1
00:00:02,080 --> 00:00:04,920
Speaker 1: All right, See this woman needs some advice, Okay. Her

2
00:00:05,000 --> 00:00:08,400
Speaker 1: name is Diana in Norfolk. She says her son is

3
00:00:08,600 --> 00:00:11,920
Speaker 1: a bully and he hit her nephew with a dump truck.

4
00:00:12,320 --> 00:00:17,280
Speaker 1: He's only four and she can't control him because his

5
00:00:17,440 --> 00:00:20,480
Speaker 1: daddy wrestles with him and says it's to toughen him up.

6
00:00:20,800 --> 00:00:23,600
Speaker 1: She says, my sister doesn't want my son around her

7
00:00:23,640 --> 00:00:26,680
Speaker 1: son anymore, and that saddens me. How do I get

8
00:00:26,680 --> 00:00:28,960
Speaker 1: his dad to stop being so rough with him and

9
00:00:29,040 --> 00:00:31,400
Speaker 1: set a better example for our son.

10
00:00:31,760 --> 00:00:35,160
Speaker 2: Well, it's not the being rough the part that's going on.

11
00:00:36,600 --> 00:00:39,360
Speaker 2: It's how he's raised as a person.

12
00:00:40,680 --> 00:00:40,879
Speaker 3: You know.

13
00:00:41,240 --> 00:00:46,000
Speaker 2: Now, if rough doesn't come with consequences, then they're gonna

14
00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:50,159
Speaker 2: apply this roughness in the wrong place. You know, my

15
00:00:50,280 --> 00:00:52,680
Speaker 2: daddy raised us to be rough and tough. But now

16
00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:56,720
Speaker 2: when he comes to your family, you leave that outside.

17
00:00:56,800 --> 00:00:58,920
Speaker 2: You save all that rough and tougher them boys on

18
00:00:58,960 --> 00:01:02,160
Speaker 2: that block. That's where you be rough and tough. You

19
00:01:02,200 --> 00:01:05,360
Speaker 2: come in this house. Your family is your family. He

20
00:01:05,520 --> 00:01:08,360
Speaker 2: just he's got to teach the boy the difference, because

21
00:01:08,480 --> 00:01:12,400
Speaker 2: toughness has to come with the consequence. You know, you

22
00:01:12,400 --> 00:01:14,399
Speaker 2: can slap who you want, but you raise your hand

23
00:01:14,440 --> 00:01:16,399
Speaker 2: in your mama, you already noticed the last time you're

24
00:01:16,400 --> 00:01:20,840
Speaker 2: gonna raise up anything you've got it. But you know

25
00:01:20,920 --> 00:01:23,480
Speaker 2: he's four, and there's no four year old. I can't

26
00:01:23,520 --> 00:01:27,240
Speaker 2: do nothing with that. That's not not in not in

27
00:01:27,280 --> 00:01:29,720
Speaker 2: the right people's house. And that's what's wrong with these

28
00:01:29,760 --> 00:01:33,240
Speaker 2: new fangled parents, y'all. Not y'all, y'all didn't take y'all's

29
00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:35,000
Speaker 2: hands off these kids too much.

30
00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:37,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, she said she can't control him.

31
00:01:37,520 --> 00:01:42,280
Speaker 3: Before what four year old? I can't control you come

32
00:01:42,319 --> 00:01:43,000
Speaker 3: to my house?

33
00:01:44,680 --> 00:01:49,080
Speaker 1: Okay, And that's gonna her son. It's her son, though

34
00:01:49,400 --> 00:01:50,880
Speaker 1: she can't control them.

35
00:01:50,960 --> 00:01:53,000
Speaker 3: But that's gonna be a problem when he goes to school,

36
00:01:53,160 --> 00:01:55,680
Speaker 3: when it's gonna be a major problem when he's be

37
00:01:55,720 --> 00:01:57,200
Speaker 3: a problem. It's gonna be.

38
00:01:57,920 --> 00:02:00,000
Speaker 2: Problem when you get out on them streets and he'll

39
00:02:00,360 --> 00:02:03,280
Speaker 2: because it's because I don't care who you are. That's

40
00:02:03,280 --> 00:02:07,040
Speaker 2: somebody stronger, faster, and tougher than I don't care who

41
00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:10,120
Speaker 2: you are.

42
00:02:09,840 --> 00:02:12,399
Speaker 3: They got a match for all that you got.

43
00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:15,040
Speaker 2: Go to jail. I'm telling you right now, go to jail.

44
00:02:15,160 --> 00:02:16,240
Speaker 2: You fin to find out.

45
00:02:16,840 --> 00:02:18,560
Speaker 3: Well, I'm the baddest.

46
00:02:19,080 --> 00:02:23,600
Speaker 2: Who says well, But if you don't get this boy disciplined.

47
00:02:23,639 --> 00:02:27,320
Speaker 2: That's what happens to undisciplined boys. You either go into

48
00:02:27,400 --> 00:02:30,480
Speaker 2: the grave or you going to jail. That's what's happening.

49
00:02:30,560 --> 00:02:34,000
Speaker 2: That's what happens to undisciplined boys. So you better, like

50
00:02:34,080 --> 00:02:35,560
Speaker 2: Carl And said, what are you gonna do when he

51
00:02:35,600 --> 00:02:37,640
Speaker 2: goes to school? You got to get a grip on

52
00:02:37,639 --> 00:02:38,120
Speaker 2: this now.

53
00:02:38,160 --> 00:02:38,400
Speaker 3: Man.

54
00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:41,240
Speaker 2: It's okay teach your son to be tough, but the

55
00:02:41,320 --> 00:02:43,960
Speaker 2: consequence is where you apply the toughness.

56
00:02:44,160 --> 00:02:46,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's get it together.

57
00:02:46,320 --> 00:02:46,639
Speaker 3: You can.

58
00:02:46,760 --> 00:02:50,720
Speaker 1: You can write this together. He's only four. Have time

59
00:02:50,760 --> 00:02:53,800
Speaker 1: for another one, Steve. This is from Marissa and Stafford.

60
00:02:54,400 --> 00:02:56,720
Speaker 1: She says, I'm still in love with my ex husband

61
00:02:56,800 --> 00:02:59,720
Speaker 1: and he told me he's engaged. We had a heart

62
00:02:59,760 --> 00:03:02,200
Speaker 1: to hard after our divorce and he said he was

63
00:03:02,320 --> 00:03:05,320
Speaker 1: just not the marrying type and he needed to be single.

64
00:03:05,680 --> 00:03:09,600
Speaker 1: When he told me he's getting remarried, I asked what

65
00:03:09,639 --> 00:03:11,840
Speaker 1: the woman had that I don't have. He got mad

66
00:03:11,880 --> 00:03:14,160
Speaker 1: and won't speak to me anymore. So I don't know

67
00:03:14,200 --> 00:03:17,079
Speaker 1: what to do. Why did he block me and refused

68
00:03:17,160 --> 00:03:18,360
Speaker 1: to answer my question?

69
00:03:18,560 --> 00:03:23,799
Speaker 3: Lady, it's over? Yeah, what's the matter. Yeah, he told

70
00:03:23,840 --> 00:03:24,240
Speaker 3: you to.

71
00:03:25,760 --> 00:03:28,080
Speaker 2: Just you know, make you feel okay, I ain't the

72
00:03:28,160 --> 00:03:30,239
Speaker 2: marrying can. I don't want to do this no more.

73
00:03:30,400 --> 00:03:32,760
Speaker 2: Next thing, you know, he getting married. He ain't the

74
00:03:32,800 --> 00:03:34,720
Speaker 2: marrying can. And he don't want to do this.

75
00:03:34,720 --> 00:03:37,520
Speaker 3: No more with you. That's the painful part.

76
00:03:40,000 --> 00:03:42,680
Speaker 2: I still love him. Why did he block me? Because

77
00:03:42,720 --> 00:03:50,200
Speaker 2: he don't want you? Man, take your freedom and go

78
00:03:50,360 --> 00:03:54,080
Speaker 2: be happy? Man, what's the matter?

79
00:03:55,920 --> 00:03:58,200
Speaker 3: Let him go? He don't he don't, won't you?

80
00:04:00,640 --> 00:04:03,560
Speaker 2: In the words of Judge Lee and told him her

81
00:04:03,600 --> 00:04:07,280
Speaker 2: grandmama told her, don't let a man have to tell

82
00:04:07,360 --> 00:04:08,840
Speaker 2: you twice he don't want you.

83
00:04:11,880 --> 00:04:14,120
Speaker 3: I don't understand that. Man. Now, I've had a woman

84
00:04:14,200 --> 00:04:15,480
Speaker 3: had to tell me four or five times.

85
00:04:15,480 --> 00:04:15,960
Speaker 1: She didn't.

86
00:04:16,400 --> 00:04:18,279
Speaker 3: But it don't work the same way for women.

87
00:04:18,520 --> 00:04:20,400
Speaker 2: You're gonna have to convince me you don't want me,

88
00:04:20,440 --> 00:04:22,719
Speaker 2: because I think you're making rastus shit.

89
00:04:22,760 --> 00:04:25,400
Speaker 3: Don't so we need to talk about this here. May

90
00:04:25,480 --> 00:04:27,480
Speaker 3: you really thought about what I bring to.

91
00:04:27,480 --> 00:04:30,360
Speaker 2: The table, all this? You don't want me? I got that,

92
00:04:30,560 --> 00:04:33,000
Speaker 2: But you know how fine you are. You have to be.

93
00:04:33,000 --> 00:04:34,120
Speaker 3: Considered us right here.

94
00:04:34,520 --> 00:04:37,400
Speaker 1: I'll call you tomorrow, all right, coming up at twenty

95
00:04:37,480 --> 00:04:39,719
Speaker 1: minutes after the hour, we'll have more of the Steve

96
00:04:39,760 --> 00:04:44,200
Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show. Right after this, you're listening Steve Harvey

97
00:04:44,240 --> 00:04:44,840
Speaker 1: Morning Show,