Speaker 1: If you're feeling stuck, move your body. Study show that
Speaker 1: working out naturally releases serotonin. And maybe right now you're
Speaker 1: moving your body while your mind is moving, and that's great.
Speaker 1: But if your mind is stuck, move your body. And
Speaker 1: if your body is stuck, move your mind. The number
Speaker 1: one health and wellness podcast, Jay Sheety Jay Sheddy Set. Hey, everyone,
Speaker 1: welcome back to On Purpose, the place you come to listen,
Speaker 1: learn and grow. I'm your host, Jay Sheddy, and I
Speaker 1: am so excited that you're here right now. You're investing
Speaker 1: in yourself simply by showing up, and I want you
Speaker 1: to acknowledge what a big win that is. That you're
Speaker 1: prioritizing your mindset. You're prioritizing your growth simply by checking
Speaker 1: in right now now. I'm sure that overthinking has slowed
Speaker 1: you down, has wasted time, has wasted your energy for
Speaker 1: years and years and years, and maybe you've been trying
Speaker 1: to do a bunch of different things to help it.
Speaker 1: I'm hoping that this episode is going to help you
Speaker 1: learn why overthinking may not be as bad as you
Speaker 1: think it is. I'm here also to help you with
Speaker 1: tools and habits and practices that are going to help
Speaker 1: you overcome the unhealthy sides of overthinking. I'm also going
Speaker 1: to give you some great insights on taking action and
Speaker 1: making shift and change in your life by more deeply
Speaker 1: understanding what overthinking is, how it works, and why we
Speaker 1: struggle with it so much. Remember, if you want to
Speaker 1: break through something, you have to understand why it's breaking
Speaker 1: you down. So let's dive into the research. A study
Speaker 1: of two thousand people discovered that sixty eight percent of
Speaker 1: adults admit to overthinking. Another study found that overthinking is
Speaker 1: especially problematic for young to middle aged adults. Seventy three
Speaker 1: percent of twenty three to thirty five year olds and
Speaker 1: fifty two percent of those aged forty five to fifty
Speaker 1: five overthink. Now, when you break this down further, women
Speaker 1: is significantly more likely than men to fall into overthinking
Speaker 1: and to be immobilized by it. Fifty seven percent of
Speaker 1: women and forty three percent of men claim to be overthinkers.
Speaker 1: So the first thing I want you to recognize is
Speaker 1: I always do, is you're not alone. You're not alone
Speaker 1: and the challenges so much of society has set us
Speaker 1: up to be an overthinker. Now, if you think about
Speaker 1: the kinds of things you overthink about, and I sat
Speaker 1: down with my team. I was asking some of my
Speaker 1: friends and family, and the top things that came up,
Speaker 1: the less serious ones, were things like social plants. Do
Speaker 1: I go or do I cancel? Right? How many of
Speaker 1: you have ever sat there for the whole week trying
Speaker 1: to figure it out? And you might be that person
Speaker 1: who messages last minute and says, guys, it's canceled, it's over,
Speaker 1: I'm not coming, I am coming, whatever it may be.
Speaker 1: But social plans is a big, big one when it
Speaker 1: comes to overthinking. Another one is our appearance. What are
Speaker 1: we gonna wear? How do we look? Do we really
Speaker 1: want to get that tattoo? Do we want to get
Speaker 1: that new makeup product? Right? There's all these questions around
Speaker 1: appearance that we overthink about. Now it starts to get
Speaker 1: a bit more serious here as well. You have things
Speaker 1: like leaving your job, breaking up, and notice how all
Speaker 1: of these we can all vouch for the fact that
Speaker 1: we've overthought about these things before and they seem like
Speaker 1: valid things to think about. Finances is another huge one,
Speaker 1: and then going back to the more daily ones, you've
Speaker 1: got things like social cues and exchanges. You're worried about
Speaker 1: something you said, or you're worried about something you didn't say.
Speaker 1: You're worried about how you came across in an interaction
Speaker 1: at work, and now you're worried that that person judges
Speaker 1: you or assumes something about you that you don't believe
Speaker 1: is true. Or maybe you texted someone and you didn't
Speaker 1: get the tone quite right, you didn't think it through,
Speaker 1: and now you're concerned that they think that you're not thoughtful,
Speaker 1: you're not kind, you're not caring, Or you forgot to
Speaker 1: reply someone messaged you a week ago and you completely
Speaker 1: forgot that they message you, and all of a sudden,
Speaker 1: you're worried about how you're being perceived. Notice how this
Speaker 1: scale of circumstantial to existential overthinking exists. Circumstantial are situational
Speaker 1: are things like social plans, appearances, social exchanges, emails and messaging,
Speaker 1: and then on an existential level, you have things like
Speaker 1: breaking up, leaving your job, moving country. And what we
Speaker 1: find is that it's very na and very normal to
Speaker 1: overthink about pretty much all of these things. And sometimes
Speaker 1: the smaller the decision, the more we've replayed that thought,
Speaker 1: and sometimes the bigger the decision, the more we try
Speaker 1: and avoid that thought? Right, how many times have you
Speaker 1: had it where you're just trying to avoid the fact
Speaker 1: that you may want to leave your job because it
Speaker 1: brings up too much discomfort or you know that you
Speaker 1: keep thinking over and over again about a conversation you
Speaker 1: had two weeks ago because of something you said. Now, again,
Speaker 1: you're not alone. Another study found that around forty percent
Speaker 1: of adults overthink how to get out of plans. How
Speaker 1: many of you are sitting there trying to get out
Speaker 1: of the plan right now, Here's what I'm going to
Speaker 1: ask you to do. Here's what I'm going to nudge
Speaker 1: you to do. Just make a decision and send that
Speaker 1: message and then don't look at your phone. Just make
Speaker 1: the decision. I promise you it won't make a massive
Speaker 1: difference to your life either way. Now. The same study
Speaker 1: also discovered that around a third of people worry that
Speaker 1: coworkers misinterpret their office dialogue. Right, maybe it's a joke
Speaker 1: you made, maybe it's a conversation you had. And what
Speaker 1: I would say in that scenario is it's okay to
Speaker 1: go up to someone and say, hey, I've been worried
Speaker 1: that you may have misinterpreted how I did this. I
Speaker 1: wanted to check in with how you feel about this.
Speaker 1: It's really great to over communicate when we feel we've
Speaker 1: been under effective in the past. That same study went
Speaker 1: on to say that over thirty percent of us overthink
Speaker 1: financial choices like how much to spend on a housewarming
Speaker 1: gift or how to ask someone to repay the money
Speaker 1: they borrowed. Right, how many of you have lent money
Speaker 1: to someone and then you're scared to ask for it back.
Speaker 1: It can be really perplexing to figure out when to
Speaker 1: say something, what to say, and how to say something thing,
Speaker 1: And therefore we just let it go. But then in
Speaker 1: the back of our mind, we're wondering, gosh, that person
Speaker 1: still owes me fifty dollars, twenty dollars, one hundred dollars,
Speaker 1: whatever it may be to you. And then you say
Speaker 1: things to yourself, right, we negotiate with ourself, Oh, it's
Speaker 1: not that big a deal, it's okay. But all the
Speaker 1: while we're building up a negative viewpoint of this individual,
Speaker 1: and we're feeling a bit of angst and pain internally
Speaker 1: as well. Again, in this scenario, if that's what you're
Speaker 1: going through, my advice is messes that person. They probably
Speaker 1: forgot anyway, even if it's uncomfortable for you, I promise
Speaker 1: you it will allow you to free your mind. And
Speaker 1: I think that's what we're trying to get to with overthinking,
Speaker 1: is we need to get to a place where we
Speaker 1: recognize that freeing our mind is better than the pressure
Speaker 1: that we're forcing onto our mind. Now, I was reading
Speaker 1: something from a Maha, which is a phenomenal website to
Speaker 1: do with mental health, and I read something on there
Speaker 1: about the science behind overthinking and I wanted to read
Speaker 1: it to you. So listen to this carefully from Amaha
Speaker 1: dot com. From an evolutionary standpoint, the brain functions to
Speaker 1: encourage overthinking as a means of problem solving. Have you
Speaker 1: ever thought about that for a second? Evolutionary standpoints suggest
Speaker 1: that our brain functions to encourage overthinking. Brain chemicals like dopamine, adrenaline, serotonin,
Speaker 1: and cortisol participate in initiating and sustaining these cyclical loops
Speaker 1: of thoughts. Simply put, dopamine is a chemical associated with
Speaker 1: rewarded motivation, so actually reflecting and pondering can be really
Speaker 1: really effective. Now, Adrenaline is a stimulator, Amaha says, Serotonin
Speaker 1: is the feel good hormone and mood regulator, and quartisol
Speaker 1: is the stress hormone. Dopamine promotes the notion of problem
Speaker 1: solving and hence initiates the loop in an effort to
Speaker 1: reward the brain. When you're striving to solve the problem,
Speaker 1: adrenaline is released as a source of energy and you
Speaker 1: become pumped. The mind loop is augmented by serotonin as
Speaker 1: new options are emerging. Now, when the loop produces no
Speaker 1: effects or solutions, serotonin is blocked and cortisol is released.
Speaker 1: Cortisol causes a stress response, and unhealthy rumination is brought
Speaker 1: on by this. So notice how we're actually being encouraged
Speaker 1: problem solve, But when we can't think of a solution,
Speaker 1: that's when serotonin is blocked, and that's when stress begins. Now,
Speaker 1: I'm going to be talking to you in this episode
Speaker 1: about how to actually make sure you get to some solutions,
Speaker 1: So stay with me. Going back to Amaha, it goes
Speaker 1: on to say that overthinking may present as rumination about
Speaker 1: the past anxiety about the future. Two groups of neural
Speaker 1: networks in the brain play an important role in regulating experience.
Speaker 1: The default mode network DMN and the direct experience network DN.
Speaker 1: When our attention wanders while we're engaged in a routine task,
Speaker 1: the default network is activated. It engages in brooding, imagining,
Speaker 1: and planning. It tends to shift thoughts or consider experiences
Speaker 1: or reflections from the past or future. When you're not
Speaker 1: considering the past or the future, the direct experience network
Speaker 1: is active when you're completely mindful of the present moment.
Speaker 1: You're living in the now, for instance, when you feel
Speaker 1: the water striking you in the shower or the bristles
Speaker 1: of your toothbrush on your teeth. So here's point one.
Speaker 1: I don't want you to see overthinking as all that bad.
Speaker 1: I think there's a part of us that's built a
Speaker 1: negative relationship with overthinking. We see ourselves as, Oh, I'm
Speaker 1: an overthinker, I'm a procrastinator, I'm someone who's just always
Speaker 1: stuck in my head. We have this negative belief system.
Speaker 1: We don't look at it as a problem solving approach.
Speaker 1: We look at it as an anti problem solving approach. Right.
Speaker 1: We think overthinking is wasting time, is ruining our options,
Speaker 1: is letting us down, rather than actually going a couple
Speaker 1: of steps back and recognizing, actually, if I see overthinking
Speaker 1: as problem solving, then maybe I'll actually have the opportunity
Speaker 1: to overcome the problem. Now, it is true that excessive
Speaker 1: rumination or worry can have a negative impact on us.
Speaker 1: So as much as we don't want to go that
Speaker 1: far on one side, we don't want to be at
Speaker 1: the other extreme where we're trying to come up with
Speaker 1: decisions and make decisions immediately. Right, So, you don't want
Speaker 1: to go from making no decision to making a decision
Speaker 1: so fast that you haven't had time to think about it,
Speaker 1: where you're not rewarding yourself. So why do we struggle
Speaker 1: with problem solving. One of the biggest reasons we struggle
Speaker 1: with problem solving is we're not exposed to enough insight
Speaker 1: around that topic. Right. So, let's say you're someone who's
Speaker 1: struggling with saying no to social plans. There's a great
Speaker 1: book called The Art of Saying No by Damon Zahariadis
Speaker 1: I hope I'm saying that name right. But the reason
Speaker 1: why I'm recommending this book is I promise you that
Speaker 1: if you were to dive into that book over a weekend,
Speaker 1: you're actually going to strengthen your skill in saying no. Now,
Speaker 1: that's the challenge right with social plans. We don't recognize
Speaker 1: that learning to say no is a muscle. Learning to
Speaker 1: say no is a skill. Learning to say no is
Speaker 1: a habit, And because we don't have the skill set,
Speaker 1: we can't get to a solution quick enough. We think
Speaker 1: that there's some issue in our mind, there's some emotional reason,
Speaker 1: but we haven't really given it the time of day.
Speaker 1: And so developing the muscle, developing the skill set allows
Speaker 1: you to be able to say no. Another reason we
Speaker 1: see overthinking is bad and not as problem solving is
Speaker 1: because we haven't strengthened our ability to problem solve. So
Speaker 1: let's say you are struggling with whether you should stay
Speaker 1: in your current job or not. A good problem solving
Speaker 1: tactic would be to say, okay, well, if I stay
Speaker 1: here for the next five years, what will my life
Speaker 1: look like? And if I leave? Worst case scenario? What
Speaker 1: will my life look like? If I stay here, what's
Speaker 1: best case and worst case? If I leave, what's best
Speaker 1: case and worst case. Notice how a problem solving paradigm,
Speaker 1: a problem solving methodology, adds structure, and that's what we're
Speaker 1: really looking for. Overthinking is no structure. Problem solving is
Speaker 1: structured and So as soon as you start to add
Speaker 1: structures and systems to the way you reflect, the way
Speaker 1: you ponder, the way you think, you switch from overthinking
Speaker 1: to problem solving. And that's what I'd encourage you to do.
Speaker 1: So that's the first step. Don't see overthinking as this
Speaker 1: negative bad thing, see it as a way of moving
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Speaker 1: the Power of Small Wins looked at small wins in
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Speaker 1: thousand diary entries, and what they found was that while
Speaker 1: most of the progress was categorized as minor steps forward,
Speaker 1: these small winds produced outsized positive reactions. Here are some
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Speaker 1: thanked me for a productive offside meeting. Some of the
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Speaker 1: Second step, don't ask too many people for their opinion.
Speaker 1: One of the biggest mistakes we make today is we
Speaker 1: go on to that What's thread, We go on to
Speaker 1: our SMS chat, we go into our group chat, and
Speaker 1: we ask everyone what they think we should do. Right.
Speaker 1: Should I date this guy? Should I quit my job?
Speaker 1: Do I think this party's worth it? Do I like
Speaker 1: what I'm wearing here? Now? The truth is everyone's got
Speaker 1: a different opinion, and now you're stuck with a bunch
Speaker 1: of different opinions, and now you're dealing with the other
Speaker 1: overthinking of well, if I listen to them and I
Speaker 1: don't listen to them, but then they see me at
Speaker 1: the party, they're going to think that I listen to
Speaker 1: them and not them, and they already know that I
Speaker 1: don't really agree with that person on everything. But then
Speaker 1: it's going to write like we've all been there. Now
Speaker 1: we're overthinking about something we already overthought about, So what
Speaker 1: do we do instead? There are four types of people
Speaker 1: in your life. The first is someone that you go
Speaker 1: to because they care about you. For me, this is
Speaker 1: my mom. If I'm thinking about my health, if I'm
Speaker 1: thinking about my wellbeing, the person I go to for
Speaker 1: advice apart from is my mom. She doesn't care whether
Speaker 1: I've done a talk at this amazing place. She doesn't
Speaker 1: care who my latest guest on the podcast is. She
Speaker 1: cares if I've drunk enough water, eaten my meals on time,
Speaker 1: and had enough sleep. So if I want someone to
Speaker 1: give me advice from a personal perspective, I'm going to
Speaker 1: go to the people that care about me. Now, if
Speaker 1: I'm going to ask my mom a question about something else,
Speaker 1: she may not have the right answer. She may tell
Speaker 1: me to not fly across halfway across the world for
Speaker 1: something amazing for the pod right, And so from a
Speaker 1: care point of view, she's spot on. Now I have
Speaker 1: someone else in my life for people that are competent
Speaker 1: at certain things. Now, my mom is competent in a
Speaker 1: lot of areas, But there's a lot of area She's
Speaker 1: not the person who's the most competent. So if I'm
Speaker 1: asking for advice on let's say you're asked let's say
Speaker 1: you're asking for advice on your taxes, in your accounts.
Speaker 1: Let's say you're asking for advice on what to wear.
Speaker 1: How many terms have you asked someone and then go,
Speaker 1: I don't like what they wear anyway. It's like you're
Speaker 1: asking someone who you don't believe is competent in the
Speaker 1: area of your question, but you still ask them, and
Speaker 1: now you're overthinking it. Focus on asking people who are
Speaker 1: competent and skilled in the area that you're struggling in,
Speaker 1: not everyone in every area. If you're thinking about quitting
Speaker 1: your job, if you speak to your friend who is
Speaker 1: not going to quit their job, chances are they're going
Speaker 1: to struggle to give you good advice. You want to
Speaker 1: speak to someone who has quit their job about the
Speaker 1: challenges of it, about the greatness of it, about why
Speaker 1: they quit their job. Go to someone who's had that experience.
Speaker 1: The third type of person in your life is someone
Speaker 1: who's consistently been there. I think these are the people
Speaker 1: that you reach out to when you're reflecting on yourself,
Speaker 1: when you're reflecting on your qualities, your characteristics, your abilities.
Speaker 1: Someone who's been there in your side for a long time,
Speaker 1: they may have some good notes to share. And the
Speaker 1: fourth person in your life is someone who's high character.
Speaker 1: Maybe you've got a moral question, maybe you've got a
Speaker 1: question about faith, spirituality, religion, Maybe you've got a question
Speaker 1: about you know, a dilemma that you are having morally
Speaker 1: or ethically. You have someone of character in your life.
Speaker 1: So think about your overthinking in terms of who is
Speaker 1: the best person who is best placed to actually help
Speaker 1: me solve this versus how many people do I know
Speaker 1: that I could possibly ask to try and almost do
Speaker 1: an audience reaction, Right, you're almost trying to get a Well,
Speaker 1: seven people think this and three people think this, But
Speaker 1: actually I trust the three people's opinion more than the
Speaker 1: seven people. Focus on care, competence, consistency, and character. The
Speaker 1: third thing I think a lot of us overthink because
Speaker 1: we are trying to respond in alarm mode or alert mode.
Speaker 1: So you get an email that you're worried about responding to,
Speaker 1: but you're trying to respond to it while you're worried, Right,
Speaker 1: you get a message, and now you're in anxiety trying
Speaker 1: to figure out what to respond because you're trying to
Speaker 1: respond while you're alarmed. It's so important to step away,
Speaker 1: to find stillness, to find peace. So you respond from
Speaker 1: a place of peace. If you respond from a place
Speaker 1: of peace, chances are what you put out there will
Speaker 1: be much more steady, will be much more stable, and
Speaker 1: will probably feel more aligned than if you just reacted.
Speaker 1: Don't respond from a place of being alarmed or alerted now,
Speaker 1: step number four. Often it can feel like your mind's
Speaker 1: just stuck. We just talked about how quartzole gets released.
Speaker 1: Serotonin is blocked, right, you're feeling stuck, and so if
Speaker 1: you're feeling stuck, move your body. Move your body when
Speaker 1: your mind feel stuck. Studies show that working out naturally
Speaker 1: releases serotonin. So move your body when your mind is stuck.
Speaker 1: I want you to remember that. And maybe right now
Speaker 1: you're moving your body while your mind is moving, and
Speaker 1: that's great, But if your mind is stuck, move your body.
Speaker 1: And if your body is stuck, move your mind. I
Speaker 1: want you to remember this. If your mind is stuck,
Speaker 1: move your body, And if your body is stuck, move
Speaker 1: your mind. When we change our mindset, we can change
Speaker 1: our physicality, and when we change our physicality, we can
Speaker 1: change our mindset. They both work together. The problem is
Speaker 1: when we're stuck in our mind, we're putting all our
Speaker 1: energy into changing our mind, or when we're feeling stuck
Speaker 1: in our body, we're putting all of our energy into
Speaker 1: changing our body. We have to realize we have to
Speaker 1: use the alternate one to actually make a shift. Now,
Speaker 1: number five, this one's huge. This one's a really really
Speaker 1: important one. It's so important that we focus on the
Speaker 1: good things and have gratitude for the little things, and
Speaker 1: we recognize the power of small wins. A lot of
Speaker 1: us overthink because we don't give ourselves the credit of
Speaker 1: the little progress we're making, the power of the small
Speaker 1: steps in the right direction. Maybe last year you would
Speaker 1: have spent a month responding and overthinking figuring out if
Speaker 1: you want to go to an event, and this time
Speaker 1: you spent a week. That's progress. Maybe last year you
Speaker 1: would have overthought a decision for a month, but this
Speaker 1: time you've made a decision in three days. We have
Speaker 1: to be grateful for the little things in our life.
Speaker 1: The reason we overthink is because we're concerned we're going
Speaker 1: to miss out. We're concerned that someone's going to think
Speaker 1: something of us, we're missing out, and being specific about
Speaker 1: gratitude we're missing out, and being specific about how the
Speaker 1: gratitude and thankfulness for the little things can reduce our overthinking.
Speaker 1: We start to go, Okay, well, I know that what
Speaker 1: I said was I'm perfect, but my intention was right. Okay.
Speaker 1: I know that I should have probably said no earlier,
Speaker 1: but I had the courage to do it anyway. Honoring
Speaker 1: those moments recognizing progress are so powerful. Now, this is
Speaker 1: probably one of my favorite ones too. A lot of
Speaker 1: the time, when our mind is stuck, we need to
Speaker 1: feel movement, and I find that writing, doodling, and painting
Speaker 1: can be brilliant. Now. I was reading a Harvard Research
Speaker 1: health blog from Shrinny Pill, and in that he talks
Speaker 1: about how spontaneous drawings may also relieve psychological distress, making
Speaker 1: it easier to attend to things. Shriny Pill says we
Speaker 1: like to make sense of our lives by making up
Speaker 1: coherent stories, but sometimes there are gaps that cannot be
Speaker 1: filled no matter how hard we try. He goes on
Speaker 1: to say, doodles fill these gaps, possibly by activating the
Speaker 1: brain's time travel machine, allowing it to find lost puzzle
Speaker 1: pieces of memories, bringing them to the present, and making
Speaker 1: the picture of our lives more whole again. With this
Speaker 1: greater sense of self and meaning, we may be able
Speaker 1: to feel more relaxed and concentrate more. This blog goes
Speaker 1: on to say that although doodles may look like a scribble,
Speaker 1: random words that make no sense, or a partial face
Speaker 1: that suddenly becomes something extraterrestrial, they're not quite as random
Speaker 1: as we might think. Dr Robert Burns, the former director
Speaker 1: of the Institute for Human Development at the University of Seattle,
Speaker 1: uses do to diagnose the emotional problems of its patients.
Speaker 1: He believes that doodles can reveal what is going on
Speaker 1: in the unconscious. He asserts that in the same way
Speaker 1: that eg leads transmit brain activity to a piece of paper,
Speaker 1: your hand also does the same. Many other doodle researchers
Speaker 1: would agree. Now, I was blown away by this because
Speaker 1: maybe you're one of those people who when you're on
Speaker 1: the phone, you're doodling. Right when you're messaging in between people,
Speaker 1: maybe you're writing things down. I think one of the
Speaker 1: reasons why journaling has taken off. So much to help
Speaker 1: with overdrinking is it's getting out of your head and
Speaker 1: onto a page, even if it doesn't make sense, even
Speaker 1: if it's lots of random things. I encourage you to
Speaker 1: get out of your head and onto a page. Now.
Speaker 1: One of the reasons why we overthink a lot is
Speaker 1: we're living too digitally. And my encouragement here is go
Speaker 1: back to analog. We are literally processing seventy four gigabytes
Speaker 1: of information a day now. You may be thinking, Jay,
Speaker 1: that doesn't sound like a lot. Well, remember a few
Speaker 1: years ago that would have been the size of your
Speaker 1: hard drive. Right. We were happy when one gig was
Speaker 1: a memory card. Now we're talking about seventy four gigs
Speaker 1: a day now. Just to give you a sense of
Speaker 1: what that is, that's sixteen movies. Can you imagine processing
Speaker 1: sixteen movies per day? Storylines, characters, emotions, energy, thoughts. I mean,
Speaker 1: it is so much sixteen movies a day. Go back
Speaker 1: to being analog. I've been practicing this new thing where
Speaker 1: when I'm at work, I'm putting my phone away and
Speaker 1: I'm simply obviously I'm on my laptop and I've disconnected
Speaker 1: my SMSs and my WhatsApp from my laptop, so I
Speaker 1: can't check it, and I found that just not having
Speaker 1: that level of seventy four gigabytes coming at me in
Speaker 1: a strong way. Imagine back in the day, you drove
Speaker 1: down a road and you saw a billboard. Now you're
Speaker 1: seeing billboards every three seconds on your phone. Like, just
Speaker 1: think about that for a second. How much it's changed.
Speaker 1: So we're asking our brains, in our minds to over consume.
Speaker 1: We're overexposed, overwhelmed, no wonder, we're overthinking. Go back to analog,
Speaker 1: Go back to analog, Hona, Thank you so much for
Speaker 1: listening to today. I'm so grateful that we've got to
Speaker 1: spend this time together. I hope that these seven steps
Speaker 1: make a huge difference to you, and I hope that
Speaker 1: you find your path to recognizing that overthinking can help
Speaker 1: you problem solve. That overthinking will be reduced when we
Speaker 1: start celebrating the small wins, the small steps, and being
Speaker 1: grateful for the progress, and recognizing at the end of
Speaker 1: the day that it is natural we're not alone if
Speaker 1: we're overthinkings, and that we're living in a world that
Speaker 1: encourages overthinking, but we can make better decisions. Thank you,
Speaker 1: for listening. Remember I am always in your corner and
Speaker 1: I'm forever rooting for you. Thank you. If you love
Speaker 1: this episode, you'll enjoy my interview with doctor Julie Smith
Speaker 1: on unblocking negative emotions and how to embrace difficult feelings.
Speaker 1: You've just got to be motivated every day, and if
Speaker 1: you're not, then what are you doing? And actually humans
Speaker 1: don't work that way. Motivation. You have to treat it
Speaker 1: like any other emotion. Some days it will be there,
Speaker 1: some days it won't