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Speaker 1: What's up on Granger.

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Speaker 2: I'm Amber, I'm Tyler, I'm Parker.

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Speaker 1: And this is the ninety nine for one podcast. You

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Speaker 1: might be wondering where is ant Man and why is

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Speaker 1: Amber here? Why ant Man's not feeling well? Easy, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we love ant Man, but he's not feeling well. And

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Speaker 1: Amber is a somebody I wanted to I want you

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Speaker 1: to go on this podcast anyway, so it seems like

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Speaker 1: it worked out really well to have you, so thanks

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Speaker 1: for being with us. The purpose in the name of

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Speaker 1: this podcast is the purpose is to seek the one

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Speaker 1: and equip the ninety nine to do the same, as

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Speaker 1: comes from a parable and the Gospel of Luke where

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Speaker 1: Jesus said, how many of you that had a hundred

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Speaker 1: sheep would not leave the ninety nine for the one?

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Speaker 1: If there was one loss, wouldn't you go after the one?

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Speaker 1: And that's what we try to do with this podcast.

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Speaker 1: We have seen enough in our lives, all four of

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Speaker 1: us where we don't We aren't craving to be the clickbait,

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Speaker 1: get all the views, get all the listeners type podcast.

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Speaker 1: I think we would rather tackle things that are a

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Speaker 1: little less popular so that maybe one person needs to

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Speaker 1: hear it. They put the topic today as we've been

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Speaker 1: diving in and just kind of discussing here. We were

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Speaker 1: talking about we have a amber, and I have a

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Speaker 1: fourteen year old daughter, and so we're talking about middle

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Speaker 1: school and all the things that go with middle school.

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Speaker 1: And we were kind of going around the circle talking

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Speaker 1: about did anyone have a good experience in middle school?

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Speaker 1: And I don't think any Even Tyler thought that he did,

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Speaker 1: but then the more he thought about it, he remembered

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Speaker 1: some guy that punched him all the time.

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Speaker 3: It wasn't without blimmit, Yeah I had a great middle school,

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Speaker 3: but yeah here all the time, people like I hate

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Speaker 3: in middle school or high school had great experiences at both.

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Speaker 1: So we were talking about how formative middle school can be,

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Speaker 1: but up and up and beyond the the formation of

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Speaker 1: school or that age is the idea of the formation

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Speaker 1: of fathers. And I think as we think back through

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Speaker 1: middle school, just and I and now I'm on this

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Speaker 1: you know, as I was in middle school that was

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Speaker 1: forming me. And now I am the father that's trying

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Speaker 1: my best to form my middle schooler. And it is constant, right,

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Speaker 4: We talked, Well, you said last night, I think this

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Speaker 4: is the hardest time in parenting we've ever had.

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Speaker 5: It is, and then perception is that's when it's going

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Speaker 5: to be easiest. When the kids are older. They're like

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Speaker 5: self functioning, they're independent vipers. I just wish my kids

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Speaker 5: were in middle school.

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Speaker 1: You have a two year old and a baby on

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Speaker 1: the way, and how many you've probably already heard people

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Speaker 1: that joke around like, wait to those teen years, wait

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Speaker 1: to the teen years. Like as soon as London came

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Speaker 1: wait till those teen years. And well, I was always like,

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Speaker 4: She is all of those I'm loving these years with her.

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Speaker 1: But they were not wrong about the the it's an

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Speaker 1: extra level of thinking and planning and wrestling through is

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Speaker 1: literally when you have a teen you're you have to

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Speaker 2: And it's nothing against her, like we're just like thinking.

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Speaker 5: We were just literally like, yeah, middle school is so hard,

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Speaker 4: Parker said he was about he feels like he felt

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, yeah, they're like, yeah, London like has been

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Speaker 2: It makes me want to throw up just thinking about

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Speaker 2: being fourteen. That was terrible.

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Speaker 5: It's such like a formative time and you're so vulnerable,

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Speaker 5: you know, physically, mentally, spiritually, and you're so impressionable. You're

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Speaker 5: always looking at like, who's the person I want to imitate?

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Speaker 5: Who am I going to be? What's the perception of

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Speaker 5: in these classes that you hate. You don't care about

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Speaker 1: Like he's like summoned everything else said that last night.

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Speaker 1: You should talk to London. You got to figure it out.

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Speaker 5: But it's hard to know when to like push and

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Speaker 2: And you know that, you guys, is the battle.

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Speaker 1: Man, you just summed it up. That's the battle. We

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Speaker 1: every and I I we finish our day. We get

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Speaker 4: But yeah, because we want to be we want to

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Speaker 3: I think Parker said the key to all this and

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Speaker 3: you said who like you said something like kudo want

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Speaker 1: That the Class Tyler podcast line.

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Speaker 3: And I know you can't care what anybody thinks about

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Speaker 3: So the question is how do you not care? How

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Speaker 3: did I just not care if if I wore something

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Speaker 1: Be dumb because I just don't care. Can I just

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Speaker 1: stop right here, just for a second and just say, yes,

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Speaker 1: I get it, you're an alpha. Many people hear that

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Speaker 2: You don't know, I'm I'm asking.

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Speaker 3: I'm yeah, I get, I get I'm asking the question.

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Speaker 2: How so how how do you just not care?

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Speaker 5: Is it so that the question is are you born

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Speaker 5: with that instinct or can it be learned?

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Speaker 1: Right?

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Speaker 4: It's for a lot of kids the middle school or

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Speaker 5: I remember going back to like a middle school football

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Speaker 2: But Tyler, probably you didn't feel that at all. Yeah, well,

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Speaker 2: I'm the man, I'm the quarterback.

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Speaker 3: I don't think it just didn't care. Do you think

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Speaker 3: that you had any kind of pressure because of your

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Speaker 5: And so I think I've always put a lot of

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Speaker 5: the Bible study that was leading last night at Prepped

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Speaker 5: We're supposed to just like ask a few questions. But

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Speaker 5: want to have an answer for every single thing. Yeah, anyway,

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Speaker 5: I do. I don't know the direction you want to take.

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Speaker 1: So the direction I want to go is during these

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Speaker 1: formative years. Let's talk about the role of a father.

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Speaker 1: I have some research pulled up. There's a lot of

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Speaker 1: sometimes modern psychology actually does line up with the Bible.

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Speaker 1: It will today with this study of fathers. But let's

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Speaker 1: talk about the role of fathers and specifically kids. So

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Speaker 1: let's go around. Three of us in the room here

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Speaker 1: let's talk about the confidence maybe that Tyler had. Okay,

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Speaker 1: how much came from dad?

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Speaker 3: Well, I could tell you how that hurt my relationship

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Speaker 5: I did not butt heads at all, right, Right, So

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Speaker 3: I guess being debt like dead like man, we had

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Speaker 1: I wonder how Dad changed what we lost Dad twelve

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Speaker 3: You know what I saw with their dad when because

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Speaker 3: He was always loving and patient through it while I

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Speaker 4: So I remember, you probably had a different dad than

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the older dad. You're thirteen years younger, so just

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Speaker 1: sheer age dad was. I'll say just a rough number.

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Speaker 4: Where's that confidence?

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Speaker 1: Now, that's where it effected me. The relationship with my dad,

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Speaker 1: Dad was for me. You know, Dad loved Dad loved football.

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Speaker 1: Dad's just so into seeing, wanting to show his experience

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Speaker 4: and he is perfect. And if we're looking too earthly

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Speaker 4: dads to give us what we need, they'll always let

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Speaker 4: us down, whether they are good, present, not present, whatever,

436
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Speaker 4: they're always gonna let us down. But we can know

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Speaker 4: that we have a good father in heaven who will

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Speaker 4: not But he doesn't always give us what we want,

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Speaker 4: but he gives us what we need because he loves us.

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Speaker 1: So I just I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I just felt bad saying I didn't have a crime.

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Speaker 1: Well you didn't say it, I said, I know. So

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Speaker 1: to expound on what you mean by what you want

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Speaker 1: versus what.

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Speaker 4: You need, because God doesn't answer what we always want

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Speaker 4: because he knows what's best for us, but he'll give

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Speaker 4: us what we need. And you've always said the struggle

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Speaker 4: between my dad and I is my power now is

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Speaker 4: what you've told me. Use that as your power and

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Speaker 4: how you parent moving forward, and it's shaped me into

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Speaker 4: the woman that I am.

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Speaker 1: Say that one more time, what so that I can

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Speaker 1: I mean, I understand what you mean, but so that

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Speaker 1: people can understand. Sometimes the struggle you've had growing up

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Speaker 1: with the absent father is now what is given you

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Speaker 1: strength to be the woman that you are.

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Speaker 4: And I can thank him, just like we always talk

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Speaker 4: about we can thank the Lord for our suffering. I

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Speaker 4: can thank him now for these times in my life

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Speaker 4: that have shaped me into the woman that I am today.

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Speaker 1: There are good things that old Tony Robbins said that

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Speaker 1: we en to his self help and that was whore

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Speaker 1: Tony Robbins used to really in his gravelly voice, be like,

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Speaker 1: you could thank your mother. Your mother abandoned you, thank

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Speaker 1: her for that because now you have the gift of independence.

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Speaker 3: Well you learn that because she did that, you could

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Speaker 3: help the people that are gone through similar situation.

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Speaker 2: Eactly, Yeah, that's right, Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Parker, what are you pulling up?

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Speaker 5: I was just thinking about the person who's like, well,

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Speaker 5: you say, God is a good father, gives good gifts

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Speaker 5: to his children. But like the person who's like, he

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Speaker 5: didn't give me what I wanted. Yeah, he's didn't get

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Speaker 5: rid of my acne, and like, I'm not the best

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Speaker 5: player on my sports team, terrible with school, not good

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Speaker 5: with whatever. I don't have a girlfriend. I feel dumb.

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Speaker 5: I feel like God hasn't answered my prayers. But I

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Speaker 5: feel like what y'all said, he gives you what you need,

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Speaker 5: not necessarily what you want at the time, what you

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Speaker 5: think you want. I think that could be helpful maybe

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Speaker 5: to those who feel like their prayers have not been answered.

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Speaker 1: So let's talk about it with your kids. Let's use David,

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Speaker 1: your son, your two year old son, as an analogy.

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Speaker 1: What's what's the difference in something that he wants and

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Speaker 1: something that he needs? And would you give him? If

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Speaker 1: I heard I heard somebody talking about this first one

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Speaker 1: time talking about this, Matthew seven, how many of you

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Speaker 1: if you ask for bread, he would give you a stone?

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Speaker 1: How many? How many? If you ask for a fish,

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Speaker 1: would he would give you a serpent? Basically that's what

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Speaker 1: he says, snake. But many times what we ask for

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Speaker 1: is the snake. I think that's an implication of this

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Speaker 1: text too, is that us not knowing we ask for

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Speaker 1: snakes all the time, we ask for stones all the time,

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Speaker 1: and a good father will give you bread and a

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Speaker 1: good father will give you a fish right in this particular.

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Speaker 1: So what's an example of what David wants? And you

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Speaker 1: don't give him what he wants and he might be

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Speaker 1: mad at that, but then you give him what he needs.

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Speaker 2: Oh, like he wants to play in the street all

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Speaker 2: the time?

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Speaker 1: Okay? Or who would it be a good father to say, yes,

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Speaker 1: go play in the street because I just want to

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Speaker 1: please you.

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Speaker 5: I'm trying to give a better example though, because for

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Speaker 5: the person that's like, well, I've been praying for a husband,

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Speaker 5: h for like six years. I'm thirty one. Everybody's married.

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Speaker 5: I'm not asking God to go play in the street.

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Speaker 5: I'm not asking for a knife. I just want a husband,

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Speaker 5: you know. And I know that's a hard question, but

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Speaker 5: I'm just trying to think. But yeah, I know what

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Speaker 5: you mean, because like reading like I was reading the

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Speaker 5: Ragule of Christian Contentment, and Burrows is emphasizing how in

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Speaker 5: Romans God gave them up to the desires of their

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Speaker 5: hearts and He's like, some of sometimes the way God

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Speaker 5: could actually judge you most harshly. The worst thing that

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Speaker 5: could happen for you actually is for God to just

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Speaker 5: give in and give you whatever your heart wants or

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Speaker 5: whatever your flesh wants. And I remember hearing John Piper

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Speaker 5: recently talk about how terrible, specifically in A Q and

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Speaker 5: A his acne was in middle school and how much

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Speaker 5: that had an effect on his social life and his

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Speaker 5: confidence and how self conscious he was. And he says,

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Speaker 5: in hindsight, if I was if I did have like

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Speaker 5: the clear skin and look the exact way that I wanted,

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Speaker 5: I don't know if God would have used me the

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Speaker 5: way that he has and how that has implanted such

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Speaker 5: humility in me because of those years of those afflictions.

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Speaker 5: And so then he can look back and say, thank

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Speaker 5: you God for that acne that was so terrible, that

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Speaker 5: made me rely on you, that made me feel so

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Speaker 5: weak and so vulnerable, and like I had to rely

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Speaker 5: on you and trust you.

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Speaker 1: Man. That's something something you said, something he said Parker

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Speaker 1: about the person that's saying I'm praying for a husband

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Speaker 1: or praying for a wife. Let's talk about this for

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Speaker 1: a second, because I know there's people that are that

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Speaker 1: want that as well. They're listening and had a friend

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Speaker 1: text me text me recently asking this, Hey, can you

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Speaker 1: pray for me? Can you pray for patience? Because I

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Speaker 1: desperately want a wife. I want the Lord to bring

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Speaker 1: me somebody, and I feel like he hasn't, and obviously

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Speaker 1: because he hasn't, it's because I need to be learning something,

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Speaker 1: and so will you please pray that the Lord gives

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Speaker 1: me patience? And I said, brother, I don't think patience

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Speaker 1: is what you need. You need you need contentment because

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Speaker 1: we patience is saying I know I know what the

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Speaker 1: Lord's gonna do down the road, and so just keep

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Speaker 1: me pacified until he does it. But that's not what

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Speaker 1: you need. You need to say, you need the Lord

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Speaker 1: to give you contentment so that you could then say

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Speaker 1: I'm good where I am now, and if Lord change that,

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Speaker 1: and if you bring somebody in my life, amen, it's wonderful.

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Speaker 1: I'll trust you in that. But as of right now, Lord,

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Speaker 1: I need to be content with who I am and

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Speaker 1: where I am and in my situation today. On top

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Speaker 1: of that, the other side of this is that for

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Speaker 1: everyone that's praying for a wife or a husband, bring

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Speaker 1: me someone. I'm lonely. I need somebody. For everyone that's

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Speaker 1: saying that, there is an equal amount of people saying

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Speaker 1: I need out of this. This woman is driving me crazy.

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Speaker 1: I want to get a divorce, but I can't because

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Speaker 1: the Bible, and I'm stuck here. Or she's abusive or

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Speaker 1: he's abusive, or they're a terrible parent to my kids,

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Speaker 1: and I'm stuck in this situation. There's equal amount of people.

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Speaker 1: And so for the Lord to say, say, oh, you

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Speaker 1: want somebody, I'll give you somebody. What does the person

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Speaker 1: say that says I want out? They would say, hang on,

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Speaker 1: you need contentment. You don't need a person right now.

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Speaker 1: Look at me.

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Speaker 5: It's like Moralites when they demanded God that they wanted

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Speaker 5: to king kick every other h exactly exactly.

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Speaker 4: I was just going to say, with the giving what

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Speaker 4: you want versus what you need? When you said that,

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Speaker 4: was it your friend that you said something about God

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Speaker 4: wouldn't have used them the way that they did.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I was just thinking, like what we wanted with our

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Speaker 4: son River was we wanted healing. We wanted River to

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Speaker 4: come back to us. But God knew what we needed.

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Speaker 4: And I think how of how our lives would have

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Speaker 4: been so different if God had given us what we wanted,

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Speaker 4: and God, it would have given River back to us,

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Speaker 4: our lives would be so different, so incredibly different. And

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Speaker 4: it's like He takes something that we want and gives

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Speaker 4: us something better. And the better was him, and the

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Speaker 4: better was salvation. And that's hard because there's people praying

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Speaker 4: for a wife or healing or you know, whatever it is.

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Speaker 4: And it just goes back to the scriptures. If we

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Speaker 4: don't understand God's ways, they're they're unsearchable. But he knows

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Speaker 4: what we need in the long run.

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Speaker 1: And I can't think of a better example than that

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Speaker 1: for our lives.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and it's different for everybody.

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Speaker 3: Ie, the Lord is my shepherd. I shall not want. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: everything you just said, I hear a lot of I

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Speaker 3: and me.

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Speaker 1: I want this.

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Speaker 3: When are you going to bring me? Yeah, contentment, it's

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Speaker 3: it's Lord changed the desires of my heart to your desires.

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Speaker 3: Let me trust you. I lack nothing. You are sufficient.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's it. It's not easy.

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Speaker 2: I might not have a wife, I might not have

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Speaker 2: a husband. All I need is Lord and his plan.

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Speaker 1: And I feel like I feel like that's so good

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Speaker 1: for all of us in whatever season of life, whatever

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Speaker 1: we have going on. You know, the ultimate example for

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Speaker 1: us in our lives is River. That's good. I remember

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Speaker 1: praying in that hallway that he would the Lord would

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Speaker 1: heal him and bring him back, and everyone was praying that,

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Speaker 1: and then he didn't. And and you think about this,

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Speaker 1: You what on Matthew seven, ask, knock, seek, where are

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Speaker 1: you God?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 1: But then Jesus says, right after that, how much more

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Speaker 1: will your father in Heaven give good things to those

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Speaker 1: who ask? So we were asking and he was giving.

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Speaker 1: We didn't see it then, not in the way we wanted,

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Speaker 1: just one the way we wanted. It wasn't playing in

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Speaker 1: the street. It wasn't having that ice cream cone that

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Speaker 1: you want so bad.

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Speaker 2: Please.

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Speaker 1: No, I know more about this ice cream than you

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Speaker 1: do right now, and I know your stomach. But so

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Speaker 1: that's the example of our house. But I was gonna

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Speaker 1: say the ultimate example is the cross. Remember Peter said,

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Speaker 1: far be it, Lord, that you're gonna go and die,

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Speaker 1: that they're going to kill you on the cross. No way, Lord,

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Speaker 1: that'll never happen. I'll stop them. Every time Jesus says,

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Speaker 1: get behind me, Satan.

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Speaker 4: You're thinking of the ways of man.

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Speaker 3: And the same thing when he says, I'll never deny you.

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Speaker 3: He says, Peter, They're gonna deny me three times?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, no way, I know what what no way?

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Speaker 4: Like?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the ultimate example is the Cross. We no

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Speaker 1: one would have wanted their human desires without seeing the

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Speaker 1: full redemptive history that God would do through the Cross.

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Speaker 1: No one at the time, in fact, just preached this

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Speaker 1: in Isaiah fifty three when Isaiah said of this generation

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Speaker 1: of our generation, who considered it, who considered that he

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Speaker 1: would be cut off from the land of the living?

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Speaker 1: Talking about the Christ, the Messiah, the servant in Isaiah

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Speaker 1: fifty three, who considered that he would be cut off

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Speaker 1: from the land of the living? Meaning? And I talked

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Speaker 1: to Mom about it because Mom was like, what does

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Speaker 1: that mean? Who considered that he would be cut off

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Speaker 1: from the land of the living? Because wasn't because everyone

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Speaker 1: abandoned him. Mom was like, what about Mary? Wasn't Mary there? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I believe she was there? What about John? Yet? John

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Speaker 1: was there? I believe probably most of what else were

652
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Speaker 1: the disciples doing? They weren't. They didn't have a vacation

653
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Speaker 1: somewhere else. They were there somewhere. But what it means

654
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Speaker 1: the text means is they didn't know what was happening.

655
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Speaker 1: They knew he was dying, but they didn't see what

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Speaker 1: it was. They didn't see John twenty says that they

657
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Speaker 1: didn't understand the scripture that he must die and rise again.

658
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Speaker 1: They didn't see it, and so when it means they

659
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Speaker 1: didn't they didn't consider it, it means they wanted what

660
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Speaker 1: they wanted him back right now. Mary thought, I just

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Speaker 1: want my son back. John said, I just I just

662
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Speaker 1: want my rabbi back.

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Speaker 3: Why didn't any of them see that and understand it

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Speaker 3: at the time. I know it's his God's plan, but

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Speaker 3: they they were They were to tell to it multiple times.

666
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Speaker 1: He told them multiple times. But when we read it,

667
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Speaker 1: when we read through the Gospels, we see him telling

668
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Speaker 1: and they don't understand. And the Bible even says degree

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Speaker 1: and to happen. The people that were there wrote of

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Speaker 1: themselves they didn't understand that he must die and he

671
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Speaker 1: must rise from the dead. And you know, in a way,

672
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Speaker 1: we wouldn't either. We wouldn't have understood like, oh, he's

673
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Speaker 1: the Lamb Revelation five, He's going to come through. He's

674
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Speaker 1: going to conquer death. We're gonna be forgiven our lessons

675
00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:05,040
Speaker 1: will be put up placed on him. He'll become our substitute.

676
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Speaker 1: Like they didn't get it.

677
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Speaker 3: They just arrest him with Judas, and one of them

678
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Speaker 3: chopped off the ear of the Roman guard.

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Speaker 1: It was Peter. They just thought, Jesus is the one

680
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Speaker 1: that's going to become the king of Israel. Then he's

681
00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:20,919
Speaker 1: gonna overthrow the Romans, and then he's gonna he's gonna

682
00:35:20,920 --> 00:35:24,520
Speaker 1: fulfill the Son of David prophecy where we are now

683
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Speaker 1: going to reign and will be God's people and we're

684
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Speaker 1: going to live. And now he's hanging on a tree.

685
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Speaker 1: Only someone that's cursed hangs on a tree. That's in

686
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Speaker 1: the law of Moses. What's going on? They couldn't put

687
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Speaker 1: it together, and so they were blinded to answer your question.

688
00:35:41,400 --> 00:35:44,240
Speaker 1: But they also were human, and we wouldn't We wouldn't

689
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Speaker 1: have thought this is it, This is the suffering servant,

690
00:35:49,520 --> 00:35:52,760
Speaker 1: this is you know, this is Psalm twenty two peers

691
00:35:52,840 --> 00:35:56,320
Speaker 1: for my for our transgressions. I get it now. So

692
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Speaker 1: the ultimate example of what they wanted, but what they needed,

693
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Speaker 1: in fact, their need was so great. Our need is

694
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Speaker 1: so great we can't possibly understand it without it being

695
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Speaker 1: revealed to us. Yeah, we're so blinded, and our greatest

696
00:36:11,760 --> 00:36:14,680
Speaker 1: need is to be forgiven of our sin. And yet

697
00:36:14,719 --> 00:36:17,480
Speaker 1: none of us even know before ours our eyes are

698
00:36:17,520 --> 00:36:19,680
Speaker 1: opened by the Lord, none of us even know that

699
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Speaker 1: that's our greatest need. We want security and a wife

700
00:36:24,920 --> 00:36:27,160
Speaker 1: and a family, and a house and a car and

701
00:36:27,280 --> 00:36:30,399
Speaker 1: a good job, and we want health and long life.

702
00:36:30,440 --> 00:36:32,600
Speaker 1: And we don't want cancer. We want we want to

703
00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:35,319
Speaker 1: keep our brains and not get dimensioned. We want, we want,

704
00:36:35,400 --> 00:36:38,239
Speaker 1: we want, and God goes none of That's what you need.

705
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Speaker 1: What you need is forgiveness. And I'm doing that to Christ.

706
00:36:46,480 --> 00:36:50,520
Speaker 1: That is the ultimate example of what we want versus

707
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Speaker 1: what we need.

708
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Speaker 5: And you can see how looking back, when the Lord

709
00:36:54,520 --> 00:36:59,439
Speaker 5: has allowed trials and suffering, that that has actually helped

710
00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:02,440
Speaker 5: to open your eyes to your need of him. I

711
00:37:02,520 --> 00:37:05,520
Speaker 5: was listening to this him when I was working out

712
00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:10,760
Speaker 5: this morning, Come ye Sinners. It's called come you sinners,

713
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Speaker 5: poor and needy, and one of the like little stanzas

714
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Speaker 5: in it it says, let not conscience make you linger,

715
00:37:21,480 --> 00:37:25,759
Speaker 5: nor a fitness fondly dream. All the fitness He requireth

716
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Speaker 5: is to feel your need of Him. So fitness just

717
00:37:29,080 --> 00:37:32,440
Speaker 5: meaning like cleaning yourself up or readiness to like come

718
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Speaker 5: to God.

719
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Speaker 2: And so you think.

720
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Speaker 5: Nor a fitness, fondly dream that you'll one day be

721
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Speaker 5: ready to come to him. All the fitness he requireth

722
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Speaker 5: is to feel your need of him. If you tarry,

723
00:37:45,600 --> 00:37:48,040
Speaker 5: and it says come you weary, heavy laden, lost and

724
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Speaker 5: ruined by the fall, If you tarry till you're better,

725
00:37:51,160 --> 00:37:53,759
Speaker 5: you will never come at all. And so you just

726
00:37:53,840 --> 00:37:57,680
Speaker 5: think the only readiness or fitness He requires of us

727
00:37:57,840 --> 00:37:59,560
Speaker 5: is to feel our need of him. And so what

728
00:37:59,680 --> 00:38:02,319
Speaker 5: better away as a loving father than to help us

729
00:38:02,560 --> 00:38:03,920
Speaker 5: show us our need of him?

730
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Speaker 2: And how does he do that?

731
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Speaker 5: Through a perfect life giving us everything we want we

732
00:38:07,719 --> 00:38:10,440
Speaker 5: think we want, now we would never feel our need

733
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Speaker 5: for him.

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Speaker 1: That's so good man, Yeah, that's beautiful. Every human has

735
00:38:20,600 --> 00:38:26,120
Speaker 1: the same need and we need to be made right

736
00:38:26,239 --> 00:38:32,960
Speaker 1: with God. But we don't always ask that question. And

737
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Speaker 1: then we're not just talking about Christians, We're not just

738
00:38:36,800 --> 00:38:40,680
Speaker 1: talking about Muslims or Buddhists. You know, we're talking about

739
00:38:40,840 --> 00:38:47,160
Speaker 1: humanity needs to be made right with God. In fact,

740
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Speaker 1: I'm pretty I'm pretty convinced that this podcast has now

741
00:38:49,800 --> 00:38:50,239
Speaker 1: turned to that.

742
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Speaker 5: Yeah, I know, I'm thinking, like, how do you, how

743
00:38:53,840 --> 00:38:56,600
Speaker 5: do you now shape that towards Okay, well, a father's

744
00:38:57,560 --> 00:39:02,640
Speaker 5: a father's you know, all responsibility is to emulate God

745
00:39:02,800 --> 00:39:06,440
Speaker 5: and his son or daughter's life. Like I've heard the

746
00:39:06,520 --> 00:39:10,720
Speaker 5: saying that your kids should know God. Your kids should

747
00:39:10,760 --> 00:39:13,600
Speaker 5: know God by the way mom and dad treat them

748
00:39:13,920 --> 00:39:17,359
Speaker 5: and act with each other and towards them at such

749
00:39:17,360 --> 00:39:19,640
Speaker 5: an early age before that they can even you know,

750
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Speaker 5: my son should know who God is based on the

751
00:39:21,640 --> 00:39:24,439
Speaker 5: way I treat him in an act authority and love

752
00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:27,359
Speaker 5: before he can even understand like the concept of God.

753
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Speaker 2: If that makes sense.

754
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Speaker 1: No, yeah, that's that's great because when we think about fathers,

755
00:39:35,280 --> 00:39:37,839
Speaker 1: we have two out of the four of us, two

756
00:39:37,920 --> 00:39:43,040
Speaker 1: fathers and both group both fathers in this group of

757
00:39:43,120 --> 00:39:47,640
Speaker 1: four did what exactly. They did exactly what the Lord

758
00:39:47,719 --> 00:39:50,000
Speaker 1: willed for them to do for us to be seeking him.

759
00:39:51,880 --> 00:39:54,400
Speaker 1: Even with the death of one of them, was exactly

760
00:39:54,520 --> 00:39:57,160
Speaker 1: what the Lord needed to do for us to be

761
00:39:57,280 --> 00:39:59,840
Speaker 1: seeking him exactly the way. So it's interesting when I

762
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Speaker 1: pray for our kids' future spouses, I don't pray God

763
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Speaker 1: protect them, May they grow up in a good, healthy home,

764
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Speaker 1: May they be secure and confident. And I don't pray

765
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Speaker 1: those things. I say, Lord, I'm laying with Lincoln. You know,

766
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Speaker 1: I'm getting he's I'm taking his back, you know, before bed,

767
00:40:25,680 --> 00:40:28,040
Speaker 1: he's got his eyes closed and he's off in dreamland.

768
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Speaker 1: Say Lord, there's a woman, possibly that you're preparing for

769
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Speaker 1: this boy, a little girl most likely right now, or

770
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Speaker 1: whatever it is you're doing to draw her to yourself,

771
00:40:45,640 --> 00:40:48,719
Speaker 1: or do that so that she's seeking you and that

772
00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:55,239
Speaker 1: she loves you with all her heart and then and

773
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Speaker 1: then draw Lincoln to her because of Lincoln's love for you.

774
00:41:00,360 --> 00:41:04,680
Speaker 1: So notice I'm leaving it open now. Maybe she's abused.

775
00:41:06,239 --> 00:41:08,200
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't want that. I wouldn't want that.

776
00:41:08,280 --> 00:41:10,879
Speaker 1: I would never I would never pray that. But maybe

777
00:41:10,920 --> 00:41:14,799
Speaker 1: she has a single mom, maybe she has a maybe

778
00:41:14,880 --> 00:41:19,360
Speaker 1: both parents die in a car accident. But Lord, whatever

779
00:41:19,480 --> 00:41:22,160
Speaker 1: you're gonna do, you know, I don't. But whatever you're

780
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Speaker 1: doing for that hypothetical girl that's Lincoln's future wife, one day, Lord,

781
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Speaker 1: stir her in whatever way you're going to do it,

782
00:41:30,880 --> 00:41:33,920
Speaker 1: so that she loves you and is redeemed by you,

783
00:41:34,120 --> 00:41:36,880
Speaker 1: restored by you, and then meets Lincoln. And then they

784
00:41:37,000 --> 00:41:40,680
Speaker 1: raise kids with the same love that they have for you. Lord,

785
00:41:40,719 --> 00:41:44,960
Speaker 1: that they raise children in that way, and Lord that

786
00:41:45,080 --> 00:41:47,680
Speaker 1: she'll be she'll be yours and saved in a child

787
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Speaker 1: of God forever. So you're leaving the door ub now

788
00:41:51,600 --> 00:41:54,839
Speaker 1: open for things that temporarily we look at in our

789
00:41:54,880 --> 00:41:59,239
Speaker 1: world and go, that would be horrible. But that's the

790
00:41:59,280 --> 00:42:02,080
Speaker 1: will of God for the reason you said earlier.

791
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Speaker 5: Yeah, I think you were talking about, like, our greatest

792
00:42:06,680 --> 00:42:11,399
Speaker 5: need is humans is peace with God. And I think

793
00:42:11,440 --> 00:42:15,239
Speaker 5: one of the main jobs of a father is to

794
00:42:15,360 --> 00:42:19,000
Speaker 5: communicate that with your kids from an early age so

795
00:42:19,120 --> 00:42:22,680
Speaker 5: that it's you know, discipline and spankings are not only

796
00:42:22,800 --> 00:42:26,360
Speaker 5: behavior correction, but also each one is an opportunity that

797
00:42:27,320 --> 00:42:30,160
Speaker 5: you didn't obey data, and you have to obey Dada.

798
00:42:30,320 --> 00:42:33,879
Speaker 5: But also ultimately you disobey data, and you're disobeying God

799
00:42:34,080 --> 00:42:36,319
Speaker 5: because the Bible says you must honor your father and mother,

800
00:42:36,320 --> 00:42:38,719
Speaker 5: you must be obedient to your parents, and so you've

801
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:41,960
Speaker 5: actually sinned against Jesus and this is why why you

802
00:42:42,080 --> 00:42:45,359
Speaker 5: need help. And so each time David's two, he can't

803
00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:47,719
Speaker 5: understand that I don't get that deep yet, but as

804
00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:51,200
Speaker 5: he gets a little bit older, he'll understand quickly, understanding

805
00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:55,239
Speaker 5: that God is the sinner of this discipline. And it's

806
00:42:55,320 --> 00:42:58,359
Speaker 5: not just behavior, because I said, so, this is why

807
00:42:58,520 --> 00:43:02,319
Speaker 5: you need Jesus, and this is why data needs Jesus too,

808
00:43:02,360 --> 00:43:03,600
Speaker 5: because data sinds every day.

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00:43:04,120 --> 00:43:06,200
Speaker 4: Well yeah, and it's not just the behavior. It's it's

810
00:43:06,320 --> 00:43:08,520
Speaker 4: trying to shape the heart, get to the heart of

811
00:43:08,600 --> 00:43:10,480
Speaker 4: what they're the root of why they are acting out

812
00:43:10,520 --> 00:43:11,320
Speaker 4: in a certain behavior.

813
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Speaker 1: You can fix behavior MAVs three or Maps four. But

814
00:43:15,880 --> 00:43:18,200
Speaker 1: when he was three, he was already understanding these things

815
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Speaker 1: that David will get and they understood quickly that. To

816
00:43:23,120 --> 00:43:27,080
Speaker 1: add to what you just said, that you're outside of

817
00:43:27,719 --> 00:43:30,279
Speaker 1: God's circle of blessing, Well, that's the term we use

818
00:43:30,280 --> 00:43:33,000
Speaker 1: in our family and they come from that, that comes

819
00:43:33,040 --> 00:43:36,680
Speaker 1: from that Ted trip book. But you're outside of the

820
00:43:36,719 --> 00:43:41,319
Speaker 1: circle of blessing. So my my obligation as a father

821
00:43:41,600 --> 00:43:44,760
Speaker 1: is to get you back into this circle of blessing

822
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Speaker 1: as quickly as possible, not to leave you outside the circle,

823
00:43:48,360 --> 00:43:51,120
Speaker 1: because you're in a very dangerous place right now. You're

824
00:43:51,160 --> 00:43:54,279
Speaker 1: outside of God's will for your life because you're in

825
00:43:54,320 --> 00:43:59,279
Speaker 1: disobedience to your parents. So it's the it's the Ephesian six.

826
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Speaker 1: You wish you go there because this is the command

827
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Speaker 1: with a promise, children, obey your parents. This is the

828
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Speaker 1: top of fees and six. Children, obey your parents in

829
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Speaker 1: the Lord for this is right. Honor your father and mother.

830
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Speaker 1: This is the first commandment, with a promise that it

831
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Speaker 1: may go well with you and that you may live

832
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Speaker 1: long in the land. So there's a promise that if

833
00:44:29,640 --> 00:44:34,120
Speaker 1: you don't honor or obey your parents, things are not

834
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Speaker 1: going to go well for you. So when you're standing

835
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Speaker 1: outside of this promise, I want to get you back

836
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Speaker 1: in as fast as possible, because I'm literally saying, you're

837
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Speaker 1: outside of a place where things are not going to

838
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Speaker 1: go well for you. Things are not going well for

839
00:44:47,040 --> 00:44:49,480
Speaker 1: you out here. Get back in as fast as possible.

840
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Speaker 1: And on top of that, I tell them, and Maverick

841
00:44:53,040 --> 00:44:58,480
Speaker 1: understands this clearly, I must be obedient to God for this,

842
00:45:00,520 --> 00:45:04,640
Speaker 1: because God tells me that he has entrusted you kids

843
00:45:04,719 --> 00:45:08,440
Speaker 1: to me, and I have to be obedient to his

844
00:45:08,680 --> 00:45:12,719
Speaker 1: word to get you back in this circle. And if

845
00:45:12,800 --> 00:45:18,040
Speaker 1: I don't, you're disobedient, and I'm this disobedient. We're both disobedient.

846
00:45:19,120 --> 00:45:22,400
Speaker 1: So right now you're disobedient. But I must be obedient

847
00:45:22,480 --> 00:45:26,320
Speaker 1: to the Lord to bring you back. And that is

848
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Speaker 1: a mini gospel. You're outside the circle, you're outside of

849
00:45:31,320 --> 00:45:35,879
Speaker 1: God's will. Christ comes and brings you back. He reconciles

850
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:40,840
Speaker 1: us and literally, Peter says, brings us to God. So

851
00:45:41,160 --> 00:45:44,280
Speaker 1: it's a mini gospel right there with every little spanking.

852
00:45:45,040 --> 00:45:48,480
Speaker 4: But there's a line there that The next verse is, fathers,

853
00:45:48,520 --> 00:45:50,640
Speaker 4: do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them

854
00:45:50,680 --> 00:45:52,600
Speaker 4: up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. So

855
00:45:53,120 --> 00:45:56,160
Speaker 4: some fathers discipline out of anger and they're just like,

856
00:45:56,239 --> 00:45:58,160
Speaker 4: honor your father and mother, but don't worry about how

857
00:45:58,200 --> 00:46:01,160
Speaker 4: I act or how I live. So it's it's a

858
00:46:01,280 --> 00:46:03,640
Speaker 4: testament to the father needs to be the fathers need

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00:46:03,719 --> 00:46:05,839
Speaker 4: to be walking with the Lord and following the Lord

860
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Speaker 4: themselves and trying to build their own holiness. Otherwise you're

861
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Speaker 4: just telling them to do certain things, but you're provoking

862
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Speaker 4: them to anger. So yeah, yeah, it don't be a

863
00:46:16,040 --> 00:46:17,719
Speaker 4: do as I do and not or do as I

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Speaker 4: say and not as I do. Yeah, type of dad,

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Speaker 4: because I heard that a lot obey your father and mother,

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Speaker 4: but nothing else in the Bible was followed.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's good, So glad you said.

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Speaker 5: But that motive has to be of the Father, has

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Speaker 5: to be for genuine care for the child to come

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Speaker 5: back into that authority, because because like in Proverbs, you

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Speaker 5: discipline those that you love. Because I love you and

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Speaker 5: you're in danger. And I'm not coming out of emotion,

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Speaker 5: you know, I'm not speaking you out of emotion like

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Speaker 5: an emotional anger. But it's like a genuine love and

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Speaker 5: care for your soul.

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Speaker 2: That's why I'm doing it.

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Speaker 5: But it's crazy how how elevated or how serious the

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Speaker 5: Bible takes disobedience to parents. We're reading two Timothy three

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Speaker 5: last night and says, understand this, in the last days,

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Speaker 5: there will come times of difficulty. People will be lovers

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Speaker 5: of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to

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Speaker 5: their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self control, brutal,

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Speaker 5: not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure,

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Speaker 5: having the appearance of godliness but denying its power, and all.

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Speaker 2: Those terrible things it mentions. Disobedient to their parents. Is

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Speaker 2: that interesting?

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Speaker 1: That's very interesting. We were studying that this morning and

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Speaker 1: I stopped the guys and I was like, hey, can

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Speaker 1: I just stay for a second. How crazy it is

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Speaker 1: that this was two thousand years ago, and it's like

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Speaker 1: exactly relevant today. Sometimes we think of old ancient writings

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Speaker 1: as people were gonna cave cave cave men shepherds that

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Speaker 1: really were so destached from reality. But man, what you

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Speaker 1: just said. Everyone, everyone that's listens to this podcast, matter

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Speaker 1: what faith you are, you hear that and you go, oh, yeah,

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Speaker 1: that sounds like today. That sounds like people I know.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, disobedient appearance is in that group. And that's

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Speaker 1: why rightly handling, like Amber said, without anger, we must

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Speaker 1: bring our kids back in from that. They're outside of

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Speaker 1: the fence of the flock. We're sheep in a flock,

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Speaker 1: and you're outside that fence. You know, as parents, we

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Speaker 1: are shepherds of our little sheep. And if one is lost,

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Speaker 1: just like the the idea of this podcast, if one

904
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Speaker 1: is lost, then how many would leave the ninety nine

905
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Speaker 1: to go seek the one? What's the same thing in

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Speaker 1: our little house? And if one is outside in that

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Speaker 1: great list of two Timothy three of problems sins, then

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Speaker 1: we would do everything to get them back in and

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Speaker 1: into a right submission. Man, people don't like to hear

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Speaker 1: that kind of phrase. These days. It sounds like CPS

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Speaker 1: is going to show up our door. You start talking

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Speaker 1: about getting your kids under submission, but the alternative is

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Speaker 1: things are not going to go well for you. The

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Speaker 1: Bible says that, so, uh, that's a missed, a missed

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Speaker 1: placed understanding of the world. But they it's not just

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Speaker 1: today's world. They knew that back then in the time

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Speaker 1: when Paul was writing that letter to Timothy and emphesis.

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Speaker 1: This has been a good podcast, a good discussion. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I still don't know what we're gonna call it. If

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Speaker 1: it's if we're going Fathers or if we're going the

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Speaker 1: uh the greatest human need. We'll think about it. Do

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Speaker 1: we miss anything, guys, kayden JAHI We're not going to

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Speaker 1: do a giveaway unless you have one because we don't

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00:49:54,760 --> 00:49:57,200
Speaker 1: have amp Man in a book giveaway unless you have

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Speaker 1: one for Fathers. Why don't we just wait because I

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Speaker 1: don't want to. I want to ruin ant Man's groove.

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Speaker 1: He's our book guy. He's the one that because he

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Speaker 1: puts him up on our website. But we will say

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Speaker 1: still comment because we love to hear from you on

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Speaker 1: our YouTube page, which is ninety nine for one the

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Speaker 1: podcast on YouTube. Love to hear from me. You could

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Speaker 1: also do this on Facebook. I don't often check those,

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Speaker 1: but I know people comment on there as well. Wherever

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Speaker 1: you see this episode, comment below, and we will somebody

935
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Speaker 1: on this in this room right here will go through

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Speaker 1: every single comment at some point and let us know

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Speaker 1: a topic or an issue that you would like discussed.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna we're keeping track of all these amber. We

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Speaker 1: have said the gospel I think at least three times

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Speaker 1: on this episode, but can you give it to us

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Speaker 1: one more time so that we clearly know. We'd never

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Speaker 1: want to finish an episode without clearly articulating the gospel,

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Speaker 1: because Paul says, it is the power of God for salvation.

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Speaker 4: In the beginning, God created the world, and he created us.

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Speaker 4: And we have all fallen short of the glory of

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Speaker 4: God due to sin, and we all need a savior.

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Speaker 4: And because of our wretchedness and sin and unability to

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Speaker 4: do it ourself, God stepped into our lives, our world,

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Speaker 4: laid down his life for us, lived the perfect life

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Speaker 4: that we could not took our sins upon himself, died

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Speaker 4: on the cross, was buried, resurrected on the third day.

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Speaker 4: And for those who repent and turn and trust and

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Speaker 4: believe in him. He gives us the right to become

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Speaker 4: children of God. And it's something that we could never

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Speaker 4: do in something that we do not deserve, but he

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Speaker 4: freely gives it to us because.

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Speaker 1: He loves us. See you guys. Text onundent