WEBVTT - Trust, Relationships and Cell Phones 0:00:04.760 --> 0:00:07.720 Well, let me here that this and you're listening to 0:00:07.960 --> 0:00:11.680 Exactly Amda, a production of I Heart Radio. I am 0:00:11.720 --> 0:00:13.720 so excited to have you guys here today and I 0:00:13.760 --> 0:00:17.200 want to welcome welcome you guys to another amazing show. 0:00:17.239 --> 0:00:25.560 And I'm here with my co host CV noont Let 0:00:25.560 --> 0:00:33.159 me tell you, okay, the Dominican retic Yes in Santo Amingo. 0:00:33.280 --> 0:00:34.920 I'm so happy to be here. And on top of that, 0:00:35.000 --> 0:00:36.720 let me tell you, okay, I am curly in one 0:00:36.720 --> 0:00:39.320 of my airbnbs, which I want to invite you guys 0:00:39.520 --> 0:00:42.640 later on. Go follow me at amda Airbnb for more 0:00:42.680 --> 0:00:44.960 information on it, which we'll talk about that in another 0:00:45.000 --> 0:00:48.120 future episode. How to invest your money, how to create 0:00:48.120 --> 0:00:51.080 generational wealth, and all these amazing things. But in the meantime, 0:00:51.920 --> 0:00:54.520 Mina don say, okay, everybody's been hitting us up on 0:00:54.600 --> 0:00:56.960 exactly amata on Twitter and Instagram and all these things, 0:00:56.960 --> 0:00:59.240 and I love it because they're giving us ideas and 0:00:59.360 --> 0:01:01.920 concepts and things that they want to know and discuss. 0:01:02.200 --> 0:01:04.760 So then one of the things that people were talking 0:01:04.800 --> 0:01:08.759 about is trust and relationships. When there is a cell 0:01:08.800 --> 0:01:24.880 phone involved, automatically it takes over me. Yes, you see, 0:01:24.920 --> 0:01:26.800 but I mean that Today is all about trust. Okay, 0:01:26.959 --> 0:01:31.480 today is all about trust relationships and um and building it, 0:01:31.560 --> 0:01:33.959 Like how do you build a relationship without trust? You know, 0:01:34.000 --> 0:01:36.960 the ability to give each other enough breathing room so 0:01:37.000 --> 0:01:39.039 that we can each do our own thing and have 0:01:39.160 --> 0:01:43.640 our privacy. But when you talk about privacy, right, privacy 0:01:43.720 --> 0:01:47.720 extends to what like how much is privacy when you're 0:01:47.720 --> 0:01:50.280 in a relationship. And that's something that I really want 0:01:50.280 --> 0:01:53.480 to discuss because I feel like, you know, it's one 0:01:54.000 --> 0:01:56.200 we I think that because we have a lot of options. 0:01:56.200 --> 0:01:58.320 We have social media, we have you know, all these 0:01:58.400 --> 0:02:00.840 dating apps, we have all these other things. You know, 0:02:01.000 --> 0:02:04.000 I think that it can make your relationship at some 0:02:04.080 --> 0:02:06.680 point a little bit you know, fringe when you have 0:02:06.760 --> 0:02:10.200 access to somebody's phone, right, if they're your significant other, 0:02:10.280 --> 0:02:12.600 do you have access to the phone for convenience? Like 0:02:12.639 --> 0:02:18.560 but the hand blow? Probably and it's nothing if you 0:02:18.600 --> 0:02:21.240 have that much trust in each other? Right, is it 0:02:21.280 --> 0:02:24.080 cool they have access to your phone for convenience? Like me, 0:02:24.160 --> 0:02:26.200 not just to make a call or to like look 0:02:26.240 --> 0:02:27.720 something up. I want to take a picture, I want 0:02:27.720 --> 0:02:29.440 to take a video, or do you like never give 0:02:29.480 --> 0:02:36.120 your phone to your significant other? So the nome why 0:02:36.320 --> 0:02:39.920 because like there's certain things. I mean, why are you 0:02:40.000 --> 0:02:42.440 in my phone? First of all, it comes from when 0:02:42.600 --> 0:02:49.320 my phone, That's what I'm saying, and my phone and 0:02:49.400 --> 0:02:51.760 my phone dies, I should be able to ask my book. 0:02:51.880 --> 0:02:54.840 Probably give me your phone, don't. I didn't make this call, 0:02:54.880 --> 0:03:01.160 and I shouldn't feel suspicious. What are you wanting for? 0:03:01.400 --> 0:03:03.280 Oh no, let me make what number? Just give me 0:03:03.320 --> 0:03:05.400 the number and now call. Give me the number and 0:03:05.400 --> 0:03:08.120 I'll call. I got fingers, I can die the way. 0:03:10.240 --> 0:03:15.520 That's like a red flat. Oh my goodness to me, 0:03:15.680 --> 0:03:18.079 I feel like, stay up out of my phone, Stay 0:03:18.160 --> 0:03:20.560 up out of my phone. I mean, I mean, if 0:03:20.639 --> 0:03:23.520 you if your phone is dead in the battery diet, 0:03:23.520 --> 0:03:36.040 that's understandable. But then you and I are together in 0:03:36.040 --> 0:03:40.000 a stable relationship. Actually didn't find anything even if I look. 0:03:40.040 --> 0:03:43.000 And I do understand how sometimes the smallest little things 0:03:43.040 --> 0:03:46.080 can can and you may have not done it with 0:03:46.120 --> 0:03:48.160 bad intention, but it can come off wrong. You know 0:03:48.160 --> 0:03:50.520 what I'm saying. But here's something else. I believe that 0:03:50.560 --> 0:03:53.600 there's a possibility that if you share your past code 0:03:53.840 --> 0:03:56.160 with your significant other, it can actually lead into a 0:03:56.160 --> 0:03:59.760 healthier relationship. If you're asking for it, then you're asking 0:03:59.800 --> 0:04:03.320 for it, right, all right? But what is your reasoning? 0:04:03.920 --> 0:04:06.640 What is your reason? If you die? I want to 0:04:06.680 --> 0:04:08.320 I want to know if you die, I want to 0:04:08.320 --> 0:04:09.680 know where you were at. I want to know where 0:04:09.680 --> 0:04:14.720 your last message was. For your safety, I want to 0:04:14.760 --> 0:04:17.960 protect you, including your phone. So just in case something 0:04:18.040 --> 0:04:21.719 happens to you. You always convincing me if something happens 0:04:21.760 --> 0:04:24.320 to you, who's gonna save you me? So, hey, you 0:04:24.320 --> 0:04:28.719 need to share me your pastor. But willing to willing 0:04:28.760 --> 0:04:31.520 to have the pastor prevents you from prevents you from 0:04:31.560 --> 0:04:33.800 also having to look through it. Don't you think like 0:04:33.920 --> 0:04:36.560 I also feel it when things are come okay hidden, 0:04:38.080 --> 0:04:40.240 that provokes you to want to look and search. But 0:04:40.320 --> 0:04:42.120 when you know, because you know how humans are, when 0:04:42.200 --> 0:04:44.040 when they tell you you can't have something, that's when 0:04:44.080 --> 0:04:46.440 you wanted the most. But if you already have like 0:04:46.560 --> 0:04:50.120 access to it, then you just don't care anymore. That's 0:04:50.120 --> 0:04:54.200 how I feel, man, I want to look at it, 0:04:54.839 --> 0:04:57.000 So I don't know. How do you feel about that? 0:04:57.040 --> 0:05:00.160 Do you think that honestly prevents and it help a 0:05:00.200 --> 0:05:01.839 little bit? Like if you just have the code already 0:05:01.839 --> 0:05:03.480 and you already know you have access to it. Then 0:05:03.640 --> 0:05:05.960 you're probably not gonna look. But just to know that 0:05:06.000 --> 0:05:07.880 you can't have it makes you want to have it 0:05:07.920 --> 0:05:11.440 even more. You know me, in my lifestyle, I don't 0:05:11.440 --> 0:05:15.360 care what she does, who she does, like honestly, like 0:05:16.839 --> 0:05:19.400 that's just me. I'm just a different type of being, 0:05:19.440 --> 0:05:22.080 you know what I'm saying. So I've heard I've heard 0:05:22.160 --> 0:05:29.000 guess yo, that there's been relationships as in order to 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:32.159 have peace. They're like, okay, how about this. You cheated, 0:05:32.240 --> 0:05:34.360 I cheated. We still want to be together. We want 0:05:34.360 --> 0:05:36.320 to make this right. We want to protect what we have, 0:05:36.480 --> 0:05:40.400 So let's share each other's privacy. That means I give 0:05:40.440 --> 0:05:43.520 you complete access to my life, which is my phone. 0:05:43.800 --> 0:05:46.240 You give me complete access to yours. And like that, 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:48.960 we don't have to feel insecure because its cosa. And 0:05:49.040 --> 0:05:53.040 let's be honest, after you've already been cheated on, Automatically, 0:05:53.040 --> 0:05:55.719 your significant other can be on his phone texting his mother. 0:05:55.800 --> 0:05:58.640 You already automatically think he's texting a bit. If you 0:05:58.680 --> 0:06:00.240 take your phone to the bathroom and he's said seeing 0:06:00.240 --> 0:06:02.760 a bit, if you go, you're talking. So if you 0:06:02.800 --> 0:06:05.279 can have access to it and look at it if 0:06:05.320 --> 0:06:09.640 you want to, we're gonna get Maybe I can also 0:06:09.680 --> 0:06:12.359 be come Oka a little bit healthier. Come. Okay, you 0:06:12.400 --> 0:06:15.320 know what once in a while, what you were doing. Okay, 0:06:15.360 --> 0:06:18.640 you're not really doing anything. Yes, come, eventually you stop 0:06:18.720 --> 0:06:20.840 looking me and that Stevie at the end of the 0:06:20.920 --> 0:06:23.839 day or in the beginning of the day. You need 0:06:23.880 --> 0:06:26.479 to give your significant your significant O. There's some space 0:06:26.520 --> 0:06:30.120 and privacy, but okay, privacy with me, it needs to 0:06:30.160 --> 0:06:33.960 be manageable. So I feel like, yes, it is healthy 0:06:34.040 --> 0:06:36.679 for I feel it's healthy for us to be able 0:06:36.720 --> 0:06:39.480 to use each other's phones without having to feel like, oh, 0:06:39.480 --> 0:06:41.080 you can look into my phone, I can pass through 0:06:41.160 --> 0:06:42.840 my phone, and if you say you're gonna take a picture, 0:06:42.960 --> 0:06:45.080 I should trust you're gonna take a picture. I shouldn't 0:06:45.080 --> 0:06:46.800 feel like I'm gonna give you my phone and the 0:06:46.880 --> 0:06:48.800 next thing I know, you're all up in my text messages, 0:06:49.040 --> 0:06:53.120 my WhatsApp, my d MS. That's too much. Right. Knowing 0:06:53.160 --> 0:06:55.600 that my mother was talking about you and ship and 0:06:55.640 --> 0:06:59.360 likes another issue, because you know, this is where your 0:06:59.440 --> 0:07:02.560 parents come in and they embox you and talk ship 0:07:02.800 --> 0:07:05.400 and then like you try to choose your battles. So 0:07:05.480 --> 0:07:08.160 like if they said, why did she cook for you today, 0:07:08.279 --> 0:07:10.200 or did she clean for you today? Or did she 0:07:10.280 --> 0:07:14.080 do this? Yeah, those are private conversations. Did I just 0:07:14.160 --> 0:07:17.600 confess my significant of this name? I don't know what 0:07:17.640 --> 0:07:25.760 I mean that those are private conversations better. But at 0:07:25.760 --> 0:07:33.480 the end of the day, it really comes down to trust. 0:07:33.880 --> 0:07:35.720 You have to be with someone that you trust. You 0:07:35.760 --> 0:07:38.120 should be able to trust your significant other no matter what, 0:07:38.760 --> 0:07:42.120 like I mean, if not, the why are you with them? 0:07:42.160 --> 0:07:45.880 If you feel that that, let me tell you. We 0:07:46.000 --> 0:07:50.440 have that gut intuition sea and you have a dream, 0:07:50.520 --> 0:07:53.800 you feel that your your boyfriend, your husband or whatever 0:07:53.840 --> 0:07:55.920 it is cheating or he's out here in the streets, 0:07:56.200 --> 0:07:59.400 or you can't trust him, and why are you with 0:07:59.600 --> 0:08:04.240 In the same it goes for the field and you 0:08:04.320 --> 0:08:06.720 stressed out? He had a little who you who? You text? 0:08:07.160 --> 0:08:09.480 You're looking at every like, at every message, who DM 0:08:09.560 --> 0:08:11.800 do who? I'm not really that's too stressed when nobody 0:08:11.800 --> 0:08:14.400 get time for that, right? Why are you stressed? You're 0:08:14.400 --> 0:08:17.080 stressing them him out, You're stressing yourself out, and then 0:08:17.120 --> 0:08:19.360 you're stressing me out because she or he wants to 0:08:19.400 --> 0:08:27.880 really be with me, not with you. Streuss up bettermay 0:08:27.960 --> 0:08:29.760 saying I'm not gonna be going from I'm gonna I'm 0:08:29.760 --> 0:08:32.560 gonna confess something. I'm I'm gonna confess something. I don't mean, 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:42.480 I can't believe. I don't don't don't. Okay, I'm about 0:08:42.520 --> 0:08:45.680 to confess them. So here goes my confession. So my 0:08:45.720 --> 0:08:47.280 little booth thing or whatever you I'm saying, because I 0:08:47.280 --> 0:08:51.319 have a little thing. So I have a GP you do, 0:08:52.760 --> 0:08:58.000 Oh shut up, Yes, you got a GPS GPS cart. 0:08:59.400 --> 0:09:04.080 I went over there and I got a tile. Ladies, 0:09:04.080 --> 0:09:06.680 pay attention to me. Oh my god, that's terrible because 0:09:06.679 --> 0:09:09.520 I'm I have toxic behavior and you really shouldn't listen 0:09:09.520 --> 0:09:11.839 to me because that's super unhealthy. But a bit's fun 0:09:12.000 --> 0:09:14.520 that listen to me. You you can't trust these men 0:09:14.559 --> 0:09:16.920 out here in these streets. And if that's your man 0:09:17.240 --> 0:09:19.040 and he belongs to you because he got all up 0:09:19.040 --> 0:09:21.920 in your body and you love him, I'm gonna make 0:09:21.960 --> 0:09:24.120 sure for your safety. That's how I feel. I feel 0:09:24.160 --> 0:09:26.400 like I am doing it for your own protection. But 0:09:26.679 --> 0:09:29.080 I went and I got a tile. And the tiles 0:09:29.120 --> 0:09:32.240 are these little things you can google. Let me huh, 0:09:32.240 --> 0:09:34.720 these little things like this, get whatever you put it 0:09:34.720 --> 0:09:37.559 in your in your key chain or there's one that's 0:09:37.600 --> 0:09:38.960 like a little tablet that you can put in your 0:09:38.960 --> 0:09:40.840 wallet just in case they steal your wallet. You can 0:09:40.840 --> 0:09:43.640 track it on your phone. Mama, there's so many ways. 0:09:43.840 --> 0:09:46.600 And don't say I got in his car. And don't 0:09:46.600 --> 0:09:49.320 say I dropped it right where the break is. I 0:09:49.480 --> 0:09:51.760 dropped the towel in there. And then from my phone, 0:09:52.040 --> 0:09:55.200 I can see where you're going. So whenever you told me, oh, 0:09:55.240 --> 0:09:57.400 I'm home the second goal side, you know, at twe 0:09:57.440 --> 0:09:59.840 o'clock at night and I see that tile driving all 0:09:59.880 --> 0:10:03.160 of around the city, I got you. I'm gonna pull up. 0:10:03.440 --> 0:10:06.080 I'm gonna pull up. Now. That's very toxic. Please do 0:10:06.160 --> 0:10:10.760 not do this. I feel like me that once once 0:10:10.800 --> 0:10:15.000 you me the time you have a tracking device, me 0:10:15.160 --> 0:10:18.240 that once you stick it to me, your privacy is over. 0:10:21.040 --> 0:10:23.480 Trupet cat okay, and you got a piece of me, 0:10:23.880 --> 0:10:29.320 your privacy, it's our privacy. Who's calling us? You're in me? 0:10:30.160 --> 0:10:35.840 Who just text us I wants to nap bottle? Is 0:10:35.880 --> 0:10:41.720 that terrible? Yo? Let me tell you, I'm you know what. 0:10:41.880 --> 0:10:44.440 I'm just happy that you're confessing and you're being real 0:10:44.520 --> 0:10:46.920 because let me tell you that a lot of women 0:10:47.000 --> 0:10:51.000 will not confess this. But now I know why my 0:10:51.200 --> 0:10:54.679 significant other be like you wasn't hard for you was 0:10:54.720 --> 0:10:56.559 in New York, it was in Miami. He wasn't for 0:10:56.640 --> 0:10:59.400 a lad that you were supposed to be recording out 0:10:59.400 --> 0:11:05.520 of manas and where you are? Yeah, Steve, what are 0:11:05.559 --> 0:11:09.160 you on today? Bro? What are you on me? You? 0:11:13.960 --> 0:11:16.360 And that's why I'm saying, Look if the person, if 0:11:16.400 --> 0:11:19.360 the person says I love you and it mean and 0:11:19.400 --> 0:11:22.320 they mean it, then that should be enough proof of 0:11:22.480 --> 0:11:25.400 how they feel about you. Do mon, though, everybody's been 0:11:25.440 --> 0:11:30.600 heartbroken and once they break your ache breaking heart, once 0:11:30.640 --> 0:11:33.120 they break your heart, you start to create these like 0:11:33.440 --> 0:11:37.000 um insecurities and you start to become untrustworthy, like you 0:11:37.080 --> 0:11:40.320 just don't trust people, and all these little things affect 0:11:40.400 --> 0:11:46.240 your relationships. I really do believe it. Like, right, if 0:11:46.240 --> 0:11:48.440 somebody was unfaithful with you in the past and you 0:11:48.559 --> 0:11:51.240 come and you carry that ship to your new relationship, like, oh, 0:11:51.280 --> 0:11:52.960 I need to have your past cast because the last 0:11:52.960 --> 0:11:55.000 person I was with cheated on me. That I want 0:11:55.000 --> 0:11:56.280 to make sure that you don't do the same thing. 0:11:56.720 --> 0:11:58.719 I think that all these traumas that we don't get 0:11:58.720 --> 0:12:00.920 to heal from, that's the reason why you know you 0:12:01.000 --> 0:12:05.120 have crazy you know, toxic women like myself. Oh my god, 0:12:05.160 --> 0:12:07.079 I can't believe I just said that out loud. When 0:12:07.080 --> 0:12:09.319 a woman usually asked, it means that we already know 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:17.480 did something. No, ladies glon, No, my god, they see 0:12:17.480 --> 0:12:20.719 at the mina, let me see your phone. That means 0:12:20.760 --> 0:12:23.000 we already know. We already No, we just want to 0:12:23.000 --> 0:12:25.520 see it with our eyes. But we already know. Women 0:12:25.600 --> 0:12:27.600 don't just come and attack for no reason. When we 0:12:27.720 --> 0:12:29.600 say something is already because we have all the proof 0:12:29.640 --> 0:12:31.600 of all the text. I already know who you're talking to, 0:12:31.640 --> 0:12:34.360 already know where she lives, already know everything. And don't 0:12:34.360 --> 0:12:37.320 say that's why I want to know. Give me your 0:12:37.520 --> 0:12:41.640 past code saying I'm gonna figure out how to get it, 0:12:41.880 --> 0:12:45.439 face recognition, your fingers, something the moment you're leaking for. 0:12:45.720 --> 0:12:47.800 Oh my god, tell me if you've never done this, 0:12:48.520 --> 0:12:50.440 Just tell me if I'm dealing one that has problems. 0:12:50.679 --> 0:12:53.400 Have you ever been with your significant other and you 0:12:53.480 --> 0:12:56.040 think you were just being thin, slick, and from the 0:12:56.040 --> 0:12:58.160 corner of your eye you were paying attention to what 0:12:58.440 --> 0:13:01.080 fingers they pressed on their on the phone to learn 0:13:01.120 --> 0:13:05.400 the code? Have ever done that? You are like I 0:13:05.480 --> 0:13:08.720 have if I'm with if I'm with my man or whatever, 0:13:09.160 --> 0:13:12.480 and then I see him go up down down, up 0:13:12.840 --> 0:13:16.800 three two. I may only see the two last numbers, 0:13:17.120 --> 0:13:20.320 but I saw the motion you went up down, down. 0:13:20.679 --> 0:13:23.720 That means it's probably eight or zero, right. And then 0:13:25.480 --> 0:13:27.760 oh my god, I get problems and then I literally 0:13:27.760 --> 0:13:29.400 be like this trying to figure it out. Then you 0:13:29.440 --> 0:13:31.800 don't want to block the phone, so you gotta leave alone. Yeah, 0:13:31.800 --> 0:13:34.040 but you know there's some there's some man that would 0:13:34.040 --> 0:13:36.040 tell women, oh, let me get your pass cold, but 0:13:36.040 --> 0:13:38.160 then they won't give their pass cold. But let me 0:13:38.160 --> 0:13:40.240 tell you something. I know that we have so much 0:13:40.280 --> 0:13:43.040 to discuss right now, because this definitely is interesting, And 0:13:43.080 --> 0:13:44.880 you know what, I think it makes me feel good 0:13:44.880 --> 0:13:46.880 to just vent. I just want to vent and be 0:13:46.960 --> 0:13:48.880 honest and tell you the tea about myself, things that 0:13:48.920 --> 0:13:50.920 I never thought that I would say alloud. But I 0:13:50.960 --> 0:13:53.240 want to live a judgment free life. I want to 0:13:53.280 --> 0:13:55.800 this is a judgment free zone, exactly what man has 0:13:55.880 --> 0:13:58.400 just been free. And if you're toxic, if you're crazy, 0:13:58.679 --> 0:14:01.560 if you be straight at b I spying on your man, 0:14:01.679 --> 0:14:03.439 whatever the case would be, what you probably shouldn't do 0:14:03.480 --> 0:14:05.240 because that's super unhealthy. But I can't tell you not 0:14:05.360 --> 0:14:06.840 to do it because I'm the first one that does it, 0:14:06.960 --> 0:14:08.240 and I'm gonna teach you how to do it too, 0:14:08.280 --> 0:14:10.000 But please don't listen to me because you're not supposed 0:14:10.000 --> 0:14:12.160 to do it. Then stay in to him because we 0:14:12.200 --> 0:14:18.959 will be right back with more of exactly a mada earlier, 0:14:19.040 --> 0:14:23.000 we're talking about privacy, like how much privacy is privacy 0:14:23.040 --> 0:14:25.880 when you're in a relationship. Aren't you supposed to trust 0:14:25.880 --> 0:14:28.640 on your significant other? And tones if you're talking about 0:14:29.240 --> 0:14:31.560 sharing each other's past code, is that good or is 0:14:31.600 --> 0:14:34.640 that bad? Like is that a bad thing that you're 0:14:34.640 --> 0:14:36.440 all up in your man's or your girl's phone? Or 0:14:36.480 --> 0:14:38.480 it's cool because if you're together, you have nothing to 0:14:38.560 --> 0:14:40.800 hide them. We should be fine. And then I also 0:14:40.840 --> 0:14:43.360 confess the fact that I have a GPS in my 0:14:43.400 --> 0:14:46.080 booze car. You got me all the way funked up 0:14:46.160 --> 0:14:48.920 like that dangling belongs to me, and I want to 0:14:48.960 --> 0:14:51.000 know where you act for your own protection, so I'm 0:14:51.040 --> 0:14:53.720 make sure to slade up a GPS in his car 0:14:54.080 --> 0:14:57.080 and I'll be watching it from my phone. Period. I 0:14:57.120 --> 0:15:00.160 cannot believe this is why you should not give me 0:15:00.280 --> 0:15:03.840 your past code if you are in a relationship with Okay, 0:15:03.880 --> 0:15:05.680 this is why I'm gonna break it down to you. 0:15:06.040 --> 0:15:08.560 There is a lot of people that have me blocked 0:15:08.840 --> 0:15:12.280 on social media, but they don't have my significant other blocked, right, 0:15:12.840 --> 0:15:15.720 So I am going to if you piss me the 0:15:15.760 --> 0:15:19.080 hell off, I'm gonna grab your my significant other's phone 0:15:19.320 --> 0:15:21.560 and I'm gonna go under their comments if I see 0:15:21.600 --> 0:15:23.720 something that I don't like, Like if you're trying to 0:15:23.760 --> 0:15:25.640 throw a sub at me and you thought that I 0:15:25.640 --> 0:15:29.000 can't grab my significant other's phone and just reply under 0:15:29.040 --> 0:15:31.480 her phone, So it's gonna be that's no. But that's 0:15:32.880 --> 0:15:35.280 that's that's just you being you know that has nothing 0:15:35.280 --> 0:15:37.280 to do with your significant other. She don't care what 0:15:37.360 --> 0:15:39.440 you do with her phone because you know you're gonna 0:15:39.480 --> 0:15:41.400 be spieful with somebody else. But it's what you do. 0:15:46.280 --> 0:15:49.160 Will you be mad if you're grabbed your phone? No, 0:15:49.320 --> 0:15:52.120 if my man grabs my phone to be spiful with 0:15:52.200 --> 0:15:56.120 someone else. Now, if you're being spieful towards me and 0:15:56.160 --> 0:15:59.760 don't say see and talking about privacy, you know something 0:15:59.800 --> 0:16:02.880 that happens a lot to these days, which has happened 0:16:02.920 --> 0:16:05.480 to me. Um, you know even with with you know 0:16:05.640 --> 0:16:11.040 my boothing the location, they're always asking for location, location, 0:16:11.320 --> 0:16:14.040 I want to see where you're at. Is that a 0:16:14.080 --> 0:16:16.480 bad thing? Should you? Okay? Is that as bad? What 0:16:16.560 --> 0:16:18.920 do you rather to give your pass code or share 0:16:18.960 --> 0:16:24.920 your location location because you're far away and let them 0:16:24.920 --> 0:16:28.560 pull up and let them put up. And especially if 0:16:28.560 --> 0:16:31.960 my location is miles and miles away because I'm on 0:16:32.000 --> 0:16:38.560 a flight that happens a live They're like, give me 0:16:38.560 --> 0:16:41.040 a location. I want to know where you're at. And 0:16:41.120 --> 0:16:43.480 some people do pull up. I will be the type 0:16:43.480 --> 0:16:45.480 of girl to pull up, like give me your location. 0:16:45.480 --> 0:16:48.360 Now do you give them like your hole like find 0:16:48.400 --> 0:16:51.120 me um on your phone location? Or you just do 0:16:51.200 --> 0:16:53.360 like a what's happening? It's like literally from one hour 0:16:53.520 --> 0:16:55.800 eight hours. Yeah, I need to know. I need to 0:16:56.840 --> 0:17:01.960 problem you are. Honestly, I have worked. I would have 0:17:01.960 --> 0:17:05.440 made a lot of money in Nina. There's more, there's more. 0:17:05.560 --> 0:17:08.760 I got more, Mina. Here's another thing. Did you know 0:17:09.080 --> 0:17:12.720 talking about privacy and your significant other? Inky, you never 0:17:12.840 --> 0:17:15.640 really know somebody you could be dating them forever. Read 0:17:15.720 --> 0:17:18.080 that and then you never already know. Okay, they're trashed 0:17:18.119 --> 0:17:19.840 deep down and step Okay they still want to be 0:17:19.880 --> 0:17:22.040 with you and with you, but they want to have options. 0:17:22.440 --> 0:17:25.280 That's why these days there's a whole bunch of apps 0:17:25.520 --> 0:17:28.439 that they come okay there, like the bologny fake apps 0:17:28.480 --> 0:17:30.840 that look like, oh he's playing bingo, but deep down 0:17:30.880 --> 0:17:33.520 inside when you go and click, there's like a whole 0:17:33.520 --> 0:17:37.040 bunch of folders with like naughty pictures and private conversations 0:17:37.040 --> 0:17:41.160 and all types stuff. Did you know that Nina secret? 0:17:44.320 --> 0:17:48.879 You can hide it, commide it with these apps like 0:17:48.119 --> 0:17:53.880 oh like that, and you have to communicate. That's where 0:17:53.880 --> 0:17:56.720 communication is key. Let's communicate. Tell me what you like, 0:17:56.760 --> 0:17:58.280 tell me what you don't like. This you won't have 0:17:58.320 --> 0:18:00.639 to feel the need to hide aoda. They say that 0:18:00.640 --> 0:18:03.239 there's nothing better than um, there's no better pussy than 0:18:03.280 --> 0:18:06.000 new pussy, or the same thing. There's nothing better than 0:18:06.000 --> 0:18:09.440 new thingling that Okay, I get it. You may still 0:18:09.480 --> 0:18:12.200 love your significant other because just because they might be, 0:18:12.720 --> 0:18:14.600 you know, cheating or doing something weird. I don't feel 0:18:14.600 --> 0:18:16.199 that it means that they don't love you. It just 0:18:16.240 --> 0:18:18.720 means maybe they get bored of eating rice every day, 0:18:18.720 --> 0:18:27.520 So damn that's fucked up. So then how does that happen? Look, 0:18:27.520 --> 0:18:29.680 we're going off topic, But in my mind, I'm just thinking, 0:18:29.960 --> 0:18:34.280 how do those sixty years, so Spanish of you, those 0:18:34.320 --> 0:18:37.439 sixty year relationships, how did they survive? They survived with 0:18:37.520 --> 0:18:40.719 no phones, with no dating apps, with no social media, 0:18:41.800 --> 0:18:43.880 and they were taking the sixty years with the same 0:18:43.920 --> 0:18:46.200 thought on the same dingling every single day. Wow, I 0:18:46.240 --> 0:18:48.280 don't know if I can do it. It's so much 0:18:48.320 --> 0:18:52.000 easier to cheat nowadays. Back you have so much access, 0:18:52.119 --> 0:18:54.919 especially through phones. So if you're trying to keep your 0:18:54.920 --> 0:18:58.640 other significant other accountable and you're saying, let's get let's 0:18:58.680 --> 0:19:01.800 have each other's past cold, then I'm for that, you know, 0:19:02.320 --> 0:19:05.120 if you're if you're significant others a sex attic, you know, 0:19:05.480 --> 0:19:07.520 and you know and you're trying to help them out 0:19:07.560 --> 0:19:10.080 and then you realize, hey, I was once there then 0:19:10.640 --> 0:19:14.639 that you know, like you want to be all up 0:19:14.640 --> 0:19:17.280 in my phone all that. It's just there's some women 0:19:17.720 --> 0:19:20.840 that men that are very psycho and like they're gonna 0:19:20.880 --> 0:19:23.680 want to like always be in your phone, and it's 0:19:23.720 --> 0:19:26.479 like going, you nothing. The only privacy that I have 0:19:26.840 --> 0:19:28.680 is when I go into the toilet, take a ship 0:19:28.760 --> 0:19:30.879 and look at my phone. That's the only privacy I have. 0:19:31.160 --> 0:19:34.359 And it depends because even if you're in the toilet, no, no, 0:19:34.520 --> 0:19:36.480 And it depends because even if you're in your toilet, 0:19:37.920 --> 0:19:40.639 in the toilet, I'll sit down right there next to 0:19:40.680 --> 0:19:42.760 you and I'm gonna have a whole conversation if I 0:19:42.840 --> 0:19:46.840 love you. Yeah, you have done it. Now. Let me 0:19:46.840 --> 0:19:53.640 tell you this. If you're in the bathroom, I don't 0:19:53.640 --> 0:19:55.600 have a problem with you being in the bathroom. My 0:19:55.720 --> 0:20:00.280 thing is why in the bathroom so long? You don't 0:20:00.280 --> 0:20:02.359 have to push that hard? And if you need assistance pushing, 0:20:02.640 --> 0:20:06.040 let me help you because because okay, or if you 0:20:06.040 --> 0:20:08.320 want to push it. Look, if it's been thirty minutes, 0:20:08.600 --> 0:20:11.400 that being sometimes you know you'll be getting caught up. 0:20:11.480 --> 0:20:12.879 And I get it because I'd be caught up in 0:20:12.880 --> 0:20:16.680 my phone forty minutes. But if you're in their own ality, peagle, 0:20:16.760 --> 0:20:19.720 stuck in your phone, get that. You gotta push out. 0:20:19.760 --> 0:20:22.359 You're texting, you're talking to another bitch. I'm about to 0:20:22.400 --> 0:20:33.680 turn off your damn froot. Look all this period, See 0:20:33.720 --> 0:20:36.440 I know better. Talking about privacy, you want to get 0:20:36.480 --> 0:20:39.720 even deeper into privacy and social media and phones and everything. 0:20:40.520 --> 0:20:44.360 What about the phones? What about all these apps? Snapchat? 0:20:44.480 --> 0:20:46.840 Snapchat to me? Was the one that first started with 0:20:46.880 --> 0:20:52.360 the sneaky Sneaky snake. If oh, you can record videos, delete, 0:20:52.560 --> 0:20:55.960 you can write messages and those Now they have like 0:20:56.000 --> 0:20:58.639 these private things with the private cameras. Can you have 0:20:58.640 --> 0:21:01.399 to press a code? You know, take a cheeter cheeter 0:21:01.440 --> 0:21:03.840 punkin eater. It makes me feel gay? What are you doing? 0:21:04.280 --> 0:21:07.040 I'm about to delete my my snapchat because I don't 0:21:07.040 --> 0:21:10.080 be doing freaky stuff like that, because it would inform 0:21:10.119 --> 0:21:13.200 you when somebody took you were able to snap at 0:21:13.840 --> 0:21:17.080 and then they would inform you screenshot right, and then 0:21:17.119 --> 0:21:19.800 they would inform you that the other person was shot. 0:21:19.880 --> 0:21:28.240 That was good gowhere. Actually that's a lie. That's a 0:21:28.280 --> 0:21:31.399 lie because like I've done it. Oh my god, I 0:21:31.440 --> 0:21:33.240 know that I got problems because you'll say you don't 0:21:33.240 --> 0:21:37.679 have toxic professional you're not me too. I'm toxic and 0:21:37.760 --> 0:21:40.000 that's not good. And I know that I need the Lord, 0:21:41.600 --> 0:21:43.239 I need a therapist because I know that I got 0:21:43.280 --> 0:21:45.040 problems because let me tell you something. I would be 0:21:45.080 --> 0:21:47.439 the one to be like mommy. I'll tell you my 0:21:47.520 --> 0:21:53.600