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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: You could be the one whose letter we're reading right now.

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Speaker 1: That's what I'm trying to say. You never buckle love

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Speaker 1: and hold on tight. We got it for you here

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Speaker 1: it is this straw very letter. All right, thank you, nephew.

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Speaker 1: Subject me my husband, the girlfriend and the kids. Woo

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Speaker 1: all right, let's get into this one. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I am forty two. I'm a forty two year old

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Speaker 1: married woman and I've been married for four years. I

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Speaker 1: have two children from my first marriage, and he came

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Speaker 1: with four children from his first marriage. A month ago,

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Speaker 1: we celebrated our fourth wedding anniversary, and I found out

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Speaker 1: been married, as long as we've been married. She called

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Speaker 1: him early on the morning of our anniversary, and I

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Speaker 1: answered since he was putting out the trash. The number

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Speaker 1: one of his co workers. It was a woman on

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Speaker 1: the phone and she said, good morning, babe. What time

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Speaker 1: will you be here? I responded, and she was startled

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Speaker 1: to hear my voice, but she called me by my name.

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Speaker 1: She said it was her daughter's third birthday, and I

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Speaker 1: asked whose daughter. She poured out her heart to me

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Speaker 1: and said she has two children by my husband, a

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Speaker 1: sounded familiar, and I asked her real name, and she said,

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Speaker 1: we go to the same hairstylist, but we have never met.

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Speaker 1: I told her to wait till my husband came back

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Speaker 1: in so he could clear things up. I had her

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Speaker 1: own speakerphone, and he was shocked to walk in and

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Speaker 1: father of her children, and he said yes, he's done

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Speaker 1: two d an a test to prove it. He sat

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Speaker 1: from me. We cried together, and he asked me to

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Speaker 1: forgive him. Since that day, I've met as other two kids,

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Speaker 1: which gives us a total of eight children. D has

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Speaker 1: planned to move away for a while and asked us

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Speaker 1: to keep the kids. I'm barely dealing with the affair

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Speaker 1: and now I have to raise his outside children. My

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Speaker 1: husband keeps saying he chose to marry me and not her.

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Speaker 1: What do I do in this situation? Please help? Okay,

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Speaker 1: first of all, you say no, okay, no, you're not

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Speaker 1: taking care of anyone's kids. This woman has a lot

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Speaker 1: of her mind. I'm thinking because she can keep her

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Speaker 1: own kids. I know she didn't think you would be

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Speaker 1: babysitting the kids when she was sleeping with your husband.

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Speaker 1: You think just because you forgave him doesn't mean you

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Speaker 1: have to stay with him. So what you guys cried together?

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Speaker 1: What else could he do in that moment? Okay? What

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Speaker 1: else could he do? He was busted? Yeah, cry, that's good.

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Speaker 1: Let's go there, and um, don't you you know, look,

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Speaker 1: don't you go feeling all sorry for your husband and

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Speaker 1: you know, getting soft on him. He cheated on you.

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Speaker 1: He cheated. Uh. Inside, he was probably praying you didn't

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Speaker 1: kill him in his sleep when he when you guys

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Speaker 1: were crying together, And that's why he cried. That's that's

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Speaker 1: why he cried. He was scared. Okay, he made not one,

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Speaker 1: maybe in ecstasy. Uh, stop feeling like you have to

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Speaker 1: do something. You've asked us, what do you do? Uh?

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Speaker 1: He said? He chose to marry you, Okay, he also

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Speaker 1: who goes to the same stylist as you, so you

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Speaker 1: know she knows all about you, your husband, the girlfriend,

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Speaker 1: and the kids. The girlfriend doesn't need to go anywhere

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Speaker 1: talking about she needs to move away for a little while. No,

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Speaker 1: you make her stay right here and deal with her

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Speaker 1: subject me, my husband, the girlfriend, and the kids. This

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Speaker 1: letter should read like I said in the promo, me,

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Speaker 1: my husband, the girlfriend, and the kids. The police, the hospital,

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Speaker 1: need to be in this letter. This lady's forty two,

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Speaker 1: that means you all don't have any children together, right?

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Speaker 1: and the fourth you celebrate your fourth and and you

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Speaker 1: as y'all been married. Now here's what happened. She called

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Speaker 1: the phone, why because he was putting out the trash.

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Speaker 1: what time would you be here? What? And I responded

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Speaker 1: that she was startled to hear your voice. But she

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Speaker 1: when she poured out a heart. Now let's stop right here.

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Speaker 1: You didn't had this man, didn't had an affair three

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Speaker 1: years ago, which was mean that the baby was they

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Speaker 1: and they had this baby on the same day as

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Speaker 1: your anniversion. That's ironic, man. And so now he asked her,

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Speaker 1: good morning, babe, what time will you be coming by here?

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Speaker 1: Now I don't know how he was gone played a

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Speaker 1: birthday and the anniversary, God do exactly now she expecting

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Speaker 1: him over the Hey, babe, what time will you be here?

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Speaker 1: What he fin to tell his wife on anniversary that

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Speaker 1: this is ugly. When we come back, he gets ugly up. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we'll have her. Two of Steve's response coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour, subject me, my husband,

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Speaker 1: right after this. You're listening, all right, let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: strawberry letters. Steve of the subject to me, my husband,

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Speaker 1: the girlfriend, and the kids. Yeah, this lady's married to

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Speaker 1: this man for four years. Come to find out he

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Speaker 1: She has a three year old by him, and on

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Speaker 1: one year old. We don't even got to the one

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Speaker 1: picked up the phone because it was listed under Damien.

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Speaker 1: She has to the phone and say good morning, babe,

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Speaker 1: what time will you be here? And then the lady

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Speaker 1: She poured out a heart to me. She has two

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Speaker 1: play this birthday in the anniversary. Lord Jesus, I wish

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Speaker 1: you to put that in this letter. Her voice sounded familiar,

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Speaker 1: and I asked her her real name, and she said,

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Speaker 1: we go to the same hairstyles, but we've never met.

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Speaker 1: Now she's fully aware of you. You haven't been aware

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Speaker 1: undoubtedly this woman is doubting that this woman got the

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Speaker 1: right man you tell about y'all got a baby. I

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Speaker 1: m aden explosion. I mean, his whole brain liquified and

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Speaker 1: This was his brain sounded like when he walked into

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Speaker 1: having a riot. He didn't know what it was that

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Speaker 1: got to say yes, yes, and he's done two DNA

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Speaker 1: And then we cried. I together cares. I wouldn't have

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Speaker 1: and he asked me to forgive him. Well, now a

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Speaker 1: asked me to forgive him too. Since that day I

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Speaker 1: to keep your kids? What what? What D going? D?

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Speaker 1: D sounds like she finn to go get a fresh start.

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Speaker 1: She stress, D find to get some of this stress

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Speaker 1: y'all keep these kids from me because I need to

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Speaker 1: hell is a wild You're gonna see your sister for

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Speaker 1: a week and you coming back? What the hell is

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Speaker 1: a while? I'm barely dealing with the affair, and now

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Speaker 1: I have to raise his outside children. No, you don't.

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Speaker 1: the break exactly D did D did the D Now

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Speaker 1: she get the breaks. My husband keeps saying he chose

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Speaker 1: You can't tell. Yeah, I would rather you married her

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Speaker 1: make that decision. But no, you married me. Got me

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Speaker 1: have no blame in this. My question you is are

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Speaker 1: sound like you planning on doing that now. I've been

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