1 00:00:19,239 --> 00:00:21,680 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the 2 00:00:21,720 --> 00:00:24,160 Speaker 1: voice mailbox for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you 3 00:00:24,200 --> 00:00:27,120 Speaker 1: advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe 4 00:00:27,160 --> 00:00:29,280 Speaker 1: you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with 5 00:00:29,320 --> 00:00:32,120 Speaker 1: your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how 6 00:00:32,159 --> 00:00:34,640 Speaker 1: to balance your checkbook or how to start a business. 7 00:00:34,960 --> 00:00:38,080 Speaker 1: Whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember 8 00:00:38,240 --> 00:00:40,559 Speaker 1: these are my thoughts and opinions, and if you're suffering 9 00:00:40,600 --> 00:00:42,720 Speaker 1: from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from 10 00:00:42,760 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 1: a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead and leave 11 00:00:45,760 --> 00:00:47,080 Speaker 1: your question at the sound of the beat. 12 00:00:48,960 --> 00:00:53,280 Speaker 2: Hi, Cheeky's. I love your podcast and your show. Of course, recently, 13 00:00:53,320 --> 00:00:55,480 Speaker 2: in one of the episodes, I saw that you and 14 00:00:55,560 --> 00:00:58,840 Speaker 2: your girlfriends took a trip. I have been wanting to 15 00:00:58,880 --> 00:01:02,120 Speaker 2: plan a girl's trip with my girlfriends, but as you know, 16 00:01:02,200 --> 00:01:06,240 Speaker 2: scheduling and kids sometimes that's difficult. Is there any place 17 00:01:06,319 --> 00:01:08,760 Speaker 2: that you would recommend for a girls trip? 18 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:09,800 Speaker 3: Thank you so much? 19 00:01:10,520 --> 00:01:10,920 Speaker 4: Mmmm? 20 00:01:11,680 --> 00:01:14,920 Speaker 1: Thank you Mona. Okay, girls' trips. You know, you don't 21 00:01:14,920 --> 00:01:17,280 Speaker 1: even have to go far when you're with your girls. 22 00:01:17,280 --> 00:01:21,080 Speaker 1: You can go literally anywhere I've done San Diego just 23 00:01:21,120 --> 00:01:23,760 Speaker 1: like a cute little like hotel in San Diego. I 24 00:01:23,800 --> 00:01:27,880 Speaker 1: don't know where you live, but San Diego's nice, a 25 00:01:27,959 --> 00:01:32,040 Speaker 1: cute little like hotel Dinners. It's just it doesn't matter 26 00:01:32,120 --> 00:01:34,800 Speaker 1: really where you go. It's the company that you're with, 27 00:01:35,000 --> 00:01:37,720 Speaker 1: the girls that you're with, that is. You can have 28 00:01:37,720 --> 00:01:40,160 Speaker 1: fun in your backyard. You don't even have to go anywhere. 29 00:01:40,160 --> 00:01:43,520 Speaker 1: If it's hard to find a babysitter, just maybe put 30 00:01:43,560 --> 00:01:46,319 Speaker 1: the kids to sleep, have them watch television. You guys 31 00:01:46,360 --> 00:01:48,560 Speaker 1: could be on in the backyard just like I don't know, 32 00:01:48,720 --> 00:01:53,640 Speaker 1: like just chilling, listening to music, bonding, playing cards, Lotteria. 33 00:01:53,840 --> 00:01:57,240 Speaker 1: I love Lotaria, by the way, but yeah, I've done 34 00:01:57,280 --> 00:02:04,240 Speaker 1: Santa Barbara, Love Santa Barbara, Baha Love Baja Roserito, Mihikali. Again, 35 00:02:05,360 --> 00:02:07,320 Speaker 1: it's all about who you're with and the people that 36 00:02:07,360 --> 00:02:09,480 Speaker 1: you're gonna spend time with that makes it quality time. 37 00:02:09,520 --> 00:02:12,000 Speaker 1: It doesn't even really like have to be anywhere fancy. 38 00:02:12,480 --> 00:02:15,880 Speaker 1: But those are the places that I've gone driving distance 39 00:02:15,880 --> 00:02:17,360 Speaker 1: because I feel like a gross trip. You should do 40 00:02:17,400 --> 00:02:19,720 Speaker 1: something that's driving distance. It doesn't have to be crazy far. 41 00:02:20,360 --> 00:02:23,400 Speaker 1: I've also I've gone to Greece that was very expensive. 42 00:02:24,000 --> 00:02:25,760 Speaker 1: I don't know if I would do that again, So 43 00:02:25,919 --> 00:02:28,720 Speaker 1: just keep it local, Keep it local, that's for sure. 44 00:02:28,919 --> 00:02:31,760 Speaker 1: And again it's all Beyonce that you, that you create 45 00:02:31,800 --> 00:02:34,920 Speaker 1: that makes it a girls trip. You give me no 46 00:02:35,000 --> 00:02:38,000 Speaker 1: boys allowed. Thank you, Mona. I hope that helped. Next time, 47 00:02:38,040 --> 00:02:39,360 Speaker 1: tell me where you live and then I can tell 48 00:02:39,400 --> 00:02:41,440 Speaker 1: you like, oh, you know here and there. But hopefully 49 00:02:41,440 --> 00:02:47,239 Speaker 1: that helped. Our next listener is Carla. Let's see what 50 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:48,040 Speaker 1: Carla has to say. 51 00:02:48,760 --> 00:02:51,760 Speaker 3: Hi, Tikis. I love your music and I love you. 52 00:02:51,760 --> 00:02:55,960 Speaker 3: You really inspire me. So the reason why I'm sending 53 00:02:56,040 --> 00:02:59,120 Speaker 3: you this is because I'm really in a tight situation 54 00:03:00,040 --> 00:03:04,560 Speaker 3: and I really could use your help. So basically, I 55 00:03:04,600 --> 00:03:09,840 Speaker 3: know a friend that's being cheated on and like, I 56 00:03:09,960 --> 00:03:12,960 Speaker 3: just really need your opinion if I should tell her 57 00:03:13,000 --> 00:03:15,160 Speaker 3: because I'm kind of scared to tell her. It's like 58 00:03:15,240 --> 00:03:17,040 Speaker 3: I can tell her, but I'm scared, Like what if 59 00:03:17,080 --> 00:03:19,800 Speaker 3: her partner kind of just like hurts me if I 60 00:03:19,919 --> 00:03:24,400 Speaker 3: say something? Or another option? What if I'm wrong? What 61 00:03:24,480 --> 00:03:27,120 Speaker 3: if you know he's just talking to a friendless girl. 62 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:29,440 Speaker 3: But here's the thing, I don't think it is from 63 00:03:29,480 --> 00:03:32,160 Speaker 3: my point of vision, I don't think somebody would be 64 00:03:32,200 --> 00:03:34,880 Speaker 3: sending like saying stuff to this when they have a partner, 65 00:03:35,680 --> 00:03:38,400 Speaker 3: you know. I mean, I can get they have like 66 00:03:38,440 --> 00:03:40,560 Speaker 3: friends that are girls, but they would never say this 67 00:03:40,640 --> 00:03:43,000 Speaker 3: kind of stuff or like say like text them daily. 68 00:03:43,800 --> 00:03:48,000 Speaker 3: So like, I just really could use your opinion. Thank you, Cheeky's. 69 00:03:48,800 --> 00:03:53,040 Speaker 1: Oh, Carla, Well, first of all, if you're afraid of 70 00:03:53,160 --> 00:03:56,200 Speaker 1: her partner doing something to you, then I don't think 71 00:03:56,240 --> 00:03:59,800 Speaker 1: that's very healthy for her to be with someone like that, 72 00:04:00,640 --> 00:04:02,600 Speaker 1: especially if you're like a you think that he would 73 00:04:02,640 --> 00:04:07,320 Speaker 1: do something to you. If I were your friend, I 74 00:04:07,320 --> 00:04:11,920 Speaker 1: would want to know. I would expect a friend of 75 00:04:11,960 --> 00:04:15,640 Speaker 1: mine to tell me, hey, this is what's going on, 76 00:04:15,760 --> 00:04:18,080 Speaker 1: even if I'm wrong. I'm like, hey, I heard this, 77 00:04:18,160 --> 00:04:20,039 Speaker 1: I saw this. I just feel that you need to know. 78 00:04:20,560 --> 00:04:23,640 Speaker 1: I think that's you being a good friend, is letting 79 00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:27,560 Speaker 1: her know. This is what I know. I love you. 80 00:04:27,839 --> 00:04:30,039 Speaker 1: If you want to stay with him, that's your business. 81 00:04:30,040 --> 00:04:31,520 Speaker 1: If you guys work through it. I don't want to 82 00:04:31,560 --> 00:04:34,040 Speaker 1: cause issues, but this is what I know. And I 83 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:37,040 Speaker 1: wouldn't feel comfortable with holding this information from you because 84 00:04:37,040 --> 00:04:39,760 Speaker 1: then that's not me being a good friend. That's me 85 00:04:39,839 --> 00:04:44,880 Speaker 1: doing a disservice to you in regards to this dude 86 00:04:44,920 --> 00:04:49,840 Speaker 1: doing something to you. I personally, as soon as if 87 00:04:49,880 --> 00:04:52,000 Speaker 1: you get a text message after you say something or 88 00:04:52,040 --> 00:04:55,960 Speaker 1: something he's threatening to you, you need to like, don't 89 00:04:55,960 --> 00:04:59,000 Speaker 1: even mess around with that. You have to file a 90 00:04:59,040 --> 00:05:02,080 Speaker 1: restraining order against this person. You have to have some 91 00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:05,839 Speaker 1: type of evidence, so make sure you know, God forbid 92 00:05:05,960 --> 00:05:11,840 Speaker 1: he does. But I do think that your responsibility as 93 00:05:11,839 --> 00:05:14,240 Speaker 1: a best friend is to tell your friend, because that's 94 00:05:14,279 --> 00:05:19,000 Speaker 1: not fair. I think you would want to know, especially 95 00:05:19,040 --> 00:05:20,960 Speaker 1: if this is a scary guy. Like you don't want 96 00:05:21,000 --> 00:05:23,960 Speaker 1: your friend being with a scary guy, you know. So, Carla, 97 00:05:24,200 --> 00:05:27,120 Speaker 1: I hope that I was able to help you, and 98 00:05:28,080 --> 00:05:30,799 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be praying for your safety and your friend's safety. 99 00:05:30,839 --> 00:05:32,640 Speaker 1: But I do feel that you need to let her 100 00:05:32,680 --> 00:05:43,159 Speaker 1: know for sure. All right, guys, Our last question comes 101 00:05:43,160 --> 00:05:46,640 Speaker 1: from an anonymous listener. Let's see, Hi. 102 00:05:46,560 --> 00:05:47,080 Speaker 3: Ti Geeze. 103 00:05:47,160 --> 00:05:50,560 Speaker 4: I'm a huge fan of you, your mom, and your sisters. 104 00:05:51,040 --> 00:05:54,359 Speaker 4: I think you guys are all amazing. So I just 105 00:05:54,520 --> 00:05:59,839 Speaker 4: have some questions or I'm asking for some advice. Honestly, 106 00:06:00,640 --> 00:06:03,680 Speaker 4: I'm actually thirty two years old. I got pregnant when 107 00:06:03,720 --> 00:06:07,800 Speaker 4: I was fifteen. I was with my kid's dad for 108 00:06:07,880 --> 00:06:12,840 Speaker 4: five years and it was a very toxic, abusive relationship. 109 00:06:13,400 --> 00:06:17,200 Speaker 4: From there, I finally we decided to break it off 110 00:06:17,680 --> 00:06:21,880 Speaker 4: after he sent me to the hospital. And then I 111 00:06:21,920 --> 00:06:26,360 Speaker 4: got to another relationship and that relationship was not as abusive, 112 00:06:26,520 --> 00:06:30,320 Speaker 4: but it was still hard. But my ex husband actually 113 00:06:30,800 --> 00:06:33,800 Speaker 4: got sentenced to ten years of prison. Now I'm in 114 00:06:33,800 --> 00:06:39,240 Speaker 4: a different relationship, and this relationship started great. Honestly, I 115 00:06:39,400 --> 00:06:43,280 Speaker 4: never expected to be another relationship. I did not want 116 00:06:43,360 --> 00:06:48,040 Speaker 4: to be another relationship. But now he's very abusive, very controlling, 117 00:06:48,680 --> 00:06:52,800 Speaker 4: and I don't know what to do. It's becoming a 118 00:06:52,960 --> 00:06:57,240 Speaker 4: very toxic, abusive relationship. Is there anything I can do? 119 00:06:58,000 --> 00:07:01,520 Speaker 4: Anything that your advice? I've tried everything, I mean everything, 120 00:07:01,640 --> 00:07:04,080 Speaker 4: and I just can't get out of it. I didn't 121 00:07:04,080 --> 00:07:05,640 Speaker 4: want to also let you know. You know, I am 122 00:07:05,720 --> 00:07:08,000 Speaker 4: a mom of five kids. I've been through a lot 123 00:07:08,160 --> 00:07:10,520 Speaker 4: and it just sucks like I don't seems like I 124 00:07:10,560 --> 00:07:14,120 Speaker 4: can never catch your break. See if there's anything that 125 00:07:14,160 --> 00:07:17,720 Speaker 4: you can tell me or any advice that your command. Again, 126 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:19,840 Speaker 4: thank you so much Chiky's and I'm a huge fan. 127 00:07:21,040 --> 00:07:26,480 Speaker 1: Oh, thank you so much. My wonderful anonymous listener. Well, 128 00:07:27,240 --> 00:07:30,640 Speaker 1: I if you know me and you listen to my podcast. 129 00:07:30,920 --> 00:07:34,160 Speaker 1: I'm a huge advocate for therapy. I love therapy very 130 00:07:34,240 --> 00:07:38,080 Speaker 1: very very much. I think that you need to cut 131 00:07:38,080 --> 00:07:42,440 Speaker 1: the bleeding. If this person is abusive, as hard as 132 00:07:42,440 --> 00:07:45,160 Speaker 1: it is, you need to just walk away, find a 133 00:07:45,200 --> 00:07:51,440 Speaker 1: way to walk away, get help. If it continues, You 134 00:07:51,520 --> 00:07:53,520 Speaker 1: got to call the police, babe, Like you have to. 135 00:07:53,720 --> 00:07:57,200 Speaker 1: You have to call the police. You can't like try 136 00:07:57,240 --> 00:08:01,040 Speaker 1: to save him or not try to cause him issues 137 00:08:01,160 --> 00:08:04,640 Speaker 1: because you know your ex husband's in jail because of 138 00:08:04,640 --> 00:08:06,840 Speaker 1: what he did. I'm assuming that's what it was. He's 139 00:08:06,840 --> 00:08:08,800 Speaker 1: in jail because he was abusive to you, I think. 140 00:08:09,280 --> 00:08:13,720 Speaker 1: But you have to show up for yourself and show 141 00:08:13,760 --> 00:08:16,240 Speaker 1: up for your children, Like you need to cut the bleeding. 142 00:08:16,240 --> 00:08:18,160 Speaker 1: You need to like stop this pattern. And the only 143 00:08:18,200 --> 00:08:24,320 Speaker 1: way is by you boom setting that boundary. If you 144 00:08:24,360 --> 00:08:26,840 Speaker 1: have to call the cops, you call the cops. He 145 00:08:26,880 --> 00:08:29,720 Speaker 1: needs to learn his lesson that those are the consequences 146 00:08:29,760 --> 00:08:32,880 Speaker 1: to his actions and you need to get help. And 147 00:08:32,920 --> 00:08:36,920 Speaker 1: I mean, like you need to heal because there is 148 00:08:37,400 --> 00:08:39,400 Speaker 1: a wonderful man out there for you that's not going 149 00:08:39,480 --> 00:08:41,160 Speaker 1: to abuse you, because that's not a way to live, 150 00:08:41,200 --> 00:08:43,240 Speaker 1: That's not what's supposed to happen. In a relationship. And 151 00:08:43,280 --> 00:08:46,240 Speaker 1: I hope that you love yourself enough to understand that 152 00:08:46,760 --> 00:08:49,400 Speaker 1: and to really give yourself that place and love yourself 153 00:08:49,520 --> 00:08:54,320 Speaker 1: enough to walk away from this and find help. There 154 00:08:54,360 --> 00:08:58,200 Speaker 1: are a lot of programs that can help single mothers 155 00:08:58,880 --> 00:09:02,520 Speaker 1: that have suffered from death domestic violence. There's Jenny rivera 156 00:09:02,600 --> 00:09:06,240 Speaker 1: Love Foundation. But right now we're trying to figure some 157 00:09:06,280 --> 00:09:08,880 Speaker 1: things out. But there are places that you can go 158 00:09:08,960 --> 00:09:12,480 Speaker 1: and they will help you and guide you how you 159 00:09:12,520 --> 00:09:14,520 Speaker 1: know as to how to get away from this person 160 00:09:14,559 --> 00:09:18,440 Speaker 1: and how to also free therapy. The therapy will definitely 161 00:09:18,520 --> 00:09:21,640 Speaker 1: help you. You have five kids that you have to 162 00:09:21,679 --> 00:09:27,040 Speaker 1: live for and like they need you, So I definitely, 163 00:09:27,080 --> 00:09:29,240 Speaker 1: if I were you, it's time to just you can't. 164 00:09:29,240 --> 00:09:32,240 Speaker 1: You can't stay in this relationship another day in my 165 00:09:32,280 --> 00:09:38,079 Speaker 1: personal opinion. And also there is a National Domestic Violence 166 00:09:38,120 --> 00:09:40,800 Speaker 1: Hotline that you can call and they will help you 167 00:09:42,200 --> 00:09:45,480 Speaker 1: guide you as to how to get out of that toxic, 168 00:09:46,679 --> 00:09:52,439 Speaker 1: violent relationship. They will literally tell you, hey, this is 169 00:09:52,480 --> 00:09:55,480 Speaker 1: how you do. I'll meet you here. They will get 170 00:09:55,559 --> 00:09:57,520 Speaker 1: you out of there and give you a place to stay, 171 00:09:57,520 --> 00:10:01,640 Speaker 1: you and your children. So please contact them. Anyone else 172 00:10:01,880 --> 00:10:05,400 Speaker 1: that is you know going through any domestic violence. Just 173 00:10:05,480 --> 00:10:07,319 Speaker 1: know that you do not That is not a way 174 00:10:07,360 --> 00:10:08,880 Speaker 1: to live. You do not have to put up with that. 175 00:10:08,920 --> 00:10:12,880 Speaker 1: There are ways and people that can help you. So guys, 176 00:10:12,920 --> 00:10:15,920 Speaker 1: I'm sending all of you a hug. I hope that 177 00:10:16,000 --> 00:10:19,520 Speaker 1: my advice has helped. I don't always have the right words, 178 00:10:19,600 --> 00:10:22,600 Speaker 1: but I promise you that my I have your best 179 00:10:22,640 --> 00:10:25,560 Speaker 1: interests at heart. I really do. And if you have 180 00:10:25,600 --> 00:10:28,560 Speaker 1: a question, it could be about anything, guys, finances, business, 181 00:10:29,520 --> 00:10:33,679 Speaker 1: personal questions of my life. 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