WEBVTT - FULL SHOW: The Fighting Styles 0:00:00.680 --> 0:00:03.400 From Hollywood. See you. Thank you for listening to us 0:00:05.519 --> 0:00:12.240 on air with a Ryan Seacrest. Good morning and happy 0:00:12.560 --> 0:00:16.440 Saint Patrick's Day. You know how to stay happy in Irish? Happy, 0:00:17.320 --> 0:00:21.239 Happy triesday. It's a Friday. This is how holiday should fall. 0:00:21.640 --> 0:00:26.080 Valentine's Day on a Friday, Saint Patrick's Day on a Friday. Nice, 0:00:26.520 --> 0:00:29.520 it's your life. Fourth, I'd like to work with Alan. Yeah, 0:00:29.680 --> 0:00:34.199 my birthday on a Friday, Halloween on a Friday, on 0:00:34.240 --> 0:00:39.760 a Friday. So, Tanya, you asked me, did I notice something? Yeah? 0:00:39.800 --> 0:00:44.199 I'm just curious. Did I notice something? In what world? 0:00:44.400 --> 0:00:47.080 I know what she's asking because I can see you 0:00:47.280 --> 0:00:51.440 notice her mind the notice I do. I do see it. 0:00:51.520 --> 0:00:53.600 I see it. I do see it. Well, the fact 0:00:53.600 --> 0:00:55.480 that you're looking at her and you're saying you see it, 0:00:55.520 --> 0:00:56.960 you don't see it, don't see it. She had her 0:00:56.960 --> 0:00:59.600 eyebrows threaded. No, you don't see it. I haven't touched 0:00:59.640 --> 0:01:02.800 my eye and since twenty yeah, that's not threaded eyebrow. 0:01:04.560 --> 0:01:07.479 That's great. A lot of people thread them. Thank you. So, 0:01:07.760 --> 0:01:11.040 m have I noticed anything? Let me should look around. 0:01:12.040 --> 0:01:14.800 If you haven't noticed it by now, well hold on, 0:01:14.880 --> 0:01:21.240 I just got here. It just more impatient than I 0:01:21.240 --> 0:01:28.480 am these days. That's almost impossible. True. Ah, I know 0:01:30.840 --> 0:01:38.400 you're looking at me like my face, dinner, my flies 0:01:38.400 --> 0:01:44.600 on done? I don't know. I know, look at your 0:01:44.640 --> 0:01:49.200 prep Oh I didn't look at that yet. No, gosh, 0:01:49.720 --> 0:01:53.880 what prep see right when you said it was Saint 0:01:53.920 --> 0:01:56.080 Patrick's as she said, do you notice something? And that 0:01:56.160 --> 0:02:00.120 was it? Okay? I mean, but you're made excited about 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:04.120 the prep sheet. Yeah, because it's green for Saint Patrick's day, 0:02:04.320 --> 0:02:07.440 except it's white. Mine didn't go green. Yeah, mine didn't 0:02:07.480 --> 0:02:10.440 go green either. We're out of tone or Tanya printed 0:02:10.520 --> 0:02:13.799 in black? Yeah, black and white like every other day 0:02:13.919 --> 0:02:17.400 on the SHL. Yeah, nice job. Maybe you verify that 0:02:17.400 --> 0:02:20.560 they got printed in place green green on my screen? 0:02:20.639 --> 0:02:23.120 I know, because you didn't print. We printed, and the 0:02:23.160 --> 0:02:25.240 printer is out of toner, so it's printed in black 0:02:25.280 --> 0:02:27.160 and white right now. Oh my gosh, I'm living in 0:02:27.240 --> 0:02:31.000 green goddess land over here. That was such a bummer anyway, 0:02:31.880 --> 0:02:34.320 I was all about a green piece of paper. Yeah, 0:02:34.360 --> 0:02:37.920 it's cute, festive fun um. But no, Sisney, how did 0:02:37.960 --> 0:02:40.080 you know that? Because I knew that she wasn't going 0:02:40.120 --> 0:02:44.079 to be excited about it. I just know the things 0:02:44.080 --> 0:02:51.359 that excite doesn't take much. True, Hey, and this is 0:02:51.400 --> 0:02:55.680 what excites your soft my glasses, my shamrock glasses at home. 0:02:56.840 --> 0:02:59.040 But you came through with one green sheet for yourself. 0:02:59.120 --> 0:03:01.400 Didn't you get all the ten? You have the rest 0:03:01.400 --> 0:03:04.280 of the day to weary? Why's a toner rot? Let's 0:03:04.280 --> 0:03:06.239 talk about who's not putting the toner back? I don't know, 0:03:06.320 --> 0:03:09.600 but it's been out all week and kind of ruined 0:03:09.919 --> 0:03:12.639 this big moment for one t rad kind of did 0:03:13.040 --> 0:03:17.359 Toner Steelers? Yeah, there's no way to celebrate Sa Patti's day. No, 0:03:17.960 --> 0:03:21.720 all right, so let's see. It's like, notice something or 0:03:21.800 --> 0:03:24.760 something someone says, where we met before? Like I don't know, 0:03:25.040 --> 0:03:27.639 I don't know. I don't know. What's my name? I 0:03:27.760 --> 0:03:29.880 don't know. Worse, when they're like, yeah, we've met before, 0:03:29.919 --> 0:03:33.280 and what's my name? What's my name? It's like the 0:03:33.400 --> 0:03:35.920 same thing you just did. Knows anything different? No, it's 0:03:35.920 --> 0:03:38.680 anything different. I'm like, usually has to do with a 0:03:38.720 --> 0:03:41.440 haircut or something. Didn't say notice anything different? I said, 0:03:41.520 --> 0:03:44.120 did you notice something? Right? In my head? I heard that, 0:03:44.120 --> 0:03:45.640 and usually has to do is something that we've done 0:03:45.640 --> 0:03:48.600 to our body. Right, generally speaking, nine times out of 0:03:48.640 --> 0:03:50.800 ten it's a hairstyle or a threading. But I feel 0:03:50.840 --> 0:03:53.000 really good about my eyebrows now, thank you. Yeah, they 0:03:53.160 --> 0:03:55.480 look like they I mean, I'm not saying they look bold. 0:03:56.520 --> 0:03:58.080 Don't you think you have bold eyebrows? Both of you 0:03:58.160 --> 0:04:02.600 have bold eyebrows? Yeah? Anks, Happy Saint Patty's Day? All right? 0:04:05.400 --> 0:04:08.120 All right, let's see Megan Trainer and Chris Jenner are 0:04:08.200 --> 0:04:11.160 in a music video. I love this music video and 0:04:11.240 --> 0:04:14.320 I love this pretty great and the message pretty great 0:04:14.600 --> 0:04:17.479 lyrics pretty great. So we're gonna have both the stars 0:04:17.520 --> 0:04:21.960 that music video coming up, Chris Jenner and Meghan Trainer 0:04:22.040 --> 0:04:25.720 together here this morning. It is Saint Patti's Day. Do 0:04:25.800 --> 0:04:28.680 you have any plants for Saint Patrick's Day? Just the 0:04:28.839 --> 0:04:32.080 kids they're having like a little party at school, picked 0:04:32.120 --> 0:04:34.520 them up. I kind of forgot it was gonna be 0:04:34.520 --> 0:04:38.160 Saint Patrick's Day. Now I'm thinking about what to do. 0:04:38.320 --> 0:04:40.000 But it is a Friday. It makes it more fun. 0:04:40.120 --> 0:04:43.560 I'm not drinking beer right now, so green beer. I'm 0:04:43.560 --> 0:04:45.520 trying not that beer because I'm gonna take my shirt 0:04:45.560 --> 0:04:52.680 off soon. It's Friday, and he gets it. He gets 0:04:52.760 --> 0:04:56.800 jiggy with it on Friday. Oh No, that's what lights 0:04:56.839 --> 0:05:00.040 for that. Oh, just like a little dim hallway. But 0:05:00.160 --> 0:05:02.480 at least I don't do it in the hallway. No, 0:05:02.600 --> 0:05:04.520 you have the hallway light on, so it brings in 0:05:04.600 --> 0:05:07.080 a little dimness into the bedroom. I don't like it. 0:05:07.160 --> 0:05:10.640 I like an even it's black. No, an even ambient 0:05:10.720 --> 0:05:14.320 dim it's like hands. Okay, So why are you taking 0:05:14.360 --> 0:05:19.240 out for shut because summer's coming? Okay, yeah, I get 0:05:19.279 --> 0:05:22.920 that outside I know, but that's the thing. Gotta get 0:05:22.960 --> 0:05:25.280 a jump on it. I know. It really creeps up. 0:05:25.560 --> 0:05:28.080 I know what you mean. I'm freaking out about it too, 0:05:28.120 --> 0:05:30.200 because I'm gonna be going somewhere for my birthday where 0:05:30.200 --> 0:05:31.480 I'm gonna be in a banson and I'm like, oh, 0:05:31.720 --> 0:05:33.080 I'm gonna be here in two weeks. It's all I 0:05:33.160 --> 0:05:35.760 think about. Yeah, and now I'm like panicking. Yeah, well 0:05:35.800 --> 0:05:39.920 that's why I'm not well. Yeah, beer in general, I 0:05:40.080 --> 0:05:42.120 like it, though every one a while when I'm doing 0:05:42.839 --> 0:05:46.800 I do too, excuse me. I like to have when 0:05:46.839 --> 0:05:52.039 I have salt phone case music that phonecase with this music. 0:05:52.240 --> 0:05:54.920 When I like when I eat salty food. I do 0:05:55.160 --> 0:05:56.880 like beer. What kind of beer? Where did you go 0:05:56.960 --> 0:05:59.520 to beer? Okay? I can believe you. You don't need 0:05:59.560 --> 0:06:05.320 to call somebody Hello, Hey, could you say I'm on 0:06:05.400 --> 0:06:09.040 the air. Could you just say something? Um, Sisney and 0:06:09.080 --> 0:06:11.360 tiny don't think I like beer? Do I like beer? 0:06:12.600 --> 0:06:18.039 Deer exactly exact beer beer beer? Do I like beer? 0:06:19.080 --> 0:06:23.840 He likes Mexican beer specifically, Okay, okay, can buy what's 0:06:23.839 --> 0:06:26.520 your favorite Mexican beer? What do you say? And then 0:06:26.560 --> 0:06:29.560 you move on. He loves the ceremony of one great beer. Yeah, 0:06:33.000 --> 0:06:36.480 I love her. She's so funny. I like a ceremony 0:06:36.520 --> 0:06:38.599 of one great copier. I get out of the ocean 0:06:39.400 --> 0:06:43.000 like a scene out of Dumblow seven. And I don't 0:06:43.040 --> 0:06:47.880 read for a cold beer in the face a pict shirt. 0:06:48.000 --> 0:06:51.000 Now I'm sucking a cold beer right there for ceremony. 0:06:54.200 --> 0:06:56.640 You and Snoop Dogg and do a commercial for Corona. 0:06:57.320 --> 0:07:00.520 He inspires me, Man, that guy is a pitch what 0:07:01.960 --> 0:07:04.640 I want to buy sketchers? Now, totally. The guy could 0:07:04.680 --> 0:07:07.400 pitch everything on TV and I'm in. I know. That's 0:07:07.440 --> 0:07:11.120 how alex Earl is for me. Huh, that's how Alex 0:07:11.200 --> 0:07:17.880 Earl is for me. Who It's like the biggest girl 0:07:17.960 --> 0:07:22.120 on TikTok right now? What is she pitching anything. Anything 0:07:22.200 --> 0:07:27.600 she puts on. I want anything, uh, makeup products, like 0:07:27.680 --> 0:07:31.080 a new mascara. She'll eat stuff, She'll get stuff from 0:07:31.520 --> 0:07:33.920 like random fast food places that we don't even have 0:07:34.040 --> 0:07:35.960 here that I want to try. And she's the one 0:07:35.960 --> 0:07:39.800 that got you into sound bathing. No she's not. But 0:07:39.920 --> 0:07:42.000 are you sound bathing? You are? Aren't you? And you 0:07:42.080 --> 0:07:44.000 took one? I went to my first sound bath. Have 0:07:44.120 --> 0:07:46.680 you ever been to one? Now? To me, in my head, 0:07:46.880 --> 0:07:49.679 I think it's a bath of water with music playing. 0:07:50.520 --> 0:07:53.720 There's no water, you're just laying on the ground. You 0:07:53.800 --> 0:07:57.280 lay on a yoga mat and it's different sounds. So 0:07:57.360 --> 0:08:03.320 there's like an instructor and correct, yeah, are they hitting bells? 0:08:03.640 --> 0:08:09.240 There's like bowls and the hurricanes you put a candle in. Yes, 0:08:09.520 --> 0:08:12.360 And then there's like this, I have one. You have 0:08:12.600 --> 0:08:14.800 one of these? I do? I don't know how to 0:08:14.920 --> 0:08:17.360 use it. Well, my brother, his ex girlfriend was really 0:08:17.360 --> 0:08:19.200 into these, and so she gave the whole family their 0:08:19.240 --> 0:08:25.960 own sound bowls. Um, you know, not really, I can't 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:28.679 really like focus and the house can never get quiet 0:08:28.800 --> 0:08:31.080 enough to really do a whole How did you feel 0:08:31.080 --> 0:08:34.520 the money? Well, so here's the thing. The whole it 0:08:34.600 --> 0:08:37.720 was seventy five minute sound bath right. The first thirty 0:08:37.800 --> 0:08:41.920 minutes I had to peece so bad, but I was like, 0:08:42.040 --> 0:08:43.760 I don't want to be the girl that gets up 0:08:43.800 --> 0:08:45.920 in the middle of class and she rubs every room 0:08:45.920 --> 0:08:48.760 and like, here's the toilet flushing, and everybody's like awake 0:08:48.840 --> 0:08:51.120 because I had to use the bathroom. So for the 0:08:51.160 --> 0:08:53.199 first thirty minutes, I was focusing on how much my 0:08:53.240 --> 0:08:55.560 bladder hurt? Am I gonna get a uti? Like all 0:08:55.600 --> 0:09:00.600 these thoughts. So it's very unrelaxing. Yeah, wokes, these sounds 0:09:00.720 --> 0:09:02.840 make me have to peek. And there's an ocean one 0:09:02.920 --> 0:09:04.920 too that kind of like sounds like the ocean right 0:09:05.360 --> 0:09:08.800 inspires the irrigation. Yeah, So then I eventually did get 0:09:08.880 --> 0:09:10.959 up and I went to the restroom. So for the 0:09:11.080 --> 0:09:13.680 last half of it, I was in like a total 0:09:14.800 --> 0:09:17.800 zen space. Can I make a suggestion, never book a 0:09:17.880 --> 0:09:21.120 seventy five minute anything. I do the thirty five and 0:09:21.280 --> 0:09:23.079 you don't have to have any of these issues, But 0:09:23.160 --> 0:09:25.480 it's supposed to put you it's like a different type 0:09:25.520 --> 0:09:29.680 of like I don't meditate hardly ever, and it's supposed 0:09:29.679 --> 0:09:32.720 to put you in a different type of like meditative state. 0:09:34.160 --> 0:09:40.040 I do feel like I was totally relaxed after it. Hey, yeah, 0:09:40.880 --> 0:09:45.719 like all these better than meditating with nothing. Yeah, I 0:09:45.720 --> 0:09:48.360 can't do that. That's the worst, just here in my head. Yeah, 0:09:48.880 --> 0:09:51.559 anything to get rid of those voices. Yeah, well you 0:09:51.640 --> 0:09:55.960 look refreshed. Thank you for doing together. No, you don't 0:09:56.040 --> 0:09:59.160 sound bathe with your colleagues, your clothes, you have clothes on. 0:10:00.440 --> 0:10:05.400 I want to be alone. I'll do it. Okay, thank you. Great, 0:10:05.960 --> 0:10:09.240 that's all coming next m it, get your warning act 0:10:09.320 --> 0:10:10.880 and a quote of the day. Now if you have 0:10:10.920 --> 0:10:12.839 a hangover tomorrow from Saint Patty's Day, quick way to 0:10:12.840 --> 0:10:15.600 get rid of it. Jay Shetty is coming back on today. 0:10:15.640 --> 0:10:20.280 Eight Rules of Love and uh, he's great. He's great. 0:10:20.720 --> 0:10:24.400 So we're gonna, doney, what a perfect idea talking about 0:10:25.720 --> 0:10:28.000 how you fight, how you argue with your partner, the 0:10:28.080 --> 0:10:30.199 styles and what you do it and how to compromise, 0:10:30.320 --> 0:10:32.439 because I mean, no one wants to do it, but 0:10:32.520 --> 0:10:34.199 you also don't want to give up, right, and you 0:10:34.280 --> 0:10:36.160 also want to make sure that they realize you're right. 0:10:36.200 --> 0:10:38.320 But all that's bad, bad, bad, So I guess he's 0:10:38.360 --> 0:10:41.439 gonna help us understand what our fighting styles are to 0:10:41.559 --> 0:10:45.240 make our relationships better. I feel like you're you're What 0:10:45.360 --> 0:10:48.360 do you do if you and the misses have an argument? 0:10:48.400 --> 0:10:50.880 What do you do? I like to avoid it. I'm 0:10:50.920 --> 0:10:55.160 not confrontational. Thank you, and I could live forever. There's 0:10:55.160 --> 0:11:00.439 a type you guys get along so great. Yeah, he's not. 0:11:01.320 --> 0:11:05.200 You're gonna talk. Not really. We're about tomorrow. I'm traveling. 0:11:08.400 --> 0:11:11.800 I don't like it. Fix it? Okay, fine, Yai, yai. 0:11:12.160 --> 0:11:14.040 All right, let's go the morning hack. If you wake 0:11:14.080 --> 0:11:16.880 up to our with D hangover, here's what you do, guys. Simple, Ready, 0:11:17.080 --> 0:11:19.360 put your face in a bowl of ice water ten 0:11:19.440 --> 0:11:22.240 to fifteen seconds, repeat three times. We were just talking 0:11:22.280 --> 0:11:23.960 about this. I know. That's why I brought it up. 0:11:25.200 --> 0:11:27.640 Today's quote you can't make someone love you by giving 0:11:27.720 --> 0:11:32.880 them more of what they already don't appreciate. Its headlines 0:11:32.960 --> 0:11:38.440 with well. 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How 0:13:20.200 --> 0:13:22.200 to find it, keep it and let it go. It's 0:13:22.200 --> 0:13:24.480 a great book to keep by your bed, just to like, 0:13:25.040 --> 0:13:28.320 you know, refer to but Jay. So it's like segment 0:13:28.360 --> 0:13:30.920 two with Jay a day later and we were talking 0:13:31.040 --> 0:13:36.880 about the Intimacy Pyramid yesterday the day we should start, Sysney, 0:13:37.120 --> 0:13:41.080 you brought this up about fighting styles between couples. Sysney, 0:13:41.200 --> 0:13:44.240 how would you describe the fighting dynamic between you and 0:13:44.320 --> 0:13:47.439 your husband? Well, we've been married for nine and a 0:13:47.480 --> 0:13:51.560 half years and together for gosh thirteen going on fourteen years, 0:13:51.800 --> 0:13:56.719 and we're both pretty stubborn. I would say I take 0:13:56.760 --> 0:13:59.720 the reins of more being more stubborn, and it's very 0:13:59.760 --> 0:14:03.839 difficult for me to apologize first. He always apologizes first, 0:14:04.000 --> 0:14:06.559 and that's kind of the style I guess when it 0:14:06.600 --> 0:14:11.320 comes to our fighting. To give you the cliff notes, 0:14:12.559 --> 0:14:14.640 so yeah, I don't know when it comes to are 0:14:14.679 --> 0:14:17.319 there different types of styles? Can we be better? Like? 0:14:17.440 --> 0:14:21.360 What is your take? Yeah? Absolutely absolutely, I love what 0:14:21.440 --> 0:14:23.840 you just said there. It's it's It's amazing the patterns 0:14:23.920 --> 0:14:27.280 we get into right over over long relationships. And when 0:14:27.320 --> 0:14:30.960 I first started dating my now wife and we'd argue, 0:14:30.960 --> 0:14:32.600 and obviously we still argue, but when we used to 0:14:32.680 --> 0:14:35.440 argue before, I used to be the person who wanted 0:14:35.480 --> 0:14:37.760 to solve it and fix it right now. That's like 0:14:38.080 --> 0:14:40.280 I wanted to figure it all out right now, and 0:14:40.480 --> 0:14:42.600 my wife didn't want. Well, at that time, my girlfriend 0:14:42.680 --> 0:14:44.640 didn't want to talk to me for two days, right 0:14:44.880 --> 0:14:47.640 and that's me. She wanted to think about it. And 0:14:47.840 --> 0:14:49.880 that's at the start of our relationship. I used to 0:14:49.920 --> 0:14:52.280 be like, well, I care because I'm standing here. You 0:14:52.400 --> 0:14:55.600 must not care because you're not here, you're walking away. 0:14:56.000 --> 0:14:58.160 And I used to take that quite personally and think, Wow, 0:14:58.200 --> 0:15:00.440 you just don't care about this relationship. And if you 0:15:00.560 --> 0:15:02.520 asked her, she would say, Jay, I do care about 0:15:02.560 --> 0:15:04.760 the relationship. That's why I need space. That's why I 0:15:04.840 --> 0:15:07.480 need time, because I want to be reflective about what 0:15:07.600 --> 0:15:09.880 I say to you. And that's when I discovered that 0:15:09.960 --> 0:15:13.200 there were these three fight styles. I'm the venor, which 0:15:13.240 --> 0:15:15.200 means I want to talk about it, fix it, and 0:15:15.320 --> 0:15:18.560 solve it right now. My wife's the hider. She needs time. 0:15:18.640 --> 0:15:20.960 And space to think about it. And then there's a 0:15:21.040 --> 0:15:24.120 third one called the exploder, which is where the person 0:15:24.240 --> 0:15:27.320 wants their emotions to be heard, felt and seen. Now, 0:15:27.400 --> 0:15:29.120 none of these are good or bad, and none of 0:15:29.160 --> 0:15:31.760 them are bounded by gender. We can all be any 0:15:31.840 --> 0:15:34.720 of them. But what happens is now that you're aware, 0:15:35.280 --> 0:15:37.760 you actually don't take it personally and you can actually 0:15:37.880 --> 0:15:40.880 respond more effectively. So now when I want to talk 0:15:40.880 --> 0:15:43.320 about it now, when we fight now after ten years 0:15:43.360 --> 0:15:45.640 of being together, and I want to fight about it now, 0:15:45.960 --> 0:15:48.520 and my wife wants to wait two days, we meet 0:15:48.600 --> 0:15:50.480 somewhere in the middle at like twelve to twenty four 0:15:50.520 --> 0:15:52.680 hours and then that way I don't have to be 0:15:52.760 --> 0:15:55.080 too patient, she has enough time to think about it. 0:15:55.200 --> 0:15:58.240 But you know, the Gottman Institute did this research where 0:15:58.240 --> 0:16:01.280 they found that the number but one skill of a 0:16:01.360 --> 0:16:04.760 healthy relationship was not date nights. It wasn't gift it 0:16:04.880 --> 0:16:08.920 wasn't vacations, it wasn't anniversaries. It was learning how to fight. 0:16:09.600 --> 0:16:12.440 And I think a lot of people underestimate just how 0:16:12.560 --> 0:16:15.280 much you're going to argue, discuss and debate in a relationship. 0:16:15.600 --> 0:16:19.600 And of course, barring any toxic, very unhealthy behavior. These 0:16:19.640 --> 0:16:22.640 tools can be really really useful teaching. You sort of 0:16:22.760 --> 0:16:25.240 categorize them because I'm thinking, okay, well, what am I right? 0:16:25.360 --> 0:16:28.160 What I am? So? I used to be a that 0:16:28.320 --> 0:16:31.880 I'm very impatient, like I need I need to like 0:16:32.240 --> 0:16:36.440 what's wrong, let's do it now. I'm that right. However, 0:16:37.120 --> 0:16:40.720 recently I've been the guy like, let's sleep on it 0:16:40.720 --> 0:16:43.120 and talk tomorrow. Yeah, but I think I'm hoping it 0:16:43.200 --> 0:16:47.920 goes away. I'm hoping it just dissipates by them. So 0:16:48.120 --> 0:16:50.440 I kind of a kind of a hybrid of those 0:16:50.520 --> 0:16:53.520 two working for me. Yeah, that makes a lot of sense. 0:16:53.560 --> 0:16:55.440 Then if we have a test inside the book as 0:16:55.480 --> 0:16:57.960 well that people can go to online and figure it 0:16:58.000 --> 0:17:00.480 out there fight, So I love a test, Ty, did 0:17:00.480 --> 0:17:03.080 you take the test? And what are ye know? I'm 0:17:03.120 --> 0:17:05.760 the vendor, I know whatever Robby and I fight, I'm like, 0:17:05.880 --> 0:17:07.240 I want to do it right now, figured it out. 0:17:07.320 --> 0:17:09.639 Let's a ton of for sure a vendor. Yeah, and 0:17:09.840 --> 0:17:12.240 Robbie is the hider. He needs time and space. And 0:17:12.320 --> 0:17:14.240 I used to take it personal too. I was like, 0:17:14.320 --> 0:17:16.040 you you just want to be away for me? And 0:17:16.080 --> 0:17:18.120 it's like not that at all. So it was very 0:17:18.280 --> 0:17:21.240 That chapter was very interesting to me. Now we also 0:17:21.359 --> 0:17:23.160 fight on this show. How do you recommend we get 0:17:23.200 --> 0:17:25.359 through our day here? That's just time when Tiny and 0:17:25.440 --> 0:17:27.320 I have gone into arguments, it's the same way, Like 0:17:27.480 --> 0:17:29.080 I don't want to talk and she wants to sit 0:17:29.160 --> 0:17:30.720 down and go to lunch and talk it out, and 0:17:30.760 --> 0:17:32.920 I'm just like she wants to fill out a workbook 0:17:33.000 --> 0:17:36.160 and then review her answers over lunch. The same thing. 0:17:36.520 --> 0:17:44.240 We don't even eat lunching. Yea, it really does apply. 0:17:45.080 --> 0:17:47.000 All right, Well, listen more on this eight rules of Love. 0:17:47.119 --> 0:17:49.520 Jay Shetty, thank you so much for coming on his podcast. 0:17:49.600 --> 0:17:52.439 It's called on Purpose wherever you get your podcast pleasure bro? 0:17:52.600 --> 0:17:54.760 Thank you? Yeah, I wonder so much, So grateful for 0:17:54.800 --> 0:17:59.120 your time and energy and wonderful meeting you. Jay, Thank 0:17:59.160 --> 0:18:06.640 you so much. I he's incredible. You would I kind 0:18:06.680 --> 0:18:09.879 of I have a like a bro crush. I know. 0:18:10.400 --> 0:18:12.800 I can't believe he came back the next day. When 0:18:12.880 --> 0:18:14.280 have I ever invited someone to come back to what 0:18:14.600 --> 0:18:20.280 I was? Interesting? All right? So I'm gonna say it again, 0:18:21.520 --> 0:18:26.159 You're ready Sistani for me, for me, for me, for me. 0:18:28.000 --> 0:18:37.040 This is the best Taylor Swift album ever. I I 0:18:37.200 --> 0:18:40.120 kind of agree with you too. It's got more smash. 0:18:40.240 --> 0:18:42.960 It's on it to me for me and the style 0:18:43.040 --> 0:18:45.960 in which I like than all the others which were 0:18:46.080 --> 0:18:52.840 and the music videos are incredible as well. Well. This tour, 0:18:53.760 --> 0:18:57.200 hold on, do you want to respond to us? Is 0:18:57.280 --> 0:18:59.640 the best Taylor album of all time? I am responding 0:18:59.680 --> 0:19:03.640 to that because this tour the era's tour. She's going 0:19:03.720 --> 0:19:06.160 to be taking you through all of her different eras, 0:19:06.200 --> 0:19:10.760 so it's not necessarily just on this album Midnight's right, 0:19:11.080 --> 0:19:13.760 It's gonna be all of them. Actually that she hasn't 0:19:13.800 --> 0:19:17.879 toured her last one, two, three, four, five, six albums. 0:19:17.960 --> 0:19:20.440 She's gonna be playing the hits. I just think it's 0:19:20.480 --> 0:19:23.080 so fascinating to think about the fact how many alums 0:19:23.119 --> 0:19:27.800 she had. Well, this is Midnights is the is ten, 0:19:28.240 --> 0:19:31.160 but she's re releasing so like we just got Fearless 0:19:31.160 --> 0:19:34.680 Taylor's version and read Taylor's version, I'd say like ten, 0:19:34.880 --> 0:19:37.400 all right, so ten albums, right, you would think odd 0:19:37.480 --> 0:19:40.080 of ten albums, there can't be a best after all 0:19:40.160 --> 0:19:43.639 those albums there is for me? Right, like you think 0:19:43.720 --> 0:19:48.400 she would have like eight would be the best? Right, Well, 0:19:48.400 --> 0:19:50.280 I guess that makes sense. She keeps getting better and better. 0:19:50.760 --> 0:19:53.800 And it's the style I like. It's a style she's yeah, 0:19:53.840 --> 0:19:55.600 she's roll growing up. I don't know, I love it. 0:19:56.280 --> 0:19:58.000 I don't know. Is it more relatable now to us? 0:19:58.240 --> 0:20:00.240 Is it more just the sounds and the MU music 0:20:00.320 --> 0:20:05.120 and like the melodies. Yeah, and she's just give zero 0:20:05.280 --> 0:20:07.320 you know what. I'm more of like a nineteen eighty 0:20:07.400 --> 0:20:11.400 nine folklore reputation gal myself, but to each other. That's 0:20:11.640 --> 0:20:13.240 that's why I knew it would be controversial for a 0:20:13.320 --> 0:20:17.480 mention that um Well, the mayor of Glendale, Arizona, announced 0:20:17.520 --> 0:20:19.920 that the city would be officially changing its name to 0:20:20.000 --> 0:20:23.200 honor the fact that Miss Taylor Swift herself was kicking 0:20:23.240 --> 0:20:26.480 off her Eira's tour right there, and fans were pitching 0:20:26.520 --> 0:20:29.120 different ideas like swift Dale, which I thought was cute, 0:20:29.440 --> 0:20:35.639 Arizona cute, But the city didn't make the announcement that Glendale, 0:20:35.680 --> 0:20:38.879 Arizona would be changing its name to Swift City, Arizona 0:20:39.040 --> 0:20:42.480 for this weekend. That so, I'm really jealous of people 0:20:42.520 --> 0:20:44.159 that are going to Opening ninety the show. I'm going 0:20:44.200 --> 0:20:47.040 to be glued to my social media feed this weekend 0:20:47.440 --> 0:20:50.240 just because I want to see everybody posting what she's wearing, 0:20:50.359 --> 0:20:52.600 what it looks like, what she's singing. I mean again, 0:20:52.640 --> 0:20:55.400 I said that there was six albums Lover. She never 0:20:55.520 --> 0:21:00.760 toured Folklore evermore Fearless Taylor's version, Red, Taylor's Version twenty 0:21:00.840 --> 0:21:03.480 twenty and twenty twenty one. Yeah, so we have so 0:21:03.840 --> 0:21:08.160 many songs to choose from. Question when glued to social 0:21:08.440 --> 0:21:12.840 what will Robbie be doing when you go and disappear 0:21:13.000 --> 0:21:16.320 into your social media sitting on the couch watching TV 0:21:16.480 --> 0:21:19.280 and then be scrolling? Yeah, or he'll be watching TV 0:21:19.440 --> 0:21:23.280 and I'll just like be watching Instagram. He he knows 0:21:23.320 --> 0:21:25.359 when it's like Taylor Swift related. He literally says, go, 0:21:25.760 --> 0:21:27.639 you can be like go play with your friends type thing, 0:21:27.640 --> 0:21:31.760 because I'm like so glued to my friends, like when 0:21:31.800 --> 0:21:34.040 albums come out and stuff. He's like, just go play 0:21:34.040 --> 0:21:36.400 with you. It's okay, I'll watch NA tournament. You get 0:21:36.440 --> 0:21:40.000 back to me, right, all right, let's get to Actually 0:21:40.040 --> 0:21:43.680 you're Ashley. Good morning. How are you this morning? Actually? Hi? Ryan, 0:21:43.760 --> 0:21:46.160 I'm good. How are you? You're fast? I'm doing well. 0:21:46.200 --> 0:21:50.560 You're going to see Taylor Swift opening weekend? Lucky, I'm 0:21:50.600 --> 0:21:54.800 going both nights. Oh my goodness, to Night. I know 0:21:54.920 --> 0:21:58.879 it's controversial, but I promise, UM, it's all fair. I 0:21:59.040 --> 0:22:04.680 got me to be very careful. I know I don't 0:22:04.720 --> 0:22:06.800 want TikTok coming from me, but my friend got me 0:22:06.880 --> 0:22:09.800 tickets for night too, And then we've been waiting patiently, 0:22:10.040 --> 0:22:14.119 and on International Women's Day, I think Taylor Swift blessed 0:22:14.200 --> 0:22:17.680 us herself with putting more tickets online and somehow we 0:22:17.800 --> 0:22:20.800 got opening night tickets, floor seats for a very fair price. 0:22:20.880 --> 0:22:26.919 I'm going both nights. Wow, good for you. Congratulations, that's amazing, 0:22:27.359 --> 0:22:31.160 so incredible. Uh do you think this is our best 0:22:31.200 --> 0:22:37.000 album yet? Um? I like every album. I do think 0:22:37.080 --> 0:22:39.399 it's a good album, but I haven't. I have a 0:22:39.440 --> 0:22:42.800 different favorite. I heard Midnights is your favorite? Ryan, It 0:22:43.040 --> 0:22:46.800 is my favorite? Actually, yes, what's your favorite song on Midnights? 0:22:47.440 --> 0:22:48.960 I gotta tell you every time a new one comes. 0:22:49.000 --> 0:22:50.800 At first, I was like, Anti Heroes my favorite song 0:22:50.840 --> 0:22:53.359