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Speaker 1: one right here, right now. Buggle up, hold on tight,

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Speaker 1: We got it for you. Here. It is the strong

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Speaker 1: very letter subject He's got two different personalities. Okay too,

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Speaker 1: different personalities, Tommy. The letter says, Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm

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Speaker 1: twenty eight years old, and I met a great man

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Speaker 1: a year ago, and things progressed quickly in our relationship,

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Speaker 1: and it seemed like he was the one. I waited

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Speaker 1: until the third date to have sex with him, and

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Speaker 1: it was all that and more. He's an amateur boxer,

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Speaker 1: and I started going to see him practice, and I

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Speaker 1: would join some of his workouts. He was definitely an

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Speaker 1: alpha male and I felt secure in his arms. After

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Speaker 1: six months of dating, he told me that it was

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Speaker 1: time for us to move in together. I told him

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Speaker 1: I needed to be sure he was the one for

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Speaker 1: me before I made that big step. He took me

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Speaker 1: ring shopping the next day and opened an account at

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Speaker 1: the jewelry store. I was pretty sure then, even though

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Speaker 1: he didn't buy a ring. One month later, I let

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Speaker 1: him move into my apartment. A week after that. I

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Speaker 1: was sorry I ever met him. He is the most

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Speaker 1: metrosexual man I've ever met. He has at least fifteen

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Speaker 1: robes and six pajama sets with slippers to match. Silk. Oh, silk. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he has fifteen robes and silk pajama sets and slippers

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Speaker 1: to match all of his loungewere. Every evening, he makes

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Speaker 1: me turn off the TV and listen to jazz while

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Speaker 1: he talks about his day. He uses a fake British accent,

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Speaker 1: and he carries himself like royalty when he's in his

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Speaker 1: fancy loungewear. Making love to him is different now too.

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Speaker 1: He likes back in neck massages, he likes his back

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Speaker 1: and neck massaged and lavender oil as four play, and

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Speaker 1: he likes his earlobes nibbled on. I don't get any

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Speaker 1: four play anymore. I have no idea who this man is.

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Speaker 1: Once he puts on his silk pajamas and that jazz music,

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Speaker 1: it's a drastic change from how he is when he's boxing.

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Speaker 1: I've asked him if he's got multiple personality and he

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Speaker 1: said he's a cultured brother. And black women have a

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Speaker 1: hard time embracing it. How do I get this fake

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Speaker 1: Duke of Hastings out of my apartment? A fake Duke

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Speaker 1: of Hastings, a fake British accent. This is way too

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Speaker 1: much one thing about a king or a duke or whatever.

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Speaker 1: They should be treating you like a queen or a duchess, right,

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Speaker 1: and that's definitely not happening here. You're being treated more

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Speaker 1: like a peasant or the help, it seems. And please

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Speaker 1: don't let him know, or let him know, I should

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Speaker 1: say that black women do not have a problem or

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Speaker 1: a hard time embracing a cultured brother. As he calls it.

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Speaker 1: You're just sick of his arrogant, controlling ways. That's all.

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Speaker 1: I hate to say this, but it just needs to

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Speaker 1: be said. I think this is your fault. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I think you were moving too fast. This letter reeks

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Speaker 1: of desperation on your part. I mean, you hardly knew

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Speaker 1: this man, and after six or seven months you are

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Speaker 1: allowed him to move in with you at his request.

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Speaker 1: You didn't even suggest it. I just think it's too much,

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Speaker 1: too soon. And this is why all of this stuff

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Speaker 1: is such a shock to you, because you didn't even

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Speaker 1: know him. You didn't know who you were inviting in

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Speaker 1: your home to live with you. I mean the moment

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Speaker 1: he took you, know, he took you ring shopping, not

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Speaker 1: ring buying, mind you, but ring shopping. You just lost

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Speaker 1: yourself and he probably knew he had you right then,

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Speaker 1: and he played you. I mean, I say, pack all

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Speaker 1: of his clothes and change your locks. It is over

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Speaker 1: with the Duke, okay, Steve, Well, it's not two different

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Speaker 1: personality system. I'm just gonna put you on game him.

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Speaker 1: I've seen this before. First of all. Shirley hit it

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Speaker 1: just right. You haven't known this guy long at all,

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Speaker 1: not all, and your relationship it just went real quickly.

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Speaker 1: You waited till the third day to half sick. Who

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Speaker 1: all right? Now, oh you sure it took your time.

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Speaker 1: I'dn't told y'all, and told y'all, I ain't said none

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Speaker 1: by no damn third day, I said three months. But see,

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Speaker 1: you could have found out some of this. But oh no,

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Speaker 1: you set up here and listening to this food. Now,

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Speaker 1: let me explain something to you. All of this could

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Speaker 1: avoid it at the beginning of the letter when you

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Speaker 1: said he's an amateur boxing. He's an amateur boxing. They

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Speaker 1: don't make no money. What amateur boxer? You know? Got

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Speaker 1: it going on? So now he wants to push the

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Speaker 1: relationship along. He's out for mail. After six months of day,

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Speaker 1: it's time for us to move in. He ain't got

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Speaker 1: nowhere else to go. Wow, So now you haven't moved

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Speaker 1: in and you didn't found out all this fake stuff.

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Speaker 1: He didn't set you up. All this is a ruse.

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Speaker 1: All the ain't nothing but game. He ain't really none

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Speaker 1: of it is. He ain't got no damn money. All

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Speaker 1: he got is them six cents of robes and m

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Speaker 1: fifteen damn pajamas. Where's the British accent? Oh he got?

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Speaker 1: I'll tell you that later, because Earl of Altingham will

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Speaker 1: be here on the second half. Do this. Let term justice.

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Speaker 1: Earl of Altingham Shirley will ask me all the questions

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Speaker 1: you want in this letter, and I'll be explaining it

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Speaker 1: to you in this fake British accent because his hands

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Speaker 1: ain't real evil. All right, hold on, dude, hold on,

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Speaker 1: hold on. We'll have part two of your response coming

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Speaker 1: up in twenty three minutes after the hour today subject

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Speaker 1: of the Strawberry letter, he's got two different personalities, will

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Speaker 1: get back into it right after this. You're listening to show,

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Speaker 1: all right, get ready, d Nice will be a very

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Speaker 1: special guest in about twenty minutes. Okay, d Nice coming up.

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Speaker 1: But right now, all right, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry

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Speaker 1: litter or should I say the Duke of Austingham be

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Speaker 1: fow what foward? Young man? Here I am here, I

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Speaker 1: am the answer to stop Ladder in the same fake

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Speaker 1: British accent that the Strawberry Ladder contact has hunt himself.

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Speaker 1: Here I am an amateur boxer making no money setting

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Speaker 1: up here is congress this woman and letting me move

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Speaker 1: in after six months? And all I have in robes?

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Speaker 1: What boxing? You know? Don't have robes? They all got

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Speaker 1: rob the man sexy robes. As the work realms, there's

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Speaker 1: the same realms. The end of the running left here.

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Speaker 1: I am good morning everyone? How are internet morning? Morning?

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Speaker 1: Go ahead? Yeah? First of all, I want to know

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Speaker 1: where you live. Where did you live before you moved

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Speaker 1: in with I lived with her in the gym. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: he lived in the gym. Boxing rings matter, I say,

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Speaker 1: in the locker room with the clowns as I had

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Speaker 1: a harry. I don't getting into this apartment was hot. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you moved pretty quickly, that was yeah. What made you

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Speaker 1: think of taking her the very next day? To go

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Speaker 1: and look at a ring that no harm and looking hu?

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Speaker 1: You open up account? Was what? I have nothing? So

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Speaker 1: you you must have good credit. I don't. I open

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Speaker 1: up the account with a signature. They didn't put a

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Speaker 1: ring in the account. I just opened the account. Where

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Speaker 1: did you read that? We went? Didn't put a ring

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Speaker 1: in it, We just open the account. I told him

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Speaker 1: I come back with my credit because I didn't know,

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Speaker 1: Like no, I I was a kidding number. I had

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Speaker 1: to go and find the social city called you because

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Speaker 1: I've been punched so many times. Like okay, so it

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Speaker 1: says here you like to listen to jazz. Who are

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Speaker 1: some of your favorite artists? I love jazz, I love

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Speaker 1: I like British jazz players. I like doke, dope, dope

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Speaker 1: duke of a like named after you after I like

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Speaker 1: author Whittingham is a wonderful The only American artists I

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Speaker 1: care for it's Kenny G. I love Kenny g Oh, okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, I love his hell long long hell so

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Speaker 1: um so. She also mentioned that you were acting like

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Speaker 1: the Duke of Hastings, a fake Duke of Hastings. Have

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Speaker 1: you ever watched the show Bridgerton? Absolutely? Why do you

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Speaker 1: think I got the idea from? It was such a

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Speaker 1: smash hit show. I step, Oh my god, this fellow

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Speaker 1: rode up. He's so devin and daring. I said, damn it,

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Speaker 1: that's me. I took on his entire persona. Uh huh huh.

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Speaker 1: I didn't even learn how to shoot a gun. I

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Speaker 1: was gonna do a duel like the crack of noons. Oh,

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Speaker 1: I'll shoot for her. I can't buy on anything, all right?

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Speaker 1: So what is it with you and this lavender oil

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Speaker 1: and having to get your back and neck rubbed? Lavender

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Speaker 1: oil is because I'm buging mother that I use Chrisco? No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: we're opening anything. Oh okay, I'm an up black. We

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Speaker 1: use lavender oils, sexies. Excuse me? And and this use

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Speaker 1: What did you say? I didn't say anything, duke, I'm

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Speaker 1: just listening to me. I'm sorry, black blues. Crisco oil

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Speaker 1: and Westen oil, yeah, things of that. No coconut oil.

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Speaker 1: I would never use coconut all being black. So fake,

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Speaker 1: Duke of Hastings, Why did you insult? Excuse me? Excuse me? Well,

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Speaker 1: you're the Earl of Addingham. She does. I know I'm fake,

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Speaker 1: But why did you insult her? When you said that

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Speaker 1: black women have a hard time embracing a culture. You

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Speaker 1: don't look at how you're treating me. You're one of them. No,

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Speaker 1: you keep questioning everything I do. I'm absolutely wonderful man,

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Speaker 1: But I've gotten silk pajamas and robes, and I talk

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Speaker 1: like this and I use laming all. That doesn't make

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Speaker 1: you a wonderful man. That's all I have Oh, so

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Speaker 1: we gotta roll with it. Yeah, what else do you want?

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Speaker 1: You can't take that? Well, you're got this wonderful accent. Yes,

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Speaker 1: you're you're an amateur boxer. So let me ask you this.

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Speaker 1: What are your goals? What do you want to be?

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Speaker 1: What are you striving for? Of course one day to

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Speaker 1: be a professional fighter, but I don't think that's gonna happen.

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Speaker 1: So I probably remained as an amateur fighter. M already

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Speaker 1: twenty eight. You ain't going proby twenty eight? What do

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Speaker 1: you think my chances are? Yes, I'm an amateur fighter.

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Speaker 1: I don't I don't know why. She ain't done the

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Speaker 1: math on this yet? Twenty eight? I'm still an amateur fighter.

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Speaker 1: Back talk about a late bloomer. What are we doing? How?

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Speaker 1: What weight class? Oh? Walter weight couse walter a hundred

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Speaker 1: and forty seven bounds? Oh, same as Steven was Stephen

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Speaker 1: Steve Hobby hosted me and show. He was wildway when

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Speaker 1: that's what I need to talk about. Something I don't

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Speaker 1: know already, don't know what the hell is letters about.

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Speaker 1: It's about you moving in on this woman after six

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Speaker 1: months and after this ram. You don't look like I'll

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Speaker 1: be that much alone. That doesn't. No, it doesn't, and

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Speaker 1: we're trying me out of that. I'm taking all right.

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Speaker 1: Coming up at forty six minutes after d nice. Right

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