WEBVTT - Body Image, Ozempic Culture & Protecting Your Self-Esteem 0:00:02.190 --> 0:00:09.969 Hi, and welcome to the It Girl podcast. We're doing 0:00:10.010 --> 0:00:13.950 another solo episode today, which are my favorite. I was 0:00:13.970 --> 0:00:17.010 in the Hamptons all weekend, so I'm feeling a little rough, 0:00:17.329 --> 0:00:21.050 but I was excited to film this episode. So I 0:00:21.290 --> 0:00:25.189 originally was going to do a full mental health episode, 0:00:25.610 --> 0:00:29.440 but I asked on my Instagram story, what questions you 0:00:29.480 --> 0:00:31.600 guys had. And there were a few mental health questions. 0:00:31.900 --> 0:00:34.680 And I realized that I want to designate a little 0:00:34.720 --> 0:00:36.760 bit more time to it. So I'll answer some of 0:00:36.840 --> 0:00:42.370 them today. But I was inundated with questions about body image. 0:00:42.430 --> 0:00:43.970 So I thought it would be interesting to do a 0:00:44.729 --> 0:00:48.330 body image episode. And I'm not necessarily going to speak 0:00:48.610 --> 0:00:52.150 as a public figure. I use that term very loosely. 0:00:52.170 --> 0:00:54.580 But there were a lot of questions of like, how 0:00:54.600 --> 0:00:57.730 do you keep your self-esteem with social media and all that? 0:00:57.780 --> 0:00:59.450 And I just want to talk about it as a 0:00:59.490 --> 0:01:01.730 woman in general, as a person in general, as someone 0:01:01.750 --> 0:01:03.330 who's been on social media for a long time, as 0:01:03.390 --> 0:01:07.830 everybody has. We all had Instagram since high school, middle school, whatever. 0:01:07.850 --> 0:01:12.970 The youngins, since they were born, they've had Instagram and 0:01:13.470 --> 0:01:16.440 TikTok available to them. So I do think your body 0:01:16.500 --> 0:01:20.380 image and your self-esteem is definitely affected when you're more 0:01:20.420 --> 0:01:22.220 in the public eye, but I really just feel like 0:01:22.270 --> 0:01:24.830 it applies to everyone. I don't think, I think everybody's 0:01:24.870 --> 0:01:27.929 living a public life at this point. Everybody's life is 0:01:27.990 --> 0:01:30.070 blasted on social media in some way. And we're so 0:01:30.090 --> 0:01:34.530 heavily encouraged to share everything and we're critiqued and ridiculed 0:01:34.610 --> 0:01:38.179 and arguing with people online and criticizing each other. So 0:01:38.220 --> 0:01:42.120 I just feel like it's universal. And if I'll answer 0:01:42.140 --> 0:01:44.100 some of the questions, cause I understand, you know, wanting 0:01:44.120 --> 0:01:48.300 the insight as someone who's like really public. But I 0:01:48.320 --> 0:01:50.030 just feel like it affects everybody and I feel like 0:01:50.110 --> 0:01:53.610 it transcends being public. I think people were mean to 0:01:53.640 --> 0:01:56.150 me on the internet when I had 100 Instagram followers. 0:01:56.450 --> 0:01:58.490 People are just kind of nasty on the internet and 0:01:58.630 --> 0:02:00.510 critical of each other and I feel like it's important 0:02:00.550 --> 0:02:03.390 just to speak to that in general because I know 0:02:03.430 --> 0:02:08.690 how it feels from people when you are starting. I 0:02:09.630 --> 0:02:12.450 remember people in high school just being nasty and making 0:02:12.490 --> 0:02:16.190 fun of my Instagram and I There was nobody there. 0:02:16.210 --> 0:02:17.989 It's just people are like that. And so I just 0:02:18.010 --> 0:02:21.669 want to talk and speak on dealing with that in general. 0:02:21.710 --> 0:02:23.980 But I was overwhelmed by how many people really asked 0:02:24.020 --> 0:02:27.200 about body image and that's something I've struggled with. So 0:02:28.500 --> 0:02:33.600 I lost 55 pounds when I first moved to New York. 0:02:33.620 --> 0:02:37.280 I was way heavier. I gained a ton of weight 0:02:37.320 --> 0:02:39.510 when I lived in LA. It was a really unhappy time. 0:02:39.610 --> 0:02:43.049 I didn't like living there. I feel like the body 0:02:43.130 --> 0:02:46.570 image and body standards when living in LA backfired on me. 0:02:46.669 --> 0:02:48.829 And it caused me so much stress and so much 0:02:48.889 --> 0:02:52.710 anxiety trying to fit in there. And I mean, I 0:02:52.750 --> 0:02:54.450 feel like I looked great when I got there. I 0:02:54.470 --> 0:02:58.450 was right out of college. And then I just, the pressure, 0:02:58.470 --> 0:03:01.780 the comparison, I was hiking Runyon Canyon all the time. 0:03:01.810 --> 0:03:04.500 And then next thing you know, I gained like 60 pounds. 0:03:05.040 --> 0:03:08.460 And it was a two-year battle when I first moved 0:03:08.480 --> 0:03:10.600 to New York to lose that weight. So I feel 0:03:10.620 --> 0:03:13.310 like I've been on both sides of the spectrum. And 0:03:13.410 --> 0:03:14.870 I know what it takes to lose a ton of 0:03:14.889 --> 0:03:16.549 weight and I know what it is like to look 0:03:16.590 --> 0:03:19.169 in the mirror and be like, how did I blink 0:03:19.290 --> 0:03:21.290 and I gained this much weight and my body looks 0:03:21.370 --> 0:03:23.730 so different and I lost so much control over my body. 0:03:24.169 --> 0:03:26.310 How did I do that? So I've been on both 0:03:26.440 --> 0:03:30.100 sides and I feel like I just have a little 0:03:30.120 --> 0:03:32.220 bit of a different perspective now. I mean, I would 0:03:32.260 --> 0:03:34.220 say I'm the most insecure about my body. If there 0:03:34.240 --> 0:03:37.320 was anything I could wave a magic wand and change, 0:03:37.760 --> 0:03:40.540 wave a magic wand and change, it would be my body. 0:03:40.790 --> 0:03:42.390 I don't like my stomach. I don't like my arms. 0:03:42.450 --> 0:03:44.250 I don't like my legs. I don't like my butt. 0:03:44.380 --> 0:03:46.640 I don't like the back of my legs. I don't 0:03:46.660 --> 0:03:48.820 like the shape of my hips. I don't like the 0:03:48.840 --> 0:03:51.180 shape of my shoulders. I don't like the shape of 0:03:51.240 --> 0:03:55.680 my back, like all of it. So I understand having 0:03:56.340 --> 0:04:02.020 terrible body image, but I also understand what it feels 0:04:02.080 --> 0:04:04.700 like to be in a place where you don't like 0:04:04.740 --> 0:04:08.520 your body. Do the work. bust your ass and lose it. 0:04:08.610 --> 0:04:11.330 And it's the most rewarding, unbelievable feeling. I'm trying to 0:04:11.350 --> 0:04:13.570 get back into that right now. I feel like I 0:04:13.660 --> 0:04:17.640 slipped into a really bad place with depression and I 0:04:17.700 --> 0:04:21.520 slipped into a really bad place with overworking myself and 0:04:21.580 --> 0:04:24.940 not taking care of myself and not prioritizing things. And 0:04:25.140 --> 0:04:27.280 it is one of the worst feelings in the world 0:04:27.580 --> 0:04:30.620 to get super, super in shape and bust your ass 0:04:30.660 --> 0:04:32.940 to get in shape and then lose it. Like I 0:04:32.980 --> 0:04:37.570 know when I get back into the And that is 0:04:37.730 --> 0:04:41.270 so hard to conquer when you've worked so hard to 0:04:41.310 --> 0:04:44.210 get there. And it's like you start from scratch. So 0:04:44.250 --> 0:04:46.520 I'm starting all over again right now. I've gone to 0:04:46.540 --> 0:04:48.560 the gym once. I got my gym membership, went to 0:04:48.600 --> 0:04:50.719 the gym once. And I was like, wow, I am 0:04:50.800 --> 0:04:53.620 not where I was, which is a really, it's a 0:04:53.660 --> 0:04:56.960 tough blow and it's hard. But I think one of 0:04:57.000 --> 0:05:00.779 the things with body image, and I'll get to the questions, is... 0:05:01.820 --> 0:05:03.640 One of the powerful things with your body is that 0:05:03.700 --> 0:05:06.620 for the most part, depending on your situation, you are 0:05:06.760 --> 0:05:10.060 in control. You are in control. It is possible to 0:05:10.540 --> 0:05:12.880 lose weight. It is possible to change little things that 0:05:12.900 --> 0:05:16.710 you want to change. And I don't think necessarily body 0:05:16.790 --> 0:05:20.850 image is all about pure acceptance. I think it also 0:05:21.010 --> 0:05:23.350 is about taking control. If you feel out of control 0:05:23.370 --> 0:05:25.130 in your body, you're not going to feel in control 0:05:25.410 --> 0:05:27.670 in your life. So if your body's in a place 0:05:27.770 --> 0:05:31.820 where genuinely... It's not where you want it to be. 0:05:32.279 --> 0:05:35.670 And it's not just external insecurities or like a blinded 0:05:35.760 --> 0:05:38.290 view of what you look like. If there's genuinely something 0:05:38.310 --> 0:05:41.970 you don't like, it's amazing, I think, to switch into 0:05:41.990 --> 0:05:43.590 the mindset of knowing, you know what, I can do 0:05:43.650 --> 0:05:46.210 something about this. I know that I don't look right 0:05:46.250 --> 0:05:48.450 now the way I want to look, but I feel 0:05:48.750 --> 0:05:52.390 powerful knowing that I can do something about it. It's 0:05:52.430 --> 0:05:55.990 a fixable problem. Everything is fixable. Everything has a solution. 0:05:56.440 --> 0:05:58.080 So if you're in a place where something's a little 0:05:58.100 --> 0:06:00.320 bit not how you want it, things are fixable, things 0:06:00.420 --> 0:06:02.620 are changeable, and you do have the power. And I 0:06:02.660 --> 0:06:05.500 think if you do it for your mental health, and 0:06:05.520 --> 0:06:07.700 I encourage everybody to move, and I think if you 0:06:07.730 --> 0:06:10.950 do it for your mental, the body results are just 0:06:11.170 --> 0:06:14.010 a bonus. I just think I want to encourage so 0:06:14.050 --> 0:06:17.250 many women to just do things the right way. find 0:06:17.370 --> 0:06:19.680 role models who do things in a way that you're like, yeah, 0:06:19.690 --> 0:06:21.660 that's how I want to look in 10 years. I 0:06:21.700 --> 0:06:23.480 want to look like Giselle. I want to be tan. 0:06:23.500 --> 0:06:24.980 I want to have abs. I want to have a 0:06:25.000 --> 0:06:29.940 great butt. I want to be curvy still, but not, 0:06:30.420 --> 0:06:32.380 you know, but healthy. I want to look like I 0:06:32.400 --> 0:06:34.720 work out and take care of myself and ingest things 0:06:34.779 --> 0:06:37.500 and eat things that make me glow and make me 0:06:37.540 --> 0:06:40.620 feel beautiful. I don't want to look like a fillered sickly. 0:06:40.680 --> 0:06:44.950 Like I just think that sickly look is just indicative 0:06:45.290 --> 0:06:48.110 of a future of a lot of problems. I think 0:06:48.150 --> 0:06:49.570 I look at a lot of the women that are 0:06:49.630 --> 0:06:54.860 popular today and are major figures in fashion, and I 0:06:54.920 --> 0:06:57.500 am like, you in 10 years are just going to 0:06:57.560 --> 0:07:00.860 regret this so badly. I see the toll this takes 0:07:00.920 --> 0:07:03.900 on your body. You physically look 15 years older than 0:07:03.940 --> 0:07:05.840 you are. Can you imagine what you're going to look 0:07:05.880 --> 0:07:09.780 like later? I just... I think there's a healthy way 0:07:09.800 --> 0:07:11.260 to do it. I think there's a healthy way to 0:07:11.290 --> 0:07:13.370 take care of yourself. I don't think we're encouraged to 0:07:13.390 --> 0:07:15.190 take care of ourself in a healthy way. I think 0:07:15.330 --> 0:07:28.310 as women, we're encouraged to do things. Even working. Girl boss, go, go, go, go, go. Hustle, hustle, hustle, hustle. More, more, more, more, more. Skinnier, skinnier, skinnier. Bigger, bigger, bigger. Flatter, flatter, flatter. 0:07:28.490 --> 0:07:33.790 It's always these horrible extremes. And I'm like, we have 0:07:33.830 --> 0:07:36.350 to remove the extreme from it and we have to 0:07:36.390 --> 0:07:38.470 find the balance and we have to find the health. 0:07:38.510 --> 0:07:41.150 We're not told, eat healthy, take the best care of yourself. 0:07:41.170 --> 0:07:42.590 We're told, do what you need to do to look 0:07:42.610 --> 0:07:44.870 good by any means necessary. And I'm like, there's a 0:07:44.910 --> 0:07:48.230 way to look good that isn't harmful. There just is. 0:07:48.590 --> 0:07:50.770 It doesn't have to be harmful. And I don't think 0:07:50.810 --> 0:07:54.030 there's anything, I think that's so, we fall on such 0:07:54.090 --> 0:07:56.650 extreme sides of the spectrum. It's either completely accept and 0:07:56.670 --> 0:08:00.500 love yourself the way you are or massively change, follow 0:08:00.510 --> 0:08:02.180 the trends, do what you have to do by any 0:08:02.240 --> 0:08:04.600 means necessary and sacrifice your health to do it. I 0:08:04.640 --> 0:08:06.980 don't think it has to be either or. I really 0:08:07.080 --> 0:08:10.800 think that if you find healthy role models and healthy 0:08:11.600 --> 0:08:15.310 ways to fix something that you think is a problem, 0:08:15.350 --> 0:08:16.930 you're going to feel empowered. You're going to feel good 0:08:16.950 --> 0:08:18.630 about yourself. And I almost feel like it's like a 0:08:18.750 --> 0:08:21.110 trick to keep us from feeling that way. It's like 0:08:21.150 --> 0:08:23.830 if we keep them running to gain weight and running 0:08:23.870 --> 0:08:25.670 to lose weight and running to gain it back and 0:08:25.770 --> 0:08:27.790 running to get implants and running to take them out. 0:08:28.070 --> 0:08:29.770 They won't even notice that they could have done this 0:08:29.830 --> 0:08:33.670 on their own and been empowered to just be healthy 0:08:34.290 --> 0:08:36.949 and just take care of themselves and just handle the 0:08:36.990 --> 0:08:40.690 basics and enjoy themselves. I know it sounds insane, but 0:08:40.730 --> 0:08:45.030 I truly feel like it's a conspiracy to keep women miserable. 0:08:45.380 --> 0:08:48.439 I really, really believe that. I think that they know 0:08:48.520 --> 0:08:52.270 if we're underfed and under taken care of, or recovering 0:08:52.330 --> 0:08:56.550 from surgeries, or terrified of how we look, or terrified 0:08:56.590 --> 0:09:00.010 that we don't fit in, we will be more compliant. 0:09:00.170 --> 0:09:02.410 I know that sounds crazy, but I really believe that. 0:09:02.850 --> 0:09:05.630 It's so extreme every time. I'm like, why do you 0:09:05.650 --> 0:09:08.689 have to have the most insane BBL you've ever seen 0:09:09.070 --> 0:09:11.650 or be the skinniest version of yourself? Because it keeps 0:09:11.710 --> 0:09:15.770 us unhealthy. It keeps us moving towards an unrealistic goal. 0:09:16.190 --> 0:09:22.480 It keeps us either getting surgeries or starving. And what 0:09:22.500 --> 0:09:24.640 are you when you're starving? Exhausted. What are you when 0:09:24.660 --> 0:09:27.459 you're exhausted? Unhappy. Like I just think it's this like 0:09:27.620 --> 0:09:32.800 vicious trick to keep us, I don't even know, honestly docile, 0:09:33.380 --> 0:09:39.439 honestly distracted and unhealthy. And I think when we're unhealthy, 0:09:39.480 --> 0:09:42.020 we're more impulsive. I just think it's a trickle down effect. 0:09:42.460 --> 0:09:46.800 And I just really feel that it is so manageable 0:09:47.500 --> 0:09:53.500 to be a good fit healthy version of yourself. It's 0:09:53.580 --> 0:09:56.200 so possible. It's so manageable. It will make you so 0:09:56.300 --> 0:10:00.920 happy mentally. And I really don't think that that's what's 0:10:00.940 --> 0:10:02.960 wanted on a global scale for women. I don't think 0:10:02.980 --> 0:10:05.080 that at all. I don't think the fashion industry wants that. 0:10:05.220 --> 0:10:08.460 I don't think any industry wants that. So I would 0:10:08.520 --> 0:10:11.730 heavily encourage as much of, I am a deep fashion lover. 0:10:11.770 --> 0:10:14.130 I couldn't survive without fashion. My life would, I'm not 0:10:14.170 --> 0:10:16.750 even joking, be meaningless without it. It fulfills me in 0:10:16.790 --> 0:10:19.090 a way that's like, I can't even describe to people. 0:10:19.250 --> 0:10:22.390 I cannot put into words how much I love clothes 0:10:22.490 --> 0:10:26.430 and fashion and the industry and media and entertainment. I 0:10:26.630 --> 0:10:29.270 love it to the core of my being. But do 0:10:29.309 --> 0:10:32.770 I think we can be heavily manipulated? Yes. Do I 0:10:32.790 --> 0:10:36.770 think keeping women ultra skinny is a manipulation? Yes. Do 0:10:36.790 --> 0:10:39.569 I think constantly getting us to change our views of 0:10:39.610 --> 0:10:45.000 what's beautiful is a massive manipulation? Yes. Be healthy. Be happy. 0:10:45.010 --> 0:10:48.089 You'll be unstoppable. Just a fact. I believe it. I 0:10:48.110 --> 0:10:50.630 believe it. I believe it. There's a lot of questions 0:10:50.809 --> 0:10:54.570 of people just talking about self-esteem in general and self-esteem 0:10:54.590 --> 0:10:58.290 with social media. And again, I don't even think it's 0:10:58.320 --> 0:11:00.900 good advice to say don't compare yourself. It's like, of course, 0:11:00.920 --> 0:11:03.439 you're going to compare yourself. It's human nature. You compare yourself. 0:11:03.500 --> 0:11:05.500 If someone beautiful walks in the room when you're standing 0:11:05.520 --> 0:11:07.780 in line ordering a coffee, you're going to compare yourself. 0:11:07.880 --> 0:11:10.320 It's only natural. And I just think if you're doing 0:11:10.420 --> 0:11:14.380 everything you can to be the healthiest version of yourself, 0:11:14.450 --> 0:11:17.250 even if that means like walking 10,000 steps a day, 0:11:17.330 --> 0:11:20.630 even with me just getting outside and walking, those comparisons 0:11:20.670 --> 0:11:23.429 and those insecurities are going to naturally dissipate. But I 0:11:23.470 --> 0:11:27.420 feel like we're kept on this hamster wheel of, I 0:11:27.460 --> 0:11:28.560 have to do it now. I have to do it now. 0:11:28.620 --> 0:11:31.020 It has to be faster. It has to be quicker. 0:11:31.320 --> 0:11:35.199 And it doesn't. It doesn't. If you are focused on 0:11:35.240 --> 0:11:40.130 your health and you are focused on just quite literally 0:11:40.190 --> 0:11:43.069 taking care of yourself from top to bottom and balance 0:11:43.290 --> 0:11:48.290 and mental health and joy and your mental fortitude and 0:11:48.390 --> 0:11:51.710 strengthening that, you will not be comparing yourself. You won't 0:11:51.730 --> 0:11:53.469 be obsessing over social media and you won't have time 0:11:53.490 --> 0:11:55.550 because honestly, if you're trying to hit 10,000 steps a day, 0:11:55.600 --> 0:11:57.439 you don't even have time to be on TikTok. So 0:11:57.580 --> 0:12:00.180 get your 10,000 steps, which I have found comes out 0:12:00.200 --> 0:12:02.840 to like four miles. Go walk four miles every morning. 0:12:03.480 --> 0:12:04.699 You won't have time to go on social media and 0:12:04.740 --> 0:12:06.929 compare yourself. I'm telling you right now, and you'll feel amazing. 0:12:07.170 --> 0:12:08.969 Men too. If you're going to the gym every day 0:12:08.990 --> 0:12:10.650 and you're doing everything you possibly can to be the 0:12:10.690 --> 0:12:13.110 best version of yourself, you don't need to do anything unhealthy. 0:12:13.150 --> 0:12:16.720 There's no rush. There's no rush. Social media makes you 0:12:16.800 --> 0:12:19.780 feel like it because everything is two seconds long and 0:12:19.800 --> 0:12:22.140 there's so much of it and you're inundated with it, 0:12:22.760 --> 0:12:26.070 but it's not real. Life is not moving that fast. 0:12:26.750 --> 0:12:29.370 Your body doesn't move that fast. Weight loss doesn't move 0:12:29.410 --> 0:12:32.660 that fast. Transformation doesn't move that fast. Growth doesn't move 0:12:32.700 --> 0:12:35.739 that fast. Your mental health doesn't move that fast. It 0:12:35.780 --> 0:12:38.460 takes time. Time is a huge part, I feel like, 0:12:38.480 --> 0:12:42.000 of becoming mentally and physically well. It's time. It's dedication. 0:12:42.070 --> 0:12:46.630 It's consistency. Consistency, by definition, is going to take time. 0:12:47.230 --> 0:12:48.949 You have to do it over and over and over again. 0:12:48.990 --> 0:12:51.089 So just because you're watching social media and it looks 0:12:51.110 --> 0:12:53.690 like somebody worked out in 35 seconds and looked that good, 0:12:54.050 --> 0:12:56.930 that is years in the making. That is years of work. 0:12:57.250 --> 0:13:00.350 And we're moving on this weird time scale that's made 0:13:00.390 --> 0:13:03.189 up by Instagram and TikTok that makes things feel like 0:13:03.290 --> 0:13:05.840 every 30 seconds something's changing and moving and people are 0:13:05.890 --> 0:13:08.280 doing more and people are doing all of this stuff. 0:13:08.320 --> 0:13:10.860 And it's the stuff you don't see. And life doesn't 0:13:10.900 --> 0:13:13.059 work like that. Life does not move at the same 0:13:13.100 --> 0:13:16.340 pace as the internet. So I don't You have to 0:13:16.400 --> 0:13:18.739 remove yourself from the pressures of the internet because it 0:13:18.800 --> 0:13:21.180 is moving at a pace that is not real and 0:13:21.260 --> 0:13:25.470 not true. That is multiple people uploading multiple videos of 0:13:26.130 --> 0:13:29.150 years of hard work that is condensed down into 30 seconds. 0:13:29.170 --> 0:13:31.010 And it feels like 20 people are ahead of you, 0:13:31.410 --> 0:13:33.510 but you didn't see the time that it took them 0:13:33.550 --> 0:13:36.090 to get there. So stop trying to move at the 0:13:36.130 --> 0:13:38.870 pace of social media that is not real time. Things 0:13:38.970 --> 0:13:42.189 take weeks, things take months, things take years. It just 0:13:42.210 --> 0:13:44.590 doesn't feel like that when you're on TikTok because TikTok 0:13:45.030 --> 0:13:48.830 is in its own time. So when I see people 0:13:48.870 --> 0:13:51.860 on social media, I always think there's five years of 0:13:51.910 --> 0:13:53.720 gym work that I literally did not see that went 0:13:53.760 --> 0:13:57.520 into this. So don't be swayed by that and don't 0:13:57.540 --> 0:14:02.440 fall into that. Focus on balance, focus on health, and 0:14:02.520 --> 0:14:09.040 focus on your mental strength. Not other people, not Instagram, 0:14:09.320 --> 0:14:11.660 not TikTok. If it motivates you, great. If it doesn't, 0:14:11.830 --> 0:14:26.150 stop it. Stop it. Truly stop it. Somebody said, what 0:14:26.170 --> 0:14:29.190 do you do when you're not feeling well mentally? I've 0:14:29.230 --> 0:14:32.090 had a really rough couple of months, like a really, really, really, 0:14:32.210 --> 0:14:35.160 really rough couple of months mentally. But I will say 0:14:35.180 --> 0:14:37.820 I took a break. I reevaluated. I took a step 0:14:37.860 --> 0:14:42.120 back and I just realized if I am just balanced, 0:14:42.420 --> 0:14:45.870 if I am just healthy, if I am just doing 0:14:45.880 --> 0:14:48.110 the things that I love, make me feel good, like 0:14:48.170 --> 0:14:51.090 moving my body. If I am just eating well, if 0:14:51.150 --> 0:14:53.030 I am waking up at a reasonable hour, if I've 0:14:53.050 --> 0:14:55.890 given myself enough sleep, if I'm drinking enough water, if 0:14:56.490 --> 0:14:58.250 I am doing those things, if I am doing my 0:14:58.320 --> 0:15:01.940 skincare routine, if I am investing in my skincare and 0:15:01.980 --> 0:15:03.880 getting the things that make me feel good about myself, 0:15:04.280 --> 0:15:07.400 if I am doing those things, my mental health just 0:15:07.500 --> 0:15:10.640 comes along with I can assure you, if you look 0:15:10.680 --> 0:15:12.600 at yourself and you're like, I'm not feeling well mentally, 0:15:12.640 --> 0:15:14.830 it's like, are you ticking those basic boxes? Did you 0:15:14.870 --> 0:15:17.110 walk four miles today? Which I know feels like a lot, 0:15:17.130 --> 0:15:19.190 but it's not just keep going, listen to music. It 0:15:19.210 --> 0:15:22.630 feels amazing. I fell off of it for like six months. 0:15:22.690 --> 0:15:24.530 I just started doing it again. And I'm like, feel 0:15:24.570 --> 0:15:27.200 like a different person? What was I thinking? What was 0:15:27.250 --> 0:15:29.290 I thinking? Like, how did I let it get this bad? 0:15:29.580 --> 0:15:32.040 If you can say, okay, did I get a good 0:15:32.100 --> 0:15:34.080 movement in today? Doesn't have to be a hit workout. 0:15:34.120 --> 0:15:35.700 Doesn't have to be anything crazy. It doesn't even have 0:15:35.720 --> 0:15:37.720 to be four miles. Go walk one mile. Go walk 0:15:37.760 --> 0:15:39.920 for 35 minutes. Go walk for 40 minutes. That's it. 0:15:40.180 --> 0:15:43.240 That's it. Did I move today? Did I drink water? 0:15:44.380 --> 0:15:45.880 Did I get out of bed instead of looking at 0:15:45.900 --> 0:15:49.040 my phone? Like those little teeny tiny things. Did I 0:15:49.100 --> 0:15:52.230 get dressed today? Did I clean up? Have I checked 0:15:52.270 --> 0:15:54.410 some things off my to-do list today and gotten some, 0:15:54.590 --> 0:15:56.770 a couple, just a couple things, just a couple things, 0:15:56.810 --> 0:16:00.680 not everything, just a couple things. I guarantee you cannot 0:16:00.720 --> 0:16:02.640 say yes to all of those things and then say, 0:16:02.820 --> 0:16:05.920 I feel horrible mentally just for that day. And that's 0:16:05.960 --> 0:16:08.800 a big thing just for the day. I have switched 0:16:08.880 --> 0:16:11.100 my mindset and just said, I just need to feel 0:16:11.140 --> 0:16:13.600 good for today. I don't need to worry about tomorrow. 0:16:13.640 --> 0:16:15.100 I don't need to worry about next week. How do 0:16:15.140 --> 0:16:19.120 I feel today? And I promise if you've gotten some movement, 0:16:19.920 --> 0:16:24.760 if you've, gotten your coffee in the morning, you've treated 0:16:24.800 --> 0:16:28.380 yourself to your coffee, just those little teeny tiny things. 0:16:28.400 --> 0:16:31.220 I have had to really reevaluate and be like, okay, 0:16:31.280 --> 0:16:33.240 I think life is a sequence. This is gonna sound 0:16:33.260 --> 0:16:34.720 really cheesy, but I mean it from the bottom of 0:16:34.740 --> 0:16:38.340 my heart. Life is a sequence of really small decisions. 0:16:39.080 --> 0:16:41.920 The big decisions are amazing and the big moments are amazing, 0:16:42.220 --> 0:16:46.980 but life is literally the teeny tiny moments. Life is 0:16:47.060 --> 0:16:50.650 literally getting up, walking to your favorite coffee shop, saying 0:16:50.690 --> 0:16:53.710 hello to your coffee girl in the morning, ordering your delicious, 0:16:53.730 --> 0:16:57.650 I'm a matcha girl, but ordering my delicious matcha, sitting down, 0:16:57.890 --> 0:17:00.550 drinking it, FaceTiming my best friend for five minutes in 0:17:00.570 --> 0:17:02.580 the morning, seeing how she's doing, checking in with her, 0:17:02.960 --> 0:17:06.359 getting off the phone, walking home, taking a shower, or 0:17:06.420 --> 0:17:09.500 putting on my workout clothes and going for a nice walk. 0:17:10.300 --> 0:17:14.560 That's what it is. It's not the big huge moments 0:17:14.600 --> 0:17:16.609 because that's what every day is built up as. If 0:17:16.640 --> 0:17:20.700 you Look at it as a sequence of small decisions 0:17:21.220 --> 0:17:23.720 and small things that you have to do for yourself 0:17:23.859 --> 0:17:29.230 and small moments with yourself instead of chasing things and 0:17:29.310 --> 0:17:33.570 chasing the next big thing and chasing bigger and better. 0:17:33.590 --> 0:17:39.250 You just feel so much more fulfilled. Like you have 0:17:39.310 --> 0:17:41.350 to take the time to just soak it in and 0:17:41.490 --> 0:17:44.520 soak in doing things for yourself. And my, I have 0:17:44.540 --> 0:17:48.080 tried to turn like, I am that person that is 0:17:48.119 --> 0:17:51.360 like instant dopamine hit, instant dopamine hit. I need my phone. 0:17:51.380 --> 0:17:52.960 I need TikTok. I need to shop. I need to 0:17:53.010 --> 0:17:54.700 spend money. I need to do this. I need to 0:17:55.119 --> 0:17:56.790 talk to that guy. I need to do that. Like 0:17:56.850 --> 0:17:59.570 just getting those like little hits of dopamine. It has 0:17:59.609 --> 0:18:03.169 become addictive for me. Like I'll put my moisturizer on 0:18:03.190 --> 0:18:06.060 and I'm like, oh. my skin feels so good. I'm 0:18:06.119 --> 0:18:08.520 so happy. That was so nice. I took 35 seconds 0:18:08.560 --> 0:18:11.419 to like massage my face and do a little lymphatic 0:18:11.440 --> 0:18:14.000 while I'm putting on my moisturizer. Like those little things 0:18:14.020 --> 0:18:16.100 that you do for yourself that you know are making 0:18:16.140 --> 0:18:20.020 you look and feel better. Even literally getting my matcha, 0:18:20.040 --> 0:18:22.540 like getting my matcha in the morning is my favorite 0:18:22.859 --> 0:18:25.219 part of the day because I take 10 minutes to 0:18:25.260 --> 0:18:28.460 do something for myself and I like force myself to 0:18:28.500 --> 0:18:30.440 be in the moment and I force myself to just 0:18:30.480 --> 0:18:33.010 be present and let myself enjoy it. And I have 0:18:33.700 --> 0:18:38.420 become addicted to those moments instead of the scrolling, the buying, the, 0:18:38.500 --> 0:18:41.070 all of that stuff, like those instant dopamine hits. I'm like, 0:18:41.090 --> 0:18:45.090 the dopamine is in those small moments where I'm doing 0:18:45.130 --> 0:18:47.669 the things I love and doing something small for myself. 0:18:47.690 --> 0:18:51.210 Like I find my skincare routine to be deeply fulfilling 0:18:51.230 --> 0:18:56.790 to me because I'm taking 10 minutes to just Lather 0:18:56.850 --> 0:19:00.369 myself in luxurious skincare items. Even when I do my 0:19:00.410 --> 0:19:02.510 little red light mask, I'm like, oh, that five minutes, 0:19:02.550 --> 0:19:04.890 I just made my skin look better. I just got 0:19:04.950 --> 0:19:11.300 built collagen. I just relaxed for 10 minutes. And one of, 0:19:11.340 --> 0:19:12.720 this is now I'm going to jump because this is 0:19:12.780 --> 0:19:17.730 one of my favorite self-esteem tips. tips that I've ever 0:19:17.770 --> 0:19:19.690 heard that I've been doing for the past like two weeks. 0:19:19.730 --> 0:19:21.570 So I'm no expert. I've only been doing it for 0:19:21.609 --> 0:19:26.010 two weeks, but I have felt the most massive difference. 0:19:26.250 --> 0:19:30.409 I find that my internal monologue is so cruel and 0:19:30.650 --> 0:19:33.080 so mean to me and so mean about my physical 0:19:33.100 --> 0:19:36.400 appearance and so mean about so many things about myself 0:19:36.440 --> 0:19:38.659 and constantly telling me that everybody hates me and all 0:19:38.680 --> 0:19:41.960 of these things. I do this for 20 minutes every 0:19:41.980 --> 0:19:45.060 day and 20 minutes is really fucking hard. I'm going 0:19:45.080 --> 0:19:47.080 to tell you right now. 20 minutes is really hard. 0:19:47.340 --> 0:19:48.950 You set a timer on your phone for 20 minutes. 0:19:49.980 --> 0:19:51.980 I want you to perfect what you do for yourself 0:19:52.020 --> 0:19:53.340 in the morning. I want you to get out of 0:19:53.380 --> 0:19:54.960 bed when you first wake up and I want you 0:19:54.980 --> 0:19:57.600 to perfect a 10, 15 minute routine, whether that's making 0:19:57.640 --> 0:20:00.790 a coffee, going to get one, making a tea, having 0:20:00.830 --> 0:20:02.869 a bone broth, whatever it is. Starting your day with 0:20:02.910 --> 0:20:05.510 bone broth, you'll feel like the most accomplished person ever. 0:20:05.550 --> 0:20:06.609 I just want to say that you'll feel like the 0:20:06.690 --> 0:20:09.090 skinniest person most unbelievable person in the world because you 0:20:09.109 --> 0:20:11.830 started your day with something warm, got your digestion going. 0:20:12.130 --> 0:20:14.430 It's slow. You have to drink it slow. It forces 0:20:14.470 --> 0:20:16.250 you to slow down in the morning, which is really 0:20:16.270 --> 0:20:17.470 hard for me because I feel like I need to 0:20:17.570 --> 0:20:20.909 jump into my life. But instead, drink something warm that 0:20:20.930 --> 0:20:26.310 you have to sit there and slowly enjoy. Mental testament 0:20:26.470 --> 0:20:29.800 and a practice in mental fortitude. But you set a 0:20:29.820 --> 0:20:32.060 timer for 20 minutes and it's so fucking hard and 0:20:32.100 --> 0:20:33.629 you lay there and you close your eyes and you 0:20:33.650 --> 0:20:38.060 just repeat over and over again, I love myself. And 0:20:38.080 --> 0:20:39.879 you do everything you can to feel it from the 0:20:39.920 --> 0:20:44.130