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Speaker 1: welcome back to On Purpose, the place you come to listen,

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Speaker 1: am so excited that you're here right now. You're investing

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Speaker 1: prioritizing your mindset. You're prioritizing your growth simply by checking

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Speaker 1: in right now now. I'm sure that overthinking has slowed

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Speaker 1: So we're asking our brains, in our minds to over consume.

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Speaker 1: We're overexposed, overwhelmed, no wonder, we're overthinking. Go back to analog,

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Speaker 1: Go back to analog, Hona, Thank you so much for

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Speaker 1: spend this time together. I hope that these seven steps

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Speaker 1: you find your path to recognizing that overthinking can help

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Speaker 1: you problem solve. That overthinking will be reduced when we

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Speaker 1: start celebrating the small wins, the small steps, and being

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Speaker 1: we're overthinkings, and that we're living in a world that

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Speaker 1: encourages overthinking, but we can make better decisions. Thank you,

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Speaker 1: for listening. Remember I am always in your corner and

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Speaker 1: I'm forever rooting for you. Thank you. If you love

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Speaker 1: this episode, you'll enjoy my interview with doctor Julie Smith

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Speaker 1: on unblocking negative emotions and how to embrace difficult feelings.

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Speaker 1: You've just got to be motivated every day, and if

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Speaker 1: you're not, then what are you doing? And actually humans

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Speaker 1: don't work that way. Motivation. You have to treat it

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Speaker 1: like any other emotion. Some days it will be there,

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Speaker 1: some days it won't