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Speaker 1: All right, guys, it is time now for today's Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: And if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,

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Speaker 1: could be reading your letter live on the air, just

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Speaker 1: like we're going to read this one right here, right now.

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Speaker 1: You never know, You never know. Buckle up, hold on tight.

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Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is a Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: Subject this cannot be my life. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm

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Speaker 1: a thirty five year old female with a cute face

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Speaker 1: and a small waist. I haven't had any trouble meeting men,

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Speaker 1: but I've had trouble keeping a man. That's all behind

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Speaker 1: me now because I'm seeing a man that caters to me,

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Speaker 1: respects me, and will do anything he needs to do

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Speaker 1: to put a smile on my face. He thinks ahead

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Speaker 1: and is a great planner. We've been dating almost a

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Speaker 1: year and he wants to go on an anniversary trip,

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Speaker 1: so I think he might be ready to propose. I

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Speaker 1: got rid of all my exes and I changed my

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Speaker 1: life around to make sure my past is in the past.

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Speaker 1: I stopped hanging out and I stopped posting suggestive pictures

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Speaker 1: on social media because I wanted to have a queen

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Speaker 1: like behavior for my king. Our first date was at

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Speaker 1: his house and we had grill steaks, a lot of wine,

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Speaker 1: and a lot of great conversation. He told me up

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Speaker 1: front that he wants to be married, but he wants

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Speaker 1: the option to have more than one woman in his

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Speaker 1: life if it's okay with his wife. I love women, too,

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Speaker 1: so we have that in common. Throughout our relationship, we've

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Speaker 1: had six different girls in our bed. I submit to

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Speaker 1: him in bed and do whatever he tells me to do,

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Speaker 1: and it drives him wild. We've been, huh, We've been.

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Speaker 1: We've been to counseling together because his last girlfriend got

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Speaker 1: jealous and flipped out on him, so he thought it

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Speaker 1: would help me. Here's my problem though. My mother and

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Speaker 1: I are very close, so she is aware of what's

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Speaker 1: going on in my relationship. She doesn't condone it, and

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Speaker 1: she told me if my boyfriend proposals, she will be

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Speaker 1: out of my life for good. I told her, I

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Speaker 1: cannot believe this is my life with such a handsome,

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Speaker 1: caring and open man. I may never find another man

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Speaker 1: that I'm this compatible with. Why is my mother being

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Speaker 1: so judgmental and why is she forcing me to make

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Speaker 1: a choice? Well, I don't think she is. But if

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Speaker 1: your mother is forcing you to make a choice, as

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Speaker 1: you say in the letter, she wants you to choose

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Speaker 1: you in this instance. She doesn't want you to marry

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Speaker 1: a man who wants other women. Your mom doesn't want

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Speaker 1: her beautiful daughter having threesomes and being some man's sex slave.

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Speaker 1: That that's just how a parent thinks. That's just a parent.

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Speaker 1: I mean, do you honestly think this is the way

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Speaker 1: to keep a man? Now? Does your mom wants you

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Speaker 1: to be happy and live your life and all of that?

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Speaker 1: Of course she does, yes, But she wants you to

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Speaker 1: be your own woman on your own terms, not because

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Speaker 1: that's what this man wants. You say you like women too, right,

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Speaker 1: But can you spend time with them alone? Can you know?

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Speaker 1: And not with him and all of that. I highly

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Speaker 1: doubt it because it doesn't sound like he cares what

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Speaker 1: you want as long as you submit to him and

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Speaker 1: continue to drive him wild. Like he said in the letter,

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Speaker 1: no parents ever going to give their blessing to this

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Speaker 1: kind of marital arrangement. It's just to one sided all

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Speaker 1: him know you, and for that reason, your mom will

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Speaker 1: never like him. That's why she says she's out. She

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Speaker 1: doesn't want to support this. And as a mother myself,

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Speaker 1: I can tell you that there may not be anything

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Speaker 1: I can do about it, but I would never agree

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Speaker 1: to my daughter being with a guy like this either

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Speaker 1: out very very well said being a mother, y'all, So

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Speaker 1: I like to be responsible. This letter has so many

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Speaker 1: yeah ignorant statements in it throughout the letter that I

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Speaker 1: almost don't know how to respond to this letter. But

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Speaker 1: I want to go to the very last line of

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Speaker 1: the letter. And after this letter, this girl says, why

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Speaker 1: is my mother being so judgmental? And why is she

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Speaker 1: forced me to make a decision? After this hignant asks

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Speaker 1: letter that I'm about to read, that's what your takeaway was, right,

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Speaker 1: why is my mother being so judgmental? Well, let's read

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Speaker 1: this letter out loud, Michelle. I'm a thirty five year

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Speaker 1: old female with a cute face in the small waist.

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Speaker 1: I haven't had any trouble meeting men, but I've had

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Speaker 1: trouble keeping a man. Well, and after you read this letter,

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Speaker 1: we're about to find out. Why let's go here we go.

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Speaker 1: That's all behind me now, because I'm seeing a man

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Speaker 1: that caters to me, respects me, and he would do

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Speaker 1: my face. He thinks ahead and it is a great planner.

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Speaker 1: So let me show you how great of a planner

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Speaker 1: he is and how far he thinks ahead. Let me

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Speaker 1: go skip down to this line in the letter. He

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Speaker 1: told me an that he wants to be married, but

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Speaker 1: in his life if that's okay with his wife. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's what I call good ass planning in now. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: he was planning side. Sound kind of like a plot,

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Speaker 1: but if you want to call it a plan okay, lady,

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Speaker 1: he was planning in ahead and he thinks ahead. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he then told your stupid ass this piece of information

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Speaker 1: to see how it set with you the first Okay,

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Speaker 1: Now let's go back up the letter. He thinks ahead

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Speaker 1: is a great planner. We've been dating almost a year

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Speaker 1: and he wants to do an anniversary trip, so I

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Speaker 1: think he might be ready to propose. Now here's what

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Speaker 1: the line where she starts telling on herself. I got

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Speaker 1: rid of all my exes. Wait a minute, if you

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Speaker 1: have an X, why would you have to get rid

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Speaker 1: of them? See but with dealer with somebody who keeps

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Speaker 1: all her exes in her life, so she keeps God

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Speaker 1: to get rid of all my exes. I changed my

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Speaker 1: life around to make sure my past is the past.

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Speaker 1: That means she'dn't done a lot of sketches stuff. I

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Speaker 1: stopped hanging out and stop posting suggestive pictures on social

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Speaker 1: media because I wanted to have queen life behavior for

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Speaker 1: my keen. He come back, I'm gonna close out all. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: hang on, we'll get part two of Steve's response coming

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Speaker 1: up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Subject for

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Speaker 1: today's strawberry letter, this cannot be My life. We'll get

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Speaker 1: back into it right after this. You're listening show, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject this cannot be

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Speaker 1: my life. Well, let's get on with this nutty ass

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Speaker 1: letter entitled this cannot be My life. Thirty five year

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Speaker 1: old female got a cute face in the small ways,

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Speaker 1: has never had trouble meeting men, but they've been having

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Speaker 1: trouble keeping them. And I'm about to tell you why

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Speaker 1: she met this guy. She says, that's a great planner.

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Speaker 1: We'll get into that. We've been dating almost a year.

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Speaker 1: He wants to go on the anniversary trip, so I

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Speaker 1: ain't got the cart in front of this horse right here,

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Speaker 1: horse in front of this car, why she's etna mess

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Speaker 1: right here? I got rid of all my exes, not

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Speaker 1: like I said before, If they're your exes, why would

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Speaker 1: you had to get rid of But this is a

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Speaker 1: woman that hangs on to a lot of people, and

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Speaker 1: I changed my life around to make sure my past

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Speaker 1: is in the past. See, you can't all of a

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Speaker 1: sudden eratial pass. I can tell you that right now.

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Speaker 1: So I don't know what you think you've been done

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Speaker 1: to make sure your passes in your pass But it

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Speaker 1: don't work like that, lady. You just can't wipe the

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Speaker 1: slate clean yourself. I mean, God can't forgive you for anything,

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Speaker 1: but you can't. Just too many people go. And then

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Speaker 1: I stopped hanging out and I stopped posting suggested pictures

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Speaker 1: on social media because I want to have queen like

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Speaker 1: behavior for my king. Now, let me explain something to you.

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure the way y'all met was on social media.

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Speaker 1: So this man that you're going out on this date

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Speaker 1: with on your first date, that you're about to describe

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Speaker 1: before you took the pictures off and found out he

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Speaker 1: was your king. That's how y'all hooked up. He saw

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Speaker 1: the suggesting picture. He been on your Facebook page. He

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Speaker 1: know how many friends you got, He know you why,

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Speaker 1: that's why y'all out on this date. So now, on

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Speaker 1: our first date was at his house and we had

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Speaker 1: Grial steaks and a lot of one. Then killed me

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Speaker 1: when women over man house and they get a steak

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Speaker 1: and they think that's high end. It's just food. That's

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Speaker 1: all it is. It's just a damn piece of me.

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Speaker 1: We had Grial steaks. Want you the only person that

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Speaker 1: balls is steak in the croc pot is surely Strawberry.

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Speaker 1: The rest of us grialize steaks, so that ain't nothing new.

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Speaker 1: And you had a lot of wine and a lot

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Speaker 1: of great conversation. He told me off front he wants

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Speaker 1: to be married, but he wants an option to have

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Speaker 1: more than one woman in his life. This is okay

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Speaker 1: with me. Then here's the line that sets it off.

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Speaker 1: I love women too, so we had that in common.

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Speaker 1: That ain't nothing to have in coming. Throughout our relationship,

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Speaker 1: we have had six different girls in our bed. I

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Speaker 1: submit to him in bed and do whatever he tells

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Speaker 1: me to do, and it drives him wild. You drive

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Speaker 1: anybody wild? Hell if you do everything I tell you

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Speaker 1: to do? Here, who ain't been to go while? For that?

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Speaker 1: I can't even get my wife to watch your damn

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Speaker 1: same TV show I want to watch. Hell, yeah, that'll

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Speaker 1: drive me while? Try that on. We've been to now

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Speaker 1: here's the other part. We've been to counseling together because

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Speaker 1: his last girlfriend got jealous and flipped out on him,

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Speaker 1: so he thought it would help me. Here's my problem though,

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Speaker 1: What Wait a minute, y'all went to counseling because his

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Speaker 1: would help you. What kind of swinger counselor he going

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Speaker 1: to to help y'all get through this? Right here? Here's

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Speaker 1: the other part. My mother and I are very close,

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Speaker 1: so she's aware of what's going on in my relationship. Wait, manu, Holder,

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Speaker 1: you told your mamma. You told your mamma that she

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Speaker 1: doesn't condone it, and she told me that if my

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Speaker 1: I told her, I can't believe this is my life

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Speaker 1: with such a handsome man, caring, an open man. I

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Speaker 1: may never find another man that I'm discompatible with. Why

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Speaker 1: is my mother being so judgmentally? Why is she forcing

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Speaker 1: me to make such a choice? Wait a minutulo, lady,

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Speaker 1: all this craziness in this damn letter, and you're worried

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Speaker 1: about why your mama being judgmental? You don't see the

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Speaker 1: craziness in this letter. The six girls in y'all's bed,

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Speaker 1: this anniversary trip y'all going on? Where you think he

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Speaker 1: fitting and proposed, proposed to you for what? Let me

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Speaker 1: ask you a question, why would he marry you when

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Speaker 1: he getting everything he won't from you? What's to marry?

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Speaker 1: He'd had six different girls in y'all's bed, he told

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Speaker 1: you to beginning. He wants to getting married. He loved

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Speaker 1: to getting married one day, but he wants a woman

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Speaker 1: in his life that's okay with him have and other women.

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Speaker 1: He didn't say he wanted to marry you once again.

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Speaker 1: He is a woman plugging herself into the equation. He

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Speaker 1: if you do get married, what are y'all's vows for? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: to cleave only unto her? Which which one of these

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Speaker 1: vials y'all want to break first to love and honor?

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Speaker 1: Which one you want to break first? For? Better off

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Speaker 1: of worst? Y'all already in the worst relationship you can

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Speaker 1: be in, So all you can do is get married

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Speaker 1: and hope he get better? Marry him for what? What

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Speaker 1: is the you? What do you need? A holy match? Um,

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Speaker 1: a ceremony for to bless? What? Married? For? What? Girl?

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Speaker 1: You're crazy for your mama? Don't want to talk to

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Speaker 1: you no more, and don't write us no more? Egan,

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Speaker 1: don't talk anymore? All right? Your comments on today Strawberry

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