WEBVTT - Dating A Free Man

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. Whoa holy shit?

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<v Speaker 1>Hi do there girl?

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<v Speaker 2>Hi baby?

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<v Speaker 1>This is Meela, This is Erica, and this here show

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<v Speaker 1>is called Good Mom's Bad Choices. Are you ready to

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<v Speaker 1>talk about the good and the bad and the ugly.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't worry, guys, we won't do this the whole episode.

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<v Speaker 2>Why not?

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<v Speaker 1>I love it here.

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<v Speaker 2>I loved when Mila walked in to Day. I told

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<v Speaker 2>her she looked like Heidi.

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<v Speaker 1>Except I don't know how they from Sweden accent, so

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<v Speaker 1>I just went with Annie from the farm. How do

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<v Speaker 1>you do a Swedish accent? Hello? Hello, Hello, I'm hello Hello.

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<v Speaker 1>It Susie Annie. Yeah. My accent from down south as

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<v Speaker 1>much easy. I gotta work on my Swedish accent from

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<v Speaker 1>the prairie.

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<v Speaker 2>I think we just got to look on YouTube. I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like you could find it.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, do is that what we need to do? We

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<v Speaker 1>need to work on our accents?

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe Okay, you never know, I might have to bust

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<v Speaker 2>them out, yeah, you know, because we're gonna be voiceover

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<v Speaker 2>actress actresses. Because I'm tired of not being featured on dipsy.

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<v Speaker 1>Yep, I'm putting on my resume.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna just put it out there now, dipsy. We

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<v Speaker 2>deserve to be sex actors on your on your virtual

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<v Speaker 2>and not virtual, your audio app.

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<v Speaker 1>Because maybe you guys can like start requesting it for us.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe if we're like the people are just craving for it.

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<v Speaker 2>We won't do that accent.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I promise I'll be sexy.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, very sexy.

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<v Speaker 1>It's late at night. It was raining and I was

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<v Speaker 1>sitting in my.

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<v Speaker 3>Car when I got the call. Hello, Oh hey baby, hey,

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<v Speaker 3>oh what are you doing?

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<v Speaker 2>I was just sitting here thinking about you.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so crazy because I was thinking about you, and

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<v Speaker 1>so is she. Oh my god, my pussy has been

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<v Speaker 1>wet just thinking about it. My pussy is throbbing. Are

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<v Speaker 1>you home? Yes, I'm coming through. Keep the door unlocked

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<v Speaker 1>and get naked. See you soon, baby, on the way.

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<v Speaker 1>It can get better. We're gonna practice.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's our audition tape. Dipsy, this is it. Any

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<v Speaker 2>other sex abs hit us up.

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<v Speaker 1>If Dipsy doesn't get with the program, we're gonna cheat

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<v Speaker 1>and go somewhere else.

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<v Speaker 2>Tipsy, this is.

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<v Speaker 1>Your final fucking callback. Script. There's a script.

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<v Speaker 2>There's a script.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, can't I drop it?

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<v Speaker 2>What the fuck?

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<v Speaker 1>This is the most technical?

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<v Speaker 2>Should read it right now? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>We should. How the fuck is may so fucking I've

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<v Speaker 1>been looking for links my whole life. She just find

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<v Speaker 1>them in twenty seconds.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, Hi, how are you?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm great, I'm great. How are are you, honey, I'm good.

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<v Speaker 1>It's been so long since we sat here alone. It's weird.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like getting ready today, I was like kind

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<v Speaker 1>of excited, even though I'm like, I don't know what

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<v Speaker 1>we're talking about, doesn't matter. I can't wait to see

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<v Speaker 1>my friend. Yeah, we just be talking, even though I

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<v Speaker 1>just saw this bitch twenty four hours. Agay, did you

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<v Speaker 1>know but about thirty five?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, thirty five.

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<v Speaker 1>It's rarely there's a time we go more than forty

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<v Speaker 1>eight to seventy two hours without seeing each other. It

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<v Speaker 1>never happens without speaking to each other. It just doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>fucking exist morning, noon, and night text messages. Do we

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<v Speaker 1>need to go to fast? I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Is that a friend fast?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I don't want to do it.

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<v Speaker 2>No.

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<v Speaker 1>I like the way that sounds. People going.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's just like when people just don't like

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<v Speaker 2>each other anymore, right, No.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, maybe just people like breaks everything. I think there's

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<v Speaker 1>healthy boundaries.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that like, as our friendship grows, we subconsciously

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<v Speaker 2>create some a little bit, but not really. No, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know. No, Well, recently Jamila was like, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>her her booth thang is moving to LA and my

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<v Speaker 2>booth thang is potentially moving to La too, and she's like,

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<v Speaker 2>should they move in together?

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, She's like boundaries. I'm like okay. I

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<v Speaker 1>was just like, that seems like too much?

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<v Speaker 2>Can we talking about us?

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<v Speaker 1>That was our first thing. Now they're gonna be talking

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<v Speaker 1>to you.

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<v Speaker 2>They gonna be get in a fight that the person's

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<v Speaker 2>gonna know about it. It's just too much.

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<v Speaker 1>That's true. I mean, I don't know who's you know,

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<v Speaker 1>just joining us and who's listening. But you know, we

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<v Speaker 1>we religiously get into relationships around the same time with

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<v Speaker 1>similar niggas. They're not no, they're not similar. But the

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<v Speaker 1>last time I got into the last they were nerds

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<v Speaker 1>and these these two are cooler and more like out

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<v Speaker 1>of the box and they get along. We always like

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<v Speaker 1>somehow our entergy is like here you go, these will

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<v Speaker 1>go together, perfect and we're like perfect, thank you. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>it's over. So it's over her too. I'm so sorry

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<v Speaker 1>to do this to you, but Eric had broke up

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<v Speaker 1>with so and so. So you know what that means. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I'm probably not gonna break up with my

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<v Speaker 1>man for quite some time. So we're safe, okay, good

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<v Speaker 1>or ever not? Sometimes looking at the calendar and you

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<v Speaker 1>know we're good for at least twelve to eighteen months.

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<v Speaker 1>So Hi, Orlando, my boyfriend edits our audio. So there's

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<v Speaker 1>not a fucking I'm not safe anywhere, No rock is.

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<v Speaker 2>I just want to say right now, I'm gonna be

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<v Speaker 2>like Joe, this is all for entertainment purposes. Nothing I

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<v Speaker 2>say can be held against me in the court of

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<v Speaker 2>law or in any form of fashion.

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<v Speaker 1>In boyfriend court, in regular court, in all the courts

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<v Speaker 1>of the land, international court. Anything we say is for entertainment.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't wink. I'm serious as fuck. This is audio, bitch,

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<v Speaker 2>I know, but it's also YouTube.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. So we've so much to catch the people up on.

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<v Speaker 1>How's your your new boo that's now moving to LA

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<v Speaker 1>How do you feel about that?

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<v Speaker 2>Wow? You're really just gonna put me on the spot, aren't.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, what kind of show do we have? Like

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<v Speaker 1>the kind of where you like pretend or the kind

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<v Speaker 1>of where you're keep it real? Because last time I checked,

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<v Speaker 1>we tell all our business.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I am. I'm excited. I'm excited, but I

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<v Speaker 2>also know that he's moving not for me, He's moving

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<v Speaker 2>for things. I'm part of those things. But I'm just

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<v Speaker 2>excited because I feel like we are very much We're

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<v Speaker 2>very different, but we understand each other. We understand how

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<v Speaker 2>one another communicates. I'm a very direct communicator and it

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<v Speaker 2>can be harsh, and he understands that and he lets

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<v Speaker 2>me do that, which is really great because I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like in my relationships generally, like feel I've always felt

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<v Speaker 2>like I had well, my previous longest relationship, I felt

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<v Speaker 2>like I had to kind of like really be so

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<v Speaker 2>careful about how I say anything, like really think about it.

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<v Speaker 2>I couldn't just like say how I feel in that moment,

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<v Speaker 2>and even when I did really think about it, the

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<v Speaker 2>nigga didn't get it, never was received well. So I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like our communication styles I've this is the first

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<v Speaker 2>person I've met where I feel I really feel like

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<v Speaker 2>our communication styles are aligned, which makes me really ecit

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<v Speaker 2>because I feel like that's like the basis for everything.

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<v Speaker 1>And he's beautiful and he's smart and he's a scorpio.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm smitted.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, I know you're smitting bitch. Oh, I know, I

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<v Speaker 1>know it's my friend we're such water signs. We'd be

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<v Speaker 1>getting smitten and they'd be like, come with us everywhere.

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<v Speaker 1>You like me, I like you to come with us everywhere.

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<v Speaker 1>Our niggas have literally traveled with us to like all

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<v Speaker 1>of our appearances in the last three months. They're so supportive,

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<v Speaker 1>they're so sweet, the sweetest shit I've ever seen. We do.

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<v Speaker 1>We talk about this in Atlanta when we were in Atlanta.

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<v Speaker 1>We okay, they came to Atlanta with us when we

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<v Speaker 1>did a panel, and we partied the night before because

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<v Speaker 1>good moms. And then the next morning we had to

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<v Speaker 1>be at the panel at like fucking ten am. But

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<v Speaker 1>then we were so extra we got our makeup done

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<v Speaker 1>at like seven am. So we're both like miserable in

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<v Speaker 1>the makeup chair, so pissed off. And then I was

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<v Speaker 1>like telling Orlando, I'm like, you don't really, you don't

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<v Speaker 1>have to come. You could sleep. He's like, I'm gonna come.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to be there. So the panel didn't start

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<v Speaker 1>for like an extra hour. They're they're in the audience,

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<v Speaker 1>the only men, only men. It's a women's it's a

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<v Speaker 1>women's conference. They're the only men in the audience. While

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<v Speaker 1>we do a like two hour panel. We're like taking

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<v Speaker 1>pictures from the back, like look at them looking at us.

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<v Speaker 1>That is so cute.

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<v Speaker 2>They had got zero sleep, none.

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<v Speaker 1>It was acute. They were like holding our purses.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I think my guy had sunglasses on the

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<v Speaker 2>whole time.

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<v Speaker 1>He did, he did, but they were so supportive they

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<v Speaker 1>took pictures. It was really sweet. I don't know how

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<v Speaker 1>they did it, because I don't know if I could

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<v Speaker 1>have done the same, But they walked, they did all

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<v Speaker 1>the things with us, and it felt really good. And

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<v Speaker 1>then they came with us again to another panel recently

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<v Speaker 1>and they weren't allowed. They didn't they were they were't

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<v Speaker 1>allowed there. They wouldn't give us a plus fun even

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<v Speaker 1>though we should have snuck them in.

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<v Speaker 2>I would have stood stood out. We even snuck them

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<v Speaker 2>into the party. And you missed that part in Atlanta.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh and Atlanta, we were also because we had to

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<v Speaker 1>go to a panel, but the night before we had

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<v Speaker 1>to do like a gala, like a very like important party,

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<v Speaker 1>and they told us we couldn't bring a plus one

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<v Speaker 1>and we said fuck.

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<v Speaker 2>That no, especially because I told my niggas like kind

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<v Speaker 2>of like fashionable, he's a fashion icon. Who am I kidding,

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<v Speaker 2>and he was like he like got the suit out,

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<v Speaker 2>like he like went and you were like.

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<v Speaker 1>My man bought new shoes. He's gonna get in expensive.

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<v Speaker 1>Should thought we were going to like the top clubs.

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<v Speaker 2>Like he got his Nikels done like he was he was,

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<v Speaker 2>he was right, Yeah, he got them trimmed. He was

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<v Speaker 2>looking and he looked and I was like, I need

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<v Speaker 2>to see him in the suit. And so the niggas

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<v Speaker 2>coming to the party.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was like, Eric, we're gonna get docked if

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<v Speaker 1>they find out we're sneaky niggas into the party that

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<v Speaker 1>they told the specifically told us do not bring a

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<v Speaker 1>plus one. We're like, I literally was.

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<v Speaker 2>I tried to convince them. I'm like, they had a natural.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you say that? Did you say that in an

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<v Speaker 1>actual email? It was fun. I didn't see you send

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<v Speaker 1>an email that said our niggers have natural hair? Can

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<v Speaker 1>they police come? Wait? Can you please just say the

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<v Speaker 1>whole email? Like what the fuck do you mean? As

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<v Speaker 1>if they give a shit like how would I have

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<v Speaker 1>natural hair? Well, let them in.

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<v Speaker 2>I did. What was the email?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, I didn't see that email, but I

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<v Speaker 1>can't believe that you tried it anyway, we gotta have a.

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<v Speaker 2>Whole chain from the event. It was the natural Hair show,

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<v Speaker 2>so that was trying to sell.

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<v Speaker 1>That they're never going to ask us to come back

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<v Speaker 1>if they hear this. But oh my god, it was

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<v Speaker 1>a great, beautiful show and apparently they didn't care that

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<v Speaker 1>our boyfriends have natural hair. They did it, but we

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<v Speaker 1>didn't carry either because guess what we did. We get

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<v Speaker 1>to the event and we're like, stay back's stay back,

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<v Speaker 1>let's just feel it out to seem begin sneak you in,

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<v Speaker 1>and of course there's like everyone's inside and there's someone

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<v Speaker 1>at the door with the list. I was like, bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>we're not gonna be able to get them in. She

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<v Speaker 1>was like no. So I was like, I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>our names are Dada da. And then we went to

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<v Speaker 1>the bar and I was like, look on the list

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<v Speaker 1>and see who's not crossed out. To find two male

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<v Speaker 1>names that are not crossed out. She's like, okay, I said,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I thought for sure this. I thought for

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<v Speaker 1>sure she's gonna let it go. No, I said, okay, no.

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<v Speaker 2>She had a full beautiful ass suit on with new

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<v Speaker 2>Christian bluebaton.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me tell you how did like when Erica sets

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<v Speaker 1>her mind to do some shit. This ship is getting done. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>this bitch goes back to the podium where the list is.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what she said to these women. She's

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<v Speaker 1>pretending to small talk while looking at the list. I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, yeah, so what's in the gift bag?

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<v Speaker 2>Like who are some of the sponsors?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, that's cool, Oh you have kids? The women who

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<v Speaker 1>are like at the door. Then she comes back Edward

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<v Speaker 1>g Alfred c I'm like.

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<v Speaker 2>What, No, I had their full last name.

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<v Speaker 1>It was Edward Williams Alfred Calhoun. I'm like write it

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<v Speaker 1>to text them.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, text them now, texting those names.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like some I'm texting just say you're Alfred

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<v Speaker 1>whatever and Edward Cowhun. I'm like, when if they fucking come.

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<v Speaker 1>So then we get to the table, I'm like, look,

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<v Speaker 1>there's two seats next to us. They can come.

0:13:05.080 --> 0:13:06.920
<v Speaker 2>It was literally like God wanted them to come sit

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<v Speaker 2>next to us. The table was had perfect amount of

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<v Speaker 2>seating open just for our niggas.

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<v Speaker 1>So we told them they use the names and then

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<v Speaker 1>they didn't have these names because my nigga is a

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<v Speaker 1>con artist. He was like, oh, I already made friends

0:13:17.520 --> 0:13:20.480
<v Speaker 1>with men from accounting. He's like, yeah, George McCowen, already,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, be cool. I told her, I said, Hi,

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<v Speaker 1>don't you.

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<v Speaker 2>Remember I snucked them through the back, bitch, I snucked

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<v Speaker 2>them through the.

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<v Speaker 1>She snugged them to the back.

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<v Speaker 2>And then they made friends, and then they made friend

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<v Speaker 2>They assimilated quick.

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<v Speaker 1>So they had made friends with whoever works at the

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<v Speaker 1>actual company. And we, first of all, it wasn't that

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<v Speaker 1>many people there. We weren't shy about it. They were

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<v Speaker 1>obviously our niggas. Somebody who wrote the email like telling

0:13:41.920 --> 0:13:44.360
<v Speaker 1>us no was like these bitches. If any of them

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<v Speaker 1>realized who we were and all these amount of emails

0:13:46.559 --> 0:13:48.679
<v Speaker 1>we begged to have these plus ones, and then looked

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<v Speaker 1>around one time and saw these bitches and snuck in

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<v Speaker 1>their plus one, then we're so ghetto. We're like taking

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<v Speaker 1>pictures on their lap, like at the intermission.

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<v Speaker 2>Like.

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<v Speaker 1>It was so get out. But by that time we

0:14:03.520 --> 0:14:06.560
<v Speaker 1>were drunk, so it didn't matter. We do that. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>can we please insert these pictures because they're so fucking extra. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>if you're looking to book us for a speaking engagement,

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<v Speaker 1>always give us a plus one. We're great even when

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<v Speaker 1>we sneak people in we are.

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<v Speaker 2>We had a great time.

0:14:23.160 --> 0:14:25.480
<v Speaker 1>We delivered and they were great. We needed the support,

0:14:25.520 --> 0:14:25.920
<v Speaker 1>so they're a.

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<v Speaker 2>Great support system. They're great sidekicks. They just do their

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<v Speaker 2>own thing. It was wonderful.

0:14:31.600 --> 0:14:39.400
<v Speaker 1>Can you tell we're in love. They're great, natural hair, wonderful. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, it's interesting to be in a relationship two

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<v Speaker 1>years later. Remember this is around the time we got

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<v Speaker 1>in relationships two years ago.

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<v Speaker 2>That I have to tell you. Oh my god, that's

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<v Speaker 2>so crazy.

0:14:48.480 --> 0:14:51.080
<v Speaker 1>You're saying that. Okay, I'll tell you something later. You know. Honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>this is like a PSA announcement for women. If you

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<v Speaker 1>if something feels off, go with it. I've dated probably

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<v Speaker 1>at least two to four possible killers. Yeah for sure.

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<v Speaker 1>And I knew it, and I said, you might kill me.

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<v Speaker 1>You might. I could feel it, and it took about

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<v Speaker 1>six to twelve months, but mostly I got out of

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<v Speaker 1>it before I got marked. So if you feel like

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<v Speaker 1>you maybe you're gonna end up on the ID channel,

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<v Speaker 1>just get out and get the fuck out because it

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<v Speaker 1>could happen to you. I could look at the ID channel.

0:15:17.360 --> 0:15:19.920
<v Speaker 1>It happens to bitches every day. You're special, You're not

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<v Speaker 1>people kill Sorry that was the PSA announcement.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyway, I have a good feeling about these men that

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think they're killers. No, no, no, they're not giving

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<v Speaker 2>killer vibe, No, none at all. You're giving just like

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<v Speaker 2>supportive freaky vibes.

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<v Speaker 1>Yep, just like having freak vibes. That's like, that's my

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<v Speaker 1>that's my mom. I like a supportive freaky What was loving? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I was. You know, I'm navigating a new and new

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<v Speaker 1>space with this relationship because although I should have all

0:15:48.360 --> 0:15:51.120
<v Speaker 1>my life been in non monogamous relationships, this isn't the

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<v Speaker 1>one that I finally it's been mutual and I haven't

0:15:55.120 --> 0:15:59.400
<v Speaker 1>lied and cheated, so it is non monogamous. So it's

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<v Speaker 1>it has posed a lot of challenges for me because

0:16:01.920 --> 0:16:06.040
<v Speaker 1>I've realized I'm a little crazy and jealous, and it

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<v Speaker 1>does make me check myself a lot, which I do

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<v Speaker 1>not like doing. I don't like to be told what

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<v Speaker 1>to do. I don't like to be told I'm wrong

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<v Speaker 1>even when I am wrong, and I like to rebel

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<v Speaker 1>like I'm sixteen still, which you know I'm not. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>now a thirty four, thirty four year old woman, and yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I was at the light the other day and I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, huh, I don't have anything to worry about.

0:16:34.120 --> 0:16:38.120
<v Speaker 1>M feel so strange. Wow, I have anything to worry about. Like,

0:16:38.120 --> 0:16:42.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm not stressed, I'm not worried about you doing some functionhit,

0:16:43.080 --> 0:16:44.600
<v Speaker 1>not worry about what you're doing when you're not with me.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not worried about what you're doing another bitch. I

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<v Speaker 1>mean sometimes, but not really. And it was just like

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<v Speaker 1>so odd that I have normalized being worried in relationships,

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<v Speaker 1>and like, I just realized at that moment at the light,

0:16:58.160 --> 0:16:59.920
<v Speaker 1>Like I say, my mom worried about my dad's so

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<v Speaker 1>fucking much, chase him so fucking much. My parents came

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<v Speaker 1>over the other day and she's like, where are you going.

0:17:04.880 --> 0:17:06.920
<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh my god, everybody needs to get out.

0:17:06.920 --> 0:17:08.879
<v Speaker 1>But I realized I told Ashley this. She was like

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<v Speaker 1>standing up in the house. I was like, where are

0:17:10.560 --> 0:17:13.120
<v Speaker 1>you going? She's like, WHOA, Relax, I'm standing up. I'm

0:17:13.119 --> 0:17:17.040
<v Speaker 1>gonna have abandonment issues, but I do I get worried.

0:17:17.200 --> 0:17:20.720
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, Wow, this is so bizarre to

0:17:20.920 --> 0:17:24.000
<v Speaker 1>not be worried about the things that I'm usually worried about.

0:17:24.640 --> 0:17:29.720
<v Speaker 1>So like being healthy, insecure and sitting in it is

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<v Speaker 1>very strange because it feels like I should be worrying

0:17:31.720 --> 0:17:33.479
<v Speaker 1>about something, and then I'm like, am I gonna make

0:17:33.520 --> 0:17:35.280
<v Speaker 1>myself worry about something because I'm good for that.

0:17:35.240 --> 0:17:38.000
<v Speaker 2>Too, Or create something to worry about?

0:17:38.040 --> 0:17:40.000
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, create something to worry about and I have, you know,

0:17:40.160 --> 0:17:42.200
<v Speaker 1>and not that I've created it. There are some things

0:17:42.480 --> 0:17:46.840
<v Speaker 1>niggas can get cursed out for, but overall, it's really

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<v Speaker 1>safe and I feel, like you said, like we have

0:17:48.960 --> 0:17:53.000
<v Speaker 1>a good communication and sometimes like I don't like to

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<v Speaker 1>be jealous out loud. I'd just like to do it

0:17:54.680 --> 0:17:57.800
<v Speaker 1>to tell my friends like, oh yeah, it's all good.

0:17:57.960 --> 0:18:02.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm fucking pissed, Eric, piss little help now, I'm fine,

0:18:02.840 --> 0:18:04.960
<v Speaker 1>it's not bad, I'm good. Yeah, tell you back. Oh yeah,

0:18:05.240 --> 0:18:06.760
<v Speaker 1>oh no, I'm all good. I'm fine. I'll clie back.

0:18:07.400 --> 0:18:11.080
<v Speaker 1>Fucking motherfucker is like, you're crazy. I'm like, no, i'm not.

0:18:11.240 --> 0:18:13.040
<v Speaker 1>But I don't like to care publicly.

0:18:14.119 --> 0:18:14.879
<v Speaker 2>I care in private.

0:18:15.000 --> 0:18:18.160
<v Speaker 1>I care in private. I'm jealous privately. I'm cool in public.

0:18:18.640 --> 0:18:20.880
<v Speaker 1>If you couldn't tell I'm cool now.

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<v Speaker 2>Everybody knows though, sh shut the fuck.

0:18:26.640 --> 0:18:29.560
<v Speaker 1>But yeah, Like, just learning to be accountable for my

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<v Speaker 1>own actions and recognize when some shit is not healthy

0:18:34.160 --> 0:18:37.840
<v Speaker 1>and where I need to like apologize, which also I

0:18:37.880 --> 0:18:41.399
<v Speaker 1>hate a lot. I don't like to apologize. Better at

0:18:41.440 --> 0:18:45.719
<v Speaker 1>texting apologies, I'm better at communicating in texts in general.

0:18:46.240 --> 0:18:48.600
<v Speaker 2>You did make him get off the phone to text you, huh,

0:18:48.960 --> 0:18:50.639
<v Speaker 2>he said, She's like niggas trying to confuse you on

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<v Speaker 2>the phone.

0:18:52.800 --> 0:18:54.520
<v Speaker 1>These niggas, you know what they do. They call you

0:18:54.600 --> 0:18:55.320
<v Speaker 1>and confuse you.

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<v Speaker 2>Keep it on text.

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<v Speaker 1>It's true.

0:18:57.240 --> 0:18:58.880
<v Speaker 2>It's like, you're not wrong.

0:18:58.680 --> 0:19:00.719
<v Speaker 1>It's true. You don't let me conversations. I've been like,

0:19:00.880 --> 0:19:04.879
<v Speaker 1>what is he saying? I don't know? Huh yeah, okay,

0:19:04.960 --> 0:19:07.720
<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry. Why back? And then I think about it,

0:19:07.760 --> 0:19:11.280
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, not sorry, Actually this is some bullshit, am am.

0:19:11.320 --> 0:19:14.439
<v Speaker 1>I just trying to be right sometimes, but sometimes they

0:19:14.520 --> 0:19:16.000
<v Speaker 1>be trying to confuse you. So keep it on text

0:19:16.080 --> 0:19:17.359
<v Speaker 1>just so you can. You got to be able to

0:19:17.359 --> 0:19:20.040
<v Speaker 1>analyze the thoughts. You gotta be analyzed what they saying

0:19:20.040 --> 0:19:22.359
<v Speaker 1>because they try to talk backwards. Men talk in a

0:19:22.400 --> 0:19:25.639
<v Speaker 1>different language called Martian, and so you got to be

0:19:25.680 --> 0:19:27.760
<v Speaker 1>able to like show your friends so they can.

0:19:27.920 --> 0:19:29.840
<v Speaker 2>So we can all dissect it and make sure we

0:19:29.880 --> 0:19:32.919
<v Speaker 2>can double check. We can check Google, we can you know,

0:19:33.040 --> 0:19:36.920
<v Speaker 2>check the thesaurus. Research this with synonyms, because some of

0:19:36.960 --> 0:19:38.119
<v Speaker 2>their words mean other things.

0:19:38.880 --> 0:19:41.720
<v Speaker 1>Literally, I tell I show Erica and then she points

0:19:41.720 --> 0:19:43.240
<v Speaker 1>out the things and I'm like, you know what. I

0:19:43.320 --> 0:19:46.320
<v Speaker 1>knew I was missing something. I was like, you're right,

0:19:46.520 --> 0:19:48.679
<v Speaker 1>say that again. What you said the last time. He

0:19:48.800 --> 0:19:50.280
<v Speaker 1>was trying to confuse me. I know that's how I'd

0:19:50.400 --> 0:19:52.159
<v Speaker 1>run it past you, my wife.

0:19:54.000 --> 0:19:56.439
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, No, it's true. They do try to confuse you.

0:19:56.560 --> 0:20:01.080
<v Speaker 2>Because on phone, I'm like, okay, well, hi, oh my god,

0:20:01.240 --> 0:20:03.360
<v Speaker 2>I've had so many have you ever had a fight. High,

0:20:04.119 --> 0:20:06.880
<v Speaker 2>We don't care, there's no fight. Oh my god, I've

0:20:06.880 --> 0:20:08.919
<v Speaker 2>had fights. I'm like people that. They're like, tell me

0:20:08.920 --> 0:20:11.520
<v Speaker 2>what I did, and I'm like, I forgot. They're like,

0:20:11.840 --> 0:20:13.399
<v Speaker 2>you said I did this, Tell me about it.

0:20:13.440 --> 0:20:14.160
<v Speaker 1>When did it happen?

0:20:14.200 --> 0:20:15.600
<v Speaker 2>How did it go? And I'm like, oh my god,

0:20:15.600 --> 0:20:18.960
<v Speaker 2>that's so many questions. I'm like, oh no, I'm like,

0:20:19.000 --> 0:20:20.320
<v Speaker 2>I know it happened. Did it happen?

0:20:20.359 --> 0:20:22.399
<v Speaker 1>I'm high, tell me what to say. Let me call

0:20:22.440 --> 0:20:27.160
<v Speaker 1>you back, yo, I'm Queena. I'm a Cira back. Somebody

0:20:27.160 --> 0:20:28.800
<v Speaker 1>just walked in. I got back, like what we're in

0:20:28.800 --> 0:20:33.399
<v Speaker 1>my conversation. No, I got cooked. Bye, Oh my god,

0:20:33.720 --> 0:20:35.919
<v Speaker 1>don't text something. Don't get in a fight on the phone.

0:20:36.119 --> 0:20:38.439
<v Speaker 1>Don't get in the fight. Hih Hi, You're gonna get

0:20:38.480 --> 0:20:39.280
<v Speaker 1>confused quickly.

0:20:39.560 --> 0:20:45.200
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. But yeah, communication, I feel like that is that's

0:20:45.240 --> 0:20:49.280
<v Speaker 2>like the biggest lesson that I've learned, period in all relationships.

0:20:49.320 --> 0:20:52.800
<v Speaker 2>And I finally feel like I've met somebody that like

0:20:53.200 --> 0:20:56.639
<v Speaker 2>I can like literally was like, hey, when you have it,

0:20:56.640 --> 0:20:58.760
<v Speaker 2>when you have an issue, just like say it immediately,

0:20:59.000 --> 0:21:01.880
<v Speaker 2>like don't hold back. He's like, like, within the first

0:21:01.960 --> 0:21:03.879
<v Speaker 2>five seconds of you feeling like you have one, like

0:21:03.960 --> 0:21:06.280
<v Speaker 2>just say it. And I was like what, And he

0:21:06.359 --> 0:21:07.960
<v Speaker 2>was like, I'm serious, Like just say it. He's like,

0:21:07.960 --> 0:21:10.320
<v Speaker 2>I'm trying to tell you like my love language and

0:21:10.359 --> 0:21:13.160
<v Speaker 2>how I work and how I how I can, how

0:21:13.200 --> 0:21:15.680
<v Speaker 2>we can communicate because that's and I'm like, that's exactly

0:21:15.720 --> 0:21:18.000
<v Speaker 2>what I always want to do, but I can't.

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<v Speaker 1>I've I've trained myself not to me too, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>halmost like don't.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't. I still like working on believing him.

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<v Speaker 1>But you then resentment grows because you're annoyed. There's so

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<v Speaker 1>much resentment. I did it this weekend. I was so

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<v Speaker 1>fucking irritated till like Monday, and he's like, are we friends?

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, why don't you just say how you feel?

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, right, I'm pissed, you know, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's like because you don't.

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<v Speaker 2>A part of it is like I think, I like,

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<v Speaker 2>we often sometimes get made to feel like we're overreacting

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<v Speaker 2>or like we're tripping or and we.

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<v Speaker 1>Might be we might be, but but welcome it either way.

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<v Speaker 2>So he be like, so part of me is like

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to look like I'm being curaging, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>trying to control you. I don't want to look like

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<v Speaker 2>I'm trying to like minimize your experience.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I don't want you to do that just to

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<v Speaker 1>me me too, I'm like, don't tell me what to do,

0:22:08.320 --> 0:22:09.080
<v Speaker 1>but I don't like this.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And it's like you know, and I want you

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<v Speaker 2>to show up as you, and really that's what it

0:22:13.640 --> 0:22:15.439
<v Speaker 2>is for me. It's like I want my partner to

0:22:15.480 --> 0:22:18.960
<v Speaker 2>show up as themselves because like there's only so long

0:22:19.000 --> 0:22:20.920
<v Speaker 2>you can hide that part of you and it will

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<v Speaker 2>come out and then I don't want to be surprised,

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<v Speaker 2>and I don't want you to be surprised, So let's

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<v Speaker 2>just like really just.

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<v Speaker 1>Lay it out. I know that part of me I

0:22:29.280 --> 0:22:30.439
<v Speaker 1>realize I'm like, I just want you to do what

0:22:30.440 --> 0:22:32.680
<v Speaker 1>you're gonna do, because I'm kind of testing you to

0:22:32.720 --> 0:22:34.320
<v Speaker 1>see if you're gonna do what I want you to do,

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<v Speaker 1>and if you don't, I'm gonna be fucking irritated. And

0:22:36.400 --> 0:22:38.000
<v Speaker 1>I did this this weekend and it does not work.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't do it. Don't be like, just do whatever you

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<v Speaker 1>want to do, because then they'll do what they want

0:22:41.800 --> 0:22:43.119
<v Speaker 1>to do and then you'll be annoyed and you're like,

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<v Speaker 1>why the fuck didn't I just say, don't do that

0:22:45.920 --> 0:22:47.360
<v Speaker 1>because I don't want to control you, because I don't

0:22:47.359 --> 0:22:50.200
<v Speaker 1>want to be controlled. Because you want them to choose you, Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>some of them to choose the right thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Mm hmm.

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<v Speaker 1>If someone is welcoming what you need and want allow

0:22:56.320 --> 0:22:58.080
<v Speaker 1>that to happen, why is it so hot?

0:22:58.119 --> 0:23:00.239
<v Speaker 2>We literally ask for the things we want and then

0:23:00.280 --> 0:23:02.720
<v Speaker 2>they show up and sometimes we have a really hard

0:23:02.720 --> 0:23:05.080
<v Speaker 2>time accepting them. I mean, I think it's part of

0:23:05.119 --> 0:23:08.480
<v Speaker 2>like the fear there's been there's fear, there's like is

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<v Speaker 2>this real?

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<v Speaker 1>Like how long?

0:23:10.119 --> 0:23:12.239
<v Speaker 2>Is this? Is this sustainable? That's what it is for me.

0:23:12.320 --> 0:23:17.160
<v Speaker 2>It's like is this sustainable? Like because I mean inevitably,

0:23:17.240 --> 0:23:22.120
<v Speaker 2>relationships change, right like feelings grow water under the bridge

0:23:22.160 --> 0:23:24.560
<v Speaker 2>may or may not happen, depending on how you deal

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<v Speaker 2>with it, but things happen. And I'm just like, you know,

0:23:28.520 --> 0:23:31.679
<v Speaker 2>I was thinking about this honeymoon period or whatever you

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<v Speaker 2>want to call the beginning of a relationship, and it's

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<v Speaker 2>my favorite part of the relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>Me too.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't wanted to ever go away. And that's not

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<v Speaker 2>because only we like maintain the honeymoon period. And I

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<v Speaker 2>think a big part of it is the communication. I

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<v Speaker 2>think the honeymoon dies because people start feeling they have

0:23:49.960 --> 0:23:53.080
<v Speaker 2>to keep secrets and protect people, and like they start

0:23:53.119 --> 0:23:55.959
<v Speaker 2>realizing certain things that annoy someone about them. So then

0:23:55.960 --> 0:23:58.040
<v Speaker 2>they're like, oh, I can't do that anymore, but I

0:23:58.200 --> 0:24:00.280
<v Speaker 2>like and so the word press it instead of being

0:24:00.280 --> 0:24:03.879
<v Speaker 2>able to express it. So I don't know, I'm really

0:24:03.920 --> 0:24:06.600
<v Speaker 2>trying to like keep all those things mindful in this

0:24:06.960 --> 0:24:18.480
<v Speaker 2>in this situation relation, situationship, relationship relation, CITIP, situationship. This

0:24:18.680 --> 0:24:19.760
<v Speaker 2>is more than a situe.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, anyway, situation situation special thing I'm doing but with

0:24:26.480 --> 0:24:29.720
<v Speaker 1>the most want boyfriends in denial, not for real, just kidding,

0:24:29.840 --> 0:24:32.159
<v Speaker 1>not serious, kind of serious serious. Claim me, don't claim me,

0:24:32.240 --> 0:24:33.720
<v Speaker 1>claim me forever. No, not from me.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm I'm I'm in the journey of accepting claiming ship.

0:24:42.760 --> 0:24:44.120
<v Speaker 2>I shouldn't have smoked before this.

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<v Speaker 1>I told you not to. I'm about to light up.

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<v Speaker 1>I realized though, as a cancer I don't know if

0:24:48.880 --> 0:24:50.600
<v Speaker 1>anyone else experiences I don't know if it's a water

0:24:50.640 --> 0:24:54.120
<v Speaker 1>sign thing. Is this cancer thing? My ability to let

0:24:54.200 --> 0:24:57.879
<v Speaker 1>shit go is low as hell? I will be like,

0:24:58.320 --> 0:25:02.760
<v Speaker 1>m Remember January third, twenty twenty two, Well you did this,

0:25:02.880 --> 0:25:07.520
<v Speaker 1>so that's why I'm doing this in June. Remember, yeah,

0:25:08.080 --> 0:25:09.879
<v Speaker 1>you did it, so I'm gonna do it now. I

0:25:09.920 --> 0:25:12.320
<v Speaker 1>know I said I didn't like it. Yeah, yeah, it's

0:25:12.320 --> 0:25:13.840
<v Speaker 1>literally what I did. I'm like, I know I said

0:25:13.840 --> 0:25:15.320
<v Speaker 1>I didn't like it, and you said you're gonna change it,

0:25:15.320 --> 0:25:17.400
<v Speaker 1>and you have. But now I need to get you back.

0:25:18.400 --> 0:25:20.240
<v Speaker 1>I mean, you know how it feels. You don't like it? Huh.

0:25:20.280 --> 0:25:23.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna do it five more times? Then, oh my bitch,

0:25:23.680 --> 0:25:27.879
<v Speaker 1>you're nuts. He's like, are you not over it? I'm like, no,

0:25:27.920 --> 0:25:31.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm know, I'm over it. I'm not. I'm like, am

0:25:31.640 --> 0:25:33.440
<v Speaker 1>I ever gonna be over anything? Like? But you gotta

0:25:33.520 --> 0:25:35.840
<v Speaker 1>let go, because then that's why the relationship doesn't work,

0:25:35.880 --> 0:25:38.040
<v Speaker 1>because you're mad about some shit that happened seventeen months ago.

0:25:38.760 --> 0:25:41.160
<v Speaker 1>It's bringing it the fuck up like it's from seventeen

0:25:41.200 --> 0:25:44.560
<v Speaker 1>hours ago. But you know, it's just it's nice to

0:25:44.600 --> 0:25:46.600
<v Speaker 1>be free in a relationship and come as you are.

0:25:46.640 --> 0:25:49.520
<v Speaker 1>And I do think that these men are coming as

0:25:49.520 --> 0:25:51.119
<v Speaker 1>they are, and we are allowed to come as we are,

0:25:51.119 --> 0:25:55.800
<v Speaker 1>which everybody knows. We're a special case of women. And

0:25:55.920 --> 0:26:01.479
<v Speaker 1>so it's interesting to date free men because it's kind

0:26:01.520 --> 0:26:03.760
<v Speaker 1>of like dating yourself, which is a little scary. And

0:26:03.800 --> 0:26:06.320
<v Speaker 1>like I've said before, I'm not that fond of dating me.

0:26:07.119 --> 0:26:09.600
<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, we both are dating free men. They're

0:26:09.640 --> 0:26:13.200
<v Speaker 2>both free. I never like looked at it that way. Yeah,

0:26:13.240 --> 0:26:15.040
<v Speaker 2>And I'm like, when if you're listening, you're thinking free,

0:26:15.080 --> 0:26:17.640
<v Speaker 2>Like what does that mean? Like, like niggas are all free?

0:26:17.640 --> 0:26:19.000
<v Speaker 2>They all do whatever the fuck they want?

0:26:19.040 --> 0:26:23.399
<v Speaker 1>Wow, free free with uh? Free with Uh? How do

0:26:23.440 --> 0:26:26.960
<v Speaker 1>you say when you're like accountable, like free with intention,

0:26:27.359 --> 0:26:30.680
<v Speaker 1>free with I don't know how to say.

0:26:30.760 --> 0:26:33.560
<v Speaker 2>I think they just really stand behind who they are. Yes,

0:26:33.880 --> 0:26:36.199
<v Speaker 2>they just don't try to cover it up. This is

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<v Speaker 2>who I am. I'm not going to try and portray

0:26:38.040 --> 0:26:41.360
<v Speaker 2>to be this nigga to you. This is where I'm at.

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<v Speaker 2>This is it you like it or not? Because like, yeah,

0:26:45.040 --> 0:26:49.479
<v Speaker 2>that's it really and I and I do that, so

0:26:49.760 --> 0:26:52.520
<v Speaker 2>like we do that all the time. I know most

0:26:52.560 --> 0:26:54.879
<v Speaker 2>times men don't do that because they're trying to be

0:26:55.200 --> 0:26:58.600
<v Speaker 2>it's the ego, it's all these things. But to be

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<v Speaker 2>to it's almost like facing your mirror, and that's what this,

0:27:02.240 --> 0:27:04.000
<v Speaker 2>that's what this feels like. It feels like I'm looking

0:27:04.080 --> 0:27:07.440
<v Speaker 2>at myself in the mirror in ways and I'm having

0:27:07.520 --> 0:27:11.240
<v Speaker 2>to be like, okay, well i'd like I do that

0:27:11.280 --> 0:27:13.200
<v Speaker 2>shit too, and I and I don't want to change

0:27:13.200 --> 0:27:14.920
<v Speaker 2>that part of me, and like I don't really want

0:27:14.960 --> 0:27:16.680
<v Speaker 2>you to change that part of you, and like, oh

0:27:16.680 --> 0:27:18.240
<v Speaker 2>my god, can we just do this shit together?

0:27:18.520 --> 0:27:24.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah? So yeah, so yeah, it's very interesting dating yourself.

0:27:26.400 --> 0:27:29.199
<v Speaker 1>But I'd rather take date a freeman than a fucking

0:27:29.760 --> 0:27:33.800
<v Speaker 1>saved one any day. Not saved, I think against the

0:27:33.840 --> 0:27:37.119
<v Speaker 1>saved man. I love a god fearing man. Actually, me

0:27:37.119 --> 0:27:41.399
<v Speaker 1>and Orlando prayed together the other day. It felt very religious.

0:27:41.480 --> 0:27:45.200
<v Speaker 2>Did you say, like dear God or something like Jesus

0:27:45.240 --> 0:27:49.840
<v Speaker 2>at this moment relaxed mother of Mary Joseph.

0:27:49.880 --> 0:27:52.720
<v Speaker 1>I don't know the mother of Mary's prayer, but I

0:27:52.720 --> 0:27:55.399
<v Speaker 1>went to Catholic school. It's very sad, no I he

0:27:55.600 --> 0:27:59.160
<v Speaker 1>led the prayer. I think there was a dear God

0:27:59.200 --> 0:28:03.200
<v Speaker 1>in there. Maybe we held hands and held touched foreheads.

0:28:03.400 --> 0:28:07.359
<v Speaker 1>It was very romantical and spiritual. I liked it.

0:28:07.440 --> 0:28:08.200
<v Speaker 2>It's beautiful.

0:28:08.320 --> 0:28:12.960
<v Speaker 1>I love that. Did you tell your boyfriend that you're

0:28:12.960 --> 0:28:15.880
<v Speaker 1>a witch? Was okay?

0:28:15.960 --> 0:28:17.120
<v Speaker 2>He said he's a warlock. Oh?

0:28:17.160 --> 0:28:20.280
<v Speaker 1>Perfect. I figured that he looks like a warlock, right, yeah.

0:28:20.480 --> 0:28:20.920
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:28:21.119 --> 0:28:22.640
<v Speaker 1>And then more and more I get to know him

0:28:22.680 --> 0:28:23.920
<v Speaker 1>and don't call him my boyfriend.

0:28:25.000 --> 0:28:29.240
<v Speaker 2>I m that he is. I don't think I do

0:28:29.280 --> 0:28:30.120
<v Speaker 2>boyfriends anymore.

0:28:30.480 --> 0:28:31.840
<v Speaker 1>Okay, so we're calling him partners.

0:28:31.920 --> 0:28:35.480
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but I realized that he is a warlock, like

0:28:35.560 --> 0:28:38.160
<v Speaker 2>I see his witch in the way, but he.

0:28:38.080 --> 0:28:39.720
<v Speaker 1>Hasn't intentionally tapped in yet.

0:28:40.280 --> 0:28:42.320
<v Speaker 2>So I'm hoping that I can help him with that,

0:28:42.360 --> 0:28:44.240
<v Speaker 2>and that we can do that together and tap into

0:28:44.280 --> 0:28:44.880
<v Speaker 2>that together.

0:28:48.160 --> 0:28:50.280
<v Speaker 1>Sometimes I get super scared to smoke in the middle

0:28:50.280 --> 0:28:53.880
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0:32:31.480 --> 0:32:35.160
<v Speaker 1>you have men that are healthy and safe and when

0:32:35.200 --> 0:32:37.680
<v Speaker 1>you have interactions with people like that that are negative,

0:32:37.760 --> 0:32:39.640
<v Speaker 1>you can come home to them and they can cleanse you.

0:32:40.200 --> 0:32:43.560
<v Speaker 1>They're like, She's like, women aren't internalized and take on things,

0:32:43.560 --> 0:32:45.720
<v Speaker 1>and men have the ability to shoot them out. I

0:32:45.720 --> 0:32:47.160
<v Speaker 1>don't know if she said shit them out or shoot

0:32:47.160 --> 0:32:47.520
<v Speaker 1>them out.

0:32:47.960 --> 0:32:49.520
<v Speaker 2>There was this discrepancy.

0:32:49.680 --> 0:32:51.400
<v Speaker 1>I wasn't sure what she said. I thought she said

0:32:51.400 --> 0:32:53.640
<v Speaker 1>shit them out, but Orlando said, I think she said

0:32:53.680 --> 0:32:55.600
<v Speaker 1>shoot them out, and I said, whatever, it's the same

0:32:55.640 --> 0:32:59.560
<v Speaker 1>shit getting out, it's getting out, and so I was like, hm,

0:33:00.320 --> 0:33:03.040
<v Speaker 1>I feel I could feel that the safety and being

0:33:03.160 --> 0:33:05.680
<v Speaker 1>cleansed and having like a safe space to go back

0:33:05.960 --> 0:33:08.240
<v Speaker 1>after being in a world that I mean, I think

0:33:08.240 --> 0:33:10.200
<v Speaker 1>we've realized in the last three months we've been kind

0:33:10.240 --> 0:33:13.360
<v Speaker 1>of living under a bubble and we've been really protected

0:33:13.400 --> 0:33:16.000
<v Speaker 1>and we are really protected. But like as we get

0:33:16.040 --> 0:33:19.440
<v Speaker 1>more popular on the internet or whatever, like people have

0:33:19.480 --> 0:33:22.480
<v Speaker 1>the ability to leave comments and it's people are ugly

0:33:22.520 --> 0:33:25.080
<v Speaker 1>and nasty and men, I mean really mean, and men

0:33:25.200 --> 0:33:28.880
<v Speaker 1>are really hurt and really hate free women, really hate

0:33:28.920 --> 0:33:33.440
<v Speaker 1>free women, especially free black women. It's insane a lot

0:33:33.440 --> 0:33:33.960
<v Speaker 1>of black men.

0:33:34.120 --> 0:33:37.680
<v Speaker 2>And so she was just you know, right, because when

0:33:37.720 --> 0:33:40.200
<v Speaker 2>they look at white women having or doing the same

0:33:40.240 --> 0:33:44.400
<v Speaker 2>things we do, they're like they almost like admire it,

0:33:44.720 --> 0:33:45.360
<v Speaker 2>or are they like.

0:33:46.960 --> 0:33:49.520
<v Speaker 1>They don't blame white women for the downfall the whole

0:33:49.520 --> 0:33:50.280
<v Speaker 1>white community.

0:33:50.440 --> 0:33:53.080
<v Speaker 2>No, they're like they was like, oh, silly white bitches,

0:33:53.120 --> 0:33:57.320
<v Speaker 2>let me fuck you. Like for us, it's like you're

0:33:57.920 --> 0:33:59.080
<v Speaker 2>maybe I'll even wife you.

0:33:59.480 --> 0:34:02.000
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's your You're ruining the entire black community with

0:34:02.040 --> 0:34:06.560
<v Speaker 1>your rhetoric. It's like a super deep attack. I've never

0:34:06.600 --> 0:34:10.640
<v Speaker 1>seen so many men say we are individually as a

0:34:10.680 --> 0:34:15.839
<v Speaker 1>comboat destroying the black family structure. Just me and you, Me.

0:34:16.000 --> 0:34:17.880
<v Speaker 2>And you have destroyed all black family.

0:34:17.680 --> 0:34:22.480
<v Speaker 1>Stru Not the war on drugs, not white supremacy or patriarchy,

0:34:22.800 --> 0:34:25.240
<v Speaker 1>none of that. No, not slavery. Me and Erica.

0:34:25.320 --> 0:34:28.400
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we bitches from the valley, we alone.

0:34:28.360 --> 0:34:31.719
<v Speaker 1>Are fucking the family structure up. Any healing we had,

0:34:31.920 --> 0:34:36.320
<v Speaker 1>it's gone now between me and her fucking city girls

0:34:36.320 --> 0:34:42.640
<v Speaker 1>and Elizabeth, it's done. We take the cake. We've ruined history.

0:34:42.680 --> 0:34:43.319
<v Speaker 2>You've done it all.

0:34:45.160 --> 0:34:47.880
<v Speaker 1>We don't need men we said that publicly seventeen times.

0:34:47.920 --> 0:34:51.720
<v Speaker 1>We're just going to fuck each other. We're no, we're.

0:34:51.560 --> 0:34:55.200
<v Speaker 2>Just going to be on a big woman commune where

0:34:55.239 --> 0:34:56.279
<v Speaker 2>we don't need men at all.

0:34:57.160 --> 0:34:59.040
<v Speaker 1>We may have said that, Actually I said that it's

0:34:59.080 --> 0:35:01.759
<v Speaker 1>going to happen if men don't. That's and guess what.

0:35:01.800 --> 0:35:03.600
<v Speaker 1>The men are not healing themselves, and that's the problem.

0:35:03.640 --> 0:35:05.760
<v Speaker 1>And that's why I'm getting we get in the farm soon.

0:35:05.920 --> 0:35:07.239
<v Speaker 2>And that's why we got our free niggas and we

0:35:07.280 --> 0:35:07.919
<v Speaker 2>getting out of here.

0:35:08.960 --> 0:35:11.080
<v Speaker 1>Get you a free nigga. And they call them, they

0:35:11.080 --> 0:35:14.000
<v Speaker 1>call them a wild man. Like in this book I'm

0:35:14.040 --> 0:35:18.959
<v Speaker 1>reading wild women Women that women that run with wolves,

0:35:19.360 --> 0:35:21.400
<v Speaker 1>they taught so you have to find a wild man.

0:35:21.440 --> 0:35:23.759
<v Speaker 1>And I told you that I'm usually a man with

0:35:23.840 --> 0:35:27.960
<v Speaker 1>a free mom or like just his own his own thinking. Wow,

0:35:28.080 --> 0:35:31.359
<v Speaker 1>can find a man who can think for himself? Good?

0:35:31.440 --> 0:35:36.960
<v Speaker 2>Look basically yeah, but wait, what were we talking about,

0:35:37.000 --> 0:35:40.279
<v Speaker 2>because we were we got caught up on that terrible.

0:35:41.640 --> 0:35:45.880
<v Speaker 1>Oh. Oh if they if they support our witchiness and

0:35:45.960 --> 0:35:49.000
<v Speaker 1>sustainability of the honeymoon stage. Oh, anyway, I was saying

0:35:49.000 --> 0:35:51.879
<v Speaker 1>they do support it, because I told Orlando, go get

0:35:51.880 --> 0:35:54.360
<v Speaker 1>me three eggs from the kitchen and when me and

0:35:54.480 --> 0:35:56.000
<v Speaker 1>er can eat three eggs from the kitchen before we

0:35:56.040 --> 0:35:59.560
<v Speaker 1>get on the flight. And he said okay, And I

0:35:59.719 --> 0:36:02.120
<v Speaker 1>rubbed eggs on me and Erica, and then I said,

0:36:02.160 --> 0:36:05.080
<v Speaker 1>pull over. We're gonna leave him at the crossroads. Jesse said,

0:36:05.080 --> 0:36:07.160
<v Speaker 1>we need to do this for a sue, and he

0:36:07.160 --> 0:36:10.160
<v Speaker 1>said okay. He didn't just blink an eye, So you

0:36:10.160 --> 0:36:13.120
<v Speaker 1>know it seems like a keeper. Yeah, I agree, And

0:36:13.200 --> 0:36:15.440
<v Speaker 1>I've noticed that you're bad. Didn't say shit when I

0:36:15.480 --> 0:36:16.839
<v Speaker 1>was rubbing eggs on you in the parking lot.

0:36:16.880 --> 0:36:19.799
<v Speaker 2>I said, not one word. It's totally normal. I don't

0:36:19.840 --> 0:36:21.440
<v Speaker 2>know what they're doing. I start like sending him my

0:36:21.680 --> 0:36:25.520
<v Speaker 2>my rituals. I was like, hey, so this is something

0:36:25.520 --> 0:36:27.120
<v Speaker 2>that I do, maybe you should try it.

0:36:27.520 --> 0:36:29.759
<v Speaker 1>Well. I think that if we do it together. I

0:36:29.800 --> 0:36:32.400
<v Speaker 1>think that there's we can get richer or faster. Well,

0:36:32.400 --> 0:36:32.759
<v Speaker 1>there's that.

0:36:32.840 --> 0:36:34.279
<v Speaker 2>I just want him to I want him to know

0:36:34.320 --> 0:36:36.279
<v Speaker 2>that this is something that I do. It's important to me,

0:36:36.520 --> 0:36:39.239
<v Speaker 2>and like encourage I want I want to encourage all

0:36:39.400 --> 0:36:42.280
<v Speaker 2>my all my people to have some sort of practice,

0:36:42.760 --> 0:36:44.680
<v Speaker 2>because I feel like once you do, you just tap

0:36:44.760 --> 0:36:47.600
<v Speaker 2>into something so much bigger, like whether that is God,

0:36:47.680 --> 0:36:48.640
<v Speaker 2>whether that's.

0:36:48.360 --> 0:36:49.759
<v Speaker 1>You know ancestors.

0:36:49.840 --> 0:36:54.839
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Like so, I just feel like he already has

0:36:54.920 --> 0:36:58.920
<v Speaker 2>it in him. He just hasn't, like fully like figured

0:36:58.920 --> 0:37:00.759
<v Speaker 2>out what works for him, you know, because it works

0:37:00.760 --> 0:37:02.319
<v Speaker 2>for me doesn't nessarily have to work for him. But

0:37:02.920 --> 0:37:06.080
<v Speaker 2>I think that I'm excited at the idea of being

0:37:06.120 --> 0:37:11.000
<v Speaker 2>able to share with that within my relationship something I

0:37:11.040 --> 0:37:12.520
<v Speaker 2>haven't really didn't.

0:37:13.160 --> 0:37:15.000
<v Speaker 1>I just did a lot of mushrooms in my last relationship.

0:37:15.040 --> 0:37:17.200
<v Speaker 2>That wasn't like it felt spiritual, but that wasn't it

0:37:17.320 --> 0:37:18.359
<v Speaker 2>was an element of it.

0:37:18.440 --> 0:37:20.480
<v Speaker 1>But no, we did a lot of drugs because it

0:37:20.520 --> 0:37:22.879
<v Speaker 1>was twenty twenty and we were nothing else to do.

0:37:22.960 --> 0:37:24.680
<v Speaker 1>There was nothing else to do. We went on trips

0:37:24.719 --> 0:37:27.080
<v Speaker 1>and we did drugs because that was the only way

0:37:27.080 --> 0:37:31.759
<v Speaker 1>to get out a drugs medicine. We took a lot

0:37:31.760 --> 0:37:36.320
<v Speaker 1>of medicine to get through twenty twenty. I'm sorry, right.

0:37:36.239 --> 0:37:44.000
<v Speaker 2>So intense, I know, but yeah, but I do want

0:37:44.000 --> 0:37:45.840
<v Speaker 2>to take mushrooms with him. I haven't done that yet.

0:37:46.560 --> 0:37:47.759
<v Speaker 2>And I asked him, I said, have you ever taken

0:37:47.840 --> 0:37:49.640
<v Speaker 2>mushrooms with intention? He was like, what do you mean?

0:37:49.760 --> 0:37:52.000
<v Speaker 2>I was like, no, do you think.

0:37:51.800 --> 0:37:54.200
<v Speaker 1>That I'm they're gonna give me problems at the border.

0:37:54.200 --> 0:38:02.359
<v Speaker 1>If I take that jar of mushroom powder, I feel

0:38:02.360 --> 0:38:04.920
<v Speaker 1>like I feel like that CanCon is they're looking for

0:38:04.960 --> 0:38:08.120
<v Speaker 1>a party. Like the motor is a bit like no questionable.

0:38:08.160 --> 0:38:09.680
<v Speaker 1>It looks like a smoothie, like something you put in

0:38:09.680 --> 0:38:11.880
<v Speaker 1>the smooth It looks better than like mushrooms.

0:38:13.760 --> 0:38:14.640
<v Speaker 2>It's kind of gray.

0:38:15.680 --> 0:38:17.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but maybe be protein powders.

0:38:17.239 --> 0:38:19.640
<v Speaker 2>Okay, well you got you convinced. Bit you asked my opinions.

0:38:20.280 --> 0:38:22.760
<v Speaker 1>You don't usually use Nature's pocket.

0:38:22.800 --> 0:38:24.640
<v Speaker 2>But that's a lot. That's a lot. I don't know.

0:38:24.840 --> 0:38:29.000
<v Speaker 2>I'm not that no, no, weird, no, I just want yeah, like,

0:38:29.080 --> 0:38:30.480
<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

0:38:32.040 --> 0:38:35.480
<v Speaker 1>We won't melt powder like liquefy.

0:38:35.680 --> 0:38:37.240
<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I don't know how warm. Your womb

0:38:37.280 --> 0:38:38.880
<v Speaker 2>is very.

0:38:39.040 --> 0:38:40.400
<v Speaker 1>Very very warm.

0:38:40.640 --> 0:38:43.040
<v Speaker 2>Maybe if you pack other Okay, maybe we should talk

0:38:43.040 --> 0:38:47.799
<v Speaker 2>about this off camera, other vitamins, other smoothie mixes. I'm

0:38:47.800 --> 0:38:51.279
<v Speaker 2>gonna put some fish fry, some grits. Oh yeah, there

0:38:51.280 --> 0:38:51.480
<v Speaker 2>you go.

0:38:51.920 --> 0:38:56.239
<v Speaker 1>Me and my man are going to uh Mexico for

0:38:56.280 --> 0:38:59.480
<v Speaker 1>a month. This will be the longest stretch of time

0:38:59.520 --> 0:39:03.440
<v Speaker 1>we've spent together solo, living together. So this is this

0:39:03.480 --> 0:39:06.080
<v Speaker 1>is gonna be It's gonna be fun. I'm not worried

0:39:06.120 --> 0:39:06.680
<v Speaker 1>at all, though.

0:39:07.200 --> 0:39:08.439
<v Speaker 2>I don't think you've anything to worry about.

0:39:08.560 --> 0:39:10.839
<v Speaker 1>When I when I've met Orlando, like three weeks later,

0:39:10.840 --> 0:39:12.200
<v Speaker 1>I was like, do want to go to Mexico with

0:39:12.239 --> 0:39:13.960
<v Speaker 1>me for a week? And he said yes, and we

0:39:14.000 --> 0:39:15.520
<v Speaker 1>stayed together for a week and it was fine. So

0:39:15.560 --> 0:39:16.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm pretty sure we're safe.

0:39:17.239 --> 0:39:18.759
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I think you guys are gonna be fine. You

0:39:18.760 --> 0:39:20.720
<v Speaker 2>guys are best friends, you guys get along.

0:39:21.600 --> 0:39:23.239
<v Speaker 1>Are you gonna come visit me?

0:39:24.560 --> 0:39:28.040
<v Speaker 2>I don't think so. I'm sorry. Now this will be

0:39:28.080 --> 0:39:30.360
<v Speaker 2>our Is this our friend break? This is our friend Cleanse?

0:39:31.200 --> 0:39:33.480
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god? Is that the episode title friend Cleanse

0:39:33.880 --> 0:39:37.200
<v Speaker 1>for friend de talks? No, not at talks. No.

0:39:37.400 --> 0:39:39.080
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna I'm gonna go to Mexico, but I'm not

0:39:39.080 --> 0:39:40.879
<v Speaker 2>gonna go to that part of Mexico, and I'm gonna

0:39:40.880 --> 0:39:44.400
<v Speaker 2>come back and then I'm gonna stay either in La

0:39:44.560 --> 0:39:46.799
<v Speaker 2>or I don't know. I want to spend time with

0:39:46.840 --> 0:39:49.640
<v Speaker 2>my boo. He doesn't live here yet, so I don't

0:39:49.680 --> 0:39:51.719
<v Speaker 2>know if he's gonna come visit me in La or

0:39:51.760 --> 0:39:53.960
<v Speaker 2>if I need to go to New York and then

0:39:54.000 --> 0:39:56.800
<v Speaker 2>we're going, then then then I'll see you again in

0:39:56.840 --> 0:39:58.600
<v Speaker 2>another city because that's our lifestyle now.

0:39:59.200 --> 0:40:01.920
<v Speaker 1>It's so great. I was made for this lifestyle that

0:40:03.520 --> 0:40:08.239
<v Speaker 1>I know. I'm ready, bitch, are you ready ready? Yeah, yeah,

0:40:09.520 --> 0:40:13.160
<v Speaker 1>we've been We've we've been ready, We've been ready. So

0:40:13.239 --> 0:40:16.880
<v Speaker 1>I am. I'm excited for this shift. I feel like

0:40:17.480 --> 0:40:23.680
<v Speaker 1>we're in like this crazy transition phase like right now,

0:40:23.880 --> 0:40:27.040
<v Speaker 1>like our lives are changing right in this moment when

0:40:27.040 --> 0:40:30.400
<v Speaker 1>we're in DC, we're at the club because we're we

0:40:30.480 --> 0:40:35.480
<v Speaker 1>do this now, and there's a sign and bottles and

0:40:35.560 --> 0:40:37.640
<v Speaker 1>all of our bitches are with us, and like, hey,

0:40:37.680 --> 0:40:39.239
<v Speaker 1>out shout out to everybody who met us in d

0:40:39.360 --> 0:40:41.759
<v Speaker 1>c our tribe. Like I met so many bomb ass women.

0:40:41.800 --> 0:40:46.520
<v Speaker 1>I partied with so many women and it was great

0:40:46.640 --> 0:40:49.080
<v Speaker 1>and I feel like I knew you bitches forever and

0:40:49.480 --> 0:40:54.960
<v Speaker 1>every time, right, shout out to my Leah, just Tina, everybody.

0:40:56.719 --> 0:40:59.439
<v Speaker 1>And there's a point where like our bottles came, we're

0:40:59.480 --> 0:41:01.760
<v Speaker 1>like working, and then she looked over at me across

0:41:01.760 --> 0:41:04.120
<v Speaker 1>the table and she's like, this is it. This is

0:41:04.160 --> 0:41:08.160
<v Speaker 1>the shift right now. I was like, you're right, who

0:41:08.200 --> 0:41:12.399
<v Speaker 1>were at the club. We've made it, bitch, our face

0:41:12.480 --> 0:41:13.440
<v Speaker 1>is on a club flyer.

0:41:15.360 --> 0:41:16.640
<v Speaker 2>This is what dreams are made of.

0:41:17.400 --> 0:41:20.040
<v Speaker 1>Four years working hard just to get to the club

0:41:20.080 --> 0:41:22.720
<v Speaker 1>with her name on the battle and a flyer.

0:41:23.239 --> 0:41:25.759
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, though that was I think, Oh yeah, that

0:41:25.760 --> 0:41:27.440
<v Speaker 2>was pretty. I was like, wow, this I get it.

0:41:27.480 --> 0:41:31.400
<v Speaker 2>I like this. Thank you baby Jesus. Yes, and shout

0:41:31.400 --> 0:41:34.439
<v Speaker 2>out to my boo for hooking that up because they

0:41:34.480 --> 0:41:37.000
<v Speaker 2>we had our name on a flyer thanks to the connection.

0:41:37.239 --> 0:41:40.600
<v Speaker 1>Not one night, two nights. Yeah, we were the after

0:41:40.680 --> 0:41:44.600
<v Speaker 1>party of the mom friends, the official after party off.

0:41:45.000 --> 0:41:48.239
<v Speaker 1>Somebody said that I was okay, right, we are, not

0:41:48.280 --> 0:41:51.240
<v Speaker 1>that anyone had that much samina because it was difficult

0:41:51.280 --> 0:41:56.040
<v Speaker 1>even for us. But yeah, I'm excited and I love you.

0:41:56.200 --> 0:41:57.959
<v Speaker 2>I love you too. You have an amazing trip.

0:41:58.200 --> 0:42:00.560
<v Speaker 1>Thank you. I'm looking forward to it, looking forward to

0:42:00.560 --> 0:42:06.000
<v Speaker 1>getting like healthy, drinking water, taking my time writing this book.

0:42:06.400 --> 0:42:07.560
<v Speaker 2>Long breaths, deep breath.

0:42:07.680 --> 0:42:09.560
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, just a lot of that. I realized, just because

0:42:09.680 --> 0:42:11.799
<v Speaker 1>just from the time we've spent in Costa Rica, Like

0:42:11.920 --> 0:42:15.759
<v Speaker 1>I really need that. I mean we both do, but like, yeah,

0:42:15.840 --> 0:42:18.160
<v Speaker 1>I mean sometimes separately. Sometimes we're not working.

0:42:18.160 --> 0:42:23.080
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like not working yea, yeah, but yeah, I'm really

0:42:23.120 --> 0:42:25.719
<v Speaker 2>excited for the I mean, like this, this marks the

0:42:25.760 --> 0:42:26.439
<v Speaker 2>middle of the year.

0:42:28.400 --> 0:42:30.680
<v Speaker 1>Like, this is the rest, This is the final, the

0:42:30.680 --> 0:42:32.680
<v Speaker 1>medior check in. Yeah, this is the midior check in.

0:42:33.400 --> 0:42:36.359
<v Speaker 1>How are you guys doing over there? What's going on?

0:42:37.360 --> 0:42:40.280
<v Speaker 2>There's still time to shift whatever it needs to be shifted.

0:42:40.320 --> 0:42:43.279
<v Speaker 2>It's never too late. You haven't ruined or failed in

0:42:43.320 --> 0:42:46.319
<v Speaker 2>your New Year's resolution. You know, we put so much

0:42:46.320 --> 0:42:49.760
<v Speaker 2>pressure on ourselves to like change our lives January first

0:42:49.760 --> 0:42:52.440
<v Speaker 2>every year, and then like the year passes and we're like,

0:42:52.440 --> 0:42:54.120
<v Speaker 2>oh my god, did I do any of the things

0:42:54.160 --> 0:42:56.920
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna do? Probably not, not all of them, But

0:42:57.160 --> 0:43:01.560
<v Speaker 2>this is your reminder right now, bitch, get your eggs together,

0:43:01.760 --> 0:43:03.840
<v Speaker 2>figure it the fuck out. You can do it. You

0:43:03.880 --> 0:43:05.279
<v Speaker 2>can start over, you can do it.

0:43:05.800 --> 0:43:07.040
<v Speaker 1>What are some things that you guys.

0:43:06.840 --> 0:43:09.319
<v Speaker 2>Are doing to check in with yourself.

0:43:11.360 --> 0:43:15.799
<v Speaker 1>In November? I, in like October, committed to going to

0:43:15.880 --> 0:43:22.160
<v Speaker 1>therapy for minimal a year, for at least once a week.

0:43:22.280 --> 0:43:26.520
<v Speaker 1>And I've done that. I've gone to therapy basically once

0:43:26.560 --> 0:43:28.160
<v Speaker 1>a week. I've probably missed a couple weeks when we're

0:43:28.200 --> 0:43:30.680
<v Speaker 1>like traveling or something, but I have. I've gone. I've

0:43:30.680 --> 0:43:33.680
<v Speaker 1>committed to it, and so I'm really proud of myself.

0:43:33.800 --> 0:43:35.920
<v Speaker 2>I'm proud of you too. That's amazing And I'm like,

0:43:36.280 --> 0:43:38.520
<v Speaker 2>even if that was all you did, like that, oh

0:43:38.520 --> 0:43:39.440
<v Speaker 2>it is, hude, it is.

0:43:39.480 --> 0:43:41.640
<v Speaker 1>My house has probably been dirty like ninety percent.

0:43:41.800 --> 0:43:43.840
<v Speaker 2>But I'm just saying, like, even like for women listening,

0:43:43.840 --> 0:43:45.160
<v Speaker 2>because a lot of times we feel like we have

0:43:45.200 --> 0:43:48.280
<v Speaker 2>to have these major goals and things that have to happen,

0:43:48.400 --> 0:43:52.000
<v Speaker 2>but like just deciding to go to therapy is over.

0:43:52.040 --> 0:43:55.040
<v Speaker 2>It's a whole year when just showing up every week

0:43:55.440 --> 0:43:56.720
<v Speaker 2>to just work on something.

0:43:57.080 --> 0:43:59.960
<v Speaker 1>Like yes, I'm not saying like I've had any like

0:44:00.040 --> 0:44:02.880
<v Speaker 1>crazy breakthroughs, and of course I have. I've cried, you

0:44:02.920 --> 0:44:04.640
<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying. Sometimes I'm like I have time

0:44:04.680 --> 0:44:07.480
<v Speaker 1>to sit here and talk for fucking today, and then

0:44:07.480 --> 0:44:09.200
<v Speaker 1>I do, and then I'm happy about it. But like

0:44:09.320 --> 0:44:12.200
<v Speaker 1>every time I do the shit because I know myself

0:44:12.200 --> 0:44:14.440
<v Speaker 1>and I know in the past I haven't committed, you know,

0:44:14.480 --> 0:44:20.319
<v Speaker 1>because I'm just doing all the time with add But yeah,

0:44:20.360 --> 0:44:24.080
<v Speaker 1>that feels really good and I just feel the progress

0:44:24.120 --> 0:44:27.279
<v Speaker 1>and I see the progress and I'm proud. What about you?

0:44:31.239 --> 0:44:37.080
<v Speaker 2>I think I like reconnecting with Iri and not that

0:44:37.120 --> 0:44:39.359
<v Speaker 2>like we've had a disconnect with my daughter, but like

0:44:40.040 --> 0:44:44.760
<v Speaker 2>I think there's like a shift that happens between ages,

0:44:44.920 --> 0:44:48.640
<v Speaker 2>and like between those ages, like I've been so consumed

0:44:48.680 --> 0:44:53.560
<v Speaker 2>with like working and wanting to achieve my goals, so

0:44:53.600 --> 0:44:57.960
<v Speaker 2>that like something can shift for us, and sometimes like

0:44:58.040 --> 0:45:01.080
<v Speaker 2>I felt, I felt really imbalanced in that. And I

0:45:01.080 --> 0:45:02.759
<v Speaker 2>had a wake up call a few months ago that

0:45:02.840 --> 0:45:05.439
<v Speaker 2>like really put it into perspective for me and how

0:45:05.560 --> 0:45:08.360
<v Speaker 2>like this is it. Like I just realized this is

0:45:08.480 --> 0:45:10.600
<v Speaker 2>like their first grade is done, Like we're not getting

0:45:10.600 --> 0:45:14.040
<v Speaker 2>this back like last month is over right talking to

0:45:14.120 --> 0:45:15.799
<v Speaker 2>us like, well, because I have these are things. These

0:45:15.840 --> 0:45:18.120
<v Speaker 2>are conversations that I have to have with myself to

0:45:18.239 --> 0:45:21.799
<v Speaker 2>sometimes like sit my ass down and like focus. Like

0:45:21.880 --> 0:45:24.520
<v Speaker 2>last night we were working and we were like I'm

0:45:24.560 --> 0:45:27.400
<v Speaker 2>this call late or whatever, and like it was bedtime

0:45:27.440 --> 0:45:29.319
<v Speaker 2>and I was tired, but she just wanted me to

0:45:29.360 --> 0:45:31.160
<v Speaker 2>like play a game of Uno with her. She was like,

0:45:31.160 --> 0:45:32.480
<v Speaker 2>can we just play one game of Uno? And like

0:45:32.520 --> 0:45:33.600
<v Speaker 2>I really want to be like, no, you need to

0:45:33.600 --> 0:45:35.360
<v Speaker 2>go to bed. And I was like it's just little

0:45:35.360 --> 0:45:38.520
<v Speaker 2>things like that where I just like say yes more

0:45:39.000 --> 0:45:41.160
<v Speaker 2>because it's easy for me to say no because she

0:45:41.200 --> 0:45:44.240
<v Speaker 2>has doesn't have a choice in my no, you know, really,

0:45:44.320 --> 0:45:46.400
<v Speaker 2>like that's what parents do We're like nope, because I

0:45:46.440 --> 0:45:48.359
<v Speaker 2>said so, No, I don't feel like it. No, we'll

0:45:48.360 --> 0:45:50.480
<v Speaker 2>get to it. No, I'll do that later. No, like

0:45:50.680 --> 0:45:52.880
<v Speaker 2>you'll get that play date next time. No, No, because

0:45:52.880 --> 0:45:56.840
<v Speaker 2>it's easier for my life, and like, I just I

0:45:56.880 --> 0:45:58.879
<v Speaker 2>just need to get I'm just trying to get through

0:45:58.920 --> 0:46:02.799
<v Speaker 2>the day, you know, and so really trying to just

0:46:02.840 --> 0:46:05.520
<v Speaker 2>be more mindful of that, and like it's been feeling

0:46:05.560 --> 0:46:09.000
<v Speaker 2>really good and like like I feel like I'm just

0:46:10.920 --> 0:46:14.839
<v Speaker 2>I want to always be mindful of like remembering how

0:46:14.880 --> 0:46:16.799
<v Speaker 2>I felt like I couldn't share things with my mom

0:46:17.000 --> 0:46:19.719
<v Speaker 2>and like I don't. I so desperately don't want that

0:46:19.800 --> 0:46:23.080
<v Speaker 2>for me and my daughter and the connection, like just

0:46:23.920 --> 0:46:28.719
<v Speaker 2>rebalancing I guess motherhood and work essentially, and I feel

0:46:28.719 --> 0:46:30.719
<v Speaker 2>like I'm doing a better job at it and just

0:46:30.760 --> 0:46:32.920
<v Speaker 2>having more boundaries like no, I can't do that because

0:46:33.000 --> 0:46:35.280
<v Speaker 2>I need to. This is what has to happen, Whereas

0:46:35.280 --> 0:46:37.680
<v Speaker 2>before I'd be like, Okay, we'll figure it out. Like no.

0:46:40.160 --> 0:46:43.319
<v Speaker 2>So that's been like a good check in and like

0:46:43.400 --> 0:46:46.000
<v Speaker 2>something that like I'm glad that maybe in this year

0:46:46.000 --> 0:46:47.600
<v Speaker 2>I didn't realize that was a lesson I was gonna

0:46:47.719 --> 0:46:51.359
<v Speaker 2>be brought and then it happened, and then I was like, okay, so.

0:46:52.760 --> 0:46:56.719
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, I'm realizing like there's always more work to

0:46:56.760 --> 0:47:00.640
<v Speaker 1>be done, you know, and we're We've grown a lot

0:47:00.680 --> 0:47:03.160
<v Speaker 1>since the beginning. I've listened to like our first episode

0:47:03.560 --> 0:47:05.560
<v Speaker 1>and I was like, I can hear their little voices

0:47:05.600 --> 0:47:11.759
<v Speaker 1>in the backgrounds. Yeah, like Mama, I'm like, oh my god,

0:47:11.800 --> 0:47:16.040
<v Speaker 1>like literally I want to cry. But it's just interesting,

0:47:16.080 --> 0:47:18.000
<v Speaker 1>like we've grown a lot, and in ways, there's so

0:47:18.160 --> 0:47:20.840
<v Speaker 1>much growth to still be done, Like I'm not done,

0:47:20.960 --> 0:47:24.320
<v Speaker 1>and yeah, even with motherhood, like I'm feeling really guilty

0:47:24.560 --> 0:47:27.759
<v Speaker 1>also about going being gone for so long. I also

0:47:27.800 --> 0:47:29.360
<v Speaker 1>know I need to do this to do what I

0:47:29.400 --> 0:47:33.600
<v Speaker 1>need to do, and like just like my mom's gonna

0:47:33.600 --> 0:47:36.680
<v Speaker 1>bring her out while I'm there, but yeah, also re

0:47:38.120 --> 0:47:41.000
<v Speaker 1>calibrating my time so that she does it, like because

0:47:41.000 --> 0:47:43.960
<v Speaker 1>of these years are going by so fucking quickly, so quickly,

0:47:43.960 --> 0:47:46.200
<v Speaker 1>and it's like and well, you know, of course we're

0:47:46.200 --> 0:47:48.839
<v Speaker 1>great mothers, but there's always room to do better, you know.

0:47:48.960 --> 0:47:50.719
<v Speaker 1>And it's like it's okay to say that. I think

0:47:50.719 --> 0:47:53.520
<v Speaker 1>as moms were like and a great mom, I do everything,

0:47:53.600 --> 0:47:57.080
<v Speaker 1>And it's true, we do everything but if there's always room,

0:47:57.239 --> 0:47:59.600
<v Speaker 1>I feel like to be like, yeah, I think from

0:47:59.600 --> 0:48:02.319
<v Speaker 1>their per perspective, be software be more playful because we

0:48:02.400 --> 0:48:05.279
<v Speaker 1>get caught up so often. And like I think I'm just.

0:48:05.239 --> 0:48:08.160
<v Speaker 2>Like growing in my motherhood, Like I'm growing up in

0:48:08.239 --> 0:48:12.000
<v Speaker 2>this space too, because like no one teaches you how

0:48:12.000 --> 0:48:15.040
<v Speaker 2>to be a mother, Like yeah, it's like innately in

0:48:15.120 --> 0:48:17.719
<v Speaker 2>you in ways, but like there's so you don't know

0:48:17.760 --> 0:48:20.000
<v Speaker 2>what kind of child you're going to receive, and you

0:48:20.040 --> 0:48:22.240
<v Speaker 2>don't know like you maybe never met this person before

0:48:22.280 --> 0:48:25.080
<v Speaker 2>and you're in your life pre child like a person

0:48:25.120 --> 0:48:27.120
<v Speaker 2>that is similar to their and it's like who are you?

0:48:27.239 --> 0:48:30.400
<v Speaker 2>How do I cater to this personality? How do I

0:48:30.440 --> 0:48:33.400
<v Speaker 2>like you know, and encourage it and rich it, like

0:48:34.000 --> 0:48:36.840
<v Speaker 2>you know, give it space, not over be overbearing. But

0:48:36.920 --> 0:48:40.560
<v Speaker 2>also like you know, so I think I'm just really

0:48:40.560 --> 0:48:42.920
<v Speaker 2>starting to I'm just I feel like there's been a

0:48:42.960 --> 0:48:46.919
<v Speaker 2>shift in who I am as a mother as of late,

0:48:47.200 --> 0:48:48.960
<v Speaker 2>and like the mother that I want to be and

0:48:49.000 --> 0:48:50.799
<v Speaker 2>I want to continue to be from here on out.

0:48:51.360 --> 0:48:54.799
<v Speaker 2>So it's just like such a cool job we have,

0:48:55.239 --> 0:48:58.239
<v Speaker 2>you know, And like these years are so I could

0:48:58.280 --> 0:49:01.239
<v Speaker 2>like cry thinking about it. These years are so like important,

0:49:01.480 --> 0:49:03.959
<v Speaker 2>you know, And like I just remember being a kid

0:49:04.040 --> 0:49:09.200
<v Speaker 2>and how like there were so many moments and I'm like, wow,

0:49:09.320 --> 0:49:12.480
<v Speaker 2>like we're things could have been could have been shifted,

0:49:12.600 --> 0:49:14.600
<v Speaker 2>or like there was an opportunity for me to be

0:49:14.680 --> 0:49:16.880
<v Speaker 2>more open, had someone just been okay just having a

0:49:16.880 --> 0:49:19.120
<v Speaker 2>conversation with me, And like I just want to make

0:49:19.160 --> 0:49:21.480
<v Speaker 2>sure that I am that for her, that I'm at

0:49:21.560 --> 0:49:24.880
<v Speaker 2>least trying, because sometimes it's easy to just be default,

0:49:25.320 --> 0:49:28.000
<v Speaker 2>do the default thing that like you were taught that

0:49:28.080 --> 0:49:28.600
<v Speaker 2>you receive.

0:49:28.920 --> 0:49:32.120
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, and I feel I feel you, And.

0:49:32.080 --> 0:49:34.200
<v Speaker 2>So I'm just excited that I get the It's like

0:49:34.239 --> 0:49:35.960
<v Speaker 2>an honor to be able to do it. And like

0:49:36.480 --> 0:49:40.799
<v Speaker 2>my daughter is like fucking amazing and I just can't

0:49:40.840 --> 0:49:42.840
<v Speaker 2>wait for her to like go out in the world

0:49:42.920 --> 0:49:45.239
<v Speaker 2>and like take all the things and just do it,

0:49:45.360 --> 0:49:47.960
<v Speaker 2>you know. And like even though I'm like sad she's

0:49:48.000 --> 0:49:49.600
<v Speaker 2>growing up, I think about that too, and I'm like,

0:49:49.600 --> 0:49:50.160
<v Speaker 2>oh my god, what.

0:49:50.120 --> 0:49:51.920
<v Speaker 1>Does that look like? What is that? Like?

0:49:51.960 --> 0:49:54.560
<v Speaker 2>What is she going to actually be into? Like what

0:49:54.600 --> 0:49:57.439
<v Speaker 2>are her and Luna gonna look like together as teenagers?

0:49:57.520 --> 0:50:01.520
<v Speaker 2>Like hanging out and going out out, like we'll be back,

0:50:01.560 --> 0:50:04.359
<v Speaker 2>We're going out, Like what like I'm gonna throw up,

0:50:04.400 --> 0:50:07.640
<v Speaker 2>but also I'm so excited over I know.

0:50:08.120 --> 0:50:09.560
<v Speaker 1>I know that's how I.

0:50:09.480 --> 0:50:11.720
<v Speaker 2>Feel, and like I've been having these like thoughts about

0:50:11.719 --> 0:50:14.759
<v Speaker 2>it so much lately, and especially like even you know,

0:50:14.840 --> 0:50:17.080
<v Speaker 2>we stayed at a house this weekend or last week,

0:50:17.120 --> 0:50:19.440
<v Speaker 2>oh yeah, and I was looking at our girls together

0:50:19.719 --> 0:50:24.160
<v Speaker 2>and just they've grown up together, like literally, I know,

0:50:24.440 --> 0:50:28.400
<v Speaker 2>just like like first best friends, like really, you know,

0:50:28.719 --> 0:50:32.480
<v Speaker 2>and it's crazy to watch it and to see how

0:50:32.480 --> 0:50:37.160
<v Speaker 2>it's like literally like growing from the ground in front

0:50:37.200 --> 0:50:37.720
<v Speaker 2>of my face.

0:50:37.760 --> 0:50:40.080
<v Speaker 1>I know, I know, and I'm scared, Like I'm like,

0:50:40.160 --> 0:50:42.680
<v Speaker 1>am I doing it right? Am I being gentle enough?

0:50:43.520 --> 0:50:47.080
<v Speaker 1>I just like sometimes she acts so ungrateful. I'm like, yo,

0:50:48.120 --> 0:50:50.600
<v Speaker 1>you just spent the weekend at a four million dollar house,

0:50:51.000 --> 0:50:54.800
<v Speaker 1>prancing around naked with your mom and her friends eating

0:50:54.840 --> 0:50:59.879
<v Speaker 1>pizza and like you're living the life, okay, And She's

0:50:59.920 --> 0:51:02.239
<v Speaker 1>just like I wanted this and I wanted that, And

0:51:02.280 --> 0:51:04.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, you need to be grateful. Do you know

0:51:04.760 --> 0:51:07.360
<v Speaker 1>gratefulness it is? And I'm like, do I need to

0:51:07.360 --> 0:51:10.439
<v Speaker 1>read a book about fucking gentle parenting? Because I want

0:51:10.440 --> 0:51:13.319
<v Speaker 1>to be like you're on I'm like, that's not like

0:51:13.520 --> 0:51:16.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, that's not being grateful, Like people don't have shit,

0:51:16.640 --> 0:51:19.440
<v Speaker 1>you know, you're very lucky, and like I remember my

0:51:19.440 --> 0:51:22.200
<v Speaker 1>parents telling me that, and I'm like, you know, but

0:51:22.400 --> 0:51:24.960
<v Speaker 1>like just being gentle and loving.

0:51:25.120 --> 0:51:27.000
<v Speaker 2>I only know what they know, and they know is

0:51:27.000 --> 0:51:29.359
<v Speaker 2>what we show them, and so what we show them

0:51:29.520 --> 0:51:32.839
<v Speaker 2>is bomb shit, So they always want more bombshit. And

0:51:32.880 --> 0:51:34.600
<v Speaker 2>that's the plate. That's why we got to drop these

0:51:34.680 --> 0:51:38.480
<v Speaker 2>kids off in the hood for like three weeks every year.

0:51:39.280 --> 0:51:41.680
<v Speaker 2>That was that's that's the balance. So if anyone has

0:51:41.719 --> 0:51:43.560
<v Speaker 2>a hood, we can drop our kids off.

0:51:44.560 --> 0:51:49.160
<v Speaker 1>Contact is a safe hood. Safehood. But you know, my

0:51:49.280 --> 0:51:51.480
<v Speaker 1>dad did that to me when I was like nine

0:51:51.920 --> 0:51:56.360
<v Speaker 1>in the hoods of Philadelphia West Philadelphia. I it was

0:51:56.400 --> 0:51:59.359
<v Speaker 1>like a number's house and which is like a gambling house,

0:51:59.360 --> 0:52:02.280
<v Speaker 1>you guys, so there's probably a lot of gang shit happening.

0:52:02.400 --> 0:52:05.919
<v Speaker 1>And I came back with flea bites baby. My dad

0:52:05.960 --> 0:52:07.920
<v Speaker 1>picked me up and they're like someone like hit me

0:52:07.960 --> 0:52:09.359
<v Speaker 1>in the face. I think, like a boy, like hit

0:52:09.400 --> 0:52:10.799
<v Speaker 1>me in the face, like look she can fight now,

0:52:10.840 --> 0:52:16.920
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, literally like what the fuck? Child abuse?

0:52:17.000 --> 0:52:19.279
<v Speaker 1>But I came out tougher because of it.

0:52:19.239 --> 0:52:21.120
<v Speaker 2>It's my dad dropped me off in the country, which

0:52:21.120 --> 0:52:24.319
<v Speaker 2>I've loved, Like I loved the freedom of that, and

0:52:24.520 --> 0:52:28.280
<v Speaker 2>just like it was just not It's just so different

0:52:28.280 --> 0:52:30.120
<v Speaker 2>than what I was doing here, you know, and I

0:52:30.120 --> 0:52:32.719
<v Speaker 2>think that was really important. But yeah, so if you

0:52:32.760 --> 0:52:35.000
<v Speaker 2>have a hood or a country farm, then we can

0:52:35.080 --> 0:52:36.160
<v Speaker 2>drop our kids off.

0:52:36.040 --> 0:52:38.319
<v Speaker 1>At we will compensate.

0:52:39.920 --> 0:52:42.880
<v Speaker 2>But I'm also really proud to like, I of course

0:52:42.960 --> 0:52:45.720
<v Speaker 2>want my daughter to have balance, but like I work

0:52:45.800 --> 0:52:48.520
<v Speaker 2>hard so she can have certain things. I don't work

0:52:48.560 --> 0:52:51.919
<v Speaker 2>hard so that she can have mediocre shit. I don't

0:52:51.920 --> 0:52:56.360
<v Speaker 2>want mediocre shit because there's also that narrative like the

0:52:56.440 --> 0:52:58.719
<v Speaker 2>kids need to have less, they need to understand, they

0:52:58.760 --> 0:53:01.920
<v Speaker 2>need to get it. And it's like, well but I don't,

0:53:01.960 --> 0:53:04.000
<v Speaker 2>but I want all those things, so she should have

0:53:04.040 --> 0:53:04.640
<v Speaker 2>all those things.

0:53:04.680 --> 0:53:08.000
<v Speaker 1>Absolutely. That's why I need to read a book about

0:53:08.040 --> 0:53:11.560
<v Speaker 1>fucking general parenting because I'm like, I'm I realized, I'm

0:53:11.600 --> 0:53:14.480
<v Speaker 1>like I'm pretty tough. I'm not tough. I'm soft, but

0:53:14.600 --> 0:53:17.400
<v Speaker 1>like I'm not as soft as I'd like to think

0:53:17.880 --> 0:53:21.279
<v Speaker 1>in life that's true. Like I'm like I'm kind of

0:53:21.360 --> 0:53:24.840
<v Speaker 1>rough around the edges, Like sometimes I'm just like chill out,

0:53:25.280 --> 0:53:27.239
<v Speaker 1>be quiet, do what the fuck, I said to do.

0:53:27.320 --> 0:53:28.799
<v Speaker 1>Why the fuck do I have to keep asking to

0:53:29.000 --> 0:53:33.480
<v Speaker 1>clean your room every day forever? Like she just do

0:53:33.560 --> 0:53:35.799
<v Speaker 1>it like it's just But I realized, like that's how

0:53:35.840 --> 0:53:37.880
<v Speaker 1>my parents treated me, Like that's how I was talked to,

0:53:38.480 --> 0:53:40.359
<v Speaker 1>so like even I told you, which is the point,

0:53:40.400 --> 0:53:44.120
<v Speaker 1>like sometimes other people are very like motherly to their kids.

0:53:44.120 --> 0:53:47.919
<v Speaker 1>It irritates me. And this is not popular statement. It's

0:53:47.960 --> 0:53:49.840
<v Speaker 1>because I didn't get that as a kid, and so

0:53:49.880 --> 0:53:54.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm constantly having to work against that like mentality to

0:53:54.320 --> 0:53:57.000
<v Speaker 1>just be like kind of like tough love, you know,

0:53:57.120 --> 0:53:59.960
<v Speaker 1>because I've maybe i'm like resentful that I didn't receive that

0:54:00.160 --> 0:54:01.800
<v Speaker 1>still as a fucking because I can't let shit go

0:54:01.920 --> 0:54:05.600
<v Speaker 1>with my cancer fucking thirty four years old. But it's

0:54:06.040 --> 0:54:08.919
<v Speaker 1>it's been challenging. But also I'm lucky that I'm aware

0:54:09.000 --> 0:54:12.000
<v Speaker 1>enough to check myself sometimes in the moments and hug

0:54:12.040 --> 0:54:13.799
<v Speaker 1>and get in the like do all the things. Because

0:54:13.920 --> 0:54:16.719
<v Speaker 1>I am a very affectionate person anyway, and so as

0:54:16.760 --> 0:54:19.200
<v Speaker 1>my child, like we we are affectionate, we are loving,

0:54:19.200 --> 0:54:20.960
<v Speaker 1>and I know she gets it. And I only talk

0:54:21.000 --> 0:54:22.600
<v Speaker 1>to her in a way where I know because she's

0:54:22.840 --> 0:54:26.319
<v Speaker 1>she's she's mature, in ways, like emotionally, Luna is very

0:54:26.520 --> 0:54:29.440
<v Speaker 1>very evolved. She's been here before, for sure, So there

0:54:29.440 --> 0:54:30.799
<v Speaker 1>are things I can talk to her about that I

0:54:30.840 --> 0:54:34.319
<v Speaker 1>know she's she's understanding. But also she's fucking seven, you know,

0:54:34.320 --> 0:54:37.640
<v Speaker 1>And I have to remind myself all the time to

0:54:37.719 --> 0:54:39.719
<v Speaker 1>be kind, you know, to be softer with her and

0:54:39.719 --> 0:54:42.200
<v Speaker 1>even with my own parents and my own family. And

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<v Speaker 1>it's just, yeah, it's constantly like being a mother is

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<v Speaker 1>being a student all the time. It's true, I'm in

0:54:51.520 --> 0:54:54.520
<v Speaker 1>school student and a teacher in first grade, just like Iri.

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<v Speaker 1>It's first grade of motherhood. Mother. It's true. True, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>only even doing your mother what the well, well, listen,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm only in first grade in mother school. So

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<v Speaker 1>what do you want from me? Honestly, I haven't even expectations.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you got to college grade? Help me? I need

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<v Speaker 1>a tutor.

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<v Speaker 2>Just leave me where I'm ad.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm good here one year at a time, honestly. And

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<v Speaker 1>when she gets a second grade, I'll be a second

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<v Speaker 1>grade and make me take the SATs in first grade. Crazy,

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<v Speaker 1>let's have all the fucking all the answer.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, people ask us questions, I'm like, bitch, I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know his grade. Mother I don't have the masters.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't. I'm not a mother expert. I'm a first

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<v Speaker 1>grade mother expert.

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<v Speaker 2>That's all I got.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not expert. I'm not kindergarten.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe birth. I'm a more infant expert. Give me an infant.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll keep it alive. Great, Now you get a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit beyond that. That's not my expert ears not.

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<v Speaker 2>We're still we're still working on that. Did you want

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<v Speaker 2>to pull a card too? Okay, it's terrible time, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>Ples going to my my handy dandy Biddy dot com.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't even know if this is legal to be.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, a lot of people ask us about Biddy

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<v Speaker 2>in the DM.

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<v Speaker 1>If Biddy doesn't give us some type of partnership, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know what we're talking about. At least I can't

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<v Speaker 1>We will give you a fee if you do listen.

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<v Speaker 1>I do you think any brand partnerships will work out?

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<v Speaker 1>Send the email another community workspace. Okay. The two of Pentacles, Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>multiple priorities, time management, prioritization, and adaptability. Huh. First grade

0:57:02.600 --> 0:57:08.279
<v Speaker 1>mother and the Two Pinnacles. A young man dances well,

0:57:08.360 --> 0:57:11.040
<v Speaker 1>juggling two coins in his hands. The infinity symbol links

0:57:11.040 --> 0:57:14.680
<v Speaker 1>the coins, suggesting this man can handle unlimited problems so

0:57:14.719 --> 0:57:17.360
<v Speaker 1>long as he manages his time, energy, and resource as well.

0:57:18.040 --> 0:57:20.760
<v Speaker 1>In the background, two ships sailed the high seas, bobbing

0:57:20.840 --> 0:57:23.320
<v Speaker 1>up and down on the huge waves, another sign that

0:57:23.360 --> 0:57:25.720
<v Speaker 1>the ups and downs of life are manageable with focus

0:57:26.080 --> 0:57:30.479
<v Speaker 1>and attention. When the Two Pinnacles appears in a terror reading,

0:57:30.520 --> 0:57:33.200
<v Speaker 1>it's safe to say you are juggling your priorities, roles,

0:57:33.200 --> 0:57:36.440
<v Speaker 1>and responsibilities. For example, you may be working you may

0:57:36.480 --> 0:57:41.440
<v Speaker 1>be a working parent, what the fuck? A general manager

0:57:41.480 --> 0:57:45.120
<v Speaker 1>of a business shocked anymore? I know every week I'm like,

0:57:46.280 --> 0:57:48.080
<v Speaker 1>the people are probably like this is rigged. It's not.

0:57:48.520 --> 0:57:51.080
<v Speaker 1>I literally closed my eyes and I went okay. For example,

0:57:51.080 --> 0:57:52.920
<v Speaker 1>you may be a working parent, a general manager of

0:57:52.960 --> 0:57:55.800
<v Speaker 1>a business, an administrative assistant in a busy office, or

0:57:55.840 --> 0:57:57.840
<v Speaker 1>someone who works multiple jobs. Oh, my God, you're all

0:57:57.840 --> 0:58:00.400
<v Speaker 1>of those things. You have seventy seven jobs I do

0:58:01.440 --> 0:58:03.880
<v Speaker 1>in the upright position. This card notes you are doing

0:58:03.920 --> 0:58:06.680
<v Speaker 1>an excellent job of balancing these different priorities and you

0:58:06.720 --> 0:58:09.400
<v Speaker 1>can take on whatever life throws at you. But this

0:58:09.560 --> 0:58:12.560
<v Speaker 1>too reminds you. This too reminds you that the line

0:58:12.560 --> 0:58:15.680
<v Speaker 1>between coping with these demands and losing control is thin.

0:58:16.320 --> 0:58:19.440
<v Speaker 1>You need to manage your time, energy, and resources carefully

0:58:19.480 --> 0:58:21.920
<v Speaker 1>so you do not lose your balance. The two of

0:58:21.920 --> 0:58:24.440
<v Speaker 1>pinnacles often appears when you are busy rushing from the

0:58:24.640 --> 0:58:27.040
<v Speaker 1>one thing to the next, with little downtime in between.

0:58:27.280 --> 0:58:29.600
<v Speaker 1>You may tell yourself that you haven't got enough time

0:58:29.720 --> 0:58:32.040
<v Speaker 1>or you're in a rush. However, remember that you don't

0:58:32.040 --> 0:58:34.600
<v Speaker 1>have to be busy to get things done. Sometimes taking

0:58:34.600 --> 0:58:37.080
<v Speaker 1>a break is the most productive thing you can do. Similarly,

0:58:37.120 --> 0:58:39.400
<v Speaker 1>the two of pinnacles can appear when you are getting

0:58:39.440 --> 0:58:41.720
<v Speaker 1>caught up in the day to day demands and losing

0:58:41.760 --> 0:58:44.840
<v Speaker 1>sight of the bigger picture. If this resonates, ask yourself,

0:58:44.960 --> 0:58:47.840
<v Speaker 1>what life do I want and how can I reorganize

0:58:47.840 --> 0:58:51.360
<v Speaker 1>my schedule to create the life I desire. It invites

0:58:51.400 --> 0:58:54.320
<v Speaker 1>you to manage your time and your priorities carefully. Your

0:58:54.320 --> 0:58:56.600
<v Speaker 1>workload is high right now, and to get everything done,

0:58:56.640 --> 0:58:59.120
<v Speaker 1>you need to stay focused and productive. You may benefit

0:58:59.160 --> 0:59:01.440
<v Speaker 1>from a to do list, better calendar management, and strict,

0:59:01.720 --> 0:59:05.480
<v Speaker 1>stricter schedule. You may even enlist the support of an

0:59:05.480 --> 0:59:07.520
<v Speaker 1>assistant or business coach to help you make it the

0:59:07.600 --> 0:59:12.120
<v Speaker 1>right changes. Do we have a business coach? Basic time

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<v Speaker 1>management is crucial to your ability to juggle these various

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<v Speaker 1>priorities and keep your head above water. This card also

0:59:17.640 --> 0:59:20.560
<v Speaker 1>reminds you to pay special attention to your general administration,

0:59:20.920 --> 0:59:24.360
<v Speaker 1>including paying bills, managing finances, staying on top of your commitments,

0:59:24.360 --> 0:59:27.280
<v Speaker 1>and maintaining your diary. Be careful that you don't miss

0:59:27.280 --> 0:59:31.280
<v Speaker 1>important deadlines, meetings, and other obligations. That motherfucking sery better

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<v Speaker 1>start working. The High Priestess Intuition, sacred knowledge, divine feminism.

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<v Speaker 1>I know the subconscious mind. You would think I would

0:59:40.840 --> 0:59:46.800
<v Speaker 1>know what it means by now. While the magician is

0:59:46.840 --> 0:59:51.360
<v Speaker 1>the guardian of the conscious mind. We pulled this. We

0:59:51.360 --> 0:59:54.080
<v Speaker 1>pulled this right after the magician in New York. That's

0:59:54.080 --> 0:59:56.400
<v Speaker 1>what we pulled actually. While the magician is the guardian

0:59:56.400 --> 0:59:59.840
<v Speaker 1>of the conscious mind. Although they fell out, fell out

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<v Speaker 1>and the tangible world The High Priestess is the guardian

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<v Speaker 1>of the subconscious mind and the teacher of sacred knowledge

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<v Speaker 1>and hidden mysteries. Sitting at the threshold of the conscious

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<v Speaker 1>and subconscious mind, the High Priestess has an innate ability

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<v Speaker 1>to travel between the realms effortlessly. She teaches that the

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<v Speaker 1>world is not always as it seems, but more profound

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<v Speaker 1>influences are at play. She ushers you through the thin

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<v Speaker 1>veil of awareness, offering you a deep intuitive understanding of

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<v Speaker 1>the universe and a heightened awareness of secret or hidden information.

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<v Speaker 1>The High Priests signifies spiritual alignment, inner elimination, divine knowledge,

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<v Speaker 1>and wisdom. She shows up in the Tarit reading when

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<v Speaker 1>the veil between you and the underworld is thin and

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<v Speaker 1>you have the opportunity to access the knowledge deep within

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<v Speaker 1>your soul. Now is the time to be still so

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<v Speaker 1>you can turn tune into your intuition. The answers you

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<v Speaker 1>are seeking will come from within, from your deepest truth

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<v Speaker 1>and knowing. Allow the High Priests to become your guide

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<v Speaker 1>as you venture deep into your subconscious mind and access

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<v Speaker 1>this inner wisdom.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, what do you have an affirmation for the day?

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<v Speaker 1>Actually, I'm always both a teacher and a student of life.

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<v Speaker 1>I am always a teacher, both both a teacher and

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<v Speaker 1>a student of life.

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<v Speaker 2>I have a horry. I have a horri So why

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<v Speaker 2>are you laughing?

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<v Speaker 1>Just wondering if it's the hurry? I think it is.

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<v Speaker 2>So me and my boo, we you know, we're both

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<v Speaker 2>scorpios and you know, we were very wild sexually. We

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<v Speaker 2>are explorative. That's also why this is going so great

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<v Speaker 2>as well, because I found someone that I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>is open to just it sees the fun insects, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>and that's like what I what I've been wanting recently.

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<v Speaker 2>You know. We he'd been talking about that he had

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<v Speaker 2>a surprise for me, and I was like, what is it?

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<v Speaker 1>You know, and.

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<v Speaker 2>We we'd like been having fun a trip and you know,

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<v Speaker 2>fucking doing our thing. But on the last night, uh,

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<v Speaker 2>we're pretty drunk and we were hooking up and he

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<v Speaker 2>pulled something from under the bed and he was like,

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<v Speaker 2>are you ready? And I was like yes. And actually,

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<v Speaker 2>let me preface this because prior to this, like a

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<v Speaker 2>few trips before this, we were having sex. I'm pretty

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<v Speaker 2>sure I don't know if it was a dream or not,

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<v Speaker 2>but like he had mentioned that he wanted me to

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<v Speaker 2>make him jealous, like I want to see you, like

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<v Speaker 2>I want to see you suck a dick and make

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<v Speaker 2>me jealous. And I was like what And may be

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<v Speaker 2>so wet because you know, the male male female experience

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<v Speaker 2>is something that's high on me and Jamila's list. I

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<v Speaker 2>have semi experienced it, but not quite in the form

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<v Speaker 2>of massaging. But when he said this, I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>what the fuck A man, like a man that is

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<v Speaker 2>fucking me is saying this to me. So then like

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<v Speaker 2>the next day, I was like, did I dream that?

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<v Speaker 2>Because I was also drunk that day, And then I

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<v Speaker 2>asked him and he just kind of like didn't answer.

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<v Speaker 2>He was just like hm, and I was like okay,

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<v Speaker 2>and then we didn't really talk about it again. So

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<v Speaker 2>then fast forward to this night. He pulls something from

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<v Speaker 2>under the bed and he pulls it out and it

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<v Speaker 2>is a what is it called, like a suckable dildo

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<v Speaker 2>suction cup dildo and thankfully, I mean and he told

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<v Speaker 2>me too, He was like, you know, I didn't want

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<v Speaker 2>to like have it out of the package because I

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<v Speaker 2>wanted you to know like something was coming. Yeah, So no,

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<v Speaker 2>that was unused.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh smart, smart man.

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<v Speaker 2>So he cuts it out and like he just like

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<v Speaker 2>sticks it on the wall like so aggressively, but like

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<v Speaker 2>he'd like he just knew what the fuck he was doing.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, what is.

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<v Speaker 1>This were standing or it was on the bed. We

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<v Speaker 1>were in the bed, Okay, So he put it on

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<v Speaker 1>the wall.

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<v Speaker 2>And then he told me to turn around, and so

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<v Speaker 2>of course I turned around and he started eating my

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<v Speaker 2>pussy and then he started fucking me and then he

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<v Speaker 2>was like, suck that dick, and then we started sucking.

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<v Speaker 2>I started sucking the dick. I was getting so into it, bitch.

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<v Speaker 2>He pulled the thing off, he was putting it in

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<v Speaker 2>my mouth. He was like fucking my mouth.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, I like it.

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<v Speaker 2>It was like the male male female, like not the

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<v Speaker 2>well yeah, the male female, Like I didn't know that

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<v Speaker 2>I needed, like I always envisioned it really happening, but like,

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<v Speaker 2>I think this might be. This might suffice a happy medium.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like it's a happy medium because I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know if I don't know, like I don't know if

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<v Speaker 2>he's gonna let me do that. I don't know if

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<v Speaker 2>I want to, but I know I kind of dore. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>but this this was definitely an experience, and I think

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<v Speaker 2>it's like a It's something so simple that I never

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<v Speaker 2>really thought about, you know, like anyone, Yeah, you just

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<v Speaker 2>go get a dose. I have one, but I've never

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<v Speaker 2>I've never thought to pull it out in front of

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<v Speaker 2>a guy, almost because it's like, is it disrespectful.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, because they're already here. Yeah. No, there's not the

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<v Speaker 1>more the merrier.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, but like I feel like men already feel

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<v Speaker 2>worried about toys, So actually pulling out a whole ass

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<v Speaker 2>dick that is in competition with his dick, maybe it's bigger,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I have to make sure it's like comparable.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know anything that is too big.

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<v Speaker 2>Imagine pulling out your section cock like it's just like

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<v Speaker 2>it's huge, and he's just like what the fuck?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, well that's why I need a freeman.

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<v Speaker 2>Guess why I get you a freeman Because that freeman

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<v Speaker 2>I was very pleased. So this is just a quick tip.

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<v Speaker 1>Horey tip brte that down for Mexico's pack suction tick.

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<v Speaker 2>I spit on it. Oh, use those things on it.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, I got these new dick sucking mints.

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<v Speaker 2>We found them on TikTok.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we found them on TikTok. I can't think they're

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<v Speaker 1>called right now, but yeah, thank you guys, We love

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<v Speaker 1>you and we will talk to you next week.

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<v Speaker 2>Him