curvy still, but not,
Speaker 1: you know, but healthy. I want to look like I
Speaker 1: work out and take care of myself and ingest things
Speaker 1: and eat things that make me glow and make me
Speaker 1: feel beautiful. I don't want to look like a fillered sickly.
Speaker 1: Like I just think that sickly look is just indicative
Speaker 1: of a future of a lot of problems. I think
Speaker 1: I look at a lot of the women that are
Speaker 1: popular today and are major figures in fashion, and I
Speaker 1: am like, you in 10 years are just going to
Speaker 1: regret this so badly. I see the toll this takes
Speaker 1: on your body. You physically look 15 years older than
Speaker 1: you are. Can you imagine what you're going to look
Speaker 1: like later? I just... I think there's a healthy way
Speaker 1: to do it. I think there's a healthy way to
Speaker 1: take care of yourself. I don't think we're encouraged to
Speaker 1: take care of ourself in a healthy way. I think
Speaker 1: as women, we're encouraged to do things. Even working. Girl boss, go, go, go, go, go. Hustle, hustle, hustle, hustle. More, more, more, more, more. Skinnier, skinnier, skinnier. Bigger, bigger, bigger. Flatter, flatter, flatter.
Speaker 1: It's always these horrible extremes. And I'm like, we have
Speaker 1: to remove the extreme from it and we have to
Speaker 1: find the balance and we have to find the health.
Speaker 1: We're not told, eat healthy, take the best care of yourself.
Speaker 1: We're told, do what you need to do to look
Speaker 1: good by any means necessary. And I'm like, there's a
Speaker 1: way to look good that isn't harmful. There just is.
Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be harmful. And I don't think
Speaker 1: there's anything, I think that's so, we fall on such
Speaker 1: extreme sides of the spectrum. It's either completely accept and
Speaker 1: love yourself the way you are or massively change, follow
Speaker 1: the trends, do what you have to do by any
Speaker 1: means necessary and sacrifice your health to do it. I
Speaker 1: don't think it has to be either or. I really
Speaker 1: think that if you find healthy role models and healthy
Speaker 1: ways to fix something that you think is a problem,
Speaker 1: you're going to feel empowered. You're going to feel good
Speaker 1: about yourself. And I almost feel like it's like a
Speaker 1: trick to keep us from feeling that way. It's like
Speaker 1: if we keep them running to gain weight and running
Speaker 1: to lose weight and running to gain it back and
Speaker 1: running to get implants and running to take them out.
Speaker 1: They won't even notice that they could have done this
Speaker 1: on their own and been empowered to just be healthy
Speaker 1: and just take care of themselves and just handle the
Speaker 1: basics and enjoy themselves. I know it sounds insane, but
Speaker 1: I truly feel like it's a conspiracy to keep women miserable.
Speaker 1: I really, really believe that. I think that they know
Speaker 1: if we're underfed and under taken care of, or recovering
Speaker 1: from surgeries, or terrified of how we look, or terrified
Speaker 1: that we don't fit in, we will be more compliant.
Speaker 1: I know that sounds crazy, but I really believe that.
Speaker 1: It's so extreme every time. I'm like, why do you
Speaker 1: have to have the most insane BBL you've ever seen
Speaker 1: or be the skinniest version of yourself? Because it keeps
Speaker 1: us unhealthy. It keeps us moving towards an unrealistic goal.
Speaker 1: It keeps us either getting surgeries or starving. And what
Speaker 1: are you when you're starving? Exhausted. What are you when
Speaker 1: you're exhausted? Unhappy. Like I just think it's this like
Speaker 1: vicious trick to keep us, I don't even know, honestly docile,
Speaker 1: honestly distracted and unhealthy. And I think when we're unhealthy,
Speaker 1: we're more impulsive. I just think it's a trickle down effect.
Speaker 1: And I just really feel that it is so manageable
Speaker 1: to be a good fit healthy version of yourself. It's
Speaker 1: so possible. It's so manageable. It will make you so
Speaker 1: happy mentally. And I really don't think that that's what's
Speaker 1: wanted on a global scale for women. I don't think
Speaker 1: that at all. I don't think the fashion industry wants that.
Speaker 1: I don't think any industry wants that. So I would
Speaker 1: heavily encourage as much of, I am a deep fashion lover.
Speaker 1: I couldn't survive without fashion. My life would, I'm not
Speaker 1: even joking, be meaningless without it. It fulfills me in
Speaker 1: a way that's like, I can't even describe to people.
Speaker 1: I cannot put into words how much I love clothes
Speaker 1: and fashion and the industry and media and entertainment. I
Speaker 1: love it to the core of my being. But do
Speaker 1: I think we can be heavily manipulated? Yes. Do I
Speaker 1: think keeping women ultra skinny is a manipulation? Yes. Do
Speaker 1: I think constantly getting us to change our views of
Speaker 1: what's beautiful is a massive manipulation? Yes. Be healthy. Be happy.
Speaker 1: You'll be unstoppable. Just a fact. I believe it. I
Speaker 1: believe it. I believe it. There's a lot of questions
Speaker 1: of people just talking about self-esteem in general and self-esteem
Speaker 1: with social media. And again, I don't even think it's
Speaker 1: good advice to say don't compare yourself. It's like, of course,
Speaker 1: you're going to compare yourself. It's human nature. You compare yourself.
Speaker 1: If someone beautiful walks in the room when you're standing
Speaker 1: in line ordering a coffee, you're going to compare yourself.
Speaker 1: It's only natural. And I just think if you're doing
Speaker 1: everything you can to be the healthiest version of yourself,
Speaker 1: even if that means like walking 10,000 steps a day,
Speaker 1: even with me just getting outside and walking, those comparisons
Speaker 1: and those insecurities are going to naturally dissipate. But I
Speaker 1: feel like we're kept on this hamster wheel of, I
Speaker 1: have to do it now. I have to do it now.
Speaker 1: It has to be faster. It has to be quicker.
Speaker 1: And it doesn't. It doesn't. If you are focused on
Speaker 1: your health and you are focused on just quite literally
Speaker 1: taking care of yourself from top to bottom and balance
Speaker 1: and mental health and joy and your mental fortitude and
Speaker 1: strengthening that, you will not be comparing yourself. You won't
Speaker 1: be obsessing over social media and you won't have time
Speaker 1: because honestly, if you're trying to hit 10,000 steps a day,
Speaker 1: you don't even have time to be on TikTok. So
Speaker 1: get your 10,000 steps, which I have found comes out
Speaker 1: to like four miles. Go walk four miles every morning.
Speaker 1: You won't have time to go on social media and
Speaker 1: compare yourself. I'm telling you right now, and you'll feel amazing.
Speaker 1: Men too. If you're going to the gym every day
Speaker 1: and you're doing everything you possibly can to be the
Speaker 1: best version of yourself, you don't need to do anything unhealthy.
Speaker 1: There's no rush. There's no rush. Social media makes you
Speaker 1: feel like it because everything is two seconds long and
Speaker 1: there's so much of it and you're inundated with it,
Speaker 1: but it's not real. Life is not moving that fast.
Speaker 1: Your body doesn't move that fast. Weight loss doesn't move
Speaker 1: that fast. Transformation doesn't move that fast. Growth doesn't move
Speaker 1: that fast. Your mental health doesn't move that fast. It
Speaker 1: takes time. Time is a huge part, I feel like,
Speaker 1: of becoming mentally and physically well. It's time. It's dedication.
Speaker 1: It's consistency. Consistency, by definition, is going to take time.
Speaker 1: You have to do it over and over and over again.
Speaker 1: So just because you're watching social media and it looks
Speaker 1: like somebody worked out in 35 seconds and looked that good,
Speaker 1: that is years in the making. That is years of work.
Speaker 1: And we're moving on this weird time scale that's made
Speaker 1: up by Instagram and TikTok that makes things feel like
Speaker 1: every 30 seconds something's changing and moving and people are
Speaker 1: doing more and people are doing all of this stuff.
Speaker 1: And it's the stuff you don't see. And life doesn't
Speaker 1: work like that. Life does not move at the same
Speaker 1: pace as the internet. So I don't You have to
Speaker 1: remove yourself from the pressures of the internet because it
Speaker 1: is moving at a pace that is not real and
Speaker 1: not true. That is multiple people uploading multiple videos of
Speaker 1: years of hard work that is condensed down into 30 seconds.
Speaker 1: And it feels like 20 people are ahead of you,
Speaker 1: but you didn't see the time that it took them
Speaker 1: to get there. So stop trying to move at the
Speaker 1: pace of social media that is not real time. Things
Speaker 1: take weeks, things take months, things take years. It just
Speaker 1: doesn't feel like that when you're on TikTok because TikTok
Speaker 1: is in its own time. So when I see people
Speaker 1: on social media, I always think there's five years of
Speaker 1: gym work that I literally did not see that went
Speaker 1: into this. So don't be swayed by that and don't
Speaker 1: fall into that. Focus on balance, focus on health, and
Speaker 1: focus on your mental strength. Not other people, not Instagram,
Speaker 1: not TikTok. If it motivates you, great. If it doesn't,
Speaker 1: stop it. Stop it. Truly stop it. Somebody said, what
Speaker 1: do you do when you're not feeling well mentally? I've
Speaker 1: had a really rough couple of months, like a really, really, really,
Speaker 1: really rough couple of months mentally. But I will say
Speaker 1: I took a break. I reevaluated. I took a step
Speaker 1: back and I just realized if I am just balanced,
Speaker 1: if I am just healthy, if I am just doing
Speaker 1: the things that I love, make me feel good, like
Speaker 1: moving my body. If I am just eating well, if
Speaker 1: I am waking up at a reasonable hour, if I've
Speaker 1: given myself enough sleep, if I'm drinking enough water, if
Speaker 1: I am doing those things, if I am doing my
Speaker 1: skincare routine, if I am investing in my skincare and
Speaker 1: getting the things that make me feel good about myself,
Speaker 1: if I am doing those things, my mental health just
Speaker 1: comes along with I can assure you, if you look
Speaker 1: at yourself and you're like, I'm not feeling well mentally,
Speaker 1: it's like, are you ticking those basic boxes? Did you
Speaker 1: walk four miles today? Which I know feels like a lot,
Speaker 1: but it's not just keep going, listen to music. It
Speaker 1: feels amazing. I fell off of it for like six months.
Speaker 1: I just started doing it again. And I'm like, feel
Speaker 1: like a different person? What was I thinking? What was
Speaker 1: I thinking? Like, how did I let it get this bad?
Speaker 1: If you can say, okay, did I get a good
Speaker 1: movement in today? Doesn't have to be a hit workout.
Speaker 1: Doesn't have to be anything crazy. It doesn't even have
Speaker 1: to be four miles. Go walk one mile. Go walk
Speaker 1: for 35 minutes. Go walk for 40 minutes. That's it.
Speaker 1: That's it. Did I move today? Did I drink water?
Speaker 1: Did I get out of bed instead of looking at
Speaker 1: my phone? Like those little teeny tiny things. Did I
Speaker 1: get dressed today? Did I clean up? Have I checked
Speaker 1: some things off my to-do list today and gotten some,
Speaker 1: a couple, just a couple things, just a couple things,
Speaker 1: not everything, just a couple things. I guarantee you cannot
Speaker 1: say yes to all of those things and then say,
Speaker 1: I feel horrible mentally just for that day. And that's
Speaker 1: a big thing just for the day. I have switched
Speaker 1: my mindset and just said, I just need to feel
Speaker 1: good for today. I don't need to worry about tomorrow.
Speaker 1: I don't need to worry about next week. How do
Speaker 1: I feel today? And I promise if you've gotten some movement,
Speaker 1: if you've, gotten your coffee in the morning, you've treated
Speaker 1: yourself to your coffee, just those little teeny tiny things.
Speaker 1: I have had to really reevaluate and be like, okay,
Speaker 1: I think life is a sequence. This is gonna sound
Speaker 1: really cheesy, but I mean it from the bottom of
Speaker 1: my heart. Life is a sequence of really small decisions.
Speaker 1: The big decisions are amazing and the big moments are amazing,
Speaker 1: but life is literally the teeny tiny moments. Life is
Speaker 1: literally getting up, walking to your favorite coffee shop, saying
Speaker 1: hello to your coffee girl in the morning, ordering your delicious,
Speaker 1: I'm a matcha girl, but ordering my delicious matcha, sitting down,
Speaker 1: drinking it, FaceTiming my best friend for five minutes in
Speaker 1: the morning, seeing how she's doing, checking in with her,
Speaker 1: getting off the phone, walking home, taking a shower, or
Speaker 1: putting on my workout clothes and going for a nice walk.
Speaker 1: That's what it is. It's not the big huge moments
Speaker 1: because that's what every day is built up as. If
Speaker 1: you Look at it as a sequence of small decisions
Speaker 1: and small things that you have to do for yourself
Speaker 1: and small moments with yourself instead of chasing things and
Speaker 1: chasing the next big thing and chasing bigger and better.
Speaker 1: You just feel so much more fulfilled. Like you have
Speaker 1: to take the time to just soak it in and
Speaker 1: soak in doing things for yourself. And my, I have
Speaker 1: tried to turn like, I am that person that is
Speaker 1: like instant dopamine hit, instant dopamine hit. I need my phone.
Speaker 1: I need TikTok. I need to shop. I need to
Speaker 1: spend money. I need to do this. I need to
Speaker 1: talk to that guy. I need to do that. Like
Speaker 1: just getting those like little hits of dopamine. It has
Speaker 1: become addictive for me. Like I'll put my moisturizer on
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh. my skin feels so good. I'm
Speaker 1: so happy. That was so nice. I took 35 seconds
Speaker 1: to like massage my face and do a little lymphatic
Speaker 1: while I'm putting on my moisturizer. Like those little things
Speaker 1: that you do for yourself that you know are making
Speaker 1: you look and feel better. Even literally getting my matcha,
Speaker 1: like getting my matcha in the morning is my favorite
Speaker 1: part of the day because I take 10 minutes to
Speaker 1: do something for myself and I like force myself to
Speaker 1: be in the moment and I force myself to just
Speaker 1: be present and let myself enjoy it. And I have
Speaker 1: become addicted to those moments instead of the scrolling, the buying, the,
Speaker 1: all of that stuff, like those instant dopamine hits. I'm like,
Speaker 1: the dopamine is in those small moments where I'm doing
Speaker 1: the things I love and doing something small for myself.
Speaker 1: Like I find my skincare routine to be deeply fulfilling
Speaker 1: to me because I'm taking 10 minutes to just Lather
Speaker 1: myself in luxurious skincare items. Even when I do my
Speaker 1: little red light mask, I'm like, oh, that five minutes,
Speaker 1: I just made my skin look better. I just got
Speaker 1: built collagen. I just relaxed for 10 minutes. And one of,
Speaker 1: this is now I'm going to jump because this is
Speaker 1: one of my favorite self-esteem tips. tips that I've ever
Speaker 1: heard that I've been doing for the past like two weeks.
Speaker 1: So I'm no expert. I've only been doing it for
Speaker 1: two weeks, but I have felt the most massive difference.
Speaker 1: I find that my internal monologue is so cruel and
Speaker 1: so mean to me and so mean about my physical
Speaker 1: appearance and so mean about so many things about myself
Speaker 1: and constantly telling me that everybody hates me and all
Speaker 1: of these things. I do this for 20 minutes every
Speaker 1: day and 20 minutes is really fucking hard. I'm going
Speaker 1: to tell you right now. 20 minutes is really hard.
Speaker 1: You set a timer on your phone for 20 minutes.
Speaker 1: I want you to perfect what you do for yourself
Speaker 1: in the morning. I want you to get out of
Speaker 1: bed when you first wake up and I want you
Speaker 1: to perfect a 10, 15 minute routine, whether that's making
Speaker 1: a coffee, going to get one, making a tea, having
Speaker 1: a bone broth, whatever it is. Starting your day with
Speaker 1: bone broth, you'll feel like the most accomplished person ever.
Speaker 1: I just want to say that you'll feel like the
Speaker 1: skinniest person most unbelievable person in the world because you
Speaker 1: started your day with something warm, got your digestion going.
Speaker 1: It's slow. You have to drink it slow. It forces
Speaker 1: you to slow down in the morning, which is really
Speaker 1: hard for me because I feel like I need to
Speaker 1: jump into my life. But instead, drink something warm that
Speaker 1: you have to sit there and slowly enjoy. Mental testament
Speaker 1: and a practice in mental fortitude. But you set a
Speaker 1: timer for 20 minutes and it's so fucking hard and
Speaker 1: you lay there and you close your eyes and you
Speaker 1: just repeat over and over again, I love myself. And
Speaker 1: you do everything you can to feel it from the
Speaker 1: top of your head to your toes. You feel, feel
Speaker 1: it flow through your body. I love myself. I love myself.
Speaker 1: I love myself. I love myself. And I'm telling you,
Speaker 1: it's massive. You feel your levels just like go down.
Speaker 1: You feel your whole body relax. And those little 20
Speaker 1: minute moments, that hour walk, that 20-minute talk with yourself
Speaker 1: for when you first wake up. You can do it.
Speaker 1: You can literally wake up, set the timer, and do
Speaker 1: it right then and there. Put on some frequency noises
Speaker 1: or whatever you need to wake up. Put on light,
Speaker 1: happy music at a low level and do it then.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you those little 20-minute things, those little 10-minute moments,
Speaker 1: that little five minutes. And even sometimes if I don't
Speaker 1: have a ton of time, when I do my red
Speaker 1: light mask, I will lay there with my eyes closed,
Speaker 1: do my red light mask, know I'm doing what I
Speaker 1: can to make myself feel and look more beautiful. And
Speaker 1: I'm sitting there telling myself for five minutes while it's running,
Speaker 1: I love myself. I love myself. I love myself. And
Speaker 1: you just have to say it till you believe it.
Speaker 1: You just have to say it till you feel it
Speaker 1: in your body. It's just a practice in changing the
Speaker 1: way that your brain works. Just change the way your
Speaker 1: brain thinks. Give it a little relief. Like I... I
Speaker 1: feel bad for my brain sometimes. I'm like, God, it
Speaker 1: must feel so exhausted. Like I'm exhausted being in here.
Speaker 1: I can't imagine how my brain feels. Like my brain
Speaker 1: probably wants a break from this nonsense that I'm constantly
Speaker 1: feeding it and showing it and thinking and making it
Speaker 1: obsess over. I'm like, this poor brain just has to
Speaker 1: be exhausted. So when you are saying positive things and
Speaker 1: you can just kind of feel your whole body lighten
Speaker 1: and lift and you can just feel yourself get lighter
Speaker 1: and you can feel your brain just like, click into
Speaker 1: another wavelength that's just more relaxed, you realize like, oh
Speaker 1: my God, I'm really doing this. I'm really torturing myself.
Speaker 1: Like I am really what's causing this. It's amazing. And
Speaker 1: if you can find fulfillment in those little teeny tiny
Speaker 1: things that you do for yourself, I don't care what
Speaker 1: it is, drinking a tea, Anything that makes you feel good,
Speaker 1: anything that makes you feel a little bit better or
Speaker 1: a little bit like that's what the woman I want
Speaker 1: to be would do. The woman I want to be
Speaker 1: would have a tea in the morning. The woman I
Speaker 1: want to be would do the red light mask. The
Speaker 1: woman I want to be would save the $ 150 for
Speaker 1: the eye cream and really relish in the three minutes
Speaker 1: she has to put that on every night and just
Speaker 1: feel it and enjoy it and slow down and let
Speaker 1: myself take this in and go, oh, I'm doing something
Speaker 1: for myself. I'm going to feel so great when I
Speaker 1: wake up tomorrow and I'm so much brighter. I mean,
Speaker 1: my skin's going to look so good. I'm going to
Speaker 1: feel so great. Oh, I lymphatic drained. I feel so
Speaker 1: much better. My body just feels better. Like just those
Speaker 1: little things, you, they all play into each other. And
Speaker 1: it's all about wanting to be envisioning the person you
Speaker 1: want to be and stepping into it and practicing the
Speaker 1: things that she would practice. And do you want to
Speaker 1: be someone who's heavily insecure and has an eating disorder
Speaker 1: or has disordered eating and is on a medication and
Speaker 1: doesn't feel good all the time and doesn't have any
Speaker 1: energy because they're not eating. Like, is that the person
Speaker 1: you want to be? Or is she just a beautiful, glowing, fit, happy, healthy,
Speaker 1: functional person? You know, if that's who you want to be,
Speaker 1: train your mind to make the decisions that that person
Speaker 1: would make. Make that decision. And I'm telling you, you
Speaker 1: will feel so good and so proud of yourself because
Speaker 1: it really is hard. It really is. Even the little
Speaker 1: five-minute rituals, it's hard. But the practice of doing those
Speaker 1: hard things are what's going to change your brain. And
Speaker 1: it's what's going to build your confidence back up because
Speaker 1: you're going to show yourself that you can do the
Speaker 1: things you set your mind to. And if you can
Speaker 1: do anything you set your mind to, why can't you
Speaker 1: be the skinniest, hottest, fittest girl in the world? You
Speaker 1: can do anything you set your mind to. You're strong.
Speaker 1: You're capable. You're mentally there. You're mentally ready. You know?
Speaker 1: So I don't know. That's my body image advice. I
Speaker 1: don't know if it's good. I don't know if it's helpful.
Speaker 1: I don't know if it resonates. But that's truly how
Speaker 1: I feel about it. And those are the things that
Speaker 1: I've been doing on a daily basis to try to
Speaker 1: just kind of beat this horrible pressure and this horrible
Speaker 1: energy that's put on us as women. and especially as
Speaker 1: women who love fashion and love the industry and love
Speaker 1: media and just watching people waste away, you have to
Speaker 1: realize what a manipulation all of that is. And I really,
Speaker 1: to my core, believe that it is to, no joke,
Speaker 1: slow us down and make us less successful and make
Speaker 1: us tired. I really believe that. I think they like
Speaker 1: keeping us chasing something. I really do. Whether it's for money,
Speaker 1: whether it's control, whatever you think the reason is, I
Speaker 1: do think that media... And fashion and social media and
Speaker 1: all of this is, I do believe it's a conspiracy.
Speaker 1: I really do. Just to keep us, I think it's
Speaker 1: for everything. I think it's just to keep the world distracted.
Speaker 1: I think they want men and women distracted. I think
Speaker 1: they want everybody chasing an unreasonable goal and spending their money.
Speaker 1: I don't think at any point has there ever been
Speaker 1: on a large scale has fashion or media tried to
Speaker 1: promote to us being happy. being content, being mentally strong,
Speaker 1: being fulfilled. Because if we're fulfilled, what are we going
Speaker 1: to buy? If you're fulfilled and you find happiness in yourself,
Speaker 1: what are you going to buy? In their mind, I think.
Speaker 1: In the hive mind, I think that's the collective thought.
Speaker 1: If women are happy, if women have found out that
Speaker 1: they have the power to look however they want to
Speaker 1: look and they have the control over themselves and they
Speaker 1: have control over how they feel and they have control
Speaker 1: over their minds and they have control over their own insecurities,
Speaker 1: what would they buy? you know? And I, look, I still,
Speaker 1: I find enjoyment in buying the little things for myself.
Speaker 1: So I'll always be into that and I'll always want
Speaker 1: to buy things for myself. But I really do think
Speaker 1: you just have to think what's the motivation? Does this
Speaker 1: brand or does this TikToker really care if I'm happy
Speaker 1: and healthy? Do they really care? Does that model really
Speaker 1: care if I look at her and feel bad about myself?
Speaker 1: Probably not. Probably not. So I would just, you know,
Speaker 1: be smart, be critical in how you consume things, be
Speaker 1: critical in Even this, be critical in how you consume.
Speaker 1: Be critical in how you interpret things. Be critical of
Speaker 1: how things make you feel. Be critical of social media.
Speaker 1: Be critical of, you know what, watching these TikToks all
Speaker 1: day makes me feel like shit about myself when I
Speaker 1: could actually be outside walking. I could be at the
Speaker 1: gym walking on the treadmill. I could be going to yoga.
Speaker 1: I could be doing Pilates. I could be doing a
Speaker 1: face mask and just relaxing and thinking about how nice
Speaker 1: it is that this face mask is nourishing me and
Speaker 1: nourishing my skin. Just food for thought. Just some food
Speaker 1: for thought. Just something to think about. But this has
Speaker 1: been my body image episode. I don't know. My body
Speaker 1: image is all over the place. So these are just,
Speaker 1: this is just basically my belief system. But I am
Speaker 1: at Bailey T. Taylor. We are at It Girl, the series.
Speaker 1: And you're all beautiful. You're all amazing. And I really
Speaker 1: just want anyone listening to know you have the power
Speaker 1: to look and feel however you want to look and feel.
Speaker 1: And you don't need anything outside. You need some feet
Speaker 1: to walk on, some arms to lift some weights. and
Speaker 1: a really, really, really, really strong brain, which you can
Speaker 1: build for yourself, and you can have and do anything
Speaker 1: you want. Anything you want. And you don't need any money,
Speaker 1: and you don't need any stuff, and you don't need
Speaker 1: any comparison to do it. You can do it. I
Speaker 1: really believe that. You can do it. You can do
Speaker 1: whatever you set your mind to. I believe that. And
Speaker 1: we will be back next week with another hit girl.