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Speaker 1: The nick Yes, Nick, here's NICKI. Hello here I am

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Speaker 1: It's a Nicki Guyser podcast. Welcome to the show. It's Monday.

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Speaker 1: I am back in St. Louis, Missouri with Andrew Colin

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Speaker 1: in studio. How's it going to Andrew? I missed you

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Speaker 1: this weekend? Pal? Oh yeah, oh Pal? How do you

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Speaker 1: feel about Pal? By the way, Pal, you don't mind Pal? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I mean pal just sucks when you like a guy.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, And like they pal you. What's like

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Speaker 1: the I know, top one, bottom one's covering. Ma'am, ma'am

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Speaker 1: is the worst? Have you been called ma'am? All? It's

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Speaker 1: it's it's it's it's just the go to now lady,

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Speaker 1: and ma'am you've been called when's the last time you

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Speaker 1: were called? I mean all when I travel, you know, ma'am.

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Speaker 1: You you got to check that bag, ma'am. Like, it's

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Speaker 1: it's all day. It's I am, ma'am, I am, ma'am.

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Speaker 1: That's cold. Be nominated for an off screen yeah, I

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Speaker 1: mean look you might be. Yeah, you might have to

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Speaker 1: step in for I am legend too. Yes, sir has

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Speaker 1: got to feel good. No, sir, it's like, ma'am, it's

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Speaker 1: like it's like you're knighted. Excuse me, sir, Oh yes, sir,

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Speaker 1: I can help you. Sir. What do you like usually? Boss?

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Speaker 1: I like gray bearded bitch. That's fun when there's no

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Speaker 1: miss of of boy. Boy is derogatory. Mr sounds weird, Mr. Hey, Mr.

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Speaker 1: It's always like a little poor child at pell excuse me, Mr.

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Speaker 1: It's it's someone who's either going to scam or they're

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Speaker 1: really in danger. Yeah, and you might cause them to

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Speaker 1: be in danger. Um, yeah, ma'am. Sucks, But it's just

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Speaker 1: the way it is. But I did. I have been

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Speaker 1: getting hit on a lot more recently. Why you think

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Speaker 1: I don't know it because it doesn't seem like something

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Speaker 1: that happens. Oh maybe that's really good point. They like

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Speaker 1: sense it because you're wearing a ring. I am wearing

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Speaker 1: a ring. I mean I've one on my ring finger too,

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Speaker 1: because the only one that fits. It's my daintiest little

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Speaker 1: and I didn't want to lose it. Put it on

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Speaker 1: my It looks like an engagement ring. Um no, I

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Speaker 1: um yeah, I just got no. Just on the street.

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Speaker 1: I was wearing an fight I mean I looked like

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Speaker 1: ship just going down to get my coffee, just woke up.

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Speaker 1: No makeup. Um, but when you have your when you

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Speaker 1: have long blonde hair, it's kind of an eye catcher.

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Speaker 1: And that that was If I would have had it back,

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Speaker 1: it wouldn't have happened. And this guy was just his car.

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Speaker 1: He was like, you know, getting in his car after

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Speaker 1: it was parked. So he's in his car. He just

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Speaker 1: rolled down the passengers side window and was like, uh,

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Speaker 1: he said, next time that coffee is on me. He goes,

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Speaker 1: what's your number? Next time that coffee is on me?

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Speaker 1: Black guy? Were you whenever? I have to say. When

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Speaker 1: I gained some weight, that's when I started getting you know,

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Speaker 1: my black man. Ye know, it feels great. I was

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Speaker 1: delighted by it and I just was like thank you,

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Speaker 1: you know, like I was like happy and then um,

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Speaker 1: the other day there was another one too. Where did

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Speaker 1: it happen? It was so flattering. I mean in my twenties,

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Speaker 1: I would have been like fuck you, you know, but

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Speaker 1: now I feel like when um keep it. I guess

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Speaker 1: it's kind of a cat call in a way. That

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Speaker 1: was totally a cat call. Yeah, definitely a cat call.

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Speaker 1: I drew you know, I was in the fish truck

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Speaker 1: when I rode around in a fish truck or the

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Speaker 1: fishmonger slash fish truck delivery guy. So I a lot

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Speaker 1: of cat calls coming from a fish truck where I

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Speaker 1: felt kind of uncomfortable. But I honestly feel like you

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Speaker 1: saw it happening. You saw the guys do it. You

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Speaker 1: look at it like that guy is doing it old

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Speaker 1: if he did that to me looking like I looked

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Speaker 1: like he must be doing it all day long. There's

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Speaker 1: this was not it's not a bad move. Part outside Starbucks,

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Speaker 1: plenty of hot women. Hey, next time copies on me,

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Speaker 1: you won't don't want to know how much this coffee cost.

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Speaker 1: I doubt it will be on you next time. It

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Speaker 1: is honestly more than a drink you would buy at

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Speaker 1: a bar. He's like, so what's that coffee? You start?

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Speaker 1: He just peels off the order. It's not even half.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, and to Stevia. And if you don't have Stevia,

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Speaker 1: I don't want anything. Shut up, shut up. But the

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Speaker 1: other one. But the funny thing about a cat call, though,

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Speaker 1: They wouldn't have anything. They know you're going to respond

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Speaker 1: and he's walking by his very z and I was

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Speaker 1: looking for a meal because a meal had my bags.

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Speaker 1: like a lost little girl just looking on every direction

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Speaker 1: so there's tons of people like walking by and this

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Speaker 1: just like, oh my god, look at you, Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: And I just kind of looked at him like what

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Speaker 1: is this? What do you do? You know? And then

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Speaker 1: He kept walking and kept staring and it was very

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Speaker 1: creepy actually, like he got halfway down the block the

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Speaker 1: all in, and that was that does not feel good

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Speaker 1: this guy was. I mean, I never there is something

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Speaker 1: But when I really break it down, these guys are

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Speaker 1: doing it all day long and it's just a numbers game. Eventually,

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Speaker 1: I guess it's they think it's going to pay off.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I have seen videos of women they get

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Speaker 1: hit on the guys like in a shitty car or

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Speaker 1: his Lamborghini and the girl was like, I don't have

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Speaker 1: care about the car being nice? I don't remember. Car blind,

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Speaker 1: don't know car blind yeah, car blind dot com. I

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Speaker 1: just I just I don't care. But I was watching

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Speaker 1: you don't think you would matter that if it was

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Speaker 1: feel better because it's I was watching The Tinder Swindler

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Speaker 1: last night. Have you seen it? It's so good? Have

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Speaker 1: you seen it? No, I've heard so much about it.

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Speaker 1: It's really good. It's done by the same people that

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Speaker 1: so it's really well produced. It's a documentary. I thought

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Speaker 1: it was like a UM. I don't like when real

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Speaker 1: stories are turned into like dramas. I don't either like, Oh,

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Speaker 1: that I don't like it ever, but I would like

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Speaker 1: there's um, you know, there's the We Work guy. There's

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Speaker 1: this new show called We Crashed and it's with um

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Speaker 1: uh what's your name? The girl who everyone didn't like

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Speaker 1: that was in the devil Worse product Brown Hair. She

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Speaker 1: hosted the Oscars with James Franco. Yes, it's with her

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Speaker 1: and then I mean and then Jared Leto. That's what

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Speaker 1: We Crash and it's about we Work, which was do

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Speaker 1: you know about we Work? They were like, you know,

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Speaker 1: the timing could have been worse for them for COVID

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Speaker 1: Is that why? No? No? I mean it was like

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Speaker 1: a whole the guy was a swindler, but now they're tinder.

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Speaker 1: There was some tweet recently where a girl was like,

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Speaker 1: where's all the serial killers? Because I keep going to

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Speaker 1: bed to women getting con now Like she was talking like,

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Speaker 1: you know, women used to love murder podcast and now

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Speaker 1: it's all just con men because there's Bad Vegan, there's

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Speaker 1: Tinder Swindler, There's there's some other ones too. We Crashed,

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Speaker 1: it's just women believing this guy, Uh Nexium, all these guys,

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Speaker 1: they're just CULTI were in his personal life, not about

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Speaker 1: the business. I mean, you know it's about the business,

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Speaker 1: but it's about him being a lot like the Um

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Speaker 1: like what's her name? The girl who talked like this,

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Speaker 1: like lying to investors, being yes, being very enigmatic and

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Speaker 1: which isn't a new thing, but he invented this like

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Speaker 1: whole Uh he was just you got to see We Work.

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Speaker 1: So but I'm asking you there's so there's the drama

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Speaker 1: version called We Crashed, and it's like a series, and

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Speaker 1: then there is a UM documentary called like We Work

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Speaker 1: about It. I don't know what it's called. What would

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Speaker 1: All day who the funk is choosing the drama? Well,

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Speaker 1: who are these people that want to watch that over

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Speaker 1: like what really happened? Because the dramas lie and they

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Speaker 1: I'm not I mean, of course things are exaggerated for documentaries.

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Speaker 1: And I did know the truth about the diety. I mean,

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Speaker 1: like I knew enough, you knew he painted, I knew

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Speaker 1: no interest in watching the fictionalized version. Then why would

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Speaker 1: that would it be funny if the documentary movie the

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Speaker 1: And because Titanic was fictional, from that, there was not

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Speaker 1: a Leo character, There was not a Rose character, there

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Speaker 1: was not a Billy Zayan character. Those were that was

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Speaker 1: a fictional story teaching all fake you're you're into it.

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Speaker 1: It was taking place during a time that was real,

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Speaker 1: and hang out. But you can tell they were like

422
00:22:42,880 --> 00:22:45,399
Speaker 1: kind of like, okay, can we can we go sleep?

423
00:22:46,119 --> 00:22:48,280
Speaker 1: You know, it wasn't it was like eleven, you know,

424
00:22:48,400 --> 00:22:51,359
Speaker 1: and but um, I got it. It's I just I'm

425
00:22:51,440 --> 00:22:53,879
Speaker 1: so amped up after a show. It's what you like

426
00:22:54,000 --> 00:22:57,360
Speaker 1: to do? Is it? Just talking to people? Honestly? All

427
00:22:57,400 --> 00:23:02,240
Speaker 1: I want in life? All I want, like literally, my

428
00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:06,520
Speaker 1: my passion in life is hanging and talking. It's just

429
00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:11,680
Speaker 1: laughing and talking watching a show together, like just everyone relaxed.

430
00:23:11,680 --> 00:23:14,680
Speaker 1: No one being like oh we gotta we gotta go soon,

431
00:23:14,840 --> 00:23:17,600
Speaker 1: or like on their phone like I really, I gotta

432
00:23:17,640 --> 00:23:21,600
Speaker 1: go to bet Like I just want people present and talking.

433
00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:25,040
Speaker 1: That's all I want. Like I was talking to um

434
00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:29,439
Speaker 1: Carlyle about this because she's like working this you know,

435
00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:32,320
Speaker 1: restaurant d job, and she's just like, you know, what

436
00:23:32,400 --> 00:23:35,119
Speaker 1: am I doing with my life? And I'm I'm not

437
00:23:35,160 --> 00:23:37,760
Speaker 1: even happy? And if I can't make it in the business,

438
00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:39,879
Speaker 1: I don't think I'm gonna be happy, and I'm like

439
00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:42,960
Speaker 1: it is not shows do not make. Shows are great

440
00:23:43,080 --> 00:23:45,399
Speaker 1: and they're fun. But I do everything I do so

441
00:23:45,440 --> 00:23:47,960
Speaker 1: that I can just hang out and have fun. Like

442
00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:51,040
Speaker 1: my happiness is sitting on the couch with Carlyle Chris

443
00:23:51,720 --> 00:23:55,119
Speaker 1: if Andrew wants to come, like with my friends, my boyfriend,

444
00:23:55,359 --> 00:23:57,760
Speaker 1: my dog, watching a show and making fun of it.

445
00:23:58,119 --> 00:24:00,800
Speaker 1: That is all I want in life. And yeah, I

446
00:24:00,840 --> 00:24:02,520
Speaker 1: work really hard so that I can do that and

447
00:24:02,560 --> 00:24:05,080
Speaker 1: not be freaking out about money and stuff like that.

448
00:24:05,080 --> 00:24:07,400
Speaker 1: That is like also that takes you out of those moments.

449
00:24:07,760 --> 00:24:10,680
Speaker 1: But I just I don't get that on the road

450
00:24:10,720 --> 00:24:17,240
Speaker 1: as much because everyone cares to everyone's really anxious before show,

451
00:24:17,320 --> 00:24:20,240
Speaker 1: whether it's because you know, their tour managing and running

452
00:24:20,280 --> 00:24:23,639
Speaker 1: around and doing things, or or they're like sound checking

453
00:24:23,760 --> 00:24:28,119
Speaker 1: or worrying about you know, and and like it makes sense,

454
00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:29,800
Speaker 1: or taking in a town and like going out and

455
00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:32,200
Speaker 1: doing touristy things, which I'm not doing because I'm like

456
00:24:32,440 --> 00:24:35,320
Speaker 1: saving my energy for the show, not because that's the

457
00:24:35,400 --> 00:24:37,120
Speaker 1: right thing to do, but because that's just what I need.

458
00:24:37,160 --> 00:24:38,840
Speaker 1: You after a day of travel, I just like to sleep,

459
00:24:39,600 --> 00:24:43,560
Speaker 1: But I just my schedule isn't the same, do you

460
00:24:43,600 --> 00:24:45,560
Speaker 1: know what I mean? Like after the show you are

461
00:24:45,720 --> 00:24:48,359
Speaker 1: you're so funny. That's my favorite, Andrew, because you're like

462
00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:53,200
Speaker 1: deliriously tired and just saying wacky things, but you want

463
00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:56,479
Speaker 1: to go. I mean there's times, I mean sometimes I

464
00:24:56,480 --> 00:25:00,800
Speaker 1: feel like you're so amped up that like you have

465
00:25:00,840 --> 00:25:04,639
Speaker 1: an ability to do forty five podcasts when there's no

466
00:25:04,720 --> 00:25:09,120
Speaker 1: podcast like you have you it's incredible, Like I don't

467
00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:11,719
Speaker 1: even know, like I don't even know if anyone even

468
00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:14,000
Speaker 1: has to be there. It could just be a stuff

469
00:25:14,040 --> 00:25:17,040
Speaker 1: bear and you could talk its head off, which is interesting,

470
00:25:17,560 --> 00:25:21,200
Speaker 1: but like it's hard to keep up with sometimes. Um.

471
00:25:21,359 --> 00:25:24,360
Speaker 1: But that being said, like I don't know, man, part

472
00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:27,080
Speaker 1: of me is like I just want to feel like

473
00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:29,840
Speaker 1: and I know it's just like it's an ongoing thing

474
00:25:30,200 --> 00:25:33,080
Speaker 1: where it's like it's just ten minutes or whatever. But

475
00:25:33,160 --> 00:25:36,640
Speaker 1: it's like I do think that my again, it goes

476
00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:38,760
Speaker 1: back to my talent that like I feel like I

477
00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:42,480
Speaker 1: do make a better show for people because I am

478
00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:45,960
Speaker 1: that funny and I am that good at what I do.

479
00:25:46,200 --> 00:25:49,800
Speaker 1: So there is a level of like, Okay, I know

480
00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:53,320
Speaker 1: the hang is great again, you know, like I want

481
00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:55,639
Speaker 1: to be there because I want to find Also a

482
00:25:55,720 --> 00:25:59,000
Speaker 1: lot of people listen to this podcast, they probably feel

483
00:25:59,040 --> 00:26:00,320
Speaker 1: like they would. You know. I got a lot of

484
00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:03,800
Speaker 1: messages like I can't believe you didn't at me and stuff,

485
00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:06,840
Speaker 1: and I was like, well, I'm not it's not necessarily

486
00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:09,720
Speaker 1: my show. But like so then there's like that whole

487
00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:11,760
Speaker 1: thing I'm getting messed, like how could you not come

488
00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:16,360
Speaker 1: to Canada. It's like, I dude, I tried, Like, bro,

489
00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:20,000
Speaker 1: like it's a fifteen hour flight both ways for one show.

490
00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:22,439
Speaker 1: For me, it's hard for me to do that. Yeah, yeah,

491
00:26:22,480 --> 00:26:23,960
Speaker 1: and it's your show, you know what I mean. And

492
00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:27,000
Speaker 1: so all those kind of things go through my head

493
00:26:27,119 --> 00:26:29,480
Speaker 1: and in regards to like I think I feel bad

494
00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:33,359
Speaker 1: because like I know how hard you work and for

495
00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:34,840
Speaker 1: me to be like that's why I was like, look,

496
00:26:34,920 --> 00:26:38,200
Speaker 1: I'll fly to Vancouver. Because so those are the things,

497
00:26:38,240 --> 00:26:41,320
Speaker 1: and like I know that that doesn't necessarily affect you,

498
00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:43,560
Speaker 1: but there is still there got to be a level

499
00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:46,000
Speaker 1: of like I'm working this much and I could do

500
00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:50,199
Speaker 1: these fucking flights. He's not working as much and he

501
00:26:50,200 --> 00:26:52,440
Speaker 1: doesn't want to do this. That that kind of goes no,

502
00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:55,840
Speaker 1: that that flights are annoying no matter what, and that

503
00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:58,640
Speaker 1: was why I was like, no, that is not don't

504
00:26:58,680 --> 00:27:01,320
Speaker 1: do this to yourself. It is a Going to Canada

505
00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:04,159
Speaker 1: is such hell. No offense to Canada. I love you

506
00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:06,720
Speaker 1: so much, but for some reason they treat you like

507
00:27:06,720 --> 00:27:09,080
Speaker 1: a criminal, like you're trying to get in there, just

508
00:27:09,119 --> 00:27:13,840
Speaker 1: started sex traffic hunting. They're so mean and they make

509
00:27:13,920 --> 00:27:17,000
Speaker 1: me feel like the border control people have such a

510
00:27:17,040 --> 00:27:20,679
Speaker 1: power trip. They make me feel bad about coming and

511
00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:25,680
Speaker 1: I'm always left and Air Canada are such rude flight attendants.

512
00:27:25,760 --> 00:27:27,800
Speaker 1: I honestly no offense. I think it's part of it's

513
00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:30,679
Speaker 1: the French thing. They do everything in English and French,

514
00:27:30,960 --> 00:27:34,240
Speaker 1: and in order to do that, they need people French

515
00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:37,719
Speaker 1: people working and they're just rude. And there they make

516
00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:40,159
Speaker 1: you take out your headphones so you listen to their

517
00:27:40,200 --> 00:27:44,040
Speaker 1: little announcement. They don't let you put your fucking guitar

518
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:46,440
Speaker 1: and the overhead thing, even though it fits. I almost

519
00:27:46,480 --> 00:27:48,240
Speaker 1: got into a care and moment on the planes, like

520
00:27:48,280 --> 00:27:52,600
Speaker 1: I almost snapped because my guitar was gonna snap because

521
00:27:52,600 --> 00:27:54,760
Speaker 1: they were handling it roughly and they wouldn't let me.

522
00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:56,600
Speaker 1: They made me gate check it and I was like,

523
00:27:56,640 --> 00:27:58,200
Speaker 1: I know it's gonna fit, but I couldn't prove it

524
00:27:58,200 --> 00:28:00,000
Speaker 1: because I was on the plane yet. Then I get

525
00:28:00,040 --> 00:28:02,359
Speaker 1: there and I go, it would have fit. Can I

526
00:28:02,640 --> 00:28:05,800
Speaker 1: have it back because it's gonna break down below? And

527
00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:08,840
Speaker 1: what's an You bring a soft yeah? And they're like,

528
00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:10,840
Speaker 1: they go, well, you should have a hard case if

529
00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:12,440
Speaker 1: you don't want it to break, And I go, well,

530
00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:17,399
Speaker 1: it would have fit because it's a small guitar. Pitch bitch.

531
00:28:18,040 --> 00:28:22,880
Speaker 1: But there's something about I I loved Winnipeg and Vancouver.

532
00:28:23,000 --> 00:28:24,480
Speaker 1: They were some of the best shows I've ever had.

533
00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:26,040
Speaker 1: I'm sorry to say that. I'm not trying to make

534
00:28:26,080 --> 00:28:28,720
Speaker 1: you have poma, but they were truly. The best audience

535
00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:33,000
Speaker 1: is the best um hangs afterwards with the people that

536
00:28:33,080 --> 00:28:34,879
Speaker 1: were at the meat and greet. They were some of

537
00:28:34,920 --> 00:28:38,040
Speaker 1: my favorite shows ever, and I would tell you if

538
00:28:38,040 --> 00:28:41,360
Speaker 1: they weren't. I mean they were. But there's something about

539
00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:43,520
Speaker 1: going through customs that makes me feel like I don't

540
00:28:43,520 --> 00:28:45,800
Speaker 1: even want to do this because I am treated so

541
00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:50,040
Speaker 1: shittily and I'm treated like a suspect. The dogs are

542
00:28:50,080 --> 00:28:52,560
Speaker 1: constantly sniffing around my bags. I get to baggage claim

543
00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:54,560
Speaker 1: the bags aren't coming out, so we all have to wait.

544
00:28:54,800 --> 00:29:00,320
Speaker 1: But then the fucking um customs agents after we've been

545
00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:02,200
Speaker 1: through Customs start going up to us, going like, let

546
00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:04,480
Speaker 1: me see your passport, And it's like, do you think

547
00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:07,080
Speaker 1: I'm loitering here just for fun? Because I'm waiting for

548
00:29:07,160 --> 00:29:08,800
Speaker 1: a drug deal to go to them, I'm waiting for

549
00:29:08,880 --> 00:29:12,240
Speaker 1: my goddamn bag. And they talk to you so rudely

550
00:29:12,760 --> 00:29:15,160
Speaker 1: that it's just it's like dealing with a cop in

551
00:29:15,160 --> 00:29:19,000
Speaker 1: in this, Like cops are so rude upon approach that

552
00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:21,560
Speaker 1: you already feel guilty and you get an attitude and

553
00:29:21,640 --> 00:29:26,120
Speaker 1: so like go into Canada feeling guilty, angry, and like

554
00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:27,760
Speaker 1: I don't even want to do this, It's not worth it.

555
00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:30,720
Speaker 1: It took nine hours, no twelve hours to get to

556
00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:35,600
Speaker 1: Winnipeg because and everyone so slow the t s a

557
00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:39,280
Speaker 1: going through. I go, who is is there like a

558
00:29:39,560 --> 00:29:42,880
Speaker 1: terrorist organization that is trying to target Air Canada? Because

559
00:29:42,920 --> 00:29:45,080
Speaker 1: they act like that's the one that's going to be

560
00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:51,080
Speaker 1: taken down, and I just just start profiling. When has

561
00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:54,080
Speaker 1: a blonde girl in a Taylor Swift t shirt ever

562
00:29:54,640 --> 00:30:01,640
Speaker 1: been you know, radicalized by by? I said, now you're

563
00:30:01,680 --> 00:30:04,760
Speaker 1: giving them ideas, Nikki. I mean, honestly, maybe I was

564
00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:06,520
Speaker 1: going to say that to him, like you have to

565
00:30:06,520 --> 00:30:09,880
Speaker 1: take out my guitar and go through it. Look who

566
00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:15,840
Speaker 1: look who is? Who are you? Desperado machine gun having

567
00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:18,640
Speaker 1: a bad mood about it? And I did miss you

568
00:30:18,680 --> 00:30:20,280
Speaker 1: on the road. But this is my whole point. This

569
00:30:20,360 --> 00:30:22,440
Speaker 1: is my whole point though. These are the thoughts I'm

570
00:30:22,440 --> 00:30:24,280
Speaker 1: having of you having to deal with all this ship

571
00:30:24,680 --> 00:30:26,720
Speaker 1: and me not having to deal with it, and then

572
00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:29,240
Speaker 1: there but you. But I'm not one of these people

573
00:30:29,320 --> 00:30:32,240
Speaker 1: that goes. I want him to have a bad time,

574
00:30:32,320 --> 00:30:34,960
Speaker 1: so that like that does not that doesn't make me

575
00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:36,960
Speaker 1: feel better to go. I'm gonna bring you on the

576
00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:39,920
Speaker 1: ship show too. That's not like that does because you

577
00:30:40,000 --> 00:30:43,360
Speaker 1: being there wouldn't help me deal with these people. It

578
00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:46,240
Speaker 1: would honestly could have laughed about it. Probably, yeah, just

579
00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:48,320
Speaker 1: like we're doing now. Also, I look more like a

580
00:30:48,480 --> 00:30:50,600
Speaker 1: terrorist than you, so I probably would have gotten it.

581
00:30:50,800 --> 00:30:53,080
Speaker 1: I probably would have gotten more of you would have

582
00:30:53,080 --> 00:30:55,040
Speaker 1: been fine. This is the thing you travel with me.

583
00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:58,680
Speaker 1: You never get terrorized, or when I looked at as

584
00:30:58,720 --> 00:31:03,200
Speaker 1: a terror rise you know what I mean, Like if

585
00:31:03,240 --> 00:31:05,720
Speaker 1: anyone's getting terrorized, it's me. We gotta get to like

586
00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:08,640
Speaker 1: at least one news story. Terrorized sounds like analized in

587
00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:16,040
Speaker 1: a way. Okay, here comes the news. We started the

588
00:31:16,080 --> 00:31:18,640
Speaker 1: pot a little late today. Maybe you didn't hear your first.

589
00:31:18,720 --> 00:31:22,320
Speaker 1: I'm apologize if it's the fifth time. But anyways, it's Monday, folks.

590
00:31:22,400 --> 00:31:24,400
Speaker 1: You know what that means. It's Monday. I hope you're

591
00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:27,600
Speaker 1: having all the swells. Nikki really does love air Canada.

592
00:31:27,720 --> 00:31:32,000
Speaker 1: She's just kidding. No one from you is going to

593
00:31:32,120 --> 00:31:34,920
Speaker 1: listen to this. But they really they're the Spirit Airlines.

594
00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:38,320
Speaker 1: Of Spirit Airlines actually is pretty good. They just charge

595
00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:40,440
Speaker 1: you a lot for stuff, but they're actually nice. I

596
00:31:40,480 --> 00:31:42,840
Speaker 1: just get scared of their chairs are gonna fall apart.

597
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:47,560
Speaker 1: They look like lawn chairs in the really Spirit Airlines.

598
00:31:47,600 --> 00:31:50,440
Speaker 1: Really yeah, they're made out of like weird tinfoil. Anyhow,

599
00:31:50,960 --> 00:31:53,400
Speaker 1: back do you know, pretty it's fine to be made up.

600
00:31:53,760 --> 00:31:57,920
Speaker 1: You're not going to survive a crash anyway, I've taught.

601
00:31:58,320 --> 00:32:00,960
Speaker 1: I asked him all those like annoying questions and why

602
00:32:01,000 --> 00:32:04,000
Speaker 1: does it have a para shute? Why don't each see

603
00:32:04,120 --> 00:32:06,280
Speaker 1: why didn't the roof fly off? And then just subject

604
00:32:10,360 --> 00:32:13,320
Speaker 1: okay that no one needs to get to the story

605
00:32:13,360 --> 00:32:18,239
Speaker 1: because she sent us this weird terrifying crap. Oh, so

606
00:32:18,280 --> 00:32:20,440
Speaker 1: are you going to ask us if he's running away

607
00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:24,080
Speaker 1: from us or towards us? Okay, that's my guest. Do

608
00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:26,240
Speaker 1: you see in the optical illusion? Do you see the

609
00:32:26,240 --> 00:32:29,320
Speaker 1: man running towards you or away from you? I think

610
00:32:29,360 --> 00:32:31,800
Speaker 1: it depends on how I'm looking at it, but I

611
00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:33,760
Speaker 1: see it's gonna tell us whether we think we're a

612
00:32:33,840 --> 00:32:39,520
Speaker 1: victim or the first thing? Okay, wait, ready one to three?

613
00:32:42,040 --> 00:32:46,960
Speaker 1: Oh interesting, Okay, so this optical illusion reveals if you

614
00:32:47,040 --> 00:32:49,960
Speaker 1: have a female or male brain depending on what you

615
00:32:50,000 --> 00:32:55,000
Speaker 1: see first. Okay, just females are already because he's a man,

616
00:32:55,240 --> 00:33:00,600
Speaker 1: we think they're raping us. They're gonna call me if

617
00:33:00,680 --> 00:33:03,960
Speaker 1: you saw the man running towards you? It's It means

618
00:33:04,000 --> 00:33:06,480
Speaker 1: that you try to solve your problems and past life's

619
00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:10,719
Speaker 1: difficult obstacles using your spot on analytical skills and good reason.

620
00:33:11,840 --> 00:33:15,680
Speaker 1: You learn very quickly once you become curious about something UM,

621
00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:17,560
Speaker 1: and that's when you focus all your energy on it

622
00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:19,720
Speaker 1: until you come up with an idea how to approach it.

623
00:33:21,080 --> 00:33:23,800
Speaker 1: You're not a good multitasker. Once you come up with

624
00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:27,960
Speaker 1: an idea, you have a strong opinion about something. UM.

625
00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:30,719
Speaker 1: You're ready to back it up with convincing arguments because

626
00:33:30,760 --> 00:33:33,440
Speaker 1: you're sure of yourself and you're great focus and attention

627
00:33:33,520 --> 00:33:38,880
Speaker 1: skills and um, it's it's said more male brain for

628
00:33:38,960 --> 00:33:42,480
Speaker 1: that one. If if you saw the man running away

629
00:33:42,480 --> 00:33:45,080
Speaker 1: from you, which is what Andrew and I saw, your

630
00:33:45,080 --> 00:33:48,240
Speaker 1: analytical skills and reasoning are at their max. You rely

631
00:33:48,360 --> 00:33:50,719
Speaker 1: on your senses and reasoning, and you don't rush when

632
00:33:50,800 --> 00:33:53,800
Speaker 1: making a decision. Your brain is at its best when

633
00:33:53,800 --> 00:33:56,760
Speaker 1: you immerse yourself in something creative or you're creating something

634
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Speaker 1: from scratch. You're a great multitasker and always have an

635
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Speaker 1: amazing memory. Um, what you can always count on are

636
00:34:04,640 --> 00:34:07,840
Speaker 1: your intuition and excellent senses. Okay, so people got to

637
00:34:07,880 --> 00:34:10,960
Speaker 1: go look at this picture? Yeah, to see for them,

638
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Speaker 1: be on our YouTube. It'll be on our YouTube and

639
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Speaker 1: and they'll be on Can we put it on our

640
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Speaker 1: stories in case people sure don't see the YouTube soon enough? Absolutely,

641
00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:23,359
Speaker 1: and link on our podcast description. Yeah. I love these

642
00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:26,080
Speaker 1: things too, anything that tells you about yourself. But it's

643
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Speaker 1: like it's got to be like I'm that one. I'm

644
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Speaker 1: not that one. That one, But honestly, no one's a

645
00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:38,120
Speaker 1: good multitasker. It's proven that humans cannot focus on two

646
00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:41,040
Speaker 1: things at once. There's just no no one who can

647
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Speaker 1: do it. It's just impossible. You think that you can

648
00:34:43,920 --> 00:34:46,640
Speaker 1: pay attention to TikTok and listen to what someone saying

649
00:34:46,640 --> 00:34:49,400
Speaker 1: on the TV that show that you're watching, but you can't.

650
00:34:49,400 --> 00:34:51,759
Speaker 1: You just go back and forth. There isn't someone who

651
00:34:51,760 --> 00:34:53,960
Speaker 1: can hear both those things and process them. It is

652
00:34:54,120 --> 00:34:57,359
Speaker 1: truly impossible for humans to do. That is not a thing,

653
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Speaker 1: even the younger generation. No, it's not a thing. It

654
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Speaker 1: could evolve. No, I the book I read that said

655
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Speaker 1: that I forget which one because I'm reading so many

656
00:35:06,880 --> 00:35:11,040
Speaker 1: of these books right now. I am but that I

657
00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:14,360
Speaker 1: remember reading, and some bestie will come up with the

658
00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:17,000
Speaker 1: research for this. But it is proven that multi tasking

659
00:35:17,080 --> 00:35:19,160
Speaker 1: is not a thing. It's we think it is. I mean,

660
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Speaker 1: we could do we can go, oh, I'm going to

661
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Speaker 1: do this while I had this going, like I'm gonna

662
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Speaker 1: chop these on and have this on simmer and make

663
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Speaker 1: it so it's timed out that this is caramelizing right

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Speaker 1: when these are ready to go in of course, but

665
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Speaker 1: hearing and knowing what two different things are saying impossible.

666
00:35:34,080 --> 00:35:37,480
Speaker 1: And I've tried it before. Try it out. Try to

667
00:35:39,360 --> 00:35:42,440
Speaker 1: because here's the thing it's but really try to because

668
00:35:42,560 --> 00:35:44,960
Speaker 1: what happens is you realize your attention goes from one

669
00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:47,800
Speaker 1: thing to the other thing. It does not you can't.

670
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Speaker 1: You can almost guess what someone said at the beginning

671
00:35:50,040 --> 00:35:51,920
Speaker 1: of a sentence that you didn't hear based on the

672
00:35:52,000 --> 00:35:53,520
Speaker 1: end of the sentence. So you think you know what

673
00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:55,880
Speaker 1: the beginning of the sentence said, but you actually didn't

674
00:35:55,920 --> 00:35:58,200
Speaker 1: hear it. I guess it depends on what the task,

675
00:35:58,680 --> 00:36:01,920
Speaker 1: which is. When did I that you were watching TikTok

676
00:36:02,000 --> 00:36:06,200
Speaker 1: on and you missed squid Game? It was like huge platforms,

677
00:36:06,600 --> 00:36:09,200
Speaker 1: you get it. Narcos to Narcos is the one. I

678
00:36:09,280 --> 00:36:11,399
Speaker 1: was like, dude, this is a different end squad game.

679
00:36:11,440 --> 00:36:17,600
Speaker 1: It's a different the TikTok's watching Narcos. Missed seven seconds

680
00:36:17,600 --> 00:36:19,400
Speaker 1: of that one where the girl goes like this. I

681
00:36:19,440 --> 00:36:24,160
Speaker 1: was like, what's in the middle. I really try to

682
00:36:24,239 --> 00:36:27,560
Speaker 1: not do TikTok as much. I'm trying an take it

683
00:36:27,560 --> 00:36:29,680
Speaker 1: off your phone. I know I don't. It's for me.

684
00:36:30,000 --> 00:36:33,200
Speaker 1: It's alcohol. No, you don't get it. Other people can

685
00:36:33,280 --> 00:36:35,359
Speaker 1: have it. You don't get to have it because and

686
00:36:35,400 --> 00:36:38,359
Speaker 1: because you don't get to have it. You are No.

687
00:36:38,520 --> 00:36:41,440
Speaker 1: I have not once had a moment where I go

688
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Speaker 1: that person is succeeding in life more than me because

689
00:36:44,680 --> 00:36:46,920
Speaker 1: they have TikTok on their phone. It is always a

690
00:36:46,920 --> 00:36:50,959
Speaker 1: conversation of my life is being overtaken by There's never

691
00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:53,920
Speaker 1: once where I feel left out because TikTok shows up

692
00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:56,480
Speaker 1: on Reddit the best ones. I asked you to send

693
00:36:56,480 --> 00:36:58,799
Speaker 1: me the best ones. People. You can have people in

694
00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:00,320
Speaker 1: your life that you go, Hey, if you can across

695
00:37:00,320 --> 00:37:01,560
Speaker 1: the ticks, I don't have it anymore. If you come

696
00:37:01,600 --> 00:37:03,440
Speaker 1: across one you like, will you send it to me.

697
00:37:04,239 --> 00:37:07,400
Speaker 1: The only thing that's really good with TikTok and instructional

698
00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:10,360
Speaker 1: videos if you want to learn anything, Yeah, if you

699
00:37:10,360 --> 00:37:12,960
Speaker 1: want to learn a song real quick, four chords, give

700
00:37:12,960 --> 00:37:15,160
Speaker 1: it to me. I don't want to fucking a lot

701
00:37:15,200 --> 00:37:18,719
Speaker 1: of these YouTube videos. It's two minutes of fluffer. It's like,

702
00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:22,920
Speaker 1: so when you get to someone who is learning guitar

703
00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:26,239
Speaker 1: from YouTube, you just cut. You just go to the

704
00:37:26,320 --> 00:37:28,439
Speaker 1: you scan along and see where the chord is shows

705
00:37:28,520 --> 00:37:30,799
Speaker 1: up on the right hand screen, the side. There's ways

706
00:37:30,840 --> 00:37:33,880
Speaker 1: to do it. TikTok is not Actually you need to

707
00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:37,760
Speaker 1: learn things with someone explaining it, then explaining it again.

708
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Speaker 1: That's why no one, none of these TikTok stick people

709
00:37:40,760 --> 00:37:43,920
Speaker 1: aren't really changing their lives because of TikTok's. I like

710
00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:46,719
Speaker 1: one guy that change his whole life from one tick

711
00:37:47,200 --> 00:37:50,160
Speaker 1: like you don't know, seven months ago. Not better than

712
00:37:50,200 --> 00:37:53,040
Speaker 1: anyone because I don't do TikTok. I am so grateful

713
00:37:53,160 --> 00:37:55,799
Speaker 1: that for me it was something that I the first

714
00:37:55,800 --> 00:37:58,879
Speaker 1: time I did it, I go, this is just an

715
00:37:58,880 --> 00:38:00,800
Speaker 1: hour went by, and I don't know what I saw,

716
00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:03,040
Speaker 1: what I got from it. The only thing I got

717
00:38:03,160 --> 00:38:05,160
Speaker 1: was that I am jealous of a ten year old

718
00:38:05,160 --> 00:38:06,880
Speaker 1: that I just saw that has better skin than me.

719
00:38:06,960 --> 00:38:09,040
Speaker 1: And I don't need this ship. Yeah, I mean I

720
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Speaker 1: feel that way. It sounds weird with coffee. If I

721
00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:14,600
Speaker 1: drink too much coffee, an hour will go by. I

722
00:38:14,640 --> 00:38:17,680
Speaker 1: have no idea what happened. Very short term memory, like

723
00:38:17,960 --> 00:38:20,080
Speaker 1: I didn't take anything in Like sometimes I'll drink so

724
00:38:20,160 --> 00:38:23,279
Speaker 1: much caffeine before I hit golf balls. By the end

725
00:38:23,280 --> 00:38:26,600
Speaker 1: of the day, I didn't. It's it's a time travel,

726
00:38:26,680 --> 00:38:29,600
Speaker 1: like a time warp, and you don't get anything actually

727
00:38:29,600 --> 00:38:33,520
Speaker 1: productive done. I'm doing things productive that you think would stick.

728
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Speaker 1: But I don't even know if they stuck, but I

729
00:38:35,520 --> 00:38:39,320
Speaker 1: guess they stopped. Oh maybe I'm just sensitive to coffee.

730
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Speaker 1: But you know, it's like anything. It's like if you

731
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Speaker 1: try to learn something on cocaine, maybe it wouldn't stick.

732
00:38:44,360 --> 00:38:47,960
Speaker 1: Maybe it does. Yeah, does that make sense? Like you

733
00:38:47,960 --> 00:38:49,719
Speaker 1: ever drink so much coffee where you're like, where did

734
00:38:49,719 --> 00:38:53,000
Speaker 1: my morning? Where did that? Seven hours? Just go? Um? Well,

735
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Speaker 1: I relate when I've been on a d D meds

736
00:38:55,880 --> 00:38:58,680
Speaker 1: where the whole day can get away from me because

737
00:38:58,680 --> 00:39:02,319
Speaker 1: I'm hyper focused on a couple of different things, or

738
00:39:02,440 --> 00:39:05,040
Speaker 1: like I'm but then I have a clean house, so

739
00:39:05,120 --> 00:39:07,120
Speaker 1: something did get done and I don't remember doing it

740
00:39:07,200 --> 00:39:10,080
Speaker 1: like but and a lot of times with coffee as well,

741
00:39:10,160 --> 00:39:12,600
Speaker 1: I can get this burst that I feel that I

742
00:39:12,680 --> 00:39:15,000
Speaker 1: would feel on a d D meds of just like

743
00:39:15,600 --> 00:39:20,759
Speaker 1: hyper focus, interested, excited, and and I don't and I'm

744
00:39:20,840 --> 00:39:22,759
Speaker 1: just trying to keep it going because it's such a

745
00:39:22,800 --> 00:39:27,680
Speaker 1: good feeling, and like the despair and the the depression

746
00:39:27,680 --> 00:39:30,680
Speaker 1: I was feeling before is gone momentarily. Coffee is a

747
00:39:30,760 --> 00:39:33,200
Speaker 1: wild but how many how many things have been like

748
00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:35,759
Speaker 1: agreed upon? It was like at the end of the

749
00:39:35,840 --> 00:39:39,400
Speaker 1: day when the van with the Canada trip. I was like, look,

750
00:39:39,640 --> 00:39:41,200
Speaker 1: this is a sign that I shouldn't be going. I

751
00:39:41,239 --> 00:39:42,880
Speaker 1: woke up in the morning, I had one cup of coffee.

752
00:39:42,880 --> 00:39:47,520
Speaker 1: I'm looking at flight. I'm ready to go. Because things

753
00:39:47,600 --> 00:39:50,719
Speaker 1: all the time isn't considered a drug, but it is.

754
00:39:50,840 --> 00:39:54,360
Speaker 1: It is such a drug. It is. Honestly, it's smoking

755
00:39:54,440 --> 00:39:57,319
Speaker 1: in the sixties. People don't know the damage car were

756
00:39:57,680 --> 00:40:01,000
Speaker 1: beginning cancer not cancer, but I mean it leads to

757
00:40:01,040 --> 00:40:03,480
Speaker 1: early death because coffee is I always think of it.

758
00:40:03,640 --> 00:40:07,279
Speaker 1: I call it anxiety juice. You're drinking anxiety juice. That's

759
00:40:07,320 --> 00:40:10,040
Speaker 1: what someone coined it as once and I heard that,

760
00:40:10,080 --> 00:40:12,200
Speaker 1: and now every time I think of it, I was like, yeah,

761
00:40:12,400 --> 00:40:16,400
Speaker 1: I give myself this energy, but it always turns into

762
00:40:16,840 --> 00:40:23,200
Speaker 1: anxiety and you get, yeah, absolutely hardcore coffee as much

763
00:40:23,200 --> 00:40:26,120
Speaker 1: as anyone on skid Row is addicted to fucking New

764
00:40:26,200 --> 00:40:29,279
Speaker 1: York City getting too much coffee and then meaning in

765
00:40:29,280 --> 00:40:30,960
Speaker 1: the park and mean like, I'm just taking in the

766
00:40:30,960 --> 00:40:33,600
Speaker 1: park and then that anxious comes in and the park

767
00:40:33,760 --> 00:40:36,360
Speaker 1: feels like everyone's trying to murder. All those guys are

768
00:40:36,440 --> 00:40:40,200
Speaker 1: running at me. And then I get on the subway.

769
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Speaker 1: How is not being on zoloft? It's really good. Yeah,

770
00:40:46,440 --> 00:40:49,719
Speaker 1: like I really my brain is just different than what

771
00:40:49,800 --> 00:40:52,920
Speaker 1: it was five years or whatever when it started. I

772
00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:57,000
Speaker 1: still get bounce a little bit of depression, but I

773
00:40:57,000 --> 00:40:58,840
Speaker 1: don't know if it's not being in New York and

774
00:40:58,880 --> 00:41:02,320
Speaker 1: that rat race kind of like where I'm feeling pressure

775
00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:04,839
Speaker 1: all the time. Yeah, but yeah, I don't so far.

776
00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:07,840
Speaker 1: So I'm not on any antido presence or anything. And

777
00:41:07,840 --> 00:41:10,080
Speaker 1: it's you know, sometimes people I feel like they almost

778
00:41:10,080 --> 00:41:12,799
Speaker 1: like brag about it. I just know that it's there

779
00:41:12,920 --> 00:41:15,680
Speaker 1: if I need it, which is nice to know. I'm

780
00:41:15,800 --> 00:41:18,320
Speaker 1: glad that I went through it because I do really

781
00:41:18,360 --> 00:41:21,800
Speaker 1: feel like hits the fan again. I have something to

782
00:41:21,880 --> 00:41:23,840
Speaker 1: lean on, yes, and you know it works, which is

783
00:41:23,880 --> 00:41:26,120
Speaker 1: almost enough to like kind of get through any kind

784
00:41:26,120 --> 00:41:29,200
Speaker 1: of anxiousness. But I haven't had a good reference, like

785
00:41:29,239 --> 00:41:32,239
Speaker 1: a good reference point of how you could feel and

786
00:41:32,280 --> 00:41:35,719
Speaker 1: be right. Yes, I think you're right, Like a lot

787
00:41:35,800 --> 00:41:39,719
Speaker 1: of times you don't know how good it could be

788
00:41:40,000 --> 00:41:43,560
Speaker 1: or how and it makes and it convinces you it

789
00:41:43,760 --> 00:41:46,120
Speaker 1: is in your head. You know, it's not just like

790
00:41:46,160 --> 00:41:49,759
Speaker 1: it's not your it's something that can be cured by

791
00:41:49,760 --> 00:41:51,759
Speaker 1: a pill. So like this thing isn't real, Like if

792
00:41:51,760 --> 00:41:53,880
Speaker 1: you're having anxiety about having a heart attack, You're like, well,

793
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:56,320
Speaker 1: if I took this pill for two weeks, I wouldn't

794
00:41:56,320 --> 00:41:58,040
Speaker 1: be worried about a heart attack. Well, clearly that pill

795
00:41:58,120 --> 00:42:00,279
Speaker 1: is not helping my heart attack. So it's not a

796
00:42:00,320 --> 00:42:03,600
Speaker 1: heart attack. Yes, it's my brain. And I think your

797
00:42:03,600 --> 00:42:06,000
Speaker 1: brain learns that, it adapts to that. Like I think

798
00:42:06,239 --> 00:42:09,200
Speaker 1: that's even if you're on the drug again, it's like coffee,

799
00:42:09,200 --> 00:42:11,480
Speaker 1: It's like, is anything really working? Am I learning anything?

800
00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:13,600
Speaker 1: Even if you're on zoo? If you're learning that your

801
00:42:13,640 --> 00:42:17,480
Speaker 1: thoughts aren't things, but they're like you don't allow them

802
00:42:17,520 --> 00:42:19,680
Speaker 1: to race. You don't allow them to get to that

803
00:42:20,200 --> 00:42:22,440
Speaker 1: next level and then that next level and the next

804
00:42:22,480 --> 00:42:25,080
Speaker 1: thing you know, you're in the er again for fucking

805
00:42:25,120 --> 00:42:27,279
Speaker 1: three days, thinking you're having a heart attack, but really

806
00:42:27,280 --> 00:42:30,400
Speaker 1: you just hate a spicy pepper. Like, man, I was

807
00:42:30,480 --> 00:42:34,600
Speaker 1: just I was feeling to press this weekend and I

808
00:42:34,640 --> 00:42:39,120
Speaker 1: was talking because I wasn't possibly, you know, I wasn't

809
00:42:39,120 --> 00:42:44,920
Speaker 1: having as much social interaction so that but um I was.

810
00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:47,880
Speaker 1: I decided to help someone else that was going through depression,

811
00:42:47,880 --> 00:42:50,359
Speaker 1: and man, it just was so interesting how like you

812
00:42:50,400 --> 00:42:52,239
Speaker 1: find the answers when you just get out of your

813
00:42:52,239 --> 00:42:55,640
Speaker 1: own problem. And suddenly it's like, oh, this is what

814
00:42:55,719 --> 00:42:59,080
Speaker 1: I needed to tell myself. I didn't realize this works,

815
00:42:59,120 --> 00:43:01,680
Speaker 1: but I was hopping a friend with some like body

816
00:43:01,719 --> 00:43:05,760
Speaker 1: issue stuff and I was having the same stuff and UM,

817
00:43:05,760 --> 00:43:08,720
Speaker 1: and it was so interesting, like I found the answers

818
00:43:08,719 --> 00:43:11,839
Speaker 1: in giving her the help. Like I was struggling with

819
00:43:12,040 --> 00:43:17,960
Speaker 1: UM by a black guy in a car. I feel great,

820
00:43:22,040 --> 00:43:27,239
Speaker 1: but I was like, just you know, I came and

821
00:43:27,600 --> 00:43:30,320
Speaker 1: the thing for me is like I had to remember

822
00:43:30,480 --> 00:43:32,960
Speaker 1: that my body is not my business, which is just

823
00:43:33,040 --> 00:43:35,239
Speaker 1: something that you learn if if you're in recovery, which

824
00:43:35,239 --> 00:43:37,319
Speaker 1: never made any sense to me because it seems like

825
00:43:37,360 --> 00:43:39,320
Speaker 1: you can control it, and you're like, no, if I

826
00:43:39,400 --> 00:43:41,440
Speaker 1: starve myself, then I lose weight, like I've seen it

827
00:43:41,480 --> 00:43:44,520
Speaker 1: happen before. That's my control. But then you don't realize

828
00:43:44,560 --> 00:43:48,560
Speaker 1: that that then it quickly becomes out of control. Either

829
00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:50,880
Speaker 1: you starve yourself too much and you your life is

830
00:43:50,920 --> 00:43:53,359
Speaker 1: miserable because you're hungry all the time and obsessed with food,

831
00:43:53,840 --> 00:43:57,720
Speaker 1: or you eventually let your guard down and you cannot

832
00:43:57,760 --> 00:44:00,239
Speaker 1: stop eating. And then you have this immense skill and

833
00:44:00,520 --> 00:44:01,880
Speaker 1: you know all the stuff, so it's really not in

834
00:44:01,880 --> 00:44:04,480
Speaker 1: your control and my friend. I reached out to a

835
00:44:04,480 --> 00:44:07,360
Speaker 1: friend being like, I'm really struggling with body stuff. I

836
00:44:07,400 --> 00:44:09,000
Speaker 1: don't know why this is coming up for me, and

837
00:44:10,000 --> 00:44:13,080
Speaker 1: she was just like, well, just ask God to help

838
00:44:13,120 --> 00:44:14,880
Speaker 1: you be the size you want to be. And I

839
00:44:14,960 --> 00:44:17,280
Speaker 1: was like that seems We were both kind of commenting

840
00:44:17,280 --> 00:44:20,600
Speaker 1: like that seems weird because being a size it shouldn't

841
00:44:20,640 --> 00:44:23,000
Speaker 1: matter what size I should ask for acceptance about my

842
00:44:23,040 --> 00:44:24,640
Speaker 1: size now. And she was like, no, you can ask

843
00:44:24,640 --> 00:44:26,560
Speaker 1: God like, can you help me achieve a size where

844
00:44:26,560 --> 00:44:28,840
Speaker 1: I feel comfortable? Because the size I feel comfortable and

845
00:44:28,960 --> 00:44:31,680
Speaker 1: is not a sickly size, it's just a little bit

846
00:44:31,719 --> 00:44:33,440
Speaker 1: less than right now my clothes are. I just don't

847
00:44:33,480 --> 00:44:36,279
Speaker 1: want to buy a new clothes and I just want

848
00:44:36,280 --> 00:44:38,040
Speaker 1: to feel comfortable in the clothes that I love, and

849
00:44:38,120 --> 00:44:40,439
Speaker 1: right now they're not comfortable. Now is this cool God?

850
00:44:40,560 --> 00:44:44,200
Speaker 1: Or like yeah, no, this is just this is honestly

851
00:44:44,560 --> 00:44:47,319
Speaker 1: fucking I don't know if it's the you're asking the

852
00:44:47,400 --> 00:44:50,040
Speaker 1: air you're asking. No, no, I know, I'm just I'm

853
00:44:50,080 --> 00:44:52,440
Speaker 1: just picturing like a god being like you better be

854
00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:56,680
Speaker 1: a size to guy. Yeah this God? So this is

855
00:44:56,840 --> 00:44:59,799
Speaker 1: a laid back, A laid back God, but it's just

856
00:45:00,080 --> 00:45:04,000
Speaker 1: nice and loving God. This God. I hate the word God.

857
00:45:04,040 --> 00:45:06,080
Speaker 1: I really hate the word God. But to me, it

858
00:45:06,200 --> 00:45:08,960
Speaker 1: just means it's just anything that's not me because I

859
00:45:08,960 --> 00:45:11,200
Speaker 1: do not have control over my body and I love

860
00:45:11,320 --> 00:45:12,920
Speaker 1: hearing like it's none of your business. So I just

861
00:45:13,000 --> 00:45:17,440
Speaker 1: asked politely, like in my mind, you know, even allowed,

862
00:45:17,520 --> 00:45:20,440
Speaker 1: like God, will you just like help my body be

863
00:45:20,840 --> 00:45:22,640
Speaker 1: like what I would like it to be. I think

864
00:45:22,640 --> 00:45:24,880
Speaker 1: of God. I think of my body and what I

865
00:45:24,880 --> 00:45:27,360
Speaker 1: want it to be as something that's behind a counter

866
00:45:27,480 --> 00:45:29,239
Speaker 1: at a front desk of a hotel, like I can

867
00:45:29,280 --> 00:45:30,960
Speaker 1: see it, but I don't get to go get it,

868
00:45:31,400 --> 00:45:34,320
Speaker 1: like I have to ask for help, and if I

869
00:45:34,360 --> 00:45:36,360
Speaker 1: were to go get it, I could get in trouble,

870
00:45:36,719 --> 00:45:38,640
Speaker 1: Like that's only going to make my life. So it's

871
00:45:38,680 --> 00:45:40,520
Speaker 1: something I just need help with, like someone needs to

872
00:45:40,560 --> 00:45:43,239
Speaker 1: get what are you looking for an answer from? Like no,

873
00:45:44,360 --> 00:45:46,080
Speaker 1: but what are you looking for? And looking for? Just

874
00:45:46,160 --> 00:45:50,200
Speaker 1: help either with? Like so you ask him and then

875
00:45:50,520 --> 00:45:52,640
Speaker 1: what are you? What happens after you? I don't know.

876
00:45:53,000 --> 00:45:56,600
Speaker 1: Just I'm not starving. I don't I want to be.

877
00:45:56,760 --> 00:46:00,080
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe it will look like uh, not being is

878
00:46:00,120 --> 00:46:03,200
Speaker 1: emotional and eating my feelings. Maybe that will what it

879
00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:05,520
Speaker 1: will look like for me. Maybe it's like my body

880
00:46:05,520 --> 00:46:08,680
Speaker 1: will naturally like let go of some weight that I

881
00:46:08,680 --> 00:46:10,759
Speaker 1: don't need. But it's not going to be because I'm

882
00:46:10,760 --> 00:46:13,000
Speaker 1: starving or because i'm it's not going to be anything

883
00:46:13,000 --> 00:46:15,440
Speaker 1: that I'm doing to be like, Okay, we're gonna control this.

884
00:46:15,719 --> 00:46:19,440
Speaker 1: But what happened was the next day I felt I

885
00:46:19,560 --> 00:46:22,080
Speaker 1: like love my body, and it wasn't because I maybe

886
00:46:22,080 --> 00:46:23,520
Speaker 1: I lost weight, but I don't think I did. I

887
00:46:23,520 --> 00:46:26,840
Speaker 1: think it was just like my my thing was answered

888
00:46:26,920 --> 00:46:29,799
Speaker 1: because I just for me, what I thought I was

889
00:46:29,840 --> 00:46:32,680
Speaker 1: asking for was a smaller body, but what I was

890
00:46:32,719 --> 00:46:35,200
Speaker 1: given was, oh my god, I think I look like

891
00:46:35,320 --> 00:46:38,800
Speaker 1: actually better like this, Like that's that was the answer.

892
00:46:39,440 --> 00:46:41,000
Speaker 1: And you know what, then it bubbled up again a

893
00:46:41,040 --> 00:46:43,200
Speaker 1: couple of days later, and then I remember this Louise

894
00:46:43,200 --> 00:46:46,080
Speaker 1: Hey quote that I love, which is God, the universe,

895
00:46:46,120 --> 00:46:49,440
Speaker 1: whatever it is, is not going to keep giving you gifts.

896
00:46:49,480 --> 00:46:51,759
Speaker 1: If the gifts that you're given you just go like

897
00:46:52,239 --> 00:46:54,759
Speaker 1: I don't even like this, like I don't want this,

898
00:46:55,160 --> 00:46:58,319
Speaker 1: Like I would not give you a single gift ever again,

899
00:46:58,360 --> 00:46:59,719
Speaker 1: if every time I gave you a gift, you were

900
00:46:59,719 --> 00:47:01,880
Speaker 1: like it's not good enough. I don't like it. So

901
00:47:01,960 --> 00:47:06,040
Speaker 1: being grateful is always the solution to having the things

902
00:47:06,080 --> 00:47:08,279
Speaker 1: that you want in life given to you, because it's

903
00:47:08,280 --> 00:47:10,839
Speaker 1: not in your control whether you get things. Even if

904
00:47:10,880 --> 00:47:15,359
Speaker 1: the answer the gift isn't you necessarily, Well, I can

905
00:47:15,400 --> 00:47:17,680
Speaker 1: be grateful I have hands. That's a gift that like,

906
00:47:17,840 --> 00:47:19,719
Speaker 1: if I didn't have hands, I would fucking suck. And

907
00:47:19,760 --> 00:47:22,520
Speaker 1: I can be grateful for hands, you know, Like that's

908
00:47:22,560 --> 00:47:25,000
Speaker 1: the type of thing I'm talking about, instead of being

909
00:47:25,000 --> 00:47:27,479
Speaker 1: like I'm fat today or whatever the funk my brain

910
00:47:27,600 --> 00:47:30,080
Speaker 1: is telling me, like they focus on a gift that

911
00:47:30,120 --> 00:47:32,440
Speaker 1: I have been given that I'm so grateful for, and

912
00:47:32,440 --> 00:47:34,879
Speaker 1: then the universe hears that and goes, oh my god,

913
00:47:35,120 --> 00:47:36,840
Speaker 1: I want to give that girl more gifts because she

914
00:47:36,840 --> 00:47:41,920
Speaker 1: actually appreciates it. So that's the answer, Like, that is

915
00:47:41,960 --> 00:47:44,239
Speaker 1: the answer when you're complaining about your life and every

916
00:47:44,239 --> 00:47:46,560
Speaker 1: little thing, which I did about Air Canada. I'm a

917
00:47:46,560 --> 00:47:49,399
Speaker 1: little bit that complains all the time. But that state

918
00:47:49,440 --> 00:47:52,120
Speaker 1: of mind does not lead to more good things happening

919
00:47:52,200 --> 00:47:54,799
Speaker 1: to you. It just doesn't. And I just thought that

920
00:47:54,920 --> 00:47:57,040
Speaker 1: kind of like the gift analogy was kind of cool.

921
00:47:57,120 --> 00:47:58,600
Speaker 1: Let's take a quick break and come back with top

922
00:47:58,600 --> 00:48:06,319
Speaker 1: one at bottom line. All right, we're back. It's time

923
00:48:06,320 --> 00:48:12,160
Speaker 1: for top one Bottom one. Um. The category today is favors,

924
00:48:13,000 --> 00:48:18,799
Speaker 1: favors things people ask of you. Now that's obviously kind

925
00:48:18,800 --> 00:48:21,239
Speaker 1: of almost a negative in and of itself, but within

926
00:48:21,400 --> 00:48:23,160
Speaker 1: any kind of category, there is going to be the

927
00:48:23,360 --> 00:48:27,280
Speaker 1: best and the worst. Um, let's start with the worst

928
00:48:27,480 --> 00:48:31,080
Speaker 1: kind of favor to be asked of you. Why do

929
00:48:31,239 --> 00:48:33,600
Speaker 1: anytime I think of something like the worst, I think

930
00:48:33,600 --> 00:48:36,400
Speaker 1: a Larry David, Like I think of like it just

931
00:48:36,480 --> 00:48:39,160
Speaker 1: like things like different scenes play in my head are

932
00:48:39,160 --> 00:48:42,239
Speaker 1: like what would annoy him? Because like there could be

933
00:48:42,320 --> 00:48:45,719
Speaker 1: giant favors that annoy you, right, like like hey, will

934
00:48:45,800 --> 00:48:49,080
Speaker 1: you give me thirty dollar? Obviously that's like, or give

935
00:48:49,120 --> 00:48:53,120
Speaker 1: me a hundred thousands? That's a favor? I love you

936
00:48:53,239 --> 00:48:55,839
Speaker 1: love that kind of favorite because it's just so black,

937
00:48:55,880 --> 00:48:57,359
Speaker 1: and I don't want to get to my favorite yet.

938
00:48:57,360 --> 00:49:00,839
Speaker 1: But that is okay. So at least no, no, no,

939
00:49:00,880 --> 00:49:03,160
Speaker 1: that was actually it. You gave me my answer. My

940
00:49:03,280 --> 00:49:07,640
Speaker 1: least one was, Um, well I just got asked it today. Uh.

941
00:49:07,680 --> 00:49:10,120
Speaker 1: This is from a friend of mine who I've worked

942
00:49:10,160 --> 00:49:12,040
Speaker 1: on a show with, and he's someone that I just

943
00:49:12,080 --> 00:49:14,319
Speaker 1: like reached out. You know, I just like love this

944
00:49:14,360 --> 00:49:16,440
Speaker 1: little this guy, he's a younger kid that's worked on

945
00:49:16,440 --> 00:49:18,680
Speaker 1: a show, and I just have an affection for him.

946
00:49:18,719 --> 00:49:21,480
Speaker 1: And he runs kind of depressed sometimes and I just

947
00:49:21,520 --> 00:49:24,400
Speaker 1: talked to him about his life and he's just a sweetheart.

948
00:49:24,480 --> 00:49:26,959
Speaker 1: And he wrote to me, Hey, I'm doing my first

949
00:49:26,960 --> 00:49:28,400
Speaker 1: open mic at the end of this month. Can I

950
00:49:28,440 --> 00:49:30,319
Speaker 1: record my little set and send it to you after

951
00:49:30,400 --> 00:49:35,000
Speaker 1: for constructive criticism? And I wrote back, this is real.

952
00:49:36,000 --> 00:49:37,719
Speaker 1: I would say yes, but I think you just have

953
00:49:37,800 --> 00:49:39,760
Speaker 1: to go about it on your own in the beginning.

954
00:49:40,440 --> 00:49:42,000
Speaker 1: I did not ask for help from people in the

955
00:49:42,000 --> 00:49:43,799
Speaker 1: beginning because I knew I would suck, and it's all

956
00:49:43,840 --> 00:49:46,279
Speaker 1: about trial and error. You're too new to receive help.

957
00:49:46,800 --> 00:49:48,359
Speaker 1: Give it a couple of years and then I can

958
00:49:48,400 --> 00:49:50,759
Speaker 1: start helping you. I'm really proud of you, though. That

959
00:49:50,920 --> 00:49:52,800
Speaker 1: is me like. That is not something I would be

960
00:49:52,840 --> 00:49:55,640
Speaker 1: able to do normally, is tell people. I would usually

961
00:49:55,680 --> 00:49:58,279
Speaker 1: say yes, but that would be lying to him. I

962
00:49:58,320 --> 00:50:00,440
Speaker 1: don't want to give you help. I don't think you

963
00:50:00,480 --> 00:50:04,480
Speaker 1: deserve it yet. I wouldn't ask a guitar virtuoso to

964
00:50:04,520 --> 00:50:08,840
Speaker 1: help me making a you know, be minor chord, I

965
00:50:08,840 --> 00:50:12,200
Speaker 1: would just go online. I would just help someone that

966
00:50:12,239 --> 00:50:13,800
Speaker 1: was a little bit better than me, you know, or

967
00:50:13,840 --> 00:50:17,319
Speaker 1: I would ask someone person in that instance, I really

968
00:50:17,320 --> 00:50:19,799
Speaker 1: do I think I'm I'm being serious. Yeah, I think

969
00:50:19,880 --> 00:50:22,040
Speaker 1: depending on how they took that too and how they

970
00:50:22,160 --> 00:50:24,319
Speaker 1: what they wrote back, thank you for being honest with me,

971
00:50:24,360 --> 00:50:26,160
Speaker 1: and I appreciate you taking the time to get back

972
00:50:26,200 --> 00:50:28,919
Speaker 1: to me on this exclamation mark, exclamation mark, exclamation mark,

973
00:50:29,800 --> 00:50:31,959
Speaker 1: And I said, and I said, back to what I said,

974
00:50:32,000 --> 00:50:34,360
Speaker 1: of course, I love you, and nothing changes that because

975
00:50:34,400 --> 00:50:36,920
Speaker 1: I do. That is a loving response, because that is

976
00:50:37,000 --> 00:50:39,920
Speaker 1: me sticking to my boundaries. He doesn't have a he

977
00:50:40,000 --> 00:50:43,920
Speaker 1: doesn't get to have access to because of somebody else. No,

978
00:50:44,160 --> 00:50:46,440
Speaker 1: it doesn't. I would have never asked Chris Rock, not

979
00:50:46,480 --> 00:50:48,920
Speaker 1: that I'm Chris Rock, but you know, in terms of

980
00:50:48,960 --> 00:50:51,399
Speaker 1: how much better Chris Rock was than me at certain

981
00:50:51,440 --> 00:50:53,080
Speaker 1: points in my career, even when I was like ten

982
00:50:53,160 --> 00:50:54,920
Speaker 1: years in, I would have never asked him for I

983
00:50:54,920 --> 00:50:57,680
Speaker 1: wouldn't ask him for advice now, you know. No, it's

984
00:50:57,719 --> 00:51:00,440
Speaker 1: a good lesson to learn now as a posed to

985
00:51:01,719 --> 00:51:04,120
Speaker 1: meaner people down the road that you ask a favor

986
00:51:04,200 --> 00:51:07,239
Speaker 1: for or you think you deserve something, just because you

987
00:51:07,360 --> 00:51:11,320
Speaker 1: put in such minimal amount of effort, so many people

988
00:51:11,320 --> 00:51:14,600
Speaker 1: feel like they deserve it way too early. Yes, and

989
00:51:14,640 --> 00:51:17,560
Speaker 1: whatever it is, I'm so psyched for. I did give

990
00:51:17,600 --> 00:51:20,920
Speaker 1: him advice about just do it, dude, Like I'm happy

991
00:51:20,960 --> 00:51:23,759
Speaker 1: to give advice about trying to do comedy. But in

992
00:51:23,840 --> 00:51:26,640
Speaker 1: terms of helping you write jokes, you're gonna find out

993
00:51:26,719 --> 00:51:30,239
Speaker 1: and you're gonna I You're gonna suck. No one's gonna

994
00:51:30,280 --> 00:51:32,040
Speaker 1: be good in the beginning. There's nothing I can tell

995
00:51:32,080 --> 00:51:35,600
Speaker 1: you at this point. Um, look for help from people

996
00:51:35,640 --> 00:51:37,319
Speaker 1: that are just a couple of steps above you, not

997
00:51:37,480 --> 00:51:41,719
Speaker 1: a mile above you. Yeah, there's nothing there's in stand up.

998
00:51:41,719 --> 00:51:44,840
Speaker 1: There's really to really be good at stand there's no shortcut.

999
00:51:45,040 --> 00:51:47,719
Speaker 1: You just have to get on stage. Like it's not.

1000
00:51:48,239 --> 00:51:51,600
Speaker 1: It's not. It's different than every other form it really.

1001
00:51:51,640 --> 00:51:54,160
Speaker 1: I mean, look, a lot of people can be good. Again,

1002
00:51:54,280 --> 00:51:56,760
Speaker 1: what do you feel about about golf? It's about hours

1003
00:51:56,800 --> 00:51:58,920
Speaker 1: as well. I mean, no one's going to be a

1004
00:51:59,000 --> 00:52:03,399
Speaker 1: natural going in it, sup process. Yeah, it's about the hours. Yeah,

1005
00:52:03,440 --> 00:52:06,759
Speaker 1: I wouldn't. I wouldn't write fucking Tiger Wood. Hey can

1006
00:52:06,760 --> 00:52:08,960
Speaker 1: you look at my swing? I'm thinking about going to

1007
00:52:09,000 --> 00:52:11,840
Speaker 1: a drive in the other the guy that was driving

1008
00:52:11,840 --> 00:52:14,120
Speaker 1: me in Vancouver is in a band called gob that

1009
00:52:14,200 --> 00:52:15,920
Speaker 1: was like a huge band. They've done a bunch of

1010
00:52:15,920 --> 00:52:17,920
Speaker 1: stuff and he's a guitarist and so I saw my

1011
00:52:17,960 --> 00:52:19,600
Speaker 1: guitar and was like, do you play and I go, yeah,

1012
00:52:19,600 --> 00:52:22,160
Speaker 1: but like I'm two years in and we're driving back

1013
00:52:22,160 --> 00:52:23,480
Speaker 1: and you've just seen my show, and he was just

1014
00:52:23,680 --> 00:52:26,200
Speaker 1: very like So he was just like, I can't believe

1015
00:52:26,280 --> 00:52:29,000
Speaker 1: you're like that was insane. He was just very into it.

1016
00:52:29,080 --> 00:52:30,880
Speaker 1: And he was like, so, what are you gonna do

1017
00:52:30,880 --> 00:52:32,560
Speaker 1: the rest? And I was like, gonna go practice guitar.

1018
00:52:33,120 --> 00:52:36,879
Speaker 1: And then I go, I realized that you are You've

1019
00:52:36,880 --> 00:52:38,680
Speaker 1: been playing guitar for oh I was talking to him.

1020
00:52:38,680 --> 00:52:40,880
Speaker 1: I go, at this point, if I wasn't as good

1021
00:52:40,920 --> 00:52:42,839
Speaker 1: as you're saying I am, at stand up, there would

1022
00:52:42,840 --> 00:52:45,440
Speaker 1: be something wrong because I've done it so much that

1023
00:52:45,480 --> 00:52:47,279
Speaker 1: I'm an expert because of the hours I put in.

1024
00:52:47,280 --> 00:52:49,160
Speaker 1: I go, just like you a guitar, and I go,

1025
00:52:49,960 --> 00:52:53,480
Speaker 1: you know, you're probably so good because you and you

1026
00:52:53,560 --> 00:52:55,520
Speaker 1: being on stage all the time, you just you're just

1027
00:52:55,640 --> 00:52:57,839
Speaker 1: you're probably nervous in the beginning, and now you could

1028
00:52:57,840 --> 00:52:59,680
Speaker 1: do anything. You can play for him any amount of people.

1029
00:53:00,000 --> 00:53:01,400
Speaker 1: And then we started talking about a guitar, and I

1030
00:53:01,400 --> 00:53:03,520
Speaker 1: got into the thing of like, I'm having trouble with

1031
00:53:03,560 --> 00:53:06,360
Speaker 1: my pick, holding my pick. But before I asked for advice,

1032
00:53:06,480 --> 00:53:09,759
Speaker 1: I said, I realized this is like someone this would

1033
00:53:09,760 --> 00:53:12,279
Speaker 1: be you, you know, thinking about doing an open mic

1034
00:53:12,280 --> 00:53:14,600
Speaker 1: and asking me for like what's a good closer, But

1035
00:53:14,680 --> 00:53:16,680
Speaker 1: like I'm struggling with my pick. I'm just putting that

1036
00:53:16,719 --> 00:53:18,200
Speaker 1: out there. And I didn't ask for advice, and then

1037
00:53:18,239 --> 00:53:20,840
Speaker 1: he gave me some that was not me asking for it.

1038
00:53:20,880 --> 00:53:26,680
Speaker 1: I was just explaining what my experiences. And I was

1039
00:53:27,040 --> 00:53:29,560
Speaker 1: thirty when I moved to New York, and I swear

1040
00:53:29,600 --> 00:53:31,600
Speaker 1: to you like I did not even expect to get

1041
00:53:31,640 --> 00:53:34,759
Speaker 1: on a show like a bar show. And partly I

1042
00:53:34,800 --> 00:53:39,360
Speaker 1: went the other way of seeing thinking I didn't deserve anything.

1043
00:53:39,719 --> 00:53:42,319
Speaker 1: I turned down so many things. I was like, I

1044
00:53:42,360 --> 00:53:45,120
Speaker 1: can't do this show. I'm not. I only have these

1045
00:53:45,200 --> 00:53:48,560
Speaker 1: jokes from floor like I can't. But like, you know,

1046
00:53:48,719 --> 00:53:51,840
Speaker 1: I think there's a nice balance of thinking you deserve

1047
00:53:51,960 --> 00:53:55,480
Speaker 1: things and also that you don't. So like I love

1048
00:53:55,560 --> 00:53:58,760
Speaker 1: the effort of like even writing that there is something

1049
00:53:58,800 --> 00:54:03,640
Speaker 1: too asking for help and asking for advice that is

1050
00:54:03,680 --> 00:54:08,600
Speaker 1: difficult to to that you shouldn't be open to do,

1051
00:54:09,080 --> 00:54:10,840
Speaker 1: to be able to do. And I hope that didn't

1052
00:54:10,840 --> 00:54:13,400
Speaker 1: shut that person down because like, no, yeah, you know

1053
00:54:13,480 --> 00:54:16,759
Speaker 1: what there, Yeah I thought it was. But I'm saying,

1054
00:54:16,760 --> 00:54:19,960
Speaker 1: like there's a lot reject with love, reject with love,

1055
00:54:20,040 --> 00:54:22,120
Speaker 1: and also, but don't be afraid to ask for things

1056
00:54:22,239 --> 00:54:24,720
Speaker 1: if you think you deserve them. Can I share? Another

1057
00:54:24,840 --> 00:54:27,960
Speaker 1: thing the other day was like how she was getting

1058
00:54:28,920 --> 00:54:30,680
Speaker 1: like a request from a girl that she was to

1059
00:54:30,760 --> 00:54:32,600
Speaker 1: hang out, and she was like, I just really don't

1060
00:54:32,600 --> 00:54:34,760
Speaker 1: want to. I don't like, I don't have an excuse

1061
00:54:34,800 --> 00:54:37,399
Speaker 1: other than like I just when I have free time,

1062
00:54:37,440 --> 00:54:39,040
Speaker 1: I want to spend it with my boyfriend. No new

1063
00:54:39,080 --> 00:54:41,400
Speaker 1: friends kind of thing. We're gonna bleep whoever's name. I

1064
00:54:41,440 --> 00:54:43,680
Speaker 1: just said, if you're wondering why we bleeped it, because

1065
00:54:43,680 --> 00:54:48,719
Speaker 1: I just yeah, so and I told her, I said, um,

1066
00:54:49,840 --> 00:54:52,560
Speaker 1: I wrote a response for her because I was like,

1067
00:54:52,680 --> 00:54:54,920
Speaker 1: because she goes, I'm just telling her like I'm busy

1068
00:54:55,160 --> 00:54:57,320
Speaker 1: and all these things go. You're not busy, that doesn't

1069
00:54:57,360 --> 00:54:59,880
Speaker 1: you don't need to lie you. So I gave her

1070
00:54:59,880 --> 00:55:01,759
Speaker 1: an example of something that I had said to someone

1071
00:55:01,800 --> 00:55:05,360
Speaker 1: of like I don't have time for my friends in

1072
00:55:05,400 --> 00:55:08,600
Speaker 1: my own life, my family, like, they come first and

1073
00:55:08,719 --> 00:55:10,319
Speaker 1: I just don't have time from like. I gave her

1074
00:55:10,320 --> 00:55:12,040
Speaker 1: a response, but she was like, I just don't know

1075
00:55:12,080 --> 00:55:14,960
Speaker 1: how you are honest with people. And then I remembered

1076
00:55:15,760 --> 00:55:18,680
Speaker 1: that a meal witnessed me being extremely honest with someone

1077
00:55:19,320 --> 00:55:22,640
Speaker 1: um the other night. But wait, wait, did did that

1078
00:55:22,760 --> 00:55:25,319
Speaker 1: person send that to that other person? And how was

1079
00:55:25,360 --> 00:55:27,160
Speaker 1: the response? She never wrote back to me, so I'm

1080
00:55:27,160 --> 00:55:29,240
Speaker 1: guessing it went well. If there would have been more conflict,

1081
00:55:30,120 --> 00:55:33,319
Speaker 1: I sure you, so, Emil wrote the other day, he goes,

1082
00:55:33,320 --> 00:55:34,920
Speaker 1: and I'm not gonna say, I'm gonna use the name

1083
00:55:35,000 --> 00:55:37,600
Speaker 1: James instead of the real person's name. He goes, Okay,

1084
00:55:37,680 --> 00:55:41,720
Speaker 1: I can't stop thinking about this with the sell. He goes,

1085
00:55:42,080 --> 00:55:44,920
Speaker 1: I can't stop thinking about when James said, hey, will

1086
00:55:44,960 --> 00:55:46,719
Speaker 1: you let me know next time you're in town, and

1087
00:55:46,760 --> 00:55:50,560
Speaker 1: you straight up we're like, no, I won't do that.

1088
00:55:50,960 --> 00:55:54,759
Speaker 1: I said that I won't. I didn't want a lie.

1089
00:55:54,840 --> 00:55:56,359
Speaker 1: I don't want to lie and be like I will

1090
00:55:56,400 --> 00:55:58,840
Speaker 1: and I just go there was more to it than that.

1091
00:55:58,920 --> 00:56:01,319
Speaker 1: I said, honestly, I'm not going to but it's not

1092
00:56:01,360 --> 00:56:03,160
Speaker 1: because I don't like you. I just don't. I don't

1093
00:56:03,160 --> 00:56:05,719
Speaker 1: write my best. Sometimes I forget and I go and

1094
00:56:05,719 --> 00:56:07,840
Speaker 1: I always know I'm going to see you with the

1095
00:56:07,880 --> 00:56:11,040
Speaker 1: seller and I count on that, but I'm not. I'm

1096
00:56:11,120 --> 00:56:13,600
Speaker 1: never going to let you know before and and he

1097
00:56:13,760 --> 00:56:16,640
Speaker 1: handled it. He was just like, it wasn't rude. It

1098
00:56:16,719 --> 00:56:19,399
Speaker 1: was loving actually, because I was like, I do love

1099
00:56:19,480 --> 00:56:21,680
Speaker 1: seeing you, but I'm not gonna let you I'm not

1100
00:56:21,719 --> 00:56:23,279
Speaker 1: gonna lie to you right now and say I'm gonna

1101
00:56:23,320 --> 00:56:25,279
Speaker 1: let you know. I had a very similar moment to

1102
00:56:25,320 --> 00:56:28,400
Speaker 1: that recently, but I didn't do it to the person's face. Phase.

1103
00:56:28,520 --> 00:56:32,080
Speaker 1: Because someone else goes, hey, oh, you're going to that city,

1104
00:56:32,480 --> 00:56:35,239
Speaker 1: you should call blah blah blah or let them know

1105
00:56:35,320 --> 00:56:38,319
Speaker 1: that you're in town. I go, I'm like, I like

1106
00:56:38,440 --> 00:56:40,480
Speaker 1: that person, but like, I gotta focus on doing it.

1107
00:56:40,880 --> 00:56:42,960
Speaker 1: Once I start opening up those luggs, then I'm like,

1108
00:56:43,040 --> 00:56:45,279
Speaker 1: oh no, I gotta call fifteen people to let them know.

1109
00:56:45,920 --> 00:56:48,279
Speaker 1: I haven't. I have a website. I put it on

1110
00:56:48,320 --> 00:56:51,480
Speaker 1: my shows on Instagram, Like I can't like, but I

1111
00:56:51,520 --> 00:56:55,680
Speaker 1: like that person. You had nothing but my least favorite favor.

1112
00:56:55,960 --> 00:56:59,720
Speaker 1: Back to that, I guess we should go to those

1113
00:57:00,280 --> 00:57:04,040
Speaker 1: the you know, the whole thing but the top one,

1114
00:57:04,080 --> 00:57:08,120
Speaker 1: bottom one least favorite favor I don't like when someone

1115
00:57:08,719 --> 00:57:12,600
Speaker 1: has their phone on them and they could easily and

1116
00:57:12,640 --> 00:57:17,560
Speaker 1: they go, what's what's the weather tomorrow? When your show start? What?

1117
00:57:17,560 --> 00:57:20,160
Speaker 1: What show? What time is the show tonight? What's the

1118
00:57:20,200 --> 00:57:22,720
Speaker 1: weather tomorrow? You have a phone? You have your phone

1119
00:57:22,840 --> 00:57:24,920
Speaker 1: in your hand. Yeah, why are you asking me? Is

1120
00:57:24,920 --> 00:57:27,320
Speaker 1: it really about the weather? Is that a real one? Yeah,

1121
00:57:27,360 --> 00:57:29,320
Speaker 1: that's a real thing, like like little like a little

1122
00:57:29,360 --> 00:57:32,400
Speaker 1: thing like that, like or like you know, it's like, well,

1123
00:57:33,120 --> 00:57:37,760
Speaker 1: you just on. That was just simpler to this. I'm

1124
00:57:37,760 --> 00:57:40,240
Speaker 1: sorry to share these real life examples. But there's a

1125
00:57:40,360 --> 00:57:44,480
Speaker 1: bestie who wrote me for tickets to the like meet

1126
00:57:44,520 --> 00:57:47,480
Speaker 1: and greets because he couldn't afford them or whatever. And

1127
00:57:47,520 --> 00:57:51,600
Speaker 1: he goes, um, so, you know, a month ago, he

1128
00:57:51,640 --> 00:57:53,640
Speaker 1: wrote me, is there anything I need to know to do?

1129
00:57:53,760 --> 00:57:55,240
Speaker 1: Just let me know? And I said, they'll be there

1130
00:57:55,240 --> 00:57:57,040
Speaker 1: at the box office under your name. He said, awesome,

1131
00:57:57,040 --> 00:57:59,640
Speaker 1: thank you, And then I get on Friday night before

1132
00:57:59,640 --> 00:58:02,320
Speaker 1: the show or at Friday at one pm. Hey, thanks

1133
00:58:02,360 --> 00:58:04,520
Speaker 1: again for the tickets tonight. I can't wait, just wondering

1134
00:58:04,600 --> 00:58:06,600
Speaker 1: if it will still be at the box office before

1135
00:58:06,600 --> 00:58:09,200
Speaker 1: we head down and I wrote back, why would that

1136
00:58:09,280 --> 00:58:14,520
Speaker 1: have changed? Why would that have changed? Jesse? And I

1137
00:58:14,600 --> 00:58:17,000
Speaker 1: met Jesse after the show. He's a very very very

1138
00:58:17,080 --> 00:58:20,040
Speaker 1: nice and very gracious and grateful, but it was just

1139
00:58:20,760 --> 00:58:22,640
Speaker 1: he and he wrote back, ha ha, I didn't think

1140
00:58:22,640 --> 00:58:24,479
Speaker 1: so we just lived farther away. So I just wanted

1141
00:58:24,480 --> 00:58:27,760
Speaker 1: to make sure I get it. But I told you

1142
00:58:27,760 --> 00:58:30,320
Speaker 1: where they were going to be, and it was sweet

1143
00:58:30,360 --> 00:58:32,959
Speaker 1: to follow up, but I couldn't just tell him yes,

1144
00:58:33,040 --> 00:58:37,040
Speaker 1: I had to be like, what, yes, Well, I guess

1145
00:58:37,120 --> 00:58:39,600
Speaker 1: his in his thought process, I guess is that if

1146
00:58:39,600 --> 00:58:41,800
Speaker 1: he gets there late, will the box office be closed?

1147
00:58:41,920 --> 00:58:44,080
Speaker 1: Or like I'm about to drive seven hours. I didn't

1148
00:58:44,080 --> 00:58:48,640
Speaker 1: realize he's coming from Saskatchewan. And he was lovely. And

1149
00:58:48,680 --> 00:58:50,800
Speaker 1: I love that I'm even able to say Jesse because

1150
00:58:50,800 --> 00:58:53,080
Speaker 1: I know that he would laugh at that. But he

1151
00:58:53,200 --> 00:58:55,600
Speaker 1: was so sweet and said the nicest things after the show,

1152
00:58:55,680 --> 00:58:57,280
Speaker 1: so and and he knows that I was kind of

1153
00:58:57,320 --> 00:58:59,680
Speaker 1: annoyed by that because what I wrote back. But I

1154
00:58:59,760 --> 00:59:02,200
Speaker 1: just those kinds of things where it's like I already

1155
00:59:02,200 --> 00:59:06,600
Speaker 1: told you, or like just look it up. Also, I

1156
00:59:06,680 --> 00:59:08,800
Speaker 1: do that all the time too, so I'm just projecting

1157
00:59:10,280 --> 00:59:12,480
Speaker 1: the thing that I'm upset about. I also probably do

1158
00:59:13,040 --> 00:59:17,840
Speaker 1: like the little favor sometimes though you've been outside and

1159
00:59:17,840 --> 00:59:19,840
Speaker 1: I want to know the weather because I don't feel

1160
00:59:19,840 --> 00:59:21,480
Speaker 1: like look because you have to go to your phone

1161
00:59:21,560 --> 00:59:23,680
Speaker 1: and you have to go. And sometimes it says it's

1162
00:59:25,560 --> 00:59:29,320
Speaker 1: today the weather you were working with on the computer stuff.

1163
00:59:29,360 --> 00:59:30,840
Speaker 1: And I didn't want to bother you about the weather,

1164
00:59:31,160 --> 00:59:32,960
Speaker 1: but I look, so I looked it up. It said

1165
00:59:32,960 --> 00:59:35,280
Speaker 1: it was raining. Put on my rain boots, put on

1166
00:59:35,360 --> 00:59:38,280
Speaker 1: my rain jacket. Not raining brought my umbrella. No reason

1167
00:59:38,360 --> 00:59:40,120
Speaker 1: to do all that, so it would have been helpful.

1168
00:59:41,120 --> 00:59:43,720
Speaker 1: Let's go to final thought, and let's go through these No,

1169
00:59:43,960 --> 00:59:48,400
Speaker 1: what is your least favorite. Least favorite is when a

1170
00:59:48,440 --> 00:59:51,920
Speaker 1: friend asks me to tag along to when they're meeting

1171
00:59:51,960 --> 00:59:56,160
Speaker 1: other people and it, oh, it happened to me this weekend.

1172
00:59:56,240 --> 00:59:58,720
Speaker 1: Like a friend of mine was meeting this couple online

1173
00:59:58,760 --> 01:00:02,240
Speaker 1: that she had never met before, and I'll swingers thing

1174
01:00:03,320 --> 01:00:08,040
Speaker 1: well it so initially I was like, you know, they're

1175
01:00:08,080 --> 01:00:11,560
Speaker 1: just like in a group together of like um um,

1176
01:00:11,720 --> 01:00:13,840
Speaker 1: I don't want to say exactly, but like a common thing,

1177
01:00:14,120 --> 01:00:18,440
Speaker 1: right and uh, and she invited me herb as well.

1178
01:00:18,480 --> 01:00:23,240
Speaker 1: Just assume ye, not that there's anything wrong with that

1179
01:00:23,800 --> 01:00:26,200
Speaker 1: at all she invited me. She's like, oh, you know,

1180
01:00:26,280 --> 01:00:28,280
Speaker 1: like the the UFC match is going to be on

1181
01:00:28,320 --> 01:00:31,439
Speaker 1: at the at the bar that we're going to. I'm like, okay, fine,

1182
01:00:31,480 --> 01:00:35,880
Speaker 1: I'll go the Like two hours before, she texts me

1183
01:00:35,960 --> 01:00:38,960
Speaker 1: that she found out that the guy UM from this

1184
01:00:39,040 --> 01:00:43,720
Speaker 1: couple is also UM. He runs like a swingers slash

1185
01:00:43,840 --> 01:00:48,320
Speaker 1: unicorn group. And I was like, oh my god, and

1186
01:00:48,520 --> 01:00:51,520
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, Um, so how did this conversation go?

1187
01:00:52,320 --> 01:00:54,920
Speaker 1: Are you sure he's not inviting you for to to

1188
01:00:55,040 --> 01:00:57,560
Speaker 1: kind of get to know you and your husband for

1189
01:00:57,680 --> 01:01:01,320
Speaker 1: like a wife swap thing. But um, I'm glad that

1190
01:01:01,760 --> 01:01:05,600
Speaker 1: book club fantasy is all we read over and over,

1191
01:01:07,360 --> 01:01:09,520
Speaker 1: so I'm glad that I went. Um, it was kind

1192
01:01:09,520 --> 01:01:11,520
Speaker 1: of awkward at first. They turned out to be very

1193
01:01:11,600 --> 01:01:14,760
Speaker 1: nice people. You're telling me the favor you don't like

1194
01:01:15,040 --> 01:01:19,000
Speaker 1: is being the like kind of designated friend just in

1195
01:01:19,080 --> 01:01:23,720
Speaker 1: case this person that they're meeting is weird or boring. Yeah, Like,

1196
01:01:24,000 --> 01:01:27,080
Speaker 1: what about when I invited Andrew on a date with

1197
01:01:27,120 --> 01:01:30,440
Speaker 1: me on a lunch date because I was nervous? See,

1198
01:01:30,560 --> 01:01:33,200
Speaker 1: is that a thing? You would be like, it's and

1199
01:01:33,280 --> 01:01:35,560
Speaker 1: I would tell this on your own. Nikki to meet

1200
01:01:35,600 --> 01:01:37,840
Speaker 1: a guy. Like if if one of my girlfriends wants

1201
01:01:37,840 --> 01:01:39,640
Speaker 1: me to come along because she's meeting a guy that

1202
01:01:39,720 --> 01:01:42,160
Speaker 1: she's interested in, I would That's okay, I would go.

1203
01:01:42,280 --> 01:01:44,920
Speaker 1: But this is more of like a social thing where

1204
01:01:44,920 --> 01:01:47,360
Speaker 1: it's like, oh, you guys made this plan and now

1205
01:01:47,400 --> 01:01:49,480
Speaker 1: you're kind of roping me into it. Now I have

1206
01:01:49,560 --> 01:01:51,520
Speaker 1: to suffer through this thing that I don't want to

1207
01:01:51,520 --> 01:01:56,040
Speaker 1: go to because you're I get that, and you know what, Um,

1208
01:01:56,080 --> 01:01:57,680
Speaker 1: that is kind of like a favor that I have

1209
01:01:57,760 --> 01:02:00,440
Speaker 1: asked of people before because I'm so showing you know,

1210
01:02:00,640 --> 01:02:04,000
Speaker 1: anxiety going into something. Um. And it's nice to hear

1211
01:02:04,040 --> 01:02:06,560
Speaker 1: that that's a thing that's annoying because to me, that's

1212
01:02:06,560 --> 01:02:08,640
Speaker 1: not a favor that bugs me as much because I'm like, oh,

1213
01:02:08,680 --> 01:02:10,960
Speaker 1: I'm a great plus one, Like I will make this

1214
01:02:11,040 --> 01:02:13,440
Speaker 1: so fun for you because I have no dog in

1215
01:02:13,440 --> 01:02:16,360
Speaker 1: this fight, you know. Um, Literally I've been to a

1216
01:02:16,360 --> 01:02:18,520
Speaker 1: dog fight and I'm like, my Luigi's not competing today,

1217
01:02:18,520 --> 01:02:23,360
Speaker 1: so I'm gonna have so much fun. But um, I

1218
01:02:23,400 --> 01:02:26,640
Speaker 1: would say that favors can be so much better if

1219
01:02:26,680 --> 01:02:29,120
Speaker 1: they are acknowledged for how grateful you are for that

1220
01:02:29,160 --> 01:02:31,560
Speaker 1: person doing them, or you know what, I'm saying, like,

1221
01:02:32,040 --> 01:02:33,919
Speaker 1: as soon as that guy wrote back, thank you so

1222
01:02:34,040 --> 01:02:36,560
Speaker 1: much and wrote all like, I was like, this guy

1223
01:02:36,600 --> 01:02:38,240
Speaker 1: could ask me a million times if they're at the

1224
01:02:38,240 --> 01:02:43,080
Speaker 1: box office because he's so grateful um for the thing um.

1225
01:02:43,120 --> 01:02:45,200
Speaker 1: And I think that's something nice to remember. Is that

1226
01:02:45,920 --> 01:02:48,160
Speaker 1: bad favors if you're hearing one that you often to

1227
01:02:48,160 --> 01:02:52,240
Speaker 1: ask people here, as long as you're showing gratitude, you'll

1228
01:02:52,280 --> 01:02:54,600
Speaker 1: I would do anything. That's the thing. Though a little

1229
01:02:54,680 --> 01:02:58,280
Speaker 1: favor gets no gratitude because it's a little favorite, so

1230
01:02:58,320 --> 01:02:59,720
Speaker 1: then it could be asked a lot. It reminded me

1231
01:02:59,760 --> 01:03:02,680
Speaker 1: a lot in the Curb Your Curb scene where he's

1232
01:03:02,680 --> 01:03:06,120
Speaker 1: at the dinner table someone spills something and the lady goes,

1233
01:03:06,160 --> 01:03:08,800
Speaker 1: someone get him a napkin, and Larry goes, why don't

1234
01:03:08,840 --> 01:03:11,360
Speaker 1: you get him a napkin? Yes, Like, why am I

1235
01:03:11,720 --> 01:03:15,840
Speaker 1: one getting the napkin? Yes? Yeah, that is a common

1236
01:03:15,840 --> 01:03:19,320
Speaker 1: one with you because there's I and I totally get it,

1237
01:03:19,400 --> 01:03:21,840
Speaker 1: like it's not my thing. That doesn't bother me for

1238
01:03:21,880 --> 01:03:24,600
Speaker 1: some reason because but it makes total sense why that's

1239
01:03:24,600 --> 01:03:27,480
Speaker 1: annoying because there's no gratitude involved because it's such a

1240
01:03:27,480 --> 01:03:32,320
Speaker 1: little thing. Yes, I remember one time I asked my

1241
01:03:32,360 --> 01:03:34,960
Speaker 1: boyfriend to get me something that I could have gotten.

1242
01:03:35,000 --> 01:03:36,360
Speaker 1: I just didn't want to get up from the couch.

1243
01:03:36,520 --> 01:03:39,520
Speaker 1: My feet were in the massage thing, by the way,

1244
01:03:39,240 --> 01:03:42,240
Speaker 1: that does affect it. And he later said to me,

1245
01:03:42,240 --> 01:03:44,520
Speaker 1: he goes, don't treat me like you treat your friends,

1246
01:03:44,640 --> 01:03:47,520
Speaker 1: just bossing them around to do things for you. And

1247
01:03:47,560 --> 01:03:49,800
Speaker 1: it made me realize I do do that, like when

1248
01:03:49,880 --> 01:03:53,560
Speaker 1: I when I'm just mildly inconvenienced in a way that

1249
01:03:53,680 --> 01:03:55,600
Speaker 1: maybe they aren't, I would ask you to go get

1250
01:03:55,600 --> 01:03:57,640
Speaker 1: that bowl for me because my feet are in this thing,

1251
01:03:57,680 --> 01:03:59,040
Speaker 1: when really I could just turn off the thing and

1252
01:03:59,080 --> 01:04:01,280
Speaker 1: go get it in. I might not say please and

1253
01:04:01,280 --> 01:04:02,760
Speaker 1: thank you in the way that I should for that

1254
01:04:02,840 --> 01:04:07,320
Speaker 1: minor thing, because I'm thinking it's three stuff a big

1255
01:04:07,320 --> 01:04:10,000
Speaker 1: thank you. It's like, no, I just got your people

1256
01:04:10,000 --> 01:04:12,280
Speaker 1: go like what are you thinking? Like they made you

1257
01:04:12,280 --> 01:04:14,720
Speaker 1: feel bad about it. But it did wake me up

1258
01:04:14,760 --> 01:04:16,360
Speaker 1: to like, oh, I do that to my friends. I

1259
01:04:16,440 --> 01:04:19,920
Speaker 1: just assume that my friends like people that I that

1260
01:04:20,120 --> 01:04:22,160
Speaker 1: love me unconditionally. I can just bost them around and

1261
01:04:22,160 --> 01:04:23,520
Speaker 1: I like that. He said that because he was like,

1262
01:04:23,800 --> 01:04:25,840
Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not that guy, and I'm like, well,

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01:04:25,880 --> 01:04:27,760
Speaker 1: I don't want you to be talked to like that,

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01:04:27,800 --> 01:04:29,200
Speaker 1: and I don't want to talk to my friends like

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01:04:29,200 --> 01:04:31,080
Speaker 1: that either. It was a good wake up call. Let's

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01:04:31,080 --> 01:04:35,880
Speaker 1: get to a top favor, my favorite favor. And this

1267
01:04:36,000 --> 01:04:42,120
Speaker 1: is not from this is not telling like I will

1268
01:04:42,160 --> 01:04:46,360
Speaker 1: not be heeding any requests for this. But when people

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01:04:46,560 --> 01:04:48,800
Speaker 1: that are very in need of money, that I love

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01:04:48,920 --> 01:04:52,000
Speaker 1: and care about in my life, and this is a

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01:04:52,040 --> 01:04:56,080
Speaker 1: small list of people, when they are when life has

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01:04:56,160 --> 01:05:00,400
Speaker 1: handed them unlucky situations, bad families that have lead them

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01:05:00,440 --> 01:05:03,960
Speaker 1: to struggle more than others. Like people think that I've

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01:05:04,000 --> 01:05:08,040
Speaker 1: gotten my riches because I've worked. Of course, I've worked hard,

1275
01:05:08,040 --> 01:05:09,560
Speaker 1: but I've also been born with a brain that makes

1276
01:05:09,600 --> 01:05:11,360
Speaker 1: it easy for me to work hard and like have

1277
01:05:11,440 --> 01:05:14,080
Speaker 1: a I can do forty five podcasts back to back.

1278
01:05:14,160 --> 01:05:18,040
Speaker 1: Some people can't. It's not because they they're lazy back

1279
01:05:18,040 --> 01:05:20,880
Speaker 1: to back. I said not at the same time, Um,

1280
01:05:20,920 --> 01:05:23,440
Speaker 1: I also had parents that were extremely supportive of me

1281
01:05:23,600 --> 01:05:26,320
Speaker 1: to pursue this wild career that paid off. I also

1282
01:05:26,840 --> 01:05:28,720
Speaker 1: grew up with parents who taught me please and thank you.

1283
01:05:28,920 --> 01:05:32,640
Speaker 1: So I've been nice enough to make friends and people

1284
01:05:32,680 --> 01:05:34,360
Speaker 1: have given me things because I'm not you know, like

1285
01:05:35,040 --> 01:05:37,240
Speaker 1: my talent isn't all just like I worked hard and

1286
01:05:37,280 --> 01:05:39,800
Speaker 1: you didn't, and my money is like because I of

1287
01:05:39,840 --> 01:05:43,720
Speaker 1: course I've earned my money, but I love love helping

1288
01:05:43,720 --> 01:05:47,440
Speaker 1: my friends financially who need it, with no like you

1289
01:05:47,480 --> 01:05:51,120
Speaker 1: have to pay me back nows um, because I believe

1290
01:05:51,680 --> 01:05:54,720
Speaker 1: that I've been I'm lucky, and some people are just unlucky,

1291
01:05:54,760 --> 01:05:58,080
Speaker 1: not because they're lazy, not because they are you know,

1292
01:05:58,360 --> 01:06:00,960
Speaker 1: add sometimes they are addicts, but it's not I don't

1293
01:06:01,040 --> 01:06:04,320
Speaker 1: give money, um two friends I like. I like helping

1294
01:06:04,360 --> 01:06:06,240
Speaker 1: friends in that way. It's really hard, though, because a

1295
01:06:06,320 --> 01:06:09,960
Speaker 1: lot of friends are so deeply uncomfortable by being assisted

1296
01:06:10,360 --> 01:06:14,600
Speaker 1: by my extra money or my family. Um, because it's awkward,

1297
01:06:14,680 --> 01:06:16,760
Speaker 1: you know, when you you feel like you're a hand

1298
01:06:16,760 --> 01:06:18,840
Speaker 1: at it, like it's a hand out because you're like

1299
01:06:18,920 --> 01:06:23,200
Speaker 1: this poor person. But to me, I've I've received money

1300
01:06:23,240 --> 01:06:26,520
Speaker 1: from friends before when I was not doing well and

1301
01:06:27,440 --> 01:06:29,560
Speaker 1: with no expectation of paying back, and I haven't paid

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01:06:29,600 --> 01:06:31,080
Speaker 1: it back because it was given as a gift, not

1303
01:06:31,160 --> 01:06:34,360
Speaker 1: as alone, which is a different thing. And I was

1304
01:06:34,440 --> 01:06:37,280
Speaker 1: able to take it because I knew that that person

1305
01:06:37,600 --> 01:06:39,880
Speaker 1: I make. I make a lot of money for what

1306
01:06:39,920 --> 01:06:42,360
Speaker 1: I do, and I do it because I like helping

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01:06:42,360 --> 01:06:44,800
Speaker 1: people with my money, whether it's organizations, and I'm not

1308
01:06:44,800 --> 01:06:47,040
Speaker 1: trying to be like I'm just a saint. There's something

1309
01:06:47,040 --> 01:06:50,200
Speaker 1: about it that feels so so good to me sometimes

1310
01:06:50,640 --> 01:06:54,120
Speaker 1: that it's almost better for me than it is for them.

1311
01:06:54,160 --> 01:06:56,840
Speaker 1: Like when I'm able to give my family or my

1312
01:06:56,920 --> 01:06:59,720
Speaker 1: friends money when they're going through something, it makes me

1313
01:06:59,760 --> 01:07:02,000
Speaker 1: feel so much. And it's not because it's like they

1314
01:07:02,040 --> 01:07:05,800
Speaker 1: owe me. It's I maybe subconsciously there's something there. I

1315
01:07:05,840 --> 01:07:07,400
Speaker 1: don't want to rule it out because what do I

1316
01:07:07,400 --> 01:07:10,240
Speaker 1: know what's going on in my brain? But I truly

1317
01:07:10,320 --> 01:07:12,560
Speaker 1: never I don't even remember the amounts I give. I

1318
01:07:12,600 --> 01:07:14,240
Speaker 1: have friends that are like, I owe you blank this

1319
01:07:14,320 --> 01:07:15,720
Speaker 1: much money, and I go, I don't even know. I

1320
01:07:15,760 --> 01:07:18,919
Speaker 1: didn't even know that. I don't keep tabs. Maybe that's irresponsible,

1321
01:07:19,320 --> 01:07:22,640
Speaker 1: but I love that. I that's what I work for,

1322
01:07:22,760 --> 01:07:24,280
Speaker 1: is to be able to help people in need. And

1323
01:07:24,720 --> 01:07:27,040
Speaker 1: I hope that someone who have given money to can

1324
01:07:27,080 --> 01:07:30,640
Speaker 1: hear this and know that there's no resentment. There's no

1325
01:07:30,840 --> 01:07:34,920
Speaker 1: me being like you're so sad and I'm not. There's

1326
01:07:35,040 --> 01:07:39,120
Speaker 1: nothing of that. It's like I got I won the lottery, essentially,

1327
01:07:39,400 --> 01:07:41,720
Speaker 1: and now I get to share it. What's interesting with

1328
01:07:41,760 --> 01:07:45,640
Speaker 1: those things is that like the two different favors, Like

1329
01:07:45,720 --> 01:07:48,640
Speaker 1: one is someone that's starting out something and asking for

1330
01:07:48,680 --> 01:07:54,000
Speaker 1: a favor and you're like, well, you don't deserve this yet, right,

1331
01:07:54,200 --> 01:07:57,600
Speaker 1: this access or like this this um whatever, it isn't

1332
01:07:58,280 --> 01:08:01,080
Speaker 1: knowledge yet from me because unless you work hard for it.

1333
01:08:02,120 --> 01:08:05,440
Speaker 1: If that's like same person asked for money, I don't know,

1334
01:08:05,440 --> 01:08:08,600
Speaker 1: it's just interesting to me. Like, well, for me, there's

1335
01:08:09,040 --> 01:08:11,880
Speaker 1: I feel like if someone asked for money, they need

1336
01:08:11,920 --> 01:08:14,760
Speaker 1: to because I've been there. No one even asked me

1337
01:08:14,800 --> 01:08:17,080
Speaker 1: for money ever, I just give it what they're just

1338
01:08:17,120 --> 01:08:19,280
Speaker 1: telling me about their life, and I go, I know

1339
01:08:19,320 --> 01:08:21,599
Speaker 1: what this would do for you. Just take it. I've

1340
01:08:21,640 --> 01:08:23,599
Speaker 1: never been asked for money, but are they? Are they

1341
01:08:23,640 --> 01:08:27,240
Speaker 1: telling you because they fight it too, and and if

1342
01:08:27,280 --> 01:08:29,439
Speaker 1: they fight it enough, I don't give it. I really don't.

1343
01:08:29,560 --> 01:08:31,640
Speaker 1: Or I say, pay me back, that's fine. Usually I

1344
01:08:31,680 --> 01:08:33,960
Speaker 1: just try to do it, like like Carlile, I've given

1345
01:08:33,960 --> 01:08:37,120
Speaker 1: her money in the past and she always pays me back.

1346
01:08:37,160 --> 01:08:38,920
Speaker 1: And let me just say, if you are someone who

1347
01:08:38,920 --> 01:08:41,200
Speaker 1: has lent money to people, you never get paid back.

1348
01:08:41,280 --> 01:08:43,479
Speaker 1: That's why I don't expect it. If you expect it.

1349
01:08:43,520 --> 01:08:45,080
Speaker 1: You're just gonna end up they don't pay you back.

1350
01:08:45,160 --> 01:08:48,000
Speaker 1: Carlile always paid me back, even when I'm like, please

1351
01:08:48,080 --> 01:08:51,400
Speaker 1: do not, please keep that money, because this was a

1352
01:08:51,439 --> 01:08:54,280
Speaker 1: gift for being You've You've earned it and being my

1353
01:08:54,360 --> 01:08:56,840
Speaker 1: friend and helping me through like and I don't even

1354
01:08:56,880 --> 01:08:58,960
Speaker 1: remember it. When you give me this money back, I go,

1355
01:08:59,280 --> 01:09:02,200
Speaker 1: what is this? But I will say that the difference is,

1356
01:09:03,520 --> 01:09:06,840
Speaker 1: um I that my money that I'm giving you will

1357
01:09:06,880 --> 01:09:09,639
Speaker 1: actually help you. The advice I'm giving you for comte

1358
01:09:09,680 --> 01:09:12,519
Speaker 1: like the jokes and stuff beyond telling you to move

1359
01:09:12,560 --> 01:09:14,559
Speaker 1: the mic, stand out of the way, and do it

1360
01:09:14,560 --> 01:09:17,200
Speaker 1: as much as possible. There's nothing I can There's nothing

1361
01:09:17,320 --> 01:09:19,280
Speaker 1: my My advice for you stand up wise, is not

1362
01:09:19,320 --> 01:09:22,880
Speaker 1: going to help you right now. It's it's you. That's

1363
01:09:22,920 --> 01:09:24,880
Speaker 1: not the way to get help. And the best way

1364
01:09:24,960 --> 01:09:29,920
Speaker 1: to get money from friends or like family is to

1365
01:09:30,040 --> 01:09:33,040
Speaker 1: work on yourself in regards to money. Because I've been

1366
01:09:33,080 --> 01:09:35,400
Speaker 1: in situations where I lost all my money and like

1367
01:09:35,439 --> 01:09:38,200
Speaker 1: I was in debt and I wasn't helping myself, I

1368
01:09:38,200 --> 01:09:40,680
Speaker 1: started drinking more. I wouldn't give you money, That's what

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01:09:40,720 --> 01:09:43,920
Speaker 1: I'm saying. But that's that's that's the rub though, because

1370
01:09:43,920 --> 01:09:45,800
Speaker 1: it's like, you don't want to help someone that's not

1371
01:09:45,840 --> 01:09:48,920
Speaker 1: trying to help themselves, but that person that can't even

1372
01:09:48,920 --> 01:09:52,240
Speaker 1: help themselves because they're already in debt, people that need

1373
01:09:52,280 --> 01:09:54,599
Speaker 1: the money. I would give you money if I realized

1374
01:09:54,640 --> 01:09:57,360
Speaker 1: that the money if you were someone that But you

1375
01:09:57,400 --> 01:09:59,240
Speaker 1: see what I'm saying, because that's what I'm saying that

1376
01:09:59,280 --> 01:10:01,160
Speaker 1: I would give you money because if I knew that

1377
01:10:01,160 --> 01:10:03,160
Speaker 1: that money was going to take you out of debt

1378
01:10:03,200 --> 01:10:05,080
Speaker 1: and make it so that you could get your life started,

1379
01:10:05,080 --> 01:10:08,080
Speaker 1: I would gladly give you that money. It's I wouldn't

1380
01:10:08,080 --> 01:10:10,760
Speaker 1: give it to you if I saw this guy who

1381
01:10:11,000 --> 01:10:14,640
Speaker 1: had no intention of getting his life turned around, was

1382
01:10:15,120 --> 01:10:21,439
Speaker 1: down like had had no ambition. Uh, well, I would

1383
01:10:21,479 --> 01:10:23,320
Speaker 1: talk to them and say, well, is this money gonna

1384
01:10:23,360 --> 01:10:25,320
Speaker 1: get And by the way, once you give someone money,

1385
01:10:25,360 --> 01:10:27,479
Speaker 1: it's not your money to do anything with. But before

1386
01:10:27,479 --> 01:10:30,280
Speaker 1: I gave it out, I would if that would help

1387
01:10:30,360 --> 01:10:32,240
Speaker 1: that person get out get to a spot where I

1388
01:10:32,280 --> 01:10:35,519
Speaker 1: think that ambition would flow for them a percent, I would.

1389
01:10:35,520 --> 01:10:37,560
Speaker 1: And am I the judge of when ambition is gonna come? No.

1390
01:10:37,720 --> 01:10:39,639
Speaker 1: Sometimes I've given money and I'm sure it's not gone

1391
01:10:39,640 --> 01:10:42,519
Speaker 1: to the right places. But I will say that, Um,

1392
01:10:42,840 --> 01:10:44,600
Speaker 1: I'm interested in getting a man in my life that

1393
01:10:44,640 --> 01:10:46,400
Speaker 1: I can just funnel a lot of money too, and

1394
01:10:46,439 --> 01:10:49,760
Speaker 1: he can take women out on private jets excursions. I'm

1395
01:10:49,800 --> 01:10:52,559
Speaker 1: looking to be swindled, is what I'm saying. You want

1396
01:10:52,360 --> 01:10:56,680
Speaker 1: to get by your own money. Okay, So Andrew, what

1397
01:10:56,760 --> 01:11:01,680
Speaker 1: is your favorite favorite? My favorite favor, I think is

1398
01:11:01,760 --> 01:11:04,720
Speaker 1: when people ask me for like creative advice, like when

1399
01:11:04,720 --> 01:11:07,800
Speaker 1: you ask me for a joke advice or like or

1400
01:11:07,840 --> 01:11:10,000
Speaker 1: like if someone like it's like, hey can you watch this,

1401
01:11:10,400 --> 01:11:13,280
Speaker 1: and they really want to whatever use my mind, my

1402
01:11:13,360 --> 01:11:18,519
Speaker 1: creative mind, because I do that. I mean, I love

1403
01:11:18,560 --> 01:11:22,120
Speaker 1: hearing that because that is for me. Where like that's

1404
01:11:22,160 --> 01:11:24,040
Speaker 1: what I missed about you on the road. To bring

1405
01:11:24,080 --> 01:11:28,559
Speaker 1: this full circle like that, um, I probably this like

1406
01:11:28,640 --> 01:11:30,880
Speaker 1: a year on the road. Ask you to like watch

1407
01:11:30,920 --> 01:11:33,240
Speaker 1: certain parts of my set because I like, I really

1408
01:11:33,280 --> 01:11:35,519
Speaker 1: want to like punch it up. And you're the king

1409
01:11:35,600 --> 01:11:39,280
Speaker 1: of like I always say about you. Not only do

1410
01:11:39,320 --> 01:11:41,120
Speaker 1: I like having you around because you just are always

1411
01:11:41,479 --> 01:11:43,600
Speaker 1: you make things light for me and fun and you

1412
01:11:43,640 --> 01:11:46,880
Speaker 1: don't like overthink things, but you are someone where I

1413
01:11:46,880 --> 01:11:49,439
Speaker 1: can just go I need a funny thing for this

1414
01:11:49,560 --> 01:11:51,280
Speaker 1: and the and I've said it before, the first thing

1415
01:11:51,280 --> 01:11:52,839
Speaker 1: that comes out of your mouth is the most genius

1416
01:11:52,880 --> 01:11:54,360
Speaker 1: thing ever and I have to like tweak it to

1417
01:11:54,360 --> 01:11:58,280
Speaker 1: make it for me. But like you are someone that, um,

1418
01:11:58,520 --> 01:12:01,080
Speaker 1: thank God for you for so many things, not only

1419
01:12:01,120 --> 01:12:03,479
Speaker 1: just with F I mean Perfect Strangers too, but like

1420
01:12:03,720 --> 01:12:06,680
Speaker 1: when I brought you to write for me, like you

1421
01:12:06,680 --> 01:12:08,920
Speaker 1: you're some I I'm usually like coming at it with

1422
01:12:08,960 --> 01:12:10,800
Speaker 1: like I gotta fit into this stress later and I

1423
01:12:10,800 --> 01:12:12,800
Speaker 1: have to have my hair and makeup. You can just

1424
01:12:12,880 --> 01:12:14,640
Speaker 1: I can go, hey, can you come up with like

1425
01:12:14,800 --> 01:12:18,120
Speaker 1: ten things that remember the one thing we did on

1426
01:12:18,160 --> 01:12:24,280
Speaker 1: Perfect Strangers? This was hilarious. Yes, well that was funny

1427
01:12:24,280 --> 01:12:26,679
Speaker 1: because I could we were doing this thing on Perfect

1428
01:12:26,680 --> 01:12:29,120
Speaker 1: Strangers too. That was like to promote the show. I'm

1429
01:12:29,120 --> 01:12:31,680
Speaker 1: gonna make this real quick now, I promise. UM. My

1430
01:12:31,680 --> 01:12:35,360
Speaker 1: favorite I'm asking you is please. But even though I

1431
01:12:35,360 --> 01:12:38,200
Speaker 1: know you're doing this for me, Okay, so I'm like

1432
01:12:38,240 --> 01:12:41,920
Speaker 1: come with me later to uh so, um, we we

1433
01:12:41,960 --> 01:12:43,920
Speaker 1: had to do this thing where you wrote a bunch

1434
01:12:43,960 --> 01:12:46,639
Speaker 1: of things for me. Was like, um, date scenarios where

1435
01:12:46,640 --> 01:12:48,720
Speaker 1: it's like is this a red flag? Oh yeah, it's

1436
01:12:49,120 --> 01:12:50,800
Speaker 1: on a first date? Is there a red flag or

1437
01:12:50,920 --> 01:12:53,800
Speaker 1: is it it like keep green flag? And so the scenarios.

1438
01:12:53,840 --> 01:12:55,680
Speaker 1: At first, I were thinking, we're supposed to be like

1439
01:12:55,720 --> 01:12:58,080
Speaker 1: real things that would really be polarizing in terms of

1440
01:12:58,120 --> 01:13:00,200
Speaker 1: like I wouldn't mind that, well I will, and we're

1441
01:13:00,200 --> 01:13:02,200
Speaker 1: gonna put them on Instagram and people are going to vote.

1442
01:13:02,240 --> 01:13:04,879
Speaker 1: And I wanted them to be like not obviously red flags,

1443
01:13:04,960 --> 01:13:07,800
Speaker 1: like not funny. And then so Andrew sent me all

1444
01:13:07,920 --> 01:13:09,240
Speaker 1: I didn't make it clear enough. I was like, I

1445
01:13:09,240 --> 01:13:10,960
Speaker 1: want them to be polarizing, and I think he meant

1446
01:13:11,040 --> 01:13:13,200
Speaker 1: he was like, okay, so said into like a cold

1447
01:13:13,240 --> 01:13:17,559
Speaker 1: climate or something. You you sent me all these ones

1448
01:13:17,600 --> 01:13:20,000
Speaker 1: that were not polarizing. They were like very obvious red flags,

1449
01:13:20,040 --> 01:13:22,479
Speaker 1: but they were hilarious. They were like your first date,

1450
01:13:23,160 --> 01:13:26,000
Speaker 1: your fast date pushes you down the stairs and says

1451
01:13:26,000 --> 01:13:30,240
Speaker 1: like you deserve it, but something like that, those kinds.

1452
01:13:30,280 --> 01:13:32,920
Speaker 1: And I was I was laughing so hard at how

1453
01:13:33,400 --> 01:13:35,519
Speaker 1: bad these were and like how they were off the

1454
01:13:35,520 --> 01:13:37,840
Speaker 1: assignment but they were so funny. So then we go

1455
01:13:37,920 --> 01:13:40,640
Speaker 1: to shoot it and I wrote all these ones that

1456
01:13:40,640 --> 01:13:43,680
Speaker 1: were actually polarizing, like you know, he says that he's

1457
01:13:43,720 --> 01:13:45,640
Speaker 1: still friends with his ex, stuff like that that some

1458
01:13:45,680 --> 01:13:47,600
Speaker 1: people are like fuck no, and other people are like

1459
01:13:47,600 --> 01:13:50,040
Speaker 1: I don't care, and they just weren't funny. They weren't

1460
01:13:50,040 --> 01:13:52,760
Speaker 1: working because I was just like the who cares, you know,

1461
01:13:52,880 --> 01:13:56,400
Speaker 1: like really who cares? And then while we're shooting, we

1462
01:13:56,479 --> 01:14:00,439
Speaker 1: just start making them insane. And then that's when Andrew

1463
01:14:00,520 --> 01:14:02,800
Speaker 1: standing by and starts like pitching me things. I mean,

1464
01:14:02,880 --> 01:14:06,040
Speaker 1: it was so fucking funny. That was That was the

1465
01:14:06,080 --> 01:14:08,679
Speaker 1: most one you, me and Bill had on the entire set,

1466
01:14:08,720 --> 01:14:10,519
Speaker 1: was pitching out those absurd things that we ended up

1467
01:14:10,600 --> 01:14:14,439
Speaker 1: using all those ones. I mean, we would end whatever

1468
01:14:14,520 --> 01:14:18,439
Speaker 1: that was should be a show because we've never been

1469
01:14:18,479 --> 01:14:22,280
Speaker 1: funnier than those five minutes of like because I was saying,

1470
01:14:22,240 --> 01:14:26,240
Speaker 1: I'm like this a red flag or a green flag.

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01:14:26,600 --> 01:14:29,120
Speaker 1: You go to a guy's house and you you you

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Speaker 1: go to guy's house for the first time, you open

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01:14:31,280 --> 01:14:34,000
Speaker 1: the fridge and inside is just one head of lettuce

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01:14:34,160 --> 01:14:37,400
Speaker 1: and a head a human's head. What would you do?

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01:14:37,680 --> 01:14:41,640
Speaker 1: Would you A totally accept it? He's into weird things,

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01:14:41,640 --> 01:14:43,879
Speaker 1: like it was, but it was done with the quirky

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01:14:44,240 --> 01:14:48,719
Speaker 1: and it just was becoming so His parents, who happened

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01:14:48,760 --> 01:14:53,120
Speaker 1: to have in the same house where they died six months. Yes, Yes,

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Speaker 1: it was so fun. We gotta go. Thank you for listening. UM.

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Speaker 1: This week, I'm going to talk about the besties I

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Speaker 1: met while in Canada, the gifts they gave me to

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01:15:03,000 --> 01:15:06,799
Speaker 1: give Andrew I didn't get around to today. UM, please

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01:15:07,000 --> 01:15:09,320
Speaker 1: come see me in Nashville if you have friends in Nashville.

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01:15:09,479 --> 01:15:11,679
Speaker 1: The tickets are low for that and I'm only admitting

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01:15:11,680 --> 01:15:13,479
Speaker 1: it here on the podcast. I don't know why, but

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01:15:13,880 --> 01:15:15,880
Speaker 1: I haven't been to Nashville and they're just telling me

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01:15:15,920 --> 01:15:17,880
Speaker 1: to make a TikTok today and I'm like, the tickets

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01:15:17,920 --> 01:15:20,519
Speaker 1: must be not selling. Well, I'm not embarrassed of it.

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01:15:20,840 --> 01:15:22,599
Speaker 1: Who gives a ship? But if you do have friends

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01:15:22,640 --> 01:15:24,120
Speaker 1: in Nashville or you live in Nashville, I'd love for

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01:15:24,160 --> 01:15:25,600
Speaker 1: you to come to the show and support me. So

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01:15:25,640 --> 01:15:28,919
Speaker 1: I don't feel like a total um jackass. But Winnipeg

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01:15:28,960 --> 01:15:31,599
Speaker 1: in Vancouver, you guys stepped up, sold up part shows

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Speaker 1: UM in Texas obviously this weekend UH three different places

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Speaker 1: in Texas. Nikki Laser dot com um to check out

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01:15:38,640 --> 01:15:41,719
Speaker 1: the tour. We have merch for sale. Pod shop dot

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Speaker 1: Nikki Laser dot com to buy beste mart Um. I

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01:15:45,560 --> 01:15:50,000
Speaker 1: love you guys, so much. Don't Pek and she me

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Speaker 1: for money.