WEBVTT - A Million Dollar Dream (w/ Cayman Kelly) 0:00:00.960 --> 0:00:04.680 Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. You are listening to 0:00:04.720 --> 0:00:08.039 the Vitamin D Podcast. I'm your host, Dawn Day, and 0:00:08.039 --> 0:00:10.160 I'm here to help you become your best self. For 0:00:10.240 --> 0:00:11.920 those of you who may be joined us for the 0:00:11.920 --> 0:00:14.920 first time, I say welcome. I'm glad to have you 0:00:14.960 --> 0:00:17.680 on this journey of discovery with me as we shine 0:00:17.760 --> 0:00:21.200 light on new ways of being and thinking. Today, as 0:00:21.239 --> 0:00:23.720 we go into the fall, I'm thinking about the work 0:00:23.800 --> 0:00:26.720 it takes to get here. Think of a tree. Right now. 0:00:26.760 --> 0:00:29.360 There are trees all over the Northern hemisphere that are 0:00:29.360 --> 0:00:32.080 starting to transition from some of the fall to change 0:00:32.080 --> 0:00:35.920 into those beautiful fall colors that make the season such joy. 0:00:36.000 --> 0:00:39.120 But what is a tree? It's big, it's bold, It 0:00:39.200 --> 0:00:41.400 takes in the sun and puts out oxygen. But what 0:00:41.440 --> 0:00:43.600 did it take for the tree that towers one hundred 0:00:43.640 --> 0:00:46.319 plus feet above you to get that tall? It had 0:00:46.360 --> 0:00:49.240 to start somewhere, right, just like all of us. It 0:00:49.320 --> 0:00:52.720 started small, a little acorn in the ground, covered in 0:00:52.800 --> 0:00:55.920 at what just seems like dirt at first sight. But 0:00:56.000 --> 0:00:59.000 you realize that dirt and that fertilizer that doesn't smell 0:00:59.040 --> 0:01:03.120 too good. Terms and roots begin to go deep and 0:01:03.160 --> 0:01:05.959 the tree grows tall, just like you, just like me, 0:01:06.120 --> 0:01:10.160 just like everybody. See, whenever we start to chase our dreams, 0:01:10.520 --> 0:01:13.760 we may be small at the start and a bit uncomfortable, 0:01:13.800 --> 0:01:16.959 but with just the right fertilization and life a k 0:01:17.120 --> 0:01:20.399 Ain't Vitamin D, we take our dreams and aspirations to 0:01:20.440 --> 0:01:24.560 the next level. Just wait and you'll see which brings 0:01:24.600 --> 0:01:27.959 me to our guest today, Caman Kelly Came and Kelly 0:01:28.040 --> 0:01:31.800 is a nationally syndicated radio personality on Serious XMS, Heart 0:01:31.840 --> 0:01:34.319 and Soul, and he's also the voice for Paul one 0:01:34.319 --> 0:01:37.720 O five in New York, The Breakfast Club, ESPN Radio, 0:01:37.800 --> 0:01:41.840 Bounced TV, Monday Night Football, Hello Somebody. The list goes 0:01:41.959 --> 0:01:44.800 on and on, and he joins me to talk about 0:01:44.840 --> 0:01:47.319 his new book, From six Dollars an Hour to a 0:01:47.360 --> 0:01:50.680 Million Dollar Dream. Now. If you're a dreamer, an entrepreneur, 0:01:50.840 --> 0:01:53.240 or simply just want to be inspired for what's next 0:01:53.240 --> 0:01:55.360 to come in your life, you might want to check 0:01:55.400 --> 0:01:58.760 out this conversation. Came and talks about how you have 0:01:58.840 --> 0:02:02.040 to nurture your gift and how you pursued your dream. 0:02:02.200 --> 0:02:05.720 Look this wind, there's no joke and the process isn't easy, 0:02:05.800 --> 0:02:09.600 but you realize that your decisions determine your outcome. We 0:02:09.760 --> 0:02:12.680 discussed topics like knowing yourself. I wanted to take the 0:02:12.760 --> 0:02:16.760 ultimate risk and putting in the work. So without further ado, 0:02:17.040 --> 0:02:21.320 it's time but your dose a vitamin daymin dy right 0:02:21.840 --> 0:02:31.519 with me and get excited about salutations, greetings, greetings, came 0:02:31.560 --> 0:02:35.079 and callie. Hello, Hello, Hell, they will be one. How 0:02:35.120 --> 0:02:38.720 alt thou? I'm doing well. I was just sitting here 0:02:38.720 --> 0:02:40.480 when you said we was gonna be live. I was 0:02:40.480 --> 0:02:45.520 about to go, um cut my hair. I don't have 0:02:45.680 --> 0:02:48.600 time now. Yes, and by the looks, you have a 0:02:48.720 --> 0:02:51.760 lot to get rid of, you know, I see actually 0:02:51.800 --> 0:02:55.079 a little patch right there, like on the side by 0:02:55.120 --> 0:02:57.600 your ear. Not at ain't a patch. I got it 0:02:57.600 --> 0:03:01.400 toughed in. I just chucked it in for the day 0:03:02.320 --> 0:03:04.359 and I'm gonna get back to it later. What's going 0:03:04.400 --> 0:03:06.440 on with you? How you feeling? First off, let me 0:03:06.480 --> 0:03:10.960 say happy belated birthday. Oh cruel please, it's but it's 0:03:10.960 --> 0:03:13.680 about the time for my next birthday. You lady, listen, 0:03:13.919 --> 0:03:16.560 you can't be late when you on time, no matter 0:03:16.960 --> 0:03:20.320 no matter what. Okay, you know we're blessing that We're 0:03:20.360 --> 0:03:23.480 blessing this evolution around the Sun. We're blessing the birth 0:03:23.560 --> 0:03:27.280 of this conversation we're about to have about your new book, 0:03:27.280 --> 0:03:29.560 like this is this is an exciting time, came. I 0:03:29.639 --> 0:03:31.560 just want to make sure you know this for the 0:03:31.600 --> 0:03:39.680 happy Birthday greeting related so listen. Thank you for making 0:03:39.720 --> 0:03:41.800 time out of your busy schedule to talk to me 0:03:41.840 --> 0:03:47.480 about this gift that you have blessed every dreamer, entrepreneur, 0:03:48.280 --> 0:03:52.600 or somebody that is looking for a purpose. Thank you 0:03:52.680 --> 0:03:55.760 for inviting me. I appreciate the opportunity to speak about 0:03:55.800 --> 0:03:58.560 it and and this this gift that we're referring to, 0:03:58.920 --> 0:04:02.560 Mr Book and some titles from A six dollar an hour, 0:04:02.920 --> 0:04:06.080 from six dollars an hour, it's a million dollar dream, yes, 0:04:06.160 --> 0:04:11.440 law okay, man, man, you're a millionaire now see you 0:04:11.520 --> 0:04:14.480 can't be counting the money now you've said it right 0:04:14.480 --> 0:04:17.359 there in the title a million Are you a millionaire? 0:04:17.360 --> 0:04:19.480 It's a million dollar dree. I didn't say I was 0:04:19.520 --> 0:04:23.479 a millionaire, okay, because I was really excited. I was 0:04:23.520 --> 0:04:25.080 like wait, and I'm like I'm thinking of it. I'm 0:04:25.120 --> 0:04:27.760 looking at your catalog. You're voicing for Power one or 0:04:27.760 --> 0:04:32.080 five one. You just got Espen Radio and countless of 0:04:32.080 --> 0:04:35.479 other stations across the nation along with being a syndicated 0:04:35.560 --> 0:04:37.520 radio personality. I was like, you know, what, are you 0:04:37.560 --> 0:04:40.839 still voicing for Bounce TV as well? Yeah, I'm voiced 0:04:40.880 --> 0:04:43.719 for Bounced as well. So honestly speaking, I could definitely 0:04:43.720 --> 0:04:47.599 see how you could be a millionaire. Huh. So, honestly speaking, 0:04:47.640 --> 0:04:49.359 I can definitely see how you could be a millionaire. 0:04:49.360 --> 0:04:51.640 Now that I sit back and look at it, well, 0:04:51.640 --> 0:04:55.039 I'm blessed, I'll say that. Okay, So just real quick, okay, 0:04:55.080 --> 0:04:57.239 So whether or not you want to actually confirm about 0:04:57.240 --> 0:05:00.279 the millionaire part, the fact that you can even put 0:05:00.279 --> 0:05:02.200 that in the centence that your money can even keep 0:05:02.279 --> 0:05:05.680 up with a millionaire, what does it feel like? I 0:05:05.839 --> 0:05:09.240 was good? You know, I mean, I've always dreamed about 0:05:09.920 --> 0:05:12.400 being in this space because you know that that whole 0:05:12.520 --> 0:05:15.640 title actually sums up the entire journey that I went 0:05:15.680 --> 0:05:18.080 on to get to the point where I'm at. So 0:05:18.200 --> 0:05:21.880 six dollars an always representative of my real pay. That's 0:05:21.880 --> 0:05:23.919 what I was getting paid when I first started working 0:05:23.920 --> 0:05:27.679 out of college and major radio, major market radio, six 0:05:27.720 --> 0:05:30.240 dollars an hour. But the thing is I only got 0:05:30.320 --> 0:05:33.320 paid for four hours a day, but I worked all 0:05:33.400 --> 0:05:36.200 day well, you got paid twenty four dollars a day, 0:05:36.400 --> 0:05:40.159 twenty four dollars a day, and I had to pay 0:05:40.200 --> 0:05:42.880 taxes out of that money, so you like to dollars 0:05:42.920 --> 0:05:46.080 you walked away with. So it really it really dwindled down. 0:05:46.320 --> 0:05:48.839 You work every day. It was it was like it 0:05:48.920 --> 0:05:51.040 was a struggle. But you know, the thing is when 0:05:51.040 --> 0:05:53.880 you're passionate about something that you can see where you're going. 0:05:54.400 --> 0:05:56.200 I just needed a step in stone. So I knew 0:05:56.200 --> 0:05:58.719 it would turn into something if I put in the work. 0:05:59.200 --> 0:06:01.880 So if somebody to present me the opportunity, even if 0:06:01.920 --> 0:06:03.920 it was six dollars, because at first I was doing 0:06:03.960 --> 0:06:07.400 it for free, you know, so six dollars was a raise. 0:06:09.240 --> 0:06:10.839 And you know, I think that's how you really know 0:06:10.920 --> 0:06:13.200 when you love something, because it's like the money doesn't matter. 0:06:13.240 --> 0:06:16.440 You're so in the moment that every moment and it 0:06:16.520 --> 0:06:20.040 is just like that high that's you know, Yeah, you're right. 0:06:20.080 --> 0:06:22.440 I just enjoyed being around it. It It didn't matter whether 0:06:22.440 --> 0:06:25.159 I was getting paid, and nobody knew I wasn't getting paid. 0:06:25.600 --> 0:06:28.200 So by the time a position was offered to me, 0:06:28.560 --> 0:06:30.920 when they wrote the figure down on this little like 0:06:30.960 --> 0:06:33.080 the side of this newspaper, and showed it to me 0:06:33.120 --> 0:06:36.400 and I looked at us it what's that for? He said, 0:06:36.480 --> 0:06:39.560 for the year. I was like, what it was like 0:06:39.600 --> 0:06:42.920 six thousand and some our dollars that was in this figure. 0:06:43.000 --> 0:06:45.440 So it breaked. It broke down the six dollars an 0:06:45.440 --> 0:06:48.479 hour for four hours a day, meaning if they paid 0:06:48.480 --> 0:06:50.599 me for a full eight hour a day, I'd been 0:06:50.680 --> 0:06:57.280 making three dollars an hour. Wow. And don't will tell 0:06:57.320 --> 0:06:59.320 you the truth. It was a it was a real struggle, 0:06:59.320 --> 0:07:03.000 I mean, like for real, for real struggle, because you know, 0:07:03.040 --> 0:07:05.600 they always wanted you to be around, but you know, 0:07:05.760 --> 0:07:08.000 sometimes it was like am I gonna eat? Or am 0:07:08.000 --> 0:07:09.600 I gonna put some gas in the cars? I don't 0:07:09.640 --> 0:07:11.960 go to work? I mean, like for real, I looked 0:07:11.960 --> 0:07:13.760 at the ash traders when they were still putting ash 0:07:13.800 --> 0:07:15.760 trays and cars, trying to find some change because I 0:07:15.800 --> 0:07:17.960 ain't smoke, so threw much change in the ash tray. 0:07:18.360 --> 0:07:20.200 So some days I was in there looking trying to 0:07:20.240 --> 0:07:23.800 see if I can get me a gallon of gas. Stop. Stop. 0:07:25.520 --> 0:07:27.960 I think it's a standard story for people in radio, 0:07:28.040 --> 0:07:30.920 like especially because it's passionate career. You love it because 0:07:30.960 --> 0:07:32.920 I can recall when I would be at the radio 0:07:33.000 --> 0:07:35.760 station from five am, and I literally wouldn't leave to 0:07:35.880 --> 0:07:39.400 eight or nine, because, like you said, standing up there 0:07:39.440 --> 0:07:42.600 is how you got the gems, how you got the opportunities, 0:07:42.920 --> 0:07:46.440 how you got the experiences. So tell us how how 0:07:46.600 --> 0:07:48.600 was that for you? You came in there, you're making 0:07:48.600 --> 0:07:51.440 six dollars an hour? What were you doing? What was 0:07:51.480 --> 0:07:54.119 I doing? When you running the board? Where you're working 0:07:54.120 --> 0:07:56.880 in promotions? How did you even know that there was 0:07:57.000 --> 0:07:59.720 money to be made in radio when they showed you 0:07:59.760 --> 0:08:02.560 si dollars an hour? I'm surprised you didn't be like 0:08:02.600 --> 0:08:04.320 a bat out of hell and run for the hills. 0:08:05.000 --> 0:08:06.520 But you know what I didn't, I didn't know how 0:08:06.600 --> 0:08:09.640 much it was gonna pay. So so the way I 0:08:09.680 --> 0:08:11.880 started in radio in the first place, I was in 0:08:11.880 --> 0:08:14.520 a music group a buddy of my my buddy Corey. 0:08:14.880 --> 0:08:17.880 We were doing music together because my mom always wanted 0:08:17.920 --> 0:08:21.640 me to take music lessons. I wasn't really interested. She 0:08:21.680 --> 0:08:23.600 wanted me to play piano. But back then, you know, 0:08:23.640 --> 0:08:25.160 it was kind of taboo for a man to be 0:08:25.160 --> 0:08:27.400 playing the piano because it was all women that you saw. 0:08:27.520 --> 0:08:30.120 So I don't want to playing a piano. So we 0:08:30.200 --> 0:08:32.920 had a piano at homes. I actually taught myself how 0:08:32.920 --> 0:08:35.079 to play it, and then I started doing all the 0:08:35.200 --> 0:08:37.880 music and he was good with putting lyrics together. So 0:08:37.960 --> 0:08:40.080 that's how we formed this group. We ended up doing 0:08:40.120 --> 0:08:42.520 like cable TV and all kinds of stuff. We was 0:08:42.520 --> 0:08:46.880 doing performances and he calls the radio station. One day 0:08:47.360 --> 0:08:49.120 he called me. He said, about to be on the radio, 0:08:49.160 --> 0:08:51.000 about to be on the radio. So when I turned 0:08:51.000 --> 0:08:53.600 on the radio, I heard him rapping about the promotion 0:08:53.640 --> 0:08:56.880 that they were doing. What he who was on the air. 0:08:57.000 --> 0:09:00.520 He invited us to the radio station. So when I went, 0:09:00.920 --> 0:09:02.679 that's when I fell in love with I was like, 0:09:02.800 --> 0:09:06.880 oh my gosh, I gotta do this because already I 0:09:06.880 --> 0:09:09.760 already loved music. That's number one, and just to watch 0:09:09.840 --> 0:09:12.640 the magic happened behind the scenes. I was like, man, 0:09:12.679 --> 0:09:15.080 I gotta do this. And the production guy was like, 0:09:15.120 --> 0:09:16.800 he said, man, how old are you? I was like, 0:09:17.320 --> 0:09:20.680 I was in T grade. Voice is crazy because my 0:09:20.760 --> 0:09:22.719 voice had already changed by it and you know, like 0:09:23.240 --> 0:09:26.560 back then radio was like all about the voice. Not 0:09:26.880 --> 0:09:29.520 much now it's the personality because it's not the same 0:09:30.080 --> 0:09:32.000 animal as it used to be back in the day. 0:09:32.600 --> 0:09:34.880 So once I got bit by that bug. That's all 0:09:34.920 --> 0:09:37.240 I wanted to do. After that, I gotta do some radio. 0:09:37.240 --> 0:09:39.840 I gotta do radio, So I went. I ended up 0:09:39.840 --> 0:09:43.560 going to college and always kept that contact with the 0:09:43.679 --> 0:09:46.800 radio station. I did radio in college, and by the 0:09:46.840 --> 0:09:48.920 time I graduated, I was looking for a job. I 0:09:48.920 --> 0:09:51.600 couldn't find anything, because you know, it's one of those 0:09:51.640 --> 0:09:53.720 things where they tell you the proper things for you 0:09:53.800 --> 0:09:56.400 to do, or the things that we think you must do. 0:09:56.800 --> 0:10:00.480 You know, successful graduate, you go to college, then you 0:10:00.559 --> 0:10:03.320 come out and get a job that wasn't working out 0:10:03.320 --> 0:10:05.600 too well, you know, trying to get a job because 0:10:06.040 --> 0:10:08.880 there was really no experience and everybody always wants to 0:10:08.920 --> 0:10:13.040 know what have you done already instead of taking you 0:10:13.080 --> 0:10:15.480 on to try to mold you and seeing some type 0:10:15.480 --> 0:10:18.520 of potential, and you in the first place where they 0:10:18.559 --> 0:10:21.400 are willing to take a chance on you. So so 0:10:21.559 --> 0:10:23.720 fast forward a little bit. There was a job fair 0:10:23.760 --> 0:10:25.959 that this radio station was doing, and I was cool 0:10:26.000 --> 0:10:29.480 with the the receptionists. So she said, we're doing a 0:10:29.559 --> 0:10:31.760 job fair tomorrow. She said, come up and you can 0:10:31.880 --> 0:10:34.480 ride with us. So I get there, don I get 0:10:34.480 --> 0:10:37.680 there early. This is how I know, like God was 0:10:37.720 --> 0:10:39.720 in this plan right. So I get there early and 0:10:39.760 --> 0:10:43.720 they already gone. So I'm sitting in the parking like like, man, 0:10:43.760 --> 0:10:45.480 I donna drove all the way up here and I 0:10:45.520 --> 0:10:49.080 ain't what happened. So I was like, man, I'm already here. 0:10:49.080 --> 0:10:51.079 So I went to the front door. There was a 0:10:51.120 --> 0:10:53.480 security phone in the front of the build and I 0:10:53.559 --> 0:10:56.680 picked the phone up. Albid the one who invited me 0:10:56.679 --> 0:10:58.640 in the radio station, and I was in tenth grade. 0:10:58.640 --> 0:11:02.760 He was on the air, so they're coming out, come up, 0:11:02.760 --> 0:11:05.360 and I'm talking to him and I was telling him 0:11:05.400 --> 0:11:07.120 I was trying to find a job and all this thing. 0:11:07.160 --> 0:11:08.680 He said, well, I don't really have a job to 0:11:08.760 --> 0:11:12.839 give you, but you can certainly help me out. I 0:11:12.840 --> 0:11:15.120 can use some help around my show, like answering phones, 0:11:15.200 --> 0:11:17.559 take a request, stuff like that. Be a great way 0:11:17.559 --> 0:11:20.120 to get your foot back in the door. So that's 0:11:20.160 --> 0:11:22.240 what I started doing it. In the process, I was 0:11:22.280 --> 0:11:25.680 teaching school that was a substitute. They offered me a 0:11:25.720 --> 0:11:27.920 full time so I was like, nah, I take the 0:11:27.960 --> 0:11:30.480 substitute thing. That way, I can kind of control my 0:11:30.559 --> 0:11:33.640 schedule so I can go when I need to. So 0:11:33.760 --> 0:11:36.520 being at the radio station, they started to notice me around, 0:11:37.200 --> 0:11:39.520 you know, and they started asking questions like can you 0:11:39.559 --> 0:11:42.120 do this? And I was moving chairs and all kinds 0:11:42.120 --> 0:11:44.680 of stuff that I didn't necessarily want to do, but 0:11:44.760 --> 0:11:47.000 everything that you had to do so somebody can lay 0:11:47.040 --> 0:11:51.040 eyes on there exactly. So eventually people learned who I 0:11:51.240 --> 0:11:54.679 was so so and in that position came over one 0:11:54.760 --> 0:11:57.120 day when I came from school. I came in the 0:11:57.160 --> 0:11:59.360 studio and somebody was sitting in my chair. So there 0:11:59.400 --> 0:12:02.760 was an intern in there, and the intern coordinated come 0:12:02.800 --> 0:12:06.360 in and tell him to the position open in promotions. 0:12:06.360 --> 0:12:08.280 I suggest you go back there and drop your name. 0:12:08.400 --> 0:12:11.719 That's how you taught, right, couldn't whisper go back there 0:12:11.720 --> 0:12:14.000 and drop your name so you can try to get 0:12:14.040 --> 0:12:18.439 that job. So I heard it. I went to Now, 0:12:18.520 --> 0:12:21.720 mind you you won't believe this, but I grew up shy, 0:12:21.800 --> 0:12:24.640 and you were not shy. I was shot, like to 0:12:24.679 --> 0:12:26.200 the point where I wouldn't ask you to go to 0:12:26.240 --> 0:12:29.760 the bathroom, how to speak, I can't clean up later. 0:12:31.800 --> 0:12:33.560 It was like that kind of shot that this guy 0:12:33.640 --> 0:12:36.240 was kind of timid like. And I saw it because 0:12:36.280 --> 0:12:39.320 I've recognized the introvert, you know what I'm saying, Because 0:12:39.360 --> 0:12:42.040 I was like that. But I learned how to cope 0:12:42.080 --> 0:12:43.720 and how to deal with stuff. So I was like, 0:12:43.760 --> 0:12:45.920 I'm not gonna get nothing if I don't say nothing. 0:12:46.280 --> 0:12:48.360 So I went back there, hold on, wait a minute, 0:12:48.520 --> 0:12:51.400 say that again, because I think that is very important 0:12:51.440 --> 0:12:53.920 a journey of any dream or just existence of life. 0:12:54.200 --> 0:12:57.320 How closed mouths don't get fed. There you go, that's 0:12:57.320 --> 0:12:59.160 exactly what I was about to say. Old folks said 0:12:59.160 --> 0:13:02.200 it best closed I was, don't get fed. And that's it, 0:13:02.360 --> 0:13:04.400 you know, because because I know that was a part 0:13:04.440 --> 0:13:08.360 of my personality. But being shot wasn't getting me anything. 0:13:09.200 --> 0:13:12.120 Because you know, having a gift doesn't mean anything if 0:13:12.160 --> 0:13:15.480 nobody knows about it. This book right here done. It 0:13:15.600 --> 0:13:18.640 took me two years to finish this book. If I 0:13:18.679 --> 0:13:23.040 don't say anything about it, how people know exist same 0:13:23.080 --> 0:13:25.319 thing with your gift that's inside of you. So by 0:13:25.400 --> 0:13:28.320 me being shot, I realized things about me that I 0:13:28.360 --> 0:13:31.320 gotta overcome some of this stuff. And you're like, and 0:13:31.360 --> 0:13:33.960 I still suffer with it too. You know. I don't 0:13:34.000 --> 0:13:37.040 like small groups of people. I feel intimidated when I 0:13:37.080 --> 0:13:39.319 walk into everybody staring at me. But I learned how 0:13:39.679 --> 0:13:42.880 I have coping mechanisms that I used to overcome it. 0:13:43.559 --> 0:13:46.520 So I walk in the room, I cracked jokes. They 0:13:46.559 --> 0:13:49.040 start laughing. I feed off of their energy. Now that 0:13:49.240 --> 0:13:52.080 the moodest like to me. So that's the way that 0:13:52.120 --> 0:13:54.280 I deal with stuff. So the same thing with getting 0:13:54.320 --> 0:13:57.199 that job. I man, I'm getting this job. So they 0:13:57.200 --> 0:13:59.600 said tomorrow we're going on the streetead so I come 0:13:59.640 --> 0:14:01.439 from this who I'm fine, I see AM about to 0:14:01.480 --> 0:14:04.720 pull off. I said, wait, wait, wait. I jumped in 0:14:04.800 --> 0:14:06.280 with him. We went to the mall. I was and 0:14:06.440 --> 0:14:11.160 everybody's going, y'all doing something passing our stuff. And they 0:14:11.240 --> 0:14:13.760 let me call into the radio station because I knew 0:14:13.840 --> 0:14:16.559 I would get it if they just give me the opportunity. 0:14:17.000 --> 0:14:18.599 So that's when I came in and they said, we 0:14:18.640 --> 0:14:20.840 want to give you the job. I thought I was 0:14:20.880 --> 0:14:23.960 great to make me some money. Though I can't live. 0:14:24.120 --> 0:14:26.640 I thought it was gonna make a decent amount of 0:14:26.640 --> 0:14:29.320 money at least. So when I saw that figure, it 0:14:29.480 --> 0:14:32.080 was a little shocking, but I still kept telling myself, 0:14:33.000 --> 0:14:36.240 this is an opportunity that I can turn this into something. 0:14:36.320 --> 0:14:39.160 All I need is to step in stall. But once 0:14:39.200 --> 0:14:44.040 these opportunities are presented, what are you gonna do with it? 0:14:44.680 --> 0:14:48.600 About the money? To me, it wasn't all about the money. 0:14:49.040 --> 0:14:51.120 I think that's interesting when we talked like about a 0:14:51.120 --> 0:14:54.360 lot of entrepreneurs and just dreamers in general. I think 0:14:54.400 --> 0:14:57.800 one of the things that is like a block is 0:14:57.800 --> 0:15:01.080 that thinking about the money and my own thing is 0:15:01.120 --> 0:15:04.520 always like I may not have it all right now materialized, 0:15:05.080 --> 0:15:08.200 but it's coming, and that's what kind of energizes. But 0:15:08.720 --> 0:15:11.560 I'm just interested to know why do you feel like 0:15:11.640 --> 0:15:15.320 it's so very important to make sure that you say 0:15:15.440 --> 0:15:20.000 yes and seize every opportunity because you if you have 0:15:20.120 --> 0:15:23.840 a desire to do something, you can always turn that 0:15:23.960 --> 0:15:27.400 stepping stone into something bigger, you know what I mean. 0:15:27.640 --> 0:15:30.360 And I kind of used the analogy with you know 0:15:30.480 --> 0:15:32.360 people when they say, man, it was just sunny. Now 0:15:32.400 --> 0:15:35.320 it was raining, but the rain had to start somewhere. 0:15:35.800 --> 0:15:38.120 It is justn't come out of anywhere like you expect, 0:15:38.240 --> 0:15:40.160 like you say, man, it rain came out of nowhere. 0:15:40.240 --> 0:15:43.640 Nor did came out of the clouds, the nimbus clouds 0:15:43.640 --> 0:15:46.080 that have been building up for a long long time 0:15:46.120 --> 0:15:47.920 and they were swelling and they was waiting for that 0:15:48.040 --> 0:15:51.240 moment to first. So it's the same thing with any 0:15:51.280 --> 0:15:56.920 kind of opportunity, and it's I love that analogy because 0:15:56.960 --> 0:15:59.480 I ask God, I'm just like I want my blessings 0:15:59.520 --> 0:16:01.760 to rain down on me, because it's like, you know, 0:16:01.800 --> 0:16:03.320 when you get that water in your right now, you 0:16:03.320 --> 0:16:05.280 know I took it a little left. I just think 0:16:05.320 --> 0:16:07.440 about that's what life and things start to grow, and 0:16:07.480 --> 0:16:10.720 honestly think about it. You know, if we think about 0:16:10.720 --> 0:16:12.920 our blessings are in this cloud and we keep putting 0:16:12.920 --> 0:16:16.000 in the work waiting for the season, can you imagine 0:16:16.000 --> 0:16:18.800 the abundance and the overflow. Nothing can exists without water, 0:16:19.320 --> 0:16:22.480 that's exactly. And speaking of water, there was I was 0:16:22.520 --> 0:16:26.200 reading through my book yesterday and there's this analogy because 0:16:27.160 --> 0:16:29.880 if you start doing something and you can give up, 0:16:29.960 --> 0:16:34.560 how much closer are you to your drink? You're not. 0:16:34.640 --> 0:16:36.560 You're not going to get any closer, So why not 0:16:36.720 --> 0:16:40.320 keep going? And then I used to talk about stagnation 0:16:40.400 --> 0:16:44.800 because stagnation ultimately ends up in death. You kill yourself 0:16:45.120 --> 0:16:48.200 if you stagnate, you die, right, because living things grow 0:16:48.200 --> 0:16:51.360 and they move and they change, right, And think about 0:16:51.400 --> 0:16:54.360 it like this, though, if somebody brought you some beautiful 0:16:54.400 --> 0:16:57.040 fresh flowers, they were sitting in the vase and you 0:16:57.120 --> 0:16:59.760 had some water in there, but they sat for a while, 0:17:00.440 --> 0:17:04.440 that water didn't have any movement, and it started to stagnate. 0:17:04.920 --> 0:17:07.280 When you take them flowers out of that water stinks, 0:17:08.680 --> 0:17:11.720 you can't drink it. It's not good for anything anymore 0:17:11.800 --> 0:17:15.159 because it's stagnated. And it's the same thing with your life. 0:17:15.200 --> 0:17:19.480 If you stagnate, you're not worth any value. You're not 0:17:19.560 --> 0:17:23.399 doing anything, You're not helping anybody. You know, like and I. 0:17:23.640 --> 0:17:25.280 You know, I'm a firm believer. I'm not on this 0:17:25.359 --> 0:17:29.160 journey just for myself. And we need to surround ourselves 0:17:29.160 --> 0:17:32.320 with people that can motivate us. And I talk about 0:17:32.359 --> 0:17:35.560 it all the time. A matter of fact, last night 0:17:35.600 --> 0:17:38.720 I was talking to UM. I was talking to r 0:17:38.960 --> 0:17:43.560 L from next Yes, step back it that's coming close, 0:17:45.920 --> 0:17:48.000 talking about his journey and a lot of times when 0:17:48.000 --> 0:17:50.600 you look at people, and I started to notice a pattern. 0:17:51.119 --> 0:17:52.919 A lot of times when you look at people and 0:17:53.000 --> 0:17:56.000 you deem them to be successful, you don't know what 0:17:56.040 --> 0:18:00.119 they're dealing with internally. That's why I success can be 0:18:00.200 --> 0:18:03.440 defined in so many different ways. It's not necessarily all 0:18:03.440 --> 0:18:07.520 about finances all the time. Success You say you wanted 0:18:07.560 --> 0:18:10.600 to be at home with your kids, so your job 0:18:10.640 --> 0:18:12.640 allows you two hours where you could be at home 0:18:12.680 --> 0:18:15.600 but your kids, and you can define that as being successful. 0:18:15.680 --> 0:18:18.399 I've achieved that goal of doing what I wanted to 0:18:18.440 --> 0:18:21.080 do for my family, So you know, I don't think 0:18:21.119 --> 0:18:25.679 we can always equate success to being finances. If the 0:18:25.720 --> 0:18:28.800 money comes, then cool, that's the bonus part of it. Yeah, 0:18:28.840 --> 0:18:30.800 I look at I want my success to be just 0:18:31.040 --> 0:18:34.640 like peace. I just want to feel good. I want 0:18:34.640 --> 0:18:36.439 to do what I love. And I guess also with 0:18:36.520 --> 0:18:39.240 the freedom. But even as you were saying, like you 0:18:39.320 --> 0:18:42.080 have to put your dreams out there, came and we 0:18:42.200 --> 0:18:45.720 have to be honest. There's this thing of judgment that 0:18:45.800 --> 0:18:49.320 we all fear. And it's interesting and I say this 0:18:49.400 --> 0:18:52.040 to myself even as I say, like, you have to 0:18:52.080 --> 0:18:54.560 put yourself out there and you fail your way to success, 0:18:54.840 --> 0:18:57.439 you know, And as you talk about the stagnation, that 0:18:57.560 --> 0:19:01.920 procrastination will hit me because us I'm thinking about all 0:19:02.000 --> 0:19:05.840 my imperfection, everything that isn't right, somebody is not good 0:19:05.920 --> 0:19:09.280 enough or that whole perfect you know context, And just 0:19:09.320 --> 0:19:12.760 like how you were saying, like to get over that aspect, 0:19:13.240 --> 0:19:17.399 was it easy for you to just put yourself out there? No, 0:19:17.560 --> 0:19:20.720 it really wasn't. And you know, and and and that's 0:19:20.760 --> 0:19:25.840 part of my natural makeup and my personality and me. 0:19:25.960 --> 0:19:27.520 And there was a whole lot of stuff that I 0:19:27.600 --> 0:19:32.280 self sabotaged myself, hear myself out of being successful. I 0:19:32.480 --> 0:19:35.040 wanted it, but I think I was told no so 0:19:35.119 --> 0:19:38.080 much that I just expected people to tell me no. 0:19:38.240 --> 0:19:42.119 So if a yes came, I'm like, whoa, I'm not ready. 0:19:42.480 --> 0:19:45.320 And I give you a prime example. And you know, 0:19:45.359 --> 0:19:47.400 I got stories for days. So I'm talking to my 0:19:47.400 --> 0:19:49.760 my friend Keith Robinson, who was an actor, right, So 0:19:49.800 --> 0:19:52.400 I was telling him, I said, man, do you know 0:19:53.720 --> 0:19:57.439 I auditioned for a soap opera one time? Right? So 0:19:57.520 --> 0:20:00.560 I walked in the room. I'm nervous as hell, dressed 0:20:00.560 --> 0:20:03.840 to kill, though I've got my suit all right. And 0:20:03.880 --> 0:20:05.880 I walked in and they introduced me to the young 0:20:05.960 --> 0:20:08.639 lady that I'm gonna be reading the opposite of. And 0:20:08.680 --> 0:20:11.119 I said, I already know her, and everybody was like, 0:20:11.440 --> 0:20:12.879 you do, and I said yeah, I said, girl, you 0:20:12.880 --> 0:20:14.399 don't remember me. I went to kid of going with 0:20:14.480 --> 0:20:19.679 you looking at me like I don't know this fool. 0:20:19.760 --> 0:20:22.080 Like that's how everybody was looking at me, like I 0:20:22.119 --> 0:20:24.959