1
00:00:00,720 --> 00:00:03,160
Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter and if you need

2
00:00:03,200 --> 00:00:07,520
Speaker 1: advice on relationship, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. Submit

3
00:00:07,600 --> 00:00:11,240
Speaker 1: your Strawberry letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and click

4
00:00:11,640 --> 00:00:16,200
Speaker 1: Submit Strawberry Letters. Shirley Girl is out today. Steve Harvey

5
00:00:16,239 --> 00:00:19,520
Speaker 1: will read the letter. I had just was clearing my throat.

6
00:00:19,640 --> 00:00:25,520
Speaker 1: That was not Every time you do that, you have

7
00:00:25,640 --> 00:00:28,360
Speaker 1: to you have to make an announcement. I'm about to

8
00:00:28,360 --> 00:00:32,360
Speaker 1: clear my throat, y'all excuse me. This is just thoat clearing.

9
00:00:33,360 --> 00:00:35,560
Speaker 1: I ain't trying to clear the room or just trying

10
00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:38,879
Speaker 1: to clear my throat. All. Right, here we go. Subject

11
00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:43,600
Speaker 1: his mouth may be a deal breaker. Dear Stephen, Shirley,

12
00:00:43,600 --> 00:00:46,680
Speaker 1: I'm a forty five year old woman. I have finally

13
00:00:46,720 --> 00:00:51,240
Speaker 1: met mister Wright. Also. I thought he's got a steady job,

14
00:00:51,280 --> 00:00:54,400
Speaker 1: a nice home. He treats me like a queen. We've

15
00:00:54,400 --> 00:00:57,760
Speaker 1: been dating two years and he recently proposed to me.

16
00:00:58,000 --> 00:01:00,680
Speaker 1: But there's just one issue with him that needs to

17
00:01:00,720 --> 00:01:08,360
Speaker 1: be fixed before I agreed to marry him. It's his language. Steve,

18
00:01:09,480 --> 00:01:13,360
Speaker 1: I know you're proud what you just called me out

19
00:01:13,360 --> 00:01:17,360
Speaker 1: of No damn, Steve, I know you're proud of your

20
00:01:17,400 --> 00:01:22,400
Speaker 1: custom skills, so I need your help, Okay, well whatever whatever.

21
00:01:22,440 --> 00:01:25,920
Speaker 1: My man gets frustrated, he cussings like there's no tomorrow.

22
00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:28,840
Speaker 1: Shortly after we met, he visited my church with me.

23
00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:36,800
Speaker 1: Already after we met, he visited my church with me,

24
00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:41,880
Speaker 1: and while the sermon was going on, he got called

25
00:01:41,920 --> 00:01:46,039
Speaker 1: from his ex wife. See this bad timing now. He

26
00:01:46,160 --> 00:01:48,560
Speaker 1: stepped out in the hallway to talk to his ex

27
00:01:48,680 --> 00:01:53,000
Speaker 1: wife and everybody in the church could hear him cussing

28
00:01:53,000 --> 00:01:58,680
Speaker 1: her out. I was shamed and did not return to

29
00:01:58,800 --> 00:02:05,440
Speaker 1: that church. He is an expert cusser and sometimes it's entertaining,

30
00:02:06,280 --> 00:02:08,079
Speaker 1: but I need him to reel it in a bit.

31
00:02:08,160 --> 00:02:13,640
Speaker 1: He recently cussed out another parent. He cussed out another

32
00:02:13,760 --> 00:02:18,040
Speaker 1: parent at his daughter's piano recital for Coffin, and the

33
00:02:18,160 --> 00:02:21,320
Speaker 1: guy couldn't help it. Not in the days in time,

34
00:02:22,440 --> 00:02:25,680
Speaker 1: you're gonna get cussed out his daughter was a shame

35
00:02:26,240 --> 00:02:29,720
Speaker 1: because the school's security guard put my man out of

36
00:02:29,760 --> 00:02:34,440
Speaker 1: the recital. The big deal breaking for me now is

37
00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:39,720
Speaker 1: he cannot refrain from cussing around my parents. Last time

38
00:02:39,760 --> 00:02:41,840
Speaker 1: we all got together for dinner, my man went to

39
00:02:41,880 --> 00:02:44,120
Speaker 1: the bathroom and on the way back to our table,

40
00:02:44,880 --> 00:02:49,280
Speaker 1: he stopped his toe on a rolling card. He stumped

41
00:02:49,320 --> 00:02:53,320
Speaker 1: his toe on the rolling cart. Then tire restaurant came

42
00:02:53,400 --> 00:02:56,680
Speaker 1: to a screeching halt as he let out the loudest

43
00:02:56,720 --> 00:03:01,079
Speaker 1: string of cuss words I've ever heard. My parents had

44
00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:03,160
Speaker 1: been going to that restaurant for years, and they were

45
00:03:03,200 --> 00:03:06,800
Speaker 1: so ashamed they walked out. My dad doesn't want me

46
00:03:06,840 --> 00:03:09,160
Speaker 1: with a man like this, But he really is a

47
00:03:09,200 --> 00:03:12,600
Speaker 1: great guy. He just got a very filed mouth. It's

48
00:03:12,600 --> 00:03:15,399
Speaker 1: just something that can be changed or well, I run

49
00:03:15,440 --> 00:03:18,120
Speaker 1: the risk of being embarrassed for life if I marry him.

50
00:03:18,120 --> 00:03:23,160
Speaker 1: Please at five call him. Well all right, girl, let

51
00:03:23,160 --> 00:03:26,000
Speaker 1: me tell you, because this letter is truly truly for Steve.

52
00:03:26,080 --> 00:03:28,280
Speaker 1: But I give you a little bit. You are going

53
00:03:28,360 --> 00:03:30,480
Speaker 1: to have to talk to your man and just say,

54
00:03:30,600 --> 00:03:33,600
Speaker 1: you know, baby, listen, you know you're cussing in front

55
00:03:33,600 --> 00:03:36,960
Speaker 1: of my parents. You have to start showing some respect.

56
00:03:37,280 --> 00:03:40,400
Speaker 1: You embarrass your daughter at her recital. You know you

57
00:03:40,520 --> 00:03:42,600
Speaker 1: just cussed out of man because he kept coughing, and

58
00:03:42,680 --> 00:03:44,480
Speaker 1: I know this ain't no time to be coughing, just

59
00:03:44,520 --> 00:03:47,160
Speaker 1: like Steve said, but you did not have to go

60
00:03:47,280 --> 00:03:50,560
Speaker 1: to that level. Whether security at the school had to

61
00:03:50,600 --> 00:03:54,839
Speaker 1: remove you from the recital. You're cussing at church. It's

62
00:03:54,880 --> 00:03:57,480
Speaker 1: just disrespectful. Just tell him you're a good man, tell

63
00:03:57,560 --> 00:04:00,720
Speaker 1: him you love him. But you know some people look

64
00:04:00,760 --> 00:04:05,080
Speaker 1: at cussing or swearing as intimidating or it's a form

65
00:04:05,160 --> 00:04:09,320
Speaker 1: of bullying. Actually, so tell him you're not blaming him

66
00:04:09,320 --> 00:04:12,600
Speaker 1: for his habit. But he has to recognize it and

67
00:04:12,680 --> 00:04:14,800
Speaker 1: work on it. He tell him you love him and

68
00:04:14,880 --> 00:04:17,320
Speaker 1: you want to be his wife. But he can't keep

69
00:04:17,760 --> 00:04:22,280
Speaker 1: relying on profanity and cuss words to express himself. You know,

70
00:04:22,320 --> 00:04:24,560
Speaker 1: he's got to find another way to do it. He's

71
00:04:24,600 --> 00:04:27,080
Speaker 1: got to find ways to get out of negative situations

72
00:04:27,080 --> 00:04:29,880
Speaker 1: and think of something positive that he can do or

73
00:04:30,080 --> 00:04:33,800
Speaker 1: say in those moments, because it is truly out of hand.

74
00:04:33,880 --> 00:04:36,000
Speaker 1: You know, you just can't be going firing off at

75
00:04:36,080 --> 00:04:38,760
Speaker 1: church and in front of the parents and just you

76
00:04:38,839 --> 00:04:44,400
Speaker 1: got you gotta try. That's not helping. Tell me, I

77
00:04:44,440 --> 00:04:46,839
Speaker 1: don't know, start a cusso jar, y'all remember that back

78
00:04:46,839 --> 00:04:50,000
Speaker 1: in the day, punishment five dollars for every cuss word.

79
00:04:50,279 --> 00:04:52,440
Speaker 1: But you've got to tell him that it's something that

80
00:04:52,520 --> 00:04:55,600
Speaker 1: he really needs to work on. Steve, I know you

81
00:04:55,640 --> 00:05:01,799
Speaker 1: want this letter, Well, so here is what I'm duke first. First,

82
00:05:01,839 --> 00:05:04,880
Speaker 1: I'm gonna read this. I'm gonna give you what an

83
00:05:04,960 --> 00:05:09,000
Speaker 1: opinion or radio opinion when we come after the break,

84
00:05:09,600 --> 00:05:14,640
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do the letter a little more justice. Let

85
00:05:14,640 --> 00:05:16,800
Speaker 1: me just say this right here. You should not not

86
00:05:17,040 --> 00:05:19,840
Speaker 1: marry a man because it has a file mouth. It

87
00:05:19,880 --> 00:05:22,640
Speaker 1: can be changed. This is a great guy. He treats

88
00:05:22,640 --> 00:05:27,000
Speaker 1: you like a queen. He's a wonderful dude. He just cuss.

89
00:05:27,600 --> 00:05:29,960
Speaker 1: Cussin ain't the worst thing that command could do. He

90
00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:34,120
Speaker 1: ain't cheating on you. He's not physically abusive. He's not

91
00:05:34,240 --> 00:05:38,240
Speaker 1: mentally abusive, even though if he's cussing at you, that's

92
00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:42,760
Speaker 1: a form of abuse. But I think that's not the problem.

93
00:05:43,120 --> 00:05:47,760
Speaker 1: It's just when he gets frustrated, cusses. And so that

94
00:05:47,880 --> 00:05:51,800
Speaker 1: can be dealt with and worked with by you by

95
00:05:52,000 --> 00:05:58,000
Speaker 1: constant constantly encouraging him not to cuss, rewarding him for

96
00:05:58,160 --> 00:06:01,440
Speaker 1: not cussing, and then at the same time showing your

97
00:06:01,480 --> 00:06:05,839
Speaker 1: utter disdain when he does. Eventually, a man that loves

98
00:06:05,880 --> 00:06:10,760
Speaker 1: you will make the necessary changes around you. So here's

99
00:06:10,760 --> 00:06:13,400
Speaker 1: what you have to do. You have to create boundaries.

100
00:06:14,000 --> 00:06:16,680
Speaker 1: You can cuss wherever you want when you're not with

101
00:06:16,720 --> 00:06:19,840
Speaker 1: me or when you're around me and my parents. I'm

102
00:06:19,880 --> 00:06:23,479
Speaker 1: asking you to refrain from it. And if I look

103
00:06:23,480 --> 00:06:25,760
Speaker 1: at you or nudge you, you've gone too far. And

104
00:06:25,880 --> 00:06:28,359
Speaker 1: I'm not saying you can't cuss, but all these loud

105
00:06:28,400 --> 00:06:31,000
Speaker 1: cussing outbreaks. If I nudge you, you need to pull

106
00:06:31,080 --> 00:06:33,039
Speaker 1: up and you need to work out a system because

107
00:06:33,080 --> 00:06:35,159
Speaker 1: you don't want to give up a good man. Now,

108
00:06:35,240 --> 00:06:37,800
Speaker 1: when we come back, I'm gonna read this letter and

109
00:06:37,880 --> 00:06:45,240
Speaker 1: respond to it the right way. Do we need to

110
00:06:47,920 --> 00:06:55,720
Speaker 1: be right the hour you're listening to. Okay, Steve, come on, recaps.

111
00:06:55,800 --> 00:06:58,480
Speaker 1: All right, here we go. Here's a woman that has

112
00:06:58,520 --> 00:07:01,560
Speaker 1: been dealing with this man. And I gave my opinion earlier.

113
00:07:01,960 --> 00:07:04,680
Speaker 1: Don't leave a good man just because he cuss. Work

114
00:07:04,760 --> 00:07:08,440
Speaker 1: with him. Set some parameters. You can slowly work him

115
00:07:08,440 --> 00:07:11,160
Speaker 1: out of this. You can cuss, but not around me.

116
00:07:11,520 --> 00:07:13,440
Speaker 1: I want you to refrain when you're around me and

117
00:07:13,520 --> 00:07:16,160
Speaker 1: my parents. Other than that, you want to cus somebody out,

118
00:07:16,200 --> 00:07:18,400
Speaker 1: do whatever you wanna do. Let's work on this together.

119
00:07:18,680 --> 00:07:20,360
Speaker 1: All right, that's what you don't wanna leave a good

120
00:07:20,400 --> 00:07:23,120
Speaker 1: man just called it. Cuse everybody got flaws. Now, let's

121
00:07:23,160 --> 00:07:28,480
Speaker 1: read the letter from Steve Harvey, who ain't on the

122
00:07:28,600 --> 00:07:32,680
Speaker 1: radio and not trying to give advice. Y'all stay with me.

123
00:07:32,760 --> 00:07:34,960
Speaker 1: Here we go this Stephen Shell. I'm a forty five

124
00:07:35,040 --> 00:07:37,480
Speaker 1: year old woman. I finally met mister writer, so I thought.

125
00:07:37,680 --> 00:07:39,720
Speaker 1: He got a steady job at nice home and treats

126
00:07:39,760 --> 00:07:42,080
Speaker 1: me like a queen. We've been dating for two years

127
00:07:42,080 --> 00:07:44,640
Speaker 1: and he recently proposed to me. But there's just one

128
00:07:44,680 --> 00:07:47,720
Speaker 1: issue with him that needs to be fixed before I

129
00:07:47,760 --> 00:07:52,200
Speaker 1: agree to marry him. It's his language. Steve, se know

130
00:07:52,280 --> 00:07:55,560
Speaker 1: why she bring my ass into this. I know you're

131
00:07:55,640 --> 00:07:58,360
Speaker 1: proud of your custom skills, so I need your help.

132
00:07:58,720 --> 00:08:01,880
Speaker 1: I'm one of the best that there is, damn it.

133
00:08:02,720 --> 00:08:06,720
Speaker 1: Whenever my man gets frustrated, he cussed like, ain't no tomorrow.

134
00:08:07,000 --> 00:08:09,520
Speaker 1: Shortly after we met, he visited my church with me,

135
00:08:09,760 --> 00:08:11,840
Speaker 1: and while the sermon was going on, he got a

136
00:08:11,880 --> 00:08:15,400
Speaker 1: call from his funking ass ex wife. He stepped out

137
00:08:15,400 --> 00:08:18,200
Speaker 1: in the hallway to talk to huff funking ass, and

138
00:08:18,360 --> 00:08:20,920
Speaker 1: everybody in the church could hear him cussing out. I'm

139
00:08:20,960 --> 00:08:23,040
Speaker 1: in here trying to say the Lord and you out

140
00:08:23,040 --> 00:08:27,200
Speaker 1: here calling me. You called me for now. Everybody asked

141
00:08:27,200 --> 00:08:30,760
Speaker 1: you for this bush. I can't even go to church

142
00:08:31,000 --> 00:08:34,640
Speaker 1: without your monkeys calling me. That's why I left your

143
00:08:35,960 --> 00:08:39,360
Speaker 1: in the first place. I hope you go to hell.

144
00:08:39,720 --> 00:08:43,880
Speaker 1: You make me sick. No call this more phone, No

145
00:08:43,920 --> 00:08:56,800
Speaker 1: more knows my number. Mother. Now he's an expert cussing.

146
00:08:57,000 --> 00:09:00,880
Speaker 1: Sometimes it's entertaining. See, I know that's why I because

147
00:09:00,880 --> 00:09:04,360
Speaker 1: of that line right there. I'm it's entertaining when I cussed,

148
00:09:04,600 --> 00:09:07,920
Speaker 1: and so I use cussing for entertainment. So I don't

149
00:09:07,960 --> 00:09:09,679
Speaker 1: do what you're tripping from. But I need him to

150
00:09:09,720 --> 00:09:12,520
Speaker 1: reel it in. He recently cuts out another pan at

151
00:09:12,520 --> 00:09:15,640
Speaker 1: his daughter piano cited for coughing, and the guy couldn't

152
00:09:15,679 --> 00:09:22,960
Speaker 1: help it. My baby playing, you coffee for your baby playing,

153
00:09:23,120 --> 00:09:28,440
Speaker 1: and start all that coffin. You know when my baby

154
00:09:28,480 --> 00:09:34,360
Speaker 1: playing the piano. You don't call when my baby playing

155
00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:42,520
Speaker 1: the piano, puck mother, while my baby player? When that lord,

156
00:09:42,520 --> 00:09:47,720
Speaker 1: when your little baby, your other baby is playing, cough again,

157
00:09:48,080 --> 00:09:53,520
Speaker 1: cough again. I see what happened to yo? All right?

158
00:09:54,400 --> 00:09:57,080
Speaker 1: And then his daughter wasn't bass caused the school's kit

159
00:09:57,160 --> 00:09:59,080
Speaker 1: to God putting my man out through the citle the

160
00:09:59,160 --> 00:10:02,200
Speaker 1: big deal breakwa me. He cannot refrain from cussing round

161
00:10:02,280 --> 00:10:08,840
Speaker 1: my pants? Who is your parents? Here we go? Who

162
00:10:08,920 --> 00:10:13,559
Speaker 1: who is your mama, Daddy, Joseph and Mary? What? But

163
00:10:13,679 --> 00:10:15,720
Speaker 1: how they ain't that? How the old lass ain't hearing

164
00:10:15,720 --> 00:10:18,720
Speaker 1: no cussing? We go together to dinner. My man went

165
00:10:18,760 --> 00:10:20,760
Speaker 1: to the bathroom. On the way back to our table,

166
00:10:21,080 --> 00:10:25,400
Speaker 1: he stumped his toe on the rolling cart. Put this

167
00:10:25,600 --> 00:10:31,120
Speaker 1: card and this I this the worst pass you can

168
00:10:31,160 --> 00:10:35,840
Speaker 1: put the grocery cart. This the dumbist. Oh to suit

169
00:10:35,960 --> 00:10:42,920
Speaker 1: everybody in this mother, I didn't come in here, have

170
00:10:43,120 --> 00:10:50,000
Speaker 1: no cart in the tell him this bush. He was

171
00:10:50,040 --> 00:10:54,160
Speaker 1: loving this too much, Oh too much. He let out

172
00:10:54,200 --> 00:10:56,840
Speaker 1: the loudest cuss words I've ever heard. My parents had

173
00:10:56,840 --> 00:10:58,679
Speaker 1: been going to that restaurant for years, and they were

174
00:10:58,720 --> 00:11:12,720
Speaker 1: so ashamed they walked out. Walk your's out, bye bye today.

175
00:11:14,360 --> 00:11:16,640
Speaker 1: My dad don't want me to man man like this.

176
00:11:16,800 --> 00:11:18,440
Speaker 1: What you want me to wear? What you want an

177
00:11:18,480 --> 00:11:23,120
Speaker 1: old man like your daddy, same restaurant for thirty years.

178
00:11:23,400 --> 00:11:25,040
Speaker 1: My dad don't want me to man man like that.

179
00:11:25,120 --> 00:11:27,640
Speaker 1: But he really is a great guy. He just has

180
00:11:27,640 --> 00:11:30,200
Speaker 1: a very fire mouth. Is this something that can be changed?

181
00:11:30,720 --> 00:11:32,920
Speaker 1: Or will I run the risk of being bass for life? Now?

182
00:11:33,000 --> 00:11:35,559
Speaker 1: Is he gonna didn't bash you sometimes, but you can

183
00:11:35,559 --> 00:11:38,680
Speaker 1: get some parameters going, say, listen, you're cussing is a

184
00:11:38,679 --> 00:11:41,960
Speaker 1: real problem for me. It's embarrassing. And I love you

185
00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:43,679
Speaker 1: and I don't want you didn't bass me no more.

186
00:11:44,120 --> 00:11:47,240
Speaker 1: So I'm just gonna ask you not to cuss around me.

187
00:11:47,880 --> 00:11:51,439
Speaker 1: And if you cuss around me, I promise you, I'm

188
00:11:51,440 --> 00:11:57,679
Speaker 1: gonna slap you. Got you, I'm an haul off cock

189
00:12:00,480 --> 00:12:06,760
Speaker 1: the monkey out of you. Now cuss again your black

190
00:12:10,120 --> 00:12:15,120
Speaker 1: Now see, sometimes you got to embarrass or cussa to

191
00:12:15,160 --> 00:12:18,440
Speaker 1: get him to stop. And that's my suggestion, and that's

192
00:12:18,559 --> 00:12:21,679
Speaker 1: my reading of the letter. Yeah, and let that. Can

193
00:12:21,760 --> 00:12:28,960
Speaker 1: I say something you made me so mo I'm proud.

194
00:12:29,000 --> 00:12:33,760
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna ja jay, how about you? I just

195
00:12:33,800 --> 00:12:38,240
Speaker 1: would like to say, that was the funniest ever heard.

196
00:12:38,559 --> 00:12:42,880
Speaker 1: Thank you man in a long man. Thank you, Thank

197
00:12:42,920 --> 00:12:46,000
Speaker 1: you man, Thank you man. Man. That means a lot

198
00:12:46,040 --> 00:12:53,160
Speaker 1: to me. Man, that was that was phenomenal. Thank you.

199
00:12:55,120 --> 00:12:57,840
Speaker 1: Hate this letter, so, Carl, I guess you don't want

200
00:12:57,840 --> 00:13:03,559
Speaker 1: to say about it. Who is a good castle? I

201
00:13:03,600 --> 00:13:07,640
Speaker 1: don't know why talent cosses I've ever heard calling for Ready,

202
00:13:08,280 --> 00:13:10,520
Speaker 1: We'll be back, y'all. We got Mo Right after that,

203
00:13:11,160 --> 00:13:13,880
Speaker 1: you're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show