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Speaker 1: Welcome to Can't Fully Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effects. What up y'all? She girls just

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Speaker 1: hilarious and oh shit, be back on the air. Welcome

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Speaker 1: back to another carefully reckless episode with your girl Joceilarious.

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Speaker 1: I'd be fixing Macedonia and I was gonna think of

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Speaker 1: something different to do for this season, but I like

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Speaker 1: what I'm doing. That's just what it is. I really

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Speaker 1: love giving people advice. I love being able to help

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Speaker 1: and hearing people's stories, and you know, because a lot

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Speaker 1: of it, I've been through a lot of it. I've

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Speaker 1: known people who's gone through it and stuff like that.

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Speaker 1: So I love to relate to you guys and to

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Speaker 1: be able to give you advice based off of my

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Speaker 1: experience and what I know and things like that. So

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Speaker 1: just keep on sending your stories. I would love if

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Speaker 1: y'all saying voice notes like I mean, I get that

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Speaker 1: y'all don't want nobody to recognize y'all little dirty ass voices,

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Speaker 1: but still, like, come on, y'all can't write half the time,

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Speaker 1: and I'm not trying to scale all the way. I mean, sorry,

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Speaker 1: but I really really want y'all to include punctuation, periods, commas, apostrophes, dashes,

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Speaker 1: forward slashes, backward slashes. You know, so it's not a

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Speaker 1: big long run on air sentence because some of y'all

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Speaker 1: be having really good stories. But if I can't read it,

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Speaker 1: I'm not going to try to use it. I'll be

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Speaker 1: strussing me to find out. But I have my producer

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Speaker 1: here in the studio today, Taylor. She's going to read, Yeah.

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Speaker 1: This is the same girl who was like, yeah, so

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Speaker 1: we and our show. It's not our show, girl, it's mine.

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Speaker 1: I just wanted to make that clearer because she be

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Speaker 1: she sometimes she get a little boy herself. So say hi,

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Speaker 1: first sailer, and then you can read the first story.

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Speaker 2: Hey, y'all, what's up?

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Speaker 1: Go ahead?

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Speaker 2: Hi.

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Speaker 3: I would like to remain anonymous, but I'm twenty four

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Speaker 3: years old female dating a thirty year old. We have

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Speaker 3: been together on and off since I was eighteen. Recently

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Speaker 3: we have been back together for a couple of months

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Speaker 3: and have been communicating better than ever. I'm kind of

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Speaker 3: freaky person sexually, and my man does not seem to

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Speaker 3: be one. So one day I had the idea to

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Speaker 3: ask him to show me the kind of porn he

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Speaker 3: watches and.

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Speaker 2: Well, let's say there is a reason.

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Speaker 3: You shouldn't ask questions. You don't want the answer to

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Speaker 3: none of these, but just looked anything like me. My

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Speaker 3: initial reaction was hurt, and now I'm left with just

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Speaker 3: confusion and questions.

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Speaker 2: But I feel like I can't bring it up.

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Speaker 3: I understand that all men have many type of women

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Speaker 3: they like. It just made me feel insecure, not knowing

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Speaker 3: if he really attracted to me or if I'm his type.

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Speaker 2: He's self a porn What.

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Speaker 1: I think she is digging. I think you're digging a

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Speaker 1: little bit too much. I get it. So you're a freak,

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Speaker 1: he's not. Okay, Well you're a freaking the sheets and

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Speaker 1: he's not okay. How long they been together? Since they

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Speaker 1: were eighteen, but she's now what four twenty four or

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Speaker 1: they been again for six years, so he's been hitting

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Speaker 1: at for six years. Basically, I just wanted to know

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Speaker 1: when she realized that he wasn't freaky, because it can't

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Speaker 1: or not. You've been with him six years. I know

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Speaker 1: that you haven't been sexually unsatisfied for six whole fucking years.

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Speaker 1: And when he was eight, saying you know when you're eighteen,

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Speaker 1: when when y'all first start fucking, like that's when you're exploring,

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Speaker 1: and you like, okay, all right, cool. You know you

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Speaker 1: ain't really like break out the box, but you even

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Speaker 1: probably got it popping with the toys and stuff. I'm

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Speaker 1: sure you have a toy and all that. But you're

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Speaker 1: going through his his porn history trying to see if that, like,

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Speaker 1: if that is any indication that you're not his type.

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't really go that far. I would sit and

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Speaker 1: have a conversation with him. But you don't want him

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Speaker 1: to know you went through his phone. And but when

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Speaker 1: know if his lapsoid because you didn't specify that, but

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Speaker 3: He asked him what kind of porn he showed her?

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Speaker 1: Oh, when he showed her willingly and so you said

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Speaker 1: you don't want to ask him about it like he

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Speaker 1: something that did I fall off to you? Like you know?

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Speaker 1: Or are you attracted to those type of girls because listen,

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Speaker 1: let me tell you something. I've learned this from experience men.

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Speaker 1: They say, a lot of men will preach that natural shit.

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Speaker 1: Oh I want my girl to be natural. I like this,

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Speaker 1: I like that. But they will fantasize about bitches that

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Speaker 1: a BBL and so on and so forth. You get

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So that's possible because my ex boyfriend

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Speaker 1: will all always cheat on me with big, big, big

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Speaker 1: booty bitches like strippers like who are built, you know,

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Speaker 1: voluptuously and they're very curvy and big cities, big asses,

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Speaker 1: wide hips. You know, a lot of them had work done.

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Speaker 1: At first, my little hips was like Gena from Martin

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Speaker 1: songs none. You know what I'm saying. But I've always

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Speaker 1: relatively small, because that's just what it is. I don't

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Speaker 1: go get surgery. And that's why it doesn't you get

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying. But what he wanted was me, but

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Speaker 1: he still had though who's I don't know, like what

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Speaker 1: is it like those craves just for another bitch. They

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Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. But that's not who you're

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Speaker 1: telling you from experience, I wouldn't go off of what

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Speaker 1: even describe yourself. I don't know if you're scared or not,

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Speaker 1: but I don't you know what I'm saying, But this

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Speaker 1: man have been with you for six years, don't you

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Speaker 1: think he would have left you if that's what he wants.

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Speaker 1: All the bitches in the.

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Speaker 2: Porn, they've been on and off, so we don't know why.

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Speaker 1: I missed all the glues. So they were on and off.

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Speaker 2: They've been on off for six years.

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Speaker 3: And she said that they've been communicating better, and then

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Speaker 3: she just want to ask him that so she does

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Speaker 3: didn't feel like she could tell how she really feels.

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Speaker 2: So it's like just kept herself. I guess, I guess

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Speaker 1: It, but no, but no, you cannot be scared. You

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Speaker 1: don't want to cause an argument if you're supposed to

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Speaker 1: be communicating better. That's the part of communication, being honest

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Speaker 1: drive yourself crazy, Like you know what I'm saying, Like

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Speaker 1: you're gonna drive yourself crazy. Point history is not the

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Speaker 1: way to compare yourself to some like it's not like

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Speaker 1: do you see what these women are doing? And then

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Speaker 1: like he not really fucking these bitches. This is just

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Speaker 1: wanted to say a freak before. You know, if he

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Speaker 1: move on. If that's if sex plays a big part

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Speaker 1: But if he was freaky before and then just calm

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Speaker 1: the bottom of. Like, all right, what's up. Why do

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Speaker 1: I feel like you're not as attracted to me anymore sexually?

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Speaker 1: That's literally just the question. You don't even have to

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Speaker 1: you did show me your porn history. None of them

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Speaker 1: girls look like me, But I think it's kind of

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Speaker 1: weird that you really want some of them bitches to

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Speaker 1: you know, I don't know. Yeah, So I think that

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Speaker 1: you should definitely keep that line of communication open and

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Speaker 1: be honest. Since y'all were on and off for six

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Speaker 1: years and now that you're twenty four, which is still young,

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Speaker 1: but you have to know this person inside and out.

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Speaker 1: I mean, six years ain't a little bit of time.

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Speaker 1: So if y'all gonna grow apart or y'all gonna like

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Speaker 1: strengthen y'all bond and be able to talk about difficult

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Speaker 1: conversations like this, because baby, you ain't say nothing yet

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Speaker 1: because shit gets difficult in relationships, you know, and especially merges.

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Speaker 1: So get iron off all these kinks right now and

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Speaker 1: talk to him about it, and then update me and

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Speaker 1: let me know a little back. Sure, all right? So

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Speaker 1: nocuse she talking like she got a little ass? Should

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Speaker 1: them little bus be maddering? They be throwing it bad?

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Speaker 1: But up, hold up, I know the shit getting good.

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Speaker 1: But listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial.

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Speaker 1: If you love me, you'll listen.

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Speaker 1: So we have another one.

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Speaker 3: I met my current boyfriend in college. We were eighteen

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Speaker 3: and good friends even though we had feelings for each other.

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Speaker 3: Finally he asked me to be his girlfriend when I

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Speaker 3: was twenty three and he was twenty four. We are

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Speaker 3: now twenty six and twenty seven. For the first two years,

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Speaker 3: I constantly call him. Talking to girls on social media

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Speaker 3: taking them out on dates is basically pertaining. He was single,

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Speaker 3: even though we lived together and he came home every night.

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Speaker 3: I'm always checking his phone, watching him flirt, looking up OnlyFans,

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Speaker 3: et cetera. On top of that, his best friend is

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Speaker 3: a girl who is extremely gorgeous, and they seem to

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Speaker 3: have so much more in common. I've always felt that

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Speaker 3: maybe she friend zoned him in college, and maybe he

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Speaker 3: settled for me, even though she has done a lot

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Speaker 3: to try to be my friend too. My pride makes

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Speaker 3: it hard fast forward. I let my crazy self get pregnant,

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Speaker 3: pregnancy and even now, he was great and attentive, but

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Speaker 3: I still occasionally see him flirting online. He's a great

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Speaker 3: father and brought us a beautiful home, and now says

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Speaker 3: he wants to marry me, even though we have talked

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Speaker 3: about the past plenty of times. He says he was immature, selfish,

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Speaker 3: and just plain horny. Sometimes a part of me will

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Speaker 3: always wonder if he's not satisfied, it will continue to

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Speaker 3: cheat by the way he says, social media doesn't count

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Speaker 3: men like this. Do I try to keep building my

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Speaker 3: family or do I walk away?

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Speaker 2: Please? Please offer advice. I promise I can take it.

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Speaker 2: She's twenty six?

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Speaker 3: Excuse me, but listen, because now fast forward, he brought

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Speaker 2: No, he's wrong for that. And she said that he

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like she a little bit, but somebody it's nothing

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Speaker 2: How come they're not together? You know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: What has flirting to you? Because flirting can mean a

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Speaker 1: Like you got to confront that yourself, rather than going

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Speaker 1: do you want to be married? You want to be

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Speaker 1: with him? Does the part of you feel like y'all

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Speaker 1: can get past this shit? You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: Because if so, y'all just got to do that work.

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Speaker 1: That's it. Like I told the first girl who sent

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Speaker 1: me the story her story, relationships are not easy, and listen, y'all,

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Speaker 1: marriage is not easy either. Obviously, marriage is even harder

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Speaker 1: than a relationship. So iron out your kinks right now

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Speaker 1: before you get there. Because being a wife, that's a

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Speaker 1: whole duty, that is a full time job. Now, a

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Speaker 1: lot of people get caught up in with the wedding

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Speaker 1: going to be like but after all them people go

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Speaker 1: home and talk about y'all and how better your wedding

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Speaker 1: could have been. Bit y'all married now, so prepare for

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Speaker 1: the marriage and not the fucking wedding. You get what

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Speaker 1: I'm saying. But if nobody ever told y'all two ladies

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Speaker 1: who sent me stories, I love y'all or they love y'all,

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Speaker 1: just no, I do, And thank you for being vulnerable

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Speaker 1: enough to expose your stories to me so I can

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Speaker 1: give you guys advice as best as I can and

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Speaker 1: say thank you, my girl sailor. I know, y'all, I

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Speaker 1: can't het y'all, but say thank you, sailor thank y'all. No,

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Speaker 1: I told them to say thank you to you. No, Mom,

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Speaker 1: we gonna try togain next week. It's sorry, all right, y'all.

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Speaker 1: I'll see y'all next week. Can't Fully Reckless is a

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