1 00:00:05,120 --> 00:00:07,080 Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and I I welcome to 2 00:00:07,120 --> 00:00:19,239 Speaker 1: stephone Never Told your production of iHeart Radio, and welcome 3 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:22,439 Speaker 1: to another edition of a watch party. I'm going on 4 00:00:22,600 --> 00:00:24,720 Speaker 1: this the watch party at this point or sex in 5 00:00:24,720 --> 00:00:27,560 Speaker 1: the City. Um, if we wanted to call it a 6 00:00:27,600 --> 00:00:30,600 Speaker 1: throwback Thursday, if you're watching this on a Thursday, we 7 00:00:30,640 --> 00:00:35,760 Speaker 1: could call it that as well. Because these are very 8 00:00:35,760 --> 00:00:39,879 Speaker 1: old episodes, late nineties. I remember these and he doesn't 9 00:00:39,920 --> 00:00:42,240 Speaker 1: know these, never seen it, never seen it first time, 10 00:00:42,560 --> 00:00:45,919 Speaker 1: because it's supposed to be enjoyed after hours this kind 11 00:00:45,920 --> 00:00:48,640 Speaker 1: of segment, we are going to be doing some adult 12 00:00:48,760 --> 00:00:54,000 Speaker 1: refuges and with that a right now we're not being 13 00:00:54,040 --> 00:00:57,000 Speaker 1: sponsored by the products that we are talking about. Nope, 14 00:00:57,080 --> 00:01:00,200 Speaker 1: it could change, you never know. Also, yeah, maybe three 15 00:01:00,280 --> 00:01:02,920 Speaker 1: years down the road, you listen to those who knows 16 00:01:02,960 --> 00:01:07,959 Speaker 1: and things have massively changed. Whatever. Also, if you are drinking, 17 00:01:08,160 --> 00:01:11,040 Speaker 1: partaking in the adult level, be responsible. If you're not 18 00:01:11,240 --> 00:01:14,320 Speaker 1: whatever you're doing, be responsible. You know, I know you 19 00:01:14,400 --> 00:01:18,119 Speaker 1: might be on the road enjoying this episode. Be aware 20 00:01:18,120 --> 00:01:23,520 Speaker 1: of the road. Be responsible. Don't laugh so hard, so 21 00:01:23,600 --> 00:01:28,280 Speaker 1: hard you're not paying attention to the road. Right that 22 00:01:28,440 --> 00:01:33,720 Speaker 1: wass a You'll walkome so andie, what did I give 23 00:01:33,760 --> 00:01:35,640 Speaker 1: you to sit on? Because yes, we are together today, 24 00:01:35,680 --> 00:01:42,440 Speaker 1: we are and are very fancy funny sports broadcasters set up. Um, 25 00:01:42,600 --> 00:01:45,800 Speaker 1: you very kindly gave me some prosecco, which is lovely 26 00:01:45,840 --> 00:01:48,960 Speaker 1: and tart, and I'm enjoying it very much. Yes, so, listeners, 27 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:52,680 Speaker 1: I had intended for us to do Mimosa's I realized, Oh, 28 00:01:52,680 --> 00:01:55,840 Speaker 1: I drink all the orange juice so pretty late in 29 00:01:55,880 --> 00:02:00,000 Speaker 1: the game. Oh, never mind. So she is drinking up 30 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:04,440 Speaker 1: succo and I'm dreaking a prosocco with cherry tart cherry juice, 31 00:02:04,840 --> 00:02:07,760 Speaker 1: which is which if you're on TikTok, you know that's 32 00:02:07,760 --> 00:02:09,600 Speaker 1: a thing right now. And I kind of jumped on 33 00:02:09,639 --> 00:02:12,040 Speaker 1: board with it to test it out for sleep. Essentially, 34 00:02:12,200 --> 00:02:14,120 Speaker 1: it does not help me, just don't you know. But 35 00:02:14,200 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 1: it's delicious, okay, and I like it, And so I 36 00:02:17,200 --> 00:02:18,600 Speaker 1: was like, you know what, I'm going to add that 37 00:02:19,360 --> 00:02:21,880 Speaker 1: it makes it extra tart. So I did put a 38 00:02:21,960 --> 00:02:26,320 Speaker 1: hint of a gobe. I'm being professional. I'm being so professional. 39 00:02:26,800 --> 00:02:30,119 Speaker 1: And were we have fancy flutes, y'all? I think any 40 00:02:30,280 --> 00:02:33,120 Speaker 1: you got given these flutes to me after I broke 41 00:02:33,160 --> 00:02:38,359 Speaker 1: a few. Yeah, It's amazing how many you broke. How 42 00:02:38,400 --> 00:02:40,840 Speaker 1: did you do this? Because away from one time I 43 00:02:40,960 --> 00:02:44,000 Speaker 1: literally just walked by water and it fell over, jumped 44 00:02:44,040 --> 00:02:48,359 Speaker 1: off the calendar. I think I have the force. You 45 00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:53,680 Speaker 1: really hate blues fancy. Okay, but yes, we are watching 46 00:02:53,760 --> 00:02:56,679 Speaker 1: another episode of Sex in the City. Y'all. We are 47 00:02:56,800 --> 00:02:59,079 Speaker 1: not even in the middle of season two, it turns out, 48 00:02:59,200 --> 00:03:02,560 Speaker 1: but we're getting there. We are um and again, listeners, 49 00:03:02,600 --> 00:03:05,560 Speaker 1: we are still going to have a listener participation for 50 00:03:05,600 --> 00:03:08,280 Speaker 1: the finale, so you know, keep letting us know if 51 00:03:08,280 --> 00:03:10,160 Speaker 1: you're interested. For those of you have already shouted out 52 00:03:10,200 --> 00:03:12,600 Speaker 1: to us through emails, through d m s, through our 53 00:03:12,639 --> 00:03:16,720 Speaker 1: actual posts. Yeah, we got you, all right. But if 54 00:03:16,720 --> 00:03:18,720 Speaker 1: you're interested in you're like, you know what, I would 55 00:03:18,760 --> 00:03:20,520 Speaker 1: love to join? Just to join. You don't even have 56 00:03:20,600 --> 00:03:23,040 Speaker 1: to know what the series is about. You can just 57 00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:25,320 Speaker 1: know that it's about four women coming together and often 58 00:03:25,320 --> 00:03:28,840 Speaker 1: talking about sex in the city, in the city, and 59 00:03:28,880 --> 00:03:31,120 Speaker 1: somehow we'll end up talking about the meeting of life. Yes, 60 00:03:31,400 --> 00:03:34,840 Speaker 1: we get I love it all right. So Annie, can 61 00:03:34,880 --> 00:03:38,080 Speaker 1: you give us a recap of what has happened thus far? Okay, 62 00:03:38,360 --> 00:03:43,320 Speaker 1: so the end of season one, Carrie and Big broke up, 63 00:03:44,480 --> 00:03:47,400 Speaker 1: and now in the last episode there's been a lot 64 00:03:47,440 --> 00:03:50,760 Speaker 1: of like Carrie trying to figure out this being single 65 00:03:50,960 --> 00:03:54,040 Speaker 1: and dating in New York again. But then we find 66 00:03:54,080 --> 00:03:57,080 Speaker 1: out that she is kind of going behind her friends 67 00:03:57,080 --> 00:04:01,480 Speaker 1: backs and is back with Big. They do not approve 68 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:07,960 Speaker 1: with reasonable reasons, I think, Um, but as she has recommitted, 69 00:04:07,960 --> 00:04:10,280 Speaker 1: I guess. And then they were talking about why they 70 00:04:10,360 --> 00:04:13,840 Speaker 1: broke up and like can't we be together? All of 71 00:04:13,880 --> 00:04:18,159 Speaker 1: those things. I would say, that's the main the main issue. 72 00:04:18,160 --> 00:04:19,960 Speaker 1: And then you've got a lot of conversation around. We 73 00:04:20,040 --> 00:04:24,880 Speaker 1: talked a lot about like queer spaces in the last one, um, 74 00:04:25,000 --> 00:04:27,320 Speaker 1: cheating and how to define it, you know, those general 75 00:04:27,360 --> 00:04:30,760 Speaker 1: relationship questions. Still going on. Yeah, very good, very good, 76 00:04:30,760 --> 00:04:32,400 Speaker 1: thank you, very proud of you, thank you. All Right, 77 00:04:32,480 --> 00:04:35,440 Speaker 1: So we are on a season two episode seven for 78 00:04:35,560 --> 00:04:38,720 Speaker 1: those who are trying to keep up. In the title 79 00:04:38,800 --> 00:04:43,240 Speaker 1: of this one, the Chicken Dance, you said it several times, 80 00:04:43,320 --> 00:04:46,240 Speaker 1: and I've been like in my mind trying to process 81 00:04:46,240 --> 00:04:49,039 Speaker 1: what this could be. The Only thing I can really 82 00:04:49,040 --> 00:04:54,520 Speaker 1: think of is like going through social cues that we 83 00:04:54,560 --> 00:04:58,200 Speaker 1: all do and know, but they make no sense, um, 84 00:04:58,200 --> 00:05:02,560 Speaker 1: like going through the motions because that's what society expects, 85 00:05:02,560 --> 00:05:05,200 Speaker 1: but we don't really know why, and we all think 86 00:05:05,240 --> 00:05:08,960 Speaker 1: it's ridiculous if we actually stop and think about it. 87 00:05:09,880 --> 00:05:12,160 Speaker 1: I wonder if, because now they know that big is 88 00:05:12,200 --> 00:05:13,920 Speaker 1: back in the picture, if it's kind of that thing. 89 00:05:14,480 --> 00:05:16,960 Speaker 1: I'm going to get this one so wrong. It's kind 90 00:05:16,960 --> 00:05:19,159 Speaker 1: of that thing where you your friend you talk trashed 91 00:05:19,160 --> 00:05:22,520 Speaker 1: about the person they broke up with, and then they 92 00:05:22,560 --> 00:05:25,359 Speaker 1: get back together and you have to be like, you 93 00:05:25,400 --> 00:05:28,800 Speaker 1: have to dance around the question. We don't like this guy. 94 00:05:30,040 --> 00:05:32,680 Speaker 1: I know I'm gonna get it so wrong. That's an 95 00:05:32,720 --> 00:05:35,760 Speaker 1: interesting take. I like this. Okay, Okay, we'll come back 96 00:05:35,800 --> 00:05:37,919 Speaker 1: and I'll give you a grade on a scale that 97 00:05:37,960 --> 00:05:40,680 Speaker 1: doesn't exist. But that hasn't been consistent as we've been doing. 98 00:05:41,720 --> 00:05:44,880 Speaker 1: Let us begin. Okay, the chicken dance. Oh my gosh, 99 00:05:45,240 --> 00:05:50,800 Speaker 1: I have no idea. Really are doing well. I can 100 00:05:50,880 --> 00:05:55,080 Speaker 1: tell by the look on your face. I'm trying supportive. 101 00:05:55,560 --> 00:06:14,719 Speaker 1: I appreciated it, kind of confused. Most single people in 102 00:06:14,760 --> 00:06:18,360 Speaker 1: Manhattan do not buy furniture or hang pictures until faced 103 00:06:18,400 --> 00:06:20,400 Speaker 1: with the arrival of an out of town Okay, that's 104 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:22,000 Speaker 1: a great by the way, A hard thing to do 105 00:06:22,080 --> 00:06:26,080 Speaker 1: is not the perfect furniture. Yes, because of the pandemic. 106 00:06:26,680 --> 00:06:29,719 Speaker 1: My couch has got literally a dance and I think, 107 00:06:29,839 --> 00:06:33,040 Speaker 1: I'm like, can I prop it up from the bottom 108 00:06:32,760 --> 00:06:35,640 Speaker 1: the cushion? If you can't, I can't flip the cushion, 109 00:06:35,720 --> 00:06:39,440 Speaker 1: and it's a too cheap of a couch. Jeremy is 110 00:06:39,520 --> 00:06:42,440 Speaker 1: coming to visit Miranda, so she has a whole designer 111 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:45,039 Speaker 1: and she's got dancing frogs as are to go with 112 00:06:45,400 --> 00:06:48,360 Speaker 1: this new sofa. This is so funny because this guy, 113 00:06:49,680 --> 00:06:52,520 Speaker 1: my ex boyfriend, thought he in his mind we were 114 00:06:52,560 --> 00:06:54,360 Speaker 1: dating for a lot longer than I thought we were dating. 115 00:06:55,160 --> 00:06:57,800 Speaker 1: He as he kept staying over at night and he'd said, 116 00:06:57,839 --> 00:07:00,200 Speaker 1: on my couch. So I got a sleeping couch because 117 00:07:00,200 --> 00:07:04,680 Speaker 1: I'm an idiot and thought like, I didn't realize, but 118 00:07:04,760 --> 00:07:09,160 Speaker 1: I still have it amazing. Instead of him sleeping in 119 00:07:09,200 --> 00:07:11,720 Speaker 1: your bed with you, you're like, have Aansia couch, enjoying 120 00:07:11,880 --> 00:07:22,680 Speaker 1: a new couch and you can sleep on it. The 121 00:07:22,760 --> 00:07:25,520 Speaker 1: next night, when Jeremy arrived, he was even more adorable 122 00:07:25,560 --> 00:07:30,640 Speaker 1: than Miranda remembered, I love your flat, thanks, so how 123 00:07:30,680 --> 00:07:33,440 Speaker 1: the hell are you? Especially when he said I'm tired 124 00:07:33,440 --> 00:07:37,160 Speaker 1: of dating. I'm ready to get married. All right, So 125 00:07:37,280 --> 00:07:39,320 Speaker 1: Jeremy the Phone has come hang out with Miranda and 126 00:07:39,360 --> 00:07:42,320 Speaker 1: he wants to get married to Miranda. No. Just in general, 127 00:07:43,640 --> 00:07:46,040 Speaker 1: it's like he came in of nowhere. No no, no. 128 00:07:46,360 --> 00:07:49,840 Speaker 1: But I think she's trying to aim for it. I 129 00:07:50,000 --> 00:07:52,600 Speaker 1: hope you like this. Here comes a decorator with an 130 00:07:52,640 --> 00:07:57,680 Speaker 1: end table. I was thinking, oh, hi, sorry, interrup, that's beautiful, 131 00:07:58,120 --> 00:08:01,680 Speaker 1: is it? Biedermeyer inspired by me My Love at First 132 00:08:01,720 --> 00:08:06,200 Speaker 1: Sight Jeremy Madeleine. I think it's interesting when you kind 133 00:08:06,200 --> 00:08:08,920 Speaker 1: of decide like it's time to get married, and then 134 00:08:10,440 --> 00:08:12,560 Speaker 1: it just becomes like not, I don't know, like a 135 00:08:12,640 --> 00:08:15,160 Speaker 1: task you have too complete, as opposed to something Well, 136 00:08:15,200 --> 00:08:17,240 Speaker 1: I've talked about friends that I've had that like they 137 00:08:17,320 --> 00:08:19,840 Speaker 1: had like a schedule, like I'm at this age, I 138 00:08:19,880 --> 00:08:22,320 Speaker 1: need to be married, I do this, and I feel 139 00:08:22,360 --> 00:08:24,440 Speaker 1: like that used to be an old school thing as 140 00:08:24,480 --> 00:08:27,080 Speaker 1: of late, and thank god to the new gen z 141 00:08:27,280 --> 00:08:29,800 Speaker 1: or so like noah, we're good, good on you keep 142 00:08:29,840 --> 00:08:33,200 Speaker 1: that mentality, because yeah, it feels like if he's a chore, 143 00:08:33,280 --> 00:08:43,040 Speaker 1: you're always going to make that mistake. Yeah, well I'm 144 00:08:43,040 --> 00:08:47,400 Speaker 1: pretty beat. Did you want to go No? Not? If 145 00:08:47,400 --> 00:08:52,640 Speaker 1: you're well, I can find my way back. And of 146 00:08:52,640 --> 00:08:56,400 Speaker 1: course Miranda's a third will not a fun feeling I forgot, 147 00:08:56,559 --> 00:08:58,440 Speaker 1: especially when it's your friend that you have a crush on, 148 00:08:58,480 --> 00:09:00,760 Speaker 1: you're watching them fall in love with some else. You 149 00:09:00,800 --> 00:09:06,040 Speaker 1: were like insecurities of that alone. I always was the 150 00:09:06,120 --> 00:09:09,320 Speaker 1: friend that I watched my friend get together with a crush. 151 00:09:09,360 --> 00:09:11,920 Speaker 1: I haven't A few times to me, actually yeah a 152 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:16,119 Speaker 1: few times. Yeah it's not fun, it's I feel traumatized 153 00:09:16,160 --> 00:09:19,040 Speaker 1: right now. It is funny though, because like, looking back, 154 00:09:19,080 --> 00:09:21,560 Speaker 1: I never wanted to date like anybody. There was one 155 00:09:21,559 --> 00:09:23,920 Speaker 1: guy who dated everybody my friend group of me, and 156 00:09:23,960 --> 00:09:26,080 Speaker 1: I was offended by it, even though I didn't want 157 00:09:26,080 --> 00:09:30,640 Speaker 1: to date him. Are you going around but everybody but me? 158 00:09:30,679 --> 00:09:42,320 Speaker 1: I don't, Dan, I need a visual. I don't know 159 00:09:42,360 --> 00:09:49,240 Speaker 1: a top strapless denim. She's kind of sex talking. Yeah, big, 160 00:09:49,760 --> 00:09:51,439 Speaker 1: this is about the level I would ever be able 161 00:09:51,480 --> 00:09:57,800 Speaker 1: to do. It's like, yeah, we're like, I'm too literal. 162 00:09:57,840 --> 00:10:07,320 Speaker 1: This is too ridiculous. How can you believe in love 163 00:10:07,360 --> 00:10:09,600 Speaker 1: at first sight in a city where people jerk off 164 00:10:10,040 --> 00:10:12,160 Speaker 1: in this subway? I'm thinking a hard fist. Do you 165 00:10:12,160 --> 00:10:15,600 Speaker 1: believe in love first sight? Four? Now think I think 166 00:10:15,640 --> 00:10:17,880 Speaker 1: there's a way I could justify, like I get feeling 167 00:10:17,880 --> 00:10:20,559 Speaker 1: it immediate attraction that leads to something that is love. 168 00:10:20,679 --> 00:10:23,280 Speaker 1: But I don't think you can just be like, oh, yeah, 169 00:10:23,840 --> 00:10:25,760 Speaker 1: I'm in love. But that could just be how I 170 00:10:25,880 --> 00:10:29,200 Speaker 1: understand love. I feel like it could be dangerous because 171 00:10:29,320 --> 00:10:31,480 Speaker 1: oftentimes when you do that, you have blinders to the 172 00:10:31,559 --> 00:10:34,760 Speaker 1: red flags that will like make you think or excuse 173 00:10:34,840 --> 00:10:37,679 Speaker 1: it and or allow it, and then it grows old 174 00:10:37,840 --> 00:10:41,560 Speaker 1: because you've not dealt with it right, and like that's 175 00:10:41,720 --> 00:10:43,959 Speaker 1: that's the only thing you've seen and sometimes you can't 176 00:10:44,520 --> 00:10:48,000 Speaker 1: see it, if that makes sense, Like yeah, yeah, I 177 00:10:48,760 --> 00:10:50,760 Speaker 1: don't know. Yeah, I know it's a romantic idea. I 178 00:10:50,840 --> 00:10:53,079 Speaker 1: get why it's romantic. Of course, we all want to 179 00:10:53,080 --> 00:10:54,719 Speaker 1: be swept off our face. Like there's like a level 180 00:10:54,760 --> 00:11:03,280 Speaker 1: of romance to that. Why did I agree to this? 181 00:11:03,440 --> 00:11:05,840 Speaker 1: I write about sex, not love, but I know about love. 182 00:11:06,040 --> 00:11:08,720 Speaker 1: I might have to get married now, what that guy 183 00:11:08,840 --> 00:11:11,800 Speaker 1: I picked up at Miranda's. Alright, so Carrie is now 184 00:11:12,440 --> 00:11:15,840 Speaker 1: being asked to like read for her wedding this girl 185 00:11:15,920 --> 00:11:19,120 Speaker 1: that no one really knows, which, By the way, I've 186 00:11:19,120 --> 00:11:22,680 Speaker 1: been in so many weddings. I just suspise weddings actually, 187 00:11:22,840 --> 00:11:27,000 Speaker 1: like because of that I despised weddings because I was 188 00:11:27,080 --> 00:11:30,160 Speaker 1: in so many weddings before before five that I was like, 189 00:11:30,240 --> 00:11:31,600 Speaker 1: I'm done. I think I had kind of like ten 190 00:11:31,679 --> 00:11:34,719 Speaker 1: to twelve weddings that I'm I had been participating in 191 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:36,599 Speaker 1: or had like help in that. I'm like this is 192 00:11:36,640 --> 00:11:42,320 Speaker 1: awful and I hated. Yeah, maybe that's why I don't 193 00:11:42,360 --> 00:11:44,559 Speaker 1: like marriage in general. Like in general, I hate the 194 00:11:44,600 --> 00:11:48,000 Speaker 1: ceremony of it, So don't make me do this. I'm 195 00:11:48,000 --> 00:11:50,040 Speaker 1: almost too loud. I feel like I offend people, and 196 00:11:50,120 --> 00:11:51,880 Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm definitely not gonna get married and definitely 197 00:11:52,040 --> 00:11:54,520 Speaker 1: new madding wedding like tough oft that, right. I think 198 00:11:54,520 --> 00:11:56,720 Speaker 1: people can take that personally, which I also get. It's 199 00:11:56,800 --> 00:11:59,559 Speaker 1: not it's not my own experience of like I'm never 200 00:11:59,679 --> 00:12:03,200 Speaker 1: doing us right, I don't even want to participate. Right. Well, 201 00:12:03,240 --> 00:12:06,920 Speaker 1: it's funny because I a friend of mine, I'm also 202 00:12:07,000 --> 00:12:09,719 Speaker 1: the same way beautiful ceremony. I was there and I 203 00:12:09,800 --> 00:12:11,120 Speaker 1: was like crying. I was like, oh my god, I 204 00:12:11,200 --> 00:12:13,079 Speaker 1: love is real. Marriage can work. And then the cup 205 00:12:13,120 --> 00:12:16,240 Speaker 1: to four like within a year, and I was like, 206 00:12:16,280 --> 00:12:19,760 Speaker 1: oh no, and we're not laughing at It's just like 207 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:22,760 Speaker 1: that level of like, oh, no, it's because it was 208 00:12:22,840 --> 00:12:26,120 Speaker 1: like my first time. You're like, oh, yeah, me too. Actually, 209 00:12:26,400 --> 00:12:29,199 Speaker 1: my my heart got destroyed watching this couple. They're so 210 00:12:29,360 --> 00:12:31,760 Speaker 1: perfectly and he did everything to woo her and everything 211 00:12:31,840 --> 00:12:34,840 Speaker 1: was beautiful. It was God matched, like literally in my head. 212 00:12:35,280 --> 00:12:37,679 Speaker 1: And then I went to like hang out with him 213 00:12:37,720 --> 00:12:39,160 Speaker 1: and they was in the middle of the worst time, 214 00:12:39,160 --> 00:12:42,439 Speaker 1: and I was like, what is happening? And I affected 215 00:12:42,480 --> 00:12:44,719 Speaker 1: me for a damn year, like because I could not 216 00:12:44,800 --> 00:12:47,240 Speaker 1: stop thinking about it, Like if they can't make it right, 217 00:12:47,679 --> 00:12:51,000 Speaker 1: who can? Yeah, And I think a lot of us 218 00:12:51,040 --> 00:12:55,240 Speaker 1: have been through that with like parents, where you're like, oh, 219 00:12:55,559 --> 00:12:59,840 Speaker 1: they seem so good and then they're not, like yeah, 220 00:13:00,120 --> 00:13:02,160 Speaker 1: And like you know, a lot of times in these 221 00:13:02,200 --> 00:13:04,200 Speaker 1: kind of things, we see the romantic part of the relationship. 222 00:13:04,640 --> 00:13:08,400 Speaker 1: Relationships are hard work, they're not always pretty. Yeah, But 223 00:13:08,480 --> 00:13:09,920 Speaker 1: then wedding is supposed to be kind of the like 224 00:13:10,040 --> 00:13:13,760 Speaker 1: showcase of our love. But I think about it all 225 00:13:13,800 --> 00:13:15,360 Speaker 1: the time too, because I was like, oh, my gosh, 226 00:13:15,559 --> 00:13:24,760 Speaker 1: this is beautiful and then yeah, do you know where 227 00:13:24,800 --> 00:13:28,040 Speaker 1: they want the gifts? Excuse me, I'm not the gift person. 228 00:13:28,320 --> 00:13:31,280 Speaker 1: That's some other beat list friends. Oh christ, my re 229 00:13:31,480 --> 00:13:33,640 Speaker 1: runs here of course he's here. You met him at 230 00:13:33,679 --> 00:13:37,559 Speaker 1: the engagement party. So apparently all the girls except for 231 00:13:37,679 --> 00:13:41,280 Speaker 1: Samantha are a part of this. But sam has met 232 00:13:41,320 --> 00:13:43,920 Speaker 1: someone that she had had sex with very previously, forgot 233 00:13:43,920 --> 00:13:45,719 Speaker 1: about him until he had a specific kink and that 234 00:13:45,760 --> 00:13:48,199 Speaker 1: she's like, oh, I remember you now, and now she's like, 235 00:13:48,240 --> 00:13:51,599 Speaker 1: I have repeats after the movie. Get married. That's the 236 00:13:51,679 --> 00:13:54,480 Speaker 1: only way, and those are the options. Yes, and oh, 237 00:13:54,800 --> 00:13:58,599 Speaker 1: Charlotte came down with a bomb black dress. Apparently this 238 00:13:58,720 --> 00:14:00,240 Speaker 1: is one of those weddings where the women and can 239 00:14:00,400 --> 00:14:03,960 Speaker 1: pick their own prizemad dress, which is which was rarely 240 00:14:04,080 --> 00:14:06,719 Speaker 1: at that point in time too, I mean for me 241 00:14:06,800 --> 00:14:09,640 Speaker 1: too as well. Yeah, and when I once went to 242 00:14:09,679 --> 00:14:11,920 Speaker 1: a wedding where I wore a black dress, not nearly 243 00:14:11,960 --> 00:14:14,240 Speaker 1: it's nice. But they all thought I was a waiter 244 00:14:15,000 --> 00:14:17,240 Speaker 1: and I ended up serving drinks and I made money 245 00:14:22,560 --> 00:14:26,360 Speaker 1: I don't know, and I was like not, I think 246 00:14:26,400 --> 00:14:29,400 Speaker 1: I was in college and they were like, I want 247 00:14:29,480 --> 00:14:30,640 Speaker 1: a drink and I didn't know what it was and 248 00:14:30,680 --> 00:14:36,160 Speaker 1: I'd just be like, make a drink. They're like I 249 00:14:36,280 --> 00:14:38,240 Speaker 1: asked one guy like, oh, and how do you think 250 00:14:38,320 --> 00:14:42,880 Speaker 1: that this is the worst bartender ever? I made some money. 251 00:14:53,840 --> 00:14:57,000 Speaker 1: That's what I was about to say. The dad kept 252 00:14:57,080 --> 00:14:59,600 Speaker 1: to fill of Charlotte while they were dancing, and it's 253 00:14:59,600 --> 00:15:02,440 Speaker 1: always heard me out this feeling at weddings when you 254 00:15:02,560 --> 00:15:05,280 Speaker 1: dance with the older man and it's almost like, oh, 255 00:15:05,320 --> 00:15:08,440 Speaker 1: you're so pretty. He like really succeeded with you, Like 256 00:15:08,640 --> 00:15:12,520 Speaker 1: I don't know, it's Charlotte tells him, Look, my parents 257 00:15:12,560 --> 00:15:15,720 Speaker 1: have been married for fifty years. My dad would not 258 00:15:15,800 --> 00:15:17,960 Speaker 1: cop a field just because some girl is wearing a 259 00:15:18,040 --> 00:15:22,600 Speaker 1: slutty dress, her a slut Charlotte that Martin wasn't going 260 00:15:22,640 --> 00:15:25,640 Speaker 1: to take her side now or after three or four kids, 261 00:15:26,120 --> 00:15:28,440 Speaker 1: or ever in the last four and a half hours 262 00:15:28,520 --> 00:15:30,720 Speaker 1: being going to you. But you know this whole like 263 00:15:30,840 --> 00:15:32,760 Speaker 1: taking the side Martin is gonna not going to take 264 00:15:32,760 --> 00:15:35,880 Speaker 1: the side for her. That's the whole am I. They 265 00:15:35,880 --> 00:15:40,800 Speaker 1: asked Reddit thread that the husband never takes the wife's side, 266 00:15:41,000 --> 00:15:43,600 Speaker 1: that is always on the in law side. It's true, 267 00:15:44,400 --> 00:15:46,600 Speaker 1: and I don't I don't have much experience with it, 268 00:15:46,680 --> 00:16:09,600 Speaker 1: but what I have experienced, yes you are, oh yeah 269 00:16:09,640 --> 00:16:11,800 Speaker 1: you fail. I feel like I would make an argument 270 00:16:11,840 --> 00:16:17,280 Speaker 1: that I actually did well. Why because it was it 271 00:16:17,440 --> 00:16:19,480 Speaker 1: was a performance. It was all about the performance of 272 00:16:19,520 --> 00:16:22,520 Speaker 1: a wedding and going through the actions of what you expect. 273 00:16:22,680 --> 00:16:25,160 Speaker 1: I don't want to say wedding. Well I did say wedding, 274 00:16:25,160 --> 00:16:27,640 Speaker 1: but I did say social things. And you also went 275 00:16:27,760 --> 00:16:31,120 Speaker 1: towards the friend judging. Big, there was judgment, but that 276 00:16:31,320 --> 00:16:34,040 Speaker 1: wasn't the chicken dance. I won't. Yeah, I didn't. All right, 277 00:16:34,160 --> 00:16:38,040 Speaker 1: then I'll give you a D minus, which is not 278 00:16:38,120 --> 00:16:42,160 Speaker 1: quite passing, but it's not my failing. I'm sorry. I'm 279 00:16:42,160 --> 00:16:43,680 Speaker 1: going to see your D minus and take it as 280 00:16:43,680 --> 00:16:49,440 Speaker 1: a D plus. I'll allow it. However. Yeah, so potentially 281 00:16:49,680 --> 00:16:53,800 Speaker 1: chicken dances referring to the infamous dance for weddings. Oh 282 00:16:53,920 --> 00:16:55,840 Speaker 1: really yeah? Yeah? Have you never heard of the chicken 283 00:16:55,880 --> 00:16:58,160 Speaker 1: dance and weddings? I mean I know that chicken dance. 284 00:16:58,200 --> 00:17:00,200 Speaker 1: I didn't know it was associated with weddings. Yeah, old 285 00:17:00,200 --> 00:17:02,440 Speaker 1: school level like the wedding. Like goes to a New 286 00:17:02,520 --> 00:17:05,600 Speaker 1: Girl episode one of the first I think it's like 287 00:17:05,720 --> 00:17:07,800 Speaker 1: the first season, and they all go to a wedding 288 00:17:07,840 --> 00:17:10,680 Speaker 1: and she's pretending to be nixt date who was about 289 00:17:10,720 --> 00:17:14,080 Speaker 1: to see his ex that level um, and she said, 290 00:17:14,119 --> 00:17:16,280 Speaker 1: when the chicken dance comes up, this is how I 291 00:17:16,400 --> 00:17:19,200 Speaker 1: like to do it. So kind of associated with that. 292 00:17:19,240 --> 00:17:20,560 Speaker 1: I think it's very old school, so think of it 293 00:17:20,680 --> 00:17:25,199 Speaker 1: as the old school electric slide. Oh you know how 294 00:17:25,240 --> 00:17:28,520 Speaker 1: that weddings have been different than this that I've been 295 00:17:28,560 --> 00:17:31,359 Speaker 1: to really because it's a very white person thing. I 296 00:17:31,400 --> 00:17:33,320 Speaker 1: feel like, sorry, might be wrong. I don't went to 297 00:17:33,359 --> 00:17:35,240 Speaker 1: a lot of white weddings. That is why I said it. Well, 298 00:17:36,280 --> 00:17:37,879 Speaker 1: but to be fair, I also went to a lot 299 00:17:37,920 --> 00:17:41,320 Speaker 1: of weddings that didn't hell out dancing very religious, Yes 300 00:17:41,440 --> 00:17:45,120 Speaker 1: they're very religious, or they didn't do dancing that wasn't 301 00:17:45,119 --> 00:17:48,359 Speaker 1: a part of a thing. That's the other thing. But 302 00:17:48,640 --> 00:17:51,440 Speaker 1: all that to say, that's the reference, and that it's 303 00:17:51,480 --> 00:17:54,800 Speaker 1: more about whether it's not biggest truly committing and her 304 00:17:54,880 --> 00:18:00,080 Speaker 1: dancing around asking about that, and then also like the 305 00:18:00,160 --> 00:18:03,119 Speaker 1: other part is having Miranda trying to find thinking that 306 00:18:03,320 --> 00:18:05,400 Speaker 1: this person could work out. There was always a little 307 00:18:05,400 --> 00:18:08,120 Speaker 1: flirtation and oh this is the big moment and then 308 00:18:08,320 --> 00:18:11,680 Speaker 1: being absolutely wrong. Yeah, I definitely had this moment. I'm like, 309 00:18:11,800 --> 00:18:13,560 Speaker 1: are we flirting? I feel like we're floating, and then 310 00:18:13,640 --> 00:18:20,359 Speaker 1: he dat someone else, I'm like, he's wrong. Yeah, I 311 00:18:20,520 --> 00:18:22,720 Speaker 1: have a like you know, those memories that keep you 312 00:18:22,800 --> 00:18:26,879 Speaker 1: up at night. I have one where this guy and 313 00:18:26,960 --> 00:18:28,600 Speaker 1: I've told you this abant that you know about this, 314 00:18:28,960 --> 00:18:32,399 Speaker 1: but basically I didn't know. It's sliding into D M. S. Mint. Yes, 315 00:18:32,480 --> 00:18:36,280 Speaker 1: I didn't know the thing though, and I hate to 316 00:18:36,320 --> 00:18:39,320 Speaker 1: even admit this. I wasn't the person contacting him at first, 317 00:18:40,680 --> 00:18:42,840 Speaker 1: but it did spiral out of control and it became 318 00:18:42,880 --> 00:18:47,359 Speaker 1: a thing. But I hate that that it wasn't me 319 00:18:48,560 --> 00:18:52,760 Speaker 1: and he thought it was, which is an old school trope. 320 00:18:53,040 --> 00:18:55,040 Speaker 1: I think it's a shakespeare inced trope. But it's not 321 00:18:55,080 --> 00:18:57,560 Speaker 1: the same as you wear. Someone is interested in somebody, 322 00:18:57,720 --> 00:18:59,720 Speaker 1: but someone else does all the flirting for them, and 323 00:18:59,760 --> 00:19:02,680 Speaker 1: they attracted into the writing, right, but they're not attracted 324 00:19:02,720 --> 00:19:05,920 Speaker 1: to Ye. That's true. Yeah, that is That is a 325 00:19:06,000 --> 00:19:10,399 Speaker 1: true that. It is disconcerting when you realize that you 326 00:19:10,560 --> 00:19:13,800 Speaker 1: thought you understood what a relationship was and then it's 327 00:19:13,840 --> 00:19:17,840 Speaker 1: not that thing. I've never really had what Miranda had 328 00:19:17,880 --> 00:19:20,159 Speaker 1: in this, but I've seen it happen with friends and 329 00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:24,560 Speaker 1: it's it's painful. I've definitely had things where from the 330 00:19:24,600 --> 00:19:27,960 Speaker 1: outside I'm like, oh, no, they're reading too much into this. Yeah, 331 00:19:28,080 --> 00:19:30,240 Speaker 1: they're gonna get hurt, but you can't talk them out 332 00:19:30,280 --> 00:19:34,000 Speaker 1: of it without you feeling like you're insulting them. Yeah, 333 00:19:34,280 --> 00:19:38,600 Speaker 1: it is very very tricky to like maneuver around those 334 00:19:38,640 --> 00:19:41,119 Speaker 1: things with friends where you're like, I don't think this 335 00:19:41,240 --> 00:19:42,800 Speaker 1: is what you think it is. But if somebody is 336 00:19:42,840 --> 00:19:45,520 Speaker 1: really attracted to somebody or really into somebody, they're not 337 00:19:45,560 --> 00:19:48,080 Speaker 1: going to hear it, and and you're kind of like, 338 00:19:48,800 --> 00:19:51,200 Speaker 1: I think he might be a jerk. And then also 339 00:19:51,280 --> 00:19:53,159 Speaker 1: those are those moments where you do hang out with 340 00:19:53,280 --> 00:19:55,159 Speaker 1: people and it's the opposite sex and they're like, when 341 00:19:55,160 --> 00:19:57,520 Speaker 1: are you all getting together? Y'all really are from me 342 00:19:57,640 --> 00:19:59,480 Speaker 1: for each other. Y'all are so cute together, But that 343 00:19:59,720 --> 00:20:02,760 Speaker 1: truly friendships, Like, no, if we wanted to be together, 344 00:20:02,800 --> 00:20:04,879 Speaker 1: we'd be together. I don't understand why you need this 345 00:20:04,960 --> 00:20:07,800 Speaker 1: to have it right. People do like trying to do that, 346 00:20:07,960 --> 00:20:10,880 Speaker 1: They like trying to put you together. With my ex, 347 00:20:11,240 --> 00:20:14,280 Speaker 1: we brought up a lot in this one. Apparently all 348 00:20:14,280 --> 00:20:15,840 Speaker 1: of the people in his life are telling him like, 349 00:20:16,600 --> 00:20:18,800 Speaker 1: you've been dating, you've been dating for a long time, 350 00:20:18,840 --> 00:20:23,000 Speaker 1: and I was like, I have platonic friendships with the 351 00:20:23,000 --> 00:20:26,200 Speaker 1: opposite sex, and that's just I don't see it that way. 352 00:20:27,040 --> 00:20:33,200 Speaker 1: But apparently all of his reason it's concerning that's the 353 00:20:33,280 --> 00:20:36,159 Speaker 1: communication things that you had to communicate, and then the 354 00:20:36,280 --> 00:20:40,680 Speaker 1: conversation about being a teaser leading you on. It's a 355 00:20:40,800 --> 00:20:43,240 Speaker 1: fine line of who is the victim and who is 356 00:20:43,280 --> 00:20:46,760 Speaker 1: not the victim, Who is to blame, who's not to blame? Yeah, yeah, 357 00:20:46,880 --> 00:20:50,639 Speaker 1: And I one time somebody one of his friends said like, oh, 358 00:20:50,720 --> 00:20:53,720 Speaker 1: she wore this stress when you went out together. She's 359 00:20:53,800 --> 00:20:56,639 Speaker 1: trying to impress you. But like literally, as an a 360 00:20:56,760 --> 00:20:59,919 Speaker 1: sexual person looking back, I don't think of it that way. 361 00:21:00,000 --> 00:21:01,320 Speaker 1: I don't see it that way. And I get it 362 00:21:01,359 --> 00:21:04,040 Speaker 1: because somebody explained it really well and something I was 363 00:21:04,119 --> 00:21:08,240 Speaker 1: reading like, essentially, what would be a neon sign for 364 00:21:09,160 --> 00:21:11,560 Speaker 1: somebody who isn't a sexual is not a sign at 365 00:21:11,560 --> 00:21:14,640 Speaker 1: all for me. So I I was just like, yeah, 366 00:21:14,640 --> 00:21:15,760 Speaker 1: I want to go to this restaurant. You have to 367 00:21:15,800 --> 00:21:18,960 Speaker 1: address restaurant. Well, essentially, that's the thing. It's like, what 368 00:21:19,080 --> 00:21:22,760 Speaker 1: if you're doing something special therefore not together, but that's 369 00:21:22,880 --> 00:21:24,680 Speaker 1: the person that you do things with. I had a 370 00:21:24,760 --> 00:21:27,240 Speaker 1: guy friend that we did things with. We were always 371 00:21:27,280 --> 00:21:30,159 Speaker 1: invited together even though we were never together, and we 372 00:21:30,280 --> 00:21:32,520 Speaker 1: always hung out. We always had jokes and we always 373 00:21:32,520 --> 00:21:34,600 Speaker 1: tease each other, and everybody assumed that we were always 374 00:21:34,640 --> 00:21:39,080 Speaker 1: going to be together, Like, oh, I don't understand would 375 00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:41,400 Speaker 1: I have I would take people as friends for days 376 00:21:41,440 --> 00:21:42,600 Speaker 1: because I just like I don't want to go about 377 00:21:42,600 --> 00:21:48,440 Speaker 1: myself and they were friends. Yeah, And unfortunately, sometimes as women, 378 00:21:48,480 --> 00:21:51,200 Speaker 1: if you don't want to be bothered by other men, 379 00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:54,000 Speaker 1: you're like, hey, will you please to your dude friends, 380 00:21:54,040 --> 00:21:58,680 Speaker 1: will you please come so they'll leave me alone? But 381 00:21:58,800 --> 00:22:00,719 Speaker 1: then again, like women do read into it, like if 382 00:22:00,760 --> 00:22:03,800 Speaker 1: he says yes, it's true, like or women also have 383 00:22:03,920 --> 00:22:05,399 Speaker 1: that same level of like I just want to be 384 00:22:05,560 --> 00:22:07,440 Speaker 1: dressed up. I don't understand why you think it's a change. 385 00:22:07,600 --> 00:22:09,480 Speaker 1: It can go both ways. It's not just a gender 386 00:22:09,640 --> 00:22:12,920 Speaker 1: thing for sure. And then like not sure what to 387 00:22:13,080 --> 00:22:15,199 Speaker 1: say because this seems romantic, but we don't know if 388 00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:17,359 Speaker 1: it is romantic and trying to play that game that 389 00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:21,760 Speaker 1: chicken dance, that chicken dance. Okay, you and your d 390 00:22:21,880 --> 00:22:27,040 Speaker 1: minus your head plus imagination, all right, what do you 391 00:22:27,080 --> 00:22:30,440 Speaker 1: think of this episode? Oh? It was fun once again, 392 00:22:30,800 --> 00:22:36,920 Speaker 1: lots of good commentary came up. I loved the kind 393 00:22:36,920 --> 00:22:39,359 Speaker 1: of like you said, the kind of like I love 394 00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:41,399 Speaker 1: that they were supporting each other at this wedding and 395 00:22:41,520 --> 00:22:43,560 Speaker 1: we're like backing each other up. You know, I'm on 396 00:22:43,640 --> 00:22:46,160 Speaker 1: your side whatever it is, but also calling each other out. 397 00:22:47,040 --> 00:22:48,680 Speaker 1: But that was my favorite part. It's kind of them 398 00:22:49,280 --> 00:22:51,760 Speaker 1: complaining and being bitter and not picking up the book 399 00:22:52,640 --> 00:22:54,919 Speaker 1: like that, and I just stare at it and then 400 00:22:54,960 --> 00:23:01,400 Speaker 1: just walk away tomorrow. That's my favorite. It was pretty good. 401 00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:09,000 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm jaded. Yep. Well, listeners, we hope you 402 00:23:09,119 --> 00:23:12,040 Speaker 1: enjoyed this as much as we enjoy doing it. As 403 00:23:12,119 --> 00:23:16,400 Speaker 1: we said, we are still collecting names for our long 404 00:23:16,440 --> 00:23:21,040 Speaker 1: awaited but we promise it's coming listener participation episode, um, 405 00:23:21,600 --> 00:23:23,080 Speaker 1: and we're going to do more than one of those. 406 00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:29,560 Speaker 1: I think so, yeah, because so many of us it's 407 00:23:29,600 --> 00:23:35,120 Speaker 1: a fun thing to look to. It's fine. 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