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Speaker 1: My stepdaughter's entitlement pushed me to my breaking point.

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Speaker 2: I'm done with you.

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Speaker 1: We meet female twenty nine, him male forty five. Have

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Speaker 1: been together for two years. That is a big old

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Speaker 1: what is it twenty five and forty five? Yeah, so no,

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Speaker 2: After around that, you can do it. He's a twenty eight. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: like twenty seven to twenty.

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Speaker 1: Eight, okay, is the twenty seven or so.

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Speaker 2: The way I look at twenties is you got early

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Speaker 1: After that, late twenties, you can do whatever you want.

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Speaker 1: Late twenty Yeah, we bought a house together. It has

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Speaker 1: a fully furnished basement that we intended for out of

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Speaker 1: town guests. We occasionally have, okay, and they're smart.

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Speaker 2: A lot of people have unfinished basements.

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Speaker 1: That's true, a fully furnished one. It's pretty nice. By

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Speaker 2: I'm Sophia, I'm Riley.

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Speaker 1: I'm order to give good advice, goofy, but we don't

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Speaker 2: Really arisingly, he do, please.

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Speaker 1: Let us know what you would do in the comments.

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Speaker 2: I would love to read them.

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Speaker 1: Please, But ope says my husband has a twenty one

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Speaker 2: WHOA, Oh, that must be fun.

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Speaker 1: It's like you have a little eight years older than

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Speaker 2: Hey, some people can do it, I guess.

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Speaker 1: So. She was studying in the US. We live in Canada.

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Speaker 1: In March she called us and said she was pregnant

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Speaker 1: and that her boyfriend had abandoned her. She was very

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Speaker 1: She has been living in the basement, which is basically

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Speaker 2: Time out.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the fully furnished one.

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Speaker 2: The fully furnished one. We have definitely heard the story before,

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Speaker 2: but from the perspective of the dad.

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Speaker 1: Uh remember this one.

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Speaker 2: I remember a similar story where like, my daughter just

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Speaker 2: got pregnant, I'm bringing her in and my girlfriend doesn't approve.

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Speaker 2: I do kind of remember, but I think they're closer

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Speaker 2: in age. Yeah, but I've seen this from the other perspective.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we've seen it all.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so now we're on okay Rono peasa perspective.

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Speaker 1: She eats all her meals upstairs, and the baby is

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Speaker 1: when we text and communicate all day, but our only

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Speaker 1: Our shower in the master bedroom is basically our only

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Speaker 1: alone time. This morning, my stepdaughter said our shower is

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Speaker 1: making noises because it's old. She said she can hear

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Speaker 1: us and network disgusting. Okay, all right, is she totally

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Speaker 1: valid in being like you? My dad and his girlfriend

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Speaker 2: That's gross in the bathroom.

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Speaker 1: Is sure? However, you kind of just got a roll

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Speaker 2: Think, wait, did you say husband, though I think married.

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Speaker 2: I think they're married.

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Speaker 1: They might be married.

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Speaker 2: I think especially if they're married. Yeah, husband, yeah, wow

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Speaker 1: You gotta get over that. Girl. You're twenty one. You

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Speaker 2: You were there a lot like that one, but you

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Speaker 1: My husband and I are normally very quiet, so I'm

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry. I lived in a house where I was

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Speaker 1: And guy, you can hear everything in the bathroom.

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Speaker 1: I'm right next to it. You can hear everything in

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Speaker 1: grosses her out. I told her that not only do

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Speaker 1: I not owe her any explanation, but I can do

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Speaker 2: This is such a weird power play.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean again, Opie is eight years older.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, the stepdaughter was in kindergarten while you were in

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it is pretty hard to make that, you know,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah, just to keep up those power

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Speaker 1: I see where she's coming from, like, this is my dad,

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Speaker 1: eight years older than me, and I feel like I'm

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Speaker 2: Yeah, what does the dad have to think?

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Speaker 1: I think the dad needs to go to his daughter

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Speaker 1: and say, hey, you're an adult wife. We're yeah, I.

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Speaker 2: Think so, because having spicy yeah, the spiciness in the bathroom.

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Speaker 1: I think he just has to go to her and say, hey,

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Speaker 1: if you want to live with us for free, you

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Speaker 1: kind of have to put up with some stuff and

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Speaker 1: let us have our personal relationship.

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Speaker 2: Even better, Hey, if you want to love us for free.

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Speaker 2: Here's some headphones. Yeah, here are some r plugs.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, baby's fine, guys. She continued screaming, and she left,

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Speaker 1: was spiraling. I explained everything, and he said that what

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Speaker 1: talk later. Was I a knucklehead? Do my stepdaughter? And

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Speaker 1: there are some comments?

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Speaker 2: But what do you think, dude? Sometimes you just gotta,

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Speaker 1: Be a little bit of a knucklehead to your stepdaughter. Oh.

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Speaker 2: I was just gonna say, you know, sometimes you gotta

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Speaker 2: get your rocks off and the bean's gotta be on fire.

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Speaker 2: What people have needs, Sophia, Yes, sure, And if you

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Speaker 2: take those needs away from people, this woman could get

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Speaker 2: a lot more uglier.

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Speaker 1: It's true. I guess.

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Speaker 2: Think about a woman that is having this common and

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Speaker 1: You know what, You're right, You're right. I'll give you

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Speaker 2: Thank you. That's what I thought.

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Speaker 1: Comments playful. Frosting says, problem is you're not much older

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Speaker 1: than her and she doesn't respect you. Yeah, that's the

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Speaker 1: real issue. She sees you as like, yes, an older

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Speaker 1: like there's you're not a guardian. Of course you're not

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Speaker 2: But opie's that an age or you start forgetting how

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Speaker 2: old they are after you're in your late twenties, people

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Speaker 2: are like, how old are you? You're just old. It's

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Speaker 1: Oh Pie says she really doesn't. Sadly, negative Till says, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: this is definitely the issue. I wouldn't even want to

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Speaker 1: call a woman eight years older than me my stepmother.

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Speaker 1: That's just too weird. But she should show you respect

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Speaker 1: in your home. Next time she acts out, ask her

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Speaker 1: dad to handle it. If she thinks it's so disgusting,

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Speaker 1: she could talk to him about it. Puzzled Fix says,

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Speaker 1: as a non paying guest, I would never criticize my

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Speaker 1: three pm every day and keep my grateful mouth shut.

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Speaker 1: It's not my home, it's theirs. If the conversation with

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Speaker 1: mind her own business. I'd end the relationship. Life is

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Speaker 1: way too short to put up with mistreatment in your

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Speaker 1: own home. Oh, he says, not just non paying. We

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Speaker 1: provide food and childcare too when she goes out with friends,

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Speaker 1: which is a lot. Coyote Lydias says, you in particular

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Speaker 1: need to withdraw the free childcare since you work opposite

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Speaker 1: shifts from your husband. Is it really you who has

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Speaker 1: her baby while she goes out to have fun. She's

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Speaker 1: to basically raise the baby for or Opie says, I

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Speaker 1: just like, Hey, that wasn't very nice of you to Opie.

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Speaker 2: He is in a like sticky situation.

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Speaker 1: He's like my daughter and my twenty eight, twenty nine

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Speaker 2: Yeah, either society takes, he's gonna be the bad guy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it just doesn't work out for him. She should

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Speaker 1: appreciate what you both are doing for her, and it

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Speaker 1: doesn't seem like she does. Her apology is definitely needed

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Speaker 1: for her to continue living there after what she said

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Speaker 1: to you and the name she called you. I would

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Speaker 1: definitely stop the free childcare and there is an update, but.

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Speaker 2: I would love, yeah, to see stepdaughter's point of view.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what like is op being you know, is there

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Speaker 1: any other comments that Be's made or anything.

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Speaker 2: I usually don't want that information for this one, I.

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Speaker 1: Would love to know. Yeah, right at this point, I

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Speaker 1: do think that you need to step back and just

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Speaker 1: not interact with stepdaughter anymore. I agree with the commentary

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Speaker 1: saying like, don't offer childcare and then you have a

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Speaker 1: if she is upset with my presence and is ungrateful

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Speaker 1: of the help that I've given. Then you take over.

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Speaker 1: You tell her sadly.

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Speaker 2: You know, in the movies there's that stepdaughter stepmother dynamic

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Speaker 2: and at the end of the movie they're best friends.

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Speaker 1: The besties.

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Speaker 2: Maybe how can we accomplish that? And roll? Lie?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a bit tricky. It's a bit tricky. Update.

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Speaker 1: I promise to update after my talk with my husband.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's awful. I'm like you gross, I'm out of here.

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Speaker 2: Just get detergent. That's my shirt, your treat.

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Speaker 1: She got angry and yelled at her dad, saying, look

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Speaker 2: Are there mediators to hire? Is that a thing? I

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Speaker 1: Maybe. I feel like there's got to be. There's a

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Speaker 2: Nang whoa nang?

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Speaker 1: And if he said she can stay as long as

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Speaker 1: Yeah, comments. True believer says, Wow, good for you. Your

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Speaker 1: Opie says, I'm more angry at my soon to be

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Speaker 1: Jane Austin astronaut says, oh yeah, I caught that age

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Speaker 1: gap to Opie's husband thought he was getting Oh a

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Speaker 1: She has her own money and isn't dependent on him.

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Speaker 1: It means it's easier for her to walk away and

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Speaker 2: That was a brutal comment.

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Speaker 1: Ouch, Opie. I do think it is the best for

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Speaker 1: you to walk away from the situation if okay. I

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Speaker 2: So and seems like Opie low key didn't have the

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Speaker 2: twelve hour shift. Yeah, dude, after working here for twelve hours,

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Speaker 2: the last thing I want to do is pick another baby,

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Speaker 1: Oh nice.

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Speaker 2: I forgot not saying the doors were dirty, the floors

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Speaker 2: the sweep. So yeah, it's just like you don't like

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Speaker 2: whenever you sweep, you don't realize that there's stuff on

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Speaker 1: Of stuff on the ground. Do you guys do know

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Speaker 2: Of yeah, we just sometimes we do, but it's like

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Speaker 2: On yeah, yeah, like oh I need to get grab

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Speaker 1: I run a tight ship. She does, And you have

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Speaker 2: bathroom leaving. My boots are tied. I am not about

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, you're ouse your rules. But that's the end

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Speaker 2: My friend's brother went insane over our son's name.

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Speaker 1: Calm down, dude.

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Speaker 2: So my boyfriend and I have been together for a

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Speaker 1: That's pretty reasonable.

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Speaker 2: to be together with you for seven years before she

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Speaker 1: Oh, I was just saying that was a reasonable time

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Speaker 2: Oh, there, it is a good thing. And we've decided

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Speaker 1: Oh a year and a half of being together with

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Speaker 1: your partner?

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Speaker 2: Yep, I baby tomb I don't know.

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Speaker 1: That's that's pretty quick to decide you want a baby.

442
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Speaker 2: How old are you? Guys, they've been together for a while,

443
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Speaker 2: A year and a half, that's all we know for

444
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Speaker 2: a while.

445
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Speaker 1: Now A while now is not a year.

446
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Speaker 2: A year and a half is not a while now

447
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Speaker 2: unless you live on Mercury. No no, no, no, no, no, no, no,

448
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Speaker 2: you're right now, which was the farthest from the song Pluto.

449
00:20:07,920 --> 00:20:11,200
Speaker 2: But we got some sticklers. Pluto's moves pretty fast.

450
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Speaker 1: My mother just feed us nine pizza.

451
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Speaker 2: It's Neptune, Neptune. Unless you live on Neptune, then that's

452
00:20:19,560 --> 00:20:23,720
Speaker 2: like nine years. Okay. Anyways, we're onto it. Sophia disapproves.

453
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Speaker 2: It's going to be a boy, very clearly a boy,

454
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Speaker 2: and we've decided to name him.

455
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Speaker 1: But Jorn, Bjorn, Bjorn, like Bjorn, I'm bjorning it. Yeah,

456
00:20:34,480 --> 00:20:36,040
Speaker 1: like like you know, like Bjorn.

457
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Speaker 2: It's like they tried to say Jason Bourne but added

458
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Speaker 2: to Jay in it.

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Speaker 1: Well, you know, like the art is Bjorn. No, okay,

460
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Speaker 1: you might know them.

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Speaker 2: I don't like they're not always strike im Jorn. No,

462
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Speaker 2: I don't know who this is.

463
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Speaker 1: Oh wait, I was thinking of York.

464
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Speaker 2: Who is Bjorn? Bjorn, also known as Bjorn Ironside, is

465
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Speaker 2: a fictional character and the son of Ragnor lothbach in

466
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Speaker 2: a Lagra in the TV series Vikings. Oh it's a

467
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Speaker 2: Viking name.

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Speaker 1: Okay, for sure, you only get a.

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Speaker 2: Pass if you have heritage of Vikings.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Otherwise it's just like, why are we naming our

471
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Speaker 1: child Jorn? But if you've got the.

472
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Speaker 2: Heritage, and if you're white, you probably do.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, somewhere along the Rne by the way.

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Speaker 2: This comes from that sloth fifty nine And if you

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Speaker 2: want to spit your own stories, go to the r

476
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Speaker 2: slash okay story, Tom suppered it. We love those stories.

477
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Speaker 2: I'm Riley, I'm Sophia. And how much do we know

478
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Speaker 2: between the two of us, Sofia, not that much. We're

479
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Speaker 2: just here to be goofy And what is their job

480
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Speaker 2: as a listener?

481
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Speaker 1: Let us know what you know?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? That in the comments? Oh, he continues. My boyfriend's

483
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Speaker 2: brother called us today after we announced to my boyfriend's mom, dad,

484
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Speaker 2: and his sister who lives with his parents, that our

485
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Speaker 2: son's name is going to be Jorn or Bajorn whatever.

486
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Speaker 1: You can, however you're pronouncing it.

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Speaker 2: I suppose one of them, we don't know who yet,

488
00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:52,960
Speaker 2: told my boyfriend's little brother the name we had decided on,

489
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Speaker 2: and he went off on us over the phone. It's

490
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Speaker 2: probably because he's a fan of that show.

491
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Speaker 1: He's dust not fair.

492
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Speaker 2: I wanted that name.

493
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Speaker 1: I was gonna name my san Bjorn, or maybe he

494
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Speaker 1: was gonna name his son York. And he was like,

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Speaker 1: this is totally unreasonable. I was gonna name my son

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Speaker 1: York or my daughter New York, I suppose, And now

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Speaker 1: that's too close.

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Speaker 2: H According to my boyfriend's little brother, my boyfriend has

499
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Speaker 2: known for ten years what he wanted to name his son,

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Speaker 2: if he ever had one. He has a daughter and

501
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Speaker 2: told everyone that if she was a boy, his name

502
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Speaker 2: would be Bejord.

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Speaker 1: Okay, wait, so that he actually did want to name

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Speaker 1: his son Bjork.

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Speaker 2: No, it says according to my boyfriend's little brother, my

506
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Speaker 2: boyfriend has known for ten years, oh he wanted Okay,

507
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Speaker 2: Now this is the part that we concuse that he

508
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Speaker 2: who is he? Is it little brother or is this boyfriend?

509
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Speaker 1: I think it's little brother, because he's saying that he

510
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Speaker 1: had a daughter, little brother a daughter and if the daughter.

511
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Speaker 2: He has a daughter and told everyone, Okay.

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Speaker 1: I think so let's keep reading.

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Speaker 2: So he stole the idea from little brother? Eh? Not great?

514
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Speaker 2: Not great? My boyfriend does it ever? Remember for him

515
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Speaker 2: saying that? And no one has mentioned anything to us

516
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Speaker 2: when we told them about his little brother wanting the

517
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Speaker 2: name and has been wanting it for ten years. On

518
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Speaker 2: the call, he was really aggressive. He started the phone

519
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Speaker 2: call with what's this all about? Still in my son's name?

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Speaker 2: There was no hello, no what's up, nothing, just straight

521
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Speaker 2: to angrily asking us why did we choose that name.

522
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Speaker 2: My boyfriend was visibly confused, asked him what he meant,

523
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Speaker 2: and his little brother started going on about how my

524
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Speaker 2: boyfriend has known for ten years that he wanted to

525
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Speaker 2: name his son Bjorn if he ever had a boy,

526
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Speaker 2: why were we taking it asking us not to name

527
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Speaker 2: our son Bjorn, and that if we did, we would

528
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Speaker 2: cut him out of our lives as a big f

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Speaker 2: you to him.

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Speaker 1: Well, this guy, honestly maybe has the dramatics to get

531
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Speaker 1: away with naming his son Bjorn.

532
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Speaker 2: The passion the Viking.

533
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Speaker 1: He's got the Viking passion. He'll cut you down for

534
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Speaker 1: naming your son Bjorn because he wants that name.

535
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Speaker 2: Yeah. Oh, but he doesn't really sound like you want that.

536
00:23:58,960 --> 00:23:59,960
Speaker 2: This is not like your boyfriend wants it.

537
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Speaker 1: It sounds like you're just like a like, uh, Jorn

538
00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:03,960
Speaker 1: is like a good enough name.

539
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Speaker 2: Whatever.

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Speaker 1: We've been dating for a year and a half. I

541
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Speaker 1: guess we can call our child Bjorn.

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00:24:08,680 --> 00:24:12,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, if they don't like say meters or kilometers in

543
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Speaker 2: this story, I'm gonna be like, are you guys in

544
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Speaker 2: the US?

545
00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:18,040
Speaker 1: But like what I'm asking here? What I'm thinking to myself?

546
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Speaker 1: So they've been inning a year and a half, they

547
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Speaker 1: already know that they're having a son.

548
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Speaker 2: They already got a name picked out, which.

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Speaker 1: Means to me that they probably found out about their

550
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Speaker 1: son about a year into their relationship. I can't feel.

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Speaker 2: Well, I don't know how far along they are.

552
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Speaker 1: Far long enough to know that they have a son,

553
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Speaker 1: which I can a month or.

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Speaker 2: Two after a month, you know, oh, a son. Oh

555
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Speaker 2: the kids, so they're younger, it's like five or six months.

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Speaker 1: In Yeah, that's yeah. So like they had that maybe

557
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Speaker 1: pretty quick into the relationship.

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Speaker 2: This is also giving me a red flag. The boyfriend

559
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Speaker 2: doesn't listen.

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Speaker 1: Yeah after two yeah maybe maybe maybe his brother was saying,

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Speaker 1: He's like, I've been saying what that years that I

562
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Speaker 1: wanted to name my son Jorn? And the boyfriend's like,

563
00:25:04,280 --> 00:25:06,600
Speaker 1: what do you talk I just like came up with that.

564
00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:09,679
Speaker 1: It's just like it just came to me, what are

565
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Speaker 1: you talking about?

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Speaker 2: My subconscious told me this. Yeah, my boyfriend said, we

567
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Speaker 2: think about changing the name, but his little brother just

568
00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:20,200
Speaker 2: aggressively said that if we didn't change it, he'd hate

569
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Speaker 2: us and cut us out of his life. My boyfriend

570
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Speaker 2: ended up hanging up on him as he kept going

571
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Speaker 2: on off at us, and then his wife jumped in,

572
00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:31,399
Speaker 2: yelling at us and telling us we're a holes and

573
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Speaker 2: how could we do this to them, et cetera. Pros

574
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Speaker 2: and console list.

575
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Speaker 1: Yakes of not naming or naming your son Bjorn.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, if you name your son Bjorn, his name

577
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Speaker 2: is Bjorn.

578
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Speaker 1: And you don't live in like Iceland, probably a lot

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Speaker 1: of people are gonna be like, Bjorn, how do you

580
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Speaker 1: spell bjornon? How do you say that? No?

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Speaker 2: No, no, put the two dots over the oh.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah Jorn. I guess you could always just go

583
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Speaker 1: it's like Bjork, but Bjorn.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna be like, what the heck is a Bjork?

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00:25:58,720 --> 00:26:02,920
Speaker 1: Yeah? And then like, pro Bjorn, pretty cool name his

586
00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:05,679
Speaker 1: son could grow up to be liking, pretty cool, pretty cool.

587
00:26:05,520 --> 00:26:08,240
Speaker 2: Go through like other Viking names. That's what you want.

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Speaker 1: Con you lose your brother pro I Yeah, that's all

589
00:26:11,880 --> 00:26:12,160
Speaker 1: I got.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there's more cons and pros I'd give it to him. Yeah,

591
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Speaker 2: my boyfriend genuinely didn't know or doesn't remember ever hearing

592
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Speaker 2: his little brother ever say anything about wanting his son's

593
00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:24,480
Speaker 2: name to be Bjorn if they ever had a boy.

594
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Speaker 2: He's Scottish and wants to honor that.

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Speaker 1: Okay, that makes sense, that's fair. Bjorn feels like a Scottish.

596
00:26:31,560 --> 00:26:33,960
Speaker 2: Name, so he went through a baby name list and

597
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Speaker 2: went through all the names he liked, ended up picking Bjorn.

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Speaker 2: I'll have to admit I wasn't fully in love with

599
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Speaker 2: the name at first, but I've comed around to it

600
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Speaker 2: and now I can't imagine his name being anything other

601
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Speaker 2: than Bjorn. My boyfriend went quiet after the call. I

602
00:26:48,240 --> 00:26:51,480
Speaker 2: can tell he's struggling a bit. He loves the name Bjorn.

603
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Speaker 2: We've been calling him Bjorn since we found out the

604
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Speaker 2: baby was boy. But he loves his little brother and

605
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Speaker 2: doesn't want to cut him out of his life. I

606
00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:01,960
Speaker 2: and I'm not really close to his brother at all,

607
00:27:02,280 --> 00:27:05,520
Speaker 2: really don't care other than the struggle it's causing my boyfriend.

608
00:27:05,840 --> 00:27:08,360
Speaker 2: I love the name now as well, and I don't

609
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Speaker 2: want to change his name at all. I don't see

610
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Speaker 2: the issue of having cousins name with the same name.

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00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:17,040
Speaker 1: I see an issue there. It's kind of silly.

612
00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:21,119
Speaker 2: Siblings, yeah, but not cousins, and that just might be me.

613
00:27:21,520 --> 00:27:23,760
Speaker 2: So I'm here to ask, are we a holes for

614
00:27:23,840 --> 00:27:26,720
Speaker 2: wanting to name our son Bjorn when that's apparently what

615
00:27:26,840 --> 00:27:29,399
Speaker 2: his little brother wants to name his son if he

616
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Speaker 2: ever has one. We haven't edit. Hey, this is Riley,

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Speaker 2: the host that can't really read that. Well, we're gonna

618
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Speaker 2: get back to the stories, but here's three minutes worth

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Speaker 2: of ads from our sponsors.

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Speaker 1: I think that you would not be the ale holes

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Speaker 1: for naming your son Bjorn.

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00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:47,240
Speaker 2: I do. And why you're Scottish, I would say, family's

623
00:27:47,320 --> 00:27:48,400
Speaker 2: like a very big thing there.

624
00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:52,520
Speaker 1: Well, well it might be just Scottish heritage and they're

625
00:27:52,560 --> 00:27:54,400
Speaker 1: not actually in Scotland anyways.

626
00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:57,280
Speaker 2: I come from a place where family's pretty tight. Yeah.

627
00:27:57,320 --> 00:27:59,080
Speaker 2: If I found out my brother wanted the name of

628
00:27:59,119 --> 00:28:02,880
Speaker 2: his kid, you know, Bjorn, and I'm like, oh, yeah,

629
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Speaker 2: my favorite name that Yeah, I would have probably told

630
00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:08,480
Speaker 2: my brother earlier though, Yeah, like we're thinking of Bjorn.

631
00:28:08,960 --> 00:28:11,240
Speaker 2: But then that also comes with the question if he's

632
00:28:11,280 --> 00:28:13,880
Speaker 2: now figuring this out and you now just told him,

633
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Speaker 2: but I don't know I'd changed a name, though if

634
00:28:16,280 --> 00:28:17,200
Speaker 2: it was my brother, i'd.

635
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Speaker 1: Change it, I think, I agree. I don't think you

636
00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:25,080
Speaker 1: would be the a holes for naming your son Bjorn. However,

637
00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:28,359
Speaker 1: I do think that if your boyfriend has, you know,

638
00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:31,040
Speaker 1: a pretty close bond to his little brother, and you

639
00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:33,440
Speaker 1: didn't even really care about like I know, you said

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Speaker 1: like now you have an attachment to the name, but

641
00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:37,879
Speaker 1: you didn't really like it in the beginning. So I

642
00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:39,640
Speaker 1: feel like you could come to be attached to you

643
00:28:39,680 --> 00:28:40,520
Speaker 1: any name. Yeah.

644
00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:41,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, And if it.

645
00:28:42,120 --> 00:28:45,480
Speaker 1: Really is causing your boyfriend so much, you know, strife

646
00:28:45,640 --> 00:28:48,720
Speaker 1: and agony, then I probably would change the name, even

647
00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:49,560
Speaker 1: though it's not fair.

648
00:28:49,640 --> 00:28:51,480
Speaker 2: Did you know that my name was about to be Cameron?

649
00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:54,320
Speaker 1: Cameron? I cannot put sure you as a Cameron.

650
00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:54,520
Speaker 2: Or a Logan.

651
00:28:54,800 --> 00:28:57,320
Speaker 1: I could see you as a logan, yeah, not a Cameron.

652
00:28:57,600 --> 00:28:59,520
Speaker 2: Yeah. But there's this weird lady at my mong'st church

653
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Speaker 2: that I've already told you this story, haven't I. My

654
00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:03,200
Speaker 2: mom went to this lady was like, I'm gonna name

655
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Speaker 2: my kid Cameron, and she's like, oh, I'm gonna name

656
00:29:04,720 --> 00:29:07,880
Speaker 2: my kid Camera weird. I'm gonna name my kid Logan.

657
00:29:08,040 --> 00:29:10,240
Speaker 2: I'm gonna name my kid log she landed on Riley

658
00:29:10,680 --> 00:29:14,040
Speaker 2: loved it. I'm gonna name my kid Casper. It's kind

659
00:29:14,040 --> 00:29:15,320
Speaker 2: of weird.

660
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Speaker 1: Casper Ghost.

661
00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:23,960
Speaker 2: Oh man. Edit, Hey, it's the boyfriend here. The missus

662
00:29:23,960 --> 00:29:26,840
Speaker 2: asked me to explain the history and reasoning behind the name.

663
00:29:27,200 --> 00:29:31,720
Speaker 2: Family origins are from Kirkwall, Cool Our family has strong

664
00:29:31,960 --> 00:29:36,240
Speaker 2: Norse Gallic origins from the Scandinavian settlement of the area

665
00:29:36,520 --> 00:29:39,560
Speaker 2: in the eighth and ninth century. Bjorn is a popular

666
00:29:39,640 --> 00:29:42,240
Speaker 2: Nordic origin name and not that uncommon with the Norse

667
00:29:42,320 --> 00:29:45,719
Speaker 2: Gaelic parts of Scotland. Although my family is Scottish. I

668
00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:48,320
Speaker 2: love the name and it pays homage to our origin.

669
00:29:49,160 --> 00:29:53,040
Speaker 2: Oh homage, homage. They just leave the age out of it.

670
00:29:54,040 --> 00:29:55,560
Speaker 2: Come on, you just don't even put.

671
00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:59,080
Speaker 1: That age homage. But that's what I usually heard. You said, homage.

672
00:30:00,480 --> 00:30:04,080
Speaker 2: My parents are from Kirkwall, Scotland, and I'm Australian born. Also,

673
00:30:04,200 --> 00:30:07,800
Speaker 2: Bjorn is only on some Scottish boy names list. It's

674
00:30:07,840 --> 00:30:11,200
Speaker 2: not common, but it is common on the Nordic Gaelic

675
00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:15,160
Speaker 2: boys name list. Consistence, everyone is confused why a Scottish

676
00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:19,080
Speaker 2: person insists on Scandinavian name. No one seems to remember

677
00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:21,360
Speaker 2: to give a vote on the actual issue at hand.

678
00:30:21,840 --> 00:30:26,760
Speaker 2: Oh god, Oh guys, okay, I just ready does. They're

679
00:30:26,800 --> 00:30:29,160
Speaker 2: nerds and they're like getting into the detail zone.

680
00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:30,720
Speaker 1: Scottish and not Orn.

681
00:30:31,040 --> 00:30:32,360
Speaker 2: They completely missed the point.

682
00:30:32,520 --> 00:30:35,720
Speaker 1: It's like, clearly there was some sort of background here

683
00:30:35,880 --> 00:30:38,880
Speaker 1: that would have made Op's boyfriendship picked the name. You

684
00:30:38,880 --> 00:30:39,960
Speaker 1: didn't need the edit.

685
00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:42,920
Speaker 2: Sawyer's name is paying homage to the saw mill because

686
00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:46,360
Speaker 2: sawyer means someone that cuts up like piece. It would Ah,

687
00:30:46,720 --> 00:30:49,240
Speaker 2: I didn't know I saw yeah like sawyer.

688
00:30:49,400 --> 00:30:51,960
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, interesting, yep, makes sense.

689
00:30:52,280 --> 00:30:54,720
Speaker 2: I corrected my great grandfather about that because I didn't

690
00:30:54,720 --> 00:30:56,480
Speaker 2: know that, and I felt so bad in a video

691
00:30:57,000 --> 00:30:58,520
Speaker 2: that I changed it. But I felt so bad. I

692
00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:00,920
Speaker 2: was like, I'm an idiot food. I thought it was

693
00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:05,280
Speaker 2: called Solman, but it's a saw Yeah, that's funny anyways.

694
00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:07,800
Speaker 2: Comments by Ope. I don't see an issue at all

695
00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:10,600
Speaker 2: with having cousins being named the same name. Depends on

696
00:31:10,640 --> 00:31:12,160
Speaker 2: how often you guys get together.

697
00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:14,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like, if you're not close to your cousins, yeah,

698
00:31:14,720 --> 00:31:16,720
Speaker 1: sure it doesn't matter. But if you're close to your cousins,

699
00:31:16,760 --> 00:31:18,800
Speaker 1: why would you want Like you're running around and going

700
00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:23,280
Speaker 1: beyond beyard got back and he's like, which one Bjorn

701
00:31:23,320 --> 00:31:24,360
Speaker 1: water Briorn do.

702
00:31:25,400 --> 00:31:27,400
Speaker 2: I bet my son would love the fact that his

703
00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:30,240
Speaker 2: cousin has the same name as him, as he's not

704
00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:32,880
Speaker 2: gonna have friends with the same name. It's not common

705
00:31:32,920 --> 00:31:33,600
Speaker 2: where We're.

706
00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:37,120
Speaker 1: Gonna be honest with you, that's not true. Yeah, there's

707
00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:40,040
Speaker 1: like a small chance that your son will like that

708
00:31:40,120 --> 00:31:41,920
Speaker 1: his cousin has the same name as him.

709
00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 2: But if they see each other every five years, maybe yeah.

710
00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:49,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, I doubt that Bjorn and Bijorn are gotta love that.

711
00:31:49,440 --> 00:31:53,040
Speaker 2: But it is such a random name though, I don't know.

712
00:31:53,120 --> 00:31:54,520
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of people I know that

713
00:31:54,560 --> 00:31:58,680
Speaker 1: have unique names. I mean, you know, sometimes they get

714
00:31:58,880 --> 00:32:00,680
Speaker 1: kind of like who you can get bully, But I

715
00:32:01,000 --> 00:32:02,800
Speaker 1: have like, I don't know, I don't want to dock small.

716
00:32:03,720 --> 00:32:06,120
Speaker 1: I just have different friends who have unique names, and

717
00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:09,760
Speaker 1: they've always been very happy that they are so unique.

718
00:32:09,960 --> 00:32:12,120
Speaker 2: I can't even think of a unique name right now.

719
00:32:12,160 --> 00:32:14,560
Speaker 1: Well, I have an incredibly common name, and so do you.

720
00:32:14,880 --> 00:32:16,440
Speaker 1: And I feel like when I was a child, there

721
00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:18,720
Speaker 1: was like six Sophia's just.

722
00:32:20,800 --> 00:32:24,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, he is married, but doesn't want to have it

723
00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:26,840
Speaker 2: any other way that we know of. But that's what

724
00:32:26,880 --> 00:32:29,960
Speaker 2: I was thinking or even using our son's nickname, which

725
00:32:30,160 --> 00:32:33,280
Speaker 2: is Bear, because that's what Bjorn means, and calling his

726
00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:35,600
Speaker 2: son Bjorn. Okay, so we go by Bear, this one

727
00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:38,160
Speaker 2: we go about Bjorn. I guess so, and anyone that

728
00:32:38,240 --> 00:32:40,560
Speaker 2: was nor Gaelic would be freaking confused with the new

729
00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:44,320
Speaker 2: English as well. What what, There's no guarantee that my

730
00:32:44,320 --> 00:32:46,520
Speaker 2: brother in law and system law will ever have a boy,

731
00:32:46,880 --> 00:32:50,600
Speaker 2: and I'm currently cooking a boy in my womb right now,

732
00:32:50,760 --> 00:32:54,360
Speaker 2: I'm currently six months pregnant. Downloaded, the meaning is exactly

733
00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:57,120
Speaker 2: why I've come around to the name as well. Well.

734
00:32:57,640 --> 00:33:00,680
Speaker 2: That and I start thinking of my son as Bjorn

735
00:33:01,080 --> 00:33:03,400
Speaker 2: and can't think of the baby as anything else. At

736
00:33:03,400 --> 00:33:05,800
Speaker 2: this point, we wanted to have the nickname of our

737
00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:08,920
Speaker 2: little Bear for our baby boy. The way he went

738
00:33:08,960 --> 00:33:12,040
Speaker 2: off at us, it seemed like a giant overreaction for

739
00:33:12,240 --> 00:33:15,200
Speaker 2: just the baby name. I don't know. If my brother

740
00:33:15,360 --> 00:33:18,480
Speaker 2: was like, I'm gonna name my kid Lee, I'd probably

741
00:33:18,480 --> 00:33:19,120
Speaker 2: be freaking out.

742
00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:21,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm trying to see this from the brother's perspective

743
00:33:22,320 --> 00:33:25,800
Speaker 1: of Let's say that he did tell his brother Opie's

744
00:33:25,800 --> 00:33:28,400
Speaker 1: boyfriend that he wanted to name his son Bjorn and

745
00:33:28,440 --> 00:33:31,600
Speaker 1: it's like, this incredibly unique name and he's been telling

746
00:33:31,600 --> 00:33:33,120
Speaker 1: people for ten years. He's like, you, I really want

747
00:33:33,160 --> 00:33:36,040
Speaker 1: to name my son Bjorn. And then boyfriend comes in

748
00:33:36,120 --> 00:33:39,520
Speaker 1: and says, yeah, I'm gonna name her son Bjorn. He goes, what, dude,

749
00:33:39,520 --> 00:33:41,280
Speaker 1: I've been telling you for ten years.

750
00:33:41,480 --> 00:33:43,080
Speaker 2: Don't do it. I don't know, I just don't do it.

751
00:33:43,200 --> 00:33:44,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'd be pretty upset.

752
00:33:44,680 --> 00:33:47,520
Speaker 2: I personally don't care whether I lose a relationship with

753
00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:49,440
Speaker 2: my brother in law. This is the second time I've

754
00:33:49,480 --> 00:33:51,640
Speaker 2: heard from him or even seen him in the year

755
00:33:52,240 --> 00:33:54,840
Speaker 2: and a half i've been with my boyfriend. But I

756
00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:57,360
Speaker 2: don't think that's something my boyfriend is wrestling with now.

757
00:33:57,360 --> 00:34:00,320
Speaker 1: Okay, to be fair being with a person for a

758
00:34:00,400 --> 00:34:04,040
Speaker 1: year and a half, unless you live close to the brother,

759
00:34:04,480 --> 00:34:07,480
Speaker 1: it's not not unreasonable to be like, I haven't seen

760
00:34:07,520 --> 00:34:09,439
Speaker 1: you in a year and a half, or like I've

761
00:34:09,480 --> 00:34:10,920
Speaker 1: only seen you a couple of times in a year

762
00:34:10,920 --> 00:34:11,400
Speaker 1: and a half.

763
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Speaker 2: But on the significance of the name, there is none

764
00:34:14,360 --> 00:34:16,759
Speaker 2: for my brother in law either. You just like the

765
00:34:16,880 --> 00:34:19,080
Speaker 2: name and wants to name his son that one one day.

766
00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:22,040
Speaker 2: Just how my boyfriend and I have decided on the name.

767
00:34:22,360 --> 00:34:25,480
Speaker 2: That's how names go. I meant, if I me myself

768
00:34:25,600 --> 00:34:29,240
Speaker 2: lost the relationship, I wouldn't care. With my brother in law, obviously,

769
00:34:29,320 --> 00:34:31,520
Speaker 2: I gave a crap. If my partner loses a relationship

770
00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:34,360
Speaker 2: with his brother, I just don't care. If I myself

771
00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:36,680
Speaker 2: lose the relationship with his brother.

772
00:34:36,560 --> 00:34:38,120
Speaker 1: I think you should care, honestly.

773
00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:40,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, you guys have only been there for a year

774
00:34:40,200 --> 00:34:40,440
Speaker 2: and a half.

775
00:34:40,480 --> 00:34:42,120
Speaker 1: Yeah. I feel like the issue is that OPI has

776
00:34:42,200 --> 00:34:43,800
Speaker 1: only been in this relationship for a year and a

777
00:34:43,800 --> 00:34:46,120
Speaker 1: half and so obviously, you know, for a good reason,

778
00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:48,480
Speaker 1: doesn't have attachment to his family. But I think you

779
00:34:48,520 --> 00:34:51,720
Speaker 1: should want an attachment to his family if you're gonna

780
00:34:51,719 --> 00:34:52,680
Speaker 1: be around here for a while.

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00:34:52,760 --> 00:34:55,719
Speaker 2: Well, if that's kind of how she's seen him, and

782
00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:58,200
Speaker 2: it's not like oh hello, kind of.

783
00:34:58,440 --> 00:35:00,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's only I've only seen you a negative light,

784
00:35:00,760 --> 00:35:01,240
Speaker 1: that's fair.

785
00:35:01,440 --> 00:35:04,319
Speaker 2: Downloaded. My partner is absolutely in love of the name

786
00:35:04,480 --> 00:35:07,200
Speaker 2: since he saw the name on one of the baby

787
00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:10,440
Speaker 2: list names online, and I absolutely love the name. Now

788
00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:13,440
Speaker 2: it's my son's name, but there is heaps of drama

789
00:35:13,480 --> 00:35:16,640
Speaker 2: around this name. Now. Another downvoted comment is we don't

790
00:35:16,719 --> 00:35:19,960
Speaker 2: live in Scotland, but my boyfriend and his family is

791
00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:23,480
Speaker 2: very into where their family came from, so it's not

792
00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:26,719
Speaker 2: common here, but I believe it's very common in Scotland.

793
00:35:27,120 --> 00:35:29,800
Speaker 2: He's got a daughter, and he could very well only

794
00:35:30,040 --> 00:35:32,840
Speaker 2: ever have daughters. My partner is very into the history

795
00:35:32,840 --> 00:35:36,319
Speaker 2: of Scottish names as well, and apparently the Nordic and

796
00:35:36,360 --> 00:35:39,480
Speaker 2: Scottish names mixed, and you'll find a lot of Nordic

797
00:35:39,560 --> 00:35:42,840
Speaker 2: names are also Scottish names. I don't know if it's true,

798
00:35:43,080 --> 00:35:45,239
Speaker 2: but I fall in love with the name now and

799
00:35:45,280 --> 00:35:48,120
Speaker 2: I can't imagine naming him anything else, but thank you.

800
00:35:48,680 --> 00:35:51,080
Speaker 2: I hope he does calm down and comes around to

801
00:35:51,120 --> 00:35:53,400
Speaker 2: the fact that he's gonna have a nephew and he

802
00:35:53,480 --> 00:35:55,440
Speaker 2: has to be happy for us. I hope, he says.

803
00:35:55,440 --> 00:35:57,040
Speaker 2: When I heard the phone call, I had to stop

804
00:35:57,080 --> 00:36:00,719
Speaker 2: myself from laughing at the absurdity. The only issue with

805
00:36:00,840 --> 00:36:02,799
Speaker 2: using Bjorn as a middle name is we already have

806
00:36:02,800 --> 00:36:05,680
Speaker 2: a middle name set as well, because it's my father's

807
00:36:05,680 --> 00:36:08,360
Speaker 2: middle name and his father's middle name as well, So

808
00:36:08,840 --> 00:36:11,360
Speaker 2: it'll have to be his first name or we have

809
00:36:11,400 --> 00:36:15,000
Speaker 2: to decide on something else. Another dude, everyone's downvoting her.

810
00:36:14,880 --> 00:36:18,399
Speaker 1: Coll Yeah, They're like, we don't like this. It's not right.

811
00:36:18,680 --> 00:36:19,760
Speaker 1: It's just not right.

812
00:36:20,000 --> 00:36:22,839
Speaker 2: About her partner. Most of his family calls every week,

813
00:36:22,960 --> 00:36:26,160
Speaker 2: if not every fortnight, except for his little brother. He

814
00:36:26,239 --> 00:36:30,000
Speaker 2: loves his brother, but he's not particularly close with him.

815
00:36:30,160 --> 00:36:33,760
Speaker 2: His little brother is the only biological sibling he has,

816
00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:36,960
Speaker 2: So yeah, I guess it does. But the name also

817
00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:40,000
Speaker 2: means a great deal to us as well. Not in

818
00:36:40,080 --> 00:36:43,399
Speaker 2: the typical sense that it's got a meaningful significance to us,

819
00:36:43,719 --> 00:36:46,480
Speaker 2: but that's what we have decided on for our son's name,

820
00:36:46,680 --> 00:36:48,520
Speaker 2: so it means a lot to us as well. Been

821
00:36:48,560 --> 00:36:50,200
Speaker 2: calling the kid this name for like a.

822
00:36:50,160 --> 00:36:52,719
Speaker 1: Month, Yeah, that's the thing, like it's been. I don't know.

823
00:36:53,200 --> 00:36:55,560
Speaker 1: I don't know. People can get attached to names, which

824
00:36:55,600 --> 00:36:58,319
Speaker 1: makes sense because it's your kid, and especially if it's

825
00:36:58,360 --> 00:37:00,879
Speaker 1: the first name that they've like disc sided on as

826
00:37:00,920 --> 00:37:03,600
Speaker 1: a couple. Eh, it just seems like a lot of.

827
00:37:03,680 --> 00:37:07,400
Speaker 2: Hullabaloo blah blah blah blah blah. Yeah. I've asked the

828
00:37:07,440 --> 00:37:09,839
Speaker 2: rest of the family. No one has heard him say

829
00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:12,640
Speaker 2: it or remembers him saying it down with a comment.

830
00:37:12,800 --> 00:37:16,360
Speaker 2: It's on all the Scottish baby boy names list on Google.

831
00:37:16,760 --> 00:37:18,719
Speaker 2: I apologize if I'm coming off irritated.

832
00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:19,000
Speaker 1: Or not.

833
00:37:19,120 --> 00:37:22,560
Speaker 2: It's just you Google search Scottish names and a non

834
00:37:22,600 --> 00:37:25,840
Speaker 2: Scottish name pops up. It's quite annoying that the science

835
00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:28,520
Speaker 2: do that. I appreciate you letting me know that it's

836
00:37:28,560 --> 00:37:31,520
Speaker 2: not a Scottish name. Wait, so did you.

837
00:37:31,239 --> 00:37:33,960
Speaker 1: Guys know that when you named you were like, we

838
00:37:34,040 --> 00:37:36,800
Speaker 1: want to name our son something Scottish.

839
00:37:36,600 --> 00:37:40,840
Speaker 2: Bjorn, but Norda can Scottish kind of have the same names.

840
00:37:40,880 --> 00:37:41,719
Speaker 2: But people are like.

841
00:37:41,680 --> 00:37:45,160
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think a pie's like wrong. Probably

842
00:37:45,400 --> 00:37:47,320
Speaker 1: I think a PA's finding out that she's wrong.

843
00:37:47,760 --> 00:37:50,759
Speaker 2: Commentators are telling him to stop explaining Scotland to an

844
00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:54,000
Speaker 2: actual Scottish people, and that Bjorn is not used in Scotland.

845
00:37:54,239 --> 00:37:56,000
Speaker 2: And we have an update one month in a week late.

846
00:37:56,080 --> 00:38:01,200
Speaker 1: All right, all right, Bjorn's not Scottish and Scottish like

847
00:38:01,280 --> 00:38:05,960
Speaker 1: I've never heard a Scottish person called Bjorn.

848
00:38:06,200 --> 00:38:09,800
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849
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Speaker 2: A month later, it's been about a month since my

852
00:38:18,160 --> 00:38:21,160
Speaker 2: last post, and my boyfriend's brother apparently really wants the

853
00:38:21,239 --> 00:38:23,480
Speaker 2: name Bjorn. For his son. He changed his name to

854
00:38:23,520 --> 00:38:25,880
Speaker 2: Bjorn a few days after finding out we were naming

855
00:38:25,960 --> 00:38:26,760
Speaker 2: our son Bjorn.

856
00:38:27,080 --> 00:38:31,000
Speaker 1: You change Wait, I'm sorry, your brother changed his own name.

857
00:38:31,520 --> 00:38:33,760
Speaker 1: He changed his own name to Bjorn.

858
00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:36,880
Speaker 2: Boy friend's brother sent a message in my boyfriend's family

859
00:38:36,920 --> 00:38:41,320
Speaker 2: group chat announcing everyone that his legal name is Bjorn.

860
00:38:41,960 --> 00:38:43,200
Speaker 2: Middle name, last name.

861
00:38:43,360 --> 00:38:45,799
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, you're okay, I take it all back. Your

862
00:38:45,800 --> 00:38:49,520
Speaker 1: boyfriend's brother is a little cuckoo, and just proceed as

863
00:38:49,680 --> 00:38:51,560
Speaker 1: you want, and you don't need to have a relationship

864
00:38:51,600 --> 00:38:52,000
Speaker 1: with this guy.

865
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Speaker 2: And all he was waiting for was the change in

866
00:38:55,160 --> 00:38:58,359
Speaker 2: his documents and his driver's license to be done.

867
00:38:58,480 --> 00:39:00,000
Speaker 1: Your boyfriend's brother is a little crazy.

868
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:02,640
Speaker 2: Boyfriend's brother said that he told everyone in his family

869
00:39:02,640 --> 00:39:05,160
Speaker 2: that he wanted the name Bjorn for his son, and

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00:39:05,200 --> 00:39:08,080
Speaker 2: I asked everyone in my boyfriend's family if that was true.

871
00:39:08,520 --> 00:39:11,479
Speaker 2: Both his mother and father said that when he blew

872
00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:13,560
Speaker 2: up at us about the name, it was the first

873
00:39:13,560 --> 00:39:16,239
Speaker 2: time they ever heard him say that. His sister said

874
00:39:16,280 --> 00:39:19,240
Speaker 2: the same thing, and his other sister claims he told

875
00:39:19,320 --> 00:39:22,480
Speaker 2: everyone for years. Okay, now we're just picking side to her. Yeah,

876
00:39:22,560 --> 00:39:25,359
Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure that's just her supporting her brother, as

877
00:39:25,400 --> 00:39:29,080
Speaker 2: they're closer than anyone in their family and really only

878
00:39:29,120 --> 00:39:31,760
Speaker 2: talk to each other about things. I believe he told

879
00:39:31,800 --> 00:39:34,680
Speaker 2: her he wanted the name for his son, but didn't

880
00:39:34,719 --> 00:39:37,839
Speaker 2: tell anyone else. We have a little bit more here,

881
00:39:38,320 --> 00:39:40,840
Speaker 2: but changing the legal name.

882
00:39:40,719 --> 00:39:42,680
Speaker 1: That's what I know. I don't get. Why would you

883
00:39:42,760 --> 00:39:44,800
Speaker 1: change if you wanted your son to be called Bjorn?

884
00:39:45,120 --> 00:39:48,680
Speaker 1: What does it do for you to change your own

885
00:39:48,800 --> 00:39:49,640
Speaker 1: name to Bjorn?

886
00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:53,400
Speaker 2: Yeah? Why, I will say. A good way to not

887
00:39:53,520 --> 00:39:56,000
Speaker 2: name your baby a specific name is if someone else

888
00:39:56,040 --> 00:39:58,479
Speaker 2: has that name and they're weird. You have a whole

889
00:39:58,480 --> 00:40:00,560
Speaker 2: list of names. You're not gonna name your ki, right, Yeah,

890
00:40:00,600 --> 00:40:00,839
Speaker 2: but no.

891
00:40:00,760 --> 00:40:03,640
Speaker 1: One's gonna call this guy Bjorn. Doesn't really matter if

892
00:40:03,640 --> 00:40:04,640
Speaker 1: it's on his license.

893
00:40:04,960 --> 00:40:05,160
Speaker 2: Yeah.

894
00:40:05,200 --> 00:40:06,640
Speaker 1: So maybe he's like I got got jips.

895
00:40:06,920 --> 00:40:09,319
Speaker 2: He's probably trying I'm calling my Jorn. He's probably trying

896
00:40:09,360 --> 00:40:11,160
Speaker 2: to like ruin the experience.

897
00:40:11,239 --> 00:40:13,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe he's just a weirdo.

898
00:40:13,480 --> 00:40:17,040
Speaker 2: At this point, here we go. How to say bear

899
00:40:17,640 --> 00:40:19,960
Speaker 2: in Switzerlandland?

900
00:40:20,280 --> 00:40:22,839
Speaker 1: What in Switzerland are you just going through?

901
00:40:22,920 --> 00:40:27,560
Speaker 2: Bar? How to say bear in Swedish? I can't translate

902
00:40:27,560 --> 00:40:30,040
Speaker 2: into Swedish, You're dumb? Okay, let's look up how to

903
00:40:30,080 --> 00:40:32,720
Speaker 2: say bear. Yeah, all right, everyone, let's take a moment

904
00:40:32,760 --> 00:40:34,800
Speaker 2: and figure out how to say bear in different languages.

905
00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:39,120
Speaker 1: In Scottish Gaelic, all right, mathon in Scottish Gaelic.

906
00:40:39,400 --> 00:40:41,520
Speaker 2: Oh, in Iceland it's called Bjorn. Yeah.

907
00:40:41,600 --> 00:40:44,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, well Bjork is an Icelandic names that. That's what

908
00:40:44,440 --> 00:40:44,960
Speaker 1: I was thinking.

909
00:40:45,400 --> 00:40:47,239
Speaker 2: Oh, here we go, Here we go. In Greenland it

910
00:40:47,280 --> 00:40:52,080
Speaker 2: would be non oque or non queue is ice bear.

911
00:40:52,680 --> 00:40:54,920
Speaker 2: In Danish East just call him east Born.

912
00:40:55,120 --> 00:40:58,760
Speaker 1: That's so cute, Jorn, East Bjorn, Come here, east Jorn.

913
00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:02,800
Speaker 2: There we got a song. Yeah, oh, he continues, is

914
00:41:02,880 --> 00:41:05,719
Speaker 2: taking me this long to get over this petty behavior.

915
00:41:05,960 --> 00:41:08,719
Speaker 2: So I decided to finally give an update. I'm not

916
00:41:08,760 --> 00:41:10,480
Speaker 2: sure if this is the last update I'm willing to give,

917
00:41:10,960 --> 00:41:13,920
Speaker 2: or at least until our son is born and boyfriend's

918
00:41:13,960 --> 00:41:16,160
Speaker 2: brother realizes that his plan to get us to change

919
00:41:16,160 --> 00:41:19,040
Speaker 2: our son's name has spelled and we're called aholes for

920
00:41:19,120 --> 00:41:21,440
Speaker 2: actually naming our son what we said we would. I

921
00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:24,360
Speaker 2: just want to add I thought the name of Scottish

922
00:41:24,360 --> 00:41:27,239
Speaker 2: origin that the baby. Oh my god, now she's trying

923
00:41:27,239 --> 00:41:27,480
Speaker 2: to like.

924
00:41:28,520 --> 00:41:31,000
Speaker 1: Joby, you need to like do a little bit more

925
00:41:31,040 --> 00:41:32,200
Speaker 1: research on your baby's name.

926
00:41:32,520 --> 00:41:34,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just don't listen to your boyfriend. I'm seeing

927
00:41:34,719 --> 00:41:36,520
Speaker 2: a lot of red flags here in the relationship.

928
00:41:36,680 --> 00:41:40,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just really, I'm just upset about your research skills. Yeah,

929
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:43,120
Speaker 1: I think that we can't just trust a baby nameless

930
00:41:43,160 --> 00:41:46,120
Speaker 1: that says one hundred Scottish baby names. I think we

931
00:41:46,200 --> 00:41:48,040
Speaker 1: got to be like, oh, Bjorn, and that's a beautiful name.

932
00:41:48,080 --> 00:41:49,120
Speaker 1: Let's let's look into that.

933
00:41:49,600 --> 00:41:52,320
Speaker 2: I think they looked into it, looked at the definition.

934
00:41:52,840 --> 00:41:55,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's good. That's all we need to know.

935
00:41:55,960 --> 00:41:58,680
Speaker 2: Looking up an urban dictionary too. Come on, everything, I

936
00:41:58,800 --> 00:42:02,839
Speaker 2: just want to add the name of Scottish origin. That

937
00:42:02,920 --> 00:42:07,080
Speaker 2: the baby name was saying Scottish was accurate, but I've

938
00:42:07,239 --> 00:42:11,919
Speaker 2: since been informed it's Nordic or Scandinavian. We just want

939
00:42:11,920 --> 00:42:15,239
Speaker 2: to name our son Bjorn, regardless of that fact, as

940
00:42:15,280 --> 00:42:18,360
Speaker 2: we love the name. Okay, but okay, so this is

941
00:42:18,360 --> 00:42:21,879
Speaker 2: where it doesn't make sense. The boyfriend it was Scottish

942
00:42:22,480 --> 00:42:23,720
Speaker 2: and Australian.

943
00:42:23,880 --> 00:42:24,840
Speaker 1: Oh she's Australian.

944
00:42:25,120 --> 00:42:27,040
Speaker 2: Oh well, I give up, like you should.

945
00:42:27,080 --> 00:42:28,719
Speaker 1: She's Australian descent.

946
00:42:28,719 --> 00:42:31,000
Speaker 2: Right that were technically you are too.

947
00:42:31,000 --> 00:42:32,839
Speaker 1: Yeah, but that is you're not really No one's really

948
00:42:33,320 --> 00:42:36,120
Speaker 1: unless you're like Aboriginal. You're not really Australian.

949
00:42:35,640 --> 00:42:37,120
Speaker 2: Descent, aren't you.

950
00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:40,479
Speaker 1: No, I'm my mom is from Australia, but her mom

951
00:42:40,560 --> 00:42:42,800
Speaker 1: Like if you're thinking, like Australia is like the US,

952
00:42:43,040 --> 00:42:46,279
Speaker 1: So unless you're Native American, you're not, like your your

953
00:42:46,400 --> 00:42:49,840
Speaker 1: history is not I'm French on my I'm French and

954
00:42:49,840 --> 00:42:51,520
Speaker 1: Scottish on my mom's side, So.

955
00:42:51,480 --> 00:42:55,120
Speaker 2: You're not a descent of an Australia Like if you if.

956
00:42:54,960 --> 00:42:56,840
Speaker 1: You count my mom, yes, but like I'm saying, like

957
00:42:57,040 --> 00:43:01,640
Speaker 1: if he were saying, oh, my family's Scottish, Australia isn't.

958
00:43:01,600 --> 00:43:04,399
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be throw I don't even know you could.

959
00:43:04,920 --> 00:43:08,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like if you if you were to say, like

960
00:43:08,600 --> 00:43:13,400
Speaker 1: what your ancestry was, you would say, like, I'm American,

961
00:43:13,480 --> 00:43:16,239
Speaker 1: but my ancestry is this and this, you know.

962
00:43:16,600 --> 00:43:19,280
Speaker 2: So I'm not American descent. Yeah, even though my family

963
00:43:19,280 --> 00:43:21,440
Speaker 2: has been here since like seventeen thirty nine.

964
00:43:21,400 --> 00:43:23,040
Speaker 1: Well you could say that. Yeah, you could be like, yeah,

965
00:43:23,120 --> 00:43:25,360
Speaker 1: we're like we've been here for this long, so I've

966
00:43:25,400 --> 00:43:27,840
Speaker 1: been in America this long. But if you wanted to

967
00:43:27,880 --> 00:43:31,040
Speaker 1: go further, be like, but I like my ancestry is

968
00:43:31,080 --> 00:43:33,720
Speaker 1: from Yeah, you probably have a little bit more claimed

969
00:43:33,719 --> 00:43:37,080
Speaker 1: to say America. But yeah, it's just when people usually

970
00:43:37,080 --> 00:43:38,080
Speaker 1: ask that question, they mean.

971
00:43:38,040 --> 00:43:42,720
Speaker 2: Like, okay, I think I'm more viewsed. Now, Opie says,

972
00:43:42,960 --> 00:43:46,360
Speaker 2: we're gonna say that our son's uncle loved our son's

973
00:43:46,440 --> 00:43:50,520
Speaker 2: name so much that his uncle changed his name to Matterson.

974
00:43:50,800 --> 00:43:52,920
Speaker 2: And we have all the loopholes covered up here, and

975
00:43:52,960 --> 00:43:55,719
Speaker 2: that was a crazy story just to name their son

976
00:43:55,920 --> 00:43:57,520
Speaker 2: bear in Nordic.

977
00:43:57,760 --> 00:44:01,080
Speaker 1: Yep, and there you go. That's the I guess. I

978
00:44:01,080 --> 00:44:02,759
Speaker 1: don't even know if there's a listen there, but.

979
00:44:03,120 --> 00:44:05,239
Speaker 2: I'm kind of sold on biorn. Now. Wow, I kind

980
00:44:05,239 --> 00:44:06,320
Speaker 2: of got a whole cycle.

981
00:44:06,560 --> 00:44:09,960
Speaker 1: You got me. We're all on the same page, kidness, gracious.

982
00:44:09,600 --> 00:44:12,560
Speaker 2: Put down what you wish you named your son down below. Yeah,

983
00:44:12,600 --> 00:44:14,040
Speaker 2: we'll get to daughters on the next one.

984
00:44:14,239 --> 00:44:16,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's the end of that story. And we've

985
00:44:16,560 --> 00:44:18,759
Speaker 1: got another one coming right up. My mother in law

986
00:44:18,800 --> 00:44:20,440
Speaker 1: took my bedroom for herself.

987
00:44:20,800 --> 00:44:22,840
Speaker 2: We got goldilocks in the house here, and.

988
00:44:22,719 --> 00:44:25,920
Speaker 1: This comes directly from the ar slash. Okay, storytime separated it.

989
00:44:25,960 --> 00:44:29,440
Speaker 1: Oh goodness, I thirty four female met my ex thirty

990
00:44:29,520 --> 00:44:31,920
Speaker 1: nine male. I will name him Joel when I was

991
00:44:31,960 --> 00:44:34,279
Speaker 1: twenty and he was twenty five through my best friend

992
00:44:34,360 --> 00:44:36,400
Speaker 1: at the time. I will name her Trish. We were

993
00:44:36,440 --> 00:44:39,200
Speaker 1: set up. They lived in the same apartment and wanted

994
00:44:39,239 --> 00:44:42,040
Speaker 1: her bestie living next door, which I did not know

995
00:44:42,080 --> 00:44:45,000
Speaker 1: at the time. It was nice and sweet at the start.

996
00:44:45,239 --> 00:44:47,640
Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Cana and if you

997
00:44:47,640 --> 00:44:50,320
Speaker 1: want to smit your own stories, go to the arslash. Okay, storytime,

998
00:44:50,360 --> 00:44:52,920
Speaker 1: subred it. I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, and we're here to

999
00:44:52,960 --> 00:44:55,040
Speaker 1: give good advice. Cooofley, but we don't have all the answers.

1000
00:44:55,320 --> 00:44:57,120
Speaker 1: We only know what we'd do, So let us know

1001
00:44:57,160 --> 00:44:59,880
Speaker 1: what you would do in the comments, and OP says

1002
00:45:00,400 --> 00:45:03,600
Speaker 1: one day, while sitting on the recliner, his mother opened

1003
00:45:03,600 --> 00:45:05,880
Speaker 1: the door to his house, looked me up and down,

1004
00:45:06,400 --> 00:45:10,239
Speaker 1: grunted something, and proceeded to clean his entire house from

1005
00:45:10,280 --> 00:45:11,440
Speaker 1: top to bottom.

1006
00:45:11,600 --> 00:45:13,000
Speaker 2: Was that a look of disgust?

1007
00:45:14,880 --> 00:45:18,280
Speaker 1: What a great first interaction, right, We rushed a lot

1008
00:45:18,320 --> 00:45:22,040
Speaker 1: and moved in together. After a month, Instantly things went.

1009
00:45:21,840 --> 00:45:25,560
Speaker 2: To heck, we'll back off. Yeah. After a month of

1010
00:45:26,040 --> 00:45:31,480
Speaker 2: being to get who this is not on the approval No, no, no,

1011
00:45:32,120 --> 00:45:34,359
Speaker 2: so far this episode we have an age gap that's

1012
00:45:34,360 --> 00:45:39,120
Speaker 2: not approved, a baby that's not approved, and baby's fine.

1013
00:45:39,160 --> 00:45:42,880
Speaker 2: I just think, like, no, you you don't know, you

1014
00:45:42,920 --> 00:45:43,480
Speaker 2: don't think that.

1015
00:45:43,960 --> 00:45:46,360
Speaker 1: No, I hate the baby. Within the first two days,

1016
00:45:46,400 --> 00:45:48,439
Speaker 1: he accused me of sleeping with the fifty year old

1017
00:45:48,800 --> 00:45:50,200
Speaker 1: user living next door.

1018
00:45:50,719 --> 00:45:54,800
Speaker 2: All Right, I love that. You think my standard is

1019
00:45:54,840 --> 00:45:56,120
Speaker 2: at love? That's crazy.

1020
00:45:56,520 --> 00:45:59,360
Speaker 1: Well, I was so uncomfortable even being near him alone.

1021
00:46:00,080 --> 00:46:02,959
Speaker 1: After two months, it was my twenty first birthday. Joel

1022
00:46:03,000 --> 00:46:05,120
Speaker 1: had taken my car to a friend's house and was

1023
00:46:05,160 --> 00:46:08,160
Speaker 1: supposed to be dropped off at my parents' house to celebrate,

1024
00:46:08,640 --> 00:46:12,319
Speaker 1: but he didn't show, ignored all my messages and didn't

1025
00:46:12,360 --> 00:46:15,400
Speaker 1: return to the apartment until two am. We had a

1026
00:46:15,520 --> 00:46:18,200
Speaker 1: huge fight and I went to stay at Trisha's house

1027
00:46:18,280 --> 00:46:20,800
Speaker 1: for the night. A week later, we were celebrating a

1028
00:46:20,840 --> 00:46:23,960
Speaker 1: friend's birthday and I didn't feel right. My stomach was

1029
00:46:24,000 --> 00:46:29,040
Speaker 1: cramping and I had never felt this before I was pregnant. Yep,

1030
00:46:29,160 --> 00:46:33,200
Speaker 1: after two months, Well it seems like you know, it wasn't.

1031
00:46:33,400 --> 00:46:36,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, you were twenty twenty one, you know what's Yeah,

1032
00:46:36,640 --> 00:46:37,319
Speaker 2: looking at the.

1033
00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:39,919
Speaker 1: Timeline, I'd had a few drinks within the last month.

1034
00:46:40,200 --> 00:46:43,880
Speaker 1: That guilt destroyed me for weeks until my first ultrasound,

1035
00:46:43,920 --> 00:46:46,399
Speaker 1: when I heard my perfect girl's heartbeat for the first time.

1036
00:46:46,680 --> 00:46:49,000
Speaker 1: I will say, it seems like it be feeling guilty

1037
00:46:49,000 --> 00:46:51,360
Speaker 1: about drinking when she was pregnant, But you didn't know

1038
00:46:51,600 --> 00:46:54,360
Speaker 1: a lot of times, like as long as you weren't

1039
00:46:54,360 --> 00:46:58,279
Speaker 1: excessively drinking, it is okay. Obviously you want to be

1040
00:46:58,320 --> 00:47:01,200
Speaker 1: careful and avoid that, but you know when you don't know.

1041
00:47:01,800 --> 00:47:04,480
Speaker 2: Yes, it's a woman, doctor. I agree.

1042
00:47:04,960 --> 00:47:06,960
Speaker 1: At that point, I knew I did not want to

1043
00:47:06,960 --> 00:47:09,880
Speaker 1: be with this man anymore, but I was having his baby.

1044
00:47:10,120 --> 00:47:12,520
Speaker 2: But dope, nope, nope. We do not do the sun

1045
00:47:12,640 --> 00:47:14,640
Speaker 2: called fallacy. No no, no, no, no, it does not

1046
00:47:14,680 --> 00:47:15,200
Speaker 2: apply here.

1047
00:47:15,320 --> 00:47:18,040
Speaker 1: No no, no. Coming from someone who has only ever

1048
00:47:18,160 --> 00:47:21,400
Speaker 1: known family staying together, I didn't want a separate family.

1049
00:47:21,880 --> 00:47:25,800
Speaker 1: Looking back, I regret that. Oh No, pregnancy was horrible.

1050
00:47:26,200 --> 00:47:30,920
Speaker 1: I had all day every day morning sickness, fractured my

1051
00:47:31,160 --> 00:47:35,480
Speaker 1: sternum from throwing up so much, was hospitalized four times

1052
00:47:35,480 --> 00:47:39,200
Speaker 1: for ivy nourishment trips, and lost thirty kilos throughout the pregnancy.

1053
00:47:39,440 --> 00:47:43,279
Speaker 2: Sounds like you just didn't eat. That's like ful, like

1054
00:47:43,880 --> 00:47:45,759
Speaker 2: usually don't eat. Now you're having a baby and you're

1055
00:47:45,760 --> 00:47:46,280
Speaker 2: not eating.

1056
00:47:46,360 --> 00:47:48,280
Speaker 1: That's she's throwing up everything.

1057
00:47:48,320 --> 00:47:50,200
Speaker 2: She's eating, so her body's rejecting.

1058
00:47:50,200 --> 00:47:53,359
Speaker 1: So yeah, she said all day, everyday morning sickness, and

1059
00:47:53,360 --> 00:47:55,960
Speaker 1: that she fractured her sternam from throwing up, so you

1060
00:47:56,040 --> 00:47:58,880
Speaker 1: can't keep down anything you're eating.

1061
00:47:59,120 --> 00:47:59,960
Speaker 2: Oh goodness.

1062
00:48:00,520 --> 00:48:03,080
Speaker 1: During one hospital stay, my mother in law came to

1063
00:48:03,080 --> 00:48:06,720
Speaker 1: see me and loudly commented to Joel, I thought opeth

1064
00:48:06,800 --> 00:48:09,680
Speaker 1: front air bags were bicker than that. Her baby bump

1065
00:48:09,719 --> 00:48:12,680
Speaker 1: is bicker. Your mouth is pretty big too, Let's shut it.

1066
00:48:13,080 --> 00:48:15,080
Speaker 1: I am a bee cup and a large woman, so

1067
00:48:15,160 --> 00:48:18,600
Speaker 1: we often looked flat, especially lying down. It broke my

1068
00:48:18,680 --> 00:48:21,520
Speaker 1: heart and I cried for quite a while. Well, mother

1069
00:48:21,520 --> 00:48:23,319
Speaker 1: in law, get out of there, get out of the room.

1070
00:48:23,400 --> 00:48:26,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly, but it makes sense why Joel is the

1071
00:48:26,880 --> 00:48:29,920
Speaker 2: way he is. Yeah, if his mom's like this, Oh boy.

1072
00:48:30,480 --> 00:48:33,759
Speaker 1: Burling day arrived. I woke up needing to go to

1073
00:48:33,840 --> 00:48:36,400
Speaker 1: the bathroom because I had wet the bed. When I

1074
00:48:36,440 --> 00:48:39,240
Speaker 1: went back to bed, it happened again within ten minutes,

1075
00:48:39,280 --> 00:48:41,799
Speaker 1: but I didn't feel myself go I went to the

1076
00:48:41,800 --> 00:48:44,239
Speaker 1: living room where Joel had been sleeping, as at this

1077
00:48:44,320 --> 00:48:47,000
Speaker 1: point we were in separate rooms because my belly freaked

1078
00:48:47,040 --> 00:48:49,279
Speaker 1: him out and he didn't want to hit her. During

1079
00:48:49,280 --> 00:48:51,560
Speaker 1: his sleep. I told him what was going on, and

1080
00:48:51,600 --> 00:48:53,800
Speaker 1: he hit our friend who was asleep on the couch

1081
00:48:53,880 --> 00:48:56,759
Speaker 1: and informed him, why are we telling them? Why is

1082
00:48:56,760 --> 00:48:59,480
Speaker 1: his friend here? This friend was only sixteen but had

1083
00:48:59,520 --> 00:49:01,799
Speaker 1: been my for three years.

1084
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Speaker 2: What what? Anyways?

1085
00:49:04,360 --> 00:49:07,200
Speaker 1: He jumped off the couch, asking what he needed to

1086
00:49:07,239 --> 00:49:09,480
Speaker 1: do for me and ran straight into the wall, thinking

1087
00:49:09,560 --> 00:49:11,799
Speaker 1: it was the door three inches to the left. What

1088
00:49:12,000 --> 00:49:15,120
Speaker 1: is going on? After four hours, my mother drove me

1089
00:49:15,200 --> 00:49:17,640
Speaker 1: to the hospital, not thinking I was in labor, but

1090
00:49:17,719 --> 00:49:21,239
Speaker 1: Braxton Hicks contractions. The nurses informed us I was in

1091
00:49:21,400 --> 00:49:24,880
Speaker 1: active labor for the past three hours and that the

1092
00:49:24,880 --> 00:49:26,840
Speaker 1: baby would be there in thirty minutes.

1093
00:49:26,960 --> 00:49:28,880
Speaker 2: Oh wow, nic, let's go.

1094
00:49:29,040 --> 00:49:31,440
Speaker 1: Honestly, cut of eyes. You get to the hospital and

1095
00:49:31,480 --> 00:49:33,080
Speaker 1: you just have a baby in thirty minutes, All right,

1096
00:49:33,120 --> 00:49:36,880
Speaker 1: pretty good? Joel's mother refused to listen, grabbed my hand

1097
00:49:36,960 --> 00:49:40,120
Speaker 1: and refuse to leave. As the baby hit my pelvis.

1098
00:49:40,200 --> 00:49:43,040
Speaker 1: Joel walked in and stayed behind the curtain. My father

1099
00:49:43,200 --> 00:49:46,080
Speaker 1: saw this, shook his head, walked straight to me, kissed

1100
00:49:46,080 --> 00:49:48,840
Speaker 1: my forehead and grabbed my hand. I gave my weekend

1101
00:49:48,920 --> 00:49:51,080
Speaker 1: to dad and my other hand to my mother. My

1102
00:49:51,200 --> 00:49:53,600
Speaker 1: mother at my legs said she had given birth three

1103
00:49:53,640 --> 00:49:56,520
Speaker 1: times but never actually seen it. I don't care. I

1104
00:49:56,560 --> 00:49:59,520
Speaker 1: love my mom. She's my true best friend. The baby

1105
00:49:59,520 --> 00:50:05,200
Speaker 1: took thirty five minutes to arrive, dang quick. Joel refused

1106
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Speaker 1: to cut the cord, so my mom did. Joel sucks.

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00:50:07,640 --> 00:50:09,440
Speaker 2: Well. I don't know if i'd be able to do that.

1108
00:50:09,640 --> 00:50:10,880
Speaker 1: You wouldn't be able to cut the cord.

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00:50:11,360 --> 00:50:14,600
Speaker 2: I don't, dude. Probably not why. I could have put

1110
00:50:14,640 --> 00:50:18,560
Speaker 2: my girlfriend's ear ring through her already done ear hole.

1111
00:50:18,440 --> 00:50:19,160
Speaker 1: But you just have to.

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00:50:19,239 --> 00:50:23,719
Speaker 2: It's like a really big cord that is flesh. To me,

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00:50:23,840 --> 00:50:25,240
Speaker 2: I don't know if I can cut flesh.

1114
00:50:25,640 --> 00:50:27,279
Speaker 1: Oh, I see. I thought you were just saying like

1115
00:50:27,320 --> 00:50:29,200
Speaker 1: you couldn't, Like you couldn't do it.

1116
00:50:29,280 --> 00:50:33,719
Speaker 2: I know, interest the idea of cutting flesh. I'm sorry,

1117
00:50:33,840 --> 00:50:36,640
Speaker 2: it's too much now. If it was go time, I

1118
00:50:36,800 --> 00:50:39,360
Speaker 2: was the only person cable it. You're the only one

1119
00:50:39,520 --> 00:50:41,840
Speaker 2: I could do it. But we already have professionals in

1120
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Speaker 2: the room.

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00:50:42,360 --> 00:50:43,880
Speaker 1: You're like, I'm gonna let you guys handle that.

1122
00:50:44,040 --> 00:50:46,120
Speaker 2: I'm gonna have to pay a pretty good penny for

1123
00:50:46,160 --> 00:50:49,400
Speaker 2: this hospital bill. I'm not the guy who's doing it, Okay,

1124
00:50:49,560 --> 00:50:50,000
Speaker 2: it's fair.

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00:50:50,440 --> 00:50:53,360
Speaker 1: A month later, Joel's twin brother moved in as he

1126
00:50:53,440 --> 00:50:56,000
Speaker 1: needed a place to stay. As he walked in, he

1127
00:50:56,080 --> 00:50:59,200
Speaker 1: almost knocked over the bassinet and said, oops, forgot your hat,

1128
00:50:59,320 --> 00:51:02,840
Speaker 1: or like it was no big deal. Oh boy, Joel

1129
00:51:02,920 --> 00:51:05,759
Speaker 1: wasn't much better. Every time my little girl cried, he

1130
00:51:05,800 --> 00:51:10,080
Speaker 1: got annoyed and screamed shut that effing punt up, directly

1131
00:51:10,200 --> 00:51:10,600
Speaker 1: at her.

1132
00:51:11,000 --> 00:51:11,400
Speaker 2: Girl.

1133
00:51:11,880 --> 00:51:14,720
Speaker 1: I know what you're thinking. Leave. It's a lot easier

1134
00:51:14,760 --> 00:51:18,040
Speaker 1: said than done at that point. Yeah, yes, understandable, but

1135
00:51:18,120 --> 00:51:19,839
Speaker 1: like that is the only advice I can give.

1136
00:51:20,080 --> 00:51:22,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, if you're in a situation like that.

1137
00:51:22,680 --> 00:51:24,400
Speaker 1: Reach out to supports this. It seems like you have

1138
00:51:24,440 --> 00:51:25,000
Speaker 1: a mom and dad.

1139
00:51:25,440 --> 00:51:29,640
Speaker 2: Well still, it's like you have explained the situation in

1140
00:51:29,680 --> 00:51:31,600
Speaker 2: a way to yourself that this is like what you deserve.

1141
00:51:31,680 --> 00:51:33,840
Speaker 2: So it's really hard to understand what you don't reserve,

1142
00:51:33,920 --> 00:51:35,600
Speaker 2: because I talk to people that have been a situation

1143
00:51:35,719 --> 00:51:38,759
Speaker 2: like this and it's like it's so hard they just

1144
00:51:38,800 --> 00:51:39,560
Speaker 2: don't know the answer.

1145
00:51:40,040 --> 00:51:42,400
Speaker 1: And also, I mean, op, he's already said she's twenty

1146
00:51:42,440 --> 00:51:45,239
Speaker 1: years old. Maybe, well she's twenty one now, she's twenty one,

1147
00:51:46,080 --> 00:51:48,120
Speaker 1: just had a baby, has been with this guy not

1148
00:51:48,360 --> 00:51:51,319
Speaker 1: very long, thinks in her mind. Oh, well, I need

1149
00:51:51,360 --> 00:51:54,439
Speaker 1: to stay with him, because that's all I know. I've

1150
00:51:54,440 --> 00:51:58,080
Speaker 1: only known, you know, families that are together. Yeah, or

1151
00:51:58,200 --> 00:52:00,279
Speaker 1: like the families that I do know that i've separated

1152
00:52:00,080 --> 00:52:03,520
Speaker 1: it have not been good or something that's really tough.

1153
00:52:03,719 --> 00:52:06,360
Speaker 1: And he's five years older than you, so there is

1154
00:52:06,400 --> 00:52:08,480
Speaker 1: also a little bit of a power imbalance there too.

1155
00:52:08,880 --> 00:52:11,080
Speaker 1: Not that he's any much more mature in terms of

1156
00:52:11,120 --> 00:52:15,200
Speaker 1: like ability to raise a child though. Yeah, there is

1157
00:52:15,280 --> 00:52:18,080
Speaker 1: a little bit left to this story. You got it,

1158
00:52:18,560 --> 00:52:21,520
Speaker 1: let's hit it. A month later, Joel's mother moved in.

1159
00:52:21,960 --> 00:52:25,480
Speaker 1: So you've got your ward, your sixteen year ward, you

1160
00:52:25,520 --> 00:52:30,720
Speaker 1: have your partner's brother twin brother, and you have his mom.

1161
00:52:31,480 --> 00:52:33,400
Speaker 2: I feel like at this point, you guys should run

1162
00:52:33,719 --> 00:52:34,240
Speaker 2: a hotel.

1163
00:52:34,440 --> 00:52:37,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, they should start pan rent saying she needed to

1164
00:52:37,120 --> 00:52:39,600
Speaker 1: help with the baby. Later I found out she had

1165
00:52:39,600 --> 00:52:42,520
Speaker 1: been kicked out and kicked me out of my bedroom.

1166
00:52:43,120 --> 00:52:44,520
Speaker 2: That's not really helping with the baby.

1167
00:52:44,600 --> 00:52:46,880
Speaker 1: Do you not sleep with your partner?

1168
00:52:47,440 --> 00:52:49,080
Speaker 2: No, he's in the couch still.

1169
00:52:49,120 --> 00:52:50,920
Speaker 1: I thought that was just because she was pregnant.

1170
00:52:51,080 --> 00:52:52,480
Speaker 2: Dude, this guy, come.

1171
00:52:52,320 --> 00:52:54,720
Speaker 1: On, I refuse to let anyone sleep in the bedroom.

1172
00:52:55,120 --> 00:52:57,200
Speaker 1: So Joel and I moved into the lounge on a

1173
00:52:57,239 --> 00:53:00,400
Speaker 1: mattress while his mother and twin took the bed. I

1174
00:53:00,480 --> 00:53:02,960
Speaker 1: was made to buy her very expensive cigarettes because she

1175
00:53:03,000 --> 00:53:05,720
Speaker 1: could only have the best quality. I'm sorry she's smoking.

1176
00:53:06,000 --> 00:53:07,440
Speaker 1: She better not be smoking around the baby.

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00:53:07,640 --> 00:53:08,359
Speaker 2: I think she is.

1178
00:53:09,160 --> 00:53:12,160
Speaker 1: She never actually helped with the baby. I was supporting

1179
00:53:12,239 --> 00:53:15,840
Speaker 1: five people on government wages alone and struggle to buy food.

1180
00:53:16,320 --> 00:53:18,680
Speaker 1: I never ran out of baby food, even when they

1181
00:53:18,719 --> 00:53:23,560
Speaker 1: started eating it. They started eating your baby's food because

1182
00:53:23,600 --> 00:53:27,040
Speaker 1: it was better food than when I was buying me adults. Eventually,

1183
00:53:27,120 --> 00:53:28,920
Speaker 1: my mother in law moved out and I got my

1184
00:53:28,960 --> 00:53:31,600
Speaker 1: bedroom back. Two months later, my baby girl and I

1185
00:53:31,680 --> 00:53:33,840
Speaker 1: moved into my parents' house. But that's a whole story

1186
00:53:33,840 --> 00:53:36,120
Speaker 1: in itself. I met a man and he is the

1187
00:53:36,160 --> 00:53:40,320
Speaker 1: best father for my girl. Thank goodness, I'm so happy

1188
00:53:40,360 --> 00:53:40,520
Speaker 1: for you.

1189
00:53:40,640 --> 00:53:42,120
Speaker 2: Ope, oh my gosh.

1190
00:53:42,200 --> 00:53:43,880
Speaker 1: I don't really know how to finish, so I'll end

1191
00:53:43,920 --> 00:53:45,680
Speaker 1: it by saying that if you are stuck in a

1192
00:53:45,719 --> 00:53:48,600
Speaker 1: relationship as bad as this, I am so so sorry.

1193
00:53:48,800 --> 00:53:50,839
Speaker 1: I hope that one day you will be free. Thanks

1194
00:53:50,920 --> 00:53:54,399
Speaker 1: for reading, guys and a comment. Wow, that was a lot.

1195
00:53:54,680 --> 00:53:57,560
Speaker 1: Always remember to put your happiness first, and you being

1196
00:53:57,600 --> 00:54:00,279
Speaker 1: happy your daughter will be happy and does it need

1197
00:54:00,320 --> 00:54:03,560
Speaker 1: to be around a toxic environment. Sometimes we think we're

1198
00:54:03,560 --> 00:54:06,320
Speaker 1: making the best decisions for our kids by sticking around,

1199
00:54:06,760 --> 00:54:09,680
Speaker 1: but we're really not. Just look out for both of you.

1200
00:54:09,840 --> 00:54:10,480
Speaker 1: Best of luck.

1201
00:54:10,840 --> 00:54:12,880
Speaker 2: I'm going to be honest, I disagree with the countent

1202
00:54:13,120 --> 00:54:15,359
Speaker 2: what I don't think you should always put your happiness first.

1203
00:54:15,600 --> 00:54:18,680
Speaker 2: In some seasons you need to bear like certain things.

1204
00:54:18,719 --> 00:54:22,040
Speaker 2: I'm not saying. I'm not saying stay in a bad situation,

1205
00:54:22,080 --> 00:54:25,120
Speaker 2: stay in a talk situation always. Like I see what

1206
00:54:25,200 --> 00:54:30,080
Speaker 2: you're saying, strive for joy and for peace. But sometimes

1207
00:54:30,080 --> 00:54:31,320
Speaker 2: in my life I'm not happy.

1208
00:54:31,520 --> 00:54:33,240
Speaker 1: You can't be happy all the time.

1209
00:54:33,520 --> 00:54:36,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's always the goal. Yeah, I don't know

1210
00:54:36,160 --> 00:54:37,520
Speaker 2: if that's what you're trying to say comment or.

1211
00:54:37,520 --> 00:54:41,279
Speaker 1: Put Yeah, but I think mostly what ops or the

1212
00:54:41,440 --> 00:54:46,960
Speaker 1: commentary is saying is don't sacrifice your happiness honestly with

1213
00:54:47,040 --> 00:54:49,360
Speaker 1: the belief that that will make your child's life better.

1214
00:54:49,560 --> 00:54:50,120
Speaker 2: Well being.

1215
00:54:50,560 --> 00:54:52,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe well being is the better way to put it,

1216
00:54:52,719 --> 00:54:54,200
Speaker 1: because you're not always going to be happy. But if

1217
00:54:54,200 --> 00:54:56,880
Speaker 1: you're in a better place, just in terms of like,

1218
00:54:56,920 --> 00:54:58,759
Speaker 1: if you're in a better state of mind, you are

1219
00:54:58,760 --> 00:55:01,319
Speaker 1: better able to parent your child. But that is the

1220
00:55:01,440 --> 00:55:03,879
Speaker 1: end of that story. And we've got some comments, and

1221
00:55:03,880 --> 00:55:06,560
Speaker 1: these comments are from the video. My wife wants me

1222
00:55:06,640 --> 00:55:08,600
Speaker 1: to date her best friend and this was posed to

1223
00:55:08,680 --> 00:55:13,160
Speaker 1: July sixteenth, twenty twenty five. Swing a Swiggaroo TLDR says,

1224
00:55:13,239 --> 00:55:15,960
Speaker 1: OHP's girlfriend wants him to date her best friend too,

1225
00:55:16,160 --> 00:55:18,439
Speaker 1: since all three of them are attracted to each other.

1226
00:55:18,880 --> 00:55:21,839
Speaker 1: OPI was ready to propose, but now he's confused about

1227
00:55:21,880 --> 00:55:25,320
Speaker 1: polyamory feelings and whether this could work out without ruining

1228
00:55:25,320 --> 00:55:28,360
Speaker 1: the relationship. If you're curious to know the full story,

1229
00:55:28,440 --> 00:55:31,000
Speaker 1: you can go watch the full video and we've got

1230
00:55:31,000 --> 00:55:34,960
Speaker 1: some comments from that video. Chaos Moon says, I'm at

1231
00:55:34,960 --> 00:55:37,440
Speaker 1: twenty two thirty eight. I'm betting it doesn't work because

1232
00:55:37,480 --> 00:55:40,760
Speaker 1: neither of these girls has the emotional maturity for Polly.

1233
00:55:41,200 --> 00:55:44,360
Speaker 1: They're using it as an excuse to cheat. Polly is

1234
00:55:44,400 --> 00:55:47,680
Speaker 1: a lifestyle, not something you jump into because you're attracted

1235
00:55:47,680 --> 00:55:50,880
Speaker 1: to someone else. You have to decide it because it

1236
00:55:51,000 --> 00:55:55,319
Speaker 1: resonates with you. Mia is toxic, point blank. If all

1237
00:55:55,360 --> 00:55:57,640
Speaker 1: your relationships fail, you have to be mature enough to

1238
00:55:57,640 --> 00:55:59,799
Speaker 1: step back and admit you have a hand in the

1239
00:55:59,800 --> 00:56:02,880
Speaker 1: top toxicity. That is your love life. She needs to

1240
00:56:02,960 --> 00:56:06,360
Speaker 1: be single, and him letting that into his relationship was

1241
00:56:06,440 --> 00:56:10,720
Speaker 1: knowingly picking up a ticking, actively detonating bomb and placing

1242
00:56:10,760 --> 00:56:12,560
Speaker 1: it in the middle of his current relationship.

1243
00:56:12,640 --> 00:56:15,120
Speaker 2: Dude, whenever you're in love, it's really hard to find

1244
00:56:15,440 --> 00:56:16,640
Speaker 2: hear the ticking of a bomb.

1245
00:56:16,800 --> 00:56:19,680
Speaker 1: Yeah Frog seventy two to twenty six says, Mia is

1246
00:56:19,719 --> 00:56:23,000
Speaker 1: a very stereotypical by archetype. There are by women out

1247
00:56:23,040 --> 00:56:26,319
Speaker 1: there who are toxic and thus ruin every relationship they enter.

1248
00:56:26,719 --> 00:56:28,960
Speaker 1: They think, Oh, the common factor is the fact that

1249
00:56:29,000 --> 00:56:31,880
Speaker 1: I'm dating men. If I date a woman, that'll fix it.

1250
00:56:32,320 --> 00:56:34,800
Speaker 1: In reality, dating men and dating women are the same

1251
00:56:34,840 --> 00:56:37,880
Speaker 1: at the core. Both require a lot of communication, understanding,

1252
00:56:37,960 --> 00:56:40,799
Speaker 1: and openness. If you keep failing with men, you will

1253
00:56:40,800 --> 00:56:43,719
Speaker 1: also fail with women. Stay single for a time and

1254
00:56:43,760 --> 00:56:48,359
Speaker 1: be happy with yourself. Solve the real common denominator, which

1255
00:56:48,440 --> 00:56:51,440
Speaker 1: is yourself. Then dat again. I think it's just throw

1256
00:56:51,480 --> 00:56:53,400
Speaker 1: up people out of here who don't know how to

1257
00:56:53,440 --> 00:56:56,880
Speaker 1: have relationships that are healthy and blame it on outside factors.

1258
00:56:57,080 --> 00:56:58,560
Speaker 2: That is true. I came up with a rule today,

1259
00:56:59,160 --> 00:57:02,520
Speaker 2: a simple rule that can apply to any and all relationships. Yeah,

1260
00:57:02,680 --> 00:57:05,719
Speaker 2: is the way that you'll be treating being treated. Would

1261
00:57:05,760 --> 00:57:07,719
Speaker 2: you want your friend to be treated that same way? Yeah?

1262
00:57:08,640 --> 00:57:10,120
Speaker 2: And if you don't, then yeah.

1263
00:57:10,000 --> 00:57:12,160
Speaker 1: If you'd be upset hearing about your friend telling you

1264
00:57:12,239 --> 00:57:15,640
Speaker 1: these stories, then maybe it's not the best relationship. Ave

1265
00:57:16,000 --> 00:57:19,880
Speaker 1: Musemage or ave. I'm gonna say a've Musemage says I

1266
00:57:19,960 --> 00:57:22,320
Speaker 1: finally checked the comments and was glad that I wasn't

1267
00:57:22,320 --> 00:57:26,320
Speaker 1: the only one getting annoyed. Yeah, I'm sure everyone was

1268
00:57:26,400 --> 00:57:30,120
Speaker 1: upset to Yeah, Elijah Sanders says she was gonna cheat

1269
00:57:30,120 --> 00:57:33,280
Speaker 1: on op no matter what, probably with that same guy

1270
00:57:33,560 --> 00:57:36,520
Speaker 1: in that same way. Being Polly had nothing to do

1271
00:57:36,600 --> 00:57:39,160
Speaker 1: with it. Yeah. People want to cheat, They're gonna cheat.

1272
00:57:39,440 --> 00:57:40,200
Speaker 2: They'll find a way.

1273
00:57:40,240 --> 00:57:43,480
Speaker 1: It doesn't really matter whether they're Polly or have a

1274
00:57:43,640 --> 00:57:45,880
Speaker 1: different identity or it doesn't.

1275
00:57:45,560 --> 00:57:48,400
Speaker 2: Matter well away with a lot of intentions. If they

1276
00:57:48,400 --> 00:57:50,480
Speaker 2: want to get rid of someone, they're gonna get rid

1277
00:57:50,480 --> 00:57:54,440
Speaker 2: of someone with any and all resources they have. But

1278
00:57:54,520 --> 00:57:56,480
Speaker 2: the only thing I feel like, if people want to

1279
00:57:56,480 --> 00:58:00,480
Speaker 2: make money, usually don't find ways of making money like like, sorry,

1280
00:58:00,480 --> 00:58:02,560
Speaker 2: I'm know I'm getting on attendent here. Whatever it's like

1281
00:58:02,600 --> 00:58:07,320
Speaker 2: to build something. People are more likely to destroy something

1282
00:58:07,440 --> 00:58:10,440
Speaker 2: rather than build something. If they have the possibilities and

1283
00:58:10,480 --> 00:58:11,400
Speaker 2: resources to do so.

1284
00:58:11,760 --> 00:58:15,200
Speaker 1: Yeah. So maybe this only applies for some scenarios, but

1285
00:58:15,280 --> 00:58:18,000
Speaker 1: in this scenario, yeah, they're gonna cheat. They gonna cheat.

1286
00:58:18,120 --> 00:58:18,360
Speaker 2: Yep.

1287
00:58:18,480 --> 00:58:21,800
Speaker 1: But that's the end of that story and the end

1288
00:58:21,800 --> 00:58:23,600
Speaker 1: of those comments and the end of this episode.

1289
00:58:23,680 --> 00:58:25,000
Speaker 2: We're done, guys, we're going home.

1290
00:58:25,040 --> 00:58:27,439
Speaker 1: We're done. I'm staying here because this is where I live.

1291
00:58:27,760 --> 00:58:31,160
Speaker 1: But if you live somewhere else, enjoy it.

1292
00:58:31,240 --> 00:58:31,640
Speaker 2: Love us.

1293
00:58:31,760 --> 00:58:34,919
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you love us, make sure to subscribe.

1294
00:58:34,480 --> 00:58:38,880
Speaker 2: And we live here. We love you and see you tomorrow.