WEBVTT - Does He Love Me? 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.159 Welcome to Can't Fully Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio 0:00:03.279 --> 0:00:16.960 and the Black Effects. What up y'all? She girls just 0:00:17.000 --> 0:00:19.520 hilarious and oh shit, be back on the air. Welcome 0:00:19.640 --> 0:00:23.320 back to another carefully reckless episode with your girl Joceilarious. 0:00:23.400 --> 0:00:26.960 I'd be fixing Macedonia and I was gonna think of 0:00:27.000 --> 0:00:30.960 something different to do for this season, but I like 0:00:31.000 --> 0:00:33.880 what I'm doing. That's just what it is. I really 0:00:33.880 --> 0:00:37.040 love giving people advice. I love being able to help 0:00:37.080 --> 0:00:39.559 and hearing people's stories, and you know, because a lot 0:00:39.560 --> 0:00:41.320 of it, I've been through a lot of it. I've 0:00:41.360 --> 0:00:43.760 known people who's gone through it and stuff like that. 0:00:43.840 --> 0:00:46.239 So I love to relate to you guys and to 0:00:46.320 --> 0:00:48.400 be able to give you advice based off of my 0:00:48.479 --> 0:00:51.239 experience and what I know and things like that. So 0:00:51.400 --> 0:00:54.520 just keep on sending your stories. I would love if 0:00:54.600 --> 0:00:57.840 y'all saying voice notes like I mean, I get that 0:00:57.920 --> 0:01:01.080 y'all don't want nobody to recognize y'all little dirty ass voices, 0:01:01.120 --> 0:01:04.600 but still, like, come on, y'all can't write half the time, 0:01:05.120 --> 0:01:07.600 and I'm not trying to scale all the way. I mean, sorry, 0:01:08.120 --> 0:01:15.319 but I really really want y'all to include punctuation, periods, commas, apostrophes, dashes, 0:01:15.640 --> 0:01:18.920 forward slashes, backward slashes. You know, so it's not a 0:01:18.920 --> 0:01:21.480 big long run on air sentence because some of y'all 0:01:21.480 --> 0:01:23.320 be having really good stories. But if I can't read it, 0:01:23.360 --> 0:01:27.400 I'm not going to try to use it. I'll be 0:01:27.440 --> 0:01:30.640 strussing me to find out. But I have my producer 0:01:30.680 --> 0:01:34.320 here in the studio today, Taylor. She's going to read, Yeah. 0:01:34.360 --> 0:01:36.200 This is the same girl who was like, yeah, so 0:01:36.480 --> 0:01:39.560 we and our show. It's not our show, girl, it's mine. 0:01:40.120 --> 0:01:43.960 I just wanted to make that clearer because she be 0:01:44.319 --> 0:01:46.720 she sometimes she get a little boy herself. So say hi, 0:01:46.880 --> 0:01:48.760 first sailer, and then you can read the first story. 0:01:49.160 --> 0:01:49.960 Hey, y'all, what's up? 0:01:52.640 --> 0:01:53.160 Go ahead? 0:01:54.480 --> 0:01:54.600 Hi. 0:01:54.640 --> 0:01:57.560 I would like to remain anonymous, but I'm twenty four 0:01:57.640 --> 0:02:00.400 years old female dating a thirty year old. We have 0:02:00.480 --> 0:02:03.520 been together on and off since I was eighteen. Recently 0:02:03.560 --> 0:02:05.600 we have been back together for a couple of months 0:02:05.600 --> 0:02:08.600 and have been communicating better than ever. I'm kind of 0:02:08.680 --> 0:02:11.720 freaky person sexually, and my man does not seem to 0:02:11.760 --> 0:02:14.480 be one. So one day I had the idea to 0:02:14.520 --> 0:02:16.800 ask him to show me the kind of porn he 0:02:16.880 --> 0:02:17.920 watches and. 0:02:17.880 --> 0:02:20.679 Well, let's say there is a reason. 0:02:20.400 --> 0:02:23.840 You shouldn't ask questions. You don't want the answer to 0:02:25.040 --> 0:02:27.280 none of these, but just looked anything like me. My 0:02:27.360 --> 0:02:29.880 initial reaction was hurt, and now I'm left with just 0:02:29.960 --> 0:02:31.280 confusion and questions. 0:02:31.480 --> 0:02:33.040 But I feel like I can't bring it up. 0:02:33.400 --> 0:02:35.760 I understand that all men have many type of women 0:02:36.160 --> 0:02:39.160 they like. It just made me feel insecure, not knowing 0:02:39.240 --> 0:02:42.520 if he really attracted to me or if I'm his type. 0:02:43.280 --> 0:02:45.880 He's self a porn What. 0:02:46.320 --> 0:02:49.760 I think she is digging. I think you're digging a 0:02:49.800 --> 0:02:51.800 little bit too much. I get it. So you're a freak, 0:02:51.840 --> 0:02:54.519 he's not. Okay, Well you're a freaking the sheets and 0:02:54.639 --> 0:02:57.440 he's not okay. How long they been together? Since they 0:02:57.440 --> 0:03:02.200 were eighteen, but she's now what four twenty four or 0:03:02.200 --> 0:03:08.160 they been again for six years, so he's been hitting 0:03:08.160 --> 0:03:11.400 at for six years. Basically, I just wanted to know 0:03:11.440 --> 0:03:15.200 when she realized that he wasn't freaky, because it can't 0:03:15.720 --> 0:03:17.840 or not. You've been with him six years. I know 0:03:18.080 --> 0:03:22.720 that you haven't been sexually unsatisfied for six whole fucking years. 0:03:23.040 --> 0:03:25.840 And when he was eight, saying you know when you're eighteen, 0:03:25.880 --> 0:03:30.680 when when y'all first start fucking, like that's when you're exploring, 0:03:30.720 --> 0:03:33.040 and you like, okay, all right, cool. You know you 0:03:33.040 --> 0:03:35.280 ain't really like break out the box, but you even 0:03:35.320 --> 0:03:39.720 trying out shit now that you are twenty four, I 0:03:39.800 --> 0:03:41.960 bet is more you want to try. And then you 0:03:42.000 --> 0:03:44.320 probably got it popping with the toys and stuff. I'm 0:03:44.400 --> 0:03:46.560 sure you have a toy and all that. But you're 0:03:46.600 --> 0:03:52.720 going through his his porn history trying to see if that, like, 0:03:53.240 --> 0:03:56.160 if that is any indication that you're not his type. 0:03:56.400 --> 0:03:58.280 I wouldn't really go that far. I would sit and 0:03:58.320 --> 0:03:59.880 have a conversation with him. But you don't want him 0:03:59.880 --> 0:04:03.600 to know you went through his phone. And but when 0:04:03.600 --> 0:04:06.440 you were going through his phone, right, and I don't 0:04:06.440 --> 0:04:08.480 know if his lapsoid because you didn't specify that, but 0:04:09.040 --> 0:04:13.160 if its most niggas watch I told you said she 0:04:13.200 --> 0:04:13.800 went through his phone. 0:04:14.120 --> 0:04:17.560 He asked him what kind of porn he showed her? 0:04:18.600 --> 0:04:22.480 Oh, when he showed her willingly and so you said 0:04:22.520 --> 0:04:24.480 you don't want to ask him about it like he 0:04:24.560 --> 0:04:27.960 willingly told you so willingly asked him like is it 0:04:28.040 --> 0:04:31.039 something that did I fall off to you? Like you know? 0:04:31.240 --> 0:04:33.880 Or are you attracted to those type of girls because listen, 0:04:33.960 --> 0:04:37.680 let me tell you something. I've learned this from experience men. 0:04:38.080 --> 0:04:41.279 They say, a lot of men will preach that natural shit. 0:04:41.320 --> 0:04:43.159 Oh I want my girl to be natural. I like this, 0:04:43.279 --> 0:04:49.080 I like that. But they will fantasize about bitches that 0:04:49.160 --> 0:04:51.000 went on the laid on the table, like and had 0:04:51.040 --> 0:04:53.800 a BBL and so on and so forth. You get 0:04:53.839 --> 0:04:59.640 what I'm saying. So that's possible because my ex boyfriend 0:04:59.640 --> 0:05:04.040 will all always cheat on me with big, big, big 0:05:04.080 --> 0:05:07.480 booty bitches like strippers like who are built, you know, 0:05:07.600 --> 0:05:11.800 voluptuously and they're very curvy and big cities, big asses, 0:05:12.160 --> 0:05:14.560 wide hips. You know, a lot of them had work done. 0:05:14.560 --> 0:05:17.360 A lot of them were just like naturally put together 0:05:17.440 --> 0:05:19.640 like that. You get what I'm saying. But I was 0:05:19.680 --> 0:05:23.039 always on the petite side, like you know, I've always 0:05:23.080 --> 0:05:26.320 had like a little bubble. But you get what I'm saying. Listen, 0:05:26.720 --> 0:05:28.839 At first, my little hips was like Gena from Martin 0:05:29.440 --> 0:05:32.320 straight up and down. I had a chest like Trey 0:05:32.440 --> 0:05:37.840 songs none. You know what I'm saying. But I've always 0:05:38.320 --> 0:05:40.440 been small. So even when I got my boob job, 0:05:40.440 --> 0:05:42.960 when I got my fat transfer, which is now called 0:05:42.960 --> 0:05:45.520 a BBL. You know what I'm saying, I still was 0:05:45.600 --> 0:05:48.080 relatively small, because that's just what it is. I don't 0:05:48.080 --> 0:05:49.680 want to have the fattest ass in the world, or 0:05:49.920 --> 0:05:51.120 I don't want it to look like I wanted to 0:05:51.120 --> 0:05:53.400 go get surgery. And that's why it doesn't you get 0:05:53.400 --> 0:05:57.120 what I'm saying. But what he wanted was me, but 0:05:57.279 --> 0:06:02.400 he still had though who's I don't know, like what 0:06:02.800 --> 0:06:04.840 is it like those craves just for another bitch. They 0:06:04.880 --> 0:06:07.320 never settle down and marry them type of bitches that 0:06:07.360 --> 0:06:09.919 they fantasize about. You know what I'm saying, Like, I 0:06:09.920 --> 0:06:12.320 don't really know how to put it. You're attracted to 0:06:12.400 --> 0:06:15.480 one thing, like you like to have fun with that, 0:06:15.960 --> 0:06:18.120 you know what I'm saying. But that's not who you're 0:06:18.120 --> 0:06:19.440 gonna marry at the end of the day. That's not 0:06:19.440 --> 0:06:21.120 who you want to have the kids. That's why I'm 0:06:21.160 --> 0:06:24.080 telling you from experience, I wouldn't go off of what 0:06:24.240 --> 0:06:26.760 he like in his porn site. And then you didn't 0:06:26.760 --> 0:06:28.719 even describe yourself. I don't know if you're scared or not, 0:06:28.800 --> 0:06:31.640 but I don't you know what I'm saying, But this 0:06:31.720 --> 0:06:34.600 man have been with you for six years, don't you 0:06:34.640 --> 0:06:37.400 think he would have left you if that's what he wants. 0:06:37.680 --> 0:06:38.640 All the bitches in the. 0:06:38.560 --> 0:06:41.480 Porn, they've been on and off, so we don't know why. 0:06:42.000 --> 0:06:44.839 I missed all the glues. So they were on and off. 0:06:45.240 --> 0:06:46.719 They've been on off for six years. 0:06:46.720 --> 0:06:50.440 And she said that they've been communicating better, and then 0:06:50.440 --> 0:06:53.160 she just want to ask him that so she does 0:06:53.160 --> 0:06:57.080 didn't feel like she could tell how she really feels. 0:06:57.360 --> 0:06:59.360 So it's like just kept herself. I guess, I guess 0:06:59.360 --> 0:07:00.000 she's gonna call. 0:06:59.920 --> 0:07:03.080 It, but no, but no, you cannot be scared. You 0:07:03.080 --> 0:07:05.040 don't want to cause an argument if you're supposed to 0:07:05.040 --> 0:07:08.280 be communicating better. That's the part of communication, being honest 0:07:08.279 --> 0:07:10.680 about your feelings and how you feel, because you're gonna 0:07:10.760 --> 0:07:14.160 drive yourself crazy, Like you know what I'm saying, Like 0:07:14.240 --> 0:07:17.000 you're gonna drive yourself crazy. Point history is not the 0:07:17.000 --> 0:07:19.760 way to compare yourself to some like it's not like 0:07:19.800 --> 0:07:21.840 do you see what these women are doing? And then 0:07:21.960 --> 0:07:23.920 like he not really fucking these bitches. This is just 0:07:23.960 --> 0:07:26.200 to get him stimulated, you know. And that's why I 0:07:26.200 --> 0:07:28.600 wanted to say a freak before. You know, if he 0:07:28.720 --> 0:07:32.240 was never a freaky deecky, then that's just the person 0:07:32.320 --> 0:07:35.160 he is, you know, and if you're not happy with that, 0:07:35.200 --> 0:07:38.320 then you need to either try to upgrade that or 0:07:38.400 --> 0:07:41.080 move on. If that's if sex plays a big part 0:07:41.080 --> 0:07:44.240 in your relationship for you, you know, to that degree. 0:07:44.840 --> 0:07:48.480 But if he was freaky before and then just calm 0:07:48.520 --> 0:07:50.440 the fuck down, that's something for you to get to 0:07:50.480 --> 0:07:53.600 the bottom of. Like, all right, what's up. Why do 0:07:53.640 --> 0:07:56.440 I feel like you're not as attracted to me anymore sexually? 0:07:56.880 --> 0:07:59.640 That's literally just the question. You don't even have to 0:07:59.640 --> 0:08:02.600 take it the porn, you know, unless you feel like 0:08:02.640 --> 0:08:05.320 there's a way in the conversation down the line that 0:08:05.560 --> 0:08:07.720 you can slip that in there, like, well, you know, 0:08:08.240 --> 0:08:11.520 you did show me your porn history. None of them 0:08:11.560 --> 0:08:13.320 girls look like me, But I think it's kind of 0:08:13.360 --> 0:08:16.200 weird that you really want some of them bitches to 0:08:16.240 --> 0:08:19.200 look like you. Like I that's crazy, because I would. 0:08:19.440 --> 0:08:24.720 I would. Yeah, it's porn. It's for imagination, it's for 0:08:25.480 --> 0:08:28.920 you know, I don't know. Yeah, So I think that 0:08:29.320 --> 0:08:33.040 you should definitely keep that line of communication open and 0:08:33.160 --> 0:08:35.480 be honest. Since y'all were on and off for six 0:08:35.559 --> 0:08:38.160 years and now that you're twenty four, which is still young, 0:08:38.240 --> 0:08:40.880 but you have to know this person inside and out. 0:08:40.960 --> 0:08:42.800 I mean, six years ain't a little bit of time. 0:08:43.640 --> 0:08:47.120 So if y'all gonna grow apart or y'all gonna like 0:08:47.200 --> 0:08:50.520 strengthen y'all bond and be able to talk about difficult 0:08:50.520 --> 0:08:53.360 conversations like this, because baby, you ain't say nothing yet 0:08:54.400 --> 0:08:58.720 because shit gets difficult in relationships, you know, and especially merges. 0:08:59.040 --> 0:09:01.280 So get iron off all these kinks right now and 0:09:01.320 --> 0:09:03.480 talk to him about it, and then update me and 0:09:03.559 --> 0:09:06.480 let me know a little back. Sure, all right? So 0:09:06.840 --> 0:09:09.760 nocuse she talking like she got a little ass? Should 0:09:10.920 --> 0:09:13.840 them little bus be maddering? They be throwing it bad? 0:09:14.120 --> 0:09:17.560 But up, hold up, I know the shit getting good. 0:09:17.559 --> 0:09:19.880 But listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial. 0:09:19.920 --> 0:09:21.319 If you love me, you'll listen. 0:09:23.040 --> 0:09:23.360 All right. 0:09:23.440 --> 0:09:24.920 So we have another one. 0:09:25.440 --> 0:09:28.080 I met my current boyfriend in college. We were eighteen 0:09:28.160 --> 0:09:30.920 and good friends even though we had feelings for each other. 0:09:31.040 --> 0:09:33.360 Finally he asked me to be his girlfriend when I 0:09:33.400 --> 0:09:36.000 was twenty three and he was twenty four. We are 0:09:36.000 --> 0:09:39.040 now twenty six and twenty seven. For the first two years, 0:09:39.040 --> 0:09:41.640 I constantly call him. Talking to girls on social media 0:09:41.920 --> 0:09:45.040 taking them out on dates is basically pertaining. He was single, 0:09:45.400 --> 0:09:48.199 even though we lived together and he came home every night. 0:09:48.800 --> 0:09:52.160 I'm always checking his phone, watching him flirt, looking up OnlyFans, 0:09:52.160 --> 0:09:54.959 et cetera. On top of that, his best friend is 0:09:55.000 --> 0:09:58.040 a girl who is extremely gorgeous, and they seem to 0:09:58.080 --> 0:10:01.000 have so much more in common. I've always felt that 0:10:01.120 --> 0:10:03.880 maybe she friend zoned him in college, and maybe he 0:10:03.960 --> 0:10:06.480 settled for me, even though she has done a lot 0:10:06.520 --> 0:10:08.960 to try to be my friend too. My pride makes 0:10:08.960 --> 0:10:12.959 it hard fast forward. I let my crazy self get pregnant, 0:10:13.000 --> 0:10:15.640 and now we have an eight month old. My entire 0:10:15.640 --> 0:10:19.000 pregnancy and even now, he was great and attentive, but 0:10:19.040 --> 0:10:22.200 I still occasionally see him flirting online. He's a great 0:10:22.240 --> 0:10:25.160 father and brought us a beautiful home, and now says 0:10:25.160 --> 0:10:27.720 he wants to marry me, even though we have talked 0:10:27.760 --> 0:10:31.280 about the past plenty of times. He says he was immature, selfish, 0:10:31.320 --> 0:10:33.920 and just plain horny. Sometimes a part of me will 0:10:33.920 --> 0:10:37.280 always wonder if he's not satisfied, it will continue to 0:10:37.360 --> 0:10:40.800 cheat by the way he says, social media doesn't count 0:10:41.600 --> 0:10:44.480 men like this. Do I try to keep building my 0:10:44.520 --> 0:10:45.800 family or do I walk away? 0:10:46.400 --> 0:10:49.640 Please? Please offer advice. I promise I can take it. 0:10:49.760 --> 0:10:53.080 I've made too many rash decisions in life and now 0:10:53.240 --> 0:10:55.120 just want to make the right choice for my son 0:10:55.160 --> 0:10:55.440 and I. 0:10:55.840 --> 0:10:59.880 Well, it's about time that you want to make great decisions. 0:11:00.160 --> 0:11:03.640 Because baby, for the first couple of years, you have 0:11:03.760 --> 0:11:06.440 built the case against this man. Why are you sitting 0:11:06.480 --> 0:11:08.720 back watching him do every fucking thing, commit all these 0:11:08.800 --> 0:11:13.760 relationship crimes? God damn like you set and watch some flirt, 0:11:13.800 --> 0:11:15.800 you setting while you set back and watch this and 0:11:15.840 --> 0:11:18.800 watch that and watch that. Never gave him any real consequence. 0:11:19.000 --> 0:11:23.160 So of course, of course, now I'm not saying he 0:11:23.200 --> 0:11:25.360 don't love you, but he loved his freedom as well, 0:11:25.400 --> 0:11:27.439 because look, he obviously do what the fuck you want 0:11:27.480 --> 0:11:29.480 to do now. He had to grow up, which I 0:11:29.480 --> 0:11:31.520 don't know if the baby had a lot to do 0:11:31.559 --> 0:11:34.600 with that or you sticking around and him seeing like, 0:11:35.040 --> 0:11:37.960 oh no, she's stuck with me through all of this 0:11:38.120 --> 0:11:39.720 and a lot of shit. You probably don't even know 0:11:39.760 --> 0:11:41.800 because you told me what you do know, But imagine 0:11:41.800 --> 0:11:45.080 what you don't. You get what I'm saying, and you 0:11:45.200 --> 0:11:48.280 haven't been happy all this time. Yes, your kudos for 0:11:48.360 --> 0:11:51.160 him for being super intensive and loving and passionate while 0:11:51.160 --> 0:11:53.280 you're pregnant. That's the least he could have fucking done 0:11:53.280 --> 0:11:56.360 after cheating on you up until this time, probably during 0:11:56.440 --> 0:11:58.559 this time, but he just knew how to clean it 0:11:58.640 --> 0:12:00.600 up a little bit better while you were pregnant because 0:12:00.640 --> 0:12:04.200 you needed extra attention. Every woman needs that extra attention 0:12:04.920 --> 0:12:07.520 from her man when she's with child. You get what 0:12:07.520 --> 0:12:10.320 I'm saying now, you gave birth, y'all have an eight 0:12:10.360 --> 0:12:15.839 month old baby girl? Absolutely, you motherfucking right, you know 0:12:15.880 --> 0:12:19.760 what I mean? Like, I know, you can say you 0:12:19.800 --> 0:12:21.560 so many you can say that you need the advice. 0:12:21.920 --> 0:12:24.040 Now he's telling you he wants to marry you. And 0:12:24.240 --> 0:12:27.280 first of all, I don't like what he said. Social 0:12:27.280 --> 0:12:30.920 media don't count. Excuse me, why the fuck doesn't it? 0:12:31.080 --> 0:12:35.600 Social media? Do you realize that social media makes people 0:12:35.720 --> 0:12:40.360 so much more accessible now than ever before? Remember, like, yo, 0:12:40.440 --> 0:12:42.920 you can DM a fucking celebrity and it's a one 0:12:43.000 --> 0:12:45.440 hundred percent chance that they'll see it. It's not a 0:12:45.440 --> 0:12:47.720 one hundred percent chance that they'll respond, but they can 0:12:47.760 --> 0:12:51.680 see it if you can get to your favorite rapper 0:12:51.880 --> 0:12:54.800 and a fucking DM and get fucked on a Tuesday night, 0:12:54.920 --> 0:12:57.760 you know, and ran out on on a fucking Wednesday 0:12:59.280 --> 0:13:01.360 I never did that. I just you know, I know 0:13:01.400 --> 0:13:04.280 it sounds very personal, but I'm just saying, if you 0:13:04.360 --> 0:13:07.439 can do that, if you get like, jump in somebody 0:13:07.480 --> 0:13:12.679 fucking DM and be responded to and like and be seen, 0:13:13.200 --> 0:13:16.360 what the fuck makes him think? Social media don't matter, 0:13:16.679 --> 0:13:20.560 It don't count. Yes, it does. You flirt openly, and 0:13:20.600 --> 0:13:23.360 when you're flirting and you know you're in a relationship 0:13:23.400 --> 0:13:26.960 and you're like openly communicating with other women and flirting 0:13:26.960 --> 0:13:29.480 and shit, you looking for something to come back because 0:13:29.520 --> 0:13:31.360 if somebody asks you, if you flirt a little bit 0:13:31.360 --> 0:13:33.040 too much, somebody asks you to see them, what the 0:13:33.040 --> 0:13:34.800 fuck you're gonna be like, No, I just do this 0:13:34.880 --> 0:13:37.680 for fine, I'm now you're going to meet up with 0:13:37.720 --> 0:13:40.040 a bitch after some point in the time of y'all 0:13:40.040 --> 0:13:43.800 flirting online, because nobody just flirt for fun. So I'm 0:13:43.800 --> 0:13:48.240 gonna I do sometimes. But nobody just flirts for fun 0:13:48.320 --> 0:13:56.440 besides me. So no, for real, yo, not for real, 0:13:56.480 --> 0:14:01.160 because sometimes you know, I just be like, yeah, everyone flirts, 0:14:01.200 --> 0:14:06.360 but like, but what men, I don't know. I don't know, 0:14:06.679 --> 0:14:08.600 because if you give them, if you give a man 0:14:08.679 --> 0:14:10.960 a little bit too much attention, he gonna take you 0:14:11.000 --> 0:14:12.960 up on an offer. Oh he's gonna offer you something, 0:14:13.720 --> 0:14:17.240 you know what I'm saying. And you know, it's just 0:14:17.280 --> 0:14:19.680 a bunch of different type of women on social media. 0:14:19.720 --> 0:14:21.880 We got the thirsty bitches, you know, the bitches that 0:14:21.920 --> 0:14:24.920 set niggas up, the bitches who know that these men 0:14:25.040 --> 0:14:26.840 not times out of sending maybe in a relationship, and 0:14:26.880 --> 0:14:29.440 they don't give a fuck if we got listen, this 0:14:29.480 --> 0:14:31.680 is the days and times of I'm okay with being 0:14:31.720 --> 0:14:34.120 a side bitch. It's okay, you know what I'm saying. 0:14:34.360 --> 0:14:37.120 I've never seen so many women okay with being a 0:14:37.280 --> 0:14:40.480 side piece. You know that means no attashed me. The 0:14:40.560 --> 0:14:42.800 nigga can't tell them what to do too much. They'll 0:14:42.880 --> 0:14:45.440 they get they reap the benefits. Like it's like they 0:14:45.520 --> 0:14:48.120 promoted these days, like it's more beneficial to be a 0:14:48.160 --> 0:14:50.440 side bitch than to be a main bitch. You get 0:14:50.480 --> 0:14:52.240 what I'm saying. Not calling you a bitch, but I 0:14:52.280 --> 0:14:56.440 just don't know your name. So that's the thing. You 0:14:56.520 --> 0:14:59.680 have a now eight month old, it's really really not 0:14:59.760 --> 0:15:03.280 too I know how you could probably feel like, oh 0:15:03.320 --> 0:15:05.480 my god, it's too late. I already got a baby 0:15:05.520 --> 0:15:07.520 by him. I'm supposed to marry him. Don't feel like 0:15:07.560 --> 0:15:10.480 that either. It's okay, you have a beautiful son. And 0:15:10.600 --> 0:15:12.840 then she said he was a good dad. Yeah, he's 0:15:12.840 --> 0:15:15.680 a great dad. I could see if he was a deadbie, 0:15:15.720 --> 0:15:18.960 you know, then it'll be like, okay, you know, but 0:15:19.040 --> 0:15:21.360 it's easier that you guys and cole parents or he 0:15:21.480 --> 0:15:26.360 brought her, oh he bought them a home. Okay, you know, 0:15:26.880 --> 0:15:29.720 take it back the fuck like, if you're not, none 0:15:29.760 --> 0:15:33.320 of this shit is worth your sanity. If you love me, 0:15:33.400 --> 0:15:35.720 you'll listen to this commercial and then we'll be right 0:15:35.760 --> 0:15:41.440 back forcing yourself to be in a relationship when you 0:15:41.480 --> 0:15:43.280 always got that in the back of your mind that 0:15:43.320 --> 0:15:46.120 he may be cheating and he maybe he didn't grow up, 0:15:46.320 --> 0:15:48.760 maybe he didn't mature like he told you that he did. 0:15:49.120 --> 0:15:51.360 If you're going to live like that, I'm telling you 0:15:51.360 --> 0:15:55.000 you're gonna end up miserable and regretful. You're gonna end 0:15:55.080 --> 0:15:59.680 up hating him, resentful, like I hate this, I hate 0:15:59.680 --> 0:16:01.680 what I've done to myself. You did she say how 0:16:01.680 --> 0:16:02.160 who she was? 0:16:03.480 --> 0:16:04.520 She's twenty six? 0:16:04.680 --> 0:16:07.960 Now twenty six, you know you got four years until 0:16:08.000 --> 0:16:10.280 your fourth decade of life. Baby, that's when you want 0:16:10.360 --> 0:16:12.720 your thirties, like, but. 0:16:12.640 --> 0:16:13.480 They have I don't know. 0:16:13.560 --> 0:16:15.040 I think, what do you think? 0:16:15.120 --> 0:16:17.200 I think that she's over react. I do want to 0:16:17.200 --> 0:16:17.760 say react. 0:16:17.840 --> 0:16:22.040 Excuse me, but listen, because now fast forward, he brought 0:16:22.040 --> 0:16:24.200 her home like he's a good father and everything else. 0:16:24.720 --> 0:16:27.160 She is in her mind thinking like what if he's 0:16:27.200 --> 0:16:29.760 still doing this senator their therapy. 0:16:30.080 --> 0:16:32.160 Yeah, but they say they talked about the past plenty 0:16:32.200 --> 0:16:36.880 of times. That's why talking about it. So yeah, I 0:16:36.960 --> 0:16:38.600 don't I think that's alive in her head. 0:16:38.640 --> 0:16:40.960 But then also social media don't count. 0:16:41.600 --> 0:16:44.120 No, he's wrong for that. And she said that he 0:16:44.200 --> 0:16:46.160 still sees she still sees him. 0:16:46.720 --> 0:16:49.440 Yeah, like she a little bit, but somebody it's nothing 0:16:49.520 --> 0:16:49.960 like before. 0:16:50.160 --> 0:16:51.720 Yeah, that's what that's what I. 0:16:52.200 --> 0:16:55.600 And then the goddamn best friend, this girl that built 0:16:55.600 --> 0:16:57.200 the case against everyone. 0:16:57.080 --> 0:16:59.360 That's the best friend saying it, she said, but. 0:16:59.320 --> 0:17:04.080 She's extremely beautiful. He seems like why she's at insecure? 0:17:04.160 --> 0:17:04.440 Say that. 0:17:04.760 --> 0:17:07.880 Don't try to like hote it because she's gonna hear 0:17:07.880 --> 0:17:08.560 you anyway. 0:17:08.800 --> 0:17:10.000 She seems a little insecure. 0:17:10.200 --> 0:17:14.000 Yeah, her even talking about the friend like she's really gorgeous. 0:17:14.040 --> 0:17:15.840 How come they're not together? You know what I mean? 0:17:16.920 --> 0:17:18.680 Like she may have a whole scenario on her head. 0:17:18.840 --> 0:17:20.080 I think questions to ask. 0:17:21.840 --> 0:17:23.760 It's a whole scenario in her head, like he may 0:17:23.800 --> 0:17:25.879 have she may have curved him and put him in 0:17:25.920 --> 0:17:28.320 a friend zone in college. And then you know what 0:17:28.359 --> 0:17:31.520 I'm saying, because that, yeah, because that does happen. However, 0:17:31.560 --> 0:17:35.320 they may not be their case. Hmmm. So what you 0:17:35.359 --> 0:17:37.119 think she should do? You think she should? I mean, 0:17:37.160 --> 0:17:39.520 and he also sold her, he wants to marry her married, 0:17:41.320 --> 0:17:43.680 maybe he wants to settle down and stop sheating. Now 0:17:43.960 --> 0:17:45.840 that's why I said one or two things. He either 0:17:46.960 --> 0:17:48.840 knows that she ain't gonna ever leave him because of 0:17:48.880 --> 0:17:50.119 all the ship that he's done in the past, and 0:17:50.160 --> 0:17:51.879 you haven't left them then, because y'all ain't on and 0:17:51.880 --> 0:17:54.720 off again, y'all y'all been on the whole time. Or 0:17:55.920 --> 0:17:58.800 he did really grow up, like Yo, shorty stuck with 0:17:58.880 --> 0:18:02.080 me through this ship and I don't want the games 0:18:02.080 --> 0:18:04.199 no more. She gave me my first child. I want 0:18:04.240 --> 0:18:06.560 to marry her, I want a family. I'm done playing 0:18:07.080 --> 0:18:09.960 Like that could be the case. I mean, I still 0:18:10.000 --> 0:18:11.720 stand on what I said. If she's gonna sit there 0:18:11.720 --> 0:18:13.800 and be like it's in the back of my mind 0:18:13.840 --> 0:18:16.280 it's in the back of my mind, insecure or not. 0:18:16.600 --> 0:18:18.520 She can't go through with no marriage or nothing because 0:18:18.520 --> 0:18:19.640 she gonna end up resenting him. 0:18:19.920 --> 0:18:23.359 And he even admitted saying that he was immature, you selfish, 0:18:23.840 --> 0:18:25.560 he was horny, like like. 0:18:26.040 --> 0:18:26.439 I was just. 0:18:28.480 --> 0:18:31.240 Talks about it. He saw a bunch of times and yeah, 0:18:31.280 --> 0:18:33.000 so it is. 0:18:33.040 --> 0:18:35.920 One of the things is like, do you want to deal. 0:18:35.680 --> 0:18:38.040 With it or And I don't know. And I'm not 0:18:38.040 --> 0:18:40.359 even telling you to like let go of the past. 0:18:40.400 --> 0:18:43.760 I'm just saying, yeah, I. 0:18:43.720 --> 0:18:47.160 Mean you you could, and you could, you could let 0:18:47.160 --> 0:18:48.800 go of the past. You know what I'm saying. At 0:18:48.800 --> 0:18:52.280 some point you have to you can't keep living with it. 0:18:52.359 --> 0:18:54.280 Yeah, But I'm saying it's not because I feel like 0:18:54.320 --> 0:18:55.600 if I was in that situation. 0:18:55.359 --> 0:18:58.280 Don't forget, but forgive it if if you're gonna stay. 0:18:58.600 --> 0:19:00.480 Yeah, but I know myself. 0:19:01.520 --> 0:19:03.400 And then what she yeahs what I'm saying, And then 0:19:03.400 --> 0:19:05.119 what she means flirting? What's flirting to you? 0:19:05.359 --> 0:19:05.439 Like? 0:19:05.440 --> 0:19:07.240 What has flirting to you? Because flirting can mean a 0:19:07.240 --> 0:19:10.600 bunch of different things, like liking liking pictures of big 0:19:10.640 --> 0:19:13.119 booty bitches. You know, you just said a baby a 0:19:13.200 --> 0:19:15.280 months ago, so you probably got a little kangaroo pouch. 0:19:15.640 --> 0:19:17.880 And you know what, I'm not saying you do. I'm 0:19:17.920 --> 0:19:19.760 just saying, you know, she goes. 0:19:19.680 --> 0:19:20.679 Through this phone, so she don't know. 0:19:20.760 --> 0:19:24.080 Maybe because to me, liking pictures isn't a big deal 0:19:24.119 --> 0:19:28.240 to me, Like in the DM if he's like yeah. 0:19:28.000 --> 0:19:31.920