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Speaker 1: My half sister wanted to show up in a wedding

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Speaker 1: dress to my engagement parties, so I changed the party

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Speaker 1: themes so she would fit right in. This is okayop,

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Speaker 1: Home to the Craziest True Stories on Earth. I'm Sophia

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Speaker 1: and Riley. What is your wedding party theme?

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Speaker 2: Pirates of the Caribbean.

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Speaker 1: Amazing check. So ovs not Maine, says my half sister.

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Speaker 1: Heather and I never really got along. We're both twenty

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Speaker 1: four at the twins. No way, they're half sisters. We

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Speaker 1: just established that. Wow, that dad really cleansed much time. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: seems like there might be a little overlap those relationships.

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Speaker 1: My father left my mother for her mother. There we go,

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Speaker 1: and we were born the same month, twenty days apart.

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Speaker 2: Whoa, oh my god, same dad.

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Speaker 1: Same dad. No, yeah, he left like he left her

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Speaker 1: and then immediately had a baby with another one. Yikes.

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Speaker 1: It has always been weird.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that is weird. Sorry, between you and the dad,

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Speaker 2: or you.

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Speaker 1: And your sister, between her and her sister.

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Speaker 2: Dang, that sucks.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, also probably between dad and her. It doesn't help

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Speaker 1: that Heather's mom hates me and my mom by extension,

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Speaker 1: Heather and I didn't have the best relationship. I feel

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Speaker 1: like a funny one gets to hate someone. It's the

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Speaker 1: og mom.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, thanks first.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she has always tried to one up me, even

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Speaker 1: though we both have a similar economic background. I can

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Speaker 1: give examples of this, but for the sake of the

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Speaker 1: word limit won't write them here. So now, my fiance

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Speaker 1: and I got engaged last month and our engagement party

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Speaker 1: is this Saturday. We had planned it originally as a

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Speaker 1: casual slash dash formal event. Casual formal form cash form

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Speaker 1: nice stresses, but not I'm going to the met gallop

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Speaker 1: ball nice, more like we're going to a good restaurant nice. Anyway,

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Speaker 1: my cousin hits me up, saying she has to show

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Speaker 1: me something. It was the picture of the dress Heather

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Speaker 1: was gonna wear. Uh put, I see you in the

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Speaker 1: comments if you see there. Okay, oh, I got a picture.

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Speaker 1: We have a picture of the dress. Whoa, that's the

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Speaker 1: dress she was gonna wear. Yea to the cash form. Yeh,

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Speaker 1: that's like she's like at the freaking Bridgerton Ball. This

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Speaker 1: is the diamond of the season. That's crazy. Where are

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Speaker 1: they having the No way? Opie says, this is what

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Speaker 1: the dress looked like approximately it was a little bit

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Speaker 1: shorter and a bit less puffy. The rest is almost identical.

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Speaker 1: That's insane. Wow, that takes like overdressing to the max.

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Speaker 3: Wow.

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Speaker 1: I would just I don't know, maybe just she just

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Speaker 2: She said, less puffy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but still like even if it was just like

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Speaker 2: That's still a lot going on.

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Speaker 1: Wow, Oh my god, continues this dress Jesus Christ. It

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Speaker 1: can only be described as opulent. It was long and white, strapless,

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Speaker 1: with sown in crystals and golden accents. I'm pretty sure

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Speaker 1: it's a wedding dress, but I can't be one hundred percent.

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Speaker 2: That looks like a wedding dress.

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Speaker 1: That looks like a wedding dress, more gold going on.

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Speaker 1: I think if I think if the rule is if

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Speaker 1: it has a significant amount of white, it's it's you

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Speaker 1: can't wear it to a wedding.

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Speaker 2: Okay, cool, But it's an engagement party.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, which like last time we had talked about like, oh,

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Speaker 1: you know, if it's not the actual wedding, how is

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Speaker 1: that's just a weird thing to wear to an engagement party.

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Speaker 1: That's not supposed to be like formal.

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Speaker 2: She got a deal. I'm just hoping she got a deal.

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Speaker 1: How much did she pay for this dress?

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Speaker 2: Or it's a beef since bath beef since Beth?

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Speaker 1: Yeah absolutely you yeah, no, I think it's a weird

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Speaker 1: Opie says. This made me really mad, so I decided

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Speaker 1: This was the other story, but it was already a

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Speaker 1: My mother's side is crazy for Halloween, so they were

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Speaker 1: So wow, what what like planning is going on? It's

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Speaker 1: we're changing it to Halloween party, and then I'm going

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Speaker 1: to contact my father, but he won't remember, so then

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Speaker 1: she'll never know a mastermind plan. Yes, Saturday comes along,

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Speaker 1: with fun hats and cheap wigs. Heather, my dad and

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Speaker 1: her mother come like one hour late as expected. As

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Speaker 1: along and told her that her bride dress looked amazing

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Speaker 1: for a cheap costume. Fiance is petty?

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Speaker 3: Really?

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Speaker 1: Is that's petty?

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Speaker 2: Really?

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Speaker 1: I love it. I love It's like, wow, that's that's

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Speaker 1: a great costume for for a cheap, cheap look.

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Speaker 1: She left crying, and her mother and my father told

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Speaker 1: me that I was being childish and I could have

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Speaker 1: told Heather myself and not have tasked my father. That's

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Speaker 1: totally his fault. How can you blame that? No, no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: she told them. She told them. For those interested, my

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Speaker 1: Mojo Jojo. Oh I love that from Powerfuff Girls. Oh

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Speaker 1: that's so cute. My mom and aunts were went as Abba.

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Speaker 1: Other memorable costumes were Lufian Zero, Ian Malcolm and John

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Speaker 2: Some wine at the party, Let's go. I love it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he's turning all the water into wine. Uh. Edit,

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Speaker 1: So why did I invite her? Someone asks, I think

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Speaker 1: that's pretty obvious, feel because you're half so saying you

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Speaker 1: family situations where not inviting them would have been more dramatic,

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Speaker 1: you know, when you try pleasing everyone. Plus, I still

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Speaker 1: When I kept thinking of it, I noticed that my

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Speaker 1: why I ended up cutting them off. Oh so she

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Speaker 1: it seems like he chose this other family from the

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Speaker 2: Yeah, put it according to Sam's theory. We're going to

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Speaker 2: rebrand his marriage rules.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we're not calling it marriage rules. We're calling it theory.

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Speaker 1: Mine of the golden rules of dating or breaking up.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, but his is the golden theory.

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Speaker 2: Of he did quote one time you're allowed one new family.

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Speaker 1: What does that mean, like to stay together? Like like

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Speaker 1: he had one family and then he moved to a

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Speaker 1: new family. Yeah, all jokes, all jokes.

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Speaker 2: It was kind of funny.

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Speaker 1: I can't do it twice, Yeah, that's all.

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Speaker 1: It's like when you when you switch your king and

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Speaker 1: your book and chess.

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Speaker 2: Yeah you could only castle once.

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Speaker 1: Yeah exactly. And then another person says, you let her win.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I don't know if she did. No,

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Speaker 1: that was the king queen's gambit. Moved to continue the

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Speaker 2: You won.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, no, just because I mean, I guess they're saying, like, oh,

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Speaker 1: father chose the other family. But that's not that's not

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Speaker 1: that Yeah, that wasn't. That wasn't.

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Speaker 2: The point was half sister was going to show up

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Speaker 2: there be the best looking one there.

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Speaker 1: You made her look like cheap, a cheap skate cheap costume.

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Speaker 1: Cheap costume costumes aren't cheap. Yeah, well deends going to

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Speaker 2: City, Well like handmade, that's true.

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Speaker 1: Well, I don't know my mom made my costumes from who?

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Speaker 2: From a fashion designer?

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Speaker 1: Oh well, my mom made my costume, so I never

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Speaker 1: bought them any who uh OPI responds to, you'll let

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Speaker 1: her win with no, poor blake, The point of this

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Speaker 1: is to ruin my half sister's intention. Yeah, it wasn't

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Speaker 1: to win her father back. It was to sabotage her

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Speaker 1: They literally provided stuff to make the party work.

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Speaker 2: I went to Nashville one time and there was a

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Speaker 2: bacheorette party and everyone had like cheap wigs and they

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that seems fun. I want to wear costumes to

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Speaker 2: You can do that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I can. Thank you make the list, you will,

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Speaker 1: I have to have a big engagement and wedding part

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no, no, no, no, I know why. Yeah, okay, I

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Speaker 2: have okay stories up about Sophia wanting to throw a

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Speaker 1: Okay, I know, I don't even remember.

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Speaker 2: I'll tell remember the You were like, we need a

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Speaker 2: Balancize Day party because I want to show off my outfit. Yes,

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Speaker 2: that's what you will be doing at the wedding. You're like,

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Speaker 2: I don't care, I'm getting married.

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Speaker 1: I would want to do this. Yeah, it's probably gonna

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Speaker 1: be made by my mom, so I need to show

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Speaker 1: it off.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, everyone everyone look at my dress.

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Speaker 1: Okay, wait, we're continue the story. Sorry, we got sidetracked.

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Speaker 1: So then another person says this is a karma whoring repost,

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Speaker 1: and Opie says, no, it isn't. I posted the story

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Speaker 1: before on Am I the a hole? I just had

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Speaker 1: can't believe I have to say this, but the lady

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Speaker 1: I love it. Please tell me you disinvited them to

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Speaker 1: I read your Ami the a Hole post. Why do

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Speaker 1: I get that you would like a relationship with your father.

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Speaker 1: But we've we've grown, we've recognized the errors of our way.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we need to do more work. We need to

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Speaker 2: The places we need to self reflect on.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, there is an update twenty months later. Whoa did

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Speaker 1: Opie says, I had planned countless times to update this post.

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Speaker 1: that's what we like to hear. Let's go. My father

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Speaker 1: My stepmother followed me to the supermarket and tried to

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Speaker 1: He said that I should be the bigger person and

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Speaker 1: Whooa Obias did not come to play. This is really

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Speaker 1: It's so manipulative because they're not trying. They're not trying

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they carry their positions. Yeah, then they started to

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Speaker 2: Which you cut a part of the string. You can't.

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Speaker 1: You can't recut the string. Yeah, it's cut, which backfired

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Speaker 1: As you know, the toxic gossip rain always has to

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Speaker 1: but I think it's funny and sad. Thing is that

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Speaker 1: zero negative effect on my life. We did have one

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Speaker 1: I still have my old job, I'm not pregnant. We

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Speaker 1: So that is all for me, not all too dramatic.

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Speaker 1: And there are two relevant comments. Tillie Jane says, what

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Speaker 1: was the fake cease and desist for to stop holding

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Speaker 1: template she used and everything. What disruptive behavior. Bron Adgirl

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Speaker 1: one says, just curious, how is your mom with your

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Speaker 2: Ooh.

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Speaker 1: Opie says she has a longtime partner. He's very lovely.

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Speaker 2: Y god, it looks like things are good.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, things are on the up and up. Yeah, it

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Speaker 1: apologize or accept what they did the wrong. They just

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00:23:03,960 --> 00:23:07,600
Speaker 1: want to manipulate Op. Yeah, we don't need that type

439
00:23:07,600 --> 00:23:08,639
Speaker 1: of energy in our lives.

440
00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:09,680
Speaker 2: Cut it out.

441
00:23:09,840 --> 00:23:12,920
Speaker 1: Twenty twenty four. Yeah, twenty twenty four is cutting out

442
00:23:13,440 --> 00:23:19,240
Speaker 1: the red flags in your relationships. And if that's your dad,

443
00:23:19,280 --> 00:23:22,840
Speaker 1: then dump them. Dump them. Oh yeah, you're wearing such

444
00:23:22,840 --> 00:23:24,960
Speaker 1: a great hat for this, thank you, thank you. I

445
00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:26,640
Speaker 1: was also going to say I love that they threw

446
00:23:26,680 --> 00:23:27,960
Speaker 1: another costume party.

447
00:23:28,040 --> 00:23:29,920
Speaker 2: They were like, that was so good the first time,

448
00:23:30,119 --> 00:23:30,920
Speaker 2: let's do it it can.

449
00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:34,560
Speaker 1: I love that this plot became just a real u.

450
00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:37,600
Speaker 1: It helped OP discover a real passion for costumes.

451
00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:40,880
Speaker 2: Years later after they do it for like decades, Yeah,

452
00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:43,160
Speaker 2: they'll be like, well remember the first the.

453
00:23:43,080 --> 00:23:48,880
Speaker 1: First one when we when we plotted against my half sister.

454
00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:53,840
Speaker 1: That's what it is, my evil step mother. I think

455
00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:57,560
Speaker 1: we should throw a costume party on Halloween. I'm so

456
00:23:57,640 --> 00:23:59,960
Speaker 1: down because I missed Halloween this year. I was in Rome,

457
00:24:00,400 --> 00:24:02,640
Speaker 1: and wait, that's the best place to be for Halloween.

458
00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:05,280
Speaker 1: It wasn't. I had to deal with weird Italian men

459
00:24:05,359 --> 00:24:07,720
Speaker 1: grabbing my arm. I didn't like them, and everyone was

460
00:24:07,760 --> 00:24:10,280
Speaker 1: smoking and someone tried to steal my friend's hat.

461
00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:12,879
Speaker 2: Yeah that does sound like fun, No it didn't. I

462
00:24:12,880 --> 00:24:16,840
Speaker 2: had to work on Halloween here. Yeah, I was producing.

463
00:24:17,280 --> 00:24:17,760
Speaker 1: That's sad.

464
00:24:17,840 --> 00:24:19,679
Speaker 2: And then I was Mari. I was Luigi and my

465
00:24:19,720 --> 00:24:20,399
Speaker 2: friend was Mario.

466
00:24:20,520 --> 00:24:24,399
Speaker 1: I love that I was a pirate because that was

467
00:24:24,520 --> 00:24:28,200
Speaker 1: I had to work with my very limited closet, because

468
00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:31,040
Speaker 1: I only had a backpack. What I was a pirate

469
00:24:31,080 --> 00:24:33,040
Speaker 1: because I could only work with what I had in

470
00:24:33,119 --> 00:24:33,720
Speaker 1: my backpack.

471
00:24:33,800 --> 00:24:35,600
Speaker 2: Oh cute. What were you guys for Halloween?

472
00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:35,880
Speaker 3: Yeah?

473
00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:38,320
Speaker 1: What will you be for Halloween this year? Because I

474
00:24:38,359 --> 00:24:40,240
Speaker 1: have to start. I really got to start thinking about

475
00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:42,359
Speaker 1: it now. I want to be yeah, I mean no,

476
00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:44,240
Speaker 1: not now, but I do want to be something cool

477
00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:46,600
Speaker 1: this year. Maybe we should go as a group thing.

478
00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:48,639
Speaker 1: That's what I did the year before I went my

479
00:24:48,840 --> 00:24:52,000
Speaker 1: house went as the Scooby Doo Gang. I was Fred.

480
00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:55,080
Speaker 2: Oh yo, Yeah, we low key kind of the Scooby

481
00:24:55,080 --> 00:24:55,400
Speaker 2: Doo Gang.

482
00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:57,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, but we can't be scook Scooby Doo Gang again.

483
00:24:57,359 --> 00:24:59,639
Speaker 2: You're right, You're right, You're at Hopefully I'll have a

484
00:24:59,680 --> 00:25:00,600
Speaker 2: couple costumes.

485
00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:02,840
Speaker 1: It would be kind of fun if we did like Pokemon,

486
00:25:03,200 --> 00:25:05,000
Speaker 1: like like ash Misty Brock.

487
00:25:05,320 --> 00:25:06,359
Speaker 2: You don't like Pokemon.

488
00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:07,119
Speaker 1: That's weird.

489
00:25:07,520 --> 00:25:08,560
Speaker 2: Yep, you know it's not weird.

490
00:25:08,840 --> 00:25:13,000
Speaker 1: This next story, Oh fiance twenty nine female cheated on

491
00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:16,679
Speaker 1: her bachelorette party. I thirty two male, am struggling to

492
00:25:16,720 --> 00:25:20,359
Speaker 1: decide the next steps. This is okayop, home to the

493
00:25:20,440 --> 00:25:24,840
Speaker 1: craziest true stories on Earth. I'm Sophia and Riley. How

494
00:25:24,880 --> 00:25:27,560
Speaker 1: do you cheat on your bachelorette party? You have two

495
00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:31,280
Speaker 1: bachelorette parties? Yeah, and you you're you're two timing them.

496
00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:34,600
Speaker 1: You're ting, you're doing like the twenty seven dresses thing

497
00:25:34,840 --> 00:25:37,080
Speaker 1: where you're going back and forth between parties, like, hey,

498
00:25:37,119 --> 00:25:40,119
Speaker 1: gotta use bathroom, Yeah yeah, run yeah, like you're changing

499
00:25:40,119 --> 00:25:40,480
Speaker 1: in the cat.

500
00:25:40,840 --> 00:25:42,760
Speaker 2: I have to I gotta go tie my shoe.

501
00:25:42,840 --> 00:25:46,560
Speaker 1: I gotta go. I gotta go drink some water. Throw

502
00:25:46,600 --> 00:25:50,000
Speaker 1: a broken and lost says I'm sorry if this is

503
00:25:50,040 --> 00:25:51,960
Speaker 1: just a bunch of rambling, I just need a place

504
00:25:52,000 --> 00:25:54,679
Speaker 1: to write down everything that has happened and hopefully get

505
00:25:54,760 --> 00:25:58,200
Speaker 1: some advice on what to do next. My fiance twenty

506
00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:01,200
Speaker 1: nine female and I thirty two I have been together

507
00:26:01,320 --> 00:26:05,080
Speaker 1: for about seven years now. Ohoa, I feel like that's

508
00:26:05,119 --> 00:26:07,480
Speaker 1: not too crazy. Does get married?

509
00:26:08,040 --> 00:26:10,040
Speaker 2: Oh, I should give it like four or five?

510
00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:10,800
Speaker 1: Four or five.

511
00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:12,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've never married that foar.

512
00:26:12,440 --> 00:26:15,960
Speaker 1: I feel like, if your goal is to get married, like,

513
00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:17,360
Speaker 1: don't go over ten.

514
00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:20,320
Speaker 2: This is true. Yeah, unless you're like waiting to give

515
00:26:20,359 --> 00:26:22,000
Speaker 2: her the best wedding ever.

516
00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:24,320
Speaker 1: Well, but again, I think it's just a goal. Like,

517
00:26:24,480 --> 00:26:26,680
Speaker 1: if your goal is never to get married, it doesn't matter.

518
00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:28,720
Speaker 1: You can date forever. Yeah, but if your goal is

519
00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:31,800
Speaker 1: to get married, don't don't. Don't drag it out. I guess,

520
00:26:31,920 --> 00:26:34,639
Speaker 1: don't do. We were supposed to get married next month.

521
00:26:34,840 --> 00:26:37,320
Speaker 1: Before all this happened. We had no issues with cheating

522
00:26:37,440 --> 00:26:40,199
Speaker 1: or any big fights. This is the first time anything

523
00:26:40,240 --> 00:26:41,600
Speaker 1: like this has happened between us.

524
00:26:41,640 --> 00:26:44,399
Speaker 2: Ah. Oh no, that's so tough. So there was no

525
00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:45,040
Speaker 2: red flags.

526
00:26:45,080 --> 00:26:47,920
Speaker 1: There were no red flags. And then a month before

527
00:26:47,920 --> 00:26:50,480
Speaker 1: they're married, like they're gonna get married. About two weeks ago,

528
00:26:50,560 --> 00:26:52,720
Speaker 1: my fiance approached me and asked me if I would

529
00:26:52,760 --> 00:26:55,480
Speaker 1: be open to us having a bachelor and bachelorette party.

530
00:26:55,960 --> 00:26:59,040
Speaker 1: This was something that made me really uncomfortable personally. I

531
00:26:59,080 --> 00:27:01,520
Speaker 1: believe that these kinds of parties only serve to encourage

532
00:27:01,600 --> 00:27:04,560
Speaker 1: infidelity before a couple gets married, and that they aren't

533
00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:08,359
Speaker 1: something I'd be interested in. I just realized, what the

534
00:27:09,119 --> 00:27:12,239
Speaker 1: I'm gonna sound so stupid when people watch this. I

535
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:14,520
Speaker 1: just realized what the title meant. I thought they cheated

536
00:27:14,640 --> 00:27:17,840
Speaker 1: on the book the bachelorette party, like they had multiple

537
00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:22,280
Speaker 1: bachelorette parties. Oh, but they cheated at the bachelorette parties.

538
00:27:23,160 --> 00:27:28,639
Speaker 2: Like why did you say that? Yeah, I'm like, uh okay.

539
00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:35,480
Speaker 3: I thought they cheated like on their their bachelorette party people,

540
00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:40,160
Speaker 3: but they cheated on their partner at their friend This.

541
00:27:40,119 --> 00:27:42,280
Speaker 2: Is what happens when you read too many cheating stories. Yeah.

542
00:27:42,320 --> 00:27:44,080
Speaker 1: I was like, wow, this is crazy. How do you

543
00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:47,680
Speaker 1: cheat on an entire bachelorette party? No, okay, I'm sorry, guys.

544
00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:50,639
Speaker 1: I had a little bit of a brain fart. I

545
00:27:50,720 --> 00:27:53,000
Speaker 1: expressed that to my fiance, but she told me that

546
00:27:53,040 --> 00:27:55,480
Speaker 1: if we did have them, they'd just be friends hanging

547
00:27:55,560 --> 00:27:57,680
Speaker 1: out with us, celebrating our future wedding, and that we

548
00:27:57,720 --> 00:28:01,320
Speaker 1: wouldn't have the stereotypical last Night of Freedom kind of party.

549
00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:04,359
Speaker 1: After talking for a bit and establishing some boundaries, we

550
00:28:04,400 --> 00:28:06,400
Speaker 1: agreed to have the parties on the same day, which

551
00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:09,920
Speaker 1: happened to be this past Wednesday. When Wednesday came around,

552
00:28:10,040 --> 00:28:11,840
Speaker 1: my friends came over to our place for a game

553
00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:14,200
Speaker 1: of D and D hell Ya that was supposed to

554
00:28:14,200 --> 00:28:17,280
Speaker 1: be themed around my character getting married, while my fiance

555
00:28:17,440 --> 00:28:19,720
Speaker 1: went out with her friends for a pub crawl. I

556
00:28:19,760 --> 00:28:23,960
Speaker 1: don't know. I like Op's version. Yeah, that sounds great.

557
00:28:24,240 --> 00:28:26,639
Speaker 1: I was having fun with my friends until about roughly

558
00:28:26,680 --> 00:28:29,600
Speaker 1: three hours into our game, when one of my fiancees

559
00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:32,520
Speaker 1: and I mutual friends texted me and told me that

560
00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:38,480
Speaker 1: we needed to talk. Whoah. Obviously I immediately became concerned

561
00:28:38,560 --> 00:28:40,800
Speaker 1: and asked her what was going on, but she said

562
00:28:40,800 --> 00:28:44,080
Speaker 1: that she didn't feel comfortable discussing over text and said

563
00:28:44,120 --> 00:28:46,360
Speaker 1: that she'd rather speak to me in person. This really

564
00:28:46,360 --> 00:28:48,440
Speaker 1: messed me up, and for the next hour I couldn't

565
00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:50,920
Speaker 1: really focus on anything else because I kept wondering what

566
00:28:50,960 --> 00:28:54,000
Speaker 1: could possibly be so important that she wanted to come

567
00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:56,440
Speaker 1: over and talk to me. She ruined the whole D

568
00:28:56,480 --> 00:29:02,240
Speaker 1: and D vibe, but like, no, it's important, it is important,

569
00:29:02,360 --> 00:29:07,120
Speaker 1: but I love that you said that. By the time

570
00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:09,920
Speaker 1: she arrived, my friends and I had already wrapped things up,

571
00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:12,120
Speaker 1: so I was just waiting for her to come. She

572
00:29:12,240 --> 00:29:14,600
Speaker 1: came in and asked for us to sit down and talk,

573
00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:17,400
Speaker 1: which is when she revealed to me that my fiance

574
00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:20,640
Speaker 1: used the party as an opportunity to cheat on me.

575
00:29:21,080 --> 00:29:23,280
Speaker 2: No, was that wait at.

576
00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:23,720
Speaker 1: The pup crawl?

577
00:29:24,200 --> 00:29:26,240
Speaker 2: No no, no, no, no, no.

578
00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:27,680
Speaker 1: No, unbelievable.

579
00:29:28,120 --> 00:29:30,040
Speaker 2: Do you think conspiracy theory?

580
00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:30,400
Speaker 1: Yes?

581
00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:33,520
Speaker 2: Do you believe she intentionally made it, made it on

582
00:29:33,600 --> 00:29:35,360
Speaker 2: the same day so she could or do you think

583
00:29:35,400 --> 00:29:36,160
Speaker 2: it just happened?

584
00:29:36,520 --> 00:29:39,480
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't know if it Yeah, I don't

585
00:29:39,480 --> 00:29:42,200
Speaker 1: know if it matters if it was, like you know,

586
00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:45,920
Speaker 1: planned or not. I think that if you're gonna cheat,

587
00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:47,960
Speaker 1: because I think if that if you're going to cheat,

588
00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:52,080
Speaker 1: you're going to cheat. I don't think that Op's original

589
00:29:52,080 --> 00:29:55,000
Speaker 1: point of I don't like achela parties because I think

590
00:29:55,040 --> 00:29:59,040
Speaker 1: they create a space for infidelity is necessarily true. But

591
00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:01,600
Speaker 1: I do think that you have to have a conversation

592
00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:04,200
Speaker 1: about what type of bachelor at or bachelor party you're

593
00:30:04,280 --> 00:30:07,240
Speaker 1: okay with. Yeah, because you know, when you have the

594
00:30:07,280 --> 00:30:11,720
Speaker 1: stripper things, I think that's weird, that's so sad. Yeah,

595
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:14,440
Speaker 1: unless you and your partner are like going to that

596
00:30:14,520 --> 00:30:16,880
Speaker 1: together and you're both on the same page and you

597
00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:20,320
Speaker 1: love that all the more to you. But I think

598
00:30:20,360 --> 00:30:23,080
Speaker 1: it is weird when you're not, you know, informing your partner.

599
00:30:23,160 --> 00:30:25,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, because because the way this is framed is like

600
00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:27,760
Speaker 2: use the party as an opportunity to cheat on me.

601
00:30:27,840 --> 00:30:29,360
Speaker 2: It sounds like it was pre planned.

602
00:30:29,440 --> 00:30:33,000
Speaker 1: It might be, which is also awful. But I think

603
00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:36,400
Speaker 1: either way, even if it wasn't pre planned, she cheated

604
00:30:36,440 --> 00:30:39,640
Speaker 1: on you. Yeah, and that's not a yeah, that's not okay.

605
00:30:39,680 --> 00:30:41,520
Speaker 2: I think it would hurt more if it was pre planned.

606
00:30:41,680 --> 00:30:43,320
Speaker 1: It would be really I think it would be really

607
00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:45,680
Speaker 1: weird if she pre planned it, I'd be like, why

608
00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:48,959
Speaker 1: would you do that? Why did you need to pre

609
00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:51,680
Speaker 1: plan a party to cheat on me? Op says. I

610
00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:54,440
Speaker 1: immediately felt like Mike Tyson had punched me in the chest.

611
00:30:54,680 --> 00:30:56,920
Speaker 1: This was exactly what I was afraid of when my

612
00:30:56,960 --> 00:31:00,400
Speaker 1: fiance first approached me about having these parties, and she

613
00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:03,160
Speaker 1: assured me that was the furthest thing from her mind.

614
00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:05,760
Speaker 1: Until then, I had no reason not to trust her,

615
00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:08,400
Speaker 1: so I believed her. I felt so stupid for not

616
00:31:08,440 --> 00:31:10,840
Speaker 1: seeing this coming. I don't think you're stupid. I think

617
00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:12,000
Speaker 1: that's totally on her.

618
00:31:12,200 --> 00:31:14,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, as humans, we always expect the best out of people.

619
00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:18,320
Speaker 1: I think the expectation from your partner, it does not

620
00:31:18,440 --> 00:31:20,880
Speaker 1: matter if they're having a bachelor party or just going

621
00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:22,880
Speaker 1: out with friends, is that they won't cheat on you.

622
00:31:23,080 --> 00:31:26,160
Speaker 1: That is always the expectation. I asked my friend if

623
00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:28,360
Speaker 1: she was sure of what happened, and she showed me

624
00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:30,720
Speaker 1: a video of my fiance kissing some guy at a bar.

625
00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:33,120
Speaker 1: Apparently the video was shared in a group chat that

626
00:31:33,160 --> 00:31:35,479
Speaker 1: my fiance and her friends were on to plan the party.

627
00:31:35,640 --> 00:31:37,760
Speaker 1: I honestly don't know how I didn't break down crying

628
00:31:37,800 --> 00:31:39,640
Speaker 1: when I was showed the video. I felt like I

629
00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:41,880
Speaker 1: was going to throw up. There was the woman that

630
00:31:41,920 --> 00:31:44,360
Speaker 1: I was supposed to spend the rest of my life

631
00:31:44,360 --> 00:31:47,280
Speaker 1: with kissing another man while her friends cheat her on.

632
00:31:47,640 --> 00:31:52,400
Speaker 1: What horrible friends. Jesus, that's not cool condoning that type

633
00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:56,960
Speaker 1: of behavior. This next part is my friend's recollection at

634
00:31:57,000 --> 00:31:58,880
Speaker 1: the events that led up to the cheating, so I

635
00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:02,320
Speaker 1: don't have a whole lot of details. Apparently, my fiance's

636
00:32:02,320 --> 00:32:05,040
Speaker 1: maid of honor spent the entire night complaining that I

637
00:32:05,040 --> 00:32:07,800
Speaker 1: wouldn't let them have a traditional bachelorette party and that

638
00:32:07,840 --> 00:32:11,960
Speaker 1: I was too controlling and jealous whoa her friends suck,

639
00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:16,840
Speaker 1: her friends suck. There is a difference between not letting

640
00:32:16,880 --> 00:32:19,320
Speaker 1: your habit, not letting your partner have a party at all,

641
00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:23,560
Speaker 1: that is too controlling, but being asking your partner not

642
00:32:24,280 --> 00:32:28,440
Speaker 1: to cheat on you, to be respectful of your relationship.

643
00:32:28,640 --> 00:32:32,240
Speaker 1: That is not control, That is just having respect for

644
00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:35,240
Speaker 1: your partner that you're about to get married to. My

645
00:32:35,320 --> 00:32:37,960
Speaker 1: fiance didn't push back on any of it, and just

646
00:32:38,040 --> 00:32:40,560
Speaker 1: kept drinking and having her fun. At some point, some

647
00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:42,840
Speaker 1: of the women noticed that she had been getting attention

648
00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:45,320
Speaker 1: from some of the men, which is when the maid

649
00:32:45,360 --> 00:32:49,440
Speaker 1: of honor started to encourage her to flirt. My fiance

650
00:32:49,600 --> 00:32:52,360
Speaker 1: gave some weak resistance, but eventually she gave in and

651
00:32:52,400 --> 00:32:55,120
Speaker 1: approached one of the guys at the bar. This is

652
00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:58,280
Speaker 1: the point where our mutual friend became uncomfortable and left

653
00:32:58,320 --> 00:33:00,440
Speaker 1: to the party early, but she was still in the

654
00:33:00,480 --> 00:33:03,040
Speaker 1: group chat where the video was shared. I thanked my

655
00:33:03,080 --> 00:33:05,400
Speaker 1: friend for telling me what happened and asked her to

656
00:33:05,520 --> 00:33:07,960
Speaker 1: ford me the evidence, along with anything else that might

657
00:33:08,080 --> 00:33:10,880
Speaker 1: end up being shared with her. After she left, I

658
00:33:11,200 --> 00:33:15,320
Speaker 1: finally broke down crying, then texted my fiance telling her

659
00:33:15,360 --> 00:33:17,600
Speaker 1: that I knew the wedding was off. Just a few

660
00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:20,720
Speaker 1: minutes later, my phone was flooded with text messages from

661
00:33:20,720 --> 00:33:23,360
Speaker 1: her and her friends. They even tried adding me to

662
00:33:23,360 --> 00:33:25,440
Speaker 1: the group chat where they shared the video of her

663
00:33:25,520 --> 00:33:29,520
Speaker 1: kissing the other man. She got why just to like

664
00:33:29,680 --> 00:33:32,920
Speaker 1: harass him. She got home after thirty minutes later. She

665
00:33:33,080 --> 00:33:35,280
Speaker 1: was crying when she came in and begged me not

666
00:33:35,360 --> 00:33:37,120
Speaker 1: to call off the wedding. She was telling me that

667
00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:39,240
Speaker 1: she was drunk and that she didn't know what came

668
00:33:39,280 --> 00:33:41,640
Speaker 1: over her. She claimed that she didn't do anything other

669
00:33:41,720 --> 00:33:44,360
Speaker 1: than kissing and that she loved me. I stayed silent

670
00:33:44,440 --> 00:33:46,680
Speaker 1: through all of her crying, which I think only made

671
00:33:46,720 --> 00:33:49,400
Speaker 1: her more desperate. She kept saying how sorry she was,

672
00:33:49,520 --> 00:33:51,560
Speaker 1: how it would never happen again, and how she would

673
00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:53,760
Speaker 1: cut off all the friends that were at her party.

674
00:33:54,000 --> 00:33:55,880
Speaker 1: This is not about her friends. We all know her

675
00:33:55,880 --> 00:33:58,040
Speaker 1: friends suck. This is about her own actions. If you

676
00:33:58,120 --> 00:34:02,120
Speaker 1: can take responsibility for your act, she's pushing it off

677
00:34:02,160 --> 00:34:05,280
Speaker 1: on her being drunk and her friends being a bad influence.

678
00:34:05,320 --> 00:34:07,280
Speaker 1: But this is all her, This is all you. My

679
00:34:07,360 --> 00:34:09,480
Speaker 1: friends didn't forced her to do anything. I told her

680
00:34:09,520 --> 00:34:11,759
Speaker 1: that I didn't want to talk about what happened and

681
00:34:11,800 --> 00:34:14,239
Speaker 1: that the wedding was still off. I also told her

682
00:34:14,280 --> 00:34:16,360
Speaker 1: that she could call her friends over and have the

683
00:34:16,480 --> 00:34:20,880
Speaker 1: traditional party she obviously wanted so much because I was leaving.

684
00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:23,520
Speaker 1: This made her even more desperate, and I kid you,

685
00:34:23,560 --> 00:34:26,080
Speaker 1: not made her try to block the door to prevent

686
00:34:26,120 --> 00:34:29,440
Speaker 1: me from leaving. I just stayed silent while packing my bag.

687
00:34:29,600 --> 00:34:31,719
Speaker 1: Then called my sister over and asked her if I

688
00:34:31,719 --> 00:34:34,000
Speaker 1: could stay with her for a couple of days. I

689
00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:35,839
Speaker 1: have now been at my sister's house for the last

690
00:34:35,840 --> 00:34:38,600
Speaker 1: few days, calling friends and family to tell them that

691
00:34:38,600 --> 00:34:41,400
Speaker 1: the wedding is off. I haven't told anyone other than

692
00:34:41,400 --> 00:34:44,480
Speaker 1: my sister the reason. I just feel so humiliated. My

693
00:34:44,520 --> 00:34:46,680
Speaker 1: ex has been calling and texting me every day for

694
00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:49,400
Speaker 1: the past two days. My sister has been offering me support,

695
00:34:49,640 --> 00:34:51,560
Speaker 1: but I just don't know what to do next. I

696
00:34:51,600 --> 00:34:54,919
Speaker 1: feel so lost. Despite everything that happened, I still love her.

697
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:57,680
Speaker 1: Should I hear my fiance out? Should I tell people

698
00:34:57,719 --> 00:35:00,520
Speaker 1: the reason the wedding is off? Is their any hope

699
00:35:00,560 --> 00:35:01,399
Speaker 1: for reconciliation?

700
00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:05,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I'll tell you counseling a wedding is probably

701
00:35:05,920 --> 00:35:06,840
Speaker 2: cheaper than divorce.

702
00:35:07,280 --> 00:35:10,640
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, I think at this point I know it's

703
00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:13,960
Speaker 1: been seven years, but you're not on the same page

704
00:35:14,000 --> 00:35:17,440
Speaker 1: about what's respectful in a relationship. I think this is

705
00:35:17,520 --> 00:35:21,560
Speaker 1: just a really great indicator of what the rest of

706
00:35:22,200 --> 00:35:24,560
Speaker 1: married life will look like too. And I think that

707
00:35:24,760 --> 00:35:26,560
Speaker 1: you know, you're getting out at the right time.

708
00:35:27,080 --> 00:35:32,000
Speaker 2: I hate the like just the environment. Yeah that she

709
00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:36,080
Speaker 2: set up and okay, here's my question. Yeah, it was

710
00:35:36,239 --> 00:35:39,239
Speaker 2: just Yes, she did cheat, but they've been together for

711
00:35:39,280 --> 00:35:43,319
Speaker 2: seven years. Yeah, and it was kissing at a bar. Yeah,

712
00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:46,640
Speaker 2: on a bachelorette party. Would you still stay together with

713
00:35:46,680 --> 00:35:48,080
Speaker 2: your partner after that?

714
00:35:48,520 --> 00:35:53,359
Speaker 1: Probably not? Probably not, I think, especially because seven years. Yes,

715
00:35:53,480 --> 00:35:58,720
Speaker 1: seven years. But Opie specifically said, hey, these are my fears,

716
00:35:59,120 --> 00:36:03,440
Speaker 1: yeah about you having a bachelor bachelorette party, and Opie's

717
00:36:04,800 --> 00:36:08,719
Speaker 1: fiance said, no, I wouldn't. I'm not even thinking about that,

718
00:36:08,719 --> 00:36:11,080
Speaker 1: that's not even on my mind, and then went out

719
00:36:11,680 --> 00:36:12,239
Speaker 1: and did that.

720
00:36:12,400 --> 00:36:15,080
Speaker 2: So it's the fact that he set boundary.

721
00:36:14,719 --> 00:36:16,960
Speaker 1: Set boundaries and they were broken yeah.

722
00:36:16,800 --> 00:36:19,240
Speaker 2: Because I was like, which I mean, it still sucks,

723
00:36:19,680 --> 00:36:23,600
Speaker 2: yeah that, but without the boundaries party, would you still

724
00:36:24,080 --> 00:36:24,959
Speaker 2: like break it off?

725
00:36:25,719 --> 00:36:31,000
Speaker 1: Yeah? I still would. I understand there's a world where

726
00:36:31,600 --> 00:36:33,680
Speaker 1: some people might not because it's been seven years and

727
00:36:33,680 --> 00:36:36,000
Speaker 1: they're about to get married, and you might you know,

728
00:36:36,080 --> 00:36:38,239
Speaker 1: some people might be a bit more forgiving in these scenarios.

729
00:36:38,600 --> 00:36:42,840
Speaker 1: But I think if this is Opie's initial feeling that

730
00:36:42,920 --> 00:36:44,600
Speaker 1: I want to break off this wedding, I think that

731
00:36:44,680 --> 00:36:45,600
Speaker 1: they have to follow that.

732
00:36:46,239 --> 00:36:47,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, because I think.

733
00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:49,560
Speaker 1: That they're saying I still love her. Of course they're

734
00:36:49,560 --> 00:36:52,399
Speaker 1: still going to love her. This is recent, This isn't

735
00:36:52,400 --> 00:36:54,640
Speaker 1: something You're not going to stop loving her even if

736
00:36:54,640 --> 00:36:57,800
Speaker 1: she hurts you. But I still think that it's valid

737
00:36:57,840 --> 00:37:02,279
Speaker 1: for you to take this course of action because she

738
00:37:02,280 --> 00:37:04,840
Speaker 1: did hurt you, and she did break that boundary and

739
00:37:04,880 --> 00:37:05,680
Speaker 1: break that promise.

740
00:37:06,000 --> 00:37:08,280
Speaker 2: Yikes. Um, that's so tough.

741
00:37:08,440 --> 00:37:11,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, that really really sucks. And there are some relevant comments.

742
00:37:13,239 --> 00:37:17,320
Speaker 1: Reasonable Major sixteen seventy eight says, was there more than kissing?

743
00:37:17,520 --> 00:37:20,719
Speaker 1: Ope says according to my fiance, No, she kissed the

744
00:37:20,719 --> 00:37:23,040
Speaker 1: guy then went straight back to her friends. They were

745
00:37:23,080 --> 00:37:25,160
Speaker 1: on their way to the next bar when she received

746
00:37:25,160 --> 00:37:27,840
Speaker 1: my text telling her that the wedding was off. Whoa,

747
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:34,080
Speaker 1: that was a live time whoa. Wow. Reasonable Major sixteen

748
00:37:34,120 --> 00:37:36,120
Speaker 1: seventy eight says a lot of things could have happened

749
00:37:36,200 --> 00:37:38,439
Speaker 1: during that time, And I guess after that you don't

750
00:37:38,440 --> 00:37:40,759
Speaker 1: have much trust in her. Also, do you think her

751
00:37:40,760 --> 00:37:43,680
Speaker 1: friends set her up? Opie says, you're right that the

752
00:37:43,680 --> 00:37:45,840
Speaker 1: trust is pretty much gone. I don't think that this

753
00:37:46,000 --> 00:37:48,720
Speaker 1: was a setup. From the way our mutual friends described it,

754
00:37:48,719 --> 00:37:51,520
Speaker 1: it felt like an opportunity presented itself, while the rest

755
00:37:51,520 --> 00:37:55,040
Speaker 1: of the group egged my fiance on. Yeah yeah, a

756
00:37:55,080 --> 00:37:57,520
Speaker 1: ginger snap forty nine forty nine says to me, that

757
00:37:57,640 --> 00:37:59,840
Speaker 1: just feels like she's not taking full accountability and is

758
00:37:59,840 --> 00:38:02,479
Speaker 1: willing to put quite a bit of blame on her friends. Yeah,

759
00:38:02,480 --> 00:38:04,680
Speaker 1: that's the thing. It might have been different if she

760
00:38:04,719 --> 00:38:08,640
Speaker 1: had reacted and said, I this was completely my fault.

761
00:38:08,800 --> 00:38:12,520
Speaker 1: I made a bad decision, but you know, but there's

762
00:38:12,600 --> 00:38:13,919
Speaker 1: no responsibility.

763
00:38:14,000 --> 00:38:16,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, take it. And I feel like when people shift

764
00:38:16,760 --> 00:38:19,719
Speaker 2: like that, they know it's their fall. Yeah, and they

765
00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:21,319
Speaker 2: don't want to they don't want to accept that.

766
00:38:21,440 --> 00:38:26,040
Speaker 1: No, Nile Yeah, ginger snuff continues, Yes, they should be

767
00:38:26,040 --> 00:38:29,040
Speaker 1: cut off. My friends would never have encouraged that scenario,

768
00:38:29,440 --> 00:38:31,600
Speaker 1: put me, or let me put myself in a situation

769
00:38:31,680 --> 00:38:33,920
Speaker 1: that could result in that much less cheer it on

770
00:38:34,080 --> 00:38:36,680
Speaker 1: and encourage it. They would have dragged my ass from

771
00:38:36,719 --> 00:38:40,040
Speaker 1: the bar long before it could go that far. People

772
00:38:40,120 --> 00:38:42,800
Speaker 1: are who they surround themselves with. Are any of them married?

773
00:38:43,160 --> 00:38:45,520
Speaker 1: I'd be curious how any and all of those bachelorette

774
00:38:45,520 --> 00:38:47,440
Speaker 1: parties have gone. And if this is a pattern for

775
00:38:47,480 --> 00:38:49,640
Speaker 1: that group. The friend that came to you seems to

776
00:38:49,640 --> 00:38:52,600
Speaker 1: be the only one with morals. I have zero tolerance

777
00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:55,480
Speaker 1: for cheating. Once that trust is gone, it really doesn't

778
00:38:55,480 --> 00:38:58,160
Speaker 1: ever fully come back. I couldn't deal with always wondering

779
00:38:58,239 --> 00:39:02,319
Speaker 1: or questioning her motives. Opie responds. I don't know all

780
00:39:02,360 --> 00:39:04,440
Speaker 1: of her friend group that well, but to my knowledge,

781
00:39:04,560 --> 00:39:06,440
Speaker 1: only the friend that came to me and told me

782
00:39:06,480 --> 00:39:07,720
Speaker 1: what was happening is married.

783
00:39:09,920 --> 00:39:13,880
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's so tough. I hate the lack of

784
00:39:14,000 --> 00:39:18,120
Speaker 2: respect that her friends had for their relationship. Yeah, it's like,

785
00:39:18,560 --> 00:39:21,279
Speaker 2: going forward, if they were okay with this being at

786
00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:24,240
Speaker 2: the bachelorette party and they worked this out, her friends

787
00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:26,640
Speaker 2: are still not going to look at him as a

788
00:39:26,680 --> 00:39:29,520
Speaker 2: good enough partner for her and it's just going to

789
00:39:29,560 --> 00:39:32,920
Speaker 2: be bad. And that's a great question. Or any of

790
00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:36,360
Speaker 2: them married, Yeah, they probably don't even have that perspective

791
00:39:36,400 --> 00:39:38,600
Speaker 2: in their mind because are like they're all single. They're like, oh,

792
00:39:38,640 --> 00:39:41,200
Speaker 2: just have fun, it's fine, Like the world's yours, but

793
00:39:41,280 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 2: the married ones like no, like.

794
00:39:42,840 --> 00:39:46,720
Speaker 1: This is a commitment, commitment, And again I just hate

795
00:39:47,120 --> 00:39:50,960
Speaker 1: the idea of this is your last night of freedom

796
00:39:50,960 --> 00:39:55,319
Speaker 1: for a bachelorette party. Because marriage is a certificate. It

797
00:39:55,360 --> 00:39:59,919
Speaker 1: doesn't change the the boundaries or you know, the prem

798
00:40:00,239 --> 00:40:04,080
Speaker 1: of your relationship. It is purely a certificate. It shouldn't

799
00:40:04,120 --> 00:40:07,000
Speaker 1: be changing that much of your relationship. You should have

800
00:40:07,080 --> 00:40:09,359
Speaker 1: respect before and you should have respect after.

801
00:40:09,640 --> 00:40:13,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, there was Michael. We went to Bali with him

802
00:40:13,880 --> 00:40:16,759
Speaker 2: and he was talking about how whenever people celebrate things

803
00:40:16,800 --> 00:40:18,839
Speaker 2: and make this big, like whenever you graduate, you have

804
00:40:18,920 --> 00:40:21,640
Speaker 2: like this little moment of time, whenever you walk across

805
00:40:21,680 --> 00:40:23,360
Speaker 2: the stage, right, Yeah, when you get married, Yeah, that

806
00:40:23,440 --> 00:40:26,200
Speaker 2: little ceremony wherever you get the bride. But like, like

807
00:40:26,239 --> 00:40:29,279
Speaker 2: you said, it's still the same. Yeah, just yeah, one

808
00:40:29,320 --> 00:40:30,359
Speaker 2: little thing happens in the net.

809
00:40:30,440 --> 00:40:33,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, and a celebration is great. I love a celebration,

810
00:40:33,360 --> 00:40:36,560
Speaker 1: and it is okay to make it a big deal.

811
00:40:37,320 --> 00:40:40,680
Speaker 1: But yeah, it your relationship is the same as it

812
00:40:40,760 --> 00:40:45,160
Speaker 1: was before. It is not a past to cheat just

813
00:40:45,200 --> 00:40:48,520
Speaker 1: because you're not married. Medale nine says, I'm curious about

814
00:40:48,520 --> 00:40:51,160
Speaker 1: what the boundaries were that you mutually sat for these parties.

815
00:40:51,239 --> 00:40:54,120
Speaker 1: What exactly did you two agree to? Op says, no

816
00:40:54,239 --> 00:40:57,440
Speaker 1: strippers or any other kind of sex workers, no staying

817
00:40:57,440 --> 00:41:01,399
Speaker 1: out until too late, no getting hammered, and no tempting infidelity.

818
00:41:03,120 --> 00:41:04,560
Speaker 1: I don't know if I agree about the nose staying

819
00:41:04,560 --> 00:41:08,799
Speaker 1: out too late, but everything else. Yeah, those are bad concerns. Yeah,

820
00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:12,439
Speaker 1: that's a fair thing. And there is an update from

821
00:41:12,440 --> 00:41:15,360
Speaker 1: two months later, which would be after the wedding, because

822
00:41:15,360 --> 00:41:16,680
Speaker 1: the wedding was a month from then.

823
00:41:16,760 --> 00:41:17,799
Speaker 2: Do you think they worked it out?

824
00:41:19,160 --> 00:41:21,680
Speaker 1: I don't think so. I think if it's two months later,

825
00:41:21,719 --> 00:41:24,120
Speaker 1: I don't think they worked it out. Yeah, but let's

826
00:41:24,120 --> 00:41:24,520
Speaker 1: find out