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Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I almost famous podcast

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Speaker 2: So to take us down the path here because I

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Speaker 2: have a lot of like curiosity towards the situation. So

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Speaker 2: I do believe that this show, The Bachelor and Bachelor

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Speaker 2: got themselves into trouble. I have this theory. I can't

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Speaker 2: prove it, but I can say from my viewing experience,

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Speaker 2: when Trista and Bob are on the show, the show

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Speaker 2: not only was beautiful and people got alarm, but some

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Speaker 2: people weren't here for the right reasons. But the show

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Speaker 2: started to get into this drama centered experience where every

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Speaker 2: year the drama had to be one step more, one step.

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Speaker 3: More, once step more, and then you run out of it.

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Speaker 2: You're like, literally, you can't make any more drama unless

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Speaker 2: you do something on TV that's offensive and absolutely so

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Speaker 2: hard to watch that nobody wants to tune in. So

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Speaker 2: The Golden Bachelor kind of like cleans the slate again

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Speaker 2: and you say, hey, we're back at the beginning, and

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Speaker 2: I hope you know yea. As the show continues, drama

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Speaker 2: doesn't become the thing that this things build on.

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Speaker 4: I hope not. I hope not, But I feel like

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Speaker 4: my prediction is that it will go back to like

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Speaker 4: Bachelor or Bachelorette, regular Bachelor Bachelorette, then Golden Bachelor or Bachelorette,

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Speaker 4: right yeah, and so regular Bachelor Bachelorette. There will constantly

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Speaker 4: be drama. Yeah, there just will Golden. I feel like

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Speaker 4: it will be.

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Speaker 5: Maybe so like I feel like, so we thought, like

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Speaker 5: our generation, we're going to be our only viewers. We

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Speaker 5: honestly thought that the younger generation really wasn't going to

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Speaker 5: view this, but so not true. So so many people

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Speaker 5: from younger from you know, the you know, twenties and

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Speaker 5: thirties are watching this and maybe maybe maybe maybe they're

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Speaker 5: learning something from this.

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Speaker 6: It doesn't have to be about trauma.

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Speaker 5: It could be about like being cohesive and being friendly

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Speaker 5: and being supportive of each other and how attractive that

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Speaker 5: really is. And you don't need to be, you know,

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Speaker 5: knifing each other in the back. You can be like

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Speaker 5: hugging each other and like same way to go.

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Speaker 6: So maybe you know I love.

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Speaker 7: About that is that when when we were the first

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Speaker 7: season on Winterest, it was.

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Speaker 3: The Bachelor at the first Bachelor atte.

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Speaker 7: The first group of guys, and I remember saying it

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Speaker 7: like we were talking about it, and we're like, guys,

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Speaker 7: it doesn't matter. I mean, she's gorgeous and we all

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Speaker 7: adore her, and she's funny and witty and everything, but

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Speaker 7: she's gonna like who she's gonna like. We can still

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Speaker 7: be friends, and we made a conscious choice that that

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Speaker 7: group of guys. And I'll never forget it. I mean

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Speaker 7: we got some heat over it, but not publicly, more

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Speaker 7: internally from the producers standpoint there, like yeah, I mean

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Speaker 7: I remember I got pulled aside twice being like, you know,

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Speaker 7: we're done with the Kumbe bay astap, and I remember thinking, well,

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Speaker 7: then I just should I'll go home, you know. I mean,

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Speaker 7: if she doesn't want to give me a flower, she

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Speaker 7: doesn't have to.

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Speaker 3: And it was one of those things where it's like

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Speaker 3: I kept sticking.

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Speaker 7: Around, she kept kept me around, point being I got

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Speaker 7: a flyer. I stuck around. But I love these guys,

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Speaker 7: like we're still friends to this day. Ryan walks in

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Speaker 7: today and I see him and I'm overwhelmed because he

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Speaker 7: was my bunk mate, right, So I'll never.

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Speaker 3: Forget you what Trista was first mad at me.

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Speaker 7: She's like, I go on a date with everyone but

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Speaker 7: Bob and I come back to the drunk fast. But

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Speaker 7: when I go on a date with when I'm when

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Speaker 7: Bob's gone, I come back to reading the Bible. I'm like,

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Speaker 7: I don't know what you're talking about this. I mean,

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Speaker 7: these are my buddies. Yeah, but truth be told, like

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Speaker 7: we were genuinely friends and we still are to this

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Speaker 7: day twenty some years later.

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Speaker 3: And that starts to the top. I do believe it

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Speaker 3: starts at the top. You guys made that happen.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I was like, I can sense the the supportiveness

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Speaker 4: and the sisterhood were exchange.

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Speaker 3: It starts at the top.

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Speaker 5: Man, So there's makeup, we're curling hair, yes, like we

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Speaker 5: were really but once again I told you, it's a

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Speaker 5: lonely place to be in your six seasons have trying

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Speaker 5: to date. So we came into a house of people

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Speaker 5: that were just like us. Hard to find out, like

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Speaker 5: when you're out in the wild, they're not there.

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Speaker 7: I gotta say I think I think here from a

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Speaker 7: casting perspective, I do think the show really did itself a.

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Speaker 3: Famous because they picked wonderful people.

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Speaker 6: Is amazing. I know, I love her.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, everyone I've met is just amazing.

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Speaker 5: They did a great job and you know, I kind

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Speaker 5: of I keep saying that, like, how in the world

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Speaker 5: did I get picked?

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Speaker 6: Because there were thirty thousand people that applied to this,

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Speaker 6: So I have really no I did not know that

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Speaker 6: thirty thousand. What's insane? So I don't even know how

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Speaker 6: they even look through thirty thousand applications.

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Speaker 4: Thirty thousand applied as the women or did men also

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Speaker 4: apply to be the batchel?

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Speaker 3: Wow?

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Speaker 6: Thirty thousand women?

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Speaker 4: Do you know? Do you know what how many people apply?

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Speaker 2: I have no idea. I couldn't even tell you. I

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Speaker 2: mean probably twenty thirty when I was a bachelor, thirty.

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Speaker 6: On the end of that shadow, that's it.

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Speaker 2: I said, let's find them. If not, we're going out

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Speaker 2: to LA the night before and bringing.

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Speaker 6: Up We'll find some on the streets.

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Speaker 3: So it is.

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Speaker 2: I hope the Golden Bachelor does this, and I do

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Speaker 2: believe the show is focused on this is the love

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Speaker 2: story behind it, and the love story is so important

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Speaker 2: to me to talk to you about. And if you

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Speaker 2: don't mind, I want to get a little vulnerable for

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Speaker 2: a second because one of the things that has been

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Speaker 2: so beautiful for me, and you know, when I did

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Speaker 2: this thing with Gary that won't be shown. We went

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Speaker 2: around to these public places and it's really fun. I'm

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Speaker 2: requesting this excerpt. Yeah, I hope it makes funny reals.

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Speaker 2: But we got to meet the public and their opinions

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Speaker 2: of Gary and the season, and the thing I kept

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Speaker 2: hearing was I will just say this. I'll get in

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Speaker 2: trouble for it. I know it. But there was a

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Speaker 2: lady at one of the events we went to who

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Speaker 2: stands up. She's probably in her sixties. She goes, my

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Speaker 2: husband died four years ago and I was lost and

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Speaker 2: I've watched this season and she starts bawling and she goes,

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Speaker 2: I believe I can.

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Speaker 3: Date a get yeah.

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Speaker 2: And so for me, I'm standing up there as like

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Speaker 2: like the moderator, host or whatever. John Yeah, the fake Jesse,

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Speaker 2: the fake Jesse. And I'm crying because I'm like, wait,

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Speaker 2: this is what this show was so fun for me

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Speaker 2: when I did it, Like there were people actually personally

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Speaker 2: touched by a story of a cast member. The drama

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Speaker 2: maybe wasn't the center, and maybe for some it makes

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Speaker 2: a more boring season. For others, it brings in the

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Speaker 2: motions and the heart and you get to live vicariously

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Speaker 2: through these characters they watch on TV. Yes, so you

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Speaker 2: just mentioned that your husband had passed away three years ago, Joan.

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Speaker 2: Now you end up on this television show that you're

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Speaker 2: dating in public. What's that like for you? I mean,

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Speaker 2: I don't even know how to ask a question around

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Speaker 2: it more than just like what if somebody's listening and

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Speaker 2: maybe in a similar position, like what went through your

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Speaker 2: head to say yes, well through your head to say

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Speaker 2: I want to? And then once you're in it.

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Speaker 3: What makes you say this is a good next step?

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Speaker 5: So it probably started out with the application process because

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Speaker 5: like I can look around and see that there are

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Speaker 5: lots of people who have had second chances at love,

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Speaker 5: you know, in their later years, and so that kind

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Speaker 5: of gave me hope. But like hope has to be

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Speaker 5: backed up by action. You can't just have hope because

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Speaker 5: hope doesn't get you anywhere. Because I came and applied

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Speaker 5: and that wasn't good. I wasn't ready yet, and to market,

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Speaker 5: I'm to your market like I'm not getting any younger,

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Speaker 5: Like I need to get out there. And I realized, like,

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Speaker 5: it's not going to happen organically. I'm not just going

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Speaker 6: It's not going to happen. So I need to take action.

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Speaker 5: And I came home and I sat down and I

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Speaker 5: turned on the Bachelor because I'm a Bachelor watcher and

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Speaker 5: It was like the universe was telling me to do it.

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Speaker 5: So I did it, and that was like my first step,

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Speaker 5: like I had to do.

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Speaker 6: I had to take some action.

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Speaker 5: And my action just happened to be a really freakishly

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Speaker 5: I was like, yeah, I'll fill this out, and like

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Speaker 5: I didn't even it was kind of a long application

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Speaker 5: I was doing at my phone. I had already had

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Speaker 5: two glasses of wine, Like I'm not really very good

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Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, you're right. The wine probably helped.

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Speaker 5: And so I only filled out like half the application

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Speaker 5: and then I sent my photos like they said to

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Speaker 5: happened to sit down and see that one little commercial.

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Speaker 6: So like my message to like.

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Speaker 5: The world of people that are sitting around waiting for

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Speaker 5: going to You can't don't expect it to happen organically.

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Speaker 5: You have to take action and once you do, good

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Speaker 5: things will happen. And like even if it's scary, like

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Speaker 5: somebody said, some famous person said, you should do something

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Speaker 5: that frightened you every day, and this really frightened me.

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Speaker 5: But I did it because it wasn't just going to.

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Speaker 6: Happen, Like love wasn't going to confind me.

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Speaker 5: I had to go out and put myself out there

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Speaker 5: and like it's you know, I still haven't found love,

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Speaker 5: but now I'm not afraid to do it anymore.

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Speaker 6: I did it like on the national stage.

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Speaker 5: Like going to the local restaurant right now is like

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Speaker 6: You know, it's no big deal.

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Speaker 2: Now you're a few months removed from the filming of

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Speaker 3: It's so worth it.

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Speaker 2: It means a lot. I know it's not always easy,

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Speaker 2: but it's very exciting. And somebody out there is listening.

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Speaker 7: I know it right now.

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Speaker 2: Who is going I hear this and I believe it,

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Speaker 2: and now they're going to do something beautiful for their life.

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Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, And if that's all that comes out of this,

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Speaker 5: if I never find love, but somebody like goes out

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Speaker 5: there and you know, other people do it like, that's

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Speaker 5: all worth it, because like I I had my chance,

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Speaker 5: I raised my family, I had the love of my life.

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Speaker 5: I want to have it again.

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Speaker 6: It made me happy, but everybody deserves that. And if

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Speaker 6: this like spurs somebody on and that's the like, that's

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Speaker 6: all I need. That makes me happy.

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Speaker 2: They Yeah, the stories that will become that we'll never

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Speaker 2: know from this are absolutely beautiful. Well, hey, this has

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Speaker 2: been the Almost Famous podcast, So everybody followed my lead here,

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Speaker 2: don't forget how to do this. I'm gonna go Joan first,

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Speaker 2: and I'm around the circle. We'll be back very soon

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Speaker 2: with tons more content and incredible interviews with so many

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Speaker 2: people here at the Bachelor Mansion. You got to get

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Speaker 2: out to your tribe. They're all sitting out there having

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Speaker 2: dinner and you're in here with us. As cool as

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Speaker 2: we are in my life, Yeah, as cool as we are.

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Speaker 2: You need to get out there to them.

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Speaker 5: So until next time, I've been been, I've been Joan,

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Speaker 5: I've been Trista.

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Speaker 3: No, I want to do it that way.

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Speaker 6: No, all right, I've been Trista.

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Speaker 2: We'll talk to you next time.

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