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Speaker 2: So that was may Lynn Manuel Miranda last night at

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Speaker 2: In the triple layer? The fact that it was a

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Speaker 4: Way exactly, And just like recognizing energy because you know,

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Speaker 4: And two like maybe looking for like a mentor to

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Speaker 4: help you, because I, like, one of my best friend

440
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Speaker 4: under her sister is a lawyer, and when she first graduated,

441
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Speaker 4: she wanted me to be her mentor. She's asking all

442
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Speaker 4: these questions and I was like, Jenny, honestly, I don't know.

443
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Speaker 4: You need to go find as like a a lawyer

444
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Speaker 4: who's someone who's already a lawyer to like to answer

445
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Speaker 4: these because I'm not I can give you some like

446
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Speaker 4: life mentoring that kind of thing.

447
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Speaker 5: So she did.

448
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Speaker 4: She kind of like reached out, asked her mom and

449
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Speaker 4: found some lawyers who had a little bit more seasoning

450
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Speaker 4: in the game, and they've really been instrumental is that

451
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Speaker 4: the word, you know, in helping her move to the

452
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Speaker 4: next level.

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Speaker 5: So I would do that too.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, And a mentor sounds like a big, heavy

455
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Speaker 2: like mentor me, but it can just be an email. Hey,

456
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Speaker 2: I'm new at this.

457
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Speaker 3: I want to know.

458
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Speaker 2: I want to be sure I'm getting paid fairly. You know,

459
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Speaker 2: can you give me advice? You know, what were you

460
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Speaker 2: making at my level? And people want to answer a

461
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Speaker 2: quick question, especially if you don't know them and you're

462
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Speaker 2: emailing them cold.

463
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Speaker 3: Just a quick question.

464
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Speaker 2: You don't have to tell her your whole life story

465
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Speaker 2: and how you know it's been paragraphs talking, you know, reading,

466
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Speaker 2: you know, talking about what that person's done and how

467
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Speaker 2: you admire them. Just quick, simple question and a thank

468
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Speaker 2: you note at the end.

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Speaker 3: Thank you notes.

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Speaker 4: So let me tackle that second question, which how do

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Speaker 4: I start a business with little to no money? Well,

472
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Speaker 4: the good news is it seems like you are in

473
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Speaker 4: an information business, right, that's what it seems like. Like

474
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Speaker 4: you're not looking for a brick and mortar, Like you're

475
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Speaker 4: not baking cakes, and you're like, I want to start

476
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Speaker 4: a bakery, so I have to you know, go rent

477
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Speaker 4: like commercial ovens and that kind of stuff. So information

478
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Speaker 4: businesses are traditionally way less expensive to start. So when

479
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Speaker 4: I started my business, my business really was just teaching

480
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Speaker 4: financial education, so I didn't My only overhead really was

481
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Speaker 4: like at the time, I used to like give out

482
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Speaker 4: like handouts, handouts, folders, and my computer that I needed.

483
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Speaker 4: So I'm not completely sure exactly what you do as

484
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Speaker 4: a paralegal, but I'm going to say it's safe to

485
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Speaker 4: assume that you do a lot of work. A lot

486
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Speaker 4: of your work is going to be done via your computer,

487
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Speaker 4: so you might not need I mean, you don't need

488
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Speaker 4: a business loan. It seems like really what I would

489
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Speaker 4: do is I would connect with a lawyer who is

490
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Speaker 4: well connected and then offer them your service at a discount.

491
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Speaker 4: So a lot of people don't want to do this.

492
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Speaker 4: Oh I know I'm worth this, but here's why. So

493
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Speaker 4: if you connect with someone who's well connected, like someone

494
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Speaker 4: like me. So I'm like a people person, so I

495
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Speaker 4: know somebody who knows somebody who knows somebody like that's

496
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Speaker 4: just my personality, right. So so many of my friends

497
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Speaker 4: or so many people who come on to work for

498
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Speaker 4: me end up getting a ton of new clients. Why

499
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Speaker 4: Because one, I'm a chatterbox and I'm a connector. So

500
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Speaker 4: I'm like, oh, Drina, she's so great, she's my publicist.

501
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Speaker 4: And Drina's gotten like so many new clients just because

502
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Speaker 4: I'm a chatterbox and I'm a connector. And so if

503
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Speaker 4: you can work for or find a connected lawyer to

504
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Speaker 4: work with and do a really great job and ask

505
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Speaker 4: them to help share what you're doing with them with

506
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Speaker 4: people that they know, then that's gonna like, it'll really

507
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Speaker 4: help to grow your business more quickly than you'd be

508
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Speaker 4: able to on your own. So really it's about identifying

509
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Speaker 4: someone one that you like to work with, convincing them

510
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Speaker 4: to give you a chance to work with them. And

511
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Speaker 4: one of the best ways to convince people is to

512
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Speaker 4: do so at a discount, and then from there, you know,

513
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Speaker 4: hopefully leaning into their connections to help spread the word,

514
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Speaker 4: and that helps significantly. I can't tell you how many

515
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Speaker 4: times that I was like, what, you're working with this

516
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Speaker 4: friend and this friend in that fun now just because

517
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Speaker 4: I might have shared, like, you know that my admin

518
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Speaker 4: is amazing, and now she's got ten different phone calls,

519
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Speaker 4: you know. So I would start with that, start with

520
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Speaker 4: just the bare bones, because whenever people don't realize when

521
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Speaker 4: you first start a business, the worst thing you can

522
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Speaker 4: do is to invest in things where there's no direct

523
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Speaker 4: return on investment. Meaning this, like if I was going

524
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Speaker 4: to be a bake, Like if I wanted to bake

525
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Speaker 4: and like have my own bakery, I would start with

526
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Speaker 4: just purchasing the items that I could bake into baked hoods.

527
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Speaker 4: Here's why, because if I get my rants and I

528
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Speaker 4: get all these other expensive things. First, I can't I

529
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Speaker 4: can't sell those things in order to make my money

530
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Speaker 4: right back. But if I get eggs and flour and

531
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Speaker 4: sugar and all that kind of stuf, I can create

532
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Speaker 4: a cake, sell it and put that right back.

533
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Speaker 5: Into the business.

534
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Speaker 4: So in the beginning, do not invest in things that

535
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Speaker 4: you can't quickly use to sell back to make more money.

536
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Speaker 4: As you start to grow, you can get all the

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Speaker 4: fancy things that look like a business. But in the beginning,

538
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Speaker 4: you just want to be a business. So remember you

539
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Speaker 4: don't want to just look like a business or I'm

540
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Speaker 4: got a fancy website, a fancy business card, all these

541
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Speaker 4: things that you can't do anything with, you know.

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Speaker 5: So yeah, that's what I would suggest.

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Speaker 4: Connect with an influencer and only invest in things that

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Speaker 4: you can quickly get a return on investment on.

545
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Speaker 2: In the very beginning, I've written about virtual assistance and

546
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Speaker 2: from the because she wants to be a virtual freelance paralegal,

547
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Speaker 2: which is basically like a virtual assistance and so so

548
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Speaker 2: many professionals use VAS. Now some you know, I've I

549
00:26:44,359 --> 00:26:46,600
Speaker 2: did a story on Yahoo about how to find how

550
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Speaker 2: to find a virtual assistant online and using sites like Elance.

551
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Speaker 2: There's a couple of other virtual assistant finding sites out there.

552
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Speaker 2: I mean, that could be one avenue just to get started.

553
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Speaker 2: But you know, again, you want to talk to other

554
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Speaker 2: people who are maybe doing something similar and find out

555
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Speaker 2: what a good rate is, find someone you know who

556
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Speaker 2: can you can respectively ask maybe someone who's not You're

557
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Speaker 2: not going to be encroaching on their territory, you know, Yeah,

558
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Speaker 2: you know what I mean. But I think it's totally doable.

559
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Speaker 2: I don't see why you couldn't. I definitely I knew.

560
00:27:21,680 --> 00:27:24,960
Speaker 2: I interviewed one blogger who was interviewed. Didn't make my story,

561
00:27:25,320 --> 00:27:28,640
Speaker 2: but she uh was a personal finance blogger and wasn't

562
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Speaker 2: making any money and she just you know, started talking

563
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Speaker 2: to other bloggers and realized they needed help managing their sites.

564
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Speaker 2: And she reached out and she was like, she picked one.

565
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Speaker 2: She started working for that person, and it was like

566
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Speaker 2: you said, like, you know, uh, they referred to her to

567
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Speaker 2: the next and to the next, and now she has

568
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Speaker 2: a whole business. And you know, I think that's the

569
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Speaker 2: right way to go about it. Word of mouth. That's

570
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Speaker 2: how you're probably gonna do.

571
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Speaker 4: Biz exactly because I'm telling you, especially like if you

572
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Speaker 4: have if you service entrepreneurs, like I know you said

573
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Speaker 4: you want to, you know, be a freelance player Leegal.

574
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Speaker 4: But there's so many up and coming entrepreneurs right now

575
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Speaker 4: who need assistance. I mean, I cannot tell you how

576
00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:10,959
Speaker 4: many of my friends are like, so your admin, right,

577
00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:13,960
Speaker 4: would you share her? Because everyone is looking for the

578
00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:17,600
Speaker 4: same thing. Everyone needs an admin, everyone needs a graphic designer.

579
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Speaker 4: There's so many things that, like, all of my entrepreneur

580
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Speaker 4: friends are looking for, and there's hardly anybody in these pools.

581
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Speaker 4: So tap into that market too. Kind of keep your

582
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Speaker 4: ear to the street, Like, so, what what is it

583
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Speaker 4: that they're looking for? Could I start off as an

584
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Speaker 4: admin and work my way toward like working for lawyers

585
00:28:33,560 --> 00:28:37,359
Speaker 4: in this way, you know, so be very flexible and good.

586
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Speaker 3: Luck with everything.

587
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Speaker 2: The fact that you went back to school, you got

588
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Speaker 2: your BA, and you got your BA and like a

589
00:28:41,960 --> 00:28:45,160
Speaker 2: useful skill, which is exciting to hear, business admin. You

590
00:28:45,160 --> 00:28:49,240
Speaker 2: can take that places. Yep, thirty thousand dollars in stand

591
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Speaker 2: a loan debt and that's average, so you're not dealing

592
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Speaker 2: with like an extraordinary amount of debt. So it seems

593
00:28:54,320 --> 00:28:56,320
Speaker 2: like you're in a good place. And be patient, like

594
00:28:56,360 --> 00:28:58,840
Speaker 2: we talked about before about you know, we're talking about

595
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Speaker 2: expectations when you're starting out obviously having a teen son,

596
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Speaker 2: you don't, you know, it's hard to be patient when

597
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Speaker 2: you're raising a kid by yourself, let alone a teenager.

598
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Speaker 2: And you know what teenagers want things, all the things.

599
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Speaker 3: They're very expensive.

600
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Speaker 2: But be patient with yourself and be nice to yourself.

601
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Speaker 2: And as you're starting and you know, as you're starting

602
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Speaker 2: your business, make sure everybody.

603
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Speaker 3: Knows you're you're what you're what you're doing.

604
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Speaker 2: Make sure everybody knows you know, peas out there she

605
00:29:25,480 --> 00:29:27,600
Speaker 2: wants to be a legal freelance assistant and they'll remember

606
00:29:27,640 --> 00:29:30,960
Speaker 2: that exactly. And good luck, and thank you so much

607
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Speaker 2: for writing.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, thank you.

609
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Speaker 2: And if you guys have questions, you can email Brown

610
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Speaker 2: Ambition but uh Brown Ambition Podcast at gmail dot com

611
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Speaker 2: dot com.

612
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Speaker 5: So now it's time for win.

613
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Speaker 4: But instead of a win, I wanted to do a book,

614
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Speaker 4: like a book share, and I think it's it'll be

615
00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:02,479
Speaker 4: a alignments kind of what we were talking about today,

616
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Speaker 4: just about maintaining positivity. Like there's this great book that

617
00:30:05,840 --> 00:30:08,080
Speaker 4: I read a long time ago, and I suggest that

618
00:30:08,080 --> 00:30:12,240
Speaker 4: everybody have like on their shelf. It's called Don't Sweat

619
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Speaker 4: the Small Stuff, and it is by Don't give Me

620
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Speaker 4: the Line. So this is where my old lady brain

621
00:30:18,400 --> 00:30:20,280
Speaker 4: is like, look, we helped you out earlier today.

622
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Speaker 3: So find the Google. Where's the Google?

623
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Speaker 4: Yeah, I know, I am, don't sweat, just find the Google.

624
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Speaker 5: Don't sweat.

625
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Speaker 3: He needs a memory anymore.

626
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Speaker 4: I know, right, I'm like, yeah, okay. It is by

627
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Speaker 4: Richard Carlson, PhD. And it's honestly, it's a really quick

628
00:30:38,000 --> 00:30:40,400
Speaker 4: and easy read and I have given it laterally, I

629
00:30:40,440 --> 00:30:41,920
Speaker 4: bought the book. It was on sale at like Barnes

630
00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:44,000
Speaker 4: and Nobles ones for like next to nothing, So I

631
00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:45,440
Speaker 4: bought a bunch of them and gave it to all

632
00:30:45,480 --> 00:30:47,680
Speaker 4: of my friends and every single ones that came back

633
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Speaker 4: to me and was like, thank you so much. I

634
00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:52,160
Speaker 4: needed that because sometimes you get so stressed out and

635
00:30:52,240 --> 00:30:57,280
Speaker 4: so overwhelmed, and it's just it's just such a great, quick,

636
00:30:57,320 --> 00:30:59,960
Speaker 4: easy read to help you remember that, like one you're

637
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:02,880
Speaker 4: here too, how to be grateful through how not to

638
00:31:02,920 --> 00:31:06,040
Speaker 4: internalize everything as like the world is falling. Chicken little, Remember,

639
00:31:06,120 --> 00:31:08,400
Speaker 4: chicken little, the world is falling. The world is falling.

640
00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:10,040
Speaker 5: Yeah.

641
00:31:10,200 --> 00:31:11,920
Speaker 3: I like having a chicken Little day today.

642
00:31:12,280 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 5: Yes, oh me too.

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Speaker 4: I mean, like yesterday today was pretty chill. But like

644
00:31:16,120 --> 00:31:18,120
Speaker 4: some things, you just get so overwhelmed. And then I

645
00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:20,880
Speaker 4: had to be like, well, like what a what am

646
00:31:20,880 --> 00:31:24,120
Speaker 4: I really complaining about? Like, nothing is wrong, you have

647
00:31:24,160 --> 00:31:26,800
Speaker 4: your health, your family is healthy. Superman is about to

648
00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:28,360
Speaker 4: pop the question throwing it out there in.

649
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Speaker 5: The universe.

650
00:31:30,680 --> 00:31:34,040
Speaker 3: Attract that ring girl, right.

651
00:31:33,840 --> 00:31:35,959
Speaker 4: And so when you remember those things, you're like, well,

652
00:31:36,000 --> 00:31:39,200
Speaker 4: what am I really focused on? And truthfully, like I've

653
00:31:39,200 --> 00:31:41,600
Speaker 4: given away, given it away so much, I think that

654
00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:43,680
Speaker 4: I'm gonna I'm gonna go get it for my kindle.

655
00:31:43,720 --> 00:31:46,240
Speaker 4: But I like the physical book version myself, and it's

656
00:31:46,280 --> 00:31:48,840
Speaker 4: just a good read. It's one of those like read

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Speaker 4: it once a year or every other year whenever you

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Speaker 4: just need a boost pick me up. So that's my

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Speaker 4: my suggested read for this week. Don't Sweat the Small

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Speaker 4: Stuff by Richard Carlson.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna go I could use that ad all right,

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Speaker 2: So my win is gonna be real quick. But the

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Speaker 2: Tonys were last night, and I was really proud of

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Speaker 2: the show for you know, taking the moment at the

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Speaker 2: beginning to talk about Orlando and all that. But I

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Speaker 2: just wanted to say, this was like the blackest year

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Speaker 2: on Broadway, Like, can we talk about Hamilton like a

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Speaker 2: completely brown cast?

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Speaker 3: We had shuffle along, we have color Purple.

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Speaker 2: And I know a lot of our listeners probably don't

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Speaker 2: all live in New York, but just know it was

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Speaker 2: the blackest year on Broadway and four of the main

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Speaker 2: acting categories all went to black actors.

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Speaker 3: And that is a huge judge.

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Speaker 2: Deal, including including Cynthia Arrivio, who I talked about last

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Speaker 2: week like a little fangirl for her performance as Sealy

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Speaker 2: and the color Purple on Broadway. Oh and she won

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Speaker 2: and she was glorious and the dress and all that.

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Speaker 3: I mean, it was. It's it's a major So I

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Speaker 3: hope it continues. I hope.

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Speaker 2: I feel like Hamilton broke down so many barriers this year,

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Speaker 2: not just Hamilton, but you know, other plays too, and

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Speaker 2: a lot of actors working really hard who've only ever

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Speaker 2: had a chance to be in.

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Speaker 3: Like The Lion King, you know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's just nice to see that talent is

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Speaker 2: being recognized.

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Speaker 4: Oh that's nice. I like, have we turned it around?

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Speaker 4: Like you know, we're ending on a nice, positive, cheery note.

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Speaker 3: We try to I don't worry. Life's still worth living. Yes,

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Speaker 3: I've heard it here for.

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Speaker 5: But go hug somebody. Love somebody up today, including yourself.

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Speaker 3: I love myself.

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Speaker 5: I love myself.

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Speaker 4: Look in the mirror and you say, have you ever

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Speaker 4: done that? On a like last kind of side note,

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Speaker 4: have you ever done mirror work? Have you heard of

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Speaker 4: that before?

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Speaker 3: Like the affirmations?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Like you look in the mirror and you tell

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Speaker 4: yourself whatever it is. Like I used to have a

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Speaker 4: mirror right by the door, and before I left every

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Speaker 4: morning for like almost six months, I wouldn't to practice

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Speaker 4: and see what this mirror work was all about. I

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Speaker 4: would tell myself like, you're amazing, You're awesome, You're beautiful,

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Speaker 4: more than enough every time I left it, every time

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Speaker 4: I came into the house, just to kind of like

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Speaker 4: fortify myself for the world.

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Speaker 5: And I loved it. I had to get back to

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Speaker 5: that mirror work.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I've never done like that habitually, but I like,

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Speaker 2: I always know that we're really hard on ourselves as women,

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Speaker 2: as humans, and it's nice to one of my friends.

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Speaker 2: She and I were getting back into running when I

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Speaker 2: was training for my half marathon, and I got into

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Speaker 2: the habit of saying every time I felt like I

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Speaker 2: wasn't gonna make it, I was like, I love you legs.

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Speaker 3: I love you legs.

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Speaker 2: Oh, thank my legs, Thank you legs. I love that

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Speaker 2: sounded so childish, but like, my legs have always been

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Speaker 2: an issue for me. I talked about my weight before.

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Speaker 2: In my whole life, I would never wear shorts or

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Speaker 2: skirts or things like that, like I, you know, would constantly,

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Speaker 2: like every picture, I'd be like an a knee length something.

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Speaker 2: And it's because I always felt that my legs weren't great.

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Speaker 2: And you know, I'm almost thirty now and I've done

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Speaker 2: one hundred mile, I've done several hundred mile bike tours,

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Speaker 2: I've done a try athlon, it's done a half marathon,

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Speaker 2: and honestly, I'm not happy with my legs still, but like,

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Speaker 2: every once in a while, I'm like, these legs have.

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Speaker 3: Done you pretty good. Yeah, legs have taken you places.

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Speaker 3: They are strong.

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Speaker 2: They do not look like Carly Klaus or Naomi Campbell,

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Speaker 2: but they're your legs. And you know, it's just nice

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Speaker 2: to thank your legs every once in a while, or

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Speaker 2: whatever part of you don't like, you know, you know,

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Speaker 2: I love that they're still working. I still got them.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I love that. I love you, Legs, I love you.

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Speaker 3: Likes thank you.

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Speaker 2: They are not saying I love you back right now

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Speaker 2: with this crosspit class, but me alrighty.

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Speaker 4: On that note, don't forget to tweet us at the

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Speaker 4: BA podcast and bind us on Facebook at Brown Ambition,

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Speaker 4: And we.

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Speaker 5: Love you, We love you, Legs, we love you Legs.

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Speaker 5: I love you, Oh, Madie, I love you too,