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Speaker 1: Subject Why it's my man so childish? Why, Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I'm too old to be playing games with my husband.

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Speaker 1: He's sixty and I'm fifty eight years old. He's a

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Speaker 1: coach and loves to line dance, so he usually he's

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Speaker 1: tally at a game or down at the lounge for

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Speaker 1: a dance I used to dance with him, but I

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Speaker 1: injured my knee, so I get to enjoy my quiet

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Speaker 1: time when he's gone. Because he's a handful. He just

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Speaker 1: started being a jokester lately, and he acts like he

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Speaker 1: was raised by wolves. Now. He undresses and leaves his

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Speaker 1: clothes right in front of the dirty clothes bin instead

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Speaker 1: of putting them in it. He will not do anything

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Speaker 1: around the house unless it benefits him. If he needs

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Speaker 1: to soak his old bones after dancing, he'll wash the tub.

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Speaker 1: If he wants to eat a certain thing for dinner,

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Speaker 1: he goes and gets it without offering me anything. He

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Speaker 1: leaves a drop of milk, juice, mayo, or whatever it

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Speaker 1: is and puts it back in the refrigerator. I realized

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Speaker 1: that he reverted to his childhood after our last son

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Speaker 1: moved out. In addition to cleaning up behind him, I

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Speaker 1: have to deal with the other childish stuff he does.

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Speaker 1: He falls asleep with gum in his mouth and has

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Speaker 1: gotten all over his pillow, in our bed, and on

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Speaker 1: the cushions of our sofa. He has at least eight

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Speaker 1: different types of cereal just for him. If we're making love,

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Speaker 1: he'll crack jokes at the worst times. He faked a

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Speaker 1: Charlie horse once and had me panicking thinking I had

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Speaker 1: hurt him during sex. So now I'm reluctant to be

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Speaker 1: intimate with his silly behind. When he's driving, he likes

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Speaker 1: to hit the brake and then the accelerator so he

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Speaker 1: can laugh at my head bobbing back and forth. I

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Speaker 1: swear this man is on my last nerve with his childishness.

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Speaker 1: His football team loves him because he's youthful and fun

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Speaker 1: to be around, but it's too much for me at

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Speaker 1: the house. How can I get my husband to change

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Speaker 1: his childish ways? Ooh, what is your man doing? Is

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Speaker 1: what's happening? Who has time for all of this? I mean,

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Speaker 1: we're really grown up in here, we really are. And yes,

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Speaker 1: the things he's doing are very child He's doing the

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Speaker 1: kind of stuff that can truly get on your lad's nerve.

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Speaker 1: And it must have something to do with him hanging

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Speaker 1: out with the young football team and getting caught up

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Speaker 1: with them, you know, maybe that's what they do, and

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Speaker 1: he started thinking he's one of them. He's old enough

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Speaker 1: to be their grandfather at sixty years old, and he's

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Speaker 1: pranking you during sex. Wow, and the stopping and going

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Speaker 1: while driving. Lord, have mercy, you didn't tell us what

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Speaker 1: it was like before, you know, he started doing all this,

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Speaker 1: But I'm assuming it was the polar opposite of this.

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Speaker 1: Maybe not, you know, but I'm assuming it was the

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Speaker 1: polar opposite because you're just complaining about it now. So, um,

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Speaker 1: he knows what to do. I mean, he's he's just

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Speaker 1: not doing it anymore. Maybe he thinks his youth is

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Speaker 1: fleeting and it's you know, he wants to try and

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Speaker 1: keep infusing that into his life. Since he's around the kids.

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Speaker 1: They like him, they think he's fun, they think, you know,

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Speaker 1: he's one of them. Probably, but I think it's time

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Speaker 1: that he needs to stop it, and he needs to

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Speaker 1: stop it now. It's not a twenty year old, so

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Speaker 1: please quit acting like it. I mean, he could pull

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Speaker 1: that stuff with the kids, but you're way too grown

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Speaker 1: for his shenanigans now, and you gotta let him know that.

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Speaker 1: I really hope for you that your knee heels, so

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Speaker 1: you guys can get back to doing what you used

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Speaker 1: to do, going out dancing and having fun. Maybe that

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Speaker 1: will help steve this marriage is over. Yeah, I'm not

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Speaker 1: gonna try to say this, right, Hell, yeah, I think

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Speaker 1: you should leave him, you know, you know, you know,

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Speaker 1: sometimes man, I don't really she don't want a divorce. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's why I'm suggesting a divorce because obviously it's not

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Speaker 1: entered her mind, because she wants me to help her

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Speaker 1: get her husband to change his child. This way, if

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Speaker 1: you just look at the stuff he's doing this child now,

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Speaker 1: taking the clothes off in front of hamping, leaving them now,

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Speaker 1: I don't know if there's childless. That's just trifling. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Then he don't do nothing around the house unless it

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Speaker 1: I can't understand you. But if he needs to soak

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Speaker 1: his old bones after dancing, he'll wash the tub. If

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Speaker 1: he wants to eat a certain thing for dinner, he

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Speaker 1: go get it without offering me nothing. This dude, right Hill, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he leaves a corner of milk in the cotton. He

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Speaker 1: drank all the damn kool aid, ain't but a sipper juice,

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Speaker 1: and ain't no mayonnaids down there, but at the bottom.

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Speaker 1: We get in trouble for that as kids. And then

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Speaker 1: he put it back in refrigerator, and you realize all

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Speaker 1: this after your son moved out now into now also

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Speaker 1: be in a dish to clean it up after him.

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Speaker 1: Here's what she says, I gotta deal with other childish

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Speaker 1: stuff he does. He fall assleep with gum in his mouth,

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Speaker 1: and he get all over his pillow bed and on

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Speaker 1: the cushions on the sofa. Damn dog. So when you

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Speaker 1: when the gum fall out your mouth, you roll in it.

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Speaker 1: It stick to your face and then you roll to

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Speaker 1: the other side. You don't live with a child, You

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Speaker 1: live with a faux legged animal. This ain't gotta to

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Speaker 1: do with your childhood. What I'll have more? Oh, oh,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna get to that right there, yes, please, all right,

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Speaker 1: all right, we'll have part two of Steve's response to

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Speaker 1: this strawberry letter coming up at twenty three minutes after

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Speaker 1: the hour. The subject today is why is my man

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Speaker 1: so childish? We'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening show, all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap

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Speaker 1: today's strawberry letter. I know you don't like this one.

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Speaker 1: I don't either, but she needs help this woman does.

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Speaker 1: The subject is why is my man so childish? Well,

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Speaker 1: he's sixty. She's fifty eight here, coach, and he loved

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Speaker 1: a line dance, So he's usually at a game or

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Speaker 1: down at the lounge for a dance. The line dance

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Speaker 1: could be the electric side slap second line in this

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Speaker 1: New Orleans. Okay, So he could be anywhere now, Okay,

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Speaker 1: So it don't matter. He's sixty. If he wanted to

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Speaker 1: see the certain thing for dinner, he'll go get it.

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Speaker 1: Don't offer me nothing. He leave a corner milk juice,

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Speaker 1: mayo and thee and whatever there and put it back

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Speaker 1: in Refederate. He did all this when he reverted direct

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Speaker 1: to his childhood after your last son moved out. Then

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Speaker 1: she's mad because she got to deal with the other

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Speaker 1: childish stuff he does. Let's go. He fall asleep with

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Speaker 1: gum in his mouth, and he's getting all over the

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Speaker 1: So what I said before break is he choose the

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Speaker 1: gum and falls out of his mouth. He rolled in it,

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Speaker 1: He gets stuck on his face. He rolled to the

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Speaker 1: other side. Now he getting caught up any gum like

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Speaker 1: a spider will. Now gum is everywhere. Okay. Then she

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Speaker 1: says he has at least eight different types of cereal

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Speaker 1: just for him, So listen. He got sugar Crisp, definitely,

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Speaker 1: he got cap'n crunch Uh, apple jacks, fruit loops. All

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Speaker 1: these is really kid ass seal because he liked colors,

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Speaker 1: apple jack, fruit loop tricks. Trick for sure. Cuckoo has

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Speaker 1: that one. He got Lucky Charms. He got count chocolate.

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Speaker 1: That's a baby ass seal and one I'll be damned

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Speaker 1: fruity pebble hell full blown baby. Now, all the different

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Speaker 1: colored rocks in my bowl, I ain't never wanted that.

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Speaker 1: I couldn't stay in there. I always been a cheery

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Speaker 1: old man myself, a lot of cheery old and wheatings

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Speaker 1: because I thought wheaties was gonna change for my life.

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Speaker 1: I actually ate wheaties because I thought they would get

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Speaker 1: me on the box. I didn't make the box, but

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Speaker 1: I did get on TV. Look at God. God would

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Speaker 1: do exceedingly and abundantly over all you think I had here.

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Speaker 1: I wanted on a seal box, and he put me

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Speaker 1: on TV. Looking God, Now, let's get down to it.

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Speaker 1: If we're making love, he'll crack jokes at the worst time.

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Speaker 1: What in the world is this food doing. Yeah, knock,

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Speaker 1: that's when you're down peppermint, peppermint? Who peppermint stick? This

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Speaker 1: is not knock knock. Fish? Who's there? Fishhoohoo? Long John

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Speaker 1: silver anyway? Stupid? Yeah, now he said he could have

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Speaker 1: gone right here. When he's driving, he likes to hit

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Speaker 1: at my head, bob back and forth. I'll wait till

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Speaker 1: you drag a coffin that boy. Let me tell you something.

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Speaker 1: If I knew that, if I did that, the magic,

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Speaker 1: I can't even play. I should look at me like

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Speaker 1: I lost my damn mind? Are you playing? But he

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Speaker 1: laughing though it you get anyway? I swear this man

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Speaker 1: is on my last nerve with his childis football team

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Speaker 1: loves him because he's youthfully fun to be around. But

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Speaker 1: it's too much for me at the house. How could

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Speaker 1: I get my husband to change his ways? Divorce? It's

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Speaker 1: childish way. This is divorce. There's no hope for it.

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Speaker 1: You don't think, well, you know he's on her nerves. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and that's what the problem means. And when you sixty

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Speaker 1: and people on your nerves, it's worse because now you're

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Speaker 1: dating this this is not a good letter to me.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what to tell the shell. I don't

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Speaker 1: even have energy for this letter. I just don't, just

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Speaker 1: because you don't it's really anything you want to ask

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Speaker 1: me about the letter, Shelley, that I might be able

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Speaker 1: to respond, because I really don't. Well, okay, because I

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Speaker 1: did suggest that, um, you know, hopefully her knee will

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Speaker 1: heal quickly, maybe her going back to the club with him,

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Speaker 1: and then I want to go down clearly says it,

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Speaker 1: clearly says in the letter. Though I heard my knee,

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Speaker 1: so I can't. But I'm enjoying my quiet out him

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Speaker 1: because she can't stand him right now, because he's so childish,

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Speaker 1: right so she show ain't going down here the line dance,

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Speaker 1: he down there, putting their pants down, everything because he stupid.

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Speaker 1: He got that dumb ass sense of human Yes, this

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Speaker 1: is he's acting like a kid. I mean, I don't

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Speaker 1: know what would make a man do this, a grown man,

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Speaker 1: a sixty year old, unless he's trying to recapture his youth. Well,

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Speaker 1: this ain't leave him. Wow, we get paid, we don't

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Speaker 1: do this. Yeah, they pay us to be stupid, and

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Speaker 1: we don't do this. Yeah, I just don't think she

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Speaker 1: wants to leave it. But see, I don't know what

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Speaker 1: to tell you. When you got a stupid man, you

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Speaker 1: just in bad shape. Yeah. Yeah, you can have a

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Speaker 1: stupid son, but you can't have a stupid husband. Though.

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Speaker 1: It's like having a stupid son married to the sixty

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Speaker 1: year old man. All right, listen, um, Please leave your

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Speaker 1: up next, it is Sports Talk with Junior. Right after this,

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Speaker 1: you're listening to this Dave Harvey Morning Show