WEBVTT - EXCLUSIVE: Selling Sunset's Chelsea Lazkani

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<v Speaker 2>recap our favorite reality shows, and revisit unforgettable moments that

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<v Speaker 2>we are still talking and tweeting about. Rain Drops here,

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<v Speaker 2>She's here, and I could not be happier than two.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm fanning out.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm fanning out.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I'm fanning out, Fanny.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think you know how much I adore you

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<v Speaker 2>and love you.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a huge fan of yours.

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<v Speaker 2>Chelsea las Kannie from selling Sunset Bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I'm a fan.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm a fan of yours because I don't do podcasts,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, I tell everybody I do not do podcasts

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<v Speaker 4>because I also don't believe in talking about a lot

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<v Speaker 4>of things that goes on the show and not addressing

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<v Speaker 4>them with the people directly. That's just that's my philosophy.

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<v Speaker 4>I rather just talk to the person directly. But when

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<v Speaker 4>I've been a big fan of yours for a long time,

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<v Speaker 4>when you reached out to me, I said, if there's

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<v Speaker 4>one podcast I'm the dow, it's Carlos's. And I text

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<v Speaker 4>my agents. They were like, what, Chelsea, We've been trying

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<v Speaker 4>to get you to do poscasts for like a year

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<v Speaker 4>and a half.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, I'm gonna do this one.

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<v Speaker 4>He sees me, and he respects me, and even if

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<v Speaker 4>he asks tops questions, I know that he's coming from

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<v Speaker 4>a place of love. And I need someone to I

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<v Speaker 4>need someone to see me to ask me the right questions.

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<v Speaker 3>Otherwise I don't want to I don't want to have

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<v Speaker 3>small talk.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't make me cry. Don't make me cry. That means

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<v Speaker 1>a lot to me.

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<v Speaker 2>I created this podcast to be a safe space for

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<v Speaker 2>peep on reality television, especially black women who dominate reality TV.

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<v Speaker 2>And the moment you stepped foot on selling Sunset, Me

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<v Speaker 2>and My group Chat and the Rain drops.

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<v Speaker 1>We were all like, who.

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<v Speaker 2>Is this bad bitch that is about to set this

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<v Speaker 2>show on fire?

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<v Speaker 1>And you have not let us down.

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<v Speaker 2>The community loves you, I mean the black community.

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<v Speaker 1>We ride for you. We ride for you.

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<v Speaker 2>You are a beautiful, dark skinned black woman, African born

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<v Speaker 2>and raised in the UK, right, and we're proud of you.

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<v Speaker 2>And I want you to know that we see you.

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<v Speaker 2>I see you and baby were about to have some fun.

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<v Speaker 3>You're gonna make me cry.

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<v Speaker 2>No, we see you, and I want to know that

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<v Speaker 2>we see you, and we're no, no, no, don't don't cry.

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<v Speaker 1>Make up, honey.

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<v Speaker 2>But I need you to know, speaking on behalf of

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<v Speaker 2>the black community, we're proud of you. You you hold

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<v Speaker 2>it down on that show. And I know it's hard.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll get to that later. Actually, let's get into it now.

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<v Speaker 2>You as a dark skinned black woman coming into selling sunset?

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<v Speaker 1>How did that come about?

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<v Speaker 4>Minded my business, I had my real estate license, so

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<v Speaker 4>I got my real estate license actually to purchase my

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<v Speaker 4>own house. That's the only reason I got my real

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<v Speaker 4>estate license because I worked in oil and gas. I

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<v Speaker 4>worked for oil gas company, did my master and oil

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<v Speaker 4>and gas. And my husband and I recently got married

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<v Speaker 4>and we wanted to purchase our mouthful home. I was

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<v Speaker 4>looking at house in Manhattan Beach and I saw the

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<v Speaker 4>commission on the houses, and I said, I'll be damned

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<v Speaker 4>if I give this away to somebody that can do

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<v Speaker 4>what I can do. So I went to real estate school,

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<v Speaker 4>probably lasted about five six weeks, took my exam. I've

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<v Speaker 4>got a very I got a retentive memory, so I

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<v Speaker 4>can pretty much study for anything the day before and

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<v Speaker 4>pass it. That's what got me through my undergrad and master's.

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<v Speaker 4>And I took the exam, I passed it, and I

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<v Speaker 4>purchased my house with my husband.

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<v Speaker 1>You kept the commission and I kept the.

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<v Speaker 4>That's pretty much how I got my real estate license.

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<v Speaker 4>And then I started to do transactions for families and friends.

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<v Speaker 4>And I was like, guys, if you're looking to buy

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<v Speaker 4>or sell a house, I know traditionally they take two

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<v Speaker 4>point five percent, but you're my homie. I'll do it

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<v Speaker 4>for like two percent, or I'll do it for one

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<v Speaker 4>point five. You know what, maybe I'll do it for free.

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<v Speaker 3>Just break me off like a nice dinner at Nobo.

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<v Speaker 3>We just gotta pay. We just got to pay my brokerage.

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<v Speaker 4>And this is when I was working at Rode Royalty,

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<v Speaker 4>which is a more traditional brokerage. I was like, I

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<v Speaker 4>would be like some my my broker, I would be

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<v Speaker 4>like Chelsea. They'll be like, Chelsea, you're buying another house.

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, no, No, my sister is buying a house.

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<v Speaker 4>The person is not related to me. I can't charge

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<v Speaker 4>my sister the two point five percent. She's a struggling woman. Like,

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<v Speaker 4>come on, technically, if my sister's buying the house, I'm

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<v Speaker 4>buying the house.

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<v Speaker 3>So it was always it was always good fun.

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<v Speaker 1>So what year did you get your real estate license?

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<v Speaker 4>I got my real estate license in two thousand and seven,

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<v Speaker 4>two thousand and yeah, twenty seventeen.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, And who approached you to be on selling Sunset

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<v Speaker 2>the producer?

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<v Speaker 1>How did they find you?

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<v Speaker 3>I have no idea.

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<v Speaker 4>So I had a very private account, probably two thousand followers.

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<v Speaker 4>I only posted myself and my partner. I didn't most

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<v Speaker 4>of my Instagram photos, which some of which are still there,

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<v Speaker 4>are just travel photos, folks, from our wedding, photos from

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<v Speaker 4>our life together. You know, didn't really have many friends

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<v Speaker 4>here because I had moved here from the UK and

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<v Speaker 4>hadn't really gotten into any social circles, and I just

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<v Speaker 4>got a message one day from a producer.

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<v Speaker 3>Never never ever.

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<v Speaker 4>Watched Selling Sunset A Day in My Life, Never watch

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<v Speaker 4>Selling Sunset a Day in my Life on Bible, never

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<v Speaker 4>watched it. Saw the message, ran to my husband and

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<v Speaker 4>was like, this producer wants to interview me for this show.

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<v Speaker 4>He's like, this is going to be some random guy

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<v Speaker 4>in Saudi Arabia that wants to see your tips. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 4>you are not going to be my up right now.

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<v Speaker 4>You are not going to be my enemy of progress.

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<v Speaker 4>I'll speak to you later, sir, the pipe person, I am.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not really formal as much as people look at

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<v Speaker 4>me and they think, you know, I come across a reform. No,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm very I just say what's on my mind. Message

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<v Speaker 4>back instantly, and I'm like, hey, can you jump on

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<v Speaker 4>a call real quick? And that the rest is history.

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<v Speaker 1>What made you say yes to being on the show,

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<v Speaker 1>knowing that.

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<v Speaker 2>You're a private person with a private Instagram account, not

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<v Speaker 2>feeling like you said earlier, this beautiful bombshell? What made

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<v Speaker 2>you say yes to this opportunity?

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<v Speaker 4>So there are a lot of reasons, but I think

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<v Speaker 4>first and foremost have to go back to my faith,

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<v Speaker 4>God definitely said this is for me. Like before I

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<v Speaker 4>even got the opportunity, there was this overwhelming feeling that

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<v Speaker 4>God wanted this for me. Then after my first phone call,

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<v Speaker 4>I watched the show, and you know, I see these

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<v Speaker 4>beautiful women crushing it in this industry and making a

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<v Speaker 4>lot of money and being very aspirational with a large platform.

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<v Speaker 4>But I see nobody that looks like me, and my

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<v Speaker 4>heart like shattered because I was petrified.

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<v Speaker 3>But I knew that this was this was.

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<v Speaker 4>An opportunity for me to be that representation first and foremost,

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<v Speaker 4>and then secondly, if not me, maybe there won't be

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<v Speaker 4>another one. And knowing that if I got this opportunity

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<v Speaker 4>and turned it down because of fear, the audience don't

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<v Speaker 4>have that person to look to.

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<v Speaker 3>So I said, as.

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<v Speaker 4>Much as I want to do this for me and

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<v Speaker 4>for my career, I really want to do it for

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<v Speaker 4>my brownskin girls who maybe lack motivation, maybe feel like

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<v Speaker 4>they can't crush it in their respective films that are

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<v Speaker 4>dominated by people that don't look like them. And although

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not a top I wasn't a top seller, I

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<v Speaker 4>wasn't in the luxury market.

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<v Speaker 3>Then I said, I'm going to do this. I'm going

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<v Speaker 3>to show it.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm going to show that it can be done because

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<v Speaker 4>it's important. Representation is important, No.

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<v Speaker 2>It is, and you represent us very very well on

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<v Speaker 2>that show because you're being your authentic self and we

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<v Speaker 2>can see it, and you're funny, aspirational, and you do

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<v Speaker 2>a damn good job. And the reason why I know

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<v Speaker 2>you do a damn good job is because Jason compliment

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<v Speaker 2>to you a great deal, even at the reunion when

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<v Speaker 2>he said, no, honey, I don't think you guys understand.

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<v Speaker 2>I take her around and she's killing it. So that's

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<v Speaker 2>a testament to just you and your hard work. But

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<v Speaker 2>before we continue with that, I want to go back

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit. You're from the UK, you're an African woman.

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<v Speaker 2>What was your childhood like being African and growing up

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<v Speaker 2>in the UK.

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<v Speaker 3>My child was beautiful.

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<v Speaker 4>There there was a lot of strife and struggles because

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<v Speaker 4>first generation. Both my parents were born and raised in Nigeria,

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<v Speaker 4>and you know, the great British dream, if you would

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<v Speaker 4>like to call it. They moved to the UK for

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<v Speaker 4>better prospects and better opportunities. They had me, my brother

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<v Speaker 4>and sister, and they worked damn hard. My parents both

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<v Speaker 4>kept multiple jobs. We never knew I never knew struggle,

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<v Speaker 4>and there were a lot of struggles, but I never

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<v Speaker 4>knew struggles because my parents went above and beyond to

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<v Speaker 4>make sure we were sheltered from it. My mum was

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<v Speaker 4>recruited very early on, probably when I was about i'd

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<v Speaker 4>say nine or ten, to work for her first company abroad,

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<v Speaker 4>which was in Switzerland, and then she was recruited again

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<v Speaker 4>to work for another larger company in New Jersey, which

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<v Speaker 4>was Johnston Johnson's, and she was C Suite at Johnston Johnson's.

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<v Speaker 4>So I always had amazing representation and amazing role models

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<v Speaker 4>from both of my parents. My dad is an architect

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<v Speaker 4>and he was in property development, so I saw my parents,

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<v Speaker 4>who don't speak like myself, they have African accents, really

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<v Speaker 4>work extremely hard in Ghana respect in their respective fields.

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<v Speaker 4>So hard work and hustle was ingrained in me from

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<v Speaker 4>a very young age. But I didn't have the family

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<v Speaker 4>dynamic that most people have. We didn't have dinner around

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<v Speaker 4>the tables. I didn't have the many Christmases that I

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<v Speaker 4>didn't see my mom or my dad. Maybe I saw

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<v Speaker 4>one of them because we were in two different countries, but.

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<v Speaker 3>I just had so much respect for.

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<v Speaker 4>Them because they loved life, but they loved to work

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<v Speaker 4>and they knew that like, you got to work ten

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<v Speaker 4>times as hard, ten times as hard always and put

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<v Speaker 4>your head down and the results will come. So I

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<v Speaker 4>never feared making it anywhere because I saw my parents

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<v Speaker 4>come from less than me. They ran so I could

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<v Speaker 4>just walk and chill. So that's what my family life

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<v Speaker 4>was like.

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<v Speaker 2>And we saw your mother up here on the show,

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<v Speaker 2>and one thing you mentioned is you didn't celebrate your birthday.

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<v Speaker 1>Why was that?

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<v Speaker 4>Birthdays were always a little bit triggering for me because

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<v Speaker 4>for the most of my birthdays, not all my family

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<v Speaker 4>was present. So although I lived in the UK with

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<v Speaker 4>my dad, my brother and sister and mum lived in

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<v Speaker 4>either Switzerland or New Jersey, so when birthdays roll around,

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't have like my whole family there, So I

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<v Speaker 4>always wanted to glaze over the day because for the

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<v Speaker 4>most part, I think your parents celebrate your birthday's the

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<v Speaker 4>most I had French.

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<v Speaker 3>I had friends, but.

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<v Speaker 4>Your parents the ones that really go all out. And

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<v Speaker 4>it's not to say my parents didn't. We were just

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<v Speaker 4>it was all about subsistence. We were just trying to

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<v Speaker 4>We were just trying to live. We were just trying

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<v Speaker 4>to make it. So birthdays weren't a big thing in

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<v Speaker 4>my household, so I never celebrated them, never celebrating them.

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<v Speaker 4>And then as I grew older and I got to

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<v Speaker 4>a place where I could celebrate myself, or I could

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<v Speaker 4>have my partner celebrate me, or I could have friends

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<v Speaker 4>celebrate me, i'd kind of just I changed the day

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<v Speaker 4>on my Facebook. I changed my birthday on my Facebook

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<v Speaker 4>every single year so that when it came to my birthday,

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<v Speaker 4>nobody would go and you know, you see it in

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<v Speaker 4>the little corner, it's Chelsea Addi Foyer, which is my

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<v Speaker 4>maiden name, or Chelsea Luis Connie's birthday. I would change

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<v Speaker 4>it so nobody would know it's my birthday.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's why when you celebrated your birthday on this

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<v Speaker 2>season I'm selling Sunset, it was a big deal for

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<v Speaker 2>you because you didn't do that growing.

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<v Speaker 1>Up because your mother was traveling working.

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<v Speaker 2>So was there this vision where it's like you stay

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<v Speaker 2>with your dad and the rest of the stems go

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<v Speaker 2>with mom.

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<v Speaker 3>So it's this is.

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<v Speaker 4>Kind of where my mind gets a little bit blurry,

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<v Speaker 4>you know. I think trauma has a way of blurring

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<v Speaker 4>certain realities. From what I remember, I was at a

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<v Speaker 4>fundamental stage in my academic whereby moving at that point

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<v Speaker 4>in time wouldn't be beneficial for me in terms of

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<v Speaker 4>academically because I was I think I was just before

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<v Speaker 4>sixth form and I needed to create I needed to

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<v Speaker 4>finish my first set of exams. However, my brother, who

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<v Speaker 4>is five years my junior, and my sister, who is

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<v Speaker 4>almost two years my senior, there were perfect points where

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<v Speaker 4>they could just transition easily into the US school system

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<v Speaker 4>and not have any like they didn't miss out on anything.

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<v Speaker 4>That's what I remember. So I ended up staying the

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<v Speaker 4>UK with my dad, and my brother and sister moved

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<v Speaker 4>to New Jersey with my mum.

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<v Speaker 2>You mentioned earlier you never saw yourself as a beauty girl,

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<v Speaker 2>so you devoted yourself to being smart, Like I'm going

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<v Speaker 2>to be smart, I'm going to figure out life. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to be happy. Why didn't you feel like a

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<v Speaker 2>beautiful girl growing up? Because when I look at you,

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<v Speaker 2>you are gorgeous. I mean, bone structure, galore and everything else.

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<v Speaker 2>So what didn't you see in yourself as a little

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<v Speaker 2>girl that I see now in you as a woman.

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<v Speaker 3>I think beauty really is.

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<v Speaker 4>Comes from inside, and I think because I didn't feel

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<v Speaker 4>beautiful inside, I didn't exude the confidence you may see today.

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<v Speaker 3>So I never really saw beauty.

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<v Speaker 4>As aesthetics, as the way you look on the outside,

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<v Speaker 4>because for the most part, I grew up in an

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<v Speaker 4>area that was predominantly white, so I didn't have representations

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<v Speaker 4>of beauty around me. So I always saw myself as

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<v Speaker 4>an anomaly, So I never saw myself as beautiful, so

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<v Speaker 4>I focused more or on beauty was like who you

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<v Speaker 4>are as a person. But because I was struggling a

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<v Speaker 4>lot and obviously focusing a lot of school and not

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<v Speaker 4>having what most people had, which was both their parents

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<v Speaker 4>therefore picture day or both their parents there for classes

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<v Speaker 4>or parent teacher Day, whatever it was, I just felt like,

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<v Speaker 4>as blessed as I am, my realities are just a

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<v Speaker 4>little bit harder being a black woman with two immigrant parents,

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<v Speaker 4>And I think that beauty was less physical and was

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<v Speaker 4>just like like, I'm a little bit of a mess,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, I got a little bit more struggles than

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<v Speaker 4>all my white counterparts.

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<v Speaker 3>I can never be here.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm always going to be here, and maybe one day,

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<v Speaker 4>if I keep working, I'll get to hear.

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<v Speaker 3>That's why.

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<v Speaker 4>That's really where my understanding of beauty came from, just

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<v Speaker 4>having it all together. And because I didn't have it,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm like trying to figure out my hair, trying to

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<v Speaker 4>clip in a wig, just trying to just really trying

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<v Speaker 4>to get by, quite honestly.

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<v Speaker 3>Trying to get by.

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<v Speaker 4>So of course I had many, you know, black friends,

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<v Speaker 4>I have black family and stuff like that. But we

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<v Speaker 4>were all in the same boat. We were all in

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<v Speaker 4>we were we'd all talk together about the same things.

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<v Speaker 3>We all felt like we.

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<v Speaker 4>Were under like underseen, you know, or misscen maybe if

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<v Speaker 4>that's if that's a if that's a word. So this

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<v Speaker 4>goes back to representation. And then as I got older

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<v Speaker 4>and you start to see the likes of Gabrielle Union

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<v Speaker 4>and you start to see these beautiful queen's crushing, it's

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<v Speaker 4>your power starts coming back and you start to think, Okay,

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<v Speaker 4>I could be like that, I could do this, But

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<v Speaker 4>at a young age, I didn't have that representation.

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<v Speaker 2>You do know that there's black girls who are seeing

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<v Speaker 2>you today the way you saw Gabrielle Union, So you

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<v Speaker 2>should take that in the way you saw her saying,

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<v Speaker 2>oh my gosh, I felt seen. Just know that there's

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<v Speaker 2>little brownskin girls who love Realcity Television who were fans

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<v Speaker 2>of Selling Sunset and they're looking at you. I hope

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<v Speaker 2>you know that they too are like, there she is, Mom,

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<v Speaker 2>Look there she is. There she is, and you should

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<v Speaker 2>own that and just know that you're paying it forward

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<v Speaker 2>the way Gabrielle Union did it for you and the

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<v Speaker 2>other brownskin girls growing up.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you could that means something.

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<v Speaker 3>That means a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>No, that means something.

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<v Speaker 2>So with your mom being gone and every little girl

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<v Speaker 2>wants their mom around to teach them how to be

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<v Speaker 2>a woman, was there a strain of your relationship with

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<v Speaker 2>her growing up?

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<v Speaker 3>Very much? So? I see myself I'm very much like

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<v Speaker 3>my mother.

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<v Speaker 4>My mother is the most charismatic, beautiful, intelligent, hard working

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<v Speaker 4>woman I've ever met in my whole life.

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<v Speaker 3>But she's hard working to a fault.

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<v Speaker 4>So if she sets her mind to something, and for

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<v Speaker 4>her it was to provide equally with my father, she's

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<v Speaker 4>going for throttle at it because she knew that she

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<v Speaker 4>looked and sounded different to everybody. It's one thing to

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<v Speaker 4>look different, but to sound different. You know, you have

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<v Speaker 4>to break that notion the moment you open your mouth

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<v Speaker 4>when you don't sound like myself or or you. So

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<v Speaker 4>we struggled a lot because commune, we didn't communicate as

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<v Speaker 4>much as I would like. I didn't feel supported, I

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<v Speaker 4>didn't feel seen. And it was only when I had

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<v Speaker 4>my own kids and I'm like, I get it.

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<v Speaker 3>You were just trying to survive.

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<v Speaker 4>She wanted to have us in the best schools, with

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<v Speaker 4>maybe tutors, the best education, so that we could do more,

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<v Speaker 4>or so we could struggle less, is what she would say,

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<v Speaker 4>so we could. She was like, I don't want you to.

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<v Speaker 3>Go through what I've been through. This is why I'm

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<v Speaker 3>doing this because I want you in private schools.

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<v Speaker 4>I want you in areas where I want you in

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<v Speaker 4>areas and social circles where you could you're set up

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<v Speaker 4>to thrive from the jump. I don't want you to

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<v Speaker 4>go through what I've been through. But it's only when

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<v Speaker 4>I got older that I started that I really really

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<v Speaker 4>understood it. At that point in time, I'm like, you

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<v Speaker 4>left me, you know, I just I just wanted you here,

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<v Speaker 4>But that's not the reality.

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<v Speaker 1>So no, listen.

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<v Speaker 2>I think one thing we realized as we get older

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<v Speaker 2>is that our parents sacrifice a lot for us to.

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<v Speaker 1>Be the human beings we are today.

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<v Speaker 2>You're obviously accomplished, successful, well rounded, and a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>that has to deal with the fact that your parents

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<v Speaker 2>sacrificed the closeness that they may have not had being

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<v Speaker 2>with you every single day in order for you to

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<v Speaker 2>be here sitting next to Carlos King.

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<v Speaker 1>Honey, So we thank your mom and dad.

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<v Speaker 4>Thank you God, thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean we did it.

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<v Speaker 2>I did it, so job well done. You have not

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<v Speaker 2>only an undergrad degree, you have a massive degree. Read

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<v Speaker 2>your degrees. This is so funny about me learning more

0:20:06.680 --> 0:20:09.880
<v Speaker 2>about you. I had no idea that you can get

0:20:09.880 --> 0:20:14.480
<v Speaker 2>a degree in oil and gas, Like if that ain't

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<v Speaker 2>some shit where you have to be a smart mother.

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<v Speaker 2>You are not only a woman, a black woman, African

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<v Speaker 2>woman in the UK. When we think of oil and gas,

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<v Speaker 2>let's be real, we think of rich white men. We

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<v Speaker 2>think of airs of the of the oil father or

0:20:38.560 --> 0:20:42.440
<v Speaker 2>grandfather who left the legacy to his children. We think

0:20:42.440 --> 0:20:45.960
<v Speaker 2>of Houston, Texas. We don't think about it in terms

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<v Speaker 2>of getting a degree in this subject matter. What was

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<v Speaker 2>happening to where you were, Like, that's what I want

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<v Speaker 2>to study.

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<v Speaker 4>So my mind works very numerically and I'm obviously Nigerian,

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<v Speaker 4>and Nigeria possesses an abundance of oil resources, and I

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<v Speaker 4>just took a great lik into it. I had plenty

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<v Speaker 4>of Nigerian friends growing up, and I always saw myself

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<v Speaker 4>maybe one day moving back to Nigeria, and I wanted

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<v Speaker 4>to be a part of legislation, legislation there, so I

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<v Speaker 4>said why not. It was very It was very fascinating

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<v Speaker 4>to me. I loved sciences. I was really good in it.

0:21:30.560 --> 0:21:36.600
<v Speaker 4>I was really good in math. And a lot of

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<v Speaker 4>the people I knew in those respective industries were very wealthy.

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<v Speaker 4>So said, okay, where's the coiner.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, so I'm gonna be here, be rich.

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<v Speaker 2>No one thing you said on selling Sunset this is

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<v Speaker 2>when I was like, oh, she's my bitch, and I'm

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<v Speaker 2>forever like a fan.

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<v Speaker 1>You said something your first season. You was having dinner.

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<v Speaker 2>It was your husband and Jason, I remember, and you said,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna pay so I have to work. Before that,

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<v Speaker 2>you said something that I said, if Carlos King has

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<v Speaker 2>something on his tombstone, it would be this. You said,

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<v Speaker 2>and I quote, I will never suffer in this life ever.

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<v Speaker 4>Never.

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<v Speaker 2>I will never suffer in this life because I am

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<v Speaker 2>going to work hard for what? And I said, no,

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<v Speaker 2>we'll talk this me being funny and silly, I said, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I see her and she sees me. Because I do

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<v Speaker 2>feel like nowadays, I'll say, you don't got to. Nowadays,

0:22:53.560 --> 0:22:57.480
<v Speaker 2>nobody wants to work hard. They want things easy. They

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<v Speaker 2>want to be able to just have things familiar. Lab

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<v Speaker 2>they don't know how to keep it and sustain it

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<v Speaker 2>and multiply it. So when you said I want suck,

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<v Speaker 2>but you said it was such conviction that it it

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<v Speaker 2>literally shook me. And I kept rewinding it on my

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<v Speaker 2>Netflix app and I recorded it and I posted on

0:23:15.640 --> 0:23:18.679
<v Speaker 2>my page as my Monday motivation because I said, this

0:23:18.800 --> 0:23:23.679
<v Speaker 2>girl's going places so me knowing that about you, you

0:23:23.720 --> 0:23:27.159
<v Speaker 2>get this degree, obviously it makes a lot of money.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you start working in that field post graduation?

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<v Speaker 3>I did so.

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<v Speaker 4>I worked with two oil and gas companies actually out

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<v Speaker 4>here in Los Angeles.

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<v Speaker 3>I only left.

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<v Speaker 4>My last company, which is an oil and gas company,

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<v Speaker 4>was actually Liquifinancial Gas. I think it was just right

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<v Speaker 4>before getting my real estate license.

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<v Speaker 3>I left it.

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<v Speaker 4>I left it just before I took the test for

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<v Speaker 4>my real estate license because I knew I was going

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<v Speaker 4>to pivot, and this was the time I was planning

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<v Speaker 4>to have my first child as well, and I knew

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<v Speaker 4>that I was working nine to six and then probably

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<v Speaker 4>coming home and doing some more work, and I knew

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<v Speaker 4>that it wasn't going to be sustainable.

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<v Speaker 3>When I'm looking start a family.

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<v Speaker 2>I pay to interrupt, but stay tuned for more. Life

0:24:21.840 --> 0:24:25.600
<v Speaker 2>doesn't happen bi weekly, So why should pay day? The

0:24:25.760 --> 0:24:28.840
<v Speaker 2>money you earn can be in your hands today with

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<v Speaker 2>earn In.

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<v Speaker 1>Earn In is an app that.

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<v Speaker 2>Gives you access to your pay as you work, up

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<v Speaker 2>to one hundred dollars per day or up to seven

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<v Speaker 2>hundred and fifty dollars per pay period. Just download the

0:24:43.000 --> 0:24:47.840
<v Speaker 2>earn in app and verify your paycheck, then access up

0:24:47.880 --> 0:24:51.199
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0:24:56.040 --> 0:25:00.480
<v Speaker 2>are automatically repaid from your next paycheck. If I needed

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<v Speaker 2>something like earning is what I use. And this is

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<v Speaker 2>why because child your boys busy. I got several jobs,

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<v Speaker 2>Let's get back into the show. Doctor Wendy Osefo is

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<v Speaker 2>on The Real houseposor Potomac.

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<v Speaker 1>You love her? I love her too. She's my girl.

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<v Speaker 2>She was on my podcast and she educated me about

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<v Speaker 2>being the child of Nigerian parents and how they want

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<v Speaker 2>you to be the best of the best to make

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<v Speaker 2>all the money in the world.

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<v Speaker 1>What was that conversation like when your mom found.

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<v Speaker 2>Out you were leaving your corporate job and taking a

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<v Speaker 2>real estate license class, I mean real estate class to

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<v Speaker 2>get your license.

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<v Speaker 4>So my mom's very supportive, but she said listen, you

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<v Speaker 4>need to work, because if you think that your husband

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<v Speaker 4>just wants you to be there and spend his money,

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<v Speaker 4>you're joking. Because, like to be honest with you, at

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<v Speaker 4>being in a interracial relationship, I think my mum's very

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<v Speaker 4>heavy on Chelsea. Make sure you have your own and

0:27:12.280 --> 0:27:15.239
<v Speaker 4>make sure you have you're respected, you know, because at

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<v Speaker 4>the same time, you don't look like everyone else, and

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<v Speaker 4>you need your man to respect you. And the only

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<v Speaker 4>way your man can respect you is if you work.

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<v Speaker 4>That was her philosophy, and that was ingrained so deeply

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<v Speaker 4>in me. So no matter who I've married, I was

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<v Speaker 4>always going to work. I was never going to be,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, somebody that I was never not going to

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<v Speaker 4>contribute financially to my household. So I knew that when

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<v Speaker 4>I do pivot, I have to make sure this works too.

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<v Speaker 4>So in real estate started to work. It started to work.

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<v Speaker 4>I realized that this is why everyone has their real

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<v Speaker 4>estate license, because it's not that hard.

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<v Speaker 1>I love you, get it, man, and we'll talk. Loves.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll talk afterwards, because I may. When I hire you

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<v Speaker 2>to find me a house, we'll talk. I did ask.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll call you later because I'm so fascinated. But I

0:28:17.400 --> 0:28:20.120
<v Speaker 2>love real estate, and I'm so fascinated by the transactional

0:28:20.160 --> 0:28:24.400
<v Speaker 2>aspect of it because I'm independent. I love the fact

0:28:24.400 --> 0:28:26.080
<v Speaker 2>that a real estate agents you make your own schedule

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<v Speaker 2>because at the end of the day, if you don't work,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't get paid. So I love that self starting

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<v Speaker 2>nature of it. Going back to your your husband, I

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<v Speaker 2>love your relationship with him. I can If you don't

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<v Speaker 2>know this, I'm gonna tell you that man loves you.

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<v Speaker 1>I can tell by the way. It's very subtle.

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<v Speaker 2>But because I work with women who's who's either married

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<v Speaker 2>or single, I can tell when I'm like, girl, he

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<v Speaker 2>don't see it for you, not five more years, he's

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<v Speaker 2>gonna break up with you.

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<v Speaker 1>Your husband loves you? Down down?

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<v Speaker 3>How did you two meet on Tinder?

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<v Speaker 4>He was my first hinder day. He snatched me, snatched

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<v Speaker 4>me his eleven years my senior and I came out here.

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<v Speaker 4>So funny story, and I haven't I haven't really shared this,

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<v Speaker 4>but I moved here just before I moved here, sorry,

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<v Speaker 4>just after completing my masters, I came over here with

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<v Speaker 4>one suitcase. And you asked me why, because you're very surprised.

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<v Speaker 4>I was running away from my ex boyfriend, who was

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<v Speaker 4>very abusive, was in a very very toxic place in

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<v Speaker 4>my life relationship wise, and I knew that I had

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<v Speaker 4>to just I had to, you know, like proximity is

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<v Speaker 4>something because you can mentally leave a relationship, but if

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<v Speaker 4>your proximity in the person are closed, you can find

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<v Speaker 4>yourself like going back into that same cycle.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's what I saw. So I literally booked a

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<v Speaker 3>ticket term Los Angeles.

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<v Speaker 4>My mum had an apartment here and she was transitioning

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<v Speaker 4>between between rolls and I grabbed a suitcase and filled

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<v Speaker 4>it up and left.

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<v Speaker 1>He was physically abusive to you. I'm sorry. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so you you escaped.

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<v Speaker 2>Town m h and moved here with one suitcase.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, with no plan.

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<v Speaker 4>I had a little bit of a plan because I'm

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<v Speaker 4>a big planner, being the academic that I am.

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<v Speaker 3>I said, Okay, let me go get one more degree.

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<v Speaker 3>That's what I said.

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<v Speaker 4>I said, I'm gonna go get an mb I'm going

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<v Speaker 4>to go get an MBA. So I started studying for

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<v Speaker 4>the gap because I wanted to go to Columbia and

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<v Speaker 4>my sister lived in New York. My sister was working

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<v Speaker 4>on Wall Street. She had just finished her master's at Wharton,

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<v Speaker 4>and I said, Okay, this is my plan, and we're

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<v Speaker 4>going to live together. You know, we hadn't lived together

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<v Speaker 4>for maybe over a decade. Now everything's going to come

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<v Speaker 4>full circle. We're going to live together. And then I started,

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<v Speaker 4>so why I put on Tinder and I saw this

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<v Speaker 4>one lovely chap and we connected and the rest is history.

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<v Speaker 4>Because I remember he said to me, he's eleven eleven

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<v Speaker 4>years my senior, obviously and established in his profession. He said,

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<v Speaker 4>you can't keep getting these degrees.

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<v Speaker 3>You need experience.

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, what what do you mean? He was like,

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<v Speaker 4>you need to get some work experience. You need to

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<v Speaker 4>get a job. And I'm like, this is I was

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<v Speaker 4>twenty right, I was like a job.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh.

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<v Speaker 4>I was hoping to like stay in school for a

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<v Speaker 4>couple more years because school school for me was very easy,

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<v Speaker 4>you know. So I took his advice and I still studied.

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<v Speaker 4>I still I did the GMAT. I still put myself

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<v Speaker 4>in a position whereby I have a score that allows

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<v Speaker 4>me to apply for any school if I wanted to.

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<v Speaker 4>But let me get a job. And I got my

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<v Speaker 4>first job in the United States, and then the job,

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<v Speaker 4>the job I was in west Lake Village. He lived

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<v Speaker 4>in the valley. My mom's apartment was in Glendale. You know,

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<v Speaker 4>I hadn't got my license at this time, so I

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<v Speaker 4>was ubering to my job. It didn't really make sense financially.

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<v Speaker 4>So I remember one day I stayed at his place

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<v Speaker 4>and I was like, I was leaving. I did it

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<v Speaker 4>for about five six days, and I remember I came home.

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<v Speaker 4>I came to his place one day after work because

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<v Speaker 4>he lived twenty minutes away from my job, and he

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<v Speaker 4>just had a key.

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<v Speaker 3>He was like, do you want this? Like sure, okay.

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<v Speaker 4>So my mom was moving into a new role in

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<v Speaker 4>a different state, and I had already moved in.

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<v Speaker 3>Honey, I hadn't moved in. It was like three months in.

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<v Speaker 3>I had moved. I had moved in.

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<v Speaker 4>I went back to the apartment which my brother lived,

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<v Speaker 4>and my brother lived up with my mom's apartment, and

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<v Speaker 4>I just came in one day. My mom wasn't around.

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<v Speaker 4>That one suitcase. I threw everything in it. I said me,

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<v Speaker 4>I said, peace. But you know what, I'm a planner,

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<v Speaker 4>I said, do you know what I'm gonna do? And guys,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm gonna give you some free game right now. I

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<v Speaker 4>shouldn't say this. Please forgive me. I'm gonna give you

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<v Speaker 4>some free games. So everything to me is planning and

0:33:12.840 --> 0:33:15.840
<v Speaker 4>being smart. So I said, what am I to lose

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<v Speaker 4>moving in with this man whom I've just met, right,

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<v Speaker 4>Because what I'm going to do is I got a

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<v Speaker 4>full time job and making decent money. I must save

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<v Speaker 4>all of it because I have a contingency plan if

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<v Speaker 4>this doesn't work out. I'm no longer sleeping on the

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<v Speaker 4>sofa because I'm sleeping the sofa my UM's place because

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<v Speaker 4>it was the two bedroom apartment and my mum would

0:33:36.160 --> 0:33:37.920
<v Speaker 4>stay in one when she's around, and my brother would

0:33:37.920 --> 0:33:40.520
<v Speaker 4>say that other as I was. I was the strangler

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<v Speaker 4>that came from the UK and just was like, hey, guys,

0:33:43.480 --> 0:33:45.720
<v Speaker 4>can you house me? They were like yeah, sure. The

0:33:45.760 --> 0:33:48.959
<v Speaker 4>sofa very uncomfortable. So I was like, okay, you got

0:33:48.960 --> 0:33:52.240
<v Speaker 4>a better living situation because now you have a bed, you.

0:33:52.200 --> 0:33:54.000
<v Speaker 3>Have groceries that are paid for by.

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<v Speaker 4>Someone else, and when you get your checks every two weeks,

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<v Speaker 4>you can just save it because if this doesn't work out,

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<v Speaker 4>then you're not going back to the sofar.

0:34:02.720 --> 0:34:04.080
<v Speaker 3>You're going to get your own partner. Bitch.

0:34:04.960 --> 0:34:09.440
<v Speaker 1>That's that's that's free game and good game. That's very smart.

0:34:10.360 --> 0:34:14.799
<v Speaker 4>So yeah, so then obviously it works out and all

0:34:14.840 --> 0:34:16.360
<v Speaker 4>the money I saved that ended up buying him a

0:34:16.400 --> 0:34:16.960
<v Speaker 4>Rolex with.

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<v Speaker 2>Bitch you you better, you better, bitch you better.

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<v Speaker 1>Is he the first white guy you dated?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah? Mm hmm.

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<v Speaker 2>Were you.

0:34:34.200 --> 0:34:36.080
<v Speaker 1>Like, were you surprised? Yeah?

0:34:36.080 --> 0:34:37.960
<v Speaker 2>Were you surprised or did you did you want to

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<v Speaker 2>experience something new after leaving the UK and leaving that

0:34:41.800 --> 0:34:42.680
<v Speaker 2>relationship you had.

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<v Speaker 3>I think I just became more open.

0:34:44.360 --> 0:34:44.960
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I think I just got to a point where in

0:34:46.480 --> 0:34:49.160
<v Speaker 3>my life where I was like, always date. I always

0:34:49.200 --> 0:34:49.960
<v Speaker 3>date the thugs.

0:34:50.440 --> 0:34:56.440
<v Speaker 4>I always love myself a little roadman. I either dated

0:34:56.480 --> 0:35:00.840
<v Speaker 4>like road men or like my my ex African Nigerian.

0:35:00.880 --> 0:35:03.880
<v Speaker 4>I love African men, you know, I just love my culture.

0:35:04.080 --> 0:35:10.160
<v Speaker 4>So it was always the guys that everybody wants, everybody

0:35:10.200 --> 0:35:10.800
<v Speaker 4>wants them.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like.

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<v Speaker 4>I said, Chelsea, Chelsea, Chelsea, Chelsea, what is it you

0:35:18.560 --> 0:35:20.200
<v Speaker 4>want in this life? I said, I want someone that's

0:35:20.239 --> 0:35:22.000
<v Speaker 4>loyal to me. I want someone that loves me, wants

0:35:22.000 --> 0:35:24.239
<v Speaker 4>someone that respects me, and I want someone that loves

0:35:24.280 --> 0:35:28.839
<v Speaker 4>me for me at all times. You know, because I'm very,

0:35:29.160 --> 0:35:33.640
<v Speaker 4>very quirky and a little bit. Just there's multiple sides

0:35:33.680 --> 0:35:38.359
<v Speaker 4>to me, and I found myself creating this pattern relationships

0:35:38.400 --> 0:35:40.839
<v Speaker 4>where it would be like.

0:35:40.840 --> 0:35:42.640
<v Speaker 3>You're too loud, or you talk back.

0:35:42.680 --> 0:35:43.960
<v Speaker 4>I'm like, what do you mean I'm talking back. I'm

0:35:44.000 --> 0:35:46.479
<v Speaker 4>just giving my opinion. You voiced yours. It's my turn,

0:35:47.040 --> 0:35:47.319
<v Speaker 4>you know.

0:35:47.640 --> 0:35:49.600
<v Speaker 1>But come on.

0:35:50.360 --> 0:35:56.279
<v Speaker 4>So I thought, let me just open the gates and say,

0:35:56.320 --> 0:35:59.120
<v Speaker 4>whoever comes my way, and whoever seems like good vibes

0:35:59.160 --> 0:36:02.080
<v Speaker 4>and good energy, I can start dating.

0:36:02.200 --> 0:36:04.920
<v Speaker 3>And that's basically what happened. Whereas before I was like.

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<v Speaker 1>Ah, no, yeah, no, Alessa.

0:36:09.120 --> 0:36:11.480
<v Speaker 2>I try to Sorry, fellas, but I do tell a

0:36:11.480 --> 0:36:15.719
<v Speaker 2>lot of my black female friends who are single start

0:36:15.800 --> 0:36:17.960
<v Speaker 2>dating outside your race. You just you just you just

0:36:18.000 --> 0:36:22.120
<v Speaker 2>don't know. You don't know. You can't be restricted when

0:36:22.120 --> 0:36:25.839
<v Speaker 2>it comes to dating. What was your parents reaction when

0:36:25.840 --> 0:36:28.319
<v Speaker 2>you brought the white man home child? Oh?

0:36:28.400 --> 0:36:32.720
<v Speaker 3>My mom said, wow, can he be? My husband.

0:36:34.480 --> 0:36:36.360
<v Speaker 4>Loved My mom loved him more than I loved it.

0:36:36.440 --> 0:36:41.000
<v Speaker 4>She loved him so much, she said, that's my daughter.

0:36:42.440 --> 0:36:46.240
<v Speaker 4>My mom was so happy, she was gassed.

0:36:46.800 --> 0:36:48.640
<v Speaker 3>I'm telling you, I.

0:36:48.320 --> 0:36:52.600
<v Speaker 4>Think she wanted to for herself. But no, my my

0:36:52.719 --> 0:36:55.520
<v Speaker 4>mom was so happy. I didn't really get my dad's

0:36:55.560 --> 0:36:58.120
<v Speaker 4>thoughts on it, because I tried to keep me and

0:36:58.120 --> 0:37:01.040
<v Speaker 4>my dad with We have a very litrue relationship. My

0:37:01.120 --> 0:37:02.879
<v Speaker 4>dad used to used to be in the military. It's

0:37:02.960 --> 0:37:05.640
<v Speaker 4>very much like, so, how was your day, So like

0:37:06.120 --> 0:37:07.680
<v Speaker 4>my dad still pretends he doesn't know I have a

0:37:07.719 --> 0:37:14.120
<v Speaker 4>boob job. He acts so like oblivious to like everything,

0:37:14.200 --> 0:37:14.720
<v Speaker 4>like I'll.

0:37:14.560 --> 0:37:17.960
<v Speaker 3>Post the way he communicated. My dad texts me.

0:37:17.960 --> 0:37:19.840
<v Speaker 4>He was like, I just want to let you know

0:37:19.920 --> 0:37:22.239
<v Speaker 4>I'm very proud of you. You represented very well on

0:37:22.320 --> 0:37:27.080
<v Speaker 4>selling suddet. It's like nothing about my outfits fape. He

0:37:27.120 --> 0:37:30.480
<v Speaker 4>doesn't mention anything that's like, I'll post something that's a

0:37:30.480 --> 0:37:33.760
<v Speaker 4>little bit risque on Instagram. My dad likes and comments

0:37:33.760 --> 0:37:35.960
<v Speaker 4>on like most of my things on Instagram, the ones

0:37:35.960 --> 0:37:37.520
<v Speaker 4>that are a bit riskue. He just pretend you didn't

0:37:37.520 --> 0:37:40.359
<v Speaker 4>see it. He'll never even mention it to me, and

0:37:40.400 --> 0:37:42.719
<v Speaker 4>I love. I love that far a relationship. So I

0:37:42.760 --> 0:37:48.000
<v Speaker 4>don't know how his initial thoughts on me and me

0:37:48.080 --> 0:37:50.799
<v Speaker 4>and my partner, but I can only imagine what they

0:37:50.800 --> 0:37:51.279
<v Speaker 4>would have been.

0:37:51.320 --> 0:37:55.120
<v Speaker 3>He said, hey, lord, this one's gonna leave her.

0:37:57.239 --> 0:38:01.560
<v Speaker 4>Because I think growing up in an African household and

0:38:01.680 --> 0:38:04.640
<v Speaker 4>not seeing many like in trade relationships, you just assume

0:38:04.680 --> 0:38:07.200
<v Speaker 4>they wouldn't work. You just I think it was just

0:38:07.239 --> 0:38:11.840
<v Speaker 4>an assumption that, like, how would it work. And I

0:38:11.880 --> 0:38:14.479
<v Speaker 4>think my dad probably just had those initial fears, although

0:38:14.520 --> 0:38:16.960
<v Speaker 4>he never voiced them. He was very, very respectful, but

0:38:17.000 --> 0:38:20.160
<v Speaker 4>I can imagine. But I think once everybody met him,

0:38:20.440 --> 0:38:24.719
<v Speaker 4>they were like, Okay, they saw it immediately because they're like,

0:38:25.040 --> 0:38:26.480
<v Speaker 4>he's so smitting over her.

0:38:26.960 --> 0:38:30.120
<v Speaker 2>See, I'm telling you, I listen. Obviously I haven't met

0:38:30.200 --> 0:38:32.719
<v Speaker 2>him in person. The fact that your parents met him

0:38:32.719 --> 0:38:34.920
<v Speaker 2>in person and felt that way instantly, and I just

0:38:34.960 --> 0:38:37.640
<v Speaker 2>tell you, two minutes ago, I'm watching the show and

0:38:37.680 --> 0:38:39.680
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, I don't know if you know this girl,

0:38:39.680 --> 0:38:45.400
<v Speaker 2>but he loves you down It's so obvious that obviously

0:38:45.480 --> 0:38:48.160
<v Speaker 2>you love him too, but he is smitten by you.

0:38:49.040 --> 0:38:53.160
<v Speaker 2>And I'm happy that you found love because when you

0:38:53.320 --> 0:38:57.879
<v Speaker 2>exit an abusive relationship, I know that sometimes it can

0:38:58.000 --> 0:39:01.839
<v Speaker 2>be scary to give your heart to another man in

0:39:01.920 --> 0:39:04.239
<v Speaker 2>fear that he may turn around and do the same

0:39:04.280 --> 0:39:07.320
<v Speaker 2>things to you your previous boyfriend did. So the fact

0:39:07.320 --> 0:39:10.000
<v Speaker 2>that you found your prince Charming who turned to be

0:39:10.080 --> 0:39:14.160
<v Speaker 2>your knight enshrining armor and now your husband, and just

0:39:14.200 --> 0:39:16.640
<v Speaker 2>because it may not have looked like what you thought

0:39:16.680 --> 0:39:17.200
<v Speaker 2>on paper.

0:39:18.160 --> 0:39:21.960
<v Speaker 1>You gave love a chance and we.

0:39:21.920 --> 0:39:25.839
<v Speaker 2>See this happiness that you have right now, and listen, girl,

0:39:25.880 --> 0:39:26.359
<v Speaker 2>you did that.

0:39:27.040 --> 0:39:29.440
<v Speaker 3>Absolutely. I'm a big believer in energy.

0:39:29.560 --> 0:39:32.160
<v Speaker 4>And this is why I'm so like, you know, I'm

0:39:32.200 --> 0:39:37.880
<v Speaker 4>so pro happiness and pro love because you never know,

0:39:38.480 --> 0:39:41.000
<v Speaker 4>you know, like you genuinely never know. When you just

0:39:41.040 --> 0:39:44.359
<v Speaker 4>connect with someone and I think. I meet so many

0:39:44.360 --> 0:39:46.600
<v Speaker 4>of my friends and they're like, oh, I think I

0:39:46.640 --> 0:39:47.959
<v Speaker 4>want to date outside of my rage.

0:39:47.960 --> 0:39:49.920
<v Speaker 3>Should I do it? And I'm like, God, do it.

0:39:49.960 --> 0:39:52.400
<v Speaker 3>And then they kind of like they're like, actually, no,

0:39:52.440 --> 0:39:52.879
<v Speaker 3>I don't think.

0:39:52.920 --> 0:39:53.480
<v Speaker 1>I don't.

0:39:53.680 --> 0:39:57.239
<v Speaker 4>They just immediately have the resistance and I'm like, you

0:39:57.320 --> 0:39:58.360
<v Speaker 4>haven't even tried.

0:39:59.239 --> 0:40:01.320
<v Speaker 3>You have no idea. Listen.

0:40:01.560 --> 0:40:05.160
<v Speaker 4>I love my black men, love I love my black women,

0:40:05.320 --> 0:40:08.000
<v Speaker 4>I love I love people in general.

0:40:08.080 --> 0:40:09.759
<v Speaker 3>It's not it's not a race thing.

0:40:09.920 --> 0:40:13.719
<v Speaker 4>It's just finding the energy that messages with yours irrespective

0:40:13.760 --> 0:40:14.240
<v Speaker 4>of race.

0:40:14.560 --> 0:40:17.280
<v Speaker 3>And yes, are there challenges, of course?

0:40:17.400 --> 0:40:20.080
<v Speaker 4>Are there certain things that you're going to have to

0:40:20.160 --> 0:40:24.200
<v Speaker 4>explain and get them to understand. Absolutely, Will they ever

0:40:24.680 --> 0:40:27.160
<v Speaker 4>feel some of the weight of the world that.

0:40:27.120 --> 0:40:31.080
<v Speaker 3>You feel being black in America? Absolutely not.

0:40:31.480 --> 0:40:36.000
<v Speaker 4>But All relationships have challenges, they all do, and they

0:40:36.000 --> 0:40:37.080
<v Speaker 4>come in different forms.

0:40:37.320 --> 0:40:40.320
<v Speaker 3>So what challenge is easier for you? My challenge?

0:40:40.480 --> 0:40:42.600
<v Speaker 4>The challenge that I don't even see as a challenge

0:40:42.719 --> 0:40:45.160
<v Speaker 4>is communication and understanding and explanation.

0:40:45.560 --> 0:40:46.279
<v Speaker 3>You want to hear me.

0:40:46.640 --> 0:40:50.560
<v Speaker 4>This is how I'm feeling, and then talk up for me,

0:40:50.640 --> 0:40:55.520
<v Speaker 4>my white king, because.

0:40:55.280 --> 0:40:56.279
<v Speaker 3>They gonna listen to you.

0:40:56.360 --> 0:41:00.920
<v Speaker 1>Okay, I love you.

0:41:02.000 --> 0:41:07.800
<v Speaker 2>Selling Sunset. You came on and we immediately saw this

0:41:08.360 --> 0:41:12.640
<v Speaker 2>share dion relationship, like the movie Clue is between you

0:41:12.680 --> 0:41:17.400
<v Speaker 2>and Christine. Did the producers introduce you to Christina and

0:41:17.400 --> 0:41:20.040
<v Speaker 2>say this is your girl, who's going to introduce you

0:41:20.080 --> 0:41:21.040
<v Speaker 2>to the rest of the cast?

0:41:21.640 --> 0:41:26.400
<v Speaker 4>No, So everything you saw that transpired on that scene

0:41:26.680 --> 0:41:30.480
<v Speaker 4>is exactly how it transpired in real life. The first

0:41:30.520 --> 0:41:34.719
<v Speaker 4>time I've ever laid my eyes on the magical Christine

0:41:35.200 --> 0:41:38.120
<v Speaker 4>is truly in that moment when I say hi, I'm

0:41:38.200 --> 0:41:43.480
<v Speaker 4>Chelsea LASCARTI petrified as hell, like, oh my gosh, this

0:41:43.480 --> 0:41:47.279
<v Speaker 4>woman's so tall and beautiful, What the am I doing here?

0:41:48.520 --> 0:41:51.280
<v Speaker 4>That is exactly how it played out. I was actually

0:41:51.320 --> 0:41:53.480
<v Speaker 4>just previewing the house, as you saw. I was brought

0:41:53.520 --> 0:41:55.240
<v Speaker 4>in to preview this beautiful house.

0:41:55.520 --> 0:41:57.600
<v Speaker 3>I had no idea it was going to be there.

0:41:58.160 --> 0:42:00.239
<v Speaker 3>I had no idea of me.

0:42:00.280 --> 0:42:01.680
<v Speaker 4>Thought maybe it was just going to be like a

0:42:01.680 --> 0:42:04.279
<v Speaker 4>solo scene with just myself so they could test me

0:42:04.280 --> 0:42:06.080
<v Speaker 4>out on camera because I'd never been tested out on

0:42:06.080 --> 0:42:09.760
<v Speaker 4>camera before. I'd never been tested out on camera before,

0:42:10.280 --> 0:42:13.279
<v Speaker 4>so they had no idea whether I was.

0:42:13.200 --> 0:42:16.160
<v Speaker 3>Just going to be like or I was gonna be

0:42:16.160 --> 0:42:19.360
<v Speaker 3>like They had no idea.

0:42:19.440 --> 0:42:23.640
<v Speaker 4>That was the first time there was a camera in

0:42:23.640 --> 0:42:24.200
<v Speaker 4>front of me.

0:42:24.880 --> 0:42:26.080
<v Speaker 3>And I'm walking through.

0:42:25.880 --> 0:42:27.680
<v Speaker 4>This house and I remember I got out, I got

0:42:27.680 --> 0:42:30.480
<v Speaker 4>out of my car, cameras were rolling already, and I

0:42:30.600 --> 0:42:33.320
<v Speaker 4>walk into the open house. I'm walking into the brokers

0:42:33.360 --> 0:42:38.320
<v Speaker 4>open rather and I'm like this and I just hear someone.

0:42:38.040 --> 0:42:40.799
<v Speaker 3>Saying, Chelsea, you're work.

0:42:41.200 --> 0:42:44.680
<v Speaker 4>Sorry, Chelsea, You're walking into a brokers open look excited.

0:42:44.880 --> 0:42:49.359
<v Speaker 4>I was like, oh my god, I am, I am.

0:42:50.000 --> 0:42:51.920
<v Speaker 4>This is happening. This is real life, but this is

0:42:51.960 --> 0:42:56.319
<v Speaker 4>also TV. But this is real life. You're walking into

0:42:56.320 --> 0:42:59.319
<v Speaker 4>a Brokeers open. What is your reaction. You're interested in

0:42:59.320 --> 0:43:02.080
<v Speaker 4>the house, been here before, You're looking at the views,

0:43:02.120 --> 0:43:04.279
<v Speaker 4>You're looking at the ceiling, You're looking you're looking at

0:43:04.280 --> 0:43:04.920
<v Speaker 4>their appliances.

0:43:06.520 --> 0:43:07.920
<v Speaker 3>But there's cameras.

0:43:09.200 --> 0:43:10.920
<v Speaker 4>And I just walked in and I said, all right,

0:43:11.880 --> 0:43:14.760
<v Speaker 4>you got this and that's that scene.

0:43:15.480 --> 0:43:17.080
<v Speaker 1>Do you miss having Christine on the show?

0:43:18.880 --> 0:43:21.719
<v Speaker 4>You know what I do and don't, and I say

0:43:21.760 --> 0:43:25.000
<v Speaker 4>I do and don't because of two reasons.

0:43:24.520 --> 0:43:28.280
<v Speaker 3>I'm very much let go and let God person.

0:43:28.800 --> 0:43:31.440
<v Speaker 4>So any beef you ever seen me, have any disagreement,

0:43:31.520 --> 0:43:34.000
<v Speaker 4>I'm always willing to resolve it and move forward. We

0:43:34.040 --> 0:43:37.120
<v Speaker 4>may not be best of friends, but I'm always willing to

0:43:37.719 --> 0:43:40.839
<v Speaker 4>coexist in the room with you whereby we both feel

0:43:40.840 --> 0:43:42.520
<v Speaker 4>comfortable and both can have a good time at all

0:43:42.560 --> 0:43:44.040
<v Speaker 4>times because we're going to see each other.

0:43:44.080 --> 0:43:45.239
<v Speaker 3>We work for the same brokerage.

0:43:45.560 --> 0:43:47.839
<v Speaker 4>So the reason why I say I don't first is

0:43:47.880 --> 0:43:51.240
<v Speaker 4>because it became very difficult for some of the ladies

0:43:51.280 --> 0:43:53.239
<v Speaker 4>and Christine to be in the same room. And as

0:43:53.239 --> 0:43:55.759
<v Speaker 4>someone who was friends with Christina loved her dearly and

0:43:55.800 --> 0:43:57.919
<v Speaker 4>started to build friendship with the other girls and start

0:43:58.000 --> 0:44:00.480
<v Speaker 4>to love them dearly, I was always an awkward position

0:44:00.520 --> 0:44:02.680
<v Speaker 4>because I never really knew where to stand. I'm like,

0:44:02.960 --> 0:44:04.080
<v Speaker 4>I want to be with you, but I want to

0:44:04.080 --> 0:44:06.520
<v Speaker 4>be with you, but you guys can't come together. It

0:44:07.120 --> 0:44:10.160
<v Speaker 4>was difficult as someone that is also new and trying

0:44:10.160 --> 0:44:17.400
<v Speaker 4>to establish trust with amongst everybody to navigate that because

0:44:17.400 --> 0:44:20.360
<v Speaker 4>a lot of the disagreements happened way before I was

0:44:20.400 --> 0:44:25.120
<v Speaker 4>even a part of the show, so there was no

0:44:25.360 --> 0:44:28.279
<v Speaker 4>reconciliation that I could do. It was more so like

0:44:28.719 --> 0:44:32.320
<v Speaker 4>just trying to like manage it so that people felt

0:44:32.320 --> 0:44:34.560
<v Speaker 4>like I still had loyalty towards you. But I can

0:44:34.600 --> 0:44:36.839
<v Speaker 4>still have loyalty towards you even though you guys don't

0:44:36.880 --> 0:44:39.000
<v Speaker 4>see eye to eye.

0:44:39.160 --> 0:44:42.200
<v Speaker 3>And then I say I do because Christine's a bad bitch.

0:44:43.840 --> 0:44:44.839
<v Speaker 3>Bad bitch.

0:44:46.000 --> 0:44:51.160
<v Speaker 4>Don't use that term frequently. She's the type of person

0:44:51.520 --> 0:44:54.440
<v Speaker 4>that walks in the room, commands the room, and makes

0:44:54.440 --> 0:44:57.080
<v Speaker 4>you laugh. While she's commanding the room. She has a

0:44:57.120 --> 0:45:00.959
<v Speaker 4>presence that like, I'm still in our bi quite honest,

0:45:00.280 --> 0:45:05.480
<v Speaker 4>I think her presence is fantastic and i'd love I

0:45:05.480 --> 0:45:07.920
<v Speaker 4>can't wait to see what she's doing next. So I

0:45:08.040 --> 0:45:12.160
<v Speaker 4>missed that energy together because there's something really special about

0:45:12.680 --> 0:45:14.640
<v Speaker 4>being with someone that makes you want to step.

0:45:14.440 --> 0:45:16.560
<v Speaker 3>Up your game. You know. You know they say you're

0:45:16.560 --> 0:45:17.520
<v Speaker 3>the average of the five.

0:45:18.719 --> 0:45:19.040
<v Speaker 1>To me.

0:45:19.440 --> 0:45:22.320
<v Speaker 4>When I was with Christine, I'm like, I'm film with Christine,

0:45:22.960 --> 0:45:28.000
<v Speaker 4>all right, Cool, get all the resources we're really doing

0:45:28.000 --> 0:45:31.759
<v Speaker 4>it today. So I love people that make me uncomfortable

0:45:31.760 --> 0:45:33.359
<v Speaker 4>and make me feel like I need to level up.

0:45:33.520 --> 0:45:36.360
<v Speaker 3>And she's she's That's who she is to me.

0:45:36.480 --> 0:45:40.240
<v Speaker 2>I feel like Christine did to Selling Sunset what Erica

0:45:40.360 --> 0:45:44.319
<v Speaker 2>Jane did to the Baiverley Hills Housewives, which is everybody

0:45:44.400 --> 0:45:49.360
<v Speaker 2>stepped their fashion game up undeniably, undeniably, like even Mary

0:45:49.440 --> 0:45:51.399
<v Speaker 2>and I love Mary, and Mary's on the podcast too,

0:45:51.440 --> 0:45:55.040
<v Speaker 2>like she stepped it up a great deal. Amanda's choices

0:45:55.080 --> 0:46:00.640
<v Speaker 2>with the gloves, it's you need.

0:46:02.840 --> 0:46:03.680
<v Speaker 3>To each their own.

0:46:04.280 --> 0:46:07.160
<v Speaker 4>I'm so I feel like so most people have stylists

0:46:07.160 --> 0:46:10.040
<v Speaker 4>on the show. I think most of the girls have stylists.

0:46:10.239 --> 0:46:12.840
<v Speaker 4>I do not have stylists, So I tend not to

0:46:12.880 --> 0:46:15.200
<v Speaker 4>comment on people's fashion because a lot of them. When

0:46:15.200 --> 0:46:18.759
<v Speaker 4>I watch the show back seven eight months after filming it,

0:46:18.840 --> 0:46:19.480
<v Speaker 4>I'm like, what.

0:46:19.400 --> 0:46:20.920
<v Speaker 3>The hell you were in Chelsea?

0:46:21.360 --> 0:46:25.040
<v Speaker 4>Come on, what were you thinking on that particular day?

0:46:25.120 --> 0:46:27.600
<v Speaker 4>Is someone that dressed themselves And I literally pulled my wardrobe.

0:46:27.960 --> 0:46:30.680
<v Speaker 4>My wardrobe starting to look like NeiMa Marcus at this point,

0:46:30.719 --> 0:46:34.000
<v Speaker 4>but still my wardrobe, I'm like, what was he thinking?

0:46:34.120 --> 0:46:36.800
<v Speaker 4>So when I see the other girls and I'm like,

0:46:36.840 --> 0:46:39.000
<v Speaker 4>I don't really quite like their style and stuff. I'm like,

0:46:39.080 --> 0:46:40.520
<v Speaker 4>I know they're going through the same thing that I'm

0:46:40.520 --> 0:46:43.120
<v Speaker 4>going through. We got we're filming four times this week.

0:46:43.280 --> 0:46:46.920
<v Speaker 4>We're like, we need four unique ouvers. Okay, so this

0:46:47.080 --> 0:46:49.400
<v Speaker 4>looks good, but we need to add a little bit

0:46:49.440 --> 0:46:50.120
<v Speaker 4>of pizaz.

0:46:50.320 --> 0:46:52.080
<v Speaker 3>Maybe maybe let's add a glove.

0:46:54.400 --> 0:46:58.400
<v Speaker 4>Let's add a glove, you see, Let's add some crystals

0:46:58.440 --> 0:46:58.919
<v Speaker 4>to the hair.

0:46:59.200 --> 0:47:02.000
<v Speaker 3>Let's add of like the ribbon. We're going to add

0:47:02.080 --> 0:47:03.080
<v Speaker 3>whatever to give.

0:47:02.920 --> 0:47:07.040
<v Speaker 4>The za because we're like, people want to see fashion.

0:47:07.480 --> 0:47:09.560
<v Speaker 4>This day was not fashion, but we made it fashion

0:47:09.560 --> 0:47:12.120
<v Speaker 4>because we added socks and a glove and a bow.

0:47:12.680 --> 0:47:19.520
<v Speaker 2>Done and like you said, works for some, for others

0:47:19.640 --> 0:47:20.280
<v Speaker 2>is debatable.

0:47:21.040 --> 0:47:22.680
<v Speaker 1>What has gone on between you and Brie?

0:47:22.880 --> 0:47:23.319
<v Speaker 3>Oh my god?

0:47:23.320 --> 0:47:23.879
<v Speaker 1>I like Bre.

0:47:24.360 --> 0:47:25.400
<v Speaker 3>I like her tea.

0:47:25.520 --> 0:47:29.680
<v Speaker 2>What you guys got past the Nick Canna situation, the

0:47:29.719 --> 0:47:31.520
<v Speaker 2>whole baby father thing.

0:47:33.640 --> 0:47:35.240
<v Speaker 1>Are you too just all in water?

0:47:35.880 --> 0:47:36.680
<v Speaker 3>I don't think so.

0:47:37.120 --> 0:47:40.480
<v Speaker 4>Personally. I can't speak for her. I like her, and

0:47:40.640 --> 0:47:42.799
<v Speaker 4>I liketually like her a lot. I've connected with her

0:47:42.840 --> 0:47:47.680
<v Speaker 4>a couple of times recently. I think for myself, I

0:47:47.760 --> 0:47:50.160
<v Speaker 4>came in and I came very strong with judgments because

0:47:50.280 --> 0:47:53.720
<v Speaker 4>I had these I'm not gonna pretend like I wasn't

0:47:53.840 --> 0:47:57.920
<v Speaker 4>aware of who she was or who her baby father was.

0:47:58.160 --> 0:47:59.840
<v Speaker 4>This wasn't a secret, and I didn't want to be

0:47:59.880 --> 0:48:03.520
<v Speaker 4>the to pretend like it was. Because myself and a

0:48:03.560 --> 0:48:05.319
<v Speaker 4>lot of the girls, we had all spoken about it,

0:48:05.360 --> 0:48:07.239
<v Speaker 4>like because you find out there's going to be someone

0:48:07.280 --> 0:48:08.360
<v Speaker 4>new on the cast and you're.

0:48:08.200 --> 0:48:12.120
<v Speaker 3>Like, oh my god. We're all like yeah.

0:48:12.160 --> 0:48:16.120
<v Speaker 4>So I think for myself because I had spoken so much,

0:48:16.160 --> 0:48:18.640
<v Speaker 4>and I think I was allowed speaker about it when

0:48:18.719 --> 0:48:19.920
<v Speaker 4>the camera started rolling.

0:48:20.760 --> 0:48:22.640
<v Speaker 3>I didn't want anybody.

0:48:22.120 --> 0:48:26.000
<v Speaker 4>To question how genuine I was in my integrity because

0:48:26.000 --> 0:48:28.160
<v Speaker 4>I had spoken about it. So I felt like I

0:48:28.160 --> 0:48:31.160
<v Speaker 4>had to voice it to her. There was this overbearing

0:48:31.239 --> 0:48:34.680
<v Speaker 4>feeling that I had spoken about it. I need to

0:48:34.680 --> 0:48:38.600
<v Speaker 4>speak about it to you directly, because the only time

0:48:38.640 --> 0:48:40.760
<v Speaker 4>that I would see her was when we were filming,

0:48:40.800 --> 0:48:45.120
<v Speaker 4>because we hadn't we didn't know each other, we weren't friends.

0:48:45.200 --> 0:48:49.240
<v Speaker 4>And then it spiraled, and it spiraled so fast because

0:48:49.680 --> 0:48:51.920
<v Speaker 4>I spoke about it. We spoke about in the office,

0:48:51.920 --> 0:48:54.799
<v Speaker 4>and I spoke about it once where I related some

0:48:54.840 --> 0:48:58.399
<v Speaker 4>information that I shouldn't have relayed, and then everyone else

0:48:58.480 --> 0:49:02.279
<v Speaker 4>kept speaking about it and asking, So Chelsea, you mean

0:49:02.360 --> 0:49:03.759
<v Speaker 4>to say you're not going to be friends of Brie

0:49:03.760 --> 0:49:05.200
<v Speaker 4>because you don't agree with her situation.

0:49:05.719 --> 0:49:08.439
<v Speaker 3>So Chelsea, why don't you like Brie? Again?

0:49:08.600 --> 0:49:11.319
<v Speaker 4>So Chelsea, didn't you say this about her partner? So

0:49:11.440 --> 0:49:14.200
<v Speaker 4>chell And then I'm not a silent person. I'm not

0:49:14.239 --> 0:49:16.239
<v Speaker 4>just gonna sit there and plead the fifth Like I

0:49:16.320 --> 0:49:19.520
<v Speaker 4>also hadn't built a relationship personally with her. I'd seen

0:49:19.560 --> 0:49:22.200
<v Speaker 4>her only times I had seen her the times you

0:49:22.239 --> 0:49:24.799
<v Speaker 4>saw me see her while we're filming, so what five

0:49:24.920 --> 0:49:29.080
<v Speaker 4>six times? And noncommunicative to one another. So you'd ask me,

0:49:29.120 --> 0:49:32.320
<v Speaker 4>and I'm like, everything happens in such a short space

0:49:32.320 --> 0:49:34.839
<v Speaker 4>of time two three, four, five weeks, like we form

0:49:34.840 --> 0:49:37.200
<v Speaker 4>a season, very short space of time. You ask me

0:49:37.239 --> 0:49:40.840
<v Speaker 4>these questions, and I'm like, so you're her friend. You

0:49:40.880 --> 0:49:42.440
<v Speaker 4>want me to drop it. You don't want this to

0:49:42.440 --> 0:49:45.080
<v Speaker 4>be a storyline, but you're asking me questions about it.

0:49:46.040 --> 0:49:48.400
<v Speaker 3>So watching the season back, it was very hard to

0:49:48.440 --> 0:49:51.759
<v Speaker 3>watch because I was disappointed in myself because I was like, Nah,

0:49:51.800 --> 0:49:54.160
<v Speaker 3>that's that's not the person you want to be, Like

0:49:54.200 --> 0:49:57.080
<v Speaker 3>you don't want to be the person that's harshly passional

0:49:57.160 --> 0:49:58.959
<v Speaker 3>judgment on someone's life. You don't know what their story.

0:49:58.960 --> 0:50:00.840
<v Speaker 3>You don't know what they've walked people don't know what

0:50:00.880 --> 0:50:01.600
<v Speaker 3>you've walked through.

0:50:01.920 --> 0:50:04.399
<v Speaker 4>But then I watched it more and I'm like, wait,

0:50:05.080 --> 0:50:09.200
<v Speaker 4>I started talking about episode one and two from three

0:50:09.320 --> 0:50:12.920
<v Speaker 4>to ten, y'all came to me with it, and I

0:50:12.960 --> 0:50:16.440
<v Speaker 4>would just respond you wanted me to be quiet, But

0:50:16.480 --> 0:50:18.359
<v Speaker 4>you're asking me a question about it.

0:50:18.600 --> 0:50:19.120
<v Speaker 3>No, no, no.

0:50:19.200 --> 0:50:21.640
<v Speaker 4>If you're forming and building this relationship and you know

0:50:21.719 --> 0:50:24.279
<v Speaker 4>it's something that's very uncomfortable for it, don't be asked

0:50:24.320 --> 0:50:27.719
<v Speaker 4>me questions because I'm also paid to talk just like you.

0:50:29.520 --> 0:50:32.680
<v Speaker 2>What does Cassandra know, Barbrie that she keeps running from

0:50:32.760 --> 0:50:36.120
<v Speaker 2>scene to scene, running away, taking up from microphone? What

0:50:36.160 --> 0:50:39.040
<v Speaker 2>does Cassandra know the road of the street is?

0:50:39.120 --> 0:50:39.279
<v Speaker 1>Like?

0:50:39.400 --> 0:50:52.920
<v Speaker 2>Were they a part of some other agency that doesn't

0:50:53.000 --> 0:50:56.839
<v Speaker 2>sell real estate? Listen, that doesn't sell real estate, but

0:50:56.880 --> 0:50:58.280
<v Speaker 2>they may sell something else.

0:51:00.160 --> 0:51:02.000
<v Speaker 4>So I can't speak for that, to be honest with you,

0:51:02.040 --> 0:51:05.239
<v Speaker 4>like I can only speak for what I know about Cassandra.

0:51:07.440 --> 0:51:11.760
<v Speaker 4>That was wild, this whole thing, like it's everybody's so confused.

0:51:11.800 --> 0:51:14.640
<v Speaker 4>It was so wild, Like truthfully, it was so wild.

0:51:14.800 --> 0:51:17.880
<v Speaker 4>And again another decision where I'm like, Chelsea, you dumb

0:51:17.960 --> 0:51:21.400
<v Speaker 4>fucking bitch. I'm sorry to use profanity. I was like,

0:51:21.480 --> 0:51:25.200
<v Speaker 4>you dumb fucking bit. Could you not see through that shit?

0:51:26.320 --> 0:51:30.719
<v Speaker 4>So I'm missus friendly. You saw me today for the

0:51:30.760 --> 0:51:34.279
<v Speaker 4>first time. That's I'm an aquarius, you.

0:51:34.239 --> 0:51:34.879
<v Speaker 1>Know, I'm air.

0:51:35.320 --> 0:51:38.640
<v Speaker 4>I just I just exist in spaces, and I'm like water.

0:51:39.080 --> 0:51:40.840
<v Speaker 3>I love to have a good time. I love people.

0:51:41.480 --> 0:51:46.640
<v Speaker 4>So I assume when I meet Cassandra and she's speaking

0:51:46.640 --> 0:51:48.360
<v Speaker 4>to everybody, I'm like, oh.

0:51:48.200 --> 0:51:50.040
<v Speaker 3>This is the new girl that's going to be joining

0:51:50.080 --> 0:51:50.680
<v Speaker 3>the O group.

0:51:51.280 --> 0:51:55.319
<v Speaker 4>She's pretty, she seems smart, she seems welcoming in like

0:51:55.600 --> 0:52:00.520
<v Speaker 4>kind of very complimentary of me, all right, So I

0:52:00.600 --> 0:52:05.719
<v Speaker 4>was really excited. I was genuinely like excited. Then when

0:52:05.719 --> 0:52:10.200
<v Speaker 4>I heard, like the first thing I heard was herself

0:52:10.880 --> 0:52:13.480
<v Speaker 4>and Brie knew each other, like they knew each other,

0:52:13.520 --> 0:52:15.680
<v Speaker 4>but they didn't have any beef. There was no beef,

0:52:15.719 --> 0:52:18.640
<v Speaker 4>but they knew each other. And Brie wasn't being so

0:52:18.719 --> 0:52:21.960
<v Speaker 4>welcoming or nice to her at the in car. But

0:52:22.120 --> 0:52:25.040
<v Speaker 4>at the first brokers open that we were all at,

0:52:25.239 --> 0:52:26.520
<v Speaker 4>I was like, yeah, she's.

0:52:26.360 --> 0:52:29.200
<v Speaker 3>Not a friendly us bitch. I was like, you don't

0:52:29.239 --> 0:52:33.000
<v Speaker 3>have to tell me, I've seen it. I mean, she

0:52:33.040 --> 0:52:35.160
<v Speaker 3>ain't nice.

0:52:34.600 --> 0:52:36.960
<v Speaker 4>That's my that was my vibe. People were reading so

0:52:37.080 --> 0:52:39.200
<v Speaker 4>deep into it. But I was kind of like, she

0:52:39.360 --> 0:52:42.120
<v Speaker 4>told you herself, she's not a nice bitch. I'm just

0:52:42.200 --> 0:52:46.839
<v Speaker 4>reiterating what she said and conferring with somebody that's told

0:52:46.880 --> 0:52:48.439
<v Speaker 4>me that she gave them the same energy.

0:52:48.440 --> 0:52:49.920
<v Speaker 3>It was like bet So.

0:52:50.040 --> 0:52:52.960
<v Speaker 4>Then as it went on and I could see there

0:52:53.040 --> 0:52:57.320
<v Speaker 4>was actually a rift between them, I was like, Okay.

0:52:57.360 --> 0:52:59.239
<v Speaker 4>I was like, it can't be that deep. Because it

0:52:59.280 --> 0:53:01.359
<v Speaker 4>was that deep, everyone would know about.

0:53:01.040 --> 0:53:02.000
<v Speaker 3>It because.

0:53:03.239 --> 0:53:05.160
<v Speaker 4>She's had to be on a process where you've signed

0:53:05.200 --> 0:53:08.480
<v Speaker 4>off like paperwork to be here into film, right, it

0:53:08.520 --> 0:53:12.200
<v Speaker 4>can't be that serious. So knowing in my mind knowing that, Okay,

0:53:12.200 --> 0:53:14.960
<v Speaker 4>she's probably gonna be on the show, we're going to dinner,

0:53:15.280 --> 0:53:17.239
<v Speaker 4>come along, Like it's not that deep because she's also

0:53:17.280 --> 0:53:18.840
<v Speaker 4>telling me like there's no beef.

0:53:18.880 --> 0:53:21.560
<v Speaker 3>There's no beef. So I'm like, come along, come along.

0:53:22.080 --> 0:53:23.799
<v Speaker 4>Bree may not be friendly when you first meet her,

0:53:23.800 --> 0:53:25.279
<v Speaker 4>but give her a little bit tequila. She's gonna be

0:53:25.360 --> 0:53:27.719
<v Speaker 4>so so sweet because I've seen her. She's really she

0:53:27.760 --> 0:53:31.120
<v Speaker 4>can be really bubbly and friendly, like I like that.

0:53:31.239 --> 0:53:33.200
<v Speaker 4>But I love that side of her, and the more

0:53:33.239 --> 0:53:34.560
<v Speaker 4>I get to know her, the more I see it

0:53:34.600 --> 0:53:36.799
<v Speaker 4>instantly when I first meet her, so I'm like, come

0:53:36.840 --> 0:53:42.760
<v Speaker 4>on over. So it wasn't until Carbo when Cassandra mentioned

0:53:43.160 --> 0:53:45.400
<v Speaker 4>something about, well, if you were nice, you would have

0:53:45.440 --> 0:53:49.080
<v Speaker 4>a ring, and I said, I said.

0:53:49.000 --> 0:53:52.399
<v Speaker 3>There's definitely something more here. There's definitely something more.

0:53:52.920 --> 0:54:00.560
<v Speaker 4>Carbo ends kind of two. Finale was just like days.

0:54:02.320 --> 0:54:06.160
<v Speaker 4>We're at the finale. Bearing in mind, guys, everyone wants

0:54:06.160 --> 0:54:09.120
<v Speaker 4>to say, Chelsea, you invite Cassandra everywhere, please, I beg

0:54:09.719 --> 0:54:15.240
<v Speaker 4>that's not the case. Okay, Jason invited her to the penthouse,

0:54:15.400 --> 0:54:20.359
<v Speaker 4>not the Penthouse, the finale brokerage open party, and.

0:54:21.040 --> 0:54:23.200
<v Speaker 3>She doesn't know many people there. She knows me, and

0:54:23.239 --> 0:54:24.120
<v Speaker 3>I'm just like okay.

0:54:24.200 --> 0:54:28.480
<v Speaker 4>I also not to say I forgot about the drama

0:54:28.520 --> 0:54:30.880
<v Speaker 4>that happened in Carbo, but it wasn't really Jarma. It

0:54:30.960 --> 0:54:34.040
<v Speaker 4>was more so Cassandra saying to me, Bree's not the

0:54:34.040 --> 0:54:36.840
<v Speaker 4>friendliest person. I was like, okay, bet she's not, but

0:54:37.320 --> 0:54:41.040
<v Speaker 4>that's not the craziest thing in the world. No, you

0:54:41.160 --> 0:54:43.239
<v Speaker 4>just met her same way. I was getting to know her.

0:54:43.680 --> 0:54:46.359
<v Speaker 4>It wasn't a major dig It's just like she's kind

0:54:46.360 --> 0:54:48.200
<v Speaker 4>of bitchy. I was like, I meet people that kind

0:54:48.200 --> 0:54:49.160
<v Speaker 4>of bitchy every single day.

0:54:49.480 --> 0:54:50.400
<v Speaker 3>Moving on, you know.

0:54:51.520 --> 0:54:55.720
<v Speaker 4>So we get to the finale party and I see Cassandra.

0:54:55.800 --> 0:54:57.360
<v Speaker 4>I bring her over to the girls and I'm like, okay,

0:54:57.760 --> 0:54:59.840
<v Speaker 4>bring her. I'm like, okay, guys, can we just like

0:55:00.040 --> 0:55:03.640
<v Speaker 4>squash this? Like like what none of you have actually

0:55:03.680 --> 0:55:05.600
<v Speaker 4>told me if there's actually any beef. Both of you

0:55:05.760 --> 0:55:07.560
<v Speaker 4>kind of like you kind of knew each other, you

0:55:07.560 --> 0:55:09.719
<v Speaker 4>don't really know each other. But Caussant just kind of

0:55:09.719 --> 0:55:12.280
<v Speaker 4>coming on strong and Breeze kind of like leaping alone,

0:55:12.320 --> 0:55:14.399
<v Speaker 4>like just get out of my space. And I'm kind

0:55:14.440 --> 0:55:15.439
<v Speaker 4>of like, well.

0:55:15.880 --> 0:55:17.960
<v Speaker 3>She's gonna be here because she may be on the show,

0:55:18.200 --> 0:55:21.000
<v Speaker 3>so like maybe we should just kumbaya.

0:55:21.920 --> 0:55:32.160
<v Speaker 4>And then I'm sitting down and I'm like, what what's

0:55:32.200 --> 0:55:32.719
<v Speaker 4>going on?

0:55:35.040 --> 0:55:36.399
<v Speaker 3>Why are they screaming at each other?

0:55:37.880 --> 0:55:40.239
<v Speaker 4>It was so loud in the place, and obviously when Mike,

0:55:40.280 --> 0:55:45.279
<v Speaker 4>but I'm like, what are they even saying? Like I

0:55:45.400 --> 0:55:47.120
<v Speaker 4>literally you saw me in the cup. I was sipping

0:55:47.160 --> 0:55:53.000
<v Speaker 4>my drink, so I was just like, the fuck, cool.

0:55:54.840 --> 0:55:56.000
<v Speaker 3>Just don't direct it to me.

0:55:57.320 --> 0:56:02.040
<v Speaker 4>So that that was the first time I realized there

0:56:02.120 --> 0:56:03.400
<v Speaker 4>was more to the story.

0:56:04.280 --> 0:56:08.600
<v Speaker 3>It was only after that I called Bri.

0:56:09.040 --> 0:56:12.160
<v Speaker 4>And you know, me and Brie, we weren't entirely on

0:56:12.239 --> 0:56:15.000
<v Speaker 4>the same page or friends per se. But I was

0:56:15.040 --> 0:56:17.520
<v Speaker 4>so confused that I had to call her and say,

0:56:18.200 --> 0:56:18.960
<v Speaker 4>what's going on?

0:56:20.239 --> 0:56:25.000
<v Speaker 3>What's what's what happened? Like what have I missed out on?

0:56:25.120 --> 0:56:27.200
<v Speaker 4>Because I know I'm going to receive a lot of

0:56:27.280 --> 0:56:29.520
<v Speaker 4>brunt for the fact that I keep bringing her around.

0:56:30.280 --> 0:56:33.680
<v Speaker 4>But I had no idea that it was this deep,

0:56:33.920 --> 0:56:37.040
<v Speaker 4>and no one told me, and Cassandra told me there

0:56:37.080 --> 0:56:37.720
<v Speaker 4>was no beef.

0:56:37.800 --> 0:56:41.360
<v Speaker 3>There was nothing there. So like, I'm genuinely confused.

0:56:41.360 --> 0:56:45.640
<v Speaker 4>And I also maybe thought that, like bribing her natural

0:56:45.719 --> 0:56:48.359
<v Speaker 4>demeanor and persona not being so friendly off the bat,

0:56:48.480 --> 0:56:50.319
<v Speaker 4>you kind of have to get warm up to get

0:56:50.360 --> 0:56:52.719
<v Speaker 4>to know her. I was just like, she's just being herself.

0:56:52.960 --> 0:56:55.120
<v Speaker 4>Once she gets to know that you actually are a

0:56:55.200 --> 0:56:57.719
<v Speaker 4>nice person. If you are actually a nice person, it's

0:56:57.760 --> 0:56:59.080
<v Speaker 4>going to be water under the bridge.

0:57:00.239 --> 0:57:03.520
<v Speaker 1>Did she ever tell you what the is? She was, Bri?

0:57:04.400 --> 0:57:08.359
<v Speaker 3>Not really. She just told me, like that bitch.

0:57:08.760 --> 0:57:10.960
<v Speaker 2>There's something deep going on, and we're gonna move on

0:57:10.960 --> 0:57:12.640
<v Speaker 2>because only got to go in a second. But a

0:57:12.680 --> 0:57:16.720
<v Speaker 2>part of me felt like, is Bree dangling this carrot

0:57:16.920 --> 0:57:18.920
<v Speaker 2>of whether or not she's going to continue the show

0:57:19.680 --> 0:57:21.600
<v Speaker 2>or stay on the show, I mean, or leave the

0:57:21.600 --> 0:57:24.720
<v Speaker 2>show has to deal with whether or not Consigndra would

0:57:24.720 --> 0:57:25.520
<v Speaker 2>be a cast member.

0:57:27.240 --> 0:57:29.640
<v Speaker 3>I don't think so. I mean Brie.

0:57:30.200 --> 0:57:33.560
<v Speaker 4>Brie is a hustler. She seems very street smart and

0:57:33.640 --> 0:57:39.400
<v Speaker 4>business smart. Selling sunsets a massive opportunity. I don't know

0:57:39.440 --> 0:57:42.680
<v Speaker 4>many people that will willingly leave selling sunset because it

0:57:42.720 --> 0:57:46.640
<v Speaker 4>helps our business real estate a lot. So I think

0:57:46.680 --> 0:57:49.000
<v Speaker 4>she's going to figure out what works best for her.

0:57:48.960 --> 0:57:52.000
<v Speaker 3>And her family and her businesses, don't.

0:57:52.280 --> 0:57:56.760
<v Speaker 4>I don't think she'd allow someone else to take her

0:57:56.800 --> 0:57:57.560
<v Speaker 4>off her game.

0:57:58.040 --> 0:57:59.440
<v Speaker 1>Good. We love you, Brie.

0:57:59.520 --> 0:58:02.160
<v Speaker 2>Stay on this show because I'm want you and Chelsea

0:58:02.360 --> 0:58:05.840
<v Speaker 2>to be the sharing Dion of the show. I love

0:58:06.000 --> 0:58:10.720
<v Speaker 2>I loved two bad bitches. I just love it bon gorgeous.

0:58:11.120 --> 0:58:13.040
<v Speaker 2>I love her like stay on the show, Breed. It

0:58:13.080 --> 0:58:16.920
<v Speaker 2>ain't that deep. I love you, okay, really quickly. When

0:58:16.960 --> 0:58:19.760
<v Speaker 2>you're in these white spaces, is it hard for you

0:58:20.400 --> 0:58:23.760
<v Speaker 2>to be in the in these worlds holding it down

0:58:24.000 --> 0:58:26.760
<v Speaker 2>as the black girl in these white spaces on the show?

0:58:28.040 --> 0:58:28.439
<v Speaker 3>Very much?

0:58:31.320 --> 0:58:36.760
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, very much? That I've struggled a lot. Often don't

0:58:36.800 --> 0:58:39.600
<v Speaker 4>feel heard or seen. I feel like when I am heard,

0:58:41.280 --> 0:58:46.040
<v Speaker 4>I'm misheard. And I feel like a lot of my

0:58:46.400 --> 0:58:51.400
<v Speaker 4>mannerisms and my natural dialect, my natural personality and personas

0:58:51.440 --> 0:58:55.600
<v Speaker 4>always misconstrued, and my intentions are always so pure, like

0:58:55.640 --> 0:58:59.040
<v Speaker 4>I'm just I'm very much a lover. I have no

0:58:59.160 --> 0:59:02.480
<v Speaker 4>malice in my home for anyone in this world, and

0:59:03.200 --> 0:59:06.640
<v Speaker 4>I will forgive anyone we can have, we can argue,

0:59:06.840 --> 0:59:08.600
<v Speaker 4>we can argue right now, and I'll love you again

0:59:08.640 --> 0:59:09.320
<v Speaker 4>in twenty minutes.

0:59:09.360 --> 0:59:12.959
<v Speaker 3>It's just my personality. I'm very direct and very blunt.

0:59:13.040 --> 0:59:15.000
<v Speaker 4>It could be that British, you know, people say British

0:59:15.000 --> 0:59:16.840
<v Speaker 4>people have this charm where they just kind of have

0:59:16.960 --> 0:59:20.520
<v Speaker 4>verbal diary and say what's in their mind. But I

0:59:20.520 --> 0:59:23.320
<v Speaker 4>struggle so much because I'm trying to be my authentic

0:59:23.400 --> 0:59:27.600
<v Speaker 4>self and there are undertones of like Chelsea's aggressive, or

0:59:27.640 --> 0:59:31.240
<v Speaker 4>Chelsea's a bully, or Chelsea's mean, and I'm like, never

0:59:31.280 --> 0:59:32.560
<v Speaker 4>in my life, up until coming a.

0:59:32.520 --> 0:59:34.600
<v Speaker 3>Reality TV, I haven't ever heard that. I'm sorry. It

0:59:34.600 --> 0:59:41.680
<v Speaker 3>makes me so sad.

0:59:43.040 --> 0:59:47.080
<v Speaker 4>It makes me so sad, especially from sometimes from the girls,

0:59:47.160 --> 0:59:51.840
<v Speaker 4>because my closest friends on the show are Krishelle and Emma,

0:59:52.520 --> 0:59:54.480
<v Speaker 4>and they've leaned in and really gotten to know me,

0:59:54.800 --> 0:59:56.440
<v Speaker 4>and they love me so much, and I love them

0:59:56.480 --> 1:00:00.640
<v Speaker 4>so much. And we really support each and ride for

1:00:00.680 --> 1:00:03.439
<v Speaker 4>each other, and we know our personality types. But never

1:00:03.440 --> 1:00:05.680
<v Speaker 4>in my life I have ever been called a bully

1:00:05.800 --> 1:00:10.840
<v Speaker 4>or mean or aggressive. So when I hear some of that,

1:00:11.040 --> 1:00:12.800
<v Speaker 4>or I hear undertones of it from some of the

1:00:12.840 --> 1:00:14.480
<v Speaker 4>other girls, and I'm just like, you've.

1:00:14.280 --> 1:00:16.760
<v Speaker 3>Never really given me a chance. Everyone.

1:00:17.000 --> 1:00:22.520
<v Speaker 4>It's like, if I say something, I'm aggressive or a mean.

1:00:24.200 --> 1:00:25.360
<v Speaker 3>Or I came for this person.

1:00:25.400 --> 1:00:28.320
<v Speaker 4>If someone says the exact same thing, she's just giving

1:00:28.360 --> 1:00:29.520
<v Speaker 4>their her opinion.

1:00:29.960 --> 1:00:31.360
<v Speaker 1>Like a man's who's black.

1:00:31.440 --> 1:00:35.439
<v Speaker 2>But she's a biracial, light skinned black woman. So when

1:00:35.440 --> 1:00:39.600
<v Speaker 2>she sends Chrishelle a very I'll say it an aggressive

1:00:40.120 --> 1:00:44.400
<v Speaker 2>video message. They make amends in thirty seconds and then

1:00:44.640 --> 1:00:45.160
<v Speaker 2>they move on.

1:00:45.320 --> 1:00:49.439
<v Speaker 4>But I would have been annihilated. I wouldn't be able

1:00:49.440 --> 1:00:52.439
<v Speaker 4>to continue. But I don't move like that. I also

1:00:52.480 --> 1:00:55.120
<v Speaker 4>don't move like that because I don't have I don't

1:00:55.120 --> 1:00:56.520
<v Speaker 4>have the space to move like that.

1:00:56.600 --> 1:00:57.440
<v Speaker 3>I don't have.

1:00:58.760 --> 1:01:01.360
<v Speaker 4>The ability to move in that way. And that's why

1:01:01.400 --> 1:01:03.200
<v Speaker 4>I try to keep it as one hundred. But I

1:01:03.240 --> 1:01:06.200
<v Speaker 4>also try to watch my tone, So I try to

1:01:06.200 --> 1:01:08.680
<v Speaker 4>watch my body language. I'm very cognizant of things that

1:01:08.720 --> 1:01:11.920
<v Speaker 4>I never was cognizant of before. So now when I'm filming,

1:01:12.240 --> 1:01:15.960
<v Speaker 4>I often find myself like sitting there and being like

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<v Speaker 4>because I understand that when I'm not smiling, I look

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<v Speaker 4>mean or I may look angry. I pick up on things,

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<v Speaker 4>and I don't want that to be a I don't

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<v Speaker 4>want that to be a trope for black women in

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<v Speaker 4>real estate or black women anywhere. I really want to

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<v Speaker 4>do my best to represent in the best way possible.

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<v Speaker 4>So I know that I'm not just doing this for Chelsea.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm doing this for anyone that wants to be in

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<v Speaker 4>real estate, or anyone that looks like me, or anyone

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<v Speaker 4>that's inspired to crush it at anything.

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<v Speaker 3>So I try to.

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<v Speaker 4>Make sure that I show other sides of my personality too.

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<v Speaker 4>When you see me being bubbly and stuff like that,

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<v Speaker 4>it's not I am that person, But I'm trying to

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<v Speaker 4>show you that we are all multifaceted.

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<v Speaker 3>We don't fit into one box, you know.

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<v Speaker 4>And same way they see me stern in one moment,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm so soft and gentle in another So give me

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<v Speaker 4>space and give me grace for that, like you do

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<v Speaker 4>everybody else. But I think in the industry, we are

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<v Speaker 4>so used to seeing black women having to fight for themselves.

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<v Speaker 3>So you're so used to seeing black.

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<v Speaker 4>Women stern and strong, and I want to show myself

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<v Speaker 4>soft and gentle because I am soft and gentle.

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<v Speaker 2>No you are, And listen, this interview has been able

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<v Speaker 2>to do that. It really has, And I wanted to

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<v Speaker 2>make sure that you and I had on one on

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<v Speaker 2>one and listen, this means the world to me that

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<v Speaker 2>you did say yes. You did say yes, because not

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<v Speaker 2>everybody wants to do a podcast because of you know,

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<v Speaker 2>there's either this preconceived notion like you said, it's quick,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's like because some podcasts those shaped to my industry,

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<v Speaker 2>some podcasts are a little weird to where it's like

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<v Speaker 2>it's a setup and they don't really know you, and

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<v Speaker 2>they actually weird questions and you're like, this is a

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<v Speaker 2>weird experience. While am I here and I create a

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<v Speaker 2>reality with the King to be a safe space for

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<v Speaker 2>people to get to know the real you.

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<v Speaker 1>And as a huge fan.

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<v Speaker 2>Of yours, I wanted to make sure that you have

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<v Speaker 2>the floor so that people under knew. I'm sorry that

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<v Speaker 2>people understood and saw the person behind the personality, and

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<v Speaker 2>you displayed that in this interview today, and I thank

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<v Speaker 2>you so much for doing that.

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<v Speaker 3>You made me cry.

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<v Speaker 1>I cry, but I want you to know.

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<v Speaker 2>I want you to know that, and I hope you

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<v Speaker 2>I hope you know that this was the intention of

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<v Speaker 2>this and you you rocked it, and you keep you

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<v Speaker 2>keep wearing them platform hills, making us proud when we

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<v Speaker 2>say Chelsea, when we say Chelsea as we're watching the TV, like, bitch, give.

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<v Speaker 1>These I'm about to be all wrapped. Give these girls,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, fever bitch, and do it with a smile.

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<v Speaker 2>And you're funny and you're bubbly. You make us laugh.

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<v Speaker 2>My last question is what's next for you?

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<v Speaker 1>Baby? What do you have going on? Because this is

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<v Speaker 1>not the end of you, baby, You're just getting started.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just getting started.

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<v Speaker 4>So I'm exploring my one of my earlier passions in life,

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<v Speaker 4>which is cooking.

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<v Speaker 3>I love to cook.

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<v Speaker 4>I've been cooking for a very long time, so I've

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<v Speaker 4>been honing on some cooking content and maybe there'll be

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<v Speaker 4>something else that follows cooking in the future. But I

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<v Speaker 4>just love being from the camera. I would love getting

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<v Speaker 4>into like mentoring. I just I really want to connect

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<v Speaker 4>with my ten year old self because there are so

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<v Speaker 4>many of my ten year old selves out there that

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<v Speaker 4>watch me, and I want to connect more with young

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<v Speaker 4>women just like I was and just enjoy life and

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<v Speaker 4>watch my kids grow and take care of my family

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<v Speaker 4>and just be blessed. Continue to be blessed.

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<v Speaker 2>And continue to get that else, commit and them sales

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<v Speaker 2>and bring the motherfuck bell ring ray.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you, tell me, I love you.

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