Speaker 1: You gotta keep going because there is something there. There's
Speaker 1: always something there, because I think a lot of people,
Speaker 1: specifically men. Sorry men, but y'all be really disassociated from
Speaker 1: your fucking energetic body, like so dissociated from it. I
Speaker 1: know where it comes from, I think with black men,
Speaker 1: but I know that this is not even just a
Speaker 1: black thing. Like I know that, yes, maybe white men
Speaker 1: have a like more more free range to kind of
Speaker 1: maybe explore the nuances of this kind of practice and
Speaker 1: like really thinking about their feelings and like why they
Speaker 1: do certain things. But my white home girls, they got
Speaker 1: issues with their niggas too. Welcome back to good Mom's
Speaker 1: bad Choices.
Speaker 2: I'm Erica and I'm Jamila.
Speaker 3: Happy Wednesday, guys.
Speaker 2: Happy Humpday, my lovely tribe. What's going on?
Speaker 3: Well, what's going.
Speaker 1: On is that it is sexy September.
Speaker 4: You hear that it's sexy September, So we'll be using
Speaker 4: our sexy voices all September long.
Speaker 1: I think our voices are just naturally sexy. Anyway, someone
Speaker 1: said that to me the other day. They were like,
Speaker 1: you have a very sexy voice. It's very soothing, And
Speaker 1: I was like, thank you, Hank. He was about seventy
Speaker 1: two years.
Speaker 2: Did you say, Hank, I'm a podcaster.
Speaker 1: I did, and maybe that's why he said that. After
Speaker 1: he found that out, he started really focusing on my voice,
Speaker 1: and I was like, thank you.
Speaker 4: Well, I was listening to our episode and a headphones
Speaker 4: not too long ago, and I was talking. And now
Speaker 4: for years, I don't listen to episodes because I hate
Speaker 4: my voice. But I was like, it's sound kind of sexy.
Speaker 2: It took five and a half years to fay hear
Speaker 2: that out, Well, thank you, just thank you.
Speaker 1: Welcome to Sexy September, guys, and I want to encourage
Speaker 1: you to tap into your most sexy sensual self. So
Speaker 1: if you're listening right now and you're on YouTube and
Speaker 1: it's nighttime, why don't you just pause the YouTube right now,
Speaker 1: go light a candle, go get an incense, because we're
Speaker 1: gonna get sexy sexual sex.
Speaker 2: I don't know how to follow up with that, so
Speaker 2: I just went for it.
Speaker 1: I'm hoping we're going to keep the sexy vibes because
Speaker 1: I just pulled a card at the beginning of this
Speaker 1: episode that looks quite terrifying. I asked Spirit to tell
Speaker 1: me what to do, and it pulled this very scary
Speaker 1: card that we'll revisit at the end of this episode.
Speaker 1: But fuck fuck.
Speaker 2: Fuck well, you know what they say, no matter what's
Speaker 2: going on, keep us up.
Speaker 3: I'm'ma making Luke six.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna make it. I'm bringing sexy back.
Speaker 1: Speaking of sexy, I did something sexy or yeah, it
Speaker 1: was sexy over the weekend. Last weekend, I attended a
Speaker 1: naked dinner.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, how was that?
Speaker 3: It was interesting?
Speaker 1: You know, I had been seeing this naked dinner circulate
Speaker 1: on Instagram and.
Speaker 3: I was like, this is so, were you the one
Speaker 3: that sent it to me? Or did I send it
Speaker 3: to you?
Speaker 4: I've never seen it. I was like this, I think
Speaker 4: I sent it to me. Why why haven't I heard
Speaker 4: of this?
Speaker 2: Oh you sent it to me?
Speaker 3: I think I sent it to you.
Speaker 1: And then and then of course, once you do that,
Speaker 1: then like my my fee just kept the robots, just
Speaker 1: bring it to you. And so I ended up following
Speaker 1: the founder and then she invited me and it was
Speaker 1: like the next day and I was like, oh shit, okay, fuck.
Speaker 3: It, let's do it and have my kid.
Speaker 1: And I really didn't know what to expect except that
Speaker 1: I was gonna be naked and so before I went,
Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, let me get in my like sexy,
Speaker 1: sexy energy. So I put on something sexy, I took
Speaker 1: like a long.
Speaker 3: Shower, I shaved.
Speaker 1: And and then I had a glass of wine before
Speaker 1: I left, and like for once in for once in
Speaker 1: my life. The event was actually like five minutes from
Speaker 1: my house, maybe ten, which never happens because no one
Speaker 1: throws events in the valley.
Speaker 3: So I was very excited about that.
Speaker 1: And then I pulled up to the space and I
Speaker 1: had like six inch clear platforms on.
Speaker 2: Well, what did you bring right now?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 4: No, these are these are like baby, not kitten. You
Speaker 4: know if I think if they're not six inches they're kitten.
Speaker 3: Bitch these I just want to I just want to
Speaker 3: show these. These are not kitten. I just want kitchen. Guys,
Speaker 3: you're looking at YouTube. These are strong three and a.
Speaker 4: Half inches four Anyway, wait I did, I did. I
Speaker 4: did a kick and then I exposed my panties. But
Speaker 4: then like, look at my panties. If you want to
Speaker 4: see my.
Speaker 2: Panties this week, go to YouTube.
Speaker 1: So anyway, it was at the top of the fucking driveway,
Speaker 1: so I had to climb the driveway so that was
Speaker 1: not sexy.
Speaker 3: Okay, they's not prepared. It was not prepared for that.
Speaker 1: And then I entered and then I was greeted by
Speaker 1: a man, so I was like, WHOA hold up. I
Speaker 1: wasn't expecting that because I didn't know they were going
Speaker 1: to be men. Here was he naked?
Speaker 3: No, he was at his computer in full attire like
Speaker 3: a fucking turtle neck.
Speaker 2: Basically was there her boyfriend.
Speaker 1: I don't know who this man was, but I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: this is interesting. So then he was like, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: go in there, and I was like okay. When I
Speaker 1: went in there, and then I walked in and everyone
Speaker 1: was already button naked. But I had a shock because
Speaker 1: I was like, what the fuck there's there's naked men
Speaker 1: here and I didn't know they're gonna be naked men,
Speaker 1: which is fine.
Speaker 3: I'm like I can get what I can? You know,
Speaker 3: switch gears quick?
Speaker 2: I have a question? Naked as in their dicks were out? Yeah?
Speaker 3: What else?
Speaker 2: Is what I mean? I don't know.
Speaker 4: I feel like as a topless expert, I feel like
Speaker 4: like partial notities, like everything being nude is like easily digestible.
Speaker 4: Then like when you see a dick, yeah, it's like,
Speaker 4: oh okay, because it's just like slang in you know,
Speaker 4: like what even the pussy for people can be aggressive,
Speaker 4: you know, like okay, you're pussy's out, but like a
Speaker 4: dick is like, hey, I'm over here between the legs.
Speaker 1: Well it's because like when you see dicks, you automatically
Speaker 1: like looking at sizing, where like with pussy you're not
Speaker 1: looking at sizing.
Speaker 2: We have to undo our mannishness.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, basically that's what it was. But I wasn't.
Speaker 1: I also wasn't prepared because on Instagram, I only see
Speaker 1: women on their page, so I was not prepared to
Speaker 1: see dicks. So I said, oh, okay, well good thing.
Speaker 1: Like I'm you like, I'm used to being naked all
Speaker 1: the time, and also like I don't really care, but
Speaker 1: I don't know if maybe I didn't read the fine print,
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: Whatever, it was fine, and.
Speaker 1: So we all got naked and and we just like
Speaker 1: hung out by the pool and then we then we
Speaker 1: all gathered around the pool and one of the hosts,
Speaker 1: which I was, so I was like very happily surprised.
Speaker 3: This girl Li LIHI.
Speaker 1: I think her name is Lehi, and she is a
Speaker 1: breath work expert. But she's one of the teachers on
Speaker 1: the Open App. And you know, we've talked about the
Speaker 1: Open App. We did the Open Challenge earlier this year
Speaker 1: in January, thirty Days of Meditation, and I'm obsessed with
Speaker 1: the app, like I still use it now. And she
Speaker 1: led us through this breath work exercise. And you know,
Speaker 1: I've done some breath work, but even on the Open App,
Speaker 1: like I've explored breath work. I think I talked about
Speaker 1: it one time I started to do breathwork in the
Speaker 1: car and I realized this was a really bad idea.
Speaker 3: You should not do breathwork living.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so if you're listening right now, because I wanted
Speaker 1: to explain the process of what we experience because it
Speaker 1: was really transformational for me even in that even that experience,
Speaker 1: because it wasn't a long breath work session. It was
Speaker 1: maybe like maybe maybe ten or fifteen minutes. But she
Speaker 1: like guided us through this three part breath work which
Speaker 1: is basically like you like you bring the breath into
Speaker 1: your stomach, then you bring it into your chest and
Speaker 1: you release, like.
Speaker 3: And you just yeah, so.
Speaker 1: If you put your so if you're not driving right now,
Speaker 1: and you put your hand on your belly, and you
Speaker 1: put your hand on your chest. You want to breathe
Speaker 1: into your stomach, so and then you want to breathe
Speaker 1: into your chest, right and so open. One of the
Speaker 1: things that they're really famous for, and they're like the
Speaker 1: pioneers of is marrying breathwork with music.
Speaker 3: So that's what she did too. So she led us
Speaker 3: through this breath work with music.
Speaker 1: So the music kind of started off slow so that
Speaker 1: you were like, but then it'll speed up, so then
Speaker 1: you're like, and then you'll hold at the top and
Speaker 1: then you'll hold at the bottom. And she was guiding
Speaker 1: us through. So the theme of the night was the
Speaker 1: yes within, and so she was guiding us through like
Speaker 1: what that meant and what that looks like and what
Speaker 1: that feels like and bitch, at the end, I was
Speaker 1: fucking hysterically crying.
Speaker 4: Oh I know.
Speaker 3: I was like, I didn't. I was not expecting that.
Speaker 1: It was just like it reminded me too, because we
Speaker 1: actually did do a really deep breathwork exercise in Costa Rica,
Speaker 1: remember when we did the whim Hoff broth work before
Speaker 1: we did the ice bath, And that shit was crazy
Speaker 1: because breathwork can literally make you feel like you're hot,
Speaker 1: like it will open up some other shit in your brain,
Speaker 1: Like I don't think meditation can do this. It's literally
Speaker 1: like you're on drugs kind of. And and that's what
Speaker 1: I felt like starting to happen while I was in
Speaker 1: this process, and it was like I was, it kind
Speaker 1: of clears out, clears all the bullshit out of the
Speaker 1: way so you can get to whatever it is that
Speaker 1: maybe you're avoiding or you're trying to focus on. And
Speaker 1: so that experience was really that was probably the best
Speaker 1: part of the whole the whole night for me. It
Speaker 1: was the breath work. So shout out to Lehi of
Speaker 1: the Open App.
Speaker 2: I love the open app.
Speaker 4: So I can imagine in real life like it's like
Speaker 4: she's with you, like the instructors are with you when
Speaker 4: you play it.
Speaker 2: But I can imagine doing it in a group setting.
Speaker 2: It's probably dope.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And the music with it was really it really
Speaker 1: helps you help support the process. And it was just
Speaker 1: the bomb. And the open app is still giving. If
Speaker 1: you haven't joined the open app, definitely join it. You
Speaker 1: can still use our discount. If you go to withopen
Speaker 1: dot Com slash GNBC you'll get thirty days free, So
Speaker 1: do that shit.
Speaker 4: It's an easy way to challenge yourself. So just commit
Speaker 4: to something for thirty days and just see how it
Speaker 4: makes you feel.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I like the energy reset breathwork, but they
Speaker 1: have meditation on there, they have movement. They even have
Speaker 1: because now after I did that breathwork with her, I
Speaker 1: was like, let me go explore the breathwork part of
Speaker 1: Open More. And they actually added this new section and
Speaker 1: it's for what is it called. It's like for release
Speaker 1: or something. And literally they have breathwork where you can scream.
Speaker 2: You know, that's our thing.
Speaker 3: You know. I love that shit. And so I did
Speaker 3: it in my house and they were.
Speaker 1: Like, now, okay, now get a pillow and put it
Speaker 1: over your face so you don't scare your neighbors. But
Speaker 1: you just I think we take for granted, like how
Speaker 1: powerful breath is and like how breath and sound really
Speaker 1: are healers. And you have to get that shit out
Speaker 1: of your body. Sometimes you can fucking meditate for days
Speaker 1: and days, it ain't shit gonna happen. You like, literally
Speaker 1: have to get something out of you. So shout out
Speaker 1: to Open because a bitch was crying by the pool
Speaker 1: with a bunch.
Speaker 3: Of naked people.
Speaker 2: I mean, you're vulnerable.
Speaker 4: I mean, I you guys, I'm almost I'm two months
Speaker 4: away from being a Tantric practitioner, and I'm so excited.
Speaker 2: I'm feeling really excited.
Speaker 4: I've been taking some trial clients and you know, like
Speaker 4: deepening my practice. But one of the things that we're
Speaker 4: learning is that like are are like energetic and spiritual
Speaker 4: bodies govern our physical bodies. Like that's the belief in
Speaker 4: this lineage of Tantra that I'm I'm studying. And sometimes
Speaker 4: they like not sometimes things live in our bodies on
Speaker 4: a cellular level, on an energetic level that we are
Speaker 4: not even aware of. So there's trauma, like maybe someone
Speaker 4: said something like small to you, or someone insulted you
Speaker 4: and you thought you got over, or maybe you don't
Speaker 4: even remember, but it lives in stores in your body
Speaker 4: and creates blocks, you know, energetic blocks that manifest physically,
Speaker 4: and that could be like tight shoulders or backs or
Speaker 4: you know, chest pain or whatever it may be. But
Speaker 4: we don't because we're living such a Western world. We
Speaker 4: don't give that a lot of attention. Like our medical
Speaker 4: systems are so deeply ingrained in you know, like pharmaceuticals
Speaker 4: and like take this prescription drug. But the truth is
Speaker 4: is like breath, the simplest things, movement, breath, meditation, those
Speaker 4: are the ways to clear those blocks that we're unaware of,
Speaker 4: those subconscious that those ones that live on a subconscious level.
Speaker 4: So definitely, like that makes sense. I mean, the craziest
Speaker 4: thing about I'm just thinking about our entire catalog and
Speaker 4: just us starting this at like twenty nine and now
Speaker 4: we're thirty five, and I'm like, oh, i want to
Speaker 4: do my own naked dinner, but I'll do it like this.
Speaker 4: I'm like, everyone's gonna start clothed, and then I'm like,
Speaker 4: that has been such a long day. Remove one item
Speaker 4: and think about letting something go that you took on today.
Speaker 4: Remove one clothing of item, one clothing item, and think
Speaker 4: about the energetic release you'll have when that happens. But
Speaker 4: I'm like, there was a time where I'd be like,
Speaker 4: what the fuck are you talking about?
Speaker 2: Bitch?
Speaker 4: They said some white people shit, Like what do you
Speaker 4: mean you want to go on the bathtub and scream?
Speaker 4: But you know, in this evolution of just finding out
Speaker 4: that speaking is medicine, and talking is medicine, and releasing
Speaker 4: that vibration and frequency through your throw and through your
Speaker 4: mouth is medicine. I'm just like, I'm all about the
Speaker 4: white people shit. Sign me up and then make it
Speaker 4: black yep, sign me up and put some hot sauce
Speaker 4: on it.
Speaker 2: Okay, and Larry's but.
Speaker 4: I really like speaking of sexy September, and as I'm
Speaker 4: nearing my finished completion of my course, I'm feeling I'm
Speaker 4: feeling very called to bring to be the bridge to
Speaker 4: the white people shit to our people, you know, and
Speaker 4: I you know, some people are gonna be like, bitch,
Speaker 4: what you're talking about? And even in this like this
Speaker 4: time in my class, I'm like asking friends to be
Speaker 4: my trial clients.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, I know it's weird, but can you
Speaker 2: just can you just breathe with me? But I think
Speaker 2: it's important.
Speaker 4: And I think it's we're so easily, we're so easy
Speaker 4: to write it off.
Speaker 2: Is like I nobody doing all that.
Speaker 4: But I was talking to my friend Bam, who's in
Speaker 4: prison and today and he was just saying like he
Speaker 4: just got locked up and it's my ratchet life. And
Speaker 4: he's been you know, meditating and reading and like working
Speaker 4: out and going within and he was just like, we're
Speaker 4: just talking about I was just talking him about a pleasure.
Speaker 2: Journal and he was like, you know, I don't know.
Speaker 2: I don't know. I have a hard time with pleasure.
Speaker 2: And I was like, isn't that weird?
Speaker 4: He was like yeah, because I'm stoic and shit, I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 4: I guess beIN in Gangsing ain't very real. But then
Speaker 4: he was like, like, you know, I said, writing poetry.
Speaker 4: You know, I've been writing in my general every day,
Speaker 4: writing poetry.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm happy. I'm proud of you.
Speaker 4: You know, like you gotta you gotta get like in
Speaker 4: that when you're in that confinement, you gotta let your
Speaker 4: mind be free. But I was just thinking about last
Speaker 4: month and we talked about creating just to create and
Speaker 4: like poetry and how like we want to laugh and
Speaker 4: my friends like I wrote a poem today.
Speaker 2: I meant to write a poem today, but I don't
Speaker 2: have time.
Speaker 4: But it's just like, why are people of color so
Speaker 4: opposed to pleasure?
Speaker 2: Why do we insist on.
Speaker 1: Well pleasure for pleasure for us has to look a
Speaker 1: certain way. It's literally it has to look one way,
Speaker 1: and it's usually wrapped up in self care practices which
Speaker 1: include hair nails are man and vacations with our friends
Speaker 1: or our men or whatever whatever that may.
Speaker 2: Be from this state to this state.
Speaker 4: I know, and it's crazy, And I've talked about this
Speaker 4: a lot lately, just about like containing my joy and
Speaker 4: it's only allowed to live here and like feeling like
Speaker 4: it's cheesy to be like not too happy, but like feeling.
Speaker 2: Like what the fuck are you so happy for a
Speaker 2: relaxed or like.
Speaker 4: You know what I mean, just like this idea that
Speaker 4: you have to suppress the extreme joy because it's inappropriate
Speaker 4: in some way. Ors like you can't just bust out
Speaker 4: in a cartwheel right here or whatever. But it's like
Speaker 4: you gotta examine that even like I told Erica when
Speaker 4: we were in Mexico, I don't know if I mentioned this,
Speaker 4: but we met a couple on the beach and they
Speaker 4: were so fucking happy.
Speaker 2: It's like just two happy white people.
Speaker 4: They were a couple, they were like left their kids,
Speaker 4: and it's not like a white black thing, but it is,
Speaker 4: like it's not maybe a white black thing, but when
Speaker 4: you have I mean, when you are born into systematic
Speaker 4: racism and you're born with kind of like this idea
Speaker 4: that people are gonna harm you or people, you know,
Speaker 4: like we're existing in a world that's been historically harmful
Speaker 4: to us. It's like it's hard to kind of sometimes
Speaker 4: grasp a certain level of joy and pleasure.
Speaker 2: And they were so fucking happy.
Speaker 1: Well, it makes me think of just how black people,
Speaker 1: how we have to assimilate to our environment all the
Speaker 1: time and are like we're often the minority in a
Speaker 1: lot of spaces, and so we have to act a
Speaker 1: certain way, and so it's hard to It's like turning
Speaker 1: the light swich on.
Speaker 3: And off, on and off, on and off, like.
Speaker 1: So you just don't know how to just be yourself
Speaker 1: and just experience the joy and the pleasure and in
Speaker 1: all spaces, in all ways, no matter who's there.
Speaker 3: What race is there.
Speaker 4: And that's true too, because even in the spaces that
Speaker 4: we've created where it's like a lot of women that
Speaker 4: look like us, you know, I'm sometimes now that we've
Speaker 4: created this space, even when I went to my embodiment
Speaker 4: retreat where there's gonna obviously it's more diverse than our
Speaker 4: retreats because it's men and there's women, and there's all
Speaker 4: different people from all different places.
Speaker 2: And I was like feeling kind of.
Speaker 4: Weird about going into such a vulnerable s based with
Speaker 4: like a bunch of different type of people who didn't
Speaker 4: look like me, and it really made me have to
Speaker 4: adjust and it made me have like in like all
Speaker 4: my bestest friends from tantar school or like white, you know,
Speaker 4: not all of them. I have a black friends, I
Speaker 4: have all types of friends. But the point is, it's
Speaker 4: like it requires another level of layer, like peeling back
Speaker 4: another layer to to like kind of dig into yourself,
Speaker 4: like what the fuck is that? And obviously it feels
Speaker 4: good to like see people that look at you and
Speaker 4: like look like you and feel like feel more more
Speaker 4: comfortable in those spaces. But you know, like I see
Speaker 4: I looked at the page and I was like, wow,
Speaker 4: there's so many women that don't look like me, And
Speaker 4: it would be really cool if they were playing like,
Speaker 4: you know a little bit of ratchet music and there
Speaker 4: was like, you know a little bit more color in
Speaker 4: this bitch.
Speaker 2: So it's like I'm excited to just kind.
Speaker 4: Of like venture into what that looks like for us
Speaker 4: and like kind of you know, like just take this
Speaker 4: work of pleasure and bring it to our people, because
Speaker 4: I realize it's just sometimes it's so far removed just
Speaker 4: because of the circumstance of being born into this country,
Speaker 4: you know, and to this world and.
Speaker 2: To this this time period.
Speaker 4: So I and and and when I had a reading
Speaker 4: in Mexico with le Jeila shout out to La Jela,
Speaker 4: who did our acastic reading, she was like, this is.
Speaker 2: What you're supposed to do.
Speaker 4: We're supposed to like bring black women back to their yonies.
Speaker 4: And she's like all women, but like really for our
Speaker 4: for brown and black women, like return them to our
Speaker 4: wombs because we've been so disconnected, disconnected, and like there's
Speaker 4: so much shame and judgment connected around it. But like,
Speaker 4: even hearing this story, like as you talk about it,
Speaker 4: I'm like, oh, if we if we did it, or
Speaker 4: you know, it would be so cool if we did
Speaker 4: it like this, and like the little John plays.
Speaker 1: Well you already know how my mind works. I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is cool, but I would have done it this way.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, bit, shut up, just experience it.
Speaker 3: And then I've told eric I know.
Speaker 4: And then I told Erica and she was like, we
Speaker 4: can't steal the idea. I was like, it's not stealing it.
Speaker 4: It's just remixing it.
Speaker 1: But it's so funny that you mentioned the just how
Speaker 1: the energetic body governs the physical body, because the other day,
Speaker 1: after a breathwork exercise that I did with the open app,
Speaker 1: I was like, I wanted to go deeper. And at
Speaker 1: our retreats we do meditation and then we also incorporate
Speaker 1: rape into some of our meditations, and so I hadn't
Speaker 1: done rape since we left Mexico, and so I did
Speaker 1: like a little rape ceremony and bitch, girl, that shit
Speaker 1: like brought me down, like grounded the fuck out of me.
Speaker 1: I don't know if you guys know what rape is,
Speaker 1: but it's basically it's like a mixture of herbs and
Speaker 1: tree bark and it's all ground down tobacco and you
Speaker 1: inhale it like in very small doses. It can be
Speaker 1: administered through like Jamila administered to me through my nose,
Speaker 1: or I can there's like these different tools where you
Speaker 1: can administer it to yourself. But it's supposed to help
Speaker 1: decalcify your penal gland, and they use it in different
Speaker 1: types of ceremony. Ayahuasca ceremony is mushroom, but you can
Speaker 1: people also use it just in the morning to help
Speaker 1: them wake up and like get grounded. It's an ancient
Speaker 1: practice and so I used it and I literally felt
Speaker 1: like this energy come from my head and I felt nauseous,
Speaker 1: like for the first time, I thought I might throw up.
Speaker 1: I was like, I think I'm to throw up because
Speaker 1: I could feel like the block opening and being like
Speaker 1: forcing itself down into my body. And I just was like,
Speaker 1: I just have to keep breathing. I just have to
Speaker 1: keep breathing to like move this energy through. And when
Speaker 1: I was experiencing that, I had a lot of different
Speaker 1: things come to me. One of them, when which I
Speaker 1: shared with you, that this thing I want to do
Speaker 1: with our friend, and then this other thing came to
Speaker 1: me and it was literally that idea.
Speaker 3: I was like, damn, Like.
Speaker 2: We have have to heal our energetic bodies.
Speaker 1: Like people are so focused on healing their physical body
Speaker 1: and they're missing the like the.
Speaker 3: Biggest part of it. Like you can't.
Speaker 1: You can go to the gym, you can diet, you
Speaker 1: can take all the fucking ozembic. Bitch, I swear to God,
Speaker 1: you are not going to be healed. You will just
Speaker 1: be beautiful. On Instagram it's a band aid, Yeah, you
Speaker 1: have to heal the energetic body, the the energy inside
Speaker 1: of you. And like you know, I have a friend
Speaker 1: and she's going through a loss right now, and I
Speaker 1: was also thinking and and we've talked about this too,
Speaker 1: but like whenever death, whenever death comes around, like I
Speaker 1: really start to think about just these this sack of
Speaker 1: skin that we're in, like literally a sack of skin,
Speaker 1: Like this is a sack of skin.
Speaker 3: Bitch, And then there's skinsuit.
Speaker 1: But what's inside and even my voice and on my
Speaker 1: presence and why I'm here is energy. Is electricity. It
Speaker 1: is my soul coming through to speak to you, to
Speaker 1: talk to you. And I can heal all of that.
Speaker 1: I can do this, and I can make this look
Speaker 1: cute and I can cut it up and whatever the fuck.
Speaker 1: But you have to work on this. And that's why
Speaker 1: it's so hard, and that's why it's so uncomfortable, because
Speaker 1: it's not easy because it is cellular and there is
Speaker 1: shit wrapped up in that's not your shit, but it
Speaker 1: is your shit because it's it's ancestral, and it is
Speaker 1: that thing that maybe someone said one day. You thought
Speaker 1: you didn't internalize it, but you did, and you still
Speaker 1: don't even know you have. And so when someone says, hey,
Speaker 1: you have something going on, you have some trauma that
Speaker 1: you're that you're pushing down, and you're like, no, I
Speaker 1: really thought about it, and I don't, and you're like
Speaker 1: everyone else around you is like, bitch, yes you do.
Speaker 4: Or you want to cry as soon as someone mentions it,
Speaker 4: and you're like, I'm fine.
Speaker 1: And you don't, and you don't know where that comes from.
Speaker 1: And you've and you feel like you've really explored, explored
Speaker 1: what it is. I mean, you still can't come up
Speaker 1: with it. Keep going, you got you gotta keep going,
Speaker 1: because there is something there. There's always something there, because
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people, specifically men, Sorry men,
Speaker 1: but y'all be really disassociated from your fucking energetic body,
Speaker 1: like so dissociated from it that and and I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think, I know, I know where it comes from.
Speaker 1: I think with black men, but I know that this
Speaker 1: is not even just a black thing. Like I know that, yes,
Speaker 1: maybe white men have a like a more more free
Speaker 1: range to kind of maybe explore the nuances of this
Speaker 1: kind of practice and like really thinking about their feelings
Speaker 1: and like why they do certain things. But my white
Speaker 1: home girls they got issues with their niggas too. But
Speaker 1: I when I did that meditation, I really that was
Speaker 1: the thing that came to me, was like the energetic body,
Speaker 1: and I know that through even through reiki, Like that's all.
Speaker 1: That's really what it's about. It's like life force energy
Speaker 1: and just like healing that and like that being the
Speaker 1: conduit to like everything else. So anyway, I know this
Speaker 1: is sexy September and we've gotten really in our healer bag.
Speaker 2: But well, I mean it's sexy to be, it's ex
Speaker 2: sexy to be dealed.
Speaker 4: Do you want to be a little more shallow? Okay,
Speaker 4: I have something shallow to share. It's not shallow, it's physical.
Speaker 4: Last month, my wife couldn't make her vampire facial appointment,
Speaker 4: so she gave it to me, and I was so
Speaker 4: fucking happy.
Speaker 2: You could.
Speaker 4: Like it was a Friday at four o'clock in LA
Speaker 4: and I wouldn't have drove anywhere, but she's like, you
Speaker 4: can take my appointment, and I was like, no problem.
Speaker 1: She has been talking about a vampire facial since before
Speaker 1: we started the podcast. You guys, Sater, really you were
Speaker 1: supposed to go get one before we started the podcast.
Speaker 3: I know, but it didn't happen or something.
Speaker 2: I was so expensive. I was liken eath this, and
Speaker 2: then it just seems like it's like this whole process,
Speaker 2: like shout out to raw beauty.
Speaker 4: I went over there on a Friday at three o'clock
Speaker 4: and I sat there for like an hour getting my
Speaker 4: fucking face numbed so they could take blood out of
Speaker 4: my arm. They took blood out of my arm and
Speaker 4: then they shake it up to get all the good shit,
Speaker 4: like the plasma, and I was like waiting there, numb
Speaker 4: as fuck, waiting for them to come like drill little
Speaker 4: holes in my face and put my plasma back in.
Speaker 3: And then okay, it's not drilling, Okay, stop scaring the people.
Speaker 2: It's not.
Speaker 4: It's like tiny microscopic little holes and they put your
Speaker 4: your blood like the only the good shit.
Speaker 3: They basically are damaging your skin.
Speaker 4: A little bit so that you can like bring all
Speaker 4: the good shit back to your us like a baby.
Speaker 4: And then they offered me like an up an up
Speaker 4: an up charged if I wanted to use fetuses and
Speaker 4: build like a bilical cord blood or something like vetuses
Speaker 4: where were they were like, don't worry, they're American.
Speaker 2: And I was like, what, okay.
Speaker 3: Because American blood is hot in the streets.
Speaker 2: Yeah, They're like, yeah, don't worry, it's Americans.
Speaker 4: I was like opposed to, Okay, Well, it's just like
Speaker 4: like the level of cleansing that they go through is
Speaker 4: like at a certain standard, so I don't have to worry.
Speaker 3: So I was like, because America really cares about that, But.
Speaker 4: I was like how much extra? I was like, it's
Speaker 4: gonna work better than my blood. They're like yeah, but
Speaker 4: I was like no, let me just try my own
Speaker 4: blood first. And then I was like peeling like an
Speaker 4: old lady for two weeks and I don't know, I
Speaker 4: feel like it's helped a little bit. My my pores
Speaker 4: look smaller, But it was like the it was.
Speaker 3: The it's not a quick fix. It's something you have
Speaker 3: to do a few times.
Speaker 2: I know I had to do a few times. You know,
Speaker 2: I'm a quick fixed bitch. But I've also like I've
Speaker 2: also just been I'm.
Speaker 4: Not even though I'm a license pstituition, I'm not really
Speaker 4: a skin routine girl.
Speaker 2: Like I will fall asleep in my makeup not and
Speaker 2: not care.
Speaker 4: I can't do that.
Speaker 2: I'd be so tired. But you know, recently like I
Speaker 2: did that.
Speaker 4: I did that procedure. Is it even even called a procedure?
Speaker 4: I just want to feel cool. I want to feel
Speaker 4: very late. I did that procedure like KIMK and I
Speaker 4: was peeling like crazy, and you know, after that, I
Speaker 4: was like, bitch, you had to take care of your skin.
Speaker 4: So I've been using shout out to Aaron our Tribe,
Speaker 4: our Tribe girl from this last retreat.
Speaker 2: She owns a.
Speaker 4: Amazing skincare line called Lilac and Flint, and I've been
Speaker 4: using that like to upkeep. And then you know what,
Speaker 4: I realized, like I don't even know if I'm like
Speaker 4: like exceptionally more beautiful, but it feels good to have
Speaker 4: a routine that's centered around caring for myself, you know
Speaker 4: what I mean.
Speaker 2: It's like, oh, look I care about myself. Imagine my face,
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 4: And it's just like starting those rituals is where it
Speaker 4: kind of like it starts to be easy to manifest.
Speaker 2: Care for yourself, you know what I mean.
Speaker 4: It's like these small little things like drink an extra
Speaker 4: glass of water, wash your face and use the toner,
Speaker 4: and it's like it does becomes a ritual. So I've
Speaker 4: been like really shout out to Raw Beauty for uh
Speaker 4: making my skin dreams come true, and then to Lilly
Speaker 4: and Flint for like making me carry out a routine
Speaker 4: to care about my you know, to care about all
Speaker 4: the other things. And I've always struggled with my skin
Speaker 4: and I'm not like super insecure about it because i
Speaker 4: feel like I'm still fine and like like I can
Speaker 4: cure this if I really wanted to, but like, you know,
Speaker 4: I'm fine.
Speaker 2: So it's it hasn't.
Speaker 3: Been like I'm so fine. It doesn't matter.
Speaker 2: I mean, it doesn't really like this is it.
Speaker 3: It's beautiful? No, I love that.
Speaker 2: I mean, it isn't just.
Speaker 4: Like it isn't like it's not the it's not like
Speaker 4: the I'm not gonna it's not gonna kill me, you know.
Speaker 4: I'm like I'd rather not have a pimple. But like
Speaker 4: even a bitch came on DMS, like someone tell me
Speaker 4: you called me ugly five years ago, but you're you're
Speaker 4: skin And I was like, girl, it's.
Speaker 2: Not about to hurt my feelings.
Speaker 3: Try something else.
Speaker 4: I was like, you can't really like insult me because
Speaker 4: like I've lived in this body my whole life. Like
Speaker 4: anything that you are noticing, bitch. I noticed a long
Speaker 4: time ago, and I'm cool with that.
Speaker 3: I live with it.
Speaker 1: Well, that's a good perspective to have, because I would
Speaker 1: say a lot of people do not have that perspective.
Speaker 2: I got.
Speaker 4: I don't know, I am shallow, and you know what,
Speaker 4: I just I realized that there are certain things that
Speaker 4: make me feel good. Like I just clipped in some
Speaker 4: hair yesterday. Orlando came home and was like, who the
Speaker 4: fuck are you?
Speaker 2: What is this? I was like, it was in the cabinet.
Speaker 2: I just pulled out the cabinet, so yeah, hi, And
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 4: It's like I want to work and then I'm like,
Speaker 4: but don't make up first. Nobody's home, not for ull.
Speaker 4: It's just like the strangest thing, Like even in twenty twenty,
Speaker 4: I didn't have nowhere to go.
Speaker 2: I'm like, do a new hairstyle.
Speaker 4: It's like something about the process of caring for myself
Speaker 4: and looking in the mirror and saying, you look good.
Speaker 2: Now it's time to do stuff. I mean, by the
Speaker 2: time I get to the stuff, I'm like, it's ten
Speaker 2: o'clock at night and now I'm ready to work. But
Speaker 2: I'm like, bitch, but They're like, I'm just.
Speaker 4: Noticing like just you know, little things, little details of
Speaker 4: self care that kind of make me just feel better
Speaker 4: overall make me feel more sexy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I even today. So today I called Jamila
Speaker 1: before we came and I was like, you know, the
Speaker 1: theme is sexy, and I've been really like reflecting before
Speaker 1: I got here. I was like, what is it that
Speaker 1: actually makes me feel sexy? And there's there's a lot
Speaker 1: of things that make me feel sexy. You know, wine,
Speaker 1: red wine, red wine, it makes me feel like it
Speaker 1: like a housewife who's on edge.
Speaker 4: Red wine makes me feel like, are you want to
Speaker 4: come over tonight?
Speaker 1: But I'll drink red wine and by myself and be sexy,
Speaker 1: like I'll use sexy dancing in the mirror. But I
Speaker 1: was while I was having this thought, I had just
Speaker 1: got out of the shower and I was looking in
Speaker 1: the mirror and I didn't have any makeup on it,
Speaker 1: and I was like, I had a flashback to like
Speaker 1: our retreats, where like I don't really wear any makeup
Speaker 1: and I honestly feel the most sexy.
Speaker 3: When I'm there.
Speaker 1: Same and either sometimes my hair is in my fro,
Speaker 1: sometimes I got my braids. And then I was like,
Speaker 1: you know what, I do this episode with no motherfucking
Speaker 1: makeup like Alicia Keys, And I was like, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: call I was like, I called youmal I was like, Jimila,
Speaker 1: So today I'm.
Speaker 3: Not gonna wear makeup.
Speaker 4: I was like, okay, maybe like I am, I like
Speaker 4: putting on the eyelashes. I was like, I forgot my
Speaker 4: weaving girl, I got my clip int and so whatever,
Speaker 4: you should have gave me the memo sinner.
Speaker 2: I don't know if I.
Speaker 1: Would have went with it, but but I I realized,
Speaker 1: like I don't. I don't really wear a lot of
Speaker 1: makeup anyway in general, but you know, today I was like,
Speaker 1: you know what, let me just like I do. I
Speaker 1: feel a lot of times my most sexy. Yes, I
Speaker 1: feel sexy with makeup too. There are giant days where
Speaker 1: I want to get dulled up and I want to
Speaker 1: feel that. But like when I looked in the mirror,
Speaker 1: I was like, bitch you before with all makeup?
Speaker 3: How about it?
Speaker 1: And I've been and yes, Aaron shout out to Aaron,
Speaker 1: this is not an ad, this is real shit. I've
Speaker 1: been using her shit to Lilac in Flint and and
Speaker 1: I just because I'm because you know, I'm planning ass
Speaker 1: type of bitch.
Speaker 4: The breathe bomb that ocinated Yohoba oil, brought a few
Speaker 4: things this.
Speaker 2: Let me just tell you guys something. This fucking bitch
Speaker 2: does not carry a purse.
Speaker 3: Ever.
Speaker 2: Ever, she's like, can you I can't carry my wallet.
Speaker 2: Then she's like, I lost my wallet. I don't know
Speaker 2: where it is.
Speaker 4: Every I mean, I swear to God for the last
Speaker 4: five years I do have.
Speaker 2: She loses wallets more than she I never met a bit.
Speaker 3: She loses, brush them, I misplaced them, and then I
Speaker 3: find them. I rarely lose.
Speaker 2: It's because you don't have a purse. And today she
Speaker 2: has this sparkly as.
Speaker 3: She's like, whose purse is that? I was like, it's mine.
Speaker 2: I was like, I I've ever seen and I know
Speaker 2: all your items okay, but.
Speaker 3: So cute purses and making me also feel sexy. And
Speaker 3: this is from Amazon.
Speaker 1: No, I'm not an Amazon influencer at all, however I
Speaker 1: should be Amazon.
Speaker 3: This is from Amazon. And so I was like, let
Speaker 3: me just bring a few things that make me feel sexy.
Speaker 1: And I did bring Aaron's Lilac and flint breathe bomb
Speaker 1: because I would, I would dispense it on my hands
Speaker 1: so that you can see it.
Speaker 3: But I'm low, and I refuse. Are you low?
Speaker 2: Are you lower?
Speaker 3: Ready?
Speaker 2: I only do half a pump.
Speaker 1: Well, my directions that she sent me, I'm supposed to
Speaker 1: use half a pump during the morning and then a
Speaker 1: full pump at night. Same, So I'm using I've been
Speaker 1: using it ever since. I'm using ever So if you
Speaker 1: see my skin right now, and you see this glow,
Speaker 1: look at this, look at this, look at no makeup,
Speaker 1: look at this, this is erin.
Speaker 3: You know what.
Speaker 1: And when Aaron came on, Aaron, just when Aaron came
Speaker 1: to the retreat, we make profiles for all the girls
Speaker 1: when they come on the retreat so that we know
Speaker 1: their faces when they arrive and we can like pair
Speaker 1: them properly with the right roommates. And we went and
Speaker 1: we saw Aaron's profile. We went on her Instagram, and
Speaker 1: when I went on her Instagram, her fucking face was
Speaker 1: like a glazed donut, like she's an esthetician. So I
Speaker 1: was like, bitch, how the fuck is her face so shiny?
Speaker 1: It's like perfectly like porcelain and shiny.
Speaker 2: I was like, should we tell her to bring us
Speaker 2: some products.
Speaker 1: She's beautiful, and then when we met her, I was like, bitch,
Speaker 1: I just want to let you know that, like we
Speaker 1: were stalking your page and I want to be a
Speaker 1: glazed donut too.
Speaker 3: So now I.
Speaker 4: Think we like threatened her on the retreat, like, so,
Speaker 4: I know you're about to leave tomorrow, but you only
Speaker 4: gave us one package.
Speaker 2: Can you send me mine? I literally took her aside.
Speaker 2: I was like, Erin, let me talk to you.
Speaker 4: I realized you gave Erica the package, but I have
Speaker 4: the worst case skin, so it's kind of a waste
Speaker 4: of your time giving it to her.
Speaker 3: Are you seeing this? Can look at that?
Speaker 2: Stop look like a three D fucking bitch.
Speaker 1: I'm I'm a fucking I'm a glastonut. That's all I wanted.
Speaker 1: So shout out to Lilac and Flint woman owned based
Speaker 1: in the Bay, so check them out. We don't have
Speaker 1: a discount code because it's not an AD, but maybe
Speaker 1: I'll hit up Aaron and by the time this comes out,
Speaker 1: you can click the link in this episode description and
Speaker 1: we'll have something I don't know just check.
Speaker 3: Secondly is chak rubs.
Speaker 1: So if you don't know what chock rubs is it's
Speaker 1: a feminine care brand line. It's mostly crystals. It's all
Speaker 1: crystals what they have. And we gave these Yonie eggs
Speaker 1: to the girls on the retreat. But I've been using
Speaker 1: Yoni eggs for a while, not consistently, but ever since Mexico,
Speaker 1: I have actually in part because of one of the retreates.
Speaker 1: One of our retreats, who is hilarious is fucking She
Speaker 1: had a pretty big transformation. We were there, but she
Speaker 1: told me that when she when when she put the
Speaker 1: Yoni egg near her pussy just like sucked it in.
Speaker 3: It was like I needed this and.
Speaker 2: I know it will tell you or I will drug.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she like sucked it in and I could and
Speaker 1: she was like and I instantly felt like happier, and
Speaker 1: so I was like, huh interesting, and I like I
Speaker 1: was like remember like that, Like when we came back,
Speaker 1: I was put putting it in and I usually use
Speaker 1: like a lubricant. Shout out to Honeypot. They have this
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Speaker 1: part of their it's part of their pleasure ritual.
Speaker 2: Uh what is it.
Speaker 3: Called pleasure ritual? I think it's just pleasure ritual guy
Speaker 3: whatever that's part of their pleasure ritual peramonies. I don't
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Speaker 2: I say, good moms, don't care about your pissy, but.
Speaker 3: I use this and I put a little bit of
Speaker 3: this to help get it in.
Speaker 1: But I notice that when I'm wearing, when I have
Speaker 1: a Yoni egg, and this one specifically because it's rose
Speaker 1: quartz and it's all about heart opening, I literally feel
Speaker 1: like I'm a better person. I feel nicer when I
Speaker 1: have rose quarts inside my pussy. Well, shout out to
Speaker 1: Chakrubs because you didn't know this, but you've made me
Speaker 1: a nicer person by putting your rose quarts inside of men.
Speaker 4: Can you put it in more often? I feel like
Speaker 4: you've been kind of mean for like the last three months.
Speaker 3: Okay, but in the last week, have I been nicer? Yeah, geez. Wow.
Speaker 1: See, and we have this conversation that we weren't gonna
Speaker 1: like bring up shit on the podcast.
Speaker 2: We did not say that.
Speaker 4: I said, bitch, you'd be bringing up some of the podcast,
Speaker 4: and I said we probably shouldn't do that, but I
Speaker 4: just remembered right now, so and I'm half a glass
Speaker 4: of wine in so I just needed Wow. I can't
Speaker 4: believe we listened to problem to drink because it's Friday,
Speaker 4: and now I'm like drunk a little bit.
Speaker 2: Are you mad at me that I said that.
Speaker 3: I just didn't feel like it was necessary.
Speaker 1: Okay, So me and Mila decided to put the rest
Speaker 1: of this episode on Patreon.
Speaker 3: It got a little bit heated, and you.
Speaker 1: Know, to be honest, we share a lot of shit
Speaker 1: over here, and I just felt like this conversation was
Speaker 1: better suited for just the privacy of our tribe. So
Speaker 1: if you want to go check out the rest of
Speaker 1: the episode, make sure you go to patreon dot com,
Speaker 1: backslash Good Mom's Bad Choices, and we'll see you next week. Yeah,
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