WEBVTT - Conversation About Loverboys 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:07.400 Silly game for you to act this way. She's singing 0:00:07.400 --> 0:00:09.160 and Ship and I used to really like that song 0:00:09.200 --> 0:00:10.720 because I used to be like many song is so 0:00:10.800 --> 0:00:13.400 dupe because I felt the pain. And then there's a 0:00:13.440 --> 0:00:16.360 particular partner song that made me realize why that nigga 0:00:16.440 --> 0:00:21.040 wasn't working with her. No one loves you more than me, 0:00:21.960 --> 0:00:28.440 and no one ever will sing use a motherfucking lie. 0:00:28.680 --> 0:00:34.680 It's a motherfucker that's gonna love me way more. No 0:00:34.880 --> 0:00:41.720 sinlings um g l my boy Peter um. Today we 0:00:41.800 --> 0:00:45.920 brought the homie. Uh, Joey west Side. Joey west Side 0:00:46.000 --> 0:00:54.520 got a podcast? What it's homie that they don't do consistently? Right? Um? 0:00:54.680 --> 0:00:57.920 What's the name of your podcast? Contrarians? The Contrarians? When's 0:00:57.960 --> 0:01:02.520 the last time y'all did a podcast? Uh? Ship had 0:01:02.520 --> 0:01:09.240 been about? I'm multiple months, multiple multiple months and that's 0:01:09.280 --> 0:01:13.080 contrary and c O N T R A R E 0:01:13.240 --> 0:01:18.240 A N s is it sounds like a like Contrarians, 0:01:18.280 --> 0:01:21.200 like one of those armies the Romans used to battle. 0:01:22.959 --> 0:01:26.680 Man Caesar conquered the Contrarians shout out to my nigga, 0:01:26.760 --> 0:01:29.880 mac at conscious king a eight, my bro sean, he 0:01:30.040 --> 0:01:32.000 like a brother from another mother. You know what I'm saying, 0:01:32.040 --> 0:01:34.720 Like he he one of us, you know, that's my nigga, 0:01:34.800 --> 0:01:36.240 So shout out there. He was supposed to be here. 0:01:37.080 --> 0:01:39.600 Unfortunately he couldn't make it today. So what makes it 0:01:39.640 --> 0:01:41.759 hard for y'all to do your podcast? Why don't y'all 0:01:41.800 --> 0:01:44.199 just take the time and get it done. I guess 0:01:44.240 --> 0:01:48.440 we just don't take advantage we had. Honestly, the problem is, 0:01:48.520 --> 0:01:51.960 like we just spoke earlier, we didn't make it a priority. 0:01:52.400 --> 0:01:57.160 You know, we didn't prioritize in a way to where, um, 0:01:57.200 --> 0:01:59.160 you know, we just make sure that he gets done, 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:01.960 you know what I'm saying. And we realized doing the 0:02:02.000 --> 0:02:03.760 ship every week the way we was trying to do 0:02:03.800 --> 0:02:06.600 it and keep up and you know, and really finding 0:02:06.840 --> 0:02:08.760 exactly what it is that we're trying to do because 0:02:08.760 --> 0:02:11.680 we was amateurs at it. Uh, you know, I just 0:02:11.800 --> 0:02:14.080 I guess it became a little overwhelming. And I wasn't 0:02:14.080 --> 0:02:17.520 really doing the Homie was doing most of the work 0:02:17.560 --> 0:02:20.040 when it comes to like editing the videos and getting 0:02:20.040 --> 0:02:22.880 it together, and certain ships shout out at him and 0:02:22.919 --> 0:02:25.440 I wasn't you know, I wasn't contributing that much. Besides 0:02:25.480 --> 0:02:28.120 my energy, But why not just do the audio part, 0:02:29.120 --> 0:02:32.440 because that's really what it's about, stripping the audio down 0:02:32.760 --> 0:02:35.840 and then releasing the audio of the podcast, right right. Um, 0:02:37.200 --> 0:02:39.280 I just never thought about it, yeah, because we kind 0:02:39.280 --> 0:02:42.640 of just figured people. We assumed that people would like 0:02:42.720 --> 0:02:44.720 to see you talking about the ship more than just 0:02:44.760 --> 0:02:47.400 the audio, which we can be wrong because honestly, the 0:02:47.480 --> 0:02:51.120 audio versions is the podcast is the podcast, and that's 0:02:51.120 --> 0:02:54.120 where we got the most listens. The YouTube members of 0:02:54.240 --> 0:02:58.680 Trash what honestly looking out our YouTube, it's not that 0:02:58.720 --> 0:03:01.520 they don't know it's there. Well yeah, I know, but 0:03:01.560 --> 0:03:05.359 I'm just being it's trash, you feel me. But Pete 0:03:05.600 --> 0:03:09.400 is really important because like Pete stays on me, you 0:03:09.520 --> 0:03:11.480 feel me, and we'll do a couple in a week, 0:03:11.600 --> 0:03:14.600 and it's it's more of a challenge on him sometimes 0:03:14.600 --> 0:03:16.520 in me, I just got to kind of be down 0:03:16.560 --> 0:03:19.400 to do it. So I'm grateful to have Pete because 0:03:20.480 --> 0:03:24.760 we haven't even started doing videos because literally it it 0:03:24.880 --> 0:03:27.320 like we're trying to get the podcast nail to where 0:03:27.360 --> 0:03:29.320 we feel comfortable. So I figured, like, what we say, 0:03:29.360 --> 0:03:33.080 fifteen twenty episodes and we'll start recording. And I appreciate 0:03:33.120 --> 0:03:34.800 the credit by the way. But also I think it 0:03:34.840 --> 0:03:37.680 would be challenging until we get the other location up 0:03:37.720 --> 0:03:39.600 and running to do videos in here. I don't know 0:03:39.640 --> 0:03:42.360 how that would come off optically. Yeah, that would look crazy. Yeah, 0:03:42.480 --> 0:03:44.520 this ship look crazy. Here I try to take a 0:03:44.560 --> 0:03:47.640 picture of I can't remember what show it was, and 0:03:47.680 --> 0:03:53.760 posted on Instagram. Just look crazy? This is it? That 0:03:53.800 --> 0:03:56.040 ain't it? That ain't cracking? So if you don't have 0:03:56.160 --> 0:03:59.240 time to do the podcast, what do you spending your 0:03:59.280 --> 0:04:05.360 time doing? You know what? Honestly, man, what do you 0:04:05.400 --> 0:04:13.040 think it sums most of your time? Uh? Work's my work. 0:04:13.080 --> 0:04:15.960 That's eight hours, So it can't consist hours. You gotta 0:04:15.960 --> 0:04:18.200 think about it. It's more thing, eight hours most of 0:04:18.240 --> 0:04:20.160 your waking you know what I'm saying. Yeah, I wake 0:04:20.279 --> 0:04:24.560 up prior and then I commute, I'm you know what 0:04:24.600 --> 0:04:26.960 I'm saying. So how many hours and waking up and 0:04:27.000 --> 0:04:31.800 then communing? Okay, I wake up two hours most likely 0:04:31.800 --> 0:04:33.960 like two hours before I got to be at work, 0:04:33.720 --> 0:04:35.680 so it didn't take an hour to get to work. 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:39.640 So so two hours total one of those hours right 0:04:39.800 --> 0:04:41.920 right right? And then it might and then I get 0:04:41.920 --> 0:04:43.680 off and I might do eight hours. I might do 0:04:43.760 --> 0:04:46.039 ten hours. I might do twelve hours. It all depends, 0:04:46.080 --> 0:04:49.600 you know. You know what I'm saying. Driving home takes hours, right, 0:04:49.640 --> 0:04:51.279 you dry at least an hour, and then on a 0:04:51.320 --> 0:04:52.800 bad day, that ship could turn into two and a 0:04:52.839 --> 0:04:55.760 half hours. Okay, So let's say on an average day 0:04:56.240 --> 0:05:02.360 you spend roughly eleven hours dealing with work, right, what 0:05:02.400 --> 0:05:04.240 are you doing for the rest of another time? Might 0:05:04.279 --> 0:05:07.760 be taking a nap. Jim bullshitting too. Let me get 0:05:07.800 --> 0:05:09.600 to that. I'll be bullshitting too as far as just 0:05:10.720 --> 0:05:12.080 I'm just saying I want to be honest, like, and 0:05:12.120 --> 0:05:14.000 they would be sitting around. You can be scrolling through 0:05:14.040 --> 0:05:17.000 social media. You can watching some ship on YouTube. I 0:05:17.080 --> 0:05:19.680 could be on the phone talking, you know, dealing with 0:05:19.880 --> 0:05:23.200 family life. You know what I'm saying, what's my life? 0:05:23.600 --> 0:05:26.040 You know, just my daughter making so she straight. I 0:05:26.120 --> 0:05:27.880 gotta you know, I got a lady in my life. 0:05:27.920 --> 0:05:30.520 You know what I'm saying. I give you know, that's 0:05:31.080 --> 0:05:33.600 takes up some attention. How much time do you think 0:05:33.640 --> 0:05:37.960 you dedicate to that? Um Like, you want to know 0:05:38.120 --> 0:05:41.920 that the hours because if you had to imagine the time, 0:05:42.400 --> 0:05:48.240 if you had, you know, thank you, that's some thank you. 0:05:48.360 --> 0:05:50.360 You said that because I was about to say it 0:05:50.480 --> 0:05:54.000 takes a lot of thought. I'm glad see I funk 0:05:54.080 --> 0:05:56.960 with you because no, but that's some real ship because 0:05:56.960 --> 0:05:59.480 I was about to, you know, say that because the 0:05:59.560 --> 0:06:03.360 full on efficiency. But honestly, it's thought. Thought contribute to 0:06:03.720 --> 0:06:07.000 most of the day, to be honest, like the ship. 0:06:07.440 --> 0:06:10.000 So you're talking about you're thinking about your old lady 0:06:10.040 --> 0:06:11.839 most of the day when I'm talking, just thinking about 0:06:11.920 --> 0:06:15.320 everything that relates to it, you know, just if that 0:06:15.440 --> 0:06:18.919 makes sense, like yeah, you know, if you know, especially 0:06:19.000 --> 0:06:21.400 you know, sometimes ship get a little complicated, you know, 0:06:21.520 --> 0:06:23.040 that could be on your mind, and then that can 0:06:23.120 --> 0:06:25.640 affect other ship that you should be worried about. And 0:06:25.640 --> 0:06:27.839 then you're thinking about that, you know what I'm saying. 0:06:28.200 --> 0:06:30.280 Then certain ship that we gotta handle, you know what 0:06:30.320 --> 0:06:32.719 I'm saying. Then you're thinking about that and making sure 0:06:32.760 --> 0:06:35.160 that you could saying nothing this whole time. But I 0:06:35.240 --> 0:06:37.200 got it for you. I got it. I get what 0:06:37.240 --> 0:06:39.560 you're saying even though you ain't saying nothing the whole time. 0:06:39.760 --> 0:06:43.000 Here's the answer. Okay, talk to me. I'm here to listen. 0:06:43.520 --> 0:06:47.400 You're allocating more intellectual human capital to your girl than 0:06:47.440 --> 0:06:52.040 anything else, right, so therefore, why don't you just do 0:06:52.120 --> 0:06:56.479 a podcast about her? Because what's your greatest area of expertise? 0:06:56.640 --> 0:06:59.840 And which brings us to this podcast, which is a 0:07:00.080 --> 0:07:06.440 conversations about lover boys? Whoa which I'm not calling you 0:07:06.520 --> 0:07:13.080 a no, yes you are. I don't like that. Hey, 0:07:14.000 --> 0:07:16.840 I did say conversations with lover boy. No, no, no no, 0:07:17.840 --> 0:07:23.200 I said what bar trap classes is good? Hold because 0:07:23.240 --> 0:07:30.040 I didn't say I didn't say conversations with lover boys. 0:07:30.720 --> 0:07:34.680 I said. The title is conversations about lover her boy. 0:07:34.680 --> 0:07:37.080 I just don't like the name. Why not? I just 0:07:37.160 --> 0:07:39.960 don't like it. You don't like love? Don't you always 0:07:40.000 --> 0:07:42.480 have tag? No? No, I love you. I don't like 0:07:42.720 --> 0:07:45.480 lover boy. That ship sounds so the boy part is 0:07:45.560 --> 0:07:49.440 kind of progressive. Boys sounds soggy. Bro shouldn't be lover men. 0:07:49.920 --> 0:07:52.920 It should be just like I don't know whatter of 0:07:53.040 --> 0:07:54.680 love I don't I don't know what it should be 0:07:55.040 --> 0:07:57.320 just lover boy. I don't like it, my nigger, That's 0:07:57.320 --> 0:08:00.040 what I'm just saying. It don't sound good. What what 0:08:00.200 --> 0:08:03.400 I respected? I could respect it? So I'm putting my light. 0:08:03.920 --> 0:08:06.840 It just don't sound good. What's wrong with lover It 0:08:07.040 --> 0:08:11.680 just don't sound good and it's nothing and what's crazy 0:08:11.720 --> 0:08:15.120 to me? And you know, I really don't, but I'm 0:08:15.160 --> 0:08:18.040 gonna tell you why, so, my so. What what me 0:08:18.160 --> 0:08:22.480 and Pete liked to conversate about is Pariah's and our 0:08:22.720 --> 0:08:26.120 society right culturally, I focus on our culture more than anything, 0:08:26.200 --> 0:08:28.600 and Pete is familiar with our culture and we do 0:08:28.760 --> 0:08:32.600 share things in culture. Lover boy has such a negative 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:35.800 connotation for sure, and I'm trying to really figure out 0:08:36.000 --> 0:08:39.520 why does lover boy have that? If you, like you 0:08:39.679 --> 0:08:43.000 hashtag love love, I would never call you a lover 0:08:43.120 --> 0:08:46.520 boy on seven Street because I know from our background, 0:08:47.040 --> 0:08:51.559 saying lover boy is like, it's almost insulting if you're 0:08:51.600 --> 0:08:53.640 from the streets, if you're from the corner. And I 0:08:53.760 --> 0:08:57.439 just don't understand what it sounds gay. They don't lover 0:08:57.600 --> 0:09:01.439 boys boys. Yeah, it just sounds bay money. And I'm 0:09:01.440 --> 0:09:04.199 just being honest. It just does get it though, I 0:09:04.320 --> 0:09:06.640 get it, my nigga, it just don't sound good. It's 0:09:06.679 --> 0:09:08.679 like you know, you can just it's it's just not 0:09:08.840 --> 0:09:11.600 a dope name to me. When you listen to music 0:09:11.720 --> 0:09:14.280 by yourself, Let's say, when you listen to music by else, 0:09:14.360 --> 0:09:16.720 Because if I'm being honest. I guess I can understand 0:09:16.760 --> 0:09:18.920 why you wouldn't have that conversation with me, So I 0:09:19.040 --> 0:09:22.319 get it. I just don't like the title. Honestly, I 0:09:22.440 --> 0:09:25.280 didn't come up with it because you were here. Honestly, 0:09:25.360 --> 0:09:28.320 I was looking at Drake's new album. I think that Drake, 0:09:28.400 --> 0:09:31.320 when you say lover boy too, he titled his album loverboy. 0:09:31.520 --> 0:09:34.240 It sounds like it makes sense. But I thought that 0:09:34.520 --> 0:09:37.719 it would be a dope conversation with you because I 0:09:37.840 --> 0:09:42.040 feel like, out of all the people that I consider 0:09:42.120 --> 0:09:44.480 a friend and I interact with, you kind of pride 0:09:44.480 --> 0:09:47.280 yourself on love a lot more than average person, to 0:09:47.400 --> 0:09:52.400 the point where you hashtag love love. So but it's 0:09:52.440 --> 0:09:55.000 funny because when we say the term lover boy, right, 0:09:55.200 --> 0:09:59.920 it's like, that's not me though, And I really wouldn't 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:02.640 call you that because of the fact of what it carries. 0:10:03.320 --> 0:10:05.200 Does it Does it have that same cond of text 0:10:05.240 --> 0:10:07.400 with where you're from, Pete, somebody says he's a lover 0:10:07.520 --> 0:10:11.240 boy or he's a lover boy. It can it's gonna 0:10:12.000 --> 0:10:17.679 it's either gonna be like, oh, he's emotional, emotional and 0:10:18.080 --> 0:10:19.439 you know, you get to be a lover boy. You 0:10:19.520 --> 0:10:21.560 gotta be sympathetic to you that if there's a man, 0:10:21.640 --> 0:10:23.199 it means you're gonna have to be a little effeminine, 0:10:23.240 --> 0:10:25.040 and at least in the way it comes off. I mean, 0:10:25.120 --> 0:10:26.959 not like saying that this dude is at all, but 0:10:27.040 --> 0:10:29.439 you have to be relatable a lot to women. So 0:10:30.280 --> 0:10:31.959 it could come off as that way where I'm from, 0:10:32.120 --> 0:10:33.719 or it can come off as like, oh, he's a 0:10:33.800 --> 0:10:38.719 lover boy, Like he's, you know, some dude trying to 0:10:38.840 --> 0:10:41.400 romance women up all the time. Yeah, So it could 0:10:41.440 --> 0:10:44.560 be a player, or it could be somebody in love. 0:10:45.800 --> 0:10:49.199 Yeah what and Pete, you would be the opposite of 0:10:49.240 --> 0:10:53.000 a lover boy, obviously that may be true. Yeah, it's 0:10:53.080 --> 0:10:55.319 do you think you're like emotionally scarred that's why you 0:10:55.480 --> 0:10:59.000 kind of avoid love? I don't think so. Would you 0:10:59.040 --> 0:11:02.400 be honest if you thought you work? Yeah, but I 0:11:02.480 --> 0:11:05.120 don't hold anything that's going on in my life to 0:11:05.200 --> 0:11:08.880 any against anybody else. The biggest issue that has happened 0:11:08.920 --> 0:11:13.719 with me, the most emotionally scarring situation that I put 0:11:13.840 --> 0:11:18.320 up with, it was the type of a deal where 0:11:18.440 --> 0:11:25.520 like I had enough time, I wasn't in that relationship 0:11:25.640 --> 0:11:29.640 like that. So in this gap of time, I've learned 0:11:29.679 --> 0:11:35.840 to be really really just independent in like emotionally, mentally, 0:11:35.880 --> 0:11:38.760 all that kind of stuff. So now since I'm like, 0:11:39.600 --> 0:11:42.400 there's not a void of someone not being there for 0:11:42.520 --> 0:11:47.200 me now anymore. So if you're there now, you've got 0:11:47.320 --> 0:11:53.040 to be a net plus and I just I don't 0:11:53.080 --> 0:11:54.880 see a lot of that. So I'm like, if you're 0:11:54.920 --> 0:11:57.800 not here, I'm fine. What you mean by net plus? 0:11:57.880 --> 0:12:00.640 Break that down to me. That's some economic terms. Yeah, 0:12:00.640 --> 0:12:03.120 I know, I know, I know, but I just you know, 0:12:04.000 --> 0:12:10.040 like that there's obviously compromises. If I'm if I'm starting 0:12:10.120 --> 0:12:15.199 off fine without you, the compromise has to break in 0:12:15.320 --> 0:12:17.960 my favor for me to bring you on. I respect 0:12:18.040 --> 0:12:20.800 that you're gonna make my life better, Yeah, because otherwise, 0:12:20.840 --> 0:12:22.480 in a lot of cases, if you're used to having 0:12:22.520 --> 0:12:25.520 somebody or you want somebody or whatever, you only have 0:12:25.640 --> 0:12:28.040 to compromise enough to be happier than you just were, 0:12:28.760 --> 0:12:32.679 and you start off unhappy. I started off neutral at zero, 0:12:33.520 --> 0:12:35.880 so you've got a lot of ground to make up 0:12:36.040 --> 0:12:40.640 just to stay out of my way, right right, Yeah? 0:12:40.960 --> 0:12:44.280 Net plus? I like that guy, That's that's a good point. Um, 0:12:45.880 --> 0:12:48.719 I just don't understand that, Like, um, We had a 0:12:48.760 --> 0:12:56.400 conversation a couple of weeks ago about confronting a bully, right, 0:12:56.520 --> 0:13:00.200 and it's with the hunger Asia, she says, a sweet art. 0:13:00.320 --> 0:13:04.200 But if you really talk to women, like I said 0:13:04.280 --> 0:13:07.319 at the end of that podcast specifically, was like a 0:13:07.440 --> 0:13:12.720 relationship is you getting with a woman like a woman 0:13:12.800 --> 0:13:15.679 trying to find herself and you have to you have 0:13:15.800 --> 0:13:18.600 to hold the flashlight yet somehow be able to navigate 0:13:18.720 --> 0:13:24.920 your own space. Right, and somewhere I think people thought 0:13:25.000 --> 0:13:27.400 like that I don't like women, and it's like, no, 0:13:27.760 --> 0:13:31.480 what I'm saying is like, right, I will never see 0:13:31.559 --> 0:13:34.360 the true economic so most men, Right, it's fair to 0:13:34.400 --> 0:13:37.679 say that most men create an economic value for women, 0:13:38.200 --> 0:13:41.199 Like just like money, Like wherever nigga, Like if he 0:13:41.240 --> 0:13:43.120 ain't got no money, he's still feel good about it 0:13:43.160 --> 0:13:46.120 stuff because he got women. You know, I got all 0:13:46.160 --> 0:13:50.200 the women. Yeah, for sure, I got more bitches than 0:13:50.240 --> 0:13:56.160 Youah right, So that's really valuable. I've never seen the 0:13:56.320 --> 0:14:00.240 value in that. And I think that's the clarific case, 0:14:00.600 --> 0:14:03.200 Like I've never seen the value in having a lot 0:14:03.280 --> 0:14:05.440 of women. I used to think that was a thing 0:14:05.600 --> 0:14:07.800 growing up. When I see how certain when I didn't 0:14:07.840 --> 0:14:11.280 have like when I wasn't really having women in a sense, 0:14:11.360 --> 0:14:13.120 you know what I'm saying. I see like how my 0:14:13.240 --> 0:14:15.000 brother used to get down and you know, they be 0:14:15.080 --> 0:14:16.400 on him and all. I used to think that was 0:14:16.440 --> 0:14:18.720 a thing too. Then when you start dealing with women, 0:14:18.760 --> 0:14:22.040 you'd be like, yeah, that's not what it is, cracked up. Yeah, 0:14:22.120 --> 0:14:25.520 I'd rather just like it's it's it's complicated to just 0:14:25.680 --> 0:14:28.440 deal with one. I definitely don't want a plethora of 0:14:28.560 --> 0:14:33.320 y'all at all. That's that's almost suicidal. I think so too. 0:14:33.880 --> 0:14:39.160 I'd rather have six because at that point they only 0:14:39.200 --> 0:14:42.040 need to be a sixth of a woman, absolutely, and 0:14:42.120 --> 0:14:44.440 then you put all six together and get one whole woman. 0:14:44.720 --> 0:14:47.800 Because I like my chances on any given day in 0:14:47.920 --> 0:14:49.760 the event that on any given day I want to 0:14:49.800 --> 0:14:51.960 spend time with a girl, I have a one in 0:14:52.080 --> 0:14:54.360 sixth chance of finding one that's not being a bit 0:14:54.560 --> 0:14:59.080 that day, and I'll take that. So for me, I think, uh, 0:15:00.480 --> 0:15:04.720 I like the sacrifice part of it. I like the 0:15:04.840 --> 0:15:08.800 discipline challenges of it. It kind of creates something for 0:15:08.920 --> 0:15:14.880 me to work at every day. Um, I'm being honest, like, no, no, no, 0:15:15.000 --> 0:15:17.760 that's a that's one of great perspective and way to 0:15:17.800 --> 0:15:20.360 look at it, and it's true, like as a human being, 0:15:20.480 --> 0:15:27.680 it's like um, when I like to take things away 0:15:27.720 --> 0:15:32.320 from myself, I like to truly figure out how far 0:15:32.400 --> 0:15:36.720 I can go without things straight up, like I enjoy that. 0:15:36.920 --> 0:15:39.000 I enjoy that, And I think that's why I relate 0:15:39.080 --> 0:15:41.840 to the story of Jesus and the Bible, because I'm 0:15:41.880 --> 0:15:44.920 like the discipline of it, the challenge of it. I mean, 0:15:45.040 --> 0:15:47.720 don't get me wrong, sometimes I can my whole life. 0:15:47.720 --> 0:15:50.760 I have felt horribly at times, but the times I'm 0:15:50.840 --> 0:15:55.480 able to really mash it out and become something great, 0:15:55.520 --> 0:15:59.320 like all the times I turned down threesomes, like I've 0:15:59.360 --> 0:16:02.920 turned down three some probably twenty times. I'm not exaggerating, 0:16:03.760 --> 0:16:06.200 and I and I and I genuinely want to threesome, 0:16:06.600 --> 0:16:09.160 but I don't want it, Like it's not something I need. 0:16:09.280 --> 0:16:12.360 So instead of getting something I want, I'd rather focus 0:16:12.480 --> 0:16:16.920 on things I need. I've turned down five six MS, 0:16:17.760 --> 0:16:20.560 six and five girls at once. My home girl tried 0:16:20.600 --> 0:16:23.160 to give it to me for my birthday, and I 0:16:23.320 --> 0:16:28.160 just was like, no one man should have all this power. Man. 0:16:28.240 --> 0:16:31.880 She let's sound like a royal rumble famine. Lover boy 0:16:33.120 --> 0:16:37.560 which is the truth A six them right, that's crazy. 0:16:38.640 --> 0:16:42.960 You didn't put it together though you didn't put you 0:16:43.000 --> 0:16:45.040 didn't say what he said. Yeah he called your lover boy? 0:16:45.120 --> 0:16:49.240 Yeah yeah right. Ain't that crazy? Now? I probably would 0:16:49.280 --> 0:16:52.320 never reference myself as that, but I would. I have 0:16:52.520 --> 0:16:56.200 to believe I'm a hopeless romantic, like no matter what 0:16:56.320 --> 0:16:58.920 I've been through, I always believed in love. You're turning 0:16:58.960 --> 0:17:03.080 down six and you're helpless for real because and it's 0:17:03.120 --> 0:17:05.720 part of it is because one day I planned, right, 0:17:05.880 --> 0:17:07.480 I knew I was gonna be in a position to 0:17:07.520 --> 0:17:11.000 get married, and I don't want to walk into a 0:17:11.160 --> 0:17:15.320 marriage thinking to myself, life damn, remember that time I 0:17:15.480 --> 0:17:17.960 was with I already got to do that from girls 0:17:18.000 --> 0:17:21.600 I knocked down, right, So if the girl I'm marrying 0:17:21.720 --> 0:17:25.439 doesn't have UM, she doesn't do this, and I remember 0:17:25.520 --> 0:17:29.080 this girl did this. It's already too many comparables. I 0:17:29.160 --> 0:17:31.960 think most of the time me and getting ship in 0:17:32.040 --> 0:17:36.359 relationships because they're dealing with somebody else and immediately they 0:17:36.400 --> 0:17:38.600 start comparing the woman they're dealing with and the woman 0:17:38.680 --> 0:17:42.560 that they're dealing with on the side. Now realizing the 0:17:42.680 --> 0:17:45.520 woman on the side is only like that because you're 0:17:45.520 --> 0:17:49.240 only dealing with her in parts. She's on the side, 0:17:49.320 --> 0:17:51.320 so you're only dealing with a certain side of her, 0:17:51.480 --> 0:17:54.280 as say the backup quarterbacks always the most popular guy 0:17:54.320 --> 0:18:00.280 on the team. There you go. It's like Macaronian's cheese 0:18:00.400 --> 0:18:04.000 is a fantastic dish, but it's on the side. Now, 0:18:04.119 --> 0:18:06.800 if you lead the meal with macaroni and cheese, you 0:18:06.880 --> 0:18:09.120 gotta add a lot of other ship to it. I'm 0:18:09.160 --> 0:18:13.760 just just sustain the whole meal, you feel me, And 0:18:13.880 --> 0:18:15.760 I think people don't look at it like that, Like 0:18:16.760 --> 0:18:20.640 you don't look at it like y'all like macaronia cheese 0:18:20.720 --> 0:18:23.119 is good because it's with steak, and I get it. 0:18:23.240 --> 0:18:25.560 Sometimes maybe you can look at the macaroni and cheese 0:18:25.600 --> 0:18:28.120 and be like this better than the steak. No, it's 0:18:28.160 --> 0:18:30.480 not my friend, which is crazy because a lot of 0:18:30.560 --> 0:18:32.800 women have pride themselves on being a side chick because 0:18:32.800 --> 0:18:34.399 they would be like you ever heard a bit a 0:18:34.520 --> 0:18:37.400 woman and it's a good yeah, but you know talk 0:18:37.440 --> 0:18:39.920 about like, well, he ain't lying to me because she 0:18:40.080 --> 0:18:44.879 decide yeah, or you have the main chick supposedly feel 0:18:44.920 --> 0:18:47.320 better because she's the main chick, and I'm like, yeah, 0:18:47.400 --> 0:18:50.920 but you on the side as well. You just have 0:18:51.119 --> 0:18:52.879 this way of looking at it because I feel like, 0:18:53.119 --> 0:18:55.680 if she's the side chick, then you're just on the 0:18:55.800 --> 0:18:58.320 other side that he may just spend a lot more 0:18:58.400 --> 0:19:02.280 time with. That's kind of like I would disagree with 0:19:02.359 --> 0:19:05.720 that in this sense. And it's also why I think 0:19:05.800 --> 0:19:07.840 that a man cheating and a women cheating is different. 0:19:08.240 --> 0:19:12.000 It is for this reason. If you're the main chick, 0:19:12.760 --> 0:19:16.600 you're a majority shareholder. If you're a side chick, you're 0:19:16.600 --> 0:19:20.359 a minority shareholder. You don't have an executive vote she 0:19:21.359 --> 0:19:24.080 so you have equity. When you're the main, you got 0:19:24.160 --> 0:19:26.520 the name, you got the title, you got the joint 0:19:26.640 --> 0:19:29.320 checking account, the property and all that other stuff. All 0:19:29.359 --> 0:19:32.000 you're there to do on the side is get the nut. 0:19:33.640 --> 0:19:36.120 Even if the main no, because you've got some women 0:19:36.160 --> 0:19:38.680 that's the main though, that's aware of the side, because 0:19:38.720 --> 0:19:41.400 the same same ship. And for all that. When when 0:19:41.480 --> 0:19:43.960 the main and the side bump into each other in 0:19:44.040 --> 0:19:47.880 the grocery store, it's much more viable for the main 0:19:48.000 --> 0:19:50.440 to look down her nose at the side because you 0:19:50.520 --> 0:19:53.560 ain't doing nothing but sucking, and she's spending with the 0:19:53.640 --> 0:19:56.000 joint checking account and the side she's not gonna look 0:19:56.040 --> 0:19:58.199 down her nose. Oh yeah, well I sucked your man 0:19:58.359 --> 0:20:00.760 dick last night. Yeah. Yeah, so at the end of 0:20:00.760 --> 0:20:03.359 the day, okay, yeah yeah, which at the end of day, 0:20:03.359 --> 0:20:05.879 all the ships. It sounds crazy, but that's that's some 0:20:05.960 --> 0:20:09.240 real ship can be. Yeah, like both of you bich 0:20:09.280 --> 0:20:12.920 is just similarly like if I'm if I'm with this 0:20:13.080 --> 0:20:16.720 girl and we're together and some guy goes and fox 0:20:16.760 --> 0:20:21.240 her on the side, he has compromised my parameters. He 0:20:21.400 --> 0:20:23.200 has that on me. I don't walk back and go 0:20:23.280 --> 0:20:25.639 oh yo when she came back to me afterwards. No, 0:20:26.160 --> 0:20:29.240 he that guy has something on me. Now that's true, 0:20:30.160 --> 0:20:33.879 that's true. But but by that same standard, don't you 0:20:34.040 --> 0:20:38.480 think that um men who like call themselves players that 0:20:38.600 --> 0:20:41.600 have twenty women, don't they have to be some kind 0:20:41.600 --> 0:20:47.760 of loverboy as well? Yeah? Like, think about you know 0:20:47.920 --> 0:20:51.280 the complications of women, right, you know how complicated women are. 0:20:51.880 --> 0:20:54.040 To be able to deal with twenty of them, you 0:20:54.160 --> 0:20:58.639 have to love women, like, you have to really really 0:20:58.760 --> 0:21:02.520 love women, right, because you know the challengehip Dylan just 0:21:02.640 --> 0:21:09.800 with one woman? Yeah, And I guess it depends on 0:21:09.920 --> 0:21:12.680 the I don't know how to deal with them. So 0:21:12.800 --> 0:21:14.879 the fact that you would in the game exactly. But 0:21:15.000 --> 0:21:19.600 but what's what's unloving? Like what's unloving about having six women? 0:21:19.680 --> 0:21:21.160 When I had a bunch of women back in there 0:21:21.200 --> 0:21:25.800 for years, they were all right here, arms reached, no closer, 0:21:25.960 --> 0:21:32.240 no further. So it's different in that regard. It was 0:21:32.320 --> 0:21:36.040 just a matter of it was stupid and out of 0:21:36.119 --> 0:21:37.639 hand because I'd be like, at the time, I had 0:21:37.640 --> 0:21:39.879 a job, I'd been working, all right, I gotta go 0:21:40.000 --> 0:21:42.320 do my female correspondence real quick, and I would just 0:21:42.359 --> 0:21:44.680 go through and and like if it wasn't for text 0:21:44.720 --> 0:21:47.920 message logs, i'd forget some of them. I just would 0:21:47.920 --> 0:21:49.880 go down til I got to the last one. How's 0:21:49.880 --> 0:21:52.119 it going, how's it going to the start conversations with 0:21:53.040 --> 0:21:54.840 keep it up? Or you're doing later this week? Whoever 0:21:54.840 --> 0:21:57.560 it's free Thursdays, free Thursday. Rose Stay said, whatever, however 0:21:57.560 --> 0:22:01.200 the hell shook out and shook out, But yes, it was. 0:22:01.280 --> 0:22:04.680 It's it's cool to do superficial personality interaction and stuff 0:22:04.680 --> 0:22:06.159 all the time. One of them fall off, another one 0:22:06.240 --> 0:22:09.879 jump on. But the investment levels very low, so you 0:22:10.119 --> 0:22:12.280 you could be a lover boy whether you got multiple 0:22:12.480 --> 0:22:17.639 or just one. Yeah, right, Like, what's funny is right, 0:22:17.840 --> 0:22:21.600 um my boy, pun right pun with text like he 0:22:21.720 --> 0:22:24.080 was like, yeah, gee, I got a strategy. Like his 0:22:24.200 --> 0:22:28.200 strategy to get laid every night was so he would 0:22:28.280 --> 0:22:30.520 meet all these girls, right, and he would lock in 0:22:30.600 --> 0:22:34.040 their phone numbers, right, get their numbers. Every day he 0:22:34.040 --> 0:22:36.440 would send a mass text message before you knew it 0:22:36.560 --> 0:22:39.400 was a mass text message, would be like, good morning, beautiful, 0:22:40.119 --> 0:22:43.240