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Speaker 1: My shampoo turned my friend's hair green. Now she's blaming me.

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Speaker 3: Girl, It's the shampoo, not me.

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Speaker 1: I'm a guy with a bright green mohawk. I've had

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Speaker 1: green hair for a while. I used to have a

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Speaker 1: lot of hair spray to stick it up, so I

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Speaker 1: would have to wash my hair almost every day. This

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Speaker 1: makes the green fade pretty fast. So I mix green

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Speaker 1: hair dye with my shampoo and conditioned under make the

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Speaker 1: color last longer. So this is a common thing people

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Speaker 1: with colored hair do. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 1: Froggy enthusiastic and if you want to be own stories,

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Speaker 1: you know where to go.

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Speaker 3: I'm Riley, I'm Savannah, I'm Sophia.

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Speaker 1: We're here to comments, especially about people with green hair.

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Speaker 1: You're here to comment about any other color. Can't do

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Speaker 1: it about green hair. Hope he'sayz. Anyway, it's one of

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Speaker 1: my close friends stayed at my apartment the other night.

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Speaker 1: After a show, we went out to and she missed

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Speaker 1: her bus. In the morning, she asked if she could

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Speaker 1: use the shower. She obviously didn't have anything of hers

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Speaker 1: because she hadn't planned to stay there the night of,

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Speaker 1: so I let her use my stuff. I showed her

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Speaker 1: how to use the shower and told her to use

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Speaker 1: my husband's shampoo and conditioner because mine is for my

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Speaker 1: green hair. She said, okay. I gave her a towel,

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Speaker 1: left she took a shower. When she came out, I

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Speaker 1: heard her gasp and scream, and I asked her if

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Speaker 1: she was okay. She started screaming that her hair was green,

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Speaker 1: and sure enough, her blonde hair had green splashes all

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Speaker 1: throughout it. I asked her why she used my shampoo

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Speaker 1: and conditioner. When I told her it was for my

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Speaker 1: green hair, she said she thought I meant it was

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Speaker 1: a good, special shampoo and I just wanted to keep

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Speaker 1: it for myself, and that I should have specifically told

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Speaker 1: her it had green dye in it.

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Speaker 3: I honestly kind of agree. I know he said not

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Speaker 3: to use it because it's like for my hair, but

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Speaker 3: like when you say, like it's.

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Speaker 1: For my hair, just oh wait a second. We got

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Speaker 1: some more contexts though, for context. The bottles are pink

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Speaker 1: and opaque, but the caps are clear and are now

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Speaker 1: stained green. The liquid inside is also green from the dye.

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Speaker 1: I told her. I thought it was obvious what I meant.

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Speaker 1: But if she didn't fully understand me, she should have

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Speaker 1: just respected my things enough not to use them simply

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Speaker 1: because I told her. She did not like that. Now

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Speaker 1: she won't talk to me and is telling her other

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Speaker 1: friends I'm the a hole for not telling her about

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Speaker 1: the dye. Maybe I could have been more specific. I

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Speaker 1: don't know. I don't think I'm the a hole? Here?

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Speaker 1: Am I the A hole? Savannah Sophia? What are we thinking?

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Speaker 1: You say? No?

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Speaker 3: No, I don't think you're the a hole. I think like, ohver,

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Speaker 3: all she should have respected you said, don't use mine,

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Speaker 3: use my you know, husbands or whatever, and you should

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Speaker 3: have just done that. And but now, okay, if I

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Speaker 3: were to see the caps and the caps were all green,

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Speaker 3: I would get the liquid inside was also green. Yes,

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Speaker 3: I would be like, okay, actually has stuff in it? Yeah,

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Speaker 3: keep it, so I wouldn't.

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Speaker 1: This is really going to help out my blonde hair,

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Speaker 1: this green dye.

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Speaker 4: I would understand if it was like, you know, one

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Speaker 4: of those purple because sometimes for dyeed hair you'll use

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Speaker 4: like the purple Yeah, purple shampoo. Yeah, the purple shampoo.

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Speaker 4: But it's clearly not what that was.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't I don't think that that he is

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Speaker 3: the a hole in this.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so we got an update. I know that everyone

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Speaker 1: says this, but man, I did not expect my previous

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Speaker 1: posts to blow up so much. Blah blah blah blah

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Speaker 1: blah blah blah. Before I get into the update, i'd

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Speaker 1: like to clear a few things up. Firstly, yes I

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Speaker 1: am a guy, and yes I have a husband. This

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Speaker 1: is a new thing called get. If you haven't heard it,

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Speaker 1: I suggest looking up on Google. Secondly, a couple of

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Speaker 1: people were accusing me of the story being fake because

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Speaker 1: I put hair dye in my shampoo and conditioner, when

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Speaker 1: apparently you're only supposed to put it in your conditioner,

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Speaker 1: as putting dye in your shampoo doesn't do anything to

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Speaker 1: maintain the color. I assure you the story is true.

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Speaker 1: I am just an fy idiot who likes to waste

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Speaker 1: hair dye. Apparently, I posted pictures of my mohawk and

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Speaker 1: conditioner bottle to my profile. That's sufficient enough. Evidence for

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Speaker 1: you skeptics, it's not the husband. See that's what I thought, Shawnie.

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Speaker 1: Guess that's wrong, Kelsey says two because, to be honest,

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Speaker 1: how she not noticed the green shampoo or conditioner in

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Speaker 1: her hand before rubbining it in her damn hair.

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Speaker 3: I think I would definitely say that you are not

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Speaker 3: the a hole because you could clearly tell that there

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Speaker 3: is stuff in that bottle, and she went against your wishes.

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Speaker 1: You know, It's okay. Not a lot of people have

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Speaker 1: critical thinking skills. It's it's tough for people to get that.

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Speaker 3: It's true. Nowadays common sense is not so common.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I'd like to think I'm on the common sense side.

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Speaker 3: I think I have common sense, but also was I

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Speaker 3: have fun sense, and I use my fun sense more

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Speaker 3: because things are fun.

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Speaker 1: Anyways, on the up date, exactly one of the comments

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Speaker 1: hit the nailt on right on the head with their prediction.

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Speaker 1: After a few days after the incident, my friend texted

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Speaker 1: me saying she was sorry for blowing up on me

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Speaker 1: and it was entirely her fault. She messed up her

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Speaker 1: hair and just took it out on me because she

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Speaker 1: was upset in the moment. My prediction is she needed

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Speaker 1: to get her hair done again and wants OP to

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Speaker 1: pay for it.

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Speaker 5: Mmm.

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Speaker 3: I hope not, because that's not It's not his fault.

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Speaker 1: She said, I was right, she should have respected my things,

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Speaker 1: and now we're cool. I know that must be really

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Speaker 1: disappointed to you all. I got a lot of really

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Speaker 1: harsh comments saying how she was a terrible friend and

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Speaker 1: a terrible person, and she must have mental disabilities, and

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Speaker 1: that she's stooped too stupid to be allowed to live.

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Speaker 1: You guys are effing nuts, lameo. I've been wronged in

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Speaker 1: much worse ways. Stealing a little shampoo is not the

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Speaker 1: end of the world for me. A lot of you

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Speaker 1: were curious as a how she didn't realize the shampoo

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Speaker 1: and conditioner was green, and I was too, so I

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Speaker 1: asked her. She said she did notice it was green,

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Speaker 1: but thought it was like that purple shampoo that doesn't

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Speaker 1: actually turn your hair purple, It just makes it a

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Speaker 1: nice blonde. It turned my great grandpa's hair purple. He

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Speaker 1: used purple shampoo he did for his white hair, and

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Speaker 1: it turns hair purple because he didn't really do a

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Speaker 1: good job of clean clearing it out.

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Speaker 3: Uh yeah, Well, I don't know what to say. But

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Speaker 3: now he's got cool purple hair. Yeah, now he's a

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Speaker 3: cool great grandpa.

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Speaker 1: Poor guy.

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Speaker 3: Now he can go to West Hollywood.

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Speaker 1: No he can't. This was her first time being blonde,

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Speaker 1: so I guess a green tinted shampoo who was not

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Speaker 1: beyond her imagination. The bottle also says something about color

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Speaker 1: protection on them, so I guess that makes sense. As

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Speaker 1: for her hair, she tried using color remover to get

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Speaker 1: the green out. That kind of worked, but some spots

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Speaker 1: were still a little minty green. So now her hair

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Speaker 1: is lovely royal blue color, which I personally think looks

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Speaker 1: much better on her.

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Speaker 3: Wait say that last sentence again, sorry.

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Speaker 1: Which I personally think looks much better on her. So

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Speaker 1: she went from blonde royal blue. Whoa big change. Thank

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Speaker 1: you all for listening to my story. I implored some

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Speaker 1: of you to be a little bit more forgiving in

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Speaker 1: the future. Stelling a little shampoo from your friend's shower

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Speaker 1: does not make you satan.

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Speaker 3: So I'm gonna go to Riley's in a shower and

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Speaker 3: take a little champore. Do you have two in one?

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Speaker 2: Yep? Ugh?

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Speaker 3: Never mind?

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Speaker 1: You know why because I accidentally bought it and I

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Speaker 1: have to finish it.

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Speaker 3: I have like five different things of shampoo and five

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Speaker 3: different things that can do.

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Speaker 1: I will get two in one soon or not to

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Speaker 1: I will get separate shampoon conditioner. It's just I made

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Speaker 1: this mistake a year ago and I'm living with it.

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Speaker 1: And that's the end of the story. We're gonna read

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Speaker 1: the next one.

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Speaker 4: My husband's friend told him to control me, and my

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Speaker 4: husband's respond surprise.

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Speaker 1: To everyone, sounds like your good husband.

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Speaker 4: So my husband thirty mail has a friend, thirty two male.

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Speaker 4: He's known for six months. On the surface, this friend

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Speaker 4: is polite and friendly, but over the last while it's

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Speaker 4: gotten to the part where his behaviors are starting to

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Speaker 4: create problems. He's a single guy that has two children

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Speaker 4: part time. For a reference, my husband and I have

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Speaker 4: two children. He calls my husband every day, multiple times,

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Speaker 4: even when we're out with our children. By the way,

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Speaker 4: this comes from Evie Chen ninety five. And if you

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Speaker 4: want to smit your own stories, good to the r

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Speaker 4: slash okay, storytime separate.

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Speaker 3: I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, I'm Keon, and we're here to

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Speaker 3: give good of us goofy. But we don't have all

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Speaker 4: We only know what we'd do, so let us know

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Speaker 4: what you would do in the comments and opiece. One

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Speaker 4: time he was over at our house playing cards for

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Speaker 4: what was supposed to be an hour. He decides to

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Speaker 4: stay sorting his cards after we had told him we

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Speaker 4: in the snow.

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Speaker 3: Stop sorting cards.

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Speaker 1: What kind of cards? Though? This is really big Pokemon.

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Speaker 1: The Pokemon cards? Are they magic cards or the Yu

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Speaker 1: Gi oh cards? Or they baseball cards?

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Speaker 4: My husband told me to get the girls ready while

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Speaker 4: he asked his friend to please leave. His friend flat

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Speaker 4: out ignored him and kept sorting his cards, and I

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Speaker 4: finally got fed up and left with the kids after

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Speaker 4: standing around for fifteen minutes with the two kids in

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Speaker 4: hot snowsuits. Twenty minutes later, his friend finally leaves, but

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Speaker 4: acts like we were being route. After I left and

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Speaker 4: told my husband so, my husband blew it off and said, oh, well,

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Speaker 4: we won't have him over again.

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Speaker 3: He's just gotta be like that nice Holy cow. Love

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Speaker 3: to see it for a little bit.

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Speaker 1: You guys are in a throuble. He didn't realize it. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: A few weeks go by and This guy keeps showing

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Speaker 3: up in our yard.

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Speaker 4: After work to see if we felt like hanging out. Dude,

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Speaker 4: go away, stop.

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Speaker 1: Stop putting, stop doing the lost puppy thing on this guys.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, he's like in the window, Hey, guys, do you

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Speaker 4: want to hang out? My husband kept saying, oh no,

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Speaker 4: not tonight.

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Speaker 3: Man. Well, yesterday was the last drop.

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Speaker 4: We were coming back to my husband's mother's place to

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Speaker 4: pick up our kids after a date. We drive past

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Speaker 4: his friend who's sitting on the side of the road,

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Speaker 1: Do you know what I would do? What if any

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Speaker 3: Absolutely absolutely, it's so weird. And she's picking up their kids,

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Speaker 1: Also there's AI agents. You could just hang out with

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Speaker 1: Think in the moment, he just didn't want the confrontation.

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Speaker 1: Oh man, they pull up on me. I'm gonna be

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Speaker 5: It's probably like the let's not make a scene in

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Kean has told me that a few times.

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Speaker 4: So when he told your husband he needed to reel

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Speaker 1: Some good morning, petty Pacheta says secretly, yeah.

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Speaker 4: He's obsessed. Opie says, my husband is talking to him

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Speaker 4: But he's assured me he is telling his friend he

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Speaker 3: Oh? Pi says he lives.

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Speaker 3: At least that's his logic. Oh yeah, what do they

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Speaker 5: He's cards. I don't know, like, is is your husband

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Speaker 3: I feel like he is.

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Speaker 5: It has to be.

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Speaker 3: I feel like he is.

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Speaker 5: But it's the thing of again Dakota. Dakota has done

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Oh, so that's why he had no friends. So I

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Speaker 4: Here comment for so, did he just hang around your

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Speaker 4: It very much seems like he was driving around looking

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Speaker 4: I wouldn't put it past him to be driving around

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Speaker 3: It scares me, honestly.

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Speaker 4: Commoner five says, sorting cards, you would say autism riddled magic.

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Speaker 4: The gathering player behavior not that far out of the

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Speaker 3: He was sorting Yep, yep, you called that.

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Speaker 1: Girl a lot of cards. I know a guy that

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you would think he would probably hang out with

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they got a bunch of things like that. They do.

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Speaker 5: They have the shops and there's places to meet.

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Speaker 1: The town I was in before I moved here, they

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it's oh there, dude, there's always a community for something.

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Speaker 1: Always is, really you know what, Yes, there is.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 5: What you're gonna ask.

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Speaker 1: I was gonna ask something mean, But there have definitely

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Speaker 4: Is this man autistic because not understanding social cues and

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Speaker 1: Well, she said earlier, Adhd.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, which is not the same thing. But oh, he says,

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Speaker 4: He was sorting magic the gathering cards. That was how

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Speaker 5: Okay, oh so your friend, Okay, okay, your your husband

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Speaker 4: I do have friends who are on the autism spectrum,

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Speaker 4: I think he may be extremely lonely and latching on

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Speaker 3: But the stocking and rudeness towards me is worrying.

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Speaker 4: It became extremely insane fast, and we've got an update

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Speaker 5: It's giving like, oh, my time is more important than

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Speaker 1: Sorry, this story just reminded me to hit up my

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Speaker 5: What'd you say? Do you say?

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Speaker 1: Hello? So, dude, what's up? I haven't talked to him.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna talk. I miss him. His name is Noah.

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Speaker 1: He's amazing. I didn't know he was autistic. I just

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Speaker 1: And the only conversation we actually had was whenever he

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Speaker 5: What's his favorite type of car.

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Speaker 1: It's old. It's like on older car, Chivrolet. He went

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Speaker 1: through the whole list. That's crazy, Okay, details he went

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Speaker 3: Wait what mind blown? But we got an update.

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Speaker 4: So first off, thank you to everyone for your comments

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Speaker 3: So big update.

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Speaker 4: I was talking to my friend about how creepy this

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Speaker 1: Whoa amazing Oh, Yeah, let's be friends with that guy.

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Speaker 5: He's notorious. He's known for that.

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Speaker 1: That's successful.

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Speaker 5: But wait, yah, wait wait he's known for that, and

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: How who has he succeeded with? What this track record?

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Speaker 5: Yeah? I want to know what? Like zero for ten?

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Speaker 5: What she told me?

444
00:20:04,040 --> 00:20:06,920
Speaker 4: He tries to invite the guy's partner down to his place,

445
00:20:07,000 --> 00:20:10,399
Speaker 4: which is forty minutes away, so they are secluded, and

446
00:20:10,440 --> 00:20:13,280
Speaker 4: then tries to make a move that way. I was

447
00:20:13,440 --> 00:20:15,959
Speaker 4: so shocked. I brought it up to my husband, and

448
00:20:16,040 --> 00:20:18,359
Speaker 4: he mentioned how the guy had asked if I could

449
00:20:18,359 --> 00:20:21,280
Speaker 4: come clean for him sometime if I wasn't doing anything.

450
00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:24,760
Speaker 4: My husband had told him, no way. I've never seen

451
00:20:24,800 --> 00:20:27,119
Speaker 4: his face go so bale, and I showed him what

452
00:20:27,119 --> 00:20:29,280
Speaker 4: you were all saying about this guy's behavior as well.

453
00:20:29,920 --> 00:20:32,359
Speaker 4: He called him up on speakerphone so I could listen in,

454
00:20:32,440 --> 00:20:34,919
Speaker 4: and started off with saying how it was weird he

455
00:20:34,960 --> 00:20:38,240
Speaker 4: followed us and how uncomfortable he made us both feel.

456
00:20:39,520 --> 00:20:40,560
Speaker 6: The guy actually.

457
00:20:40,320 --> 00:20:42,600
Speaker 3: Laughed and said, yeah, this happens to me a lot.

458
00:20:42,880 --> 00:20:44,840
Speaker 3: Not sure what everyone's problem.

459
00:20:44,520 --> 00:20:47,600
Speaker 1: Is you as he tips his Florida.

460
00:20:48,280 --> 00:20:50,760
Speaker 4: I don't know, I don't understand why everyone has a

461
00:20:50,800 --> 00:20:53,919
Speaker 4: problem with me following them home. My husband told him

462
00:20:53,960 --> 00:20:55,639
Speaker 4: how much of a prick he was for what he

463
00:20:55,720 --> 00:20:57,919
Speaker 4: said to me, and how deeply upset he was. And

464
00:20:57,960 --> 00:21:02,240
Speaker 4: the guy replied, critiquing you who said then? Which set

465
00:21:02,280 --> 00:21:04,120
Speaker 4: my husband off and he ripped him a new one.

466
00:21:04,520 --> 00:21:07,560
Speaker 4: To put it lightly, he went into how he was

467
00:21:07,600 --> 00:21:11,520
Speaker 4: ignoring our boundaries and trying to create problems.

468
00:21:11,359 --> 00:21:16,000
Speaker 1: A general little little home man. He's also very shocked

469
00:21:16,040 --> 00:21:20,399
Speaker 1: about this. He's like, whoa, I say, to see that

470
00:21:20,720 --> 00:21:22,720
Speaker 1: this is general the home mane How he has his

471
00:21:22,720 --> 00:21:23,520
Speaker 1: hoe in his hand.

472
00:21:23,640 --> 00:21:24,600
Speaker 3: He's got to hold in his hand.

473
00:21:24,720 --> 00:21:28,680
Speaker 1: Interesting, Yeah, kind of want to know this guy's game here?

474
00:21:29,240 --> 00:21:32,800
Speaker 1: How does he how does he seduce women asking him

475
00:21:32,840 --> 00:21:33,760
Speaker 1: to clean his house?

476
00:21:33,840 --> 00:21:36,680
Speaker 4: I don't think he does successfully seduce any of these women,

477
00:21:36,720 --> 00:21:41,840
Speaker 4: but he said they said he was notorious for it.

478
00:21:42,320 --> 00:21:45,239
Speaker 1: I don't know contempts this guy tries to do this.

479
00:21:45,359 --> 00:21:47,480
Speaker 1: They said he did it, They said it happened.

480
00:21:47,640 --> 00:21:49,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, I need to know if it actually happened or

481
00:21:49,520 --> 00:21:50,280
Speaker 3: if you just tried.

482
00:21:50,720 --> 00:21:52,159
Speaker 5: This is like one of those things where like I

483
00:21:52,240 --> 00:21:53,480
Speaker 5: need to see what he looks like.

484
00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:57,000
Speaker 4: Yes, I need a group picture yes, please tell me,

485
00:21:57,080 --> 00:21:58,920
Speaker 4: but we got a little bit left bong. Story short,

486
00:21:59,160 --> 00:22:01,480
Speaker 4: my husband put his foot down and said, if he

487
00:22:01,560 --> 00:22:05,520
Speaker 4: steps onto our property or tries to contact us again,

488
00:22:06,119 --> 00:22:08,760
Speaker 4: he's gotta go to the cops and cut the guy off.

489
00:22:09,280 --> 00:22:11,720
Speaker 4: We're filing a police report just to be safe, because

490
00:22:11,800 --> 00:22:14,679
Speaker 4: I don't trust this guy at all, and now neither.

491
00:22:14,560 --> 00:22:17,240
Speaker 3: Does my husband. And we got some comments.

492
00:22:17,600 --> 00:22:20,359
Speaker 4: How does your friend know the guy, Opie says, without

493
00:22:20,400 --> 00:22:23,840
Speaker 4: giving out too much personal invote, he works at the

494
00:22:23,920 --> 00:22:27,760
Speaker 4: store in my town. She was having relationship problems that

495
00:22:27,840 --> 00:22:31,639
Speaker 4: I've since resolved, and the guy knew because her brother

496
00:22:31,760 --> 00:22:34,040
Speaker 4: worked with him. He tried multiple times to get her

497
00:22:34,040 --> 00:22:36,560
Speaker 4: to come down to his place alone or walks in

498
00:22:36,600 --> 00:22:39,159
Speaker 4: the woods, and he wouldn't leave her alone when she

499
00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:41,960
Speaker 4: kept telling him she wasn't interested, and he kept saying

500
00:22:41,960 --> 00:22:44,560
Speaker 4: how badly her man treats her and how he would

501
00:22:44,560 --> 00:22:45,200
Speaker 4: treat her better.

502
00:22:45,520 --> 00:22:47,360
Speaker 3: Oh, that's all already treating her worse.

503
00:22:47,480 --> 00:22:50,520
Speaker 5: That's creepy, and he's already been creepy, but this is creepy.

504
00:22:50,880 --> 00:22:52,840
Speaker 3: He also showed up at her work one day and

505
00:22:52,880 --> 00:22:56,800
Speaker 3: refused to leave until her boss got involved, which is terrifying.

506
00:22:57,200 --> 00:22:58,960
Speaker 1: I don't understand why would you go What are you

507
00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:00,120
Speaker 1: gonna do there? Stay?

508
00:23:01,119 --> 00:23:03,320
Speaker 5: Yeah, that'll make her, That'll make her, you know, infatuated

509
00:23:03,320 --> 00:23:03,480
Speaker 5: with you.

510
00:23:03,560 --> 00:23:04,479
Speaker 3: Skuy is awful.

511
00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:07,760
Speaker 4: Apparently this is a typical thing with him. He tries

512
00:23:07,840 --> 00:23:09,879
Speaker 4: to create rifts between couples.

513
00:23:09,960 --> 00:23:12,720
Speaker 5: He's just creating rifts between everyone against him.

514
00:23:13,320 --> 00:23:15,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, no one likes you. Comment or two says,

515
00:23:15,520 --> 00:23:16,679
Speaker 3: I'm worried for his kids.

516
00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:19,000
Speaker 5: Oh, I forgot he has to kids.

517
00:23:19,080 --> 00:23:21,800
Speaker 1: He has kids, singles kids. Yep.

518
00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:24,600
Speaker 4: Do you have some sort of child protection government department

519
00:23:24,600 --> 00:23:25,200
Speaker 4: where you live?

520
00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:27,200
Speaker 3: Oh? He says, yeah, we do.

521
00:23:27,520 --> 00:23:30,159
Speaker 4: But he doesn't have custody though, and the mother has

522
00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:32,280
Speaker 4: nothing to do with him, so at least the kids.

523
00:23:32,080 --> 00:23:33,240
Speaker 3: Aren't around him.

524
00:23:33,520 --> 00:23:36,440
Speaker 4: Comment three says, my eyebros can't go any higher without

525
00:23:36,440 --> 00:23:38,199
Speaker 4: disappearing into my hairline, opie.

526
00:23:38,680 --> 00:23:39,960
Speaker 3: Also, what self.

527
00:23:39,680 --> 00:23:42,400
Speaker 4: Respecting woman is gonna go over to the most annoying

528
00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:46,239
Speaker 4: single dad alive and clean his effing house if they

529
00:23:46,320 --> 00:23:49,879
Speaker 4: had some free time Like this guy might be notorious

530
00:23:49,920 --> 00:23:52,600
Speaker 4: for trying to sleep with women in relationships, But for

531
00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:55,400
Speaker 4: the love of God, please tell me he's not successful

532
00:23:56,000 --> 00:23:58,600
Speaker 4: but an utter, an embarrassing failure with this tour.

533
00:23:59,280 --> 00:23:59,840
Speaker 3: Oh he says I.

534
00:24:00,000 --> 00:24:03,280
Speaker 4: I think most of his attempts don't work because he's

535
00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:04,680
Speaker 4: so annoying and pushy.

536
00:24:05,080 --> 00:24:08,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, makes sense. This guy's socks.

537
00:24:08,440 --> 00:24:10,200
Speaker 1: And that's the end of the story. We're gonna read

538
00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:11,040
Speaker 1: the next one.

539
00:24:11,760 --> 00:24:14,359
Speaker 3: I stepped down as the maid of honor and the

540
00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:15,680
Speaker 3: bride turned up at my door.

541
00:24:15,720 --> 00:24:17,520
Speaker 1: I really want to trigger warning.

542
00:24:17,560 --> 00:24:21,520
Speaker 3: There's a physical altercation that is happening. I twenty nine female,

543
00:24:21,720 --> 00:24:25,000
Speaker 3: snapped on my best friend twenty seven female, yesterday about

544
00:24:25,000 --> 00:24:28,000
Speaker 3: her wedding. I'm feeling a little guilty right now, so

545
00:24:28,080 --> 00:24:31,320
Speaker 3: maybe I'm just looking for some clarification. Let me start

546
00:24:31,359 --> 00:24:34,679
Speaker 3: by clarifying that we both use the term best friend

547
00:24:34,880 --> 00:24:37,600
Speaker 3: very loosely. She's a wonderful woman and I would go

548
00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:39,679
Speaker 3: to the ends of the earth for her if I could.

549
00:24:40,200 --> 00:24:43,440
Speaker 3: Let's call her Maggie. By the way, this comes from

550
00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:47,560
Speaker 3: Remendi Na and if you want to submit your own stories,

551
00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:50,520
Speaker 3: go to the horur slash Okay storytime subreddit. I'm Savannah,

552
00:24:50,560 --> 00:24:52,560
Speaker 3: I'm Riley, and we are here to give some good

553
00:24:52,560 --> 00:24:56,400
Speaker 3: advice goofy, but we don't have all the answers. We'd

554
00:24:56,480 --> 00:24:58,080
Speaker 3: only tell you what we would do in this situation.

555
00:24:58,480 --> 00:25:00,440
Speaker 3: But I would love to hear what you guys would

556
00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:04,080
Speaker 3: do down in the comments. As Opie says, Maggie and

557
00:25:04,160 --> 00:25:06,960
Speaker 3: I met when I started a new job approximately four

558
00:25:07,080 --> 00:25:09,760
Speaker 3: years ago. She was the girl who trained me, and

559
00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:13,400
Speaker 3: we just clicked because we were so alike. We've maintained

560
00:25:13,400 --> 00:25:17,160
Speaker 3: a solid friendship this entire four years, but we only

561
00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:19,959
Speaker 3: ever see each other at work. We don't hang out

562
00:25:20,040 --> 00:25:23,160
Speaker 3: outside of work, and text each other maybe twice a day,

563
00:25:23,240 --> 00:25:26,040
Speaker 3: sharing stories about our crafts or pets. Neither of us

564
00:25:26,119 --> 00:25:28,240
Speaker 3: are good at talking on the phone, and both of

565
00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:32,000
Speaker 3: us sometimes struggle with socializing, and neither of us get

566
00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:33,600
Speaker 3: mad at the other if we don't look at our

567
00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:35,600
Speaker 3: phones for a few days. I say we use the

568
00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:38,880
Speaker 3: term best friend loosely because while we don't always act

569
00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:42,000
Speaker 3: like best friends, we're all we are all the other

570
00:25:42,080 --> 00:25:46,520
Speaker 3: one has now onto the problem. A few weeks ago,

571
00:25:46,560 --> 00:25:48,640
Speaker 3: I was having one of my episodes where I wasn't

572
00:25:48,680 --> 00:25:51,800
Speaker 3: checking my phone pretty regularly. I had seen where she

573
00:25:52,000 --> 00:25:54,119
Speaker 3: had texted a few times, but had planned on getting

574
00:25:54,160 --> 00:25:56,120
Speaker 3: back to her later that day. About half an hour

575
00:25:56,200 --> 00:25:58,880
Speaker 3: after I noticed the text, there was a knock at

576
00:25:58,880 --> 00:26:01,560
Speaker 3: my door and it was Maggie. This was weird to me,

577
00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:04,119
Speaker 3: because she's only been to my house once and it

578
00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:07,240
Speaker 3: was for a party we threw last year. She wasted

579
00:26:07,280 --> 00:26:09,600
Speaker 3: no time and jumped right into asking me to be

580
00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:10,679
Speaker 3: her maid of honor.

581
00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:13,040
Speaker 1: Tomah, but you, Frank, you guys are best friends. See

582
00:26:13,040 --> 00:26:14,520
Speaker 1: this is what it whin. It's weird. Just call each

583
00:26:14,560 --> 00:26:17,080
Speaker 1: other friends best friends. You go to my house whenever

584
00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:18,359
Speaker 1: friends text me?

585
00:26:18,520 --> 00:26:22,120
Speaker 3: Honestly, yeah, best friends. You're shown up at my house friends.

586
00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:24,520
Speaker 3: I'm like, all right, we'll let me know that's a

587
00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:25,200
Speaker 3: that's good.

588
00:26:25,280 --> 00:26:26,960
Speaker 1: All right, So I guess you guys are my best friends.

589
00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:30,080
Speaker 3: I was absolutely thrilled and just hugged her. I was

590
00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:32,440
Speaker 3: there when she met her fiance. He is a wonderful

591
00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:34,880
Speaker 3: man and she deserves everything he has to offer her.

592
00:26:35,080 --> 00:26:37,240
Speaker 3: I said yes, but I told her we should probably

593
00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:40,399
Speaker 3: discuss some details first. She said, no problem and literally

594
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:43,000
Speaker 3: turned right around, got back in her car left. She

595
00:26:43,200 --> 00:26:44,960
Speaker 3: called me later and I told her, while I was

596
00:26:45,000 --> 00:26:46,960
Speaker 3: thrilled to be her maid of honor, I wanted her

597
00:26:47,000 --> 00:26:49,200
Speaker 3: to be aware that I was in no way financially

598
00:26:49,280 --> 00:26:52,240
Speaker 3: stable enough to help out with too much. I just

599
00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:55,680
Speaker 3: had my second child last year, and Emma stay at

600
00:26:55,680 --> 00:27:00,080
Speaker 3: home or am I just had my second child last

601
00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:02,600
Speaker 3: year and am a new stay at home I'm on

602
00:27:02,640 --> 00:27:05,200
Speaker 3: top of that, but I don't have a paying job anymore.

603
00:27:05,320 --> 00:27:07,080
Speaker 3: I knew I wouldn't have the money for a lot

604
00:27:07,119 --> 00:27:09,040
Speaker 3: of extra things that I knew the maid of honor

605
00:27:09,080 --> 00:27:12,199
Speaker 3: usually takes care of. She said she was no. She

606
00:27:12,280 --> 00:27:14,760
Speaker 3: said that was no problem, and also asked her sister

607
00:27:14,840 --> 00:27:17,040
Speaker 3: to be her maid of honor. She wanted to. I

608
00:27:17,119 --> 00:27:19,480
Speaker 3: know it's not traditional, but it's sweet. I mean, you

609
00:27:19,480 --> 00:27:21,560
Speaker 3: can do whatever you want in your wedding. I don't

610
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:23,760
Speaker 3: care about you can't conditions. Yes you can.

611
00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:26,040
Speaker 1: There's one thing you cannot do at your wedding. What

612
00:27:26,480 --> 00:27:29,159
Speaker 1: is Wow? Damn it. I was about to say, not

613
00:27:29,280 --> 00:27:32,200
Speaker 1: get married. You can't set up a marriage knowing you're

614
00:27:32,240 --> 00:27:34,440
Speaker 1: not going to get married. Some people walk out last minute.

615
00:27:34,440 --> 00:27:36,119
Speaker 1: But that's like, you know, oh, I can't do it.

616
00:27:36,320 --> 00:27:38,080
Speaker 1: We can't have a can't have a marriage and not

617
00:27:38,160 --> 00:27:38,600
Speaker 1: get married.

618
00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:41,439
Speaker 3: I guess, yeah, then it's not a marriage.

619
00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:41,680
Speaker 4: Oh.

620
00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:44,240
Speaker 3: One thing you can't do at a wedding.

621
00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:48,160
Speaker 1: I got you. You can't do everything at a wedding.

622
00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:53,520
Speaker 3: I was talking about like, oh, we're bridesmaids and I

623
00:27:53,760 --> 00:27:56,520
Speaker 3: and that she would be more than willing to help

624
00:27:56,560 --> 00:28:00,000
Speaker 3: with everything like that. Sometime passes and they have chosen

625
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:02,040
Speaker 3: a date for this year, so they're struggling to find

626
00:28:02,040 --> 00:28:04,280
Speaker 3: a venue that is not booked for their date. This

627
00:28:04,400 --> 00:28:07,119
Speaker 3: led to looking at venues several hours away. This is

628
00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:10,040
Speaker 3: not a problem, but they've chosen it to be on

629
00:28:10,080 --> 00:28:12,960
Speaker 3: a Sunday and want to rent an airbnb for the

630
00:28:12,960 --> 00:28:15,160
Speaker 3: people who have drank too much and can't go home.

631
00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:17,920
Speaker 3: This is an awesome idea, but I knew right away

632
00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:20,000
Speaker 3: I wouldn't be able to contribute the two hundred dollars

633
00:28:20,080 --> 00:28:22,600
Speaker 3: she's asking from the wedding party to split it evenly.

634
00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:25,600
Speaker 3: I had no intention of staying in the airbnb because

635
00:28:25,680 --> 00:28:28,520
Speaker 3: my kids have school the next day. The plan was

636
00:28:28,560 --> 00:28:31,639
Speaker 3: to leave after speeches. I planned on using my tax

637
00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:33,880
Speaker 3: money for a nice dress for the wedding, but that's

638
00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:36,480
Speaker 3: about the best I can do. She sent the message

639
00:28:36,480 --> 00:28:38,920
Speaker 3: in a wedding group chat, asking about the money. I

640
00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:41,800
Speaker 3: texted her separately and re explained that even though it's

641
00:28:41,840 --> 00:28:43,440
Speaker 3: a great idea, I'm not going to be able to

642
00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:46,320
Speaker 3: contribute to it, and that she knew that ahead of time.

643
00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:49,160
Speaker 3: She got really defensive and told me I was just

644
00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:51,719
Speaker 3: making her wedding day harder without even meaning to. That

645
00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:54,480
Speaker 3: made me feel so small because I love her and

646
00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:56,440
Speaker 3: would never want to do that. I thought that by

647
00:28:56,480 --> 00:28:59,200
Speaker 3: giving her a heads up about my financial situation would help,

648
00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:01,800
Speaker 3: but she he really just accused me of being bad

649
00:29:01,840 --> 00:29:04,640
Speaker 3: with my money. I asked her how I can be

650
00:29:04,680 --> 00:29:06,760
Speaker 3: bad with money I don't make, and she just kind

651
00:29:06,800 --> 00:29:10,200
Speaker 3: of got mad and ended the conversation. I just texted

652
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:11,840
Speaker 3: her and told her that while I love her dearly,

653
00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:14,040
Speaker 3: I feel like it's best if I stepped down as

654
00:29:14,200 --> 00:29:16,880
Speaker 3: made of honor because I obviously cannot do what she needs.

655
00:29:17,200 --> 00:29:19,240
Speaker 3: That's not her fault, but I don't feel like it's

656
00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:20,200
Speaker 3: exactly mine either.

657
00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:22,560
Speaker 1: And this is where they go from best friends to

658
00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:27,720
Speaker 1: friends to acquaintances because friends would understand this, best friends

659
00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:29,680
Speaker 1: would friends would too see.

660
00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:32,520
Speaker 3: I would just want my friends to be there, like

661
00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:34,480
Speaker 3: I don't care, like if you can't afford it, if

662
00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:36,000
Speaker 3: you can't afford it, you can't afford it, but like

663
00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:38,600
Speaker 3: I would want you to be there, so any way possible,

664
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Speaker 3: I'm gonna make you be there.

665
00:29:39,920 --> 00:29:43,680
Speaker 1: Yes, that's what you do. Thank you. No, don't step down.

666
00:29:44,280 --> 00:29:46,240
Speaker 1: I'm dragging you to my wedding. You guys are not.

667
00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:47,840
Speaker 1: I don't even think you guys are really friends. I

668
00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:51,520
Speaker 1: just don't even understand. I get the best friend thing loosely,

669
00:29:51,560 --> 00:29:54,120
Speaker 1: but come on, like, let's know, you don't different label.

670
00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:57,040
Speaker 3: She called me screaming and told me I was a

671
00:29:57,040 --> 00:29:59,960
Speaker 3: bad friend and a piece of crap for a band

672
00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:02,640
Speaker 3: her on her wedding day. So I just went off.

673
00:30:02,760 --> 00:30:04,360
Speaker 3: I told her if I was a bad friend for

674
00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:06,280
Speaker 3: ruining her wedding, then she was a bad friend for

675
00:30:06,280 --> 00:30:09,240
Speaker 3: putting me in a compromise situation. I tried to explain

676
00:30:09,280 --> 00:30:11,240
Speaker 3: to her early on that this would be a problem,

677
00:30:11,240 --> 00:30:14,040
Speaker 3: and she insisted I take the role anyway. I ended

678
00:30:14,120 --> 00:30:16,960
Speaker 3: up hanging up first this time and just started crying

679
00:30:16,960 --> 00:30:19,360
Speaker 3: about it because I truly hate that this happened this way.

680
00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:21,560
Speaker 3: I wish I had never said yes and just went

681
00:30:21,600 --> 00:30:23,960
Speaker 3: on about my business. I know I could be the

682
00:30:23,960 --> 00:30:25,800
Speaker 3: a hole for saying yes in the first place, but

683
00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 3: I had no ill intentions and really just wanted to

684
00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:30,480
Speaker 3: be there for my friend, even if I can't support

685
00:30:30,480 --> 00:30:32,440
Speaker 3: her financially. And there is an update.

686
00:30:32,840 --> 00:30:35,000
Speaker 1: Neither of you guys are best friends because my best

687
00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:37,320
Speaker 1: friend once needed five hundred bucks and guess what. Guess

688
00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:38,520
Speaker 1: who came up with five hundred bucks.

689
00:30:39,280 --> 00:30:41,600
Speaker 3: I have also given my friends money.

690
00:30:41,920 --> 00:30:43,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what best friends do.

691
00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:46,200
Speaker 3: I think that I don't see the thing is just

692
00:30:46,240 --> 00:30:48,040
Speaker 3: because she's not made of honor anymore. She already has

693
00:30:48,040 --> 00:30:50,040
Speaker 3: another maide of honor, which is her sister. Couldn't she

694
00:30:50,200 --> 00:30:52,560
Speaker 3: just still just come to the wedding, be guessed, Yeah,

695
00:30:52,720 --> 00:30:54,480
Speaker 3: be a guest like you're still you?

696
00:30:54,560 --> 00:30:54,640
Speaker 5: No?

697
00:30:54,680 --> 00:30:57,320
Speaker 1: I agree. Do you think she's gonna still invite her

698
00:30:57,360 --> 00:30:58,760
Speaker 1: as a guest who thinks she's not gonna be invited

699
00:30:58,760 --> 00:30:59,400
Speaker 1: to the wedding at all?

700
00:30:59,480 --> 00:31:01,200
Speaker 3: I would hope. I think she would still invite her

701
00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:03,719
Speaker 3: because I feel like, you know, just because she couldn't

702
00:31:03,760 --> 00:31:05,560
Speaker 3: afford to do all the stuff as a main honor

703
00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:07,520
Speaker 3: doesn't mean that she doesn't care about her just me.

704
00:31:07,600 --> 00:31:09,720
Speaker 3: She's in a weird financial situation right now.

705
00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:12,680
Speaker 1: And she has two kids. And guess what best friends

706
00:31:12,720 --> 00:31:13,040
Speaker 1: would do.

707
00:31:13,320 --> 00:31:16,280
Speaker 3: They would be like, you are accepted any way, you

708
00:31:16,360 --> 00:31:18,840
Speaker 3: come anyway, and get only on to the update.

709
00:31:19,000 --> 00:31:19,320
Speaker 6: Hello.

710
00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:21,720
Speaker 3: I wanted to thank everyone for their feedback about my

711
00:31:21,800 --> 00:31:23,920
Speaker 3: decision to drop out of my best friend's wedding. As

712
00:31:23,920 --> 00:31:25,920
Speaker 3: are made of honor, it was pretty easy to come

713
00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:28,120
Speaker 3: to the conclusion that she was the a whole year.

714
00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:31,320
Speaker 3: But I have an update that really wasn't what any

715
00:31:31,360 --> 00:31:34,320
Speaker 3: of us expected. Not super exciting, but does have a

716
00:31:34,320 --> 00:31:36,160
Speaker 3: happy ending. A lot of you had a lot to

717
00:31:36,160 --> 00:31:39,120
Speaker 3: say about our friendship dynamic. Yes, we do consider each

718
00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:41,920
Speaker 3: other best friends, and no we do not spend every

719
00:31:41,920 --> 00:31:45,000
Speaker 3: waking moment together. People have lives and just because we

720
00:31:45,040 --> 00:31:47,480
Speaker 3: don't center ours around each other does not mean that

721
00:31:47,520 --> 00:31:50,280
Speaker 3: we can't call each other that. And there seems to

722
00:31:50,280 --> 00:31:51,840
Speaker 3: be a bit of confusion on how I don't have

723
00:31:51,880 --> 00:31:54,920
Speaker 3: any money but know her from work. Well, let me

724
00:31:54,960 --> 00:31:58,320
Speaker 3: break that down. I got Preggie, had a baby and

725
00:31:58,600 --> 00:32:00,880
Speaker 3: have been spending some time away from work to heal

726
00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:03,400
Speaker 3: and bond with my child. Now on to the update.

727
00:32:04,320 --> 00:32:07,520
Speaker 3: I let a few days pass because ultimately Maggie really

728
00:32:07,560 --> 00:32:09,320
Speaker 3: has been a great figure in my life and has

729
00:32:09,360 --> 00:32:11,880
Speaker 3: never let me down. Once I know that she has

730
00:32:11,920 --> 00:32:13,960
Speaker 3: been under a lot of stress. I gave her some

731
00:32:14,040 --> 00:32:16,440
Speaker 3: space and was hoping for an apology. I did not

732
00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:20,360
Speaker 3: get that. Instead, I got Maggie showing up on my

733
00:32:20,400 --> 00:32:24,320
Speaker 3: doorstep at four am, severely intoxicated and looking like she

734
00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:26,400
Speaker 3: just got attacked by a rapid raccoon.

735
00:32:26,560 --> 00:32:29,560
Speaker 1: Okay, now, how are you going to respond? Because this

736
00:32:29,600 --> 00:32:32,560
Speaker 1: will show. This is the final test to see if

737
00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:36,360
Speaker 1: they are friends or best friends. Maggie did a best

738
00:32:36,400 --> 00:32:38,320
Speaker 1: friend move. What are you about to do? All right?

739
00:32:38,520 --> 00:32:41,240
Speaker 3: I was so shocked that I just let her in

740
00:32:41,320 --> 00:32:43,920
Speaker 3: and didn't say anything at first. It was a bunch

741
00:32:43,920 --> 00:32:46,280
Speaker 3: of small talk, like trying to figure out where she

742
00:32:46,400 --> 00:32:49,240
Speaker 3: had been and what happened. I just told her I'd

743
00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:50,880
Speaker 3: talked to her in the morning and she ended up

744
00:32:50,920 --> 00:32:52,160
Speaker 3: passing out on my couch.

745
00:32:52,320 --> 00:32:56,920
Speaker 1: You know, don't like the hosting here, but all right,

746
00:32:56,960 --> 00:32:57,960
Speaker 1: I don't think you would.

747
00:32:57,720 --> 00:32:59,640
Speaker 3: Do this if one of my friends.

748
00:33:00,880 --> 00:33:03,760
Speaker 1: What you would just this is the minimum, this is

749
00:33:03,760 --> 00:33:06,080
Speaker 1: the bar. I would go about and be like, he's moderns.

750
00:33:06,840 --> 00:33:09,520
Speaker 1: I just probably didn't offer say that he did offer it.

751
00:33:09,920 --> 00:33:12,800
Speaker 3: No, I definitely probably would have definitely like hosted her.

752
00:33:12,800 --> 00:33:14,600
Speaker 3: But I would have been like, what is going on?

753
00:33:15,040 --> 00:33:18,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, so they're friends.

754
00:33:18,320 --> 00:33:21,640
Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, I'd say that's friend that's friendship. I woke

755
00:33:21,720 --> 00:33:24,120
Speaker 3: up to banging on my door and it turns out

756
00:33:24,120 --> 00:33:26,800
Speaker 3: it was her fiance. He ultimately was not angry, just

757
00:33:26,880 --> 00:33:29,600
Speaker 3: scared because apparently Maggie had taken off after dinner with

758
00:33:29,680 --> 00:33:31,640
Speaker 3: his parents. And he hadn't been able to get in

759
00:33:31,680 --> 00:33:34,200
Speaker 3: touch with her. At this point. All he had said

760
00:33:34,320 --> 00:33:36,440
Speaker 3: was Maggie and his mother had gone into an argument,

761
00:33:36,480 --> 00:33:40,440
Speaker 3: but they left before giving me any details. Later that afternoon,

762
00:33:40,480 --> 00:33:42,240
Speaker 3: I got a call from Maggie with an apology for

763
00:33:42,280 --> 00:33:44,640
Speaker 3: showing up at my door, but still no apology for

764
00:33:44,680 --> 00:33:48,840
Speaker 3: the airbnb situation. Ooh, Hopie holding the grunt, dude, you.

765
00:33:48,840 --> 00:33:53,400
Speaker 1: Were losing the I just stopped calling to other friends.

766
00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:56,160
Speaker 1: That's not what friends do. I'm sorry you won't. If

767
00:33:56,200 --> 00:33:58,400
Speaker 1: your friends at cos kid not doing well, you don't.

768
00:33:58,680 --> 00:34:01,239
Speaker 1: You don't bring up a crutch. Do you bring up

769
00:34:01,240 --> 00:34:01,880
Speaker 1: a grudge?

770
00:34:02,000 --> 00:34:03,520
Speaker 3: I mean, well, you don't think of.

771
00:34:03,480 --> 00:34:06,440
Speaker 1: Her grudge that happened three months ago, because your friend's

772
00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:06,960
Speaker 1: not doing well.

773
00:34:07,120 --> 00:34:09,200
Speaker 3: It wasn't three months ago. I don't know how much

774
00:34:09,280 --> 00:34:10,919
Speaker 3: time passed between them.

775
00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:12,840
Speaker 1: A couple of days.

776
00:34:12,920 --> 00:34:15,720
Speaker 3: She said, Oh, well yeah, I mean I'm definitely letting

777
00:34:15,719 --> 00:34:18,360
Speaker 3: her and be like, explain yourself. I let it slide

778
00:34:18,480 --> 00:34:21,440
Speaker 3: and just let her rent because she very obviously needed to.

779
00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:24,520
Speaker 3: She went on about her future mother in law, let's

780
00:34:24,520 --> 00:34:28,080
Speaker 3: call her Karen, was driving her mad and she didn't

781
00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:30,200
Speaker 3: even know if she wanted to go through with the

782
00:34:30,200 --> 00:34:33,520
Speaker 3: wedding anymore because she couldn't handle it anymore. I asked

783
00:34:33,560 --> 00:34:35,319
Speaker 3: her if she just wanted to come back over and

784
00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:37,920
Speaker 3: yap it out. When she showed up at my door,

785
00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:42,040
Speaker 3: she had a black eye, a scratch going almost all

786
00:34:42,120 --> 00:34:44,160
Speaker 3: the way up her arm, and her nose was a

787
00:34:44,160 --> 00:34:46,560
Speaker 3: little bruised. Oh yikes.

788
00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:49,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, see, okay, this is where I probably wouldn't even

789
00:34:50,000 --> 00:34:53,520
Speaker 1: let her go back with her fyance. Oh, she's got

790
00:34:53,560 --> 00:34:54,520
Speaker 1: to stay here for a little bit.

791
00:34:54,760 --> 00:34:57,799
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I'd turn her phone off and I'd be like,

792
00:34:57,880 --> 00:34:59,200
Speaker 3: no one needs to contact you.

793
00:34:59,239 --> 00:35:02,360
Speaker 1: Write this smith, gonna call me dad? Yeah, what is happening?

794
00:35:02,360 --> 00:35:03,000
Speaker 1: What is happening?

795
00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:05,919
Speaker 3: I felt horrible because I hadn't seen any of those things.

796
00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:08,399
Speaker 3: In the mess of her makeup and the dark. Her

797
00:35:08,440 --> 00:35:11,040
Speaker 3: and Karen hadn't gone into an argument. They had gone

798
00:35:11,040 --> 00:35:15,399
Speaker 3: into a full blown bar brawl. You can't marry this man.

799
00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:19,080
Speaker 3: I'm sorry. He maybe like perfect for you, but you

800
00:35:19,160 --> 00:35:20,160
Speaker 3: cannot marry him.

801
00:35:20,280 --> 00:35:22,640
Speaker 1: Why did he stop it? He could have I would

802
00:35:22,680 --> 00:35:24,560
Speaker 1: if I ever gotten that situation. I'm picking up my

803
00:35:24,600 --> 00:35:25,600
Speaker 1: mom and walking out.

804
00:35:25,480 --> 00:35:27,280
Speaker 3: The bar, you know, picking up your girlfriend.

805
00:35:27,440 --> 00:35:28,960
Speaker 1: I'm more scared of what my mom would do to

806
00:35:28,960 --> 00:35:34,120
Speaker 1: my girlfriend. I'm sorry my mom, she's scared. Come my

807
00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:39,000
Speaker 1: mom knocked out my six' eight. Dad she knocked, him outed. Him, yeah. Fucked,

808
00:35:39,960 --> 00:35:43,080
Speaker 1: yes that's a whole nother. Story we'll get into that.

809
00:35:43,160 --> 00:35:45,640
Speaker 1: Later but, Yeah karen.

810
00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:48,520
Speaker 3: Had been feeding the information To maggie that it was

811
00:35:48,640 --> 00:35:51,560
Speaker 3: the bridal party's responsibility to pay for, everything and she

812
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:55,200
Speaker 3: had canceled four of the couple's venders because she refused

813
00:35:55,200 --> 00:35:56,040
Speaker 3: to let them pay for.

814
00:35:56,080 --> 00:35:58,160
Speaker 1: Them oh so it was a financial.

815
00:35:58,200 --> 00:35:58,399
Speaker 2: Thing.

816
00:35:58,520 --> 00:36:00,120
Speaker 1: Interesting he was very Talk.

817
00:36:00,440 --> 00:36:03,759
Speaker 3: You think they're gonna get married or, no what's gonna?

818
00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:06,480
Speaker 1: Happen so the real villain this whole time Was karen

819
00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:11,040
Speaker 1: because she put stress On, maggie And maggie puts stress On.

820
00:36:11,040 --> 00:36:12,440
Speaker 1: Ope this was.

821
00:36:12,400 --> 00:36:16,000
Speaker 3: The cherry on top after several other isolated instants with

822
00:36:16,120 --> 00:36:18,799
Speaker 3: her and the. WEDDING i don't really have all the

823
00:36:18,840 --> 00:36:21,400
Speaker 3: details about the, fight because Even maggie says she was

824
00:36:21,520 --> 00:36:24,680
Speaker 3: very intoxicated and wasn't sure how or what started. It

825
00:36:25,480 --> 00:36:29,360
Speaker 3: there was a, lot but Ultimately maggie's reaction was of pure,

826
00:36:29,520 --> 00:36:32,319
Speaker 3: rage not to meet but for her mother in. Law

827
00:36:33,120 --> 00:36:35,520
Speaker 3: she apologized for talking to me the way she did

828
00:36:35,560 --> 00:36:37,920
Speaker 3: and for Allowing karen to sway her as much as she.

829
00:36:38,000 --> 00:36:41,040
Speaker 3: DID i could sit here and go on about how

830
00:36:41,080 --> 00:36:44,600
Speaker 3: we cackled and, cried but we ended up inviting her fiance,

831
00:36:44,840 --> 00:36:47,960
Speaker 3: over talking it all, out drinking a bottle of wine

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00:36:49,880 --> 00:36:52,400
Speaker 3: out with her. Again. Annie yes they have gone no

834
00:36:52,640 --> 00:36:58,040
Speaker 3: contact With. Karen oh, so but is the wedding still?

835
00:36:58,280 --> 00:37:03,640
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881
00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:23,799
Speaker 1: planned where she picked the day and. Time after a

882
00:39:23,800 --> 00:39:26,520
Speaker 1: bit of back and forth and some half hearted, excuses

883
00:39:26,680 --> 00:39:29,640
Speaker 1: she left me onread AFTER i told her that she

884
00:39:29,760 --> 00:39:31,760
Speaker 1: should have given me a heads up if she couldn't

885
00:39:31,800 --> 00:39:34,440
Speaker 1: make her. Date it wasn't an emergency or anything like

886
00:39:34,480 --> 00:39:37,600
Speaker 1: that that would prevented her from sending a quick. TEXT

887
00:39:37,760 --> 00:39:40,080
Speaker 1: i DECIDED i didn't want to play those kind of.

888
00:39:40,160 --> 00:39:43,880
Speaker 1: Games she never reached, out AND i didn't run after

889
00:39:43,920 --> 00:39:46,839
Speaker 1: her when she went. Cold, okay so it seems like

890
00:39:47,040 --> 00:39:48,120
Speaker 1: it just didn't work.

891
00:39:48,120 --> 00:39:52,520
Speaker 7: Out, Yeah and like read the, room that is not your.

892
00:39:52,560 --> 00:39:55,520
Speaker 7: Person this is what really gets, Me, Riley, like why

893
00:39:55,560 --> 00:39:58,480
Speaker 7: do we put so much effort into trying to demystify

894
00:39:58,520 --> 00:40:00,799
Speaker 7: something that is absolutely?

895
00:40:00,800 --> 00:40:01,320
Speaker 3: Obvious?

896
00:40:01,600 --> 00:40:05,080
Speaker 1: Yeah when you do, that kind of devalues yourself. Too.

897
00:40:05,960 --> 00:40:09,759
Speaker 7: Yeah, Yeah AND i look at dates as an opportunity

898
00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:12,880
Speaker 7: to learn more about yourself and. Relationships oh, REALLY i

899
00:40:12,920 --> 00:40:16,000
Speaker 7: thought the Other person Book the Fairy. Tale, yeah relationships

900
00:40:16,040 --> 00:40:18,600
Speaker 7: are a. Mirror they show you where you need to,

901
00:40:18,640 --> 00:40:20,799
Speaker 7: grow what you need to, learn and how to become

902
00:40:20,800 --> 00:40:24,080
Speaker 7: the best version of. Yourself so is that the version

903
00:40:24,120 --> 00:40:26,920
Speaker 7: of yourself that you want to be? Chasing this person

904
00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:30,960
Speaker 7: that can't even give you the courtesy of a text

905
00:40:31,480 --> 00:40:34,640
Speaker 7: or an advanced notice that they ain't going to be

906
00:40:34,680 --> 00:40:35,279
Speaker 7: showing up.

907
00:40:35,280 --> 00:40:39,000
Speaker 1: Can't make it simple as. That SO i ran into

908
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:41,960
Speaker 1: her at my friend's house a couple of months, later

909
00:40:42,160 --> 00:40:45,399
Speaker 1: a party that turned out to be just, me him and.

910
00:40:45,440 --> 00:40:49,000
Speaker 3: Her he might be, Right, yeah that's not a, party

911
00:40:49,120 --> 00:40:49,880
Speaker 3: that's my.

912
00:40:49,920 --> 00:40:54,080
Speaker 1: Friend that's set up what you called? That and she

913
00:40:54,440 --> 00:40:57,799
Speaker 1: just gas lit me by CLAIMING i sort of disappeared

914
00:40:57,800 --> 00:41:00,359
Speaker 1: out of. Nowhere it brought me some. Clothes was sure

915
00:41:00,360 --> 00:41:04,319
Speaker 1: to realize that she was either delusional or into mind,

916
00:41:04,360 --> 00:41:06,920
Speaker 1: games not going to. Lie that whole thing messed me

917
00:41:07,000 --> 00:41:09,560
Speaker 1: up a. Bit i've had relationships in, before but this

918
00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:14,759
Speaker 1: felt horribly. Cruel i'm finally starting to feel better realizing

919
00:41:14,840 --> 00:41:18,240
Speaker 1: that this wasn't my fault and sometimes people are terrible

920
00:41:18,280 --> 00:41:22,320
Speaker 1: to each. Other my friend has resurfaced with seemingly weekly

921
00:41:22,400 --> 00:41:26,320
Speaker 1: parties and he invites me and no fewer than fifty people.

922
00:41:26,760 --> 00:41:29,480
Speaker 1: TOO i haven't really wanted to go, because Although i'm

923
00:41:29,480 --> 00:41:33,200
Speaker 1: feeling better about what went, DOWN i don't want another

924
00:41:33,239 --> 00:41:36,440
Speaker 1: situation where it's just the three of us. AGAIN i

925
00:41:36,480 --> 00:41:40,200
Speaker 1: am speechless because these weekly parties he kind of planted

926
00:41:40,200 --> 00:41:42,839
Speaker 1: the seat a while, back and it seems like he's

927
00:41:42,880 --> 00:41:44,640
Speaker 1: trying to either sit in a chair or be a

928
00:41:44,680 --> 00:41:46,640
Speaker 1: part of the of the little party he wants to.

929
00:41:46,680 --> 00:41:49,040
Speaker 7: Have, YEAH i think you also need to examine your

930
00:41:49,080 --> 00:41:52,759
Speaker 7: friendships if you were finding yourself in this, situation, Right,

931
00:41:53,160 --> 00:41:57,600
Speaker 7: YES i MEAN i really appreciate the naivete of this,

932
00:41:57,719 --> 00:42:01,440
Speaker 7: Person oh my, god and just you, know desire to

933
00:42:01,840 --> 00:42:03,480
Speaker 7: just show up authentically and.

934
00:42:03,440 --> 00:42:04,319
Speaker 3: Take people at face.

935
00:42:04,440 --> 00:42:09,479
Speaker 7: Value that is really beautiful and also really, torturous really

936
00:42:09,520 --> 00:42:12,799
Speaker 7: torturous to do that time and time. Again, like this

937
00:42:12,960 --> 00:42:15,239
Speaker 7: is not the place you're going to meet your, person it's.

938
00:42:15,280 --> 00:42:18,000
Speaker 1: NOT i like. That he's kind of getting a. Hint he's, like,

939
00:42:18,080 --> 00:42:21,440
Speaker 1: ah these, parties, like you, know, cool BUT i Think

940
00:42:21,480 --> 00:42:22,600
Speaker 1: i'll feel better IF i don't.

941
00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:24,600
Speaker 3: Go, yeah he's getting.

942
00:42:24,600 --> 00:42:28,520
Speaker 7: It definitely listen to that, instinct that's your intuition talking

943
00:42:28,560 --> 00:42:30,520
Speaker 7: to you saying, hmm.

944
00:42:30,520 --> 00:42:31,480
Speaker 3: Something doesn't seem.

945
00:42:31,600 --> 00:42:34,560
Speaker 7: Right, yeah that is really my blanket dating. Advice if

946
00:42:34,600 --> 00:42:36,760
Speaker 7: something does not seem, right it probably.

947
00:42:36,880 --> 00:42:39,960
Speaker 1: Isn't. Yeah so this week he sent out another message

948
00:42:39,960 --> 00:42:42,439
Speaker 1: about a party that he's, having saying that he's going

949
00:42:42,480 --> 00:42:44,920
Speaker 1: to turn in, early but as long as his girlfriend

950
00:42:45,000 --> 00:42:48,200
Speaker 1: doesn't kick people, out they can stay as long as they.

951
00:42:48,320 --> 00:42:51,000
Speaker 1: Like his girlfriend is the girl he set me up.

952
00:42:51,000 --> 00:42:54,000
Speaker 1: With they have been dating since before he set us

953
00:42:54,080 --> 00:42:59,160
Speaker 1: up and now live. Together so now he's realizing what's.

954
00:42:59,200 --> 00:43:03,040
Speaker 1: Happening my friend is. Polynamorous, yeah you're just a part

955
00:43:03,120 --> 00:43:03,360
Speaker 1: of the.

956
00:43:03,400 --> 00:43:05,600
Speaker 3: Story you're part of the plot.

957
00:43:05,680 --> 00:43:08,759
Speaker 1: Now, yeah oh we didn't see this. EARLIER i am

958
00:43:08,800 --> 00:43:11,680
Speaker 1: a queer woman who has never viewed him as anything but.

959
00:43:11,840 --> 00:43:16,560
Speaker 3: Platonic oh he has a fantasy. Here that is really key, Information.

960
00:43:16,719 --> 00:43:20,320
Speaker 1: Riley it really. Is usually they say LIKE i twenty

961
00:43:20,360 --> 00:43:21,640
Speaker 1: four feet you know WHAT i mean at the.

962
00:43:21,640 --> 00:43:26,680
Speaker 7: BEGINNING i also find that sometimes people with queer friends

963
00:43:26,719 --> 00:43:29,640
Speaker 7: will kind of just assume that all of their queer

964
00:43:29,640 --> 00:43:32,480
Speaker 7: friends should just hook up with one, another so they'll be, like,

965
00:43:32,719 --> 00:43:36,319
Speaker 7: OH i, know you should meet this Other livian and

966
00:43:36,480 --> 00:43:37,320
Speaker 7: like no.

967
00:43:37,280 --> 00:43:39,760
Speaker 3: Focus at all on what are they actually looking?

968
00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:43,480
Speaker 7: For, yeah, right BUT i mean he flipped. One maybe

969
00:43:43,560 --> 00:43:44,439
Speaker 7: he can have a full.

970
00:43:44,480 --> 00:43:48,600
Speaker 1: Sweep you can do another. One oh my, gosh that's. Crazy,

971
00:43:49,160 --> 00:43:51,400
Speaker 1: yeah he definitely. Was usually they do say at the

972
00:43:51,400 --> 00:43:53,480
Speaker 1: beginning of what their gender, is BUT i thought it

973
00:43:53,520 --> 00:43:54,400
Speaker 1: was just some guy.

974
00:43:54,360 --> 00:43:58,360
Speaker 7: That was like, TOO i pictured. That but this is,

975
00:43:58,440 --> 00:44:00,880
Speaker 7: good good. Context but advice remains the.

976
00:44:00,920 --> 00:44:02,399
Speaker 3: Same, yeah you.

977
00:44:02,760 --> 00:44:06,960
Speaker 7: Should take people at face value and words are, cheap

978
00:44:07,160 --> 00:44:10,320
Speaker 7: like somebody, saying, yo you should plan this whole, day you,

979
00:44:10,480 --> 00:44:14,399
Speaker 7: like pay attention to the actions instead of just what they're.

980
00:44:14,440 --> 00:44:15,640
Speaker 3: Saying it has to match.

981
00:44:15,480 --> 00:44:17,880
Speaker 1: Up it, does it really. Does. Yeah So i'm a

982
00:44:17,920 --> 00:44:20,480
Speaker 1: queer woman who has never viewed him as anything but.

983
00:44:20,600 --> 00:44:23,719
Speaker 1: Platonic it seems like he had some weird plan to

984
00:44:23,760 --> 00:44:28,239
Speaker 1: secretly get me into a polyamorous relationship with his girlfriend

985
00:44:28,360 --> 00:44:33,160
Speaker 1: and then watch participate have some weird fantasies about. It,

986
00:44:33,320 --> 00:44:37,440
Speaker 1: Anyways i've never felt more gross and disgusting in my whole.

987
00:44:37,480 --> 00:44:42,080
Speaker 1: Life safe to say he is not a friend. Anymore good, Job,

988
00:44:42,120 --> 00:44:43,080
Speaker 1: opie good.

989
00:44:43,520 --> 00:44:46,799
Speaker 7: Job and ALSO i don't know that it's even that

990
00:44:46,920 --> 00:44:49,440
Speaker 7: weird of a fantasy. Anymore LIKE i feel like that's

991
00:44:49,440 --> 00:44:51,000
Speaker 7: a very common.

992
00:44:51,080 --> 00:44:54,200
Speaker 1: Fantasy, yeah for. Guys and that's the end of the.

993
00:44:54,239 --> 00:44:55,520
Speaker 1: Story we're gonna read the next.

994
00:44:55,600 --> 00:44:59,000
Speaker 3: ONE i offered my dad the office with the. Mattress

995
00:44:59,040 --> 00:45:02,440
Speaker 3: when he, visited he, SAID i was, SELFISH i want your.

996
00:45:02,520 --> 00:45:05,760
Speaker 3: Bed my husband AND i live in a three bedroom.

997
00:45:05,760 --> 00:45:09,680
Speaker 3: Apartment we sleep in the master, bedroom and until earlier this,

998
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:12,520
Speaker 3: year the other two were a guest room and an

999
00:45:12,520 --> 00:45:15,520
Speaker 3: office space we both. Shared by the, way this comes

1000
00:45:15,520 --> 00:45:18,239
Speaker 3: from guest Room debacle and if you want to spit

1001
00:45:18,280 --> 00:45:20,200
Speaker 3: your own, stories go to the our Slash okay story Tangs.

1002
00:45:20,239 --> 00:45:22,200
Speaker 3: Sembredette I'm, Savannah.

1003
00:45:21,760 --> 00:45:23,960
Speaker 5: I'm, Carly I'm, keon and we are here to give

1004
00:45:24,000 --> 00:45:24,279
Speaker 5: some good.

1005
00:45:24,280 --> 00:45:27,760
Speaker 3: Advice. Goofully but obviously we don't have all the. Answers

1006
00:45:27,920 --> 00:45:29,239
Speaker 3: we can only tell you what we would do in the,

1007
00:45:29,280 --> 00:45:31,200
Speaker 3: situation but we would love to know what you would

1008
00:45:31,200 --> 00:45:35,600
Speaker 3: do down in the. Comments As opie, says our first

1009
00:45:35,680 --> 00:45:38,080
Speaker 3: child was born In october and we decided to turn

1010
00:45:38,120 --> 00:45:41,600
Speaker 3: the guest room into his. Nursery we thought about sacrificing

1011
00:45:41,600 --> 00:45:43,880
Speaker 3: the office, instead but decided we needed it more than

1012
00:45:43,920 --> 00:45:46,800
Speaker 3: the guest. ROOM i work on, site BUT i also

1013
00:45:46,840 --> 00:45:50,040
Speaker 3: do some freelancing from, home and my husband works. Hybrid

1014
00:45:50,320 --> 00:45:52,360
Speaker 3: we don't need to do our work from the, office

1015
00:45:52,400 --> 00:45:55,360
Speaker 3: but it's more comfortable and less, chaotic especially now that

1016
00:45:55,480 --> 00:45:59,000
Speaker 3: we have a. Baby on the other, hand we rarely

1017
00:45:59,040 --> 00:46:01,600
Speaker 3: have guests. Over if we, do the office is big

1018
00:46:01,719 --> 00:46:04,799
Speaker 3: enough to set a, mattress and it's a normal, one

1019
00:46:05,000 --> 00:46:08,160
Speaker 3: not an air mattress on the. Floor it's a mattress

1020
00:46:08,160 --> 00:46:10,200
Speaker 3: on the, floor like it doesn't have like a bedframe or.

1021
00:46:10,280 --> 00:46:11,920
Speaker 2: Anything, yeah it's just a mattress on the.

1022
00:46:11,920 --> 00:46:17,000
Speaker 3: Ground been. There my father lives in a different. Country

1023
00:46:17,280 --> 00:46:19,759
Speaker 3: he's traveling here For christmas in about a, week and

1024
00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:21,759
Speaker 3: this will be his first time meeting my son in.

1025
00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:24,640
Speaker 3: Person last time he, CAME i was pregnant and we

1026
00:46:24,840 --> 00:46:27,600
Speaker 3: still had the guest, room so he stayed there during his.

1027
00:46:27,719 --> 00:46:31,239
Speaker 3: VISIT a couple weeks, ago my father called to ask

1028
00:46:31,360 --> 00:46:34,200
Speaker 3: whether he could stay at my apartment again this. YEAR

1029
00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:36,560
Speaker 3: i said, sure but we don't have the guest room,

1030
00:46:36,560 --> 00:46:39,040
Speaker 3: anymore so he'd have to sleep in the. Office he

1031
00:46:39,080 --> 00:46:40,839
Speaker 3: asked WHAT i, meant AND i told him we'd turn

1032
00:46:40,920 --> 00:46:43,439
Speaker 3: the guest room into the baby's. Nursery he then asked

1033
00:46:43,440 --> 00:46:46,239
Speaker 3: why hadn't gotten rid of the office. INSTEAD i explained

1034
00:46:46,400 --> 00:46:49,520
Speaker 3: mine and my husband's. Reasoning my father got annoyed and, said,

1035
00:46:49,800 --> 00:46:55,120
Speaker 3: Whatever i'll get a hotel before hanging up on. Me, okay, cool.

1036
00:46:54,960 --> 00:46:59,400
Speaker 2: Problem, solved get a. Hotel that was, easy, right, honestly. True,

1037
00:46:59,719 --> 00:47:01,120
Speaker 2: right everything's solved, now, Right he.

1038
00:47:01,080 --> 00:47:03,080
Speaker 5: Said why do you have an office in a private

1039
00:47:03,440 --> 00:47:05,160
Speaker 5: room for? Me just?

1040
00:47:05,239 --> 00:47:07,359
Speaker 3: Me, oh for the one time a year you. Visit,

1041
00:47:07,560 --> 00:47:10,000
Speaker 3: Right so my baby shouldn't get a, room but you

1042
00:47:10,000 --> 00:47:10,480
Speaker 3: should get a.

1043
00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:10,759
Speaker 2: Room.

1044
00:47:11,000 --> 00:47:13,600
Speaker 3: Yeah the next, day my father texted. Me he, said

1045
00:47:13,600 --> 00:47:16,040
Speaker 3: it was selfish and inconsiderate of me and my husband

1046
00:47:16,040 --> 00:47:18,960
Speaker 3: to keep an. Office we don't actually need over a

1047
00:47:19,040 --> 00:47:22,960
Speaker 3: room to properly house potential. Guests do you understand what

1048
00:47:23,000 --> 00:47:23,279
Speaker 3: you just.

1049
00:47:23,280 --> 00:47:26,080
Speaker 2: SAID i didn't realize it was your, house.

1050
00:47:25,920 --> 00:47:29,799
Speaker 3: Dad, yeah. Weird if you, want if you want a

1051
00:47:29,920 --> 00:47:32,640
Speaker 3: place to, stay you could get us a four bedroom

1052
00:47:32,680 --> 00:47:35,560
Speaker 3: apartment if that works for, you or just stay in

1053
00:47:35,560 --> 00:47:38,200
Speaker 3: a freaking hotel or an airbnb like you're going, to.

1054
00:47:38,320 --> 00:47:40,000
Speaker 2: Or stay on the mattress in the office on the.

1055
00:47:40,000 --> 00:47:43,279
Speaker 3: Ground that's. True he added that he didn't raise me

1056
00:47:43,320 --> 00:47:46,600
Speaker 3: to be such an awful, hostess and it's insane of

1057
00:47:46,680 --> 00:47:48,759
Speaker 3: me to think people would be okay sleeping on a

1058
00:47:48,760 --> 00:47:52,600
Speaker 3: mattress on the. Floor my sister is siding with my,

1059
00:47:52,680 --> 00:47:54,880
Speaker 3: father And i'm starting to doubt. Myself here AM i

1060
00:47:54,960 --> 00:47:55,120
Speaker 3: the a?

1061
00:47:55,239 --> 00:47:55,479
Speaker 1: Hole?

1062
00:47:56,239 --> 00:47:58,719
Speaker 3: Now what your?

1063
00:47:58,760 --> 00:48:02,040
Speaker 2: House MOST i can say To sugar getting air mattresses

1064
00:48:02,040 --> 00:48:04,480
Speaker 2: if you, Want but, honestly a mattress on the ground

1065
00:48:04,560 --> 00:48:06,319
Speaker 2: is probably comfier than an air.

1066
00:48:06,360 --> 00:48:10,560
Speaker 3: Mattress, YEAH i just. Don't this is the situation. Now

1067
00:48:10,600 --> 00:48:13,600
Speaker 3: they have a child and they needed to make a

1068
00:48:13,680 --> 00:48:14,560
Speaker 3: room for that. Child.

1069
00:48:15,400 --> 00:48:18,160
Speaker 5: YEAH i imagine wanting to come stay with us and

1070
00:48:18,320 --> 00:48:21,399
Speaker 5: complaining about having a roof over your heads and not

1071
00:48:21,400 --> 00:48:22,839
Speaker 5: paying for, anything but.

1072
00:48:22,960 --> 00:48:25,040
Speaker 3: And also sleeping in a. Bed it just is on the.

1073
00:48:25,080 --> 00:48:28,560
Speaker 5: Floor, Listen i'm one to be, like as long AS

1074
00:48:28,560 --> 00:48:30,440
Speaker 5: i could, say under your, ROOF i don't pay. ANYTHING

1075
00:48:30,600 --> 00:48:32,759
Speaker 5: i just to go on the. FLOOR i don't mind

1076
00:48:32,800 --> 00:48:34,080
Speaker 5: that as long as it's. Comfy.

1077
00:48:34,320 --> 00:48:36,440
Speaker 3: Yeah but, YEAH i Mean i'll sleep on the.

1078
00:48:36,440 --> 00:48:40,080
Speaker 5: Couch, YEAH i, know your dad just sounds really. Entitled,

1079
00:48:40,400 --> 00:48:41,560
Speaker 5: yeah there is an.

1080
00:48:41,600 --> 00:48:45,279
Speaker 3: Update hey, Everyone my father flew home On, thursday SO

1081
00:48:45,320 --> 00:48:48,480
Speaker 3: i feel pretty good about writing an update. Now first of,

1082
00:48:48,480 --> 00:48:51,400
Speaker 3: ALL i have read most of your suggestions for rearranging

1083
00:48:51,400 --> 00:48:54,160
Speaker 3: my home to make it more suitable for. Guests murphy,

1084
00:48:54,200 --> 00:48:56,880
Speaker 3: Beds futon sleeper, sofas having a guest room with a

1085
00:48:56,920 --> 00:48:59,360
Speaker 3: desk instead of an, office et. Cetera and, WELL i

1086
00:48:59,400 --> 00:49:02,160
Speaker 3: appreciate your. Advice most of them would not. Work so

1087
00:49:02,239 --> 00:49:04,919
Speaker 3: what does it. Matter it's her house. Exactly you don't

1088
00:49:05,000 --> 00:49:06,880
Speaker 3: need to have like it's not required to have a

1089
00:49:06,880 --> 00:49:07,680
Speaker 3: guest room in your.

1090
00:49:07,680 --> 00:49:11,960
Speaker 2: House, yeah it's accommodating. You staying at my house is

1091
00:49:12,000 --> 00:49:13,600
Speaker 2: not something that LIKE i have to.

1092
00:49:13,640 --> 00:49:16,440
Speaker 3: Do we don't have the space for a pullout, couch

1093
00:49:16,560 --> 00:49:19,399
Speaker 3: can't budget for A murphy, bed and need more than

1094
00:49:19,480 --> 00:49:21,920
Speaker 3: just a single desk as an. Office what is A murphy?

1095
00:49:21,960 --> 00:49:23,000
Speaker 5: Bed it like goes.

1096
00:49:23,080 --> 00:49:24,359
Speaker 3: Up oh that goes like.

1097
00:49:24,440 --> 00:49:25,160
Speaker 5: Into like a.

1098
00:49:25,200 --> 00:49:29,600
Speaker 2: Closet, yeah Uhh murphy, man which yeah are.

1099
00:49:29,719 --> 00:49:32,960
Speaker 3: Expensive that, said my husband AND i are looking into

1100
00:49:32,960 --> 00:49:36,799
Speaker 3: getting a small. FUTON i love. Futons, UGH i don't need,

1101
00:49:36,840 --> 00:49:39,120
Speaker 3: one but Now i'm thinking of. INVESTING i don't have,

1102
00:49:39,200 --> 00:49:43,520
Speaker 3: room but it's. Fun, secondly my father did end up

1103
00:49:43,560 --> 00:49:46,320
Speaker 3: staying at a, hotel and not without. RELUCTANCE i didn't

1104
00:49:46,320 --> 00:49:48,600
Speaker 3: really express this in my original, post BUT i feel

1105
00:49:48,640 --> 00:49:51,000
Speaker 3: like my father's annoyance about this had more to do

1106
00:49:51,080 --> 00:49:53,520
Speaker 3: with his expectations of me as a person than of my.

1107
00:49:53,680 --> 00:49:57,479
Speaker 3: Home he's always expected me to prioritize, others even when

1108
00:49:57,640 --> 00:50:01,200
Speaker 3: it was uncomfortable or inconvenient for. ME i shared a

1109
00:50:01,280 --> 00:50:03,759
Speaker 3: room with my sister for six years so he could

1110
00:50:03,760 --> 00:50:06,799
Speaker 3: have a guest bedroom he barely, used and to be,

1111
00:50:06,840 --> 00:50:10,239
Speaker 3: HONEST i never actually liked having guests, over especially for

1112
00:50:10,320 --> 00:50:13,399
Speaker 3: long periods of. Time my father always loved hosting other,

1113
00:50:13,440 --> 00:50:16,279
Speaker 3: people BUT i always found it exhausting and. Uncomfortable and

1114
00:50:16,320 --> 00:50:17,919
Speaker 3: now THAT i also have a baby to think, ABOUT

1115
00:50:17,960 --> 00:50:20,279
Speaker 3: i can't imagine entertaining a visitor for more than a few,

1116
00:50:20,280 --> 00:50:24,000
Speaker 3: hours let alone. Days my father AND i did have

1117
00:50:24,040 --> 00:50:25,919
Speaker 3: a fight about, this BUT i put my foot down

1118
00:50:25,920 --> 00:50:28,640
Speaker 3: and he booked the. Hotel when he flew. In he

1119
00:50:28,719 --> 00:50:31,840
Speaker 3: visited us right away to meet my, son so he

1120
00:50:31,920 --> 00:50:37,400
Speaker 3: hasn't even like met your, son and he's, like you

1121
00:50:37,480 --> 00:50:39,640
Speaker 3: shouldn't have made him a bedroom for.

1122
00:50:39,760 --> 00:50:43,600
Speaker 1: HIMSELF i needed that. Bedroom he's, like that's.

1123
00:50:43,400 --> 00:50:46,600
Speaker 5: My, competition, Baby this guys my.

1124
00:50:46,640 --> 00:50:50,680
Speaker 3: Competition throughout the, holidays things were a little tense between,

1125
00:50:50,719 --> 00:50:53,640
Speaker 3: us but otherwise. FINE a few days After christmas we

1126
00:50:53,640 --> 00:50:56,000
Speaker 3: had a small. DISCUSSION i told my father that my

1127
00:50:56,080 --> 00:50:58,240
Speaker 3: husband AND i are doing our research on a, futon

1128
00:50:58,760 --> 00:51:00,719
Speaker 3: but until, then the mattress on the floor is the

1129
00:51:00,719 --> 00:51:03,200
Speaker 3: best we can. OFFER i added THAT i was very

1130
00:51:03,239 --> 00:51:06,200
Speaker 3: upset about his initial, reaction and if he ever acts

1131
00:51:06,239 --> 00:51:08,240
Speaker 3: like this, AGAIN i won't host him at my place

1132
00:51:08,320 --> 00:51:12,360
Speaker 3: futon or. Not he can either book a hotel or

1133
00:51:12,440 --> 00:51:15,640
Speaker 3: wait until my sitter moves out of our mom's. Place On,

1134
00:51:15,760 --> 00:51:18,480
Speaker 3: friday after letting me know he'd gotten home, safely he

1135
00:51:18,520 --> 00:51:19,200
Speaker 3: apologized to.

1136
00:51:19,200 --> 00:51:19,279
Speaker 2: Me.

1137
00:51:19,880 --> 00:51:22,880
Speaker 3: Good i'm not sure how sincere it, was BUT i

1138
00:51:22,920 --> 00:51:26,759
Speaker 3: won't worry about that right. Now, yeah he, said how it.

1139
00:51:26,840 --> 00:51:29,560
Speaker 2: Is you can come next time if you, are but

1140
00:51:29,600 --> 00:51:33,160
Speaker 2: we're not changing our office for you to come visit

1141
00:51:33,280 --> 00:51:35,440
Speaker 2: once every maybe year or.

1142
00:51:35,520 --> 00:51:40,960
Speaker 3: So, yeah it's Not it's not your responsibility to accommodate

1143
00:51:41,000 --> 00:51:42,719
Speaker 3: for your dad when you have a whole separate family

1144
00:51:42,760 --> 00:51:44,719
Speaker 3: away from. Him, yes it would be nice to be

1145
00:51:44,760 --> 00:51:48,640
Speaker 3: able to host, everyone but also you have a life

1146
00:51:48,640 --> 00:51:50,560
Speaker 3: outside of your, dad and he also has a life

1147
00:51:50,600 --> 00:51:51,040
Speaker 3: outside of.

1148
00:51:51,040 --> 00:51:54,320
Speaker 2: You SO i, mean do you really meet a baby

1149
00:51:54,360 --> 00:51:56,400
Speaker 2: bit because they just kind of were a.

1150
00:51:56,400 --> 00:52:02,680
Speaker 3: Good chunk of. Time he's kind of, Anyway and going

1151
00:52:02,719 --> 00:52:05,600
Speaker 3: back to the, story my husband AND i do plan

1152
00:52:05,640 --> 00:52:07,920
Speaker 3: on having at least one more, child so we might

1153
00:52:07,920 --> 00:52:10,000
Speaker 3: convert the office space into a nursery in the.

1154
00:52:10,040 --> 00:52:12,480
Speaker 5: Future oh, No, now your father really can't come to

1155
00:52:12,520 --> 00:52:12,840
Speaker 5: state with.

1156
00:52:12,920 --> 00:52:14,040
Speaker 3: You he's gonna be.

1157
00:52:14,120 --> 00:52:18,240
Speaker 2: Pissed you can let him sleep in the crib because

1158
00:52:18,280 --> 00:52:18,960
Speaker 2: he's acting like a.

1159
00:52:19,000 --> 00:52:20,959
Speaker 1: Baby, ooh got.

1160
00:52:21,000 --> 00:52:25,520
Speaker 3: Him there's also the possibility of moving to a bigger,

1161
00:52:25,560 --> 00:52:28,120
Speaker 3: place but either, way a guest bedroom will never be a.

1162
00:52:28,160 --> 00:52:31,200
Speaker 3: Priority for. Now i'm more than satisfied with our liabying.

1163
00:52:31,280 --> 00:52:33,400
Speaker 3: Situation i'm also glad we were able to deal with

1164
00:52:33,440 --> 00:52:37,319
Speaker 3: this peacefully and my son's First christmas was. Perfect, yay,

1165
00:52:38,040 --> 00:52:39,279
Speaker 3: good very.

1166
00:52:39,360 --> 00:52:39,600
Speaker 2: Nice.

1167
00:52:40,360 --> 00:52:42,760
Speaker 3: YEAH i, think, HONESTLY i think you made the right. Decision,

1168
00:52:42,800 --> 00:52:47,239
Speaker 3: ope just by just by putting your foot down and being, like,

1169
00:52:47,280 --> 00:52:48,560
Speaker 3: yeah it's actually in my house AND i could do

1170
00:52:48,560 --> 00:52:49,040
Speaker 3: WHAT i want with.

1171
00:52:49,080 --> 00:52:52,680
Speaker 1: It. Yeah and that's the end of the. Story we're

1172
00:52:52,719 --> 00:52:53,560
Speaker 1: gonna read the next.

1173
00:52:53,560 --> 00:52:56,680
Speaker 4: One my mother in law said she lost a son

1174
00:52:56,760 --> 00:52:57,640
Speaker 4: when he married.

1175
00:52:57,680 --> 00:53:00,920
Speaker 3: ME i was standing. Nearby that's really mean of.

1176
00:53:00,960 --> 00:53:03,560
Speaker 4: Her my mother in law AND i have never been,

1177
00:53:03,600 --> 00:53:05,960
Speaker 4: closed but have been at least on speaking terms or,

1178
00:53:06,040 --> 00:53:08,719
Speaker 4: friendly BUT i felt a very obvious shift to WHAT

1179
00:53:08,760 --> 00:53:12,080
Speaker 4: i felt was actual hatred when my husband AND i got.

1180
00:53:12,080 --> 00:53:15,560
Speaker 4: Engaged by the, way this comes from friendborn And if

1181
00:53:15,600 --> 00:53:16,439
Speaker 4: you want to spit your own.

1182
00:53:16,320 --> 00:53:18,280
Speaker 3: Stories go to the r Slash okay storytep separate.

1183
00:53:18,320 --> 00:53:21,640
Speaker 2: It I'm, Sophia I'm, Carly I'm, savannah and we're here

1184
00:53:21,640 --> 00:53:21,960
Speaker 2: to give good.

1185
00:53:21,960 --> 00:53:23,840
Speaker 3: Advice, goofy but we don't have all the. Answers we

1186
00:53:23,880 --> 00:53:24,880
Speaker 3: only know what we, Do.

1187
00:53:24,840 --> 00:53:25,799
Speaker 5: So let us know what you would.

1188
00:53:25,800 --> 00:53:27,719
Speaker 3: Do in the, Comments endope says.

1189
00:53:29,160 --> 00:53:31,800
Speaker 4: She wasn't excited for our wedding and she was miserable

1190
00:53:31,840 --> 00:53:35,520
Speaker 4: leading up to, it picking random, fights throwing little insults

1191
00:53:35,560 --> 00:53:37,560
Speaker 4: at me that she thought were subtle but were really

1192
00:53:37,680 --> 00:53:40,960
Speaker 4: just her expressing her obvious frustration about my husband and

1193
00:53:41,000 --> 00:53:43,759
Speaker 4: my upcoming. Wedding it got to the point where she

1194
00:53:43,840 --> 00:53:46,040
Speaker 4: was calling us and yelling at us on the, phone

1195
00:53:46,320 --> 00:53:50,080
Speaker 4: calling us selfish for having a destination, wedding all the

1196
00:53:50,239 --> 00:53:54,600
Speaker 4: usual things people pick fights. About but we decided we

1197
00:53:54,640 --> 00:53:57,520
Speaker 4: needed some, space and we ended up having a very

1198
00:53:57,600 --> 00:54:01,279
Speaker 4: strained relationship where we avoided seeing that until about a

1199
00:54:01,360 --> 00:54:04,200
Speaker 4: year after our. Wedding we still saw them two to

1200
00:54:04,239 --> 00:54:08,800
Speaker 4: three times that, year but when my husband's grandfather passed

1201
00:54:08,880 --> 00:54:11,240
Speaker 4: and we all came together for the, funeral we realized

1202
00:54:11,239 --> 00:54:13,960
Speaker 4: how short life was and decided to make an effort

1203
00:54:14,000 --> 00:54:16,800
Speaker 4: and travel to see them more and. More we truly

1204
00:54:16,840 --> 00:54:19,200
Speaker 4: thought things were better and that our relationship was going

1205
00:54:19,239 --> 00:54:22,840
Speaker 4: to be. Stronger but fast forward to a year after the,

1206
00:54:22,880 --> 00:54:26,400
Speaker 4: funeral my husband's brother got, engaged which was a surprise

1207
00:54:26,480 --> 00:54:28,560
Speaker 4: to us as we found out about it via social.

1208
00:54:28,680 --> 00:54:31,799
Speaker 3: Media oh so there's a little bit of rift, there

1209
00:54:32,280 --> 00:54:32,920
Speaker 3: this some.

1210
00:54:33,080 --> 00:54:36,200
Speaker 4: Tension we continued working on the relationship with the whole,

1211
00:54:36,239 --> 00:54:39,840
Speaker 4: family visiting, them hosting his brother and his new, fiance

1212
00:54:39,960 --> 00:54:42,479
Speaker 4: and the city we live, in et. Cetera about five

1213
00:54:42,520 --> 00:54:45,120
Speaker 4: months into their, engagement we started to notice on social

1214
00:54:45,160 --> 00:54:49,040
Speaker 4: media that they were hosting the engagement, party couple, shower bachelor,

1215
00:54:49,080 --> 00:54:52,720
Speaker 4: party bridal, shower et. Cetera and we didn't receive a single.

1216
00:54:52,719 --> 00:54:55,239
Speaker 4: INVITATION i think they might be upset with.

1217
00:54:55,280 --> 00:54:56,160
Speaker 3: You what did you?

1218
00:54:56,200 --> 00:54:58,880
Speaker 4: Do we even found out that they went on a

1219
00:54:58,920 --> 00:55:01,800
Speaker 4: family vacation together and didn't tell us about.

1220
00:55:01,800 --> 00:55:02,160
Speaker 2: It what.

1221
00:55:03,840 --> 00:55:04,239
Speaker 3: How did you?

1222
00:55:04,400 --> 00:55:07,120
Speaker 2: Not that's that's a crazy thing to be able to.

1223
00:55:07,200 --> 00:55:10,560
Speaker 3: Hide, yeah they're, like what we just what are you talking?

1224
00:55:10,520 --> 00:55:13,919
Speaker 3: About we're just all In europe at the same. Time

1225
00:55:14,000 --> 00:55:14,400
Speaker 3: it's just a.

1226
00:55:14,400 --> 00:55:19,640
Speaker 4: Coincidence, yeah we were very hurt by, this and we

1227
00:55:19,680 --> 00:55:22,719
Speaker 4: felt like this exclusion was very surprising given how much

1228
00:55:22,719 --> 00:55:25,600
Speaker 4: effort we had been putting into the. Relationship my husband

1229
00:55:25,600 --> 00:55:27,839
Speaker 4: told his mommy he was, hurt and she just said things,

1230
00:55:27,880 --> 00:55:32,120
Speaker 4: like we forgot to invite you and we were, busy et.

1231
00:55:32,200 --> 00:55:36,880
Speaker 4: Cetera what fast forward again to my husband's brother's. Wedding

1232
00:55:37,160 --> 00:55:41,200
Speaker 4: my mother in law was, overjoyed so, loving and absolutely

1233
00:55:41,239 --> 00:55:44,280
Speaker 4: obsessed with my new sister in. Law in the, AFTERNOON

1234
00:55:44,320 --> 00:55:46,200
Speaker 4: i was supposed to be in the bridal room hanging

1235
00:55:46,200 --> 00:55:48,960
Speaker 4: out with the, bridesmaids BUT i ended up stepping out

1236
00:55:48,960 --> 00:55:51,200
Speaker 4: for a. MOMENT i was sitting around the corner from

1237
00:55:51,200 --> 00:55:53,880
Speaker 4: my mother in, law who was greeting guests and didn't

1238
00:55:53,880 --> 00:55:56,200
Speaker 4: KNOW i had come out of the. Room one of

1239
00:55:56,239 --> 00:55:59,560
Speaker 4: the guests, asked are you, excited and my mother in law, said,

1240
00:55:59,640 --> 00:56:02,600
Speaker 4: Yes i'm very. Excited this is very different than the last.

1241
00:56:02,600 --> 00:56:05,640
Speaker 4: Wedding the last WEDDING i lost a, son but this time,

1242
00:56:05,680 --> 00:56:06,719
Speaker 4: Around i'm not losing a.

1243
00:56:06,760 --> 00:56:11,320
Speaker 3: Son i'm getting a. Daughter ew ew boy mom.

1244
00:56:11,520 --> 00:56:15,239
Speaker 4: EW i, mean, like how would you even respond to?

1245
00:56:15,320 --> 00:56:18,520
Speaker 4: That as the people she's talking to are they on

1246
00:56:18,560 --> 00:56:19,759
Speaker 4: her side or are they just.

1247
00:56:19,760 --> 00:56:25,800
Speaker 2: Like, OH i would be, like, oh, WELL i guess that's.

1248
00:56:25,960 --> 00:56:28,240
Speaker 3: Good oh you definitely said something.

1249
00:56:28,239 --> 00:56:32,000
Speaker 4: There, Okay, YEAH i was shocked and hurt that she

1250
00:56:32,080 --> 00:56:35,160
Speaker 4: felt this was an appropriate time to air her grievances

1251
00:56:35,840 --> 00:56:38,520
Speaker 4: or make these comparisons about my husband AND i versus

1252
00:56:38,520 --> 00:56:39,560
Speaker 4: his brother and his new.

1253
00:56:39,560 --> 00:56:42,680
Speaker 2: WIFE i think you should bring it, up to be,

1254
00:56:42,760 --> 00:56:44,640
Speaker 2: HONEST i think at this, point if we're gonna be

1255
00:56:44,680 --> 00:56:47,120
Speaker 2: talking about it, publicly when you KNOW i could overhear

1256
00:56:47,640 --> 00:56:50,279
Speaker 2: and there's clearly something happening and no one's had a

1257
00:56:50,320 --> 00:56:54,560
Speaker 2: conversation about, It, like there's it's time to be, like

1258
00:56:54,880 --> 00:56:55,680
Speaker 2: what did we? Do?

1259
00:56:56,200 --> 00:57:00,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, HEY i thought we were improving our. Relationship le's good,

1260
00:57:00,640 --> 00:57:02,839
Speaker 3: on there's a little bit. Left.

1261
00:57:02,840 --> 00:57:05,920
Speaker 4: Though my husband ended up letting her know that these

1262
00:57:05,960 --> 00:57:09,560
Speaker 4: words hurt, us and instead of, apologizing she tried to

1263
00:57:09,600 --> 00:57:12,359
Speaker 4: explain it, away saying things, like, WELL i just meant

1264
00:57:12,360 --> 00:57:14,120
Speaker 4: that you all lived far, away SO i felt like

1265
00:57:14,120 --> 00:57:17,200
Speaker 4: a lost to. Son, then when my husband mentioned to

1266
00:57:17,200 --> 00:57:19,360
Speaker 4: her that we lived in the same state as her

1267
00:57:19,480 --> 00:57:22,240
Speaker 4: for over a year after a wedding and we had

1268
00:57:22,280 --> 00:57:24,479
Speaker 4: no idea we'd be leaving the state for work, soon

1269
00:57:25,000 --> 00:57:27,880
Speaker 4: she got defensive and angry and further tried to excuse

1270
00:57:27,920 --> 00:57:30,520
Speaker 4: what she. Said i'm not sure how to move forward,

1271
00:57:30,520 --> 00:57:33,439
Speaker 4: here or if it's even worth. It my husband asked

1272
00:57:33,480 --> 00:57:35,360
Speaker 4: them a while ago to come visit. Us he asked

1273
00:57:35,360 --> 00:57:37,960
Speaker 4: before it all, Happened and now that this happened at the,

1274
00:57:38,000 --> 00:57:38,960
Speaker 4: Wedding i'd.

1275
00:57:38,680 --> 00:57:42,240
Speaker 3: Prefer they canceled their. Trip any advice is. Welcome and

1276
00:57:42,320 --> 00:57:43,080
Speaker 3: that's the end of the.

1277
00:57:43,120 --> 00:57:48,000
Speaker 2: Story who oh, boy Crazy, christy Crazy.

1278
00:57:48,400 --> 00:57:51,800
Speaker 3: Mary, YEAH i don't have to tell you if they.

1279
00:57:51,840 --> 00:57:54,320
Speaker 2: Don't if she doesn't want to HEAR i UNDERSTAND i

1280
00:57:54,320 --> 00:57:56,800
Speaker 2: have a, conversation THEN i don't think there's a chance To.

1281
00:57:57,200 --> 00:57:59,880
Speaker 3: Yeah she just sounds like she's kind of.

1282
00:58:01,160 --> 00:58:03,560
Speaker 2: Kind of, mean sounds, like, yeah she's got her own

1283
00:58:03,600 --> 00:58:06,400
Speaker 2: ideas in the. Head yeah she's not changing her. Mind,

1284
00:58:06,760 --> 00:58:07,240
Speaker 2: no which.

1285
00:58:07,280 --> 00:58:11,760
Speaker 3: Sucks but hopefully your parents your. Nights, yeah and like your.

1286
00:58:11,920 --> 00:58:14,360
Speaker 2: Husband and that's the end of this. Story we're gonna

1287
00:58:14,400 --> 00:58:14,919
Speaker 2: go to the next.

1288
00:58:14,960 --> 00:58:18,320
Speaker 1: One, hey this Is riley The New. Californian. Here we're

1289
00:58:18,320 --> 00:58:20,680
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1290
00:58:20,720 --> 00:58:23,560
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1291
00:58:23,640 --> 00:58:26,360
Speaker 2: Law told my eleven year old he was too old

1292
00:58:26,400 --> 00:58:27,240
Speaker 2: to SAY i love.

1293
00:58:27,280 --> 00:58:28,560
Speaker 3: YOU i spoke.

1294
00:58:28,640 --> 00:58:32,280
Speaker 2: Up, yeah we're not saying that strap, in, folks because

1295
00:58:32,320 --> 00:58:35,160
Speaker 2: this is a weird one to me. Anyway we live

1296
00:58:35,200 --> 00:58:37,480
Speaker 2: on the same street as my in. Laws my husband's

1297
00:58:37,520 --> 00:58:39,920
Speaker 2: parents live a few doors, down and his sister and

1298
00:58:39,960 --> 00:58:40,920
Speaker 2: her husband.

1299
00:58:40,560 --> 00:58:41,560
Speaker 3: Live the other side of the.

1300
00:58:41,640 --> 00:58:45,280
Speaker 2: Road this means my children see their grandparents more or

1301
00:58:45,400 --> 00:58:49,560
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Speaker 2: your own, stories go to the r Slash okay storytime

1304
00:58:54,200 --> 00:58:57,000
Speaker 2: stub bred. It I'm, Carly I'm, sophia And I'm, savannah

1305
00:58:57,040 --> 00:58:59,200
Speaker 2: and we're here to give good. Advice, goofily but we

1306
00:58:59,240 --> 00:59:01,520
Speaker 2: don't have all the. Answers we only know what we would.

1307
00:59:01,560 --> 00:59:02,880
Speaker 2: Do let us know what he would do in the

1308
00:59:02,880 --> 00:59:06,560
Speaker 2: comments And, nope Says about a month, AGO i was

1309
00:59:06,600 --> 00:59:09,760
Speaker 2: taking my youngest mail, eleven to school and we saw his,

1310
00:59:09,800 --> 00:59:12,440
Speaker 2: granddad so he waved and they chatted for a, bit

1311
00:59:12,520 --> 00:59:14,880
Speaker 2: and then my son, said by, granddad love.

1312
00:59:14,920 --> 00:59:15,920
Speaker 6: You that's so.

1313
00:59:16,120 --> 00:59:20,800
Speaker 3: Cute and then his granddad said love you, too, son right,

1314
00:59:21,040 --> 00:59:22,440
Speaker 3: right and.

1315
00:59:22,520 --> 00:59:24,760
Speaker 2: Granddad called, back have a good day at.

1316
00:59:24,800 --> 00:59:29,720
Speaker 4: School ooh, wow your first heartbreak when you SAY i

1317
00:59:29,760 --> 00:59:30,960
Speaker 4: love you and that you don't.

1318
00:59:30,760 --> 00:59:34,800
Speaker 3: Get it back by your own. GRANDDAD pf, MAN i

1319
00:59:34,840 --> 00:59:39,040
Speaker 3: don't SAY i love you to anyone in my. Family what's, tough, man?

1320
00:59:39,280 --> 00:59:40,439
Speaker 3: You you should work through.

1321
00:59:40,440 --> 00:59:43,880
Speaker 2: That in the, car child asked me why granddad didn't

1322
00:59:43,880 --> 00:59:44,560
Speaker 2: say love you?

1323
00:59:44,640 --> 00:59:46,320
Speaker 3: Too, oh AND i.

1324
00:59:46,280 --> 00:59:49,080
Speaker 2: Said he was probably distracted and not to think anything

1325
00:59:49,080 --> 00:59:52,880
Speaker 2: more about. It. Ooh it happens again a couple of weeks,

1326
00:59:52,960 --> 00:59:55,600
Speaker 2: later and AGAIN i don't make a big deal of.

1327
00:59:55,640 --> 00:59:57,160
Speaker 3: It last, night we.

1328
00:59:57,040 --> 00:59:59,520
Speaker 2: Were all around at sister in law's house and as we're,

1329
00:59:59,600 --> 01:00:04,320
Speaker 2: leaving child says, Bye, granddad love, you And granddad, says

1330
01:00:04,440 --> 01:00:06,040
Speaker 2: you're too big to be saying that, now.

1331
01:00:06,120 --> 01:00:11,000
Speaker 3: Child men only say that to their. Wives, huh that's huh,

1332
01:00:11,440 --> 01:00:14,920
Speaker 3: Okay WELL i wouldn't say. THAT i would hope Not.

1333
01:00:15,160 --> 01:00:17,480
Speaker 3: SAVANNAH i would hope you don't say to you an

1334
01:00:17,520 --> 01:00:21,160
Speaker 3: eleven year? Old what's e turn? Eleven you can't SAY

1335
01:00:21,160 --> 01:00:21,640
Speaker 3: i love you?

1336
01:00:21,680 --> 01:00:22,720
Speaker 1: Anymore you're a.

1337
01:00:22,800 --> 01:00:25,040
Speaker 3: MAN a man man don't love anything but their.

1338
01:00:25,080 --> 01:00:30,640
Speaker 4: Wives it's ONLY waf, talk and under ten year olds.

1339
01:00:30,320 --> 01:00:31,200
Speaker 3: It's a weird thing to.

1340
01:00:31,240 --> 01:00:31,479
Speaker 1: Say.

1341
01:00:31,760 --> 01:00:34,600
Speaker 2: Weird at watch, point both me and my husband had

1342
01:00:34,600 --> 01:00:38,200
Speaker 2: A wtf moment AND i left it and, Said granddad

1343
01:00:38,240 --> 01:00:41,360
Speaker 2: means he only says it to, grandma. Sweetie you can

1344
01:00:41,360 --> 01:00:44,400
Speaker 2: say it to anyone you, like oh, nice and husband

1345
01:00:44,400 --> 01:00:47,240
Speaker 2: immediately backs me up and, says, yeah, look love. You

1346
01:00:47,360 --> 01:00:50,680
Speaker 2: nephew sixteen year old man and, nephew without looking away

1347
01:00:50,720 --> 01:00:53,080
Speaker 2: from THE, tv says love you, too uncle.

1348
01:00:52,920 --> 01:00:59,040
Speaker 3: Name nice work everyone hold it? Perfectly yeah yeah real

1349
01:00:59,200 --> 01:01:06,000
Speaker 3: real uh. Teamwork yeah, yeah we threw the. Ball we

1350
01:01:06,080 --> 01:01:06,480
Speaker 3: made it.

1351
01:01:06,600 --> 01:01:10,160
Speaker 4: Shot that shot almost bounced off the, backboard but it

1352
01:01:10,280 --> 01:01:10,600
Speaker 4: made it.

1353
01:01:10,600 --> 01:01:12,640
Speaker 3: In my father in law turned red and.

1354
01:01:12,720 --> 01:01:15,080
Speaker 2: Left now my sister in law says we shouldn't have

1355
01:01:15,120 --> 01:01:17,120
Speaker 2: embarrassed him like that and we need to.

1356
01:01:17,200 --> 01:01:18,000
Speaker 3: Apologize.

1357
01:01:18,200 --> 01:01:20,000
Speaker 4: Now if the sister in law said that to, Me

1358
01:01:20,040 --> 01:01:22,040
Speaker 4: i'd be, Like i'm. Sorry he just told my child

1359
01:01:22,040 --> 01:01:22,960
Speaker 4: to not SAY i love.

1360
01:01:23,000 --> 01:01:23,520
Speaker 3: You i'm not.

1361
01:01:23,600 --> 01:01:27,560
Speaker 4: Apologizing i'm actually having a conversation about him never saying.

1362
01:01:27,560 --> 01:01:30,120
Speaker 2: That. AGAIN i haven't seen my husband's parents, yet BUT

1363
01:01:30,160 --> 01:01:32,760
Speaker 2: i really don't see WHY i should. APOLOGIZE i didn't

1364
01:01:32,800 --> 01:01:35,760
Speaker 2: do anything wrong except protect my son from something THAT

1365
01:01:35,920 --> 01:01:36,919
Speaker 2: i think was quite.

1366
01:01:37,040 --> 01:01:38,360
Speaker 3: Hurtful AM i the a?

1367
01:01:38,480 --> 01:01:38,720
Speaker 2: Hole?

1368
01:01:39,240 --> 01:01:41,480
Speaker 3: No, nope not at.

1369
01:01:41,480 --> 01:01:44,400
Speaker 4: All keep SAYING i love, you AND i think that

1370
01:01:45,440 --> 01:01:47,560
Speaker 4: not only WOULD i have a conversation with, granddad, YEAH

1371
01:01:47,600 --> 01:01:49,520
Speaker 4: i would also start SAYING i love you every TIME

1372
01:01:49,520 --> 01:01:52,560
Speaker 4: i saw. Him like so overly. Lovey, yeah AND i

1373
01:01:52,640 --> 01:01:54,840
Speaker 4: get my husband in on. It so husband's not SAYING

1374
01:01:54,920 --> 01:01:57,920
Speaker 4: i love You, DAD i freaking love also so.

1375
01:01:57,920 --> 01:02:00,880
Speaker 2: Much crazy though that dad grew Up, yeah still saying

1376
01:02:01,440 --> 01:02:04,920
Speaker 2: like being okay with? It OR i wonder if there

1377
01:02:05,000 --> 01:02:06,880
Speaker 2: was a period of time where he was also told

1378
01:02:06,920 --> 01:02:09,280
Speaker 2: he couldn't and he just like got past.

1379
01:02:09,040 --> 01:02:10,360
Speaker 3: It exactly WHAT i was.

1380
01:02:10,400 --> 01:02:13,280
Speaker 4: Thinking, yeah was he always told from eleven years on

1381
01:02:13,520 --> 01:02:15,000
Speaker 4: that he wasn't allowed to SAY i love? You?

1382
01:02:15,680 --> 01:02:16,240
Speaker 3: Maybe?

1383
01:02:16,560 --> 01:02:20,360
Speaker 2: Yeah relevant Comments comment one sounds like my, grandparents to be,

1384
01:02:20,400 --> 01:02:22,600
Speaker 2: HONEST i once SAID i love you to my baby.

1385
01:02:22,640 --> 01:02:25,480
Speaker 2: Cousin they laughed as if it was ridiculous of me

1386
01:02:25,560 --> 01:02:28,640
Speaker 2: to have familial attachment to. Him are You british by

1387
01:02:28,680 --> 01:02:31,200
Speaker 2: any chance not THE a hole regardless of where you're.

1388
01:02:31,200 --> 01:02:34,360
Speaker 3: From, yeah it. Is it is Super brett to be, like,

1389
01:02:34,520 --> 01:02:38,400
Speaker 3: no a man can't SAY i love. You that is nor.

1390
01:02:38,560 --> 01:02:40,200
Speaker 3: Fitting i'm A british.

1391
01:02:40,240 --> 01:02:46,200
Speaker 2: Man Alstick opie, says elloel is it? Obvious, Yeah northern

1392
01:02:46,240 --> 01:02:50,240
Speaker 2: britt living with Weirdo. Southerners, yeah comment to not the a?

1393
01:02:50,320 --> 01:02:52,760
Speaker 2: Whole but why are you living cheek and jow with your?

1394
01:02:52,760 --> 01:02:56,160
Speaker 2: Family is it some kind of cultural? Thing opie, says Oh,

1395
01:02:56,160 --> 01:02:59,120
Speaker 2: god there's no WAY i can answer that without sounding horrendously.

1396
01:02:59,120 --> 01:03:02,400
Speaker 2: Privileged but here, goes oh. Boy we live in part

1397
01:03:02,440 --> 01:03:06,360
Speaker 2: of THE uk where houses are massively. Overpriced my husband's

1398
01:03:06,360 --> 01:03:10,520
Speaker 2: family have been there for. Generations there are three full

1399
01:03:10,800 --> 01:03:13,040
Speaker 2: rows of headstones in the churchyard of his.

1400
01:03:13,120 --> 01:03:17,040
Speaker 4: Relatives, sorry your family is his family like. Nobility it's

1401
01:03:17,120 --> 01:03:19,640
Speaker 4: the king and. Queen is The king and, queen and

1402
01:03:19,840 --> 01:03:24,160
Speaker 4: SAY i love you to, anyone that to the.

1403
01:03:24,200 --> 01:03:26,800
Speaker 2: People his dad was an only child who'd HAD i

1404
01:03:26,840 --> 01:03:30,240
Speaker 2: think five anties who all never, married and bought houses

1405
01:03:30,240 --> 01:03:32,760
Speaker 2: in the street when it was first. Built father in

1406
01:03:32,840 --> 01:03:36,200
Speaker 2: law inherited the. Lot we bought ours off him at

1407
01:03:36,240 --> 01:03:39,960
Speaker 2: a reduced price about eight years. AGO i am beyond.

1408
01:03:40,040 --> 01:03:43,480
Speaker 2: Grateful and we have an update this.

1409
01:03:43,520 --> 01:03:43,880
Speaker 3: Here.

1410
01:03:44,320 --> 01:03:48,040
Speaker 2: Wow, well a lot of tea was wasted and a

1411
01:03:48,040 --> 01:03:52,160
Speaker 2: lot of talking was. Done upshot is that father in

1412
01:03:52,280 --> 01:03:54,760
Speaker 2: law was not embarrassed or angry at, all other than

1413
01:03:54,800 --> 01:03:57,840
Speaker 2: a little with. Himself he. Said as soon as the

1414
01:03:57,840 --> 01:04:00,360
Speaker 2: words were out of his, mouth and he hurt himself say.

1415
01:04:00,400 --> 01:04:03,760
Speaker 2: Them he was a bit Of paul that. Himself, okay,

1416
01:04:04,280 --> 01:04:06,920
Speaker 2: cool very, nice he learned.

1417
01:04:07,000 --> 01:04:10,080
Speaker 3: Quickly he's LIKE i don't know WHY i said. That

1418
01:04:10,240 --> 01:04:11,320
Speaker 3: he's like that was my alter.

1419
01:04:11,440 --> 01:04:16,200
Speaker 4: Ego, Yeah Jeffrey, jeffrey And jeffrey really doesn't like.

1420
01:04:16,280 --> 01:04:19,240
Speaker 2: Children jeffrey really doesn't love anyone except for his.

1421
01:04:19,280 --> 01:04:21,360
Speaker 3: Wife, yes he loves his wife.

1422
01:04:21,240 --> 01:04:24,720
Speaker 2: Loves he's not even sure why he said it or

1423
01:04:24,800 --> 01:04:27,040
Speaker 2: why he suddenly stops doing it when the boys get,

1424
01:04:27,080 --> 01:04:30,040
Speaker 2: older a bit like my husband didn't realize he never

1425
01:04:30,080 --> 01:04:31,240
Speaker 2: said it to him since he was.

1426
01:04:31,280 --> 01:04:35,640
Speaker 3: Small, ooh that's so. Sad that's cat's cradle right.

1427
01:04:35,680 --> 01:04:37,960
Speaker 4: There oh my, GOODNESS i say it like my family

1428
01:04:38,040 --> 01:04:41,600
Speaker 4: is very much like we love you. LOVE i can't imagine.

1429
01:04:41,600 --> 01:04:47,200
Speaker 3: That, um my older, sister, no my, Brother, yes, yes

1430
01:04:47,360 --> 01:04:50,960
Speaker 3: do your parents SAY i, mean like not every Time

1431
01:04:51,000 --> 01:04:53,200
Speaker 3: i'm on the phone with, Them like when you hang,

1432
01:04:53,280 --> 01:04:53,960
Speaker 3: up you don't say like.

1433
01:04:54,000 --> 01:04:54,160
Speaker 2: Bye.

1434
01:04:54,440 --> 01:04:55,680
Speaker 3: No LIKE i was just on the phone with my

1435
01:04:55,760 --> 01:04:58,360
Speaker 3: mom like earlier BEFORE i came up, here and she's, like,

1436
01:04:58,400 --> 01:05:01,080
Speaker 3: OKAY i have to go. BY i was like, okay

1437
01:05:01,240 --> 01:05:04,200
Speaker 3: BUT i don't know she just say like what sometimes

1438
01:05:04,240 --> 01:05:05,920
Speaker 3: does she say by love? You or is it always

1439
01:05:05,960 --> 01:05:10,840
Speaker 3: just like okay? BYE i guess sometimes she'll say. IT

1440
01:05:11,240 --> 01:05:13,880
Speaker 3: i don't, Know and Like sinny like wants it from.

1441
01:05:13,920 --> 01:05:17,040
Speaker 3: People so she says it because she wants him. Prompt,

1442
01:05:17,080 --> 01:05:19,680
Speaker 3: yeah SO i don't give it back to. Her why

1443
01:05:19,720 --> 01:05:22,600
Speaker 3: are you? Smiling SO i don't give her the.

1444
01:05:22,720 --> 01:05:26,560
Speaker 2: Love father in law said he thinks it was was

1445
01:05:26,600 --> 01:05:30,880
Speaker 2: different with my youngest because he's so exuberant and affectionate and. Bouncy,

1446
01:05:31,120 --> 01:05:33,320
Speaker 2: basically my youngest is tigger.

1447
01:05:33,160 --> 01:05:35,320
Speaker 3: Ah, cute little LADY hd.

1448
01:05:35,480 --> 01:05:39,120
Speaker 2: Boy. YEAH i asked him about his, DAD i. E husband's,

1449
01:05:39,120 --> 01:05:42,960
Speaker 2: grandfather and he says he doesn't recall him or his mom, ever, saying,

1450
01:05:43,040 --> 01:05:46,520
Speaker 2: oh but that he never felt anything other than cherished

1451
01:05:46,520 --> 01:05:49,680
Speaker 2: by both his. Parents his dad passed away when my

1452
01:05:49,720 --> 01:05:52,360
Speaker 2: father in law was, seventeen and he says from then

1453
01:05:52,400 --> 01:05:54,520
Speaker 2: on it was a bit more like his mom was

1454
01:05:54,560 --> 01:05:55,320
Speaker 2: his business.

1455
01:05:55,320 --> 01:06:01,200
Speaker 3: Partner this is so, SAD i, mean problem. Solved i'm glad, That.

1456
01:06:01,880 --> 01:06:05,160
Speaker 4: Oh he had this moment with the father in law

1457
01:06:05,240 --> 01:06:07,480
Speaker 4: where he is kind of coming to terms or at

1458
01:06:07,560 --> 01:06:11,360
Speaker 4: least like kind of questioning why he made that comment

1459
01:06:11,480 --> 01:06:14,680
Speaker 4: and how his upbringing may have affected, it because it's

1460
01:06:14,760 --> 01:06:16,320
Speaker 4: it doesn't seem like he really.

1461
01:06:16,040 --> 01:06:16,720
Speaker 1: Like you.

1462
01:06:16,760 --> 01:06:19,160
Speaker 4: Know he, said, OH i don't you, KNOW i DIDN'T

1463
01:06:19,360 --> 01:06:21,360
Speaker 4: i don't remember them never SAYING i love. You BUT

1464
01:06:21,400 --> 01:06:24,000
Speaker 4: i didn't really think about. IT i think it's interesting

1465
01:06:24,040 --> 01:06:29,320
Speaker 4: that he is now having this moment of actually analyzing

1466
01:06:29,440 --> 01:06:33,120
Speaker 4: and looking back on the. Past, YEAH i would think that's.

1467
01:06:33,120 --> 01:06:35,440
Speaker 3: GOOD i think it's. Great but what a crazy way

1468
01:06:35,480 --> 01:06:38,000
Speaker 3: to get. There, yeah he's, like why DID i say?

1469
01:06:38,160 --> 01:06:38,320
Speaker 2: That?

1470
01:06:40,360 --> 01:06:43,360
Speaker 3: How why DID i say? That WAS i not? Loved

1471
01:06:43,600 --> 01:06:45,680
Speaker 3: did my parents not give me the love THAT i so?

1472
01:06:46,320 --> 01:06:49,520
Speaker 3: Craved i've been taking it out on my. Family oh my.

1473
01:06:49,640 --> 01:06:52,400
Speaker 2: Goodness he says he's not sure that he'll ever be

1474
01:06:52,480 --> 01:06:56,040
Speaker 2: completely comfortable with being as exuberant as my, youngest but

1475
01:06:56,080 --> 01:06:58,240
Speaker 2: he also said that he'd hate to be responsible for

1476
01:06:58,360 --> 01:07:01,560
Speaker 2: my youngest being any. Different the evening ended with a

1477
01:07:01,600 --> 01:07:04,760
Speaker 2: big hug for my, youngest a muttered love, you short.

1478
01:07:04,440 --> 01:07:05,840
Speaker 1: Man ah?

1479
01:07:06,360 --> 01:07:10,080
Speaker 2: WHAT i love you a short, man and plans for

1480
01:07:10,120 --> 01:07:13,280
Speaker 2: the football On, saturday which apparently involves a party as

1481
01:07:13,280 --> 01:07:13,760
Speaker 2: big as your.

1482
01:07:13,800 --> 01:07:14,800
Speaker 3: Head it's a pretty small.

1483
01:07:14,840 --> 01:07:17,840
Speaker 2: Party i'm going to chat to my, youngest most likely

1484
01:07:17,920 --> 01:07:20,480
Speaker 2: over hot, chocolate about how people can be different like

1485
01:07:20,520 --> 01:07:22,920
Speaker 2: that and it's okay and he shouldn't be hurt by

1486
01:07:22,960 --> 01:07:25,560
Speaker 2: it because he knows he's loved in a thousand other.

1487
01:07:25,640 --> 01:07:31,040
Speaker 2: Ways so we're all good and old curmudgeonly tough blokes

1488
01:07:31,160 --> 01:07:33,720
Speaker 2: can change and, grow and so can stubborn daughter in.

1489
01:07:33,800 --> 01:07:38,040
Speaker 6: Laws what a wholesome, Story what a wholesome story that

1490
01:07:38,160 --> 01:07:40,560
Speaker 6: started Off you started out a little bit messed, up

1491
01:07:40,560 --> 01:07:43,640
Speaker 6: and then we figured, out you, know, hey we all

1492
01:07:43,680 --> 01:07:45,440
Speaker 6: have different upbringings and then.

1493
01:07:45,760 --> 01:07:46,919
Speaker 3: We're working through. Them.

1494
01:07:47,000 --> 01:07:51,080
Speaker 2: Yeah it's a great lesson at eleven years.

1495
01:07:51,120 --> 01:07:51,760
Speaker 3: Old, yeah be.

1496
01:07:51,800 --> 01:07:54,040
Speaker 2: Honest and that's the end of this.

1497
01:07:54,160 --> 01:07:54,560
Speaker 1: Story