WEBVTT - Cesar Millan Shows Amy and T.J. How Calm Assertive Energy Will Not Only Transform Your Dog, It Will Transform YOU. (Part Two) 0:00:02.480 --> 0:00:05.120 Welcome everyone to this edition of Amy and TJ. 0:00:05.280 --> 0:00:10.000 This is actually part two of our fascinating conversation with 0:00:10.119 --> 0:00:13.240 the dog Whisperer, Caesar Milan, And what struck us the 0:00:13.280 --> 0:00:15.480 most is you don't have to be a dog owner 0:00:16.000 --> 0:00:20.640 to actually glean so much information from this man, because 0:00:21.160 --> 0:00:24.640 he's talking about being a good human and that's how 0:00:24.680 --> 0:00:27.080 you end up having a good dog. Hadn't really thought 0:00:27.080 --> 0:00:28.600 about it in those terms before. 0:00:28.720 --> 0:00:30.479 Yeah, all you folks out there and think you got 0:00:30.520 --> 0:00:33.800 bad dogs, No, those dogs are bad owners. That's you. 0:00:34.040 --> 0:00:36.240 And that's how he explains it. But we never imagine 0:00:36.240 --> 0:00:39.280 that a conversation with him, the great famous dog whisper, 0:00:39.280 --> 0:00:43.239 would turn into a philosophical conversation therapy for a lot 0:00:43.280 --> 0:00:45.440 of us as well. And of course I know you 0:00:45.520 --> 0:00:48.280 wondering how many dogs does this guy have? Yeah, we 0:00:48.360 --> 0:00:50.880 got into that as well. So here now part two 0:00:51.240 --> 0:00:54.360 of our conversation with the man himself, Caesar Milan. Let 0:00:54.480 --> 0:00:56.640 us know how many dogs do you have? Are you 0:00:56.760 --> 0:00:57.840 training or you? How many are on the. 0:00:57.880 --> 0:01:01.320 Rain right now? I only have ten, only have ten, 0:01:01.800 --> 0:01:04.120 but I have Lamas, I'll Pacas and EMUs and I 0:01:04.160 --> 0:01:07.600 have all the I have seventeen different species. They require 0:01:07.720 --> 0:01:11.800 also to walk, yes, So that's why I slowed down 0:01:11.840 --> 0:01:14.320 on the dog amount so I can have other species 0:01:14.360 --> 0:01:18.080 because I like to help people to also achieve for 0:01:18.160 --> 0:01:20.000 a dog not to have prey drive. So a lot 0:01:20.000 --> 0:01:22.520 of dogs have prey drive, right, So that's why I 0:01:22.560 --> 0:01:25.800 bring the farm animals so people learn. Yes, So what 0:01:25.840 --> 0:01:29.080 happens when a person has an incident or an accident 0:01:29.160 --> 0:01:31.640 with a squirrel and the dog you know, catches the 0:01:31.680 --> 0:01:34.800 squirrel that get scared, But they have never had that 0:01:34.880 --> 0:01:37.880 experience with a lama. So I bring them around the 0:01:37.920 --> 0:01:40.039 lama so have a new experience and so they can 0:01:40.080 --> 0:01:42.880 see that they can do it. You see it, because 0:01:43.000 --> 0:01:46.600 once the person achieved the wrong thing, it's really hard 0:01:46.600 --> 0:01:48.920 to remove that. They can believe and that's not going 0:01:48.960 --> 0:01:51.440 to happen, you see it. So I bring a new 0:01:51.480 --> 0:01:53.800 species that you never had a problem with, You never 0:01:53.840 --> 0:01:55.560 had a trauma with it, so it's not in your 0:01:55.600 --> 0:01:58.560 mind because you only become afraid of what you saw. 0:01:59.120 --> 0:02:02.800 But what you didn't see is a possibility, you see it. 0:02:02.840 --> 0:02:04.920 So that's why I need to bring different because my 0:02:04.960 --> 0:02:07.720 goal is to rehablet the humans do right. So at 0:02:07.720 --> 0:02:09.560 one point I have to become a human whisper. 0:02:10.520 --> 0:02:12.720 It sounds like it. Now we've talked a lot on 0:02:12.720 --> 0:02:15.120 this podcast hell and even our personal lives and dealing 0:02:15.120 --> 0:02:17.680 with a lot of I mean therapy and trauma and 0:02:17.720 --> 0:02:21.920 people trying to live better and reading. Ekhar totallyan you 0:02:22.720 --> 0:02:24.680 in talking to you now, and look, I'm familiar with 0:02:24.720 --> 0:02:27.560 you over the years. You sound like one of those 0:02:27.600 --> 0:02:30.480 philosophers who is yeah, we're talking about dogs, but you are. 0:02:31.000 --> 0:02:34.239 You sound to me like you're finding humans a path 0:02:34.680 --> 0:02:39.520 forward and being more connected to Earth the moment, the environment, 0:02:39.560 --> 0:02:42.360 what is in front of you is was that I 0:02:42.440 --> 0:02:44.720 know you need to train the humans to get the 0:02:44.720 --> 0:02:48.120 dog trained. Yeah, but you sound like more in my opinion, 0:02:48.120 --> 0:02:50.480 you get what I'm saying along those lines. 0:02:50.160 --> 0:02:52.000 Of a spiritual philosopher. 0:02:52.160 --> 0:02:55.240 Yes, but the dog makes it tangible. See, Ekar totally 0:02:55.240 --> 0:02:58.160 can make it tangible. Right because Kytolia is going to 0:02:58.200 --> 0:02:59.440 tell you things. They are gonna go to your mind. 0:02:59.480 --> 0:03:01.480 I'm going to tell you things that you can practice 0:03:01.520 --> 0:03:03.960 right away, and you can see that that your silence 0:03:04.080 --> 0:03:06.959 is your spirit. So you're better than that car is no, No, 0:03:09.720 --> 0:03:12.840 it's a good friend of mine. Yeah, because we all 0:03:12.840 --> 0:03:14.400 go after the better of the human. 0:03:14.560 --> 0:03:14.760 You know. 0:03:14.880 --> 0:03:16.679 That's what the new show is called, Better Human, Better 0:03:16.720 --> 0:03:19.040 Planet or better human, Better dog, you know. But it's 0:03:19.040 --> 0:03:23.280 definitely my contribution, you know, from all the guys deep 0:03:23.320 --> 0:03:26.680 At Obrien and Wayne Dyer and er Car Cooley and 0:03:26.760 --> 0:03:29.720 you know, and Tony Robbins, all of those, they want 0:03:29.720 --> 0:03:32.960 the human to become the best energy, the best philosophy, 0:03:33.000 --> 0:03:36.080 the best action. But where are you going to practice, right, 0:03:36.240 --> 0:03:38.600 So then the dog, because a dog is very forgiving. 0:03:39.320 --> 0:03:41.360 You can practice over and over and over before you 0:03:41.400 --> 0:03:43.560 go into the human. The human doesn't forgive as much. 0:03:43.960 --> 0:03:46.600 So you can make us millions of mistakes with the dog. 0:03:46.840 --> 0:03:48.880 But the day they do it right, boom. They live 0:03:48.880 --> 0:03:51.840 in the moment, so they change and they say, oh 0:03:51.880 --> 0:03:53.800 I finally change. See with a human, they give you 0:03:53.840 --> 0:04:00.320 two three chances. And that's it. Is that he says 0:04:00.320 --> 0:04:01.000 he's like a dog. 0:04:06.760 --> 0:04:08.760 He makes me want to get a dog. Yeah, because 0:04:09.240 --> 0:04:12.720 to his point, you can practice all these things the 0:04:12.760 --> 0:04:15.440 tools he's given you. You can see the results different from 0:04:15.480 --> 0:04:18.200 a cart that is I've never thought about it. Yeah. 0:04:18.240 --> 0:04:21.000 And then for guys or ladies who are going to 0:04:21.000 --> 0:04:24.720 become parents anytime, make sure that you practice with a dog, 0:04:25.080 --> 0:04:28.359 you said, because pet parent. It requires the same energy 0:04:28.400 --> 0:04:30.839 and same actions. The only thing that changes is the philosophy, 0:04:30.960 --> 0:04:32.760 because one is a human the other one is a dog. 0:04:33.080 --> 0:04:35.800 But a kid or a dog needs patient's calmness, confidence, love, 0:04:35.880 --> 0:04:38.160 joy to be raised a kid or a dog. A 0:04:38.360 --> 0:04:40.000 dog needs exercise, di benefection. 0:04:40.360 --> 0:04:41.520 It's like a starter child. 0:04:41.640 --> 0:04:42.120 I like that. 0:04:42.200 --> 0:04:44.839 Yeah, well you can make mistakes and and and you 0:04:44.839 --> 0:04:47.400 can always fix it. With a child, you make me 0:04:47.400 --> 0:04:50.120 mistake that you're traumatized the. 0:04:49.360 --> 0:04:51.760 Therapy, you gotta spend money later. 0:04:52.080 --> 0:04:55.440 You spend money in the beginning, and then with a dog, 0:04:55.640 --> 0:04:58.200 it's just okay, I'm going to get to see myself. 0:04:58.400 --> 0:05:00.599 Maybe you get a second chance after you've already raised 0:05:00.640 --> 0:05:02.400 your children and made all the mistakes, and then you 0:05:02.400 --> 0:05:03.000 can get the dog. 0:05:03.120 --> 0:05:03.280 Right. 0:05:04.320 --> 0:05:06.120 Can you teach an old dog nu tricks? 0:05:06.160 --> 0:05:07.520 I have? Yeah? 0:05:07.880 --> 0:05:09.640 It must the dogs not humans. 0:05:10.120 --> 0:05:13.000 Is it that much harder once they've already had established patterns? 0:05:13.080 --> 0:05:16.960 Are repetitions right? It's three sixty five repetitions of the 0:05:17.000 --> 0:05:20.239 wrong thing. So it just takes a little bit more months, 0:05:20.400 --> 0:05:23.919 but not years. I mean the longest case, I it 0:05:23.960 --> 0:05:26.840 took me three months and the dog was already six 0:05:26.920 --> 0:05:34.040 years being aggressive, but aggressive like already being successful biting things. 0:05:34.200 --> 0:05:35.480 Have you been bit by a dog? 0:05:35.960 --> 0:05:36.200 Yes? 0:05:36.279 --> 0:05:38.640 I figured the answer had to be yes. And you 0:05:38.839 --> 0:05:41.159 have you ever had a fear of dogs? If you're 0:05:41.200 --> 0:05:44.200 dealing with an especially aggressive dog, how do you handle that? 0:05:44.400 --> 0:05:46.600 Mentally breathing. 0:05:48.920 --> 0:05:51.760 And then believing? So I believe that I can change 0:05:51.760 --> 0:05:54.479 through my breath and my knowledge. See the love and 0:05:54.520 --> 0:05:57.719 the joy is after. I can only celebrate once I 0:05:57.800 --> 0:06:01.599 achieved the com surrender because that dog in a fight mode, right, 0:06:01.640 --> 0:06:05.680 So how you remove chaos? You believe you breathe, you 0:06:05.720 --> 0:06:08.600 do it. You believe you breathe, you do it, and 0:06:08.640 --> 0:06:09.600 then thought you get it. 0:06:10.600 --> 0:06:11.760 That's actually reminding me. 0:06:11.920 --> 0:06:14.360 So I am a dog owner, but he's this cute, 0:06:14.400 --> 0:06:17.880 little fluffy multipoo who doesn't look like he would harm 0:06:17.880 --> 0:06:20.600 a fly, and he never has. However, I'm also a runner, 0:06:20.920 --> 0:06:25.360 and I have experienced multiple times very frightening experiences where 0:06:25.360 --> 0:06:27.839 a dog is off the leash or got out of 0:06:28.200 --> 0:06:30.800 the fence, or even worse to me, has been in 0:06:30.839 --> 0:06:33.400 a foreign country where they could be rabid, they're not 0:06:33.440 --> 0:06:36.400 well taken care of, they're aggressive, and I have had 0:06:36.880 --> 0:06:40.560 absolute fear just ripple through me. And I never know 0:06:40.640 --> 0:06:44.279 what to do. I've solely backed away, but I've how 0:06:44.320 --> 0:06:48.600 do you how do you give yourself power or be 0:06:48.680 --> 0:06:51.159 empowered in that moment to find a way to connect 0:06:51.160 --> 0:06:53.120 with that dog or not have that dog attack you. 0:06:53.400 --> 0:06:57.279 Well, you visualize before you actually go in that situation, right, 0:06:57.320 --> 0:06:59.760 and then you tell your brain, brain, if this happens 0:06:59.800 --> 0:07:02.440 to me, this is how I want to react. And 0:07:02.480 --> 0:07:05.880 then you start practicing on the mirror, right, And so 0:07:05.960 --> 0:07:08.960 you start preparing because you have because remember, the mind 0:07:09.160 --> 0:07:13.720 believes it's real even though it's not real. Right, So 0:07:13.760 --> 0:07:15.960 you can start practicing this and Ericause says, so you 0:07:16.000 --> 0:07:18.160 already saw it. But then you're telling your mind this 0:07:18.280 --> 0:07:20.080 is how I want to practice. This is how I 0:07:20.120 --> 0:07:23.160 want to behave next time. So you're running, you're running, 0:07:23.200 --> 0:07:24.400 the dog is barking. 0:07:29.120 --> 0:07:30.679 You stop, You breathe, your calm. 0:07:30.760 --> 0:07:33.520 Then you make the energy bigger because as you're moving 0:07:33.680 --> 0:07:34.280 your prey. 0:07:36.040 --> 0:07:38.040 Right, I know that's how I feel. 0:07:38.960 --> 0:07:41.000 Look at the cats when they protect themselves from a dog, 0:07:41.040 --> 0:07:41.800 they stop. 0:07:45.720 --> 0:07:47.080 Sease. I love you. I don't know if I can 0:07:47.120 --> 0:07:48.080 be on board with this one. 0:07:47.960 --> 0:07:53.640 Because I've been running on smiling. You know, we have 0:07:53.720 --> 0:07:56.240 to figure out where we don't know this path, and 0:07:56.280 --> 0:07:58.440 we get up to this neighborhood and you know, there's 0:07:58.440 --> 0:08:00.960 some cars on blocks and some construction going on. 0:08:01.040 --> 0:08:03.840 All of a sudden, I hear a dog. That dog's barking, 0:08:04.120 --> 0:08:07.240 and that dog takes off after me, right, and I'm 0:08:07.280 --> 0:08:09.640 already mid run. I promise you I've done this on 0:08:09.640 --> 0:08:12.680 more than one occasion. Try to outrun that dog. I 0:08:12.800 --> 0:08:14.840 never never crossed my mind. And I'm not going in 0:08:14.840 --> 0:08:19.160 the mirror today season to practice well standing to the 0:08:19.200 --> 0:08:23.600 idea of this whatever dog screaming coming after you full speed, 0:08:23.600 --> 0:08:24.400 I'm going to stop. 0:08:24.680 --> 0:08:27.440 Remember you're passing their home. Yeah, because you're passing by 0:08:27.480 --> 0:08:30.480 their home, not because they're doing that they want to 0:08:30.480 --> 0:08:32.559 bite you. They just want to take you away from 0:08:32.600 --> 0:08:36.400 their territory. So barking and chasing you away from the territory. 0:08:36.480 --> 0:08:39.760 So for them for you to stop, they're not expecting 0:08:39.800 --> 0:08:40.400 that reaction. 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:42.640 They want me to get the hell out of there, 0:08:42.679 --> 0:08:44.160 and I'm wanting to get out of there, and. 0:08:44.240 --> 0:08:47.160 You will once the dog turns back and said. 0:08:47.080 --> 0:08:48.840 Oh you're too strong, okay, all. 0:08:48.960 --> 0:08:51.880 Well, yeah, I know, I know. 0:08:53.360 --> 0:08:57.280 Actually I have actually on runs said to myself mentally, 0:08:57.360 --> 0:08:59.680 I am I'm sending you love. I know this sounds 0:08:59.679 --> 0:09:02.680 really fun, but I've just I've tried to like put 0:09:02.720 --> 0:09:04.240 an energy. 0:09:03.920 --> 0:09:05.840 Of love to do to the dog. 0:09:06.520 --> 0:09:08.760 Yeah, well they haven't sort of chased me. They're barking 0:09:08.800 --> 0:09:10.880 at me, and they could start chasing me. So I 0:09:10.920 --> 0:09:13.680 actually stop running and I walk slowly and I send 0:09:13.679 --> 0:09:14.720 them love in my head. 0:09:14.800 --> 0:09:16.559 I don't I haven't been bitten yet. 0:09:16.679 --> 0:09:19.080 Knock on works and you will never get bitten. You 0:09:19.120 --> 0:09:22.360 got to create that, okay, you have to. You have 0:09:22.440 --> 0:09:26.280 to send the message of you know, to to to universe, 0:09:26.360 --> 0:09:28.760 to God and tell how you want to be protected, 0:09:29.040 --> 0:09:32.520 direction protection love. So you can't just send love, you 0:09:32.559 --> 0:09:37.680 have to send direction protection energy. That's your calm confidence source. Right, 0:09:37.800 --> 0:09:41.080 that's the one that's the one that creates the leadership. 0:09:41.160 --> 0:09:42.360 That's the one that moved things. 0:09:43.440 --> 0:09:46.079 What does it say about why does a dog bite 0:09:46.640 --> 0:09:49.280 in the first place? We usally all they're misbehaving or something, 0:09:49.280 --> 0:09:50.839 But why is the dog bite? 0:09:51.240 --> 0:09:54.040 But when it bites naturally, like when a mom bites 0:09:54.040 --> 0:09:57.280 their children, is to correct them because they broke a 0:09:57.360 --> 0:09:59.520 rule bond limitation. So by it I mean they don't 0:09:59.520 --> 0:10:03.440 have hands, right, so they do that. It's just to 0:10:03.559 --> 0:10:06.360 let them know, hey, you broke a rule, boundary limitations. 0:10:06.360 --> 0:10:09.520 That's a normal bite, right, that's not aggressive bite, that's 0:10:09.559 --> 0:10:10.800 a discipline bite. 0:10:11.360 --> 0:10:11.560 Right. 0:10:11.760 --> 0:10:13.880 But when the dog is you know, like and your 0:10:14.040 --> 0:10:16.240 if you're passing by their territory and you don't stop 0:10:16.280 --> 0:10:18.240 and they go after your ankles, it's because you're passing 0:10:18.280 --> 0:10:23.240 by their territory, right, or the dog. You allow the 0:10:23.280 --> 0:10:26.400 dog to overprotect food and then you come close back bites. 0:10:26.600 --> 0:10:28.480 That's because you let him become too dominant. 0:10:29.520 --> 0:10:34.120 Goodness, so he bites the handy feets, which is which 0:10:34.160 --> 0:10:34.600 is wild. 0:10:35.600 --> 0:10:38.880 You've got your halo hoodie on there, tell us about 0:10:38.920 --> 0:10:41.120 So it is a fascinating thing when. 0:10:41.000 --> 0:10:42.120 You do travel with your dog. 0:10:42.760 --> 0:10:46.040 And my dog definitely has to be on a leash 0:10:46.080 --> 0:10:48.560 because he will take off and it has been scary 0:10:48.600 --> 0:10:49.400 a couple of times. 0:10:49.480 --> 0:10:51.120 If you haven't heard, Brody is a problem. 0:10:52.360 --> 0:10:54.080 He's a sweet. He's a sweet. 0:10:54.559 --> 0:10:55.240 It's not the dog. 0:10:55.679 --> 0:10:57.160 It's not the dog, that's true. 0:10:57.200 --> 0:10:59.680 But you know, had him on a hike and yeah, 0:10:59.760 --> 0:11:01.559 he will take off and I know he has to 0:11:01.559 --> 0:11:03.680 say on a leash, But you actually have a remedy 0:11:03.760 --> 0:11:07.040 for folks, especially if they're needing to have some sort 0:11:07.040 --> 0:11:09.400 of boundary that maybe they haven't created or the we 0:11:09.440 --> 0:11:11.520 don't have that connection where he can walk next to 0:11:11.559 --> 0:11:12.720 me without a leash. 0:11:13.120 --> 0:11:14.720 Halo is the answer, at least for. 0:11:14.640 --> 0:11:18.240 So AI can help. I mean a smart technology. The 0:11:18.280 --> 0:11:20.800 first smart technology we learn to use as a leash. 0:11:21.000 --> 0:11:23.160 That's what you know, A long long time ago, that's 0:11:23.200 --> 0:11:26.079 how we tought the dog to stick clothes. Right, It's 0:11:26.120 --> 0:11:28.840 a long line. That's how people used to teach a 0:11:28.840 --> 0:11:32.000 dog boundaries. So people will bring a long line to 0:11:32.080 --> 0:11:35.199 the beach and the dog will learn that only forty 0:11:35.200 --> 0:11:38.400 feet twenty feet. So that's kind of uncomfortable, right, but 0:11:38.440 --> 0:11:40.440 that's practically what it is, you know, it is to 0:11:40.480 --> 0:11:44.360 tell the dog through technology. Eight. The human forget to 0:11:44.400 --> 0:11:48.720 remind you the rules by limitations, but the collar is 0:11:48.760 --> 0:11:51.840 going to is programmed to remind the dog A don't 0:11:51.880 --> 0:11:54.400 touch the turkey, A don't bark at the window, A 0:11:54.559 --> 0:11:57.920 you're going too far. Eight is the limits of playing 0:11:57.960 --> 0:12:00.960 with that dogs overcome back. That's what you want. You 0:12:00.960 --> 0:12:04.320 want that that under that reminder to the dog, and 0:12:04.440 --> 0:12:06.719 then that's how the dog stays organized. And that's how 0:12:06.760 --> 0:12:09.720 you fear goes away. And then you experience freedom. That's 0:12:09.720 --> 0:12:12.680 what everybody wants, right, nobody gets a dog so we 0:12:12.720 --> 0:12:16.360 can be isolated, right, But they end up being isolated 0:12:16.400 --> 0:12:18.720 because the energy is wrong, the philosophy is wrong, and 0:12:18.760 --> 0:12:21.520 the actions are wrong. That's how a dog ends up 0:12:21.559 --> 0:12:23.880 being on a leash and he can't really you know, 0:12:24.120 --> 0:12:27.199 be a leash where the where the person feels that 0:12:27.320 --> 0:12:38.199 my dog is not gonna go away? And have you 0:12:38.240 --> 0:12:40.800 ever been at the beach where where his dog dogs 0:12:40.800 --> 0:12:41.040 in it? 0:12:41.320 --> 0:12:41.560 Yep? 0:12:42.160 --> 0:12:45.160 You see when people are at the beach with the dogs, 0:12:45.200 --> 0:12:49.360 those those humans are allow more relaxed versus the people 0:12:49.400 --> 0:12:50.480 who are in dog parks. 0:12:52.600 --> 0:12:54.480 That's so true. 0:12:54.520 --> 0:12:57.360 See, that's freedom and that's what I want people to get. 0:12:57.440 --> 0:13:01.240 That energy that you see people when people go to 0:13:01.280 --> 0:13:03.720 the beach with their dogs, because that's mother nature. That's 0:13:03.760 --> 0:13:06.520 a whole. That's a beautiful combination of mother nature, your 0:13:06.559 --> 0:13:09.080 dog and yourself. What do you go to the beach for? 0:13:09.080 --> 0:13:11.680 For peace? How do you want to feel safe? What 0:13:11.760 --> 0:13:12.840 do you feel after that? Love? 0:13:12.960 --> 0:13:13.200 Safe? 0:13:13.240 --> 0:13:13.480 Peace? 0:13:13.520 --> 0:13:13.720 Love? 0:13:14.200 --> 0:13:15.920 Why because you're practicing trash respect? 0:13:15.960 --> 0:13:16.160 Love? 0:13:16.240 --> 0:13:19.280 Why because your dog nows rules by the limitations? Why 0:13:19.360 --> 0:13:22.960 because you have connection, communication, relationship, That's what happens naturally 0:13:23.600 --> 0:13:25.160 when you have freedom and no fear. 0:13:26.280 --> 0:13:28.880 You mentioned that it didn't matter. I was talking about 0:13:28.880 --> 0:13:30.480 the breed, and I was doing research and all that. 0:13:30.559 --> 0:13:34.000 But are there better breeds for certain families who have 0:13:34.120 --> 0:13:36.560 young kids or for someone who is older. 0:13:36.840 --> 0:13:38.800 Do you suggest different types of breeds? 0:13:38.880 --> 0:13:42.120 Or can any dog be good for anyone given the 0:13:42.240 --> 0:13:43.640 right training and energy. 0:13:43.840 --> 0:13:45.840 I suggest middle of the pack dogs, and then you 0:13:45.920 --> 0:13:48.040 just choose what breed you like. You know, you like 0:13:48.080 --> 0:13:51.760 with no hair, long hair, short legs, you know what 0:13:51.800 --> 0:13:55.000 I mean, Accents like this, you know, But how do. 0:13:55.000 --> 0:13:57.240 You identify middle of the pack. 0:13:57.559 --> 0:13:59.680 I mean they're literally worn like this. 0:14:00.600 --> 0:14:05.280 He's doing a little bit literally like that, lucky. 0:14:05.440 --> 0:14:08.000 Yeah. So the back of the pack a little bit 0:14:08.000 --> 0:14:10.840 more shy, the front of the pack the po So 0:14:10.880 --> 0:14:13.199 if you watch a litter of puppies, there's going to 0:14:13.240 --> 0:14:14.960 be only one that is to pick up the letter, 0:14:15.360 --> 0:14:17.000 and it's going to be the biggest one. Is going 0:14:17.040 --> 0:14:19.800 to take over when mom is breastfeeding. He's going to 0:14:19.920 --> 0:14:23.800 move the brothers and sisters, he said, And it's only one. 0:14:24.400 --> 0:14:26.440 Then the rest when you come and meet and you're 0:14:26.440 --> 0:14:29.200 going to see these guys, and then you're going to 0:14:29.200 --> 0:14:31.120 see the back of the pack, like who are you? 0:14:32.280 --> 0:14:33.280 And you can see. 0:14:33.160 --> 0:14:35.400 Well, but even to a lay person, we'd be able 0:14:35.400 --> 0:14:37.080 to walk in and notice that. 0:14:37.160 --> 0:14:40.080 Now you're looking for it, Now we're looking for you said, 0:14:40.120 --> 0:14:42.480 you need to know what you're looking for, right, which 0:14:42.520 --> 0:14:44.920 is something there we learn later in life. So what 0:14:44.960 --> 0:14:47.400 do I want? You know what you need to do. 0:14:47.440 --> 0:14:49.840 You need to make money, but you know where, how, 0:14:50.160 --> 0:14:52.680 with who? Right? So you learn that along the way. 0:14:52.680 --> 0:14:54.880 But once you know, once you have very clear what 0:14:55.000 --> 0:14:57.000 life is all about, that's all you put in your 0:14:57.000 --> 0:14:58.480 head and that's what you look for. 0:14:58.960 --> 0:15:01.200 On the family. Since she was talking about and how 0:15:01.360 --> 0:15:05.480 I think we've known folks recently even who have a 0:15:05.520 --> 0:15:07.440 baby and they get rid of the dog because there's 0:15:07.440 --> 0:15:10.800 an incident or something like that. Is it easier? Is 0:15:10.840 --> 0:15:12.960 it an easier transition? It doesn't matter to have the 0:15:13.080 --> 0:15:16.120 kid first and then introduce a dog into the home, 0:15:16.520 --> 0:15:19.720 or to already have a dog and then introduce introduce 0:15:19.760 --> 0:15:21.880 a child into the home, whatever you want. Either way 0:15:21.920 --> 0:15:22.560 it can work. 0:15:22.640 --> 0:15:26.160 Yeah, yeah, Because so if you raise a dog first, 0:15:26.880 --> 0:15:29.680 the dog has rules, by limitations, trust, respect, love, right, 0:15:29.760 --> 0:15:31.680 So then you bring a baby human into the picture, 0:15:32.120 --> 0:15:34.480 and the way you introduce a baby human into the 0:15:34.520 --> 0:15:36.680 picture is the dog is quiet and calm at a 0:15:36.680 --> 0:15:41.280 distance social distance. Okay, it's almost like the way people 0:15:41.360 --> 0:15:45.280 greeted the Queen of England. Right, social distance. You bow, 0:15:45.440 --> 0:15:48.360 then she tells you to come in as a ritual, 0:15:49.320 --> 0:15:52.480 So think about a baby like a ritual when people 0:15:52.520 --> 0:15:55.960 meet the Queen of England. Social distance, come down, where 0:15:56.000 --> 0:15:56.920 your turn? Come in? 0:15:58.080 --> 0:16:00.280 But people get emotion. 0:16:00.400 --> 0:16:04.520 Yeah, because look at your brother. Oh look, just gonna 0:16:04.520 --> 0:16:09.160 love him. Right. 0:16:09.480 --> 0:16:11.800 But I get nervous when I see people who don't 0:16:11.840 --> 0:16:14.880 know what they're doing, who haven't read your philosophy or 0:16:14.920 --> 0:16:17.600 know about it, and they'll sit there and put the 0:16:17.720 --> 0:16:21.160 dog right next to the baby's face. I get nervous 0:16:21.240 --> 0:16:24.400 as a parent and a dog owner when I see that. 0:16:24.600 --> 0:16:25.560 Do you as well? 0:16:25.600 --> 0:16:28.880 I mean, are there some rules that you should actually 0:16:29.120 --> 0:16:31.400 or at least some research you should do before you 0:16:31.440 --> 0:16:33.160 put a dog in a baby's face? 0:16:33.320 --> 0:16:35.400 Yes? Of course you have to be because you're doing 0:16:35.520 --> 0:16:39.000 the introduction right. So you're the link between the baby 0:16:39.080 --> 0:16:40.920 human and the dog. You're the link. You're the one 0:16:40.920 --> 0:16:43.600 that's gonna say, I want safe peace, love between both 0:16:43.640 --> 0:16:46.520 both of you. I want trustrespect with both of you. 0:16:46.600 --> 0:16:48.160 But the baby is going to be the pack leader 0:16:48.200 --> 0:16:50.720 of you. Why because you are giving the energy to 0:16:50.760 --> 0:16:55.240 the baby. This is your genetic pack. He's part of 0:16:55.280 --> 0:16:58.040 the family, it is not. But he's also a stinct one, 0:16:59.160 --> 0:17:01.160 you get it. So it's very important for a dog 0:17:01.200 --> 0:17:04.920 to understand that you want absolute come surrender to that baby, 0:17:06.160 --> 0:17:07.880 right because if you will have a gorilla, what would 0:17:07.880 --> 0:17:13.360 you want the gorilla to feel about your come surrender? Indeed, exactly. 0:17:13.400 --> 0:17:16.199 So my point is is in the animal world, if 0:17:16.240 --> 0:17:18.919 you ask for come surrender, they give you loyalty. But 0:17:19.040 --> 0:17:21.400 if you want their love and the excitement, they will 0:17:21.440 --> 0:17:26.720 give you the accident wow you because you're talking to 0:17:26.760 --> 0:17:29.680 the spirit and the instinct, not the specie. You want 0:17:29.840 --> 0:17:33.840 a cat, a mouse, a squirrel to become surrendered to 0:17:33.920 --> 0:17:36.600 your children, and that's how your child is going to 0:17:36.640 --> 0:17:41.600 be safe because they're giving you their their most respectful 0:17:41.640 --> 0:17:43.800 side of them, which is there comes surrender. 0:17:44.240 --> 0:17:45.600 But do dogs get jealous? 0:17:46.320 --> 0:17:48.719 No, they're like to share. They live in a group. 0:17:49.720 --> 0:17:52.560 They live in a group. See, they're very they're very 0:17:52.600 --> 0:17:56.600 family oriented, community oriented. We are the one that creates 0:17:56.640 --> 0:18:02.879 all this new stuff. Oh it's being jealous. Is available right, 0:18:02.960 --> 0:18:08.720 it's available, is available right. It's like, why would a 0:18:08.800 --> 0:18:14.160 dog not share home family food? Why would not? That's 0:18:14.200 --> 0:18:16.840 the way to keep the whole packup life. That's how 0:18:16.840 --> 0:18:20.399 they do it right. So the whole jealousy thing is 0:18:20.440 --> 0:18:22.879 because a lot of times people say, oh, it's because 0:18:22.880 --> 0:18:26.600 he loves me so much. He said, that's why. No, 0:18:26.800 --> 0:18:31.879 it's because you let them. I raised my kids. I 0:18:31.880 --> 0:18:33.680 have two kids who are now thirty and twenty seven. 0:18:33.880 --> 0:18:36.359 But when my kids were little, it was sixty. 0:18:36.000 --> 0:18:38.320 Five dogs, sixty five sixty. 0:18:37.960 --> 0:18:40.760 Five whites, people's German shepherds in the hood. I was 0:18:40.800 --> 0:18:45.320 in South Central and my kids were born and raised around. 0:18:44.960 --> 0:18:47.960 This pack of dogs. And they're still my kids, still alive. 0:18:49.440 --> 0:18:56.520 They have no urs. Yes, of course they have no choice. Man. 0:18:58.480 --> 0:19:00.399 This is the last one question I have, and this 0:19:00.440 --> 0:19:02.359 has to do everybody deals with this if you have 0:19:02.400 --> 0:19:04.359 a dog or not, especially here in New York. What 0:19:04.560 --> 0:19:08.399 is the proper way to behave when you encounter someone 0:19:08.600 --> 0:19:11.000