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Speaker 1: Subject one husband, three men. Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been

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Speaker 1: married for twelve years and I have cheated on my

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Speaker 1: husband for the past five years. My husband is a

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Speaker 1: bit older than I am and he can't always satisfy

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Speaker 1: me like he used to, so I got addicted to

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Speaker 1: stepping out on him. The thrill of the affair is

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Speaker 1: what excited me at first, but then when I realized

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Speaker 1: my husband no longer cared, it became part of my lifestyle.

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Speaker 1: I just turned forty five and I think I am

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Speaker 1: going through a midlife crisis because one man isn't enough

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Speaker 1: and I like them young. I am not sleeping around,

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Speaker 1: though I have two consistent men on the side that

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Speaker 1: I have sex with. I didn't want any parts of

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Speaker 1: an older man anymore. So one of my sidemen is

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Speaker 1: thirty five and the other one is twenty nine, and

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Speaker 1: he is my hairstylist. The thirty five year old just

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Speaker 1: got married and his wife is bipolar and won't take

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Speaker 1: her medicine, so he wasn't getting any sex at home.

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Speaker 1: The twenty nine year old is my baby, and he's

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Speaker 1: very special because I have taught him a lot. I

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Speaker 1: taught him how to save money, decorate his place, and

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Speaker 1: how to properly make love to a grown woman. He

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Speaker 1: is the one that is falling for me, and I

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Speaker 1: am very fond of him. But if I got divorced,

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Speaker 1: he wouldn't be my first choice. The thirty five year

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Speaker 1: old would, so I thought I would shake things up

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Speaker 1: and tell my husband I'm not happy and we might

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Speaker 1: need to get a divorce. He said, he's no fool

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Speaker 1: and can tell I'm getting sex elsewhere, so he'd like

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Speaker 1: for me to just be respectful if I'm going to

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Speaker 1: do it, and not let anyone else know what's going on.

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Speaker 1: That made me suspect. That made me suspect, and now

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Speaker 1: I'm thinking he might be messing around on me. I

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Speaker 1: asked him a million times. If he's cheating and he

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Speaker 1: had a smirk on his face and said no, what

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Speaker 1: if he lied about having ed and he has a mistress?

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Speaker 1: Should I confess to see if he will? Please advise?

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Speaker 1: What do you want us to advise you on? Really,

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Speaker 1: I really don't think you want an answer. I don't

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Speaker 1: think you care. I just think you're enjoying your cheating

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Speaker 1: life so much right now. You haven't cared about your

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Speaker 1: husband or what he's doing for the last five years.

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Speaker 1: What's changed the fact that he might be cheating too

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Speaker 1: mm and the fact that he didn't give you any problem,

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Speaker 1: any clapback when you said you might want a divorce, Well,

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Speaker 1: isn't that interesting? I think, my honest opinion is that

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Speaker 1: you don't give a darn unwear or the other. You

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Speaker 1: tried to test the waters on divorce, as you say,

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Speaker 1: and found out that your husband like cool, just be respectful,

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Speaker 1: not a problem. Who does that anyway? Play with divorce

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Speaker 1: like that? I mean, you've been cheating on him with

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Speaker 1: not one but two men. But you say you're not

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Speaker 1: sleeping around. How could you even put that line in

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Speaker 1: this letter? You're not sleeping around? That's exactly what you're doing.

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Speaker 1: What do you think sleeping around is? It's not okay,

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Speaker 1: and what you're doing is strifling. And now you're feeling

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Speaker 1: some kind of way because your husband didn't put up

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Speaker 1: a fight. You need to divorce him because you don't

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Speaker 1: love him. And you said in the letter you're addicted

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Speaker 1: and your husband doesn't excite you anymore. What are you

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Speaker 1: holding on for? I just think you should go ahead,

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Speaker 1: put each other out of your misery. That way you

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Speaker 1: with someone else, because it's certainly not you. Steve Uh again,

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Speaker 1: we're at one of these letters the subject as one husband,

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Speaker 1: three men. We're at this letter where I really and

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Speaker 1: I could tell about Shirley's response, and I'm just gonna

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Speaker 1: speak freely for Shirley. We really don't give a damn

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Speaker 1: about you, your problem, this letter, the outcome what you

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Speaker 1: want us to like? Shirley said, what do you want

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Speaker 1: us to tell you? What you're just so full of?

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Speaker 1: You've been married twelve years, you cheated on your husband

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Speaker 1: the past five already. Don't nobody like you that's listening

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Speaker 1: to the show right now. So let's just be clear

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Speaker 1: about that. My husband is a bit older than I am,

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Speaker 1: So I got addicted to stepping out on him. This

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Speaker 1: women sitting, the pre going trick. Sit, you'll behind down

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Speaker 1: some damn whever. But oh no, the thrill of the

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Speaker 1: fairs what excited me at first, But then I realized

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Speaker 1: my husband no longer cared. It became a part of

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Speaker 1: my lifestyle. I just turned forty five, and you think

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Speaker 1: I'm going through a midlife crisis because one man isn't

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Speaker 1: enough and I like him young. I'm not sleeping around,

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Speaker 1: though I have two consistent men on the side that

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Speaker 1: lettle up, Shirley said when she responded to this, How

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Speaker 1: could you even put this in the same sentence. I

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Speaker 1: have sex with. I'm not sleeping around. Well, I'm so confused.

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Speaker 1: Huse now, because see, it's gonna be hard for us

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Speaker 1: to help you because you don't you don't think there's

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Speaker 1: a problem. You just said you're not sleeping around, but

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Speaker 1: you have three men and you haven't consistent sex with

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Speaker 1: two of them, and if your husband could perform, that

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Speaker 1: would be three. But you say you're not sleeping around, Well,

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Speaker 1: what is you doing? What? What is it? What's what's happening?

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Speaker 1: You know, y'all have redefined everything. Hold on, Hold on,

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Speaker 1: We'll have part two of Steve's Refunds coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour Today's Strawberry Letters, subject

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Speaker 1: one husband, three men. That we'll get back into it

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Speaker 1: right after this. You're listening to Steve Morning Show. All right,

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Speaker 1: come on, Steve, let's recap today's beautiful strawberry letters and

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Speaker 1: finish up with your response to the subject my husband

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Speaker 1: through one husband, three men. Don't nobody give a damn

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Speaker 1: about this lady? In this letter, she'd been married twelve years,

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Speaker 1: been cheating on her husband for five of the years.

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Speaker 1: Because he's older than hun he can't satisfy her like

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Speaker 1: he used to. At the end of the letter, she

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Speaker 1: says is that he's has he lied about having ed

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Speaker 1: erectile dysfunction, So you got addicted to stepping out on him.

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Speaker 1: The thrill of affairs what excited you, and you made

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Speaker 1: it a part of your lifestyle. When you find out

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Speaker 1: your husband didn't care. I turned forty five, and I

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Speaker 1: think I'm going through midlife crisis because one man isn't

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Speaker 1: enough and I like him young. I'm not sleeping around

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Speaker 1: What is this? What is this? You know? I'm sick

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Speaker 1: of y'all new people always redefined as so what y'all

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Speaker 1: doing Now? You got a husband, you got two consistent

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Speaker 1: me and one thirty five thirty nine, the other one

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Speaker 1: twenty nine, and you had consistent secuity, but you're not

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Speaker 1: sleeping round? Is is this called and entanglement? Is that

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Speaker 1: because y'all keep redefining stuff that's been the same for

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Speaker 1: a long time. Y'all stupid, and I'm sicking this stupid

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Speaker 1: ass letter. I don't want any parts of an older

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Speaker 1: thirty five and the other one is twenty nine, and

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Speaker 1: he's my half. Style it. The thirty five year old

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Speaker 1: just got married and his wife is bipolar and won't

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Speaker 1: take her medicine, so he wasn't getting any sex at home. Well,

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Speaker 1: what he's just married for. She didn't just become bipolar,

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Speaker 1: So now what he's married for? And now he telling

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Speaker 1: you you won't take a man, so they ain't having sex?

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Speaker 1: What and they just got married lady, Now you're kidding me.

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Speaker 1: You gotta be stupid. So now and then the twenty

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Speaker 1: nine year old is my baby, and he's very special

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Speaker 1: because I've taught him a lot. I taught him how

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Speaker 1: to has saved money, decorate this place, and how to

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Speaker 1: properly make love to a grown woman. He's the one

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Speaker 1: falling for me, and I'm very fond of him. But

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Speaker 1: if I got divorced, he wouldn't be my first choice.

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Speaker 1: The thirty five year old, all right, let me let me,

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Speaker 1: don't neither one of them men, won't you. The twenty

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Speaker 1: as he gets good at how to make love and

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Speaker 1: take care of an older woman, and once he get

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Speaker 1: young chicken to put in there and ain't fit to

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Speaker 1: his bipolar ass wife because she ain't bipolar. They've just

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Speaker 1: gotten married and they having sex, unlike you think. Ain't

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Speaker 1: I'm sure they're out there and there are some stories.

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Speaker 1: But Tommy, have you met one of your boys that's

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Speaker 1: done this one yet? Junior? You knowing it your partners

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Speaker 1: to pull this. I got a lot of homeless man,

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Speaker 1: I'm sixty five. I know a lot of dudes. Man.

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Speaker 1: I don't know no dude that don't done this though.

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Speaker 1: I don't know who you think you are, but they ain't.

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Speaker 1: I all, no, no dude, then pull this move off.

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Speaker 1: So I thought I would shake things up and tell

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Speaker 1: messing around on me. And if he is, so, what

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Speaker 1: don't even understand what the suspicion is about. I've asked

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Speaker 1: him a million times if he's cheating, and he had

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Speaker 1: a smirk on his face and said no. Now, how

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Speaker 1: stupid you are, which makes the letter super stupid. What

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Speaker 1: if he lied about having ed and has a mistress?

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Speaker 1: Should I could a fest to see if he will?

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Speaker 1: Who stupid? You? So stupid lady? A lot of stupid

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Speaker 1: Ain't no way he's been a confess fool at me

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Speaker 1: to something that he's not even been busted or accused up.

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Speaker 1: Stop now that's stupid, girl. Stop. Thanks. Steve hit us

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