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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen. If you

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Speaker 1: hold on tight. We got it for you here. It

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Speaker 1: is Strawberry Letter. Subject the ladies at the church love me.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I am an ordained minister and I've

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Speaker 1: been a pastor at my church for thirteen years. I've

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Speaker 1: been married three times, so I'm singled by choice. Now.

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Speaker 1: The church had a problem at first with a nice

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Speaker 1: month ago, and that's snowballed into an all out investigation

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Speaker 1: because I handle them with TLC, and I'm good at

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Speaker 1: what I do. I have repented for cheating on my wives,

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Speaker 1: and that's why I will never get married again. I

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Speaker 1: have a problem now though. The ladies in the church

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Speaker 1: are coming at me in alarming numbers. I have notes

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Speaker 1: I don't check my email myself, so they're getting to

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Speaker 1: me by any means necessary. So I have turned to

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Speaker 1: you for advice on what to do with my social

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Speaker 1: life now that I'm single and not trying to be

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Speaker 1: in a scandal. At my age, I do still have needs,

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Speaker 1: and so many of the ladies are in great physical shape.

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Speaker 1: They say they just need counseling. But I'm not good

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Speaker 1: my mind is moving toward doing wrong. I often wonder

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Speaker 1: it the idea of me? How can I resist these temptations?

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Speaker 1: You heard it, You heard it, and I got to

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Speaker 1: ask you, mister minister, why are you a preacher, a

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Speaker 1: man of God, asking Steve and I about what to

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Speaker 1: do about temptation? Why did you rus? You, sir, are

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Speaker 1: a pastor of thirteen years? Is right here in your letter,

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Speaker 1: so you know way more, way more about this subject

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Speaker 1: say you know right from wrong. You set it right

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Speaker 1: here in your letter too, But I get it. Knowing

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Speaker 1: what to do and actually doing it are two entirely

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Speaker 1: different situations. We all fall short. I get that. But

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Speaker 1: you know the Bible says flee from the very appearance

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Speaker 1: You you already know the word pastor, but you know

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Speaker 1: ain't got none of that for him? But wait, but

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Speaker 1: what is this letter really about? Though? That's what we

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Speaker 1: want to get to. I think it's to you know,

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Speaker 1: take a moment to tell us how sexy and fine

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Speaker 1: you are or something like that. You know, all these

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Speaker 1: at what you do. We don't care about that The

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Speaker 1: problem is you, mister, married and divorced three times because

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Speaker 1: your behavior. The only thing you plan to do differently now,

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Speaker 1: What you really need to do, mister pastor, mister minister

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Speaker 1: of thirteen years, sit down, humble yourself, and try to

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Speaker 1: the subject is the ladies at the church loved you.

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Speaker 1: My question is what Shirley proposed a little earlier. What

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Speaker 1: But don't don't come over here with too much because

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Speaker 1: That's the ritual to go through. Yeah, because he was

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Speaker 1: He's what I'm saying, ordained a call. Maybe that's a difference.

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Speaker 1: Oh I see now, oh see. It didn't pop right

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Speaker 1: pimp here we go then, And I say pimp with

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Speaker 1: everything in me because that's what I'm reading. Dog. I'm

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Speaker 1: not reading a letter from a pastor now, Pardner. I

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Speaker 1: gotta just be real. What you you call the wrong dude,

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Speaker 1: I'm finn to read your letter when we come back,

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Speaker 1: my exact feelings on it. Now, Pastor, this letter is

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Speaker 1: man to man. You know, I know, so I don't

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna talk to you real regular now, So when

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Speaker 1: I know, I'm pastoral behavior in him. So why we

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Speaker 1: got to talk as past all right? Cool? All right,

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Speaker 1: right place, all right, we'll have part two of Steve's

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Speaker 1: Subject for today the ladies at the church love me.

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Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening

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Speaker 1: string show. All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: strawberry letter. The subject is the ladies at church love me.

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Speaker 1: Love Let's go. So now let's go through left. Don't

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Speaker 1: leave nothing now, Steve Stephen Sherlly. I'm an ordained minister.

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Speaker 1: I guess that's different from being called I guess I've

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Speaker 1: So there's other talk about these women didn't bother to

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Speaker 1: So let's scrap that you're good at what you do.

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Speaker 1: I see y'all through this letter. Man. I got a

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Speaker 1: What yes, pass So this is all about your sexual gratification.

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Speaker 1: That's all this is about, dude. They say they just

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Speaker 1: Have you ever thought about this? Dog? Maybe you ain't

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Speaker 1: Maybe you ain't passed the material. If you can't comfort

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Speaker 1: And then the next thing, you know, if you were called,

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Speaker 1: Can't nobody getting no confident? Can't nobody getting no counseling?

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Speaker 1: You can't get mad no more. You're repented from cheating.

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