1 00:00:01,200 --> 00:00:02,200 Speaker 1: Tis. 2 00:00:02,279 --> 00:00:04,720 Speaker 2: I'm a homegrowd that knows a little bit about everything 3 00:00:04,840 --> 00:00:06,800 Speaker 2: and everybody who I don't know. 4 00:00:06,760 --> 00:00:10,680 Speaker 3: If you don't lie about that, right, Lauren came in. Hey, y'all, 5 00:00:10,680 --> 00:00:11,120 Speaker 3: what's up. 6 00:00:11,160 --> 00:00:14,680 Speaker 2: It's Lauren Rosa and this is another episode of the 7 00:00:14,760 --> 00:00:17,560 Speaker 2: Latest with Lauren de Rosa. This is your DELI dig 8 00:00:17,600 --> 00:00:20,880 Speaker 2: on all things pop culture, entertainment, news, and all of 9 00:00:20,880 --> 00:00:27,720 Speaker 2: the conversations that shake the room. Baby, So checking in 10 00:00:27,760 --> 00:00:29,360 Speaker 2: behind the scenes of the grind, y'all, I am on 11 00:00:29,400 --> 00:00:34,120 Speaker 2: a count down. My grandmother turns eighty eight, literally in 12 00:00:34,240 --> 00:00:37,839 Speaker 2: less than twenty four hours, so I'm preparing for that, 13 00:00:38,200 --> 00:00:41,320 Speaker 2: getting everything ready to you know, just go hang out, 14 00:00:41,560 --> 00:00:44,040 Speaker 2: have a good time with my grandmother and family and 15 00:00:44,080 --> 00:00:47,800 Speaker 2: whoever pops out for her this weekend. I'll also briefly 16 00:00:47,880 --> 00:00:51,320 Speaker 2: be in Baltimore this weekend for the CIAA weekend. I'm 17 00:00:51,360 --> 00:00:53,880 Speaker 2: hosting a cheerleading competition and then bringing them my behind 18 00:00:54,360 --> 00:00:57,680 Speaker 2: right on back the Grams and into the family. But yeah, 19 00:00:57,680 --> 00:00:58,280 Speaker 2: I'm excited. 20 00:00:58,280 --> 00:00:58,560 Speaker 3: I was. 21 00:00:58,600 --> 00:01:00,960 Speaker 2: I was talking to my grandmother that morning. First of all, 22 00:01:01,680 --> 00:01:04,040 Speaker 2: I thought my grandma was turning. And I don't call 23 00:01:04,080 --> 00:01:05,760 Speaker 2: her grandma, I called her my mom. I thought my 24 00:01:05,760 --> 00:01:10,399 Speaker 2: mama was turning like eighty five, eighty six, And today 25 00:01:10,440 --> 00:01:11,920 Speaker 2: I was talking to her and she was I was like, 26 00:01:11,920 --> 00:01:14,039 Speaker 2: my mom, how old are you turning? And she was 27 00:01:14,080 --> 00:01:16,399 Speaker 2: like eighty eight And I was like, yo, like that's crazy. 28 00:01:16,440 --> 00:01:19,400 Speaker 2: My grandma was almost ninety years old. But you would 29 00:01:19,480 --> 00:01:19,760 Speaker 2: never know. 30 00:01:19,840 --> 00:01:21,000 Speaker 3: Baby. Let me tell you all something. 31 00:01:21,040 --> 00:01:25,480 Speaker 2: Okay. You know how they say black don't crack. Black grandmothers, 32 00:01:25,880 --> 00:01:29,280 Speaker 2: they're timeless, like they just are. My grandmother gives sixty 33 00:01:29,280 --> 00:01:32,400 Speaker 2: five years old. I promise you, she's gonna tear somebody 34 00:01:32,480 --> 00:01:35,119 Speaker 2: up in space this weekend. It's gonna be a great time. 35 00:01:36,080 --> 00:01:38,440 Speaker 2: We're gonna have good food. I gotta She don't even 36 00:01:38,560 --> 00:01:40,400 Speaker 2: know how I'm about to do it up for her. 37 00:01:40,440 --> 00:01:43,160 Speaker 2: And I couldn't tell her because she'd be like, say 38 00:01:43,240 --> 00:01:45,759 Speaker 2: your money, save your money, and I am saving my money. 39 00:01:45,920 --> 00:01:46,280 Speaker 3: I am. 40 00:01:46,600 --> 00:01:49,200 Speaker 2: And we were talking about that too. I'm doing such 41 00:01:49,320 --> 00:01:51,360 Speaker 2: a good job of saving my money and just kind 42 00:01:51,360 --> 00:01:54,120 Speaker 2: of preparing myself. We were having that whole like I 43 00:01:54,120 --> 00:01:56,800 Speaker 2: won't be here forever conversation, and you know, we were 44 00:01:56,840 --> 00:01:59,720 Speaker 2: talking about a lot of things. But I was telling 45 00:01:59,720 --> 00:02:02,440 Speaker 2: my boy friend when I sent him just you know, 46 00:02:02,480 --> 00:02:03,960 Speaker 2: some of the things we were gonna be doing this weekend. 47 00:02:04,040 --> 00:02:07,320 Speaker 2: He was like, he was like, okay, big Mama, because y'all, 48 00:02:07,400 --> 00:02:09,160 Speaker 2: I'm so excited. I'm excited for her to see the 49 00:02:09,160 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 2: house that we're gonna do our staycationing. I got catering 50 00:02:12,639 --> 00:02:15,320 Speaker 2: coming through. I wanted to surprise her and do like 51 00:02:15,480 --> 00:02:18,160 Speaker 2: nails and all that in the house, like have somebody come. 52 00:02:18,639 --> 00:02:20,160 Speaker 2: But I caught her to day and she was on 53 00:02:20,160 --> 00:02:21,320 Speaker 2: her way to the Nelson line. 54 00:02:21,480 --> 00:02:21,680 Speaker 3: She did. 55 00:02:21,840 --> 00:02:23,560 Speaker 2: I try to get her to stay and sit still. 56 00:02:23,600 --> 00:02:25,280 Speaker 2: I'm like, it's going snow, just stay in the house, 57 00:02:25,320 --> 00:02:29,120 Speaker 2: and she's like no. But I was telling him, like, 58 00:02:29,440 --> 00:02:32,840 Speaker 2: you know, literally, without my grandmother, I wouldn't be here, 59 00:02:32,919 --> 00:02:34,480 Speaker 2: like you guys would not be hearing from me. I 60 00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:38,080 Speaker 2: mean literally, right, I wouldn't be here because my grandma 61 00:02:38,200 --> 00:02:39,799 Speaker 2: had to have my mom in order for my mom 62 00:02:39,840 --> 00:02:42,880 Speaker 2: to have me. But I mean, like just career wise, 63 00:02:43,639 --> 00:02:46,320 Speaker 2: me and my grandmam are really really close. My dad 64 00:02:46,480 --> 00:02:49,080 Speaker 2: was you know my dad, he's not I was gonna say, 65 00:02:49,080 --> 00:02:50,560 Speaker 2: he's not in my I don't know how you described 66 00:02:51,040 --> 00:02:53,000 Speaker 2: me and my dad's relationship, Like I know my dad 67 00:02:53,040 --> 00:02:54,840 Speaker 2: of course, and me and my dad yet like it's 68 00:02:54,880 --> 00:02:57,079 Speaker 2: it's all love, but my dad wasn't in the household. 69 00:02:57,200 --> 00:02:59,720 Speaker 2: My dad wasn't you know, super consistent all the time. 70 00:02:59,800 --> 00:03:03,120 Speaker 2: So so my second parent was my grandmother, like my mo. 71 00:03:03,120 --> 00:03:06,960 Speaker 2: Mom has been like my saving grace so many times 72 00:03:07,080 --> 00:03:09,720 Speaker 2: all of my life. And when I decided to leave 73 00:03:09,800 --> 00:03:13,720 Speaker 2: TMZ and I decided to leave LA, I didn't have 74 00:03:13,760 --> 00:03:15,640 Speaker 2: any money, but I didn't have really a choice. My 75 00:03:15,680 --> 00:03:20,079 Speaker 2: grandmother actually had had a slight heart attack, and when 76 00:03:20,120 --> 00:03:22,640 Speaker 2: that happened, it was already pressure on me because I 77 00:03:22,760 --> 00:03:26,720 Speaker 2: was just you know, after my mom had battled cancer 78 00:03:26,880 --> 00:03:29,200 Speaker 2: and she was good, I still didn't feel okay with 79 00:03:29,320 --> 00:03:33,560 Speaker 2: being so far because just everything I realized that had 80 00:03:33,720 --> 00:03:36,480 Speaker 2: changed because I'd been in LA for years and then 81 00:03:36,520 --> 00:03:38,480 Speaker 2: now I'm home in Delaware, you know, taking care of 82 00:03:38,520 --> 00:03:41,160 Speaker 2: my mom for this year, and that time my pop 83 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:44,040 Speaker 2: pop passes away, and you know, my mom gets better, 84 00:03:44,560 --> 00:03:47,280 Speaker 2: and my Grandmam's chilling, she's cool this whole time that 85 00:03:47,400 --> 00:03:50,440 Speaker 2: I'm in Delaware. But I just begin to notice how 86 00:03:50,560 --> 00:03:54,200 Speaker 2: much I was missing, like the small things I was missing, 87 00:03:54,240 --> 00:03:55,920 Speaker 2: and just the things that they needed because they were 88 00:03:55,920 --> 00:03:58,240 Speaker 2: getting older. And I'm like, yo, I can't be here 89 00:03:58,800 --> 00:04:01,440 Speaker 2: twenty four seven, but at least I need to figure 90 00:04:01,440 --> 00:04:02,320 Speaker 2: out being closer. 91 00:04:03,280 --> 00:04:05,160 Speaker 3: And I'm not the best now. 92 00:04:05,200 --> 00:04:07,160 Speaker 2: Like you know, I do as much as I can 93 00:04:07,360 --> 00:04:09,680 Speaker 2: when I can, but with work picking up, I don't. 94 00:04:09,520 --> 00:04:11,960 Speaker 3: Always have the time to always be there. 95 00:04:12,080 --> 00:04:14,840 Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, Like I'm doing a lot, 96 00:04:15,120 --> 00:04:19,960 Speaker 2: but it's better I'm closer. But I say all that 97 00:04:20,040 --> 00:04:23,279 Speaker 2: to say my grandmother when all of that, when I 98 00:04:23,360 --> 00:04:25,440 Speaker 2: made those decisions to come this way, because of everything 99 00:04:25,480 --> 00:04:29,360 Speaker 2: I just described, I didn't have a job, like I 100 00:04:29,400 --> 00:04:31,880 Speaker 2: was still working at TMZ for some time. I had 101 00:04:31,880 --> 00:04:34,120 Speaker 2: taken leave, tried to go back to LA, tried to 102 00:04:34,120 --> 00:04:36,080 Speaker 2: move my mom to LA with me. Just was too much. 103 00:04:36,680 --> 00:04:39,360 Speaker 2: When I decided like, yo, okay, this doesn't work anymore 104 00:04:39,520 --> 00:04:44,479 Speaker 2: for my life, for my mental for nothing. Literally, I 105 00:04:44,520 --> 00:04:46,800 Speaker 2: was in Delaware. We had an event space that we 106 00:04:46,839 --> 00:04:49,640 Speaker 2: had opened. Shout out to anybody that was, you know, 107 00:04:49,960 --> 00:04:52,679 Speaker 2: supporting me during the event space era. The event space 108 00:04:52,760 --> 00:04:57,520 Speaker 2: was called the Spot thrill Tube was in Delaware, and 109 00:04:58,640 --> 00:05:00,240 Speaker 2: I was just doing as much as I could with 110 00:05:00,279 --> 00:05:02,680 Speaker 2: that and just you know, I had picked up a 111 00:05:02,720 --> 00:05:06,880 Speaker 2: few projects. I was working with Escape ESPN. I wrote 112 00:05:06,880 --> 00:05:08,520 Speaker 2: for them a bit, I hosted a little bit. I 113 00:05:08,560 --> 00:05:11,200 Speaker 2: was just doing anything I could to like have money 114 00:05:11,200 --> 00:05:14,560 Speaker 2: coming because I wasn't getting money from a leave or 115 00:05:14,600 --> 00:05:16,640 Speaker 2: anything like that. And I quit my job, so I 116 00:05:16,680 --> 00:05:19,880 Speaker 2: wasn't getting any unemployment like y'all. I was figuring it out. 117 00:05:20,480 --> 00:05:24,239 Speaker 2: And my grandmother and my mom, they've always like done 118 00:05:24,440 --> 00:05:27,720 Speaker 2: property related things like ownership right. And my grandmother, I 119 00:05:27,720 --> 00:05:30,120 Speaker 2: remember her one day we had a conversation and she 120 00:05:30,240 --> 00:05:31,760 Speaker 2: was just like, look, I think you're at a position 121 00:05:31,800 --> 00:05:35,640 Speaker 2: where you need to lean on yourself and employ yourself. 122 00:05:37,279 --> 00:05:39,159 Speaker 3: She gave me a few instructions. She told me what 123 00:05:39,240 --> 00:05:39,599 Speaker 3: to do. 124 00:05:39,720 --> 00:05:42,039 Speaker 2: She told me how to basically, like you know, take 125 00:05:42,080 --> 00:05:44,080 Speaker 2: some things that she had put aside to me, put 126 00:05:44,120 --> 00:05:47,279 Speaker 2: aside for me, use it, reinvest in myself and basically 127 00:05:47,320 --> 00:05:50,840 Speaker 2: just set myself up financially where I could at least 128 00:05:51,200 --> 00:05:55,200 Speaker 2: have money coming in or money available when I needed 129 00:05:55,200 --> 00:05:56,600 Speaker 2: it and be able to pay my rent. I was 130 00:05:56,640 --> 00:06:00,480 Speaker 2: still living like very like hand in hand, like you know, 131 00:06:00,560 --> 00:06:01,080 Speaker 2: like it was. 132 00:06:01,279 --> 00:06:01,680 Speaker 3: It was. 133 00:06:01,760 --> 00:06:04,360 Speaker 2: It was a very different time, especially because I've always 134 00:06:04,360 --> 00:06:06,280 Speaker 2: been working and always been doing things. 135 00:06:07,880 --> 00:06:08,880 Speaker 3: But I was just figuring it out. 136 00:06:08,920 --> 00:06:10,440 Speaker 2: And in the midst of that, I was guest hosting 137 00:06:10,440 --> 00:06:13,200 Speaker 2: at the Breakfast Club, and then I moved to New York, 138 00:06:13,240 --> 00:06:15,080 Speaker 2: and even then she held it down. You know, if 139 00:06:15,120 --> 00:06:17,080 Speaker 2: I need a little rerint money before you know, a 140 00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:20,480 Speaker 2: job picked in or whatever. She she has always held 141 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:23,720 Speaker 2: me down. So now and we've always talked about me 142 00:06:24,080 --> 00:06:27,359 Speaker 2: getting in a position where I was able to save money, 143 00:06:27,440 --> 00:06:31,600 Speaker 2: I was able to consistently do for myself. She used 144 00:06:31,600 --> 00:06:34,640 Speaker 2: to just my grandma always says to me, I know 145 00:06:34,680 --> 00:06:35,679 Speaker 2: you're gonna be fine, honey. 146 00:06:35,720 --> 00:06:37,520 Speaker 3: I know you're a star. I know you're gonna be good. 147 00:06:37,760 --> 00:06:39,799 Speaker 2: I know you're gonna figure it out before that's before 148 00:06:39,800 --> 00:06:42,480 Speaker 2: she lectures me about not saving money or or something 149 00:06:42,520 --> 00:06:46,480 Speaker 2: like that. Right, And we've always literally talked about what 150 00:06:46,560 --> 00:06:48,320 Speaker 2: life would look like when I got to that point 151 00:06:48,320 --> 00:06:51,440 Speaker 2: where like I'm able to provide for myself consistently, because 152 00:06:51,440 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 2: even in La it was such a fight because I 153 00:06:53,279 --> 00:06:55,040 Speaker 2: was so far and things are so expensive and it 154 00:06:55,160 --> 00:06:58,560 Speaker 2: just money was just different over there. So now that 155 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:00,560 Speaker 2: she sees that I'm in a space were like, I'm 156 00:07:00,560 --> 00:07:03,520 Speaker 2: doing so much, but it's benefiting me and I'm getting 157 00:07:03,520 --> 00:07:06,400 Speaker 2: further in my career. She told me today, like I'm 158 00:07:06,440 --> 00:07:10,080 Speaker 2: just so proud of you, Like I'm so proud of you. 159 00:07:10,080 --> 00:07:12,520 Speaker 2: You're doing everything that you talked about you were going 160 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:16,240 Speaker 2: to do. You're you know, you're getting better at understanding that, 161 00:07:16,280 --> 00:07:18,000 Speaker 2: like you got to prepare for rainy days. 162 00:07:18,320 --> 00:07:19,040 Speaker 3: I'm proud of you. 163 00:07:19,760 --> 00:07:22,720 Speaker 2: So I told you, know Bee, I'm like, look, I 164 00:07:22,720 --> 00:07:25,000 Speaker 2: would I literally would not be here. You wouldn't even 165 00:07:25,080 --> 00:07:26,600 Speaker 2: hear of me or know of me. And that goes 166 00:07:26,640 --> 00:07:27,920 Speaker 2: for you guys too, as the low rider, as if 167 00:07:27,920 --> 00:07:30,920 Speaker 2: it wasn't for my grandmam and her prayers. But listen 168 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:33,400 Speaker 2: in her holding me down and let me borrow that 169 00:07:33,480 --> 00:07:35,320 Speaker 2: money and do all the things that I've needed to 170 00:07:35,360 --> 00:07:38,920 Speaker 2: do so she gonna get the fruit to my labor period, 171 00:07:39,120 --> 00:07:43,400 Speaker 2: like hands down, Like she has been the biggest hurt 172 00:07:43,400 --> 00:07:46,480 Speaker 2: in my mom. But you know my grandmother has like 173 00:07:46,840 --> 00:07:49,080 Speaker 2: even when my mom didn't understand it at one point, 174 00:07:49,320 --> 00:07:52,240 Speaker 2: my grandma didn't understand it either, But she never asked 175 00:07:52,240 --> 00:07:55,560 Speaker 2: me any questions. She just always supported me always, and 176 00:07:55,640 --> 00:07:58,920 Speaker 2: I mean big girl support sometimes like coming through with 177 00:07:59,040 --> 00:08:01,760 Speaker 2: the with the checkbook and not even as financially just 178 00:08:01,800 --> 00:08:04,000 Speaker 2: like you know, we're also really close, so like I 179 00:08:04,000 --> 00:08:05,880 Speaker 2: can call her, we talk about everything. 180 00:08:06,240 --> 00:08:07,240 Speaker 3: She's just taught me so much. 181 00:08:07,280 --> 00:08:10,120 Speaker 2: So I want this, I mean I always want my 182 00:08:10,240 --> 00:08:13,600 Speaker 2: mom and my grandmother's lives to feel like they've worked 183 00:08:13,640 --> 00:08:15,960 Speaker 2: so much and now they can just kind of enjoy, 184 00:08:16,440 --> 00:08:18,560 Speaker 2: you know, what they've built, and that me and my 185 00:08:18,600 --> 00:08:22,600 Speaker 2: brother we got it. But with this birthday, I mean 186 00:08:22,880 --> 00:08:25,520 Speaker 2: every birthday special, but this this year, this birthday, eighty 187 00:08:25,560 --> 00:08:28,240 Speaker 2: eight is a big number. She on our way to ninety, 188 00:08:28,280 --> 00:08:30,640 Speaker 2: y'all's official. She on our way to ninety, then on 189 00:08:30,640 --> 00:08:33,880 Speaker 2: our way to one hundred. And her biggest thing is 190 00:08:33,880 --> 00:08:35,880 Speaker 2: like she just wants to spend time. Like she's always 191 00:08:35,880 --> 00:08:37,400 Speaker 2: telling me, like, you need to make sure you schedule 192 00:08:37,400 --> 00:08:39,760 Speaker 2: more time to spend time with us. So that's what 193 00:08:39,760 --> 00:08:41,560 Speaker 2: we're doing this week, and we spending time. It's going 194 00:08:41,600 --> 00:08:44,560 Speaker 2: to be amazing. I can't wait until she walks in 195 00:08:44,600 --> 00:08:46,440 Speaker 2: and she sees the house, because that's another thing too, 196 00:08:46,480 --> 00:08:48,120 Speaker 2: Like we were talking about me buying a house, and 197 00:08:48,160 --> 00:08:50,480 Speaker 2: she can't wait for me to buy a house that 198 00:08:50,520 --> 00:08:53,760 Speaker 2: I actually live in. And at one point she wanted 199 00:08:53,800 --> 00:08:55,880 Speaker 2: it to be in Delaware so bad. But I think 200 00:08:55,920 --> 00:08:58,520 Speaker 2: she's realized now that for work it really can't be. 201 00:08:59,320 --> 00:09:01,199 Speaker 2: But this week is going to feel like that. It's 202 00:09:01,200 --> 00:09:03,920 Speaker 2: going to feel like we're all living in a house together, 203 00:09:04,559 --> 00:09:06,600 Speaker 2: having a good time doing all the things. 204 00:09:06,600 --> 00:09:09,720 Speaker 3: So I'm excited. So you guys will hear more about that. 205 00:09:11,120 --> 00:09:17,360 Speaker 2: Monday, because yeah, we're getting into it. I always say, 206 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:18,640 Speaker 2: we don't have a lot to talk about behind the 207 00:09:18,679 --> 00:09:20,120 Speaker 2: scenes of the grind and then to be a whole thing. 208 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:23,960 Speaker 2: Right now, let's get on into the latest because there 209 00:09:24,080 --> 00:09:28,960 Speaker 2: is a lot to talk about. So Amon Shemperd, who 210 00:09:29,320 --> 00:09:33,280 Speaker 2: you know, NBA player at one point, big NBA player 211 00:09:33,280 --> 00:09:35,559 Speaker 2: at one point actor. Now you can watch him on 212 00:09:35,600 --> 00:09:39,080 Speaker 2: the Shy also was married to and share children with 213 00:09:39,360 --> 00:09:43,640 Speaker 2: Tianna Taylor. Sat down for an interview with Shannon Sharp 214 00:09:43,720 --> 00:09:47,920 Speaker 2: on Club Shash and this. Watching this interview, wow, it was. 215 00:09:48,160 --> 00:09:50,680 Speaker 2: It was such an emotional interview. But watching this interview, 216 00:09:51,720 --> 00:09:55,560 Speaker 2: I think for me because you know, I don't I'm 217 00:09:55,559 --> 00:09:57,680 Speaker 2: not like a sports fan. Of course, I know Iman 218 00:09:57,720 --> 00:10:00,480 Speaker 2: Shumperd because of Tianna Taylor and having reported on him, 219 00:10:00,840 --> 00:10:03,960 Speaker 2: you know previously, even before that situation, but within the 220 00:10:03,960 --> 00:10:06,200 Speaker 2: that situation as well too. I met him at the 221 00:10:06,400 --> 00:10:08,560 Speaker 2: Black Effect podcast. So I don't know if you really 222 00:10:08,640 --> 00:10:10,240 Speaker 2: care for me too much now because of some of 223 00:10:10,240 --> 00:10:14,240 Speaker 2: the reporting I did on him and Tianna Taylor's divorce 224 00:10:14,320 --> 00:10:17,720 Speaker 2: when it was happening. But nonetheless, I have no issue 225 00:10:17,720 --> 00:10:20,520 Speaker 2: with anybody. I'm literally always just doing my job whether 226 00:10:20,559 --> 00:10:24,560 Speaker 2: people understand it or not. This interview really made me 227 00:10:25,120 --> 00:10:29,240 Speaker 2: like I was kind of in awe of his ability 228 00:10:29,280 --> 00:10:32,120 Speaker 2: to like be as vulnerable in this space because I 229 00:10:32,120 --> 00:10:34,360 Speaker 2: feel like I've seen interviews with him before and even 230 00:10:34,400 --> 00:10:36,559 Speaker 2: when I watched I used to watch Taana Taylor and 231 00:10:36,559 --> 00:10:40,240 Speaker 2: Dea Mon Shampir's reality show they had about their marriage 232 00:10:40,280 --> 00:10:43,880 Speaker 2: and everything that they had happening, and you know, I 233 00:10:43,920 --> 00:10:46,280 Speaker 2: feel like you knew him a bit, but you didn't 234 00:10:46,320 --> 00:10:49,080 Speaker 2: really like know him for real. But when he sat 235 00:10:49,120 --> 00:10:51,920 Speaker 2: down with this interview with Shannon Sharp, I was like, wow, 236 00:10:52,040 --> 00:10:54,880 Speaker 2: like he is being very vulnerable. So straight out the gate, 237 00:10:55,480 --> 00:10:58,960 Speaker 2: you know, Shannon Sharp asked him how he's doing, and 238 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:02,080 Speaker 2: then he mentions the fact that Iman Shepherd's father passed 239 00:11:02,080 --> 00:11:05,199 Speaker 2: away not too long ago, and it gets very emotional. 240 00:11:06,080 --> 00:11:08,280 Speaker 3: Do you remember the last conversation you had with your father? 241 00:11:09,400 --> 00:11:24,080 Speaker 1: My bad? My bad dog? He really I want bad, 242 00:11:28,720 --> 00:11:33,000 Speaker 1: So he really wanted me to uh. He liked when 243 00:11:33,040 --> 00:11:36,960 Speaker 1: I uh, but I would wear the suits full soup. 244 00:11:38,160 --> 00:11:39,880 Speaker 1: He liked when I wear a shirt and tie stuff. 245 00:11:39,880 --> 00:11:43,000 Speaker 1: He always got dressed for the office every day, wear 246 00:11:43,040 --> 00:11:47,600 Speaker 1: a shirt, shirt and tie and uh our last cowbo. 247 00:11:47,720 --> 00:11:50,360 Speaker 1: He just was like, man, you look good at them 248 00:11:50,480 --> 00:11:53,360 Speaker 1: uh and them suits, man, like I like that you're 249 00:11:53,360 --> 00:11:58,080 Speaker 1: taking jobs now that you you're wearing that suit. And 250 00:11:58,160 --> 00:12:01,160 Speaker 1: then he told me, don't come home finished filming because 251 00:12:01,160 --> 00:12:05,160 Speaker 1: we was filming the podcast. I have to come home 252 00:12:05,280 --> 00:12:08,080 Speaker 1: finish filming. He gotta go in the hospital. He be 253 00:12:08,160 --> 00:12:12,040 Speaker 1: right back. Yeah, that was the last one. 254 00:12:12,120 --> 00:12:14,560 Speaker 3: But did you know your father was that sick? 255 00:12:17,200 --> 00:12:19,439 Speaker 1: He never showed, he never shared that. I mean, I mean, 256 00:12:19,440 --> 00:12:20,839 Speaker 1: I knew he had to go in the hospital. I 257 00:12:20,840 --> 00:12:24,000 Speaker 1: thought he just had some like you know, people get older. 258 00:12:24,200 --> 00:12:26,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, being there a couple of days and he'd be 259 00:12:26,400 --> 00:12:26,880 Speaker 3: right back. 260 00:12:27,040 --> 00:12:31,360 Speaker 1: Yeah. And then knowing him, I just you know, I 261 00:12:31,400 --> 00:12:34,439 Speaker 1: would have been I guess I naturally worry more about 262 00:12:34,440 --> 00:12:42,360 Speaker 1: my mom because yeah, I ain't never the dude don't 263 00:12:42,400 --> 00:12:47,559 Speaker 1: ask for help. He don't. Yeah, even in the last 264 00:12:47,600 --> 00:12:50,000 Speaker 1: couple of months. Man, it was like hard to help him, 265 00:12:50,800 --> 00:12:52,440 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, we ain't know what was 266 00:12:52,480 --> 00:12:54,400 Speaker 1: going on for real, but it's like the help we 267 00:12:54,480 --> 00:12:56,400 Speaker 1: thinking we're doing. We just like, yeah, Dad, like you 268 00:12:56,440 --> 00:12:58,480 Speaker 1: could ask us for anything, Like you know what I mean, like, 269 00:12:58,559 --> 00:13:02,480 Speaker 1: but I ain't even like notice that that he's going 270 00:13:02,520 --> 00:13:04,280 Speaker 1: out his way to say thank you, because it's. 271 00:13:04,080 --> 00:13:06,160 Speaker 3: Like, now, that's one of the things that. 272 00:13:07,840 --> 00:13:10,199 Speaker 2: I'm talking about my grandmother, and I'm talking about eighty 273 00:13:10,240 --> 00:13:12,120 Speaker 2: eight and like, you know, all these years to come, 274 00:13:12,720 --> 00:13:15,240 Speaker 2: and I swear man, like, my biggest fear is being 275 00:13:15,280 --> 00:13:18,040 Speaker 2: without people that I love, that that have been a 276 00:13:18,080 --> 00:13:19,840 Speaker 2: part of my life for my whole life. My grandmother, 277 00:13:19,960 --> 00:13:23,640 Speaker 2: my mom, my brother, like everybody, like my family, like y'all. 278 00:13:24,040 --> 00:13:27,040 Speaker 2: It's I know that living forever is not a real thing. 279 00:13:27,280 --> 00:13:30,079 Speaker 2: And you know, as people get older. I don't know 280 00:13:30,080 --> 00:13:31,880 Speaker 2: about you guys, but the older people in my family, 281 00:13:32,360 --> 00:13:34,880 Speaker 2: they talk about not being here forever as if it's 282 00:13:34,880 --> 00:13:37,960 Speaker 2: something that they are just okay with at this point. 283 00:13:38,480 --> 00:13:39,200 Speaker 3: And I think it is. 284 00:13:39,200 --> 00:13:40,640 Speaker 2: One of them things where you get older and you 285 00:13:40,679 --> 00:13:42,720 Speaker 2: come to terms with, like, you know, life, you've lived 286 00:13:42,720 --> 00:13:45,120 Speaker 2: your life and all of that. But I just don't 287 00:13:45,160 --> 00:13:46,680 Speaker 2: know what I would do if I couldn't pick up 288 00:13:46,679 --> 00:13:49,560 Speaker 2: the phone and call my grandmother and you know, be 289 00:13:49,600 --> 00:13:51,719 Speaker 2: excited about her birthday and you know, all these things, 290 00:13:51,840 --> 00:13:54,960 Speaker 2: or my mother or whoever. But I know that it's 291 00:13:55,000 --> 00:13:57,960 Speaker 2: going to happen one day, you know, hopefully twenty plus 292 00:13:58,040 --> 00:14:01,480 Speaker 2: years from now. Hearing him in this space and talk 293 00:14:01,520 --> 00:14:04,040 Speaker 2: about all of that, it just made me think about 294 00:14:04,960 --> 00:14:08,520 Speaker 2: that fear in what that looks like, you know, life 295 00:14:08,640 --> 00:14:13,000 Speaker 2: posts people living their fullest life and getting up, getting up, 296 00:14:13,520 --> 00:14:14,199 Speaker 2: getting up on. 297 00:14:14,160 --> 00:14:14,680 Speaker 3: Out of here. 298 00:14:14,960 --> 00:14:18,080 Speaker 2: What does life look like? And how am I preparing 299 00:14:18,200 --> 00:14:21,680 Speaker 2: today for that to happen? And I don't think you 300 00:14:21,800 --> 00:14:24,400 Speaker 2: really can ever prepare, if I'm being honest with you, 301 00:14:24,760 --> 00:14:26,520 Speaker 2: But I do think that there are things that you 302 00:14:26,560 --> 00:14:32,120 Speaker 2: can do to make it where it's like I'm I 303 00:14:32,840 --> 00:14:35,440 Speaker 2: have a peace of mind that I poured into that 304 00:14:35,480 --> 00:14:38,520 Speaker 2: person or in that relationship as much as I could. 305 00:14:39,320 --> 00:14:41,560 Speaker 2: And that's the sense that I got from Iman Shumper 306 00:14:41,680 --> 00:14:43,680 Speaker 2: when he was talking about his dad and his relationship 307 00:14:43,680 --> 00:14:45,280 Speaker 2: with his dad, because there was one point in an 308 00:14:45,280 --> 00:14:47,200 Speaker 2: interview where Shannon Sharp even asked him like, if your 309 00:14:47,240 --> 00:14:49,360 Speaker 2: dad was sitting here right now, what would you say? 310 00:14:49,600 --> 00:14:50,880 Speaker 3: And this is what he mon said. 311 00:14:51,600 --> 00:14:54,160 Speaker 1: Your dad was at me this chair today, it's been 312 00:14:54,200 --> 00:14:56,720 Speaker 1: going a year and you could have a conversation with it. 313 00:14:57,360 --> 00:14:58,720 Speaker 3: What do you think he would say to you? 314 00:14:58,880 --> 00:15:00,200 Speaker 1: And what would you want to say to him? Yep, 315 00:15:06,160 --> 00:15:08,960 Speaker 1: I don't know if my dad held back anything for me, 316 00:15:09,080 --> 00:15:12,880 Speaker 1: so I don't think he had much to say. He 317 00:15:13,000 --> 00:15:16,920 Speaker 1: probably just reflect on whatever I'm going through at the moment. 318 00:15:18,880 --> 00:15:25,200 Speaker 2: And to me, I'm like, you know that read, I 319 00:15:25,440 --> 00:15:28,680 Speaker 2: would have nothing else to say. We talked every day, 320 00:15:29,360 --> 00:15:31,520 Speaker 2: We've said everything that we've needed to say. At this point, 321 00:15:31,600 --> 00:15:33,520 Speaker 2: I would just be in all of his presence and 322 00:15:33,520 --> 00:15:37,400 Speaker 2: I would just want to feel that, And I'm like, man. 323 00:15:38,000 --> 00:15:38,080 Speaker 1: That. 324 00:15:39,800 --> 00:15:40,840 Speaker 3: Unk Shayshae in waste. 325 00:15:40,920 --> 00:15:43,680 Speaker 2: No, they weren't even an hour into the interview and 326 00:15:43,720 --> 00:15:45,920 Speaker 2: it got this like deep and his vulnerable, like emon 327 00:15:46,040 --> 00:15:49,000 Speaker 2: had to take a second to get itself together to 328 00:15:49,040 --> 00:15:49,880 Speaker 2: even get through the interview. 329 00:15:49,920 --> 00:15:51,480 Speaker 3: And I mean this just recently happened. 330 00:15:51,520 --> 00:15:53,840 Speaker 2: His father passed away back in October of twenty twenty five, 331 00:15:53,880 --> 00:15:56,400 Speaker 2: so you know, this is very fresh. And again you 332 00:15:56,400 --> 00:15:58,480 Speaker 2: could tell us that was very impactful in his life, 333 00:15:59,240 --> 00:16:02,480 Speaker 2: so he's still dealing with that. But what I also 334 00:16:02,520 --> 00:16:05,680 Speaker 2: thought was interesting was to hear him talk about his 335 00:16:05,800 --> 00:16:08,720 Speaker 2: views on marriage now. And the reason why I segue 336 00:16:08,800 --> 00:16:11,880 Speaker 2: from the father conversation and family and you know what 337 00:16:11,920 --> 00:16:13,840 Speaker 2: that instills in you and them not being here one 338 00:16:13,920 --> 00:16:17,600 Speaker 2: day is because what I've been having conversations with myself 339 00:16:17,600 --> 00:16:21,120 Speaker 2: about is the biggest thing I can do to prepare 340 00:16:21,200 --> 00:16:23,720 Speaker 2: myself for after the people that I love are not 341 00:16:23,840 --> 00:16:27,640 Speaker 2: here anymore, is take everything I can from them wisdom wise, 342 00:16:28,200 --> 00:16:29,880 Speaker 2: even the things that they do that I don't want 343 00:16:29,880 --> 00:16:32,360 Speaker 2: to repeat in my life, right like, take all of 344 00:16:32,360 --> 00:16:35,800 Speaker 2: the good, the bad, the ugly, and just be in 345 00:16:35,800 --> 00:16:37,840 Speaker 2: a space where like I'm living a life that they 346 00:16:37,920 --> 00:16:40,960 Speaker 2: will still continue to be. Like I'm proud of you 347 00:16:41,000 --> 00:16:43,120 Speaker 2: know what I mean, and really being true to myself 348 00:16:43,120 --> 00:16:44,440 Speaker 2: and that and I mean, it seems like a mine 349 00:16:44,480 --> 00:16:46,880 Speaker 2: has gotten to the point, he says, you know, him 350 00:16:46,920 --> 00:16:50,040 Speaker 2: and Tianna Taylor, they're in a good space. Everything is 351 00:16:50,080 --> 00:16:52,040 Speaker 2: cool now that at some point And I told you, 352 00:16:52,120 --> 00:16:53,480 Speaker 2: I don't think. I don't know how her mom feels 353 00:16:53,480 --> 00:16:55,320 Speaker 2: about me. I don't know if he cares for me 354 00:16:55,360 --> 00:16:57,080 Speaker 2: too much. And the last time I talked to him, 355 00:16:57,200 --> 00:17:01,280 Speaker 2: he was cussing me out. But they've gotten because of 356 00:17:01,280 --> 00:17:03,280 Speaker 2: the different because the divorce, there was a lot happening. 357 00:17:03,320 --> 00:17:05,680 Speaker 2: There was a lot of like tense moments that were 358 00:17:05,720 --> 00:17:07,520 Speaker 2: being talked about and replayed the media. 359 00:17:07,520 --> 00:17:08,199 Speaker 3: And I understand it. 360 00:17:08,200 --> 00:17:13,119 Speaker 2: It's something sensitive to people, like I get it. But 361 00:17:14,160 --> 00:17:16,600 Speaker 2: he says, they're in a better space and that things 362 00:17:16,640 --> 00:17:18,600 Speaker 2: are good, which is really important when you're raising kids. 363 00:17:18,920 --> 00:17:24,000 Speaker 2: But his take on marriage after the fact, like post marriage, 364 00:17:24,080 --> 00:17:27,200 Speaker 2: right post divorce, I thought was interesting because it seems 365 00:17:27,240 --> 00:17:30,040 Speaker 2: like he's really gotten to a point where he understands hisself, 366 00:17:30,040 --> 00:17:32,440 Speaker 2: at least for now, right because things change, people change. 367 00:17:32,480 --> 00:17:34,720 Speaker 2: You meet somebody that can change your whole, you know. 368 00:17:35,280 --> 00:17:36,760 Speaker 2: But it seems like he's in a space where he 369 00:17:36,800 --> 00:17:39,720 Speaker 2: really understands what he wants, what he doesn't want. 370 00:17:39,680 --> 00:17:40,560 Speaker 3: And why. 371 00:17:40,800 --> 00:17:44,080 Speaker 2: And that's important as you're you know, healing from things, 372 00:17:44,160 --> 00:17:47,920 Speaker 2: as you are figuring out who you are post various things, divorce, 373 00:17:48,480 --> 00:17:51,280 Speaker 2: losing people you love, you know, trying to instill what 374 00:17:51,320 --> 00:17:52,879 Speaker 2: they've taught you every day in your life. 375 00:17:53,000 --> 00:17:58,479 Speaker 3: Let's take a listen. What about this marriage. 376 00:17:59,480 --> 00:18:03,359 Speaker 1: I don't know if I'll do it legally, Like I 377 00:18:03,359 --> 00:18:06,879 Speaker 1: don't want to sign papers and all that, Like we're 378 00:18:06,920 --> 00:18:09,399 Speaker 1: gonna do a contract. We're gonna do a contract owning 379 00:18:09,480 --> 00:18:12,800 Speaker 1: something that we both trying to do. Anyway, I'd rather 380 00:18:12,840 --> 00:18:16,560 Speaker 1: the contract be about a business. If my mama at 381 00:18:16,600 --> 00:18:19,600 Speaker 1: the wed and we got married, if my. 382 00:18:19,520 --> 00:18:22,200 Speaker 3: Mama was there, it happy, it happened, for sure. 383 00:18:22,200 --> 00:18:25,119 Speaker 1: But this whole they get to be a part of 384 00:18:25,160 --> 00:18:28,680 Speaker 1: it now because we went to the house and now 385 00:18:28,720 --> 00:18:30,640 Speaker 1: we gotta do this now, I gotta I don't even 386 00:18:30,720 --> 00:18:31,240 Speaker 1: doing all that. 387 00:18:31,920 --> 00:18:35,320 Speaker 2: Look, I mean, I might not necessarily agree because for me, 388 00:18:36,359 --> 00:18:38,840 Speaker 2: I want the paperwork. I want to do the whole shebang, 389 00:18:38,920 --> 00:18:41,160 Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying. But I think I've always 390 00:18:41,280 --> 00:18:46,240 Speaker 2: known because I'm very inquisitive, and I I've always said 391 00:18:46,320 --> 00:18:49,360 Speaker 2: I don't believe in divorce. I don't want to divorce, 392 00:18:49,560 --> 00:18:52,040 Speaker 2: you know. I want to figure it out. I want 393 00:18:52,040 --> 00:18:54,639 Speaker 2: to work it out. But prior to having to figure 394 00:18:54,640 --> 00:18:56,639 Speaker 2: it out and work it out, I want to make 395 00:18:56,680 --> 00:18:59,959 Speaker 2: a really good choice. And not that Amoun Intiana Tay 396 00:19:00,200 --> 00:19:02,080 Speaker 2: didn't make a good choice in choosing each other. They 397 00:19:02,080 --> 00:19:04,040 Speaker 2: have two beautiful babies that have come out of it. 398 00:19:04,720 --> 00:19:07,400 Speaker 2: But what I'm saying is that I want to make 399 00:19:07,400 --> 00:19:09,760 Speaker 2: a choice of like, even if the person that I 400 00:19:09,840 --> 00:19:13,480 Speaker 2: choose to be with is not the best situation for 401 00:19:13,640 --> 00:19:16,840 Speaker 2: me because of something that is happening, we can get 402 00:19:16,880 --> 00:19:18,560 Speaker 2: to a point where we choose each other to figure 403 00:19:18,560 --> 00:19:20,720 Speaker 2: it out. And it doesn't happen for everybody, but that's 404 00:19:20,760 --> 00:19:24,080 Speaker 2: just what I want for myself. And I saw another 405 00:19:24,160 --> 00:19:29,399 Speaker 2: interview David Man, who they lowriders, y'all they listen to 406 00:19:29,400 --> 00:19:33,520 Speaker 2: the podcast. So David Man and Miss Timila Man were 407 00:19:33,560 --> 00:19:36,960 Speaker 2: on Jamal Bryant's podcast at Him and his wife do. 408 00:19:37,280 --> 00:19:40,960 Speaker 2: The podcast is called Let's be Clear Now. They're having 409 00:19:41,000 --> 00:19:44,200 Speaker 2: a conversation about all of the things and they get 410 00:19:44,200 --> 00:19:47,240 Speaker 2: into the marriage conversation. And one thing I love about 411 00:19:47,600 --> 00:19:50,600 Speaker 2: David Man and mister David Man and Miss Timila Man's 412 00:19:50,640 --> 00:19:53,120 Speaker 2: relationship or their marriage, let me get it right, their 413 00:19:53,200 --> 00:19:56,360 Speaker 2: marriage is that their union is so strong. 414 00:19:56,920 --> 00:19:58,000 Speaker 3: And I don't say that. 415 00:19:58,000 --> 00:20:00,840 Speaker 2: They said that they've never gone through things, know and 416 00:20:00,920 --> 00:20:02,760 Speaker 2: I don't know, you know them, things have ever got 417 00:20:02,840 --> 00:20:05,159 Speaker 2: them to the brink of being like, uh, nope, we 418 00:20:05,200 --> 00:20:07,960 Speaker 2: ain't doing this no more. But they figured it out. 419 00:20:08,320 --> 00:20:11,000 Speaker 2: They've been together for thirty eight years and I learned 420 00:20:11,040 --> 00:20:12,640 Speaker 2: today that they've never had a separation. 421 00:20:12,720 --> 00:20:14,800 Speaker 3: Let's say a listen, how many years. 422 00:20:16,359 --> 00:20:17,399 Speaker 2: Years? Wow? 423 00:20:20,359 --> 00:20:25,320 Speaker 4: Yeah, no separations, come on, she said. 424 00:20:25,160 --> 00:20:26,280 Speaker 2: No separations. 425 00:20:28,520 --> 00:20:31,560 Speaker 3: Loving it. We work through it. It don't mean I 426 00:20:31,640 --> 00:20:32,200 Speaker 3: wasn't mad. 427 00:20:32,080 --> 00:20:37,280 Speaker 2: At them, but we were listener now being in a marriage, like, 428 00:20:37,359 --> 00:20:41,760 Speaker 2: they got the union so strong and y'all both celebrities, 429 00:20:42,600 --> 00:20:45,199 Speaker 2: I know it come with it. Come with some task. 430 00:20:45,480 --> 00:20:45,760 Speaker 3: Child. 431 00:20:46,520 --> 00:20:48,280 Speaker 2: I know it do because let me tell y'all something 432 00:20:48,640 --> 00:20:50,480 Speaker 2: every single day, like now and then, I'm in a 433 00:20:50,520 --> 00:20:53,840 Speaker 2: relationship and I'm in a relationship with a man, Honey, 434 00:20:53,960 --> 00:20:57,640 Speaker 2: I mean, okay, I'm in a relationship with a person 435 00:20:57,640 --> 00:20:59,399 Speaker 2: that makes me want to do better, It makes me 436 00:20:59,440 --> 00:21:02,400 Speaker 2: want to figure it. I'm not perfect, and my mouth 437 00:21:02,480 --> 00:21:05,439 Speaker 2: is still crazy. I will pause that, but you know 438 00:21:06,240 --> 00:21:09,679 Speaker 2: I don't have to. It's still crazy, you know, so 439 00:21:09,760 --> 00:21:11,320 Speaker 2: every now and then, and it'd be like a hold 440 00:21:11,359 --> 00:21:13,439 Speaker 2: on all right, who you talk and vice versa, Like 441 00:21:13,520 --> 00:21:16,959 Speaker 2: you know, there are tough moments, and even though our 442 00:21:16,960 --> 00:21:20,320 Speaker 2: relationship is new, I feel like when I when I 443 00:21:20,359 --> 00:21:23,960 Speaker 2: hear the men have a conversation about what their marriage is, 444 00:21:24,040 --> 00:21:26,760 Speaker 2: that's what I envision my marriage to be. And now 445 00:21:26,920 --> 00:21:30,480 Speaker 2: dealing with a person who you know, I wouldn't be 446 00:21:30,480 --> 00:21:32,800 Speaker 2: opposed to marrying, I wouldn't be opposed to doing like 447 00:21:32,920 --> 00:21:38,600 Speaker 2: very permanent things with I always think about what is 448 00:21:38,640 --> 00:21:41,919 Speaker 2: it that I can do to just ensure that, you know, 449 00:21:42,119 --> 00:21:43,480 Speaker 2: like it's like you really just want to you want 450 00:21:43,520 --> 00:21:45,480 Speaker 2: to hear the person, even in moments where I'm like 451 00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:47,960 Speaker 2: I don't want to hear that, not like you know what, 452 00:21:48,080 --> 00:21:50,879 Speaker 2: I'm trying to put on my best, like like standing 453 00:21:51,000 --> 00:21:54,199 Speaker 2: ten toes down eleven if I have to. You do 454 00:21:54,240 --> 00:21:55,600 Speaker 2: want to hear the person out. You do want the 455 00:21:55,600 --> 00:21:57,680 Speaker 2: person to be happy because you want to be happy. 456 00:21:57,760 --> 00:22:01,960 Speaker 2: You want to be heard out. So I've had to 457 00:22:02,040 --> 00:22:06,760 Speaker 2: learn a lot about enforcing boundaries that I didn't even 458 00:22:06,800 --> 00:22:08,560 Speaker 2: know I had to learn. If I'm being honest with y'all, 459 00:22:09,359 --> 00:22:12,800 Speaker 2: I thought I was so good at like armslength, don't 460 00:22:12,800 --> 00:22:15,680 Speaker 2: play with me. I'm showing up I work, I go home, 461 00:22:16,480 --> 00:22:18,840 Speaker 2: respect me, and I'm not going to beg you for it. 462 00:22:18,880 --> 00:22:20,520 Speaker 2: But like I thought, I was really good at that, 463 00:22:20,560 --> 00:22:22,720 Speaker 2: and I think I do do a really good job 464 00:22:23,240 --> 00:22:26,680 Speaker 2: because I respect myself, so people respect me. But when 465 00:22:26,680 --> 00:22:28,960 Speaker 2: you're dealing with now, I wouln't even say people in 466 00:22:28,960 --> 00:22:32,119 Speaker 2: the limelight because he's not in the limelight. He's behind 467 00:22:32,160 --> 00:22:33,800 Speaker 2: the scenes. And I still feel like there are certain 468 00:22:33,840 --> 00:22:36,560 Speaker 2: things that I have to chin check boundaries on and 469 00:22:37,560 --> 00:22:41,040 Speaker 2: it's just it's a very touchy space and I think 470 00:22:41,480 --> 00:22:44,920 Speaker 2: it's taboo, like people would love to act like you 471 00:22:44,960 --> 00:22:47,200 Speaker 2: never ever ever have to feel a way about anything, 472 00:22:47,280 --> 00:22:49,880 Speaker 2: Like jealousy is never a thing, and security is never 473 00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:54,680 Speaker 2: a thing like Miss Timmlerman says she had to tell 474 00:22:54,680 --> 00:22:57,800 Speaker 2: somebody like hold on, back up, off my man at 475 00:22:57,840 --> 00:22:58,560 Speaker 2: a meet and greet. 476 00:22:59,359 --> 00:23:00,000 Speaker 3: Let's take a lisk. 477 00:23:00,600 --> 00:23:03,000 Speaker 1: I had a lady the other day coming full frontal 478 00:23:03,080 --> 00:23:05,960 Speaker 1: hug around the neck, and I say, ma'am, you can't 479 00:23:06,040 --> 00:23:06,320 Speaker 1: do that. 480 00:23:06,480 --> 00:23:10,000 Speaker 3: And what he was like, why, I said, because I said, no, 481 00:23:10,280 --> 00:23:13,080 Speaker 3: that's right. I say, you bold enough. 482 00:23:12,880 --> 00:23:13,280 Speaker 4: To do it. 483 00:23:13,320 --> 00:23:16,440 Speaker 3: I'm voting. I know that's right. Get off of him. 484 00:23:16,560 --> 00:23:20,919 Speaker 3: I know that's right. What if you weren't even fresh, 485 00:23:21,080 --> 00:23:27,120 Speaker 3: I know that's right. Give me fifty baby. I mean 486 00:23:27,160 --> 00:23:27,960 Speaker 3: that Coogar was. 487 00:23:27,960 --> 00:23:36,560 Speaker 4: Like, oh yeah, people love to act like these real 488 00:23:36,640 --> 00:23:41,400 Speaker 4: moments don't happen, And now I'm learning like, no, they do. 489 00:23:41,520 --> 00:23:42,840 Speaker 3: But y'all just find a way. 490 00:23:42,960 --> 00:23:45,800 Speaker 2: First of all, you set your boundary as she did, 491 00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:48,240 Speaker 2: and as I'm sure he will move it forward period. 492 00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:51,520 Speaker 2: But also you just find a way to like not 493 00:23:51,640 --> 00:23:55,119 Speaker 2: let that throw away everything else until that moment, and 494 00:23:55,240 --> 00:23:57,760 Speaker 2: you move forward better like that is the goal. And 495 00:23:57,960 --> 00:24:01,560 Speaker 2: that's what I took from Emmon's conversation, the conversation that 496 00:24:01,680 --> 00:24:03,960 Speaker 2: you know, I watched Jamal Bryant and his wife have 497 00:24:04,160 --> 00:24:07,760 Speaker 2: with the man's as well, as like, all of these 498 00:24:07,760 --> 00:24:08,520 Speaker 2: things will come. 499 00:24:08,600 --> 00:24:09,600 Speaker 3: I don't care if you did. 500 00:24:09,800 --> 00:24:13,119 Speaker 2: You're the most blessed, sanctified holy water on the you 501 00:24:13,160 --> 00:24:15,639 Speaker 2: know what I mean, the white cracked and the cranberry juice, 502 00:24:16,040 --> 00:24:17,920 Speaker 2: all of the tongues and the stomping. I don't care 503 00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:21,120 Speaker 2: how all of that you are or the complete opposite. 504 00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:23,239 Speaker 2: These things will come in a relationship and what are 505 00:24:23,280 --> 00:24:27,240 Speaker 2: you doing to deal with it? And y'all, I'm like, 506 00:24:27,400 --> 00:24:30,440 Speaker 2: really up, grown up at this point because now. 507 00:24:30,480 --> 00:24:32,560 Speaker 3: I know, I be like before I used to know 508 00:24:32,640 --> 00:24:34,640 Speaker 3: I was on BS and I wouldn't care. 509 00:24:34,840 --> 00:24:40,399 Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't care whatever now in this news space, baby, Okay, 510 00:24:40,480 --> 00:24:42,600 Speaker 2: we might be on we might be on BS a 511 00:24:42,600 --> 00:24:44,760 Speaker 2: little bit every now and then. I feel like you 512 00:24:44,800 --> 00:24:46,600 Speaker 2: got to do just a little just a little razzle 513 00:24:46,640 --> 00:24:50,280 Speaker 2: dazzle so that you know, talking about sertain boundaries, so 514 00:24:50,320 --> 00:24:52,960 Speaker 2: that you know, Bay knows, don't play with me. But 515 00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:56,800 Speaker 2: a lot of accountability, like you know, it's happening in 516 00:24:56,840 --> 00:24:59,159 Speaker 2: this era of my life, a lot of it, and 517 00:25:00,240 --> 00:25:03,439 Speaker 2: I'm happy about it. It's not always easy, but I 518 00:25:03,480 --> 00:25:05,040 Speaker 2: am happy about it though, because I feel like it's 519 00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:07,720 Speaker 2: not even about for the other person or maintaining a 520 00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:11,040 Speaker 2: relationship for myself. I'm always in a good space when 521 00:25:11,040 --> 00:25:14,040 Speaker 2: i'm accountable because I'm like, all right, and even if 522 00:25:14,080 --> 00:25:16,440 Speaker 2: the accountability is hard, because I'll fight you to the end, 523 00:25:16,720 --> 00:25:19,800 Speaker 2: I'll defend something to the end. But sometimes in what 524 00:25:19,880 --> 00:25:23,200 Speaker 2: I'm learning now, even when I do that, I'll come 525 00:25:23,240 --> 00:25:25,480 Speaker 2: back and be like, Okay, this was wrong, this was right. 526 00:25:25,520 --> 00:25:25,879 Speaker 3: Whatever. 527 00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:29,400 Speaker 2: That helps me personally because I'm learning a lot about 528 00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:32,080 Speaker 2: myself in my weak spots, the spots that I need 529 00:25:32,119 --> 00:25:34,800 Speaker 2: improvement on, that I could do better on, that I 530 00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:37,000 Speaker 2: can maybe get a little help with, you know, like 531 00:25:37,600 --> 00:25:39,359 Speaker 2: you know, therapy, whatever the case may be. Like, I'm 532 00:25:39,440 --> 00:25:43,199 Speaker 2: learning so much about the things that aren't perfect about me, 533 00:25:44,240 --> 00:25:47,359 Speaker 2: and it helps me so much navigate my relationships with people. 534 00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:50,520 Speaker 2: So now it's like, you know, everything is in somebody 535 00:25:50,560 --> 00:25:55,360 Speaker 2: else's fault, and that has changed my life a lot. 536 00:25:55,400 --> 00:25:58,159 Speaker 2: It's made some things harder because you want things to 537 00:25:58,200 --> 00:26:00,520 Speaker 2: be somebody else's fault sometimes because it's just easier to 538 00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:00,960 Speaker 2: get through. 539 00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:04,360 Speaker 3: But that has really changed my outlook on so much. 540 00:26:05,800 --> 00:26:08,800 Speaker 2: In life in general, just for myself, and of course 541 00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:10,560 Speaker 2: going back to the you know, the relationship and not 542 00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:13,399 Speaker 2: even just like a relationship boyfriend, girlfriend, but even in 543 00:26:13,440 --> 00:26:18,080 Speaker 2: my friendships, and it also in my work relationships and 544 00:26:18,160 --> 00:26:19,879 Speaker 2: also to like, I think one of the things that 545 00:26:19,960 --> 00:26:24,400 Speaker 2: I do a lot of, you know, as the oldest 546 00:26:24,480 --> 00:26:27,840 Speaker 2: kid in my family, the only girl, it's like, you know, 547 00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:31,920 Speaker 2: the eldest daughter is like it is a beautiful thing, 548 00:26:31,960 --> 00:26:34,240 Speaker 2: but it's also traumatizing as hell because you are put 549 00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:36,359 Speaker 2: in a position where, like, life hits and you just 550 00:26:36,359 --> 00:26:38,879 Speaker 2: have to figure it out so many times, and sometimes 551 00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:40,960 Speaker 2: from a very early age, and. 552 00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:43,240 Speaker 3: It builds you to this strong person that like. 553 00:26:43,320 --> 00:26:48,440 Speaker 2: Just is so like, ain't nobody, ain't no stop being 554 00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:51,920 Speaker 2: a snaw. Oh you heard it, you heard the little harmony, 555 00:26:52,520 --> 00:26:55,000 Speaker 2: you heard it? Okay, it builds you into one of 556 00:26:55,000 --> 00:26:57,040 Speaker 2: those types of people. But at the same time, behind 557 00:26:57,080 --> 00:27:01,520 Speaker 2: the scenes, you're exhausted, you burnt out, your miser you're sad, sometimes, 558 00:27:01,520 --> 00:27:04,919 Speaker 2: you're lonely, you're they're all these things that you feel. 559 00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:08,879 Speaker 2: And I'm getting to a space where I'm learning to 560 00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:12,600 Speaker 2: not take a lot of those things on, to just 561 00:27:12,680 --> 00:27:15,000 Speaker 2: deal with things as they come, be okay with the 562 00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:17,800 Speaker 2: cars that were dealt to me, and not internalize a 563 00:27:17,800 --> 00:27:20,280 Speaker 2: lot of things because some of it just really ain't 564 00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:22,479 Speaker 2: my fault now, the stuff that is my fault, I'm 565 00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:24,640 Speaker 2: able to better identify now, and I'm getting even better 566 00:27:24,640 --> 00:27:24,840 Speaker 2: at it. 567 00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:27,160 Speaker 3: I'm at the beginning stages. But don't worry. 568 00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:29,040 Speaker 2: We're gonna put this baby in sport because it's always 569 00:27:29,080 --> 00:27:32,000 Speaker 2: an AMG Okay, we always AMG line over here. But 570 00:27:32,960 --> 00:27:34,720 Speaker 2: until I get to the full force of what that 571 00:27:34,760 --> 00:27:38,680 Speaker 2: looks like. Just even in these beginning phases, it's really 572 00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:42,320 Speaker 2: been helpful to be able to look internally and understand 573 00:27:42,359 --> 00:27:44,959 Speaker 2: what I should digest, what I should hold onto, what 574 00:27:45,000 --> 00:27:47,360 Speaker 2: I should be accountable for, and which just really, like god, 575 00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:52,080 Speaker 2: am I control for real? Like period Like, there are 576 00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:55,199 Speaker 2: some things that are just out of my control and 577 00:27:55,240 --> 00:27:56,320 Speaker 2: it's nothing I could do about it. 578 00:27:57,359 --> 00:27:58,639 Speaker 3: So I'm taking all that in. 579 00:27:58,840 --> 00:28:00,479 Speaker 2: I'm learning all of that as I go through these 580 00:28:00,480 --> 00:28:02,919 Speaker 2: different phases of life and people get older and I 581 00:28:02,960 --> 00:28:05,080 Speaker 2: get older, and I'm talking about buying I can't believe 582 00:28:05,119 --> 00:28:07,240 Speaker 2: I'm talking about. 583 00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:08,480 Speaker 3: You know, marriage and you know all that. 584 00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:12,000 Speaker 2: I can believe it, But I just don't feel that 585 00:28:12,160 --> 00:28:15,000 Speaker 2: age yet. Like you know, I always thought when I 586 00:28:15,040 --> 00:28:16,520 Speaker 2: got to like the ages that I used to think 587 00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:19,320 Speaker 2: were old, you would feel it. I feel like just 588 00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:21,760 Speaker 2: yesterday I was walking on to my college campus, like 589 00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:24,560 Speaker 2: trying to figure out life, and now here I am 590 00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:29,800 Speaker 2: Latest with Lorna Rosa. The podcast eight million audio downloads later, 591 00:28:30,000 --> 00:28:33,400 Speaker 2: The Low Riders y'all are here and we talking about marriage, accountability, 592 00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:36,840 Speaker 2: therapy and me wanting to get my together because I 593 00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:40,520 Speaker 2: love people. I'm not mad at it. It's a journey 594 00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:44,440 Speaker 2: and now look we're just starting. Okay, we are just starting. 595 00:28:45,040 --> 00:28:47,880 Speaker 2: So hold me accountable, but like you know not, don't 596 00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:49,200 Speaker 2: hold me too long. Take your girl off for a 597 00:28:49,280 --> 00:28:50,480 Speaker 2: drink or put me down to take me off for 598 00:28:50,480 --> 00:28:52,320 Speaker 2: a drink a little bit in there, but still hold 599 00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:55,440 Speaker 2: me accountable. This has been another episode of the Latest 600 00:28:55,440 --> 00:28:58,440 Speaker 2: with Lauren Rosa. I'm your host, Laura l Rosa, and 601 00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:02,960 Speaker 2: I tell you guys every episode my Lowriders. Listen, y'all 602 00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:05,840 Speaker 2: could be anywhere with any old body, but if you 603 00:29:05,960 --> 00:29:08,440 Speaker 2: choose to be right here with me, I appreciate you 604 00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:11,640 Speaker 2: guys for that. I'll see you in my next episode.