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Speaker 2: to Reality the King. It's me Carlos King, the King

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Speaker 2: of Reality TV and one of the most sought after

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Speaker 2: executive producers in reality television with over ten years of

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Speaker 2: production experience. Once a week on Reality with the King,

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Speaker 2: we'll sit down with my friends across the entertainment industry,

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Speaker 2: recap our favorite reality shows, and revisit unforgettable moments that

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Speaker 2: we are still talking and tweeting about. Rain Drops here,

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Speaker 2: She's here, and I could not be happier than two.

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Speaker 1: I'm fanning out.

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Speaker 3: I'm fanning out.

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Speaker 1: No, I'm fanning out, Fanny.

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Speaker 2: I don't think you know how much I adore you

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Speaker 2: and love you.

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Speaker 1: I'm a huge fan of yours.

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Speaker 2: Chelsea las Kannie from selling Sunset Bitch.

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Speaker 1: No, I'm a fan.

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Speaker 4: I'm a fan of yours because I don't do podcasts,

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Speaker 4: you know, I tell everybody I do not do podcasts

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Speaker 4: because I also don't believe in talking about a lot

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Speaker 4: of things that goes on the show and not addressing

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Speaker 4: them with the people directly. That's just that's my philosophy.

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Speaker 4: I rather just talk to the person directly. But when

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Speaker 4: I've been a big fan of yours for a long time,

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Speaker 4: when you reached out to me, I said, if there's

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Speaker 4: one podcast I'm the dow, it's Carlos's. And I text

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Speaker 4: my agents. They were like, what, Chelsea, We've been trying

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Speaker 4: to get you to do poscasts for like a year

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Speaker 3: I was like, I'm gonna do this one.

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Speaker 4: He sees me, and he respects me, and even if

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Speaker 4: he asks tops questions, I know that he's coming from

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Speaker 4: a place of love. And I need someone to I

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Speaker 4: need someone to see me to ask me the right questions.

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Speaker 3: Otherwise I don't want to I don't want to have

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Speaker 1: Don't make me cry. Don't make me cry. That means

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Speaker 1: a lot to me.

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Speaker 2: I created this podcast to be a safe space for

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Speaker 2: peep on reality television, especially black women who dominate reality TV.

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Speaker 2: And the moment you stepped foot on selling Sunset, Me

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Speaker 2: and My group Chat and the Rain drops.

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Speaker 1: We were all like, who.

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Speaker 2: Is this bad bitch that is about to set this

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Speaker 2: show on fire?

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Speaker 1: And you have not let us down.

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Speaker 2: The community loves you, I mean the black community.

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Speaker 1: We ride for you. We ride for you.

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Speaker 2: You are a beautiful, dark skinned black woman, African born

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Speaker 2: and raised in the UK, right, and we're proud of you.

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Speaker 2: And I want you to know that we see you.

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Speaker 2: I see you and baby were about to have some fun.

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Speaker 3: You're gonna make me cry.

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Speaker 2: No, we see you, and I want to know that

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Speaker 2: we see you, and we're no, no, no, don't don't cry.

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Speaker 1: Make up, honey.

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Speaker 2: But I need you to know, speaking on behalf of

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Speaker 2: the black community, we're proud of you. You you hold

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Speaker 2: it down on that show. And I know it's hard.

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Speaker 2: We'll get to that later. Actually, let's get into it now.

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Speaker 2: You as a dark skinned black woman coming into selling sunset?

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Speaker 1: How did that come about?

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Speaker 4: Minded my business, I had my real estate license, so

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Speaker 4: I got my real estate license actually to purchase my

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Speaker 4: And I took the exam, I passed it, and I

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Speaker 1: You kept the commission and I kept the.

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Speaker 4: That's pretty much how I got my real estate license.

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Speaker 4: And then I started to do transactions for families and friends.

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Speaker 4: And I was like, guys, if you're looking to buy

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Speaker 3: Just break me off like a nice dinner at Nobo.

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Speaker 3: We just gotta pay. We just got to pay my brokerage.

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Speaker 4: And this is when I was working at Rode Royalty,

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Speaker 4: I was like, no, No, my sister is buying a house.

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Speaker 4: The person is not related to me. I can't charge

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Speaker 3: So it was always it was always good fun.

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Speaker 1: So what year did you get your real estate license?

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Speaker 4: I got my real estate license in two thousand and seven,

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Speaker 4: two thousand and yeah, twenty seventeen.

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Speaker 2: Wow, And who approached you to be on selling Sunset

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Speaker 2: the producer?

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Speaker 1: How did they find you?

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Speaker 3: I have no idea.

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Speaker 4: So I had a very private account, probably two thousand followers.

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Speaker 4: I only posted myself and my partner. I didn't most

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Speaker 4: our life together. You know, didn't really have many friends

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Speaker 3: Never never ever.

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Speaker 4: Watched Selling Sunset A Day in My Life, Never watch

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Speaker 4: Selling Sunset a Day in my Life on Bible, never

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Speaker 4: watched it. Saw the message, ran to my husband and

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Speaker 4: He's like, this is going to be some random guy

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Speaker 4: You are not going to be my enemy of progress.

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Speaker 4: I'll speak to you later, sir, the pipe person, I am.

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Speaker 4: I'm not really formal as much as people look at

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Speaker 4: I'm very I just say what's on my mind. Message

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Speaker 1: What made you say yes to being on the show,

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Speaker 2: You're a private person with a private Instagram account, not

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Speaker 2: feeling like you said earlier, this beautiful bombshell? What made

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Speaker 4: So there are a lot of reasons, but I think

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Speaker 4: God definitely said this is for me. Like before I

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Speaker 4: I watched the show, and you know, I see these

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Speaker 4: But I see nobody that looks like me, and my

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Speaker 3: But I knew that this was this was.

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Speaker 4: An opportunity for me to be that representation first and foremost,

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Speaker 4: and then secondly, if not me, maybe there won't be

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Speaker 4: another one. And knowing that if I got this opportunity

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Speaker 3: So I said, as.

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Speaker 4: Much as I want to do this for me and

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Speaker 3: Then I said, I'm going to do this. I'm going

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Speaker 4: I'm going to show that it can be done because

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Speaker 4: it's important. Representation is important, No.

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Speaker 2: It is, and you represent us very very well on

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Speaker 2: to you a great deal, even at the reunion when

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Speaker 2: I take her around and she's killing it. So that's

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Speaker 2: What was your childhood like being African and growing up

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Speaker 3: My child was beautiful.

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Speaker 4: There there was a lot of strife and struggles because

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Speaker 4: So I always had amazing representation and amazing role models

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Speaker 4: who don't speak like myself, they have African accents, really

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Speaker 4: work extremely hard in Ghana respect in their respective fields.

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Speaker 4: So hard work and hustle was ingrained in me from

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Speaker 4: didn't see my mom or my dad. Maybe I saw

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Speaker 3: I just had so much respect for.

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Speaker 4: Them because they loved life, but they loved to work

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Speaker 2: and one thing you mentioned is you didn't celebrate your birthday.

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Speaker 3: I had friends, but.

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Speaker 2: So that's why when you celebrated your birthday on this

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Speaker 2: So was there this vision where it's like you stay

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Speaker 3: So it's this is.

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Speaker 4: That's what I remember. So I ended up staying the

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Speaker 2: You mentioned earlier you never saw yourself as a beauty girl,

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Speaker 2: going to be happy. Why didn't you feel like a

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Speaker 2: So what didn't you see in yourself as a little

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Speaker 3: I think beauty really is.

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Speaker 4: Comes from inside, and I think because I didn't feel

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Speaker 3: So I never really saw beauty.

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Speaker 4: And I think that beauty was less physical and was

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Speaker 3: I can never be here.

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Speaker 4: I'm always going to be here, and maybe one day,

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Speaker 3: That's why.

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Speaker 4: That's really where my understanding of beauty came from, just

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Speaker 4: I'm like trying to figure out my hair, trying to

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Speaker 3: Trying to get by.

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Speaker 4: So of course I had many, you know, black friends,

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Speaker 3: We all felt like we.

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Speaker 4: that's if that's a if that's a word. So this

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Speaker 2: You do know that there's black girls who are seeing

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Speaker 2: oh my gosh, I felt seen. Just know that there's

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Speaker 2: little brownskin girls who love Realcity Television who were fans

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Speaker 2: you know that they too are like, there she is, Mom,

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Speaker 2: Look there she is. There she is, and you should

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Speaker 2: the way Gabrielle Union did it for you and the

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Speaker 1: Thank you could that means something.

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Speaker 3: That means a lot.

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Speaker 1: No, that means something.

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Speaker 2: So with your mom being gone and every little girl

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Speaker 3: Very much? So? I see myself I'm very much like

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Speaker 4: My mother is the most charismatic, beautiful, intelligent, hard working

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Speaker 3: But she's hard working to a fault.

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Speaker 4: So if she sets her mind to something, and for

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Speaker 4: her it was to provide equally with my father, she's

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Speaker 4: going for throttle at it because she knew that she

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Speaker 4: looked and sounded different to everybody. It's one thing to

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Speaker 4: we struggled a lot because commune, we didn't communicate as

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Speaker 4: much as I would like. I didn't feel supported, I

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Speaker 3: You were just trying to survive.

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Speaker 4: She wanted to have us in the best schools, with

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Speaker 4: so we could. She was like, I don't want you to.

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Speaker 3: Go through what I've been through. This is why I'm

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Speaker 4: I want you in areas where I want you in

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Speaker 4: go through what I've been through. But it's only when

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Speaker 4: understood it. At that point in time, I'm like, you

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Speaker 4: But that's not the reality.

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Speaker 1: So no, listen.

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Speaker 2: I think one thing we realized as we get older

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Speaker 1: Be the human beings we are today.

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Speaker 2: You're obviously accomplished, successful, well rounded, and a lot of

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Speaker 2: be here sitting next to Carlos King.

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Speaker 1: Honey, So we thank your mom and dad.

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Speaker 4: Thank you God, thank you.

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Speaker 1: I mean we did it.

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Speaker 2: I did it, so job well done. You have not

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Speaker 2: only an undergrad degree, you have a massive degree. Read

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Speaker 2: You are not only a woman, a black woman, African

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Speaker 2: woman in the UK. When we think of oil and gas,

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Speaker 2: let's be real, we think of rich white men. We

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Speaker 2: of Houston, Texas. We don't think about it in terms

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Speaker 2: of getting a degree in this subject matter. What was

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Speaker 4: So my mind works very numerically and I'm obviously Nigerian,

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Speaker 4: said why not. It was very It was very fascinating

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Speaker 4: I was really good in math. And a lot of

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Speaker 4: the people I knew in those respective industries were very wealthy.

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Speaker 4: So said, okay, where's the coiner.

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Speaker 3: Okay, so I'm gonna be here, be rich.

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Speaker 2: No one thing you said on selling Sunset this is

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Speaker 2: when I was like, oh, she's my bitch, and I'm

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Speaker 1: You said something your first season. You was having dinner.

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Speaker 2: It was your husband and Jason, I remember, and you said,

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna pay so I have to work. Before that,

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Speaker 2: you said something that I said, if Carlos King has

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Speaker 2: and I quote, I will never suffer in this life ever.

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Speaker 4: Never.

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Speaker 2: I will never suffer in this life because I am

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Speaker 2: going to work hard for what? And I said, no,

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Speaker 2: we'll talk this me being funny and silly, I said, oh,

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Speaker 2: I see her and she sees me. Because I do

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Speaker 2: feel like nowadays, I'll say, you don't got to. Nowadays,

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Speaker 2: nobody wants to work hard. They want things easy. They

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Speaker 2: want to be able to just have things familiar. Lab

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Speaker 2: they don't know how to keep it and sustain it

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Speaker 2: but you said it was such conviction that it it

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Speaker 2: my page as my Monday motivation because I said, this

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Speaker 2: girl's going places so me knowing that about you, you

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Speaker 2: get this degree, obviously it makes a lot of money.

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Speaker 2: Did you start working in that field post graduation?

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Speaker 3: I did so.

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Speaker 4: I worked with two oil and gas companies actually out

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Speaker 3: I only left.

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Speaker 4: My last company, which is an oil and gas company,

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Speaker 4: was actually Liquifinancial Gas. I think it was just right

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Speaker 4: before getting my real estate license.

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Speaker 4: I left it just before I took the test for

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Speaker 4: my real estate license because I knew I was going

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Speaker 2: Let's get back into the show. Doctor Wendy Osefo is

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Speaker 1: You love her? I love her too. She's my girl.

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Speaker 2: She was on my podcast and she educated me about

484
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Speaker 2: being the child of Nigerian parents and how they want

485
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Speaker 2: you to be the best of the best to make

486
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Speaker 2: all the money in the world.

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Speaker 1: What was that conversation like when your mom found.

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Speaker 2: Out you were leaving your corporate job and taking a

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Speaker 2: real estate license class, I mean real estate class to

490
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Speaker 2: get your license.

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Speaker 4: So my mom's very supportive, but she said listen, you

492
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Speaker 4: need to work, because if you think that your husband

493
00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:02,720
Speaker 4: just wants you to be there and spend his money,

494
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Speaker 4: you're joking. Because, like to be honest with you, at

495
00:27:05,040 --> 00:27:08,960
Speaker 4: being in a interracial relationship, I think my mum's very

496
00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:12,240
Speaker 4: heavy on Chelsea. Make sure you have your own and

497
00:27:12,280 --> 00:27:15,239
Speaker 4: make sure you have you're respected, you know, because at

498
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Speaker 4: the same time, you don't look like everyone else, and

499
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Speaker 4: you need your man to respect you. And the only

500
00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:22,600
Speaker 4: way your man can respect you is if you work.

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00:27:22,680 --> 00:27:26,479
Speaker 4: That was her philosophy, and that was ingrained so deeply

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Speaker 4: in me. So no matter who I've married, I was

503
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Speaker 4: always going to work. I was never going to be,

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Speaker 4: you know, somebody that I was never not going to

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Speaker 4: contribute financially to my household. So I knew that when

506
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Speaker 4: I do pivot, I have to make sure this works too.

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00:27:46,680 --> 00:27:49,760
Speaker 4: So in real estate started to work. It started to work.

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Speaker 4: I realized that this is why everyone has their real

509
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Speaker 4: estate license, because it's not that hard.

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Speaker 1: I love you, get it, man, and we'll talk. Loves.

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Speaker 2: We'll talk afterwards, because I may. When I hire you

512
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Speaker 2: to find me a house, we'll talk. I did ask.

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Speaker 2: I'll call you later because I'm so fascinated. But I

514
00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:20,120
Speaker 2: love real estate, and I'm so fascinated by the transactional

515
00:28:20,160 --> 00:28:24,400
Speaker 2: aspect of it because I'm independent. I love the fact

516
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Speaker 2: that a real estate agents you make your own schedule

517
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Speaker 2: because at the end of the day, if you don't work,

518
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Speaker 2: you don't get paid. So I love that self starting

519
00:28:32,240 --> 00:28:37,040
Speaker 2: nature of it. Going back to your your husband, I

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Speaker 2: love your relationship with him. I can If you don't

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Speaker 2: know this, I'm gonna tell you that man loves you.

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Speaker 1: I can tell by the way. It's very subtle.

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Speaker 2: But because I work with women who's who's either married

524
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Speaker 2: or single, I can tell when I'm like, girl, he

525
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Speaker 2: don't see it for you, not five more years, he's

526
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Speaker 2: gonna break up with you.

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Speaker 1: Your husband loves you? Down down?

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Speaker 3: How did you two meet on Tinder?

529
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Speaker 4: He was my first hinder day. He snatched me, snatched

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Speaker 4: me his eleven years my senior and I came out here.

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Speaker 4: So funny story, and I haven't I haven't really shared this,

532
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Speaker 4: but I moved here just before I moved here, sorry,

533
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Speaker 4: just after completing my masters, I came over here with

534
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Speaker 4: one suitcase. And you asked me why, because you're very surprised.

535
00:29:31,400 --> 00:29:34,240
Speaker 4: I was running away from my ex boyfriend, who was

536
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Speaker 4: very abusive, was in a very very toxic place in

537
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Speaker 4: my life relationship wise, and I knew that I had

538
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Speaker 4: to just I had to, you know, like proximity is

539
00:29:47,040 --> 00:29:49,520
Speaker 4: something because you can mentally leave a relationship, but if

540
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Speaker 4: your proximity in the person are closed, you can find

541
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Speaker 4: yourself like going back into that same cycle.

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Speaker 3: And that's what I saw. So I literally booked a

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Speaker 3: ticket term Los Angeles.

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Speaker 4: My mum had an apartment here and she was transitioning

545
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Speaker 4: between between rolls and I grabbed a suitcase and filled

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Speaker 4: it up and left.

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Speaker 1: He was physically abusive to you. I'm sorry. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: so you you escaped.

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Speaker 2: Town m h and moved here with one suitcase.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, with no plan.

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Speaker 4: I had a little bit of a plan because I'm

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Speaker 4: a big planner, being the academic that I am.

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Speaker 3: I said, Okay, let me go get one more degree.

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Speaker 3: That's what I said.

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Speaker 4: I said, I'm gonna go get an mb I'm going

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Speaker 4: to go get an MBA. So I started studying for

557
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Speaker 4: the gap because I wanted to go to Columbia and

558
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Speaker 4: my sister lived in New York. My sister was working

559
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Speaker 4: on Wall Street. She had just finished her master's at Wharton,

560
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Speaker 4: and I said, Okay, this is my plan, and we're

561
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Speaker 4: going to live together. You know, we hadn't lived together

562
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Speaker 4: for maybe over a decade. Now everything's going to come

563
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Speaker 4: full circle. We're going to live together. And then I started,

564
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Speaker 4: so why I put on Tinder and I saw this

565
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Speaker 4: one lovely chap and we connected and the rest is history.

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Speaker 4: Because I remember he said to me, he's eleven eleven

567
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Speaker 4: years my senior, obviously and established in his profession. He said,

568
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Speaker 4: you can't keep getting these degrees.

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Speaker 3: You need experience.

570
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Speaker 4: I was like, what what do you mean? He was like,

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Speaker 4: you need to get some work experience. You need to

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Speaker 4: get a job. And I'm like, this is I was

573
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Speaker 4: twenty right, I was like a job.

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Speaker 3: Oh.

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Speaker 4: I was hoping to like stay in school for a

576
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Speaker 4: couple more years because school school for me was very easy,

577
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Speaker 4: you know. So I took his advice and I still studied.

578
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Speaker 4: I still I did the GMAT. I still put myself

579
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Speaker 4: in a position whereby I have a score that allows

580
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Speaker 4: me to apply for any school if I wanted to.

581
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Speaker 4: But let me get a job. And I got my

582
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Speaker 4: first job in the United States, and then the job,

583
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Speaker 4: the job I was in west Lake Village. He lived

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Speaker 4: in the valley. My mom's apartment was in Glendale. You know,

585
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Speaker 4: I hadn't got my license at this time, so I

586
00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:11,800
Speaker 4: was ubering to my job. It didn't really make sense financially.

587
00:32:11,880 --> 00:32:13,680
Speaker 4: So I remember one day I stayed at his place

588
00:32:13,720 --> 00:32:16,239
Speaker 4: and I was like, I was leaving. I did it

589
00:32:16,280 --> 00:32:18,760
Speaker 4: for about five six days, and I remember I came home.

590
00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:21,040
Speaker 4: I came to his place one day after work because

591
00:32:21,040 --> 00:32:22,480
Speaker 4: he lived twenty minutes away from my job, and he

592
00:32:22,520 --> 00:32:23,080
Speaker 4: just had a key.

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Speaker 3: He was like, do you want this? Like sure, okay.

594
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Speaker 4: So my mom was moving into a new role in

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Speaker 4: a different state, and I had already moved in.

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Speaker 3: Honey, I hadn't moved in. It was like three months in.

597
00:32:38,560 --> 00:32:40,520
Speaker 3: I had moved. I had moved in.

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Speaker 4: I went back to the apartment which my brother lived,

599
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Speaker 4: and my brother lived up with my mom's apartment, and

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Speaker 4: I just came in one day. My mom wasn't around.

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Speaker 4: That one suitcase. I threw everything in it. I said me,

602
00:32:55,040 --> 00:32:58,320
Speaker 4: I said, peace. But you know what, I'm a planner,

603
00:32:58,600 --> 00:33:01,080
Speaker 4: I said, do you know what I'm gonna do? And guys,

604
00:33:01,160 --> 00:33:05,040
Speaker 4: I'm gonna give you some free game right now. I

605
00:33:05,080 --> 00:33:08,840
Speaker 4: shouldn't say this. Please forgive me. I'm gonna give you

606
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Speaker 4: some free games. So everything to me is planning and

607
00:33:12,840 --> 00:33:15,840
Speaker 4: being smart. So I said, what am I to lose

608
00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:20,160
Speaker 4: moving in with this man whom I've just met, right,

609
00:33:20,600 --> 00:33:22,000
Speaker 4: Because what I'm going to do is I got a

610
00:33:22,000 --> 00:33:24,880
Speaker 4: full time job and making decent money. I must save

611
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Speaker 4: all of it because I have a contingency plan if

612
00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:31,040
Speaker 4: this doesn't work out. I'm no longer sleeping on the

613
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Speaker 4: sofa because I'm sleeping the sofa my UM's place because

614
00:33:33,160 --> 00:33:36,000
Speaker 4: it was the two bedroom apartment and my mum would

615
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Speaker 4: stay in one when she's around, and my brother would

616
00:33:37,920 --> 00:33:40,520
Speaker 4: say that other as I was. I was the strangler

617
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Speaker 4: that came from the UK and just was like, hey, guys,

618
00:33:43,480 --> 00:33:45,720
Speaker 4: can you house me? They were like yeah, sure. The

619
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Speaker 4: sofa very uncomfortable. So I was like, okay, you got

620
00:33:48,960 --> 00:33:52,240
Speaker 4: a better living situation because now you have a bed, you.

621
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Speaker 3: Have groceries that are paid for by.

622
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Speaker 4: Someone else, and when you get your checks every two weeks,

623
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Speaker 4: you can just save it because if this doesn't work out,

624
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Speaker 4: then you're not going back to the sofar.

625
00:34:02,720 --> 00:34:04,080
Speaker 3: You're going to get your own partner. Bitch.

626
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Speaker 1: That's that's that's free game and good game. That's very smart.

627
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Speaker 4: So yeah, so then obviously it works out and all

628
00:34:14,840 --> 00:34:16,360
Speaker 4: the money I saved that ended up buying him a

629
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Speaker 4: Rolex with.

630
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Speaker 2: Bitch you you better, you better, bitch you better.

631
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Speaker 1: Is he the first white guy you dated?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Mm hmm.

633
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Speaker 2: Were you.

634
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Speaker 1: Like, were you surprised? Yeah?

635
00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:37,960
Speaker 2: Were you surprised or did you did you want to

636
00:34:37,960 --> 00:34:41,719
Speaker 2: experience something new after leaving the UK and leaving that

637
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Speaker 2: relationship you had.

638
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Speaker 3: I think I just became more open.

639
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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I think I just got to a point where in

641
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Speaker 3: my life where I was like, always date. I always

642
00:34:49,200 --> 00:34:49,960
Speaker 3: date the thugs.

643
00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:56,440
Speaker 4: I always love myself a little roadman. I either dated

644
00:34:56,480 --> 00:35:00,840
Speaker 4: like road men or like my my ex African Nigerian.

645
00:35:00,880 --> 00:35:03,880
Speaker 4: I love African men, you know, I just love my culture.

646
00:35:04,080 --> 00:35:10,160
Speaker 4: So it was always the guys that everybody wants, everybody

647
00:35:10,200 --> 00:35:10,800
Speaker 4: wants them.

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Speaker 1: It's like.

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00:35:15,200 --> 00:35:18,560
Speaker 4: I said, Chelsea, Chelsea, Chelsea, Chelsea, what is it you

650
00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:20,200
Speaker 4: want in this life? I said, I want someone that's

651
00:35:20,239 --> 00:35:22,000
Speaker 4: loyal to me. I want someone that loves me, wants

652
00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:24,239
Speaker 4: someone that respects me, and I want someone that loves

653
00:35:24,280 --> 00:35:28,839
Speaker 4: me for me at all times. You know, because I'm very,

654
00:35:29,160 --> 00:35:33,640
Speaker 4: very quirky and a little bit. Just there's multiple sides

655
00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:38,359
Speaker 4: to me, and I found myself creating this pattern relationships

656
00:35:38,400 --> 00:35:40,839
Speaker 4: where it would be like.

657
00:35:40,840 --> 00:35:42,640
Speaker 3: You're too loud, or you talk back.

658
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Speaker 4: I'm like, what do you mean I'm talking back. I'm

659
00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:46,479
Speaker 4: just giving my opinion. You voiced yours. It's my turn,

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Speaker 4: you know.

661
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Speaker 1: But come on.

662
00:35:50,360 --> 00:35:56,279
Speaker 4: So I thought, let me just open the gates and say,

663
00:35:56,320 --> 00:35:59,120
Speaker 4: whoever comes my way, and whoever seems like good vibes

664
00:35:59,160 --> 00:36:02,080
Speaker 4: and good energy, I can start dating.

665
00:36:02,200 --> 00:36:04,920
Speaker 3: And that's basically what happened. Whereas before I was like.

666
00:36:04,880 --> 00:36:09,000
Speaker 1: Ah, no, yeah, no, Alessa.

667
00:36:09,120 --> 00:36:11,480
Speaker 2: I try to Sorry, fellas, but I do tell a

668
00:36:11,480 --> 00:36:15,719
Speaker 2: lot of my black female friends who are single start

669
00:36:15,800 --> 00:36:17,960
Speaker 2: dating outside your race. You just you just you just

670
00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:22,120
Speaker 2: don't know. You don't know. You can't be restricted when

671
00:36:22,120 --> 00:36:25,839
Speaker 2: it comes to dating. What was your parents reaction when

672
00:36:25,840 --> 00:36:28,319
Speaker 2: you brought the white man home child? Oh?

673
00:36:28,400 --> 00:36:32,720
Speaker 3: My mom said, wow, can he be? My husband.

674
00:36:34,480 --> 00:36:36,360
Speaker 4: Loved My mom loved him more than I loved it.

675
00:36:36,440 --> 00:36:41,000
Speaker 4: She loved him so much, she said, that's my daughter.

676
00:36:42,440 --> 00:36:46,240
Speaker 4: My mom was so happy, she was gassed.

677
00:36:46,800 --> 00:36:48,640
Speaker 3: I'm telling you, I.

678
00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:52,600
Speaker 4: Think she wanted to for herself. But no, my my

679
00:36:52,719 --> 00:36:55,520
Speaker 4: mom was so happy. I didn't really get my dad's

680
00:36:55,560 --> 00:36:58,120
Speaker 4: thoughts on it, because I tried to keep me and

681
00:36:58,120 --> 00:37:01,040
Speaker 4: my dad with We have a very litrue relationship. My

682
00:37:01,120 --> 00:37:02,879
Speaker 4: dad used to used to be in the military. It's

683
00:37:02,960 --> 00:37:05,640
Speaker 4: very much like, so, how was your day, So like

684
00:37:06,120 --> 00:37:07,680
Speaker 4: my dad still pretends he doesn't know I have a

685
00:37:07,719 --> 00:37:14,120
Speaker 4: boob job. He acts so like oblivious to like everything,

686
00:37:14,200 --> 00:37:14,720
Speaker 4: like I'll.

687
00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:17,960
Speaker 3: Post the way he communicated. My dad texts me.

688
00:37:17,960 --> 00:37:19,840
Speaker 4: He was like, I just want to let you know

689
00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:22,239
Speaker 4: I'm very proud of you. You represented very well on

690
00:37:22,320 --> 00:37:27,080
Speaker 4: selling suddet. It's like nothing about my outfits fape. He

691
00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:30,480
Speaker 4: doesn't mention anything that's like, I'll post something that's a

692
00:37:30,480 --> 00:37:33,760
Speaker 4: little bit risque on Instagram. My dad likes and comments

693
00:37:33,760 --> 00:37:35,960
Speaker 4: on like most of my things on Instagram, the ones

694
00:37:35,960 --> 00:37:37,520
Speaker 4: that are a bit riskue. He just pretend you didn't

695
00:37:37,520 --> 00:37:40,359
Speaker 4: see it. He'll never even mention it to me, and

696
00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:42,719
Speaker 4: I love. I love that far a relationship. So I

697
00:37:42,760 --> 00:37:48,000
Speaker 4: don't know how his initial thoughts on me and me

698
00:37:48,080 --> 00:37:50,799
Speaker 4: and my partner, but I can only imagine what they

699
00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:51,279
Speaker 4: would have been.

700
00:37:51,320 --> 00:37:55,120
Speaker 3: He said, hey, lord, this one's gonna leave her.

701
00:37:57,239 --> 00:38:01,560
Speaker 4: Because I think growing up in an African household and

702
00:38:01,680 --> 00:38:04,640
Speaker 4: not seeing many like in trade relationships, you just assume

703
00:38:04,680 --> 00:38:07,200
Speaker 4: they wouldn't work. You just I think it was just

704
00:38:07,239 --> 00:38:11,840
Speaker 4: an assumption that, like, how would it work. And I

705
00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:14,479
Speaker 4: think my dad probably just had those initial fears, although

706
00:38:14,520 --> 00:38:16,960
Speaker 4: he never voiced them. He was very, very respectful, but

707
00:38:17,000 --> 00:38:20,160
Speaker 4: I can imagine. But I think once everybody met him,

708
00:38:20,440 --> 00:38:24,719
Speaker 4: they were like, Okay, they saw it immediately because they're like,

709
00:38:25,040 --> 00:38:26,480
Speaker 4: he's so smitting over her.

710
00:38:26,960 --> 00:38:30,120
Speaker 2: See, I'm telling you, I listen. Obviously I haven't met

711
00:38:30,200 --> 00:38:32,719
Speaker 2: him in person. The fact that your parents met him

712
00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:34,920
Speaker 2: in person and felt that way instantly, and I just

713
00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:37,640
Speaker 2: tell you, two minutes ago, I'm watching the show and

714
00:38:37,680 --> 00:38:39,680
Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't know if you know this girl,

715
00:38:39,680 --> 00:38:45,400
Speaker 2: but he loves you down It's so obvious that obviously

716
00:38:45,480 --> 00:38:48,160
Speaker 2: you love him too, but he is smitten by you.

717
00:38:49,040 --> 00:38:53,160
Speaker 2: And I'm happy that you found love because when you

718
00:38:53,320 --> 00:38:57,879
Speaker 2: exit an abusive relationship, I know that sometimes it can

719
00:38:58,000 --> 00:39:01,839
Speaker 2: be scary to give your heart to another man in

720
00:39:01,920 --> 00:39:04,239
Speaker 2: fear that he may turn around and do the same

721
00:39:04,280 --> 00:39:07,320
Speaker 2: things to you your previous boyfriend did. So the fact

722
00:39:07,320 --> 00:39:10,000
Speaker 2: that you found your prince Charming who turned to be

723
00:39:10,080 --> 00:39:14,160
Speaker 2: your knight enshrining armor and now your husband, and just

724
00:39:14,200 --> 00:39:16,640
Speaker 2: because it may not have looked like what you thought

725
00:39:16,680 --> 00:39:17,200
Speaker 2: on paper.

726
00:39:18,160 --> 00:39:21,960
Speaker 1: You gave love a chance and we.

727
00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:25,839
Speaker 2: See this happiness that you have right now, and listen, girl,

728
00:39:25,880 --> 00:39:26,359
Speaker 2: you did that.

729
00:39:27,040 --> 00:39:29,440
Speaker 3: Absolutely. I'm a big believer in energy.

730
00:39:29,560 --> 00:39:32,160
Speaker 4: And this is why I'm so like, you know, I'm

731
00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:37,880
Speaker 4: so pro happiness and pro love because you never know,

732
00:39:38,480 --> 00:39:41,000
Speaker 4: you know, like you genuinely never know. When you just

733
00:39:41,040 --> 00:39:44,359
Speaker 4: connect with someone and I think. I meet so many

734
00:39:44,360 --> 00:39:46,600
Speaker 4: of my friends and they're like, oh, I think I

735
00:39:46,640 --> 00:39:47,959
Speaker 4: want to date outside of my rage.

736
00:39:47,960 --> 00:39:49,920
Speaker 3: Should I do it? And I'm like, God, do it.

737
00:39:49,960 --> 00:39:52,400
Speaker 3: And then they kind of like they're like, actually, no,

738
00:39:52,440 --> 00:39:52,879
Speaker 3: I don't think.

739
00:39:52,920 --> 00:39:53,480
Speaker 1: I don't.

740
00:39:53,680 --> 00:39:57,239
Speaker 4: They just immediately have the resistance and I'm like, you

741
00:39:57,320 --> 00:39:58,360
Speaker 4: haven't even tried.

742
00:39:59,239 --> 00:40:01,320
Speaker 3: You have no idea. Listen.

743
00:40:01,560 --> 00:40:05,160
Speaker 4: I love my black men, love I love my black women,

744
00:40:05,320 --> 00:40:08,000
Speaker 4: I love I love people in general.

745
00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:09,759
Speaker 3: It's not it's not a race thing.

746
00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:13,719
Speaker 4: It's just finding the energy that messages with yours irrespective

747
00:40:13,760 --> 00:40:14,240
Speaker 4: of race.

748
00:40:14,560 --> 00:40:17,280
Speaker 3: And yes, are there challenges, of course?

749
00:40:17,400 --> 00:40:20,080
Speaker 4: Are there certain things that you're going to have to

750
00:40:20,160 --> 00:40:24,200
Speaker 4: explain and get them to understand. Absolutely, Will they ever

751
00:40:24,680 --> 00:40:27,160
Speaker 4: feel some of the weight of the world that.

752
00:40:27,120 --> 00:40:31,080
Speaker 3: You feel being black in America? Absolutely not.

753
00:40:31,480 --> 00:40:36,000
Speaker 4: But All relationships have challenges, they all do, and they

754
00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:37,080
Speaker 4: come in different forms.

755
00:40:37,320 --> 00:40:40,320
Speaker 3: So what challenge is easier for you? My challenge?

756
00:40:40,480 --> 00:40:42,600
Speaker 4: The challenge that I don't even see as a challenge

757
00:40:42,719 --> 00:40:45,160
Speaker 4: is communication and understanding and explanation.

758
00:40:45,560 --> 00:40:46,279
Speaker 3: You want to hear me.

759
00:40:46,640 --> 00:40:50,560
Speaker 4: This is how I'm feeling, and then talk up for me,

760
00:40:50,640 --> 00:40:55,520
Speaker 4: my white king, because.

761
00:40:55,280 --> 00:40:56,279
Speaker 3: They gonna listen to you.

762
00:40:56,360 --> 00:41:00,920
Speaker 1: Okay, I love you.

763
00:41:02,000 --> 00:41:07,800
Speaker 2: Selling Sunset. You came on and we immediately saw this

764
00:41:08,360 --> 00:41:12,640
Speaker 2: share dion relationship, like the movie Clue is between you

765
00:41:12,680 --> 00:41:17,400
Speaker 2: and Christine. Did the producers introduce you to Christina and

766
00:41:17,400 --> 00:41:20,040
Speaker 2: say this is your girl, who's going to introduce you

767
00:41:20,080 --> 00:41:21,040
Speaker 2: to the rest of the cast?

768
00:41:21,640 --> 00:41:26,400
Speaker 4: No, So everything you saw that transpired on that scene

769
00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:30,480
Speaker 4: is exactly how it transpired in real life. The first

770
00:41:30,520 --> 00:41:34,719
Speaker 4: time I've ever laid my eyes on the magical Christine

771
00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:38,120
Speaker 4: is truly in that moment when I say hi, I'm

772
00:41:38,200 --> 00:41:43,480
Speaker 4: Chelsea LASCARTI petrified as hell, like, oh my gosh, this

773
00:41:43,480 --> 00:41:47,279
Speaker 4: woman's so tall and beautiful, What the am I doing here?

774
00:41:48,520 --> 00:41:51,280
Speaker 4: That is exactly how it played out. I was actually

775
00:41:51,320 --> 00:41:53,480
Speaker 4: just previewing the house, as you saw. I was brought

776
00:41:53,520 --> 00:41:55,240
Speaker 4: in to preview this beautiful house.

777
00:41:55,520 --> 00:41:57,600
Speaker 3: I had no idea it was going to be there.

778
00:41:58,160 --> 00:42:00,239
Speaker 3: I had no idea of me.

779
00:42:00,280 --> 00:42:01,680
Speaker 4: Thought maybe it was just going to be like a

780
00:42:01,680 --> 00:42:04,279
Speaker 4: solo scene with just myself so they could test me

781
00:42:04,280 --> 00:42:06,080
Speaker 4: out on camera because I'd never been tested out on

782
00:42:06,080 --> 00:42:09,760
Speaker 4: camera before. I'd never been tested out on camera before,

783
00:42:10,280 --> 00:42:13,279
Speaker 4: so they had no idea whether I was.

784
00:42:13,200 --> 00:42:16,160
Speaker 3: Just going to be like or I was gonna be

785
00:42:16,160 --> 00:42:19,360
Speaker 3: like They had no idea.

786
00:42:19,440 --> 00:42:23,640
Speaker 4: That was the first time there was a camera in

787
00:42:23,640 --> 00:42:24,200
Speaker 4: front of me.

788
00:42:24,880 --> 00:42:26,080
Speaker 3: And I'm walking through.

789
00:42:25,880 --> 00:42:27,680
Speaker 4: This house and I remember I got out, I got

790
00:42:27,680 --> 00:42:30,480
Speaker 4: out of my car, cameras were rolling already, and I

791
00:42:30,600 --> 00:42:33,320
Speaker 4: walk into the open house. I'm walking into the brokers

792
00:42:33,360 --> 00:42:38,320
Speaker 4: open rather and I'm like this and I just hear someone.

793
00:42:38,040 --> 00:42:40,799
Speaker 3: Saying, Chelsea, you're work.

794
00:42:41,200 --> 00:42:44,680
Speaker 4: Sorry, Chelsea, You're walking into a brokers open look excited.

795
00:42:44,880 --> 00:42:49,359
Speaker 4: I was like, oh my god, I am, I am.

796
00:42:50,000 --> 00:42:51,920
Speaker 4: This is happening. This is real life, but this is

797
00:42:51,960 --> 00:42:56,319
Speaker 4: also TV. But this is real life. You're walking into

798
00:42:56,320 --> 00:42:59,319
Speaker 4: a Brokeers open. What is your reaction. You're interested in

799
00:42:59,320 --> 00:43:02,080
Speaker 4: the house, been here before, You're looking at the views,

800
00:43:02,120 --> 00:43:04,279
Speaker 4: You're looking at the ceiling, You're looking you're looking at

801
00:43:04,280 --> 00:43:04,920
Speaker 4: their appliances.

802
00:43:06,520 --> 00:43:07,920
Speaker 3: But there's cameras.

803
00:43:09,200 --> 00:43:10,920
Speaker 4: And I just walked in and I said, all right,

804
00:43:11,880 --> 00:43:14,760
Speaker 4: you got this and that's that scene.

805
00:43:15,480 --> 00:43:17,080
Speaker 1: Do you miss having Christine on the show?

806
00:43:18,880 --> 00:43:21,719
Speaker 4: You know what I do and don't, and I say

807
00:43:21,760 --> 00:43:25,000
Speaker 4: I do and don't because of two reasons.

808
00:43:24,520 --> 00:43:28,280
Speaker 3: I'm very much let go and let God person.

809
00:43:28,800 --> 00:43:31,440
Speaker 4: So any beef you ever seen me, have any disagreement,

810
00:43:31,520 --> 00:43:34,000
Speaker 4: I'm always willing to resolve it and move forward. We

811
00:43:34,040 --> 00:43:37,120
Speaker 4: may not be best of friends, but I'm always willing to

812
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:40,839
Speaker 4: coexist in the room with you whereby we both feel

813
00:43:40,840 --> 00:43:42,520
Speaker 4: comfortable and both can have a good time at all

814
00:43:42,560 --> 00:43:44,040
Speaker 4: times because we're going to see each other.

815
00:43:44,080 --> 00:43:45,239
Speaker 3: We work for the same brokerage.

816
00:43:45,560 --> 00:43:47,839
Speaker 4: So the reason why I say I don't first is

817
00:43:47,880 --> 00:43:51,240
Speaker 4: because it became very difficult for some of the ladies

818
00:43:51,280 --> 00:43:53,239
Speaker 4: and Christine to be in the same room. And as

819
00:43:53,239 --> 00:43:55,759
Speaker 4: someone who was friends with Christina loved her dearly and

820
00:43:55,800 --> 00:43:57,919
Speaker 4: started to build friendship with the other girls and start

821
00:43:58,000 --> 00:44:00,480
Speaker 4: to love them dearly, I was always an awkward position

822
00:44:00,520 --> 00:44:02,680
Speaker 4: because I never really knew where to stand. I'm like,

823
00:44:02,960 --> 00:44:04,080
Speaker 4: I want to be with you, but I want to

824
00:44:04,080 --> 00:44:06,520
Speaker 4: be with you, but you guys can't come together. It

825
00:44:07,120 --> 00:44:10,160
Speaker 4: was difficult as someone that is also new and trying

826
00:44:10,160 --> 00:44:17,400
Speaker 4: to establish trust with amongst everybody to navigate that because

827
00:44:17,400 --> 00:44:20,360
Speaker 4: a lot of the disagreements happened way before I was

828
00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:25,120
Speaker 4: even a part of the show, so there was no

829
00:44:25,360 --> 00:44:28,279
Speaker 4: reconciliation that I could do. It was more so like

830
00:44:28,719 --> 00:44:32,320
Speaker 4: just trying to like manage it so that people felt

831
00:44:32,320 --> 00:44:34,560
Speaker 4: like I still had loyalty towards you. But I can

832
00:44:34,600 --> 00:44:36,839
Speaker 4: still have loyalty towards you even though you guys don't

833
00:44:36,880 --> 00:44:39,000
Speaker 4: see eye to eye.

834
00:44:39,160 --> 00:44:42,200
Speaker 3: And then I say I do because Christine's a bad bitch.

835
00:44:43,840 --> 00:44:44,839
Speaker 3: Bad bitch.

836
00:44:46,000 --> 00:44:51,160
Speaker 4: Don't use that term frequently. She's the type of person

837
00:44:51,520 --> 00:44:54,440
Speaker 4: that walks in the room, commands the room, and makes

838
00:44:54,440 --> 00:44:57,080
Speaker 4: you laugh. While she's commanding the room. She has a

839
00:44:57,120 --> 00:45:00,959
Speaker 4: presence that like, I'm still in our bi quite honest,

840
00:45:00,280 --> 00:45:05,480
Speaker 4: I think her presence is fantastic and i'd love I

841
00:45:05,480 --> 00:45:07,920
Speaker 4: can't wait to see what she's doing next. So I

842
00:45:08,040 --> 00:45:12,160
Speaker 4: missed that energy together because there's something really special about

843
00:45:12,680 --> 00:45:14,640
Speaker 4: being with someone that makes you want to step.

844
00:45:14,440 --> 00:45:16,560
Speaker 3: Up your game. You know. You know they say you're

845
00:45:16,560 --> 00:45:17,520
Speaker 3: the average of the five.

846
00:45:18,719 --> 00:45:19,040
Speaker 1: To me.

847
00:45:19,440 --> 00:45:22,320
Speaker 4: When I was with Christine, I'm like, I'm film with Christine,

848
00:45:22,960 --> 00:45:28,000
Speaker 4: all right, Cool, get all the resources we're really doing

849
00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:31,759
Speaker 4: it today. So I love people that make me uncomfortable

850
00:45:31,760 --> 00:45:33,359
Speaker 4: and make me feel like I need to level up.

851
00:45:33,520 --> 00:45:36,360
Speaker 3: And she's she's That's who she is to me.

852
00:45:36,480 --> 00:45:40,240
Speaker 2: I feel like Christine did to Selling Sunset what Erica

853
00:45:40,360 --> 00:45:44,319
Speaker 2: Jane did to the Baiverley Hills Housewives, which is everybody

854
00:45:44,400 --> 00:45:49,360
Speaker 2: stepped their fashion game up undeniably, undeniably, like even Mary

855
00:45:49,440 --> 00:45:51,399
Speaker 2: and I love Mary, and Mary's on the podcast too,

856
00:45:51,440 --> 00:45:55,040
Speaker 2: like she stepped it up a great deal. Amanda's choices

857
00:45:55,080 --> 00:46:00,640
Speaker 2: with the gloves, it's you need.

858
00:46:02,840 --> 00:46:03,680
Speaker 3: To each their own.

859
00:46:04,280 --> 00:46:07,160
Speaker 4: I'm so I feel like so most people have stylists

860
00:46:07,160 --> 00:46:10,040
Speaker 4: on the show. I think most of the girls have stylists.

861
00:46:10,239 --> 00:46:12,840
Speaker 4: I do not have stylists, So I tend not to

862
00:46:12,880 --> 00:46:15,200
Speaker 4: comment on people's fashion because a lot of them. When

863
00:46:15,200 --> 00:46:18,759
Speaker 4: I watch the show back seven eight months after filming it,

864
00:46:18,840 --> 00:46:19,480
Speaker 4: I'm like, what.

865
00:46:19,400 --> 00:46:20,920
Speaker 3: The hell you were in Chelsea?

866
00:46:21,360 --> 00:46:25,040
Speaker 4: Come on, what were you thinking on that particular day?

867
00:46:25,120 --> 00:46:27,600
Speaker 4: Is someone that dressed themselves And I literally pulled my wardrobe.

868
00:46:27,960 --> 00:46:30,680
Speaker 4: My wardrobe starting to look like NeiMa Marcus at this point,

869
00:46:30,719 --> 00:46:34,000
Speaker 4: but still my wardrobe, I'm like, what was he thinking?

870
00:46:34,120 --> 00:46:36,800
Speaker 4: So when I see the other girls and I'm like,

871
00:46:36,840 --> 00:46:39,000
Speaker 4: I don't really quite like their style and stuff. I'm like,

872
00:46:39,080 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 4: I know they're going through the same thing that I'm

873
00:46:40,520 --> 00:46:43,120
Speaker 4: going through. We got we're filming four times this week.

874
00:46:43,280 --> 00:46:46,920
Speaker 4: We're like, we need four unique ouvers. Okay, so this

875
00:46:47,080 --> 00:46:49,400
Speaker 4: looks good, but we need to add a little bit

876
00:46:49,440 --> 00:46:50,120
Speaker 4: of pizaz.

877
00:46:50,320 --> 00:46:52,080
Speaker 3: Maybe maybe let's add a glove.

878
00:46:54,400 --> 00:46:58,400
Speaker 4: Let's add a glove, you see, Let's add some crystals

879
00:46:58,440 --> 00:46:58,919
Speaker 4: to the hair.

880
00:46:59,200 --> 00:47:02,000
Speaker 3: Let's add of like the ribbon. We're going to add

881
00:47:02,080 --> 00:47:03,080
Speaker 3: whatever to give.

882
00:47:02,920 --> 00:47:07,040
Speaker 4: The za because we're like, people want to see fashion.

883
00:47:07,480 --> 00:47:09,560
Speaker 4: This day was not fashion, but we made it fashion

884
00:47:09,560 --> 00:47:12,120
Speaker 4: because we added socks and a glove and a bow.

885
00:47:12,680 --> 00:47:19,520
Speaker 2: Done and like you said, works for some, for others

886
00:47:19,640 --> 00:47:20,280
Speaker 2: is debatable.

887
00:47:21,040 --> 00:47:22,680
Speaker 1: What has gone on between you and Brie?

888
00:47:22,880 --> 00:47:23,319
Speaker 3: Oh my god?

889
00:47:23,320 --> 00:47:23,879
Speaker 1: I like Bre.

890
00:47:24,360 --> 00:47:25,400
Speaker 3: I like her tea.

891
00:47:25,520 --> 00:47:29,680
Speaker 2: What you guys got past the Nick Canna situation, the

892
00:47:29,719 --> 00:47:31,520
Speaker 2: whole baby father thing.

893
00:47:33,640 --> 00:47:35,240
Speaker 1: Are you too just all in water?

894
00:47:35,880 --> 00:47:36,680
Speaker 3: I don't think so.

895
00:47:37,120 --> 00:47:40,480
Speaker 4: Personally. I can't speak for her. I like her, and

896
00:47:40,640 --> 00:47:42,799
Speaker 4: I liketually like her a lot. I've connected with her

897
00:47:42,840 --> 00:47:47,680
Speaker 4: a couple of times recently. I think for myself, I

898
00:47:47,760 --> 00:47:50,160
Speaker 4: came in and I came very strong with judgments because

899
00:47:50,280 --> 00:47:53,720
Speaker 4: I had these I'm not gonna pretend like I wasn't

900
00:47:53,840 --> 00:47:57,920
Speaker 4: aware of who she was or who her baby father was.

901
00:47:58,160 --> 00:47:59,840
Speaker 4: This wasn't a secret, and I didn't want to be

902
00:47:59,880 --> 00:48:03,520
Speaker 4: the to pretend like it was. Because myself and a

903
00:48:03,560 --> 00:48:05,319
Speaker 4: lot of the girls, we had all spoken about it,

904
00:48:05,360 --> 00:48:07,239
Speaker 4: like because you find out there's going to be someone

905
00:48:07,280 --> 00:48:08,360
Speaker 4: new on the cast and you're.

906
00:48:08,200 --> 00:48:12,120
Speaker 3: Like, oh my god. We're all like yeah.

907
00:48:12,160 --> 00:48:16,120
Speaker 4: So I think for myself because I had spoken so much,

908
00:48:16,160 --> 00:48:18,640
Speaker 4: and I think I was allowed speaker about it when

909
00:48:18,719 --> 00:48:19,920
Speaker 4: the camera started rolling.

910
00:48:20,760 --> 00:48:22,640
Speaker 3: I didn't want anybody.

911
00:48:22,120 --> 00:48:26,000
Speaker 4: To question how genuine I was in my integrity because

912
00:48:26,000 --> 00:48:28,160
Speaker 4: I had spoken about it. So I felt like I

913
00:48:28,160 --> 00:48:31,160
Speaker 4: had to voice it to her. There was this overbearing

914
00:48:31,239 --> 00:48:34,680
Speaker 4: feeling that I had spoken about it. I need to

915
00:48:34,680 --> 00:48:38,600
Speaker 4: speak about it to you directly, because the only time

916
00:48:38,640 --> 00:48:40,760
Speaker 4: that I would see her was when we were filming,

917
00:48:40,800 --> 00:48:45,120
Speaker 4: because we hadn't we didn't know each other, we weren't friends.

918
00:48:45,200 --> 00:48:49,240
Speaker 4: And then it spiraled, and it spiraled so fast because

919
00:48:49,680 --> 00:48:51,920
Speaker 4: I spoke about it. We spoke about in the office,

920
00:48:51,920 --> 00:48:54,799
Speaker 4: and I spoke about it once where I related some

921
00:48:54,840 --> 00:48:58,399
Speaker 4: information that I shouldn't have relayed, and then everyone else

922
00:48:58,480 --> 00:49:02,279
Speaker 4: kept speaking about it and asking, So Chelsea, you mean

923
00:49:02,360 --> 00:49:03,759
Speaker 4: to say you're not going to be friends of Brie

924
00:49:03,760 --> 00:49:05,200
Speaker 4: because you don't agree with her situation.

925
00:49:05,719 --> 00:49:08,439
Speaker 3: So Chelsea, why don't you like Brie? Again?

926
00:49:08,600 --> 00:49:11,319
Speaker 4: So Chelsea, didn't you say this about her partner? So

927
00:49:11,440 --> 00:49:14,200
Speaker 4: chell And then I'm not a silent person. I'm not

928
00:49:14,239 --> 00:49:16,239
Speaker 4: just gonna sit there and plead the fifth Like I

929
00:49:16,320 --> 00:49:19,520
Speaker 4: also hadn't built a relationship personally with her. I'd seen

930
00:49:19,560 --> 00:49:22,200
Speaker 4: her only times I had seen her the times you

931
00:49:22,239 --> 00:49:24,799
Speaker 4: saw me see her while we're filming, so what five

932
00:49:24,920 --> 00:49:29,080
Speaker 4: six times? And noncommunicative to one another. So you'd ask me,

933
00:49:29,120 --> 00:49:32,320
Speaker 4: and I'm like, everything happens in such a short space

934
00:49:32,320 --> 00:49:34,839
Speaker 4: of time two three, four, five weeks, like we form

935
00:49:34,840 --> 00:49:37,200
Speaker 4: a season, very short space of time. You ask me

936
00:49:37,239 --> 00:49:40,840
Speaker 4: these questions, and I'm like, so you're her friend. You

937
00:49:40,880 --> 00:49:42,440
Speaker 4: want me to drop it. You don't want this to

938
00:49:42,440 --> 00:49:45,080
Speaker 4: be a storyline, but you're asking me questions about it.

939
00:49:46,040 --> 00:49:48,400
Speaker 3: So watching the season back, it was very hard to

940
00:49:48,440 --> 00:49:51,759
Speaker 3: watch because I was disappointed in myself because I was like, Nah,

941
00:49:51,800 --> 00:49:54,160
Speaker 3: that's that's not the person you want to be, Like

942
00:49:54,200 --> 00:49:57,080
Speaker 3: you don't want to be the person that's harshly passional

943
00:49:57,160 --> 00:49:58,959
Speaker 3: judgment on someone's life. You don't know what their story.

944
00:49:58,960 --> 00:50:00,840
Speaker 3: You don't know what they've walked people don't know what

945
00:50:00,880 --> 00:50:01,600
Speaker 3: you've walked through.

946
00:50:01,920 --> 00:50:04,399
Speaker 4: But then I watched it more and I'm like, wait,

947
00:50:05,080 --> 00:50:09,200
Speaker 4: I started talking about episode one and two from three

948
00:50:09,320 --> 00:50:12,920
Speaker 4: to ten, y'all came to me with it, and I

949
00:50:12,960 --> 00:50:16,440
Speaker 4: would just respond you wanted me to be quiet, But

950
00:50:16,480 --> 00:50:18,359
Speaker 4: you're asking me a question about it.

951
00:50:18,600 --> 00:50:19,120
Speaker 3: No, no, no.

952
00:50:19,200 --> 00:50:21,640
Speaker 4: If you're forming and building this relationship and you know

953
00:50:21,719 --> 00:50:24,279
Speaker 4: it's something that's very uncomfortable for it, don't be asked

954
00:50:24,320 --> 00:50:27,719
Speaker 4: me questions because I'm also paid to talk just like you.

955
00:50:29,520 --> 00:50:32,680
Speaker 2: What does Cassandra know, Barbrie that she keeps running from

956
00:50:32,760 --> 00:50:36,120
Speaker 2: scene to scene, running away, taking up from microphone? What

957
00:50:36,160 --> 00:50:39,040
Speaker 2: does Cassandra know the road of the street is?

958
00:50:39,120 --> 00:50:39,279
Speaker 1: Like?

959
00:50:39,400 --> 00:50:52,920
Speaker 2: Were they a part of some other agency that doesn't

960
00:50:53,000 --> 00:50:56,839
Speaker 2: sell real estate? Listen, that doesn't sell real estate, but

961
00:50:56,880 --> 00:50:58,280
Speaker 2: they may sell something else.

962
00:51:00,160 --> 00:51:02,000
Speaker 4: So I can't speak for that, to be honest with you,

963
00:51:02,040 --> 00:51:05,239
Speaker 4: like I can only speak for what I know about Cassandra.

964
00:51:07,440 --> 00:51:11,760
Speaker 4: That was wild, this whole thing, like it's everybody's so confused.

965
00:51:11,800 --> 00:51:14,640
Speaker 4: It was so wild, Like truthfully, it was so wild.

966
00:51:14,800 --> 00:51:17,880
Speaker 4: And again another decision where I'm like, Chelsea, you dumb

967
00:51:17,960 --> 00:51:21,400
Speaker 4: fucking bitch. I'm sorry to use profanity. I was like,

968
00:51:21,480 --> 00:51:25,200
Speaker 4: you dumb fucking bit. Could you not see through that shit?

969
00:51:26,320 --> 00:51:30,719
Speaker 4: So I'm missus friendly. You saw me today for the

970
00:51:30,760 --> 00:51:34,279
Speaker 4: first time. That's I'm an aquarius, you.

971
00:51:34,239 --> 00:51:34,879
Speaker 1: Know, I'm air.

972
00:51:35,320 --> 00:51:38,640
Speaker 4: I just I just exist in spaces, and I'm like water.

973
00:51:39,080 --> 00:51:40,840
Speaker 3: I love to have a good time. I love people.

974
00:51:41,480 --> 00:51:46,640
Speaker 4: So I assume when I meet Cassandra and she's speaking

975
00:51:46,640 --> 00:51:48,360
Speaker 4: to everybody, I'm like, oh.

976
00:51:48,200 --> 00:51:50,040
Speaker 3: This is the new girl that's going to be joining

977
00:51:50,080 --> 00:51:50,680
Speaker 3: the O group.

978
00:51:51,280 --> 00:51:55,319
Speaker 4: She's pretty, she seems smart, she seems welcoming in like

979
00:51:55,600 --> 00:52:00,520
Speaker 4: kind of very complimentary of me, all right, So I

980
00:52:00,600 --> 00:52:05,719
Speaker 4: was really excited. I was genuinely like excited. Then when

981
00:52:05,719 --> 00:52:10,200
Speaker 4: I heard, like the first thing I heard was herself

982
00:52:10,880 --> 00:52:13,480
Speaker 4: and Brie knew each other, like they knew each other,

983
00:52:13,520 --> 00:52:15,680
Speaker 4: but they didn't have any beef. There was no beef,

984
00:52:15,719 --> 00:52:18,640
Speaker 4: but they knew each other. And Brie wasn't being so

985
00:52:18,719 --> 00:52:21,960
Speaker 4: welcoming or nice to her at the in car. But

986
00:52:22,120 --> 00:52:25,040
Speaker 4: at the first brokers open that we were all at,

987
00:52:25,239 --> 00:52:26,520
Speaker 4: I was like, yeah, she's.

988
00:52:26,360 --> 00:52:29,200
Speaker 3: Not a friendly us bitch. I was like, you don't

989
00:52:29,239 --> 00:52:33,000
Speaker 3: have to tell me, I've seen it. I mean, she

990
00:52:33,040 --> 00:52:35,160
Speaker 3: ain't nice.

991
00:52:34,600 --> 00:52:36,960
Speaker 4: That's my that was my vibe. People were reading so

992
00:52:37,080 --> 00:52:39,200
Speaker 4: deep into it. But I was kind of like, she

993
00:52:39,360 --> 00:52:42,120
Speaker 4: told you herself, she's not a nice bitch. I'm just

994
00:52:42,200 --> 00:52:46,839
Speaker 4: reiterating what she said and conferring with somebody that's told

995
00:52:46,880 --> 00:52:48,439
Speaker 4: me that she gave them the same energy.

996
00:52:48,440 --> 00:52:49,920
Speaker 3: It was like bet So.

997
00:52:50,040 --> 00:52:52,960
Speaker 4: Then as it went on and I could see there

998
00:52:53,040 --> 00:52:57,320
Speaker 4: was actually a rift between them, I was like, Okay.

999
00:52:57,360 --> 00:52:59,239
Speaker 4: I was like, it can't be that deep. Because it

1000
00:52:59,280 --> 00:53:01,359
Speaker 4: was that deep, everyone would know about.

1001
00:53:01,040 --> 00:53:02,000
Speaker 3: It because.

1002
00:53:03,239 --> 00:53:05,160
Speaker 4: She's had to be on a process where you've signed

1003
00:53:05,200 --> 00:53:08,480
Speaker 4: off like paperwork to be here into film, right, it

1004
00:53:08,520 --> 00:53:12,200
Speaker 4: can't be that serious. So knowing in my mind knowing that, Okay,

1005
00:53:12,200 --> 00:53:14,960
Speaker 4: she's probably gonna be on the show, we're going to dinner,

1006
00:53:15,280 --> 00:53:17,239
Speaker 4: come along, Like it's not that deep because she's also

1007
00:53:17,280 --> 00:53:18,840
Speaker 4: telling me like there's no beef.

1008
00:53:18,880 --> 00:53:21,560
Speaker 3: There's no beef. So I'm like, come along, come along.

1009
00:53:22,080 --> 00:53:23,799
Speaker 4: Bree may not be friendly when you first meet her,

1010
00:53:23,800 --> 00:53:25,279
Speaker 4: but give her a little bit tequila. She's gonna be

1011
00:53:25,360 --> 00:53:27,719
Speaker 4: so so sweet because I've seen her. She's really she

1012
00:53:27,760 --> 00:53:31,120
Speaker 4: can be really bubbly and friendly, like I like that.

1013
00:53:31,239 --> 00:53:33,200
Speaker 4: But I love that side of her, and the more

1014
00:53:33,239 --> 00:53:34,560
Speaker 4: I get to know her, the more I see it

1015
00:53:34,600 --> 00:53:36,799
Speaker 4: instantly when I first meet her, so I'm like, come

1016
00:53:36,840 --> 00:53:42,760
Speaker 4: on over. So it wasn't until Carbo when Cassandra mentioned

1017
00:53:43,160 --> 00:53:45,400
Speaker 4: something about, well, if you were nice, you would have

1018
00:53:45,440 --> 00:53:49,080
Speaker 4: a ring, and I said, I said.

1019
00:53:49,000 --> 00:53:52,399
Speaker 3: There's definitely something more here. There's definitely something more.

1020
00:53:52,920 --> 00:54:00,560
Speaker 4: Carbo ends kind of two. Finale was just like days.

1021
00:54:02,320 --> 00:54:06,160
Speaker 4: We're at the finale. Bearing in mind, guys, everyone wants

1022
00:54:06,160 --> 00:54:09,120
Speaker 4: to say, Chelsea, you invite Cassandra everywhere, please, I beg

1023
00:54:09,719 --> 00:54:15,240
Speaker 4: that's not the case. Okay, Jason invited her to the penthouse,

1024
00:54:15,400 --> 00:54:20,359
Speaker 4: not the Penthouse, the finale brokerage open party, and.

1025
00:54:21,040 --> 00:54:23,200
Speaker 3: She doesn't know many people there. She knows me, and

1026
00:54:23,239 --> 00:54:24,120
Speaker 3: I'm just like okay.

1027
00:54:24,200 --> 00:54:28,480
Speaker 4: I also not to say I forgot about the drama

1028
00:54:28,520 --> 00:54:30,880
Speaker 4: that happened in Carbo, but it wasn't really Jarma. It

1029
00:54:30,960 --> 00:54:34,040
Speaker 4: was more so Cassandra saying to me, Bree's not the

1030
00:54:34,040 --> 00:54:36,840
Speaker 4: friendliest person. I was like, okay, bet she's not, but

1031
00:54:37,320 --> 00:54:41,040
Speaker 4: that's not the craziest thing in the world. No, you

1032
00:54:41,160 --> 00:54:43,239
Speaker 4: just met her same way. I was getting to know her.

1033
00:54:43,680 --> 00:54:46,359
Speaker 4: It wasn't a major dig It's just like she's kind

1034
00:54:46,360 --> 00:54:48,200
Speaker 4: of bitchy. I was like, I meet people that kind

1035
00:54:48,200 --> 00:54:49,160
Speaker 4: of bitchy every single day.

1036
00:54:49,480 --> 00:54:50,400
Speaker 3: Moving on, you know.

1037
00:54:51,520 --> 00:54:55,720
Speaker 4: So we get to the finale party and I see Cassandra.

1038
00:54:55,800 --> 00:54:57,360
Speaker 4: I bring her over to the girls and I'm like, okay,

1039
00:54:57,760 --> 00:54:59,840
Speaker 4: bring her. I'm like, okay, guys, can we just like

1040
00:55:00,040 --> 00:55:03,640
Speaker 4: squash this? Like like what none of you have actually

1041
00:55:03,680 --> 00:55:05,600
Speaker 4: told me if there's actually any beef. Both of you

1042
00:55:05,760 --> 00:55:07,560
Speaker 4: kind of like you kind of knew each other, you

1043
00:55:07,560 --> 00:55:09,719
Speaker 4: don't really know each other. But Caussant just kind of

1044
00:55:09,719 --> 00:55:12,280
Speaker 4: coming on strong and Breeze kind of like leaping alone,

1045
00:55:12,320 --> 00:55:14,399
Speaker 4: like just get out of my space. And I'm kind

1046
00:55:14,440 --> 00:55:15,439
Speaker 4: of like, well.

1047
00:55:15,880 --> 00:55:17,960
Speaker 3: She's gonna be here because she may be on the show,

1048
00:55:18,200 --> 00:55:21,000
Speaker 3: so like maybe we should just kumbaya.

1049
00:55:21,920 --> 00:55:32,160
Speaker 4: And then I'm sitting down and I'm like, what what's

1050
00:55:32,200 --> 00:55:32,719
Speaker 4: going on?

1051
00:55:35,040 --> 00:55:36,399
Speaker 3: Why are they screaming at each other?

1052
00:55:37,880 --> 00:55:40,239
Speaker 4: It was so loud in the place, and obviously when Mike,

1053
00:55:40,280 --> 00:55:45,279
Speaker 4: but I'm like, what are they even saying? Like I

1054
00:55:45,400 --> 00:55:47,120
Speaker 4: literally you saw me in the cup. I was sipping

1055
00:55:47,160 --> 00:55:53,000
Speaker 4: my drink, so I was just like, the fuck, cool.

1056
00:55:54,840 --> 00:55:56,000
Speaker 3: Just don't direct it to me.

1057
00:55:57,320 --> 00:56:02,040
Speaker 4: So that that was the first time I realized there

1058
00:56:02,120 --> 00:56:03,400
Speaker 4: was more to the story.

1059
00:56:04,280 --> 00:56:08,600
Speaker 3: It was only after that I called Bri.

1060
00:56:09,040 --> 00:56:12,160
Speaker 4: And you know, me and Brie, we weren't entirely on

1061
00:56:12,239 --> 00:56:15,000
Speaker 4: the same page or friends per se. But I was

1062
00:56:15,040 --> 00:56:17,520
Speaker 4: so confused that I had to call her and say,

1063
00:56:18,200 --> 00:56:18,960
Speaker 4: what's going on?

1064
00:56:20,239 --> 00:56:25,000
Speaker 3: What's what's what happened? Like what have I missed out on?

1065
00:56:25,120 --> 00:56:27,200
Speaker 4: Because I know I'm going to receive a lot of

1066
00:56:27,280 --> 00:56:29,520
Speaker 4: brunt for the fact that I keep bringing her around.

1067
00:56:30,280 --> 00:56:33,680
Speaker 4: But I had no idea that it was this deep,

1068
00:56:33,920 --> 00:56:37,040
Speaker 4: and no one told me, and Cassandra told me there

1069
00:56:37,080 --> 00:56:37,720
Speaker 4: was no beef.

1070
00:56:37,800 --> 00:56:41,360
Speaker 3: There was nothing there. So like, I'm genuinely confused.

1071
00:56:41,360 --> 00:56:45,640
Speaker 4: And I also maybe thought that, like bribing her natural

1072
00:56:45,719 --> 00:56:48,359
Speaker 4: demeanor and persona not being so friendly off the bat,

1073
00:56:48,480 --> 00:56:50,319
Speaker 4: you kind of have to get warm up to get

1074
00:56:50,360 --> 00:56:52,719
Speaker 4: to know her. I was just like, she's just being herself.

1075
00:56:52,960 --> 00:56:55,120
Speaker 4: Once she gets to know that you actually are a

1076
00:56:55,200 --> 00:56:57,719
Speaker 4: nice person. If you are actually a nice person, it's

1077
00:56:57,760 --> 00:56:59,080
Speaker 4: going to be water under the bridge.

1078
00:57:00,239 --> 00:57:03,520
Speaker 1: Did she ever tell you what the is? She was, Bri?

1079
00:57:04,400 --> 00:57:08,359
Speaker 3: Not really. She just told me, like that bitch.

1080
00:57:08,760 --> 00:57:10,960
Speaker 2: There's something deep going on, and we're gonna move on

1081
00:57:10,960 --> 00:57:12,640
Speaker 2: because only got to go in a second. But a

1082
00:57:12,680 --> 00:57:16,720
Speaker 2: part of me felt like, is Bree dangling this carrot

1083
00:57:16,920 --> 00:57:18,920
Speaker 2: of whether or not she's going to continue the show

1084
00:57:19,680 --> 00:57:21,600
Speaker 2: or stay on the show, I mean, or leave the

1085
00:57:21,600 --> 00:57:24,720
Speaker 2: show has to deal with whether or not Consigndra would

1086
00:57:24,720 --> 00:57:25,520
Speaker 2: be a cast member.

1087
00:57:27,240 --> 00:57:29,640
Speaker 3: I don't think so. I mean Brie.

1088
00:57:30,200 --> 00:57:33,560
Speaker 4: Brie is a hustler. She seems very street smart and

1089
00:57:33,640 --> 00:57:39,400
Speaker 4: business smart. Selling sunsets a massive opportunity. I don't know

1090
00:57:39,440 --> 00:57:42,680
Speaker 4: many people that will willingly leave selling sunset because it

1091
00:57:42,720 --> 00:57:46,640
Speaker 4: helps our business real estate a lot. So I think

1092
00:57:46,680 --> 00:57:49,000
Speaker 4: she's going to figure out what works best for her.

1093
00:57:48,960 --> 00:57:52,000
Speaker 3: And her family and her businesses, don't.

1094
00:57:52,280 --> 00:57:56,760
Speaker 4: I don't think she'd allow someone else to take her

1095
00:57:56,800 --> 00:57:57,560
Speaker 4: off her game.

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Speaker 1: Good. We love you, Brie.

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Speaker 2: Stay on this show because I'm want you and Chelsea

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Speaker 2: to be the sharing Dion of the show. I love

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Speaker 2: I loved two bad bitches. I just love it bon gorgeous.

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Speaker 2: I love her like stay on the show, Breed. It

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Speaker 2: ain't that deep. I love you, okay, really quickly. When

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Speaker 2: you're in these white spaces, is it hard for you

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Speaker 2: to be in the in these worlds holding it down

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Speaker 2: as the black girl in these white spaces on the show?

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Speaker 3: Very much?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, very much? That I've struggled a lot. Often don't

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Speaker 4: feel heard or seen. I feel like when I am heard,

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00:58:41,280 --> 00:58:46,040
Speaker 4: I'm misheard. And I feel like a lot of my

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00:58:46,400 --> 00:58:51,400
Speaker 4: mannerisms and my natural dialect, my natural personality and personas

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Speaker 4: always misconstrued, and my intentions are always so pure, like

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Speaker 4: I'm just I'm very much a lover. I have no

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Speaker 4: malice in my home for anyone in this world, and

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Speaker 4: I will forgive anyone we can have, we can argue,

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Speaker 4: we can argue right now, and I'll love you again

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Speaker 4: in twenty minutes.

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Speaker 3: It's just my personality. I'm very direct and very blunt.

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Speaker 4: It could be that British, you know, people say British

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Speaker 4: people have this charm where they just kind of have

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Speaker 4: verbal diary and say what's in their mind. But I

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Speaker 4: struggle so much because I'm trying to be my authentic

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Speaker 4: self and there are undertones of like Chelsea's aggressive, or

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Speaker 4: Chelsea's a bully, or Chelsea's mean, and I'm like, never

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Speaker 4: in my life, up until coming a.

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Speaker 3: Reality TV, I haven't ever heard that. I'm sorry. It

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Speaker 3: makes me so sad.

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Speaker 4: It makes me so sad, especially from sometimes from the girls,

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Speaker 4: because my closest friends on the show are Krishelle and Emma,

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Speaker 4: and they've leaned in and really gotten to know me,

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Speaker 4: and they love me so much, and I love them

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Speaker 4: so much. And we really support each and ride for

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Speaker 4: each other, and we know our personality types. But never

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Speaker 4: in my life I have ever been called a bully

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Speaker 4: or mean or aggressive. So when I hear some of that,

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Speaker 4: or I hear undertones of it from some of the

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Speaker 4: other girls, and I'm just like, you've.

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Speaker 3: Never really given me a chance. Everyone.

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01:00:17,000 --> 01:00:22,520
Speaker 4: It's like, if I say something, I'm aggressive or a mean.

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Speaker 3: Or I came for this person.

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01:00:25,400 --> 01:00:28,320
Speaker 4: If someone says the exact same thing, she's just giving

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Speaker 4: their her opinion.

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Speaker 1: Like a man's who's black.

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Speaker 2: But she's a biracial, light skinned black woman. So when

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01:00:35,440 --> 01:00:39,600
Speaker 2: she sends Chrishelle a very I'll say it an aggressive

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01:00:40,120 --> 01:00:44,400
Speaker 2: video message. They make amends in thirty seconds and then

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01:00:44,640 --> 01:00:45,160
Speaker 2: they move on.

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01:00:45,320 --> 01:00:49,439
Speaker 4: But I would have been annihilated. I wouldn't be able

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Speaker 4: to continue. But I don't move like that. I also

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01:00:52,480 --> 01:00:55,120
Speaker 4: don't move like that because I don't have I don't

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01:00:55,120 --> 01:00:56,520
Speaker 4: have the space to move like that.

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Speaker 3: I don't have.

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01:00:58,760 --> 01:01:01,360
Speaker 4: The ability to move in that way. And that's why

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01:01:01,400 --> 01:01:03,200
Speaker 4: I try to keep it as one hundred. But I

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01:01:03,240 --> 01:01:06,200
Speaker 4: also try to watch my tone, So I try to

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01:01:06,200 --> 01:01:08,680
Speaker 4: watch my body language. I'm very cognizant of things that

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01:01:08,720 --> 01:01:11,920
Speaker 4: I never was cognizant of before. So now when I'm filming,

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01:01:12,240 --> 01:01:15,960
Speaker 4: I often find myself like sitting there and being like

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01:01:16,920 --> 01:01:20,200
Speaker 4: because I understand that when I'm not smiling, I look

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01:01:20,320 --> 01:01:23,800
Speaker 4: mean or I may look angry. I pick up on things,

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01:01:23,840 --> 01:01:26,600
Speaker 4: and I don't want that to be a I don't

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01:01:26,600 --> 01:01:29,040
Speaker 4: want that to be a trope for black women in

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01:01:29,120 --> 01:01:31,400
Speaker 4: real estate or black women anywhere. I really want to

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01:01:31,720 --> 01:01:34,000
Speaker 4: do my best to represent in the best way possible.

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Speaker 4: So I know that I'm not just doing this for Chelsea.

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01:01:37,520 --> 01:01:40,160
Speaker 4: I'm doing this for anyone that wants to be in

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01:01:40,160 --> 01:01:41,600
Speaker 4: real estate, or anyone that looks like me, or anyone

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01:01:41,640 --> 01:01:43,440
Speaker 4: that's inspired to crush it at anything.

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Speaker 3: So I try to.

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Speaker 4: Make sure that I show other sides of my personality too.

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Speaker 4: When you see me being bubbly and stuff like that,

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01:01:51,400 --> 01:01:54,400
Speaker 4: it's not I am that person, But I'm trying to

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Speaker 4: show you that we are all multifaceted.

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Speaker 3: We don't fit into one box, you know.

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01:01:59,120 --> 01:02:01,520
Speaker 4: And same way they see me stern in one moment,

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Speaker 4: I'm so soft and gentle in another So give me

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Speaker 4: space and give me grace for that, like you do

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Speaker 4: everybody else. But I think in the industry, we are

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Speaker 4: so used to seeing black women having to fight for themselves.

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01:02:14,320 --> 01:02:15,720
Speaker 3: So you're so used to seeing black.

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Speaker 4: Women stern and strong, and I want to show myself

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01:02:19,760 --> 01:02:22,920
Speaker 4: soft and gentle because I am soft and gentle.

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Speaker 2: No you are, And listen, this interview has been able

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01:02:27,680 --> 01:02:31,480
Speaker 2: to do that. It really has, And I wanted to

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01:02:31,560 --> 01:02:33,080
Speaker 2: make sure that you and I had on one on

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01:02:33,080 --> 01:02:37,120
Speaker 2: one and listen, this means the world to me that

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01:02:37,200 --> 01:02:41,880
Speaker 2: you did say yes. You did say yes, because not

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01:02:42,080 --> 01:02:47,240
Speaker 2: everybody wants to do a podcast because of you know,

1187
01:02:47,800 --> 01:02:50,200
Speaker 2: there's either this preconceived notion like you said, it's quick,

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01:02:50,240 --> 01:02:53,840
Speaker 2: and it's like because some podcasts those shaped to my industry,

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01:02:54,040 --> 01:02:56,280
Speaker 2: some podcasts are a little weird to where it's like

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01:02:56,600 --> 01:02:59,280
Speaker 2: it's a setup and they don't really know you, and

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01:02:59,320 --> 01:03:02,000
Speaker 2: they actually weird questions and you're like, this is a

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01:03:02,040 --> 01:03:05,240
Speaker 2: weird experience. While am I here and I create a

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01:03:05,280 --> 01:03:07,400
Speaker 2: reality with the King to be a safe space for

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01:03:07,520 --> 01:03:08,760
Speaker 2: people to get to know the real you.

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Speaker 1: And as a huge fan.

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Speaker 2: Of yours, I wanted to make sure that you have

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Speaker 2: the floor so that people under knew. I'm sorry that

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01:03:17,160 --> 01:03:22,440
Speaker 2: people understood and saw the person behind the personality, and

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Speaker 2: you displayed that in this interview today, and I thank

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Speaker 2: you so much for doing that.

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Speaker 3: You made me cry.

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01:03:28,560 --> 01:03:31,120
Speaker 1: I cry, but I want you to know.

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01:03:31,200 --> 01:03:32,720
Speaker 2: I want you to know that, and I hope you

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01:03:33,320 --> 01:03:36,080
Speaker 2: I hope you know that this was the intention of

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01:03:36,120 --> 01:03:40,280
Speaker 2: this and you you rocked it, and you keep you

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01:03:40,400 --> 01:03:44,880
Speaker 2: keep wearing them platform hills, making us proud when we

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01:03:45,040 --> 01:03:51,520
Speaker 2: say Chelsea, when we say Chelsea as we're watching the TV, like, bitch, give.

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01:03:51,360 --> 01:03:54,480
Speaker 1: These I'm about to be all wrapped. Give these girls,

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01:03:54,720 --> 01:03:58,080
Speaker 1: you know, fever bitch, and do it with a smile.

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Speaker 2: And you're funny and you're bubbly. You make us laugh.

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Speaker 2: My last question is what's next for you?

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Speaker 1: Baby? What do you have going on? Because this is

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Speaker 1: not the end of you, baby, You're just getting started.

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Speaker 3: I'm just getting started.

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Speaker 4: So I'm exploring my one of my earlier passions in life,

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Speaker 4: which is cooking.

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Speaker 3: I love to cook.

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Speaker 4: I've been cooking for a very long time, so I've

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Speaker 4: been honing on some cooking content and maybe there'll be

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Speaker 4: something else that follows cooking in the future. But I

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01:04:30,760 --> 01:04:35,120
Speaker 4: just love being from the camera. I would love getting

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Speaker 4: into like mentoring. I just I really want to connect

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Speaker 4: with my ten year old self because there are so

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Speaker 4: many of my ten year old selves out there that

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Speaker 4: watch me, and I want to connect more with young

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Speaker 4: women just like I was and just enjoy life and

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Speaker 4: watch my kids grow and take care of my family

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Speaker 4: and just be blessed. Continue to be blessed.

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Speaker 2: And continue to get that else, commit and them sales

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01:05:01,520 --> 01:05:05,240
Speaker 2: and bring the motherfuck bell ring ray.

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01:05:05,720 --> 01:05:08,840
Speaker 1: Thank you, tell me, I love you.

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Speaker 2: Thank you for listening to Reality with the King. New

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Speaker 2: Yes Baby, my YouTube channel where you can get all

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Speaker 2: of my visuals, baby, my expressions, Yes, and don't forget

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Speaker 1: Reality with the King is a production of Kingdom Reign Entertainment.

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Speaker 2: It is produced by Sierrace Fragley Rix An executive produced.

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